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If placed correctly and the right amount of presure and heat a vynil record can seal an open wound.

Posted by: backstreetromeo at February 23, 2010 8:46 PM

Music is most certainly a powerful phenomenon.
It is able to lift any that are receptive from daily drudgery and has been proclaimed an opiate for the masses.

One thing that surprises me about this forum is teh number of people who expressa dislike for Jazz.
Jazz isn't dead - it just smells funny. ;)

Posted by: morntego at October 30, 2009 12:03 AM

Hey everyone, what's cracking?
I've always been a massive fan of music, from a very young child my tastes have warped to the more hard and heavy. I've always maintained a fairly broad understanding of music wherever I intake it, but a comment by "sweetmixture" summed up my attitudes better than I ever could.

"In a split second, we can hear a song and be transported back to another time in which we were ecstatically happy and contented or downright miserable, perhaps even grieving for a lost one.

Music is certainly a very powerful force and definitely can emotionally affect us one way or another." -sweetmixture

Cheers
Curtis

Posted by: artkidcurtis at August 26, 2009 2:24 AM

hey.. was just looking at girls webpage, she was a member of this group.. i really like her taste in music. sixties73 was her username..

Posted by: chilledout78 at June 4, 2009 11:18 PM

I truely believe that music can heal. What is it that make the sunshine come out again on a blue day? A joyous and uplifting song. My personal themesong has become Tubthumping. A great pick me up and start again song. I also love Someday Soon at the moment. Maybe I am just a dreamer but it makes me feel better so that has got to be healing right?
Has anyone else got what they think is a great theme song.

Posted by: t4me at May 19, 2009 2:28 PM

There is no doubt in my mind that music soothes the soul and has tremendous benefits as far as "lifting the soul" or creating an atmosphere of happiness around us at times but music can evoke feelings good and bad.

In a split second, we can hear a song and be transported back to another time in which we were ecstatically happy and contented or downright miserable, perhaps even grieving for a lost one.

Music is certainly a very powerful force and definitely can emotionally affect us one way or another.

Posted by: sweetmixture at May 4, 2009 1:14 PM

I'd have to agree Music has a way of taking your cares away. You may have had a bad day at work or other reason's. No matter wether your Anrgy or Sad. You turn on your sterio, Ipod or just in your car traveling to where ever. How ever you choose to listen to it Play it loud. It just transends to another place. You sing along maybe even do a little air guitar or drums. How many times have you been caught out dance'n round the room by family or friends. Or sets the mood for a little Romance. Music just cant live without it I know I couldn't

Posted by: ru4real1 at April 27, 2009 6:40 PM

How good does it feel when high on life and you turn the music up - Or rather, your heart can be breaking and the saddest songs allows you to find pleasure in your misery (pathetic I know) - Andrea Bocelli "Time to say Goodbye" (Opera) "Song sung blue - Neil Diamond - who tried to explain this release music gives you . I love any type of music even pop (they still call it pop if its on commercial radio) like Lily Allen's "I don't know the lyrics" where she cleverly comments on our superficial world; and you wouldn't be a girl if you didn't dance & sing in the lounge room when they play something like Dixie Chicks "Not Ready to Make Nice" or the Beatles "Back in the USSR"..... I challenge you !!

Posted by: simplysummer at April 26, 2009 8:39 PM

When I feel miserable, I turn up my mp3 as loud as I can stand so that I don't think about anything else

Posted by: girl50andonehalf at April 23, 2009 4:26 PM

i sometimes turn up the stereo and sing at the top of my voice in the car on the way home from work, not only does it make me feel better but it amuses other travellers or when i know i have a lot of work to do i play cds to keep me up beat and get through the day a little quicker

Posted by: guardianangel8 at April 18, 2009 5:57 PM

My music therapy is dancing around like an idiot when trying to get ready for a date or while trying to get the courage to go out to meet others. It helps if the music is LOUD, fast and upbeat. Sure gets me out of the house feeling good.

Posted by: bubblymodelt at April 12, 2009 11:31 PM

Pearls......Vibration perhaps.... worth looking into.. Good luck

Posted by: angela11 at April 2, 2009 5:47 PM

I do believe in the healing properties of music. If I had my time over again I would study that rather than music teaching. There is a book called the Mozart Effect which details the experiences of the author when he happened on 'toning' and diminished a tumour in his head until he was given the all clear.
I must research more as I love music and respond to it in more than an ordinary way. any ideas for sites?

Posted by: pearlsnjeans at March 31, 2009 6:35 PM

Does anyone listen to ABC DIG. I love this station it plays some excellent adult music mostly soft healing, laid back,no commentary or commercials lots of Blues and good really 'cool' Country . There's a Jazz channel also.called DIG Jazz .... highly recommended. angie)

Posted by: angela11 at March 13, 2009 6:44 PM

Hi H2H, thanks mate things are getting busy here now setting up for the big trip, l hope things are going well in your world & you keep running the fast water :)

Posted by: outbackdrifter at March 6, 2009 10:05 AM

*flicks a quick wink over to SF and OBD*

Peace, love, and happiness. Now there's a thought.

Nike...

Posted by: heart2heart57 at February 21, 2009 2:31 AM

http://www.calmingmusic.com/
Scroll down, you will find the 4 current releases. Click each CD to go to that CD page. Then scroll down again, and click the Play button. Now close your eyes. Do your face feel the touching of the gentle wave of the ocean? Swim, slowly, in the cool ocean of this peaceful world. Sleep, sleep. Tomorrow is another brand new day. :0)

Posted by: ahappyending at February 13, 2009 6:59 PM

break up song...Paul Kelly - Top Her Door always makes me feel better, because its about hard times and loss but then right at the end a llittle hint of hope...always brings a tear...and a bit of excitment because i would really like to know if they got back together or not!!

Posted by: cathy84 at February 9, 2009 12:17 AM

Break up songs - Hmmmmmm - Well -

If your in the middle of a bitter breakup maybe this is the one to send -

On the other hand you really, Really better not!

Better just to listen to in private.

Not that I'd know.

There is a female version.

Here you go:

"Eamon - I don't want you back"

I think youtube has it.

Posted by: stephen54 at January 21, 2009 12:15 AM

Posted by: auntykaz at January 9, 2009 9:57 PM

Its an amazing song itsnt it I too agree with you there..She has some wonderful music with depth and insight and beautiful sounds to offer in a healing light..

I love Angie by Rolling Stones as my favourite breakup song I think..Its quite beautiful I think.
:))Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at January 16, 2009 12:54 PM

About nasty breakup song.

No, it did not make me feel any better at all. The last post of mine in this topic was my only attempt to let out my anger and a way to convey how I felt about receiving presents from my ex. But right after my posting it, I felt regretted and guilty. Guilty of getting angry at the goodwill of my ex, who could have saved his money for other uses and who could have saved his time and trouble of finding and posting the gifts. Guilty of giving him hard time when what he had done was just meant well for me.

And now I feel much better when I can talk to him again in a happy and civil manner. Again, the failure of a relationship, most of time, is not necessarily the responsibility of only one party. Sometimes, it is an unwise decision right at the beginning of the start of a relationship, when both parties are less mature in life/marriage.

So, whether such pure friendship would cause any doubts, my ex and I will be always a brother and a sister, genuinely hope and feel happy for each others being happy in our future life.

