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Wnw
You always have the ability to make me laugh.
As you know I do like shoes and have quite a collection, which incidentally have added to whilst being down here.
But I'm not sure I want someone elses too... the leather might just rub me the wrong way ;)
Well it's a beautiful day here, and I'm off and have plans for the afternoon so I best turn my music up and scoot off to get ready.
Hugs

Posted by: gypsynurse at February 12, 2008 10:29 AM

Hmm, what is that saying... you must walk a mile in someones shoes before you can judge them.
Posted by: gypsynurse at February 11, 2008 9:19 PM

Gypsynurse ... the saying I like is, if you don't like someone .... before you judge them first walk a mile in their shoes ..... then you'll be a mile away from them and you'll have their shoes.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 12, 2008 8:40 AM

blueeyes: I like the idea of dying with memories. It's a bit like realising that no-one dies regretting something they *didn't* do.
Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 9:04 PM

Archerrising ... I think you have this the wrong way around. The generally accepted saying is that when you are dying, it is the things you didn't do that you regret, not the things you did do. Oh, if only I had no regrets ....

Posted by: woodnwine at February 12, 2008 8:35 AM

victoriadownunder: it was a great day, it was fantastic to meet you and you and I are going to have some fun soon!!!!! So call me already ....

ridersonthestorm74: if I send it again (for the same reason) will you reject it?

auntykaz - what about this weekend?

notgodsgift: two weeks and counting .... cant wait

archerrising: hows the head? do you have my number? if not I will call you.
By the way, have unhidden profile for you to have a look and laugh.

To everyone at the Melbourne gathering, thank you for a wonderful Saturday and Sunday, it was a blast.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 9:46 PM:
Of course I did. Is my frog still alive and keeping you entertained? I hope that you have been feeding him well. The others are enjoying their new found space.
If he gets annoying, just let me know and I will come and get him.

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 12, 2008 6:32 AM

I'm an exhausted blogger after the Melbourne gathering and it's taken till now to get up to date after a very long day at work.

Rider, so sorry not to catch up with you at lunch but I must commend you for a very clever post earlier. Well done and I look forward to meeting you next time!

To the new arrivals that I was lucky enough to meet, my thanks for your company. Without exception, you were all delightful people and I am very glad to have made your acquaintance, and I truly look forward to catching up with all of you again.

My attempt at staying on topic is to tell all of you this right now!!!

My bed is calling....

Cheers,

Lesley

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 12, 2008 1:01 AM

Hi all,
Reading the blogs my first time in here. Went back aways thru them and a parable came to mind.

The Little Bird.
A little bird flying through the snow when its' wings ice up and plop, it falls to the ground. The snow keeps falling and the little bird is literally getting frozen.
It starts crying out, help ? help ?
A cow hears the little bird and wanders over. Can I help you little bird ?
The bird says .. I'm freezing and gonna die.
The cow thinks about it and says .. not sure what I can do .. can't sit next to you, don't want to risk squashing you so .. hmmm.
Hang on a minute. How about I drop a cow pat on you ? That will warm you up.
Just stick your head up so you can breathe.
The cow drops the cow pat on the bird and sure enough the little bird sticks his head out and is warm and safe.
The little bird sits back waiting out the snow storm thinking how lucky he is to have a good friend from such an unexpected place. ?
Then the storm passes and the little bird goes to fly off. To his dismay .. the cowpat has dried out solid trapping the bird in his warm safety.
Again the little bird cries out, help ? help ?
A passing fox hears his cry and checks it out. Good one thinks the fox. I'm hungry and you're mine little bird.
The fox goes over to the bird and says, can I help you little birdy ?
The bird tells him he is stuck in the cowpat. The fox says I'll dig you out. (secretly licking his lips in anticipation).
The little bird asks the fox, you aren't going to try to eat me are you ? The fox reassures him, no worries, I've just eaten. It's my good deed for the day. And starts digging the bird out.
Then. Just as the fox is about to grab him, the little bird sees the glint in his eye and breaks out, flying off to safety.
The moral of the story is :
It's friends with good intentions that can get you in the poop.
And it's your enemies that can set you free.

Posted by: steffens50 at February 12, 2008 12:32 AM

Bob,

It was a great day had by all and looks like I did miss a great night ! I am looking forward to the next get together.

Good people, great laugh's and such HONESTY ! what more could a person ask for?

Date ? that was before the luncheon but the play I watched that night was a bit of yawn !!! I should have hung around !

Next time...stupid me :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 12, 2008 12:31 AM

Ridersonthestorm, witty for after midnight!!

Glad you enjoyed lunch with everyone, l didn't get there this time but l think you got the gist of how cool everyone who attended was....well l reckon they are anyway.........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 12, 2008 12:31 AM

Hey Rider,

It was good to meet you on Saturday mate; shame you had to leave early and miss out on the evenings festivities. Still, sure that your date was worth the effort.

Looking forward to catching up with you next time.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 12, 2008 12:20 AM

rider, excellent effort. Now I can remain innocent.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 12, 2008 12:17 AM

blueeyes 10:28 Mango or banana cake-mum's recipe -willow

Blueeyes, my Mum told me I couldn't have my cake and eat it too. Banana please, just to smell.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 12, 2008 12:15 AM

Hi ninaschen and the rest of the Melbourne Blogfest!

Just a bit of fun from me...enjoy :)

Hey JUNEBABY ! AUNTYKAZ has got a WATERBOMBE that will make KITTENHEELSXX WETA all over. TRUMPRIDER and his mate RIDERSONTHESTORM have decided to TIMEWARP out of here as they AMDOINGIT nothing to get into trouble! Whoops MISSWENDYXX don’t get ARCHERRISING or STRATUS will become a VICTORIANDOWNUNDER and as a bemused(hand on face) NINASCHEN looks around at the end of the table and says…you are not all NOTGODSGIFT !

Ridersonthestorm

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 12, 2008 12:11 AM

CAPTAIN KIRK'S PERSONAL CHEF @ 10.36pm on 10th:

Thanks for pointing me at a reference book, sir. I wouldn't have a clue where to look, which is why I'd asked you to point me in the right direction.

But why does brown sauce have a name that refers to Spain? I thought you'd know yourself, and be prepared to answer one of your students' questions, instead of sending me to the library?

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 12, 2008 12:05 AM

Hi Kate,

I actually got a similar reaction from my friends about RSVP, most were cool about it and more interested in how it was than anything else. A couple of my close mates actually are on here themselves, but just didn't mention it until I said I was here.

The best part is when you actually get to form new friendships that are real and not based on anything else other than an appreciation of who you are. I have been particularly fortunate to meet a nice diverse group of people here.......making new friends, but all over Australia.

Hi Malsie,

That is true though "unpleasant" is probably a major understatement of the nature of the beast that I had to confront 30+ years ago due to loss. The truth wasn't actually pointed out to me....the consequences of my actions on the person I had lost were (or on her spirit). I can still hear her mum saying to me "If S...... could see what her loss had done to you, she would be shattered)"...major wake-up call there.

Loss can be the most devastating experience, but if you allow it to bury your humanity....then the loss is of yourself, and you are finished.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 11, 2008 11:24 PM

to myspace, thanks again and it is rather cute.And to greattimes, definitely no horror,and it isn't too late- it's not my bedtime yet.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 10:40 PM

blueeyes, I now its late, but peeked at your profile. Thought you might enjoy some horror!! ;-)
GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 11, 2008 10:32 PM

Blueeyes1955.
Your welcome, and if you turned around, I bet it would look great. lol.

