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What is what in the world of online dating etiquette? How do you do what you need to do to get the ball rolling?
You have braved the toughest bit of all and put your profile online. There are kisses in your inbox. You have checked out the profiles of the people who sent the kisses. There are people there who look interesting.
What next? Send an auto reply? Email them?
How do you get to know someone online?
When do you go from email or chat to phone conversations? And when do you meet them?
Are you a meet soon kind of person or do you prefer to spend a good bit of time in written or verbal communication?
Tells us how you have handled these conundrums?
Posted by February 6, 2008 11:17 AM
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WILLOW: Thank you for reminding me I should be busy $$ working, or else adding to my collection of first-dated females, instead of still blogging to excess.
I can only plead occupational therapy.
My Melbourne week had been a major emotional overload. Eleven hours straight of listening to Sydney Bob charming the hearts and minds off the Melbourne blogfemmes was a long hard assignment for a dedicated student.
And I was sometimes even called upon to speak briefly myself, during the regular pleniary sessions on the opposite footpath.
And left wondering helplessly what to say back to the charmer who said late at night "Yes Bill, I'd certainly have your babies - if only you were 30 years younger."
Then lunching on Monday with my actual 1960 lover and on Tuesday with my 1961 lover brought back floods of older memories.
Add Traumas trying to climb up my hostel top bunk's ladder at midnight on Saturday, without pulling the whole empty double-decker bed over on top of myself, and missing the wheeled stool I was planning to sit on at the hostel phone on Wednesday, so that I landed on my back on the floor.
And finally hearing faintly through the hostie yelling at me to switch off my mobile "IMMEDIATELY" so she could sit down ready for takeoff, that my 9pm lift home from the airport had fallen through. And being unable to contact another friend till I'd landed almost penniless ...
And after that the total anticlimax of living and working hard alone, night and day.
I'm sorry Willow. I've been hiding from reality most of the weekend back in the blog with my friends. But now I must ask forgiveness from the usually-lurkers who pop out to pick on me for submitting such long posts that they can't even fast-forward their unathletic meece across them, and then I must get back to work.
Enjoy your cyber-fun, and you dedicated Negatives, try to flog only live horses to death.
Posted by: timewarp1 at February 18, 2008 9:05 AM
Morning NF, just up and catching up on the remainder of last nights blog with cuppa in hand before going to work. Was the compliment to Bluey me? Thanks if it was and no I am no other entity than myself. (name actually matches my profile-one name,one profile,one and only me).
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 18, 2008 7:38 AM
Good morning, lapdog of ISTJ and PC/OLDG. Dawn there yet? Not quite yet, up here, but a few birdcalls.
You were dead wrong, sonny, at 5.19am today. Get it straight, for Eros' sake:
1) Ninaschen clearly explained at 7.04pm last night (all over again, for the many-too-manyeth time) why her planned open meeting in Feb suddenly had to be restricted to those who had NOT made public written threats against the privacy of other attendees.
2) Then in a hysterical post at 7.27 last night, OLD Goddess re-torpedoed her claim that she ain't Boo HooFP, nohow, posse.
Following her previous boo Boo of posting the same piece under both aliases.
3) And now you're taking your turn on the Exclusivity dead horse. So I'm guessing buddy ISTJ will take the following shift, perhaps later this morning.
4) Two completely separate Brisbane bloggermeets were being planned simultaneously and separately for mid-January.
I organised one, which was open to all actual posters, and advertised as such on the blogs for a couple of weeks. It was to have been held at today122's Bayside home.
As well as the open invitation on the blogs which a number of people responded to, I personally invited a number of positive-posting south-Queensland regular bloggers, by individual stamped-emails at my own expense. I like a nice big party, and why not rent a crowd?
JenJen was coming, but was then also invited to another meet, then being planned by another mob of Brisbanites, for when Wraecca was coming north on holiday.
Theirs was going to be on the same afternoon, so I wanted to join with them somewhere, to make well over a dozen attendees. I asked, and they agreed.
They wanted a more central location than Bayside. Our mob agreed - yes, that would be better, and I chose it for us all.
5) As for Melbourne in Feb, after BooHooPF's threat made her persona non grata at the now no-longer open meet, I challenged her to hold a competing one on the same weekend - to put up or shut up.
6) And I asked if I could come to hers too, while I was down in Melbourne for a week on business. And I offered to send stamped emails to other people she wanted to invite, at my expense.
It's all in the blogs, clear as day, for anyone who can read, as well as stir.
7) And we're all still waiting for BooHooFP to do something (anything) useful or proactive, instead of just playing her habitual game of noisy victim, in between posting unacknowledged plagiarised populist periodical extracts, signed off with one of her aliases.
8) And as for you, Mr MorphMaster, how about getting back on your own 10-name bike, and back to insulting us or amusing us or educating us, all of which you do so well - till you get on the turps and regress back to lower-primary-school invective that's so pitiful, it's funny.
Now it is dawn. Think I'll go for a nice healthy walk before sunrise, instead of sleeping last night. Still got my runners on, from tennis.
Posted by: timewarp1 at February 18, 2008 7:01 AM
Brilliant Bluey,
You wunnerful person (starting to sound like Slimey; gunna have to watch that).
May be you are the Viper, der Vishus Vinscreen Viper.
Someone obvious has got to be the guilty party, unless Fotoman has honed his quick change vaudeville act to perfection. Wants to give Dame Edna a run for her money.
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 18, 2008 6:47 AM
Lynath Sweetest.
I only suggested a Benny Hinn Show as a means of getting you out of the house.
I found it wonderful entertainment. I admire people who are at the top of their profession. The Art of Persuasion is an incredible skill shared eg by only a few top QCs, and this gentleman is at the height of his calling. (We all know about the downside, thank you.)
You must remember that as a callow kid I was dragged to the front at a huge Billy Graham meet to rid me of my sins, such as I had then accumulated by that tender age (hadn't really had a chance to have a good go at sin, but that is by the by, still trying to get a few under my belt).
Since those early days, the healing, falling backwards and jumpies for joy performances have been added to the retinue to great effect. Watch his hands snap and lo, the Lord helps them fall backwards into the ever waiting hands of a few dozen ever present minders.
And I stood so much in awe of Sly, the head bodyguard ex Gridiron player, at 400 kg and wearing a suit like a tent, the biggest of a huge contingent of personal bodyguards Hinn had brought over from the States, that I regret not being able to photograph him so I could hang his pikkie on the wall as a pin up boy for us lackeys.
AS for antibiotics and blood tests (yes, these are mandatory for those of us who get up front and personal with crowd control), I only mentioned these as a form of relief from my onerous duties as a male on a site like this. Maybe a good holiday would also do the trick- by myself.
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 18, 2008 5:46 AM
1) WILLOW: You are an omnivorous delight. Thank you so much for lightening up this blog tonight so skilfully, just when it most needed it.
2) To those I disappointed last night, eg. AL58 @ 3.18 and 3.40pm today, and especially to the gorgeous and usually incisive TLD, in response to hers at 6.41pm:
Sorry for delay replying. Only home from tennis way across town at 11.30pm Mexican time, and a number of new very personal emails to answer, before I could clock off from my onerous dating life, and come play with youall in the blogpit.
