RSVP Blog

Posted by: enrepres at April 21, 2008 9:15 AM

I thought the fiance's question was quite reasonable.
Why do we need to include an obscure abbreviated Francophone expression on a modern invitation? PRP would be a lot better.
We know you like obscure acronyms. What was the Doable Then Discardable one you came up with for short liasons?
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 21, 2008 2:36 PM

Marcus,
it is you who has reacted with harangue to deflect from my original message to you. Your hysteria is showing.

As Virgil pointed out, and now Waterbombe , my original post was regarding your relating well to animal sexual behaviour and not so well to human interaction with women as demonstrated by your comments to and about women in these blogs and your profile.

I thought your post was going to be about how you were emotionally affected by the incident, (and perhaps hope for you yet,) however why am I not surprised that you then state that the rabbit was stupid for staying around at the scene.

If you believe your own position then you would see this as normal behaviour not stupid.. You mention the word Humane however it was you who saw the hazard up ahead but ran the animal over anyway.

I have not stated my position on this matter at all. Another poor attempt at discrediting without basis. I have merely pointed out that experts can't agree on the level of consciousness, and probably won't unless animals learn to speak. I have already mentioned that it is agreed animals feel pain and fear.

The issue of experimentation and animal rights are two very separate issues from the establishment of how developed the consciousness and cognitive awareness is in animals.
As for 4 year old children they can talk and therefore can demonstate individual awareness. What a ridiculous emotive comment in place of something solid.

As for your mention of Descartes and industrial farming..well I notice you have not stated you are a vegetarian on your profile

Come back when you can find something to actually debate about.
I can only leave you with the quote of the day
"It may be that your sole purpose in life is to serve as a warning to others"

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 21, 2008 2:35 PM

Waterbombe, following your post of April 21, 2008 8:38 AM

While the dobbers and fusspots squawk amongst the birthday wishes...

Thank you for the reductionist compliment. It is a lot better to get to the essence of things than to dilute and water them down. I have plenty examples of the sort of behaviour in nature you mention. A pair of Willywagtails I had living here raised a clutch which dispersed, bar one. It stayed with his parents and I saw him helping them feed the next brood. I had one Wagtail who would regularly roost on a coat hook in my laundry even though it took quite a bit of effort to get in.You have to define altruism carefully though. Is it a generous motive or a visible generous act? In the Wagtails it is egotistical genes driving a selfless individual.

Anyway in answer to question about sex v love. One of the great and elevating things about being a male is the ease with which we can separate the pleasurable recreational aspects of sex from the serious business of love, partnering commitment and cohabitation. I have my good female friends and I have been in love in the classic sense 3 times. If I meet someone and everthing aligns I will again be in a committed, presumably monagamous relationship Here in the profiles among our age group and demographic there seems to be an undue amount of naive optimism. We had one bloke totally despondant because after 1 week he had not found someone.
I pop up with my blunt assesments and temper them with anecdotes about FWB's (which I advocate) and relationships needing to start before they can become long ones.
It is almost as if some females here are saying "You have been caught with a penis and testicles AND elevated blood levels of testosterone. How do you plead"
Well, I plead guilty to being a nearly 50 yo bloke who doesn't feel a need to kowtow to an idea prevalent that my male sexuality and sexual perception and expression is aberrant.
Women march around with their rounded buttocks and hemispherical and high breasts designed to say 'look hither'. They wear heels to help pelvic sway and paint and shape their lips to mimic aroused genitalia. All these things and many more are designed to attract a sexual partner (even if their owners do not fully understand it or claim 'fashion').
Yet when men with their well understood promiscuity who are attracted by the lures try but don't buy, well...
Haha.
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 21, 2008 2:20 PM

Virgil

Timewarp took his own life in his hands Saturday night to verify my existence.

Fortunately he came well after half time when there were several thousands inebriates fagging their way to good and perfect health outside the Gabba gates.

If he saw that sorry sight, he might join me in encouraging a re-run of the Health related blogs on smoking.

Seems like the AFL crowd have some sort of attitude problem, that there are 49 highly trained athletes on the field in excellent health, that should do for everyone else.

Posted by: captthunderbolt at April 21, 2008 2:07 PM

Happy birthday jennniferhi for Wednesday.

Posted by: woodnwine at April 21, 2008 1:21 PM

virgil @ April 21, 11.15am...

What a good idea.
It's unfair to cast doubt on innocent bloggers, & I'm sure both oohlala & aliane would be delighted to be cleared of suspicion...

Posted by: decoratress at April 21, 2008 12:25 PM

Gee thanks guys. So kind of you. Blushing here. Jen

Posted by: jenniferhi at April 21, 2008 12:20 PM

Karina

Is it possible you can give us some assurance on the authenticity of some bloggers here, as thee has been many doubts on certain profiles.

I am not here referring to WyattEarp Thunderbox or Richard Krusp as he is open and honest and displays his profile.

The profiles are the ones constantly questioned by several bloggers, being those of alaine and ohhlala.

It is quite possible these 2 profiles are legitimate, and your confirmation of this would put an end to the current disharmony between alaine and several other bloggers.

Posted by: virgil at April 21, 2008 11:15 AM

Happy Birthday Jenniferhi

Welcome 50 the 50's Its not so bad, there are a lot of us there, and its only a number, its what we do that makes the difference

Posted by: virgil at April 21, 2008 10:45 AM

Posted by: waterbombe at April 21, 2008 8:38 AM
WB, you are spot on about "alaine". Shall say no more as it will be moderated out or the jackals in on the joke will fire up again haha.

Troy

Posted by: troyohboy at April 21, 2008 10:26 AM

Happy Birthday for wed jenniferhi, and i have to agree with malsie about the looking your age thing. Enjoy the concert and the party

Posted by: twoeyes at April 21, 2008 10:17 AM

Have a fantastic week, Jenniferhi...you certainly don't look like you are leaving your 40's...congratulations.
Cheers,
B.

Posted by: bm1960 at April 21, 2008 10:14 AM

jenniferhi @ 9.10pm

I'm with you on that one. Manners have sure come close to extinction. Like you, I am also planning a party (my sons engagement) and am disappointed in the lack of responses.
Most notably they are from the younger, 18-25yo age bracket.
This was the topic of discussion yesterday and my sons fiance
came back with "what does RVSP mean?"
R S V P Responde sil vous plait A polite request to respond to an invitation
...and I have left it to her to chase the non replies.

Posted by: enrepres at April 21, 2008 9:15 AM

jenniferhi - happy birthday and hope the party turns out great. On the good side, from looking at your photos, it's hard to believe you're soon going to turn 50....

Posted by: malsie at April 21, 2008 9:12 AM

I agree with you Jewels about a lot of the people on this site. How simple is it to respond to someone a "Thanks but no thanks." It astounds me even more because in the age group I look in - say 45-60, I would have thought we are all old-school and manners were instilled. Maybe not!
I do often think for some when they are new to the site it's a bit like a kid in a candy shop. They send out kisses left, right and centre and then only respond to the ones they like the best. Or dare I say the prettiest! Hmmmm. And you are right, I certainly don't think they are the sort of people I want to connect with. Shallow!

Have a great week everyone. I certainly will. Turn 50 Wednesday. Matchbox 20 Thursday night. Party Saturday night. WooHoo!!!!

Jen

Posted by: jenniferhi at April 21, 2008 8:43 AM

Just as a quick response to jenniferhi & auntykaz. As an RSVIP member (too cheap to let stamps run out after a month :-)) I can see the last 10 people to look at my profile unless they are hidden. I'm not here 24/7 but don't get a lot of views so could see that no look had been taken. Such is life I suppose but it is still disappointing as I'm not an indescriminate "kisser". My aim in my post wasn't to tar all people with the same brush but to show a little support.

Posted by: ynotalice at April 21, 2008 8:04 AM

chrome re the kisses, there are a lot of people on RSVP who don't have manners. But they are not the one for you, as they are rude!!! That is your first indication to a personality trait. But don't give up, there are pleny of opportunities for you out there!!!

Now all you kiss recpiients out there......responding to a kiss....It only takes a few minutes to check out a profile and respond in either a positive or negative way...BUT send a response!

Then if you send a kiss, you do the 1st email. If I send a kiss, I send the 1st email and pay for the coffee.

I have received a lot of kisses in the last month, I have responded to all, as to how I felt after reading a profile. Out of the ones that I responded positively to , only 1 guy emailed back!!!
The others all said they wanted to get to know me, but how will they do that if they don't email.......or maybe they have crystal balls!!!!!!!

I take this is another indication of personality traits, [A] they can't read, so didn't read my profile before they sent the stamp, or [B]they are either being scrooges so won't pay for stamps or unemployed or something???!!!!
I have asked for a professional with a career, so if he can't read, then afford stamps, how is he going to do coffee???
If he is too scroogey, I am not interested as you can't take it with you...if I see something I like, I will spend, so a scrooge won't go well with me!!!