Posted by: myownspace at February 11, 2008 10:32 PM

Hi, Bob

I think we've all had to face some "unpleasant" stuff about ourselves from time to time. Being able to face up to it and learn from it, rather than burying our heads in the sand and pretending it's all "rubbish", is where all the real growth comes, in my opinion.
It's lovely when friends and other loved ones buoy us up and say positive things that make us feel good about ourselves. Sometimes, though, what the most loving and caring thing is, is actually the truth that may not paint us in the positive light we'd like to see ourselves in. As long as that's done in a gentle way with good intention, it can be a great insight.

Posted by: malsie at February 11, 2008 10:30 PM

Mango or banana cake-mum's recipe -willow

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 10:28 PM

tea or coffee, milk or sugar. i'm having green tea willow.Do you like cake too?

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 10:26 PM

blueyes has it boiled yet, very slow kettle. Contact your electrician.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 10:21 PM

myspace-thanks for the compliment and to magellan- read the profile and it will answer your question

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 10:11 PM

neuroticfish...

I'd hope your comment re sending people a photo of my vehicle if they should want it.. well.. let's just say I'd advise against it.

The photo was on my profile, as you mention. My profile is now hidden. Your having kept a photo from it is, I would suggest, inappropriate. Offering to send it to others without my permission? I'd suggest that was unethical & worrying.

I'm hoping your remark was made in jest.

Posted by: decoratress at February 11, 2008 10:09 PM

willow , the kettle is on.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 10:05 PM

Willow....you should do both, send flowers to yourself (just incase no one else does) and eat them, then put them in the garden bed and sleep on them. I recall a very comfy garden bed in your backyard...should be the perfect place for the perfect frog!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 11, 2008 10:04 PM

Hi guys

Well I may soon have Pixi on my back as well, as i feel i might hide my profile, but still come on here.

The reason for this decision might be that, deep down I really dont want a relationship.

Strage that, I always thought I needed a woman to help me feel complete. Well up to today that was.

I jumped on the bus to AAMI stadium, ready to buy a membership of the Crows, that would give me priority to purchase the occasional ticket for the occasional game.

While walking around the perimeter of the ground, I first came upon the SANFL admin area and it was in there I found I could purchase a season ticket, in the premium area of the ground (for approximatly the price of a return air ticket to Perth).

This left me in such a state of confusion, I returned home just buying a Crows Tshirt, but with papers for both membership options in my bag.

Couple this with my intention to jump on the train and go to the Casino to watch all West Coast Eagles games, and it struck me.

What sort of woman would want to be in a relationship given the fact that most weekend time will be taken up with other activities?

Posted by: virgil at February 11, 2008 10:03 PM

I know when I first joined rsvp I was embarrassed to tell anyone I was on it. But its become more mainstream now and not something to be ashamed of. Its just another way of meeting people...right??? I have older children and I think they would die if they knew their mother was on rsvp. Then again maybe thats just the way I think they would react. I must admit I did have a preconceived idea of peoples reactions and yet friends I have told didnt react with anything other than interest and wishes of good luck!! Anyway everyone, I enjoy reading all your different points of views and hope you have an enjoyable evening ,,,Kate

Posted by: kateegirl at February 11, 2008 9:56 PM

willow, I thought frogs ate insects.
Very poetic addition from you. Will look forward to your poetic efforts blogged this coming Thursday.
Does your mum know you are so clever as well as being on this site?

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 9:53 PM

blueeyes, we can have a virtual coffee, must easier than flying.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 9:52 PM

Willow - She did. I will express post them to you tomorrow. They may be a little hungry so have a bone or two handy.

Have a little BlogFest money jar on your infamous kitchen bench and add a copper or two from time-to-time so you can come to the next one. We shall put you in charge of catering.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 11, 2008 9:52 PM

nina, sounds like a blogfest orgy of fun and frivolity on the weekend.

I see my favourite felinexx attended, did she return the dog and my leopards?

Oh, what I could do with the names that attended, a story of lust far too rich for here!

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 9:46 PM

blueeyes, thankyou I have caught your kiss. What a dilemma I now face for I have become two frogs in the space of just two handfuls of posts.

Tonight has been so rewarding, for now I can accompany myself as mutual frogs on Valentines Day. Do frogs send each other flowers, if I send them to myself should I look at them or eat them. Can frogs eat flowers or should I lay upon them gazing at the stars.

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Frog on flower bed
I gaze upon you

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 9:38 PM

I'm giving fair warning to those who would normally roll their eyes at a reference to the Melbourne BlogFest - skip this post!

It was a fantastic weekend, I think most would agree. There were some who had met before and others that joined in the fun for the first time. EVERYONE was absolutely wonderful and it was a very special weekend.

For the record, those who came along at some stage were:

Waterbombe
NotGodsGift
KittenHeelsXX
Weta
RidersOnTheStorm
Stratus
AuntyKaz
VictoriaDownUnder
TrumpRider
TimeWarp
ArcherRising
MissWendyXX
AmDoingIt
JuneBaby
And Me

I hope I didn't forget anyone! You are all delightful people and I hope we can do it again one day (soon!).

Posted by: ninaschen at February 11, 2008 9:38 PM

Mystiemuse,

On our profiles under "Movies and TV", the incidence of "Shawshank Redeption" is just too high to be anything other than people writing what they think other people want....like "walks along the beach", etc.

The incidence of travelling might come under this same category of Shawshank Redemption - sure plenty love to travel, but is it a ploy to attract kisses?

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 11, 2008 9:35 PM

Willow, I'd love to have coffee with you. Just let me book the plane fares first, unless you are really the frog prince and will send my carriage for me.Are escargots on the menu too?

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 9:34 PM

Bob 11 Feb 1:14 PM "Maybe rather than read each others posts we all should read our own posts in order to discover just what sort of people we really are."

Oh dear, having applied this to my own post at 8:48PM I realise I have just turned myself into a frog.

I ask myself, how will my employer view this in the morning. Shall I take a leap of faith into the unknown. What fate awaits me upon landing?

Will it be a voyage of discovery into a distant and romantic land or will a French dinner plate await with my legs being on the menu.

I say having discovered the error of my ways, in future read earlier posts BEFORE doing your own.

Who should I tell and when this blog asks, in these circumstances I shall tell no-one since I cannot speak.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 9:22 PM

Been reading back in this blog, and got to the section where mothers with children still living at home seemed to have an issue with fathers who don't have children living at home travelling.
As a mother who doesn't have her children living at home {(not my choice) and as it's a private matter I'm not discussing here in this forum for open dissection, which happens here with everything}, I find your comments very biased and they appear somewhat bitter, as though someone else has gotten the better end of the stick. The stick is just different, there is no such thing as the better end!
Sometimes either sex parent doesn't have children living at home for what ever reason. This can be difficult for the non custodial parent, fianancially and emotionally.
I for one would gladly swap that time to be able to take off overseas at a moments notice cause I don't have the children at home for having the kids lounging around on the couch fighting them for the stereo.
But then perhaps I value what I don't have and understand what it is. I am sure there are many non custodial fathers that miss the same.
So I stand in defence of these men who have the time to travel, because when you don't have your kids to fill your time you fill it with other things.
You will miss your children when they are no longer with you.
Enjoy them while you have them cause the time is short.
Hmm, what is that saying... you must walk a mile in someones shoes before you can judge them.

