RSVP Blog

Looking to expand my social network and as I love going out was hoping the party animal community might offer me some keen inner city sydney singles that would be keen to meet up for a night out. These communities dont seem to have a point unless a get together is organised!

Posted by: sasha0109 at March 7, 2010 6:28 PM

There are a number of groups where people go for coffee, lunch, book clubs etc etc

So what people think of a idea for a Brisbane based group where the main aim is for singles, divorced and widowed is to help the community by doing volunteer work?

Posted by: kenstar2009 at February 6, 2010 2:46 PM

Bye Virgo
We'll miss you,
Ali
@--}--}---

Posted by: ali1974 at February 2, 2010 7:51 PM

Virgo @ 4.26pm:

We'll miss you....but are happy for the reason that you are withdrawing your profile.

Love & best wishes from grannie K

Posted by: kurli at February 2, 2010 7:36 PM

Hey Alove...

Yes, there are some very nice guys out there, and I've found the best one of them...!

Off to Perth on Friday...wanted to say goodbye to my blogging family.

I'll miss you guys, but it's time to pull my profile off here...!!

Look after yourselves, and Alove will keep me informed about what you're all up to..:)

Mwah, and lots of love to you...Virgo...xoxoxo

Posted by: virgowoman2 at February 2, 2010 4:26 PM

Andre,
I'm someone who does two reads, the first is a quick scan to see how the profile is written and if there is anything in there that flags an immediate "thanks but no thanks" e.g. someone being in their late 50s (well outside my age range), in another country, profiles that yell (all capitals). If there aren't any flags, I'll re-read it properly.
After reading a few profiles, there are things I look out for...but that's me.
Ali
:-)

Posted by: ali1974 at February 1, 2010 7:05 PM

Andre, perhaps they are just fast readers? :)

Posted by: willow29 at February 1, 2010 8:58 AM

Ive been here on & off My view is when i send kisses they judge me by my picture because i get the reply in less then 5 mins which means members are not reading the profile.I take my time & think about it maybe 24 hrs before i decide weather i want to contact them or not.

Posted by: andre732009 at January 31, 2010 11:44 AM

Ah but FG - have you had someone from a different galaxy on his 12th reincarnation?

Posted by: willow29 at January 31, 2010 10:59 AM

FG - males crossdressing as women, or women crossdressing as men? Like that delightful Australian short film where she even grew a moustache...

Posted by: willow29 at January 30, 2010 8:35 PM

Ali I am amazed after you saying no to his kiss that he spent a stamp just to say nah nah - what a tool - very immature tool too!

Kurli! Haven't heard from you for a while, was actually thinking of you last weekend as I went and saw Nine, great fun, Perthy would love it too. I would have cringed to see what he would have come up with if the webcam was on (oh FG keep it clean).

Ah dear Nephew, you do attract some weird ones!! Kept your Mum up to date with the chat sessions, you can hear her laughter can't you!! I keep telling myself every no or weirdo then i'm closer to the real deal, Aunty Alove x

Posted by: aloveoflife at January 30, 2010 6:55 PM

Hey Aunty,, be honest you got off over it.. hahah

Alove..... i can top ANY of your dates..!!! believe me.., i've had it all..... Cross dressers to strippers to escorts to married house wives..!

FG;)

Posted by: feelgood76 at January 30, 2010 12:40 PM

Alove
If there's a next time,on webcam---.ask to see his legs!
Before you know,he'll be in a French maid's costume just for you......lol

Posted by: kurli at January 30, 2010 9:22 AM

Hey Willow that's exactly what my sister said, my real one not Virgo although she was laughing too. Started out did I like lingerie, sexy high heels, stockings, angora mohair (wtf), asked him what he liked to wear as too hot in Bris to wear angora mohair and he said anything I wanted - didn't want to discuss real life stuff - kinky @#&%. He also said he wanted webcam on so we could see each others facial expressions - at what moment - wtf again....

discoverfemiz, please feel free to share, if we didn't laugh about these things we'd cry, we've had stories from the guys and the gals - it does work both ways so please hang in there, there are some really nice men out there - ask Virgo - Virgo - cooee, could you please put a comment in - are you still in Vic or have you flown off to your lurve nest?? Alove x

Posted by: aloveoflife at January 29, 2010 7:41 PM

That's a good one Alove.
Taking willow's suggestions in hand, maybe he was looking for some fashion tips??
Ali
:-)

Posted by: ali1974 at January 29, 2010 5:32 PM

'afternoon Alove and Willow,
I have update to my tool. After declining him I received an email from him having a go starting with: "...Me spunkier than you anyway hon...." and ending with "...Dont go away mad .... just .... go away...."
It's both funny and sad at the same time. Mustn't be a very happy man...
Ali
:-)

Posted by: ali1974 at January 29, 2010 5:17 PM

Heya, Alove, maybe he was a cross dresser. Ask him if he wants to see your makeup too :)

Posted by: willow29 at January 29, 2010 2:17 PM

I would like to know what others experience on RSVP – Not only the success stories.

I have been on here since July 2008, on and off. Have had what you can call 3 short term relationships one at a time. I don’t complain as it helped me understand myself better. I was married before for 25 years. All men I met because of this site. However when I return I always see the same faces, and in the last 18 months none of their photo’s has changed. I have also been on a lot of coffee dates, used a lot of stamps. I can share my experience, good or Bad, if it is OK by RSVP and if anyone out there care to know.

I have friend that met someone more than a year ago, first time up and they are still together.

Posted by: discoverfemiz at January 29, 2010 8:23 AM

Happy New Year to you too!

The New Year started with amazing highs. Hopefully its going to be the trend this year, for all of us :)

Posted by: willow29 at January 29, 2010 7:59 AM

Hey Willow and Ali, had a weirdo tonight, more interested in my clothes and the fabric, wanted webcam on........ think he wants my clothes, Virgo enjoyed the read! Who can top this one? Alove x

Posted by: aloveoflife at January 28, 2010 11:58 PM

Hello Willow,
Happy New Year (not sure if I've wished you yet), how's the new year treating you so far? you well?
Yes, though I'd probably call it ego more than confidence. And an email followed with even more.
Ali
:-)

Posted by: ali1974 at January 28, 2010 9:45 PM

That's confidence for you, Ali !

Posted by: willow29 at January 28, 2010 9:29 PM

Happy,
quick update for you, having just received a kiss from someone who writes in his profile how hot he is...No tools need apply.
Ali
:-)

Posted by: ali1974 at January 28, 2010 8:51 PM

Hi Happy, It might be easier to ask what women 'don't want' in a man.
For me personally, I might have an idea of what I look for, but some of these can be waived (they're nice to haves, but in the big scheme not really important). On the other hand, the things I don't want - that's a definite.
Good luck,
Ali
:-)

Posted by: ali1974 at January 28, 2010 8:44 PM

Cobbydale

Its not gender specific. Seems some think they are above replying to others....i've had plenty of no responses.
Oh well you get that.

Rest assured though, these types are pretty full of themselves so one may safely assume that their non response speaks volumes about who they are, their motives and ethics....and how you avoided 'going there' ;)

Plenty do respond though thankfully. If you are going to do this you must approach it with the right mindset...hence my profile is hidden...i'm a bit over it.

Whatthe66 I laughed when I read your post. I agree with a lot of your comments as a dating night I went to a few years ago seemed to mirror your thoughts.

Chantikjalita people are not honest with STD's in my experience...at least intially.
A couple of women ive had relationships with have told me 'that' after we have got to know each other......got to be honest its not a preference for me.
Suffice it to say they were both longer term relationships...but...in the back of my mind there is always that thought and the extra lengths you go to avoid any STD....it did at times have an impact on me.
Herpes is supposed to have remerged with the younger generation...

It must be tough though to deal with telling a prospective partner that.

I had one partner who said she'd like her partner to get an STD so 'they' could relax.....selfish I thought!

Coldsores? Well..theres just some things you need to be aware of with that obviously.

Single life looks better all the time ha ha!

Posted by: isidore at January 28, 2010 8:32 PM

Okay...Calling all women...I want to ask you, what exactly is it that all women look for in men? I know that everybody is different, but i'd like to know what the key things are that women look for in a guy.

Posted by: happygolucky1992 at January 28, 2010 7:20 PM

I have decided it is a 'male thing'....lack of common courtesy, I have received kisses over the past few weeks and when I have replied in a positive way....end of story.
I belong to another 'Free' site....and still no reply. What is it....a game? just to see how many women respond? I feel you have to be in it....but golly there are an awful lot of ill mannered / lazy men out there.
Just a 'sorry not interested' reply will suffice. Becoming very cynical about the whole thing....... where else does someone go these days....or do we become celibate???I only want to find that 'one' man....and beginning to wonder if I am aiming way too high.

Posted by: cobbydale at January 28, 2010 7:11 PM

Chantikjalita, I get myself tested every year, and pride myself on being very careful with condoms, and so far, disease free. Even when a man turns up on a date with a cold sore (it's happened twice), I can barely look at him, and if a man admitted to me that he had an STD, I'm afraid I'd run for the hills.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at January 28, 2010 2:39 AM

Yer honesty on std's as 1 in 6 of us have something why not be honest about it and up front.
Education is the key...learn and grow from the experience don't hold and hide in it's shame....life is ment to be lived and out off all the members on this site, I can't beleive I am the only one with such open views.
Take your heads from the sand it can and does happen to the best of us, we are still deserving human beings that desire unconditional love and respect.
The more we are open to it the less stigmia we create.
We are people.....with alot more to offer than what we may carry as a virus.
And some more truth is, that some of you will be carriers and not even know it so it should not be about judging others...

Posted by: chantikjalita at January 27, 2010 11:12 PM

Hi Sulover,
Just like me, you are a very attractive woman(from a womans perspective, don't worry I am not gay!). Just like you I get very frustrated with the numerous rejections and no replies. I truly believe that the really nice women outnumber the nice men on this website by heaps. there are plenty of loser guys on here(sorry boys). Many of my friends both male and female are amazed that I am still single after all this time (4 years now). Just proves that you can't judge a person by a photo and a few words. Went speedating on the weekend, OMG-The men were AWFUL, never seen so many losers and geeks packed together in the one room-It was hysterical! Most of the women seemed like your average miss/mrs nice, typical of the imbalance of singles in my age group.
I think as women, we just have to stick together and support one another, and maybe one day we might get lucky.
To all those "nice" guys in my area and age group-I am still waiting....
To everyone out there, I guess just hang in there, and keep replying, it is only courtesy. I hear you sunlover, good luck.

Posted by: whatthe66 at January 18, 2010 3:21 PM

Hi Sunlover

Some people are particularly self centred and totally self absorbed to the fact that nobody exists outside of themselves ;)

There is a contingent here who no doubt get a lot of interest and perhaps as a result get blase or even indifferent to people reaching out to a profile 'they' publicly put on a dating site.

It never takes too much time to respond thoughtfully and respectfully to ALL contacts.....even when they do not obviously read a profile and what that person is looking for.

I tend to send an email instead of a kiss to those profiles where I don't think I totally match their 'ideal' criteria.
I do that to acknowledge that and to let them know i'm 'genuinely' interested....and willing to take a risk and contact them directly.

What I can say is that 'in my experience this has helped me to reach out and at times it confirms that that profile 'with attitude' certainly had that by not taking the time to respectfully reply and decline.

Always something to learn and opportunities are there......just be prepared for those types who do not have the good manners and etiquette to reply.

At least its great character building!

Stick with it sunlover1962 :)

Posted by: isidore at January 14, 2010 8:30 AM

I sent in a comment a few weeks ago. and obviously it got vetoed for some reason. I have had wasting kisses this week 3 sent and not one reply.. Very Disheartening...
Sunlover1962

Posted by: sunlover1962 at January 13, 2010 9:14 PM

Could somebody please explain why rsvp would take your online status off your profile.
I am somewhat tired of the games rsvp play.

Just an idea ...I would like to see the contacts message sent to me when replying.

Posted by: becauseiamworthit at January 1, 2010 1:20 PM

dylanfreak - have you thought about using the new kiss filter feature? Just a thought if it is getting annoying, that way you will only hear from the types that meet your specs! Good luck.

Posted by: aloveoflife at December 15, 2009 6:22 PM

Thanks Alove..... Don't worry, I'm fine with me. My comment was a bit 'tongue in cheek'.

My experience is a bit like, luvtravelin at December 12, 2009 4:41 PM, see there are a lot of men who seem to think that way too.

And , Scorpio, I don't have studio photos either...I took mine myself, holding the camera out in front of me...gawd, it's really hard to smile and look natural and not freakish doing that, you should have seen all the ones I didn't put in my profile...hmmm now they were scary :P

Posted by: aquamanda56 at December 13, 2009 1:16 AM

Aquamanda - I love your optimism, something which has escaped me lately! It is amazing how much in common I appear to have with some profiles but still constantly get rejected or ignored! Or if they meet me, I get rejected soon after - aarrggghhhh - so frustrating - many here seem to have the same problem, and it is nice to know it is a really common problem, so I don't feel so picked on anymore - thanks everyone! Part of my dating problem is that I am in that bad age bracket of 51 - so few other men admit to that age, so I believe quite a few lie about it - I am average to overweight (but have recently lost 7 kilos- yay) and am not gorgeous - I consider myself very much Ms Average - but guys want so much more than that - at least the ones I am interested in. Sigh.......but as I said, thanks everyone - I will hang in there a bit longer - anyway, where else can I go - LOL.

cheers

Posted by: maggie101 at December 12, 2009 10:26 PM

Here's a thought. Guys, I know you're only looking at the photos and hardly bothering to read about the person, but please make an effort to at least read the age range on a profile and then don't bother sending kisses if you're not in that preferred age bracket. There's nothing more offputting to a woman than being approached by someone who's way off the preferred age limit. It's quite creepy and I assure you, you will be blocked.

Posted by: dylanfreak at December 12, 2009 9:49 PM

Aquamanda, there is nothing wrong with you or your profile whatsoever, you have a lovely face and sparkly eyes - your face is alive. It's just that the right man hasn't clicked on your profile yet. Hang in there!

I'm dark blonde although my main photo looks like a redhead (was just the light), not slim, merely average build, I'm shortly to go past 45 but hey who cares about the digits. My photo's aren't studio, the main one was taken getting ready for work when I'd had a good nights sleep and didn't have luggage under my eyes (lol), the other was taken at a xmas party after too many champers, often the best photos are not posed for I'm told.

Just the right person hasn't come along, as Virgo and I agree - NEXT - although she isn't saying next anymore, she's in heaven with Mr Spesh.

I'm enjoying meeting new people until the right one comes along and have made some wonderful friends, male and female from this site. As for the people who do not respond to kisses or request an email, it happens to both male and female, it is annoying but I guess that's life. Hang in there everyone, enjoy the ride, don't get upset by the players and you will get something nice when the timing is right. Alove x

Posted by: aloveoflife at December 12, 2009 4:47 PM

Could somebody please explain to me the whole issue of Chemistry and Vibes. I am getting the painful impression that a heck of a lot of women out there think that it is an instant thing on the very first meeting!!!.

I have yet to meet one single female (and I have been on this site for a number of years now) who is willing to even consider a second meeting.

I always thought that Chemistry was something you worked on and was a gradual thing and it took a little time to really get to know the other person. Not instant. Or am I totally going down the wrong track here?

I would be interested in hearing other peoples views on this subject. Or are we now entering the realms of the INSTANT RELATIONSHIP? - or are expectations all wrong?

If this chemistry and vibes thing doesn't seem to happen in the first hour or so you have no chance!!!

Posted by: luvtravelin at December 12, 2009 4:41 PM

Yeah, apparently there's nothing wrong with my profile either...apart from, I'm not blonde, I'm not slim and I'm over 50, have old fashioned values (feed back I've had) and would make a very good friend but.....?
I think there are an awful lot of people (not just men) who say they know what they want, but when it comes to the crunch either are not willing or patient to put in the time to get to know someone or really are looking for something else.
I don't take it personally anymore, obviously that one was not meant for me :)

Posted by: aquamanda56 at December 12, 2009 4:16 PM

I have read a lot of interesting comments on here, one of the things that annoys me is the number of women who have studio photos. Come on ladies just a natural photo will do after all when you meet someone they are never like the studio photo, just be yourself

Scorpio 2009

Posted by: scorpio2009 at December 12, 2009 4:05 PM

Howdy,
I have been wondering if there was anything wrong with my profile....but no, it seems to be happening to everyone. I agree a rating similar to the one Ebay uses would be good. I have even given over sending a kiss out due to non replies and stamps are way too expensive to have wasted.
I believe in Good Manners, do unto others as you would wish for yourself......anything better than that, well its a bonus.
Mind you I am still hoping Mr. Right will come my way......and if he is right, then I shall not care where I live. Maureen

Posted by: cobbydale at December 12, 2009 2:04 PM

Hi all. I totally agree, with someone who commented a while ago about putting a rating system on for replies. Something similar to EBAY, and maybe blocking members who are regular offenders. Like so many other people I think the no replies are incredibly rude, for god sake how hard is it to reply??????. I have pretty much given up sending kissess. The straw that broke the camels back was someone who kept viewing me for quite some time, his profile seemed ok, seemed to have a few things in common, so I sent the kiss...of course no reply. The loser (Oceans blue666) is so obviously not worth the trouble. Avoid this one ladies!!!!!! Good luck out there, I have pretty much given up on internet dating, might give speed dating a go.

Posted by: whatthe66 at December 12, 2009 1:42 PM

I believe it is only polite to reply to all kisses and emails. I am a newbie to this internet dating (3 months) and am perplexed by the volume of kisses I receive that are outside of my preferred age & location criteria. Also the number of women who view my profile is amazing, what's with that? Checking out the competition maybe?
It is hard to define slim, athletic etc in body type. For me an athletic man is strong, muscular solid well built type while for others athletic may mean wiry and thin like a marathon runner. I put myself as average as I think slim means model thin and athletic means gym junkie types which I am neither.

Posted by: andthebestpartis at December 12, 2009 12:54 PM

Posted by: gentlehearted82 at December 12, 2009 8:57 AM

Interesting blog:

I thought some of your comments quite valid. Could it be that internet dating is made into an 'end in itself' - rather than a means to an end - eg: Ppl who are happy to talk on line rather than meeting up in the 'real world' because its too scary.

Posted by: roundmidnightm at December 12, 2009 10:58 AM

isidore: On weight, unfortunately a large proportion of Australians are technically overweight, however this means that a slightly overweight person is now statistically "average". Perhaps the word healthy would work in place of average. Maybe combining the descriptors with a BMI (body mass index) scale would be better? But this still doesn't cover all bases as a well built muscular person may still be classed as overweight.

Other potential blog topic:
"IS DISTANCE A DEALBREAKER?" - This comes from my ongoing experience of living within commuting distance of Melbourne yet getting constant "too far away" messages. I don't understand why members get on the world wide web to only search for those living "within 10kms". How many of these people would have put a smaller distance figure if one was available? Why not within 5kms or within 1km? Considering that 40% of the population is expected to move house in any period of 5 years (I looked it up), something makes me think that when a woman says "I want someone on my level", it really means that they want someone that lives on the same level (apartments) as they do!

I still get these messages even though I only contact those members who two way match with me... I have contacted some who put within 100kms, and I lived about 63kms away, and still got the too far away response!

