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Before I slink away, I've a question for the Gumtree singles because noone seems to bother with gumtree's own forums. Do many people find that buyers will contact you, expressing interest in your item for sale, request your address and then never show? Over half the contacts I get are just out to get an address and I'm curious to know how widespread this is. At least with eBay, once they commit, they have to buy or risk being blacklisted. I just don't get it - what could they possibly stand to gain? The items I have for sale aren't sitting on my front porch!
Blondie.

Posted by: dumbeblonde at November 10, 2011 3:36 AM

Browsing the shops together..then coffee or lunch..well I see nothing wrong in that but when it comes to clothes shopping..I like to be solo for that otherwise you feel you have to rush because your partner is 'waiting" lol..
My husband always enjoyed food shopping with me and we used to get our shop done much quicker with the two of us..Strangely enough this is one of the things I found really strange at first when I suddenly became single..having to shop on my own and manouevre the shopping trolley up the escalators lol However like most things..after a while you get used to them..sighhhh.

I must admit it is nice if shopping with your partner and all of a sudden you have the choice of something awesome being bought for you..Surprise gifts I absolutely love..these days they do not happen very often....

Sweetmix (63)

Posted by: sweetmixture at November 8, 2011 1:47 PM

Ha, ha, ha I knew a guy addicted to ebay!! He spent all night and the morning at work on it and slept all afternoon at work. I'd go to nudge him when the boss came back into the office ha, ha, ha! Amazing!

M xxx

Posted by: margie284 at November 7, 2011 7:51 PM

Well, I'm clearly the round peg in the square hole because I am SO over the shopping scene. And if I really do need some retail therapy, then I prefer to do it solo. If his pockets are deep, he can give me a credit card.

I'd rather do my bonding in other ways....

As for internet shopping, I did know a guy who became addicted to eBay, spending half his waking hours online. Sad really.

Posted by: dumbeblonde at November 6, 2011 5:06 PM

On line shopping is killing the shops so is On line dating killing the social scene, other than coffee shops and restaurants?. I hope not as if this system fails then we will have nothing.
Magnet

Posted by: msmagnet11 at August 25, 2011 4:31 PM

birdsofparadise - 7/4/09:

The supermarket of LURVE. Forget what is on the shelves and just hang out for the blogs....much more interesting.

Regards
M xxx

Posted by: margie284 at July 12, 2011 6:11 PM

If shopping can be done in mutual interest and no apathy or contempt for each other requirements why not? Nice to have as many shared activities as possible and fact is there is shopping best done together - you know the shops I mean. Mutual interest - yes!

Posted by: chivalrousnomad at March 20, 2010 11:05 PM

nah, I like to shop on my own. I like to find a bargain and its me time. I laugh when I see these poor guys being dragged clothes shopping with their gf's, holding their clothes for them and looking bored. I think thats sad.

Posted by: msgenuine29 at March 1, 2010 9:00 PM

It is a shame.
She is definitely a great looking girl but at the moment she looks more like a plastic doll in the same stooped barbie doll pose. I see she has also been signed by channel 7 to hold her until they find a show for her. What !!

I would think the reality for her at the moment is a lot of money, very restricted in her movements and activity because of her looks and maintaining them and wondering what happened.

Myer in Perth is one big messy dump, Karrinyup is worse, terrible store with hardly any sales assistants and the ones they do have are chatting together about how horrible the management are. The perfume counters have so many staff you literally can't get past them to have a look. Whoever is in charge over here needs a wake up call, they're more like jumble sales.

Posted by: iaminperth at December 5, 2009 12:22 PM

Hi folks

Iaminperth, it was a master stroke Myer getting Jennifer Hawkins onboard.

Looking plastic and bored she might look .... i'm sure the $$$ and high profile are keeping her interested though ;)
Maybe its reflective of a lot of us making ends meet selling ourselves to the Capitalist machine and the economic rationalist values imposed upon us?

Amazing though, that is one woman who is young, healthy and vibrant and yet they plaster so much makeup all over her they miss the point that she doesnt need it all..shes what? 26??!!!

