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Yes, I would love to see who I'm chatting to.

If the conversation has been comfortable and interesting on chat and phone, I have progressed to video thru Skype.

Had a marathon session which surprised even me, if talking was an Olympic event, moi and this gent would of battled for gold. Very insightful.

However, this would not be in lieu of 3D meet and greet :)

Posted by: ladylikestodance at February 7, 2012 2:06 PM

All over red rover. Kill it off please moderators. No comments before this one for 5 months. No-one's interested anymore. Consign to garbage bin please.

Posted by: thebigman9 at December 13, 2011 9:00 PM

To theone - that is polite declining. Why? Who can tell - dont obsess about it lovely lady, just move on. Singlejoy is right about the spark - it does happen, time passes really quickly, it is hard to depart from his company and he finds it hard to depart from yours. Now as for closure, there isnt going to be closure. You cannot read his mind, and quite frankly, you dont want to as it would be a messy place indeed!
Do what singlejoy says and just chalk that date down to a learning experience.

Posted by: alexandrawoman at July 26, 2011 2:35 PM

I could't agree more with you AW. theone, just think about this: you wouldn't want to be with somebody who really doesn't want you there, would you? It's not a good place to be, and besides, you will know if somebody is really interested. There will be a 'spark' in the conversation, the feeling you BOTH get when you are together. Move along, and find somebody you deserve. Do your self-esteem a big favour too, and expect nothing but the best from anyone! But especially treat yourself well and don't put yourself into a position where you feel you need to let somebody else fulfill you.

Posted by: singlejoy at July 23, 2011 8:49 AM

I asked him. I asked if he wanted to meet up on Saturday night and he said thanks all the same, but saturday night he's already got plans. That's politely declining, right? thanks.

Posted by: theone2012 at July 22, 2011 8:06 PM

To theone2012
let him go - dont harass him, dont email him, dont do anything.
The more you do the more he is going to feel like you are stalking him. If he wants to continue then he will let you know - if you really want to find out what he is thinking then write him and ask him straight out - do you want to develop this further? The lack of response or at the very least - level of response should let you know.
You just have to chalk it up to experience and move forward towards the person whom will want to continue to see you. xx

Posted by: alexandrawoman at July 22, 2011 2:57 PM

Dear theone2012,
As a newie there are some things I could advise.
First, don't expect that the 1st guy you meet will necessarily be "the 1". You may have felt a connection and he did not, or he may have other girls he is in touch with that he is deciding on. After all it is a 2 way feeling. You could try asking outright what he felt and if it was going anywhere, you may or may not get an answer, but either way it should be clearer. As I have mentioned in past blogs get the "He's just not that INTO you " Book [ not movie, though it is good too] and read and take note.
Secondly you mention you want someone with common interests but the 1's you mention are EVERYBODY'S common interests and you don't actually mention hobbies so maybe the guy, when he met you, discovered that you don't have a lot in common and doesn't know how to say so. A profile needs to be more complete to give a person a better idea about you and then you may get to meet a guy that is more INTO you.
Good luck, hope this helps.
Magnet

Posted by: msmagnet11 at July 22, 2011 2:14 PM

Can anyone help me with this? I have met with a guy i would like to continue to see. But after the meeting the replies i get from him somehow feel lukeworm and is not really proactive. Is there anything i can do? thanks

Posted by: theone2012 at July 21, 2011 12:31 PM

This is a big mixed bag. There are significant positives in being able to see the person you are talking too, the biggest being that it is harder to deceive people people if the can see you responding to them directly, and deception on RSVP is my biggest beef. Video chatting is also better because you can see what you like in people easier, and also what you don't like.

However, some people are shy and don't want to jump in front of a camera, and I can't help feeling that those people will be heavily penalised by this. At the moment, a person who hides their picture (such as I do) risks being ignored by most people. This is good and bad, because I am most interested in the people who are willing to find out who I am and what I look like rather than deciding who I am on the basis of a still photo. I suspect that some vulnerable people will be pushed into going on camera and doing some things they don't want to in desperation to find "love". This could happen anyway, but with the facility being offered just a button press away ...