Another blog topic:
ARE YOU A CLICHE JUNKY?
Seeing as most people write the same things in their profile, they really don't mean anything or are universal, eg:
I like going out and staying in (really?)
I want someone that knows what they want (what about if they want something different to you?)
I want someone that likes me (duh!)
No time wasters (I won't contact these people, just in case I might be wasting their time)

Perhaps the system should auto-detect cliches when you submit your profile, and advise you of better writing suggestions.

AND FOR MORE SARCASTIC KISS REPLIES:
"Thank you for your kiss. I look forward to receiving your email but I will not reply to it"
"Thank you for your kiss, unfortunately I do not want to date someone outside of walking distance even though it takes me over an hour to commute to work"
"Thank you for your kiss. I like your photo and we have common interests and our profiles fully two way match, but I think you may be lying about something for such a match and so I do not want to talk"
"Thank you for your kiss, but you mentioned you are looking for dating or relationships and I believe it is too dangerous to meet someone off the net so I do not want to correspond further"

On a more serious note, how about the topic:
IS HAVING CHILDREN SET IN STONE?
I have read a number of articles indicating that more couples are choosing to not have children, but there are very few that can be found on any dating sites. This topic opens a whole can of worms as those making this choice are often stereotyped (for males at least as not serious about relationships or commitment) or even disowned by other family members.

Posted by: gentlehearted82 at December 12, 2009 8:57 AM

Ok guys out there what is it with you all you say that you want to meet a honest lady and then all you want is to play games,well i not ready to play so i think you need to get over your last reliationship before starting another one,women have feelings to you know so think about it.

Posted by: rubyj at December 12, 2009 12:08 AM

Okay, for the first 2 months I displayed a photo and got little or no response, hide it and reponses went up a 1000% so it stays hidden. With the shoe on the other foot I read the profiles of those ladies that have no photo visible and if interesting make contact via a kiss or email and give the password, I always get a reply and have made some nice new friends this way so the system works for me.
Isidore, thank you for reading my mind you are spot on with your comments, yes, truth in advertising would sort the chaff from the wheat. My only gripe; women with unrealistic or incomplete profiles, us men are not mind readers.

Posted by: fortressheart at December 11, 2009 11:01 PM

Ok everyone of you guys out there who don't post a photo of yourselves. What kind of response are you expecting? If you were looking at a female's profile that didn't have a pic what would you do? Exactly. That's what I and other women will and are doing. Just moving on....

Posted by: dylanfreak at December 11, 2009 10:48 AM

triumph68:
I couldn't agree more!
I reply to all kisses and e-mails - I think that's polite. I think anyone who has ventured to send even a kiss deserves the courtesy of a kiss reply from me, even if it's simply to wish them well in their search. Once someone purchases stamps and goes into print - well, they deserve a proper e-mail reply, nothing less, even if it's a nicely worded "no thank you."
It's a compliment, either way and it's rather ungraceful to ignore compliments.
On the plus side -if they can't show that sort of basic courtesy and consideration to a stranger, then they probably weren't worth your time and concern in the first place. It might be a more general indication of the way they treat others.

Posted by: firstsoprano at December 6, 2009 4:26 PM

No response to kisses is rude enough but no reply to a requested email is totally wrong. Unless it was an inappropriate email - in which case I would say get knotted (maybe nicely) and then activate the automated reply "thanks, but no further contact wanted"

Posted by: sl1970 at December 6, 2009 3:30 PM

Hi Folks

At risk of offending 'some' here... respectfully..here goes ;)

Aquamanda I agree with your take on peoples opinions on their own weight...this is an area that 'somehow' RSVP needs to refine further.
A weight in Kg's would help...but then some of 'em would stretch the truth on that as well ;)

More than half of the women 'i've met' who say they are 'slim'..one recent contact looked around size 16 'at least'...are not slim. They are 'average'...or overweight.
Some people don't just get it wrong...they get it horribly wrong.

I'm 5'10" 70kg. Pretty simple huh? Now in the body types I don't put 'athletic' even though i'm 'fit' and could pass as that.
Why? Because i'm 70kg and i'm 'lean and slim'....'imo'
Thats being 'honest' as I see it. I'm on the lighter side, so i'm not going to overstate myself....as much as I love the concept ;)

I understand that the terminology could be better...I mean what is 'athletic'? Some think its a bigger, thicker build..some see it super muscular and super lean.
Its a misleading title. Change it would be my view.

'Average' ?
This again is just too general. I don't search on 'average' but i'm thinking i'm missing out on meeting some people because 'well over' 50% of people I meet I would classify as average to overweight who call themselves 'slim'
I have heard this complaint from other people here....men and women.
A few of the women ive met complain of 'fat guys' saying they are average weight.

A way of getting a much better, more accurate impression is to add a full length RECENT photo, add weight to the search criteria.

The people who just send head and breast shots (ladies if you think all men are looking at your breasts and your studio make up shots please wake up) should make an effort to get a few more shots in the gallery.
Its so challenging online to determine what someone really looks like...and looks are important...if they werent we wouldnt have search criteria or photos would we? ;)

The website could improve. Thats not to say it isnt good. Thats not what i am saying.
It needs to move with the times with the evolving sophistication and expectations of a customer base becoming much more savvy..and demanding regarding search and find.

Hair colour might be another area to add some more criteria to.
Theres 'bald' and 'other colours'
I'd add shaven and thinning with flecks of grey and black...but don't ask me why okay ;)

PSTriumph68 there are rude people here unfortunately. RSVP can only do so much on that...but again they could state more obviously etiquette expectations on the site.

Bingley1 this is becoming an issue. I recently stated RSVP needed to look at this (one of my posts that didnt make the grade in going public;) because there are people 'online' and waiting to see ANYONE who is online. They then message them and try to reel 'em in...often based in US or God only knows where.
I get a few a week.

RSVP needs to address this by more information on the home page and a feedback line specifically for this purpose.

Ive stated clearly that RSVP need to respect and protect customers, and heed customer feedback.
Its an area they must improve on....like ALL businesses must.

In the end we all want a great functional site that provides us with the best search criteria. We want a service that listens and responds effectively and respectfully.

Posted by: isidore at December 6, 2009 1:22 PM

Triumph, don't be disheartened, there are a lot of likeminded people out there but there will always be the rude ones. Please join in the blogs, they are lovely people that blog here and you'll also learn some ins and outs of online dating as well as making some new friends.

To make you laugh, I had a kiss this morning from a "gent" in Sydney West, no photo, no detail in the profile but his kiss asked me to email him and he'd shout the first coffee - how? I'm in Brisbane!! Would he send me a coffee club voucher. I declined as his profile had nothing in it - nothing, other than "am kind and a respected man.i love life and i love to have a woman. am looking a woman who knows what she is looking for." sounds a bit like a caveman. There was absolutely nothing in common with me!! I declined his kiss and was immediately blocked. I would guess that this is a hoax profile probably from someone with multi's - you'll pick them!

Good luck!

Posted by: aloveoflife at December 6, 2009 1:21 PM

I've not had a problem getting responses when I send a kiss and at the end of my profile I state that it is appreciated that contacts should be answered, it's called manners.
With regard to under age contacts with minimal profile information, ignore them as a good percentage are from Ghana or Malaysia and basically they are con artists (see Friday's 7:30 report on TV which featured their activities). There maybe genuine ones in there but I doubt it. There are two other popular dating sites that are swamped with them.
fortressheart

Posted by: fortressheart at December 5, 2009 11:01 PM

Hi triumph68,
Welcome to the RSVP community, as i was typing your response i got a kiss from a member, i question the validity of the member, so i didn't respond, just be careful it can be a jungle out there and we all learn fast. Have i got an answer to their motives -i don't .
Cheers :)

Posted by: tm135 at December 5, 2009 8:48 PM

I've just joined this online service and am getting dissapointed with responses i get. If i send a kiss and get no reply after they have viewed my profile , not a problem i think it would be good manners but not essential. But when i get a positive reply , buy the stamps , send an e-mail then get no reply i think its just plain rude.

Posted by: triumph68 at December 5, 2009 7:03 PM

How come I keep getting kisses from women way out of my preferred age group - usually 21 year olds with no photos and only the most basic information? And they obviously haven't viewed my profile (I know they might be keeping it hidden)... I think it'd be a good idea if people who haven't viewed your profile are automatically prevented from sending you a kiss... Are these women spammers, or something even more mercenary?!

Posted by: bingley1 at November 19, 2009 1:19 PM

aquamanda56 gets my vote! Depending on who you ask I am average or slightly overweight. go figure!

Posted by: sl1970 at November 16, 2009 9:47 PM

BLOG OPTION #1
"Thank you for your kiss but I can't send you a photo and/or password because I don't have one yet" blog.

Then again if RSVP had a kiss option that let me say this (or even better a free text option), we wouldn't need the new blog topic!

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BLOG OPTION #2
"Thank you for the kiss reply but if I had a photo and/or password to share I would have sent it at the same time as my kiss!" blog.

Posted by: sl1970 at November 16, 2009 9:45 PM

How about "The new Average is a Bit Overweight". Really, looking around there are so many people who think that their body type is average but they are carrying a few too many pounds/kilos. I don't mean to be harsh, but it is quite alarming that so many people are way bigger than they should be. I myself am on the border line of being "at risk" according to the 80 cm waist test for women and people keep telling me I'm not fat.
so...Diet and exercise, diet and exercise it is for me..........

Posted by: aquamanda56 at November 16, 2009 7:34 PM

I'd like a blog where we can help each other with our profiles. :)

Posted by: maybeperfect4u at November 9, 2009 8:13 PM

thanks Abbey.. always very good to know and always be alert... scammers are everywhere.

Posted by: maybeperfect4u at November 7, 2009 10:41 AM

just to make others aware of scammers.gorgeous guy davidand sparkey from canada,chatted for about 2weeks then he went on a business trip and was stranded at hotel in ghana which didnt accept credit cards.wanted me to wire him some money,i told him i smell a dirty dirty rat and that i wont be sending any money.he pleaded and begged me,i told him to go away and that i am going to report the matter,never heard from him again.so beware dnt get sucked in because they good looking and also say all the things some of us vunerable women want to hear.when i spoke to him on the phone i knew he wasnt canadian but probably a nigerian scammer

Posted by: abbey566 at November 7, 2009 2:22 AM

Hi all,

Well I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who has a problem with other people's reply rates. I have a 100% reply rate as it's the only well mannered way to behave. As someone said below, the worst thing is when you send a kiss and get a positive response but then when you spend the money and send the first email they don't bother to respond to it at all. It's happened a few times now and it's not as if I ever say anything in the email to justify it! Just plain rudeness I guess.

Posted by: aphelion68 at November 6, 2009 10:19 PM

Thanks Virgo....I know it's a long shot, but who knows, stranger things have happened....Mary

Posted by: marysb at November 6, 2009 10:17 PM

I'd like to know what's with all the "Thanks for the kiss, but I don't want to take things further right now" for every single kiss I send out!!! intriguing!!!

Posted by: maybeperfect4u at November 6, 2009 9:36 PM

Good luck Mary....

Hope you find him....:)

Virgo...:)

Posted by: virgowoman2 at November 6, 2009 8:25 PM

Hi, was wondering if anyone could help me? I was at NewBay Hotel in Brighton for Halloween night on 31/10/09. I met a lovely man there. We talked on & off for a while & he asked for my ph number. I haven't dated for a while (my husband passed away almost 2 years ago) & this was one of my 1st nights out. I asked him for his number & said that I would call him & give him my number & we would organise to meet up again. The place was very loud with music & people & neither of us had a pen, so I keyed his details straight into my mobile. I had to ask him to repeat his details a few times because of the noise. The next day I called the number & it said it was "disconnected". Either he has "purposely" given me the wrong number or I keyed it in incorrectly because of the noise. I don't understand why he would've given me the wrong number as he was the one that had asked for my number in the 1st place, but I guess you never know?. I don't have enough details about him to contact him, so thought I'd post something here, just in case anyone knows who I'm talking about or in case one of his friends sees this. He wasn't an RSVP member, he said he came with a few other friends that were RSVP members. He lives in Pascoe Vale, is renovating his sister's home, is not working at the moment, he's Italian, born in Italy, but came out to Australia when he was a child. I think he said he had 4 brothers & 1 sister. His Father passed away about 12 months ago & his Mother is still alive. His name is Flavi, I don't have a surname, am guessing he's in his mid-40's, never married & doesn't have kids. I know it's a long shot, but thought I'd give this a go...you never know. Thanks....Mary

Posted by: marysb at November 6, 2009 1:56 PM

Signing in to comment on the Moviegoers blog does not work (but it did just work here ?!?)

Posted by: kiteeye at November 4, 2009 1:46 PM

Yes I too have noticed the anomoly with regard to speed dating ie the older females being left out. Yes Lindajay I agree, basically it is sexist.

Posted by: diditforlove at October 17, 2009 1:12 PM

Looking through the singles events i noticed that without exception age groups were women younger than men.The speed dating groups really outraged me..1 read women 40-49, men 45-59 then in another women 45-55 men 49-65.
so tell me where do the women over 56 fit in? Is this ageist out moded old fashioned or what?
If you agree with me drop an email to this site and let them know your feelings.

Posted by: lindajay at September 20, 2009 11:34 PM

I've had a couple of guys from America just recently, actually one tonight, ask for a photo and guess what.....nothing...no reply..nada...zip....even though you can see they're still online. My profile says Australia not worldwide although I know he's out there somewhere!!

Posted by: aloveoflife at September 15, 2009 10:32 PM

Mr Bingly , there is a high chance they are scammers. The usuall form is they get you to make initial contact then they will try to lure you out onto another chat program.

once there if your computer is not setup right and if you dont have a good security system - a router a firewall a good sniffer program to monitor changes to your registry - they will proceed to invade your system and data mine you.
They can plant keyloggers which record your every keystroke - very bad if you use internet banking, paypal etc - they can also acess any personal details, files , information on your comp and set you up for identity theft. They may send you a email from your bank which will ask you to confirm details on a phishing site etc.

The internet is the wild west - be very carefull about your security and what you tell people.

Posted by: mingle48 at September 15, 2009 4:34 PM

bingley,

had the samething in the last couple of days. 1 x 25yr old south african and a 30yr old swede. Got a kiss from them, respond and got the same kiss again in response.

I would guess there profile didn't have a photo same as mine.

Who knows, or as willows suggests their after a rich older sugar dady.

Posted by: stoprighthere at September 15, 2009 4:32 PM

They might think you're Mr Bingly, rich, good looking, with open white shirt, riding breeches and long leather riding boots.

(Americans don't often consider anachronisms :P ) .

Posted by: willow29 at September 15, 2009 3:12 PM

Umm how come i keep getting kisses from women much younger than me - mostly from the USA and who havent even looked at my profile?
Should I be flattered or annoyed?

Posted by: bingley1 at September 15, 2009 2:46 PM

Bob,

I personally don't have a problem with a man going for an older/younger woman or a woman going for an older/younger man - kittens, cougars, rich men, toyboys - call them what you will but at the end of the day age is really a state of mind or attitude to life, pretty sad if someone is just not out there living their life and waiting for it to happen, makes for a very bitter person.

I know of many couples of different ages where they complement each other, they have found love and some of them after many years of marriage are still very much in love. Who am I to judge or pass comment on them when they are so happy?

Posted by: aloveoflife at September 8, 2009 5:00 PM

good to see a blog where others are finally voicing there opinions about those who abuse the trust others have in sites like this. I know this sounds probably crazy and it would need a little tweeking but why not use a marking system similar to ebay to keep people honest... i too don't have a great deal of time to muck around with liars, being a single mum with three littlies, the risks can be a bit larger than just a single persons when meeting someone on here.... still i've made somegreat friends here, and recommend the site to any of my single friends.....

Posted by: kwozzie5 at September 7, 2009 10:06 PM

yeah id also like 2 c more flexability with stamps, i dont like em expiring- this is why i havnt renewd em as ver r few women i find attractive so my stamps usually expire!
glass paper, some neg in ur comments, sorry if people arnt open with u, sometimes we c wat we want 2 c though, gl.
miss dark eyes n hair, when i read neg comments like urs i find it discouraging n lessens my impetus in going on dates, reality is men who dont care dont change their behaviour, sensitive men will retreat further!, u seem unhaoppy with being attractive n being desired, wish i experienced these things. have u considered that u may b doing something 2 encourage part of this trend?, women often r unawre of how men r, men often seek sex as 4 em its intimacy n bonding, an a pathway 2 deeper togetherness, however it can also b a release that is needed temporarily- it is up 2 women 2 decipher wat type it is n make ur decision, 2 block an avenue of pos bonding/rel with a man by denying sex may b limiting ur chances of a rel, men can qiuckly lose interest in a woman if she says no 2 sex as this is often rec as rejection, anyway hope ur luck changes n u rec wat u want, cheers,.
gg ive experienced this many times from women- its like thier afraid of being or dont know how 2 b assertive, i find it disalusioning, uncaring n discourages me at times from dating in v first place. why do most women behave like this???????. unable 2 answer ur qs as i wood b theorising. intmail.

Posted by: intmail at September 7, 2009 9:07 PM

Hey Diditforlove,

Hate to throw a spanner in the works, but guys dont "date" cougars...you might as well just write in your profile "I want sex with younger guys"..because thats all it will be.

If thats what you want, then no problems, but if you are looking for love....good luck!!

Bob

Posted by: deflated at September 7, 2009 8:25 PM

RSVP - Would love a
'Date a Cougar' Community.

Posted by: diditforlove at September 7, 2009 6:42 PM

Gogirl59, I'm a guy, and I've experienced this a lot from women. After they respond to kisses with the "can't wait for the email" response, I've purchased those expensive stamps and sent an email, only to log on the next day and see that the profile is no longer active.
It annoys me, not only because I'm wasting money, but because people are wasting my time. I can't comment on the portion of males doing this, but I know that at least 50% of the stamps I've purchased to send an email have gone to women who delete their profile the next day. What was the point in responding to my kiss if you weren't gonna take it seriously?
Can we say to men and women out there, if you're not serious, please stop wasting our time and money.

Posted by: decentgivenachance at September 7, 2009 6:11 PM

I'm fed up with those men who email a couple of times and then magically disappear. Are you one of those guys? If you are then perhaps some insight into this behaviour would be nice.

Posted by: gogirl59 at September 7, 2009 4:56 PM

An interesting 'blog' would be advice on the things to watch out for in a profile, such as, if they say they have a "GSOH" then they usually don't, if they say "you must like animals" then they probably have at least three dogs and six cats, if they say "you must like children" then they more than likely have at least three uncontrollable teenagers, if they say "I am well travelled" it usually means they did a trip to ayers rock once (benidorm would be the uk equivalent), hope this info. is of use.

Posted by: lysander1958 at August 28, 2009 9:58 AM

Geez FG,

Size matters in regard to what.....tattoos...or the blog below it...!!

Virgo...:)

Posted by: virgowoman2 at July 28, 2009 12:56 AM

Size matters

Posted by: feelgood76 at July 25, 2009 8:59 PM

Just wondering how a blog on Tattoos would go....there are a lot of guys, and I would assume women on here with them (I have four)...and some that I have seen are real talking points...feedback anyone...!!

Perhaps people can find a connection through body art..!

