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trumanscat @ Mar 24, 2.31pm...

Yes, plenty of people saw that.

The intelligent approach to words delivered with malicious intent, is to give them the attention they deserve.
None.

After all.. words can't be effective weapons if no-one's listening.

Posted by: decoratress at March 25, 2008 9:12 AM

Virgil and Co: I grew up on a sheep property, and attending to flystrike on sheep was a 9-months a year major job. Didn't fancy that for a lifestyle, so became an engineer instead.

With your fastidious first-world citified sensibilities, I hope you're never marooned in the third world - or in an authentic third-world travelogue.

I'd thought that the Maundy Thursday ablutions/ Mother Teresa topic was a really appropriate one for any fair-dinkum muscular Christian at Easter, and was disappointed that no-one addressed it.

Timewarp, I wish I could take the last post back, but that doesnt happen in the real world. I think the things that test us, make us stronger, and hopefully the Maudy Thursday foot washing will fall into that category.
I havent heard the term "muscular Christian" before, and I am sorry I didnt take up the issue of Mother Terasa and foot washing, but felt that part of the anatomy had more than enough exposure at this time.

I suspect I would cope, if thrown into a third world situation, as I also have had many challenging life experiences.

Posted by: virgil at March 25, 2008 9:09 AM

On WICOE.
Warped. Easter has gone for the Christians though I see you are attempting to enliven the smelly dead
Teresa of Calcutta's famous statement that "abortion was the biggest threat to world peace" sums up her hideous Catholic fundamentalism. She denied girls and education and thus the only known cure for poverty.
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at March 25, 2008 9:05 AM

Thank you so much WnW, TW and Amber - all your words resonate positively with me and I thank you so much for your support and wisdom.Amber, I have heard of that book and I think I will go and have a read of it, thanks for the tip! :-) TW, I do worry that my profile is a bit "inyerface" but thank you for your lovely words of encouragement - (I also enjoy your blogs and witticisms too) :-) I think there are some top quality humans on this blogging site too! Speak to you all later today, off to work now, Jac X

Posted by: secretary1 at March 25, 2008 7:51 AM

Secretary1: I really admired the inyerface excellent values explicitly on display throughout your profile. No-one who can read will be in any doubt that you are a top-quality human, and interested only in the same.

A bit like the ancient Chinese approach to advertising a job vacancy - so specific that they'd only have a couple of applicants to sort through.

But I wonder if the lower end of your wanted age range would be able to come anywhere near matching your maturity? You might be lucky.

Virgil and Co: I grew up on a sheep property, and attending to flystrike on sheep was a 9-months a year major job. Didn't fancy that for a lifestyle, so became an engineer instead.

With your fastidious first-world citified sensibilities, I hope you're never marooned in the third world - or in an authentic third-world travelogue.

I'd thought that the Maundy Thursday ablutions/ Mother Teresa topic was a really appropriate one for any fair-dinkum muscular Christian at Easter, and was disappointed that no-one addressed it.

YouareinPerth @ 4.38pm Sunday: Thank you for that delightfully-confronting little piece of Time and Motion Study. Worthy of JenJen or naughtyfish, in more ways than one.

My Ex used to say that you could tell who was a responsible adult by how widely they defined the jobs they were given.

She said that most children and husbands define a given job very narrowly - eg. in your example, using tongs to handle pieces of meat on and off a griddle.

But mature adults like SydneyBob do the whole job on their Pat Malone - the Get, the Do and the Put away. No trades assistant/ mother/ wife required, 'cause they're grown-ups.

Posted by: timewarp1 at March 25, 2008 1:34 AM

Hi bloggers,
and Karina of course...hope you all had a Happy/or Pleasant or Not Too Unbearable Easter. Have had difficulty keeping up with the blogs as a "lurker" but I have had the whole Easter holiday off work and uni of course. So the thing is I do not want to be in control of everything in a relationships. I struggle to read maps for example so its best if the guy finds places. Of course one should stop for directions eventually and not drive round in circles. Lots of men seem able to focus on one thing intently, which I admire. Oh and I detest plumbing DIY jobs but I will do them. I do my own painting, gardening, really do not like whippersnipping, but what woman does????? Also digging holes in the garden is a bit of a bore. The policy at my house is, if we can't do it ourselves or afford, or want a tradesman, we leave it - forever, or until we can not stand it any longer. However men have a different sense of humour often, they seem to like blonde jokes. A male friend sends me blonde and lawyer jokes. It is really sweet.
I can not stand shopping and that would never be an issue. Also I have no desire to spend a guys money. I do not need to be right all the time and can concede and yes sometimes compromise.
Keys often go missing in my house, of course they belong to my sons and they ask me where theirs are..........even calling my mobile to ask. I lose our cordless phone and my mobile often. Am bad at parallel parking, it is a joke but good at driving.
I have trouble getting ice out of icecube trays but have no probs filling em. The boys in my house cant fill an icecube tray or the water jug either. We often have an empty milk carton in the fridge, but they complain if we have no milk. they (my sons) are not able to write a shopping list with "we need milk on it"
I am happy to be equal to a man but different. No way do I want to compete with a partner.
G'Nite, from

SSC

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at March 24, 2008 11:53 PM

Ummm I haven't blogged in ages, but the beauty of that is that no one ever really took any notice of when I used to blog anyway, so I will probably be new again! WICOE, well its like that in my household, and as wondrous, organised, awe inspiring and independantly inclined as that is, I would really enjoy a masculine influence from time to time. As far as I am concerned there is no such thing as a typical man or woman, we simply have typical traits that happen to make an appearance in our lives, that require understanding and soft persuasion tactics to help us deal with them. So as for WICOE, no thanks, I prefer to share.....

Posted by: mystiemuse at March 24, 2008 11:01 PM

"...vicious nastiness rears it's head & infiltrates even the most innocous blogs, an energy of itself.

But I suspect some people get off on that, creating mayhem & angst because quite possibly they can't sit at home with their own"

Posted by: trumanscat at March 24, 2008 2:31 PM

Unfortunately, I think you have a valid point there. The only thing I can suggest is to ignore their comments and carry on regardless. Have you noticed that many of the nasty posts come from people with hidden profiles? This, I believe is because some people use this anonymity as a shield against real (as apposed to cyber) repercussions. Would these people say these things to your face? I think not!

It is my own personal belief that it should be a prerequisite to have a visible profile to be able to post on these blogs. Mind you, this probably sounds hypocritical given my own profile is hidden!

Posted by: jovial67 at March 24, 2008 9:43 PM

I just wanted to say 'Hi'. After seeing everyone I know disappear off for long weekends of camping, 5 star and hidden B&B holidays, I was prompted to open up my long hiddend account, and venture forth unot the world of dating.

I also found these blogs. What an interesting place!

I got a good laugh out of iaminperth's and notgodsgift's bbq ettiquette for the weekend. As I have no man to man the bbq, I have to borrow friends' husbands to do the hard stuff! amazing! It is always burnt to a crisp on the outside and raw inside!

Posted by: waterlily58 at March 24, 2008 8:26 PM

And Cautious, I forgot to add, that if I receive an email without a kiss first to check out my possible response, then I always reply to their email and even often meet for a coffee.I have spent many a pleasant time having a cuppa , meeting someone new and exchanging conversation even if they don't fit into my desired criteria. You can't always judge a book by its cover and there might be something special hidden behind a not so well written profile or photo.:)

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at March 24, 2008 8:12 PM

Sounds like a great BBQ Bob. Can I come?

Posted by: trumanscat at March 24, 2008 8:09 PM

Aliane, you asked a question re women in charge of finances. In my parents case, my father had charge of anything to do with the money and he gave mum her allowance each week, out of which she had to buy the food and clothe the family. She mangaed well but was extremely careful,believed in recycling and repairing and panicked if an unexpected bill came in, such as medicine if we got sick.She used to go without a lot but dad always managed to get a new car when he wanted.
In my case, I managed the bank accounts, bills and weekly spending because I had learnt some of my mum's thrifty ways. But we both purchased new things, neither went without more than the other and when we divorced we had paid off 2 homes so we each got one and neither needed to take on a mortgage.Think you have to agree as to whether one partner manages the money or you manage it together.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at March 24, 2008 8:01 PM

secretary1, I have been reading the blogs occasionally recently without commenting, as the return to the old days of delayed postings was too frustrating. However, your comments really hit a note with me, as I'm going through exactly the same thing as you mentioned and it really hurts, doesn't it? I was only seeing my ex for six months, but yes, within 3 weeks of us splitting up, he too has moved on to someone else without any kind of "grieving" period. That of course has made me feel like all the time we had together was meaningless and that I am totally disposable. Perhaps that's not the case, but that's how it feels, and I hate it. I hope this passes for you (and me!) as soon as possible :)

Posted by: malsie at March 24, 2008 7:53 PM

I am coming to your next bbq NGGift- Perths description reminded me of how much I did when my ex decided we should entertain with a bbq. And when all the guests had gone home he would fall asleep on the lounge(due to over indulgence of alcohol) and I would be left to clean up.
Cautious-please re read my 1.38 blog re stamp spending. I did say that if one intitiates with a kiss then that person ( the initiator) should spend the stamp with an email. It's what i do and I am always smiling.
:)

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at March 24, 2008 7:39 PM

Well, BFMat, I did try to post an encouraging blog last night but it hasn't seen the light of day, although it took me eight tries to get it as far as the moderator. So I just sent you an encouragement kiss which I hope you won't misinterpret. Although, who knows whether this message will make it to the blogs either?