TLD: I like your idea, and I will do as you suggest. Starting now.
I WILL come clean and reveal all. And not in my previously-planned private email just to you, in response to your pucker-up yesterday (which has today become so much more welcome, thanks to your detailed explanation of its rationale.)
No: I'll say it out here in fenceless blogland, for all the tribe to hear.
The -original people of this continent (I'm calling them that, because I am sure that the prefix "ab-" will by now have been No_mentionable_colour - Listed by the 2_letter_acronym PC Nazis that you mentioned in yours, whoever they are ...)
- well, thosefellers had a very different style of management, which I always suggest my students should call "The Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing" style of management.
This was OK for them back then, because all they had to wash was G-strings (my Eros! think of the bum-cracks!!)
Or, if you're a visualising chick, fantasize about all those totally-visible hot buns, and not only for the 3 whole months before Easter ....
Later on, this particular style of dealing with altercations of any kind has led to the removal of all the backyard fences in Redfern, to provide an uninterrupted venue for full-city-block tribal hearings of all interpersonal complaints.
(There have been No_mentionable_colour-feller allegations that the fences were actually removed in winter time, to fuel Redfern's wood-burning room-heaters, but these claims have not yet been substantiated.)
This is because the proposal to fund that investigation was vetoed by the Department of -original Affairs, on the grounds that No_mentionable_colour-feller activities in Redfern or anywhere else are no bleep concern of No_mentionable_colour-fellers in Canberra, or anywhere else where the red, yellow and black flies proudly (or is replaced by a red, white and blue one), over drunken wife-beating, childhood incest and whatever also happens in No_mentionable_colour normal society, outside the No_mentionable_colour-feller Reservations.
Enough of this -diginous social history, and back to explaining why I disappointed you ladies in my post to oldergent last night.
Oldergent had been a naughty boy yesterday. Went swimming in the red cordial in the evening, and it had the same effect we've often seen before with Eric - it makes Knowledgeable Newcastle Niceguys into Nasty Negative Knockers.
Back to the transparent-coloured-hatted chase, where the horses are now spray-painted pink over white, and blue over black:
Last night the old bloke from Newcastle used his red-cordial-buoyant wireless laptop to speak to several of you ladies as if he was a cranky oldcodger aged 72, and not an ageless -gent at all.
That's bad enough, but he doesn't have Eric's flair for going far enough over the top to overshoot his target, so as to amuse as well as insult. It just sounded nasty.
I do use the Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing style of management. So I spoke sternly to the naughty boy in my whole-tribally-visible post last night. So did Sydney Bob at about the same ungodly hour, but not at such length.
I also use the public praise, private blame technique. So I also spoke to the older-ex-gent much more sternly in a private email, to spare him the extra embarrassment of having the whole tribe, including one and a half battalions of lurkers, witness the worst of the stick that I was giving him.
This country is too modern and merciful to still have public executions like some US states, or the public leg-spearings of our own -diginous past.
But it is better if even Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing justice can seem a little merciful to the accused.
So I pandared to his rapidly-bruising ego with the give-them-the-last-word clause which amberlight58 took such exception to.
Please remember that my whole post was addressed to the older gent personally, and to no-one else. Youall were only getting courtesy copies, because I had chosen to play that particular round by the rules of Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing.
So if uninvolved third parties sitting in the public gallery 3 backyards up the street should choose to listen in, because it's the prosecutor speaking out loud in a Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing court, what I say is this:
They chose to be attending the arrainment, AND listening in to every word, rather than fast-forwarding across all the boring-old-fart legal jargon.
And if those same uninvolved third parties then chose not to control their Dobermans OR their self-knotting knickers (where are those Silent-K police, when you need them?) but instead chose to try from the public gallery/next backyard to widen the case so it would also include their own vested interests, I claim that that's their problem, not the prosecution's.
Please also note that this particular factor is a recognised complication of the Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing legal system.
And is one of the reasons why the "Public praise, private blame" system has replaced it, whereever modern merciful official policy allows punishment to be given in private, rather than always being served with a side-order of public humiliation.
Ladies of the jury, my case rests. Now can I go to bed please? It's 4.30am natural sun time, and I'm tired.
Posted by: timewarp1 at February 18, 2008 5:26 AM
Maybe the point has not been hammered home.
An invitation only bloggers meeting is offensive to many people on here and was an insult to 2 individuals who attended the previous open meeting.
The Rules of RSVP clearly require offensive material to be removed or edited out.
The same would apply if some idiot starting to use the blogs to advertise.
There is a place for advertisements on RSVP- after paying the dues- and it would not be on the blogs.
Likewise the blogs are no place for offensive and insulting material.
The moderators should now go through the blogs and remove every single reference to any bloggers meeting, which includes both Brisbane meetings (which were also vetted- now weren't they Michael!)
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 18, 2008 5:19 AM
Sorry Willow, l forgot that Tony Martin is a largely Melbourne known radio guy, once part of the D-Gen years ago on ABC with the Working Gog guys, Rob Sitch, Santo Cilauro, Tom Gleisner.
He was also on radio here on a program called MartinMolloy with Mick Molloy, and until recently had a show on MMM l think.
May have been syndicated.
Still gets his head on the telly now and then, and your profile pics bear quite a likeness to him in my ever so humble opinion.............K
Posted by: auntykaz at February 18, 2008 1:08 AM
amberlight 11:46PM "You could perhaps write to the editor and ask for a special pull-out section (maybe in the middle of the sporting pages?)"
Given where I am reading the Sunday Mail in the post I made at 9:09PM exactly what are you suggesting I pull out here. Is you mind as "unusual or naughty" as mine?
Posted by: willow1059 at February 18, 2008 12:12 AM
Willow...still giggling at the carwash episode - I'm sure she was definitely a lights on, nobody home kinda girl.
Rider, invest in a belt - the buttcrack thing is just the worst look going. Nothing worse than seeing guys with their jeans seam down around their knees and their boxers hanging out!
Another solution is keep eating those easter-eggs...that'll fill you out and hold the shorts up :) If they are Cadbury's can I share with you??? If not, then it's quite okay...more to fill you up and hold those shorts on!!
Just plowed through pages of blogs...some very entertaining, thanks Blue and Willow...some the usual vindictive crap. Why, oh why, do people keep going on and on about private blogs? Is it the whole "I've not been asked over to play, therefore I'll bag anyone who has?" syndrome. It is so 2nd grade it's not funny. See that type of behaviour in the classrooms often. Get over it - if friends want to get together and you're not invited, get over that too - or get some friends and have your own drinks...simple. Don't crush others for doing a social thing. So what if the ratio is even, is it ever? Social drinks are not pairing off parties...they are simply SOCIAL drinks!
All this reading....time to sleep.....
Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 17, 2008 11:59 PM
Hello everyone,
Busy tonight so have only just checked in and out. The talk was mostly very amusing and civil tonight; more like some of the entries I saw on the Dangerous Mistakes blog when I thought it might be nice to join in!