I short, I don't have an answer. If the facility were offered right now, I'm not sure how I would respond either. But I have one question to ask; would the privacy of the people involved be respected? Right now I believe chats are relayed through the RSVP servers so the IP addresses of the people involved are respected, but video chats require a lot more bandwidth and it would be tempting to directly connect the clients, and that would create a risk of individual low level privacy violations.

By the way, on that subject, does RSVP make any effort to verify people's asserted profile geographic locations against IP address geographic locations? I get way too many people contacting me who are actually half way around the world from where they say they are.

Posted by: jonha273 at July 18, 2011 6:08 PM

Hi sweetmix, sorry I got a tad fired up with your comment. And yes, I should have read further and gained more insight into why you said what you said. It's been a real lesson to me how different some women are when you meet them in 'real' life to how they look in their photos. Of the ladies I've met for dinner/coffee/drinks, only 2 have looked anything like their photo but, of those two ladies, only 1 had a body shape as described in her profile. She was tall and slim, the other said tall and average, I'd class her as tallish and slightly overweight. Not that that made any difference to a terrific meeting even though there's been no contact since (I have the feeling there was actually someone else firmly in the background and she was just checking out the 'competition')! None of the others (doesn't that make me sound like every woman's worst RSVP nightmare - a 'player') were anything like their profiles, they were close and I could eventually see the person of the profile but it did take awhile.The most pleasing aspect, of this entire situation, is when the lady in question is so much better looking in person as their photo doesn't do them any justice. Oh well, that's the fun of Internet dating! Just like Forrest says, "you never know what you're going to get" (with much poetic licence used)!

Posted by: thebigman9 at July 7, 2011 9:42 AM

Re: Posted by: thebigman9 at May 6, 2011 11:06 PM
Hey Bigman you took my post out of context. I was replying to "spankmehoney" who was referring to some women as hiding their pear or apple shape by only having a head to shoulders pic. My remarks were in no way meant to be "disparaging" as you so referred plus I never even mentioned "Big men". The comment was purely an example and not meant to single out big men as you are implying lol!

Myself I have been out with men of all different shapes and sizes and my post after the part you mentioned would verify that I myself do not judge a "book by its cover". It just struck me funny how many people do have a set criteria they look for in a partner reagrding size and this applies to women also. For me, it is the person as a whole.... mind, body and soul that counts but a picture does not represent all of these anyway. I guess to be honest I do have some criteria down as the profile form really expects you to respond to each part but much of mine leaves it evident that I do not place too much importance on certain criteria.

I also agree everyone has the right to fill their profile out in the manner they so wish but we can all lighten up and not be so serious about it all hahaha..We all need to retain a sense of humour I feel..smiles..

Besondere.. that man you mentioned must have a daughter like mine lol..rolls my eyes. If I let her she would control my life and organise a man for me ..How ridiculous! She already clicked a kiss off to someone at the touch of a button when I was showing her how the rsvp site worked. Luckily I had no reply from him lol! Just imagine if I had met him and he turned out to be the right man for me.. my daughter would never have let me forget it for heaven's sake! She would think she can manage my life for me better than I can! Sheesh! Yes Besondere.. meeting asap after emails and phone calls is a good idea..Agreed!

Sweetmix (62)

Posted by: sweetmixture at May 16, 2011 3:06 PM

Sweetmix @ April 28th. I'm with you re the webcam. No thanks. Mind you, I did respond to a chap a while ago, sent several emails and finally he agreed to chat. When I called he asked which one I was. Seems his daughter had put his profile up (no photo), she sent oout kisses and can you believe it was she who did the emailing. Took her a couple of weeks to narrow it down to 5 women she liked and then she gave him the numbers to call. I was totally gobsmacked. The man didn't even have a computer or a mobile for that matter. Just one of the crazy things that's happened.
Now I like to get onto the phone after a couple emails. Can gleen a lot from a phone call or two and not everyone is comfortable writing. If it goes well then I like to catch up asap. Can't beat the face to face. Gives you a much better idea of what the person is like. And I'm with you too re the looks. It's the person within that counts.....
Cheers..... G.