Walk down any major city street and you will see beautiful women wearing little or minimal make up in only 5 minutes....they too could be cover girls....imo...so much to do with marketing..without of course taking anything away from the natural beauty that is Jennifer Hawkins.

And while ive completely changed the subject because this topic isnt really enthusing anyone;), the recent hype with Sarah Murdoch not wearing make up was a great little PR exercise...sheesh..gee how old is she? 50 odd maybe?

Nowhere near it...shes a great 38, who has always looked after herself....hardly a big deal taking off her makeup imo, and hardly a reflection of the average woman her age anyway.

A 'start' I guess ;)

And while i'm on about the women lets see some more guys come on from behind the camera lense as well ;)

Posted by: isidore at December 5, 2009 11:15 AM

Has anyone ever tried to get a replacement Myer Card. I discovered I seem to have lost mine despite still having a MyerOne card.

I have just gone in circles with an operator on the phone who firstly couldn't find me on their database. I think I have held a card since I was about 18. Then couldn't get my address correct and never did. Then went into a whole load of questions that had no relevance at all as they were all answered to start off with and announced she had now cancelled my card and I could shop at Target and K Mart which I don't want to. The whole exercise was a waste of my time and money and I won't be purchasing one thing from Myer which I haven't for ages anyway, because the service is so pitiful. And if I see one more stooped over picture of the Barbie Doll Jennifer Hawkins I think I will scream. Beautiful girl that she is, she is starting to look plastic and bored, which she probably is.

Posted by: iaminperth at December 3, 2009 2:59 PM

Even the thought of shopping makes me nervous, the possibility of not finding anything that I like is too overwhelming that I would often pass up a day of shopping and stress and wear something decent I already have.

I know that sounds weird. I guess I never understood the pleasure women get out of shopping. For me it's always been: Want something? Find it. Get it. Go home. Wear it. =) But it usually goes something like this: Want something... Don't find it...Don't go shopping again for 6 months. Hmmm....

I do enjoy browsing with no specific item in mind and not even the will to buy - no stress, leave anytime, do anything! Now that's a day of fun =) Do I have a problem?

Posted by: lisssa1984 at December 3, 2009 11:37 AM

Hi Folks

I love shopping with my partner..er..um...when i have one that is ;)

It didnt take me long to work out that women usually have great dress sense and many of us men don't....i'm getting better but 90% of the time the gals get it right.

Pragmatics tell me to go shopping with a woman to get clothes. When i'm buying them unless I really know what i want, I will seek a girlfriend out.

That aside, its a great experience and opportunity to connect with your partner. My last girlfriend owned a couple of dresses when I met her...by the time we were finished she had a dozen, and felt so special trying dresses on as her last partner didnt take the interest.

Its a great excuse to play and have some fun. I love to see a woman trying on clothes.

One of the funniest experiences ive ever had was some years ago when a girlfriend and myself were in the changerooms and somehow we got into this pose down routine in front of the mirrors (our nick names were Posh and Becks...couldn't imagine why;)...anyway we were busy telling each other how great we were looking...mostly from me from memory ;) unbeknown to us that the empty waiting room we walked through originally had become full...we kinda got carried away!

So imagine our surprise when we walked out and theres a whole lot of very amused faces looking at us.

As I say, shopping is a great experience with a partner. Lots of laughs, memories and some great opportunities to get some good clothes that she likes...
and some really good opportunities guys to get her feeling sexy and spontaneous...

And thats gotta be good right ;)

Posted by: isidore at November 21, 2009 8:11 PM

I suppose I'm a little different than most guys, I love shopping lol. To me if you are with the person you love etc, knowing their likes and dislikes, can give you a broarder understanding of each others different tastes.

If my partner went shopping for under cloths, then I know she is looking for something comfortable and hopefully to ultimately please me.

I'm not embarressed in anyway, in fact I would feel totally comfortable standing there and helping as her partner. Finding that perfect matched set and seeing her say thats perfect, would be an awesome feeling.

No matter what she shopped for or we both shopped for I would hope that we would both enjoy the experience. Guys it can be fun if you think outside the square and show that you really enjoy her company.