Willow, I can't wait for the latest update of your quest to lose your post-marital virginity. Will you be seeing your "first date for 08" again in the near future?
It was a pity you were disappointed with the "new look" Sunday Mail. You could perhaps write to the editor and ask for a special pull-out section (maybe in the middle of the sporting pages?)
Keep it up!
Cheers All
Posted by: amberlight58 at February 17, 2008 11:46 PM
Malsie - could we ask you to unhide your profile for a little minute please?
Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 11:25 PM
Blueeyes-then I would be Slidersofthecrackerstorm!
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 11:06 PM
life is much more interesting with footy back, the tribal conflict can be so much more interesting than the personal abuse that is sometimes evidenced here
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 11:00 PM
Malsie- not fair ...you don't display your profile :(
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:59 PM
I hate the Eagles (used to be just the fans I hated but then it was the whole club) and it's not that I like Freo - I just don't have anything against them.
Posted by: stoic at February 17, 2008 10:53 PM
Malsie- Thanks for the comp :) what is her profile name ? if I may ask of course :)
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:53 PM
goodnight willow, and blue eyes, loved the Irish joke.
an Adelaide meet would be really cool slight synch.
stoic, do you like freo? or just hate the eagles?
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:51 PM
Rider, if you went commando or is it "free-ba**ing" for guys, then you wouldn't have to worry if the shorts were slipping. A scary thought either way.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:51 PM
willow, will send you an email on colour selection after comsulting with daughters. Not that I think anyone was noticing toe nail polish-methinks the focus was elsewhere.
I also must bid goodnight. Some of us need more sleep than others.
Congrats to all tonight-you turned the tables around and unless things deteriorate after my departure-everyone has been on a much more positive note for the last couple of hours.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:43 PM
Blueeyes- funny you mention that particular look as I was guilty of it today..I was walking to the cinema and forgot the shorts I had on were not as tight as they uesd to be. By the time I crossed the road my undies were there to be seen by the whole of society!
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:42 PM
Thanks, ridersonthestorm - I just had a look at your profile, and I think I'll send her over from Perth to Melbourne!!! Always looking out for my girl.....
Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 10:41 PM
willow1059 - thanks for the chuckle - loved your joke! tee hee....
Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 10:37 PM
Goodnight all, I've had fun. Time to go do a hundred sit-ups so I can see my toes in the morning.
Blueyes, should I put on pink or purple toe nail polish so I can get an invite to one of these wild parties.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:37 PM
Who is Ars.wiper....Eric, Earl or FP?
Posted by: brilliantblue at February 17, 2008 10:36 PM
well stoic, when I go to watch the game next week I wont have divided loyalties as I watch the pride of south australia demolish the freo bombers
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:36 PM
hi Slightsynch
I would like to attend a meeting of Adelaide bloggers, I will wear my Adelaide Tshirt and bring my Westcoast Bag, as it holds my camera, my phone my water bottle assorted bus timetables and my little transistor radio
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:33 PM
Virgil - The Freo Bombers are giving the West Coast Wankers a 40 point hiding in the second quarter :)
Posted by: stoic at February 17, 2008 10:32 PM
Voted best joke in Ireland 2007.
John O'Reilly hoisted his beer and said, 'Here's to spending the rest of me life between the legs of me wife!'
That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night!
He went home and told his wife, Mary, 'I won the prize for the Best toast of the night' She said, 'Aye, did ye now. And what was your toast?' John said, 'Here's to spending the rest of me life, sitting in church beside me wife.'
'Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!' Mary said.
The next day, Mary ran into one of John's drinking buddies on the street corner. The man chuckled leeringly and said, 'John won the prize the other night at the pub with a toast about you, Mary.'
She said, 'Aye, he told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he's only been there twice in the last four years. Once he fell asleep, and the other time I had to pull him by the ears to make him come.'
I believe John played football as well but did not understand the rules.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:32 PM
Willow, would be doubly flattered.
Rider-Wonder if all us bloggers are over 25 as we are not arguing on this topic. Any of the looks are not enticing-including the 'hang the trousers on the front coat hook' look where the crutch is about level with the knees making the legs look like they are half the length they should be and that there is more hanging in the rear of their pants than we care to imagine.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:30 PM
Malsie-I am sure she will make great choices..
:)
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:27 PM
virgil 10:12PM "I cannot get tv reception, as I dont have foxtel and didnt go to the casino tonight because i wanted to be here sharing special moments with you all"
This is great news, I see we have partly helped you to cure your addiction to footy.
By the time blueeyes teaches you how to bowl the maiden overs (be very gentle) and I teach you about legal balls (solicitors, etc) and how to protect yourself from injury with leg before wicket you will be fine.
Believe me, once you have convinced the ladies about how your sporting skills and stamina have grown you will have no shortage of gorgeous women to watch footy and cricket with.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:27 PM
OK now look what the in-clique have gone and done. You lot have scared off Kateegirl. She has run off sulking because none of you would talk to her....... You girls of the coterie club better stop chasing away all the lookers or someone might think you nasty old nags are jealous.
You should of hung around a bit longer today Kateegirl because someone, I think it was another looker, has upset one of the clique and it seems that the rest of them have been on the turps all day and have immediately raced in to join the melee, just itching for a cat fight................. Well Kateegirl your are as silly as the rest of them for wanting to be a part of their snobbish gang mentality.
Posted by: rsviper at February 17, 2008 10:26 PM
ridersonthestorm - I think currently she's rather enjoying being a "chip"! She's level headed and I know she'll make great choices. I know even from my own experience how "new" people invite interest, I just never got near that level of "exceeded maximum kisses" thing.... perhaps indeed it is an age thing. Anyway, she's having fun, and I know she'll take it in her stride! Just made me laugh....
Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 10:22 PM
BOB,
Any kind of bum-crack is a bad look..what about the undie+bum-crack look?
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:21 PM
blueeyes 10:10 "Permission granted Willow. I'm flattered."
Just discovered you were already there, if I add you again will you be twice as flattered.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:20 PM
blueeyes, I suspect you could teach Virgil far better than I how to bowl a maiden over.
Do you know cricket umpires can be sooooo rude. The other day I was watching Brett Lee bowl, when the umpire yelled out really loudly NO BALLLL. Poor Brett appeared really distraught the umpire would announce his impediment to the whole TV audience. Sheepisly he put his hand in his pocket while he walked back to where he starts his run.
Worse still, after calling it the umpire stuck his arm out staight to his side then turned around to the scorers in the grandstand for all to see. As if to say this is how big mine is, what about yours. I wonder if the scorers were men or women.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:17 PM
ahhh after shoes
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:15 PM
As we blog happily here West Coast and Fremantle are battling it out for the honour of playing the Pride of South Australia the mighty Adelaide Crows.
I cannot get tv reception, as I dont have foxtel and didnt go to the casino tonight because i wanted to be here sharing special moments with you all
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:12 PM
Virgil, I do not recall my footy definitions on Valentines Day covering T-shirts, we did talk about socks, etc.
