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Actually I reckon you're wrong. 30 is still so youthful, so inexperienced, so unworldly...I think I was living in Amsterdam at the time. I reckon 40 is the real turning point - you know the old adage. Despite the fact that during my 40s my marriage shattered, it was an excellent decade, one in which I gained my self-esteem and mastered (mistressed?) my connection with self. Now I'm in my 50s...wow, that's another experience again. When did you say Saturn dropped in for a glass of Savvy Blanc?

Posted by: dilettente06 at February 12, 2010 11:13 PM

when i was turning 30 i throught i was turning 29, i didnt work it out untill next year, by then i was turning 31, bit late to worry about it then. So i kinder missed it

Posted by: justlittleme3 at December 2, 2009 9:34 PM

I totally agree, I can't explain to everyone why I am so excited about turning 30 (just did a week ago LOL), feels like I am finally working out where everything in my life that has happened (the good, the bad & the ugly), has happened for a reason and it's all becoming clear why I was put on this earth!
Woohoo to 30's - happy times ahead!!!

Posted by: lioness3cubs at August 5, 2009 8:58 PM

I turned 30 in February and had no fear going into it. My best girlfriends are all between 34 and 39. And knowing them for 4 years or more, had many discussions about their 30's in comparison to their 20's plus the pleasure of watching them turn into amazing, successful, mature and beautiful women in their 30's.

At 30 things become easier and we are more self sufficient, confident and have a much better idea of who we are and what we want. There is some anxiety and confusion that comes in when we try to do things like we did in our 20's and find it just doesn't work anymore. Getting ourselves accustomed to the new approach is where the lessons learned, chaos and confusion is centered around. Once we figure out what does work, we sail through stronger than ever. :)
Loving being 30 so far!

Posted by: ravencurls at May 26, 2009 4:27 PM

Apply these 3 simple rules daily & note the changes in yourlife.
1 Every thought a loving thought
2 Every word a loving word
3 Every deed a loving deed
Universal law of attraction dictates in doing so every day you experience will be full of love...enjoy

Posted by: justb4me at May 26, 2009 12:32 AM

I'm turning 30 in a few months and previously I was dreading it but not anymore. I am looking forward to what my 30's will bring me with excitement and not morbidity. I am sure like all of us I am hoping it will finally mean I will meet my Mr right (I know you must be out there!) but I am also looking forward to any other challenge that life will through at me.

I also believe that age does not have anythink to do with maturity as I believe we are all individuals and reach it at different stages of our life.

Posted by: poldark79 at April 14, 2009 1:11 AM

I must of been a late bloomer because I think my 40s were the best, I gained full independence and matured the most. 50 is what I dreaded turning. Remember you are only a day older then yesterday, take one day at a time. It is all a bonus.

I think it is your attitude to life that matters and how you live it, not your age.
Saying that, the imagine in the mirror is disappointing.
Kaz

Posted by: kazmaree at March 19, 2009 7:01 PM

I too like chookygirl dreaded turning thirty but now I am loving it, I am happy with who I am, it is a time where I have found myself and done so many interesting things!
my 30s so far have been an exciting phase of my life

Posted by: tofuisgood at February 7, 2009 3:35 PM

I have to say I dreaded turning 30, but on the day I did, I woke up and felt so excited to be starting a new phase, and I have loved the 30's ever since! I feel so much happier in my skin, more relaxed, balanced, stronger, not trying to be someone I am not, just ....... better! Life definately began at 30 for me, so now I am looking forward to 40 lol!

Posted by: chookygirl1 at January 25, 2009 11:45 PM

Wow. It's interesting to see that so many people experience such similar feelings in their 30s. I too turn 31 this year and have really noticed a difference compared to my 20s. At the time, my 20s were laborious. Now when I look back, they were so much fun! I had such little worries. Guys came and went but friends seemed to hang around. We were all single then of course. Now it is much harder to find those special people, people whom we really want to be in our lives. People who add value to our lives and whom we add value to their lives. Amanda - you are right about baggage and how much hard work it is to find that someone who is on the same path as you. We can only have faith though that somewhere out there is that special someone :-)

Posted by: ruthee at January 15, 2009 9:36 PM

It's hard for women reaching thirty, their breasts begin a journey, destination their feet. Blokes begin balding, and both crave for their youth rather thans see, with age comes a sweetness like the ripening of a fruit.