Posted by: ahappyending at January 15, 2009 1:08 PM

I Am Not An Angel

On days of my incapable of anger
I lived in a world of bluest blues

Your gifts and money
Bring not days of sunny
But weeks of rains of misery

If you are an audience of my stage
Here is a song of my outburst:

DIAMONDS AND RUST
(by Joan Baez)
Well I'll be damned
Here comes your ghost again
But that's not unusual
It's just that the moon is full
And you happened to call
And here I sit
Hand on the telephone
Hearing a voice I'd known
A couple of light years ago
Heading straight for a fall
--------------
Where are you calling from?
A booth in the Midwest
--------------
Now you're telling me
You're not nostalgic
Then give me another word for it
You who are so good-----
---at keeping things vague
Because I need some of that vagueness now
It's all come back too clearly
--------------
And if you're offering me diamonds and rust
I've already paid

Posted by: ahappyending at January 12, 2009 2:43 PM

The ballroom was empty…
When they played the last waltz for my darling and me
My poor heart kept wishing the night could not end
But she love another and I'm just her friend
I love her I love her my lonely heart cries
But soon she'll become another man's bride
She told me next Sunday was her wedding day
I gave my best wishes oh what more could I say
That night will be cherished in my memory
When they'll play the last waltz for my darling and me

Posted by: stockroute99 at January 11, 2009 4:36 PM

The toughest breakup song I have ever heard is Lucille by Kenny rogers
Wonder what made me think of it?

you picked a fine time to leave me me Lucille
with four hungry children and a crop in the field
been through some bad times
seen through some sad times
but this time your hurtin wont heal
you picked a fine time to leave me Lucille

:))) A

Posted by: angela11 at January 10, 2009 8:07 PM

Posted by: tallerthantom at January 9, 2009 4:20 PM

You're right, there ... but the RSVP concept *is* easy ... it's the pesky humans that complicate things! (Tough to remove us from the equation, though.)

:-D

Posted by: lafileuse at January 10, 2009 8:43 AM

One song l find very haunting and calming to listen to is "Angel" by Sarah McLachlan......it is a quiet and sombre song, and yet it leaves me feeling very soothed..........K

Posted by: auntykaz at January 9, 2009 9:57 PM

Fit but you know it is one of my favourite "Streets' songs.Even used it as a profile name for some time.So apt.and describes rsvp to a tee.
Kenny

Posted by: tallerthantom at January 9, 2009 4:20 PM

Musical Healing for me are songs about the future. My dreams becoming visions, my visions becoming the next part of my life journey. Gentle songs about hope & the gift of sharing by another..... Today I'm being still & feeling at peace. Reflecting where I am now, the future and the very special tender blessings I'm receiving......

Green Eyes ~ Coldplay

Honey you are a rock
Upon which I stand
And I come here to talk
I hope you understand

That my green eyes, yeah the spotlight, shines upon you
And how could, anybody, deny you

I came here with a load
And it feels so much lighter, now I've met you
And honey you should know, that I could never go on without you

These green eyes

Honey you are the sea
Upon which I float
And I came here to talk
I think you should know

These green eyes, you're the one that I wanted to find
And anyone who, tried to deny you must be out of their mind

Cause I came here with a load
And it feels so much lighter, since I met you
Honey you should know, that I could never go on without you

My green eyes
My green eyes

Ohohohohooooo
Ohohohohooooo

Ohohohohooooo
Ohohohohooooo

Honey you are a rock
Upon which I stand

Softfeather.......

Posted by: softfeather at January 9, 2009 1:33 PM

Posted by: fifilafume at January 8, 2009 10:42 AM
"One of the best break up songs ever is by The Streets
Dry Your Eyes"

Yes ... a friend once laughed because I admitted that I cried when I first heard this ... the chorus is so touching, and the words so raw and honest ... and *The Streets*!

(and when I think I'm having a bad day, I listen to "It Was Supposed To Be So Easy" from the same album

:-D)

Posted by: lafileuse at January 9, 2009 8:17 AM

Posted by tallerthantom at January 8, 2009 4:04 PM

You are a Man after my own Heart...I love the reality of that song.

Has that blog been going since before July.....I wasn't blogging then so I missed it,

Colleen

Posted by: fifilafume at January 8, 2009 10:43 PM

have to agree with you there colleen
Posted by: tallerthantom at July 19, 2008 12:41 AM in What's your ultimate breakup song?

Posted by: tallerthantom at January 8, 2009 4:04 PM

One of the best break up songs ever is by The Streets

Dry Your Eyes :
In one single moment your whole life can turn 'round
I stand there for a minute starin’ straight into the ground
Lookin’ to the left slightly, then lookin’ back down
World feels like it’s caved in – proper sorry frown
Please let me show you where we could only just be, for us
I can change and I can grow or we could adjust
The wicked thing about us is we always have trust
We can even have an open relationship, if you must
I look at her she stares almost straight back at me
But her eyes glaze over like she’s lookin’ straight through me
Then her eyes must have closed for what seems an eternity
When they open up she’s lookin’ down at her feet

Dry your eyes mate
I know it’s hard to take but her mind has been made up
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you’ve got to walk away now
It’s over

So then I move my hand up from down by my side
It's shakin’, my life is crashin’ before my eyes
Turn the palm of my hand up to face the skies
Touch the bottom of her chin and let out a sigh
‘Cause I can’t imagine my life without you and me
There’s things I can’t imagine doin’, things I can’t imagine seein’
It weren't supposed to be easy, surely
Please, please, I beg you please
She brings her hands up towards where my hands rested
She wraps her fingers round mine with the softness she’s blessed with
She peels away my fingers, looks at me and then gestures
By pushin’ my hand away to my chest, from hers

Dry your eyes mate
I know it’s hard to take but her mind has been made up
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you’ve got to walk away now
It’s over

And I’m just standin’ there, I can’t say a word
‘Cause everythin’s just gone
I’ve got nothin’
Absolutely nothin’

Tryin’ to pull her close out of bare desperation
Put my arms around her tryin’ to change what she’s sayin’
Pull my head level with hers so she might engage in
Look into her eyes to make her listen again
I’m not gonna fuckin’, just fuckin’ leave it all now
‘Cause you said it'd be forever and that was your vow
And you’re gonna let our things simply crash and fall down
You’re well out of order now, this is well out of town
She pulls away, my arms are tightly clamped round her waist
Gently pushes me back and she looks at me straight
Turns around so she’s now got her back to my face
Takes one step forward, looks back, and then walks away

Dry your eyes mate
I know it’s hard to take but her mind has been made up
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you’ve got to walk away now
It’s over

I know in the past I’ve found it hard to say
Tellin’ you things, but not tellin’ straight
But the more I pull on your hand and say
The more you pull away

Dry your eyes mate
I know it’s hard to take but her mind has been made up
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
Dry your eyes mate
I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts
But you’ve got to walk away now

Colleen

Posted by: fifilafume at January 8, 2009 10:42 AM

Surely a song about a nasty break up is what is meant; not necessarily a nasty song..

Posted by: laughsandtalks at January 8, 2009 3:03 AM

decoratress at January 5, 2009 12:08 PM

Such wisdom.... we could all take a leaf out of your book!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at January 6, 2009 11:40 PM

...and then, every so often, she comes back and bashes me up

Posted by: stockroute99 at January 6, 2009 6:40 PM

Our minds can be in a state of pleasantness, if we surround ourselves with happy good-natured people and joyful melodies; and, if we genuinely feel happy for the other party, because such a breakup may be able to let the other party to have a happier life, even their happiness is causing us some pain.

