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What Do Men and Women Want?
The famous battle of the sexes, will anyone ever understand what the opposite sex want... understanding and knowing are two different things. Both men and women are so different, yet when you have the head's up on what he's/ she's looking for, part of the battle will be just a little easier.
Even relationship experts can't pinpoint every facet of the needs or wants of the sexes. Members of RSVP grew up on different generations with different concepts of what they want or what they should want from a relationship.
So what do men and women are looking for in a new partner and in a relationship? Is it values, is it looks, is it love?
Posted by April 4, 2008 10:12 AM
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Amber @ 10.36pm:
Why are you asking me? Look him up, read his profile, and send him a kiss asking for more info. Then he'll tell tou it'll cost you a stamp. And so it should. That's how RSVP works.
But in the meantime, I'll try to help. The old hands tell me he was originally Earl of Wyoming. Later, when I fell into the blog in Nov. 07 (still having trouble getting out, like the Irishman who fell into a vat of Guiness and finally drowned, after climbing out three times to pee) - by then he was neuroticfish. Since then several names with German musical pedigrees, and now back guarding the range, due to the appearance of varmints tharabouts.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 12:52 AM
Marshall Earp
This is The best incarnation I have seen so far, so much better than the Jolly Roger and while Richard had some very good posts, and some ordinary ones, the Marshall is the best I have seen of yours.
Posted by: virgil at April 18, 2008 12:18 AM
Wow, I'd hate to be the sherrif at the moment. Seems like the nuts are hitting the fan.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 17, 2008 10:37 PM
Timewarp,
I quite like Richards' metamorphosis into Wyatt.
A much more relaxed and fun character than the nasty guy with the faecally challenged liver!
Does he "shapeshift" often?
Posted by: amberlight58 at April 17, 2008 10:36 PM
Time for someone to produce their drivers licence to rsvp, methinks
Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 17, 2008 8:43 PM
oohlala1 at April 17, 2008 6:52pm: I'm guessing it was I whom you were criticising in that post for being abstruse, if not obfuscatory (which means laying a smokescreen, so it's harder for others to see what I'm up to.)
oohlala, I think you are back to pot and kettle again - demanding that everybody must spell everything out, so that all the kiddies can understand everything, but not saying who you're really talking to.
I'm reminded of Shakespeare's plays. Take 'Anthony and Cleopatra', or 'As you like it' for example.
The play is written on 2 levels, like a Pixar movie. There's the obvious story-line for the kiddies, plus some less-obvious in-jokes and by-play, aimed at the more-sophisticated members of the audience. (In Shakespeare's day, they were called the Lords.)
So why shouldn't I, (or any other of the "tired old men who now copy the tired old women" - I forget your recent words) be allowed to write on two levels, like Shakespeare and Pixar - on one level for the audience in the front stalls, and a second level for the blog-lords in the fancy-dress circle?
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 17, 2008 8:22 PM
oohlala - I agree.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 17, 2008 7:47 PM
Quite frankly I do not understand what any of you long time bloggers are talking about in theses posts. Why do you not just say what you are meaning instead of talking in the code. Is rude to other people who are here to talk of these things if you do not tell us who and what you are refering.
You should tell us or not write about such things.
Posted by: oohlala1 at April 17, 2008 6:52 PM
Wyatt @ 8.24am: Yes sir, but think of the old-timers like Clark Gable or Errol Flynn, who always played themselves, just in different fancy-dress each time.
When, like Flynn, the actor is too self-centred and/or 2-dimensional to be able to expand his emotional range beyond his own personal self, he needs to rely on his looks and screen charisma, to remain viable as a movie star. And keep off the substances and jailbait, Errol.
But if his looks are not in the Gable/Bogart league, then like me and many others here, he shows less of himself visually (only one portrait photo, just to let people check for 2 heads on the same shoulders, and then for first-date recognition purposes.)
Or he retires completely from the verifiable visual, and works in print, radio or blogland, where the AUDIENCE (and for Eros' sake, please forget that nasty word Lurker - that's a previous callsign of a current invisible negative chameleon)... where the AUDIENCE can enjoy imagining him from his words.
A bit like "By their deeds shall ye know them."
By his words we can fairly easily recognise the player who can't help soon reverting to playing himself, while trying to play the audience instead. And I'm not just saying that because I'm the Lone Haranguer - look at Klay. Revealed himself in his first 2 or 3 posts, by just saying his usual stuff..
The problem is that when you push the same old barrow, the wheel has the same old squeak.
Some players are harder to spot, because they have a wider emotional range themselves. So they have the knowhow/ be-how to create a range of believable different characters.
They tend to be novelists or playwrights, or the authors of harder-to-spot fictional RSVP profiles.
Each character has its detailed "back story" that is not given out to the audience, but is there to guide the author's progressive portrayal of the character through each episode/post.
In soaps, this back-stories document allows a number of different writers each to write different episodes, provided that each episode keeps to what is consistent with the back-story of each of the regular characters that are included in the current episode.
Until they write their fiction in too much of a hurry, and little inconsistencies become visible in the corners of the picture.
I was very interested to see that Aliane (and I don't put inverted commas round that word the way Ninashen does) was just saying on the heart-logo blog that it's even possible these days to borrow faces (from Facebook?) to give extra substance to a fictitious profile. Preferably all of exactly the same person, I'd add, in case anyone has very sharp eyes.
The things people do to add extra hobbies/dimensions to their lives, without going as far as joining ASIO!
Enough musing for the moment. Back to earning the $.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 17, 2008 11:17 AM
Timewarp
Given that the acting arena, both professional and amateur, has such limited talent at its’ disposal, role changing is only to be expected.
But you would expect at the least when parts are changed, a corresponding change in tone, pitch, voice inclination etc rather than the same old same old hysterical histrionics indistinguishable from one production to the next.
I’ve heard Hyacinth Bouquet on stage repeatedly for 20 years!!! Gawd it starts to drag after a while.
But it is great to see someone like John Wood hit the road, and playing such a brilliantly historical theatre like the venerable Roxy at downtown Bingara, of all places.
Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 17, 2008 8:24 AM
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 16, 2008 11:06 PM ...OOOOOnow get it a bit like Earl on many names...recently Richard now reborn as Wyatt!!!!!!
Posted by: junebaby57 at April 17, 2008 7:40 AM
Yes D.....h.
RSVP will deal with properly.
I can boast that RSVP have sighted my driver�s licence, and unsuspended my profile.
Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 17, 2008 7:39 AM
'Aliane' - Kudos to you for remaining in character for so long. Alas, your time is up. Time for a reincarnation, methinks.
Posted by: ninaschen at April 15, 2008 9:51 PM
If you are going to make such an accusation Linda, could you declare your evidence? I am over people like you making accusations without verification. This is slanderous behaviour. If you feel someone is a fraud, why dont you complain through the correct RSVP complaints dedpartment, where the matter will be dealt with professionally and fairly.
Posted by: femalepersuasion at April 17, 2008 3:49 AM
Its plain as day to everyone else!
Posted by: femalepersuasion at April 17, 2008 3:14 AM
amdoingit @ 10.33pm: I believe the technical term is Maze-bright. IQ in top 0.5%.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 17, 2008 1:03 AM
PPS to Ninaschen: After reading Lani at April 16, 2008 10:07pm in the hearts-logo blog, I'm now ready to add back the clause which originally lay before the final edited wording of my inscrutable post at April 16, 2008 12:32am.
The part of my question that came from thinking INSIDE the square was "Are you a ventriloquist, or ..."
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 16, 2008 11:33 PM
Spot on, TimeWarp.
Posted by: ninaschen at April 16, 2008 11:23 PM
I was just thinking about the BBC's excellent series Dr Who. One actor would play the lead role for a while, then that visible body would be killed off and a new actor would be recruited to take over. Time and time again. Something like the Dalai Lama.
Here it's the opposite. The same actor is disguised as one character for a while and then that character is killed off, and then the same actor takes off again, playing a new role.
I guess that's what Ninaschen was talking about at 9.51pm on the 15th - I misquoted the time in mine at 9.18 tonight,
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 16, 2008 11:06 PM
Jenjen57......
You know me its a jokes.
Madam Ninaschen mentioned about Reincarnation, so I brought-up Egyptian-Mummy's.. to pretend I'm "Nefertiti" awaken from Ancient Egyptian Pharaoh. I'm flying over to Egypt soon for holiday. It's tongue in cheek, I go and ride with Madam jokes....:)
Glad to see you back Madam Ninaschen.