Just my thoughts early on a monday morning!!! have a lovely week at work all....jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at April 21, 2008 7:39 AM

In response to your comments; thelynathdiary at April 20, 2008 9:14 PM

It is held as a matter of common sense by most people that animals have a consciousness. My example of the hare is one of many I could choose. An animals consciousness is inseparable from it's capacity to perceive and respond to features of it's environment.

Your Cartesian position that sees animals as 'mere automata' because they may lack a theory of mind is the argument used by proponents of industrial farming and animal experimentation. Children under 4 also have this lack, so presumably it is ok to experiment on them as well?

Honestly, Chris, I will be astonished if you arrive with an intelligent, humane or even reasoned position on any social issue. You just latch onto your reactionary dogma and attempt to defend it by any means.
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 21, 2008 1:57 AM

Chrome....kisses are a bit like lint to many - they just flick 'em off and don't bother with a response. It's been a problem for everyone I think. Just took a look at your profile, ahhh so young, so cute and so far away...can't see why the girls wouldn't bother answering. May I suggest swapping your photos around.....some nice shots in there. (By no means a complaint before the blog police attack me....)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 20, 2008 10:20 PM

Chrome

I have 2 suggestions to maybe improve your hit rate with women, the first being, that you have the room for a quite comprehensive description of yourself, yet you limit your self decription to a few words.

Many women place a much greater emphasis on the written word than blokes do.

If you like I will say the other suggestion, but only if asked.

Posted by: virgil at April 20, 2008 10:19 PM

Virgil,

I think that is what has happened already.

It is not so much being honest but freedom to talk about things that lots of people want to know but would never ask if they could be identified

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 20, 2008 9:25 PM

Ding, Dong! Hello ... Marcus... firstly I don't dance on main roads playing chicken as a courtship ritual, so no similar courtship or mating ritual there...

If expert scientists, philosphers and psychologists neurologists and researchers cannot reach a conclusion on this, then I think I will not attempt it. If David Attenborough was around for another 50 years he might have a chance.

There is consensus however that humans are the highest developed species and that animal behaviour and response is most likely limited to pain fear and automatic instinct response especially in relation to sense of smell.

Interesting that you confer the ability to behave 'stupidly' on the Hare.

That's okay I suppose...I didn't 'speak' to my cat for two days when it brought a mouse into the house..that showed him and gave him something to think about!
Anyway t,hat was not the point of my post...you need to relate to the female of the human species on a different level.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 20, 2008 9:14 PM

ynotalice - I was thinking the same as auntykaz there. Unless you are on-line 24/7 you would be unable to know exactly who has been looking at your profile. And I would think anyone replying would surely have looked at a profile. How ridiculous not to. One could be missing somebody absolutely fabulous. Oh, I took a peek too. Good profile!
As a side note though I actually think manners have gone to a great degree. Especially with the younger generation. Ask anyone planning a function say wedding or something about their RSVP replies. Know what its been like just organising my own party (50th this week - yikes!) It's such an awkward thing ringing people to ask if they got their invitation and if they are coming. I mean how do they think you organise catering and stuff if you don't know how many are coming.

Posted by: jenniferhi at April 20, 2008 9:10 PM

abckenny,
your post read '...to take with me to Paris"
that is different to "I am looking for a guy to pay for me to go to Paris"

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 20, 2008 8:49 PM

Ha ynotalice, good comeback....well l took the time to have a look so there you go we aint all discourteous......
Maybe they did look and then someone else looked after them.....thus erasing their visit to your profile.....

I liked your dancing references, being a student of ballroom and latin myself, and you aint that short either...............K

Posted by: auntykaz at April 20, 2008 8:48 PM

chrome79 at April 20, 2008 8:02 PM

Know exactly what you're saying. You have to get to the emails first! Had three different people reply unfavourably to kisses in the past few days that haven't even taken the time to look at my profile. I would think that we should all be courteous enough to take a look, isn't that why we are here.

Posted by: ynotalice at April 20, 2008 8:19 PM

What does a guy want? How about replying to a kiss... like anyone... at all! Jeez that would be nice. Everyone here seems to have success at meeting people even if nothing eventuates, am I in the wrong age bracket or something? Maybe I should reply to the overly good looking, suspect profiles that describe themselves as party girls just looking for fun, lol. *Sigh*

Posted by: chrome79 at April 20, 2008 8:02 PM

there was recently talk of rutting, (a horrible term) that likened the sexual behaviour of some people to animals. I think what Lynath was trying to say, is that equating relationships between men and women, to being like animals when women are thought of as the sum of their sexual parts.

Marcus, you example here of the nobility of the hare, I suppose means that behavour that demeans the female sex partner is worse than the hares in your example.

Posted by: virgil at April 20, 2008 8:00 PM

lynath

Maybe if we all created a second or third profile, an imaginary one, we could be as honest here as you are suggesting.

I remember many (10) years ago, in MiRC we were able to communicate freely, and in the channel of choice, we could be honest and open, because there were few of us, and we were all known to each other, and any lurkers in the channel were visible as their names were displayed in the sidebar.

Posted by: virgil at April 20, 2008 7:23 PM

OohLaLa

Whatever you do, don’t send me a kiss, esp the 'Valentine" one.

I’m swearing off tnss for a while

Still haven’t recovered from the last one.

Mind you it was good for a laugh whilst "she" gave me a mix of stern lectures, soup recipes, and rat poison.

Posted by: captthunderbolt at April 20, 2008 6:32 PM

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 19, 2008 11:03 PM.

Lynath wrote the following to me;

"We are not the animals in which you are so fixated. Our developed conscious mind makes us different."

One of the most touching experiences I have had occured when I was a 19 yo gap-yearing as a farmhand at Tatyoon, near Lake Bolac.
I had a 30 minute rural drive to work. One late April morning I saw the familiar sight of a pair of hares doing their mad running, leaping and dodging courtship dance beside the strip of bitumen. All of a sudden I was on them and hit and killed one. On the drive home I passed the accident spot. Beside and over the dead hare crouched its mate. It was still there the following morning but both had gone that afternoon.
Apart from a hunter's gun, or a car, foxes and Wedge tailed eagles take adult hares. It is an act of great stupidity for a hare to sit exposed beside a road for 24 hours yet this one did.
Would you like to explain to me why you think that this hare whose courtship ritual and mating (and apparently grieving)behaviour is similar to that of humans, could have no developed, conscious mind?

Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 20, 2008 6:16 PM

What are you talking about Captainunderpants? Are you saying I am in the soup? Hot soup? Tasteless soup? Poison soup?Seems to me lots of experts on here and you know what they say that too many cooks they spoil the broth.
There is only talk of soup by me because the oldergent wanted my recipe for the minestrone I made for Sinnead Oconnor. I did not tell him as it is secret family recipe. I would need to kill him if I told.
Why do you change your name so often Roger? Get off your pulpit and start to talk sense. then I might send you a kiss to be my Valentine.

Posted by: oohlala1 at April 20, 2008 4:19 PM

Lynath

It would indeed be missing a great deal of the fun, and mystery of a relationship, to bring the thing down to the sum of its parts.

Posted by: virgil at April 20, 2008 4:06 PM

Woodnwine , in answer to your question yes, people may say things differently if we (think) we know who they are,
But I think the lack of anonymity prevents many people from participating in discussions here. That means that we might be missing out on lots of good input and insights.
I have stopped myself from posting some thoughts or experiences on different topics, not because I am ashamed of them but because some privacy needs to be maintained which can't happen now the posts are linked to profile and perhaps other members by association eg dates.
In the early blog days writing as "Patience" it was fun to write about dating experiences and okay because the anonymity protected. all concerned.
Can't do it now.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 20, 2008 3:54 PM

OohLaLa

The linguistics experts on here are busy

�Listen up� 20 April

�Listen up mate� 18 April

�Making soup amuses me Timewarp� April 18, 2008

�I make a good soup� May 2007.

�Do you love soup?� August 2007

�Anyone for soup?� September 2007

�If she serves one more load of flavourless vegetable soup. I�m gunna puke.� November 2007

�Who put this rat poison in the soup� October 2007

Everyone key in the word �soup� Will keep you occupied for days.

Posted by: captthunderbolt at April 20, 2008 3:51 PM

wyatt - let's not forget the women.

Posted by: woodnwine at April 20, 2008 2:31 PM

Hello Lynath
I can't see the problem. The writer of that profile sounds romantic, optimistic and fun.

Why unrealistic?
I agree there is no harm in dreaming and being optimistic.I'm just not sure how realistic it is to expect some guy you meet on here to just whisk you away to Paris on a whim.Most of us have new mortgages and child support to pay and not in a position to be that extravagant.

Posted by: abckenny at April 20, 2008 1:01 PM

hi all...

personally i think that alot of the people on here are just chasing a bit of attention and an ego boost

good luck to all

Posted by: tradieforalady at April 20, 2008 12:59 PM

magellan2 @ April 19, 11.36pm...
"...since you knocked me back and broke my heart I have merely sat on the road and watched Pink combi's drive by,wishing and hoping that some red haired hippie in a purple see through would pull up and ask me into her van for a seance or to revisit my past."

hahaha!!!.. good one E, I loved it!