Is a T-shirt something the full back wears, if so what do the forwards wear. Also, at what point of the evening do you take it off, before or after shoes.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:10 PM
Permission granted Willow. I'm flattered.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:10 PM
Hi Rider,
Same sex kissing to me is like the bum-crack revolution - a bad look...male or female (who'd have thought female bum-crack was a bad look)!!!
And before everyone on here who thinks that I am homophobic jumps on this...you could not be any more wrong if you tried. I have had many gay friends throughout my life and have no problem one way or the other - to each their own.
Bob
Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 10:09 PM
Willow,am sure you could teach them all how to bowl the maiden over.
Virgil, it's okay if it wasn't you-just means someone out there is interested.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:05 PM
willow, so far i havent got a scarf, or socks, but I now have 3 Crows T shirts and both Permiership videos.
There certainly wer some lovely ladies in the crowd watching the historic first premiership.
The camera crew certainly put the whole thing in perspective by focussing on several St Kilda male supporters openly crying.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:03 PM
blueeyes, can I add you to my favourites?
I think Virgil has been at footy practice.
SS I missed The Maldives as well, I think it was after the Willow Virtual dinner, do you remember which blog it was in?
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:02 PM
Hi Kate,
My earlier post seems to have gotten lost so, if you should read this, I will very much miss your posts....you are a lovely lady and its always disappointing to see good people leave through disillusionment.
Bob
Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 10:01 PM
two guys kissing just is not a good sight...my gay friends don't even do that in front of me...male or female...but whatever takes you fancy I suppose.
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:01 PM
virgil, its OK if you cannot play cricket, I'll post instructions for you in the future. Its like the footy game but you play with smaller balls. These days they have one day, 50 over games. Great for us approaching that age.
Just watched the last Indian batsman get caught behind. Do you know he did not smile, when I was young I knew lots of men in the gay clubs who loved to get their behinds caught.
PS Are you trying to find the lady to go with your socks and scarfes?
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:57 PM
Hi there kategirl...shame you are going...maybe you will read and pop back in one day. Its quite positive at times. Did you ever read the Maldives Monday night blog. Now that was funny and a bit naughty even. I totally agree that there is too much bitterness, resentment and angst at time. Shame people can not leave that outside of the blog. I attempt to be neutral but some comments get a rise out of me. Take care and hope that you find "The One."
ANY blogger coming to Adelaide who is going to Womadelaide music festival...send me a kiss and I will email (when I buy stamps, this week, WOW) or if you email I will buy several drinks if we meet up at Womadelaide. Of course it is subject to ticket availability.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 17, 2008 9:56 PM
Now turn the tables around. If the guys are intereted in what the girls are doing at parties (as described below) what would the reaction be if 2 guys were doing it? I don't think it would excite me!
Bloggers-so far so good- no criticism of people's opinions and we have had a few so far.
Virgil- i knew you were there somewhere.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:55 PM
OLDG/NF,
I was one of the number of guys at this lunch in Melbourne - no manhaters or maneaters present...just a bunch of normal people who had developed on-line friendships using the opportunity to meet each other in person. None of the women seemed the least bit desperate and eveyone just enjoyed each others company.
The reason nothing much has been posted here is because it unfortunately ended up "invitation only", and no-one sees the point in discussing it on RSVP; an open site for all to participate and find relationships of all sorts.
Bob
Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 9:53 PM
Hi blue eyes, i did look at your profile, while catching up with what went before, while I was out.
I am sorry to say it was not me that added you to my favorites. I have not added anyone to my favotites for a while now. I was out most of today, and so far have not looked at the Sunday Male. No doubt will get a chance later.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:53 PM
aunty who is Tony Martin, should I know?
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:50 PM
Whilst at Uni (still is), my daughter won a competition at her local pub for smooching another female. When I raised my eybrows as she related this she did the eye-rolling thing at me. You know, the one that says "mum, you are just sooo not cool". This is what they do, apparently!
Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 9:50 PM
Blueeyes- I see that kind of behaviour at clubs from time to time..never had the pleasure of seeing it at parties when I was 18!! or did I ?? best I go check my memory card ...thinking...thinking ...ahhh yes...now I remember...WOW !!!
:)
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 9:46 PM
my teachers never minded me wagging much because when present, physically, I certainly wasnt present mentally, and had a tendency to be a bit quietly disruptive.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:42 PM
I thought RSVP had an IM or rather chat feature on it ...oh hang on that cost a stamp doesnt it..the blogs are free lets chat there..because heaven forbid we should actually comment on the topic. Online dating is easy people, its the meeting that turns out to be a worry.
Posted by: hondalady at February 17, 2008 9:41 PM
Hi Willow,
I was never much interested in cricket, as i have a bad tendency to hate losing. I loved chess, tennis and 10pin bowling, because I was good at these things, but as I was not good at cricket, I was usually one of the last to get a bowl, or to get to bat, so I quickly lost interest in cricket, and usually used to wag the summer friday afternoons.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:39 PM
My daughter has just gone on to rsvp - I tried to send her a virtual kiss tonight, and couldn't, because.... she's already exceeded her maximum kisses for the day! Ha! I thought that only happened in fairy tales... tee hee, way to go, darling!!
Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 9:28 PM
Mmmm, when a girl comes up as a new member the seagulls come flying in screaming "mine mine " ask her in a few days what it feels like to be a chip ?
:)
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 9:37 PM
quote -There is an invitation only private blog site for horsche refugees from rsvp blogs, including that Kath and Kim Escapee Hidden Charms, where you can post and no-one but yourself reads your blogs.
It is the ultimate in narcissism, self flagellation, self vindication and mysticbating.
One of the Big Girls on this site can give you the reference.
It's a great site for Big Blousey Girls.
If they let you on, you could pen as Katies and give a few of them some dress sense, or address sense (as in how to address men's issues properly)
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 1:11 PM "
You are hilarious NF and as usual have hit the nail on the head. You forgot to mention that these low self esteem "man haters" band together to boost their victim mentality, as they are in the most part unsuccessful in getting dates, unsuccessful in healthy living ( read back over their numerous posts about how they view themselves as being over weight) they also smoke, their past partners left them..and for the icing on the cake they still rock up to "private" lunches that they organise through the blogs - approx 18 women to 2 or 3 men.
Good riddance I say. Concern yourself no more NF. Like attracts like..and it appears to be working very well.
Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 4:32 PM - end quote
What a pile of horseshit..and you are sounding like femalepersuasion!!!
I don't mormally get into these shitty little fights, but I an getting sick of the garbage.
If you want to organsie a lunch or dinner with your friends...DO IT. Because that is what we have done.
Do not keep crapping on about other people who have formed friendships. friend go out with each other....don't you do that with your friends?
I don't expect to be invited out with your friends, so you are not invited to go out with mine especailly as it turns out you are both whingers!!!!
One of the unexpected benefits of RSVP , as well as dating many men, and I love men!!!! Is that I have made genuine friendships, not just virtual...I have met 8 of the Melbourne bloggers at a lunch last Sundayin Melbourne, and I did the same at Sydney last December...and again this coming weekend.