Posted by: livenlife50 at November 17, 2009 1:51 AM

Largely agree with the comments. I've been that bored guy following the ex "boss" through a clothes store (so had a good laugh at the descriptions of the bored blokes).

I've also made the MISTAKE of going shopping with a group of about 12 women going clothes shopping (I got sick of going back to the same shop about 3-4 times in one afternoon!).

On the flip side I've been shopping with a female friend or potential date/partner and had a great time (smaller boutique shops/ book shops) and breaks for Lunch/Desert are always good days especially in the right part of the city (whether it's Sydney, Newcastle, Brissie, Melbourne, Perth or Adelaide).

Posted by: blueeyes77newie at November 11, 2009 4:17 PM

Thanks Willow..

Posted by: mohegansun at May 7, 2009 3:42 PM

Perth what you think I wont? I'm with the tour group with those expert tour guide would handle those visa if any required, Holding OZ passport for limited time staying few days in each country are not needed for visa required. Except others countries in europe. Three weeks for Europe in 8 countries including flights is enough for me for sightseeing, that's enough for my holiday leave at work.

Posted by: mohegansun at May 7, 2009 11:19 AM

Day One was enough for me, with the border crossing, passport checks and delays it simply wouldn't happen and you wouldn't get to see a thing except the back of the person in front of you. The crossing from Dover to Calais is fabulous but the delays can be horrendous with the people smuggling and drug trafficking. It's a race against time around Europe you are planning but sadly you won;'t see a thing. Bavaria is in Austria by the way not in Germany.

Posted by: iaminperth at May 7, 2009 10:05 AM

Wow, Mohegansun, you're squishing a lot into two weeks. Hope you have fun!

Posted by: willow29 at May 7, 2009 9:20 AM

I'm shopping around at website and travel agency for the cheapest return airfare in London and hotel accommodation including breakfast and dinner meals, London is main base for arrival and departure, with the destination director to escort via coach fleet with the exciting itineraries designed by the travel expert tour guide, I come up with the inclusions that I would get the best costsaver in European experience tour sightseeing.

The Itinerary would include London to Amsterdam from day 1, an exciting view the White Cliffs at Kent Dover. then boarding to ferry at English Channel crossing to Calais in France. Crossing Belgium and Holland to embark for scenic Rhine Cruise past the vineyard and towering castle of Germany. Hotel for overnight.
Day2, drive to Arnhem to Germany to approach to Gothic Cathedral at Cologne. pass thru Lugwigshafen.
Day3, Then drive to Munich Germany Bavaria to see Olympic stadium, Glockenspiel and Hofbrauhaus. also taking pictures at Innsbruck. overnight hotel stay.
Day4, Venice at Hapsburg city to see the Golden roof, hofburg palace, st mark square, st mark basilica and others.
Day5, Rome sightseeing and leisures, to see St Peter's Basilica, the Forum, Doges Palace, Staying at hotel at night.
Drive along thru Veneto plain , Bologna over Apennines Mountains then arriving in Tuscany. sightseeing over there then hotel overnight
Day 6, whole day deep exploration at Rome, the mighty Colosseum of emperor Cesar, Vatican Museum, incredible fountains at Tivoli gardens city of Rome.
Day7, Florence Rome, The renaissance city of Florence, art works of Michelangelo, sight seeing tour individuals, The Signoria, The Dumo, The Giotto's Bell-Tower. see the main art galleries, museums then hotel overnight stay.
Day8, Head to North of Italy at Lombardy and Milan to see lake side of Lugano, lake Como, drive along Switzerland, capital cities, pretty lakeside Lucienne then overnight stay.
Day9, See the medieval towns on the banks of the rivers, alpines alps, River of Reuss, Chapel bridge, Lion Monument, yes chocolates, wines tasting, Hotel stay overnight.
Day 10, travel on the way to France outskirt to Vosges mountains, pass to French villages, castles, vineyards to french capital pf Paris. stay hotel
Day11, Paris sightseeing and leisures, shopping and views of Eiffel tower, Champs Elysees, Arc de triophe, Notre dame cathedral, yes night life of Paris.
Day12 & 13, Paris to London, 2 days stay at London city exploring museum, arts, kings and queens jewels museum, palace, bridge, parks.
Day 14 departure's back to Sydney home sweet home.
sad to say, I'm travelling alone.