Honestly, would a breakup occur if the relationship were happy and healthy? For example, one likes living in a mild climate but the other loves living in the tropic; or, a couple does not enjoy doing the same things/having the same hobbies; In both cases, not much chance of them enjoying each others company, is there?

When a breakup is inevitable, why would we dwell in a state of pitying ourselves or subjecting ourselves to misery? Anything is meaningless if we do not have good health in our body/mind. On the day of our leaving the earth, we can not carry anything, including those that may be lost in a breakup. No many problems that can not be solved, if both parties can think for each other. The key is about mutual benefit. If mutual benefit cannot be reached, then Give more/Give Way more, then No expectation/No pain.

The hardest time for me was when I have shut myself out of the outside world in the last three months. It was so hard to put on a happy face, so I just avoided socializing. But this solitude led me down, down and down. Lucky we have this blog and blogging has helped pull me up, up and up again.

Posted by: ahappyending at January 6, 2009 6:12 PM

Stockroute...that song, whilst set to great music, just highlights OD's point of view that writing ugly, nasty stuff just really becomes a reflection of "you" and lets the world see what you are really like underneath it all...and how lucky your wife was to make her escape...and one for her..."gonna walk and don't look back."..or..."keep on running."...both would suit.

Posted by: istj54 at January 6, 2009 8:19 AM

Posted by: angela11 at January 3, 2009 11:19 PM
I like that: I don't believe humans were meant to be alone, I believe we are meant to travel life in pairs.
Thanks!

Posted by: ahappyending at January 6, 2009 1:29 AM

The best break up song I found recently was "My Wife Ran Off With a Sri Lankan Cricketeer" by the Bird Rock Bandits.

Only joking. My wife ran off full stop.

Posted by: stockroute99 at January 5, 2009 3:17 PM

lafileuse @ 8.15am..

Exactly... it depends.
When newly separated after 24yrs of marriage, despite the sadness & pain I had no desire to write it out. I'd done my grieving during the last few years of the relationship, & saw clearly that writing things out was not going to be therapeutic, more a reminder of past pain.

Several years later, a subsequent relationship of 2yrs ended badly.. (money lent was denied, & stalking was deemed a way to drive me out of the area, to ensure I never sought recompense).
Same situation (breakdown of a relationship), different method of dealing with it. In that instance I found writing to be incredible solace. For whatever reason, I had to get my feelings out & on to paper.
When I'd written myself out I drove to the Northern Territory & burnt my journal at Uluru.

Every relationship is different, as are our ways of dealing with the pain.
I don't believe there's a right & wrong.. it's all subjective & dependant on that specific relationship.

At the end of the day, what's important to me is that I deal with the situation with as much respect & responsibility for my actions as I can muster. My pain is my own to deal with, & it always gives me the opportunity to grow. Or otherwise.
While I don't believe it's necessarily always true, the old saying 'no pain, no gain' springs to mind. It's hard to grow past our weaknesses, but each experience has wisdom in it if we care to look for it.

imho...

Posted by: decoratress at January 5, 2009 12:08 PM

The Wedding Singer has a nasty break up song which turns out to be hilariously funny. I guess if it makes you feel better at the time go for it, at least it's something to listen to later and have a laugh about and think 'why did I waste my time doing that'.

Posted by: iaminperth at January 5, 2009 11:01 AM

OD...I find you a bit of an enigma...on the one hand you absolutely love songs and their lyrics seem to, especially, touch you in many emotional ways...but yet you wouldn't find penning a song re your own personal feelings after a break up beneficial...I don't think that person who wrote nasty actually meant really nasty...more therapeutic venting...best ceremoniously burnt after the writing, or, as someone here said, it could come back to bite you...that said, I ahve never doen it myself:))

Posted by: istj54 at January 5, 2009 10:42 AM

Re the discussion about the value of a nasty breakup song.

I am in two minds about this myself. When I first read the words "nasty breakup song", I was a bit shocked. I thought it was a horrible idea. I was thinking of those songs that singers/songwriters record that seem more like vitriolic pay-back than personal therapy, as if they are slapping their ex in the face publicly and saying to the public at large, "See, this is what they are really like." (I think this kind of thing is damaging to ourselves as well as others.) But, as someone pointed out, "nasty" could mean different things to different people, and the phrase was just a phrase and didn't explain what the author really intended ... and I suppose if someone has written/recorded the love songs, they might feel it necessary to record the breakup song. An artist's body of work is personal and a reflection of themselves, their feelings and their growth.

In my own experience, sometimes writing has helped, and sometimes it hasn't. Once I wrote down in exquisite detail what I was feeling, how I was hurt and what I wanted to say to my ex ... labouring to get the wording just right. I didn't feel that much better, but I did it anyway and put it in a book and forgot about it. I found it years later, and reading it, I felt every pain I felt when it happened. Maybe, Drifter, this is what you mean by giving it "life". So maybe this meant I had given those feelings a life of their own ... maybe it meant that I hadn't actually gotten over those feelings. Either way, it didn't work as intended in that instance.

Another time I just wrote everything that came into my head in a stream-of-consciousness fashion, until I couldn't write anymore, and I was all cried out. I was exhausted. I re read what I had written and was a bit surprised at what it revealed. It revealed some attitudes I had that probably weren't going to make it easy to move on as well as showing me what I really valued in a relationship. I then destroyed it. I think that time writing definitely helped.

So, my thought as to whether this is valuable is an unequivocal, "It depends." It depends on the motive, the person and probably the method. My own feeling is that a writing like this is intensly personal and not for public consumption. It is probably best left to the person we are at the time and not kept for the person we are to become (ie don't put it in a book :-D ).

Posted by: lafileuse at January 5, 2009 8:15 AM

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 4, 2009 11:53 AM - Um...I don't recall 'telling' you anything - just what works for me. And what many shrinks would suggest.

Keeping them repressed in memory gives them just as much life, if not more, than penning anything down. That's the whole idea of venting in the first place - to take feelings out of the subconcious, bring them to the surface, deal with them and finally begin to heal. I'm not sure what you mean by 'taking ownership' of them - they're already there and you already own them.

Posted by: heart2heart57 at January 4, 2009 6:22 PM

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 4, 2009 11:53 AM
No need to worry so much about others opinions. At least your postings have been your original work, instead of plagiarizing other bloggers. Well, I am not wearing a pair of glasses, so I would not say who have copied my words. But if coping my words or my ideas and then presenting them in anyones own postings would help anyone to win some female admirers, then feel free to do so. But please do understand this word: backfire.
And OBD, other good things about you: you dont put down others to make yourself look good. And you dont even try to compete with anyone or need others to endorse you. And you have initiatives instead of following in when seeing those initiatives are popular. Keep up all these good points. And Good Luck!
(Well, I am not endorsing OBD. Getting to know the real person in the real world is always wise and necessary).

Posted by: ahappyending at January 4, 2009 5:17 PM

right on outbackdrifter.....

allow yourself time to grieve...maybe it will take months/a couple of years, depending on the level of emotional commitment made and expectations

but then you must do yourself a favour...love yourself more than the other, respect yourself and honour yourself, then give yourself the gift of joy and freedom and the possibility of finding happiness again...... sooner rather than later.

Anyway, that is my philosophy...