Posted by: besondere at May 9, 2011 5:17 PM

Hi Virgil @Feb 23rd. I'm one of those from days gone by when we still had the instant blogging. Was 'Amdoingit' then but back on under new name. I'm sure you'll recall the 'flack' I used to get from some over the then name. Don't look on here often anymore but do try to post something when I do.
Cheers.... G

Posted by: besondere at May 9, 2011 5:03 PM

Hey sweetmixture, not every 'bigman' is overweight. We're just big. And, for that matter, what's wrong with only wanting an athletic or slim partner? Have you stopped to consider that maybe there are some of us big fellas who don't like 'big' women. I don't consider myself as overweight even though I am 120kgs. I am large, muscular, fit and healthy. Would you make a similar disparaging comment to a skinny, short man wanting to meet women who described themselves as 'large' or 'overweight'? I think not! Being a bigfella is hard enough given today's societal disdain of anyone that isn't a size 6 or less be they male or female. At least on RSVP we can make our choices known and trust that viewers take those choices into account before then initiate contact. thebigman9

Posted by: thebigman9 at May 6, 2011 11:06 PM

I guess this topic has "died a slow death" lol..Short and sweet from me today. Ohh that sounds like meeeeeeeee lol Didn't mean it that way..rolls my eyes Hahahah..
Sweetmix (62)

Posted by: sweetmixture at May 6, 2011 12:05 PM

Posted by: spankmehoney at February 23, 2011 12:33 PM
Hello spankmehoney. I am one of those who only have photos of mostly head shots but in my profile I do mention that I am not a skinny person. Honesty is always the best policy in my book...smiles...

What makes ME laugh is the guy who has his pic showing and he may be an overweight man but he wants to meet only a woman who is athletic or slim lol!

You cannot always tell a book by its cover so we need to know the whole book before we can decide. There are so any components and facets which make us into the person we really are. It takes take time to observe all of those before we get to know the "real" person with whom we may be comtemplating a future . Personally I have never been one to decide a person is not worth my time because they do not have "film star" looks. Conversation to me though is extremely important as it is a way of communicating and without communication, there is nothing.

Webcams I would not use and have voiced this opinion back when the post began. Myself I would be too uncomfortable and would prefer to get out there and meet someone for a coffee.
Sweetmix (62)

Posted by: sweetmixture at April 28, 2011 3:15 PM

Virgil --- I have hidden my pictures because I became tired of being accused of narcissism.

Also as so many women have their pictures hidden - whats good for them is good for me

The most amusing part is they ask to see my pictures but refuse to show their own - and when they do their pictures are always from the neck upwards or cleavage upwards --- guess that's the best way to hide the pear or apple shapes.

Posted by: spankmehoney at February 23, 2011 12:33 PM

When I was on here often, many people would look at my profile, and I am sure it was just to put a face to the words being said.

There are now many more people with invisible profiles, i suppose there are still the false personas, i recall one girl who was accused of that, actually meeting me for coffee while I lived in Adelaide.

I see some people here, where I recognise names, some writers, have changed names, but retain similar characteristics to a few years ago.

The days of live posting, instantaneous, well almost, communication, almost like the old days of mIRC.

Posted by: virgil at February 23, 2011 1:01 AM

Am in agreement with mj281, what is wrong with getting out and about meeting in the flesh. It is true you can work it out in ten minutes, if you would want to pursue it further or not. I personally never web cam unless it family or for some very good reason. Most defiantly not as a way of getting to know someone. Takes the whole personal learning experience of getting to know a person away. You can see, experience and be in tune so much more and it’s a lot more personal in the flesh.

Posted by: blackroses11 at February 13, 2011 12:05 AM

You are so right Sassy,
Talking to loved and familiar people on Skype when you are separated by the miles is a stopgap thing but in no way can this be the way to meet and get to know someone.

Without an actual meeting where you can see more clearly the whole person, listen to their voice, smell(yes smell!!) wether they are a clean person or careless about their hygiene .. and can maybe fall in love/lust with their pheremones .. [that smell you dont really smell but it can draw you to someone from accross a crowded room] .. You are otherwise only dealing with a 2 dimensional person. A person who is presenting an image but hiding who they may really be! Especially if they are not all sure who they are either!