Posted by: mohegansun at May 6, 2009 12:58 PM

I was only joking before I get slaughtered !

Posted by: iaminperth at May 3, 2009 2:22 PM

I suppose RSVP is a bit like shopping for a guy/girl. Oh that one looks okay, take it home, try it out and if you don't like it take it back and choose another one. No refunds though, just a return policy to find something more suitable.

Posted by: iaminperth at May 3, 2009 2:21 PM

Thinking about this, I think the shopping-as-date thing, is good as a part-of-a-date-thing: shopping for food and wine to prepare together later; shopping for a DVD to watch together later, etc.

:-)

Posted by: lafileuse at May 3, 2009 7:53 AM

Shopping with someone really brings out facets of their personality that you wouldn't otherwise know. Its a good "test"!

Posted by: willow29 at April 17, 2009 8:57 AM

Oh, when I said friends, I mean my female friends. But I do go accompanying a good male friend who is visiting this city and need some gift shopping, especially for his wife. But, if his wife does not like it, I dont even bother. :0)

Posted by: ahappyending at April 11, 2009 6:41 PM

Shopping.
Do things with a stranger again? :0) A stroll in the shopping centre, in a bookshop or in a market is quite ok, but not to shop with a date. No. I would rather do shopping on my own for my personal stuff. It is different with my partner who and I will have known each other well.

But, unless I have a shopping list, I would rather enjoy the leisure of window shopping on my own with all the time in the world and without the worry if others would feel bored or not; and the others include my partner, or, my friends.

Posted by: ahappyending at April 11, 2009 6:34 PM

I love breakfasts too...especially in wonderful, sunny courtyards with lots of crispy bacon, scrambled eggs on sourdough...yum...with aromatic coffee and wonderful conversation...then a bit of shopping followed by a long luch with a lovely shiraz...afternoon stroll...somewhere scenic...or a jazz band...home for a bit..or a lot...then a dvd...dream on...but these activities are equally good with family or friends...I must remember that.

Posted by: istj54 at April 9, 2009 4:14 PM

mmm, love the breakfast overlooking the water at Fremantle or Cottesloe, just lazing away with good food, good company and great coffee. Yum, love the taste and the smells of breakfast also and some great characters turn up at times. The whole busy beautiful smelling food and coffee wafting thru the air and the ocean views, it's just delightful.

Posted by: iaminperth at April 8, 2009 11:03 PM

Posted by: lafileuse at April 7, 2009 10:38 AM

Me too, a delicious and leisurely breakfast/brunch shared with friends and/or family is a simply delightful experience.

In regards to shopping, I love to attend local produce markets to purchase the fresh food required to build a delicious (mostly!) meal from scratch.

Posted by: bellibone at April 7, 2009 1:22 PM

Posted by: iaminperth at April 7, 2009 12:37 AM

I'm with you there ... most often I think I'd rather be taken out to a nice breakfast, than dinner. Leaves the whole day ahead!

:-D

Posted by: lafileuse at April 7, 2009 10:38 AM

How true Bop, although some people just hook up as friends on the site I think and are not looking for lovers and life partners. That's okay as well so maybe they don't have to be so picky when it comes to people as the intimacy is not involved so much. Whatever, so long as it works !

Posted by: iaminperth at April 7, 2009 8:19 AM

That's not shopping istj that's lingering and touching and flirting. I don't think that was quite what was meant, I think they meant more falling over each other in a department store fighting for the bargains !!! Good on you. And Willow, yes love the Markets, go to Fremantle or Subiaco to get my fruit and veges each week and also wonderful store with all the nuts and cereals etc. I love a good breakfast. In fact I think a really good breakfast out with someone really nice is one of the best things you can do. I really enjoy it. Whether it's at markets with friends, at the beach with someone special or just out to have really good food and good conversation. Yum, big breakfast with fresh orange juice, my mouth is watering even now. Best breakfast I ever had was in Albany WA. The chooks were out the back, the bread was freshly baked, the tomatoes and mushrooms home grown and the bacon to die for. Yum, can't remember the name of the place but I will know where to find it if I visit again !!!!