You've been lucky, you know (grin) not getting run over.... I suggest the verge, rather than the road, as being the safer place to sit!

And.. (I really, really hate to tell you this) ..
.. but all that time you've been watching for the wrong vehicle!

heh.. the pink kombi was retired many years ago in favour of the Toyota. Just look for the ToyotaChicken perched on the front bullbar (wearing a sheriff's badge, incidentally.. haha SheriffWyatt, maybe I'm your Deputy!?) ... or the half cat (no, not real, folks!) wedged in the tailgate...

And more bad news I'm afraid... the last seance I attended was when it was the latest 'fright fashion' in high school.. remember those days? ..when someone would always push the glass (I THINK..) but no-one would ever admit to it? (& no, hahaha, it wasn't me!)

As for revisiting your past... ooh no, magellan.. no offence, but I'll let you do that one on your own & in private!

love&peace!

Posted by: decoratress at April 20, 2008 12:58 PM

FP, that's true, if you set it to 0 you won't get any kisses. But it doesn't preclude receiving unsolicited emails, which are more intrusive than the odd kiss here and there, I think. If people can't send kisses, they're more likely to email, I would guess, if they're determined to communicate.

When I was in a relationship but still blogging, I was happy to hide my profile (and un-hid it occasionally when another blogger made specific comment about wanting to view it, if I chose to). There was heaps of talk then too about "multiple profiles" and people having something to hide, blah, blah - I just ignored it. I know who I am, that I am "genuine" - I have no need for that kind of validation from people I don't know.

Posted by: malsie at April 20, 2008 12:07 PM

thelynathdiary @ April 20, 9.59am...
"With such a large access to this blog there will always be game players amusing themselves."
I agree, TLD.

"They make it interesting."
I agree... sometimes...

There are those who are interesting, entertaining, & harmless.
Then there are the internet game players who are destructive & disturbed.
These people are not always easy, initially, to discern, & can cause an enormous amount of damage.
I've heard several such tales.. of normal, intelligent people, becoming unsuspecting victims of genuinely disturbed individuals whose games can be very dark indeed.
As everyone knows.. the internet is the perfect arena for predators like these.

There are good games, & bad games.

Posted by: decoratress at April 20, 2008 12:05 PM

Suggest you all stop being so petty about who posts this and who posts that and do they have the picture and is it there picture and do they have ten profiles ot just the four and is okay for Richard cos we know him. Get real if is okay for him is okay for all of us. Listen up to Thelynathdiary and wishfulthinker. they are both very wise ladies.
These are all just someones words here and that is what we should or should not react to.Who is caring what they look like?
Doesnt matter.
Waterbombe is easy to learn how to spell English well if ESL. You take more notice of rules and phonemes than the Aussies do. Is harder with the grammar.

Posted by: oohlala1 at April 20, 2008 11:38 AM

lynath - true but I do wonder why some people feel the need to post under different names. Does this mean they would say things differently if we all knew who they are? Quite possibly.

Posted by: woodnwine at April 20, 2008 11:33 AM

Aliane, you’re welcome.

I think they will be running Aliane The Movie for some time yet to come.

What amuses me about this site is that there are some single males who would star in their own horror movie, The BoneCollector, etc name your own favourite bit of perversity. It is a wonder there aren’t more female bodies quietly buried under lime pits somewhere. Lonely women and deviant males - not a good mix.

Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 20, 2008 11:28 AM

Virgil,
when the blogs first started the posts were not linked to profile names.

There was an element of people who for various reasons posted under different names all the time.
It was suggested that they stick to one name to assist in establishing some form of recognition of the person behind the blog by giving others a chance to identify personality and views. That way it is easier to build connection and if interested in learning it established numbers who may be for or against certain issues.

At the time people wanted anonymity to post.and some saw the request to stick with one name as a violation of their rights! Not long after RSVP linked the posts to profile names.

Nothing has changed. Now instead of just changing blog names in order to post different, or perhaps supporting comments to themselves, they just change profiles.

As I stated earlier...it doesn't really matter. The blogs are just a collection of written expressions .With such a large access to this blog there will always be game players amusing themselves. They make it interesting.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 20, 2008 9:59 AM

Wyattearpfm....thank you so much, for the Alien Movie. I understand clearly as crystal glass. I should listen to your advices before but sometimes I am stubborn to accept the reality and fascinated to explore about life in RSVP. I know now, how this things at RSVP works. if you only infront of me I can give you big warm hug and mwah! I slowly open my eyes some unbelievable stuff what I read and never came to crossed in my thoughts, not even slightly hints. Attached or married are still legalized to expressed their freedom. I don't think I can be part of that play, understand a woman insisted a single venue but she is right in terms of morality...I also understand the other side of it, its risky social encounters may bring to it in monkey business. I felt sorry for those genuine they are mostly victimized for such play. The ET (extraterrestrial) will take off the spaceship.

Posted by: aliane at April 20, 2008 7:43 AM

Upon y return from a very exciting footy game, where the Dockers came back within 4 points, to be subsequently seen off by 17, there is always quite a lot of reading of the blogs. Especially where there are 3 these days.

Thank you Waterbombe for your very kind words. They are much appreciated, particularly at this time.

Thank you to all who mentioned me today, agreeing to my preference to a transparent sandpit, where people only use one name at a time.

Posted by: virgil at April 20, 2008 12:34 AM

Marcus @ April 15, 2008 11:06 PM

Thanks for your insight but I'm not entirely sure that this sweeping generalisation is true on all fronts. Some men may be quite put out by your statement ("are interested in satisfying their sexual curiosity") and some women may be quietly thrilled that you think we aren't the same as you.

Also, on a previous blog I discussed the "arrogance" of expecting someone to spend money to talk with me and I got an amazing and positive reponse (thanks again to everyone who helped me understand). I bought stamps today! I feel like I've come of age... again...Kim

Posted by: kim30s at April 20, 2008 12:11 AM

My apoligies decoratess it seems like 5 years.

Now let me see, on and off for over 12 months, but then again I don't count the months since about September last year,I think since you knocked me back and broke my heart I have merely sat on the road and watched Pink combi's drive by,wishing and hoping that some red haired hippie in a purple see through would pull up and ask me into her van for a seance or to revisit my past.

Posted by: magellan2 at April 19, 2008 11:36 PM

ABCKenny....that's so heavenly romantic, Wanted: special man to take you to Paris?....I raised my hands - blessing in you, well, I could see in crystal ball, keep on wishing might come true, seeing you on top of ...Eiffel Tower with special lady, cheering with expensive champagne " Don Perignon" dip in ice cold stainless steel French bucket whilst making a toss to beloved lady of yours, smiling gracefully, a celebration and cherish the wonderful moments whilst proclaiming your endless love as you slipped a engagement ring in her fingers and the fireworks shinning through witnessing two Lovers as "One'. I can imagine how beautiful it was.

Everyone's dream of, including me !

Posted by: aliane at April 19, 2008 11:34 PM

Marcus, I truly feel sorry for you.
Your post Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 19, 2008 5:34 PM

I don't think you know the meaning of love or what the closeness of a loving relationship with a woman is like.
Your continued insults to women in general by your disgusting ongoing descriptions and reduction (in your sick mind) to women = a sexual organ only, actually degrade you and the other men on whose behalf you purport to speak. I imagine many men are just as outraged that in your opinion they are not looking for a relationship with a whole person, a woman(mind body spirit) but only a body part, and any one will do at that! An insult to their intelligence as well as their integrity.

You are a fine example of what the concept of FWB leads to..a disconnection from reality and a very sad lack of human interaction and warmth.

We are not the animals in which you are so fixated. Our developed conscious mind makes us different.

Until you come to terms with the fact that women are not disembodied sexual toys for you to use then I don't think you will be truly happy.

.

Waterbombe, if you like or love your current partner then hide your profile.
Why create stress and doubt for the person you care about? There is no need to have a visible profile

The idea that seeing a photo(of what origin who knows anyway) will somehow give credibility to blogs is ludicrous. The blogs are just written thoughts and ideas and interaction.

It doesn't matter who they are written by or what they look like, they are still someone's valid expression.

Here is a question? What if someone well known wanted to post but required anonymity. Dr Phil for instance..the relationship guru..... would his input and expertise(or not) be invalid just because he didn't want it known that he is studying Marcus' posts for instance?

As for the retort that a visible profile deters untoward remarks presumably because of embarrassment, I think the presence of multiple profiles and persona's invalidates the argument.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 19, 2008 11:03 PM

abckenny .
I can't see the problem. The writer of that profile sounds romantic, optimistic and fun.

Why unrealistic?

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 19, 2008 10:16 PM

catch up Timewarp please......

Was it just me or did anyone else see the irony or humour in Timewarp calling for a vote or poll about allowing 'multiple profilers" from the multi profilers themselves????