Posted by: aliane at April 16, 2008 10:51 PM
Back for a quick look and who do I see?
Nina!! Hello.. popping in again for a look too?? Good to see.... And...interesting posts to boot!!..
And from you too Bill??? Methinks you are very astute at times!!
This could be interesting!!!!! "G"
Posted by: amdoingit at April 16, 2008 10:33 PM
Ninaschen @ 8.08pm: Hello again. Enjoyed meeting you in Melbourne, and I'm looking forward to reading your stuff here again more often, once you can lift your head.
You asked about my post @ 12.32am 16th. It had been prompted by yours below at 9.51pm 16th:
" 'Aliane' - Kudos to you for remaining in character for so long. Alas, your time is up. time for a reincarnation, methinks."
So when I posted
"Or are you actually the puppet-meister, Ninaschen? (ie. the one who books the invisibles' gigs to perform here on the blogs?)"
- was I generalising? Was I extrapolating? Was I thinking beyond the square? And are there any clues in my words to Troy just then, in the heart-logo blog?
You come clean first, me fine portugese beauty.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 16, 2008 9:18 PM
Aliane - what on earth are you on about ?? :)
Posted by: jenjen57 at April 16, 2008 8:58 PM
Thanks for the welcome back, Virgil, it was really nice to see you still here. It was to be a fleeting visit as earning a crust is still distracting me but of course, I couldn't resist having another peek to see what was going on! I hope to jump in with both feet again, soon.
TimeWarp, your post reproduced below:
Or are you actually the puppet-meister, Ninaschen? (ie. the one who books the invisibles' gigs to perform here on the blogs?)
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 16, 2008 12:32 AM
has me a little puzzled, I confess. Is it tongue in cheek?
Posted by: ninaschen at April 16, 2008 8:08 PM
It is indeed a strange dynamic Marcus
Posted by: woodnwine at April 16, 2008 3:29 PM
Posted by: junebaby57 at April 16, 2008 8:27 AM
You have answered your own question Babe.
It is a numbers game. Hang in there.
My experience tells me that RSVP is a bit tainting- the premise that you are both a buyer and a seller on public display is a difficult to define slight negative.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 16, 2008 12:28 PM
alaine - have you been drinking?
Posted by: woodnwine at April 16, 2008 12:17 PM
Awaken the Mummy's called out my name.
I'm the reincarnation of Nefertiti the Ancient Egyptian Queen of Goddess, beloved by Pharaoh.
Aliane is real not a cyberblog-cloned. I'm having a beauty mummy rest. Tutankhamun is beside me. The Eye of Horus is with us Von Voyage... hoop back to my Sarcophagus,..C yay...
Posted by: aliane at April 16, 2008 11:52 AM
junebaby - finding that right combination is rare .... I've only found it once one here. It takes time if you are sincere .... if you're just a player you can probably find lots of people to "play" with.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 16, 2008 9:51 AM
I have an idea of what I want """'''''Are you tall, easygoing, independent, have a good sense of humour, like a chat, social, a professional with a career you like, you are honest, sincere, an optimist who respects women and you want, REALLY want to have have someone in your life??
(Married or attached?? DON'T call me, not interested!). """"""""" off my profile, I am wanting someone a bit similar to me, but male!!.
So where is he??? 16 months later and I am really thinking that I am soooo over this dating stuff!!!
I have met many men, the ones that liked me, I didn't have a spark back with, so they were not right for me. The few I have really likded, also didn't work, as the fuill chemistry was not there either.....2 that we did have the chemistry, were not in the right circumstances to be in a relationship at the time they met up with me!!! Sooo frustrating...on many levels!!!!
Sooo I am having a rethink on what to do......how are some of you other "over 12 months on RSVP" going???
Have a lovely day all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at April 16, 2008 8:27 AM
laughsandtalks - I read that same article and found it quite perplexing, really.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 16, 2008 8:01 AM
A bit more honesty on this subject might be refreshing.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 16, 2008 8:00 AM
Or are you actually the puppet-meister, Ninaschen? (ie. the one who books the invisibles' gigs to perform here on the blogs?)
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 16, 2008 12:32 AM
Is anyone getting any wiser as to what the opposite sex actually wants?
Posted by: woodnwine at April 14, 2008 9:54 PM
I read an article in The Australian on a survey in England.
The ideal male for the Pom girls is a 39 yo 5"10" blue eyed medical professional (read Dr.) who has had no more than 6 lovers and 3 relationships.
Ninaschen.
I've had a couple of kisses from Aliane and reckon she is ridgy didge. She might play up the pidgin english a bit but is pretty consistent.
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 15, 2008 11:48 PM
Ah Ninaschen, nice to see you here....
Now what does that comment mean l wonder....are you talking in another tongue perhaps, Ninaschen ????..............K
Posted by: auntykaz at April 15, 2008 10:39 PM
Nina.
I got a profile from Aliane a fair while ago and again recently, with photo,s, while her profile was a lot cleaner than her posts, there was enough indication that the style was the same. It is not hard on here to believe in the multi personalities, like Iaminperth's assumption that TW and I are the same person (even though I am more handsome). But if Alaine is a multiple she sure had me fooled. I would hate to think that she is though, and I would have to stop following her around as Marcus claims.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 15, 2008 10:29 PM
ninaschen - well, sort of .....
Posted by: woodnwine at April 15, 2008 10:03 PM
'Aliane' - Kudos to you for remaining in character for so long. Alas, your time is up. Time for a reincarnation, methinks.
Posted by: ninaschen at April 15, 2008 9:51 PM
Have to agree with you on that one decoratress.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 15, 2008 5:51 PM
On Topic...
I believe men & women want honesty.
..& that along with altruism, it is one of our more important resources.
Posted by: decoratress at April 15, 2008 5:22 PM
Fair enough WnW.
You will agree that I have called quiet often in past blog's for the peepers to get in an participate and a couple have with gusto and style. Also I have got private mail wondering if I was alright because I did not seem to be posting as much, as I advised them privaltely, I was just watching the posts unfold and watching the new chums. To those that disagree with my views let me say that I get Kisses from both sexes young and old, (even one from the States) each day from peepers that support me and admire my honesty. To all of you non participating peepers, much appreciated. Now as Woody and I suggest, jump in and enjoy. Come to think of it Woody, when does anyone stay on topic for long, thats what makes this site interesting in my book.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 15, 2008 1:00 PM
Lookin-85 at 10.33pm: Don't fret. We all tend to generalise, and the problem with being a Sheriff is that only the nuisances come to your attention.
You're so busy taking care of them without excessive force that you don't notice the well-behaved kids at the concert, let alone the ones who stayed home.
OG @ 9.59am: I carefully chose which bits of your past to let slip late last night, when I was giving you a serve too, in the hope that the reality-phobic ex-blogger wouldn't feel that my subdued self-defence was picking on her alone.
I chose to mention some of the parts of your exciting, adventurous life that I admire and envy the most, because I was giving you a pretty strong serve in that post, and wanted to balance that.
Quiet Burp @ 6.20am: Mate, that saloon opens early - soon after fishfart I reckon. But you'd think they'd employ early birds at that hour, rather than bunnies ...
Liked your latin, and someone's relevant previous suggestion about SVP - very appropriate I thought.
PS: Hope she's not getting too annoyed.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 15, 2008 11:34 AM
OG - I take criticism pretty well too and don't generally care what others say to or about me on the blogs but too much slinging does deter some people, particularly new people who aren't used to some of the "characters". Also, the topics just get stale after a while so there is nothing left to do but get off topic and then it sometimes gets nastier.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 15, 2008 10:32 AM
WnW
You keep asking for a change of blog, so as to stop slinging off at people. It was like this when I started to peep and has not changed since I have started to blog, I thought it was the norm. Seems to me robust and open comment is only allowed if it doesn't upset some sensitive souls. I know because I seem to cop it. I don't mind that either, even when they get personal and insulting in comment to me, just indicates my correct assesment of them
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 15, 2008 10:15 AM
Bill.
Pretty accurate summation of our different personalities and attitudes, not sure about the rednecked fascist bit lol. If it ever comes to words between us your description of yourself will do. No need to go private on this response, you spoke the truth (as you see it) and it is accepted as such. As to the rest of the post, some things said in private should remain so. But being said, are said and will always remain so.
I am sorry Perth has pulled the plug, but she was wrong in her statements of late and when proved so has left, her decission to those who want to start laying the blame.