Posted by: gypsynurse at February 11, 2008 9:19 PM

Willow, just sent you your third kiss personally. And at the end of my rainbow is hopefully a pot full of happiness being held by my frog-prince. Your profile is great-it put a big smile on my face.Shame you are only days away.And I do think your "cool photo" is the best. Next time I visit Mitcham I'll look for you in the local pond.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 9:18 PM

I'm sorry Bob, but you have lost me with the *Shawshack Redemption* analogy, as I have not seen the film, or really know anything about it. But all I can say is, lucky Sydney women, they should start hooking up with the Brissy men....:-)

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 11, 2008 9:18 PM

Bob 11 Feb 1:14 PM "Maybe rather than read each others posts we all should read our own posts in order to discover just what sort of people we really are.

I wonder how many of us would be truly disappointed if we could see what we really are and our attitudes have become towards others?"

Bob, as always well spoken. Any new bodaciously good words from you today?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 9:08 PM

blueeyes: I like the idea of dying with memories. It's a bit like realising that no-one dies regretting something they *didn't* do. So, like Princess Mitsy of Monty Python fame, I'll keep going through life "hopefully kissing frogs".

Hi Bob,
It was a good day, wasn't it? I'm glad you enjoyed our fair city.

Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 9:04 PM

blueeyes 8:5PM And as for frogs-I thought they turned into princes when kissed.xx

Thanks for the tip, never did get to see the ending. Now I know what has been wrong for the last few years, I need to find a kiss.

Any at the end of that rainbow?

You have sent two, is that enough?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 9:03 PM

Hi Archerrising,

It was terrific to meet and talk to you too, I hope you had a good time, I certainly did; what a great crowd.

Mystiemuse,

Seems that there are plenty of women in Sydney in your age group are in the position to go overseas all of the time, but maybe its one of those "Shawshank Redemption" type responses?

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 11, 2008 8:57 PM

Brownie points for Willow, he actually reads profiles for the info. And no, I don't need a parachute-can have lots of excitement without the need for a parachute although I'm sure your hands are strong enough to catch me. And as for frogs-I thought they turned into princes when kissed.xx

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 8:55 PM

I'm quite big on sayings archer and one I read on this site was- die with memories not dreams. You can make things happen and if you live with a positive attitude and a " I know I can" philosophy then many opportunities will open up to you. When you start these dating experiences we all have doubts about our own appeal to others but noone will come knocking on your door-you have to get out there despite what your kids think. I'm sure mine are glad that I haven't got the time to cling to them like plastic wrap. They have to make their own way and sometimes so do we. It's an exciting road ahead no matter which detour you take along the way.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 8:49 PM

@femalepersuasion February 10 2008 at 11.10pm.....

...."Think the best of people..and you will see it.".....

....reminds me of another salient aphorism.....

....."Physician, heal thyself".....

Posted by: weta at February 11, 2008 8:49 PM

blueeyes 11 Feb 7:44PM "I'm flattered that some females are checking out my profile but would one of you guys please look so i can see a handsome gent looking at me. It might earn you extra brownie points."

Wish fulfilled, you can stop chasing it over the rainbow now. Be careful, it is a very long way to fall. Do you wear a parachute? Not sure I can qualify for the handsome gent bit, do frogs count, I only turn green after a big night out.

Sorry it took so long, you used an 8 letter password, I almost ran out of fingers to count them.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 11, 2008 8:48 PM

Beware the Jabberwock, my dear!
The jaws that bite, the claws that catch!
Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun
The frumious Bandersnatch!

She took her vorpal blade in hand;
Long time the manxome foe she sought-
So rested she by the Tumtum tree,
And stood a while in thought,
A pound of cheese you scum,
And brekky at Yon Ronald’s
Don’t buy your way into this gals britches,
I’m off to sleep with Sir Rickets,
And leave you in your miserly stitches.

And, as in uffish thought she stood,
The jabberwock, with eyes of flame,
Came whiffling through the tulgey wood,
And burbled as it came!

One, two! One, two! And through and through
The vorpal blade went snicker-snack!
She left it dead, and with its head
She went galumphing back.

"And hast thou slain the Jabberwock?
Come to my arms, my beamish girl!
O frabjous day! Callooh, Callay!"
He chortled in his joy.
Well you have to laugh don’t you.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 11, 2008 8:47 PM

:) you're absolutely right blueeyes. I'm sure the kids are horrified by the prospect of me hanging around them for evermore, lol.
And well done to you! I've started rediscovering myself and have a few more plans in the pipeline. It's a lot of fun realising (again) that I'm an adult and I can do what I want.

Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 8:35 PM

Reinvent or rather re-discover yoursself is right. 4 years ago I was married with a family of 3 teenagers. In a very short time it was down to just me. So I made a list of things I always wanted to do but couldn't because of money of family restrictions . I took up dancing-the ex never wanted to do that, I rethought how to cook for one,(often cook for 5 and freeze it so i don't have to cook every night), I took my first overseas trip,did renos on my home that the ex didn't want to spend the moneyand in recent school holidays painted the 'bigger than ben hur' underwater mural on a very large wall in my garage. Not to mention putting myself out there because we are all worthwhile people and need a special person just for us.You are a long time dead so start thinking of things YOU want to do and enjoy. Your kids will only praise you for moving forward.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 8:22 PM

blueeyes: I am looking forward to it, but in another way I'm sad about it. This feeling has surprised me because I've never really defined myself as a mother. What I've discovered is that I've gotten very used to thinking about the kids as the reasons why I do or don't do something. And then all of a sudden it seems, I can see that they'll be moving on in the not too distant future. It means having to re-think my reasons for doing things and also re-inventing myself by trying to work out (or remember) what it is that I like(d) doing.

Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 8:07 PM

Thanks DG singing but a face to look at would be lovely.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 8:06 PM

If I sent mine to the ex's they would run rings around him. He isn't quite the same since having a brain anneurysm which left him with the inability to cope with teenagers in general let alone their problems. I didn't have the luxury of having an alternative roof for them. But it is a whole new world ahead of you when they do become independant and you do get your freedom back again. Look forward to it-it has lots of bonuses.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 8:02 PM

blueeyes1955: lol
My kids would get in less trouble alone than with my ex. Sad, but true and I suspect I'm not the only one ...

Bob: nice to meet you on Saturday.

Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 7:52 PM

I'm flattered that some females are checking out my profile but would one of you guys please look so i can see a handsome gent looking at me. It might earn you extra brownie points.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 7:44 PM

Last year I took some long service leave and tripped over to the UK. My youngest (19)was living with her boyfriend (not my choice) so I had the freedom but if she was still at home I may have thought twice about it-just in case the house wasn't standing when I returned. I guess you could always try leaving the kids with your ex's while you go on these trips we are expected to be able to run off to.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 7:41 PM

Kat,
Got your kiss (thanks) but your profile is down so I can't reply. I must have had a good time on Saturday because I was very unwell yesterday.

Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 7:40 PM

in a good way

Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 7:37 PM

Oh, and the bit about people being different? I meant a good way.

Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 7:36 PM

mystiemuse at February 11, 2008 7:07 PM

I'm the same age as you and although my kids are in their teens, they aren't old enough to be left alone while I go traipsing around the world. And even if they were - who's going to pay the mortgage? My favourite men's profiles are the ones that want a woman who has kids living at home sometimes. What the hell??? Are there any such women?

Posted by: woodnwine at February 11, 2008 3:08 PM
I found out that people can be different from their profiles and their posts at the bloggers' meet on Saturday.
I also re-learned a lesson that it's bad news for me to mix the grain and the grape ...

Posted by: archerrising at February 11, 2008 7:36 PM

Bob thanks for that overview, but I already knew what the reason they could do this was. What I wanted to know was who did they expect would be able to go with them? I know they are out there, but not many women in my age group (43 for the record) are free to just get up and run away to paradise, I just wanted to know if other women thought that was codswallop or that they agreed...... Thanks though ... :-) You were the only one who actually answered me!