Posted by: phoenix1947 at November 5, 2010 11:26 AM

**Edit and repost**

It would seem to me that many of us are merely living in a virtual (aka almost) world of elcetronic/romantic make believe. Snaps shots can only reveal so much & god knows 3,000 words is not going to scratch the surface but now we are heading towards the virtual first date via webcam? Great! A virtual romance. I live & die by my webcam, it enables me to conference for international co-writes, calls & to be present during recordings taking place in USA but I am never fully present at these meetings, I am virtuallypresent. This is Priestley's Paradox thwarting its unfulfilling truth fair & square in my face. I can speak to my collegues, friends & siblings, see them & yet still long for them. We are all grown adults & will make choices & conduct ourselves in ways we find comfortable with but after one personal virtual relationship experience via webcam, I am in no hurry to repeat it. I think perhaps we can be too quick to dismiss the depths of the psychological attachments that can be made when we can see someone on the screen. I had one of the most emotionally intense & brief almost relationships I have had in my adult life, all via webcam. It took me a minute to bounce & now, I'm a little gun shy about how to conduct myself with online dating. For an independent woman who has the globe for a stage, this is more than a little unnerving. The truth (for me personally) can only be found in the face to face contact. I want to sit across from my date & allow my natural instincts to tell me whether his guy could be a nice fit in my life. We feel it; we recognize it in the pit of our subconscious straight away. Whether we choose to hear the clanging of warning bells whilst sitting opposite a red hot Glenn Close bunny Boiler, or we aknowledge the hairs standing up on the back of our neck, while sharing a coffee with a Dexter wannabe (and god knows, they are out there), this sense is something I cannot get online. Not via skype, msn, yahoo or another electronic form of virtual (aka almost) communication. I am virtualized up the ying yang & weary of it. I need it in my professional life, I don't want to make anymore room for it in my personal life. Between Facebook, MySpace, Twitter for work & looking for love on RSVP, about the only thing getting any real HOT action is my PC (& my iPhone). I like to feel my date looking at me, see his eyes, read the story they hold, feel his laughter, see if my jokes can make him laugh & know right then & there if this person is worth emotionally investing in, as friends or prospective lovers. I want to either feel the hairs on the back of my neck stand or feel my heart beat a little faster - or walk away having just met a new person & shared an experience. I would rather the face to face reality, than make a virtual decision based on webcam, War & Peace via email or endless online chats that result in a virtual (almost) budding romance based on nothing much but what the other person wants me to see or worse...nothing more than make believe.

Posted by: sassysongbird at October 30, 2010 12:56 PM

Living In A World Of Make Believe was a great song that Stylus and Peter Cupples did back in the late 70’s. It would seem to me that many of us are merely living in a virtual (aka almost) world of elcetronic/romantic make believe. Snaps shots can only reveal so much & god knows 3,000 words isn’t going to scratch the surface on what I could say I would like in a future partner, or who I am - what my hopes & dreams are...now we are heading towards the virtual (almost) first date via webcam? Great! A virtual (almost) romance. I live & die by my webcam, it enables me to conference for international co-writes, calls & to be present during recordings taking place in USA – but I can tell you I am never fully present at these meetings, I am virtually (almost) present. This is Priestley’s Paradox thwarting its unfulfilling truth fair ‘n’ square in my face. I can speak to my collegues, friends & siblings, see them & yet still long for them. We are all grown adults & will make choices & conduct ourselves in ways we find comfortable with but after one personal (almost) relationship experience via webcam, I am in no hurry to repeat it. I got hurt. I think perhaps we can be too quick to dismiss the depths of the psychological attachments that can be made when we can "see" someone on the screen. I had one of the most emotionally intense & brief “relationships” I have had in my adult life, all via webcam. It took me a minute to bounce & now, I'm a little gun shy about how to conduct myself with online dating. For an independent woman who has the globe for a stage, that was more than a little unnerving. The truth (for me personally) can only be found in the face to face contact. I want to sit across from my date & allow my natural instincts to tell me whether his guy could be a nice fit in my life. We feel it; we recognize it in our subconscious straight away. Whether we choose to hear the clanging of warning bells whilst sitting opposite a hot Glenn Close ‘Bunny Boiler’ or we aknowledge the hairs standing up on the back of our neck, while sharing a coffee with a Dexter wannabe (and god knows, they are out there), this sense is something I cannot get online. Not via skype, msn, yahoo or another electronic form of virtual (aka almost) communication. I am virtualized up the ying yang & weary of it. It’s enough that I need it in my professional life. Between Facebook, MySpace, Twitter for work & looking for love on RSVP, about the only thing getting any real hot action is my PC & my iPhone! I’d like to feel my date looking at me, see his eyes – read the story they hold, feel his laughter, see if my jokes can make him blush & know right then & there if it’s worth emotionally investing in– as friends or prospective lovers. I want to either feel the hairs on the back of my neck stand or feel my heart beat a little faster - or walk away having just met a new person. I would rather the face to face reality, than make a virtual (almost) decision based on webcam, War & Peace via email or endless online chats that result in a virtual (almost) budding romance based on nothing much but what the other person wants me to see or worse...make believe.

