RSVP Blog

Officially a fling?

Ever got yourself involved in a casual scenario, only to find that you or the other person wants to make it more official? Just because its casual, doesn't mean those involved are both emotionally detached (or so I've heard). In fact, more often than not, one person is entirely obliging the other with a casual liaison just to keep them close. Whilst one of you is having their cake and eating it too, the other is pining, hoping for a signal or a sparkle of hope that someday it may become something more than casual.

Ever been in a situation like this? Have you ever sacrificed your true feelings to satisfy the casual whims of someone you secretly have feelings for? Have you ever been the detached piece of a pairing where the other person has wanted more from you? Do you think that there is always someone wanting 'something more' from a casual fling, or have you kept all of your flings successfully neutral (as far as you know)?

Posted by Ellida in Casual Liaisons Archive at 3:39 PM

The Rise of the Machosexual

We are now living and dating in the time of the Machosexual. This became official when British department store John Lewis recruited model Matthew Avedon to represent a more masculine image for their menswear.

Apparently the Machosexual exudes masculinity and whilst he is style aware, you will not find him fighting with his girlfriend for the bathroom mirror. Think Guy Ritchie or Clive Owen.

Ladies, are the times of the well-groomed man well and truly behind us? Or do we still want a man that takes care of his appearance but who is also a dab-hand at the DIY?

Gentlemen, have you found yourself changing your clothing style or grooming routine recently to try to fit what women want? Do you feel there's too much pressure on you to be both a Man's Man and a Style God?

Posted by Lara in Fitness Fanatics at 3:33 PM

Is it cheating if I date more than one person at a time?

So let's say I meet someone that sparks my interest. We go out on a series of dates and get to know each other. We both seem to get along and I see this relationship having some potential, so I keep seeing my date.

In the meantime, another potential has entered the scene, and he asks me out on a date. This new guy seems OK on paper, but I agree to go out on a date with him to get to know him better.

Is that cheating? Should dating be exclusive?

Posted by Margarida in Dating Life Archive at 10:30 PM

Art Lover or Art Snob?

Heard of an art snob? Technically it is a phony who is just out to fluff about in an effort to seem more cultured. The way I see it, an art snob believes their taste in art is the only taste worth having. We all know one. When it comes to your preferences in any art form - are you inclined to look for a partner with similar tastes? Are these things so important to you that you would pass up a potential interest because they don't have the same passion for or knowledge on Kandinsky that you do? Have you ever passed judgment on a potential pal because they weren't as culturally astute as you?

Perhaps you were put off because their taste differed too extremely to yours? This may sound superficial, but if you've studied the arts or so much as visited an exhibition, I'm sure you encountered some form of snobbery, heck, there were snobs standing next to us at a recent (commercial) music festival! Have you dated an art snob? Are you brave enough to admit that you may have even the slightest air of art snobbery yourself?

Posted by Ellida in Lovers Of The Arts at 4:53 PM

Cooking dinner for two

Ever cooked a meal for someone you were newly dating? Whilst it's not a great idea to invite someone into your home early on, when do you think would be a good time in a relationship to host a dinner for two? Cooking dinner for your date can reveal some things about your personality; and getting this personal can go a long way. Not to mention the fact that you will get to show off some of your skills in the kitchen and hopefully impress them so much they'll be asking for seconds!

Have you had any successful meals that worked a treat to impress your new partner? Any hints on what to cook, or what to avoid? I'm sure there is nothing worse than putting a lot of time into a delicious lamb roast, only to find that your date is a vegetarian. Any horror stories? Undercooked pasta? Burnt steak? Do you think cooking for your date is an all round bad idea or do you like the idea?

Posted by Ellida in Food and Wine Lovers at 4:40 PM

Question Time

There are lots of questions we ask when using RSVP such as:
> Did I get a reply from that person I can't stop thinking about?
> Why did that last date turn out as it did?
> Who's new in my area?
> Will my Mr/Ms Right be online today?

But do we ever get the answers we're looking for? What goes through your mind when you're looking for a potential partner and has this changed during your RSVP journey?

Posted by Lara in Dating Life Archive at 4:39 PM

Cold noses detect warm hearts

Is your dog a good judge of personality and character? Well, they do have five million smell receptors to rival a human's mere 220, so there's a strong possibility that dogs could sniff out who's right and who's wrong. Bearing in mind factors such as the dog's usual temperament and their reactions to certain movements, have you noticed an unusual reaction from your dog towards someone new? Dogs are said to be more attuned to a person's soul, what do you think?

Ever had your dog bark and growl every time a particular person approached? Considering a dog that's generally friendly but really doesn't like one person, do you think your dog could be trying to tell you something? And how about your date not having much love for your dog? Would this impact on your opinion of the person?

Posted by Ellida in Mans Best Friend at 3:39 PM

Got an idea for a blog topic?

Here is your chance to have your say - send us your suggestions and your topic might be the next big talking point! With the launch of RSVP Communities, there are now more topics to choose from that will make for some very interesting chatter!

Let your imagination run wild! Suggestions could be on any of the following subjects: Travel, Books and reading, Dating, Farmers and dating, Fitness, Food and Wine, Dogs, Mining, Movies, Music, Single Parenting, Golfing, and the list goes on!

Posted by Ellida in Customer Support at 5:10 PM

Shall we shop?

Do you think it's a good idea to shop with your partner? (And I'm not talking groceries). Men and women are said to have very distinct differences in their shopping habits. Women are said to use shopping for leisure and have viewed it as a bonding experience for centuries, whereas men take the goal oriented approach and remain focused on the target, shopping only when completely necessary. What has your past experience shown you about shopping with your partner? Some will scream "NO!" at the thought of shopping with someone new since they'd rather walk into a wall repeatedly than step foot in a shopping mall or visit weekend markets.

Some will argue for the cause, claiming it is a great way to get to know someone. What if your date has deep pockets? That's definitely something you'll pick up on. And there are those of us who thrive on a good dose of retail therapy (not naming any names), so isn't it important to show your love interest where you play? You can test someone's patience, decode their decision making skills, find out how sensible they are and whether they can resist temptation. Doesn't sound like such a bad idea now, does it?

Posted by Ellida in Gumtree Singles at 3:28 PM