What an uncertain world we live in.

Posted by: pommysheila at March 24, 2008 7:22 PM

Lurker - your personas are very two dimensional - reminds me of Dame Edna ;)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 24, 2008 6:40 PM

I seem to be the WICOE here...actually the ADULT in charge....although finding it easier to delegate chores to the kids...how nice. However, must admit after being married for a decade and then some, I didn't do the cooking or the shopping, lots of house chores were done while I was working two jobs, the joys of a shiftworker in the house who found cooking "therapeutic" (who am I to say don't do it!).

However, those first few ventures to the supermarket once single again were something to behold. It took us eons to get the groceries done, kept missing things off the list. But like riding a bike, you soon pick it up again - but it'd be nice to have someone to share the load occasionally...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at March 24, 2008 6:36 PM

"My ex is back "out there already" after only about 3 weeks since our break up from a year long relationship. I knew that it would be an inevitability but it was the brevity of his "grieving period" that really shocked me. I'm still "unravelling" the emotional and spiritual connections to him, which will take quite a tad longer than he has (even though it had only been a year-long relationship). I guess that is the difference again between men and women. We "emotionalise" experiences, men "departmentalise" (for want of better adjectives) - not that there is anything wrong with either way, we are just "wired" differently.I've probably left myself wide open here for a public "spraying" :-) Anyway, must go now, time for a cup of tea! :-) Gee, these blogs are addictive :-), Regards Jacqui. x

Posted by: secretary1 at March 24, 2008 1:19 PM"

Jacqui - he may be "out there" but is he really? He may still be grieving or emotional but just trying his best to get on with things. I once had a bad break up and tried my best to get on with life a few weeks later .... but it didn't work out that way. Sometimes we try our best to be strong but still struggle internally. Good luck to you and maybe just take it slowly .... there are plenty of nice people out there who will be understanding if you are honest with them.

Posted by: woodnwine at March 24, 2008 5:35 PM

RSVP (Karina)
I find it hard to believe that this site is not proffitable enough to the Fairfax group that they could not put a fulltime crew on 24/7 to oversee the conduct of the contents of the blogs. It would be simply a matter of first requiring participants to register if they wish to blog, if they transgress the boundries of good taste, delete them from that topic, do it a set number of times and your out ( that excludes Marcus, he has already established he is to much of a milch cow to exclude LOL). I honestly think it would expand your clientelle. At the moment I am undecided whether to stay or buy stamps, I have kisses sent to me that I have not responded to because of this uncertainty. Just my thoughts on the subject, Maybe a topic to explore for enlightenment.
Cheers OG

Posted by: oldergent at March 24, 2008 5:26 PM

Hi all, back again... Did we all have a lovely easter??? I did and will say no more!!!!!

Hey VDU just as the natives are getting restless we have activity.. Good timing...

TC.. has been a while for you too or did I just miss your comments?? So hard to follow now that it's not in real time.. Damn..

Bill.. What on earth were you thinking?? Maggots?? Best you don't answer that!!

Perth @4.38.. You're spot on there lady.. That's the only kind of BBQ l ever had both over in the west and here in Vic.

Bob, you must be one of the few exceptions to the rule if you do all of the work..I take my hate off to you..
To the rest of you men (I'm sure there are a "few"of you out there who do the same as Bob), please don't go jumping down my throat ok... Just stating my case as it was.. Note... I did say was.. With a bit of luck, maybe the next man I get to spend some time with will be a love and at least share the load.. Said kneeling and palms together so maybe just maybe!!!

That's my lot for today.. Check you all tomorrow...
Have a good one ..."G"

Posted by: amdoingit at March 24, 2008 5:02 PM

Timewarp

I wish to apologise for the tone of my 6.47 post of yesterday afternoon, it was most intemperate, and went way over what I should have said, or how I should have said it.

Posted by: virgil at March 24, 2008 4:52 PM

Thanks to Aliane, OG, Virgil for your kind welcomes! :-). Really enjoying your blogs... Yes, I was a tad miffed that the Crows didn't get over the line yesterday Virgil! Never mind.....!! It's the beginning of the season...
Speak soon, Jac.

Posted by: secretary1 at March 24, 2008 4:42 PM

Welcome Jacqui... Glad you're finding the blogs interesting!!! We were posting in real time until recently but unfortunately we are ALL being moderated until the powers that be can find a way to stop some of the "nasties" that have a way of infiltrating the site.. No doubt we'll end up with a workable solution but in the meantime???

Anyway, enjoy and good luck with your search... "G"...

Posted by: amdoingit at March 24, 2008 4:42 PM

The BBQ was received as a joke from a friend and is not a true indication of me at all. I found the ideal way of cooking barbecue style years ago, buy the beer and the meat and seafood and then watch the men 'fight' over who cleans the best, who cooks the best. I have a lovely time wandering around with a glass of wine, patting the occasional back and happily being served wonderfully cooked food. I, of course, in return have glowing compliments for all the men and just 'love their jokes' and even add a few of my own. Not worried about cleaning up the barbecue as I am sure someone 'will show me how' so all's well and we all have a great time.....lol

Posted by: iaminperth at March 24, 2008 4:38 PM

Hi secretary1,
Sorry to hear that you have been through a sad time. I think you are right, in many cases women "read" a lot more into a relationship than a man does. You hear of a lot of cases where a couple have been together for months or (even worse!) years, and the woman views the relationship as something committed and a real partnership, while the man just sees it as a casual relationship that he can he can leave anytime and hardly even look back, even though he may be quite "fond" of the woman.
He uses excuses such as he's "not ready to settle down yet" but then sometimes the next woman he meets, he marries!

I'm not sure how you can get around this, although at a recent bloggers meet, we discussed this issue with the blokes; it seems if he really does want you he will do anything to be with you; if he isn't that keen he really isn't all that interested, no matter what he SAYS. It's actions that count, not words!!
There is a book called "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo, and I have decided that I may just make that my "bible" for ever!!
On reading it, you'll recognise all the games that blokes play. I realised that even though I was married to my ex-husband for 22 years, with him for 24 years and we had 4 children together, he was really never "that into me" which is why he treated me like crap for most of our years together!! And why he recovered so quickly when we finally separated!
We discussed the idea with the guys at our blogs meet and although they thought maybe it was a bit exaggerated, that basically it was true, if they really loved and cared for a woman they would do ANYTHING for her!
Which to follow the blog subject is why real WICOE's partners and spouses don't need evening classes on how to be a great partner, they just "shape up or ship out" as the saying goes!!

I'm sure this won't make you feel any better secretary, but it may be something to look for in the future (mind you I'm probably not a good advisor, so far no dates on RSVP and only the odd peck or two!! But then I have to confess I never really expected much anyway, I think I might be a little too bossy, outspoken and not good-looking or young enough for most men of my generation!)
I hope you feel better soon.

Iaminperth,
My oldest son sent me those "BBQ Rules", he thought they were hilarious and pretty much had applied in our house! (and usually happened in most of his "attached" friends houses as well!)

Posted by: amberlight58 at March 24, 2008 4:35 PM

Loved your barby post, laminperth, remimds me of how they were some years back.
When my MOTH aka sonnyboy gets to cook, he prepares, cooks and cleans up and usually does a pretty good meal too.
Notgodsgift, sounds like you have the barby biz all sorted......
I must say l am not a barby type, don't mind if someone else does all the legwork and l just indulge, so l guess l am not a WICOE, there l do have some failings..................K

Posted by: auntykaz at March 24, 2008 4:33 PM

Cautious8
Good to hear you are progressive about contact here it is a nice contrast with some of the ossified behaviour I encounter.
Re your earlier post response about performance cars. It may not rule me out as a tosser but I have a CAMS competition licence, run and won in a few minor championship races and have been an instructor.
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at March 24, 2008 4:32 PM

WICOE - do we have a choice? I married a man who, until the day he moved in with me, never made his bed, paid a bill, or cooked a meal. His idea of hanging out my hand-knitted jumpers was to drape them over the back fence. His mother dutifully did all those tasks. I really beleive it was to his detriment as he was unable to handle the most basic of tasks, or to organise himself, or to multi-skill, or to appreciate the amount of work generated in a normal household.

