RSVP Blog

I agree - surcharges suck!!! Why pay more being single?? Doh!! Bad enough I have to cuddle my pillow not my man at night :(

But on the plus side... no having to have the 'I'd like a few hours to myself now please' or "But I want to go to the ancient ruins not the botanical gardens" conversations :)

Posted by: gorgenius at July 15, 2008 4:30 PM

Could I just point out, to all those who claim to jump out of aeroplanes, basejump off tall buildings and bungee down river canyons and so on, on your profiles, that next year is the inaugural Round Australia Cycle Ride by Rotary International in aid of Mental Health research.

Let�s not worry about strolls in the park like the Great Victorian Bike Ride. This is the big one.

I personally will donate a case of Scotch Whisky (after first sampling it to make sure it is genuine) to anyone who is an rsvp member and completes the totality of the ride next year.

Now that will be a singles holiday to remember

Posted by: captainstarlight at June 24, 2008 8:14 PM

giddyup...now you are trying to be politically correct in order to control freedom of speech.
There is a difference between a comment about something or even an individuals behaviour .that one finds personally distasteful or disgusting , and generalised or personalised discriminatory remarks of racism or sexism or any other ism. ,
The test of what could be considered offensive or not is "What would a reasonable person do or think?:"
A reasonable person who does not like smoking and finds the smell and health risks offensive and is disgusted by the habit and the impact it would have on their enjoyment of the holiday,would naturally seek to avoid it and has a right to do so.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at June 21, 2008 2:31 PM

Thanks Mulesy, I thought that is what you meant and agree totally with you. Just imagine if our whole society was based on not hating anyone. We could dislike their way of life, dislike the way they think or say things, but to hate a person is something I find inconprehensible. That is baggage that some people carry all their lives and if you fill up all the spaces with hate there are no spaces left to fill up with love. Thank you once again and may peace be with you also.

Posted by: iaminperth at June 21, 2008 2:11 PM

IaminPerth
What I am trying to point out is that such words as "disgust me" are actually hate speech
I Have no problem with blond people but as this woman is blond I used it as an analogy to perhaps show her how people may feel when they are demeaned in the way she has done it . You could substitute her use of the words smoker and smoke with examples such as
Black, Blacks, Fat, Fatties, Jew, Jewish, Homosexual, Homosexuals, Homeless people
etc etc
I dont drink and do not like alcohol at all but I never say or feel that "drinkers of alcohol disgust me"

You can choose to disassociate yourself from certain people or groups but there is no need to belittle them in any way or make them feel as if they are second class people.

perhaps that has cleared it up for you

my apologies for the confusion, my thoughts are always either flashes of inspiration well expressed and concise or come across as unstructured rantings, there is never a "in between"

As-salaam alaykum (Peace Be With You)

Posted by: yaahmulegiddyup at June 21, 2008 1:40 PM

Mulesy, are you referring to blonde as in dumb blonde or blonde as in you don't like light coloured hair or maybe bleached hair. I am just a little confused and can see how you are offended by the comments this ego challenged woman has thrown at you but am still not understanding what the colour of someones hair or skin for that matter has to do with whether they are intelligent or nice. Surely someone from a country that produces light skinned people can't be all bad, I'm sure that's not what you mean.

Posted by: iaminperth at June 21, 2008 12:49 PM

Hello WL, That would be okay I suppose with a group of 8, although I did a cruise on the Virgo out of Singapore. I just didn't want to go on the Aussie cruises, heard so many bad things about them. Not the cruises themselves but the behaviour afterwards in and on the way to the cabins. Seems that most nights people were drinking themselves stupid in the bars and then either arguing or being sick all over the place or both. The cruise out of Singapore had people from every country on the ship and although there is a huge gambling casino on board it was very quiet if you wanted a sleep and always spotlessly clean. I just think the behaviour was different all round and the people who partied all night just seemed to sleep all the day when everyone else went ashore. They didn't seem to want to do everything in public some how or other.

Posted by: iaminperth at June 20, 2008 9:44 PM

I think singles holidays are great. They are not just to find a mate, but a way for single people to get out and about and to meet new people. You can always pay a single supplement if you don't wish to share. I remember with fondness the contiki trip I did years ago, I made lots of friends who I am still in contact with. How I wish for Contiki tours for over 40s!! Travel is about sharing an adventure.

Posted by: jen1961 at June 20, 2008 9:10 PM

The AA that you labeled me is not my name it is a formal respectful greeting in Arabic (FYI)

I am a non smoker also a non drinker and a non gambler and a non drug user

The difference between you and I is that I am tolerant of peoples choices and preferences and I do not insult them by saying "they disgust me"

If you didn't understand the analogy about blond people then I can not in any way make it clearer for you to comprehend

Posted by: yaahmulegiddyup at June 19, 2008 3:06 PM

I'm okay with that. I've been rejected by plenty of guys who say they're only attracted to dark-haired women.

You're obviously a smoker. It's hilarious that you're getting so antsy.

Posted by: thenextmrsdarcy at June 19, 2008 1:01 PM

Mrs Darcy

Think about how you have written your comments - they are insulting and down right nasty.

change the word smoke or smoker to blond and read it back to yourself

The main thing that puts me off booking a group singles tour is BLONDES. These people disgust me and I don't want to waste my time socialising with them. RSVP, how about a separate trip for non-BLONDES only, in a BLONDE -free hotel?

Does not sound very nice does it ?

This post made with consideration of people and their preferences in mind.