Posted by: sassysongbird at October 28, 2010 12:09 PM

I have no desire to have a video chat with someone I do not know. If I am to meet a complete stranger it is to be in the flesh.

I would much prefer rsvp put their thinking cpas on and devote some effort to considering the merits of members being able to chat freely for a short period of time for free as happinessreached suggests. It will never take the place of us buying stamps. Who would exchange email addresses witha complete stranger after a 10' chat?

Posted by: tellmewhynot at October 27, 2010 10:28 AM

If "meeting" poeple online isnt hard enough.. you want it to be harder ? Whats wrong with getting off our butts and getting out into the fresh air and meet someone over a coffee face to face? In 10 minutes you've worked out if you want to go on a date or not !!

Posted by: mj281 at October 26, 2010 8:39 PM

Hi all. Being a bit of a techie I have been known to like my gadgets yet funnily enough i actually prefer to email a couple of times and then... Yes meet someone face to face!!! i really dont think ( speaking from experience, which i think we all have had :-) ) that the true essence of body language, tonality, pheromones, just being in the presence of that person can be translated via a video link. Let there be a little mystery without putting everything out there via technology.

I like the ability to send emails or chat ( yes I agree chat should be free, say for a period of time ie: 15-20 mins) then if you feel you would like to continue, then pay for it. But it does provide an opening to get to know someone a little before choosing to proceed further.
HappinessReached

Posted by: happinessreached at October 19, 2010 7:39 AM

Video chat would be nice to have, since it does provide a richer form of interaction. Plus, if provided through the site you still get the privacy and control of not having to give out contact details to use it.

Skype can sort-of work as an alternative, but it does take away some of that control, and you want to remember not to have too much about yourself entered into your Skype profile details.

I guess the challenge for the older crowd would be figuring out how to add something like this while still allowing those who don't want to use it to gracefully avoid it. Because once it's available, it will create pressure to use it.

Posted by: quietgeek84 at October 12, 2010 10:48 PM

msji... heavens help me..it is just as well my time here on RSVP is just about up... just when I thought I was getting a handle on how this works you start talking about scammers... Perhaps I should be sending you an email and talking to you about this in private..that is unless anyone I am already chatting to would be interested to continue this conversation..

Posted by: tellmewhynot at October 2, 2010 8:37 PM

In response to your comment re RSVP refunding stamps imightb3 - I have had a stamp refunded when it was proven that the person I had emailed was a scammer. I reported these guys to RSVP and was impressed with the speed that they were removed from the site. I would like stamps to have no use by date without having to purchase the RSViP package. It's up to the honest members on here to help keep the site free from scammers.
MsJI

Posted by: msji at September 29, 2010 2:12 PM

Hi Titans16,

Although RSVP being free seems like a great idea in theory, it's actually not a good idea in the slightest.
Let's take away the whole being a business & making money thing for a second & look at how the site would actually function if it were free.