Let the mind-messers go and prey on the members of competitor sites, and leave us in peace and harmony! Ommmm .....

What do others want? Can we have a weekend straw vote, before this blog closes?

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 19, 2008 12:23 AM

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 19, 2008 10:13 PM

Waterbombe...

In response to your answers, I am not challenging your second language as perfect.. as your main language or birth language....people are different from point of view. But, in my opinion; as been taught and learned from different languages any countries I lived... It is impossible for second language to be taught perfect as same as main language's..for examples...your main language is your homebase, first teachers to be educated for new-birth, as they started to communicate is their parents who's there's main languages. also spoke and heard from surroundings,...as toddlers, first encountered to learn from home communication their parents, siblings and communities is where are theirs first schooling,.. once they brought -up they started to open their knowledge to communicate what they see and hear, once a child open up to learned to communicate.. their first expression is to study we're people they can easily picked any knowledge what they observed and see., next is schools to teach them in proper context of languages spoken in their daily early environment... I've definitely learnt from overseas schools and Australia, as well as, any countries I've been ...Not one main language or skills, is equals to second skills... there's always differences.... i speak Tagalog my main language and I am perfect in my school grades scores always excellent, but when It comes to English I always got " B', means, good enough, It is common denominators to make NOT equal balance of two languages as equals. It is impossible....more likely the main is higher than second choices languages...taken my learnings in my environment observation and my foreign education...

Posted by: aliane at April 19, 2008 9:36 PM

Kenny, have to agree with you on that one.. It's good!!!. Stamps?? I'm sure you know the answer tp that one... "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at April 19, 2008 8:47 PM

This was better suited to the what do men and women want blog (now closed)
But ...... Ive seen some unrealistic wish lists but this one takes the cake
WANTED: Very special man to take with me to Paris!
I wonder if she buys stamps !!!!

Posted by: abckenny at April 19, 2008 8:30 PM

Click on "My Home", then click "Account Details", scroll down to-

" I am happy for other members to send me: 0 5 10 20 20+ Kisses per day.

Set it at 0

No one can then send you a kiss, but profile is visible.

Posted by: femalepersuasion at April 19, 2008 7:42 PM

thelynathdiary at 12:27 PM: "and who will scrutinise the votes and check off the electoral roll Timewarp....."

Loosen up, C. In a straw vote where I come from (deep in straw country) anybody who wants to buy in just takes the straw out of their mouth, ups and says what they think, and then the boss decides for himself, without anyone actually counting anything at all.

If anybody happens to say anything that really appeals to him, he'll take that into account when he decides - the vital few best ideas, not the trivial many attitudes.

In the big smoke I think it's called participatary democracy, and Kevin Rudd is demonstating this weekend that he does it sometimes

The actual voting and counting stuff that you're talking about, TLD, is real democracy, and you have to wait years for that.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 19, 2008 7:39 PM

Waterbombe.....thanks for lovely comments. Yes, I agree with you, most of time. sometimes not! hehehe. hey. I'm honest...

I must admit...my brain too fast to conclude any words that i need to put in, but my fingers are too slow for typos. So, missing a words between the sentences...and sometimes my words taken as.. Singular instead of... Plural..lacking of "S" or mixed-up with, present tense, past tense and future tense. honestly I am smiling now, happy the outcome, hehe.
My brain as fast as thunderstorm but my typing at keyboard as slow as Koala. hahaha. cheers.

Posted by: aliane at April 19, 2008 7:12 PM

Marcus @ 5.34p. Nice and blunt m'dear!!! No mistaking that one is there?? "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at April 19, 2008 7:06 PM

Hi WB... good to see you posting again.. Your input is always welcome.. Having a visible profile is a bit of a dilema in your situation but I'm sure you'll work it out... Cheers "G".

Posted by: amdoingit at April 19, 2008 6:59 PM

Oh, no, I can't let go...

Aliane... you said "If you lived in foreign country which is language is not there main English, I tell you, how embarrassment and difficult experinces will be... "

The thing is, Aliane, I've done that. I'm bilingual. I don't get all the grammar right AND I don't always spell it properly, and my second language is WAY easier than English to spell. English, because of its many origins (Icelandic, Latin, French, German, etc etc), is the most difficult of languages to spell. I can't imagine how you got through a uni degree with grammar like yours... I'm perplexed. And don't pull the discrimination card out of the pack...no one is preventing you from doing anything at all. We are asking questions, and you can respond or ignore us, it's up to you. You would only be discriminated against (for example) if you were prevented from posting because of your English, and I would be the first to defend your right to post; but to suggest that discrimination is occurring because people are trying to understand a phenomenon they haven't seen in 30 years professional experience is a bit much. To put it lightly.

Posted by: waterbombe at April 19, 2008 6:47 PM

Whoops..typing too fast...I meant ....
the spell checker "doesn't pick up an inappropriate use of a word if it is spelled correctly".

E.g. "We sore the rowed" for "we saw the road"....these sorts of errors are very common in second-language learners. The spell checker doesn't pick them up. But Aliane never makes those errors...commendable concentration, A!

Anyway, who cares... Sherlock is signing off.

Posted by: waterbombe at April 19, 2008 6:25 PM

Thanks Marcus, I will leave the profile as is for now. Re Aliane, I don't think even a spell check would help...it doesn't pick up an inappropriate use of a word if it is spelled wrongly, and yet Aliane never even does that...she has a truly astonishing ability to choose the right words. And another thought ... when you use the spell checker, doesn't the grammar-checker come on? It would go insane with Aliane's posts...but there you go, A, if you are not doing it already, use the grammar checker, persist with the dozens of alterations that will be necessary, and hey presto! more people will read your posts.
However I tend to agree, Marcus, that a small matter of photo capture is a more plausible explanation than any other so far offerred.

Posted by: waterbombe at April 19, 2008 6:19 PM

Waterbombe..fair enough, have you seen any Asian bloggers here? I think I'm alone, I wish I can make comparison myself and any Asian bloggers or nonspeaking country. Ok here's some briefing, I know my English language commonly known as Chief-English from old text-books taken from Chinese/European English Language. Marcus was right of his comments. I was taught in my birth country which is not easy for nonspeaking english country to become perfect in grammars nor spelling. Being multilingual is quite difficult to master the perfect english as of, present tense & fast tense, noun, verb, adjectives etc. sometimes the reading and translation in opposite direction. I was taught in American English, that's mostly I'm currently using now, in addition, i came here in OZ then mixed again in OZ language and British English.

I finished my university degree studies at my birth country which is, Bachelor of Science in Commerce major in Management and Banking & Finance. I went to NSW university for one year studies to updated my education to be credited in Australian curriculum as Degree. I also went to TAFE for IT certificate. but not yet completed.
I tell you this very rare to see in the site any nonspeaking english to participate any forum and post any article for consecutive day or any discussion occurred.

Waterbombe lucky you been learnt and taught english fluently and focuses in one language since your childbirth without mixing any foreign language. I tell you very confusing...
I also consider myself very very Lucky, to be taught multi-languages and lived and travel in foreign land which is I gained more experience and adapting different culture.
If you lived in foreign country which is language is not there main English, I tell you, how embarrassment and difficult experinces will be... all you need to do is Sign Language.

I think I better discussed this in other blog (get a degree), So anyone disagree, well take it or leave it my language because I am not competing anyone, whatever what I am, is I am. Remember Discrimination is a Crime. :)
I am not planning to be journo, I'm happy with my skin and achievement that's important plus a big bonus of my loving families, friends, my success my own effort and a man who stand by me full of love & care. I am perfectly very lucky human.

Posted by: aliane at April 19, 2008 6:14 PM

Waterbombe.
I don't think you need to change anything in your profile.
My comments were not intended as an implied criticism but just an observation on how things work for a lot of men here.
Any vagina that appears is deemed vacant..
I can be almost persuaded by some of the arguments for hiding a profile in a situation like yours. T
Still the accountability of a visible, testable profile goes a long way to making blogs accessable and a resource rather than an area for arcane one upmanship jousts by anarchic diehards.
Re Aliane's linguistics. I agree with you about the syntax but suggest spell check and a dictionary could be helping. Anyway regardless, a right click on any internet published graphic or photo and she or he is in your email inbox and shortly after on a profile.
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 19, 2008 5:34 PM

Hi B - thanks, I'm giving it a go.

Posted by: woodnwine at April 19, 2008 5:07 PM

Marcus, fair comment about "Attached/married seeking friends only" being seen as "looking for a bit on the side". So to avoid the married men reading that wrongly I changed it to "Single" . But this coud be difficult for my partner...it looks like I could be advertising...he could think, if she's going to put a profile up, why doesn't she say "attached". See what I mean...how does an attached person keep a profile up so other bloggers can see who they are, and yet keep their partner happy that they are not advertising for a bit of extra figleaf? Help me out here, Marcus. (BTW you can explain to a partner all you like, but suspicion is a common human failing, especially early in a relationship).

