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Are there advantages to being beautiful?
Don't hate yourself for wanting to be beautiful. Good-looking people get special treatment from strangers, employers and even their own mothers. The rest of us curse the advantages of beauty because we can never claim membership in the knockout club. Or can we? Can we trust our own self-appraisal, or the reassurances of friends and family? Are we subjected to the cool judgment of strangers to satisfy our curiosity about our appearance? Do you judge other people or favorite them based on their appearances?
Posted by June 20, 2008 3:43 PM
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Posted by: sunriselad at July 4, 2008 8:26 AM
What a beautiful piece. So sweet but yet seems so sad.
However in reality I sometimes think that meeting someone for the long run might just end up destroying the dream.
Maybe the dream is sweeter than the reality.
Enjoy it while it last methinks.
Posted by: gemsnbling at July 4, 2008 11:17 AM
I shy away from beautiful strangers
Behind their thin veneer lie barely hidden dangers
When one speaks to me I know its sympathy or slumming
The pity on their faces is quite unbecoming
I patiently wait for just one word of recognition
The slightest hint of a smile is my highest ambition
A touch on my arm is like an arrow from cupid
Till reality hits, I�m just pathetic and stupid
I look at peoples faces and no-one looks back
Too busy with their lives, they couldn�t give jack
Couldn�t care less about me or my thoughts
Too busy with work, with spectator sports
Of course, I�m not really alone, but you don�t see
There are thousands upon thousands of people like me
Reality lives next door, down the street
Reality is that person you are too busy too meet
I am living a life right here in my mind
Full of wonder and joy, a very special find
That no-one will know of, no one will see
If no-one takes the time to get to know me
Posted by: sunriselad at July 4, 2008 8:26 AM
On the Charles Wooley radio show this morning,they revealed that the sexiest part of a person - and the part that keeps the relationship going - is "the words that they speak".
Posted by: willow29 at July 2, 2008 11:32 AM
musicteacher at July 1, 2008 12:15 PM: What a girl! You are so right in everything you say, both here and in your profile. Keep contributing. Please.
And it's a shame you have to look in the June archive to find this not-yet-closed BEAUTIFUL blog.
Posted by: timewarp1 at July 2, 2008 9:58 AM
Definately,and disadvantages..but the advantages outway the disadvantages.
I think a lot of us intitially look at a persons appearance,including myself.however my mind is made up only after hearing a persons voice and listening to what that person has to say.In the end,if a person interests me,I really don't care what they look like.As for a woman being beautiful,it can make both men and women despise you,and make the assumption that you are conceited,already "taken",have it easy etc.Worse still,your intelligence may be overlooked.
Posted by: musicteacher at July 1, 2008 12:15 PM
Yes, I do...Mekyonewithecrookback...the Lexus looks like the old Daewoo Cielo:))))))
Posted by: istj54 at July 1, 2008 11:29 AM
a girlfriend of mine is forever suggesting the races as a place to meet meet...methinks to meet gamblers:))
Posted by: istj54 at June 29, 2008 4:36 PM ...I have not taken up this suggestion...but for iaminperth and murkyman to suggest that I am in any way desperate is preposterous...and ludicrous...I am NOT impressed by men with money, as it usually is all they have on offer...and I saw red plates on a Mazda6 the other day...LOL at that one.
Posted by: istj54 at July 1, 2008 9:53 AM
Posted by: cautious08 at June 30, 2008 11:24 PM
cautious, i can relate to your predicament. unwanted attention is not flattering at all and at times intimidating and even scary (when they just wont let up).
Posted by: kisskat at July 1, 2008 7:02 AM
And to think that a lot of people will be trying to ride around Australia in support of the Australian Mental Health Research Institute next year, when all the bi polars nutcases and psychos are gathered here on the blogs, obviously irresistant to any form of meaningful help
you'd know what I mean wouldn't you A
Posted by: captainstarlight at July 1, 2008 4:25 AM
antoi at 8:36pm: Welcome to the blogs, and congratulations on a post that was full of both brains and heart.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 30, 2008 11:49 PM
murtajaz at 11:59am: "money helps, but it does not work on the already rich women."
I reckon it does. Backwards. If you've got it, so what else do you have that might be more interesting?
If you haven't, Next!! Which was my point.
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"I wonder though what men think of poor women" I guess it depends on how much money the man has, and if he's still paying child support.
I can only speak for myself. Zero plus zero doesn't add up to much. I'm hoping to have some money in 5 or ten years. Enough for one but not for two. So I tend to steer clear of women who have as little as I have, and less likely to change that in the next 5 or 10 years.
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"I am sure the sight of a guy with a bit of class gets them (the poor women) dreaming." Let's get real, mate. One with a bit of money would be more use to them.
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Posted by: timewarp1 at June 30, 2008 11:45 PM
Being attractive or beautiful does have its advantages but there can be a down side.
I have been followed home from the supermarket which gave me a scare. I have been followed while shopping in the city. One man I met through this site became possessive, obsessive, and a tad stalkerish. That really scared me, and only last night a taxi driver exposed himself when I was paying my fare.
I have recieved much unwanted attention over the years. I don't know if being small of stature plays a part. Some men seem to believe persistance will win but at times they are quite intimidating and it makes me feel very vunerable.
Posted by: cautious08 at June 30, 2008 11:24 PM
Murta, that's not nice, lol. No, I think istj has noticed the glam side of the industry like a lot of people do, but it really is very creepy and dirty once you work inside it.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 30, 2008 11:20 PM
So true Murta, I worked in the industry for about 26 years and have never ever met a more worthless bunch of sleazes and wannabees. Some of the older trainers have some skill but they are very few and far between. It's a world of its own and attracts the despos.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 30, 2008 8:50 PM
I remember seeing a documentary as a young teenager about the attributes that make up beauty ie. facial bone structure and the proportions that are more appealing. Seeing it broken down scientifically was life changing. From that moment on I told myself that I would never treat people differently according to their appearances... noone can choose the bone structure they were born with so why discriminate? I'm careful not to worship beauty or celebrities. I observe the way people behave all the time. It's easy to notice the way my friends are much nicer to a 'beautiful' girl than they are to someone they don't find attractive. This disparity annoys me wherever it rears its head. People are much more shallow than they think. It's one thing to not find someone attractive, but to treat them poorly because of it is bad form.
Posted by: antoi at June 30, 2008 8:36 PM
captainstarlight at 3:26am: You're sounding almost like him but I am not deceived. If he was back yet, he would have answered my last 2 off-blog emails.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 30, 2008 11:27 AM
Timewarp, you do not need to make vast amounts of money to take out women.
That concept is almost as silly as certain women in their 50/60s who think they make suitable adornments for 60 foot yachts. But once you peel off the 10 inches of plastered on makeup, all you get is an old hag fit only for the scullery, not to be displayed on deck where the 20 somethings frolic.
Aim for the ugliest you can find, the ones who will pay you to take them out. This site is full of them; take your blinkers off.
Posted by: captainstarlight at June 30, 2008 3:26 AM
tassiedude1June 29, 2008 5:21 PM
Its the deck doing it dude! I've been advised to remove my skateboard picture in case prospects think it is my only means of transport..
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at June 30, 2008 12:22 AM
tassiedude, you don't need to kiss frogs, just checked your profile....your princess is out there , it may just take a bit of time to find her, so keep at the frogettes...from the girls holidaying in brisvegas, dolphin and today and junebaby think you are hot....have a lovely evening all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at June 29, 2008 10:11 PM
istj at 4.28pm: It's not what you've got. it's the way that you use it, eh?
I haven't been working hard enough at my business for the last 8 months, because I can have a champaign life on a water income.
But all the chicks that I fancy cross me off the list, because I'm so much poorer than they are.
Time I made some decent money. Starting with the project I start tomorrow - $4000 for however long it takes me to do the defined job. Unless it takes over 40 hours - then it's an extra at $90 an hour.