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 11, 2008 7:07 PM

If anyone is worried about Decoratrix hiding her profile, I can send a pic of that van of hers.

I kept a photo as if I ever see it coming I might safely pull over on the verge and let it pass.

Help! or was that Yelp!

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 11, 2008 6:42 PM

Wnw some people cannot distinguish between constructive criticism and bad mouthing, whether the they are the initiator or the receiver....thats why things get a bit heated and slightly off the wall so to speak.....

lm all for discussion and a generally healthy debate without having others opinions shoved down my throat.....

And to keep slightly on topic online dating who to tell and when to tell it, you know what, l think l am over it...................K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 11, 2008 6:37 PM

And what do my kids think of me being here? I don't really think they listen to a word I say. Almost 20 year old daughter is supposed to be cooking dinner tonight since she doesn't work Mondays. Just went to investigate what might be on the menu since am feeling rather hungry and where is she? Fast asleep in bed.Can't wait so am heating up leftovers. She can fend for herself.
Lesson for me? Do my own thing.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 6:21 PM

If any of us reached our ages without some problems or gained baggage of some sort then you would have to think we have not lived. Each of these experiences make us who we are and hopefully we learn from them and move forward.
You can't change yesterday and today is a new day. I also don't believe in spending time with extremely negative people. Why would you unless you thought you had something to gain. But then why sell your soul to the devil and put up with "s**t". The cost is not worth it. More flies are caught with honey than with vinegar.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 11, 2008 5:21 PM

Yes Bob, most people have problems or situations in their lives that they need to manage or deal with. Some can be resolved, some have to be lived with. None of us is perfect and if we can understand our faults .... even if it is too late and they have already caused us to lose someone special .... then we can try to become better people as a result.

Life is a huge learning curve and each person we meet can tell or teach us something about life and about ourselves, our insecurities and our quirks. Bad mouthing people doesn't generally achieve understanding or growth for either party, constructive criticism however can. Isn't discussion what it should all be about?

Posted by: woodnwine at February 11, 2008 4:57 PM

Hi WnW, Malsie,

I have had to have a few reality checks of myself during my lifetime for various reasons.......what I saw wasn't pleasant, but it took someone that I really cared about on each occasion to point me in the right direction (not point out my faults).

Loss is a killer (whether that is loss of partner, loss of family, loss of a friend or loss of oneself) - I didn't want to be bitter and twisted all my life, it hurt too much...hurt me deeply, but mostly hurt the people who cared about me.

Before the vultures jump on this let me just say this......go ahead if you must, but think about your own situation whilst you do it.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 11, 2008 4:33 PM

WnW - yes, indeed, I would say a small "snippet" of you! Some of your caring and kind attitude comes across, but as someone who knows you outside of "the temple", I would say what's read in here is only a small insight into that.

Posted by: malsie at February 11, 2008 4:03 PM

Good comments Bob, keep them coming .... you are in good form today.
Remember that people can turn out to be quite different to the perception people have of them from reading the blogs. I wouldn't mind a free dinner for every time someone has told me I am quite different in "real" life to what they thought I would be from reading my blogs .... maybe I need to do a reality check, or is it that my blogs are just a very small snipit of me?

Posted by: woodnwine at February 11, 2008 3:08 PM

rsvpiper, I believe how people come across in the blogs is a part of them, for sure. Sometimes it may be a part they might otherwise prefer not to reveal to the world but reactivity occurs, things get said; someone else reacts and so goes the vicious cycle.... but that is not the sum total of that person, just a snippet - a moment in time - and a moment in time in what continually shows itself to be a rather peculiar forum on occasions .....

at that is all it is, just a part, and certainly not the "whole" person by any means.

Posted by: malsie at February 11, 2008 2:56 PM

Hi Decoratress,

Isn't it though......if we each had a better insight into our own character then perhaps finding a partner would not be that difficult after all.

Opinions are opinions...who wants or needs to be right all the time anyway especially when, in so many cases, there is no right or wrong - just opinions gained from different life experiences. Its those that cant accept that other people have valid reasons for their actions, or opinions formed from different life experiences that need to have a harder look at themselves.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 11, 2008 2:54 PM

notgodsgift...

"..but can we be honest about ourselves?"

It's one of the most difficult things to do- objectively look at ourselves.
It takes self-discipline & focus to remove the emotional reactions attached to "I am right".

Quite simply, we are never 'always right'.

How we are perceived by others is something we can never be sure of. The only way to find out, is to be prepared to listen to what they're saying.

Posted by: decoratress at February 11, 2008 2:40 PM

Hi Mystiemuse,

From my viewpoint the answer to your question is obvious; mum has gotten custody of the kids so dad is off enjoying himself - maybe an oversimplification of the situation, but would put money on it that this is a big part of the answer.

Decoratress,

Great idea for a topic. Its easy for us to be critical of others and their opinions, but can we be honest about ourselves?

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 11, 2008 2:28 PM

rsviper....

Thank you for your constructive criticism. I take on board what you've said & will give it the attention it deserves.

notgodsgift....

Excellent idea! Let's all go back & read our own posts. Perhaps we could suggest a new topic to rsvp....
"What I Saw When I Looked At Myself"..?

None of us are perfect, but I thought we all knew that.
Like others before me, I think I'll take a break from these blogs for a while.... the sun's shining & life's too short.

Posted by: decoratress at February 11, 2008 1:53 PM

Okay, we all have some stepping back and gathering of our dignities to do, so as we can regain some shread of credibility to our opinions, at times. Perhaps a few of you should just "Chill" a little....... :-)
But I do have a question to those women on here reading the blogs about my age with children. How many of you could take the time right now and travel the world? Because it seems that most of the men in my age group can. Yes I would love to be able to partake myself, but responsibilities make it highly unlikely. So if anyone is actually reading this, male as well as female...I would love to hear your comments.
Cheers

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 11, 2008 1:47 PM

Exactamundo Viper,

Maybe rather than read each others posts we all should read our own posts in order to discover just what sort of people we really are.

I wonder how many of us would be truly disappointed if we could see what we really are and our attitudes have become towards others?

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 11, 2008 1:14 PM

Yawn ................

Posted by: woodnwine at February 11, 2008 1:10 PM

Be alert not alarmed.

Hi all, I'm just passing this way, and while not a lurker, or a blogger I am prompted to make a post.

It seems that there are a few 'international and national scammers' on the site at the moment - so a warning.

My alerts were 1/insist on chat ( I do not chat) Both within RSVP and external 2/insist on email to 'ask a few questions before calling.3/ Refusal/inability to phone or leave a phone number that I can call back.

Use Search Engines -
Quick google searches of handles, and provided 'email' name quickly produce scammer alerts from a variety of internet sites if they are serial - wich indicates to e that there will be intent on scamming at some level, not just a pain. Content of email - while couched in precautionary/careful tones are poorly written when compared to profile style and content. They seem to love being employed as 'investers' and live within small distance of CBD, more flexible in age preference, and 'ready for a relationship' after x years. They depict themselves as 'picky'. Most of the email content plays into 'fears of the online dating world' and describe the vision of what everyone would want in a partner at an emotional level in simple sentences.

While I understand that many are worried about giving out mobile telephone numbers to strangers ( in fact I think some advice sites discourage this) its worth remembering that sms and mobile telephone numbers are instantly trackable and historically recorded in Australia - not only an account holder, but to the specific individual, name, address and location of call, even if routed through different locations and this data is held for years) This includes prepaid mobiles. Any 'issues' can be reported, a number can be blocked by your phone, and there are matters which breech the Telecommunications Act so legal authorities 'can make a visit' if need be and they will prosecute. 3 strikes and you are out.
Email only captures IP address, is not secure at any level.