Now I'm single and ahem, 'independent', I wonder about the finger-pointing and assumptions that frequently go with such euphemisms. I'm a WICOE because no-one else is around to do it, not because I think no-one else is better qualified to do it. My teenagers are learning the value of helping around the house and my ex recently told our son that he (the son) does far more than his father ever did. I think that's sad.

Secretary1 on the subject of men re-entering the dating field so promptly, I sometimes think that it's because the idea of being alone with one's thoughts is scary and in the end, many choose not to take that much more challenging route of self-work. The path of least resistance is the one that usually provides the fewest lessons. Perhaps that's all you can have to comfort yourself with for now.

Oh and Virgil, I had a very witty response to your concerns about people who change their profile names, but it appears the mods are assessing the suitability of my comments, seeing as I'm a newbie and all. Either that or I stuffed it up. It's been known to happen.

Posted by: guiltypleasure at March 24, 2008 4:29 PM

Warped.
A couple of your recent posts have been a bit concerning. Lack of feeling in your extremities is diagnostic of diabetes. Doctors are cheap old son.
Cheers

Posted by: laughsandtalks at March 24, 2008 4:23 PM

God made woman to be in charge of evrything because -
God worried that Adam would be lost in the Garden of Eden because he wouldn't ask for directions.

God knew that someday Adam would need someone to hand him the TV remote. ( men don't want to see what's ON TV; they want to see WHAT ELSE is on.)

God knew that Adam would never make a doctor's appointment.

God knew that when Adam's fig leaf wore out, he would never buy a new one for himself.

God knew that Adam would not remember to take out the rubbish.

God wanted man to be fruitful and multiply, but he knew Adam would never be able to handle labor pains and childbirth.

As "keeper of the garden," Adam would need help in finding his tools.

Adam needed someone to blame for the Apple Incident, and for anything else that was really his fault.

As the Bible says: "It is not good for man to be alone."

And the No. 1 reason of all . . .

God stepped back, looked at Adam, and declared: "I can do better than that."

(from the humour archives)

Posted by: jenjen57 at March 24, 2008 3:51 PM

VDU - I am just hoping we will all soon be allowed to post live once more. The long delays mean it has all become very disjointed and there is no longer any real exchange of ideas or communication any more. Plus its back to the good old days it seems of sign in, not signed in etc.......

Posted by: jenjen57 at March 24, 2008 3:43 PM

If I kiss I email. If they kiss they email. It is an easy protocol to follow.

Well said cautious my sentiments exactly.

Posted by: virgil at March 24, 2008 3:28 PM

Hi Iaminperth,

Read your blog re BBQ's and have to say that maybe in Perth things are very different to Sydney.

When I do a BBQ, I prepare the meat, marinade etc, and do everything associated with that. If the women want salads etc.....fine (normally just go and buy them), but with my BBQs.....usually just meat and seafood (maybe a few roasted veges)...which I prepare. No dishes...plastic plates and utensils....no beer fetching....your mates do that, or esky next to BBQ......really is girls night off!!

Also....every season is BBQ season here...but love Perth......nearly moved there many years ago.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at March 24, 2008 2:56 PM

Just a quick note to say thank you to those who have offered support and advice lately.

It's encouraging to see that there are some really nice people out there.

cheers

Posted by: boyfriendmaterial at March 24, 2008 2:48 PM

How far along the blogs have come from 8 or 9 months ago.
Remember the active lobbying of RSVP to have the posts put on relatively quickly?
It used to take days before a single post would hit the blogs.
We would be, enmasse, sitting by the computer, salivating, waiting for the next deluge.
United in our desire to communicate, share our experiences.

And now...?
vicious nastiness rears it's head & infiltrates even the most innocous blogs, an energy of itself.

But I suspect some people get off on that, creating mayhem & angst because quite possibly they can't sit at home with their own...

Posted by: trumanscat at March 24, 2008 2:31 PM

It's 2.02pm on the 24th and the last visible post is 5.58pm on the 23rd... looks like I'll have to read my book instead!!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at March 24, 2008 2:05 PM

Dear Bloggers, I will leave my profile visible for the next 24 hours or so, so as you may have a read (yoicks.... scary.... :-)). I feel it would be very rude and ill-mannered of me not to.:-) I will then go back to being hidden for a while as I am not ready to "get back out there" so to speak. Had a bit of a down night last night :-(. Feeling a bit sad and alone this Easter, but I'll get over my self-wallowing soon Lol!! (ps. another great wallowing song, Thirsty Merc's "Crying in Denial"!). I've just read the previous blog 'Dating after a break up" - very helpful comments and many of which I agree with, Thank you! It's nice to know that there are so many decent and lovely people out there in RSVP bloggersland :-)! Am feeling a tad disillusioned, (or is it just shell-shock) at the moment in regards to relationships, but am so glad to have stumbled onto this blogging section on RSVP. Nevertearusapart and amberlight, I read your previous topic blogs about your experiences on RSVP and felt many pangs of sympathy for you.My ex is back "out there already" after only about 3 weeks since our break up from a year long relationship. I knew that it would be an inevitability but it was the brevity of his "grieving period" that really shocked me. I'm still "unravelling" the emotional and spiritual connections to him, which will take quite a tad longer than he has (even though it had only been a year-long relationship). I guess that is the difference again between men and women. We "emotionalise" experiences, men "departmentalise" (for want of better adjectives) - not that there is anything wrong with either way, we are just "wired" differently.I've probably left myself wide open here for a public "spraying" :-) Anyway, must go now, time for a cup of tea! :-) Gee, these blogs are addictive :-), Regards Jacqui. x

Posted by: secretary1 at March 24, 2008 1:19 PM

Perth,
better move East, you are obviously mixing with the wrong type and/or age group of men over there. The women in my family love it as we men do the lot, including the washing up and garbage disposal in my Clan.

Secretary1 (Jac)
If you dip your toe (Just dont let TW dip his) in the water you will more than likely find it is not cold and at times can get decidedly hot, having said that, come in out of the cold, you have done the hardest thing so far, actually got a post on screen, also deciding to join in. No doubt all the others will extend their welcomes as I do to you.
Cheers OG

Posted by: oldergent at March 24, 2008 1:11 PM

Hi Secretaty1....no worries, you can scrabbles my name as you like cos if you got right that's my real name in life. :)
Happy Easter too....

Posted by: aliane at March 24, 2008 12:35 PM

It looks like our moderator has come in for his/her monday holiday shift, up to 5.58pm yesterday atm, wonder what delights await us from the evenings posts.

Welcome secretary1.

Perth, I would have thought we entered the BBQ season around the day the mighty Eagles got beaten in the finals, as that is traditionally the day WA goes from winter to summer?

At least we beat Brissy this time round.

Poor old Crows, getting beaten by the Bulldogs, a bit hard to take, at least it was in Melbourne.

Posted by: virgil at March 24, 2008 12:27 PM

Hi Secretary1...thank you so much, nice compliment indeed.

I'm so delighted people loved and praise my blogpost, mixture of witty, humorous and real life stories I wrote.

I'm glad I was accepted to contribute although English is only my second language.

Perhaps good enough Not English my main language...otherwise...I am their Worst Nightmare !.....:))

Posted by: aliane at March 24, 2008 12:18 PM

Could we just moved on specific Topics, Women in charge of everything please...

My question does also Women In Charge in Finances?
Does men hold only his payslip? While women got the bank account balances?
This subjected interest only those couples how they managed their incomes and expenditures....
Just opinion..thanks

Posted by: aliane at March 24, 2008 11:56 AM

The best way to deal with maggots, is not to let the blowflies in.
Foresight and prevention are the best remedies/ antidotes/ vaccinations for anything (including dating on RSVP!)

Iaminperth - how to regain attention at BBQs - show up naked & bring drinks! ;)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 24, 2008 11:41 AM

Will try and catch up on the blogs. Is pretty hard and so disjointed at the moment.
But just wanted to let you know there was an interesting article in the Sunday Magazine with the Herald Sun here in Melb, (Not sure what paper its with in other states).
The article was titled 'Silver Divorce' and is about the rising stats on long term relationship break-ups. (over say 25 years).
Was quite interesting and covered dating again and had references to RSVP.
Hope some of you get the chance to read it.

Posted by: jenniferhi at March 24, 2008 10:02 AM

Virgil, I have a conspiracy theory as to people who blog while maintaining a hidden profile.

They're all Pies supporters Virgil. Traitors in the ranks.

They must be stopped at once. I suggest manning the barricades.

Posted by: guiltypleasure at March 24, 2008 2:18 AM

Q: If you change your profile name does it come up as a new listing?

Posted by: cautious08 at March 24, 2008 1:51 AM

blueeyes1955@1.38pm
If you send a kiss you are initiating contact and i would have thought would be expected to follow up. If you want the old standards to apply wait to be kissed and then they can email you.
If I kiss I email. If they kiss they email. It is an easy protocol to follow. Why should the males on this site be expected to pay for every contact. Sorry but it seems a tad unfair to me.
If you want the contact I would have thought it was a small price to pay. It could be your future happiness. It could be worth it. Take a chance smile, and email.