TW I haven't been away, I have been reading but not posting due to lack of time. And, as well, that married man who sent the kiss said on his profile that he was married and looking for discreet liasions. I guess you could say, at least he is a hopeful sort...he'll try even women who say "not a chance". But this is the problem with the internet...you don't know what people really mean...there are lots of game players.

Aliane, it was a serious question. I have worked for 30 years with a lot of people for whom English was not their mother tongue and I have never met one whose teachers had obviously insisted on perfect spelling and yet hadn't given a toss about grammar. You appear to have been taught English by people who have failed to instil even basic grammar rules, and yet they have managed to teach you to accurately spell one of the most notoriously difficult languages on earth to spell well. It's a professional question...I am curious... I am interested in how this happened?

Virgil, I have been reading the blogs for a while, and you are always considerate, thoughtful, sympathetic, and intelligent in your responses. That's what I noticed...I wouldn't really marry you in a minute, I am much too cautious for that, it was just a figure of speech. But I reckon the SA women shoud look you up.

Posted by: waterbombe at April 19, 2008 4:55 PM

Derrr Bill @ 12.46pm: I sometimes need to engage mouse before hunt-and-pecking around the keyboard. Like then.

Responded to your post WB, before I actually looked at your profile and saw the explicit "Do not kiss or email me - I won't reply."

So I guess the adjectival man is picture-it rather than a reader of fine print, and is trying it on with everyone who's flashing a picture of a beautiful woman.

Back to my terminally-boring job of translating engrish installation instructions into a more useful dialect for aussie tradies. When I retire I'll have a siesta most days. Promise myself.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 19, 2008 4:23 PM

Oh course Jen...always have a great time when you are around - it'd be a hoot - of course the jackaroos mightn't know what's hit 'em tho!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 19, 2008 3:43 PM

wishful...............when you leave can I come too..................:))

Posted by: jenjen57 at April 19, 2008 3:31 PM

Oldergent...while that is very galant of you - it is totally unnecessary. I do not need defending by anyone, I play at my own risk and can defend myself thanks. I'm certainly no damsel in distress, never have been nor will I ever be. I'm your typically fiercly independent woman....quite capable of standing on my own two feet. By people standing up to defend others, just adds to the s**tfight going on at the time...can't be bothered :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 19, 2008 3:27 PM

Yep Jenjen...they are all hidden on the remote sheep station, apparently...now I just need to find the directions to the said sheepstation, or start playing the game and win the sheep station.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 19, 2008 2:33 PM

I see the elimination of the wolves in sheep's clothing from RSVP as just basic protection for our innocent members.

Posted by: virgil at April 19, 2008 9:35 AM

Come on Virgil....you don't seriously think those on RSVP are innocent??? They join up to play the dating game - just like you do in real life in nightclubs, bars, pubs, football games, etc. Why is it so different? Plenty of people turn out to by liars, jerks and other assorted idiots in the "real world"...no one here is innocent..we are all consenting adults and if you can't sort out the sheep from the wolves, then perhaps this isn't a playground to be visiting....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 19, 2008 2:23 PM

Wishfull.
Point taken, If I ever get to know you as well I would like to think I would defend you like I stood for Aliane, whilst I know you are more than capable of looking after yourself and would not need my intervention.

Ohla, I got it but cannot return because of hidden profile.

Hi Aliane.
Glad to see you back to normal.

Now Wyatt us shootist's can relax if we are invaded, Just got to go to these women and tell them those blokes over there with the beards just insulted them, no need for guns or ammo etc. lol
Cheers OG

Posted by: oldergent at April 19, 2008 2:22 PM

A clarification in regards to my post of 1.15am today.....
Bloggers who post someones real name without their approval do so with intent.
Decoratress and Ninaschen have both in recent days had their names printed.
At no time have either signed off with their real names.
Those who post their names, a la Marcus, Bill Robert, Virgil and myself also, in my opinion give others the green light to address them as such.

Common courtesy being what it is and all, show a bit of respect and address someone by their pseudonym unless stated otherwise....................K

Posted by: auntykaz at April 19, 2008 2:07 PM

Ninaschen @ 9.50 pm 18th and wishful @ 8.26 today. Perhaps you are both right, and making 2 innocent women's lives a misery (one allegedly a very close friend of yours, Linda) isn't a big deal.

Maybe I SHOULD spend less time on the blogs, and go get a real RSVP life.

Got 3 RSVP first dates lined up for the next 10 days, so maybe I will. Seeyez - and play nice, youall.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 19, 2008 1:46 PM

Virgil/TW - I too would prefer to know who I'm really "talking" to here, and not have to second guess people and become a detective... as to your comments re Wyatt, Virgil: I agree, he makes himself transparent enough (now anyway) to know who he really is and I have never believed there was anything malicious or sinister, or hurtful, about his behaviour, just a bit of light entertainment! I'm not so sure the same can be said of some others, whose agenda I haven't a clue about, to be honest.

Posted by: malsie at April 19, 2008 1:12 PM

waterbombe at April 18, 2008 8:06:

"An hour ago I put my profile back up saying I was seeking friends only and am attached, and just have the profile up for other bloggers...and within one minute of my profile being visible I got a kiss from a married man. Sheesh!!!!"

Hi WB. Nice to see you back, but you've really confused me with that one:

You're attached, so only looking for bloggers. But you're upset when a person who is also attached gets in contact with you.

I thought you've been away. How do you know he wasn't an occasional blogger?

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 19, 2008 12:46 PM

Yes virgil .... it is a bit weird thinking you may be talking to fake people. Men who could actually be women or women who could actually be men. A bit weird alright.

Posted by: woodnwine at April 19, 2008 12:35 PM

and who will scrutinise the votes and check off the electoral roll Timewarp.....

Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 19, 2008 12:27 PM

Virgil @ 9.45am: I agree with you about being comfortable with Wyatt periodically updating his easily-recognisable SINGLE profile. For more reasons than you gave. I'd also add:

* Wyatt has his profile open, and RSVP has formally checked his identity and photo. Possibly because his published vital statistics have been progressively converging with reality with each shapeshift, rather than running parallel.

* In it he says honestly what he is, and what he seeks from RSPV or whereever - a friend of the other gender to go exploring with, no strings attached.

I remember exploring some of the north island of NZ alone for a week in 1995, and wishing several times a day that I'd had a pleasant-natured companion in the car with me, just for company and to share my delight in discovering the local landscapes. So I can empathise with his hopes.

* And most important, he's a nice person with wholesome values - and a wry wit that enlivens many lives on an ongoing basis. Definitely a good egg, no matter what he hatches into, each time.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 19, 2008 12:11 PM

virgil @ April 19, 9.35am...

Hi virgil.. & thanks for your lovely comment yesterday!

Yes... I have nothing against people having multiple profiles, even though it's against RSVP T&Cs... so long as they are not out to deceive. In fact their changing personas can be entertaining, if the person themselves remains consistent in style, & is not malicious in any way.

However, the multiple profiles are a huge problem when they are used to deliberately deceive, confuse, hurt & destroy trust.

These are headgames we can all do without, & the people playing them are disturbed individuals who use the blogs purely to exercise their love of power & control (as expressed by TW at April 18, 2.06am).

I have only ever had one profile, & the photo has always been visible, despite recent unfounded accusations of being oohlala.

I never cook... or even stir a pot for that matter...
So if anyone suspects oohlala's profile as being false... I suggest they look elsewhere.

I, personally, am quite happy to stay myself at all times.
I've better things to do than stuff around creating false identities... I'll leave that to those with too much time on their hands!

Have a great weekend everyone!

Posted by: decoratress at April 19, 2008 12:00 PM

Hi Virgil...I agree with you totally at your post 19th April at 9:35am...in fairness to all, must have visible profile and photos but sometimes this multi-puppets can still deceived bloggers and RSVP members. to rewrite another profiles with fake photos. I've seen this before, and encountered from my previous contacts and bloggers, so hardly putting trust especially someone trying to play hide & seek with their ex. or any reason.

I'm very thankful to....."Wyattearpfm " ...of his Honesty, an honest Man in his profile, . I got No doubts nor he intentionally deceived anyone, as he stated clearly his status and really, what he wants in relationship. Thank you "B" for being honest with me from the start.

I also decided to get back my profile as aliane and not jalianet in fairness, for time being until I ? :)))

Posted by: aliane at April 19, 2008 11:18 AM

Aliane,

The last Shakespearian play I appeared in was holding up the battlements or was it Yorick’s skull

However, these days the best quotes are from movie lines.

ALIEN the movie.