Colleen

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Posted by: fifilafume at January 4, 2009 5:16 PM

To those who have told me that l should try penning down my feeling to get over the pain of a break up.
If you go check the poam blog you will see one l wrote called Lone Wolf, when I wrote this l was at the lowest point in my whole life & guess what by writing it l dont feel better, it only exstended the wollowing in my own self pity.

the only way to get over these feeling is to take ownship of the feeling by doing that you take away all the power it has :)))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 4, 2009 11:53 AM

Posted by: riversong01 at January 3, 2009 4:01 PM

Riversong, dont think you are the only who has learnt for life journey, Many of us here have been deepest darkest pits of our own souls & look into the jaws of the blackdog & come back a better person but also when we come back from that we see thats hanging onto anger & by penning it down, we give it life & thats were it becomes toxic & fermented nastiness.

In the end you learn to except & embrace it as part of your life journey, in that way you give it no life & then it has no way of poisoning your spirit or soul

By the way lm not talking about you river, this is just my philosophical observation, nothing personal ;)))))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 4, 2009 11:38 AM

Posted by: angela11 at January 3, 2009 11:19 PM

Angela, mistic lady of the north, it is good to hear your imput on this, it is good hear that you see it the way l see it.

penning out of anger, spite is negative & selfish but more then that you are not taking responsibly or ownership of your own part in the down fall of the relationship.

We are the sum total of our live both good & bad, so embrace both & learn from it

Most importantly take responsibly of the effect you have on your own life & on others :))))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 4, 2009 11:18 AM

Posted by: riversong01 at December 31, 2008 9:16 AM
'How can one find on the outside what's missing within? - futile search for the missing part of oneself - one's own heart and feelings'.

I agree with you to a certain extent.
we need to be emotionally aware ... of hurting others, but searching inward can be a life long quest , and even become an excuse. 'Oh. I'm not ready yet because I don't feel complete....or I have to save the family farm first ..or whatever.
this can be misleading and the experts tell us we need to be whole before we can have a worthwhile relationship with another human being. So we read another self help book, because we still don't feel whole, and wonder whats wrong with us.
I don't believe humans were meant to be alone, I believe we are meant to travel life in pairs. (or mates). How many times do we hear, 'my partner completes me'? or 'I feel whole again'
that's because the right mates compliment each other, and that is powerful & healthy. We are not whole, otherwise we wouldn't be human. We are not perfect. I have many faults and my future partner will also.
Often it's simply selfishness which destroys a relationship .
Penning your anger is negative because it validates one emotion only.Why harp on that one? Penning the entire emotional stage of seperation would be more beneficial.
Recognising and confirming the stages of , grief, hurt, anger, remorse etc.. tell yuorself, I' was in a 'hurting' state yesterday and today I'm 'angry', tomorrow I'll see how I feel. You do not choose how to feel under these circumstances, (denial) and no book is that good that it's advise will keep you in a hightened state all day, you'll still find yourself wandering back to the state your in.
But I do agree we are able to change the state we're in under other (more normal ) circumstances in which deep emotions are not at play.
Time is the healer. One day you'll wake & decide the state you want to be in but only when you've gone through the whole gammit.
that is when you have found 'wholeness' ...well as close as we'll ever come to it .
thanks OB for your good wishes in that
'I hope yu find what your looking for" a)

Posted by: angela11 at January 3, 2009 11:19 PM

I knew this guy once, who when in company would go into his little 'quiet' time. People would ask him what the matter was and the answer was always the same, he was fine, no problem, you're so kind etc. He got a lot of attention doing this. Poor fellow, his marriage has broken down etc. However, I didn't see it that way, I saw him as highly manipulative and a bit of a drama queen. When I told him I didn't want to see him any more he wanted to know what he had done and my answer had to be 'nothing'. Simply he had done nothing except satisfy his own self serving manipulative tendencies with me and my friends and annoyed me to distraction. I don't know what perfection is in anything and I don't wish to know what perfection is as it will stop people striving higher. I only know that I either get on really well with a person or not. I think using the perfection word is ridiculous as there is no leveller, only a stronger and weaker and many people use it as a highly manipulative tool. This is life folks, not a silly soap opera.

Posted by: iaminperth at January 3, 2009 8:02 PM

Why not listen to the multitude of happy songs that are available and walk and discover new things and colours. Why wallow in self pity, what's the point. Take the opportunity to make yourself a better person instead of gleaning attention thru being a miserable old so and so. Get out, learn from it and move on. Do something nice for another person. Some of this stuff written looks like the manipulative stuff soap operas are written about.

Posted by: iaminperth at January 3, 2009 7:54 PM

I turned my last love song ("Warnambool Train") into its opposite after a not nice ending a few months ago. I just let it all out and let it all go (uncensored)! It was so funny - made me laugh!! Not that I would ever show it to him (hope he’s not reading this!) But I felt much relieved and lighter afterwards. A good ranting might be akin to a good cry :)

Posted by: riversong01 at January 3, 2009 4:29 PM

Outbackdrifter NO NEED TO YELL!
Just because people disagree, doesn't mean they haven't heard you.

What I've learnt - life consists of duality - day and night, winter and summer, light and shadow. Deny half, and it becomes two dimensional.

But each to their own, who am I to preach...
Enjoy. Suffer in silence, if you will!

Aquamamanda - you are right, that which we give attention to and dwell on grows. But that which is repressed and denied stews even bigger ;)

Nothing so toxic as fermented nastiness! It has a bad way of leaking out or projecting onto innocent people. (Not talking about you OBD, just a philosophical observation in general, nothing personal.)

Posted by: riversong01 at January 3, 2009 4:01 PM

OBD, Listening to someone else's 'Nasty break up Song' may not help at all. Writing your own might help, but I think what your getting at is the "Nasty" part. A second Nasty doesn't fix the first nasty, just makes a double Nasty.
And then again, just to be complicated, depends how the original poster of the comment was using the word "Nasty". It could be used to mean "mean" or it could be used in a more modern sense, meaning "wicked, cool, bad, intense".

Anyway, there is some merit in writing down feelings to get them out of your head, be it poetry or song. Though I would think that by repeating those feelings of pain, hurt, disappointment, anger about someone you have broken up with to other people over and over would indicate that that person still has a hold on you.

Just my wonderings on a gorgeous day... out into the garden I go!

Posted by: aquamanda56 at January 3, 2009 2:39 PM

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 2, 2009 4:20 PM - For the reasons already mentioned, OBD. Of course, if there's nothing 'nasty' to write about, then it could be about love, loss, great times together or any other emotion that's sitting there deep down, brooding away. 'Venting' is all about bringing things to the surface and 'letting them out'.

I find a wonderful sense of release sometimes when I do it. It also helps me to get things out of the 'denial' phase so that I can begin healing. And some things just hurt, period. They may forever - it's the price we pay for being sensitive, and I accept that these days. Others may not understand my feelings, and that used to frustrate the hell out of me.

But then I started to realise that they are my own perfectly valid feelings, and that others may operate on a different emotional level to me. And that's ok too. I slowly began to find peace once I saw myself in this light. I've got a long way to go yet - maybe there isn't even a 'destination' for this one at all. Just a long journey of learning and growth for my inner child...