I suspect that posting handles will for whatever reason be deleted but I am lerious about this.

Posted by: skygeisha at February 11, 2008 10:29 AM

“as it was way back when...:))”

you mean she is no longer Oozing.

Do you know the mud baths at Eulo dried up in the drought, but the recent rains have probably replenished them.

Nothing like a bit of trivia

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 11, 2008 7:53 AM

It's getting a bit like a schoolyard in here. With secret, and not so secret, alliances being formed, fawning behaviour from those who may fear becoming targets, and, classically, a couple of non-conforming individuals being picked on.
FemalePersuasion being one. For? Being self assured. proud, perhaps lacking a little humility?
Strangely, the main objection the bleating herd in here seem to have against her is her lack of inhibition with regard to one of her profile photos.
THAT kind of photo being deemed to only attract men with good eyesight but no brains. She therefore is relying on physical attributes, which are (and apparently she needs to be told this repeatedly) going to fade.
What I find strange about that though is that it seems backwards.
Confidence, being uninhibited and relaxed about ones appearance suggests courage, acceptance (of self and others) and willingness to engage. That lack of fear implies a high self-worth and is unlikely to attract men who can't get their attention above chest height. There's always a few (of them) about but, from my reading of the various blogs, the men who are SOLELY looking for physical...'satisfaction' have more luck with the low self-worth individuals. Because insecurity, doubt and a lack of confidence are easier to exploit.
By seeming to be a little TOO happy about her success some have judged her to be 'gloating' which is 'offensive'.
Maybe so, I guess bragging tactlessly about how much you enjoy running wouldn't go down too well in the spinal rehabilitation unit either.
But what does that say about the bulk (no pun intended) of the women in here? Success stories are offensive? Having a good strike rate is poor form?
mmm...I can see why winners would unacceptable at the losers club, is that what this is? A place to commiserate, share horror stories, laugh at jokes that denigrate men?
Maybe some of you should listen more and speak less if all you have to share is negativity.
cheers
lurker

Posted by: lurker (Not RSVP name) at August 10, 2007 12:05 AM

I think this very pertinent post is as apt now as it was way back when...:))

Posted by: istj54 at February 11, 2008 7:12 AM

Hi femalepersuasion...

Could this be something to do with the fact that I have disagreed with you in the past?

Can we move on & stop bitching?

Tell you what.....
..... let's ALL be nice!

oops..
that's sure to set the cat amongst the pigeons!!! ..which takes me verrry nicely to ..all those spoilt felines! Roast dinners!! Mind you, my dogs live a life of unmitigated ease & luxury.. our animal friends always love us!

(changing the subject often helps, I've found....)

Posted by: decoratress at February 10, 2008 11:51 PM

night all

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 11:47 PM

virgil no need for me to hide my profile as the uncle fester look is not working,yes meaning no kisses except for just the one from china,,,,,oh dear me.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 11:46 PM

If we hide our profile, we dont get kisses, that way, when we feel in a better space to properly respond to attention form the opposite sex, then we can put our profile back on.

Posted by: virgil at February 10, 2008 11:42 PM

Completely off topic I suppose, but is it really possible that every man on RSVP is adonisly fit and a master of every sport known to the world?? I am not against physical fitness, in fact I enjoy the gym when I can get the time and money to go....but come on guys, how will you ever get time for a partner if you are spending all your spare hours "being sporty spice".......

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 10, 2008 11:42 PM

femalepersuasion - the blogs are rarely related to dating on RSVP so people can blog to their heart's content whether they are looking, in a relationship or just taking a break. Presumably you are talking about decoratress ... she was not real in some past life ... she is real now, just the same as you are when you sometimes blog while your profile is temporarily hidden. Let's not stress over all this ... it means nothing really. More important issues in life I think.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 10, 2008 11:41 PM

lol @ wishfull 03 roast lamb with mint sc, now i fight my kittys for that mainly the bone love the bone , but when its roast chook they do get the better of me there, roast pork they aren't to happy with makes em fart during the night and when i ask em who it was they all look at me like im the guilty party!

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 11:33 PM

yes space cadet , as it is know as, espagnole then you would add estoufade, reduce to make demi glaze, you do know that oh maybe you didnt, try reading "herring's culinary dictionary

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 11:26 PM

Auntykaz: I have read the posts from both of the women you mentioned and they both seem pretty equal in verbal aggressiveness toward each other. To suggest one is more severe in attack than the the other seems to me like a biased judgement. I dont know either woman..do you?

Posted by: femalepersuasion at February 10, 2008 11:25 PM

heya auntyaz...!

Hope the weekend was as good as it was shaping up to be??!!

Posted by: decoratress at February 10, 2008 11:13 PM

Probably not a good time MOm4u to tell you that those foods are probably not the best thing for the kitty! However, as mine tucked into roast lamb and mint sauce tonight who am I to chastise you :) Pat the fur monsters and enjoy!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 10, 2008 11:11 PM

Hi all. Just had a look on my way to my bunk, and see I've copped a good bit of flack since I posted this arvo.

I'd planned to avoid the addictive keyboard for the whole 6 days while I'm away, but they told my yesterday it was really worth a look.

After 11 straight hours of togetherness yesterday I was all listened out by midnight. And had probably talked for an hour myself, when I could mget a phrase in. It was a real gabfest.

But half a day trying to act my age in the hostel today got boring, so I had a look after lunch.

And was positively stirred by some of the good stuff like istj's good wishes for my trip and oldergent's pithy summing up on Fri? morning, and negatively stirred by some other people's copper-sticks, so had to respond.

MofaM4U: Very interested that the official name for brown sauce/gravy refers to Spain? Do you know why?

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 10, 2008 11:10 PM

If life isn’t hard enough facing possible job rejection, for those who feel the need to add more pain to life there is not only romantic rejection, but now perhaps a new found entity that I call ’blogg rejection”. Nothing like putting your self-esteem in the hands of another person who couldn't possibly care less about you, is there? Why do these people behave in this way?
There is no right or wrong as far as I can see, but the attacks on individuals and the cry of “she can say that because I know her” is at best a lame justification of abuse on a public site where most people don’t know each other, or at least blog publicly because they believe their opinions will be taken at face value. Strange, isn't it, how it's the really *harsh* rejections that are sometimes the easiest to disregard for obvious reasons.
I am used to being on the receiving end of rejection blogs, for the types of articles that I post. Responses from some of the uninformed are so utterly vicious, with a pedantic, weary tone of effete and contempt of someone responding to words for the simple reason that they have a bee in their bonnet about something or someone else- no doubt from their past.
Many nasty posts tonight each accusatory….. the hidden profiles versus the non hidden; the friends of the the hidden profiles coming to their rescue with claims of knowing them from some other life somewhere eons ago ( who cares, that’s not an argument) conveniently forgetting for that very reason alone their comments may not be current, and certainly not relevant on the current blogs.
The majority of the blogs tonight have all been vicious and attacking. And for what purpose exactly?? The blogs have been destroyed by a combination of “in” groups, “outgroups” ( those who no longer actively date or use RSVP to meet members of the opposite sex). All have the right to blog of course, but I just wonder why you all do, as it is certainly not to have any positive discussion or outcome.

And then there's the possibility of romantic rejection, followed straight after the blog rejection. Let's not even think about that, shall we? Liking/wanting someone who doesn't like/want you back? Shudder...

Think the best of people..and you will see it.