Virgo...:)

Posted by: virgowoman2 at July 15, 2009 11:24 AM

I am sick off going out with men on first dates and at the end of the night they ask for sex! No! Needless to say they text for a short period of time after the first date but I never see them again. Hmm

Posted by: arian1971 at July 14, 2009 9:52 PM

I am sick off going out with men on first dates and at the end of the night they ask for sex! No! Needless to say they text for a short period of time after the first date but I never see them again. Hmm

Posted by: arian1971 at July 14, 2009 9:51 PM

I would like to suggest a blog about how members would like to purchase stamps. I don't want to pay $60 to buy six stamps when I only want to contact one member, but I would be happy to pay $20 for one stamp because that's all I want. I don't mind paying an inflated price for extra processing for one stamp. In fact, I don't mind if I end up over time paying $60 for three stamps in three seperate transactions instead of getting six, because I will be able to purchase them as I choose. To go with an analogy, paying $20 to contact a member equates to shouting a round of drinks, but $60 to contact one member is like having to shout dinner before you've actually met them. It makes the stakes to high.

Posted by: datinglife at July 13, 2009 7:27 PM

Hi all. Back in April BRG suggested (and I thought it a great idea) that we have short options for holidays on RSVP. The current shoices are all O/S eg Samoa, India etc. How about some "shorts" as we call them in SA: maybe a long weekend in Melb. or Sydney (or wherever) with fine dining (BRG's words) and a visit to art galleries etc. I would suggest activities be optional, and allow all RSVP'ers to just chill out and get to know each other. Accom. could be arranged by individuals and meeting up in Restaurants etc could be programmed - with plenty of time off. The latter option would also be cheaper for those of us not cashed up.

Posted by: diditforlove at July 11, 2009 2:23 PM

Are you too picky

for Over 50 community

I think RSVP needs a more reactive means of members using forums/blogs to raise topics themselves and just get on with talking about them. This is an obvious example. You sent out the original mail about this topic but there isn't a blog/forum for it, and by the time it arrives the impetus has gone!

Posted by: freoishome at June 5, 2009 9:48 AM

"If you send me an email, I'll shout you the first coffee", or words to that effect. I'd like to see a reply for this that says, "If you don't send me a kiss, I won't reject it."

Dolphino - I received several kisses from a man (before I blocked him) who stated he was 52. He re-appeared with a different profile which stated he was now 45. He looked 55. I've been tempted to lower my own age I must admit - the reason being to meet younger men because most men my own age look 50, and not silver fox 50, but weather-beaten overweight 50. But, my age is on my number plates and men always want to take a look at the BRG beast, so I'd be caught out straight away.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at May 30, 2009 3:48 PM

I have 100% reply rate - it is polite to reply whether it be positive or not so positive. I joined RSVP in thinking that maybe I might meet people, chat, make friends etc. but all to no avail. I live in country NSW but hey is it wrong to want to just chat to men, form friendships, and if it is to go to the next stage so be it.

Friends are forever......

Help...I would appreciate some hints or straight out advice. Thanks

Posted by: freespiritp at May 23, 2009 1:55 PM

Posted by: basswild at May 20, 2009 9:44 PM

That's the spirit!! The one's that are serious about their search in life will stand out - good on you, well said! I have only been on here a matter of weeks and I have a 100% rate of reply, it's just simply good manners to reply.

Posted by: aloveoflife at May 20, 2009 11:05 PM

re manners;

well no one deserves to be alone.

and it seems it is not one sided.

fella's get your act together

Posted by: basswild at May 20, 2009 9:44 PM

basswild, i'd say atleast 1/4 of emails i have sent on this site have not been responded to - and realistically anyone who does that is not worth getting to know. In saying that, i think it is a fault with this website that it only requires one person to use a stamp to send emails - if both parties were to give up a stamp it would atlease reduce some of time-wasting to which you refer....

Posted by: aquarian100 at May 20, 2009 8:33 PM

Basswild, I'm with you brother! You do the right thing and be a gentleman and reply to all kiss and emails that you get from the ladies because it's common sense and manners to do so. Yet, in return you're lucky to get a response to 40% of kisses or emails sent.
I've often tried to stand out from the rest of the guys and send an email first, instead of sending a kiss. Still you rarely get a reply. How hard is it to click a "yes" or "no"?????
Then I realise why this lady might be on here to start with, and that's with manners like that no wonder they are single and deserve to be!
I'm a rather laid back person and rarely anything ticks me off, but when someone can't click a simple button after you spend money (and good money at that) to contact them and they can't even have the decency to reply then I get a little ticked off.

Posted by: decentandgenuine at May 20, 2009 8:03 PM

Posted by: basswild at May 20, 2009 6:59 PM

Hate to tell you this basswild, but it happens to women as well as men. Unfortunately there will always be some who spoil it for others. Keep your chin up and good luck!

Posted by: aloveoflife at May 20, 2009 8:01 PM

i have found that the majority of women on this site are quite rude as they seem to have forgotten their manners.
whenever i recieve a kiss from them i reply to let them know if im am interested or not.
it appears to be ok for the women to just ignore the men and think it is ok.
and for those that do reply with " i cant wait for your email" and fail to reply to said email i hope you are happy that you have just wasted some guys money, time and hopes.

Posted by: basswild at May 20, 2009 6:59 PM

OMG Scammers have migrated to here Gees whats next. Violetsareblue67 bet that mad you angry. Hope he didnt get your phone nuber to track your details. Hope they cant track you by phone details. Dont mean to scare you. Thank goodness he didnt scam any money from you. As for putting your eggs in one basket, well I used to view it that way. How ever I think its best to explore your options so you get a better picture of whom may suite you. After all its just a coffe or dinner dosen't have to be more straight off the bat. Just move at your own pace and what suites you and what you are comfortable with.

Posted by: ru4real1 at May 14, 2009 9:48 PM

RSVP, maybe this could be a new topic?
Why do some people lie about their age?

I have experienced situations where the age specified in the profile was not correct.
I eventually found out from them that they were 5 or 6 years older than what they stated in their profile. Very deceitful, but me being a person to attempt on how some people think, I would just like to know the reasoning behind it, because in the long run they really cheat themselves.

Posted by: dolphino at May 13, 2009 11:07 PM

I had one guy contact me who was this, that and the other extremely high achiever etc., etc., except, big except he was ripped off by illegal lawyers and now had to start again. The starting again included travel all around the world, of course, culminating in his visit with President Obama to change the whole education system. What's the bet he may have become stuck in some country without his passport wallet etc., and needed money. Mind you, I think you would have to be a bit of a wally to fall for it.

Posted by: iaminperth at May 13, 2009 7:18 PM

notafigjam at May 12, 2009 9:39 PM

Hey Bob,

Yeah he was trying to scam money. After chatting for some weeks..and also many ph calls while he was away on business...then the ole "sticky situation" in a foreign land and "i need money and you are the only one i could turn to". In fact his spiel turned out to be almost word for word to what i found after googling it on the net.

Apparently it is more common than you think, so buyer beware. I understand the guys usually get the russian version :)

Posted by: violetsareblue67 at May 13, 2009 2:25 PM

Hi Violetsareblue67,

Ru4real (OK bad pun)...Nigerian scammers on RSVP...what are they hoping to scam?

Bob

Posted by: notafigjam at May 12, 2009 9:39 PM

ru4real1 at May 12, 2009 9:06 PM

Its a good question actually..sort of linked to the blog topic.. Is it cheating if I date more than one person at a time?

I am an eggs in one basket girl..i like to concentrate on one man at a time..i recently got distracted off for 4 weeks by a guy that turned out to be a Nigerian SCAMMER..grrrr..feel a bit ripped off now (time wise NOT money wise thank goodness)...should i have not focused on just the one???

All the best :)

Posted by: violetsareblue67 at May 12, 2009 9:20 PM

Have an Idea for a blog Intitled: Should you put all your Eggs In One Basket.
How do you manage all your contacts. If your interested in one person who has sent you a Kiss. You have meet them and seemed to go well. They ask you if you would like to meet up again The two of you have stayed in contact by phone and sms messages, but contact is less or more than you would like. Should you put all your eggs in one basket . Or accept other invites to meet for coffee ect and explore your options. What would you do. How do you manage your contacts here.

Posted by: ru4real1 at May 12, 2009 9:06 PM

Hi there. I find the new look search page OK ,but why has the hight of the person been removed.
I find it annoying having to open a profile, just to find the person are shorter than myself and it is like 7 out off 10.
That also is the case with cupid matches,they are not a match when standing 165cm tall.I love high heals.
What does other tall girls think ???

Posted by: exdane at May 12, 2009 12:26 AM

By the way, guys, I do feel very rude if I dont respond or respond early to postings addressed to me, so once again, please excuse me.

I guess I have passed my hardest time when I needed to reply on blogging as my sanctuary any more. There was no where to go at that time where I could find people who were on the same boat as mine. So, I really thank RSVP blog and all those bloggers to whom I have had the luck to talk and with whom exchanged advices.

Have a good coming week, everyone!

Posted by: ahappyending at May 10, 2009 10:43 PM

Posted by: hai2you at May 9, 2009 9:33 PM
I dont know if we have had such a topic, but you can check out the old archives. I am sure there wasnt one from last September, but dont know before that. There is a topic called What is the Meaning of Love in last Novembers archives. You may check out that one and see if it can be of any help.

Posted by: ahappyending at May 10, 2009 10:39 PM

Please could the site managers look into having broarder search engine options. eg:
Sort by: Eye Colour, Hair Colour, Age, Nationality, Religious Beliefs etc.

This would make it alot easier to find the people that are most suited.

Just having a key word search and then having pages of people to sort through manually is not the best option.

I would also like the option of ranking the importance of each catergory. For example, most important to least important. If this was made available we would find like minded people instantly.

If we could number the list of original questions on my preferences in our order of preference for ideal partner in our personal order of priorities this would help too, to find the like minded matches.

I would also like the community members search to have the options above so that we are not given such a mixed page of choices.

My other sugestion would be to have an age preference search box where we are given a selection of four choices eg. 28 to 40 years and 38 to 50 years, is not helpful. There is a big difference in maturity and life experiences that age does bring in the School of Life.

Being in my ealier 40's Im given to options between 28 years and 50 years. This option is too broard. Having a box in the communities to select range or having a sort by age option would be appreciated

I would like there to be a larger variety of personality surveys, where the results could appear in our profiles.

Surveys on our values in life, work preferences, spiritual values, emotional assests, would help us all to difine our profiles further.

Posted by: lovedby777 at May 9, 2009 10:10 PM

Hi folks

Has there been a post about "What is true happiness?". If so sorry. If not, then it seems to me a topic well worth talking about. I have no doubt it would cause some controversy. I'd be interested to read the various perceptions of what "happiness" means for people. Certainly relevant to why we are on here.

You see, I think we are species in crisis. A crisis of purpose and knowledge. So much so, I don't think people really know what true happiness is in an "I" society where everything is based on success now. Money now. Love now. Relationship now. Children now. For better or worse, our society works in an instantaneous environment. Even making friendships / relationships is at our fingertips. An eBay where we are the product. How did it come to this?

Anyway, I think it would be good discussion point if not already posted.

Cheers :)

Posted by: hai2you at May 9, 2009 9:33 PM

i agree with the previous post and would love to see "Date a Cougar" as older women are far better communicators, confidants and far better lovers!!!!

Posted by: baseball1 at May 8, 2009 12:51 PM

How about a 'Date a Cougar' Blog for the ladies after younger men?

Posted by: diditforlove at May 6, 2009 2:21 PM

Ermmm.. I came to this particular blog to see some other views of new topic suggestions, only to find myself reading about other members "personal" bits lol. This is where I turn a nice shade of red!!!

I must say this reading the blogs is very very entertaining and quite informative (chuckles) as well as also being extremely knowledgeable and interesting. Now I forget what topic I was going to suggest! (laughs) !

Posted by: sweetmixture at May 5, 2009 10:04 AM

Would anyone think topics such as the followings can help you:

Why havent you been able to find the love of your life/your desire since you joined RSVP?

What made it so difficult? Why is it taking you so long to find the love of your life since you joined RSVP?

Are you really looking?

What went wrong even if you were lucky enough to find someone on RSVP whom and you had developed feelings to each other after some dates?

Surely if you are really looking, and the expectation is not too high, and know what you are looking, then there must be other reasons, right?

I am just posting. So please excuse me if I dont engage in any conversations.

Posted by: ahappyending at April 30, 2009 10:06 PM

Hi Perth,

Probably because I just dont really care one way or the other....like you say, someone nice is someone nice, not a lifetime commitment. If a woman want to meet a guy just for a bit of comany and fun with no expectations...I'm that guy...but only if I see that we would enjoy each otherws company. I usually say "no" to contacts only because I see things in their profiles that I am unable to provide.

BRG,

It is not impossible for like minded people here to norganise their own trip...has been done before

Bob

Posted by: notafigjam at April 26, 2009 10:56 PM

Hey Fig,

Reading your profile, it seems you have a great deal to offer the right woman.

I don't accept that you don't have the ability to take a recent photo, though....I believe it's a cop-out.

I had really bad acne as a teen and have the scars to prove it......on my face, neck, chest and back. I also seem to have been provided with all the left-over teeth and have a small penis.

It's been proven time and time again that the issues with these things exists only only my own head. The women I've had in my life have been beautiful....inside and out.

I used to believe that no woman would be interested in me and when interest was shown I would turn my back on it. How wrong I was.

Your baldness is part of you, part of your peronality and contributes to your character....hec, men even shave their heads to look like you!

I have been totally honest here and placed myself in a position to be attacked....why?
because I detest any person believing that they, as themselves, are not good enough.

The woman you desire will accept you exactly as you are.....yourself; the best person you can be. You really don't want those that don't.

So, please justify me totally embarrassing myself here (which I have done for you) and get your pic up.

Cheers,

Boyd.

Posted by: lafreek at April 26, 2009 10:28 PM

BRG@4.48pm:
Like you I'd love to able to enjoy a short mid Winter jaunt to Melbourne;and even tho I'm over the 45+ the single supplement on various tours puts me off.

Jusy maybe if we complain loud enough (yeah right!) it may happen

Posted by: kurli at April 26, 2009 8:17 PM

Regarding ali1974's 14 April comment being cash poor on a date. I recently graduated from uni and up until Monday, 20 April, I was jobless, so that I could complete my placement and degree on a full time basis. This meant that I couldn't afford to 'shout' a meal or splurge as I would have liked to. I did go on a few dates with a guy, and I did inform him prior to meeting about my cashless situation. He seemed OK with it and one of the dates we had was a long walk around a lake, so it didn't cost us anything. I think if you have the courtesy to let people know, then it's being honest. I am glad that I have a wonderful job now, so when I have future dates, I will be able to contribute and pay on occasion. I'm very much a traditional kind of gal, so I believe in the gentleman paying first. The other challenge is that being a single parent and a student at the time, I didn't have anything to spare, but there's no way I'd expect charity or a hand out on a date, that's just not me. I'm not into people's pockets, I'm totally for the person - period.

Posted by: humbledwarrior at April 26, 2009 7:56 PM

Fig, Why don't you just write "I don't have a current photo" but can send an older one if you wish. Not everyone has their photos taken all the time and getting a professional one is quite expensive. Really though if you can't just have a cuppa with someone who sounds nice, it's a bit sad isn't it.

Posted by: iaminperth at April 26, 2009 5:41 PM

BRG - Loved your intinerary for a proposed w'end in Melbourne. Maybe if - due to a shorter holiday - the price would go down proportionately - then some of us who are not so cashed up - would be included.

Posted by: diditforlove at April 26, 2009 5:19 PM

Agree with diditforlove that the longer options should also stay - I'm particularly interested in the walking tour of Italy, except I'm not 45+ and the price of the single supplement puts me off. Something I think a lot of Queenslanders would be interested in for example, and just because I'm from Brisbane and I love the cold, is a mid-Winter jaunt to Melbourne; Friday night, 5-star hotel, fine dining, cocktails, then on Saturday, a picnic at Hanging Rock, wine bar in the evening, another restaurant, and on Sunday, coffee followed by art galleries or shopping, whatever..... Australia's so huge that there are thousands of options. If I went on a little trip like that and had a fabulous time and met great people, I'd be more likely to take other longer RSVP holidays.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at April 26, 2009 4:48 PM

I agree with BRG re some shorter holiday options, but feel the longer options should stay for those who want them. I guess there would be ppl around(and I'm one of them) who would be more interested in enjoying the company than the activities such as skiing / sightseeing.

Posted by: diditforlove at April 26, 2009 3:37 PM

I'd like to see RSVP offer shorter singles' holidays for those of us who want to try one without committing too much time or money; a long weekend for example, of two nights and three days. It would have to be somewhere within a short flying distance - Sydney, Hobart, Lord Howe Island etc... I have several thousand put aside for 12 weeks in Europe, but I don't fancy taking out a sizeable chunk of of my funds for an RSVP trip of one or two weeks, but I'd consider spending up to a couple of thousand for a shorter journey.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at April 26, 2009 1:09 PM

Hi Istj,

Problem is I am bald...greyer doesn't come into it!! I put on my profile that I dont have a photo; and promptly get kisses asking to see one....sadly, from women that look like they could be good value.

Personally though, I am only really looking for friendships and see if something might develop with one of those women....is that cheating?

Posted by: notafigjam at April 18, 2009 12:07 AM

notafifjam...just send your old ones...the one in the suede jacket...think it was suede...and say you are just a bit greyer now...like TW did:)) I liked that picture:))

Posted by: istj54 at April 17, 2009 1:12 PM

Hi All,

More about the Kiss Reply options; I have received a couple that have asked to see my photo, even though it says I haven't posted one yet. As I dont have one, and dont like not to reply in some way, I have had to send knockbacks. Wouldn't it be nice if someone asks that question that you could reply "Sorry, but I dont have one, but thanks for asking"

Posted by: notafigjam at April 16, 2009 9:01 PM

I'm not into gardening, and being a domestic goddess is not a hobby lol. Why don't all us old chicky babes talk about all our aches, pains and illnesses lmao. I have done several years of volunteer work with the aged and that is ALL they talk about. Seriously ... I'm not 55 yet but not far from it and I'm not ready to lay down and die yet. If the older men want young rose hancocks using them for their money ... then let them have it. I'd rather be with someone that loves me for me and not my money. I would never go to speed dating anyway. C'mon you ladies ... get your heels on and get out and been seen. You don't have to be like everyone else ... we're unique compared to young women. We have more experience, loved and been loved more, we are lower maintenance, free from sexual inhibitions and are free once again to live our lives to the max. Times have changed and long gone are the blue rinse grannies that existed when we were young. Go the modern Grannies!!!!

Posted by: greeneyednikita at April 16, 2009 2:33 PM

Hi All,

Fact is, if a guy cant afford to take you out, he shouldn't ask....thats pretty disrespectful to the woman; and shows no self-respect from the guy.