Posted by: cautious08 at March 24, 2008 1:43 AM

Wishful @ 3.52pm Sunday: Think of it as Show and Tell, or at least Tell, and remember that eating at the computer is unhealthy. Food deserves proper attention during consumption, to increase the flow of digestive enzymes.

I thought it was a bit different from the usual boring old suburban routine. And thanks to Virgil's response, it led on to some more significant stuff about fastidiousness vs. charity.

Mother Teresa was into that in a big way. She has taken saintliness back 1900 years to its muscular roots, and has refocussed some of the Church onto far higher goals for pastoral care. Definitely a Good Egg, all year.

Posted by: timewarp1 at March 24, 2008 12:03 AM

G'day Bloggers, I would like to answer a question, about why some people change their profile names.
I decided I should change mine, & all my passwords, because someone was hacking into my account, & changing things, blocking & ignoring people, I changed my password, but it kept happening, so I changed everything, & only let 1 person know about it, I have not had a problem since.

Posted by: crossy45 at March 23, 2008 10:01 PM

Hello.... is anybody in there... nod if you can hear me... is there anyone home...?

Posted by: sunrizesiesta at March 23, 2008 9:55 PM

I don't understand the name-change thing either. For instance, I sent an email to a member a while ago. He never replied and shortly afterwards he changed his name and profile pic. However, he still has the same preamble, same details etc, so he still shows up on my match list and is very obviously the same person.

There is another man I had to block some time ago for "e-stalking" who changes his name regularly.(For anyone who's never had cause to block somebody, name changes are recorded on your blocked list.) I think he's on his third or fourth identity in as many months.

I don't understand the maggot thing either, and nor do I want to :)

Posted by: pommysheila at March 23, 2008 8:38 PM

Time warp?
I really am disapointed in you. I had thought you had transcended the age barrier. At 72 fitter than me at 56. I dont really understand what could have possibly affected your mind such that you thought sharing at this level is acceptable on RSVP.

I would be embararassed to admit such a monumental neglect of personal hygene to my doctor, yet you feel this is an acceptable topic for a dating site.?

Do you have advanced alsheimers disease?

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 6:47 PM

Why do people change their profile names? I have often wondered about this ... don't people want continuity? Are they perhaps ashamed of things they have said in the past or are they hiding from a previous partner/lover? To me this is a curious thing ... but then again I just had 2 glasses of wine with my Easter lunch so maybe it's just me.

Posted by: woodnwine at March 23, 2008 3:23 PM
WnW tis an affection of loosers, who feel we are idiots, like richardcranium, who mostly want to come on here and slag off on our lovely ladies because they lack the courage to attack the blokes.
This farce has been going on longer than I have been here, and will continue till enough of us say enough.

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 6:11 PM

I'm really confused as to why bloggers are being subjected to tales of maggots? Not something I care to read over my lunch, nor at all relevant.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at March 23, 2008 3:52 PM

TW gross, gross gross

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 5:58 PM

BF Material, your post re girl's profile saying she doesn't want to chase men, yet sends you a "kiss" and then snubs your email! How bizarre and utterly rude and patronizing of her...I truly believe that "what goes around comes around" to those that do disservices to others. Chin up mate... I don't blame you for being angry. Jac
p.s. sorry Aliane, I spelt your namely incorrectly before. Apologies :-)

Posted by: secretary1 at March 23, 2008 5:58 PM

A bit off topic but I would like to wish everyone a Happy Easter and I hope it brought you all happiness and for some love. Keep blogging

Posted by: jaspercat at March 23, 2008 5:45 PM

Hi everyone, just wanted to say hi and am very much enjoying your blogs! I haven't been on RSVP for about a year and this is my first time that I have blogged so please be gentle :-). I am very much enjoying your witty, insightful "tongue in cheek" banter, as well as some very interesting and provocative comments by some members. I have my profile hidden at the moment as not yet ready to "dip my toes" back in the RSVP pool! Onwards and upwards is my current motto ;-) ... I may be brave and just "jump into the deep end" sometime this week and go back on view... just need a bit of time to heal... anyway... Alaine, I love your posts and they crack me up every time, thanks for making it easier to smile again :-). Hello too to WnW, wishfulthinker03, Auntykaz, OG, and all the regulars! Cheers to you all and Happy Easter. Jac.

Posted by: secretary1 at March 23, 2008 5:42 PM

PS to mine to Virgil this arvo: I forgot to mention that before the overuse of penecillin cream on every skin lesion when I was a teenager, impetigo was endemic everywhere - another hazard for foot-washers. (= school sores)

Posted by: timewarp1 at March 23, 2008 5:27 PM

Boyfriendmaterial: some people have bad manners, some play games and some are just plain weird. I wouldn't waste my time wondering which category this one falls into, she ain't worth it! You look great so my advice (for what it's worth) would be keep on keeping on.

Posted by: pommysheila at March 23, 2008 5:17 PM

No Gemini, certainly not directed at anyone specific and I can understand and appreciate that but some people blog forever with their profiles hidden and that's a bit off putting I think and you would have to wonder why. Never mind, I do wish we could just blog though because replies are being heavily manipulated now to turn the whole conversation. Now maggots seem to be the topic and it really is getting very school yard here and I find a bit offensive being treated like this by the management of this site.

Posted by: iaminperth at March 23, 2008 4:52 PM

Hi all, yes I did consider leaving the answers to my 5 questions for a later post but given the current moderator delay in posting I decided it was better to post Q&A all at once. You never know if I had just posted the questions the answers may not have seen light of day in a seperate post!

Really, I did not have an easter egg chocolate induced brain fade that early in the day.

I hope easter has been treating you all well, personally it would be great if the WICOE could visit my house for a few days. Since this is not case it's time to cook a bolar roast for my soon to arrive visitors.

WnW the glasses of wine sounds like an excellent idea, I'll add that to the menu for later tonight.

Posted by: willow1059 at March 23, 2008 4:51 PM

BBQ RULES
We are about to enter the BBQ season. Therefore it is important to refresh your memory on the etiquette of this sublime outdoor cooking activity.
When a man volunteers to do the BBQ the following chain of events are put into motion:

Routine...
(1) The woman buys the food.
(2) The woman makes the salad, prepares the vegetables, and makes dessert.
(3) The woman prepares the meat for cooking, places it on a tray along with the necessary cooking utensils and sauces, and takes it to the man who is lounging beside the grill - beer in hand.

(4) The woman remains outside the compulsory three meter exclusion zone where the exuberance of testosterone and other manly bonding activities can take place without the interference of the woman.
Here comes the important part:
(5) THE MAN PLACES THE MEAT ON THE GRILL.

More routine...
(6) The woman goes inside to organize the plates and cutlery.
(7) The woman comes out to tell the man that the meat is looking great. He thanks her and asks if she will bring another beer while he flips the meat .

Important again:
(8) THE MAN TAKES THE MEAT OFF THE GRILL AND HANDS IT TO THE WOMAN.
More routine...
(9) The woman prepares the plates, salad, bread, utensils, napkins, sauces, and brings them to the table.
(10) After eating, the woman clears the table and does the dishes.

And most important of all:
(11) Everyone PRAISES the MAN and THANKS HIM for his cooking efforts.
(12) The man asks the woman how she enjoyed "her night off." And, upon seeing her annoyed reaction, concludes that there's just no pleasing some women...

I rest my case guys..................lol

Posted by: iaminperth at March 23, 2008 4:38 PM

Virgil @ 12.15am last night: My money says that Justsaying is not Marcus the Mono-profiled, and is definitely not Earl Naughtyfish and his serial aliases either.

Quite different basic underlying psychology and motivations are visible, even before you read between the lines.

To resurrect an old cliche - 3 different kettles of fish, Virgil.

and Virgil @ 2.56pm today: Sorry to have reminded you of your considerable fastidiousness, mate. (and wishful too)

I was very interested in your great awkwardness about Maundy Thursday's ritual of washing strangers' feet, carefully pre-washed at home to avoid offence.

It got me thinking of further back, when the feet were bare or wearing the new roman-type open strap sandals, when home sometimes didn't run even to a basin, let alone a shower - and when powdered horse and/or camel manure was a major constituent of roadside dust.

That was when the foot-washing ritual really sorted out the people whose charity was not up to Jesus' standards for unfastidious unselfishness. I recall a term "muscular Christianity" from somewhere.

Speaking of sandals, I'm really looking forward to tennis tonight, with my enormous hospital toe bandage sticking out the front. Cheers dears.