Cheers OG
ps I also should point out that a lot of my responses to my detractors have been not posted, just in case you wish to blame the moderator in letting those that do go through.
Posted by: oldergent at April 15, 2008 9:59 AM
Generalised advice- for those who appear incapable of reading the Safety Section in your drop downs.
Inappropriate online behaviour- report the matter to rsvp
Inappropriate offline behaviour- do NOT tolerate it. Each Police Force has units dedicated to assisting women in this regard.
Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 15, 2008 9:24 AM
Karina - I think we need a new, interesting and relevent topic so people can have a pertinant discussion about dating instead of just resorting to slinging off at each other.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 15, 2008 8:20 AM
Seems some people just want confrontation ..... but why? Don't we all grow tired of this .... eventually?
Posted by: woodnwine at April 15, 2008 7:51 AM
Hey guys, I'm out of here. Unfortunately and sadly the blogs have again reverted to sad old people making personal unfounded attacks which have nothing to do with any of the subjects at hand. These people just lurk around in my opinion with their abusive personal comments designed to try to lift their own boring lives. Can't be bothered any more, it's not interesting or stimulating. Good luck all, hope you all find what you are looking for.
Posted by: iaminperth at April 15, 2008 7:29 AM
YouareinPerth (you say) @ 8.21pm: Are you as sure of that, as you are that OG and I are the same person?
I just got another email from him tonight, fulminating about you and 2 others. I think he's been short-changing himself on the OMMMM routine lately, and I told him so. "Down, Fang!" Or words to that effect.
I am a boringly detail-minded person, with an excellent memory and maze brightness. I was born on Dec 13th, which is called the Day of Exacting Precision. Only found that out about 6 years ago, but recognised the trait in my mid-teens, and called myself Genau Bill.
I'm too kind to do a thorough demolition job on you like the one the Marquise just did on Tassie44, but in my defence against your allegation that Robert and I are the same person, I need to say:
1) Our genuine photos show 2 very different-looking people. I am carrying more weight, some of it as head hair.
2) He put his age up to get into the army at 15, and worked at Rum Jungle before Nasho. I've worked all my life in Brisbane, including 14 years at Qld Uni, the last 11 as an evening student. (while working by day as an industrial engineer then factory manager.)
3) If we ever came to Words, he'd call me a poofter-promoting leftie academic, and I'd call him a right-wing reactionary redneck, if not a frighteningly ferocious fascist.
Several of the more-discriminating bloggers have commented on the significant difference between our respective attitudes, just in the last few days.
I won't embarrass you by quoting again some of the times you have ludicrously contradicted yourself on the blogs, within days. Did that a coupla weeks ago, the last time you accused "Robert" and "Bill" of being the same person.
You would have forgotten all that already, because it threatened your ability to create your own self-affirming reality on the run.
And I'm not just saying this to confuse you, or my name would be Cassius, not Bill.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 15, 2008 2:54 AM
Now Wyatt I take offence to that remark as you forget that, if you had read the few post I made, that there is still people of this generation that have morals, ethics, and respect for themselves, as well as the law and elders of the generation preceeding.
I do realise that it is not directed at myself but the moment that you mentioned "this imbiclie generation" you included me and anyone else like me in that statement, and as much as I hate being refered to as a member of generation Y I still am apart of it.
I am a respectful, kind caring person that values the wisdom and teaching of the more experienced. Its just unfortunate that people such as myself are becoming the exception not the rule
Posted by: lookin4missright85 at April 14, 2008 10:33 PM
Is anyone getting any wiser as to what the opposite sex actually wants?
Posted by: woodnwine at April 14, 2008 9:54 PM
Perth.
You never attack anyone! without going back throught the blogs your venom towards TW, indicates your true nature, as your venom against anyone who dares to challenge you in your misandry.
OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 14, 2008 9:31 PM
Blueeyes @ 7.06pm Sunday: "OG-who do you know that we don't, if you can post almost in real time? Or are you slipping someone a sweetener?"
I'm guessing the old bloke's using the evidence. Lives on the blogs, and when he sees the tally go up on the cover-sheet because that blog is being moderated at the moment, that's when he posts to it. But I could be dead wrong. Again and again.
EARL, now come right round the world and back to the Wild West by 6.05pm: Congratulations Sheriff - you had me quick-drawing my dictionary, for the first time since I started reading the blogs.
But you mistake my intention. Klay is just saying all those angry-young-man things to give us the impression that he is as young as all your annoying live-show aggro pukers. Check me out in this blog at 11.32pm on 11th, then 12.34pm on 12th.
He's still the one taking pot-shots at all or any male bloggers a few years older than himself, who demonstrate any alpha tendencies - and doing a little crawling on the side. But now he's firing from a new sniper's hide, further down the valley.
But still using the same identifiable bullets, and continuing to fool (not only) the chickybabes. Have a recent read.
I really do believe there should be separate blogs where the younger members can have their say, without being intimidated or overshadowed by the uncool experience-based wrinklie wisdom of some of our older regular bloggers, the negativity and spleen of some others, and the considerable writing skills of both.
So I'd ban myself, klay and TLD from RSVP primary school for a start, and the rest of us as well. We've got high school, or U3A in my case - used to teach creative writing there, when I was retired for a year.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 14, 2008 8:58 PM
and OG read the blogs and you will find I have never attacked anyone at any time, you and TW are the same person I believe as you are both angry old men and your confusion runs along exactly the same lines.
Posted by: iaminperth at April 14, 2008 8:21 PM
I'm not defending anyone, I simply stated I believe the terminology used is disgusting and now you have agreed.
Posted by: iaminperth at April 14, 2008 8:19 PM
Perth.
no more disgusting than your attacks, maybe a more accurate description than you like but I will stand by it and fully agree with wyattearp and consider the sycophant you seem to attract, amongst the ilk he describes. Hidden profiles, could be that you are being sucked in by what seems to masquerade as a man. Plus that what makes you think I was referring to the person you are defending unless you have a similar suspicion.
OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 14, 2008 7:20 PM
unlikenoother...I took a look at your profile - curious as to why the numbers you quoted :) That is one very cute cat!!
Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 14, 2008 6:33 PM
You started all this Timewarp, but inviting and encouraging an impuissant.
If you worked the number of concerts I have and saw the number of drunken evictions that occur, the absolute disrespect for the police and law and order, their punch drunk foul mouths, you wouldn’t kowtow to this imbecile generation in anyway, let alone want to listen to their nonexistent opinions.
Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 14, 2008 6:05 PM
Hello Klay, You are an insightful gem, but don't get too hooked up in this stuff, really it is a bit of time wasting. I have two of them kicking at me at the moment but neither obviously ever read or understand what I say but hey, who cares.........humour them anyway. I am not in any top 100, it looks a bit too meat market to me and seems to be for people who just want to keep clicking. Maybe I don't understand what it's all about but seems to me you just have to send out heaps of kisses and up the wall you go. I genuinely would like to meet someone nice for me, but if I don't then that's fine too because I don't want to complicate my life, I would rather be lonely on my own than lonely with someone else.
Posted by: iaminperth at April 14, 2008 5:46 PM
No, OG I stand by my comment, in my opinion referring to another human being as a F...wit is disgusting, shows lack of education and intellect in my book and frankly I don't give a damn what you think about that.
Posted by: iaminperth at April 14, 2008 5:28 PM
as a man I would just like a reply to my RSVP kiss... I have sent out over 100 kisses in 6 months and only had around 15 replies, 8 favorably...
Posted by: unlikenoother at April 14, 2008 4:18 PM
I am quite surprised at your reply count. I wonder if that is indicative of your age group or you think that may be to do with gender. Personally most kisses I have sent are replied to,one way or another and I reply to all kisses sent my way .Look at it this way-if they can't be bothered replying then you should be pleased you didn't waste a stamp on them either.I get more annoyed at those that do reply to a kiss with a "yes please email me' answer, then when I do spend a stamp they don't follow through answering an email. I can think of 3 guys who blocked their profiles after I spent a stamp.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at April 14, 2008 5:20 PM
Thank you Hinterlandlover.
That is very nice to hear. I wasnt aware previously that Brunswick Heads was part of your location. I had a really nice holiday there when i was 12 or so.
Posted by: virgil at April 14, 2008 4:33 PM
WnW
I lived in Perth up till August last year, but 8 months in Adelaide and it is going somewhere, but nothing like Perth. The salary offered by a legal office for a legal bookkeeper was $67,000 in Perth, and around $50,000 in Adelaide.