Posted by: notafigjam at April 16, 2009 12:02 AM

Thanks for the feedback. I'd never heard of it until I experienced it recently and was surprised. As with your case BRG, I knew what he did for a crust but in addition to that he told me he had a close relationship with his brother who he'd seen the day before for drinks...something didn't quite gel.
May we all not experience that (again).
=)

Posted by: ali1974 at April 15, 2009 8:55 PM

brg i have to work with a lot of blokes like that. get paid thursday and are broke by monday then borrow money ; bludge smokes and tick up smoko with the mobile vans and earn very good money ; like you i dont know what they do with it total losers if you ask me chad

Posted by: chad1958 at April 15, 2009 5:35 PM

I once had a cash poor date up; he did mention it first up, saying that he had no money becuase it was the day before pay day and he was broke. I bought a glass of wine for each of us, and made my wine last as long as possible. I was driving and could only have one drink for a start, but there was no way I was buying him another one. I found it hard to believe that he had no money whatsoever - not even a credit card. I knew what he did for a living, so had a pretty good idea of how much he made, so when he said he had no money I started to think about what he might have done with it; gambling problems; cocaine; medical problems; prostitutes; who knows? Whatever the reason, it was bad form. Didn't see him again.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at April 15, 2009 1:15 PM

If you are cash poor then you should plan the date accordingly.....something inexpensive like a coffee and a walk in the park...along the beach etc.
Anyone planning a date that is beyond their budget is either very selfish or a user or both and best avoided
Kenny

Posted by: benjaminbutton at April 14, 2009 10:35 PM

This is something that recently happened to me on a date, so now I'm interested what others think.
Is it ok to organise/plan a date and then turn up cash poor? i.e. One of you plans the day and activites that you'll do and that same person turns up with not enough money to cover themselves...
If it's not ok, at what point do you (the other party) draw the line, and can you cancel the rest of the date/day?

Personally, I don't think it's ok to turn up cash-poor to a date. I think you should either cancel or re-schedule the date, or change the activities. But it's not acceptable to turn up and expect the other person to pay for you.

Posted by: ali1974 at April 14, 2009 9:23 PM

Possible Blog topic ? Plastic surgery OrHair Implants ? Have you had "work"? done or would you consider it if it meant you would be more able to attract people in your desired age range? If youve had surgery or hair implants, did you get the desired results, both appearance-wise and in attracting suitable partners?

Posted by: chemistrylesson at April 14, 2009 8:55 PM

Jack2001 - snow sports in Australia. I haven't frequented the Australian Alps but would like to do so; last time I went skiing was in Canada last April. I didn't deliberately set out to ski - just happened to be near a ski field, so I made the most of it. I can never find anyone to go skiing with, but when I go by myself, I'm too shy to initiate conversation with other skiers, so to get to know people through a blog and be part of a network seems like a good idea.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at April 14, 2009 3:45 PM

Could we just have a BLOG for poetry in any form and not one just for love poems? I don't see a blog where one can just post poetry covering any topic.. Thank you.... sweetmixture

Posted by: sweetmixture at April 14, 2009 1:52 PM

Western Australian Bike Ride
It would be A cool Idea to do A singles bike ride , is any one Interested?

Posted by: niceguytoyou at April 12, 2009 11:41 PM

Ummm that would be November 08. Duh!

Posted by: jenniferhi at April 11, 2009 12:56 PM

Louiseb - Try November 09 archive - "To quench the fire of love with words"

This blog was started and there is quite a bit of poetry in there. Enjoy!

Jen

Posted by: jenniferhi at April 10, 2009 8:01 PM

SNOW SPORTS IN AUSTRALIA

The Australian snow season is almost upon us. It would be interesting talking to people who have a passion for snow skiing and boarding and who frequent the Australian Alps.

Posted by: jack2001 at April 10, 2009 2:00 PM

What is so fascinating about cheating on your so called loved one/ soul mate? I'd really like to know what other people think.

Posted by: lyza85 at April 10, 2009 1:49 PM

Hi All,

Not sure about it being a blog topic, but a proper reply to a question asked other than the "not interested" replies would be nice. If someone has the ability to ask you a specific question; seem to be more options on RSVIP, then it would be nice to be able to have a more interactive response that is more in line with the question asked.

I have knocked back a couple of Kisses, not because I think the women are unattractive, but because I see one or two requirements that I think would be something I cannot give to them. Saying the "not interested" response, no matter how sugar-coated it may seem, can make some people feel completely repulsive...(yes, I have read some recent blogs).

Posted by: notafigjam at April 9, 2009 8:15 PM

I would like to suggest less blog topics at the one time. There are so many at the moment that it is impossible to blog on all and therefore the continuity is compromised. I think four open at any given time would be far better and so much easier to follow the thread therefore attracting more people to join in.

Posted by: iaminperth at April 8, 2009 12:00 AM

Wow, I have just read back my postings that I did in this topic when I just joined RSVP. At that time, I thought I would be here for only a few months upmost. But I am still here. :0)

I am so glad for those who have found their happiness here.

For those who have given me spiritual support and laugh in the blog, I would like to say Thank You So Much again. Hopefully what I contributed here in the blog could also put a little smile on your face while at the same time be a little bit assistance to you, too.

Good luck, everyone!

Posted by: ahappyending at April 7, 2009 8:45 PM

Can RSVP please reinstate the 'History' box attached to each profile? It was a great help.

Posted by: diditforlove at April 1, 2009 6:21 PM

What with your update of personal info , why have you deleted Star Signs? I do tend to rely on this particular answer as I and no doubt others know which signs are more compatible and which signs are a total loss., I find it a great help. Hoping you may reinstate same. Otherwise the new format is great.

Posted by: sealeaves at March 19, 2009 3:59 PM

How about a car enthusiasts' community? I'm a fan of luxury, sports, and vintage cars. The question of what someone drives has its obvious answer when you're a member of a car club, whether it's the MG CC, BMW CC, JDCQ, or AROCA etc...but chatting online to someone, it seems a little interrogative to just ask upfront.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at March 9, 2009 5:28 PM

As a writer I would also love to see a writers’ community. I’m working on an essay exploring the dichotomy of the good guy/bad guy relationship in popular cinema – the more one delves into the psychology of the attributes that make a character bad or good, the less strict the binary classification becomes. If I was having trouble with a point of argument, I’d love to be able to run an idea past other RSVP members for assistance or critique. I think however, that reading other RSVP members’ love poems would be a sickening, yet at times hilarious experience.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at March 1, 2009 8:17 PM

How about a writer's Community? I enjoy poetry. Perhaps we could share love poems and poems about life etc Written by famous writers and ourselves.

Posted by: louisebe at February 27, 2009 10:57 AM

I would like to start a commumity whereby people freely express their experiences of RSVP like they would if they were to have joined say the community "food & wine". There is no doubt that EVERYBODY would have a story to tell, whether it be good or bad but at least such a community would allow you to speak freely about your experience of RSVP and more importantly in what aspects it can be improved. If someone where to tell me what I honestly thought of RSVP, i would strongly suggest that they try a different site for several reasons. Thus a community whereby we can compare stories and share experiences and opinions of improvement of this site, in my opinion, serves its own community!

Posted by: femininescent at February 19, 2009 11:43 PM

I am looking for good camping spots within striking distance of Brisbane. I have found some but would like to hear your suggestions and ratings.

I have a slide-on camper and would like picturesque spots with basic to full facilities. Would also like to know about 'free' camping spots you would recommend.

The one I have heard is great is at Kilcoy and even has showers available for a minimal cost overnight. It is within walking distance of town where there are some very good pubs that serve tasty meals. The bakery is to die for. Had a good old fashioned cream bun with real cream - I have not tasted the like since I was a kid!

Posted by: pearlsnjeans at February 18, 2009 9:16 PM

I have 2 suggestions.
1. I'd like to see a better level of communication between members and the support team. Having to wait 12-24 hrs for a reply can be a big problem on occasions.
2. When replying to kisses, the options are too restricted. It can be impossible to say what you really want without seeming to be rude. e.g. I rec'd a kiss saying they couldn't see my photo, which is readily visible as far as I know. But I couldn't reply with anything meaningful unless I used an email stamp. The ability to add a short sentence would be all it would take.
rgds, Norman

Posted by: alittlesubstance at February 10, 2009 5:44 PM

I agree....please bring back the Blog box to the home page......

Posted by: artizanne at February 2, 2009 9:37 PM

RSVP,
PLEASE reinstate the Blog comment examples on the Home Pages. The site is not the same without them,
Rgds
Marg

Posted by: diditforlove at February 1, 2009 4:22 PM

In Adelaide we've had at least 6 days well over 40 Degrees. Last night the minimum temp. was 33 degrees. It's improving tonight - going down to 30 degrees. Feel like the wicked witch from the W of O - "i'm melting, I'm melting. "

Posted by: diditforlove at January 29, 2009 9:16 PM

Unrealistic Expectations?
Had a trawl through overseas members and amazed to find an American who wanted somebody to provide him with a Prospective Marriage Visa (Subclass 300).Therefore he needs a wife with a compatability of 80% to 100% without any phobias, addictions or other problems and wants to sign a pre-nup in case it doesn't work out. If you are a Chinese sign Monkey or Horse, don't bother applying and if you are considering offering him a home where there are mosquitos or it's a bit humid, then that is not acceptable. He didn't mention whether you had to walk on water to US to carry him back on you shoulders, but wants this relationship to last beyond death into eternity. Is anyone prepared to spend a stamp to inform him of his arrogance?

Posted by: cassowary3 at January 28, 2009 3:04 PM

RSVP should allow one blog entry per stamp purchased.

It would be a quick way of ridding these blogs of bitter and twisted women who do nothing for the image of the site and have never bought a stamp in their life.

Posted by: stockroute99 at January 28, 2009 9:03 AM

hey Stockroute so why are you here and if you don't like the blogs just ignore them -
RSVP why have you made the blogs so hard to find now?

Posted by: lovetolaugh57 at January 20, 2009 6:18 PM

Stockroute...are you here to meet someone, as you don't seem to have a visible profile...if you are dating surely you would have a wealth of wisdom to impart to the rest of us...without becoming so cranky.

People from all walks of life, ages, gender, locations etc come here to share their stories...some stay, some go...but the blogs have benefited many along the way and I feel they should be made more accessible, updated more often and the topics more relationship/life friendly...I mean, why is the topic still about giving gifts in the dating life topic...must be more substantial topics to talk about and then maybe they would not meander into areas we are not supposed to tread...JMOFWIW:)))

Posted by: istj54 at January 20, 2009 4:02 PM

I posted this a few days ago - but it fell into the "blog blackhole" - surprised?

Just wanted to say I agree with Willow29, Outbackdrifter and Istj54 regarding the regular turnover of blogs - hourly would be good.

Also the topics need to be more interesting - they have turned DULL as dishwater. A little more controversy and polarisation is always good.

Also - less moderation - or is it just blog IT blackhole? Anyway - as Willow said - we're grown ups and we can handle it.

As for you Stockroute99 - I get a huge amount on lots of levels from the blogs - sorry if you don't (nuthin' persNal) : ) xo

Posted by: glitteringblue at January 20, 2009 12:56 PM

Posted by: stockroute99 at January 19, 2009 9:09 PM - Isn't it funny that those that make such statements, haven't the balls to have a visible profile?

Posted by: aquamanda56 at January 20, 2009 12:36 PM

Posted by: stockroute99 at January 19, 2009 9:09 PM

Of course this is only your humble apinion, as online marketing l gather you are talking from the vast experience on this subject ?

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 20, 2009 8:10 AM

Rather than a more regular �update� of blogs, as someone suggested, you should close them in their entirety.

This is a dating site, not a blogging site.

There are people on here who only blog and only nominally (if at all) interested in meeting anyone.

And to be quite honest, these blogs are the worst possible marketing exercise that anyone could have dreamed up.

What is the point of having so called �success� stories on one part of the site which is only detracted from the nonsense that goes on in the blogs.

And, note I have not got personal- I have not mentioned bitter old geriatric women nor nursing home candidates male or female. No. I have not mentioned them at all. But take my word for it- they are not a good advertisement for anything but colostomy bags and walking frames. What do Generation Z really think of all this nonsense? Surely they must laugh.

Posted by: stockroute99 at January 19, 2009 9:09 PM

Im with you, ISTJ - they have lost their spontaneity. We are adults here, we can cope with real time blogging.

Posted by: willow29 at January 16, 2009 8:00 PM

I agree with istj54, this turning over a few times a day if your lucky is just not funny anymore, please can we at least go back to the way it was last year were they turned over once an hour or better

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 16, 2009 7:43 PM

How about a blog about getting the blogs into "real" time again...not that many people blog nowadays and they don't flow like they used to in real time...sometimes it is half a day before they are updated...RSVP should trust bloggers to blog appropriately and just delete later...we are older adults and can handle inappropriate material....Please:))

Posted by: istj54 at January 16, 2009 5:43 PM

How do you decide on your body type? Is this based on women's body shape/size i.e is an 8 = athletic 10 = slim and 12 = average? or what you think of your overall body image? It seems to me that generally men and women have a different idea about this topic. Can anyone else help with this?

Posted by: magnolia26 at January 16, 2009 3:58 PM

Just wanting to hear from people who have had success in finding friends of the same sex through RSVP. I don't have any female friends and the older I get, the more I realise I'd actually like some. There must be other women out there like me who have never found other women who they click with.

Posted by: britishracinggreen at January 12, 2009 6:45 PM

Not a blog topic, but I've contacted support before about this and not had a reply.

Could we have RSS subscription to the blogs, please? I'd love to keep up to date through my aggregator (Google Reader). If this is already possible, I can't find the necessary information. In that case, please make it more obvious.

:-D

Posted by: lafileuse at January 12, 2009 12:40 PM

Sincere wishes for a wonderful & prosperous 2009 to the staff at RSVP. Not only in your work life but also in your personal lives.

Now the New Year has settled down & it's back to work please consider starting a new topic on "Adventure Travel".

January being the start of the year people are in the nurturing phase with their travel plans for the year. A topic on Adventure Travel would wet the spot for many & may tempt others to consider the idea.

On a daily basis your organisation is advising our nation of the situation with the economy. People will be considering & choosing to travel closer to home.

The topic of "Adventure Travel in Australia" will generate interest & people will be able to share tips & ideas of how to experience the dream & excitement without going over budget.

I look forward to the topic of "Adventure Travel" opened again. As said in certain circles "Go on, run it up the flag pole & let's see who salutes".

Take good care & gentle blessings. SF :)

Posted by: softfeather at January 11, 2009 10:34 AM

I know this is difficult, but could RSVP find an easier way to find a particular community. Sometimes it's even hard to know what a particular topic is listed under. How about a really simple alphabetically-ordered one please?

Posted by: diditforlove at January 1, 2009 4:32 PM

What about allowing people in the "Communities" to start threads on a topic relevant to the community. People could just respond more directly to someone along a thread.

This would be much better that a big dump blog with lots of personal conversations going on irrelevant to the topics. I notice lots of other web sites have this - it gives lots more people more chance to join in on something of interest, and keeps things relevant to a topic.

As for the ageism and dishonesty - totally agree with previous comments - it's a major problem in here that prevent people matching up compatibly! The way I've learnt to deal with it is ignore those who put their age down looking for younger chicks (if they are my age - their loss, the young ones aren't interested in old fuglys, and they miss their chance with quality women like me ;)
It cuts out a lot of junk male and makes it easier to short list!

Posted by: riversong01 at December 31, 2008 9:46 AM

I agree with outbackdrifter, maybe an open tips for travellers blog on adventure travellers. I would have found it useful before my 8 week trip I have just returned from and even to add to it now. For example does everyone know that overseas luggage allowance is now 20kg, except with Air New Zealand, 46kgs, allows for some good planning and shopping if you book right.

Posted by: lifebegins47 at December 31, 2008 1:20 AM

I am always fasinated by the names people choose for themselves on rsvp.

I think an interesting blog would be about names and why people have choosen their names.

I often think they say a great deal about the person, certainly more than we know.

Colleen

Posted by: fifilafume at December 30, 2008 11:11 PM

Adventure Travellers Blogs is laying dead still, a grand total of 15 posts between two subjects.......No good

Please Please can we have a new blog subject & a subject that has some relevance to Adventure Travellers

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 30, 2008 10:38 PM

How about a blog on money/finances? Topics: Shares, Surviving as a single, Budgeting, Xmas spending, Budgeting as a 'new' couple, Property inverstment etc.

Posted by: diditforlove at December 16, 2008 8:08 PM

Merry Christmas to all the staff at RSVP. :))))

What a wonderful service your company provides... I sincerely wish you all a safe a happy Christmas.

Gentle Blessings SF X X X

Posted by: softfeather at December 15, 2008 8:25 PM

No suggestions for a blog topic.
And I notice no gardening community yet; RSVP must consider that gardeners are "boring" I suppose.
The fact that, despite its image, many garden lovers are young, interesting and extremely creative!
Popped into any nurseries lately? Lots of much younger and better-looking people than me (Ah, but are they single?)

Just a suggestion re the blogs. I think RSVP should keep all open blog topics in the main list. For example, The Rebound is still listed, yet it is actually now closed, whereas Depression in the Outback, both movie blogs and Practical or Pleasure in the over 50s blogs are still open.
I think people rarely post in these blogs, because they don't realise they are still open as they are not listed in the main listing.
Just a recent thought. Of course, it won't stop people who converse on blogs regularly, tending to mainly post in the one blog topic to keep the conversations flowing (so many different blogs make things slightly confusing), but just might spread things out a bit for those who like to only post occasionally.
Also having only one blog topic open in each category may help also.

Just some ideas, others may not agree, of course.

Oh, a blog topic! What about "shop 'til you drop", not really my sort of topic, but going by other recent blogs, and the time of the year (plus the must spend to save the economy focus at the moment) shopping is something that is a huge part of the lives of many people!

Posted by: amberlight58 at December 12, 2008 8:31 AM

Posted by: simonyet at December 3, 2008 4:05 PM - When buying gifts for friends and family I usually buy something that I'd like myself and several times have purchased "things for the kitchen". One of my best friends had the worst knives for cutting and slicing and it used to drive me insane if I ended up helping in her kitchen or watching her struggle with blunt implements. So I bought her a decent knife one year which went down really well and caused a few laughs. I also like to get silly little things from Howards Storage World - the small inexpensive items around the tills as stocking fillers. One that came to mind was a small wooden block with a blade that you stabbed a cheese with whilst you sliced it with your other hand so you didn't have to handle the fromage too much :-).. good for the blue cheeses. Another gift that comes to mind was a tagine... don't use on halogen tops though..they don't like it!!

Posted by: smartsearcher at December 4, 2008 8:32 PM

Come on RSVP, The Abventure traveller & we love Australia blogs need a new Blog subject, the way its looking with the dollar & traveling overseas, its time for a new subject closer to home :))))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 3, 2008 6:08 PM

What about a blog on creative Christmas gift ideas. I am sure the usual uninteresting Myer voucher can be replaced by something a little more inventive....there may be some creative people out there...then again we might get the usual "Once I gave this......" and then possible endless tripe about themselves. I am sure this may come in handy for some slightly stuck to get out fo the sock, tie and cd monotony.

Posted by: simonyet at December 3, 2008 4:05 PM

I'm hoping that RSVP will reinstate the 'Movie Blog' where we submit our thoughts and discuss movies at length (like the original 'Movie' blog. )

Posted by: diditforlove at November 28, 2008 10:10 PM

so what is the go with Inactive profiles? This guy sends me an email and then goes inactive - I am guessing he has blocked me from looking at his profile because a friend of mine can still view it. Seeing I havent made any type of contact with him, he obviously didnt like me looking at his profile. Weird. What is the point of having a profile if you dont want people to look at it.... he talks about getting back what you give out in his profile - kind of ironic

Posted by: keeper72 at November 28, 2008 9:39 PM

Hi DrNo1 - I know what you mean - I wanted Willow but ended up with Willow29. On the blogs everyone calls me Willow anyway so Im happy! Now that we've read this blog entry, Im sure that some of us will call you DrNo :) in reply to your posts.