Posted by: timewarp1 at March 23, 2008 4:38 PM

Dear Virgil, Many thanks for your kind comments. I hear what you say...I love Brissy, so even though I'm sure (and have heard) Adelaide is lovely....all the best.I hope we can both find someone nice, genuine, HONEST and down to earth on here. I'm very big on honesty and sometimes do wonder why others are not? Take care. :-)

Posted by: sunrizesiesta at March 23, 2008 4:34 PM

Sorry timewarp but waaaay too much information regarding your toe.....
Ewwwwwwww.............K

Posted by: auntykaz at March 23, 2008 4:33 PM

Hi Woody,

I dont see anything strange in changing a profile name - did it myself a while back. Reason was that when joining RSVP, I just put something in without thinking too much about it. After a while got to thinking about that a bit and appealed to me that I was "not gods gift" to women (though I think sometimes we try to be) - and there you have it, a message conveyed at the very start to try to downplay the stuff I have to write in the profile.....pretty damn clever of me I thought!!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at March 23, 2008 4:22 PM

wishfulthinker - I agree, not at all interesting, sorry Bill.

Posted by: woodnwine at March 23, 2008 4:18 PM

I'm really confused as to why bloggers are being subjected to tales of maggots? Not something I care to read over my lunch, nor at all relevant.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at March 23, 2008 3:52 PM

Why do people change their profile names? I have often wondered about this ... don't people want continuity? Are they perhaps ashamed of things they have said in the past or are they hiding from a previous partner/lover? To me this is a curious thing ... but then again I just had 2 glasses of wine with my Easter lunch so maybe it's just me.

Posted by: woodnwine at March 23, 2008 3:23 PM

Cautious08 @ 9.38pm: That was real wit - AND many a true word spoken in jest. Thank you thank you.

And good on you for using a passport photo in your profile - how honest can a person get? I was really impressed, because even mine is softened with a smile.

Amber @ 12.04am: One of the most useful pieces I've seen on the blogs. Worth keeping and rereading.

Justsaying @ midday, Mexican time: Thanks for all the useful info. Will have got blown in between dressings - while air-drying the toe for about 15 mins after daily showering. I had noticed a viviparous brown blowfly in the kitchen a few days ago. (They lay already-hatched maggots.)

Must get my landlord to patch the hole in the gauze, now that the Bunny has been. (Lindt 70% dark egg + egglets - my favourite, thank you daughter dear.) The nail's off now, so no damp refuge. Seeyez all.

Posted by: timewarp1 at March 23, 2008 1:54 PM

I wouldn't be too pleased either BFmaterial.But don't let that deter you from checking out the majority of people who are hopefully better mannered.I do think though that the person who sends the initial kiss should be the one who sends the stamp.
Marcus, thanks for the offer of the trimmer but already bought one-and no it is not a use and throw away type. Now I am in the market to buy a blower-have too large a patio for sweeping. As in the words of S.siesta "I am also a woman in charge of everything at my place" and would be happy to hand over the reigns sometimes.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at March 23, 2008 1:38 PM

TW I wonder what ever made you share that information in this blog.

What about topical, Maudy Thursday (the day before good friday) incorporates a service where parishoners was each others feet. Needless to say we all have a good wash before going to church that night.

That is the most confronting to me of all the things that are part of easter, I feel washing a strangers feet is to use a term my children use, really gross.

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 12:56 PM

Re timewarp1 at March 22, 2008 6:53 PM.

Fly strike (maggot infestation of flesh) occurs when flies are "attracted to sick/dirty/dying or slow (too slow to avoid the flies) animals".

Also, "There is the potential for the maggots to enter the body and travel along the spine under the skin - causing paralysis/death."

Powdered pesticides can be used to treat the maggot infested site; antibiotics if the body needs to fight off a secondary systematic infection.

The old-fashioned economical treatment was firstly removing obvious fouling from the infected site and then washing the area with diesel or petrol. Vinegar tends to kill a lot of little beasties too.

But best of all is like iaminperth said at March 23, 2008 9:59 AM, " Maggots under your toenail, why don't you just try washing........,"

Along those lines of keeping susceptible areas "clean", good old-fashioned water sluicing does work wonders.
If not, it's a good idea to keep open wounds completely covered, when you're unable to swat flies away.

Another wonderful old-fashioned deterent for those pesky flies besides cleanliness, is to have flyscreens fitted to your abode.

After all, I'm sure the Easter Bunny would have been and gone by now and not fussed by such barriers, holy or not.

Posted by: justsaying at March 23, 2008 12:00 PM

iaminperth: your comments about hidden profiles were not directed at me specifically, but I would like to respond.

The reason I (recently) hid my profile is because I kept getting kisses after I had responded to someone. I don't like sending rejections, so I figured it would be better to hide my profile.

I will unhide my profile for one week for anyone who wants to have a look.

I have only ever had one profile name in the two years I have been on RSVP.

And for the record, I do buy stamps, plus RSViP. I have two unused stamps at the moment. Would you like me to send you an email?

Virgil: I looked at your profile a few weeks ago, as I have many fellow bloggers. If you have RSViP you would have seen my name in your sidebar.

Aliane: Thank you for your comments. Yes, a lot of my fridge magnets are mementos of places I have been, and a friend brought me one from Hong Kong Disneyland when she recently visited there. Some are fun ones, like my frog. I have several with teddy bears on them. One says, "If no one else loves you, your teddy bear always will". I gave one to my Mum once. It said, "Sometimes I wake up grumpy, and sometimes I let him sleep". My Dad can be a bit grumpy sometimes! But then so can we all!

Posted by: geminipom at March 23, 2008 11:33 AM

boyfriendmaterial - totally understand - looks like women are not the only ones on the recieving end of all the shennanigans! But on the bright side, nice to see there ARE some nice people around (even if different age/state!)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 23, 2008 10:30 AM

Ladies - take care - what some men "want" might not be what you are looking for on RSVP.

Posted by: riversong1 at March 23, 2008 10:18 AM

'Middle eastern appearance' in inverted commas is the familiar police euphemism for somebody who may look semitic; perhaps olive skin and a particular hair color and facial features. It was an attempt at humour.
Religions are enemies of logic and rationality.

Marcus....it's generalisations like this that can cause conflict...using Middle Eastern and semitic in the same sentence is just going to confuse many...

If it was indeed an "attempt at humour" it was a poor one.....cant we leave this sort of thing that is easily open to misinterpretation out of the blogs?

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at March 23, 2008 10:09 AM

Maggots under your toenail, why don't you just try washing........YuuuuuuK!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: iaminperth at March 23, 2008 9:59 AM

There is one woman here who appreciates a high performance car; although I am more concerned with how it corners than flat line speed. Anyone can drive in a straight line! I evaluate the car and driver separately. Some cars deserve homage even though the drivers are tossers.

Posted by: cautious08 at March 22, 2008 9:38 PM
There is a saying, there are people who make things happen, others who watch things happen, still others who wonder what happened.

I am sure we all alternate between the various states, though many people of the "alpha" persuasion would disagree.

When I read the above piece, I felt firmly in the third place.

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 9:46 AM

Happy Easter to ALL...

Posted by: aliane at March 23, 2008 9:43 AM

Thanks riverslong. 6.07PM
Would you buy groceries from the same place for years if you weren't getting what you wanted?
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at March 23, 2008 3:47 AM

Larfsandbarfs to see a skate board as an extension of the penis is quite a stretch...
Possibly would rather see some sort of appendage that may actually mean penile extention as a skeatboard is more a kids toy, is it not????

But hey, whatever gets you through the night......................K

Posted by: auntykaz at March 23, 2008 2:51 AM

laughsandtalks – it’s not hard to see why 2000 emails have got you no-where :)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 6:07 PM
Riversong, please do not presume anything like that.

The first and main assumption we can make about Marcus, is that he is highly intelligent, this is clearly evident to all but the thickest visitors to this blog.

From that, can we assume he has invested nearly $5000 for no return?

Marcus has shown us his committment to RSVP.

Marcus does not brag about his success rate, as it is usually only unsuccessful people who tell you how good they are.

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 12:51 AM

Welcome to the blogs SunrizeSiesta your profile is excellent, and I am a visual person who usually likes to see a photo, so was very impressed by your profile that i would have sent a "kiss" but as I dont want to leave Adelaide, I will admire from afar.

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 12:35 AM

Marcus, i enjoy your slants but I for one, do not want to see aunty chainyankers body, the slouch is enough for me.

Posted by: roy57 at March 22, 2008 6:49 PM
ahh another of the lurker variety, who attempts humour by slaging off at one of the lovely women here.

Roy, let me tell you a secret, whilst new to the blogs, dont try to copy the style of our regulars, at first, please just post polite comments.

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 12:25 AM

Justsaying aka necroticflesh?
hmm yeah Marcus, and altersheiber & Richardcranium or whatever. I acknowledge I am wrong, your writing style is quite likely copied by several wannabes.

I will accept pastor or again whatever, but would prefer Eagle, as that is my main footy team, Crows, second WCE member 20 years Crows member 2 months.