Posted by: heart2heart57 at January 3, 2009 11:00 AM

I lay on my bed on boxing day nursing my poor broken foot, turned the air con on full blast and watched the Rolling Stones Bigger Bang tour on DVD. Texas, Brazil, Japan and China, well if that wasn't musical healing nothing is. Felt really good afterwards, had a snooze and buzzed along good as gold.

Posted by: iaminperth at January 2, 2009 11:11 PM

Posted by: riversong01 at December 31, 2008 9:16 AM
Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 30, 2008 11:56 PM

Both of you are missing the point of my post, now go back & read it again & think again

Gday mate, just out of interested how would writing a" VERY NASTY BREAKUP SONG " ( yes l know lm shouting ) be great therapy for us who are getting over the pain of breaking up ?

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 22, 2008 11:52 PM

Posted by: outbackdrifter at January 2, 2009 4:20 PM

Outbackdrifter - repressing bad feelings is poison for your soul and spirit. Like feeling nauseous - the bad stuff has to come out somehow, or it will make you sick. If people can't allow themselves to feel the bad stuff, you'll be also numb to the good.

Emotional release doesn't have to hurt others - you can always punch pillows, have a good cry, burn words or just scream. Constructively, it can be used as a good thing - I've just taken my angst out on the garden - weeding and pulling out things that choke what I'd rather nurture - very therapeutic, as well as symbolic!! ;)

What I've noticed in RSVP (not talking about you, just people I've met) - too many people with "stiff upper lips" seeking to fill their glass of dirty water with something new and nourishing, without tipping out the old bad stuff first. Equals emotional numbness and unavailability. Even when the "find what they are looking for", they have no room in their hearts and wouldn't have a clue what to do with it!

How can one find on the outside what's missing within? - futile search for the missing part of oneself - one's own heart and feelings.

Posted by: riversong01 at December 31, 2008 9:16 AM

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 30, 2008 9:25 PM - 'Venting' is a technique often employed to dissipate anger during therapy. For until the anger is gone, healing can be difficult to achieve. In my opinion, pent up anger and bitterness are more damaging to the spirit and soul than they are good.

Sometimes 'letting go' is the key to the lock that holds us back from moving forward. Everyone has their own way of dealing with grief. There is no magic right way or wrong way. We do what we feel is right for us.

Singers and songwriters have been using music as a means of healing for centuries. Sharing their ordeals through song and verse has often helped them through difficult times, or helped someone else along the way by identifying that they aren't alone in their thoughts and feelings.

Some of the greatest songs, including love songs, have their roots in personal tragedy. Others simply collate the sounds of Nature to promote tranquillity. At the end of the day, it doesn't really matter what method works - so long as it helps.

May we all find peace and happiness in whichever route we take to mend a broken heart...

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 30, 2008 11:56 PM

Words are incredibly powerful tools - they can be used to share meanings, hurt or heal. Totally agree with heart2heart on the therapeutic effects of expressing them on paper. Nothing like pouring out the turmoil in one's soul through song, prose, poetry!

Lyrics aside, sound and music itself is a form of energy/vibration that definitely has an impact on people. It can energise, move your feet, move your heart, stir your emotions...

The most healing CD I have is "Daintree Rainforest Soundscape" - no music, just all the incredible sounds of nature - different tracks at dawn, dusk, in the rain - birds, frogs, water, other things - very soothing, healing and uplifting.

I know music affects animals too. A restive horse I used to ride for a splash to the beach would settle down beautifully to the sound of my singing. What song did he like best? Joni Mitchell's "Oh Lord, won't you buy me a Mercedes Benz"! Maybe because it was usually accompanied by laughter :)

Posted by: riversong01 at December 30, 2008 10:07 PM

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 30, 2008 7:57 PM

Well this is were you & l disagree, As far as I can see penning a " very nasty breakup song" is never heathly & in the end it only hurts your spirit & soul

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 30, 2008 9:25 PM

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 22, 2008 11:52 PM - Sometimes penning our thoughts helps to cleanse the soul OBD. Even writing out all your 'bad thoughts' can be a lifting experience. No-one has to read them - you can always bin it afterwards.

But the act of brain-dumping our thoughts on paper can be quite therapeutic. I'd reckon most of the 'powerful' songs out there are reflections of what the songwriters may have been going through at the time.

Maybe you'd like to give it a shot sometime - no-one else need ever read it or even know that you've tried it. It might just turn out to be a helpful tonic sometime :)

Cheers.

T:)

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 30, 2008 7:57 PM

Hi all hope you had a very cheery christmas.

I think it's not only the listening to music but the singing with the music to something which you are spiritually attached with.
I don't know for sure but I think singing has the same chemical effect on us as laughing.
For one thing it gets the 02 going in our systems and 02 is great for calming, stabalising, cleansing, allowing our brains to produce endorphines.

Have a great new year everyone. :)) a

Posted by: angela11 at December 29, 2008 8:23 AM

Yes I do believe that music can be healing for a wounded heart, soul, mind and/or body. There is something spiritual about music (whether classic, jazz or rock) that affects us all in different ways - it can calm an anxious person, relieve tension in another, allow some to release their pent up emotions or even help others to sleep.

The key to "healing" music is finding what helps you - ie classical to calm you or a sad ballad to help you cry etc

Posted by: aggy1970 at December 28, 2008 7:19 PM

Posted by: gcguitarist at December 21, 2008 12:56 AM

Gday mate, just out of interested how would writing a very nasty breakup song be great therapy for us who are getting over the pain of breaking up ?

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 22, 2008 11:52 PM

Posted by: gcguitarist at December 21, 2008 12:56 AM

Sounds great hun would to hear them.. Its has also worked wonders for me not only in just relationships but understand who I am also., and the recording process is so creative in my two times, it was the ultimate creative best experience for me ever, apart from my children of course.

All the best for chrissy..
:)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 21, 2008 12:41 PM

Hi all,

I just completed the lyrics to my own very nasty breakup song. It was a cathartic experience. I did it as part of my processing and I feel great for it. It has more sting that Robbie Williams' "Sexed Up" and more bite than John Mayer's "I Gonna Find Another You".

Am going to write the music and record it through the week.

I suggest it as a great therapy for anyone feeling a little pain from a breakup. Keep smiling.

Cheers,

Guitarist

Posted by: gcguitarist at December 21, 2008 12:56 AM

Posted by: enchantinel at December 16, 2008 6:19 PM - Capo on 2: G, A7sus4, Cadd9, Dsus-D-Dsus2-D....on the twangy Taki 6 *noice* :)))

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 16, 2008 11:37 PM

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 14, 2008 7:28 PM

Turn up the amp hun lets get this jam on the road we have piano's vocals, guitars, tribal drums now all we need is a harmonica any takers??

Lets start with Indigo Girls
Closer to fine...

I'm trying to tell you something about my life
maybe give me insight between black and white
and the best thing you've ever done for me
is to help me take my life less seriously
it's only life after all
yeah

well darkness has a hunger that's insatiable
and lightness has a call that's hard to hear
I wrap my fear around me like a blanket
I sailed my ship of safety till I sank it
I'm crawling on your shores

I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains
I looked to the children, I drank from the fountains
there's more than one answer to these questions
pointing me in a crooked line
and the less I seek my source for some definitive
(the less I seek my source)
the closer I am to fine
the closer I am to fine

and I went to see the doctor of philosophy
with a poster of Rasputin and a beard down to his knee
he never did marry or see a b-grade movie
he graded my performance, he said he could see through me
I spent four years prostrate to the higher mind
got my paper and I was free

I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains
I looked to the children, I drank from the fountains
there's more than one answer to these questions
pointing me in a crooked line
the less I seek my source for some definitive
(the less I seek my source)
the closer I am to fine
the closer I am to fine

I stopped by the bar at 3 a.m.
to seek solace in a bottle or possibly a friend
and I woke up with a headache like my head against a board
twice as cloudy as I'd been the night before
and I went in seeking clarity.