She didn't like the cornbread either! (Ninaschen the Brave)
I like to keep this handy.....for close encounters (mouse or keyboard)
I may be synthetic, but I'm not stupid. (all the false profiles on here)
I dont know if youve been keeping up on current events, but were getting our asses kicked. (sorry Female Persuasion but my heart goes out to you)
Hey Vasquez, have you ever been mistaken for a man? - No, have you? (the Critter we’re hunting)
Maybe we've got 'em demoralised! (doubt it- they always come back for another go at the blogs)
They're coming outta the walls. They're coming outta the goddamn walls! (usually when there’s a catfight going on in the blogs)
Now all we need is a deck of cards (more likely a blood test- does this person actually exist?)
Get away from her you bitch (now who wants to use that line… any volunteers)
I'll go. I mean, I'm the only one qualified to remote pilot the ship anyway. (Bill in his finest moments)
"that's it, game over man!" (the Varmint- still haven’t put him out of his misery)
Stop your grinnin' and drop your linen! (gawd I haven’t seen HER for a while; a quick cheerio to all the girls up at N….)
Well why don't you just put her in charge! (you can be in charge Lina if you want to)
we're on an express elevator to hell...going down (don’t I know that…ever since listing on rsvp)
What're we supposed to use, man? Harsh language? (go back to the blogs a few nights ago)
I say we grease this rat-fuck son-of-a-bitch, right now! You're dog-meat, pal (the offline plots are no doubt coming thick and fast)
LET'S ROCK!!! (at least the footy is on tonight, a few good concerts still to come)
Nobody touch nuthin'. (especially sensitive egos)
What are we putting her in charge? (suppose I better mention Junebaby seeing she’s always on my case)
I am the ultimate bad-ass! (stop dumping on me girls)
you started this. show me everything. (der varmint is WATCHING YOU)
Hey may be you haven't been keeping up with current events but we just got our asses kicked pal!
tell me have IQ's gone down since I've been gone. (my favourite and yours too)
"They mostly come at night, mostly." (the BIG BAD Bloggers)
Alright sweethearts you heard the man and you know the drill. Assholes and elbows! (let’s keep this site for heterosexuals – mainly)
man this floor is freezing. what are you waiting for you want me to fetch your slippers for you. oh yes sir that would be great. look into my eye (gawd there are a few fence jumpers on this site; MEN OF ACTION)
looks like we have to go rescue some teenage colonist from their virginity. (that is an RSVP special)
How do I get out of this Chickenshit Outfit? (read some of the profiles who say basically the same)
Looks like love at first sight. Oh, she LIKES you, Burke! (M. Take note. Email her!)
I say we take off and nuke the entire site from orbit. It's the only way to be sure. (RSVP Blogs)
Someone said Aliane The Movie, she thought they said illegal Aliane and signed up (I’m sure Lani that some of them actually think that. Sad isn’t it)

Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 19, 2008 10:42 AM

You just enjoy the trouble and the drama that I was silly enough to get involved in last night. I am so sorry that I did this. I have more things to amuse me than making trouble.

Posted by: oohlala1 at April 18, 2008 8:46 PM

I repeat this as it is apology for being silly not knowing about hurt feelings. You continue to go after me and I am not a man. I made comments because they were here on public blogs to be read and comented on. If dirty linen is hanging out on the street then I am free to say is dirty still. Are readers supposed to know and keep quiet about some posts. Maybe they need to have asterisk to tell the new people what they can comment on and what is for the people in the know. Tw you are blog police and will not tell me off in public. Who do you think you are to do that? You are nobody and have made many women leave these blogs because you come after them even since I have been on for four months. Iaminperth ist54 and lonelyheart have been chased off by you and your insults in past four months. New people do not come to these blogs because of you and your kronies I can tell you that for nothing.They rather blog where good mix of young and old and open minds that are not quick to criticise but to listen and talk. I say go away and leave me alone. You insult me by not using my proper name. you are very rude man. But I tell you one thing for nothing. I am not going away. Virgil is right there are double standards here on blogs that need to be resolved.

Posted by: oohlala1 at April 19, 2008 10:38 AM

Hunky jackaroos wishful ???

So THAT'S where you have been hiding the spare men !! At the sheep station :))

Posted by: jenjen57 at April 19, 2008 9:38 AM

I see the elimination of the wolves in sheep's clothing from RSVP as just basic protection for our innocent members.

We come to RSVP and spend our money here in the hope of getting our bodies messed with, not our minds.

Let the mind-messers go and prey on the members of competitor sites, and leave us in peace and harmony! Ommmm .....

What do others want? Can we have a weekend straw vote, before this blog closes?
Posted by: timewarp1 at April 19, 2008 12:23 AM

I agree TW

There is something quite unsettling about the thought, that someone you are speaking to, may not be the genuine article.

On the other hand, there is Marshall Earp, with his many incarnations, so is it having a double standard to openly accept Wyatt? and say no to others? I dont know.

I would think that Wyatt is OK because he doesnt set out to deceive.

In general, I would like to think those I am chatting to here are real people, and not a construct, of someones imagination.

Posted by: virgil at April 19, 2008 9:35 AM

Hi Wyattearpfm @ 18/ 4 - 12:22pm

Did you mention Shakespeare "4" Antonio's?? I watched the different plays...

Recently I saw "2" musical concert....
1) Priscilla Queen of Desert.
2) Dilly Elliot.

I keep my eye, one of my favourites, actually i watched it before, likes to see it again.
3) The Dying Swan Ballet......dance by Kournikova, Russian famous ballet dancer.

I trying to enquire at ticketek another stage play..
4) ???...no idea yet

Thanks Darl'n for information.

Posted by: aliane at April 19, 2008 8:43 AM

What did concern me was the accusations to a lady that she was a multiple I found hard to believe because of the longish association with her, while with her accuser I have had doubts, and have commented on prior posts about the variations in her (?) vocabulary and grammar.
Posted by: oldergent at April 18, 2008 4:17 PM

Again - way too "personal' and 'serious'. OG - lighten up - does it matter? In the real world people often mislead you, don't tell the truth etc. As for your comment as a 'relative newcomer" - you've been blogging for quite some time...stick to the topics at hand and leave this sort of crap out of the blogs....it's not a personal thing - it's a public forum

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 19, 2008 8:33 AM

FP asked: "If you are going to make such an accusation Linda, could you declare your evidence?

I am over people like you making accusations without verification. This is slanderous behaviour.

If you feel someone is a fraud, why dont you complain through the correct RSVP complaints dedpartment, where the matter will be dealt with professionally and fairly. "
Timewarp...

Why take it all so seriously??? With the amount of hidden profiles, dual and often more profiles...does it really matter? If someone in the work places calls your bluff do you run off and tell the boss? Suck it up for crying out loud, build a bridge and get over it! Stop being blog police...that's Karina's job!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 19, 2008 8:26 AM

Ninashen..how nice to see you pop up on the blogs again. Im really interested in your ESL test having worked with these kids for the last 4 years!!! Interesting points you raised to :)

One thing you didn't mention was - while we are not playing for sheep stations (do they come with the hunky jackaroos???), some people's lives depend on this - they live vicariously through the blogs and take it upon themselves to be both judge and jury and take it all so seriously. All I can say ...no wonder they are still "looking"!!!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at April 19, 2008 8:19 AM

Thanks people for your understanding, my greatest apology for my unpleasant behaviour causing this blog too many dramas. Sometimes hard to resist, not to react especially when they intentionally stampede me but it's OK, they could say whatever they want.

Thank you all with your warm kind-hearted speech.
Wyattearpfm, laughsandtalks-Marcus, Timewarp1, Oldergent, Stoic, Magellan2, Virgil.

Jenjen57, Madam Ninaschen, Auntykaz, Wishfulthinker03, Amberlight54, Femalepersuasion, Riversong1, Thelynathdairy, Blondebeped, Waterbombe (waterbombe, hey that's was funny post of me :))

Posted by: aliane at April 19, 2008 8:01 AM

Deco. @11.58pm
In line with your last paragraph I concede defeat in case I have a priest saying your reply over me "in nomine" etc lol
Cheers OG

Posted by: oldergent at April 19, 2008 7:50 AM

“If that you will France win,
Then with Scotland first begin:'
For once the eagle England being in prey,
To her unguarded nest the weasel Scot
Comes sneaking and so sucks her princely eggs,
Playing the mouse in absence of the cat,
To tear and havoc more than she can eat.” Henry V

Shakespeare, of course, was JustPlaying.

Once one offending profile is impounded,
a weasel doth appear
To continue like yonder role.
But be the Weasel a Mouse or a Rat,
Makes no difference to the Cat.

Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 19, 2008 7:34 AM

Hi Wyattearpfm @ 18/ 4 - 12:22pm

Did you mention Shakerpears "4" Antonio's?? I watched the different plays...

Recently I see "2" musical concert....
1) Priscilla Queen of Desert.
2) Billy Elliot.

I keep my eye of one my favourite, actually i watched it before, likes to see it again.
3) The Dying Swan Ballet......dance by Kournikova, Russian famous ballet dancer.

I trying to enquire at ticketek another stage play..
4) ???...no idea yet

Thanks Darl'n for information.

Posted by: aliane at April 19, 2008 7:00 AM

magellan2 @ April 17, 7.47pm...
"Decoratoress now tell me truthfully, you have been on this site for a while, and I know you look like a hippie so tell me....................has being the way you are and having New Age as your religion made it difficult for men to stay around or do you burn them at the stake ?"