We sign the confidentiality agreement tomorrow, and I get the first $1000 in advance, to cover my first ten hours work. Not big bikkies for top-level specialised consulting, but I like to give value. Must catch Coles now, then across town for tennis. Seeya.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 29, 2008 5:35 PM
To jstj54
Obviously I am living in a fantasy world just going around kissing frogs.:)
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 29, 2008 5:28 PM
You are quite right. I am feeling rather sad. On the outside I hide it well, showing a smile, the occasional laugh, but on the inside I am in turmoil. This is not where I want to be. I am desperately wanting to be in love and wanting to be loved. Every time a window of opportunity opens the door slams shut and I am left alone in the dark. I think I mentioned to someone the other day that I am starting to feel comfortable being single I guess today is one of those exceptions. I do perceive myself to be quite handsome but I'm not arrogant about it. Quite often if someone mentions it I get rather embarrassed. I didn't sign up for this single life and it wasn't all that long ago that I was enveloped by happiness. I learnt a very important lesson in life never take things for granted as you never know. One day you wake up and find that she's not there. Cherish every moment you have and always let her know that she is being cherished.
My mother taught me very well. I am very polite and always try to be a gentleman. It was quite amusing/disturbing the other week I took someone out for dinner. I pulled the chair out for her to sit several times she had no idea what I was doing and went to sit somewhere else.
Well I guess that's life. I know that one day the door wont slam shut and I will indeed find what I am looking for. Until then one day at at a time. Please don't feel sorry for me, everybody has a story to tell otherwise we wouldn't be here, I'm a big boy. I can handle it. I really need to be careful about being so open and honest on these public forums. I hope it doesn't come back to bite me on the backside. Anyway, I think I'll taxi down to the local and drown my sorrows yet again. Tomorrow will be a better day.
Lots of love. Hope we all find what we are looking for.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 29, 2008 5:21 PM
iaminperth...there are a lot of wonderful people in the racing industry...a girlfriend of mine is forever suggesting the races as a place to meet meet...methinks to meet gamblers:))
Posted by: istj54 at June 29, 2008 4:36 PM
WB...he has to feed the greedy entrepreneurs who are going to rip him off for $6 000 per year ha, ha, ha! to get his business up again...or something up again. I thought he had told us all how good he was at that himself. Mystery deepens.
tassietude...as if...it was a dream...who meets someone having a smoke at the end of the night and expects it to be the real thing? Get real.
iaminperth, I never had much luck with the poor little birds my children and students have tried to rescue over the years , so you are doing well:))
Oh, yes, on topic, being beautiful IS a huge advantage when used to advantage and matched by inner beauty too. A classically beautiful face matched by a cold heart loses its beauty fairly quickly, whereas a lovely smile, or laughing eyes, become more beautiful as you grow to know them. Guess what I am saying is that it is an advantage to have inner beauty, rather than outer for the long haul.
Posted by: istj54 at June 29, 2008 4:28 PM
Thanks Malsie, I always think it is a privelege to mix with nature. When the droughts were really bad in Qld we put some large bathtubs in the back paddocks for the mares and foals. Unfortunately, a few birds would get caught in them and couldn't fly out. I had an owl for years who decided to stay, the most beautiful little creature I have ever seen, numerous parakeets etc., and a wonderful hawk. The kooka however was the one with the sense of humour and he would come with me when I rode around the property to check the fences each day and check on the mares. I had a dreadfully injured thoroughbred sent to me at one stage, he had been hit by a car leaving the racetrack in Brisbane. He required dressings four or five times a day and being kept immobile except for very controlled walking. When he was nearly better, he was like a big puppy. I had to race down to the house one day and left him to have a wander. I turned around when I was on the phone and there he was standing in the office next to our dining room having a look in the litter bin. We actually had to back him out very carefully thru the family room, down the hallway and out thru the laundry. He was as good as gold. He had won a lot of money for his owners and when he was well they shipped him back to NZ so that he could live the rest of his life in open paddocks. There are a few nice people in the racing industry.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 29, 2008 3:47 PM
tassiedude, I can imagine that would be a bit disappointing (re the woman you texted) and it may well have felt like a dream! I would take it that whilst you saw it as a potential relationship, she was just having a bit of flirtatious fun, and that she really doesn't feel like having a relationship right now (or is already in one with someone else perhaps).
Posted by: malsie at June 29, 2008 2:45 PM
WHO do you have to feed now, TW? I missed that...it can't be your dates, because you go Dutch...bring me up to speed here..
Posted by: waterbombe at June 29, 2008 2:32 PM
Thanks WB. I get a lot more than that, for 3 years. Actually did it to force me to get real again with my business, which I haven't really been, since last October. Now I've got them to feed too, you'll hear a lot less from me. Off to poetry now, then night tennis. Seeyezall.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 29, 2008 1:48 PM
iaminperth, I loved the idea of you putting extra sausages on the barbie for your injured Kooka to steal! What a lovely thing to do....
Posted by: malsie at June 29, 2008 1:35 PM
TW, you're paying $500 a month for a year for an ongoing entrepreneur training programme??? THEY sound like the entrepreneurs! To relive your poverty, can't you just offer something similar and ask for a fortune in payment ...if people pay a lot they assume they are getting something worthwhile ...that's how they get sucked in to these schemes. Use that to your advantage and don't think you have nothing worthwhile to teach ...most of the time, neither do the people who are actually doing it. Call me cynical..call me realistic.
Tassiedude, glad to hear you gave that blonde away, just stay positive now. I had a peek at your profile and you are a quite a looker...and you seem a very decent bloke...where are all the thirties women in Tassie, letting you sit around? Girls, get going!
PS. Maybe your text next day to the beautiful woman was a bit assertive...it's so easy to go wrong at the start...perhaps a more casual cooler 'what's up, feel like a drink?' txt would produce the results next time...but how would you know, I mean she may just have had an argument with her boyfriend and had a pissed-off and pissed night out with the girls and you got caught in the cross fire, unfortunately. This sort of thing leaves you confused and wondering if it's worthwhile, I know, but stay in there...you will meet someone you really like, it's just a matter of time.
Posted by: waterbombe at June 29, 2008 1:16 PM
maestrac at 10:57pm: Nice to hear from you again. Always good stuff - quality not quantity. Trying to aim for that myself now.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 29, 2008 12:00 PM
tassiedude, you sound so sad. out of curiosity i took a look at your profile. youre a nice looking guy but i have to admit i was a bit confused reading it. you say you want something but then you dont. im not really sure what you are looking for based on your profile.
can i suggest (choose to ignore) that until you work out what you DO want, you may keep finding you will get the same result.
best of luck in your search.
Posted by: kisskat at June 29, 2008 11:30 AM
But looking at SOME of the men in the same age group, my god they've had a hard life (or they are just down right lying about their age). Posted by: maestrac at June 28, 2008 10:57 PM
Ditto!
Posted by: waterlily58 at June 29, 2008 11:11 AM
My little dove is now sitting outside in a tree, preening his feathers madly and generally tidying himself up. He is very bright and seems quite content just not happy about the way he looks, I can relate to that at this time in the morning. I don't know if he is senegal or what, but he is very pretty and very gentle and I hope he has a safe and happy life and comes back to visit sometimes. I found an injured kooka once and we set him free and he was back within about an hour. He stayed with us on and off for about 10 years, and was a real pain when we had a barbecue. We had to put extra sausages on for our Kooka so he could steal them.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 29, 2008 9:41 AM
We actually did have a 'Brady bunch' type scenario at the back of us a while ago. A family moved in with three children, then on weekends his two children from a previous marriage would arrive. All the kids had a great time, very noisy and active. When her ex turned up to pick up his three for the weekend the other two wanted to go as well, so he ended up with five and so it went on. The exes seemed to organise good stuff for the kids and whoever wanted to go could. They had many barbecues with the kids of all ex partners and with the ex partners and all sounded noisy happy events. I thought it was a terrific scenario and obviously the actions of a lot of thoughtful adults working out how to do this thing well.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 29, 2008 4:00 AM
Thanks Chuditch. A lady not far from us had doves in her backyard but cats were causing problems so she let them go. A couple came to our house to nest in a tree in the backyard. We have a large dog so I suppose they thought they are safe and they come and go as they please. This little dove seems almost tame and quite at home. I was just standing in the garden when there was a loud thump overhead and then feathers rained down and plop down came the dove. Shocked the pants off my dog and cat who just sat there staring whilst I picked this little bird up. My dog is not bothered with birds at all and happily sleeps on her bed in the courtyard whilst they peck around and the cat doesn't seem to be interested either. As for the blog topic, it all seems so shallow to me and a lot of people need to grow up and get over themselves. I do believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 29, 2008 3:41 AM
laughsandtalks ...i like to read the blogs and im not a big contributor for my own reasons....maybe you should be more interesting in your posts...
