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You all sound so desparate and you have no idea what you're talking about. I've been married for 16 years to a wonderful man who loves me very much and I love him. We have three great children (19, 12 & 11). We are on the verge of DIVORCE because of fly in fly out. there is no way around this issue - it destructs families. there is no way you can maintain a healthy relationship in a fifo situation. unhealthy relationship - yes. I could maintain that. if i was just happy with the money and my freedom when he's away - great - yahoo!!!! that's not what solidifies a relationship, a marriage, a partnership. You're all mad!!!!!! I'm so angry! I'm angry at him for accepting the situation - they said 5 days on 2 off when he accepted the contract and then that changed to 6 days on 1 off. I'm mad at them - i hate them for taking him away. nothing gets done around our property (5 acres). he refuses to pay for "hire a hubby" - cos he's the hubby. But he's never fucking here!!!!!! I'm tired of my son wishing he was home. I'm tired of drinking too much at night cos I'm so fucking lonely. go for it - find out for yourself.

Posted by: hottie464 at March 6, 2009 12:55 AM

Yes (himagain) I agree..I would certainly give a long distance relationship a go at this stage of my life..been on my own tooooo long..it does seem to suit some people to only see each other every 2weeks..maybe thats the secret to a long lasting relationship:)

Posted by: ladyleo52 at December 11, 2008 6:59 PM

I am a Miner , the hours are long i do 13-14 hours each day for 15days then 6days off fly in fly out all our meals are made for us , our beds are made washings done , we are spoilt in everyway , most old timers complain about anything and everything but really the work isnt that hard its all about safety , i get paid extremely well , i earn in a week what most make in a couple of months but its experiance is what they pay for , but starting rates are awsome too , its a great industry for couples or someone wanting a quick fix for cash , im in it for the long haul as it suits my lifestyle for now :)

Posted by: goldminer1 at December 7, 2008 10:33 PM

Please everyone say a prayer for the Western Australian miner who has just lost his two babies, he was flown off site back into Perth where he identified his two children. His wife was not coping whilst he was away, details are sketchy but reality two children are deceased and a mining man has lost his family. Mining has many sides, some are pretty, some are not so.Remember your sense of humanity when you talk about these issues, real people live this life everyday some survive some do not. I hope you will all pause for a moment for this family..I cried when I read this story, I cried for him for her and for those that the ripple will last forever and a day.
Blessed be Nel (ex mining wife of 10years)

Posted by: enchantinel at November 9, 2008 8:31 PM

I work in the mining industry, the money is fantastic, the hours are long and sometimes hard(like other jobs), it is very remote depending on location.
I find it hard to form a relationship with someone due to the time spent away, alot goes through your mind out here. I hesitate to tell someone what i do and try and hide the fact that I'm financialy secure. Now if the right person should appear I would put all my energies into that person, yes its hard with distance between two people, but I think it comes down to the people involved, if you want to make a commitment,you will.........Me personally, if I found " the one" and you both felt the same way, (in the end its my choice to be out here), I would give this lifestyle up in a minute. Romance is what you make it, if you have a bit of imagination it can be rewarding, as well as that , they say distance makes the heart grow fonder don't they?

Posted by: explorer700 at October 31, 2008 11:29 PM

I have a friend who freelances to the mines, as shut down manager, he tells me that there is no time to scratch yourself as the work hours are massive. you work 12 hours shifts at times, having breaks for meals and of course when your shift is done all you think about is sleep, and for those who are not doing o/t 1 day off per week is party time....no time for romance at all. Good money to be made if you are willing to put up with the remoteness and the long hours and not seeing your loved ones.

I guess eyes would light up when he/she mentions they work in the mining industry.

Posted by: sonny51 at October 29, 2008 8:58 AM

I am simple woman who has everything but nothing. A poor rich girl....

Posted by: hijack at October 9, 2008 5:27 PM

You too Elf.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 5, 2008 11:15 AM

I have to admit that it is the first time I hear that miner 'are sought after, mainly for their hefty paychecks'. Personally, if I think about it ... a miner appeals to me somewhat because of the space that it affords to the relationship. I am independent financially and in all aspects of my life, but look at having the benefits of an intimate personal relationship with a man ... who also has a hold on his life. This means that a miner has his own life, but would look at sharing his life with me when he is available - perfect in my world view. The comment itself is offensive in my world view given that a miner or any other man who has financial independence would be seen the same way. I am sure there are women who seek that sort of relationship as there are men I would add, but one has to be careful not to generalise. The mining industry is growing and there are people who are seeking to meet others in that industry. Cheers

Posted by: annabelle1962 at October 4, 2008 10:34 PM

Hi Espritlibrefemme....that was very kind of you to remind me to avoid being over exposures and held accountable of my whereabouts and bring a sense of purpose in awareness. You are right, the consequences are greater likely off to my liking which i been through to that experiences,.. believed me, I was unhappy by the ultimate results of it, because they see the other side of good things...not in deep within...I'd set a limitation to any informative I have had to supply, but sometimes being sincerely honest is not good enough and taken for granted to any benefits they can acquired for good.
I thank you so much,.. truly you're a genuine and caring Samaritan person. Your advices is very much appreciated and keeps like a precious gemstone to me. God Bless You....
Cheers Aliane.

Posted by: aliane at October 2, 2008 10:20 PM

aliane, don't over-expose yourself on here. The repercussions are intractable. Don't be tempted, just hold on to what you know for a more contained outlet.

Posted by: espritlibrefemme at October 2, 2008 9:58 AM

My friend earns a healthy pay packet and works hard.

He finds that due to isolation of some sites that he spend his income quickly on living costs that include: Bars, Gambling and women.

But truth be said we can all do the same and may not just apply to this industry.

I think the miners dig for gold and are paid well for it.

Anyone who may think that they will have a normal day to day experience with a miner due to hours of work down a pit and the coal dust etc, may just find that they are looking at the wrong person to dig any further with.

Having said that my mate is usually sensible, perhaps a little lonely however not unhappy.

Thanks

Posted by: chachacha42 at October 2, 2008 7:23 AM

I'm worldwide travellers, I met people in different standard walks of life, I'm just like freelancer journalist listening people stories from heartbreaking to overwhelming amuses story-tale. I heard people's cries and laughter's from their unforgettable experiences. I think these blog is appropriate to rewrite, what I'd wrote in my diaries and planted in my memory but I'm reluctant to open it up due to may cause some disagreement....
It involved ..Greed, Sex and Money.

Posted by: aliane at October 1, 2008 3:44 PM

I went to the Beaconfield mine museum recently and I think these mining guys (and girls) are crazy or very brave. You won't get me down in a hole deep under the surface no matter how big the tunnels may be.
I know a few minors who are single and they complain about living in areas where romancing is a bit hard to come by due to not many single females being in the area and not many wishes to live in an isolated area.
Not that all mines are in isolated areas. So I guess, it depends on where you are.

Posted by: kazmaree at September 29, 2008 5:20 PM