I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains
I looked to the children, I drank from the fountains
yeah we go to the doctor, we go to the mountains
we look to the children, we drink from the fountains
yeah we go to the bible, we go through the workout
we read up on revival and we stand up for the lookout
there's more than one answer to these questions
pointing me in a crooked line
the less I seek my source for some definitive
(the less I seek my source)
the closer I am to fine
the closer I am to fine
the closer I am to fine

:)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 16, 2008 6:19 PM

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 13, 2008 5:28 PM - Hmmmm... interesting thought, that.

But I find I can listen quite well while I'm playing. Actually, it's more than that - I can *feel* the music within me as well as feel the resonation of the guitar or the rebound of the sticks on the drums.

The general gist of what I was saying though was more along that lines that it's sad that there aren't more 'musos' around. I love playing, but don't really have anyone to 'jam' with - it's so much more fun if you can get a group together who simply play music for sheer joy of participating :)

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 14, 2008 7:28 PM

Posted by: marika56 at December 13, 2008 6:23 PM ~

Hi Marika, I relate to what you're saying regarding release & self expression with music. I studied classical piano for about six years. I loved it for many reasons but the teacher was horrid, cruel & violent. My passion, love & enjoyment for music has overcome the past. It's now a bitter sweet memory.

I'm writing this listening to Messiah :))))

Gentle Blessings SF

Posted by: softfeather at December 14, 2008 1:17 PM

Posted by: marika56 at December 13, 2008 6:23 PM

Hi Marika, I agree hun classical music is related to mathematics connects the brain waves, left and right integrates them. When I did my education degree I studied music and philosophy subjects. Its great to use with kids, differing styles for children's needs, rest or play or indeed to concentrate which classical is good for concentration..
Your playing sounds lovely, its a gift a blessing and a curse I find at times in my life, it can become an obsession when writing and recording.
:)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 13, 2008 9:25 PM

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 13, 2008 4:17 PM

Its a bit like "If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?"

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 13, 2008 6:26 PM

I play piano (I was trained in classical piano so I do not play anything commertial) - when I play I am expressing myself through the music I choose to play.

When I am listening to music I am using it to support my good mood or to improve my mood when I am on the down side. Listening and playing has different effect on me and there are times when I feel I have to play to 'heal', and times when I am unable to play but need to just sit back and listen to my music.

Apparently, classical music HAS a healing effect on humans - especially Classical music: Bach in particular.

I personally find it calming when I am very stressed or anxious listening to certain worship music (Hillsongs).

I also find relaxing to listen to some piano music, flute, violine.

At the gym the 'beat' of the techno motivates me to work harder, makes me more energetic.

At other times listening to Pink Floid, Celine Dion, Norah Jones, Bee Gees, Simon and Garfunkle, Bony Taylor, ect (I like lots of different songs and artists) helps me to get in touch with my feelings.

I do not think I could without music...

Posted by: marika56 at December 13, 2008 6:23 PM

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 13, 2008 4:17 PM

H2H, maybe, very hard to play & listen at the same time, Yes that would be a real hoot but ifeveryone was playing who would truly listen ? :)

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 13, 2008 5:28 PM

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 13, 2008 4:35 AM - Players are good listeners too yanno. If the world was full of players, we could all have one massive jam together. Now, wouldn't that be hoot??

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 13, 2008 4:17 PM

Posted by: gcguitarist at December 12, 2008 10:36 AM

Yes, lm shore this is true, there are two types of people in music world Players & listeners and I for myself are content to listen to the players play and appreciate the music they make, for if we were all players this world would be a very boring place :))))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 13, 2008 4:35 AM

Posted by: gcguitarist at December 12, 2008 10:36 AM

I posted a reply hun but it went to the love song blog, dont ask me how.. Do you perform still?? I havent for a few years now yet love to again one day and love jam sessions hehe.
:)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 12, 2008 10:11 PM

Actually performing music is a far more powerful therapy than merely listening to it.

Cheers,

gcguitarist

Posted by: gcguitarist at December 12, 2008 10:36 AM

Posted by: ahappyending at December 11, 2008 2:57 PM

Thankyou hun what will be will be the solitude has taught me well, yet you are right part of you can begin to die in solitude that is why I went home to the mainland after 5 and a half years of solitude with a small break in between to give birth to my youngest. It is a very creative time and a period of growth but when it serves its purpose in your life its time to return to community, sometimes we need the stillness to find ourselves again. I love both worlds yet city is too fast for me, I do love to visit tho. I now live most of the time on mainland and have chosen the mountains for its sense of community and this is my last visit to this place. Its closure for me moving on with the next chapter when I return it will be my children that come back here without me next time.
May all your dreams come to fruition too, life has its own way of weaving the tapestry its all good and it all evens out in the end I believe.
:)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 11, 2008 4:16 PM

Posted by: waternymph47 at December 11, 2008 2:13 PM

Try swimming in the rain too hun, its the most beautiful experience, floating with soft rain falling on your body great for in the ocean or a lovely river which is my experience.. Its very sensory and the feeling of water its quite warm too..
:)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 11, 2008 4:09 PM

Posted by: enchantinel at December 11, 2008 2:22 PM
Yes, I love Secret Garden. Dont know how to describe it. Haunting, yes, but something more. :0) And it sounds like you are living in paradise. :0) But, I, also, love a city life more, that is how I have grown up and lived all my life. That silence in darkness can really kill me (the word kill is a bit exaggerating, but something similar). I love colourful lights, shops, that I can go out anytime when I want to after dinners, though I love reading at night most of time, yes with music at the background. :0) But once a while, I would like it to sit out in a paradise like yours. :0) To see the stars, to smell the fresh dropped leaves, or to let my face kissed by the cool fresh air. Saw your poem in the Song Topic. Hope your dream comes true very soon. :0)

Posted by: ahappyending at December 11, 2008 2:57 PM

Your welcome hun they have a hauntingly beautiful sound I came across living in outer Melbourne years ago I was teaching kindergarten and use to play secret garden at rest time. The children responded so well to the sounds they tend to respond well to earthy natural sounds stringed instruments in high c pitches, violin etc. I used it also with my children as babies and still do we play music every evening whilst reading stories, we are not into much tv in our house it tends to stifle creativity and calm, music I find is incredibly calming and soothing and sleep enhancing for children.(songs from a secret garden is my favourite cd along with Loreena McKennitt book of secrets) It goes very well with the view here from my farm in Tassi looking out to the hills and surrounded by mountains and river.