Posted by: cutesmile52 at June 29, 2008 12:20 AM
Do nice guys always finish last?
So your out with friends, enjoying your night, scanning for potentials but not really looking. Towards the end of the night you go outside for a cigarette. Then without even knowing how you're in the arms of a beautiful woman. You kiss for a while and then you walk over to a park, find a seat and chat and kiss some more. In the back of your mind your not only thinking how did this happen your also thinking how nice this person is and the potential for friendship, maybe more.
So it's getting late and it's time to go. You decide to walk this beautiful person home. You arrive at her door, desperate not to let her go. Not necessarily for sex but more for intimate companionship. In the back of your mind you think if only I try a little harder she will open the door. Of course you do the honorable thing, peck her on the cheek, and bid her a goodnight.
The next day you send her a text "Dinner for two reservations at 7pm". She replies "have plans not really interested in dating but thanks for asking.
Then you just left wondering if it was all just a dream.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 28, 2008 11:21 PM
As there has been some not so nice comments about the top 100, I decided to browse the female category in the early 50's and up age bracket. I have to say, there are some truly stunning women around. There are also some not so stunning.
I remember looking through family photos of when my parents were in their 40's and the hairstyles, makeup and clothing made them look older than their years. Are women today more beautiful than previous generations or are we just looking after ourselves better. I agree, a lot of women do tend to let themselves go a bit after having babies and continue to pile on the kilos. Some of us are dealt a bitter blow by inheriting all the bad genes like big noses and short stature. Before we know it middle age is looming and menopause deals us another blow. To cap it off our husbands bugger off with some bird 10 or 20 years our junior leaving us dejected and feeling like crap for a couple of years until we come out the other side and become beautiful butterflies again (well some).
The men by comparison have it easy, no mood swings, no monthly periods, no stretch marks from childbearing, the list could go on and on. OK, so you have to shave, big deal, so do we (our legs, armpits, bikini line). But looking at SOME of the men in the same age group, my god they've had a hard life (or they are just down right lying about their age).
Posted by: maestrac at June 28, 2008 10:57 PM
eastofcbd at 12:47pm and Perth just after:
No, not us lot, gals - the stand-in censor while Karina is having her month's leave.
I'd posted a piece a bit after midnite, and it usually appears (or else hits the cutting room floor) by the time I'm back on line about 9.30 am.
It was already after 11am, and I was preparing to go out for an RSVP 4-hour after-lunch coffee date, and then straight on to an RSVP dinner date a couple of suburbs away from the first. Just home from that a little while ago.
And still got another gal waiting for my invited email, as soon as I get an overdue $1K customer cheque on Monday and can afford next week's rent and another book of stamps.
Skint this week, after signing on at the breakfast seminar to pay $500 a month for a year for their ongoing entrepreneur training programme. Sick of being p o v v o most of the time.
Marcustan at 6.51pm: You are so right, mate. Disputation is essential.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 28, 2008 10:30 PM
iaminerth@5.48pm.
Please stick the senegal dove(or whatever) in a DARK shoebox in a quiet place.
Darkness and warmth are the necessities to help it /'any other fauna ,combat trauma.... Let's face it,senegal doves aren't as bad as the noisy minahs which have over run SEQ.
(All creatures are entitled to a second chance)Keep a bird in a dark and warm situation,and it may have a second chance.
Haning grown up in South Perth.I'm aware of how squirrels,Senegal doves and other exotic species have affected our local natives.But hey...that was all caused by MAN,not the birds or mammals
Posted by: kurli at June 28, 2008 8:25 PM
To iaminperth, Don't let the bird go if it has got dark - it wont be able to find a safe roost - put it in a cardboard box for the night, don't worry about food or water, and release it in the morning. If its a feral Senegal Dove it would have been better to let the attacker have a meal. Senegal doves spread disease to our native birds and zoonoses to people (make sure you wash your hands thoroughly) - if it is one I would just give it a knock on the head.
As for the blog topic - I sometimes feel sorry for people who are perceived to be beautiful. They are usually obsessed with maintaining their looks and attract people who are only attracted to the 'outer' superficial view. Then they become critical of each other if perfection is not maintained. I have a friend who was nagged by her ex to attend a gym several times each week and vetted what clothes she wore - what a control freak!!
Posted by: chuditch at June 28, 2008 7:32 PM
Posted cutesmile52 at June 28, 2008 2:49 PM
...we need fresh blood on these blogs...ive almost given up reading them
Yes nothing fresh about your comments cutesmile; hows about offering up something?
Blogs would be moribund quickly if sometimes the contrary viewpoint, (and one not necessarily held by the poster) were not offered wouldn't they?
Posted by: laughsandtalks at June 28, 2008 6:51 PM
It's pouring in Perth today, the wind is blowing and it's cold. We are all inside, including the pooch and the two cats. We have no heaters going and have turned all electrical appliances off to conserve power.
We have lots of warm clothing and boots to keep ourselves warm so any disruption to our lives is minimal. We also have a little dove which crashed to the ground when attacked by a larger bird. I'm not sure how to set it free because it is raining so much outside, thought I may sit it in a hanging basket later and let it decide itself when to go.....any suggestions ???? That is my biggest decision I need to make today, after that will be what to have for dinner and what time to have it. I don't think we realise how easy we all have it in this country so instead of bickering and getting this one upmanship going all the time, just maybe chill out and look around you and start from scratch again with the thinking and take some things on board that people are offering and discard other opinions that dont suit at that time. Don't forget any suggestions for my little dove. He/she seems very bright at the moment and will need to be set free, just not sure how to do that when it's pouring so badly,
Posted by: iaminperth at June 28, 2008 5:48 PM
I read on a blog a while ago that there were some regulars who blogged under different names, there certainly is a core of regulars who just love taking the opposite view. Is that just to wind us up and keep it going?
Posted by: eastofcbd at June 28, 2008 4:59 PM
we need fresh blood on these blogs...ive almost given up reading them
Posted by: cutesmile52 at June 28, 2008 2:49 PM
FYI Called it off and feeling a heap better:)
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 28, 2008 2:39 PM
Will you take your washing with you to the 'corporate breakfast' TW???
Posted by: iaminperth at June 28, 2008 2:10 PM
It actually died in the vagina easto, lol.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 28, 2008 2:06 PM
Or they are all going around and around in circles with uncreativestuart about some one elses ex. What a timidy boring little puddin' he turned out to be.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 28, 2008 1:49 PM
No they're all over arguing about vaginas on the other site. Please TW don't go there and give your opinion on what your mother told you 300 years ago, maggots and all.
Posted by: iaminperth at June 28, 2008 1:47 PM
Me thinks this blog has died in the bum tw.
Posted by: eastofcbd at June 28, 2008 12:47 PM
Testing. Testing. Testing.
Is anybody there?
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 28, 2008 11:16 AM
EE: Hope your birthday night out was a blast, but that you weren't totally demolished by it this morning. cheers
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 28, 2008 12:35 AM
DodgyRoot
I wonder if Hi Ho Silver has taken your advice and sought T-H-E-R-A-P-Y.
Top of the class because of it or despite it?
Posted by: sensounico at June 27, 2008 9:31 PM
Will be getting new pics when I get a chance... Need someone to help
I did add a couple of my little paradise, just for interest
Posted by: creativestuart at June 27, 2008 4:04 PM
Stu, have you changed your pics yet ??..I haven't checked to see if you followed up on the advice given in that regard a few weeks ago.... woops best l do.............
And a comment on kerry and her art gallery....... l would not go as far as to call it art that is fer sure. That is about all l can come up with..........................K
Posted by: auntykaz at June 27, 2008 1:47 PM
Hi mystiemuse
A suggestion, get rid of the extreme closeup pics and make your second photo your main one...
The text seems quite good....
And don't worry too much you are not the only one with few responses or aproaches
Just relax and let it happen....
Posted by: creativestuart at June 27, 2008 9:07 AM
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 27, 2008 7:58 AM
It was a long haul flight.....wasn't it? I think I might have missed the topics point.....again.............Good to see you embrace the GLAB......do you think we should make it less formal and go lower case ????.........a thought for a better mind than mine....have a great day.....