We have used our stamps to communicate, plus I blog!!!!! RSVP and a friends site....It is really simple.....I have not met any man haters, or lone bloggers, or seen victim mentality, or too many females at any event, it has been a really even mix and it is a lot of FUN.
So get off your butts, stop waiting around for RSVP to fufil you love or lust dreams, be proactive and organise something yourselves.
Who wants the soapbox tiara now...I am done..If you want to talk.....Email me and stop the bitching.....jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at February 17, 2008 9:36 PM
Willow has anyone told you that you resemble Tony Martin???..........K
Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 9:34 PM
I think it may have started in the 1970's blue eyes, when gilrs started to dance together, and has become girls pashing together.
If we said that we dont approve, they might think they are on a winner here, especially as the young boys might be getting some sexual excitement from watching it. What do we do? I dont know, but it needs to be done in a loing respectful and caring manner, and definitely not a knee jerk reaction.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:33 PM
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:53 PM
I like them hard :)
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 9:32 PM
today122, maybe it's just my mood, but your earlier longish post rather resonated with me - I don't know you, but I like you, for whatever that is worth.
My daughter has just gone on to rsvp - I tried to send her a virtual kiss tonight, and couldn't, because.... she's already exceeded her maximum kisses for the day! Ha! I thought that only happened in fairy tales... tee hee, way to go, darling!!
Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 9:28 PM
thanks for the instructions tip blueeyes but there really were no words printed at all, where would I find instructions?
Honestly, I know the VIC's think we live in a backwater here in SA but how hard can it be to read a paper.
The more I think about it, the more flushed I get.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:19 PM
pickle and blueeyes, the weird thing is that I remember anything about those parties.
Virgil, if you are there as blueeyes says let me know whether you need me to teach you how to play cricket as well as football.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:15 PM
willow-did you forget to read the instructions first?
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:14 PM
Willow again. I must tell you about a really exciting development in the print media business in South Australia.
Today I purchased a paper exclusively produced for us men. It is called The Sunday Mail. I eagerly anticipated what awaited me after I had unrolled it.
As many men do I retired to the toilet with it so my undivided attention could be bought to bear upon the contents. You will not believe this, there was not a single word printed on any one of the one hundred and eighty pages that were 11 cm square (about the size of a male hand), however there were some motifs.
I was most angry, even more so when I discovered each sheet had been poorly manufactured so they were very soft and textured.
Do you think I should ask for a refund or take it to the recyclers?
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:09 PM
Hi Virgil, are you going to add your opinion? Just caught you smiling at me, so know you are somewhere there.Did you just add me to your favourites-my number just jumped up by one.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:06 PM
willow, forgot to add-I must have been brought up in the wrong state. I didn't ever go to parties like that.But then again-you are a tad bit younger than I.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 8:59 PM
Willow - Blue Eyes - they didnt do that at any parties i went to in "my day" or maybe NZ missed out on that party trick??
Posted by: picklessister at February 17, 2008 8:59 PM
Videos moreofaman- if my daughter was there and someone was making videos-then i would be doing everything in my power to make sure noone,including you,saw them.
Willow,seeing how you live so far away, you might have to be satisfied with a 'virtual' invitation.
Well done so far guy and gals-no one has criticised or put down someone else's opinion on the topic. But it is only early!
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 8:57 PM
rider, just caught up with your generous offer to supply easter eggs for the next virtual dinner.
May I have ninas eggs since she has declined them.
I must ask, do you have them hard or melted?
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:53 PM
faman4u, she had lights on, lots of them, way smarter than me, smart enough for my whole street.
blueeyes, they did that in our days. Well they did at the parties I went to. Mind you, so did some of the boys. Same reasons, perhaps some times.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:49 PM
willow was she a blonde, lights on, nobody home look or theres air between those ears?
Blueeyes pls ask your daughter when does the video or cd come out. To be honest guys these days are shit scared to ask a girl virtually anything at a party work supermarket just anywhere.Mainly cos if she calls rape or claims he s stalking her he is in the car car, so thats why its safer just to watch;)
Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 17, 2008 8:41 PM
blueeyes, would you get me an invite to these parties please.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:39 PM
i think with todays society i do back that up because i hear alot about it these days. and i have to agree with you blueeyes . i mean that the way they go on its crazy
Posted by: stonecold3 at February 17, 2008 8:38 PM
Blue Eyes - thats positively scary - my boys arent leaving the house till they are 30 now!!
Posted by: picklessister at February 17, 2008 8:36 PM
Good to see some men here as well tonight. Perhaps you can help me with this, I think it is an Adelaide problem. Given we just talked about Ronald Mc and KFC this seems to be on topic now.
After getting ready for my date I decided to get the Willow car cleaned. I must admit the options bewildered me, wash only, wax, under car, wheels, blow dry (sounded like fun for a single guy).
I decided to go for the full Monty. With a broad smile I asked the girl attendant (perhaps late school age) at the servo for a car wash with the lot. She advised this would cost $13.70. As I paid I asked her if I could have mayonnaise as well to go with the car wash with the lot.
Well she just stood there and scratched her head for an eternity. Clearly they did not do car washes with mayo so I just paid the $13.70 as she seemed speechless.
After leaving the wash some ten minutes later she was still scratching her head, do you think she had head lice? Is there a law against this in the eastern states?
Really, I wouldn't ask but this did truly happen.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:33 PM
Very generous, Rider! Fortunately for you, I don't have a sweet tooth and eat chocolate rarely. I know, I know, I'm a freak. But all the more for you, then.
Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 8:30 PM
Okay fellow bloggers-can we do it? Here is a topic my 25 year old daughter and I were discussing a few days ago re generation gap, moral and sexual expectations and behaviour etc. She told me that she has recently been to parties and quote " 18 year old girls are pashing each other,not because they are into own gender sex but merely to excite the boys and create a scene" . (and here my daughter at 25 thought she was over the hill).
Bloggers-can we give an opinion without being critical of other's thoughts.
I personally was surprised at this behaviour-not something I would have imagined was happening-not my thing -but do the young find this acceptable these days?
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 8:23 PM
oh yes he's a big flucka of pheasants. As for preening, nah , only if your taking them to the local fish n chip shop you don't want the locals to know shes a razor back
Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 17, 2008 8:22 PM
mmmmm just started eating some Easter eggs...who wants a bit? And I mean a BIT as I dont like to share my chocolate haha, my favourite are the Birds Eggs.
Next Virtual dinner I will supply the chocolate! :)
Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 8:21 PM
faman4u. Doesn't Colonel Sanders pluck feathers, I thought were are supposed to preen our dates.
It seems this little chicken has a lot to learn.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:15 PM
yes agree with your idea Blueeyes, as there is way to much bullshit floating about here.
Willow you have to stop dressing as Ronald McDonald, try Colonel Sanders( he doesn't wear a big red nose). Tell us when the 2 nd date is , we have to know, gl
Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 17, 2008 8:08 PM
""Blah Blah Blah""
Yes please, lets move on....... You know you want to!!!
