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"Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn"
Clark Gable's line "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn" from Gone With The Wind was voted the most memorable American movie quotation of all time by film artists, critics, and historians. Some of the funniest/corniest/most romantic or most memorable lines in film continue to fill the spaces in our everyday dialogue. Too many times you hear people flog these classic lines in the office, at the dinner table, over drinks etc. What are your favourites?
What are the ones you hear most often? Which lines do you wish were never written and uttered? Which lines have you used or are you known to use too liberally? Ever screamed "Show me the money!"? Ever asked "You talkin' to me?"? Now, what are the most memorable movie lines according to RSVP members?
Posted by in Movie Buffs at 1:52 PM
Comments (173)Electro-relations
Most of us have caught onto the electronically driven life. It has driven every aspect - from shopping to playing a guitar - there is a way to do just about everything electronically. Welcome to electronic relationships.
Meet someone online, talk via SMS, watch movies together on your handheld, listen to music on your mobile phone, have a lovers-tiff via video conference and worst - but ever so common - break up via email. You're probably guilty/proud of having done one or all of the above. Tell us your stories of gadget related actions and words exchanged that you feel should have been actioned the human way - gadget free.
Posted by in Geeks And Gadgets at 5:39 PM
Comments (78)Fit or Fat?
The common emphasis on weight loss in place of fitness can have catastrophic effects on health. We've become so focussed on the weight of a person rather than their health and fitness levels - it is no wonder there is an ever-present body image crisis. Have you caught yourself losing weight without a care in the world of what it is doing to your nervous system? When you are skipping meals, do you think about the effect this is having on your insulin levels?
When you are disdainfully weighing yourself or measuring your waistline - are you also measuring your cholesterol levels? Do you agree that we obsess too much about measurements and image and not enough about what's going on inside? Why are diabetes and obesity on the chronic rise? Do you have any health tips to share with those trying to lose weight whilst keeping healthy?
Posted by in Fitness Fanatics at 5:07 PM
Comments (99)Research a Relationship
Visit any bookstore and you will find a book or two (or a whole section!) dedicated to dating and relationships. You may have even grabbed for one out of sheer curiosity - or a momentary lack of restraint. Some can be quite insightful, interesting and even informative, whilst others paint pictures you've seen a thousand times, or deliver a fresh shipment of far-fetched baloney.
Some of them claim to know what women want - whilst some feel they can judge whether a man is interested in you or not! Then there are the books that render a psychological analysis of human interaction. Have you read any of the above books? Could you recommend any? Offer some critique so that we can better our relationship reading choices!
Posted by in Book Worms Archive at 4:10 PM
Comments (328)A Date at the Museum!
So many fascinating and wonderful things to learn about and talk about on a good old-fashioned date at a museum! You can find out so much about someone by browsing through historic artifacts or famed artworks with them over a take-away coffee. Ever been on a museum date? Was it a positive or negative experience?
Did your date try to show-off their intellect (or demonstrate their lack thereof)? What kind of museum did you visit? What kind of museum would you recommend for the perfect date? What kind of museum would you warn daters to steer clear of? Whether your musing preference is for fine art, natural history or forensic science, everyone's idea of the perfect date setting differs!
Posted by in Lovers Of The Arts at 3:21 PM
Comments (40)Rural Romance
Romancing, wining and dining in the bush. The feelings are the same but the location could not be more contrasting. The coast with all the congestion of up-market restaurants, bright lights and hazy harbour views reflect a completely different atmosphere to the dusty sunsets and stock driven trails of the outback.
Is the chequered picnic rug and bottle of red in the middle of a wide open field more enticing and romantic than the 10th story balcony seafood basket? Do you prefer the classical styling of the hotel restaurant pianist for your big date to the folky rumble of the local one pub town band?
Posted by in Farmer Wants A Date Archive at 2:48 PM
Comments (20)Digging for gold?
With all the misconceptions out of the way, it's time to hear the real deal on miners - from a dating angle. Let's hone in on the opinion of those who work in the mining industry themselves or who have dated someone in the mining industry. Miners are usually geographically out of reach, with little or no time for their partners. Is this true?
And, since it is perceived that the mining industry is tough to crack into, are miners rare as gems? Do miners feel that they are sought after, mainly for their hefty paychecks? The industry has become particularly glorified by Australian media. Does this make those in mining, the targets of gold-digging singles? What are your thoughts/experiences?
Posted by in Mining Men at 2:35 PM
Comments (13)Got an idea for a blog topic?
Here is your chance to have your say - send us your suggestions and your topic might be the next big talking point! With the launch of RSVP Communities, there are now more topics to choose from that will make for some very interesting chatter!
Let your imagination run wild! Suggestions could be on any of the following subjects: Travel, Books and reading, Dating, Farmers and dating, Fitness, Food and Wine, Dogs, Mining, Movies, Music, Single Parenting, Golfing, and the list goes on!
Posted by in Customer Support at 5:10 PM
Comments (197)Baggage Claim!