Posted by: spanky668 at June 27, 2008 9:02 AM
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 9:00 PM
"oh...just a little something I heard...
a Woman is a highly Sophisticated ..infinitely Complex ..deeply Intelligent being.....and it needs to be carefully tricked into doing things...hoh!"
Well that is certainly how women seem to want it now days... Straight forward and honest is getting me nowhere!!!!
Posted by: creativestuart at June 27, 2008 8:57 AM
mystiemuse - For what it's worth I think your second pic should be your first. It's lovely. (And where did you get those gorgeous earings?).
I do love your profile name. It's great.
Do agree with Timewarp re a negative in your headline. You obviously have a wicked sense of humour, try it with a postive twist instead of a negative in your headline grabber. And I think you are obviously the sort to be able to constantly come up with funny and quirky things so mix it up a bit. Change the wording in your profile every so often. Especially your opening headline.
Your last two sentences are fabulous! You seem to just radiate.
Have a great day all.
Jen
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 27, 2008 8:12 AM
spanky - 10.54. Re Ralph. Yes for all the stuff he went through it would have wanted to be 'good'. hehe. Jen.
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 27, 2008 7:58 AM
Indie wannabe@ 7.13am
Like a couple of other nasties that periodically drop in......get what passes for your brain,out of the gutter!
Posted by: kurli at June 27, 2008 7:35 AM
mystiemuse at 4:05pm: I agree with emjaz at 5.55pm. Kill the ET impersonation photo forever. Now! It says "I'm pretending to be looking for a bloke, but I'm trying to frighten them all off, so no-one ever gets as far as looking at my actual profile."
2) Use photo No 2 not No 3 as your main one because it's more gorgeous, AND its colour contrast is dramatic - among 20 or 30 others on the page it will magnetise the eye in half a second.
No 3 is a nice soft character study, but it's a picture of a wife, not a mistress. And you know where fellers' minds start from.
2) Age: Why not hope for 37 to 47, or you too are only looking for a toyboy.
3) And yes, you're average. I'm a bit overweight.
4) Hate your headline para. Another bullet in your foot. They see the gorgeous No. 2 chick, they click on it to see the 160-keystroke Grabber headline and oh yuck!
5) Don't like your fine print either. Never put yourself down so many times in one piece.
But your interests and perfect partner profile are fine, because you wrote them straight, not smart-arsed self-deprecating.
Can you afford a stamp? For that I'll critique your next draft profile(s) in detail off-blog, and if your verse is any good, publish some of it in 'The Mozzie' new-poetry monthly, which I now co-edit.
Corporate breakfast in the CBD at 7.15am tomorrow, so must hit the sack fast. Seeyez.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 27, 2008 12:30 AM
decoratress at June 26, 2008 11:05 PM
hi there...lol...no..don't worry..definately not some-one we have both met..(interesting thought though) ..just imagine if something like that did happen??
I heard it from a stand up comedian...and wrote it slightly out of context...
how horrible to think that some-one tried using that on you...ofcourse..I'm sure he couldn't get away with tricking you into anything...cheers nw
spanky668 at June 26, 2008 10:54 PM
LOL...and Happy Birthday for last Sunday!!
<3
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 11:53 PM
just when you start to think you've seen and heard it all on here.......along comes kerry...how ...refreshing? ...this site truly 'bloggles' the mind!
kerry..what a giggle....what is one 'exposed' to in the art gallery?
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 11:25 PM
Posted by: junebaby57 at June 26, 2008 10:31 PM
OHHH ! is that where everyone is???
(writes down- adulterymatchmaker)
thanks jewels !
Posted by: eatsrootsandleaves at June 26, 2008 11:16 PM
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 9:00 PM
"oh...just a little something I heard...
a Woman is a highly Sophisticated ..infinitely Complex ..deeply Intelligent being.....and it needs to be carefully tricked into doing things...hoh!"
Wow.. where did you hear that nw?
Justsaying it sounds horribly like someone I had the great misfortune to meet through the blogs a few months ago..
Posted by: decoratress at June 26, 2008 11:05 PM
Jen, not sure if this should posted here or in the "good sex for the long haul" blog......the socks, sandles, and those little suit pants shorts......always wonder what they're thinking.....definite first date material (sorry anyone who does wear these) .........on the good sex for the long haul topic .....should ask Ralph Fiennes on this one ; P
Posted by: spanky668 at June 26, 2008 10:54 PM
kerrysartgallery, that profile is a joke right.....I mean are you serious??? Because you are giving women a bad name ...no it has to be a joke!!!!!! There are other sites foe sex pick ups, maybe you should try adult matchmaker!!!!...just my thoughts...jewels
,
Posted by: junebaby57 at June 26, 2008 10:31 PM
Posted by: laughsandtalks at June 26, 2008 3:13 PM
Ahhh Marcus, Marcus, Marcus, my dear boy. You forget that I am in a serious relationship with a Goddess who takes care of all rising matters. There is no need for me to be a Horus even on the one day a week that the godddess rests. rgds grego
Posted by: grego7 at June 26, 2008 9:15 PM
oh...just a little something I heard...
a Woman is a highly Sophisticated ..infinitely Complex ..deeply Intelligent being.....and it needs to be carefully tricked into doing things...hoh!
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 9:00 PM
Posted by: laughsandtalks at June 26, 2008 6:42 PM I hope I am not dragging up painful memories.......but, seeing as you were there..... is this the reason you lash out, ....that "Horus" (Ra, aka Atum or Atum-Re") .....chose the option he did.........did you feel rejected..........or were you simply a technical adviser ?????? what score did you give?????
Posted by: spanky668 at June 26, 2008 8:59 PM
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 8:37 PM
Mine was last Sunday, 1st day of Cancer (or last of Gemini if the prediction is better)....cheating????
Posted by: spanky668 at June 26, 2008 8:47 PM
well..no more school books or dirty looks for a few weeks....yaaaayyy! free at laaaast!
having a break..think I've got cyber burn-out
hi kurli...time to start celebrating soon!...your birthday must be around the same time as me.. and spanky..hello there..when is yours.. we shall all charge glasses soon enough!...mwah nw x
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 8:37 PM
While it's still 'peace'ful in here just like to send warm hugs to the people who said nice things about a certain post....(hug hug hug)....beautiful people...nw x....
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 8:20 PM
captainstarlight @7.27pm:
I am neither TW1's nemesis nor his puppet! I am truly my own personality..........pity! Indiana Jones has always been a true hero to me......Trust me kiddo..........I KNOW I can survive the outback(been there done that)
Have YOU ??or are you like a few other fellas on this site.........and FULL of CO2.???
Posted by: kurli at June 26, 2008 7:47 PM
This is a very popular topic, specially when it takes so long to get up to date after a day of work.
So we have lost Amanda, a brief season, but with much controversy.
Some budding relationships nipped in the bud,
Mid winter, suppose its a down time for some, maybe better times arounfd the corner.
Posted by: virgil at June 26, 2008 7:37 PM
What happened to Dante�s inferno�...bit quiet in here..wheeeeere aaaaare youuuu Aaaamanda? nw x
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 26, 2008 7:32 PM
Kerrysartgallery - 5.19. Why are you single? Are you serious? With a profile like that it sure doesn't look like you are looking for anything substantial to me. Aren't there other sites for what you are really after? Jen
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 26, 2008 7:28 PM
No, captain, just ancient Egyptian religion being seriously invoked at 3.13pm by the high priest of the Church for Denouncing all Religions.
Off to my seminar. Seeyez all.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 6:47 PM
spanky668 June 26, 2008 5:24 PM
Yes you are wrong about Horus. I was there when it happened.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at June 26, 2008 6:42 PM
Marcustan at 3:13pm: You are warped, and not by time. A stir is almost always a self-description, and you've just supplied yours.
To avoid a cricked back, try using a cigarette holder while you're keeping the stars in their places so far above you.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 6:29 PM
Thank you for all your thoughts. I will certainly take them into consideration. Unfortunately it was intuition which led me to find out certain indiscretions with my ex. Even though I forgave her she could not let it go.