Posted by: mystiemuse at February 17, 2008 8:06 PM
I wonder whether it is possible to pick a new topic, and everyone give their opinion on the topic only rather than on everyone elses opinion. Not sure that is humanely possible.
Like your poem Willow. Hope date 2 is on the horizon.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 7:56 PM
That is just lovely, Willow! What a romantic you are. Sigh. I wish you well for your future dates with the mischievous and captivating one.
Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 7:55 PM
Willow here, hello all.
I have prepared this statement because I have been informed several members of the blogger community wish to know how my first 2008 date went. For obvious reasons I need to protect the identity of the lovely lady to maintain confidentiality so I will only cover the less personal aspects.
It was a beautiful night weather wise, the restaurant was nice, food great and company even better. We did not talk much because she kept laughing at me, I felt so embarrassed for I did not know whether it was my face, body or dress that humoured her so. We had a great time, her laughing at me, I laughing at her laughing at me (is this a bit weird?) but we did not talk much.
Given the lack of discourse on the night and my recent lack of the course starting with inter I asked my date about sex, she advised me there needs to be chemistry of which fourplay is an important ingredient, and in any case not after the first date. I was happy with this since we had chatted a few times prior to meeting, I believed that our night out would not be considered to be the first date. Also, I have two really good single mates so putting together the requisite four people should not be difficult.
As we left the restaurant being the gentleman I am and certain my luck was in given her previous response, I asked whether we should do it at my place or hers and could I pass on her address to my mates. I was told in a most forthright manner that it was too soon and that I would have to wait until after the 31st.
Well I was impressed my beautiful date could resist the charms of Willow for so long, she must indeed be a lady of very high moral standing. This didnt seem very long to wait until I remembered this month is February and it has only twenty nine days in this leap year.
Now feeling somewhat frustrated I consulted my watch calendar to see when the next thirty one day month will arrive. To my great relief I noted next month, March 2008 has thirty one days. So we kissed goodnight then said until next time.
I arrived home with a broad smile knowing I had hit the jackpot so I entered the details into my RSVP profile matching computer powered by Intel (RSVPi) to ensure my date with relationship nirvana would not be missed. I did this by attempting to set a reminder in the calendar function.
At that moment my heart sunk in a moment of extreme desperation for the computer advised I would never have sex. Unable to reconcile this with my own quick mental calculation as we kissed goodnight I sought a detailed breakdown of the results. The analysis revealed the number after thirty one is thirty two, and thus the 32nd should be the first day after the 31st. Further to this, the computer stated no month in the coming two years has thirty two days so my copulation will not take place. Devastated I was unable to ask the computer whether any year after that would have a month with thirty two days.
If the Willow profile matching computer powered by Intel is correct I may never again engage in the art of sexual reproduction. Is this to be my fate, to die a virgin in post marital coitus?
As you know Willow is an optimist, so I have pondered this unsavoury problem all day to seek a silver lining. My efforts have been well rewarded, perhaps unduly so because after running the results again through RSVPi I have been advised I will be laid to rest upon dying. So it would appear I will indeed be laid once before I am cremated.
Life is wonderful, always offering a great solution to an intractable problem. Enjoy your day, as Willow will knowing my life is about to get better if a little dustier.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 7:52 PM
"It is indeed interesting how things get distorted NF- Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 7:04 PM "
And we wonder why with people like you insinuating that I am someone else called FP.
Seems you are the one that should be giving it a rest don't you think, as it is not very nice to suggest people are one in the same??
Whoever she is, shes got to you for sure. Maybe you are jabberthe hung- your profile photo fits the description at least!
Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 7:45 PM
i'm with amberlight and today122 ..what are the men's issues as they see them?
Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:44 PM
Refer to previous posts OLDG not just mine but others and once again your true colors are shining through......Nothing like a bit of poison on a Sunday..........K
Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 7:41 PM
Aunty Kaz,
even though I cooked Italian tonight I could not face the Lambrusco.
Also discretion being the better part of valour, and seeing the way this session is going I am going to duck for cover.
Cheers
Ps lynath, thanks for the computer tip, truly appreciated, it works a treat
Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 7:39 PM
Benny Hinn? Benny Hinn the 'televangelist"(don't you just love that title?)
Benny Hinn the TE under investigation for misappropriation of funds?
Benny Hinn whose name is not really Benny but Toufic?
Benny Hinn who exploits the hope of the desperate?
Benny Hinn who preaches witchcraft and feminism are inseparable?
Oh, I thought you said Benny Hill....
Sorry you are not well, but I think Benny Hinn can heal you and you do speak so well of him.
I would keep the medical certificate to yourself if I were you....antibiotics are a wonderful thing.....
Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:38 PM
For anyone who is interested, this is what Willow thinks of his first 2008 date.
Her eyes a deep ocean blue, soothing and enticing
A voice with timbre and clarity so pure
Cheeks sculptured by the worlds finest artist
Features equal to the finest diamonds for sure
Laughter rich and endearing
Her mind full of depth and intellect
Slightly mischievous and totally captivating
Oh yes, it was a date to remember
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 7:35 PM
It's so much easier to try the smoke screen tactic isn't it Ninaschen and Auntykaz..by accusing me of being someone else..so convenient. Never met either of you, and NEVER want to.
Are you the queens of these blogs?? No one can have opinion other than yourselves???
I refuse to justify myself to any one, let alone to a couple of women that continue to blog privately and only come on here sporadically to cause trouble.
You think I am FP.. well, prove it then. you bitter old bags.
I would NEVER have wanted to come to a lunch that anyone organised privately through a public forum AND IT IS MY RIGHT TO SAY THAT...AS ITS MY OPINION...so sod off.
Seems to me that you lot are the ones that are having trouble discussing the lunch.
What I cant work out is why you don't just stay on your PRIVATE site as those who are on it are OBVIOUSLY interested in it, those who are not interested AREN"T.
..oh wait, but YOU are entitled to your OPINION but NOONE ELSE IS???
Your pathetic comments about your piddling lunch have caused a lot of angst which has emanated from YOURSELVES.
Organise it amongst yourselves
Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 7:27 PM
Fear not Oldergent.....enjoy your tipple.............K
Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 7:25 PM
OlderGent - OLDG is shorthand for OnLineDatingGoddess. Also known as FemalePersuasion.
Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 7:21 PM
FishMince and the rest still carrying on after 2 weeks and still going.....why don't you gather all your persona's and hold your own meet with you and youself and any other whingers you can find.
It has obviously affected you greatly...maybe a deep sea fishing trip where you can use each other as shark bait!
You Whine worse than a girl!
Posted by: brilliantblue at February 17, 2008 7:18 PM
I am at a bit of a loss, is OLDG reffering to oldergent or is it a seperate entity? I hold fear that I am going to live, clawed chastised and never to drink red again.
Cheers
Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 7:17 PM
today122 love your post, but if you noticed I was doing a lot of talk to the boys too....
Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:17 PM
good point Virgil.
Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:14 PM
Timewarp2
The black hat witch thing(and I can't wait to get up to reply to NF in a minute) is documented historically as how non conforming women were controlled. They were labelled and derided until the labels became truths and it was then okay to kill them off or 'test' them for evilness by drowning them. If they did not drown that was proof and so burning at the stake was next.