Do the years of life experience you have, and the process of emotional development you've undergone, create space for a collection of relationship "baggage"? As you've matured, have you compiled a laundry list of behaviors that irked you about partners in the past? Have you adopted your own steadfast patterns of behavior and etiquette in relationships?
Have these rolled over onto every new relationship you've had, snowballing into a real anthology of pet-hates and behaviors? Or has it been quite the opposite for you? Do the years show you what to do and what not to do in relationships? Have you learnt from past mistakes and turned them into positives? Have bad experiences (and we've all had one or two!) turned you cynical or have they made you more appreciative of the good things?
Posted by in Over 50 And Fabulous Archive at 12:13 PM
Comments (321)Kiss or Tell?
In a world where most of our vital communication is in the written (mostly typed) word, starting a relationship online also revolves around the initial words you transmit. The courage to articulate these words is much easier to muster online - particularly when the messages are pre-packaged. RSVP has provided new kiss options to generate more of a spark between members during that all important initial contact.
We've also introduced conversation starters so you can add suggestions for what to talk about in an email.
What do you think of the new kisses? Do they encourage better communication? Do you find replying easier? Do the new kiss messages and conversation starters encourage you to kiss OR do you prefer to tell it directly like it is (via email)?
Did you know that as an RSViP, you have even more options? Do you like the idea of having more kisses to choose from? Does the idea of replying to a kiss with a reaction such as "flattered" or "undecided" help? What do you think of sending a Smile or Wave instead of a Kiss?
Posted by in Dating Life Archive at 4:33 PM
Comments (307)What is a Crush?
Mysterious and exceptionally hard to understand - the good old fashioned crush has long been a mystifying feeling. But what does it actually mean? Is it love? Is it infatuation? Is it a chemical reaction you create all on your own? More often than not, a crush is something motioned towards a perfect stranger - or a person whom you know very little about.
Whilst some crushes surface from friendships or are discovered amid other platonic acquaintances - each crush has its own spectacular way of taking our common sense and disposing of it most inconsiderately. What is your take on crushes? Do you currently have one? Do you have any juicy crush stories from the past?
Posted by in Dating Life Archive at 4:08 PM
Comments (254)Do golfers have a better grip on relationships?
Popular belief categorises all skillful sportsmen as being better suitors. Not only do they have a strong focus and passion toward their sport, they are also fit and strong! Golf is a skillful sport requiring precision, so is it arguable that they may make better partners? Patience is key to golfers, and no doubt, key to making any relationship work.
Clear judgment and careful control are vital to golfers. Interesting - this would come in VERY handy in a relationship, would it not? Do all these qualities transfer from the golf course to the dinner table? Is the golfing precision and patience restricted to the game, or does this manifest into relationships?
Posted by in The 19th Hole at 12:12 PM
Comments (27)Is Your Star Sign True to You?
How can it be that with all the millions of Librans in the world, all of them posses the same 'balanced' personality, according to astrologers? Do all the Cancerians of the world really wear their heart on their sleeve? Aren't we all individuals?
Whilst it is hard to deny that our horoscope readings can sometimes be completely true to life, how close do you find your sign to be to your own personality? Have you analysed people against their star signs to learn more about them? What did you find? How accurate do you think those distinguishing descriptions of Taureans being the 'stubborn' ones? Ever caught yourself making assumptions about people based on what you know about their star signs?
Posted by in Spiritual Singles Archive at 4:52 PM
Comments (388)Dogs and Dating
How high up the priority list is he or she owning a dog when you are dating? Is an eligible man's adorable puppy Retriever a direct way to your heart, or does her growling guard dog send you running for the hills? Literally!
Has man's best friend ever come between you and a hot date? Can you tolerate a furry friend tucked snugly between you and your lover at night? Are you receptive to a dog walking date or do you frown at the thought of picking up after his or her four-legged friend while strolling through the streets? We all know our panting companions have a large place in the hearts of many men, women and children but do they have their own special place in the dating game?
Posted by in Mans Best Friend Archive at 4:50 PM
Comments (272)Words of Wisdom
Arguably, those with more years to their advantage have more wisdom to impart. What are the most important lessons in relationships you have learnt to this day? What would be your advice to those heading into the dating scene for the first time in a long time, or for the first time ever?
If you could bestow your knowledge publicly to the youth (or to your own children) about the complexity of dating and relationships, what would your recommendations be? What warnings would you offer? What is it that you feel you still have to learn? What could the youth teach you?
Posted by in Over 50 And Fabulous Archive at 4:40 PM
Comments (843)Home-Cooked or Catered?
When it comes to entertaining, do you prefer to prepare sumptuous delights yourself or is it more convenient to have your party catered? It can be fun getting a group of friends or family to help out in the kitchen to design a feast, but it is much less time-consuming to buy pre-made or have a catering company deliver an effortless buffet. Sure, the size of the party plays a role in your decision - but even the smallest parties can call for catering in the form of take-away food.
Don't be fooled, sometimes whipping up a home cooked meal from scratch can cost more. What's your idea of elegant entertaining? Do you prefer to add your personal touch and be praised at your party for a cooking-job well done - or do you prefer to spend more time focusing on other aspects of entertaining?