Posted by: willow29 at November 27, 2008 10:08 AM

Could I just say how funny it is registering on this site. I have read a lot of women's profiles and a lot say "No (this)" and "No (that)" so maybe they might be looking for Mr No. But James Bond, I believe, was chasing a Dr. No In To Russia With Love, so I thought, why not register as DrNo but the computer said it was taken. Even Doctor No was taken. But the computer said - why not DoctorNo1970 or DoctorNo1. But these suggestions are getting away from the original concept of Dr. No and might even be confused with a misrepresentation that I could be claiming to be a Doctor and to be No 1, which I am not. All this started from a character in a James Bond movie, but the computer leads one up the garden path. So is there any bright suggestion how does one get away from claiming to be No 1 in something one is definitely NOT claiming to be No 1 at, and get back to the original concept of a quasi James Bond impressionist, or does one abandon the concept altogether and start all over again. Maybe I have answered my own question. But really, is the rsvp computer trained or programmed to add a year after everyone's suggested name, and is that why so many people have a year after their moniker? What has been other people's experiences?

Posted by: doctorno1 at November 27, 2008 9:37 AM

Posted by: simonyet at November 25, 2008 1:00 PM
" It is all too easy to get you to sniff my...where dogs do."

simon.. is it the personal insult that turns you on? (..aside, of course, from quality consumer goods.. mm.. you're a deep one, aren't you!)

Your profile says "if I was a woman I'd date me" or something close to that..
.. well .. call me simplistic ... but, can't you just PRETEND? You know... & date yourself? I think it would save any woman in your future from death by snobbism/snootism/superciliousness.

.. & yourself from hair product & wardrobe rivalry.. ?

Posted by: decoratress at November 25, 2008 7:04 PM

It's not so much hound dogs methinks but perhaps sick puppies!

Jen

Posted by: jenniferhi at November 25, 2008 6:26 PM

Posted by: simonyet at November 25, 2008 1:00 PM

" It is all too easy to get you to sniff my...where dogs do."

what............................. an other dogs but

Posted by: outbackdrifter at November 25, 2008 4:30 PM

amandainsurfers, I like your idea for a blog topic...and it may show some unexpected tradings...

It seems to me that the vast majority of folks in their 40s and 50s are men who have lost everything, often because of divorce, and women who have lots of assets and sound careers seemingly because of needing to have the security of achieving.

Far from it being the less than attractive man with lots who is scoring the very attractive woman with nothing, I see more of the less than attractive man with nothing scoring/chasing the very attractive woman with lots....not a great deal of balance if the trading is looks for money/assets...but if the trading is attachment for loneliness, the compromises are more understandable...even if women are still expected to be physically very attractive and men less so, despite women often being the ones who have more financially..

I am generalising simply because I have come across this mix so very often.

Comments anyone?

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at November 25, 2008 1:04 PM

Posted by: jenniferhi at November 25, 2008 12:29 PM ....my hound dog theory is correct. It is all too easy to get you to sniff my...where dogs do.

Posted by: simonyet at November 25, 2008 1:00 PM

I would like to see one called 'Are you asking for more than what you have to give?'

I believe strongly in equality in relationships, however sometimes trade also works (such as the typical financially stable less attractive man with the more attractive woman with little or no money of her own).

I think a lot of people should be questioning whether they have to offer what they are asking for, or what are they trading that he or she hasnt got.

It all has to be a balance in some way, either equality or trade...so I think it would be an interesting, yet controversial topic.

Posted by: amandainsurfers at November 25, 2008 12:34 PM

It appears it's a bit addictive for you at the moment Simon!

Guess when we attract that special someone we mostly all seem to be looking for, then the blogs will take a back seat.

Until then the internet is a great way to interact with people. People in the same boat so to speak. The sharing and caring amongst people is in my mind a healthy thing. It only becomes unhealthy when some stuff becomes personal and hurtful.

Challenging thoughts are good. We all want to grow and learn but nasty direct hits at people - no way. But then maybe that's your game. You do that so we challenge you. Are you growing and learning too? I certainly hope so.

Jen

Posted by: jenniferhi at November 25, 2008 12:29 PM

I would like to see a thread on "Practice what you preach"....how many people on these blogs write information, theories, prophesise about all the does dont and how it should be, going around psychoanalysing people and their unknown lives....regiurigitating information and negating theories in one thread that was proclaimed in another. How many people actually practice what they are preaching on here?

Also, a thread on "Is Blogging Addictive"....that may frighten too many people....possibly

Posted by: simonyet at November 25, 2008 12:07 PM

How bout we do one on do's and donts of dateing or even funny dateing storys i know since joining rsvp i have picked up a few and would like to give some fellas a few pointers on what not to do... E.g dont come into my house and turn my music off n put the football on ... on the first date -.-

Posted by: xxbj at November 25, 2008 11:22 AM

Here is one more idea for a blog, how about one on photography, photography would have to be one of the top three interests people have on their profiles.
It would be interesting to find out what type of photography people into.
There is so many portrait, landscape, wild life, still life and so many more

Posted by: outbackdrifter at November 25, 2008 10:12 AM

I am not sure if many people realise that you can not receive a message if your profile is hidden.
I have received many kisses with photo passwords from ladies who then hide their profiles so I am unable to look up their profiles or respond,
Maybe this situation could be made more clear to members.

Posted by: sportsman99 at November 23, 2008 10:30 PM

It's been very quiet on We love Australia and. Adventure.Traveller blogs, I think it's time for a new subject.

How about one on safari style trips or adventures in Australia, seeing that Australia is one of the last places in the world which you can still travel to and see the very Remote destinations and areas.

The cost of fuel is down and the Australian dollar is down, holidaying in your own backyard has now become a very good option for four-wheel-drive safari based holidays.

Posted by: outbackdrifter at November 23, 2008 9:08 PM

We love Australia and adventure travellers have been too quiet maybe it's time for different blog subject in either one

about a blog on safari style trips or adventure, Australia is one of the last places on Earth that we can still travel to very remote areas and see things most people don't.

Blog could look at covering setting up, planning, destinations & dream trips.

Posted by: outbackdrifter at November 23, 2008 10:44 AM

Love your Blogs BobBlokey and Ahappysending.
Posted by: diditforlove at November 20, 2008 8:52 PM

Thanks. But I dont want to take the credit of BobBlokey. BobBlokey is not me.

But Bob50s is me (was used for only a few days), and will not be used again.
Cheers
Ahappyending (not ahappysending)

Posted by: ahappyending at November 20, 2008 11:56 PM

Why doen't RSVP do what 'another' site does and allow people to classify themselves into the 3 categories of 'Dating/friendship' ,Relationship and Intimate?
That, I believe would clarify (to some extent) the expectations of the sender and receiver of messages etc. At the moment it's all a bit convoluted, which isn't helped by the medium of IT. It would also assist us all to work out what we want.
Love your Blogs BobBlokey and Ahappysending.

Posted by: diditforlove at November 20, 2008 8:52 PM

Would anyone like a topic on poems?

Posted by: ahappyending at November 14, 2008 12:05 AM

thelynathdairy November 13, 2008 6:42 PM

Sounds like you have something to say.
Jurisdictional clarity can only be a good thing no matter which way your moral compass finds true north?
Why not pop a comment it in Everybody Loves a Love Song, it is far too on topic for my liking?

Posted by: laughsandtalks at November 13, 2008 9:26 PM

I would like a blog about the new laws being passed regarding de facto relationships and how the definition will affect people.
eg will they change their dating or lifestyle habits because of these laws.Without knowing the full details it appears that they could have far reaching effect...some of which does not appear to have been thought through.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at November 13, 2008 6:42 PM

Hi

I want to know something from your Wine (and Food) Lovers.

Along with the no C&W and Heavy Metal in the Music Interests, one of the things I find most amusing is the amount of women who say they like red wine, or more to the point favour red wine.

Men may say the same thing, but I'm not looking.

I'm ambivalent when it comes to wine, I love it and have tasted thousands of different ones, but I have no preference for red or white, sparkling or still.

So given that I'd like to know what makes people like red that much more than white, as there are glorious examples of both out there.

Cheers

Posted by: jackson72 at November 9, 2008 10:05 PM

Hello RSVP

I wish to suggest a topic for the over Fabulous 50’s category.

Please share your ideas & thoughts regarding introducing your new friend, partner, lover, the new person in you life to the family. What are the joys, or the clunkers, that have happened to you? What are your apprehensions or fears? How have you settled all so the experience can be the best for you & your new partner & for your loved ones? Does the age of the children, from either party, make a different to your outlook or decisions? Or do you take it in your stride placing your relationship as the first priority to focus on?

One would think or hope by the age of 50 we have overcome & gained more understanding of the hardships & how to cope when times become a challenge.

I look forward to this topic being posted & debated in a manner which is a reflection of the life journey most have travelled in their search for a partner to share & witness their life…….

Gentle blessings
softfeather

Posted by: softfeather at November 7, 2008 10:59 PM

I have noticed on all dating sites in male profiles, they all know how to cook and they seem to be quite passionate about it. They actually offer this household activity as a bonus to pick up females, I personally feel this is a good thing, and a humble gesture, even though it might be a 100 years too late.....lol...but hey, good on them, it differently is not classed as a womans job No more...... "Halleluiah"!
I, like most women, have not had much of an interest in cooking, its always just been a chore, a need to survive....
I believe it would be so much more fun to have cooking as a shared activity in the household!
Please share your comment with us?

Posted by: lovelyheart0007 at November 5, 2008 6:13 PM

Posted by: sonny51 at November 3, 2008 12:03 PM

People have hidden profiles for all sorts of reason, both genuine and otherwise.This is a topic that has been discussed over and over on the blogs.
But yes, it is nice to be able to click on a name and see just who you are interacting with.

Posted by: jenjen57 at November 3, 2008 12:22 PM

Many a time on the blogs you click on a name and there is no link to a profile, can this be changed?? How about, no visible profile, no blogging allowed ? Why the need to hide?

Posted by: sonny51 at November 3, 2008 12:03 PM

Posted by: bob50s at November 2, 2008 9:37 PM
Not: the exchanges of objective criticising/attacking
Should read: the exchanges of less objective criticising/attacking
Not: sense of human
Should read: sense of humor
Sorry for the errors.

Posted by: bob50s at November 3, 2008 11:25 AM

Many times I want to ask how RSVP stuff deal with so many �nutters� here when have to sort out our postings constantly. Many of us, including myself, have gone �nut� once a while. But the blog is like a jungle. To survive emotionally, we must have no feelings, such as sympathy, anger and fear.

With sympathy, we tend to judge; With sympathy, we tend to discriminate in favour of those who are friends, who are being criticised or being attacked, following of which will be most likely the exchanges of objective criticising/attacking, or worse, holding grudges/resenting; and the worst result is that some cannot let go but will find any ways to pay it back, including making up untrue stories.

With anger, we likely overreact with rude postings (even out of defence);

With fear, we dare not to speak up, or suspect others, or complicate issues that started very minor;

Many profiles list one quality of being GSOH, but cases of lacking sense of human are abundant in the blog.

Another way of surviving is to ignore bloggers who are unfriendly or deliberately misbehave, but it will be hardly successful when bloggers can use many different profile names.

Another issue is trust. Good intention is misunderstood due to doubt and disbelief that there are indeed good people who have a nature of helping others, because helping others is one source of happiness.

A community of human beings has rules for everyone to follow and obey.

A juggle is a place where only the strongest and the most aggressive can survive, and only the most cunning can get their ways. Those weaker ones are being pushed aside or have to shut up.

The most difficult is for those who love peace and hate to fight. But walking in a juggle, what do you know you would accidently stumble over? So what can we do?

I believe there are more opinions in addition to mine. Why don�t all of you air your views and all put in an effort to make this blog a more pleasant and friendly community, where we give and seek advices and share life/love/marriage experience only?!

Posted by: bob50s at November 2, 2008 9:37 PM

Here is an idea for a topic:

place it in dating life. How do we deal with jealous children (whether it be the Tweens, Teens and/or the almost adult) when mum/dad is dating again. That is a hurdle in life that I am sure many people have encountered. How was it dealt with? what was the end result?

Posted by: sonny51 at November 2, 2008 3:42 PM

Have we ever had a blog about the following? Is it necessary to have one?
1. Do manners matter in blogging? What is the measuring standard?
2. Should bloggers only concentrate on serious relationship discussion?
3. Are jokes acceptable in blogging?
4. Can a blogger’s sense of humor be easily misunderstood?
5. Would constantly reading of negative comments from bloggers affect you? In what way?
6. If yes, how to avoid?
7. etc.etc.

Posted by: ahappyending at October 30, 2008 12:37 AM

I'm just wondering how you can go about warning women about guy/s who are on here that are obviously not here to use this as a dating service.

Posted by: notalone79 at October 28, 2008 4:51 PM

Hi, just wondering where common courtesy has gone?, when you meet someone for the first time and you dont want to take things further, what is hard about sending even just a quick email saying thanks but no thanks..no-one enjoys rejection, but isnt it better to be straight up?, and let that person move on...

Posted by: jazz88 at October 23, 2008 12:06 PM

hi, I was just wondering if I could ask about other's experience on RSVP... I know that there's no such a thing as average in these situations but... what proportion of people's first dates lead to second dates? It seems very hard to get to know someone or feel a spark with someone that you have met only once. I don't know. any thoughts?

Posted by: catherine99 at October 22, 2008 1:34 PM

How about creating a fairly good venue for a free meeting for all rsvp members.

Surely the money that is made off this site is enough to book the venue and make a good friend and partner with a local venue.

Just in case RSVP does not know the world has gone broke and money should be donated back to the well being of the people on this site with the funds made for contacting each other here?

Perth before you jump on this: Life is not a charity and neither is this site.

However the money that is spent on the lonely hearts is more than enough for RSVP to spend some money on it's own investment which are members of this site.

Does RSVP have any openings for employment as so much more can be done without preying on single people and thier tightly squeezed wallets.

Maybe RSVP could take this idea to the share holders that make money from this site?

My view is that it is worth investing in the idea and would prevent the players from winning a race that should not be run if this idea was taken up.

It may also prevent further litgation in relation to the set ups for lonely people to fall so easily in for sites such as this.

My thoughts only and would seriously like for RSVP to post thier own reply on this site and on this page as it does lack it's own credibility when it comes to ideas that are not recognised on the page that it is posted.

Rather long term profiles answer all the questions and answers to new members thus causing a dependancy on others experience rather than having the correct information from the site owners.

How about it RSVP? Is it worth investing in?

I wonder how long I will have to wait to see any reply.

Take care all and say hi from time to time.

Posted by: chachacha42 at October 19, 2008 8:08 AM

A fantastic topic - :

Finnicky Daters - Can You Be To Picky?

Just because I see so many men advertising that they want a ten foot tall athletic Victoria's Secret model (alright, I MIGHT be exaggerating a bit there) but still expect the (potential) woman to be okay with the fact they're a brain dead neanderthal.

Posted by: crazybydesign at October 17, 2008 9:21 PM

Absolutely - would be!

Posted by: aqueousdb66 at October 17, 2008 11:06 PM

Posted by: crazybydesign at October 17, 2008 9:21 PM

Too funny and sadly true, not of course in all cases. I agree also with riversong!

And thanks to the powers that be for answering my request for another lyric thread.

Posted by: marylulu at October 17, 2008 9:58 PM

A fantastic topic - :

Finnicky Daters - Can You Be To Picky?

Just because I see so many men advertising that they want a ten foot tall athletic Victoria's Secret model (alright, I MIGHT be exaggerating a bit there) but still expect the (potential) woman to be okay with the fact they're a brain dead neanderthal.

Posted by: crazybydesign at October 17, 2008 9:21 PM

I think an interesting topic would be to explore the phenomena - ..."are people looking for that which they are least able to give themselves"?

Posted by: riversong01 at October 12, 2008 10:24 PM

thelynthdairy - take it as it comes - sometimes friends, outings, sometimes family, sometimes date, sometimes night in doing whatever - no rules. What's so different about saturday compared to other nights? I think it's a teenage myth - even lots of couples don't go out religiously. No need to feel unnusaul to spend saturday in.

Posted by: riversong01 at October 12, 2008 10:12 PM

Why don't we have a blog called 'Jewish Singles?'

Posted by: margie18 at October 12, 2008 12:34 PM

I would like a blog about what singles do and where they go on Saturday night (the traditional date night) when they don't have a date.
What do you get up to out there?
Can it be more fun than a date?
Is it a pleasure to stay home alone occasionally and relax, or do you always plan ahead to do something.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 11, 2008 5:53 PM

2008 10:00 PM

Thank you so much for the tip. Doing that from now on!

And I do wish ....a new blog topic good be formed in BLOG TOPICS ...under Music Lovers ..so far we have one about Australian Idol and one about Breakup songs ...

It would be lovely to see something more positive like music to love by or something.
'd be interested to hear other people's thoughts on good music for romance.

Posted by: marylulu at October 11, 2008 8:20 AM

Posted by: marylulu at October 4, 2008 8:57 AM

Hi, marylulu, save this link in your "Favorites", then you can go straight to the blog. This is how I get there.

http://blogs.rsvp.com.au/

If unclear, let me know. Thank you!

Posted by: ahappyending at October 9, 2008 10:00 PM

Oh, just to put anyone�s curiosity to rest, if there�d be any, this is me :0)

Height: Can never be on the catwalk, and am always a little dot among the crowds.
My face: heavy classes with a black frame and thick lenses.

__Boring and unattractive! I know.

Posted by: ahappyending at October 9, 2008 3:20 PM

And ok, Perth, I will have a look at the gardening later. I don't have a life at the moment. I am doing a very "boring thing" only "boring women" do (this is a joke only, as I also have a sense of human. So, Peace, please). I don't see myself can be any interesting, spending so much time studying.

Posted by: ahappyending at October 9, 2008 2:50 PM

Posted by: iaminperth at October 9, 2008 10:50 AM

Tks, Perth. Yes, I think you are right. I've just had a look. The same typical form with a new coating, if you know what I mean.
Yes, I know what you meant. The positive thinking will give you the power to be strong. I am trying. And thank you to give me that strength. I will give you mine, too, if needed. And I have noticed everyone is “detouring� that dangerous “MINE�.

Posted by: ahappyending at October 9, 2008 1:41 PM

Happyending, Don;t get down, have some fun. Take a look at Aqueous profile and check out Melvin, he is so beautiful and useful too by the sound of it. I think the same person who was chucking the wobbly at you is now doing the same with me in bucketloads but getting all the facts confused. It's just a power thing and means nothing. Have a look on the Grown your own Food Blog, some interesting tips there. Melvin could come and have a look too if he was interested.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 9, 2008 10:50 AM

Melvin the Legend, so he's not a spoiled wimp after all. I have two cats and neither show any inclination to chase rats or anything else for that matter. The big black and white mog settles on his pink blanket every night and sleeps a good 12 hours and my little bombay heat seeking missile wedges herself up to me in bed. Bird is still happily doing his thing outside the window right next to the cat door so I'm happy to just let them all be. But Melvin is a star !!!! I love you Melvin.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 9, 2008 10:48 AM

Hi, for those nice members who sent me an encouragement kiss:

Thank you. No, in the contrary, your encouragement is just what I need, especially at the moment. I can’t find a proper kiss to send back, so I am saying here:

Thank you very much for the kiss and the hug. The same to you from me. May good luck be with you always and happiness be just right in the corner of you all.