If it were free people would get even more kisses each day, get overwhelmed sooner & in turn leave the site quicker.
It being a paid service weeds out the time-wasters, (some) fakes, (most) underage & also makes you put a lot more thought & value into your communications through this site.

There are plenty of free dating websites & they all suffer from the same plague of scammers, fakes & poor service.
RSVP reviews your photos, checks your profiles & attempts to keep this a safe service to use, all these things cost money.

Taking someone out for coffee to have a chat isn't free, going to the a club to pick up isn't free, why should RSVP be free?

I do however think this is something that RSVP really needs to work on, for example if the person doesn't reply to an email or ends up being a scammer then RSVP really should refund the stamp.

p.s thanks for the positive feedback on my initial comment, glad to see some people agree :)

Posted by: imightb3 at September 28, 2010 9:21 PM

Hi Titans 16 - Your post (28/9)

And a fine (2) cents worth too what a great proposal...,.

OGM

Posted by: onegoodman1 at September 28, 2010 12:58 PM

LOL at your comments OGM on a display from a geriatric village . Joined Twitter the other day [it was raining..that is my excuse] and lo and behold I found I had a follower... WELL..I'm not naive and I 'm not a prude but why on earth would you put photo's like that of yourself on the net? When I was that young & beautiful I had much more interesting ways to spend my time..

Perthy you are probably right in why they do it. Very sad if that is the case. I cannot find enough hours in a day to do all I want to do and they waste a life doing that..mind boggling indeed..

Titans I am in agreement. I am not fussed about being able to see who I am chatting with [though I can see some benefits]. I don't mind spending a stamp to email someone who interests me. I'm not completely sure how chat works.. have ended up in some chat on here and would probably like to chat more if it didn't cost a stamp everytime... I can be be very chatty and can see myself going broke very quickly! I vote for free chat!

Have a good one everybody. Stuff to do..& whynot?

Posted by: tellmewhynot at September 28, 2010 12:38 PM

But titans16, the emails and chat line are the only way that RSVP make money to provide any of this. Yes I know this is one of the most expensive sites there is for such activity and God knows that Fairfax don't need money, but if this was all free then we would not have the controls that we do and we would be like the free sites and it would be open to all the rubbish that tends to get weeded out by the cost. Having said that there could be some better incentives to regular users and maybe a reduction in individual stamp prices or the ability to buy in smaller numbers [without the inclusion of the waste of money of RSVIP] The GFC does not appear to have filtered into this arena, or maybe it has and that is why there are still so many unclaimed loves on this site. Nobody seems prepared to pay for the contact, so come on RSVP, reduce your stamps and you may get more happening!!!
MsM09

Posted by: msmagnet09 at September 28, 2010 12:27 PM

I personally would rather see RSVP make CHAT and EMAILING reading/reply a FREE option rather than thinking about if we would like to see who we're chatting to. Just my 2 cents

Posted by: titans16 at September 28, 2010 12:38 AM

Exactly OGM, definitely include "or not'.

I always find it a little sad that displaying their 'bits' is all the person thinks they have to offer. Or maybe they are just extremely narcisssistic and believe they 'are gods gift to humanity'. Whatever the case, it must be a very lonely existence even if they are surrounded by likeminded people from time to time.

Only my thoughts here, not trying to be judgemental, more trying to understand the behaviour.

Posted by: iaminperth at September 24, 2010 10:38 AM

Apologies :

In my post (23/9) There is a glaring error. Following part of Perthy's quote I omitted to include the words - "or not". ...
I think RSVP remains a safer option in its current format and offered services.
If clients seek the other option of activity in sighting welcome or otherwise- To quote (in part) Perthy's words of..
" There are some sites where people just put their 'bits' on display. It looks like a gynacological display from a geriatric village " ... Then clearly the choice is yours - join those sites !
Include -(Or Not) here . (smiles)

OGM

Posted by: onegoodman1 at September 24, 2010 9:55 AM

I have GUYS looking at my profile which I find a bit odd and annoying. How about an option to make your profile invisible to a whole group of people (eg. males) instead of merely blocking individual people?

