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FINDING MR RIGHT!

Sometimes it seems as if all men are frogs. You keep kissing them, hoping that one day you'll find a prince. So, how do you find Mr. Right? Are certain environments more ideal to look for him? How do you know that Mr. Right is really who he says he is? Is it easy to tell when you are looking at a profile on RSVP?
What about Ms Right? How do you find her? Where do you look?

by Karina at 8:38 AM

Define the word "Relationship"?

How do you define your relationships? The terms "Dating" and "Relationship" have many colourful labels, and you've probably heard of; been in; or sought after at least one of them! How should these affairs, so to speak, be defined?

by Ellida at 11:40 AM

What are you searching for?

We have launched a Search Survey to better understand how our members prefer to search. If you have a few minutes, we would love to hear your honest feedback to help improve Search on RSVP!

by Karina at 8:57 AM

"The only one who should have to pay for a bad relationship is the person in your next relationship."

Damn! You just met a really cool person but realized she had just come out of a painful break-up so you quickly realize that if you decide to walk down that road you are going to end up being the rebound guy. A situation that very few people feel comfortable with. The last thing you want is to be her fall guy. Or do you? What if you are a woman and just realised that the guy you met is on a rebound?

Is the rebound person always used to get revenge? Is it true that the only person that should pay for a bad relationship is the person in your next relationship?

by Karina at 11:08 AM

When do you draw the line on pursuing a relationship?

Imagine that your best buddy introduces you to one of his sizzling acquaintances. After chitchatting with her for a few moments, you quickly realize that she might be the woman who encompasses everything you look for in a relationship. But before you can develop your magic, she throws a wrench into your plans by mentioning that she has a boyfriend. So what do you do? Do you pursue and try to get her to agree to go on a date with you?
What about if she is married? Would it make the situation worse? Is coming between a married couple a no-no? Is this the same situation for guys and gals?

by Karina at 10:10 AM

Can You Be Friends with Your Ex?

"I still want to be friends". "We are better as friends than lovers". Those words are the kiss of death in many relationships.
Let's first look at the break up. Are you done breaking it off? Do either of you have unresolved anger towards the other?
Is wanting to be friends now a subconscious excuse to be around this person on the hope that you'll get back together? Does this friendship always become friends with benefits?
What if you start seeing somebody else, is it fair to the new person that you remain friends with your ex?

by Karina at 8:16 AM

How dangerous is an open heart?

Opening up is very hard for a lot of people especially the ones who have been hurt in the past. As a friend of mine always said "Hurt me once shame on you" "Hurt me twice shame on me". So why are people so cautious when it comes down to relationships? Do you think that a person who keeps their heart open at all times is asking for trouble?
Do people deliberately hurt other people or is getting hurt part of relationships?
Does someone always get hurt when a relationship ends? Is it possible for a relationship to end with no broken hearts or is a broken heart part of ending a relationship?

by Karina at 9:34 AM

Intuition... How good is yours?

Intuition is vital when it comes down to online dating... Is it a traffic light or just little voices in the back of your mind which are easily ignored?
How can you improve it and use it to your advantage? Have you ever met another single on RSVP that your intuition was right or wrong from the beginning? What happened, was it a good or a bad sign?

by Karina at 9:51 AM

Have we become romance intolerant?

I have travelled to many places and watched many types of human behaviour on the streets, in bars and restaurants... and have noticed that romantic behaviour changes a lot from place to place. In Brazil it is perfectly normal to make out in bars, but in Australia this is not such a good idea. In New York, people don't even touch each other and in some Middle East countries, men and women are not even allowed to talk unless they are married.
Are we becoming romance intolerant?
Is it really upsetting to see couples being affectionate in public? Are you affectionate in public? Have you ever experienced those dirty looks? What's acceptable for most people standards?

by Karina at 8:46 AM

What is cheating?

Obviously cheating is about being dishonest. And equally as obviously, if you ASK someone if they have been dishonest and they ARE dishonest, they are likely to lie.