There is a new railway that opened on boxing day connecting Mandurah and Rockingham with Perth, travel time from Rockingham is 33 minutes
Posted by: virgil at April 14, 2008 4:26 PM
as a man I would just like a reply to my RSVP kiss... I have sent out over 100 kisses in 6 months and only had around 15 replies, 8 favorably...
Why is it so hard to press reply... Ironically the woman who don't reply are the ones who state how caring and compassionate they are... what a joke... are there any decent people left on this S#%T hole of a planet?... I really do wonder...
regards to all.....
Posted by: unlikenoother at April 14, 2008 4:18 PM
I might change my iddea of what I want today. Treated myself to a remedial back massage (occasional sore back from sport) and it cost me $20 out of pocket. Maybe I should have spent 3 stamps instead and emailed some of the many guys who say in their profile they are good at massages particularly since I was stripping down a fair bit for a perfect stranger.Must be a lot of profilers out there who have done massage courses since that it what they say they are good at.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at April 14, 2008 4:12 PM
Klay 11.47am
An excellent post, very insightful particularly in your comments towards ISTJ and Perth.
I dont see the top 100, but Perth, I would like to add my congratulations as well.
And Klay, please accept my apology for a rather intemperate comment to a previous post.
Doug
Posted by: virgil at April 14, 2008 3:42 PM
virgil - the labour market in Perth has gone crazy but then so have real estate prices. We recently had an employee poached from us in Brisbane to go and work in Perth.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 14, 2008 3:19 PM
virgil @ 10.13am: I think it's actually great that you're struck by indecision right at the moment, even though you may feel a little uncomfortable as you contemplate your options. It's good to be challenged. We do have so many choices in life, and so little time. I understand exactly where you're coming from. In my opinion your indecision demonstrates your willingness to embrace change, to adapt to new situations, and the lack of rigidity in your thinking, rare virtues in men over 50 I've found!
Good luck with your decision-making!
Posted by: hinterlandlover at April 14, 2008 2:48 PM
Perth, i have noticed recently some cyber-bullying being subtley directed your way - there once was another beautiful lady blogger called ISTJ54 who came in for this sort of attention & she stood up for herself, warned him off in no uncertain terms - the grovelling was typical of a confronted bully. made me puke !
by the way, congrats on #2 in the top 100 last week, you do look gr8 for your age.
Posted by: klay at April 14, 2008 11:47 AM
Virgil@10.37/13.4
Not really hard to work out, look at your watch note time, press "post your comment" note time for the post to appear on page, just under 4 minutes, pretty close to instant posting.
If it was such a good topic to stay with why did you digress as much if not more than anyone. Read your last post 10.13 am, I have no doubt what I want. The post shows you obviously don't, but the thought crossed my mind "do I really care what you should do", I really am being polite.
Perth
You should read yours, @10.57 pm.
Your very quick to jump on those and their comments that you do not like, and can be very blunt in your language. You seem to feel free to change you position on almost any subject at will. But you seem to forget that this blog is moderated so I presume your comments are directed at the moderator and not me in this instance.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 14, 2008 11:46 AM
virgil - firstly, I know what I want but I'm not about to post it in detail on these blogs. Secondly, if I did, should I post the PC version or the non-PC version ..... bearing in mind that lots of people read the blogs but never post? I think that's why a lot of people have vered off topic.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 14, 2008 11:19 AM
This toic has almost reached its conclusion.
It is likely Karina will close it today, of the few topics it would have been good for the bloggers to remain on topic, this would have been the one.
I think the reason we havent been able to stay on topic, is that we probably dont really know what we want.
There are so many choices, do I relocate to be with a really nice person?
Do I stay here, and build my business?
Do I get a Job?
Do I go back to WA, where there are more jobs, more money?
These are just some of my dilemmas.
At least I'm not missing much footy wise, my beloved West Coast Eagles are getting flogged every week, ahh how the wheel turns.
Posted by: virgil at April 14, 2008 10:13 AM
Posted by: deliliah at April 13, 2008 6:51 PM
Hi Deliliah,
welcome, and this is just to say that companionship, laughter, some shared interests together, a not incompatible world view and the sense of feeling at home with that person
slightsynchronicity: 44, female, Adelaide.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at April 14, 2008 1:11 AM
In my relationship I finished last year, my partner lived with me for a while, but for most of the time we lived separately.
That seemed to work for me, as we had each other when we wanted to, but we had our own space when we wanted that as well.
That seemed to work very well until I decided I wanted to live in Adelaide. it was an amicable and friendly split up though.
Posted by: virgil at April 13, 2008 11:52 PM
I agree Wishfulthinker, I think for some this blog is the sum of their whole existence and it's getting really sad.
Posted by: iaminperth at April 13, 2008 10:57 PM
I agree Klay, it's boring and also why refer to people as F..wits, I find that judgemental and highly offensive. This is a blog and everyone has a right to their own opinions. This is only a blog, this is not real life. I think that is a disgusting reference to another human being simply because you can't or won't listen to what they have to say.
Posted by: iaminperth at April 13, 2008 10:48 PM
What do women want?? Well this one in particular wants a new topic - this one has been done to death!
Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 13, 2008 10:43 PM
Good evening Delilah. welcome to the blogs.
You may well find the answers to your questions by looking at previous entries from bloggers.
What people want is usually more complex than they realise, but it can be summed up by the Buddhist principles of what we all want, to have more happiness and less sorrow.
We mostly feel a certain thing will bring happiness, only to find after achieving that particular goal that there is another goal and another.
Posted by: virgil at April 13, 2008 10:40 PM
Posted by: deliliah at April 13, 2008 6:51 PM
Good questions.
I will try and compose this again, I lost my first attempt into cyberspace.
17-24. Just thought marriage would happen, didnt think too much about it, and I did not worry about it, it just happened.
After divorce in later age; Did think I would get married again and I did not have a problem with the idea of doing it again.
However, four years on being single, I tend to feel that I am getting use to my own company living on my own. So I have started to feel that companionship suits me better.
I dont feel I need to be married or living with someone to enjoy a relationship.
If there is stability and an understanding that each person is a part of each others life, then that suits me more these days.
Just knowing that someone is there and cares and shares each others company when it suits, is more appealing to me., than living in each others hair 24/7.
Who knows though, maybe if I got use to someone being around, and they were around long enough, and we were compatible, then maybe I could change my mind and live with them.
Posted by: lonelyheart44 at April 13, 2008 10:39 PM
G'day G and blue.
Dont know whether its the Sweetness and light, but I have found the a really good OHHHHHHMMMMM, sets up a sort of resonance in the nether regions that seems to affect people and lets me ignore the mosquito's with ease, and assists the posts to go through easy, of course having someone feed me good lines to feast off helps too.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 13, 2008 10:33 PM
If OG is posting in real time, and others are not, there would be some disparity between time stamps, ie OG 's post would be 7.30 and the next pesons time stamp would be 7.08 or something
I have not noticed any disparity in anyones time stamp. they all appear in sequence.
Posted by: virgil at April 13, 2008 10:30 PM
Ahhh all this help for those of us techno challenged is very welcome, thanks to you all for making my cyber experience a little easier..... signed your not quite so challenged.........................K
Posted by: auntykaz at April 13, 2008 10:06 PM
Posted by: deliliah at April 13, 2008 6:51 PM
Welcome to the sandpit deliliah.
D, there is an understood but generally unstated blogging etiquette here and elsewhere. It is usually nice to establish yourself in print by contributing to the topic under discussion a few times.
What you are doing is regarded as a topic hijack, parachuting in to find out answers to your study survey? questions.
I have never thought of these blogs as a resource for a femmo scholar and there are not a lot of regular chronologically young posters. You could go back through the topics but it will become frustrating as many profiles are not identifiable. Perhaps you can suggest your questions as blog topics although I am sure you will have people happy to oblige now. Good luck.
More generally there is a bit of discussion about age segregating blogs here at the moment which I am against.
However the posters age, sex and state would be handy for all sort of reasons. In my case (for this one of my 3 profiles) 49 M V ie 49 years, Male, Victoria.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 13, 2008 9:44 PM
after further reading of the blogs, i have a blogging tip for OG & TW - dont get caught 'tag-teaming' .. you know, covering each others mistakes, verifying stories, backslapping each other etc, as in the fox trap spelling bee. it shows contempt for the masses & it makes all your other stories, true or otherwise, lose all cred.
Posted by: klay at April 13, 2008 9:00 PM
Another way..