Posted by: femalepersuasion at February 10, 2008 11:10 PM

Sorry to hear that Jen...hope you get caught up! I have just received one of this semesters units, what a load I've got....less bloggin' time, more work I think!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 10, 2008 11:03 PM

jen jen assignment, i always thought you a slow learner.and i bet you anything you like wishful03 gives her cat nibbles

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 11:00 PM

yes jen she loves her vegemite mainly on toast in the morning, with the kittens i dunk there bikkie in coffee to make it softer they love that to, i like me kids to try different foods and see what they like.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 10:58 PM

Hi wishful..............me too........way behind with my assignment :(

MOM4U..........vegemite on biscuit for your cat ?? Hmmmm coffee would be nice..........strong black and sweet please :)

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 10, 2008 10:55 PM

Nope Jen...still hanging around working and reading and blogging at the same time...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 10, 2008 10:51 PM

just had to make my oldest cat a vegemite on a biscuit while i drank more coffee

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 10:49 PM

Looks like everyone else has toddled off though............

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 10, 2008 10:40 PM

you cheeky bugga, jen jen you got me there

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 10:36 PM

Late mom4u ??
Its only 9.32 here !!

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 10, 2008 10:32 PM

decoratress, "Its got me headf..ked" can i ask does that mean your into headbanging music heavy metal, must check your profile?
ps i know what you meant, roflmao

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 10:30 PM

lol jenjen i was about to ask you if you had a note from your mother for being up so late,,,,,,,,,heheheh cheeky bugga i am
No in all honesty i hate people who try to spoil the blog by their negativity, not here today has been really great.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 10:23 PM

No Pixie, 100% female, no question about my gender, so definitely not an "it", not even dishonest, as my profile is visible.

I'm wondering if you only accept emails from people, at home, work, or play, with "photos" attached - so you can be assured they are "real" too. Why does it matter, we are not lookin to date you - merely blog away in peace...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 10, 2008 10:16 PM

pixiemagic, even though i agree with you on your reason for people hiding their profiles may seem dishonest, it is there choice if they so desire. It mainly means they will have little chance of possibly meeting that someone.
Some times people also use the wrong words while others take it as pointing the finger at them.
If someone doesn't have their pic up or hides their profile, i generally ignore them, unless their reason is a valid one. To me SSC is valid, to you maybe not, thats your decision as it is SSC'S to hide her profile.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 10:16 PM

Welcome back mom4u - where have you been hiding ?

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 10, 2008 10:09 PM

wishfulthinker03..another it??!!

Posted by: pixiemagic at February 10, 2008 10:06 PM

pixie - slightsynchronicity has hidden her profile tonight for a week or two while she takes some time out.
I hope we will still see her on the blogs.
Does that make her dishonest too ??

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 10, 2008 10:04 PM

Now so68 Brissy is just up the road ,turn right at the black stump then when you hit the ocean you gone to far.
If i leave now when will i get there,,,,,,,,,,,,,,lololol
night night girl your always welcome.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 9:59 PM

same here wishful, just dont like people looking for a bout or two with all their negative crap against other people. This is a good site. When your single it is really scary to date, you don't go to pubs or don't go out by yourself, so yeah i like most people here,lolol also if i want "verbal Diahera" to get the bowels moving.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 9:49 PM

Hey MoM4u, nice to see you back on deck.

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 10, 2008 9:28 PM

moreofaman4u - it's been lovely chatting with you and everyone. Things are looking up, I think RSVP may be ok after all. Look forward to chatting with you all again soon.

Take care! :-)

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 10, 2008 9:15 PM

RSVPViper,

Your post of 9/2 at 9.04......very funny...touche!!!

I take it you are quoting from the experience of your own preferences...knew there was a reason you hated women, but your expert opinion is duly noted.

Bob.

PS Sorry for the delay in responding but have just gotten back from Melbourne

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 10, 2008 9:10 PM

pbps, you know everyone has a butt, like they have an opinion. Now we tend to notice the size of ones rear end, does that mean we care about there opinion, no we don't ,but still we care about the size of their butt and other things we can see. Then why cant we see if their opinion is worth viewing?
Personaly its just me and the cats, they love a talk but balk at the coffee

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 8:58 PM

oldergent let me guess, your an ex navy or army cook. Yes you are correct, mainly as the terms as you have said them is the style of army cooks. As you have read my previous posts, yes i am a Chef, French Cuisine, also a Baker and pastry cook. I also teach commercial cookery@ Tafe, and give displays and courses in cookery in the community.
I give you respect for your knowledge over your many years, but i find, that many males and females when it comes to cookery, have no idea what they are doing.
Accepted i get paid to know my fare, and home people do not wish to travel this route, but want the same result. If they want to know how we do things i will tell, or recipes i will give. I will give anybody respect in return i wish the same thing. As for name calling,(not by you ) i have worked with chefs i wouldn't call a cook let alone a chef.
So for me when talking about food you have to know what your talking about be correct and specific.Mainly because if you forget one step in your method, to be honest my cats wouldn't smell it ,let alone eat it.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 8:42 PM

I openly discuss with my children, friends and family that I am a member of rsvp and that I'm enjoying my conversations immensely. If they agree or not they're entitled to their opinion. That doesn't stop me wanting them to share my life experiences.

Posted by: paperbagprincess at February 10, 2008 8:29 PM

I openly discuss with my children, friends and family that I am a member of rsvp and that I'm enjoying my conversations immensely. If they agree or not they're entitled to their opinion. That doesn't stop me wanting them to share my life experiences.

Posted by: paperbagprincess at February 10, 2008 8:28 PM

Hi, moreofaman4U,
you obviously are of a culinary bent. In the old days the way to make gravy/any way what you want to call it nowadays, was to take the pan juices, or what we called them ,browning, render them down to a semi solid, and to make a non lumpy sauce./gravy/ was to remove the pan from the heat, let it cool, add salt, and as you say, only plain flour, which had to be judged to the amount of volume wanted, cool to cold water added, stir till the right consistency looked OK then the heat re-applied, When it started to congeale, if too thick add cold water, if too thin render down, when right by taste, serve never let it cool down and re -warm, this and meat soups are the most dangerous of foods to cause food bacteria poisoning. moreman we might not be the most handsome men in captivity but by golly we can cook. LOL

Posted by: oldergent at February 10, 2008 8:26 PM

Wonder what happened after six hours when you fell to sleep...your mum could well be FD105...so be nice to daddy:))

Posted by: istj54 at February 10, 2008 8:22 PM

OMG twarp...you are back and as lengthy as ever!!

Posted by: pixiemagic at February 10, 2008 8:13 PM

NF lmao and how do you know he was giving you the eye all night, pls sorry i asked ,don't want to know.lololol you say the wrong things sometimes NF.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 8:06 PM

I want my Mummy!

Actually I was going to tell him about the last time I stayed in a Backpackers.

I had to share a room with a “male” who lay there stark naked on the opposite bunk and eyed me off all night.

But then again, he can find out these things all by his Big Boy self.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 7:53 PM

darn your in Brissy

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 7:38 PM

Teehee yes I do!! *Waves it around in the air*

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 10, 2008 7:37 PM

That's great, Sophisticated...I didn't start looking till youngest was 21 and may have wasted a few years because of my son's opinions. I think we should trust our own opinions more than we do sometimes.

NF...if you cry for six hours you can then have a nap...and start all over again...don't be upset, he doesn't like me either...not gunna cry though...let's just hope they don't give him any coins at his next gabfest.

Posted by: istj54 at February 10, 2008 7:36 PM

so68 you do have a note from your mother don't you ?lololo

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 7:35 PM

A chef also knows when creme comes to the top, you can reduce it, now scum well is just that, but you already knew that didn't you spacecadet.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 7:33 PM

Well interestingly enough, my kids are right behind me being on here, they think I need to find someone special just for me. Now I'm talking about a 14, 12 and 11 year old here!