Cheers. Taking a break from blog land for a few days.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 26, 2008 6:13 PM
Thanks to all the well-wishers for my birthday. I am having an absolutely magical day!!! Just popped on inbetween things...got to go and get ready for a night in the pub with my friends. I am loving being 56! That half a bottle of Italian red at lunchtime probably helps.....and me a two pot screamer....ah well, as I recently said to someone, I know that the way to a person's heart is through the liver (and I'll probably regret that at about midnight but life is too short not to have fun and play a little).
Ciao folks
Posted by: eleganteloquent at June 26, 2008 6:05 PM
Posted by: auntykaz at June 25, 2008 8:00 PM
gee thanks!!!
Posted by: tradieforalady at June 26, 2008 5:45 PM
Posted by: laughsandtalks at June 26, 2008 3:13 PM
Marcus, actually Ra was the egyptian god of the sun, who "ingested" his own seed....thus creating 4 gods (his children, don't recall their names) who inturn created Isis, Osiris, Seth and Nephysis. Seth killed Osiris (who was Isis' lover and brother....who needs soapies).....and buried him in pieces across Egypt so he could not be laid to rest.....Isis and Nemphysis gathered the pieces together and brought Osiris back to life using the Ankh, just long enough for Isis to conceive his child....Horus...who swore to avenge his fathers murder... becoming known as Horus the avenger.........this is my understanding......could be wrong...............side note, the Orion constellation in ancient egypt represented Osiris, and Sirius represented Isis.......It was said the reason that sirius always tracked Orions path across the sky, was Isis' love for Osiris....
Posted by: spanky668 at June 26, 2008 5:24 PM
im beautiful. why am i still single at my age?
Posted by: kerrysartgallery at June 26, 2008 5:19 PM
flying foxy - I like that Marcus. You crack me up sometimes. At least she can take it in good spirit! Jen
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 26, 2008 5:14 PM
Hi Jen.......Thank you so much for your well wishes, and positive presence in the blogs.........is always a pleasure to hear your views as you have such a great attitude to life...........still keeping my eye on the top ten..... (all of them)....
Posted by: spanky668 at June 26, 2008 5:08 PM
Happy Birthday EE from a fellow cancerian, you're proof women age like fine wines......(not milk, whoever made that reference).....Hope you have a great birthday, and get spoilt (the way it should be).......
Posted by: spanky668 at June 26, 2008 5:04 PM
Hi to the familiar bloggers and the new....
Amanda has done this before....creates havoc with everyone then ups and leaves!
Posted by: brilliantblue at June 26, 2008 4:59 PM
OMG - Now I'm really embarrassed. Sorry Amanda. Sorry Lynda. Let's start again -
~ ~ ~ HAPPY BIRTHDAY LYNDA ~ ~ ~
I do hope very much you are having a wonderful day. ( Maybe my day will come together soon - well I'm hoping. lol.)
Think I might crack open a bottle of champers myself tonight. mmmmm.
Enjoy like I will. lol.
Jen
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 26, 2008 4:51 PM
~ ~ ~ HAPPY BIRTHDAY AMANDA ~ ~ ~
Hope you're enjoying a wonderful day.
xxx Jen xxx
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 26, 2008 4:37 PM
Okay, from reading this blog and so many of the others, it seems I must be one of the only ones NOT getting any kisses or emails. Is this correct??? And if so why?? I really am interested to know...someone...anyone??? I know I am not everyones ideal but I must be appealing to more than "Mr last resort"?? Maybe....???
Posted by: mystiemuse at June 26, 2008 4:05 PM
Might have to re moniker Warped and Grego as Horus1 and 2.
H. was the Egyptian solar deity who legend has it could fellate himself every night because ingesting his own semen kept the stars in their places. Given the amount of obsequious attention lavished on the 'stars'; flyingfoxy ("I only shag consul generals") and Miss Britain bubblebwain it seems appropriate.
Cheers Marquis
Posted by: laughsandtalks at June 26, 2008 3:13 PM
Happy birthday elegant, hope you're having a nice day.
Posted by: woodnwine at June 26, 2008 2:40 PM
Ohh, and "Woody" another beer , thanks mate...
:~D
Posted by: eatsrootsandleaves at June 26, 2008 2:39 PM
off topic
'Woody' - now how do we get, both houses of the Australian parliament to learn that lesson ??
And a tip for 'Manda:
Never argue with a fool. People might not be able to tell the difference.
If you absolutely must, keep as serene as is possible. Do not let them provoke you. Ever. Being really, really, really sarcastic in a calm tone of voice is a good way. See The Matrix. Remember when Neo fights the agent with one hand? Look like that. Let them get worked up. Have fun.
Posted by: eatsrootsandleaves at June 26, 2008 2:30 PM
I have two small dogs, which I regularly walk off-leash with larger dogs. They are happy playing with the bigger dogs but I have taught them that if a big dog starts hassling them they should not run, nor should they fight back .... they should just sit still. This way, 99.9% of the big dogs just give up and move on to another target. I wonder if this could be applicable to these blogs?
Maybe some of the bigger dogs pick on them because they are so beautiful.....
Posted by: woodnwine at June 26, 2008 2:09 PM
hello everyone! im looking for some female friends in sydney...anyone interested...would like to have a girls night out in the city and practise our flirting skills!!
Posted by: cutesmile52 at June 26, 2008 1:51 PM
eral @ 1.10 - yes, well said. Also I think if you have to keep pointing something about yourself out to people so often, maybe you should be asking yourself some serious questions. IE - maybe others don't see us the way we see ourselves (hey, myself included sometimes).
Posted by: woodnwine at June 26, 2008 1:39 PM
EE: Hope you're already having a happy birthday, and that it'll get even better as day fades to evening.
But more importantly, that this birthday will be better than your last nine, but nowhere as happy as your next nine. My very bestest wishes for them!
PS: If you need any blackguards faced down, give grego and me a yell.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 1:35 PM
I have to say how i'm surprised i am by how successful Amanda's war has been.
1- go shrill to create a sense of urgency and desperation
2- transform your war into a moral crusade
3- create a threatening presence to deter others
4- the grand strategy - lose the battles, but win the war.
She threw a tantrum, and finally you gave her her lolly (just to shut her up ?)
As for showing respect, in my day, respect for elders was still a very important.
Screaming "YOUR DISGUSTING and PATHETIC", at ones elders, just wasn't on, even if you thought they were being old fashioned or rude!
As for the lesson learned - "never argue with a idiot, they drag you down to their level, and beat you with experience. "
Posted by: eatsrootsandleaves at June 26, 2008 1:10 PM
Tassiedude/Rod
If your intuition is always spot on, why are you in so much conflict?
Did your intuition warn you that your wife was going to leave?
I think you are putting the kybosh on this potential relationship.
Give the blonde the benefit of the doubt. She may be feeling just as you are.
Estelle
Posted by: enrepres at June 26, 2008 12:26 PM
grego at 11.07: Mate, don't sell yourself short by only aiming at a squire job.
As a demonstrated true knight in this place, if I were you I'd be aspiring to be knotting one of her other scarves round your own lance.
In this place a lady's very wise to have a bob each way, till she sees who's won (her affections.)
As to the polish, my armour's the new stainless steel - such a time-saver for a knight without a squire or any other hangers-on.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 11:29 AM
PPS: Remember in When Harry met Sally, the onlooker to the faked orgasm in the cafe said "I'll have what she's having."
Well if the onlooker had M&M's attitudes, she'd say "How disgusting! Even dogs go behind a bush!"
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 11:07 AM
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 10:22 AM
OK by me old Knight. The fair damsell EE has given you her silk scarf to carry into battle. I would be happy to tag along with you to polish your armour and feed your charger and hope one day to find a smidgeon of favour with that honourable lady.
rgds grego
PS do I use silvo polish or a liquid cream cleanser on armour?
Posted by: grego7 at June 26, 2008 11:07 AM
Real beauty comes from within. If I may use the example of Jane Mc Grath whom I think is an example of a very good looking woman but also a very beautiful person.
Her smile and her happiness and her obvious deep love for her husband. Radiant smile is a cliche but it does indicate how her beauty went out to the others. I only ever saw her on the Denton show and that smile came through the TV loud and clear. There is no doubt that if she had smiled at me in person I would never have forgotten it.
Sadly that beauty is now lost except in our memories.
Beauty is a continuum. There are a small number of technically very beautiful woman. This is because their faces have certain proportions ( height vs width skin clarity etc. I think the proportion is 1: 1.4 )
Most of the population falls into the good looking to handsome range and lastly there is a small % who are downright ugly. eg NZ prime minister Helen Clarke.