I have a similar connection to country as Birds of Paradise has to city, it resonates with me the most, yet love to visit city I find it doesnt vibrate well and I need to get back to stillness after a few days..
:)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 11, 2008 2:22 PM

Is it just me ? .... or do other people feel like stepping out into the tropical rain, doing their own Gene Kelly interpretation of Singing In The Rain ??? :-)

Posted by: waternymph47 at December 11, 2008 2:13 PM

hey, i'm city-sider, love funky metropolitan....crowed places, polluted air, traffic, busy streets, unknown neighbour strangers, street-wise, so name it. In Yankees (New Yorkers)... yeah,...street loud music, break dance in the street to earn dollarsbucks, glamorous, beggars, selling fake Rolex on the street, and other fake designer things just to follow the trend, flashes expensive cars ... pretty woman ladies shows off,botox,copy cats famous actors, plastic surgery,...Oh yeah that's normal things....so many things to say but moderator's in censorship...so sealed my lips....

Posted by: birdsofparadise at December 8, 2008 9:22 PM

WHO (in the right mind) can resists grooving along with Mr Superbad (with cape and all, able to stop riots with a single "ugggh!") - The Sex Machine - Mr James Brown (RIP)

Only Elvis had more chart hits ...

Whatever you play - MAKE IT FUNKY!

Posted by: eccehomoergo at December 8, 2008 1:10 PM

Posted by: birdsofparadise at December 8, 2008 8:47 AM

Arrrr Yes the only way to drive :))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 8, 2008 9:52 AM

Hi Outbackdriffer, got few head bagging stuff cd into girly pink/fuschia Mazda 6 sporty. euwww hehe.

Posted by: birdsofparadise at December 8, 2008 8:47 AM

Posted by: birdsofparadise at December 7, 2008 6:04 AM

its nice to know that lm not the only one going broke trying to set up the perfect sound system, the only real problem I have is that am trying to shoe horn it all into a Land Rover

And yes your right music cures all ills :)))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 7, 2008 4:59 PM

Posted by: ahappyending at December 7, 2008 12:19 AM

Your still suprising me :)

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 7, 2008 4:52 PM

Music is biggest part of my religion, not to the extend of faith I should say...I spend heaps of good expensive sound speakers to listen every beat of notes of song, sang by my fav artist, few of them to mention. I'm music lovers, Watching a lived musical concert is one of my foremost therapist during my bad hair day.

Posted by: birdsofparadise at December 7, 2008 6:04 AM

Thanks, enchantinel for mentioning Secret Garden in the Music topic. Their music is very soothing, both musical instruments and vocals being combined so enchantingly (:0) I borrow part of your name). I would recommend their Prayer for calming/soothing/healing effect:

Prayer (Secret Garden)
Let your arms enfold us
Through the dark of night
Will your angels hold us
Till we see the light

Hush - lay down your troubled mind
The day has vanished and left us behind
And the wind - whispering soft lullabies
Will soothe - so close your eyes

Let your arms enfold us
Through the dark of night
Will your angels hold us
Till we see the light

Sleep - angels will watch over you
And soon beautiful dreams will come true
Can you feel spirits embracing your soul
So dream while secrets of darkness unfold

Let your arms enfold us
Through the dark of night
Will your angels hold us
Till we see the light

Posted by: ahappyending at December 7, 2008 12:19 AM

Posted by: angela11 at December 5, 2008 11:29 PM

Suzy Q, the pocket rocket of the 60 & the 70, I saw her live in the early 80s at the cellar bar at the west ryde hotel, bloody brilliant and a heartthrob to boot :)))))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 6, 2008 5:54 PM

Posted by: angela11 at December 5, 2008 11:44 PM

Joan Jet & Black hearts, now there a blast from our heavy rock past :))

Posted by: outbackdrifter at December 6, 2008 5:45 PM

Posted by: angela11 at December 5, 2008 11:44 PM - No probs Anj... and ta for the song.

"E's not the Messia... e's just a very naughty boy..."

:)

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 6, 2008 9:37 AM

When my son was a baby and was fighting his tiredness, I would hold him close to me and sing to him, in a short time he would fall asleep. I believe it was a combination of my voice and the reverberation he could feel in my chest. As he grew older, I would tuck him in to bed and start singing and like clockwork, he would close his eyes and fall asleep. He's almost 11yo and doesn't need me to sing him to sleep anymore. Sometimes, when the radio is on and a song I know comes on, I start to sing and within moments my son will appear and join me... Just the other day I was humming the 'Twelve days of Christmas' to myself and next minute he's there singing it.
I think that's a pretty cool bond we share.

Posted by: egernia at December 6, 2008 9:15 AM

H2 ... I am corrected your mesiahship... it was Joan Jett which recorded your song... and here it is for you . )

Joan Jett I Love Rock n' Roll Lyrics:

I saw him dancin' there by the record machine
I knew he must a been about seventeen
The beat was goin' strong
Playin' my favorite song
An' I could tell it wouldn't be long
Till he was with me, yeah me and i could it
wouldn't be long untill he was with me
yeah me singin'

I love rock n' roll
So put another dime in the jukebox, baby
I love rock n' roll
So come an' take your time an' dance with me

He smiled so I got up and' asked for his name
That don't matter, he said,
'Cause it's all the same
[ Find more Lyrics at www.mp3lyrics.org/fiM ]

Said can I take you home
where we can be alone

An' next we were movin' on
He was with me, yeah me

Next we were movin' on
He was with me, yeah me, singin'

I love rock n' roll
So put another dime in the jukebox, baby
I love rock n' roll
So come an' take your time an' dance with me

Said can I take you home
where we can be alone

An we'll be movin' on
An' singin' that same old song
Yeah with me, singin'

I love rock n' roll
So put another dime in the jukebox, baby
I love rock n' roll
So come an' take your time an' dance with me

Posted by: angela11 at December 5, 2008 11:44 PM

H2.. don't know how to break this to ya but .. it's a Suzie Q : )

Well at the age of five
they can do their jive
down in Devil Gate Drive.
And at the age of six they're
gonna get their kicks
down in Devil Gate Drive.
Well your mama don't know
where your sister done go
she gone down to the drive she's
the start of the show
and let her move on up
let her come let her go
she can jive.

Down in Devil Gate Drive
So come alive
come alive

down in Devil Gate Drive
So come alive
come alive

down in Devil Gate
down in Devil Gate
down in Devil Gate Drive.
Down in Devil Gate
[ Find more Lyrics at www.mp3lyrics.org/MKH8 ]
down in Devil Gate
down in Devil Gate Drive.

When they reach their
teens that's when they all
get mean
down in Devil Gate Drive

When I was sweet sixteen I
was the juke box queen
down in Devil Gate Drive.
I led the angel pack on the road to sin
knock down the gates let me in
let me in

don't mess me round
'cause you know where 1' ve
been to the dive.

Down in Devil Gate Drive . . .

Ooh come alive
come alive
come alive
Well your Mama don't know
where your sister done go
she gone down to the drive she's
the start of the show
and let her move on up
let her come let her go
she can )lve.
Down in Devil Gate drive . . .

Posted by: angela11 at December 5, 2008 11:29 PM

Posted by: angela11 at December 5, 2008 9:05 PM - Close.. Joan Jett.. but Suzi Q is kewl too :)))

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 5, 2008 10:01 PM

H2... Would that be the juke box down in Devil Gate Drive.. )

Posted by: angela11 at December 5, 2008 9:05 PM

"I love rock'n'roll....put another dime in the juke-box baby..."