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 10, 2008 7:32 PM

Now I'm crying

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 7:26 PM

I have a question: How important are the opinions and views of our families and friends to us in regards to dating?
...after all they don't have to live with our choice...well they do if you are younger but not later in life.

I liked oldgent's view that his children didn't confer with him about their partners, so why should he? Good point!

Posted by: istj54 at February 10, 2008 7:25 PM

MOREOFAMANFOR SOMEONE @ 6.48pm:
A chef knows that cream rises to the surface, as well as scum.

NAUGHTYFISH: i DIDN'T LIKE THE EGOCENTRICITY OF YOURS AT 1.32 ON THE 9TH EITHER. sorry, toggle case. Running out of pennies for youth hostel treminal. Seeyezall in a few days.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 10, 2008 7:20 PM

My Dear,

At Hay Point ships have to wait days, even weeks, before they are allowed to enter port.

What I am saying is that port waiting time should not exceed 6 hours before being allowed to discharge cargo.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 7:18 PM

ok thanks moreofaman4u - I can see how that would be annoying then in that case. So apologies for what I said below earlier. :-)

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 10, 2008 7:14 PM

so 68 you got it

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 7:10 PM

OLD GODDESS/FEMALE PER:

Sorry. The Posting gremlin stole the end of my last sentence to you, just then. (Or was it MsLash, trying to shorten my posts to the length she can manage at one sitting?)

It should have read

"If you acknowledged your sources, you'd get acknowledgement for their relevance and your diligent scholarship, instead of derision for being an O.L.D. COPYCAT"

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 10, 2008 7:08 PM

Be fair now.

Virgin wouldn’t let his wheelbarrow on as onboard luggage.

The man was labouring under considerable difficulties as it was having to entertain his mass audience.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 6:53 PM

ISTJ @ 6.18am, 8th. Many thanks for your good wishes.

Had a happy time yesterday meeting Sydney Bob and the locals, but after 11 continuous hours of lunch, pub, then dinner, I had trouble climbing the midnite ladder to my Youth Hostel upper bunk.

Consulted my virtual scales and actual wallet this morning, and decided against soldiering on at their long lunch today. Emailing you instead.

ISTJ @ 8.37am on 9th: I am very grateful to you for your ongoing campaign to boost my image, but (with MY tongue not in my cheek,) you've got it back to front. Bob and I came to Honduras to bask in the combined sunshine of a dozen warm Victorian smiles, not vice versa.

ABCKENNY @ 3.21pm today and your ear-ringed culinary supporter @ 3.27:

You blokes are as homosensitive as Sydney Bob. For your information, Big K, I was checking you out to see if we should try to have our next Bloggermeet in Brisbane on a Saturday, so you could come. For the benefit of the many local blogfemmes, of course.

VIRGIL @6.51pm on 9th: Yess! I call that "my match", and that's what I'm looking for.

DECORATRESS 2 12.36am on 10th: ROFLMBO. Funniest thing I've seen on a blog yet. And so drolly told. Thankyou for lighting my smile!

GYPSYNURSE @ 6.10PM ON 4TH:
"SHYBUTPERKY" What was/is/will be?

ABCKENNY again @ 9.42pm on 8th. Please do not under-estimate me sir - FirstDate # 68 was about last March, not now, and I don't count love-ins or other group activities - only one on one actual first dates.

I'm 2 States away from my scoreboard this weekend, but I think the one who invited my email today will probably be about FD#105 by next weekend.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 10, 2008 6:46 PM

Slightsync...I think the trick is to try not to take the negative stuff personally. This can be hard because sometimes it is meant personally. People are judgemental and seem to become more so as they get older. They become self-righteous and stuck in their old fashioned, discriminatory thinking and ways.
Take pity on them as they can't be very happy criticising others the whole time.
ODG, I enjoy your dating posts...and sometimes enjoy the repartee too, when it is clever...and positive...I guess it would depend on a few things whether you would go into the apartment of a naked man...I hope not on the first meeting.
Woodnwine, I think it opens up a whole can of worms finding out too much about people's sexual history. It can be a real turn-off to me. However, many men feel compelled to fill you in as though it is raising their prowess in your eyes. For me it doesn't.
Pixie, it doesn't matter one iota whether you can see a profile or not. It could be totally fake anyway. This is a blog and it is the words that you should be reacting to, not a false perception that is a profile. You don't really know a person till you meet them face to face. Most blogs are faceless...doesn't make any difference unless they are attacking someone's profile or looks. Then it is below the belt.

Posted by: istj54 at February 10, 2008 6:34 PM

SSc hi girl where have you been, i can post for you but it will be only my version of Thai style, you still want i will give.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 6:12 PM

Lynath we are talking modern French Cuisine here in which i trained. I praise you for "googling" the term ,try Books by Escoffier, or Larousse Gastronomique.
The term i used ,"Fonds Brun " actually is the stock,Brown stock, i didn't mean to confuse you.
Espagnole is the basic sauce.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 6:09 PM

To whoever may like to know...for organisational reasons am putting my profile on not visible till Feb 14th. Just need a rest.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 10, 2008 6:02 PM

Motorbikes mmmmmmmmmmmmm and accents, thelynathdiary. Wow I am so mature...I love accents. Hey MMFU...can u post a Thai stirfry recipe one day?

Bloggers, its so much fun on here...apart from the occasional bitching session and the antagonists as well! Although I love this blog, there is a bit too much negativity on here (judgment too) and I feel that to concentrate on my two jobs properly and make some headway in my drought affected garden and catch up with a few friends before uni I will have a break until Valentines Day where I will just have to pop in and see how things are on the blog. Hope someone posts some recipes too. Have a nice virtual dinner whoever goes to it. Oh and this could be the wrong blog for this comment but if a guy had a one night stand or two in his 20s or any age....or a woman had a one night stand or several when younger and for who knows what reason...pissed maybe? They are supposed to divulge things from over 20 years ago and be judged on them? I really do not care what someone has done in the past as long as they are not a player and do not give me an STD. Or a liar actually and arrogance also is hard to bear.

I am not perfect and just hope to meet someone normal who is happy to be with me and not wishing they were with a 20 year old.

Personally I hope to meet someone who lives now and is not overly bothered with their or my past and also not too concerned about the future but can enjoy the present moment. I will "lurk" and read this blog but I do not feel that I can participate constructively at the moment. Is anyone else tired of a few blog posters continually making comments about largish people? Reminds me of the playground at school and I think I (we) should move past that. Beauty fades and our bodies give in to gravity unless we are exceptional and really lucky in our genes. Some people are fat but they can exercise and diet. The continual slagging off of fat people is discriminatory as some have a medical condition. It is so immature to focus on outward standards of body image created by the media and the stick like models we have to see, who look starved. Also I see negative comments about women over 40. Once again...we are fine...you have the problem if you have to go on disparagingly about women over 40 who are often sexy, smart, resiliant...have our own houses (not that that matters). To the ones clinging onto past hurt and lashing out to others...try to get over it. Or have a break and do some gardening or paint a room in your house. You know theres something you could do...if you look around. (have my whole backyard to re
do!!!)

Seeyou bloggers on the 14th Feb...after work. Hopefully the blog will be clear as YOU WILL BE ALL OUT ON DATES....OR SOMETHING.