As I have got older my perception is that there are increasingly more good looking and beautiful women everywhere. I suspect that is beacuse unlike when I was a callow youth I now look at every woman and realise there is a person in that body and that person could be very wonderful.
I believe many 50s+ men would have more success in finding fulfilling relationships if they looked for the inner beauty rather than concentaring on the outer skin. rgds grego
Posted by: grego7 at June 26, 2008 10:53 AM
PS: Marcustan at 12.47am was referring to a sincere exchange of sentiments in the Long distance blog yesterday. qv.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 10:47 AM
Marcustan at 12.47am: "Warped, time to come out for air and give the face a wash mate, brown marks all over it."
1) Some people are afraid of intimacy. They fear that if they dare to show their soft side in public, the school bullies will take advantage of them, and tease them unmercifully in front of their peers.
That just walking down the street hand in hand will cause loud shouts of "You've got a girlfriend!!!"
2) Some people take the Briddish view that any public exhibition of affection is Jolly bad form, what!
3) And some people are so emotionally inhibited that public demonstrations of affection make them want to hide their eyes, to lessen their unbearable embarrassment.
I'm sorry that you and merdejaz have one or more of those hangups, developed to a high degree, but that's something to see your shrink about.
Nothing to do with me. I've got the hide of a rhinocerus, so I plan to keep on being unashamedly authentic in public.
Is that OK by the rest of us?
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 10:22 AM
Tassiedude, There are some great books out there about coping with the belly-up relationship things, don't know why they seem to be titled to speak to women as if men don't have hearts and feel hurt as well (eg, "Face it, he's just not that into you"), but they do give a good common message....don't fall in love with the idea of love, and I reckon that's what the reaction to the blonde might just have been.
I hope your head is feeling better today and you can see a way forward. It's just another lesson for life being sent to you. Chill and enjoy, and if you can't then embrace the moment of misery and enjoy it when it goes. I do feel for you, mate, honestly, but it isn't worth the agony in the long run. Keep your heart open for the right one, this lady may not be her.
Posted by: eleganteloquent at June 26, 2008 10:12 AM
kisskat at 6:41 AM your wrote: "I'm amazed at how many bloggers have said they immediately eliminate people on the top 100 as potential partners. Why exactly?"
I said this BEFORE I knew how LITTLE the number of daily kisses or emails could be to get on the Top 100. After our discussion, I confess, I now look much more favourable at the people on the Top 100 than I did before the discussion.
Posted by: lovemuzik at June 26, 2008 10:11 AM
OGre at 12:50am: It must be terrible to have your internal conflict - the battle between your determination not to miss a thing, and your short attention span.
I suggest you try a speed-reading course - as we age, we need to keep learning new things, or we become old and cranky.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 9:57 AM
amandaongoldcoast at 4:43am: Aren't you the early bird? Hope you're never out of worms, or whatever birds buy with their pay-packets. In winter I wake the 9am to 1am shift, once the day's started to warm a little, so it only takes 30 mins of Greenhouse room heater to make my home office bearable for rugged-up sedentary pursuits.
"yes I have always been spulky...(what's that in aussie?) ...and I like who I am becoming, but I am not there yet."
The positive people who post here can relate to that. When you stop trying to fine-tune yourself nicer and nicer as you age, you know you've become either suddenly old, or merdejaz.
If you've got to go girl, after being our friend for a reason, go girl!
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 26, 2008 9:47 AM
Tassiedude and Jenniferhi, As we get older most of the slings amd arrows of cruel fortune (apologies to the bard) dont hurt as much as when we were young.
The exception is the heart and no matter how old old one is that organ aches terribly at times.
My very best wishes to you. rgds greg.
Posted by: grego7 at June 26, 2008 9:19 AM
OG,
I don't think that I am/was suffering any aches at all yesterday or today, thanks!
As I read through every comment on each blog every day or so before posting, I can assure you that Bill and I are not the only ones "guilty" of posting long comments.
Or do the comments just seem shorter to you when people are having arguments, rather than giving support and encouragement?
As I am not someone who would be considered "beautiful" to look at, I was hardly "wallowing" in it when I raised the point about beautiful people and their insecurities!
For the sake of your Blood Pressure OG, if we upset you so much, just scroll past!
Posted by: amberlight58 at June 26, 2008 9:13 AM
tassiedude - don't presume something will go wrong ...... it may not and then you will have wasted a great opportunity. Just go with the flow mate .... don't think about what COULD go wrong.
Posted by: woodnwine at June 26, 2008 9:09 AM
Tassiedude and Jennifer - hope you're both feeling better. I guess most of us have been there - but for what my advice is worth, don't look back.
A lovely day to everyone - the weekend is near!
Posted by: willow29 at June 26, 2008 8:43 AM
Tassiedude, FOUR cans of bourbon??? Things must be bad!! Hmmm...what to do....should you call the blonde for a second date even when your instinct screams NOOOOOO?
If your intuition is telling you this new liasion will not work out in the long term, pay attention. I think you should sit down and have a conversation with your intuition. Put it in a small room on a hard chair and focus a harsh light on it. Ask it what objection it has to this young lady and write its answers down. Demand clarity from it, and do not stop with the interrogation, sorry interview, until you have searched every corner of its mind. Search for every large, medium-sized and petite objection. Once you have your intuition's thoughts clearly written on a piece of paper, seal the piece of paper in an envelope and do not open it for two days. During this time, have no contact with the young lady. On the third day, sit down with 4 cans of bourbon, open the envelope, read carefully, sift through the evidence and come to the certain understanding that this woman will do you considerably more harm than good. Realise that she will waste a good 6 months of your life, and that during that 6 months the best love of your life will pass unnoticed by you because you are too busy with someone who gives you major grief. Then make the phone call anyway and set up expectations of a relationship starting with a definite second date. Following the phone call, pour the 4 cans of bourbon down your throat. Lie down and regret your actions until the bourbon erases any thinking ability whatsoever. Stay in that state for the next 6 months until the blonde dumps you for a better option.
That's what I would do. Seriously.
Posted by: waterbombe at June 26, 2008 8:15 AM
Tassiedude@ 1.28am:
Sorry to hear that things didnt work out,don't luxuriate in your sorrow..Be positive that "She "will come along!!(Cyber hugs to you)
Amanda@5.07am:
Girl I admire your pluck for defending your beliefs tooth& nail regardless of the name calling.Keep true to yourself.
OG: Good to see you back posting...and yes,way back you were correct!(smiles)
To:Everyone in blogland: It's the first day of the rest of your life,so make it a good one!
To EE........have a REALLY good one lady!
Posted by: kurli at June 26, 2008 8:14 AM
Just want to say my last post was written before the previous a.m. ones were posted. So Amanda, sorry to see you go, feisty is good, and maybe the blogs need more people like you to get your points out.
I only wish you well for the future.
Tassiedude - Hmmmm, hope you're feeling better this morning. Advise - who would I be to give advice about what to do. We just keep plodding along until that magical connection happens. Why not enjoy what you have for the moment, just as long as both of you are clear about it. It is what it is.
I'm sure there will be lots of replies to your post. I've got to go get ready for the day.
Take care all.
Jen
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 26, 2008 7:00 AM
Tassiedude - Thankyou again. You brought me a tear this morning. When I think about so many special people there really are amongst the bloggers it really is so lovely. A guy I was seeing (only casually, but perhaps thought could go to more, broke it off late last night, so a bit of emotion flowing around here last night and this morn.)
Amanda may think it is some massive clique but let me tell you Amanda, most of us have never even met. I, for one have not met one blogger. Though I like to think I know lots of them in spirit. And there really are so many kind, caring, helpful, supportive, knowlegable people. Kaz is right about perhaps re-reading the blog, and maybe you will see some helpful stuff amongst the (so-called) attack as you see
it.
Goodness, they've given me heaps over some of my beliefs, but it's just a growing experience. I like to be challenged, and look at others points of view. And there have been a couple of times I have stood back and gone hey, maybe I do need to re-assess my view on something. Everything really is not Black and White. Hey Troy?
Naturalwoman - That post was very special and thankyou for sharing. How wonderful to have a mother like that.
And like she said - Life really is beautiful.
