Ever wondered... why hasn't he called? Should I send another txt? Is he into me?

LadyLikesToDance 14 Mar 2013, 07:36 PM

No, he is not into you if he isn't chasing you!

Tres simple.

If you're after a LTR, wait it out.

If a bonk buddy, go for it.

Amy33 20 Feb 2013, 06:52 PM

Far too self concious! We are talking about adult women and men NOT rabbits. If you can't carry on a sensible correspondence giving and taking and relying on your own judgement what hope of a, courtship or relationship. What next proxy dating?

Chell39 28 Dec 2012, 08:01 PM

Players will respond instantly and communicate constantly. They even push you to meet their friends and meet your mother. Hence, I think this app is a bit bogus. Sorry!! You just have let time tell...

BritishRacingGreen 16 Dec 2012, 05:30 PM

He hasn't called because he's not interested. I haven't called him because I've assumed he's not interested because if he was, he would have already called.

Peacefulsixty 7 Dec 2012, 01:14 AM

Hi, Folks.
Personally, I think it's pretty simple. He - - - or she - - - hasn't called, usually for one of two main reasons.
1. They don't care
2. They have been otherwise occupied.

Or maybe both.

Either way, is there any REAL future with this person?

Wunnsa ponna time, there was a song by, I think, Satchmo Louis Armstrong called, "A Kiss To Build A dream On."

Would it not be a good idea to try to keep whatever dreams we may have somewhere near the 'bounds of reality' and the achievable in order to avoid being disappointed on a regular basis?

Just my 0.02.

You all have a wonderful day.
Best wishes.
Peacefulsixty.

LadyLikesToDance 3 Dec 2012, 09:52 AM

Chirocam, just on "people hide behind emails texting" and
"Where is the dance, the courtship?"

Pity you're not older and closer. But, I digress.

I'm not sure that hiding is the motivator necessarily, in my case I use it as a screening exercise to gauge if they can actually communicate well.
In this day when people can have others create their profile (indeed such a service is available here), I want to know that this person can string a sentence together and express themselves in an articulate manner. And yes, their grammar, punctuation and soul are on show.

Email poing pong can be nice, if you are naturally comfortable with writing, but I would meet soon after the 2-3 exchange.

oooUNIQUEooo 2 Dec 2012, 03:44 PM

Chirocam

I am unique lol

The other side to this is wondering why they WON'T STOP trying to communicate when its done and dusted lol

Which one is more annoying?

For me, its pretty straight forward. People don't communicate when they're not sufficiently interested - life shouldn't hang in the hopes that they one day might.

If you're interested, you communicate. Simple

There is a lot to be said about the person who is stuck on someone who isn't stuck on them

Focus on, and take notice of the people who DO COMMUNICATE - if you're interested lol

chirocam 1 Dec 2012, 08:22 PM

Stan1977 you are spot on! Y are mobile phones.. Not mobile texters. People hide behind emails texting.. I think its cowardice and reallyoor etiquette. The art of letter writing is dead, people don't have the decency to use names or sign odpffwith their
names, nor do they have decency to respond. I ALWAYS respond, it's courtesy. So much is lost communicating this way.
Communicate..and now courtship is seen as being too keen, one has to be deliberately cool, dis interested and yet charming. Where is the dance, the courtship? Where is the love?

LittleBookOfCalm 27 Nov 2012, 06:27 PM

There should be a unisex version of this. Sometimes guys are just as in the dark as girls about whether she's keen or not.

BarbaraW 25 Nov 2012, 06:24 PM

Hi Safety,

Hahaha, too true!

SafetyInNumbers 25 Nov 2012, 05:18 PM

Note it's only for iphone. Iphone users do need a little extra help. Android users have their sh*t sorted already. ;-)

Justa50sguy 25 Nov 2012, 12:16 PM

Wow, I was wrong...looks like relationships HAVE become a contest! Whatever happened to actually talking to someone; does no-one want to do that anymore?

kaya10 24 Nov 2012, 11:07 PM

Why he why not she ???

amberlirose 24 Nov 2012, 08:06 AM

Good grief,
Young people certainly live a different life these days - I definitely didn't have so many boy friends going at once when I was a young woman, that I needed a place to 'store' my relationship history - I presume this is to keep track of them so you don't accidentally mix them up?
Although on thinking - I could think of a few young men I went out with who certainly could have benefited from this app - but sadly for them, back then meant it was either pencil and paper or memory alone - which wasn't always all that successful :)

I do find it amusing that people today actually need an app to tell them what is plain common sense - if they are too eager they will likely scare him/her off & if they try to be too 'cool' the person will simply think they aren't interested and look for someone who is :)

Some young people live at such a frenetic pace these days - so I imagine this app is likely to be very popular among young women.
I can't imagine too many young men wanting to be seen with it though :)
Are they looking at a wild warrior version?

However at my age & distance from Adelaide - the fact I rarely send kisses unless I think he might actually have 'potential' (dating is not one of my hobbies & strangely never was) my poor bunny would get very lonely in that hot tub by herself & would look like a wrinkled prune by the time she was joined by any possible potentials - likely leaving them running for the hills :)

MsViksen 24 Nov 2012, 08:01 AM

Can we really measure how keen a prospective date with the aid of this Apps?
I agree with Stan1977 it is pretty much like turning communication into a 'Sport'. I like the idea that we have different medium to communicate our thoughts and feelings. If it means that I am over communicating to clarify my thoughts/feelings then so be it.

Rowy 23 Nov 2012, 12:17 PM

Any chance for an Android app?

[not at the moment]

Edited by RSVP Moderator

Stan1977 23 Nov 2012, 11:50 AM

I just think that the whole email/texting thing is like tennis. Consider it like a long volley. The ball is always in somebodys court. At first its all exciting and you love the hitting back and fourth but then somebody (rightly or wrongly) becomes bored and ends up breaking their racket and leaving the ball in their court wiht the other player in disillusion. It ends up as a game of wits and one person always ends up hurt. Instead of texting or emailing try calling instead. Try speaking on the phone where emotions can be expressed, not emoticons or else it will be a volley with an ultimate "winner" and "loser".