It is nearly impossible to find out for sure "exactly how many people cheat". If you were "DATING" your next door neighbour when you were 13, and then kissed another girl/boy playing spin-the-bottle, was that CHEATING? Are you now marked for life? What if you are now 40 and true to your wife/ husband of 20 years? Are you still known as "SOMEONE WHO CHEATED"? When do you cross the line from being faithful to being a cheater? Is flirting considerate cheating? Is going out for drinks with someone you just met cheating? So, What is cheating?

by Karina at 9:52 AM

One night stand!

While many of us are looking for that special someone to spend our lives with, the single life dictates that sometimes the opportunity for companionship presents itself in the form of a one-night stand. While a one-time roll in the hay is not exactly emotionally fulfilling, sex in any form can be relaxing, enjoyable, and fun.

So you are a swinging single and you have had a one-night stand. What is the etiquette for establishing boundaries, calling the day after and getting out without hurting feelings? Who should be responsible for establishing the boundaries the men or the women? Is spending the night off limits? What if you get invited? Is it easier to establish boundaries if you meet the person online?

by Karina at 9:25 AM

Spice Things Up!

Tired of red roses and boxes of chocolate? Even newlyweds and hopeless romantics sometimes want to add a dash more spice to their love life with something new.

So what do you do to add variety and a dash of difference in a relationship? Does it take long to for you to get bored and need to start thinking of new things in order to keep the flame going? What's the craziest thing you have ever done for a partner?

by Karina at 3:47 PM

New to online dating?

Joining RSVP can be a roller coaster of emotions for some. Once you've made the decision to join there is a whole host of other decisions to be made such as what to write in your profile, which photo to post, where to focus your search and who to make contact with.

What stories have you got to share about your first few contacts and meetings through RSVP? What suggestions would you share with those new to online dating and to the site?

by Karina at 9:01 AM

When Do Work Functions go wrong?

I was out on a work function last Friday night and after one too many drinks I started talking to a guy that works in my industry. Soon enough, he was telling me how he wanted to jump into the harbour, next to Luna Park, and go for a swim. For a second I wasn't sure if it was the alcohol talking or if he really meant what he said (after all I had only met him once before this event). I wasn't doing all so well myself so I told him I had done it once a couple of years ago (something that I probably wouldn't have mentioned if I was sober) so he suggested that I go with him. I thought about it for a while, but then decided if I wanted to keep working for my company or get a job anywhere in my industry, that it was probably not a good idea. In the end, I didn't go and immediately stopped drinking. Even though I had done it once before, much to my embarrassment, it wasn't a work function. However, I know many people who have done some very embarrassing things on their work events, which brings me to my current question:

"Where do work functions go wrong?"

What is the most embarrassing thing you have done on a work function? What about an RSVP function? Did everyone remember it? Did you get in trouble for doing it?

by Karina at 8:35 AM

Want a husband? Get a degree.

Women with degrees are more likely to marry than their less educated sisters, in a dramatic reversal of an established pattern according to the SMH and new analysis of the 2006 census.

In 1996 women without university degrees had higher marriage rates. But within a decade it was no longer the case. By 2006, 61 per cent of women aged 30 to 34 who had degrees were married, compared with 53 per cent of those without post-school qualifications.

Do you think that more educated women have more chances to get married or this is simply a coincidence? What about men? How important is a degree in a relationship? Is education more important the beauty or is it the other way around? Is education something that you pay attention when looking at a profile on RSVP?

by Karina at 3:33 PM

Listen up guys and girls!

GUYS!
You have seen her online. Her profile attracts you. There is something very special about her that intrigues you. You would love to know more about her. An you are blown away by that photo! You would really like to build this relationship to the point of a first face-to-face encounter... and maybe beyond.
But does she want the same thing? How can you hold her interest, keep the dialog going, and encourage her to agree to a first date?

GIRLS!
So this profile is a perfect match with your! You have a lot in common, and you have exchanged some nice emails. You would like to take this to the next step - but what is the next step, and how do you move forward?

by Karina at 11:22 AM

What Do Men and Women Want?