Posted by: iaminperth at April 7, 2009 12:37 AM

Shopping with/without partners... are we doing the same here in this site ...
RSVP is like EBay... people's on sellers and buyers, some are new arrivals, some are for sale reduce price for discontinue line. Some are good stuffs have been taken, some are outdated, some are expiry-dated - still trying just in case might be taken by mistake. Some are recycle users...name it. We are all being part of this dating site. As they say Beware buyers, as no refund or exchange. The damage would not guarantee for replacement. huh!! ...who knows, so keep on trying ...you may find rare and inexpensive good quality guys/gals. I believed... Keep your fingers crossed for luck....

Posted by: birdsofparadise at April 7, 2009 12:33 AM

On second thoughts...shopping together for wine, cheeses, delimeats...fruits...nuts...chocolate...to eat in bed might be nice...very nice...kindof like foreplay...mmmmm.

Posted by: istj54 at April 6, 2009 8:51 PM

Sweetie - you dont take your man to sales!! lol. The sort of shopping you take your man to is slow and languorous, interspersed with a coffee and cake at places you'd never bother going to by yourself. The sortof shopping you can do in your heels :)

Perth, I love markets too. The Farmers market up here is great with a massive breakfast using local produce for $10 including orange juice squeezed on the spot. Even the dogs are allowed to come. Bonus!

My favourite store is Bunnings, followed by Spotlight but that might change soon *winks*.

Posted by: willow29 at April 6, 2009 7:06 PM

Willow - you sexy thing you!

Posted by: jenniferhi at April 6, 2009 2:37 PM

I am a serial shopper, but I'm also quick... I run into a shop and grab anything and everything I like throw it on in the changerooms if I have to and I'm out again in 15 minutes. I hate people that lag... and consider... you're not buying a house... its all returnable or you can sell it on ebay or give it to a family member or friend. So if my partner was a lagger I couldn't shop with them. grocery shopping is okay but not clothes/shoes/accessories. That's my time ha ha ha

Posted by: kandikane90 at April 6, 2009 1:33 PM

i think shopping together is great fun! you can get up to all sorts of mischief and have lunch together and browse the shops for ages, but of course it's dependant on personality type, some men hate shopping and some women hate shopping with men, if you and your partner enjoy spending the time together at the mall, markets or main street it's always better than just hanging around the house!

Posted by: davieo at April 6, 2009 11:53 AM

Hi All,

I have never minded going shopping with women; what I hate is that they dont buy anything!! I wouldn't care if she spent every cent I had...and then some...so long as she purchased something.

Personally, I quite enjoy buying the groceries; I like looking at stuff because I invent meals as I go and, if I happen to see something unusual I think I could use in a recipe....in it goes, and worry about the consequences later.

Posted by: notafigjam at April 5, 2009 3:27 PM

I never have, never will take a man shopping with me (unless i NEED to) ie. Bunnings or car stuff. There is nothing more annoying to me, as a single woman, to attempt to go shopping only to have some other chick dragging her man along through shops he clearly has no interest in. And not to mention the discomfort..... ever tried to go thru a sale rack at Triumph only to have some other womans boyfriend watching you?? I would even go as far to say that it is RUDE to other women, to take your man clothes shopping with you! Leave him at home or meet up later!

Posted by: sw337ie at April 4, 2009 10:24 PM

I hate shopping by myself, let alone in company...ewww...I tend to scan shops and swoop on what I need and get out of there.

Posted by: istj54 at April 4, 2009 8:10 PM

being a mum of a 7mth old i hate shopping,
im in, get what i need and back out again, although a few of my male friends ask me to go with them when they need to get new clothes for a special occasion and of course that takes forever, If my partner (if i had 1) wanted to go shopping then id have to know what he wanted and how much he wanted to spend before going,it just makes it easier

Posted by: beki09 at April 4, 2009 4:54 PM

Hi Amber and Willow, So good to see you are still here. I love to wander around markets. I love it when I have to go to Melbourne, as I think the markets there are the absolute best. I have recently been back and forth a few times and always book an overnight back to Perth so I can spent an extra day wandering around. Last time, it was antique shops, next time it will be retro fashion shops and I also want to see "Wicked' again. That is one of the best musicals ever.