I'm an environmentalist, Eric..
I compost them.

I joined RSVP last June, & have had my profile up for a total of 5months... would you call that "a while"?

How long have you been on RSVP?

Posted by: decoratress at April 19, 2008 1:31 AM

Ninaschen, a fairly valid point about the written word and its understanding, well that is what l took it to be anyway...........

Decoratress, having seen that very van that you speak of, l admit to thinking the same about the message...darned funny and very relevant l think, especially in light of recent days.

I'm mystified why there has been no reply to femalepersuasion at April 17, 2008 at 3:49am in the just-closed keyboard blog. She asked about a previous post:

'Aliane' - Kudos to you for remaining in character for so long. Alas, your time is up. Time for a reincarnation, methinks.
Posted by: ninaschen at April 15, 2008 9:51 PM

FP asked: "If you are going to make such an accusation Linda, could you declare your evidence?

I am over people like you making accusations without verification. This is slanderous behaviour.

If you feel someone is a fraud, why dont you complain through the correct RSVP complaints department, where the matter will be dealt with professionally and fairly. "

Seemed a very fair question to me, no matter who asked it.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 6:08 PM

Timewarp, femalepersuasion has also asked a question of me on this topic, which l answered fairly promptly.
Since l haven't had a response, maybe l can also ask why??....

You seem to think that Ninaschen has made accusations regarding Aliane.....
And if that is the case, well booger me, there are plenty of such cases here of that as well.......May as well question them also.......

I think that we may well accept that there are some here who post under different profiles, the only trick,or puzzle is to identify them...however, naming them is poor form, and by that l mean naming them with their real name. That is why pseudonyms exist.

If you have had emakil contact with someone and they reveal their real name, that is said to you in confidence and should be held as such.....unless the other person reveals it themselves... a basic common courtesy in my opinion.................K

Posted by: auntykaz at April 19, 2008 1:15 AM

OO lala @ 9.42pm: I see from that post that in your view, getting two gentle women deeply into emotional trauma at once is "absolutely nothing".

That's a view that few in our society would consider civilised, let alone empathetic. And really unusual for a good-hearted, recipe-trading middle-aged woman.

Or were you just saying that to rub more salt into their emotional wounds?

They don't need a 'second' person, retrospectively adding insult to injury.

The Marshall was certainly right when he suggested to RSVP that they owe it to us - and to their own reputation and profitability, to start asking to sight certain members' photo ID.

I'd go further and ask for the full fair-dinkum 100 points' worth, every single time there's a written complaint about suspected fake identities, or repeated attacks issuing from hidden OR open profiles. (Lucky you're reformed, Eric ...)

I see the elimination of the wolves in sheep's clothing from RSVP as just basic protection for our innocent members.

We come to RSVP and spend our money here in the hope of getting our bodies messed with, not our minds.

Let the mind-messers go and prey on the members of competitor sites, and leave us in peace and harmony! Ommmm .....

What do others want? Can we have a weekend straw vote, before this blog closes?

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 19, 2008 12:23 AM

oldergent @ April 18, 4.17pm...
"Wasn't there a "Sanctos" on the end of that?"

OG.. I think you're thinking of "in nomine Patris, et Filius, et Spiritu Sanctus... Amen"..

stoic @ April 18, 6.31pm...
"Of course by not making it a true fight to the death, the deal of Thunderdome has been broken. Aunty Entity will not be pleased and you know what that means..."

heh, Stoic... as a hippie, I am, of course, morally & ethically against violence.. choosing, as one would, to heave a sigh & slip from the arena early in the fracas!

However, I do have a sign in the window of my van, which appeals to the irreverent in me... saw it in a shop one day, & couldn't help myself. It's made many people laugh over the years...

"Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.. the courage to change the things I can.. & the wisdom to hide the bodies of those I may have to kill because they piss me off."

Posted by: decoratress at April 18, 2008 11:58 PM

Don't youI really hate it when a series is running on TV and then all of a sudden the programmers throw in a few old, out of context episodes for no apparent reason, which have the effect of creating confusion and causing viewers to lose track of the characters and the storyline..../
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Posted by: thelynathdiary at April 18, 2008 11:11 PM

Thank you Ninaschen. Illuminating.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 10:56 PM

Posted by: waterbombe at April 18, 2008 8:06 PM
'Married and seeking friends only' can fairly be seen as as a fig leaf for present partner/s and a cover to give yourself room to manueuvre strategically among potential suitors. There is the famous saying that 'one slice from a cut loaf is never missed'.

Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at April 18, 2008 9:59 PM

In hindsight, I should have kept my head down until I was in a position to be able to jump back into the blogs regularly. I'm not trying to avoid responding, I'm just very time-poor, at the moment.

Aliane has been on the blogs on and off for quite some time. I find most of her posts (except over the last day or two) to be both amusing and bemusing.

Aliane tells us that she is from the Philippines and English is her second language. She appears to be an educated and intelligent person.

I work closely with educated and intelligent people from many culturally diverse backgrounds (including the Philippines). Our organisation has developed an English as a Second Language assessment that goes beyond the IELTS test.

I have NEVER observed a candidate from another culture, who undertook this assessment, spell and use punctuation as perfectly as Aliane does, yet be all over the place, grammatically. It just doesn't add up nor ring true.

I admit, I was stirring the pot, a bit, after what seemed an interminable absence. Though, my suggestion that it is time for a re-incarnation, is hardly slanderous. Aliane didn't seem upset by my tongue-in-cheek post and responded in a light-hearted manner.

We are not playing for sheep-stations here, nor is it life and death. This is all cyber-stuff, guys. Keep it all in perspective.

Posted by: ninaschen at April 18, 2008 9:50 PM

Making soup amuses me Timewarp some days and other days I like to make the stews and for much amusement I make the very hot spicy curry. And I invite my friends over to sing the madrigals. I like the ones from much ado about nothing. It is much like here much ado about nothing ot making much ado about absolutely nothing.

Posted by: oohlala1 at April 18, 2008 9:42 PM

Oldergent you disappoint me with your silly suspicions and to think I was going to tell you to add a little port to your minestrone and the sausage to use if you like the meat in it. I used canellini beans the other day and they were very tasty.

Posted by: oohlala1 at April 18, 2008 9:36 PM

OO lala @ 8.46pm: That is a good substantial soup, especially if not too diluted.

And they did sing madrigals in Magellan's time, so please do tell us what else amuses you.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 9:33 PM

Waterbombe@5.35pm,
Seeing that the lad is probably away on another date. I am not really translating him, but he would be insufferable if he thought he was the only one that understood him. Yes it was plain enough on your profile what you wanted. Thanks for the open profile, show's a few of the men up.

TW.
See it was the porkies, that gave it that flavour. I am very suss too, harken back to the original posts
Cheers OG

Posted by: oldergent at April 18, 2008 9:20 PM

Waterbombe

Thanks for the change of heart. I am not sure what I have done to earn your affection in such a way, but I thank you anyway. I looked at your profile and I am very impressed.

Doug

Posted by: virgil at April 18, 2008 9:01 PM

Seemed a very fair question to me, no matter who asked it.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 6:08 PM

TW
Seems a fair question to me as well. Ninaschen does not seem to be the sort of person to make unfounded baseless accusations, so I would like to see more information on this.

Posted by: virgil at April 18, 2008 8:48 PM

Timewarp I start with a base of fried onions and bacon and add a little sherry or wine. I then add the chicken and some stock and cook till the chicken is ready. I take it out and shred it and then I add the asparagus and creamed corn. You can cook the asparagus yourself or use a good quality can. season to taste after returning the chicken. It is a most substantial meal as opposed to your unsubstantiated accusations and insults about my sexuality.
I thought that madrigal was a woman. I know that I like to watch the AFL to see who is playing. There was no taunt. You just enjoy the trouble and the drama that I was silly enough to get involved in last night. I am so sorry that I did this. I have more things to amuse me than making trouble.

Posted by: oohlala1 at April 18, 2008 8:46 PM

My apologies Virgil, I thought you were Timewarps's vintage, but I had a peek when you peeked at me and I see you are 20 years younger than TW. And, in fact, younger even than me. So, can I change my previous post to say Virgil, if I wasn't attached I'd marry you right this minute.

An hour ago I put my profile back up saying I was seeking friends only and am attached, and just have the profile up for other bloggers...and within one minute of my profile being visible I got a kiss from a married man. Sheesh!!!!

Posted by: waterbombe at April 18, 2008 8:06 PM

OO lala @ 6.48pm: What do you put in that particular soup, to give its flavour any muscularity?

I noticed what you were just saying to Eric. IMHO it sounded more like the kind of taunt that a competitive man would be making ....

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 7:23 PM

Not so new magellan. They are just reinvented. I could make the soup for the kitchen. I have just made a very large pot of asparagus chicken and corn. Is very delicious. Do you think I will get a date down there?
A friend of mine used to bake on a Saturday and take her cakes to the fire station. Seemed to work for her. Might work for you too or do you just like to look at the men in their rugby shorts?