The famous battle of the sexes, will anyone ever understand what the opposite sex want... understanding and knowing are two different things. Both men and women are so different, yet when you have the head's up on what he's/ she's looking for, part of the battle will be just a little easier.

by Karina at 10:12 AM

Friends with Benefits!

Friends with benefits (FWB) or "hookup buddies" are friends who hook up with each other but don't have an "official" relationship. Sure, it may seem like the ideal setup for someone who doesn't want a commitment. However, do the benefits outweigh the risks? Have you ever had a FWB? What happens if you really want your FWB to become your girlfriend or boyfriend, but they don't feel the same? What if they find someone else? If you have feelings for your hookup buddy, is it best to communicate those before starting a physical relationship? Or, if you find yourself developing feelings for her or him once you started hooking up, should you take a step back and make those feelings known?

by Karina at 10:31 AM

Proposals: Are You Ready for Married Life?

So you are in a relationship, and you are thinking about taking the plunge of all plunges -- marriage! How can you be sure, really sure, that you are making the right decision?
How important is love compared to sex, money and family on this decision? Is one more important than the other? Do you make a list of big questions to ask yourself? What are they?

by Karina at 1:39 PM

ADVENTURE TOURIST

Are you an adventurous tourist? Have you ever been to an unusual, dangerous or an emerging destination? How did you get to this place? Was it a spontaneous decision? Did anyone convince you to go there? Did you enjoy your trip? Would you go back? Tell us your story.

by Karina at 12:09 PM

SEX, SHOULD WE HAVE IT SOONER OR LATER?

How long should you wait to have sex, does it matter if you sleep with someone on the first date?

Is it worse for a man to be promiscuous or a woman?

Sexual health? Whose responsibility is it - should you make your partner provide a medical certificate before sleeping with them?

by Karina at 9:01 AM

THE DIGITAL WORLD & THE FUTURE

Digital music and MP3s are the names of the new music scene. Anywhere you turn, you see people with iPods blazing into their earlobes. Students, adults, and grandparents are listening to the pure sound of emotions through their headphones. A sight that is so different, that companies are finding ways to jump-start their own businesses. Apple has become the number one provider. Using a business model that has helped them reach one-billionth download on February 15th. Apple has tapped into a universe that is different from what people have ever seen before.

by Karina at 10:49 AM

WICOE - Women In Charge Of Everything

I received this on a e-mail this morning and I thought it was funny and would make a good blog topic. Do you think men are generally not domestically trained?

EVENING CLASSES FOR MEN!
Note: due to the complexity and level of difficulty, each course will accept a maximum of eight participants

The course covers two days, and topics covered in this course include:

DAY ONE

HOW TO FILL ICE CUBE TRAYS
Step by step guide with slide presentation

TOILET ROLLS- DO THEY GROW ON THE HOLDERS?
Roundtable discussion

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN LAUNDRY BASKET & FLOOR
Practising with hamper (Pictures and graphics)

DISHES & SILVERWARE;

DO THEY LEVITATE/FLY TO KITCHEN SINK
OR DISHWASHER BY THEMSELVES?
Debate among a panel of experts.

REMOTE CONTROL
Losing the remote control - Help line and support groups

LEARNING HOW TO FIND THINGS
Starting with looking in the right place
instead of turning the house upside down while screaming -
Open forum

DAY TWO

EMPTY MILK CARTONS;
DO THEY BELONG IN THE FRIDGE OR THE BIN?
Group discussion and role play

HEALTH WATCH;
BRINGING HER FLOWERS IS NOT HARMFUL TO YOUR HEALTH
PowerPoint presentation

REAL MEN ASK FOR DIRECTIONS WHEN LOST
Real life testimonial from the one man who did

IS IT GENETICALLY IMPOSSIBLE TO SIT QUIETLY
AS SHE PARALLEL PARKS?
Driving simulation

LIVING WITH ADULTS;
BASIC DIFFERENCES BETWEEN
YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR PARTNER
Online class and role playing