~write in the box on this page
~ highlight written text
~then press Ctrl C
Post the comment, but if it doesnt post, just go back to the box then:
~ press Cntrl V and your words appear again.
Post again .
If it still doesn't post, just keep returning to the box and hitting Cntrl V ( no need to keep highlighting).This is quicker than having to cut, copy, paste each time.
Posted by: femalepersuasion at April 13, 2008 8:01 PM
Why then oh brawling love, oh loving hate, something of nothing first create, serious vanity, misshaping chaos.why these said hours seem long
Posted by: humdingar at April 13, 2008 7:41 PM
OG-who do you know that we don't if you can post almost in real time?Or are you slipping someone a sweetener?
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at April 13, 2008 7:06 PM
Hello,
I guess, as a new person to not only this blog but blogging in general, I want to ask some questions directly related to the topic of this blog: what do men and women want? Let me direct my questions, which I hope will engage some of you directly, to both genders.
But first, a little bit about me. I am actually a feminist scholar, so the issue of what women want is of course of great interest to me. But I feel this question is quite generational, meaning I don't think the concept "women" covers all of us. And likewise, I would say the same for men, though my "expertise" is not in that area.
So, I am interested to know what women in the age group I teach (i.e. 17-25) "want" out of life, work, relationships, etc. And I am also interested in what women in my own age group (26 -) now say they want. For the latter group, has their want changed since when they were in the younger group? How does getting married and having children (and maybe getting separated and/or divorced) affect those earlier ideas? HAve you become bitter, or are you still optimistic? I know this may seem like a daft question, given that I am directing it to women on a dating site, but in all honesty do you hope to meet a life partner, whether you marry him or not? My own position on this is, yes, I am absolutley an optimist. So many wonderful men out there, so little time.
And the fellas. What do younger men want out of life? Is it only a well-paid job? Or are you also after a family? If so, how do you imagine life will be once you achieve all of these? How do you cope with the answers from women who state what they want, especially when those answers don't sit easily with how you were brought up or how you imagine your life will be after marriage and especially when the kiddies come along.
I know these are difficult questions, but the most difficult questions generally inspire the most insightful conversations, I find.
Deliliah
Posted by: deliliah at April 13, 2008 6:51 PM
OG.. nice to be back.. Thank you.. Must be all that love and light thingy that you converted to that's doing the trick for you???
Love it.. Good luck.."G"
Posted by: amdoingit at April 13, 2008 6:07 PM
A couple of times, I think after I rebooted my PC or perhaps because RSVP had done some work, I was unable to get on until the 3rd or 4th attempt. Of course I had woken by then and was posting one liners.
It is annoying and a bad look for a newbie fired on a topic to spend an hour sorting a post that disappears irretrievably.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 13, 2008 10:52 AM
I get this problem too Marcus, but only recently, as in the past few days.....K
Posted by: auntykaz at April 13, 2008 5:15 PM
G.
Actually it is lovely to see you back and once you get used to the delay and the censor trusts you, it is possible to post almost in real time as I am able to do. lol.
Cheers OG.
ps I might add I am about the only one.
Posted by: oldergent at April 13, 2008 4:59 PM
Marcus.
All I do apart from ignoring the F,wits, is make the words, when satisfied right click the mouse go to "save all" right click again on copy, then go to "post your comments" press and have no trouble. That is as Lynath taught me, then again I do not post any offensive or controversial material with bad words in it, which leaves me wondering why so many of my posts don't get past the censors office.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 13, 2008 4:30 PM
Don't know about others method for retrievably saving a post. What I am now doing is writing it as an email and left key depress & dragging across to the RSPCA Your comments: window and inserting it.
I keep an unsendable email open in the Windows side bar (for 'security' reasons) in skinny page format so it sits beside the blog page bar when called up.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 13, 2008 2:29 PM
Oohlala, I heard your call from the sandpit and have come to your aid.
Haven't been out to play for a while as I don't like this not posting in real time. Has taken the spontaniety out of it all as waiting for responses has whiskers on it.
Anyway I'm here so may as well have a say..
What's this about dinosaurs on the site??? Hmm..Not me... (cough, splutter)....
Marcus...twanging bra straps now are we??? Won't comment now as it's old hat but??? Loved your comeback to him Kaz!!! Anyway, drew a few responses didn't you so it worked.. Clever dick!!!
Bob and Bill.. still holding the fort... You two are definitely unbelievable !!!
Eric, Hello stranger (another blast from the past)..not sure if you were on this topic or the last one I had a peek at..
WnW.. @ 8.14 I think... could be interesting!!!!
Cheers all... "G"
Posted by: amdoingit at April 13, 2008 2:26 PM
PS: I forgot to say: Later opportunities to sign on again are by clicking at the bottom of the page, not at the top like the first 2 times.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 13, 2008 1:56 PM
timewarped, my suggestion was addressed to Katrina & i think the way you are trying to 'railroad' the subject shows there is a need...
OlderGoat, re : not getting another 'honourable' mention from you - is that a promise ? can I be safe in thinking that i wont be getting the Willow 'treatment' then ?
Posted by: klay at April 13, 2008 1:40 PM
often talks good sense @ 10.52am: You are right again, Marcus.
RSVP needs to have detailed blog-posting instructions prominently displayed somewhere accessible with one click, or much better still, on the right side of the blog page, under "Archives by month":
1) Click on "Sign on"
2) Click on "no of posts so far" to get back to the blog
3) Click in the Your Comments field and type your offering.
4) Scroll up and proof-read it, to find anything that you want to add or remove on second thoughts. Keep away from Preview - can be a bottomless pit.
5) Highlight it all
6) Click on Edit then Copy
7) Click elsewhere to remove the highlight
8) Click on Post your Comment
9) Look to see if it got through (message about moderation) or didn't (message about the need to sign on)
That one happens to me most times, because by the time I've typed it slowly 2-fingers, it's forgotten I was signed on - I've fallen off the back of the ute at the last corner. (Actually did, at ages 4 and 9 ...)
10) If so, click on Sign in, then after a few seconds, click on your End key to get down to the start of the blog page, then Page Up, to get to post no 1, and if you're lucky, just below it, the box for your post's next try.
11) Cursor into box and click. Then paste from your clipboard, and click on Post your Comment. The most times I've had to re-do #10+11 at a busy time is about 8. Usually 2 or 3.
12) Success! It's headed for moderation. If you haven't said anything naughty, it will eventually show up in the blog once the moderator has checked it. Sometimes inside 10 minutes.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 13, 2008 12:42 PM
Marcus
The old one liners, great to see if the thing is working.
"is there anybody out there?"
Posted by: virgil at April 13, 2008 12:10 PM
oohlala1 at April 13, 2008 9:59 AM
Oohlala. I would also like to see more opinions and younger (chronologically) faces on board. If my experience is any guide part of the problem is RSVP's blog registration and validation procedure. I don't know how this mysterious and occasionally censorious system works but it has taken me multiple attempts before I was posted.
A couple of times, I think after I rebooted my PC or perhaps because RSVP had done some work, I was unable to get on until the 3rd or 4th attempt. Of course I had woken by then and was posting one liners.
It is annoying and a bad look for a newbie fired on a topic to spend an hour sorting a post that disappears irretrievably.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 13, 2008 10:52 AM
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 12, 2008 7:51 PM
Hi Klay - are you around? Guess not, on a Saturday evening.
Just asking you my question from lunchtime today (12.34pm) - what should be the highest age allowed to post in your young dudes blog?
Why do you assume he meant chronological age Warped?
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 13, 2008 10:37 AM
Or perhaps a few more lurkers might actually do some typing and add their opinions to this mix. I wish they would as these blogs become just a few peoples continual conversations and opinions.
That is what I want for the men and women in the background reading to come out and write just one opinion. Please:))
Posted by: oohlala1 at April 13, 2008 9:59 AM
WnW @ 8.14am: Have mercy on a poor old blog mate - it's 9 today, and 9 blog days is past 90 human years. Slow and creaky time.
I just hope klay gets back to us with his suggested age top limit for the young dudes blogs, before Karina euthanases it tomorrow morning.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 13, 2008 9:53 AM
I wonder what would happen to this blog if we took out timewarper, virgil, OG, and justspraying? DOA I think.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 13, 2008 8:14 AM
Hi Klay - are you around? Guess not, on a Saturday evening.
Just asking you my question from lunchtime today (12.34pm) - what should be the highest age allowed to post in your young dudes blog?