Posted by in Food and Wine Lovers Archive at 4:22 PM
Comments (269)Outdated Dating
We are lucky enough to live in a society where minds seem open and social 'norms' are progressively being challenged or completely expelled. Well, according to a ton of user feedback, there are many steadfast behaviors plaguing the dating world - from way back when.
To name a couple of the most common complaints:
- Women characteristically 'wait to be pursued' - or in our online conditions - 'ladies are unlikely to send the first email'
- Men 'should pursue women' - or, again, in an online world - 'guys should make the first contact'
For most of us, these thoughts date back to the 1920s, however we are still subject to regular complaints around these ideas! Are these notions of 'yesteryear' completely planted in our brains, regardless of whether we believe them or not? Do you tend to make these assumptions automatically? Or, do you shudder at this school of thought and make a habit of deviating? What do you think?
Posted by in Dating Life Archive at 11:07 AM
Comments (490)Gym Junkies and Couch Potatoes Unite
Assuming all of you fitness fanatics are fit as fiddles, are you fussy about finding a partner who is equally as fit? Be it a physical connection or more of a meeting of fitness-wise minds, do you feel that someone needs to be at the same level of fitness as you to be able to see eye-to-eye? Do you think it is difficult for opposites, in this sense, to attract?
Are you the active, health-conscious type who simply cannot tolerate a couch potato? Is there no hope for such a pairing to occur? Have you ever dated someone who was the complete fitness opposite to you, or have you always dated your gym-junkie equivalent?
Posted by in Fitness Fanatics Archive at 2:44 PM
Comments (22)Idle Musicians?
Along with the overload of reality television, comes the overload of reality musicians. Whilst most contenders on shows such as Australian Idol, Australia's Got Talent and The X-Factor etc. appear to be mindlessly fame-fetching or seriously deluded, some of the emerging talent can be quite impressive.
How credible do you find artists who surface from such shows? Are you quick to dismiss them because they 'won their career? Do you think that they are well respected in the music industry, or will they always have the reality TV stigma attached to their musical offerings? Do you think that the innocent (tone-deaf) souls who audition are being exploited for the sake of entertainment, or do you feel it is time someone told them the truth?
Posted by in Music Lovers Archive at 2:10 PM
Comments (35)Passing the Buck
Many of us have been in relationships that end up really getting you down and stealing your zeal. Many of us choose to find the other person guilty when it all falls apart. Here is an opportunity for what could be a cathartic and educational discussion to recognize your own blunders in relationships. Why do you feel your partner disconnected with you? Why did you disconnect with them?
Ever had a hard time remembering why you chose to be with that person in the first place? Have you ever really identified where and when the cracks in the union started to form? Are you quick to pass the blame-buck and take zero responsibility for a failed relationship? Or do you eat a little humble pie and admit where you went wrong?
Posted by in Dating Life Archive at 4:45 PM
Comments (180)Lucky in love?
There has long been a fascination with serendipity - destiny or fate bringing you to the love of your life without your power or choice intervening. Whilst luck in love has been pondered by many artists, musicians, film directors etc. there are certainly people who would strongly challenge this thought, not due to pessimism, but because they have been there, done that!
So, to those who have been married; had a long term partner; or have at least once in their lives said "I found the one!" - did luck bring you to "the one"? Was it really dealt by the hand of fate? And, if this is your first step into the dating world after having been in a long-term relationship, has your perspective changed? Are you still a believer (if you ever were)? Or has the experience of once finding that perfect someone, actually made a believer out of you?
Posted by in Dating Life Archive at 4:14 PM
Comments (618)Sports or Sun?
Many people love the great outdoors, but this doesn't necessarily mean that they are particularly 'sporty' by any means. Are you an outdoor lover for the sheer pleasure of feeling the warmth of the sun? Or do you love to get out there and get competitive in a grueling game of footy?
Do you enjoy the simple pleasure of walking through a picturesque park and having a picnic under the stars, or is your idea of outdoor fun getting your feet wet or your face dirty? Tell us about your ideal outdoor adventures and what the perfect outdoor date really looks like (as opposed to the old walk-along-the-beach scenario).
Posted by in The Great Outdoors at 5:34 PM
Comments (61)Parental Guidance
Every parent differs in their styles of guidance and protection towards their children. This becomes a convoluted process when that parent is single and also on the dating scene. Obviously the age of your child plays a huge part in your decision, but at which stage do you let your kids in on the fact that you are seeing someone new? How quick are you to explain the scenario to your child?
Are your kids aware that you are dating? When do you feel it is appropriate to introduce the new person in your life to the little ones? Do you have stories to tell around times when your kids have taken to your new partner quite well? Or, do you have horror stories about your kids giving your poor date a preview of hell? Do you edit the info you submit to your children about who you are seeing and where you are off to in that flash new outfit? How much parental guidance is required in the world of dating for single parents?
Posted by in Single Parents at 11:18 AM
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