Have a good day everyone.
Jen xxx (For Tassiedude)
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 26, 2008 6:43 AM
im amazed at how many bloggers have said they immediately eliminate people on the top 100 as potential partners. why exactly?
just because someone receives/replies to enough contact to be listed there, doesnt say anything about their character or integrity.
in the pursuit of finding a partner, it seems self defeating to me to eliminate all those people by default.
if someone said they would instantly eliminate all overweight people then there would be a big fuss.
it's really the same thing, just in a different package.
Posted by: kisskat at June 26, 2008 6:41 AM
May I just say though before Ieave (as I am going to remove my account and make my way after all this).....
I dont agree with beautiy contests, I am not particularly proud of ever partaking in them, but I was young. I am anti them.
As women I will go against what Yaahmule said, men do not age like wine and women like milk, men just like women to believe that as they prefer to bring them down to make them attainable as we as women hold all that they want and dream of.
As women we are strong, as men they want to find the love of a woman, often it becomes nasty, cruel and an attempt to 'bring a woman down to his level' so he feels like he has a chance if he feels she is too good for him.
I have to say, looking around, its pretty equal in the older guys an girls................the men arent better looking and havent aged better. Just the same.
Goodbye all, be good and remember.......BE NICE and love yourself (but never say you are better than someone else, only different).
Posted by: amandaongoldcoast at June 26, 2008 5:07 AM
Timewarp, thank you, I started modelling at 13, was picked up by an agent in the city centre one day. I ended it all around 21, went back to Uni and got myself a real job and ended up here.
I am not afraid of age, to the contrary.........I look forward to it as although yes I have always been spulky, I have not always been as I am and I like who I am becoming, but I am not there yet.
Posted by: amandaongoldcoast at June 26, 2008 4:43 AM
Amberlight, thank you........that was really nice to read after all the onslaught. Oh and thank you to the lovely couple of ladies who sent me a kiss with he message 'you have a lovely picture'. It was very nice, thank you so much.
I am glad some have actually got it. That if we all, men or women, stand up and believe we are beautiful and let noone tell us otherwise, we wouldnt have these control freaks running around who usually arent that great themselves, making judgements.
I see so many overweight men, being rude about womens weights with 'no fat chick' attitudes, when they themselves have a BMI much higher than the women they are bitching about................obviously in many other areas the same applies.
I am simply redressing the balance, or trying to and encouraging (well I had hoped, but clearly not) other women to be just as bold and confident. There is too much negativity and too many people being controlled like puppets to be deemed attractive.
Posted by: amandaongoldcoast at June 26, 2008 4:37 AM
Nighty night blog land. till we meet again. The morn is going to be so much more painful. As always.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 26, 2008 1:55 AM
At the end of the day I know there will always be another. Is that enough to console me. Then again maybe there wont be another. For F@#k's sake I don't even know what I
' trying to say.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 26, 2008 1:38 AM
Well her goes. I know I shouldn't but I will anyway. Remember the blond I was telling you about just the other day. Well I should have but I didn't. Break it off. We went for another date. Took her out for dinner. It was the best date I've been on in a long time. Chatted about nothing into the wee hours. Eventually kissed.(One of those upside down kisses), remember spider man hanging by his feet. It was awesomely erotic. Of course I did the gentlemanly thing of leaving before it went to far and called a taxi home. Sent her a text saying how much I enjoyed the night etc,. She, of course, replied with the equal. But now as always I'm FUBR. We were supposed to text today as we had pre arranged. I called several times but to no avail. I just have this gut feeling. (I'm one of those unfortunate bastards whose intuition is always spot on), that it wasn't meant to be from the start.
Now I find myself falling for this girl even though (think I referred it to being broken), I know it wont work. There are just a lot of issues that I don't even want to admit right now but will eventually come back and bite me on the arse. Should I go for it? Should I accept my gut feeling and try no further? I just don't know. Either way I feel I am in for a lot of pain and suffering. Am I still getting over the fact that my wife left me even though I feel I am over that hurdle. Maybe I'm just rushing into things too much and enjoy the fact that now I am single? Probably shouldn't talk about this sort of thing. I'll regret it tomorrow when my head has cleared.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 26, 2008 1:28 AM
Bill and Amber
I have just ereased a long spray at both of you for you excessisvely long posts. I just hope you both get over the aches you both seem to be suffering on soon and do not inflict them on us any more
OOOhhhmmm.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at June 26, 2008 12:50 AM
Warped, time to come out for air and give the face a wash mate, brown marks all over it.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at June 26, 2008 12:47 AM
OG. That is the most gentlemanly thing I think I have ever herd you say. Congratulations to you.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 26, 2008 12:35 AM
Amberlight58 I agree with you whole heartedly. But there are those of us men who have been cheated upon equally. Just goes to show how 50/50 it really is. Lots of love
Rod
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 26, 2008 12:27 AM
Tassiedude, does bourbon help with a head cold if it is mixed with coke and ice ??...
Or should l opt for the ever reliable nip of medicinal brandy, mind you it hasn't worked so far......
And that speck on the map called Tassie is a truly lovely place ..........
OG, you know l like to keep you on your toes and guessing !!.............K
Posted by: auntykaz at June 26, 2008 12:23 AM
Onto the red now. Getting way too frisky.And giving away too much info. Want to listen? Check out triple J unearthed! Just search for T dude.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 26, 2008 12:09 AM
Hi Jen,
I agree what a wonderful person Jane McGrath was. I can only imagine just how hard it would be to be to let those details about your life into the public arena.
Yet both Jane and Glen understood how much her public fight for life would make others more aware of the disease, make younger women aware that they are also at risk and make life easier for those who have the disease or who may get it in the future.
They chose to use their "fame" to try to improve the lives of others.
Truly a great example to society (and our children) about how not all "famous" people choose to be self-absorbed.
Amanda I admire your tenacity! Let no woman on these blogs ever chance to let the blokes know, she may have a high self-esteem about her appearance! That just would never do!
I certainly understand how easy it is to become defensive when you feel you are being attacked, and good on you for not backing down.
But I suggest that by being TOO angry you actually encourage some of the blokes on here to become even more 'personal'. It becomes a birt of a game for some to see how low they can go before you "crack".
You already have a great partner by the sounds of things, you know you are more than just okay, physically, intellectually and in your profession; aren't you just giving too much weight to these blokes' opinion of you?
On topic, yes I believe those who are deemed beautiful physically, do have some things easier. But I'm not sure they have it as good as society would like to think.
As Waterbombe said in her post, about very attractive teenage girls, there is always someone who has the need to show them they are "not as good as they think they are".
The same applies to men, but I'm not as sure it is quite as bad.
If being beautiful is so great, why are some of the world's most beautiful women so insecure?
It must be hard to never know if a man really loves you for who you really are or if you are just a prop to his ego. The "look what I can get and you can't" factor.
At least those of us who aren't raving beauties, know that if we have a partner, the chances are he does really loves us and we aren't viewed as a trophy to show off to other blokes!
I can only think how devastating it must be, to then be cheated on?
I mean, if you believe your looks are your major asset (in some cases their self-esteem is so low they believe their looks are their ONLY asset) and some guy still cheats on you, how terrible would that make you feel?
Is it any wonder that some of the world's most beautiful women have lived such sad, lonely and traumatic lives?
Posted by: amberlight58 at June 25, 2008 11:49 PM
Kaz I think not anyone ever knows when it ever started far less when it will ever end. I just thank "whoever" that you are there to aspire, frustrate or titilate us poor men for your being here, for without each other there would be no "us"
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at June 25, 2008 11:40 PM
naturalwoman, thanks for the post about your mother - that was awesome, and she sounds like she was too...
Posted by: malsie at June 25, 2008 11:37 PM
I'm on a role. Having a binge, Just finished work, bout to crack my fourth can of bourbon. Peace love and mungbeans.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 25, 2008 11:35 PM
Auntykas. I've had my head seriously stuck in the sand. Still thinking of love. peace and happiness.:)
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 25, 2008 11:29 PM
Amanda@GC: At 10.46am I asked you some questions, just for the record. You took them as just another attack from another direction, so you replied negatively and unspecifically.
I was especially interested in your form as a beauty queen, so I researched it tonight. And I have to say that I am very impressed by the statistics and video footage.