Posted by: oohlala1 at April 18, 2008 6:48 PM

Thanks decoratress - glad someone got the reference :)

Of course by not making it a true fight to the death, the deal of Thunderdome has been broken. Aunty Entity will not be pleased and you know what that means...

"Bust a deal, face the Wheel"

I'll stop now :)

Posted by: stoic at April 18, 2008 6:31 PM

Oh isn't this all wonderful...i thought it was me, although it seems a few months ago i was copping all the slanging and abuse.
I go off line,come back and it's on again, a new tribe, same old problems,my advice to all of you , go get a date,go out with the guy sleeping on the street corner,take him down to the soup kitchen,
Guys, go out with somebody,anybody will do, get back in touch with real life,or at least a real person.

Anyway, I think I will just go back to watching the Rugby,before I actually get asked out.

Posted by: magellan2 at April 18, 2008 6:27 PM

I'm mystified why there has been no reply to femalepersuasion at April 17, 2008 at 3:49am in the just-closed keyboard blog. She asked about a previous post:

'Aliane' - Kudos to you for remaining in character for so long. Alas, your time is up. Time for a reincarnation, methinks.
Posted by: ninaschen at April 15, 2008 9:51 PM

FP asked: "If you are going to make such an accusation Linda, could you declare your evidence?

I am over people like you making accusations without verification. This is slanderous behaviour.

If you feel someone is a fraud, why dont you complain through the correct RSVP complaints dedpartment, where the matter will be dealt with professionally and fairly. "

Seemed a very fair question to me, no matter who asked it.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 6:08 PM

I have been on and off the blogs for a long time and have seen spats before, but never thought they added to anyone's enjoyment. All this stuff should be said off line... the many thousands of our dear readers don't want to hear this sort of thing ever. They want erudition, enlightenment, and entertainment. Even your epistle, Marcus, was more entertaining than what has been written here lately...which was your point, no doubt. Timewarp, I think your analysis hit the nail exactly on the head...very perceptive of you.

Blueeyes...I love your comments, always pithy and intelligent. Virgil, if you were 10 years younger and I wasn't attached I'd marry you right this minute. Decoratress, very fair and justifiably peed off. Aliane,I can never understand what you say except on the odd (very odd) occasion you use perfect grammar. Mind you, I can never fault your spelling. WHERE did you learn English, to have such a mis-match of skills? Marcus, strangled by biology as you are, you are still very funny. OG, have you taken on the task of translating Marcus? It's quite an ask, but good for you.

Posted by: waterbombe at April 18, 2008 5:35 PM

It's good to see everything has settled down again. I hope everyone has a few interesting things planned for the weekend ... which has just arrived for me in the form of an icy cold Corona.

Posted by: woodnwine at April 18, 2008 5:10 PM

Oh decorated one, Gotcha! may peace be with you, if I can remember rightly. check the other out, well maybe the first, Yes I agree totally with you, Your conduct will always speak for you and the conduct should at all times and in all places be able to withstand public scrutiny. Also if you are intimating that all that is said publicly is not the truth I would agree.
I was not aware that the posts had been removed, but if they have then that indicates the fairness of the moderator.
It has been said by someone else that the spat had been simmering for a fair while, as a relative newcomer to blogsville I was surprise at the intensity and speed it developed. What did concern me was the accusations to a lady that she was a multiple I found hard to believe because of the longish association with her, while with her accuser I have had doubts, and have commented on prior posts about the variations in her (?) vocabulary and grammar.
In respect to your comment about whether it is in the the interest of other bloggers for the dirty linen being displayed in public. I would only say, "about the same as a hundred dollar note" laying on the footpath.
Wasn't there a "Sanctos" on the end of that?
Deco, thanks for the way you responded to my post, this bloody sweetness and light must be catching.
Cheers OG

Posted by: oldergent at April 18, 2008 4:17 PM

The Marquese @ 2.50am last night: Mate, you are wasted in the sciences with their goal-oriented cut-to-the-chase simplistic approach of "you-show-me-yours and I'll-show-you-mine."

You have shown us yours, and there's no contest. Get into the communication theory faculty at an ivy-league university, and they'll make you a Reader pronto.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 3:32 PM

Wyatt @ 12.22pm: Oh dear oh dear! You've caught me out in another mis-spelling!

Now everyone will know that I'm not perfect, because that's the second one that I've been picked for it, inside a month! I was able to explain away the 'foopball" but what am I going to say now?

Perhaps I should just say that at 2.06am last night when I proofed what I'd written, it was after 2am. And I have admitted here before, that I tend to really go off in the small hours.

I think that was one of the things that just-saying used to try to put me down about.

Wyatt, you are exactly correct as ever - the man that Shakespeare was writing about was called Antony. Mark Antony actually. Not Anthony, and not Marcus. Thank you very much for putting me to rights, sir.

Posted by: timewarp1 at April 18, 2008 3:02 PM

oldergent @ April 18, 9.04am...

"The other thing for me to mention. If you don't want your conduct to the people you meet on site and carried off site ,then it should be such that it would not matter if it was mentioned publicly. Now I could have put all this in the language of Marcus's choice but I wanted to understand it myself. Pox Nobiscum."

OG...
With respect.. I put the 'notion' to you.. (& has this not occurred to you?).. that what is "mentioned" (euphamism) publicly is not always the truth.

I also query whether personal relationships, (whether initiated through RSVP or not), should be put forward for public scrutiny on this blog.. or, in fact, if they are of any conceivable interest to other bloggers at all?

I'm always completely delighted for my conduct to speak for me.. & of me. Actions, indeed, speak louder than words. Unwarranted attacks on this blog merely showcase this fact...

Suffice it to say, RSVP agrees with me, & the offensive posts have been removed from the blog by site Support.

Pax Vobiscum..
(et cum spiritu tuo, if I remember correctly..)

Posted by: decoratress at April 18, 2008 2:18 PM

The Attitude to Change...

Without Self-Esteem. You're more likely to Criticise Yourself and People Around You.

If Boredom Persist, it can develop into Resentment, Frustration & Low Self-Esteem.

When Trouble are whirling in your mind, your brain doesn't know what's true or false.

If you want Respect from everybody, learn to Respect Yourself first.

Boastful of self credibility in closed minded, In fact the worst you are, outside world is the reality and more opportunity to improved helpful crystallized your creative thoughts.

English Language is not a barrier but excellent " IQ" is Genius Master.

Posted by: aliane at April 18, 2008 1:57 PM

Timewarp.

You mentioned Antonio and Cleopatra, oh so subtle that you are, but as you well know, Shakespeare featured 4 Antonios:

The Merchant of Venice, Twelfth Night, Antony and Cleopatra, or The Tempest.

The Blog Lords in the Dress Circle demand Intellectual Satisfaction!!!

Posted by: wyattearpfm at April 18, 2008 12:22 PM

Marcus...

hahahaha... good one, I loved it!

I woke up this morning & (once again) thought WTF (?) was all that about... came out of nowhere, & had no place at all on the blog. (TW @ 2.06am showed great perspicacity..)

But please, pleeease translate "neodialectic theory" for me... I do love to know what I've been suggesting!

& Stoic @
..I'm still giggling about that one too!
..(maybe, because I was the one to leave?)

Cheers
(love&peace didn't seem to go down too well last night...)

Posted by: decoratress at April 18, 2008 12:13 PM

Marcus.
A most thoughtful and instructive epistle, more so because it is in a language I can understand. I still think you could have told me it was a bloke I came charging to the defence of, you bum.

TW.
You caused me to back track with your post @ 1.05 am I have given up reading the soppish posts of Virg, also the real man thing would have been wasted on him, he'd probably miss it swinging over the fence so fast. (down Virg) still if everone took the path to "sweetness and light" and a few Ooohhhmmm's the flying dummies of the past couple of days could have been avoided.

To those having a go at Karina are you the same ones that are always proclaiming that this is an adult site. A good cat fight usually clears the air once the fur settles, the wounds liked and healed and peace reigns supreme again. You might notice that the wise men stayed out of it. The other thing for me to mention. If you don't want your conduct to the people you meet on site and carried off site ,then it should be such that it would not matter if it was mentioned publicly. Now I could have put all this in the language of Marcus's choice but I wanted to understand it myself. Pox Nobiscum.
Cheers OG

Posted by: oldergent at April 18, 2008 9:04 AM

Posted by: junebaby57 at April 18, 2008 7:32 AM on "What Do Men & Women Want" blog (now closed)

Thanks, much appreciated, Jewels. I agree, the hippie sounds cool!

Timewarp,
I have on occasions, looked at wyatt's profile! (I think! Sometimes you can't find him at all!)
But wasn't NF a 49 yo, whereas wyatt says he is 60? And so was Richard?

I think even if I did contact him, I'd be none the wiser!
And that would be just the way he likes it!