Easter is a very spiritual time for me, with time for reflection, particularly at 2 to 3 am good friday morning, look at what is working in my life and what is not.

I feel my core beliefs would be more in line with your own, than they would be with a born again Christian, or a Roman Catholic.

Posted by: virgil at March 23, 2008 12:15 AM

Hi Willow,
Hope you are enjoying being the Easter Bunny for your little ones.
Yes, I agree you should have left the answers for a later post, but then mind you (sadly) I actually wouldn't have "got" any of the answers anyway!
Although I obviously saw immediately once I read them!
(Well I never said I was particularly "clever"!)

Posted by: amberlight58 at March 23, 2008 12:11 AM

Hello Eveyone,
Hope you are having a lovely Easter, and are sharing fellowship with friends and/or family.
I consider my self very lucky that my 2 older sons still live close by and call in, although I know that may not be for too much longer!!
I read a thought-provoking article in a Women's Weekly I borrowed from work (dated February 2008: Women's Weekly; I know, sorry guys!!) about children leaving home. It by Gretel Killeen and I have to say I had to agree with a lot of her sentiments!
Yes, it is our role to raise our children to be strong and independent enough to leave us when the right time comes for them.
I think it may be a little harder for those of us on our own when that time comes, men and women, (unless of course, they have stayed so long we are desperate for them to leave!! In that case, maybe we didn't do such a good job?!) and we owe to to our kids to at least have an independent life, whether we are with or without a partner to share our future years with.
We give so much of our lives to our kids; yet it is only right/natural that they should feel good about moving on with their own lives and not feeling in anyway responsible for our happiness.

My own mother seems never to have learned that lesson, and I have a brother in his mid 40s who "ran back home to mum" when his marriage broke up in his late 20s/early 30s and he has never left!
Why he has stayed so long, I have no idea. My mother idolised my brother when he was growing up, he could do no wrong.
My mother seems to think that this is okay; I can see the "pay-off" for her, she has never had to take responsibility for her own life since he moved in with her. I guess for him it is the same really. But he has no contact with his children (he couldn't be bothered; he was too hurt!) and it seems a rather sad and wasted life to me.

Yes, I want my children to care, but not to feel obliged to keep me company for ever!!

I guess that is another reason to look for long-term partner, (but not to grab on to the first person who comes along: unless they are really the kind of person we are looking for, of course!) not because we are scared of being alone and desperate, but to make sure we won't ever be tempted to turn into a negative WICOE, the mother (and/or Mother-in-law) from hell!

Posted by: amberlight58 at March 23, 2008 12:04 AM

There is one woman here who appreciates a high performance car; although I am more concerned with how it corners than flat line speed. Anyone can drive in a straight line! I evaluate the car and driver separately. Some cars deserve homage even though the drivers are tossers.

Posted by: cautious08 at March 22, 2008 9:38 PM

Blueeyes and the Rude Fellow at Bunnings.

Reading between the lines and as a bloke who has for a time worked on garden care equipment I can say that Bunnings el cheapo Chinese electric line trimmers are without exception toys. As soon as you ask them to do a bit of hard work they struggle.
Soon after they struggle they die and you then suffer the annoyance of finding that they are generally unfixable; no parts availability or sealed design.
There may now be good 240 volt units available from the power tool makers like Bosch and Makita- probably not through Bunnings as they cater for bottom end stuff. though to get the grunt a proper tool needs for this job means a decent high speed motor akin to a medium sized angle grinder and thus lots of girly unfriendly noise, vibration and torque reaction.
I removed all lawn from my place and mulched and groundcovered a few years ago. I still have my big Stihl trimmer for sale if you are interested. ;-]
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at March 22, 2008 8:58 PM

Changing the top from the fridge magnets. Quite Maybe it is time that women should be more in charge of their lives and forget whether they pick up their sox or not - there are far far more important things in life, i.e, maybe truth could be one and very importantly your own health. I do think a lot of women get involved and stressed out with the small stuff and have no real idea of what is really going on in their lives. And by the way I don't have a Bambino I can park a lwb four wheel drive very successfully.......Love the Yay moment !! and have had many a laugh with a sceptical audience.

Posted by: iaminperth at March 22, 2008 8:21 PM

I wish i had some connections at Bunnings Riversong. Went there to buy a new lawn edger 2 months ago and the fellow was quite rude. I wanted one suitable for a petite woman to use,with electric cord and not petrol driven. The assistant pulled down what he would use and walked off. He obviously doesn't realise that there are a lot of single women who do their own lawns. I should go into business selling boy's tools for women.And yes my garden shed is tidy too,Timewarp.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at March 22, 2008 7:20 PM

I remember reading some blogs here somewhere about who should spend the stamps and email who depending on whether you were male or female and who sent the first kiss etc.

So yesterday I get a kiss from this girl and I note that she says in her profile that she doesn't want to chase men and would like them to send the email. A traditional value akin to the guy phoning a potential date and not the other way around. I can live with that and she seemed pretty nice, so I spent the stamp and sent her a nice long email. complemented her on some of the things she said in her profile etc just a normal, nice email.

Her reponse?

Dear BoyfriendMaterial,

(insert name here) thanks you for your email. She is flattered that you are interested, but does not wish to correspond any further and wishes you well in your search.

Regards,
RSVP

huh?

On the positive side, it is clear to me that she was in no way the nice person I thought she was. Glad to have found out quickly :D

Thanks for reading my little rant. It's not often that I get angry.

cheers

Posted by: boyfriendmaterial at March 22, 2008 7:08 PM

Hmm well just my two cents - being a "woman who has had to do everything, I guess I am a woman in charge of everything?" Raising 3 young kids alone has not been easy. Been divorced for 10 years. Guess that's why I'm on here.... so won't have to be a woman in charge of everything.... :-)

Posted by: sunrizesiesta at March 22, 2008 6:56 PM

Marcus @ 3.46pm: I had been glad that you'd mentioned the persons of middle-eastern appearance who were branding themselves so very obviously as non-Jewish and non-Islamic.

It reminded me that I hope Australia will remain a country where they dare to do that.

Justsaying @ 1.21pm: Have the last word, mate. Be my guest. I've been trying to give them up for the last 40 years or so.

And while you're at it, have the last word in every exchange you ever have, with every person you ever meet. I guess you need that to feel secure.

My book-keeper has just found some maggots under my lifting toenail while she was changing the dressing. So that's why the wound had suddenly started to throb this morning, after 2 weeks of relative peace.

I've run out of sheep-dip, so I'll take myself up to Cas. and see what they hit them with these days. Seeyezall later.

Posted by: timewarp1 at March 22, 2008 6:53 PM

Marcus, i enjoy your slants but I for one, do not want to see aunty chainyankers body, the slouch is enough for me.

Posted by: roy57 at March 22, 2008 6:49 PM

laughsandtalks – it’s not hard to see why 2000 emails have got you no-where :)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 6:07 PM

Laughs and talks at others do you not have anything else to do with your time other than to be here all day long going on and on about religion and whatever comes to mind?
You say on one hand that you have been here for nine years and have met many women but on the other that you do not take it serious. You contradict yourself.
I think you have maybe a bad experience with the church when you are a young boy or teen to be so bitter.
You are rude to riversong about her compliment to a young man. I think you should go for an older woman and you might find the success you have been looking for all these long years. Older women have so much going for them. They have wisdom and beauty and experience. They are no more intimidated by men and are comfortable in their own skin. They lack the inhibitions of youth and make wonderful playmates and companions. Riversong could well be what cordy is looking for but she is sensible because she does not look for the younger man as fill in.
In my experinece those toyboys are not so good looking but I think your saying grab a granny is so rude. Imagine if I say to younger woman to grab a grandpa. Is horrible saying and mean to all people of older years who should be respected for what they have given to us. They should not be rudely put on shelf. You are very rude man who shows a lack of compassion and intelligence.

Posted by: oohlala1 at March 22, 2008 5:50 PM

Timewarp- from the 'teach -'that's much better wording for your thoughts. I promise not to check your work for spelling errors.The use of the word "everyone" always amuses me. My kids used to try and persuade me to buy them things by saying everyone has the item, or everyone is going to the function etc.And I would say "No, not everyone.You're not."
Well this not so boring keeper of an immaculate home must get ready to depart again. Have been for a lovely day out driving and a luncheon and am heading off to dance tonight.Maybe that is why the house is immaculate- I am out most of the time having fun.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at March 22, 2008 5:43 PM

Alaine – ha ha ha!! Yep, we should go to Bunnings and buy the things we need – maybe Blueeyes55 could help with her connections - and build that “shed of de-clutter lesser pollution”.
I suggested “outhouse”, not “cubbyhouse” – another aussie slang – something that keeps smelly business at a good distance, and with half or full flush to wash it away ;)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 5:36 PM

Riverschlong.
I'm sure Cordy is extremely relieved you are not into toyboys or him into grab a granny.