Anyway, FYI it is now politically incorrect and frowned upon under EO to continue to associate black with evil, baddies or outlaws The stereotyping you see...but let's not get onto that,,,,,let's leave you with the memories Earp and Roy Rogers and Hopalong Cassidy in their hats...
Yes, I agree there are plenty of cases where men are unjustly treated in relationships. That is why it would be great if everyone in one was on a more equal footing. Of course there will not always be a perfect balance as you say, because life is not static and circumstances change. It would be nice to enter a relationship on the premise of mutual support.
Happy trails to you.....
Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:11 PM
It is indeed interesting how things get distorted NF. If you were paying close attention to the blogs as all good little bloggers should, you will have seen an OPEN invitation to lunch. The invitation was CLOSED when threats were made to the privacy of one of the participants.
Those threats were taken very seriously and were made by FP also known as OLDG. The threat consisted of FP saying she would take photos of the participant and make said photos public (because the participant had password protected photos). Totally inappropriate behaviour and quite scary, actually. Hence, a genuine invitation to anyone on the blogs to meet up for lunch became high drama and the pin was pulled. End of story.
FP has been invited to organise alternative social activities for those who might be interested. Waiting.... waiting.....
And by the way, there is another coming up soon. But you won't hear about it here. A lesson has been learned.
Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 7:04 PM
Timewarp..post 1...
don't like your management communication methods..I believe in saying what I think, and discussing openly so that it is not then necessary to attribute private blame and not knowing where one stands. That sort of two faced carrying on is very bad because it leads to lack of trust and honesty whether in business or relationships.
I sent you the kiss because you do make me smile...you are good value for contributing to discussions on the blog and I love to have some good material which forces me to think about my views.
I am never offended by what anyone says, to, or about me, in the context of blogs, and I have a feeling you aren't either.
Has anyone ever seen the late night Parliament sessions on TV ?
No one should be getting upset just because people post differing views and the occasional shot.
I love Viper, Origami and all the other incarnations..hilarious and entertaining...and keeps things interesting.Could Somelifeinme come back for a turn?
Don't be hard on Kenny I think he was trying to defend you in some way in your absence and I am extremely flattered if you did say that.
Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 6:41 PM
Really OLDG you should let this lunch thing go.......
You didn't attend, and many people who know you as your other persona know why, as you do yourself.
Not going to reiterate boring blah blah about that and you know what neither should you or anyone else....
As JenJen said so well, your vitriol does you no favors.....
NF, l didn't attend the lunch but would love to know what mendacious means.
Off to put my rod in the water and see what l catch........K
Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 6:40 PM
Oldergent, it is easy for you to preach hamony and acceptance when as a male you are not on the receiving end (for the most part) of the injustice.
It is quite natural that you will fight against anything which will upset life as you know it.
Women can like and love men but still be unhappy at the fact that they are at a disadvantage because we live in a Patriachal society.
Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 6:15 PM
Aliane @ 1.58pm:
No, no, not you - I would never make fun of your name.
When I said naughtyfish was morphing last night during his post into Dim Sam, I meant Samantha Brite, one of his previous more abusive aliases.
Just back from very enjoyable lunch date and then Laundromat; now off to friend's nursing home and then to night tennis (St Hugh willing.)
Will address some very valid arguments from some very worthwhile blogfemmes when I get home, just before midnight, Mexican time.
Posted by: timewarp1 at February 17, 2008 6:10 PM
Isn't it interesting how things get distorted.
According to my source, the Melbourne bloggers meeting was by invitation only and certain people, including my source and OLDG were specifically not invited.
So lets get a message through to these little cliques of fishwives. Run your own net site if you like. Run your own exclusive little meetings if you like. Entertain yourself with narcissistic boring old farts but leave all the decent people on this site alone with your nauseous rantings and ravings on these blogs.
You are mendacious, self righteous, self absorbed, debris. Float off to some other beach and pollute that.
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 5:50 PM
OLDG.........there are one million people on this site........twenty or so of them got together for lunch in Melbourne, you didnt go and neither did I, SO WHAT ??!!.............your continued vitriol at a group of people you dont know (me either) says a lot more about the sort of person you are than it does about any of them.
Posted by: jenjen57 at February 17, 2008 5:38 PM
timewarp 14 Feb 11:40PM "WILLOW: You are leaving me for dead in both the length and breadth of your posts, without considering your virtual hospitality as well.
Time I retired from frequent blogging, to concentrate again on my income-earning and my RSVP serial dating - lining up a couple more FDs for the next few evenings."
timewarp, nice to see you are still around posting until the wee hours in the morning.
Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 5:35 PM
Good riddance I say. Concern yourself no more NF. Like attracts like..and it appears to be working very well.
Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 4:32 PM
Like attracts like. So true, OLDG, so very, very true.
Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 5:25 PM
Mate, there is an old saying in the industry, (and in any scrum, for that matter).
If you see a head, kick it.
Its the only way you'll ever earn respect.
Gawd, the football season can't come soon enough.
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 5:17 PM
Having reviewed the events of last night and this mornings posts (also having my wrist well and truly slapped from a friend) Virgil in his posts this morning put it in perspective. If my comments of last night caused any offence or insult to anybody involved please accept my apologies.
Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 4:49 PM
"There is an invitation only private blog site for horsche refugees from rsvp blogs, including that Kath and Kim Escapee Hidden Charms, where you can post and no-one but yourself reads your blogs.
It is the ultimate in narcissism, self flagellation, self vindication and mysticbating.
One of the Big Girls on this site can give you the reference.
It's a great site for Big Blousey Girls.
If they let you on, you could pen as Katies and give a few of them some dress sense, or address sense (as in how to address men's issues properly)
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 1:11 PM "
You are hilarious NF and as usual have hit the nail on the head. You forgot to mention that these low self esteem "man haters" band together to boost their victim mentality, as they are in the most part unsuccessful in getting dates, unsuccessful in healthy living ( read back over their numerous posts about how they view themselves as being over weight) they also smoke, their past partners left them..and for the icing on the cake they still rock up to "private" lunches that they organise through the blogs - approx 18 women to 2 or 3 men.
Good riddance I say. Concern yourself no more NF. Like attracts like..and it appears to be working very well.
Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 4:32 PM
I forgot to add the whole string:
"Or else one dummy puts in enough energy for two, while the other has its feet right off the tandem-bike pedals, like a parasite.
And it doesn't have to be the woman doing all the work, girls - in oldergent's case and mine, it was the man who was the dummy, pedalling for two".
Also this about us (the women):
"Just let them have the last word, and then they don't feel quite as keenly and presently the memory of all of the hurts that their own men have ever done them in the past."
You are accusing your ex partner of being a parasite, but we are the ones who are bitter about...."the memory of all of the hurts that their own men have ever done them in the past"
The worst part about misogynists is they often present as really nice men who respect and like women!! Give me NF anytime at least we know how he really feels!!
Posted by: amberlight58 at February 17, 2008 3:40 PM
Posted by: rsviper at February 17, 2008 10:39 AM
And that's pretty funny - every 2nd post of mine is full of venom?