Posted by: baobabs at September 23, 2010 10:48 PM

imightbe3 & Perthy :

Your post of (6/9) and Perthy's of (21/9) pretty well nails the problems associated with this blog concept.

I think RSVP remains a safer option in its current format and offered services.
If clients seek the other option of activity in sighting welcome or otherwise- To quote (in part) Perthy's words of..
" There are some sites where people just put their 'bits' on display. It looks like a gynacological display from a geriatric village " ... Then clearly the choice is yours - join those sites !

Stay safe
OGM

Posted by: onegoodman1 at September 23, 2010 9:58 AM

I suppose it would be a good option for some, after all it's all about choice. Personally I wouldn't use it, but I can understand some people would especially talking fairly long distance. Just about all the social networking sites have that facility so I suppose it is just another way of using the technology that is available and user pays.

Like anything on the site there are rules for behaviour and the users would have to adhere to those rules. There are some sites where people just put their 'bits' on display. It looks like a gynacological display from a geriatric village, I just don't get it at all.

Posted by: iaminperth at September 21, 2010 4:53 PM

am definately agreeing with imightb3! you have made some valid points there! am sure a certain amount of members will be inclined to abuse this option! there are other dating sites that do have these facilities but have also been branded, due to the clientele it has produced!

Posted by: jianni at September 6, 2010 6:01 PM

You can now if you wish, just download Skype and so long as the other person has downloaded it also and you wish to exchange phone numbers, away you go. I think Msn does it also.

You can dress up your face with weird glasses and funny facial hair on Skype and black out your teeth if you want to. I think that could be a bit of a laugh if you wanted to really scare someone ! I think I better keep to just talking on Skype, although it is something to think about.....hmmmmmm

Posted by: iaminperth at September 6, 2010 5:55 PM

hmmm ...myself I would not use it but most people these days would use webcams. Just doesn't sit right with me..viewing a stranger on a cam lol.. but that is just me... Might save some money for coffee bills I guess if a person views someone first before meeting them and then decides they don't like that person...hahaha...Personally speaking I think RSVP is pretty good already but like everything, progression is necessary to keep up with all the other sites. I am very shy so would probably never use a webcam even though I do own one..The option as you say msmagnet would be a good one though and each individual can make their own choice.

Posted by: sweetmixture at September 6, 2010 5:30 PM

That's a slippary slope, my concerns;

* Increase in fake accounts trying to get users to go to trojan sites etc, can now use fake webcam feeds to trick users.

* More bandwidth, depending on how exactly you plan to implement it, it could raise the price of RSVP if bandwidth went via you guys.

* Harder to monitor, how do you know the user is not underage (I've had underage girls email me on here), what if I was to take a screenshot of her flashing on webcam? You guys verified her age & would cop a tonne of flack.
There would be little to no way to monitor webcam sessions, what's stopping people from using it as a porn channel?

+ a few more minor ones I won''t touch on here.
But hey, maybe I'm just negative :)

Imo I use RSVP to avoid exactly that, I want to get to know somebody well without seeing them face to face, I want to build that form of relationship before you ever commence a physical attraction.
If people are webcam savvy (and many are these days), they probably use Skype or MSN for webcam anyway, why not use the funds to do some things that could actually add functionality to the site?

Posted by: imightb3 at September 6, 2010 5:27 PM

Ooohhh first again, I hope.
Yes I think it would be very handy to have a visual chat system available. You can still choose whether you wish to be visual and if you are prepared you can always have the "clothes' thing sorted before you chat. It keeps the privacy of your own email a possibility for longer and establishes a closer connection before going to the more personal situation of meeting for some who are more shy [ than me]. Especially when you are chatting with an interstate person it would help to know if a flight would be a worthwhile expense and not a waste of time, money and feelings. Emailing is impersonal, chatting is better but slow and time consuming and meeting is hard to sometimes organize so visual chats could help with the final result. Ultimately it is up to the individual so it certainly can't hurt to have the option.
MsM09

Posted by: msmagnet09 at September 6, 2010 1:01 PM