Posted by: laughsandtalks at March 22, 2008 4:22 PM

Pastor.
Your maths are pretty good though the rate of second dates is quite a bit lower. If there is a second date a third and subsequent follow more easily. Haven't been pushing it along much this year. Have caught up with 3 or 4 girls who I met here years ago for some reminsicence and to hear stories about subsequent partnering and relationships.
Our posts crossed and I also wondered about 'justsaying' and gave my thoughts.
It is not me. One profile, I use my real name and say what I think. No need or time for subterfuge.
Cheers Marcus

Posted by: laughsandtalks at March 22, 2008 3:59 PM

Wishful.
I didn't bring religion into the discussion, someone wished me a happy easter.
'Middle eastern appearance' in inverted commas is the familiar police euphemism for somebody who may look semitic; perhaps olive skin and a particular hair color and facial features. It was an attempt at humour.
Religions are enemies of logic and rationality. They preach that you will not lie but cannot offer a shred of evidence for their most fundamental assertion the existence of the Great Controller among many. The three monotheistic Abrahamic religions, Judaism, Christianity and Islam are the sky god ones. Their god and heaven or paradise is up there just beyond the clouds apparently.
Auntykaz. I'm not depressed, quite good humored really. It is just that this dating and mating stuff is not a matter of life or death for me. The skateboard is a piss take too, of a particular sort of penis extension motorcar pretentiousness that women howl at. As it happens I have a couple of flash performance cars but know the derision some engineeringly uninformed females are apt to react with so hence the deck and trucks.
Cheers Marcarse

Justsaying aka necroticflesh?

Posted by: laughsandtalks at March 22, 2008 3:46 PM

Virgil....they love to make Fun on Crazy Clarks...nothing wrong on fridge magnet. Unless Crazy Bargain...!!

I got collection international Duty Free Fridge Magnet...nothings funny I guess....just for fridge magnet bills reminders...
:)

Posted by: aliane at March 22, 2008 3:44 PM

I personally find it difficult to blog with someone who doesn't have a visible profile after all you can have a password protected profile photo if you wish. Also I find it a little hard to reconcile that these people use all the facilities of the site and contribute nothing financially to it. After all, no-one is going to spend money on stamps to contact them and they are not going to do it if their profile is hidden. Just my reasoning, bit disappointing really.

Posted by: iaminperth at March 22, 2008 3:41 PM

Riversong....likes you said to OG those plastic, disposable/replaceable stuff how we live today...makes my day laughs. We used to have Tupperware durable, usesable, dependable...
Wish could gather all those bad boys players, plastic, cluttered stuff-toys in ..exclusive secluded Island, and build a "Cubby-House"...with barbwire fence for lesser pollutions...

Posted by: aliane at March 22, 2008 3:31 PM

alaine - you seemingly have no idea what I was referring to (nor did justsaying .... funnily) so let's just file that one under lost causes?

riversong ... maybe you should read that post I made to alaine and I meant that in the kindest way because apparently I have also been guilty of the same thing (apparently) ..... (apparently).

Posted by: woodnwine at March 22, 2008 3:28 PM

Hi geminipom....loved to share your collection on Fridge Magnet...
I'm do collecting fridge magnet too, every-time I travelled overseas I bought one fridge magnet for remembrance I've seen the famous city in that country, brings back those overseas memories I went through....love see international magnet, per reminders clips bills on my fridge as well....

Posted by: aliane at March 22, 2008 2:42 PM

geminipom another hidden profile.

justsaying another hidden profile
(you have a writing style somewhat similar to Marcus) any connection?

Posted by: virgil at March 22, 2008 2:39 PM

~~ Happy Easter ~~

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at March 22, 2008 2:37 PM

justsaying....oK accepted not directed to me...

Hey guys...justsaying & timewarp1, cool head Ok ...

Two fingered what tha? sorry guys..i'm off, off now.... I might be kick-out here better watch DVD...c ya..

Posted by: aliane at March 22, 2008 2:22 PM

I know this is way off topic, but the mention of fridge magnets caught my attention.

I collect fridge magnets - I can hardly see my fridge for them!

One of my favourites is one I bought in Crazy Clarks a few years ago. I was in a bad mood that day (can't remember why) and this frog magnet caught my eye. He has his arms folded over his chest, and on his belly are the words "Frog Off!" It so exactly matched how I felt, I couldn't help laughing. My mood immediately lifted, and of course I had to buy it. It still makes me smile every time I go to my fridge.

Maybe we could have a blog about interesting fridge magnets we own or have seen. Nothing to do with dating or relationships, but it could be fun!

Posted by: geminipom at March 22, 2008 2:05 PM

Cordy1969, hope you didn’t misinterpret my “hello” and last post – it means: lucky 30ish ladies in NSW – great pic, profile, and good to see a man with his priorities straight.

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 1:53 PM

timewarp at March 21, 2008 6:09 PM,
really misses filing females in his "shrunken business" and has to do at least 12 hour's filing over Easter just for starters.
All because he's too busy "2-finger"ing in here.

Like he says, "all comes ultimately back to our priorities."

Our? Surely he means his own "all comes ultimately back"?

Two-fingered, of course.

That's another point to Women In Charge of Everything.
They certainly wouldn't have someone fiddling around wasting time, while there's work to be done.

Posted by: justsaying at March 22, 2008 1:21 PM

Missy decoratress at March 21, 2008 3:15 PM,
at no time did I say,

>"he has no sense of humour". -They are your words.

If you're going to spit the dummy dearest, do try to get the facts right and not "imagine" so much.

It does nothing to help the rest of womenkind being further labelled as emotional, irrational and inefFACTual.

Or, is this decoratress at March 21, 2008 3:15 PM not the real decoratress?

Her(?) customary peace-be-with-you-style of sign off, was noticeably absent.

Will the real decoratress stand up?

Or at least, who/whatever's pulling her strings.

While we're on the subject of misaprehensions:
aliane at March 22, 2008 5:57 AM, I have never directed that phrase at you.

Posted by: justsaying at March 22, 2008 1:16 PM

Hi Riversong1...."Two heads is better than One"... I mean to say is... Two people brain mutual mental-connection very satisfying and works for the best in making decision than single brain....of course there is always exception " One head is better than two Heads... if both brain having opposite direction ..yeah.. of course "bad hair day "...appears !.... as old folks said better to be single than to be sorry?....
as my friends said also...."live in Sin"
OMG it's black Saturday :)

Thanks for the interpretation (brown nosing)...this is, i like in blogs learning Aussie Slang....
These is also benefits in me not Aussie Born...What i don't know won't hurt me....it's good to be ignorant sometimes... :)))

Lala xxx

Posted by: aliane at March 22, 2008 1:02 PM

WoodnWine....

Cool-down Woodnwine, I understand your jokes doesn't mean anything to me at all, I know what you refering...of course I won't interfere nor touched Men's belongings to chucked-away without their permission.,.vice versa, on womens girly stuff as well and I know it would cause argument in relationship can do big negative impact minding someones personal belongings.....In other-Hand discussion which I am talking about this stuff-things being living alone by myself because I don't want messy place and if not useful in 2 years I ring charity to give it away or threw in the garbage bin.

I'm also with " Justsaying"... , on his remarks explanation, which is he got a good points in dealing relationship.....why? need to sacrifice and spend the rest of our lives was bad living in big Hole-Roof Relationship? very obvious to say... love, respect & support is dead, no-life to looked forward, wouldn't do any better isn't it?....then, its time to have both space, go and moved-on.... in my part, tried my best to work-out to resolved the differences of couples problem may occurred ...but I also have time-limit to give-up if helpless to reconcile, to solved and fix problem....I won't sacrifice for the rest of my life knowing it's useless and doesn't do any good relationship at all....otherwise health, income, life, in-expense others peoples selfishness whilst others are suffering...
Isn't that's the reflection being us in RSVP?....means we are all here moving -on, for good reason looking for another promising new life with someone prettier than previous relationship we have had before.....

Posted by: aliane at March 22, 2008 12:05 PM

2eyes @ 11.32pm: You are sooo right. And so honest to say it. But how do you pick which kind they are, in advance?

Oohlala1 @ 9.01am: Thank you for that excellent recipe for domestic harmony and equity. Now all we need to do is find someone who'll agree to pair off with us, and follow the recipe. Good luck, youall.

Blueeyes @ 9.42pm: Saying that "Boring women have immaculate homes" does not infer that you're saying that ALL women with immaculate homes are boring. That's an example of a famous logical fallacy (called "undistributed middle," from memory of a 1954 high school Logic subject.)

The correct corollary is "Some women with immaculate homes are boring." OK teach?

Gotta hand over computer to my book-keeper. Seeyezall later.