Posted by: convoluted at January 9, 2009 3:12 PM

Chasingdaylight - Happy Birthday in advance :)

Posted by: willow29 at December 3, 2008 8:54 PM

I'll say goodbye to my 30s in a couple of days and greet 31. Do i feel a lot more mature now and most importantly, have i embarked on the true beginning of adulthood?

As much as i would like to say that age plays a part in maturity let alone a right of a passage, i feel it's the experiences that we go through that truly shapes the type of maturity we possess and the eventual path that leads us to attracting the right man/woman.

I look back on my experiences and although there were painful and some extremely difficult. It was when i let go and try to understand the hidden meaning behind all of it, that it presented a lesson that was enriching and at the same time, humbling!

I recently signed up for RSVP and remain hopeful that age 31 will bring a new taste of life and the experience of sharing it with someone else! :)

Posted by: chasingdaylight at December 3, 2008 7:23 PM

I turned 30 this year and believe me it is a scary thought to be 30 and just recently single. All my friends are now either married or just about to, and are planning babies, etc. so I find not only do I not have a life partner on my side, I'm also missing my gal pals as they have already moved on and now have different interests to mine.

As for maturity, I got held up at the airport a few times this year because they didn't believe I looked 30 and thought my passport was a fake. It was such a hassle to proove that my ID was legitimate and I suppose it wasn't the right time then to recommend the beauty products I use, hehe.

Anyway, I'm sick of younger guys chatting me up and guessing their age, that's why I thought it would be better here as everyone is upfront about their age. I've listed that I'm interested in guys in the 30-35 age range, but why then do I keep getting contact from guys in their 40s?

Posted by: sweetharmonie at November 30, 2008 10:41 PM

I remember when I was 29 having a bit of a down time, suddenly wondering what had happened to my life... but i moved on into my 30's.

My 30's were too full of the needs of my family and for a long time seemed to go from one meal to the next, all day feeding faces...children, partner, cat, dog,bird and then it started all over again!

By the time I reached 35 I started to see some life coming back although now I was 'the taxi'. I had school hours to do new things and eventually started part time work. I was looking forward to my 40th and being able do so much more, to return to being me. Unfortunately it didn't turn out to be as joyful as I had hoped

However, now I am in my 50's, independent and strong. I have achieved a lot in the past 6 yrs, I'm happy and have wonderful happy adult children. Everyday I look out my window there is beauty and adventure around every corner. :)

Posted by: aquamanda56 at November 29, 2008 7:11 PM

I found my 30s to be a good time for me.
Turning 30 was a great catalyst, I started to really gain self-confidence.
I had left school early due to family issues and when I turned 30 there was a big push for opportunities for women to return to study. Child-care was made available "on-campus" even in country areas and was affordable.

Low education fees meant that even women such as I, married with young children, and not a particularly supportive family, could afford to update and increase our skills.
With that came increased opportunities and the realisation emotionally and psychologically as we succeeded and were even valued for our intelligence, that we could be so much more than we had thought in the past!

I loved my 30s, and although it all fell apart a bit in my 40s, I now hope my 50s can be a source of renewal for me.
It seems quite normal and healthy to go through these re-evaluation periods in our lives.
I guess it what we decide to do after the evaluation, that can put us on the road to happiness or leave us floundering.

Posted by: amberlight58 at November 28, 2008 10:44 AM

That cork popping is soooo Valentino, don't you think? :)))

Posted by: heart2heart57 at November 27, 2008 12:37 AM

I was fortunate enough to get through my thirties in a long term relationship.

To me, it seems like relationships are just like every other consumer good. We are now socialised into a throw away culture where once something serves it's purpose and is no longer required for that particular purpose, it is thrown away. It actually gives me a bit of a sinking feeling thinking about this.

In the past, people would keep things and repair them or modify them to keep them functioning or to alter the purposes that they served. People would add a room to a house or put an new engine or gearbox in the car. When the family grew too big for the dining table, that table would fulfil another role until the kids moved out and would then, once again become the dining table.