HOW TO BE THE IDEAL SHOPPING COMPANION
Relaxation exercises, meditation and breathing techniques

REMEMBERING IMPORTANT DATES
& CALLING WHEN YOU'RE GOING TO BE LATE
Bring your calendar or PDA to class

GETTING OVER IT;
LEARNING HOW TO LIVE WITH BEING WRONG ALL THE TIME
Individual counsellors available

by Karina at 9:07 AM

Body Language

You can often discover what a person is feeling by observing their body language. Without saying a word, a person will tell you whether he/she is attracted or when he/she is repulsed. Your job is to study your date's body language and calibrate. How easy is it to do that? Do you always pay attention to your date's body language? Is it easy to switch tactics and change the topic of conversation if you realise that their body language is showing no interest?

by Karina at 8:50 AM

What is the silliest question on earth?

The most common silly question is:
"Do you work here?" - Is that a trick question? I'm wearing a name tag, shelving books, and I am on the clock. Or maybe, they just have a genuine curiosity about my job.

by Karina at 3:42 PM

The Dating Game!

There is no such thing as first dates.Dating, as people imagine it, is when two people go through a series of social events as they get to know one another. Dinner, movies, dancing, long walks, and all that stuff is meant to be dating. And I suppose, if people actually did that stuff, there would be dating. But people never do, you see, they send their Representatives to do it for them.

by Karina at 1:59 PM

Is Age just a Number?

You hear it all the time: 'age is just a number'. Sure, it is exactly that, but do not tell me it means absolutely nothing! When you were 18, you could buy yourself cigarettes from any gas station or 7-Eleven you pleased. When you were 16, you were limited to buying cigarettes from that one 7-Eleven; the only one that would sell to you without checking ID.

by Karina at 11:40 AM

Leap Year Proposals

Leap Year has been the traditional time that women can propose marriage to their partners.

Does this mean that today, and this year, that women who might usually wait for a Kiss or Email, experiment with being the first to send a Kiss to the RSVP members that most appeal?

Many of our RSVP female members do initiate contact, perhaps today, the 29th, is a chance for them to share some tips and hints about the best way to say "Hello" to someone that catches your eye.

Happy 29th of February!

by Karina at 5:21 PM

DATING AFTER A BREAK-UP

Dating after a break-up is never easy, because there are so many emotions that you are facing: disappointment, rejection, anger, and depression, which can affect how you feel about someone new. What are some of the steps you can take to help getting back into the dating pool? How long does it take to be able to do that? Is there some sort of standard time that people should use as a guide after a break up?

by Karina at 8:47 AM

Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day this year seemed to have received a lot of attention as a day to celebrate being single. Parties and events for singles popped up all over the country. However, florists and restaurants were still run off their feet as the old fashioned, romantics among us honored tradition.

by Karina at 2:29 PM

STAYING ACTIVE AS THE YEARS GO BY

It is important to stay active as you age. People who remain active in their latter years tend to be happier, healthier and more youthful. In many cases, active seniors retain a good memory and a sharp mental state as well. People, who continue to stay active as they age, are also less likely to suffer from loneliness and depression. Do you go to the gym? How often? What else do you do to keep fit? Is exercise a major part of your life?

by Karina at 9:25 AM

SAVE MONEY ONLINE

If you spend a lot of time online, you have probably realized that you can save a lot of money on every-day things. Most people don't like to pay a penny more than they have to for anything that they need or to be taken advantage of. By being a smart shopper you can save a lot of money. Do you often shop online compared to in-store? Are there specific things that you would only buy online? How do you budget your money and decide where to buy with so manly options? What sites to you use?

by Karina at 1:38 PM

DANGEROUS MISTAKES!

Dating can be tough on many people. This is especially true when it comes to attracting them. The problem is guys/girls tend to make many mistakes that they're not even aware of and it can cost them their date. So what are the biggest mistakes that people make on their first date? Can some of them be rectified or once they are done you can say good-buy to the second date? What was the biggest mistake you have done on a first date?

by Karina at 9:24 AM

EXTREME TRAVELER!!!