P.S: I do feel quite rude and unfair that I can see your photos but I am hiding mine. I hope one day I can do the same. But at the moment, I feel it is my protection between the real world and the cyberspace. No, in any circumstances I will never harm anyone even I am not showing my photos. And I only have one profile.

Posted by: ahappyending at October 9, 2008 10:28 AM

Posted by: iaminperth at October 8, 2008 1:24 PM Melvin caught a rat in the garden the other night and left it on the back door mat for us...eeww. I'd lend him to you, but it's a bit far to travel and he would miss me ;)

I have a lemon tree but it's not very well...I think it's been a bit dry here for it.... though the neighbours tree seems to do well.

Posted by: aquamanda56 at October 8, 2008 11:39 PM

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 8, 2008 9:34 PM
:0)

Posted by: ahappyending at October 8, 2008 10:09 PM

Posted by: iaminperth at October 8, 2008 9:31 PM
Thank you, Perth. Is it that so? Really a life lesson for me.

I’ve been reading some of the postings of yours (not all of them, because of time limit), and have found you do have courage and stand where you stand. I normally just back down to make peace. I guess this is the character of a Libra. So, I’d say here that “I admire your courage as a lady”.

Thanks again and also hope good luck be with you always and happiness is with you very soon.

Posted by: ahappyending at October 8, 2008 10:08 PM

waternympho47 at October 8, 2008 6:39 PM

Experts reckon 7 hrs is the mean time together before a new couple have sex. The range is usually 4 to 10 hours.
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at October 8, 2008 10:06 PM

Thanks ahappyending, and luck is almost certainly what it will be about.

Someone said to me in a phone conversation the other night that love is very rare but not to give up hope. I totally agree. Finding love is rare in life and I have found it twice, had it run out once (divorce) and lost it the second time (widowed), and now I am pushing lady luck even further and searching for it a third time in my life. I don't usually waste energy on pointless tasks so I guess I must have relentless faith after all ;)

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 8, 2008 9:34 PM

No you are not, you have just had a doo doo with a nasty person who hides themselves because they are not who they are. Don't take it personally, don't take it seriously, it's their only power they have in their life and they are going to use it. It's not you personally it's just you in the firing line at that moment.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 8, 2008 9:31 PM

espritlibrefemme, I forgot to say:
I really hope you have good luck and find your happiness very soon!

Posted by: ahappyending at October 8, 2008 9:16 PM

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 8, 2008 8:09 PM

Thank you! I really thank God and my guardian angel that they have protected and blessed me to have been only with kind-hearted people, and real human beings (who may be selfish but at least sane), till now. And in a way, I do need to thank this person for letting me know there can be harmful persons in the real world. I really thank God that I only met such nasty creature in the cyberspace but not in the real world!

Posted by: ahappyending at October 8, 2008 8:50 PM

ahappyending, take care, try to let things go lovely...honestly, blogging is not to be taken that seriously and if it is hurting you that much then walk away for a while...the anonymity of blogging can make people go into spaces I am sure they would cringe at if they stopped and reflected for just a moment...but blogging doesn't do that, it is sort of no holds barred territory...so just walk away if you are feeling attacked...look after yourself on these venues.

There actually are some great people on here, worth the effort. Don't let sour people drive you away or hurt you so much...it isn't worth it.

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 8, 2008 8:09 PM

What a na�ve idiot I have found myself to be!

Posted by: ahappyending at October 8, 2008 7:47 PM

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 8, 2008 3:50 PM

I totally agree with this suggestion, and also at least two sets of Work Reference with real work organizations are required, too, to prove one’s sanity. Not only for the RSVP dating but for RSVP blogging.

What a horrible experience I've been through these few days. And I don't know what would be coming to me in the following days.

In my whole life, I’ve never encountered someone (with different profile names) so inhumane and malicious, attacking and defaming me with made-up stories. And what I have done was only that I have accidently bumped into this person’s revenge zone. And this is happening in reality not in a fiction.

What kind of a mind can think up all those nasty stories? And how can I keep up defending myself against such a dirty and insane mind, which is insensitive to human’s kindness?

Posted by: ahappyending at October 8, 2008 7:46 PM

Got a feeling we have covered this in other topics .. but what is considered appropriate "Expectations"? What is the feeling about how soon sex becomes a part of the new contact ?
( rustysteed at October 8, 2008 8:09
As far as the whole 'tactile' thing plenty of ladies use this as well as 'must be a good kisser'..like wtf?..maybe these girls actually enjoy sex unlike a lot of others that seem to be totally uninterested and expect men to be the same.
Here's a 'secret'.Most men want sex sooner rather than later in a relationship, it's just that some are a lot smoother in their approach but scratch the surface and they will be the same beast under that veneer of
charm ;p.
A lot of ladies seem to be looking for a creature that really isn't a man.Good luck with that unless you want to start batting for the same team.)
rustysteed.. here's a 'secret' for you .. Women do actually enjoy sex too .. or should I say .. we prefer to make love. If I'm disinterested in sex it means I'm disinterested in the man as a person. Speaking for myself .. I can say that my appetite is a healthy one .. so long as I love and and feel loved. So "sooner rather than later" does not work for me as I don't usually fall in love at first date.
I realise some women fall into the 'sex at first date' category steed and if you try long enough I'm sure you will find whatever type of woman you seek!

Posted by: waternymph47 at October 8, 2008 6:39 PM

Citrus trees and 'soot' & 'mealy bugs' are a real pain.
Connect extension hose to washing maching outlet, hose the tree on a regular basis with the Dirty Washing Water (pests hate what's in the washing powder) then give the tree a good drink with cleaner water.
Citrus also need 'uric acid' --- hence forth the 'peeing' on them regularly.
Pruning also works well.
Burn the diseased pieces please.
The barter system is one of the best going!

Cheers, Sue.

Posted by: sindee50 at October 8, 2008 4:36 PM

Excess lemons and grapefruit??
Do as I did! Join a local" freecycle" yahoo group and advertise your excess fruit by the bagfull.I got rid of 8 buckets of lemons.People were so grateful to get them for free,and I received a couple of jars of lemon butter back.

Posted by: kurli at October 8, 2008 4:22 PM

Thanks for the comments on my profile pics willow. And Troy, I reckon what has been shown here is that women and men interpret the term 'tactile' differently, eh?

BLOG TOPIC???? I wish there was a lie detector on rsvp. Wouldn't it be great if people had to provide some form of proof before they could list things? Imagine how rsvp would look if birth certificates or passports had to be shown so that all the ages were accurate, and photos had to be submitted with the daily paper at the foot of the image so that date validation could happen? And people had to provide proof of job, such as what banks require, before they could make these claims about being 'executives" and "professionals". etc? And people had to provide validated degree documents? Imagine how much safer it would be on this site? And divorced people had to provide divorce certification? And widowed people provide death certification?

Ok, so I am rambling, but the level of lies on here blows me away. I am TOTALLY honest about what I put up on my profile and am constantly in awe of how so many guys (and presumably women) lie all over the place. How different it would all look.....

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 8, 2008 3:50 PM

Sorry Perth, Wrong choice of disease name, I should have explained myself more clearly. Apparently, the honeydew residue the Aphids produce can encourage Sooty Mould (a dusty dark mould) to spread all over the plant. My tree was really badly affected and no amount of water would remove it easily. Hence the heavy prune which seemed to do the trick. I am now much more vigilant with the little blighters, seems to be a common problem in Melbourne. :)

Posted by: hipshaker at October 8, 2008 3:24 PM

what do you do to your trees to get such a big crop ?

Posted by: outbackdrifter at October 8, 2008 11:55 AM

In my case I just happen to live in a citrus-friendly area which gets heaps of rain and has deep red soil. I'm about half an hour west of Byron Bay, and the soil/ climate here is suitable for lots of fruit and veges. Everything likes it here, including all the pests and diseases, and I have lots of problems with aphids, sooty mould, fruit fly, gall wasp and goodness knows what else. I ignore these as I don't like using pesticides, and still get a huge crop every year. My grapefruit are even more of a problem! If you think getting rid of lemons is difficult, you ought to try grapefruit!!! Seems so many people don't like them. I used to cut them in half and feed them to the neighbour's dairy cows, but they're gone now, and this year most of the grapefruit did rot on the ground.

I've stopped feeding them all now, seeing as how getting rid of them has become the problem, though for the first 5 years or so gave them citrus food and dynamic lifter every year in early spring, and mulched them in dry times, which is rare here.

Posted by: carolinafr at October 8, 2008 1:25 PM

I didn't know aphids cause black soot. My tree had that but I washed it off with a hose and then sprayed white oil all over it. That seemed to do it. I also have planted lavender in various spots around the garden as it attracts bees and they can happily cross pollinate, or whatever it is that bees do. I have some very large trees very close to my fence from the park and lately I have seen a couple of rats cross there. Does anyone know how to combat rats when you own a dog and two cats. I'm terrified of baits but not sure how to catch this little wopper. Suppose a big rat trap with a bait but then my cat would think that was wonderful.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 8, 2008 1:24 PM

I have an ancient lemon tree Drifter. Don't know what variety of fruit it is, just your everyday garden variety lemon I guess. It always gives me masses of produce also.

The only attention I give it is homemade compost every year and I get the guys to pee under it whenever they can.

Lemons - mmmm a great reason to have fish. yummy!

Jen

Posted by: jenniferhi at October 8, 2008 1:17 PM

Hi Outback. It seems in WA they just grow. I have a meyer lemon tree and it either has fruit or buds. There never seems to be a time when it does nothing. Everyone has lemons here so giving them away most of the time is not an option. I just do the fertilizer bit when you are supposed to and water it. I don't 'look after it' as such but it just keeps on giving lovely fruit.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 8, 2008 1:03 PM

Hi Outback, I too have an awesome Meyer lemon tree that always gives me a bumper crop.
A while back it got black soot disease (due to the *%$$#@@ aphids) so I pruned it within an inch of its life. It took a few months but it bloomed and fruited like crazy after that. I occasionally give it a feed of citrus food and spray with a natural garlic spray now and then. The lemons are soooooo sweet!

Posted by: hipshaker at October 8, 2008 1:00 PM

I really like this discussion about lemon trees and citrus, it looks like this gardening blog is up and going. :)

Tell me the ones among you who have too many lemons, what do you do to your trees to get such a big crop ?

Posted by: outbackdrifter at October 8, 2008 11:55 AM

Esprit - your new pics are lovely! I like your puppies too :)

Posted by: willow29 at October 8, 2008 11:27 AM

Oh femme, just looked at your profile and pics......nice puppies. I wonder why one is always larger than the other? haha

Troy

Posted by: troyohboy at October 8, 2008 11:06 AM

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 8, 2008 10:23 AM

Yep, I agree. My issue is with those who suggest that if a man describes himself as tactile that means he is a sleaze. Thats bizarre.

Posted by: egernia at October 8, 2008 10:38 AM

Bloody oath....love it......like to spoon too hehe.

Troy

Posted by: troyohboy at October 8, 2008 11:02 AM

I equate tactile with being touchy-feely. What woman doesn't enjoy holding hands, linking arms or being held in an embrace? Even a brush of the cheek or a pinch on the bottom. Men love it too. My fella loves it when I pinch his bum :-)

Posted by: egernia at October 8, 2008 10:38 AM

iaminperth

I just sqeezed a whole bag of lemons and filled ice cube trays with the juice. A couple of cubes in a glass or water in summer goes down well - if you like that tart taste.
I planted a 'lemonade' tree last year and cant wait 'til I get some fruit.

Posted by: egernia at October 8, 2008 10:30 AM

Having worked with mathematicians, computing scientists, and doctors, yes, I agree about the spelling.
Perthy....yep, my posts are often full of typos, mainly because I two-finger type so quickly and am doing postings in a hurry between other jobs and don't check. I reckon bloggers will forgive me being quirky as they have known me long enough by now!
Troy...I love sex....I also think of it as private....don't want it put forward in an introduction thanks, though...prefer someone who has the mental and emotional ability to take it for granted that the sex will probably be amazing when we get there but, meanwhile, enjoying the tantalising and innuendos is more fun...but then I am European and it is a Western European tendency to take great pride in the seduction, the flirtation...and going straight to the point of declaring "I am up for sex, love it" is just considered too crude to have as a lover, too lacking in finesse and intellectual competencies.....the sexiest organ lies between the ears...and the game of seduction is too precious to be played coarsely.
Maybe these are just cultural differences...

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 8, 2008 10:23 AM

Yes, of course it works both ways. There are some very seductive posts written by women and also photographs of them in less than classy poses, for want of a better word. I think it's good that people do this and write what they want. I mean if you think it's silly or demeaning then don't make or accept contact. What would be the point of going any further if the few lines the person has written repulses you.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 8, 2008 10:11 AM

Posted by: rustysteed at October 8, 2008 8:09 AM

Here here old mate. These individuals are looking for something that doesn't exist. How disgusting that men enjoy sex!! You know 'girls' normal women enjoy it too.
The cynicism displayed in equating tactile with being sleazy highlights the 'baggage' these individuals carry.
I consider myself tactile, I'm no sleaze and I believe my partner is glad of it.
Lovely day on the Gold Coast.

Troy

Posted by: troyohboy at October 8, 2008 9:49 AM

Kaz, How rude - go and suck your own lemon !!! lol. I can send some over if you like. Of course then I may have to read The Secret to see if I should be emotionally scarred by that experience or not as I am not sure how I am supposed to feel about this lemon thing.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 8, 2008 9:19 AM

Thanks Carolina, I hate seeing them go to waste as well and mine are Meyer, beautiful things. I do the things you say and cart bags of them to work with me on the bus, yikes. Some of the people just eat them whole which I can't do, but they are so nice. In WA lemon trees seem to grow like weeds for some reason or other because we have this horrible sandy soil which won't absorb or retain water. Roses also grow well and it's all a treat for me coming from Qld. I didn't think of swapping them for prawns though, I will give that a try. The thing with Meyer lemons also is they look so pretty so that might work, I will try it !!

Posted by: iaminperth at October 8, 2008 9:17 AM

rustysteed at October 8, 2008 8:09 AM I couldn't agree more... and I usually add "and women as well" to my posts. An oversight and I wll be more carefull in future to include both sexes in future.

Posted by: blueyedblond at October 8, 2008 8:45 AM

Beb @ 7.15 am....so it's only guys that stack their profile with 1 dumb cliche after another.?

I see plenty of ladies that do it also.Human nature i guess as well as a lack of imagination.

As far as the whole 'tactile' thing plenty of ladies use this as well as 'must be a good kisser'..like wtf?..maybe these girls actually enjoy sex unlike a lot of others that seem to be totally uninterested and expect men to be the same.

Here's a 'secret'.Most men want sex sooner rather than later in a relationship, it's just that some are a lot smoother in their approach but scratch the surface and they will be the same beast under that veneer of
charm ;p.

A lot of ladies seem to be looking for a creature that really isn't a man.Good luck with that unless you want to start batting for the same team.

How about celebrating and enjoying the differences between the sexes instead of bemoaning the lack of 'decent' men.

Just my thoughts..peace out ;p

Posted by: rustysteed at October 8, 2008 8:09 AM

lafenice and iaminperth . Couldn't agree more with what you have both said. I am so over guys who use any sort of sexual reference and say they look and feel 10 years younger, in their profiles. I have dated many middle aged men and they are far from sex machines. What does "tactile" mean to guys? Inappropriate touching would be a better word, we all like a cuddle but when I read that I immediately give the profile a miss, it conjurs up thoughts of first date mauling. The walk on the beach sipping wine has been done to death, be original guys, make up your own profiles and stop the cut and past thing. Who the hell has a bear skin rug, animal cruelty won't win points with me.

Posted by: blueyedblond at October 8, 2008 7:15 AM

... but I still have hundreds left. What are other ideas for lemons.....Please ...

Posted by: iaminperth at October 7, 2008 9:54 PM

Hi Perth! I've had the same "problem" for years with an overabundance of lemons [and other citrus, and other things - seems it's always feast or famine!] I've preserved them, made lemon curd/butter, cordial, juiced them and frozen the juice, but mostly ended up throwing most of it out the next time I cleaned out the fridge. It seems such a waste, watching dozens of ripe lemons falling off each tree every day.
In her Cook's Companion, Stephanie Alexander devotes quite a few pages to lemons and limes, and has quite a few recipes.
These days I basically "trade" them, exchange them, give them away to people who use them. I'm lucky as I work at the markets, so I "give" a carton each to a few food traders. My favourite is a French couple who make a wonderful grilled fish and caramelised onion dish, also a delicious baby squid and salad one. Another does a lot of baking and general cooking, and sells cakes, pastries, preserves and such things and uses heaps of lemons, juice and rind. I find these people particularly like Meyer lemons as their rind is more desirable, though they're also happy to see me with a carton or two of Lisbon or even Eurekas. They always respond by giving me freebies from their stall.
I don't count the respective values of the goods we exchange, as I'm just happy to see the lemons being used, not rotting on the ground!
Perhaps next time you're headed that way you could take a few bags or cartons to the local fish market, or cafes/restaurants [especially those which serve a lot of seafood] and just casually suggest they might like to swap these for a few prawns, or a couple of coffees, whatever. I find [around here anyway] people in such businesses are mostly very amenable to such informal arrangements, and often more than generous. Not that that's so important to me - I just love to see them being used!!!

Posted by: carolinafr at October 8, 2008 6:45 AM

Posted by: iaminperth at October 7, 2008 9:50 PM

A lot of very well educated and highly intelligent people suffer from dyslexia, so they often simply can't spell or read well.
Nowadays it is quite often picked up in Primary School and assistance given, although I don't know the success rate as none of my children were sufferers.

Of course, years ago people were just considered lazy and stupid, which of course, made the problem worse with the associated loss of confidence and self-esteem.
Despite this many people have gone on to become very successful in their chosen careers and endeavours.
Including apparently famous people such as John F Kennedy, Thomas Edison, Leonardo da Vinci, Steven Spielberg, Cher, George Washington, Henry Ford and Nelson Rockefeller to name but a few.
I'd say your friend is in pretty good company!

Posted by: amberlight58 at October 7, 2008 11:05 PM

Perth, you can always suck those lemons :-).................K

Posted by: auntykaz at October 7, 2008 10:45 PM

I blame my bad spelling mostly on my bad typing....spell checker helps...but, if the first and last letters of the word are correct you can read it anyway :)

Posted by: aquamanda56 at October 7, 2008 10:40 PM

I think we should have a blog to boycott certain businesses who treat us like idiots. I don't think enough people are heard nowadays and accept what big business hands us and it's not good enough.
Rising prices and bad service prevail because a lone voice in the wilderness cant change anyithing, but people speaking enmass can.
Service nowadays is disgusting but most of the time we winge and whine but don't do anything. There is power in the masses but it doesn't happen in "Aust as we are such a tolerant lot. Let's speak out and tell business how bad it is at the moment and how disappointed we are with it.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 7, 2008 10:14 PM

Elfi, You are getting yourself so worked up that your spelling is getting bad too.......no it's not just a few typos, lol. I agree, the capital letters, but you have to forgive that sometimes because some people simply don't know. However, and this is a biggie. I hate the tactile thing and the sexual thing. It's all too soon and all too much and to me it can come over as all too sleazy. And really, can anyone in reality tell me how you can walk along a beach with a glass of wine in your hand, how stupid that is. Where do you leave the bottle when you are walking along with alcohol. Not only is it illegal in most states, it's just plain daft. I go to the beach most days and I can assure you there are no wanderers with glasses of wine and why would you want to drink wine covered in sand and why would you want to walk at the same time. Get over yourselves and stop saying things you think people want to hear and start saying things that are real. I have a major problem with middle aged men trying to promote themselves as a sex machine as I find it hilarious and try as I may sometimes I have to excuse myself and go and have a laugh. Oh dear, it's so sad they think they have nothing else to offer.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 7, 2008 10:03 PM

Hey Guys,
Why don't we do it anyway. Living in WA we have an abundance of roses and lemon trees. Quite a treat for someone coming from Qld. I love both and find a zillion uses for my roses and also for my lemons. Love them in cooking, however, I still have hundreds of the tree after I have given a lot away and used heaps of them in cooking, rubbing on my feet, cleaning my cutting boards and trying to preserve them, always unsuccessfully for moraccan cooking. I have done the marmalade thing, which I don't eat and I have done the lemon pepper thing which is beautiful but I still have hundreds left. What are other ideas for lemons.....Please ...