Amanda, you really do have form. Still in your teens, you were Miss UK one year, and off to South Africa to try for Miss World. Didn't quite make the top 10 - out off well over a hundred contestants, but what an experience!
Still better results the next year: a semi-finalist in Miss International in Japan, and also third runner-up in Miss Europe (venue unspecified.) All before you were 20.
That will have taken a lot of guts and hard work, as well as the lucky accident of being born with beauty genes.
And now you've got those triumphs behind you, better weather out here, a career you're proud of, and a bloke who seems as proud of you, as you are of him. All good. All many miles better than most of us here, myself included. And you know how many tickets I've got on me. (Most saying ten and thrippence ha'penny, or make an offer.)
So I see you as a tall poppy, who should be able to stand up on her pedestal and poke her tongue out at the world (and a lot further out than that miserable effort in your profile photo. Upgrade it fast - further out, then down, like the polynesians. It's letting the rest of your profile down.)
But you're letting the ankle-biters get you really riled. Which is not cool for a queeny dame. (1950s Brisbane slang for a haughty chick that you'd give your right arm , to have her promenade down Queen St on your left arm on 3 Saturday evenings running.)
Someone has told you "Don't take any nonsense from people. If they cheek you, slap them down" Bad advice.
The true queeny dame lets it all fly past, apparently unnoticed. Or asks occasional questions like "Can you make that insult a bit more potent please? Get it up to a 3 out of 10, maybe?"
Power is inversely related to temperature. The cooler you stay, the more power you keep. And the hotter under the collar you get, the more your mascara runs.
As to the age thing, try not to let it hassle you. I suspect you are actually afraid of catching AGE from other people who are carriers because they are older than you are.
So you're terrified of blokes more than 4 years older then you are, or who are showing signs of AGE (or very high testesterone levels) like early-onset male-pattern baldness. You worry that the AGE will infect you, if you get too near them.
Think of natural-woman's irresistabe elderly mum, and plan how to become more irresistable each year yourself. Have and radiate peace and love, and then only spinsters will notice your wrinkles.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 25, 2008 11:27 PM
And to think I always thought that little map of Tassie was such an important and cherished place. LOL
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 25, 2008 11:08 PM
Auntykas. Little place way down south. Tis often forgotten. No one from Tassie ever makes the top 100. LOL
Jen. Got to stop doing this as its getting corny but you'll always be my number one.
Earl. Funny!
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 25, 2008 11:06 PM
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 25, 2008 10:39 PM
Well I wouldn't support ERAL in the word count then, you're eloquent but not nearly verbose enough to take out the title on word count (not a bad thing, like quotes.....succinct little truths)..........I've wanted to get GLAB out there for a new lol substitute (giggles laughs and blushes).....see if we can't get it into the teenage vernacular.......you could freak your daughter out with that (being behind its adoption).....just a thought
Posted by: spanky668 at June 25, 2008 11:04 PM
Posted by: sandpitstatistics at June 25, 2008 9:16 PM
I demand a word count !
Posted by: eatsrootsandleaves at June 25, 2008 10:42 PM
Thanks Spanky, but actually I wasn't talking about the RSVP Top list. Lol. I was meaning the list posted below in this blog.
Laughing way out loudly now. But thanks for the ego boost.. Blushing now.
Jen
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 25, 2008 10:39 PM
OG, re sultanas, they are still dried up and in a box on the shelf :-)
Don't quite know about the always thinking mind though, its a bit fuzzy tonight with a head cold. :-(
Tassiedude, where on earth have you been ??
The battle of the sexes NEVER ends, don't you know that ???...........................K
Posted by: auntykaz at June 25, 2008 10:38 PM
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 25, 2008 10:08 PM you go girl !!! number one watch out.................enjoy!......
Posted by: spanky668 at June 25, 2008 10:31 PM
OOOOhhhhh. I made a top 10 list. Think that's a first!. Woo Hoo !!!!!!!!!!!
Jen
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 25, 2008 10:08 PM
waterbombe at 8:24pm: You are so right. With our family income down at the official Henderson Poverty Line, we lived even more like church mice to put our 2 clever girls through the most academic Brisbane girls-only private high school (where my Ex had gone in the late 50s, and my own mother during WW1, as it happens.)
We wanted them to be able to blossom away from nobbling by learning-hazard class clowns/ bullies of either gender, in a place where most of the girls were pretty fair-dinkum, and they'd have to work very hard to make the top ten in their year. It was worth every sacrifice.
Posted by: timewarp1 at June 25, 2008 10:06 PM
Adelaide Blog meeting
If anyone who has not yet contacted me regarding this, please contact me by email to get details.
Doug
Posted by: virgil at June 25, 2008 9:52 PM
And so it begins. Forget the wars of the past as they are indeed trivial compared to path we have chosen today. For as of tomorrow we begin the last war.There will be no winners, no losers and no survivors. The war of the sexes has begun.
Posted by: tassiedude1 at June 25, 2008 9:41 PM
Men in their 50's only date younger women, give it some thought dear.Posted by: murtajaz at June 25, 2008 8:35 PM
I did give it some thought murtajaz and you are completely wrong. Men in their 50's date younger women AND older women...I, like many women I know, mostly have had relationships with guys younger than me. Thats how it goes, Murty...you're wrong.
Posted by: waterbombe at June 25, 2008 9:41 PM
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 25, 2008 8:42 PM
I also read (regularly) and enjoy your posts NW :-) - I especially enjoyed what you wrote about your mum - she sounds like she was a wonderful character and was genuinely loved by all.Thank you for sharing your precious memories of her. :-)
Kind regards
Jacqui (Miss P)
Posted by: misspriss01 at June 25, 2008 9:37 PM
Jane McGrath - Now she was a beautiful woman. In all senses of the word! And I think Glenn McGrath is surely a beautiful man.
Jen.
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 25, 2008 9:37 PM
Kaz,
Sultanas are sweet, thet have to be a special type and picked in their prime the book would not allow it to be different.
NW,
Any woman such as you describe your mother to be would have left a great trail of broken hearted suitors in her wake, I have similar memories of my mother, but have no doubt that I did not know of her private life , just the bits she chose to let me see. As is the wont of Ladies of her day.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at June 25, 2008 9:34 PM
Bravo Waterbombe!...Your the bombe!
nw
Posted by: naturalwoman08 at June 25, 2008 9:33 PM
Amanda
You have a good argument, that you are being picked on.
You seem to have to be defending yourself, to everyone, anyone who can stay with it, and not buckle under the pressure deserves admiration.
Its about time this blog was about something more than Amanda bashing.
Surely there are other fair minded people in blog land who think its about time Amanda got a fair go.
We have to behave better than a gang of bullies.
Posted by: virgil at June 25, 2008 9:27 PM
Back on topic (I think). Was at the doctors this arvo and reading a magazine. Quote in there said "Beauty is not defined by the masses, but by the opinion of the individual." (Rune Leknes).
Now she can either mean (I suppose) the opinion of the self-proclaimer of the beauty or the opinion an individual may have on anothers beauty.
Hmmmm - something to think about.
Jen
Posted by: jenniferhi at June 25, 2008 9:23 PM
Amanda, l think that the needle needs to be changed on that record player of yours, it appears that it is stuck in a groove and repeating itself overandovernadover.....
Posted by: auntykaz at June 25, 2008 7:15 PM
People lie and deceive themselves constantly under the guise of positive reinforcement until a lie becomes the truth in their own mindset
Posted by: yaahmulegiddyup at June 25, 2008 8:01 PM
To reply to this, may l just say that this is most definitely not what l was getting at in my post to Amanda. This small section of my previous post has been taken out of the context in which it was written.
My comments were directed at maybe not repeating and repeating the same things over again. How can any discussion move on if that keeps happening ??
Take a look back at the entries of today, if you can be bothered, to get my drift.....
I did and posted
Thanks Gems. You might not have thought so if I'd posted the whole poem, I self-censored and left the first few verses off.
I think you are right about destroying the dream. We are led to believe that relationships are this 'Happy Ever After' fairytale, and our expectations become so high that they can never be lived up to. While I hate to say "Lower your expectations and you are less likely to be disappointed", it might help us put in the hard yards to make the less than perfect relationship, (and the vast majority are) work for the long term.
Posted by: sunriselad at July 4, 2008 2:15 PM