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 12, 2008 7:51 PM
lookin-85 @ 10.36am: Thank you again for more kind words. You'll be giving me a swelled head, even though I'm only lookin 62.
But I'm sure that you and OG at 11.54pm are both wrong, and I'm passionate about this.
The fallen log would have turned into boring bloody school, the moment there was an older/more experienced person there.
With dinosaurs visible. Klay and Ko would no longer be the undisputed local bloglords. They wouldn't feel as cool and confident with reality checks immanent - and the teenage chickybabe lurkers wouldn't idolise them as much. Spoil the whole thing for everybody.
On some sideshow rides they have a bar, and if you can walk under it, you're too young. In the same way, the Fallen Log needs an age bar, to keep out anyone who's too old. Or it won't work.
But for the other kind of young people, the ones who already have enough maturity to have the humility to ask others (even oldies) for advice sometimes, you're very welcome in the grown-ups' blogs, to ask questions OR to suggest answers.
Because you're grown up too, so you already qualify. Proved when you said that you've already picked up some useful wrinkles from the older blogposters' life experiences, long before they'll ever show on your face.
I taught my TAFE Management classes in the 1970s "A good idea doesn't care who has it." Why not you?
I'd say no entry to the Fallen Log over 23 or 24, but better to ask Klay what he thinks, when he comes out of hiding for a moment, to prove he's not a 50-something long-time stirrer in disguise ...
OG @ 8.43am: (Warning - dinosaur stuff)We sappers-in-the-making spent the second week building something useful - and still available for use most of 50 years later I heard (with a new spanning rope when the first rotted, I guess), till the grown-ups built a high-level bridge.
Meanwhile the rest of us were lugging their heavy foliage-penetrating Bren guns up and down the McPherson Ranges on a 7-day patrol, with lots of blisters and leach-bites to show for it when they staggered back into camp - and the emotional growth that comes from coping with something tougher than you've ever had to, before.
No pain, no gain. Reckon that week did them more good than it did to us. But given the choice, I'm still into shooting a nail gun, not a rifle.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 12, 2008 12:34 PM
Well there you are timewarp you have just proven yourself as someone with wisdom not that there was any doubt prior.
I do like your idea of the "fallen log" maybe we should have two places one for those such as myself that would like advice and one for the others that want to solve the worlds problems while solving there own at the same time.
Maybe we should have a hybrid blog the fallen log idea and since at least timewarp would be checking in he could give us advice when it is needed....hmmmmm
Posted by: lookin4missright85 at April 12, 2008 10:36 AM
TW.
You got the grin and chuckle you knew it would, and the diplomacy and tact was not missed on an old infanteer. Vietnam did for a couple of my old nasho NCO's, turned out they weren't the power crazed mongrels we cursed them for being. Still we owed them a lot more than they ever owed us. As did a lot of Nam vet's I'll wager.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 12, 2008 8:43 AM
OG: I'm tired so I'll talk about your '30-year-old children' tomorrow.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 12, 2008 1:21 AM
OG @ 11.54pm: (Warning: Dinosoar stuff - everyone else skip.) No mate. Wasn't during our first 3 months of getting self-disciplined by suffering pain (our main pain was Cpl Hansen, a Dane we wished to send back to NATO)
This was one of our following annual camps. And we loved Canungra. The trainers were officers just back from actual practice in Malaya, while the basics NCOs were from Korea about 4 years before.
No peacetime-army time-structuring brass-polishing at Canungra. Just good guts to learn all day. And we engineering students spent the second week building a logs-and-rope flying fox over the river, to bring in supplies when it flooded. With footings of hand-mixed concrete. Good for the muscles.
Midnight discussion subjects? Sex of course - we were people! Plus mainly book-learnin' - astronomy and the physics of space travel, philosophy and psychology, a bit of sociology and political history. We were all from the Qld University Regiment - uni students just finished second year. Most-intelligent mob I met till these blogs, half a century later.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 12, 2008 1:16 AM
TW.
What really was happening was that you were chewing the fat and talking nothing but sex and how much you hated the army, no wrinklies in sight, never seen a wrinkly NCO in Nasho's, mainly, mean nasty mongrels, till they beat you into shape and then they became good mates. That is another thing wrong with our society, they want children to act as adults with out the experience pool and give them a false impression of their own worth, That is why so many end up with their ambition mixed up with their ability. Look at the amount of 30 year old children running around now. Lookin has the idea right in my book and I disagree completly with you on your approach this time.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 11, 2008 11:54 PM
lonely @ 4.57pm: Always glad to amuse - but many a true word spoken in jest.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 11, 2008 11:37 PM
lookin-85 @ 10.14: Thank you for your kindness and respect. But I disagree completely with your approach.
I remember 2 weeks when I was 20 spent at the Canungra jungle combat training camp, during my Nasho (about 9 months' National military training, spread over 3 years.)
After lanterns-out (we were in tents), about a dozen of us would sneak down the bush about 50 mtrs and sit on a big log and solve the problems of the world till past midnight. We didn't want no wrinklies in sight, let alone allowed to speak. That would have introduced a heirarchy where we weren't the top of the ladder, and the ultimate source of wisdom.
That's what I want for klay and Ko. Their own fallen log in the dark.
Partly so I can be a Lurker and see what they think (hopefully the same as I did at that age, so I know the world will be in safe hands later on, when they mature and I'm in the Home.)
But I won't go on to be a Scrapbooker, copying and pasting random sentences of other people's work, and then re-posting them in pointless juxtaposition. More than enough boring ineffectual middle-aged farts doing that already, IMHO.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 11, 2008 11:32 PM
I like that idea timewarp apart from the 'I think' part that has to be added, because it is from my experience that most (males in particular) from that age group don't think, or don't have an orginal thought...And i am refering too the upper brain in this case.
Yes I maybe a youngin myself but one that has got more wisdom in my little finger and self control (to a point I admit) than most under 25 let alone under 21 have in there entire body.
Now before I start being attacked let me point out I did say "most" as there are the exceptions and to further the point before some off the exceptions point out that there are also people over 25 that are also exceptions to this.
As for myself I appreciate the input that is provided by the so called "dinosaurs" on this site as it has provided me with some fixes to problems I didn't even relise I had.
So to all those over 30 whom have walked the path of life alot longer than I have and are passing that wisdom onto those who are willing to listen....I thank you
But if we must have some sort of seprate age group blog (which I would more or less class this as a forum) it should be one sort of like "ask your elders for romantic advise," that would allow the more intelligent and respectful of us with genuine problems, to get some positive advice.....But that is just me
Posted by: lookin4missright85 at April 11, 2008 10:14 PM
Kaz.
Now if that date should ever happen can I have the rights to film it. lol
OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 11, 2008 9:42 PM
Marcus, without any trace of offence or malice l say...me chat you up??...
Within 2 minutes we would more than likely be either laughing our heads off or knocking each others head off.....and l think l am guessing it would be the latter !!
You had a fairly wide range of answers to that question anyway, and l do think one or two took offence at the question....
Me, l prefer to see the funy side to most things trhat are said here, indulging in the more serious when required........
However l took your question as a hypothetical funny.................K
Posted by: auntykaz at April 11, 2008 5:47 PM
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 11, 2008 12:59 PM
I read that one and I laughed and laughed and laughed and laughed.
Good one Timewarp, it was like poetry to the ears.
At least we havent lost our sense of humour!
Posted by: lonelyheart44 at April 11, 2008 4:57 PM
mmmmmmmmmm What do I want?
A big man with a big??????
Posted by: lonelyheart44 at April 10, 2008 10:44 PM
hhhmmmmmm
i'm guessing a BIG HEART
Posted by: abckenny at April 11, 2008 12:18 AM
Your right abckenny. Yes I just want a man with a big heart.
Other girls might want a man with a big house, a big wallet, big car, and big whatever??????
Nothing wrong with that either, but if I cant have all of that then I would rather put the heart first.
It says a lot of things about what type of guy he would be!
Posted by: lonelyheart44 at April 11, 2008 4:20 PM
virgil at April 11, 2008 11:59 AM
Debilitating, damaging passive aggression. There is no police charge for it.
MS
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 11, 2008 3:44 PM
Hey you dinasaurs - leave klay alone! Stop picking on him for the way he made his really excellent point.
His attitude is 100% valid for someone who's recently out of school, and definitely ultra-cool. Exactly matches my own attitude when I was 19, so it's gotta be right, right?