Posted by: yaahmulegiddyup at June 19, 2008 12:45 PM

For your information AA, I drive a 4WD left to me by my late father. I live in a rural area and it has come in very handy. I just have it in for smokers (and trail bike riders).

I travelled through the USA for three months and stayed in smoke free hotels - the Intercontinental, Sheraton, Marriott etc...all ban smoking. What a pleasure it was to sit at a bar and not have someone light up, or to enjoy a restaurant meal outdoors without it being ruined by some filthy smoker at a nearby table.

In LA I stayed in Beverly Hills where you're not even allowed to smoke in the street in residential areas - only in your home or yard. What a great initiative. Shows what people power and money can achieve.

The good news is that fifty percent of smokers die from their habit - the bad news is that they take some of the rest of us with them.

So, bring on non-smokers only holidays.

Posted by: thenextmrsdarcy at June 19, 2008 12:29 PM

Aasalaamu Aleikum

THENEXTMRSDARCY said the following
The main thing that puts me off booking a group singles tour is smokers. These people disgust me and I don't want to waste my time socialising with them. RSVP, how about a separate trip for non-smokers only, in a smoke-free hotel?
Maybe MrsDarcy could live in a bubble? I wonder if she drives a car or catches public transport powered by a combustion engine that is sprouting pollution into the air
this comment made with renewable energy source.

Posted by: yaahmulegiddyup at June 18, 2008 7:33 PM

Posted by: iaminperth at June 17, 2008 10:17 PM "but I wouldn't want to go on a cruise dedicated to singles"
As far as I know its just a regular cruise. If I decide to go, there will be 8 of us, male and female, married and single. However, I too have heard stories of the singles scene on cruises - the regular ones, not just the singles only ones. Too much boozing, partying, and, serious matrimonial head hunting for this ol' gal - so am a bit dubious.

Posted by: waterlily58 at June 18, 2008 6:27 PM

I wouldn't quibble about paying a single supplement because there's no way I'd want to share a room with a strange woman - I'd be too worried about whether she was noisy or dishonest......or enjoyed bringing strange men in on a nightly basis!
I generally travel alone - recently returned from 3 months in the USA and the thing about travelling alone is, if you want to meet people, you have to bravely front up to the hotel bar and unless you're a social butterfly, it's very daunting.
The main thing that puts me off booking a group singles tour is smokers. These people disgust me and I don't want to waste my time socialising with them. RSVP, how about a separate trip for non-smokers only, in a smoke-free hotel?

Posted by: thenextmrsdarcy at June 18, 2008 5:11 PM

The worst thing about singles holidays are the extra charges you have to pay as most trips are based on a twin share basis

which I think is discriminatory

This comment made with renewable energy source

Posted by: yaahmulegiddyup at June 18, 2008 3:42 PM

I think a cruise with a group of friends is lovely but I wouldn't want to go on a cruise dedicated to singles. I know people who have been on singles cruises and they really are not prudey but came back with some stories that were startling about people's behaviour. I know for me I would be getting sick of the constant partying and phoney stuff, not to mention how many people get physically sick.

Posted by: iaminperth at June 17, 2008 10:17 PM

During my time working for the state govt, one way many people got noticed was by belittlling others (their competition).
I feel a singles holiday would be rife with that.
I would stay away from one of them.

Posted by: virgil at June 17, 2008 9:02 PM

Since moving to Bris I have been having a great time discovering the gold and Sunshine coasts, both the beaches, the tourist stuff and the hinterland hide-aways, markets, cafes. Teenage boys don't find this highly thrilling.
Often see singles holiday packages advertised and think "gee, would be nice to have company of people my age and my interests". Never got around to doing anything about it. Have been thinking of joining friends on a South Pacfic cruise later in the year.

Posted by: waterlily58 at June 17, 2008 6:55 PM

I don't do holidays when I am single. It is something I actually would like to do more of when I find a partner, with them. I tend to just do something with family or friends or do a project at home when want a break.
Having said that, I am currently building a camping trailer to see a bit more of Australia even if only by myself after only having a partner for 6 of the last 20 years.
The idea of the "single's group" holiday holds no appeal at all for many reasons including their relatively high cost and fixed programs. I would tend to like the flexability to wander no matter where I was going to relax.

Posted by: creativestuart at June 17, 2008 6:30 PM

I agree holidays can be a bit depressing as a single. But they can also be freeing and uplifting because you can do and go where you want without answering to anyone.

I also love the idea of those holidays for singles eg Contiki tours - where you get to meet other singles. But after looking at their prices, I found them too expensive. So I've never attended one.

Given that they don't guarantee you will find your Mr or Ms Right, all that money can end up "down the drain" - so to speak.

At least with RSVP you spend $100 and you're given 24 chances to get lucky. It doesn't sound like a sound investment when the holiday costs $2,500.00 and you're only guaranteed to meet 5 - 10 men total, and then you don't even get the guarantee they will have the same interests as you.

Singles holiday packages sound great in theory but not in practice.

Posted by: lovemuzik at June 17, 2008 2:52 PM

i have been travelling alone for a few years...i am researching my family tree and going back to my roots and have found long lost relatives in england, new zealand and in canada...i made a trip to see relatives in vancouver last year whom i hadnt met since i was little and it was wonderful to spend time with them and talk about the family and where we originated from and meet yet new members of the family...i also took a trip to india in april to see my childhood friends and formed a strong bond and will be going back again in september for a wedding...next year i will visit another part of the family in yorkshire....as for the beach thing...might do that also...even if its alone...or hopefully with someone i meet on here!

Posted by: cutesmile52 at June 17, 2008 2:26 PM