Have fun and be kind to one another.

and yummmmmm gravy!! About time more was written about recipes. Will attempt to keep up to date by reading the blog. Hey mstingle all the best at uni this semester...hope all is fine : ))

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 10, 2008 6:00 PM

Moreofaman I googled origins of gravy and found this...so it seems to me that once again it is the english v the french

The origins of gravy go back to the 18th century, when English and French chefs engaged in a contest every bit as hard-fought as the two nations' current footballing rivalry. The French (naturally) kicked things off, by inventing myriad complicated sauces. This might not have mattered, except that 18th-century English aristocrats took to aping the styles of their French counterparts. To this end, French chefs became a fixture in English stately homes, along with French dancing masters and French tailors. Not surprisingly, this soon provoked a patriotic backlash, with writers such as Joseph Addison and Richard Steele denouncing the Gallic invasion.

In culinary terms, what English writers objected to most was the high costs involved in preparing the quintessences, or stock-based preparations, that had become the foundation of French cooking. Quintessences took hours to prepare, and were very expensive. In the eyes of patriotic English cooks, they were an unforgivable extravagance. In her 1747 work The Art of Cookery Made Plain and Easy, Hannah Glasse famously wrote: "If a gentleman will have French chefs, then they must pay for French tricks . . . I have heard of a Cook that used six pounds of butter to fry twelve eggs, when every Body knows, that understand cooking, that Half a Pound is full enough."

The alternative to quintessences proposed by English cooks was plain old gravy. In the 18th century, the highest praise a chef could receive was to be complimented on the simplicity of the gravy, just as the greatest insult was to be accused of an unpatriotic reliance on French sauces.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 5:55 PM

ODGS you know you are always welcome, but why have you got your panties in such a twist today

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 5:53 PM

There are some bloggers who no doubt generally enjoy reading dating advice on a dating site. This site could be fun and entertaining, but there is always someone who tries to rain on the parade and spoil it for others, and it seems to be people that have short mundane conversations that they think are humourous when no one else does.

I laughed when you told me you wouldnt like to share the same food as your date, or would leave if he tried to touch you..but how about if a man answered the door to his inner city CBD apartment naked-bet you would go in.

I am also well aware of copyright laws. I am also savvy to the fact that it is not in ones best interest to try and contribute to a blog such as this, when you are not wanted.

If unhumourous banter is what you want..fine.........................ODG

Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 10, 2008 5:49 PM

Awwwww, please Mum, can't we talk about something new now....... I have so many opinions to give to the world and of course everyone will want to absorb them, to grow and enlighten themselves.
*she says with tongue firmly placed within cheek"
I just wanted to get a word in...... hehe

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 10, 2008 5:49 PM

fonds brun recipe please?

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 5:43 PM

Lynath, in cookery, there is no such thing as "gravy" everything is a sauce. Pan juices are called jus or jus lie then they are thickened with a brown roux. To keep lumps out you keep stirring till returns to the boil, then reduce to a simmer, check seasoning. then and only then can you add other items.
ps simmer has to be at least 20 mins

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 5:43 PM

come again?

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 5:36 PM

lynth you have just made Demi glaze, sorry you didn't make fonds brun.
istj54 yes they do like a expresso and you do get to take potti break when your on the road, all you have to do is chose your tree or bush, they even have the seat down for the girls.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 5:26 PM

Do they provide free tea and biscuits and appropriate rest breaks? If so, I'm in...MoaM4u
NF...it's called a nana nap down here...Yuppies call it a Power nap, more power to them.

Posted by: istj54 at February 10, 2008 5:18 PM

moreofaman I thought that was a trick question and you weere using slang for bike terms or something.
My fonds brun
pan drippings from roasted meat skimmed of fat. sprinkle with some plain flour and brown over heat. add water gradually and stir until boiling ..reduce heat to simmer and stir until smooth and desired thickness or sieve if lumpy! Add some salt and pepper and red wine or whatever suits the meat if liked. A good slug of mint sauce works wonders with a lamb roast! Yours?

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 5:18 PM

isitj54 is old Willie still around, maybe join Ulysses Bike club, sure they would welcome you girl, top bunch of blokes and girls

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 5:12 PM

Lynath.

Say these words after me.

“Wham Bam Thank You Ma’am.”

Took 1 sec didn’t it.

LOL

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 5:12 PM

You can,
and no one will ever know.

It is much kinder to let people exist in their own reality. Validation Therapy I believe it is called.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 5:07 PM

lynth,roflmao correct on the harley and correct on the cookery terms, now can I give You the recipe for ,"Fonds Brun"knowing the term for brown sauce is commonly known as ,gravy.
By all means do check my profile, lolol now what recipe can i get you.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 5:02 PM

Lynath Dearest.

Back in the Army we only had to do 100 push ups.

Then in footie most of us front rowers/ruckmen/front row forward types collapsed after 20 anyway and claimed privilege.

Why can’t we claim privilege in our later years?

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 4:59 PM

I get it now. NF is talking about the Harley. Careful when you fall asleep after six hours on the road...could be messy...Rest and Respite stops provide a nice cup of tea and a biscuit to share...then, it's "On the Road again...like a band of gypsies we go down the highway..."Willy Nelson...whatever year:))

Posted by: istj54 at February 10, 2008 4:59 PM

Jovial.

Don’t mix prescription drugs in a cocktail.

You can’t mix the pink stuff and antis.

Look what happened to Heath Ledger

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 4:56 PM

neurotic fish
Rule 10.1 a If you don't strike oil, stop boring.

works on so many levels.....

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 4:55 PM

so that makes 3 breaks in a six hr shift,,,,no wonder you get nothing done NF, try doing some more work ,the rewards are worth the extra effort.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 4:54 PM

love the sound of a Harley at full throttle..it means it will be far away as soon as possible....

I think I can see why you are having communication difficulty moreofa man...you speak French!

Do you want the recipe for gravy or is that some kind of oil or petrol or something for the rice burner?(presuming that is also some sort of machine)

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 4:52 PM

Union Rules you know.

Entertainment and Allied Trades Union

Rule 10.1

“If her motor ain’t purring after 6 hours, you may conclude shift and clock off and go home.

Meal breaks after every 2 hours.”

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 4:46 PM

Sorry folks have to jet, will answer your question when I get back on later neuroticfish, perhaps I read your statement incorrect.... :-)

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 10, 2008 4:45 PM

Neurotic fish I feel your observation about women pinching food from partners plates is a good one. I think if I were a man I would find this habit absolutely infuriating.
If a man encourages dessert eating he is a good man! If he makes no comments about the size or kilojoule content of the dessert, nor raises his eyebrows
accusingly and does not slap my bum in a 'has it gotten bigger" kind of way when we stand up, then he is perfect!

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 4:44 PM

NF, if anyone can go for six hours without falling asleep, they deserve a medal... or perhaps a sedative.

Posted by: jovial67 at February 10, 2008 4:43 PM

lynth i think also men tend to think on a different level. Example, do you like the sound of a "harley at full throttle" or know the difference between a harley or a rice burner(jappa).Maybe what is the difference between ,julienne or jardinere or for that fact pasienne.Try this one the word ,"gravy" what is it, pls be careful here, how do you make it without lolol gravoux,(Yuk)?

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 10, 2008 4:43 PM

And, pray tell, what is so bitter and twisted about my saying that if it’s going to take longer than 6 hours, I have a tendency to fall asleep on the job.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 10, 2008 4:37 PM

yes, neurotic fish..as the pregnant girl was told
" You should never take seriously anything poked at you in jest"

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 10, 2008 4:30 PM

hehehe love that sense of humour moreofaman4u. As for neuroticfish - read a few blogs on my short time on here and all the ones from you seem to be basically the same. For god's sake man, get a grip on reality here. You sound so bitter and twisted, the girl who did this to you has alot to answer for!!

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