Posted by: timewarp1 at March 22, 2008 11:26 AM

hhhhmmm virgil and laughsandtalks - I prefer quality over quantity myself - one well targeted bullseye to thousands of ill-fated hit and misses.

alaine - your posts make me laugh so much - "mhwah" to you too. Yes, the mysterious shed - what DO they do in there with all that stuff they buy from Bunnings? Don't think we could shoo all the bad boys out there tho - would get mightily cluttered! Might need to build some more outhouses! ;)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 11:05 AM

ukelelelady - found it - check out the blog "Dating Through the Ages" in the May 2007 Archive - it's all been mulled over in there - so much of both widom and controversy with over 1500 enties (from lots of different people, not just the "regulars")!

While you're at it, check out "Dealmakers and Dealbreakers" one - that was another gem - a real classic - great read :)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 9:27 AM

Marcus
700 coffees with women over 9 years is 3 every 2 weeks. That is just the initial meeting of new women.

How many of the 700 warranted a second meeting? My guess would be in the range of 1/3 to 1/2?, say about 250, and how many third meetings? say half of that again.

Total meetings 1075 over 9 years, so about 9 meetings with different women in a month.

Assuming a first date strike rate of 5%, second would be a bit better but say 5%, and third might be 25%, factor in some repeat partners, say success rate is 100 over 9 years, roughly equalling 11 a year, maybe some FWB and aveage rises to about 20 per year.

Doing OK there, mate

Posted by: virgil at March 22, 2008 9:14 AM

Shucks, Cordy1969, if I WAS into toyboys (sorry, not) you would be on my hit list! ;)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 9:03 AM

If any of you should ever get a partner again to live with and I include me here too I tell you what to do. Work out who likes to do what and who does what best. Then you share out the roles fairly and try to stick with it till you are sick of doing some things. Then you go back to negotiating table and work it out again.
Dont trot out the old jokes and get to feel put upon because you feel you are doing it all. Communication with your partner or lacking of it is where it is most important in a relationship. If you cant communicate and say that you feel you are doing too much then you have a problem. Things should be fair from the very start. Some women do too much to start and then get sick of it. This surprises the man when she becomes resentful. Start as you mean to go on and then you wont have the problems. If you cant be open and honest with your partner from the start then you are sure to have breakdown later.
Mt Timewarp I have two very funny fridge magnets. One says That I do not repeat gossip, so listen very carefully. The other says that when I married Mr Right I didn't know that his first name was Always. That one could go for both sexes too.
If we take it all too serious and can't have a laugh at human foibles like a dose of Kath and Kim then we are just a group of boring petty bitter loosers.

Posted by: oohlala1 at March 22, 2008 9:01 AM

Justsaying...I know now the meaning of "brown nosing"....(someone explained to me)...I wish you don't referred that bad words to me...I'm sure you Not...

Thank you my " Guardian Angel " for interpretation of (brown nosing) here's my hugs and kisses to you mwah...

Posted by: aliane at March 22, 2008 5:57 AM

Oldergent......I'm with you, I'm part of Aussie lifestyle now and adapted many good habits, I still remained those customary habits in expense of closed circle unit unbreakable bond.

Too many disappointment and frustration carried-away being cluttered, moving one after another... without thinking wisely if things actually suited their taste.
But how we can prevent being carelessly assembled? some others done purposely interest or misleads.

Panic buying when strike, all we see is red flashing, troubleshooters foe many of us goes flat battery.

It would be wise, to differentiate between ..Needs and Necessity.....or Wants and Likes....
Indulgence most of us Curiosity.

Yes, Shed is designed for Men kept those less likely unwanted stuff, Storeroom somehow they called retreat. Women too using it. In my case I'm understandable, as long as No string-a-touch...otherwise I'll moved all his belonging in said Shed....:)))

Timewarp1...thanks for compliment. it's bit late said but better to say than not saying at all...

Posted by: aliane at March 22, 2008 5:24 AM

ukelelelady, I have a rule of thumb - I ask the guy whether he would go out with a lady who was the same number of years older than him, as he is of me. If the answer is "lol", "unthinkable", "way out of my age range", then I won't go out with him.

By the way, I've noticed (from people I've seen in here), that those guys who are looking for much younger women tend to have some sort of age/ midlife/ ego/ self worth/ committment issues, so give them a big miss - probably not worth going out with anyway if you're looking for a proper relationship:)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 1:10 AM

Oldergent - agree with you - everything is so ceap, easy, plastic, too easily disposable/ replaceable these days. I'm with you - prefer the old fashioned more enduring things.

Laughsandtalks - yep, had my fair share of boys teasing... gee, thanks - you must like me a lot then!!

alaine - not sure I want two heads - imagine bad hair days ;)
"brown nosing" - well - women call it "mutual support" ie paying compliments, but because men stir each other for fun, if they actually pay each other a compliment it means they are "smooching up behind" so to speak (I'll email you to explain without censorship!)

Auntykaz - thanks for the compliment (that's mutual support, not as above)!

magellan2 - you see it kind of looks like we're fighting, but we all actually like each other in here, you see. We're having fun - aren't we Woodnwine?

ukelalelady - there's been a whole blog topic written on the age issue - look in archives (or ask woodnwine!) (just jesting!)

Posted by: riversong1 at March 22, 2008 12:49 AM

just always remember that some men can multitask, some can be nice and please their families, and some will never be able to do anything more than make trouble and bring disappointment to all

Posted by: twoeyes at March 21, 2008 11:32 PM

CousinKaz @ 7.24pm: I disagree with you. I think we CAN blame the mothers who've put their own need to be needed, and/or their reputation for tidyness among their female peers, ahead of their duty to equip their children to fly, by the time they jump off the edge of the nest.

My mother was that generation - born 1902. But she told me in my teens that she'd seen too many unhappy couples who had paired off, only because each one had only half the skill-set needed for independent living.

She couldn't earn a decent living, and he couldn't do anything useful around the house. But together they were a viable team economically, if not emotionally.

Some men have gone on to develop domestic uselessness into a fine art. FD98 told me about a man she'd invited home for afternoom tea.

He walked in, settled on the sofa and grabbed the remote. "The man controls the TV" he said.

As she headed for the kitchen to put on the kettle, he called after her "Don't ask me to help with anything - I've got two left hands."

She delegates door-matting to one of her rugs, so he didn't last long.

Back to my Mum. She said she wanted to prepare me to avoid marriage, till I'd found love, so for the meantime she taught me how to cook, sweep, sew and darn.

Backfired on me - fell in love with a girl without any domestic skills, other than being able to wash up quickly and safely, even when half-drunk - she'd been a naughty girl at boarding school, and had been on washing-up duty for most of the 4 years.

I'm glad you can be proud of your kids' domestic performance, Kaz - good on you for making that happen.

Posted by: timewarp1 at March 21, 2008 11:02 PM

Marcus I'm curious as to what "middle eastern appearance" means.....and just why you have managed to bring religion back into the blogs? I guess I've never heard of Allah being referred to as a Sky God...Ranginui yes...Jupiter on occasion but not Allah. Seems you really do have a "thing" for those who choose to believe, an no, I'm not one of them...but your comments will no doubt be offensive to others.

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at March 21, 2008 10:23 PM

On my fridge, 13 of the magnets carry short inspirational messages. The relevant one here is
"Boring women have immaculate homes."
I list untidyness in my profile, to protect me from those women whose world stops at their carefully-painted front gate.
Posted by: timewarp1 at March 21, 2008 5:29 PM
Timewarp-I hope that is not a sweeping statement that you think fits all women who keep a neat and tidy home.I for one am definitely not boring but am organised enough to keep home fairly tip-top and still have plenty of time to play as well as work fulltime.Us women are good at multi tasking and can do both and am sure men can do the same.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at March 21, 2008 9:42 PM

Hi Justsaying. Glad to see you also had a useful youth, long ago. Are you over 80, or just a young bloke like OG and me?

Explaining something about collecting the kindling wood when I was 5, back between Dunkirk and the Battle of Britain:

Our stove was lit at 6am to cook breakfast porridge and chops (on a sheep station the mutton is free, and we ate it 20 meals a week) and to heat water for tea and the breakfast washup. It was allowed to die down between meals to save wood, and was let die completely after the adults' suppercuppa about 9.45pm, and then filling hottie bags in winter.

We only had kettles to mix with cold in the shower bucket, but a richer neighbour did have the hot water tank on the side ot the firebox opposite the oven, that you were talking about.

Our 30.000 acres was mainly grassland. Every few months we'd take the truck maybe 2-3 miles to collect a fallen dead hollow tree.

One of the men chopped the wood (me, once I was 14, till I got polio the next year.) Mainly big chunks, but half a dozen progressive-sized skinny pieces to bridge between the kindling sticks and the first big chunk of the day.

Our house was on grassland and the nearest clump of trees was 1/4 of a mile away, hence the travel distance for me to go find kindling - yes - Including bits of bark - thank you for reminding me.

Better than sticks to take over from the single sheet of newspaper. (We only got one paper on the weekly mail and groceries delivery, because we had the 7pm radio War News.)