Karina: Why not a special blog for the under-21 first-time singles, where they can trade wishes and guesses and fantasies about what might work in the future, they hope, rather than be bored stiff by reading the unromantic details of what the over-25 recycled singles have actually tried, and thus found out what does and doesn't work.
That's far too much like school - being lectured on sex by people who should have had their libidos confiscated long ago. Sex after 40 is just so gross! Even the thought of it's totally offputting - till it's you.
I'd suggest a title like "What I hope for, when RSVP finds me my first all-the-way girl/boy friend" and with each poster having to start their post with "I'm ...(age) and I think ..."
That's to keep the wrinklies right out of sight, where they won't put the youngsters right off, by foreshadowing the likely realities of their own future.
Every school should have a kindy attached, to let the younger kids enjoy some fantasy, before reality strikes them down in year one.
How about it Karina? It'd make the blogs so much more cool for the young first-timers, and to me that smells like money. Someone's got to kick in for your wages, and the more of them the better, I reckon.
PS: Then you could get back to photos of pairs of wrinklies heading some blogs, and pairs of teens on others. So we all know straight away where we're welcome.
Back to work. Cheers dears.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 11, 2008 12:59 PM
Hi Karina,
In view of Richard's need for ear plugs and increasing risk of committing hari kari, should there be a separate section for those NOT looking for The One?
PS.
Only joking! Where would we be without Richard? We need someone whose comments get our "knickers/jocks in a twist" occasionally, otherwise as Richard has so cheerfully pointed out in the past, we could bore each other to death when the blogs get slow!
Posted by: amberlight58 at April 11, 2008 12:29 PM
Aliane.
Don't put the coconut to sea,
Send it to me, I will shred it, mix
with honey and flour, cook it,
then invite you to share it with me.
The question is "does the Leopard want to change it spots" would be more to the point with Marcus. lol
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 11, 2008 12:27 PM
Hi Marcus,
I decided I would google Cohen and Suzanne, and I am amazed that I don't really know the song, although I have heard it, on occasions.
I was only nine when he released the song and I guess I was more into the Beatles in those days.
That kind of music really wasn't my style and as in our house we really only listened to the radio station that broadcast the races (my father was a spectacularly unsuccessful gambler!) I would rarely have heard it.
I would gather then that your kind of "fruit cake" then is like the Suzanne in the song. A gentle bohemian soul, which is very surprising considering the content of some of your posts!!
I also read the BBC transcript of a radio interview that was done with Suzanne in 1998 and it appears that despite their very close and spirtiual relationship that Cohen moved on quite quickly after the song became famous.
It was quite sad really, although Suzanne herself appeared very happy and content.
So thank you, I have learned something new today, (and have had a rare insight into your psyche)
Posted by: amberlight58 at April 11, 2008 12:16 PM
Careful what you said they could Firing-Squad me with ammunition assorted nuts, namely...macadamia nuts, walnuts, almond nuts, cashew nuts, coconuts, peanuts...
I will ended bake into Cakenuts....
Posted by: aliane at April 11, 2008 12:02 PM
Takes 2 to tango - and 2 to stuff up.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 11, 2008 10:29 AM
thats the best thing I have seen today TW.
I suppose I am different to a lot of blokes, in that I saw the breakdown of my marriage to be mostly my fault. I remember all the dumb things I did. I often forget the mean things done to me, days of silence for perceived wrongs, withdrawal of sex also for perceived wrongs.
But we could both have done thigs better.
Posted by: virgil at April 11, 2008 11:59 AM
Klay
so young to be lacking the courage to display your profile, such a shame.
does your nappy need changing?
Posted by: virgil at April 11, 2008 11:51 AM
OG...love what you said..rock cake, date, walnut rolls!... My coconut give me headache sometimes...very tough. I'm planning to roll and float at open sea.
Does Leopard can't change his spots?......I think it depends on zoo caretaker and Prayers....:))
Posted by: aliane at April 11, 2008 11:44 AM
WoodenWine.
I goggled Travelling Companion and Australia, and lo and behold, what site comes up in the especially preferred heavily paid for section of the Google machine but RSVP. Isn’t that amazing.
(Followed by retiredbackpackers.com- for babyboomers, then travelling geriatrics with walking sticks.com, have to keep in mind TW and OG you know. Lol)
So when some irritant of a female queries “what are you on here for,” well I certainly am not looking for The One. I’d rather commit hari kari than look for The One, all other considerations aside. That is pure sacrilege. Maybe one at a time as a vacancy arises, to put a bum on a seat next to mine, vehicle or airline, or some obscure mode of transportation known only to avid fans of NatGeo, and other inspirational sites and mags, but never THE ONE. That’s almost a swear word. I’m starting to wear ear plugs reading the blogs. So much foul language going on here.
Posted by: richardzkruspe at April 11, 2008 11:43 AM
aliane.
Fruit cake, no butter-Olive Oil, no white sugar-Dark brown and less of it, no yeast, extra pinch of Bi-Carb in the S/R flour. It will last for weeks on that Safari you are going on with Richard.lol
Klay, faceless, I don't think that they have a teenybopper section on RSVP, so back to lurking. I don't think Marcus would appreciate you, for not having the guts to show. Plus that he is not that far of Dinosaur status, age wise, lol. Think yourself honoured you even got a mention from one of the Dinosaurs, last time you can be assured.
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 11, 2008 11:37 AM
Thanks Amber.
We had our ups and downs like any other married couple, she stuck to me in the bad times and I returned the compliment during her bad times, thats what love is all about.
Got to agree with Marcus on the fruit cake, but he did not include my home made Rock cakes and Date and Walnut rolls. He would have if he had ever eaten them.
I was a bit sorry to see him savaged a while back on what I took to be a sincere post to help someone. But I suppose a reputation gained is one earned, and most people believe a Leopard can't change his spots.
He seems a different person off line, he did take up my challenge with his stamp, so up a few notches in my respect for him, still think he's a stirring sod though lol
Cheers OG
Posted by: oldergent at April 11, 2008 11:22 AM
Marcus....Fruitcake is good but fattening, buttered, yeast, sugar, flour, egg, high in calories, can cause high blood pressure if too much yadda, yadda...
Fresh Fruit Salad with Vanilla Yogurt more healthy and Tangible Priceless
Enaila
Posted by: aliane at April 11, 2008 11:06 AM
Officer Krupke @ 7.21am: "Could I just ask you a question Mr TimeVorp Are these girlfriends of yours being forced to have hip replacements because of your over reliance on Viagra?"
Nicht wahr. Never had a Baby Blue in my hand (except Coral's packet) let alone in my mouth. Never needed to - another blessing of the time-warp that is aging me slower than your average bear, Booboo.
So far! But you never know when the happy hatstand is going to atrophy into a flaccid bellrope, so I'm motivated to find Herself sooner rather than later - and always pleased when she asks me during the first or second date to reassure her (verbally for a start) that I'm still virile. Because I'm not interested in someone who's past that stuff either.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 11, 2008 11:00 AM
Fruitcake: lots of tastes, texture and different ingredients. Voluptuous, moist aromatic, consistent, not flaky or crumbly. Nutritious, satisfying and ages well.... Suits any company or occasion.
Do you know Leonard Cohen's 'Suzanne'?
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 11, 2008 9:42 AM
No I don't Marcus, should I google it or are you happy to enlighten me?
A nice description Marcus, but I doubt the word "fruit cake" brings up the same idea to most men!!
Posted by: amberlight58 at April 11, 2008 10:48 AM
amber @ 8.51pm: I agree. It was an oedipal thing with him - he came home from the War and was faced with a happy twosome of wife and daughter, getting on very well without him and his nightly drunken peevishness.
Daughter at 5 delighted to see him at last and hoping to get to know him, but he soon decided 3 was a crowd and she was No. 3. Then totally disgusted her at 8 or 9, trying to bribe her with a bike if she'd get her plump bookish self skipping to 200, in the hope she'd be skinny and athletic like her parents, instead of chubby like his mum.
She was a superb mother: "Best little mother I've seen in 25 years running this Kindy" our family doctor heard when we lost the boy. Maybe even a tiny bit better than my mum.
But not as motivated as a wife. Told me soon after we met that she'd be a super mother but a lousy wife, and went on to prove she wasn't a liar.
Given my time over, and knowing how it went last time, I'd still choose to marry her - but this time I'd behave differently, to make it easier for her to be nicer to me - and then it might have lasted as long as I'd signed on for in 1964, in that church in Toowong.