The number of adventure travelers is growing. These travelers seek some degree of risk and like to grapple with rugged environments such as the Arctic or the desert. How do you find adventurous trips? What things do you consider before signing up for one? What would be your dream adventure if you could choose anything?

by Karina at 8:07 AM

SINGLES IN THE KITCHEN!

Okay, it's the first morning after you have moved into your new place and you're hungry, single and the stomach is growling. The refrigerator is empty, your cabinets are empty, and your stove is nice and shiny and devoid of any utensils that can be used for cooking. You give up this time and go to the nearest fast food restaurant, but a steady diet of fast food and restaurant food will make your wallet skinnier and your belly larger.

by Karina at 5:37 PM

Is there really a difference between dating in Melbourne and dating in Sydney?

Comparisons are drawn between our two largest cities Melbourne and Sydney all the time. Melbourne is a cultural and sporting hub whilst Sydney is more famous for its beaches, harbour and laid back lifestyle with a warm climate. The cities have also been compared to women - Melbourne is likely to be a more intellectual and cultured brunette whilst Sydney is a bottle blonde supermodel with implants..

by Karina at 11:03 AM

DOES A 'BAD' NEW YEARS EVE MEAN YOU'LL HAVE A 'GOOD' NEW YEARS DAY?

It is 7:30 pm on new years eve and you still don't have a plan, a date or friends to go out with. Why? Because your plans for New Years Eve fell through. You were so excited; you had a back-up plan if the first plan fell through so that either way, you were assured of a great time. Unfortunately, the back-up plan would only have worked out if you had known earlier that your first plans would not work out.

by Karina at 9:12 AM

STAYING FIT DURING THE HOLIDAYS!

Instead of joining the weigh loss club of 2008 this New Years, why not get a head start and lose some weight before the new years kicks in? While the holidays can be a challenging time to cut back on the calories, there are still a few ways to keep your metabolism in high gear and even lose a few pounds during the festivities.

by Karina at 9:58 AM

Would you like to see a podcast?

by Karina at 1:30 PM

RATE YOUR DATE?

It is interesting to think of dating as a rating game but that is precisely what we do when we are looking for the one person to make our own. We rank them on their physical beauty, their education, on their personality, their wealth and on their compatibility. The higher we rank in each of these categories the more attractive of a partner we become.

by Karina at 9:07 AM

TRAVELLING GREEN!

The airline industry's rapid growth over the last several years has made long-distance travel more accessible to us now than ever before. The downside of course is the more we travel, the more we increase our carbon footprint.

by Karina at 9:14 AM

FRIEND OR LOVER?

We have seen the Ross and Rachel (Friends), Dawson and Joey (Dawson's Creek) time after time. Friend likes friend. Friend eventually finds out. Friends date. But in real life it seems the relationship usually ends up sore and friendship is often compromised. Most people are often left wondering if it was truly worth it in the end. Is it okay to date a friend, or is it too big a risk to take?

by Karina at 11:51 AM

The Cost of Dating

The cost of dating is skyrocketing and out of control. Theatre and sporting event tickets can cost anyone over three hundred dollars. If you add dinner and drinks there goes another two hundred. It is foolish to drive with a few drinks in you so an expensive cab fare to your place or hers is a must.

by Karina at 3:22 PM

Love Affair

We have all dreamed of having a love affair that takes our breath away at just the thought of him/her. Is it possible for everyone to have such an affair?

by Karina at 4:10 PM

Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook?

We live in the digital age where technology is just part of normal and everyday life. This is a world where its common to invite someone out via text.Or dump for that matter if you have no manners. A world where you can 'kiss' someone you have never met before. Your best friend can IM you from a blackberry whilst on safari in Africa. Your entire family can see the Christmas album on Flickr in an instant, wherever they are in the world. This is a world where someone you have not even seen for 10 years may suddenly throw a sheep at you from Facebook. How has the internet changed your world in the last 12 months ? What are the sites you just cant't live without ? Do you know how much time you spend on the internet on pure fun in an average week?

by Karina at 3:52 PM