Posted by: iaminperth at April 3, 2009 9:19 PM

Markets are great for the friendly atmosphere and food. If you are shopping for a particular item, and you need to be focused, it can be stressful. Just browsing with a partner can be fun, especially in stores where browsers are welcome. Being constantly approached by the staff can wear you thin.

Posted by: time4latte at April 3, 2009 7:51 PM

Malls I hate. Car parks are for checking if rich cars have better messes. Corner stores I love. IKEA warehouses I roam but never spend. Discount stores I retreat overwhelmed. Bunnings I drift to kill an hour. Antiques I drift through as a five year old, but allowed to touch - I handle every item within reach and beyond budget. Markets are for eating on the move - where else can you discuss products between Portuguese mouthfuls. For me, it's the peculiar thrill of being totally absorbed and lost, but with car keys.

Posted by: jardinero2 at April 3, 2009 6:46 PM

I agree with Knack - depends where you shop. Most men would not get fed up in a lingerie shop if they get to see what you're trying on - and there are shops that allow that - a cubicle for him to sit in and you can show him.

Posted by: willow29 at April 3, 2009 3:30 PM

I'm with you Perth,
You often see men traipsing around the clothing and department stores being little more than a bag holder/clothes rack.
I think from the looks on their faces you can probably guess where they are in their relationships.
Those 'in love' look okay with it, those who have been together a lot longer, look bored and unhappy.
I guess some women want their partner's opinion, but by the body language and not-so-subtle 'words' between some couples I have observed, it seems to indicate they don't always agree.

I am certain there are some men who like to exercise some control over their partner's choice in clothes, which must just lead to serious tensions in their relationship.
If you feel you can't trust your partner with money, then why are you with them?

I honestly think some things are best not shared by couples no matter how much you love each other, clothes shopping is one of them!

Posted by: amberlight58 at April 3, 2009 2:46 PM

I like shopping with my partner. You get to learn all manner of things about them. It also depends on where you shop I guess.

Posted by: gettheknack at April 2, 2009 9:21 PM

Can never understand when a woman wants to take a man shopping with her. You see these poor blokes getting in the way in department stores, looking fed up, don't know what to do, heading for the nearest chair to sit on and begging to get out of there. Whatever is the point. I think most guys hate shopping and trailing around after a woman is boring and tedious. Also I cannot understand why any woman would want to do it when you can get around so much quicker and easily and spend what you want without any questions.

Posted by: iaminperth at April 2, 2009 6:16 PM

I think the intro to this topic is a huge generalisation. I'm, more often than not, very goal oriented when I shop. Especially, when shopping for clothes and shoes (contrary to what Sex and the City portrays) ... I only do it when I have to.

On my recent nearly-annual-almost-a-road-trip to Melbourne with friends, and friends of friends, I was in the presence of some world class shoppers ... it was awesome to behold. Enjoyed myself tremendously, but came away with one pair of platform thongs, one nail polish (I'm on a quest for a particular colour), two French magazines and some Haigh's drinking chocolate and chocolates (host present for someone who was putting me up on the way back). Felt like I let the side down.

However, at Bunnings, Spotlight, Dick Smiths, or any shop selling fibre, fibre tools, yarns or bellydancing gear, I could spend ages!

I know men who like to 'window shop' too. Maybe they window shop in different shops, but the inclination is still there. It all depends on how the individual is feeling at the time, and shopping together could be great ... it should just take some communication to ensure that both parties are on the same wavelength, shopping-wise. I think it would be great to shop for groceries together for a special meal ... that's a bit of 'window-shopping' and goal-oriented shopping in one.

:-D

Posted by: lafileuse at April 2, 2009 6:15 PM

Ellida i think its best to take our partner together for shopping i agree that there taste will be different, but then also its good so that we can know each other well there likes and dislikes so its good idea thats what i think...

Posted by: cameronsharpe at April 2, 2009 5:30 PM