Takes 2 to tango - and 2 to stuff up.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 11, 2008 10:29 AM
Marcus, i agree with ckeen, you are 1 cool dude, i agree with you also about the orgasm test & many of the howlers probably fail it ! one of them probably was the 'affront' writer, sux to be them. one other suggestion, how about an age bracket blog Katrina ? i'm not really interested in the outdated views of dinosaurs.
Posted by: klay at April 11, 2008 10:29 AM
OG,
Actually I really like the posts you write about your first wife who I believe, passed away.
Putting that poem into your wife's bag when she had your babies was a lovely thing to do, (so much lovelier than just the flowers and "Thanks!" and then the "Of course, I appreciate you, I gave you flowers didn't I?" attitude)
You have also written of your wife's illness and the thing I like is that you never (well I haven't noticed it since I've been on the blogs and I read lots of them before I joined in) write as if what you did for her was something special, you just seem to think that that was what you should have done, anyway.
That shows a caring, loving attitude towards her. You write as if you had a happy marriage and loved your wife dearly.
It certainly seems to me that despite your tough stance on what you believe makes a man, that you understand what is important to a woman.
I hope you find someone who appreciates that :)
Posted by: amberlight58 at April 11, 2008 10:15 AM
I think a lot of us want the same things but aren't prepared to properly give a new person a fair go and sit down and sensibly talk about what it is you both want, need and have to offer. Proper communication is so very important. Otherwise potential opportunities could be lost. Surley not everyone is fake or after only one thing ... even Marcus, justwalking and Richardwhatever must have their goals, which hopefully with the correct communication will match up with someone else's. Talk, talk and talk some more.
Posted by: woodnwine at April 11, 2008 9:45 AM
amberlight58 at April 11, 2008 8:55 AM
Fruitcake: lots of tastes, texture and different ingredients. Voluptuous, moist aromatic, consistent, not flaky or crumbly. Nutritious, satisfying and ages well.... Suits any company or occasion.
Do you know Leonard Cohen's 'Suzanne'?
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 11, 2008 9:42 AM
What do Men Want?
I'll write some interesting insight, if I got time. It's useless for women waiting & hoping for nothing....
Enaila
Posted by: aliane at April 11, 2008 8:56 AM
Marcus,
The last thing most blokes would want is anything resembling "fruit cake"!!
Scones, Jam and cream sounds much safer to me!
Posted by: amberlight58 at April 11, 2008 8:55 AM
Lots of guessing here when it comes to knowing what men and women want. What great fun it is to find out what others want in a new relationship but remember when it comes to us wanting there has to be a lot of giving as well. Communication is the secret to finding out what we each want, there should be no guessing as obviously we are all different.
Posted by: clocksticking at April 11, 2008 8:54 AM
auntykaz at April 10, 2008 7:23 PM
I've found out strap snapping would be dangerous to my health in redneck country.
Wishfulstinker and Iamperth are quite prepared to attack. Yours was a slightly different threat and there was some good chance of me being chatted up too. I don't think anyone was going to turn around and say "when you have finished with the elastic I'd like to talk to you about the serious issue of the sexual harrassment and then contemplate a claim for damages".
A nice thing I could do for women was suggested to me here last week by anonomous ('inactive profile') email. It suggested I was an aesthetic affront and a moral danger and would I please remove my profile.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 11, 2008 8:51 AM
Gosh Timewarp,
I really feel sorry at times for your Joan!
Even her own family put her down!
Posted by: amberlight58 at April 11, 2008 8:51 AM
riversong - sorry to hear that you seem to have mostly met the wrong type of men on here ....
surely there are also some nice men here as well, so don't give up
and it's not just the men .....
Posted by: woodnwine at April 11, 2008 7:54 AM
blueeyes1955 at April 10, 2008 6:15 PM
The Anniversary Ambush.
OK. I have survived last nights date only slightly scathed. My partner was not a new contact but someone I met here quite a while ago. We dated 3 or 4 times. For for me there were about half the ingredients to make a cake. She has a much simpler packet recipie and was ready to bake.
So we had the talk. Anyway every so often we catch up or see each other out.
After the pleasantries there was an earnestness and application to task about her not normally apparent. We have a similar conversation every time we meet and my response to questions about singledom, RSVP, sleeping alone, her very strong desire to find a companion as being a living alone, single mum, and now new empty nester is bearing down on her. My stock answer that she is offering me warm scones when I want fruitcake as usual amuses. Her return that I enjoy the strawberry jam and cream is a good laugh.
She then says something about my warm body, but cold heart. I say "well I know what I want" and then have to explain that "if I detail that you are going to make an adverse comparison". It didn't go further.
Turns out that she had timed our dinner to the day, 5 years on.
Cheers Marcus
Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 11, 2008 7:51 AM
Could I just ask you a question Mr TimeVorp
Are these girlfriends of yours being forced to have hip replacements because of your over reliance on Viagra?
Posted by: richardzkruspe at April 11, 2008 7:21 AM
no wonder half the women on this site resort to the vomitory
Posted by: richardzkruspe at April 11, 2008 7:03 AM
Cousin Kaz @ 7.23pm: Nicest thing I ever did for a woman? No point typing at my toitoise speed and then being censored, so that crosses a lot of kindnesses off my particular list. What's left?
Maybe going to my doctor and talking hard for 10 minutes (and raising both my bloodpressure and respiration rate by ten, from the anxiety) to get a script for viagra to pass on to my mate Coral nearly 80, for her even older lover, whose doctor wouldn't give it to him because his blood pressure was high.
Didn't worry me, because I already knew he was OK with Baby Blue - he'd already used up Coral's stash, left over from her dead husband.
Or was it my 2002-3 lived-there girlfriend?
Contacted me a year or so after I'd ended it, and asked me to come back for a month and home-nurse her after she had a hip replacement. And again a year later for the other hip.
No - probably my Ex, by marrying her, so she could have the 3 kids, nice house and not too many money worries.
The night before our wedding, the older generation met over dinner, and her father asked my lot "Why is Bill marrying Joan? Why would anyone want to marry Joan?" They couldn't see a reason either, but didn't warn me off. Told me about 30 years later, after the divorce .
On second thoughts, it wasn't that kindness. I couldn't help myself. Adored her. So I guess it was the home nursing, because she was a very cranky patient.
PS. to justslagging: How was that for a bit of self-serving self-advertisement? It's OK - the woman made me do it ...
PPS Welcome back, Eric Manyhats.
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 11, 2008 1:18 AM
Riversong
It might aid our understaning of your post if you typed it directly into the box, rather than typing into word and cut and paste.
Posted by: virgil at April 11, 2008 12:23 AM
mmmmmmmmmm What do I want?
A big man with a big??????
Posted by: lonelyheart44 at April 10, 2008 10:44 PM
hhhmmmmmm
i'm guessing a BIG HEART
Posted by: abckenny at April 11, 2008 12:18 AM
Most of all, men and women want to be treated as equals, not as objects or posessions. Men need to learn to get in touch with their feelings and acknowlege them whereas women are in touch with their feelings at all times.
Whether it is a relationship or just friendship, I believe honesty and integrity are the foundation for both. Sure we all like to have the looks, however what's inside is what counts.
Remember, we are all unique in our own way and the universal law does state, that opposites attract.
Posted by: merlinthewizard at April 10, 2008 11:29 PM
Troyboy, the question was "what is the nicest thing you have done for a woman", not dependent upon any criteria at all.
It may be organising a weekend away from the hustle and flow of our everyday busy lives, organising concert tickets for her favorite band, getting friends together for a surprise birthday celebration, whatever, just something you have done for the woman you love / d............
Smarter than the average bear on this one you are Troy.........picked it in one you did and a good answer.
OG two very different ways of expression to your wife, both no doubt equally valued by her......................K
Posted by: auntykaz at April 10, 2008 11:24 PM
Blueeyes - sorry! I thought that was the man! ;)
Posted by: riversong1 at April 10, 2008 11:10 PM
What do men and women want? From my experience and observations in singlesville, I think that (apologies there are exceptions):
Mos
al58.....maybe 12 names since I can remember!!!
Started with earl when I was first Blogging, went thru many different ones, like niceguy/comeplaytrains/ageinghippy/nurseandpurse/richrad now back to a western theme!!!! But I like western's!!!!!! I think there was a pirate or 2 in there aswell.
Tho ageinghippy was good cause he used to 'dance nekked thru the rain forest'!!!!
Have a lovely day all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at April 18, 2008 7:32 AM