Posted by: heart2heart57 at December 5, 2008 1:07 AM

Posted by: angela11 at December 4, 2008 9:59 PM

Thanks for that hun, shes arrived safely :)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 4, 2008 10:36 PM

Posted by: enchantinel at December 3, 2008 10:19 PM

Nel, my daughter went to Japan for 3 weeks when in grd nine wth 5 others kids & one teacher.
They were billated seperatly in each city and had to find their way across town on public transport to meet their teacher at a designated place by a cetain time. in pairs.
We heard from her only once. But what a great experience it was.
Thats when she discovered her leadership skills.
They all managed just fine and returned safely. A )

Posted by: angela11 at December 4, 2008 9:59 PM

This is the luxury of music, it touches every key of memory and stirs all the hidden springs of sorrow and of joy. I love it for what it makes me forget, and for what it makes me remember.

Posted by: friend16 at December 4, 2008 8:37 PM

Posted by: waternymph47 at December 4, 2008 10:53 AM

Thats so beautiful, I believe they remember the same songs and little rituals too. My son is married yet no children and my daughter has been living out of home for a while now, yet we are very close and this is her first overseas visit without me..At her age I was already a mother and Im blessed that she is following her dreams and a seeker in life she stands alone and follows her heart. (waiting on word to hear she has arrived safe and well tho)
:))) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 4, 2008 6:32 PM

Who said Western Medicine refuses to recognise the benefits of Music Therapy?
It has long been a part of treatments .
It cannot "heal" in the sense of cure but it can contribute to a recovery in some diseases. It is very beneficially used for palliative care and for Alzheimers sufferers..
Music Therapy is a wonderful tool for the behavioural management of Dementia, especially in the advanced stage.The sense of hearing is the last sense to be lost (for any dying person) and music may be the only form of communication left to reach the person and to bring some meaning, connection and pleasure back to them.

Certain music, individually tailored for the person by their era and known tastes prior to illness and played at key times during the day or evening can eliminate much misery for all concerned by eliciting good responses to stimuli instead of bad.
There are funny/sad stories such as playing the national anthem to get an ex soldier to stand up while dressing, to poignant such as an elderly woman, who has no other connection with the world , moving her feet in dance steps when dance music from her era was played.
Alzheimers sufferers are unable to store new memories and also gradually lose all memory as the brain closes down cell by cell starting with wiping the most recent memory first. Hence she was still able to process a musical memory from 60 years ago.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at December 4, 2008 5:51 PM

My little girl flew the nest at 17 with several trips back over 3 yrs ... then she moved interstate.
Now at 31 she is a Mum and I delight in the time I can spend with her and our Gorgeous baby boy .. I notice she sings all the songs and Nursery Rhymes to him that I once sang to her.
It's most gratifying to see the things you did for your own children passed on by them to their children.
Ive become once again the wise mother, she and her teenage friends knew they could ask anything of, and always recieve an answer. Now it is she and her friends as young Mums who value my opinons on child rearing!

Posted by: waternymph47 at December 4, 2008 10:53 AM

Posted by: kurli at December 3, 2008 9:23 PM
Posted by: ahappyending at December 3, 2008 1:57 PM

Thanks guys I know she will be fine its just the mothering thing it is hard to let go.. She was having a ball when I left and there are 250 of them going so shes not alone...
:)) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 3, 2008 10:19 PM

enchantinel @ 12.51pm........
It takes a great deal of courage to loosen the proverbial apron strings and let our babies "fly the nest"....
I am only back home some 3 weeks from a wonderful month spent travelling in Japan.
I wish for your daughter a journey that will produce many happy memories.
Japan was all.....and more than I could wish for.I LOVED it all.

Posted by: kurli at December 3, 2008 9:23 PM

Posted by: enchantinel at December 3, 2008 12:51 PM
Wishing your daughter a safe and joyful journey. Japan is a place worth visiting. Take some books or magazines with her, if she would like, and, if Japanese is not a language that she is familiar with. Not very easy to come upon publications in English, there. And watch the wallet, :0) this is joking, but you know so many pretty things there that girls can hardly resist. :0)

Posted by: ahappyending at December 3, 2008 1:57 PM

Whilst I am sitting waiting for my beautiful 17 year old daughter to arrive, I listen to music.. I remember singing to her as a foetus as I have all my children, to have them remember the song sung to them after birth and indeed into their teens. She is off to Japan tonight first time away from me overseas, I shall play music that will resonate that connection we feel even across the water on the opposite sides of the world... Music whether it be from the birds in the trees to the wind that blows gently on the soul, rhythms of nature, or that we play, singing creating beautiful vibrations we send out to the universe, music will live on in our hearts forever..
Our babies grow up so quickly, too quickly then they find their own song in life to sing..As my baby girl is today...( :(( )
Blessings Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 3, 2008 12:51 PM

i find that I if i can get some of my favourites on while I am driving, especially driving to work, or to customer /project meetings...music helps lift my mood, (especially while driving to work/meetings) sooo if any old favs like Guns and roses, billy idol, dire straits, billy joel, abba, Rob thomas, pink elvis, dusty, rod stewart, robbie williams, chris isaaks, kate cerebrano.....stuff I can either sing with, or know the chorus to, really gives me a lift. Plus the more the music rocks, the faster I get to work....must be a connection between the music part of the brain and lead foot....or does the XR6 also like rock...lol....it works for me...have a lovely day all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 3, 2008 8:47 AM

Yes, so true, cant imagine living in a world of no music. :0)
For soothing effect, my best favourites are:
Healing Medley (by Richard Clayderman)
Greensleeves (by David Nevue)

Sometimes, I have them being played in the background for a whole night without stopping. :0) A bit idiot? Yes, I am.

Actually there are more than these two for me, :0) but I think I will let others to recommend first now.

Posted by: ahappyending at December 2, 2008 9:17 PM

Not to mention it has the capacity to change the way we think and influence us individually and ultimately on mass.
after all it's an attitude which can define who we are. .. and ain't it great to meet prople who share the same loves in musical genres.
A

Posted by: angela11 at December 2, 2008 8:54 PM

I'd be lost without my music .. sometimes I'm happy to just listen to the peace and quiet and the birds in the trees .. but I have music to suit every mood in my CD collection.
I added more to my collection during my short stint as a Volunteer DJ on Community radio ... in an effort to keep my programs interesting and varied.
I think gentle back ground music while dining or in a romantic setting is just great .. Soft lights soft music ...

One other volunteer job has been working with Elderly & disabled and with some clients .. music on the radio in the bus was a must... even better for some .. a sing along to pass the miles with smiles.

One of my clients with Altzheimers was most soothed by the gentle rythmic lapping of waves on the shore so I often took her to the beach for an outing ... it works for me too!
As for the above mentioned ailments that music can alleviate .. I suppose the occasional bouts of dancing I do are a help to alleviate pain and stiffness of arthritis ... move it or lose it (Or sieze up) :-)
I have also watched some people who were deeply depressed .. come out of themselves and participate in drumming in a Therapy group to great personal benefit!

Posted by: waternymph47 at December 2, 2008 6:32 PM

My favourite blog so far and I am first wooooo hooooo. I so love music its my life my expression my journey my soul and my healing all wrapped up in one. I have written music since I was a little girl, I listen to and respect all genres, I cant imagine music without life and life without music. For me its my world and that I both give and receive in gift from the universe. I find I resonate with differing styles of music depending on my needs, bellydancing its middle eastern, meditating its calming, rock music, jazz to dance and rejoice, dark music and classical to touch that shadow side of myself...Bless music...Life is truly magickal when the beauty of music touches your soul....
:))) Nel

Posted by: enchantinel at December 2, 2008 11:56 AM