Today, the minute an immediate need is fulfilled the item is discarded without any consideration given to repairing or modifying the roles to fulfil changing needs.

But we don't all go to the dump and get buried in a pit. We sort of end up in Vinnies where a new owner with a specific need might find us and take us home. Think of it as recycling. We're good for the environment.

Amanda, I like your attitude, pity you're in your 30s and not 40s.

Keep smiling,

Guitarist

Posted by: gcguitarist at November 26, 2008 1:16 PM

30's to me seem like some limbo decade..........not sure quite what thirties is all about to be honest as I am in them.

I think in the twenties we had these exciting relationships, I had three long term relationships from being 14 to 28.....now I am in my thirties, I find it all just too much hard work, lots of baggage, lots of issues of my own colliding with issues of the guys in my age group and noone moving anywhere.

To me it seems everyone appears empty to me in their thirties. I look at my friends, they dont care about the guys they datea nd equally the guys dont care about them.........its very odd.

However, my main dread now is, when I am looking at the men and women in their forties and fifties on here, it doesnt seem like it changes with age ....shudder.

I think if you arent in a relationship by the time you are thirty, you are going to find it real hard to form anything real and genuine after that.

Not impossible though, just much harder, as everyone becomes harder after thirty..........and personally, I hate it

Posted by: amandainsurfers at November 26, 2008 11:11 AM

gcguitarist - I agree. I've seen MANY women in their early 40s or late 30s looking for men in their early 20s. For a long term relationship? I doubt it.

Why don't they just ask their kids to introduce them to their friends as many have children around that age? Men would indeed be ridiculed for this.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2008 11:06 AM

What I have found amusing is the number of females on RSVP, who after their 30th birthday seek out only younger men. I have gone to profiles of women aged 48 who are seeking young boys under 35.

Yeah, I know men are guilty of the same, but we ridicule those men. Surely women engaging in the same behaviour should be ridiculed equally.

Cheers,

Guitarist

Posted by: gcguitarist at November 26, 2008 10:43 AM

well the thirtieth birthday being associated with challenge, confusion and anxiety would certainly explain mine which began with a lot of stress in the organisation and ended with my father being taken away in an ambulance... a memorable day for all the wrong reasons.

I think certainly the thirties have been a time for reflecting on what I want out of my life and where i'm going to, but I wouldn't say i've reached full maturation since i'm still known to jump in the occasional puddle.

After all, growing old is mandatory, but growing up is optional.

Posted by: moniquen at November 25, 2008 11:15 AM

I also had done marriage, kids, separation, mild breakdown, reinvention etc. all by the age of thirty, but I'm not sure I'd generalize it to everyone... It took me years after that to finally rid myslef of some key ideas, and I've had some massive experiences since I'll let you know if 60 is similar.

Posted by: adave at November 23, 2008 6:18 PM

I have just had my birthday. How old am I? I dont remember. Oh, my license says I am 33. It is horrible to know I am not in my 20s anymore. Just had a look into the mirror, all lines and wrinkles. Oops, hang on a minute, got to put on my glasses. Yes, my license still says I am 33. Lol��

Posted by: ahappyending at November 19, 2008 5:59 PM

in my 30's my marriage broke down, so it was a year of turmoil.......geeezzzz i have another 7 years of peace then lol before havoc strikes again ........

My daughters have whinges and wines about turning 30....don't know what the big deal is though

Posted by: sonny51 at November 19, 2008 4:03 PM

hahaha thats funny hun, I just turned 40 so still adjusting..letting go aint easy hehe .Im out of here too.(I act in my teens I think most of the time so my adult kids keep telling me) :>

Posted by: enchantinel at November 19, 2008 3:59 PM

I'm 30's in the way i represent myself, how i dress-up, body figure, way of thinking, acting, energetic, fashion, dating, etc.etc. My looks can deceived but don't ask my driver license it won't lie... ok enuff, I'm 40's I'm outta here. hehehe !

Posted by: birdsofparadise at November 19, 2008 2:22 PM