Posted by: iaminperth at October 7, 2008 9:54 PM

I think that higher education and bad spelling go hand in hand. I have known two architects, top flight guys, beautifully presented, extremely successful can't spell to save their lives. My ex, one of the top in his chosen profession, cant spell. One of my neighbours, medical specialist in two disciplines, spelling forget it, a shocker. My current boss, two degrees and a masters in business can't spell to save her life. I don't know what happens. I have no idea what happens and I certainly don't think it has anything to do with intelligence or education, it just doesn't happen. I can understand the frustration at times reading a well written, or badly written profile where there is spell check but some of them just don't think of it. I don't know what goes on. I can spell but I have never achieved post grad studies, a masters or anything else, just work hard and constantly and have been consistent so who knows. I really couldn't judge a person on whether they can spell or not. I have a friend who runs a timber business, he can carve beautiful sculptures with a power saw and can turn his hand at just about everything he touches and create beautiful objects. He invents things and he travels with them and promotes them. Can't put a letter together, can't spell to save his life but creation and business are his forte and he is a very hard worker. Looks a bit rough around the edges and drives an old Nissan Patrol 'that does the job'. He was named as one of the top earners for 2007 and I am sure if anyone talked about spelling to him he would just laugh like 'what's spelling, what do you need that for'. I don't know and I don't really care. I have some great lunches with him when he's in town at a beautiful waterfront restaurant in Freo, no expense spared, which is all his and then we check out the expensive cars in the car park and debate how much money you would have to earn to own one and then wander around in the sunshine having a laugh.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 7, 2008 9:50 PM

Posted by: ssshhh at October 7, 2008 7:31 PM

thank you for your support on this blog idea but to tell you the truth the skull and cross bones thing has me a little confused :)))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at October 7, 2008 8:28 PM

Posted by: lafenice at October 7, 2008 6:04 PM:
I know some very intelligent, productive and creative mathematicians and scientists who can't spell very well... :)

Posted by: featherlessbiped at October 7, 2008 7:50 PM

Drifter@ 12.18....and others,good idea....many of us are passionate gardeners of varying degrees of success...so when do you hoist the skull and cross bones?

Posted by: ssshhh at October 7, 2008 7:31 PM

Not just postgraduates, but our Universities should be ashamed of themselves, considering how there are, apparently, so many people with degrees on this site who don;t even have a grade four spelling competency.
Bad spelling has me running for then hills. Like you, latenice, another one is the whole text being written in capitals - don't they know that equates to SHOUTING in typewritten messages? And who wants to be shouted at in an introduction. The others that put me off are the 'tactile' and even 'sexual'.... some guys don't get it that you don't want anything to do with a sleaze. They say they are being honest, well, ok, so they are honeslty sleazes...and...???
I also hate it when people say virtually nothing, as if they are too superior to have to try and make an effort. The worse for me, though, is the ones who are all negative, described everything by a "don't like" or "don't want" and particularly when they are massively prescriptive...don't people get it that it takes fitting with someone to even start to make a relationship?
The sleaze bags still stand out as the worst for me, though...

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 7, 2008 7:09 PM

Some profiles are an instant put-off for me, I wonder what other RSVPers think about, for example, people who include foreign language snippets to make you think they know those languages when in fact what they write is grammatically nonsense, or those that describe themselves as 'tactile' (ugh!) - what's wrong with 'sensuous'?. I refuse to read profiles written all in caps. And what do you think of so-called Post Graduates who consistently mis-spell simple words and treat grammar as an optional extra? Use of recycled cliches - walking on the beach hand-in-hand with a fine glass of Red, cuddles on the tiger-skin in front of open fireplaces that could be dangerous! and might prevent your chances to 'live to the fullest' ...

Posted by: lafenice at October 7, 2008 6:04 PM

Posted by: blueyedblond at October 7, 2008 11:43 AM

I like the way you think :)))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at October 7, 2008 12:18 PM

I think gardening and related topics would be a fantastic blog. We could incorporate general question and advice also , not dating related, Lord knows there are enough Eddy the Experts on that subject elsewhere. Maybe we could just hijack Rural Romance and make that our own????

Posted by: blueyedblond at October 7, 2008 11:43 AM

Posted by: amberlight58 at October 7, 2008 9:32 AM
Posted by: iaminperth at October 7, 2008 10:00 AM
Posted by: egernia at October 7, 2008 10:48 AM

Thank you all for your support on this, l think its a great idea for a blog, you all have top idea to imput on this blog if it get up & going, all we need more of the bloggers & the blog veiwers to back this idea, to get it up & going :)))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at October 7, 2008 11:26 AM

OBD, yes great topic and as an adjunct, we could discuss water collection & storage, recycling grey water and which plants can cope with it. I've noticed Bunnings have a variety of plants which have been
cultivated and watered with grey water.

Posted by: egernia at October 7, 2008 10:48 AM

I would like a gardening blog topic and how do you deal with it when you are a gardener and the other isn't. Plus we could all pass on wonderful tips on growing and cooking. My dog helps me to garden. When I dead head the roses she carefully bites the heads of any that are left over afterwards. This is the one and only time she is locked back into the house by herself and it makes her so sad to be left out but I end up with no roses otherwise.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 7, 2008 10:00 AM

Great idea Outback! Then I wouldn't be boring people on the electro-relations blog!

Posted by: amberlight58 at October 7, 2008 9:32 AM

Here is an Idea for a blog, how about gardening ??, l would say over 50 % of us has listed it as an interest.

Some might be into growing your own food, roses, orchids, potplants or just flower beds that look nice :)

what everyone else think about this for a blog ???

Posted by: outbackdrifter at October 7, 2008 7:34 AM

I like the idea of sex education / sexual health ... it is relevant at any age. Do we assume that because we are older it does not happen? certainly not. Happy to contribute further on the subject if required. I think the topic could be expanded to include how to negotiate safe sex with your partner. I think this is a very sensitive area to talk about and some hints and tips would be useful. Cheers

Posted by: annabelle1962 at October 4, 2008 10:41 PM

Hello bloggers! I have been a silent witness to your lively and often hilarious comments for a little while now - but have never posted before - so, be gentle....and forgive me if I make a suggestion that has been done to death.....
I would like to see a blog relating to age. I have had quite a few contacts recently. three this weekend, from men who are much younger than me. Much younger by 15 years....one guy was 25 for god's sake!
I am 48. I make no secret of that on my profile, and my search preferences indicate someone who is 40 - 53. That's not carved in stone - but it's a range. I told a friend (male) who enlightened me thus: Some men prefer older women because , and I quote "they're more experienced, less complicated...and grateful..." Grateful???
Is this true? Do some men think that we older women are going to be easier? That they don't need to put in the effort? That we're going to leap into bed, uttering cries of gratitude and then send a thank-you card?
Not this little black duck.....!

Posted by: ktoz at October 4, 2008 10:10 PM

Hw about 'movie trivia' under the 'Movie Buffs' Community ie behind the scenes, facts about the actors etc. Most ppl (esp. me) love those facts about the 'Rich and Famous.' .

Posted by: margie18 at October 4, 2008 7:08 PM

Diary entry, 157a, 492008

Well here i am , pondering life and the way interaction and life in general unfolds in contrast to certain things, like for instance, rsvp and life, i have just had a lovely evening, a lovely lady sat next to me and we started chatting, very interesting, here we look forward to someone sending a kiss or something, in life if someone came up to you and said, ghee i like the way you look , you would probably run, why can the same anticipation used on dating sites, not be energy displacing and used in life, i think the result would be more favourable, for example, i have read the book by, Kim Crosby, slapped by an angel, outlined the cyber relationship 2 people had constructed, cut a long story short they all but fell in love, but when they met, it just didn’t happen, well imagine if they met in person in the first place, they would have known then and there, that it just wasn’t happenin, how much time would have been saved, or on the other hand, if they did do it for each other, how much more time would they have they gained, so ponder if you like, on this as i have, if you find it of interest.

Posted by: rami70 at October 4, 2008 3:53 PM

I would like to see a link at the top of the page that takes us to the BLOGS.

And another topic in the music lovers section, at the moment there is only the best breakup songs ...

What about music to make love by? Favourite lovers songs, songs to make your heart sing .....something with a bit of hope instead of living in the past.

Posted by: marylulu at October 4, 2008 8:57 AM

I got a free stamp today

Posted by tallerthantom at October 3, 2008 8:38 AM

Glad to see you did - I have been waiting for the last two months (since my birthday) for this freebie. I think RSVP forgot. Hmmmmm...

Posted by: guiltypleasure at October 3, 2008 9:17 AM

whaddya mean?I got a free stamp today .Thanks rsvp....now what do I do with it????
Kenny

Posted by: tallerthantom at October 3, 2008 8:38 AM

Because it's a business not a charity and no one is forcing you to do anything.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 2, 2008 1:58 PM

I think I like to see a sanity page please.

Posted by: chachacha42 at October 1, 2008 8:41 PM

Elf, I think that is a great idea for a blog topic as I believe STD's in the older age group is fairly much out of control at the moment. I think the older group just think of unwanted pregnancy and obviously that is not going to happen and they disregard anything else. Unfortunately, that is not the case which is what the statistics are showing at the moment. I don't think, however, it would work in this forum as it would be hijacked by a few and could turn ugly very quickly.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 1, 2008 9:52 AM

Posted by: spanky668 at September 29, 2008 9:24 PM
had a couple of beers and wandered up and down looking in the rooms trying to see if I recognised anyone, before calling it a night..... C'est la vie, next time will be more prepared..... cheers....

Hi Spanky, you should have gone around the rooms shouting ANY RSVPers HERE. As brilliantblue said we were in Kathleen's room which was around the corner from the bar, playing pool most of the time. Maybe next time.

Posted by: deepbluepc at September 30, 2008 9:54 AM
I must have missed that maestrek.

I was in Chatwood Chase but only saw one person I recognised.

Hi deepbluepc, sorry, we were not in Chatswood Chase we were in an outdoor cafe down the street from the train station

Posted by: maestrac at September 30, 2008 8:55 PM

Good idea margie. I would like to see a blog discussing sex health, which seems very appropriate for an internet dating site. I hear on the grapevine that there is an alarming increase in STDs amongst the 50+ age brackets in Australia, a larger increase than with the younger brackets. Is the 50+ generation really up-to-date on sexual health or could the younger generation teach us better sexual health management/behaviour?

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at September 30, 2008 4:29 PM

How about a blog with ideas/suggestions on Health/Lifestyle issues? Maybe with a leaning towards mid-life ppl? Perhaps also - one that would utilize the 'old-wives tales' that have been so helpful down through the ages? (I don't just mean specifically for women).
Would love to hear some of the 'Health' tips from other ppl on this site.

Posted by: margie18 at September 30, 2008 3:03 PM

I must have missed that maestrek.

I was in Chatwood Chase but only saw one person I recognised.

Posted by: deepbluepc at September 30, 2008 9:54 AM

Posted by: spanky668 at September 29, 2008 9:24

Hi Spanky....its a shame you missed us, we were in Kathleens Room, second from the stairs on the right!

Posted by: brilliantblue at September 30, 2008 8:03 AM

Posted by: softfeather at September 29, 2008 2:25 PM
Hi, softfeather, I like to read your comments and those of other guys (you know those we can see everywhere :0)). They are the source that I gain answers to my questions. Now I understand why you and other guys have been here (on the blog) for a while. I think I will be, too. No, hopefully not too long on RSVP for us. Here is like a cyber family. We can encourage and soothe each other. Writing here is almost concern and pain free, as long as I do not say anything rude.

I agree about what you said about the factors. As for the “I would not choose the 3 days' one”, I think I should reframe it as: “I would try very best to avoid the 3 days’ one”.

What a painful experience a failed relationship is! Our partner is supposed to be the support that we can count on in many bad times. And a failed relationship is as, if not more than, painful as many bad times, but we may have to only grieve on our own, if we don’t have friends or family. So, I would try my very best not to subject myself to such painful experience.

If a relationship only lasted for 3 days, we would be subject to such pain many many times in our life. Without them, our days remain as happy. Just like without a firework, the sky remains the same. But after a firework, the sky becomes even darker, just like our days after that 3 days, although that 3 days are as exciting and brilliant as a short-lived firework.
Cheers!

Posted by: ahappyending at September 30, 2008 12:22 AM

Posted by: maestrac at September 29, 2008 4:55 PM

Hi Maestrac, glad you had a good night.... I came up, but couldn't find you guys.... I am pretty sure I saw brilliantblue (though didn't know it at the time as I hadn't seen her profile till today) talking to two guys, but just looked like friends out for a drink (were you in the room opposite the licencees flat?? at the top of the stairs??)...... I actually thought you were out on the balconey, looked like a fairly mixed bunch, but turned out to be a 21st..... had a couple of beers and wandered up and down looking in the rooms trying to see if I recognised anyone, before calling it a night..... C'est la vie, next time will be more prepared..... cheers....

Posted by: spanky668 at September 29, 2008 9:24 PM

Hi everyone!! I wasn't sure which blog to write this in as there are soooo many on the go.

The Sydney blogger's night out went exceptionally well. We all got on like a house on fire, just like we were old friends. We went to the Oaks at Neutral Bay (nobody came up and said Hi) and apart from Brilliantblue, we all had a pyjama party at musicteachers house(no no no there was none of that). Sunday, after may cups of coffee, we went into Chatswood and had brunch. What a lovely group of people. Those present were: musicteacher, amour (kazziwazziwoo), willow29, brilliantblue, tassiedude, myself (of course) and Barry (not an RSVP member).

So, how did the Brizzie night out go????

Posted by: maestrac at September 29, 2008 4:55 PM

I've geen out in my back garden lopping huge branches off a tree which is hanging over the pool. The showground is within walking distance and the Red Bull air race team are doing loop de loops over the showground I think. I sat back with new chain saw in hand thinking 'hope those guys know what they're doing as they look like any minute they are going to drop in'. I know it's good as we get to see the fireworks every night from our backyard and this year they are particularly splendid but I'm not sure about those red aeroplanes roaring about so close, bit spooky methinks.

Posted by: iaminperth at September 29, 2008 4:42 PM

sf 12.22pm Sept 29:

Kurli is A.ok...thank you for asking!Hadn't heard anything about the comp you mention but would be luvverly to revisit my old stomping ground and see how much South Perth has changed!
Huggles from Kurli !

Posted by: kurli at September 29, 2008 2:47 PM

Posted by: ahappyending at September 27, 2008 8:32 PM - ahappyending. The analogy of "It is like firework, brilliant but too short, then the sky resumes even darker" is interesting.

I've been pondering your answer of "I would not choose the 3 days' one".

When a two people embark on a "relationship" & that was the word I used... not (to use a politically correct word) an affair. How would you know if it was going to last 3 days or 30 years?

So my answer to your question of "What are the most important factors to make a relationship 'longlasting'?". There is no hard & fast rule, dynamics, personalities, luck or whatever. It either lasts or it doesn't last. But you will find a lot of longlasting "healthy" relationships are due to "both" parties input into the relationship to create harmony.

Posted by: softfeather at September 29, 2008 2:25 PM

Posted by: kurli at September 27, 2008 10:43 PM

hmmm :))))

Hi kurli - how r U??? ... Have you entered the comp for the flight of a lifetime in the air race over here next month? The atmosphere is exciting, the Perth foreshore is usually at her best & it's an exciting challenge trying to take that all elusive "photo of a lifetime"..:))))

I've been putting my hand up & madly screaming "pick me, pick me" for the last 3 years. Hopefully this year I might be lucky to score the winning place.

Hmmm... barfing into a bag at some super speed is soo more on my bucket list these days... :)))

Take care & lovely to see u poke your head in from time to time..

SF X X X

Posted by: softfeather at September 29, 2008 12:22 PM

kisskat at September 28, 2008 7:14 PM . WOOOOOO HOOOOOO GO HAWKS.

Posted by: blueyedblond at September 29, 2008 8:16 AM

Posted by: kisskat at September 28, 2008 7:14 PM

clearly still not happy with the result as of lastnight....

Posted by: kisskat at September 29, 2008 7:11 AM

A blog topic, what defines a relationship for men and women, a number af dates, a level of intimacy, promises made? When, if ever, does the monogomous rule come into it and how do the different genders and ages view it.
How do the ages and genders define the boundaries.
Cheers all,
Lyn
PS wish there was a cheaper and easier way to get to know a few of you, you all have souch great imput..........

Posted by: lifebegins47 at September 29, 2008 12:52 AM

Posted by: blueyedblond at September 27, 2008 7:39 PM

pfft!!!!!!!!

it was like watching the geelong of old, the one ive barracked for all my life, to no avail!

Posted by: kisskat at September 28, 2008 7:14 PM

And they did win in style !!! I'll bet there are a lot of sore heads today. I was working but was able to watch the game with the sound turned down and it certainly was a test of courage and skill. Did you get to the P and W later on though. Did anyone go, nobody is talking about their night out, was it good..........anyone.

Posted by: iaminperth at September 28, 2008 5:49 PM

Here is an Idea for a blog, how about gardening ??, l would say over 50 % of us has listed it as an interest.

Some might be into growing your own food, roses, orchids, potplants or just flower beds that look nice :)

what everyone else think about this for a blog ???

Posted by: outbackdrifter at September 28, 2008 2:13 PM

Did anyone go to the P and W event ? We've heard from a couple who didn't, but none who did.......was it good, was it fun meeting people face to face. Did TW turn up with a green badge pinned above pocket. Was it a good night anyone ?

Posted by: iaminperth at September 28, 2008 1:58 PM

Posted by: blueyedblond at September 27, 2008 7:34 PM

Thank you, Im hoping to get a few more on board with this new blog Idea, You being a landscaper I think you will have alot of good imput on this blog :)))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at September 28, 2008 11:53 AM

L&T @4.18pm...........
let's for once reverse the sexist roles and have Martin ad nauseum-Gasbag dole out doses of domesticity.........instead of as SF @4.16pm so succinctly expressed............leaving it to the (senior) Earth Mothers and Domestic Goddesses!
We are OVER it!

Posted by: kurli at September 27, 2008 10:43 PM

IaiP@ 7.18pm.....Tonight (Saturday) is the PnW date!
One reason I didn't attend was that dress rehearsals went until 7.15 and I was too pooped to change & drive down to Briz........be interesting to catch up tomorrow on all the goss.........I wonder how warper behaved with all those ladies (wicked grin)

ELF@6.20 pm.....Not seenile elfie..just excited over tonight's shenanigans,maybe??? ggggg

Posted by: kurli at September 27, 2008 10:30 PM

Posted by: annabelle1962 at September 27, 2008 7:11 PM

Tks, annabelle1962, I hope you have good luck.

Posted by: ahappyending at September 27, 2008 8:34 PM

Posted by: softfeather at September 27, 2008 4:32 PM

Tks, softfeather. the two situations are a bit extreme, aren't they? I would not choose the 3 days' one. It is like firework, brilliant but too short, then the sky resumes even darker. I just think for a relationship to last, two people have to put in effort. But a person's personality is something others can not do anything about, and the personality can decide whether he/she is willing to put in any effort, including a willingness/an effort to reach a harmony.

Posted by: ahappyending at September 27, 2008 8:32 PM

Posted by: softfeather at September 27, 2008 7:37 PM

SF; Spot on, The "one" might be the one for us for only 3 years or 30 years ............. Both relationships are worth having & make us a better person in the end :))))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at September 27, 2008 8:04 PM

iaminperth at September 27, 2008 7:16 PM It is tonight ... I went to the club to watch the mighty Hawks win the flag... stayed too long, one drink too many to drive into town. GO HAWKS

Posted by: blueyedblond at September 27, 2008 7:39 PM

Hi ahappyending - There is nothing wrong with you or any of us that we are here at this point in time.... :))

There are so many factors that can make a relationship longlasting... It's like how long is a piece of string?

What does one consider too passionate if they were comparing it to their own personality which could be very withdrawn? Or is a relationship that lasts for 30 years more longlasting than one that is for 3 days?????

Kinda confusing depending which side of the bed ya get out of that day :)))) It's like my question from today @ 4.32 pm. Which would you choose?

A 30 year relationship that is in a quantum vacuum state. ie not totally void but with low energy. Or a 3 day relationship that is full of the dynamic forces of the initial attraction.

A good word to think of is "harmony".... Librans like balance, but when we gain & can attain harmony we reach a state of balance....

Gentle Blessings

Posted by: softfeather at September 27, 2008 7:37 PM

outbackdrifter at September 27, 2008 10:28 AM Sounds like a great idea.. I am a landscape gardener, well I used to be. Gardening would be a great topic for a blog

Posted by: blueyedblond at September 27, 2008 7:34 PM

Did lots of people go to the Friday night meet at the PnW. Did it turn out well with lots of fun and laughter ? Or have I got the date wrong. I don't think there is ever much going on here in WA and anything they have had at the past has been in the disco at the casino. So, never mind.

Posted by: iaminperth at September 27, 2008 7:16 PM

ahappyending - There is nothing 'wrong with us' at least I know there is nothing wrong with me. My take on being here is simple: I live in a society that prides itself on youth yet the contradiction to this is that we have an aging population; the breakdown of relationships leaves many with multiple responsibilities and limited time to commit to relationships outside the home; when one goes through difficult experiences it takes time to heal and that also leads to being left out of touch with dating/meeting new people in order to establish meaningful relationships. Work takes a lot of time and sometimes it has to be a priority which takes more than its fair share of quality spare time which can lead to cutting down on social participation. Technology has opened the door to this form of communication which I find fascinating and challenging at times, but it is handy when one is at home and has spare time to dedicate to these chats. I have made a choice to be on my own for a number of years, I don't regret it and it has been very good for me hence I believe that there are others who are on their own through choice - not because there is anything wrong with them (to use your words). Another consideration is that the older one get the more set one becomes on one's views and it is clearer what we are willing to compromise and not. The coloured glasses are no longer on as they might have been in younger years. I feel that this is also dangerous because we tend to be quicker at judging situations and that in itself is a sword of two edges. I also hold the view that this form of communication is not always effective as we tend to look at superficial qualities that don't really show the 'real' person - that we learn and grow over time not on a one date or by reading a profile. I hold a strong thought, always, that there is the right man for me ... we just having met yet ... but it will happen.

Posted by: annabelle1962 at September 27, 2008 7:11 PM

Hi, has there been a topic about this: (don't laugh, I know a bit serious)

What are the most important factors to make a relationship longlasting?

Would a person's personality play a important role for a relationship to work out? For example, two people are too proud; or one is open, but the other keeps silent; or one is passionate and romantic, but the other one is not, etc, etc.

Something must be wrong about us (sorry, at least about me) to have to be here.

Posted by: ahappyending at September 27, 2008 6:43 PM

My tyinpg is terirbel.....am ig ettnig seinle?

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at September 27, 2008 6:20 PM

I am dating a guy who is 5 months and 8 days younger than me....does that warrant my considering that I am dating a younger guy?????

Why such hang ups about age I wonder? I worry far more about whether they are ethical people, which seems more relevant to me...and if they make me laugh and make me feel good about myself....

Is the suggestion for a blog topic "do age differences matter? or is it more like "dating younger partners, is it ok for men but not for women?"....?

How quickly would absolute age be given, rather than an approxiamte age assumed, if itw asn't a requirement for a dating site? I wonder why we cannot specify age as a group, like on forms for membership, finances, health, etc? Eg, single female, aged 52-57.....what diffference would that really make?

I found turning 56 really hard because so many singles groups separate up to 55...suddenly I am deemed outside the borders....but then The House Bunny got thrown out of the Hefner Mansion for being too old at 27 because that made her "59 in bunny years"....well, let's face it, you gotta laugh haven't you?

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at September 27, 2008 6:01 PM

Posted by: softfeather at September 27, 2008 4:12 PM

SF, how did l know you were going to pop up on this one :)

We can swap ideas, I grow veg/herbs in a no dig setup but with my own twist, l also grow native orchids, jungle cactus, epiphytes & pitcher plants,

Posted by: outbackdrifter at September 27, 2008 5:38 PM

Posted by: kazmaree at September 27, 2008 9:01 AM

Very funny, I like your joke. Good luck.

Posted by: ahappyending at September 27, 2008 5:30 PM

softfeather's suggestion for a topic - At 50+, & all our life experiences, what would you choose in the future? Three days of sheer ecstasy or another thirty years of practical.

I wonder what others would choose after all we have been through...

Posted by: softfeather at September 27, 2008 4:32 PM

Drifter & Marcus..... I love it ... you both make me ROFL.... yes we can discuss the wonders of Domestic Goddess roles or the nurturing of our gardens....Don't you guys get it!!!! ... Most Senior Earth Mama's in the over 50 group have had it up to their back teeth with taking on the role of chatting about these things... even though we are in the most f###ed demographics we are ready to sink our teeth into meater discussions... As blueyedblond said September 27, 2008 10:37 AM - "Yes it really pisses me off but it aint gonna change". hmmm..... maybe the weather has ruffled softfeathers feathers.... ;))))

Posted by: softfeather at September 27, 2008 4:12 PM

I have met quite a few guys on here who are actually several years older than their profile states. Some fess up on the phone others leave it until I meet them. For me that is the end of the conversation or meeting. If they lie about their age then they will find it easy to lie about something else. I agree a lot of women do the same thing but what is the point, eventually the truth will come out.
Carolina and junebaby, the age thing is something I have taken up with the Speed Dating people. Their response was" the demand is not there", whatever that means. I think there would be better ways to meet people.
The debate will go on forever. I can hear the men, fertility = desirability, younger = sexy, older = boring blah blah blah. I have been with older and younger men and I know my preference. Age is just a number, mental attitude is what keeps us young. Social acceptance is better for the man to be older in a May December relationship. In reality it should be the other way around. Women live longer, retirement homes are full of widows. Women don't need as much medical help, if any, as they get older to have sex. As always there are exceptions, I have met very young men in their 60's and very old women in their 50's and vice versa. The majority of men will always want younger women. Survey both men and womens profiles on any dating site. The target age group for men is a lot younger to around their own age and women go a little younger to up to 10 years older. Yes it really pisses me off but it aint gonna change.

Posted by: blueyedblond at September 27, 2008 10:37 AM

Here is an Idea for a blog, how about gardening ??, l would say over 50 % of us has listed it as an interest.

Some might be into growing your own food, roses, orchids, potplants or just flower beds that look nice :)

what everyone else think about this for a blog ???

Posted by: outbackdrifter at September 27, 2008 10:28 AM

This has nothing to do with the blog but I thought this was a nice clean joke to share.

A passenger in a taxi leaned over to ask the driver a question and tapped him on the shoulder.
The driver screamed, lost control of the cab, nearly hit a bus, drove up over the curb, and stopped just inches from a large plate glass window.
For a few moments everything was silent in the cab, and then the still shaking the driver said, 'I'm sorry, but you scared the daylights out of me.'
The frightened passenger apologized to the driver and said he didn't realize a mere tap on the shoulder could frighten him so much.
The driver replied, 'No, no, I'm sorry, it's entirely my fault. Today is my first day driving a cab.................... I've been driving a hearse for the last 25 years.'

Posted by: kazmaree at September 27, 2008 9:01 AM

I don't think the yachties here are particularly looking for anyone, they just seem to enjoy company and live rather laid back, albeit extremely busy lives. 6a.m. on Cottesloe Beach is a hive of activity with the early morning elderly swimmers, sometimes in freezing conditions and the kayaks braving the surf. The ones that only brave the edges are jokingly referred to as 'tea bags' as they just have a little dip. Their focus to me seems more on getting out and doing things and I have never seen any with particularly young women. The women I have seen them with though are usually pretty spectacular themselves, fit alive and certainly not the clingy types.

Posted by: iaminperth at September 27, 2008 6:16 AM

egernia at September 26, 2008 5:05 PM
Thats a great idea on collections. I'd like to see a slightly tongue in cheek 'Martha Gardner' one one household hints..
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at September 27, 2008 4:18 AM

Carolina.. You're welcome.. Enjoy and look forward to some "stories" when you return.... Cheers..."G"

Posted by: amdoingit at September 26, 2008 11:05 PM

Unknown @ 7.48pm..... Could be interesting.. I'm sure there'd be many who'd talk till they were blue in the face trying to convince you there were times when it's ok to not be honest.. For me, yep..Honesty is the best policy and that applies "always"...
Cheers.... "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at September 26, 2008 11:03 PM

enjoy your holiday Lyn.
What about bob? where is he holidaying?

Posted by: tallerthantom at September 26, 2008 8:37 PM

how about a topic called is honesty really the best policy?

Posted by: unknownauthor at September 26, 2008 7:48 PM

How about a blog topic on people's hobbies/collections?
I bet there would be some interesting admissions about what
some people choose as a hobby or chose to collect.

Alternatively, you could always have a blog about shoes and handbags. To match or not to match...that is the question.

Posted by: egernia at September 26, 2008 5:05 PM

Posted by: tallerthantom at September 25, 2008 11:03 AM:
Not saying I wouldn't do that at all! Actually I said many of us 55+ women will probably resort to doing it. My point is that I'm fed up with the double standards. As junebaby noted yesterday there is an event in the ACT, women 20-55, men 20 - 60, so it's even official RSVP policy! What happened to gender equality? Sometimes I feel like I'm still living in the 1960s! Not that I'm particularly interested in any of their events. They sound more like a cattle sale to me.

My other point was that there is a lot of dishonesty here, in profiles, as we all know, especially age and marital status, but also height and smoking habits. And employment and interests, or lack of them! I've become jaded and cynical and just let 3 stamps expire as there wasn't one man within 75kms who I found remotely interesting enough to kiss. Lucky I'm having a holiday.

Actually was going to use the stamps to contact some like-minded female bloggers but got busy. So thanks here for the good wishes amdoingit. And good luck. Always love to your postings junebaby. And jenjen.

Posted by: carolinafr at September 26, 2008 6:25 AM

Yes! Yes I do Featherless. I noticed the missing link. I now go into Help, then Customer Service Blog then through the archives to general blogs, because I won't log on to my account or post any comments from my work computer.
Can the blog link be restored please RSVP?

Posted by: thelynathdiary at September 25, 2008 11:26 PM

How important or not is it to find a partner from the same ethnic background; race and language ? What are the dynamics that attract us to some and not others - 'birds of a feather fly together ...'

Posted by: annabelle1962 at September 25, 2008 10:08 PM

Another idea could be ... The relevance or not of spirituality in our lives - What do we really understand of it and how it fits into relationships?

Posted by: annabelle1962 at September 25, 2008 10:06 PM

What about a topic that is broader ... what age has to do with ?

Posted by: annabelle1962 at September 25, 2008 10:04 PM

Also, is anyone finding that it is harder to get to the general blog page than it used to be? There used to be a drop-down menu item for the blogs, under "Communities", but now that seems to have disappeared.

I've had to make a "favourites" entry in my browser to get to the blogger page. Does anyone else have this issue?

If they changed things deliberately to make it thus and so, it seems like an odd thing to do.

Posted by: featherlessbiped at September 25, 2008 8:15 PM

I doubt that these speed-dating people would be not running events for women over 55 for discriminatory reasons.

They care about making money, and frankly, being ageist/sexist is not conducive to maximising your financial return.

They will have made a purely economic decision about whether running such events for women over 55 is viable. Whether that is right or wrong on economic grounds, I have no idea.

But, since making money is their prime objective, it's not going to be an issue of sexism or ageism.

Posted by: featherlessbiped at September 25, 2008 8:10 PM

louiseu @ 9.05pm 24/9/08 ~ Ummm, excuse me? Ok, I'm not 55 yet, but in the ball park. I'm with amdoingit in that lots of us have heaps of "get up and go". And are raring to go at that!

Jen

Posted by: jenniferhi at September 25, 2008 7:23 PM

Hey, Kenny, you will get an invite to a speed dating thingy where the chickybabes are all younger then. :-)).............K

Posted by: auntykaz at September 25, 2008 5:53 PM

carolinafr @ 8:56 AM I have two male friends on this site, one 62 and the other 56. The first one states in his profile that he's 55, and the other actually says he's 45, would you believe it!
What can I say Lyn? maybe you could lower your age.....or are you saying you wouldn't do that? Plenty of women do you know.
kenny 55 yr 56 next week lol

Posted by: tallerthantom at September 25, 2008 11:03 AM

iaminperth at September 25, 2008 8:50 AM: I'm sure there are exceptions, perth, just as there are exceptions to every generalisation! I can only speak from my own experience, as I don't have any other.
Are these successful businessmen mostly only interested in women half their age????????

Posted by: carolinafr at September 25, 2008 9:07 AM

junebaby57 at September 25, 2008 7:47 AM:
... women 20-55, men 20 - 60 ...
yep, it's as though women over 55 aren't worth considering, don't exist, whatever. It's that "invisible" thing! Ignore them and they'll go away. But we won't, of course! And yep, many will probably resort to lying about their age just to gain inclusion. Sad really, but we're survivors, our generation, and won't go out without a fight, that's for sure! I think of some of the men I've met on this site, who've stated their age at between 55 and 60, and unless they've had a really hard life, most have clearly been older, especially in their ways of thinking! Supposedly the same age as me, but heaps "older"! Seems so many lie, both sexes. I have two male friends on this site, one 62 and the other 56. The first one states in his profile that he's 55, and the other actually says he's 45, would you believe it!
Don't know what the answer is to this age thing. How many blogs have been devoted to it already!!!

Posted by: carolinafr at September 25, 2008 8:56 AM

There are quite a few very successful businessmen in WA over the age of 70 sailing their own yachts enjoying their retirement. They will jump on a plane at the blink of an eye to visit other countries to do more spectacular things and love long and lengthy conversations about life in general. Quite a few do consultancy work in between all the other activities and are still earning a very healthy income. Most have a lifetime of knowledge, are extremely interesting and fit and healthy beyond belief. I don't think it is fair to lump all older men into the category of 'what a joke' as there are quite a few who would run circles around women half their age.

Posted by: iaminperth at September 25, 2008 8:50 AM

Carolina.. Gotta love it... Thanks for your input..Enjoy your trip.... "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at September 25, 2008 8:23 AM

Louiseu ... are you joking? I'm with amdoingit and jenjen. We are, mostly, active, fit , healthy and fabulous, and confident in ways we weren't in our 30s and 40s, and also have the benefit of being much more free and available. Just a question though, why be on this site if you're not interested in dating? I too find it ridiculous that 55+ women are excluded. How discriminatory is that? I thought age was one of the grounds for complaint about discrimination.
I would just like to comment that my life did begin at 50 in many respects, particularly with dating and intimate relationships, and I look forward to more in the future. And I certainly am not interested in men a decade my senior, unless they are really, seriously, younger than their chronological age suggests. Fancy getting kisses from men over 70. What a joke.
Sorry, my profile is not visible as I'm having a break as I prepare for a trip o/s. But just couldn't let that comment pass with responding.
55yr old female, nsw north coast

Posted by: carolinafr at September 25, 2008 8:03 AM

you are right there is an event in the ACT, women 20-55, men 20 - 60.........what happened to women being to 60 as well!!!!!! That encourages the agesim that is already out there....men then think younger is better!!!! lucky that I seem to meet enough men so I don't go to the events....at the present time....but what will happen as I get older???? Its a bit scary ti think about....have a lovely day all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 25, 2008 7:47 AM

Maybe not getting started but certainly far from over. Male friend of mine (my age) went to one recently (speed date) and he's open to dating his own age or even a couple of years older but they were all younger. He was surprised but obviously not disappointed. Maybe that's why some of the profiles have their age as younger but then correct it once you read the profile. Method in their madness after all (maybe)..Anyway, not much we can do about it I guess. Maybe I'm in the minority but judging from those I know personally on the site I wouldn't have thought so. Anyway.. Cest' la vie....... Cheers... "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at September 24, 2008 11:30 PM

Posted by: amdoingit at September 24, 2008 8:32 PM

I guess you could do what seems to be a recuuring theme around here G and just knock a few years off your age........:))
Hardly seems fair though that the organisers cater for the younger women and forget those that are older - so much for Life Begins at 50 - you are really just getting started !!!!

Posted by: jenjen57 at September 24, 2008 10:56 PM

It would be nice to have an open forum or blog section where people could write their own forum topics or blogs like most other social networking sites have.

Posted by: frums at September 24, 2008 10:24 PM

Louiseu... Obviously the people you know "are" different to myself and the people I know.. Don't knock it till you try it ok!!! .... Cheers "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at September 24, 2008 10:14 PM

Oh please, even the organisers of speed dating know women over 55 no longer go rushing in to anything associated with "speed' and "dating".

Posted by: louiseu at September 24, 2008 9:02 PM

Thank you Ellida... This could be interesting!!!
Ok guys, your feedback/opinions would be much appreciated on this...

Cheers..... "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at September 24, 2008 8:50 PM

Posted by: amdoingit at September 24, 2008 8:32 PM

whilst not over 55 myself, i cant see any reason why your age group arent being catered for....

Posted by: kisskat at September 24, 2008 8:50 PM

Hello to all of you who are over 55. Please ask for a topic on why the female species is left out of things such as speed dating. I've asked and been told they cater to the requests of their members. Hmm.
Women aged 45 to 55 with men aged 55 to 65... What's wrong with a woman in late 50's or early 60's ??? There'a a lot of us with a lot of oomph in us yet.. Bloody hell, talk about being put out to pasture!!!!
Now, let's see if this get's posted..
HELP... Comments please!!!!!! ...."G"..

Posted by: amdoingit at September 24, 2008 8:32 PM