And I'm not a multi profiler. Have enough going on with one life, thank you kindly, don't need another one to get me through the day.
Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 3:30 PM
Hello Everyone,
I read Timewarp's comments this afternoon and I would just like to ask one thing about the following :
"And it doesn't have to be the woman doing all the work, girls - in
oldergent's case and mine, it was the man who was the dummy, pedalling for two".
If we (the women on this site) make a statement even remotely similar to that e.g. from today122 at 7:03 PM yesterday:
"All I can add to this is that I spent many many years nurturing and caring and being responsible for my family, and I think it's now my turn for a life, and maybe even some caring and nurturing of me. I can choose to do that myself or I can look for someone else to give something back to me. But I cannot keep giving without this being replenished. I will not again deliberately take on responsibility for another adult, with the "reward" of only caring and nurturing them further down the track".
We (the women) are accused of being bitter and twisted and holding on to past hurts, whereas you men are seen as just merely reminiscing about your past!!
What exactly is the difference?
Posted by: amberlight58 at February 17, 2008 3:18 PM
thanks aliane i will take that advice ive only got stamps and pretty much they will expire on march 08. i know there is still good people out there and its hard to meet good peolpe like your self .and i have that respect take care
Posted by: stonecold3 at February 17, 2008 3:16 PM
NF and viper and others - tell us what are the men's issues that we should be debating then.
All we seem to hear is how hard women are to understand, moaning and groaning about what we want. Then we tell you, and it's attacked as bitterness and hysteria and not being able to move on or some rubbish.
You don't want to hear? so then don't ridicule what you can't listen to.
But stop blaming us for not being interested in fitting some mould not of our making or of our choosing.
The floor is all yours...........
And of course this is all generalising and putting in boxes - but then that's what you guys are doing to us.
Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 3:12 PM
Katie
There is an invitation only private blog site for horsche refugees from rsvp blogs, including that Kath and Kim Escapee Hidden Charms, where you can post and no-one but yourself reads your blogs.
It is the ultimate in narcissism, self flagellation, self vindication and mysticbating.
One of the Big Girls on this site can give you the reference.
It's a great site for Big Blousey Girls.
If they let you on, you could pen as Katies and give a few of them some dress sense, or address sense (as in how to address men's issues properly)
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 1:11 PM
hi everone how is your sunday going mine was going great until i had found someone and she was intrestred in me. and the next part i sent her a kiss and i sent her a message with my stamp and with no reply shes already gone .any ideas thanks take care everyone i have been awake at least 7 am still searching good luck. enjoy your sunday
Posted by: stonecold3 at February 17, 2008 1:10 PM
Hi Bob,it's last time I look at these blogs,it's very cliquey and seems you have to either be extremely nasty or overly fawning for someone to respond or acknowledge you. I have become more mean spirited with each entry I post and I dont like that at all. There are some nice genuine people on here, but its a forum for bitterness and arguments with the odd flirtation thrown in rather than a site to talk about the topics mentioned. Well good luck to you all, I do hope you find what you are looking for...and yes I can hear the cheers..yay she's finally gone!!! haha
Posted by: kateegirl at February 17, 2008 11:54 AM
Well I only have the one profile so can give sock puppets (the lowest form of life in internet forums) a hard time :)
RSVP should get on it and start logging IP addresses and banning sock puppets like any internet forum worth its salt would do.
Posted by: stoic at February 17, 2008 11:28 AM
I find it very odd/amusing that those giving Multiple profilers a hard time are actually guilty of the same offence. As for Today122 being a "crusty old cow" - you couldn't be further from the truth. Having spent several "girl nights" with her - she is truly the most amazing woman around, insightful, thoughtful, educated and just a wonderful person - and my guess is the mere male is intimidated....
Oldergent you are entitled to your opinions, but I refuse to believe we are not all equal. No one is better than me and I'm no better than anyone else, doesn't that make people equal??? Maybe that is naive, and so be it - but if I look at it any other way I'm going to be looking down on people or trying to look up and please them, not a way to make a relationship work.
Viper...I don't get why you have to be so damn nasty - does it make you feel "big", more of a man, dominant, whatever. Lessen the venom, see the light and try be a nicer person...the only one you are impressing on here is probably your good self and your clones.
Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 17, 2008 10:51 AM
Oldergent , l really could not be bothered comparing male and female profiles, and don't know why l would want to.
My point last evening was that there are imperfections on both sides of the fence, male and female....l thought l made that simple and clear....
Not having a direct go at any one with that comment...just my humble opinion is all ................K
Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 10:43 AM
Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 9:29 AM
Are you for real. You are the archetypal example of your own accusations. Every second blog you present pays mention of your x by way of some nasty bitter little comment..... Why not have a good long read of your own writings and then go away and practice what you preach....... Or better still instead of doing as lynath does, why not just do lynath.
Posted by: rsviper at February 17, 2008 10:39 AM
today122 re: your post at February 17, 2008 9:29 AM
Are you for real. You are the archetypal example of your own accusations. Every second blog you present pays mention of your “x” by way of some nasty bitter little comment..... Why not have a good long read of your own writings and then go away and practice what you preach....... Or better still instead of doing as lynath does, why not “just do lynath”.
Posted by: rsviper at February 17, 2008 10:35 AM
Hi Blue eyes
Ther seems to be something about kids and walking out, leaving the door open, my son did that to me a few years ago, I came in by the front door, and I also wondered if my house had been broken in to.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:03 AM
Virgil, I agree. I actually made a simialr comment a few days ago to a blogger. His own comments only showed his lesser side of his personality. MAybe we can come up with another topic.
I've got one-almost 20 year old daughter came home through front door and left through garage door while I was out. I got home about 10pm, only to find front door wide open. I had entered through garage door, left my attire in the laundry and walked to my bedroom only to find door wide open, then stood there in a slight panic thinking that someone else might be in the house.
I can one have a social life if you feel you have stay home and watch the grown up kid? She may not have a front door key for very long.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:49 AM
Hi Blue eyes
a lot of people on here dont do themselves many favours by the things they say, I would, however hope that like me, in times gone by, they read the logs of what went before, and feel a bit embarrassed.
Possibly, as some have suggested, the use of a stamp, to actually say sorry, if they feel they have been unduly critical or rude.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:35 AM
Lynath Sweetest. I have the perfect date for you.
Next time Benny Hinn comes to Australia, I will take you to see him. Just you and me Babe.
It's time you met J-E-S-U-S.
Let the Lord take control of your Life and You will Rest In Peace, eternally.
He will heal your past and you will leap into the future a happier soul with The Lord by your side.
Hallelujah sweetie.
Meanwhile, due to a bit of over-enthusiasm by a younger patrona of the Lord possessed by the Holy Ghost, I now have to get blood tests done every 3-6-9-12 months. She probably thought she saw the Devil Incarnate standing there and needed a good bite to put him down once and for all.
Nothing like variety. Spent 4 days in hospital after Indi. Who would have expected such a drama from a religious service.
If I survive this one, at least I will have Medical Certificates to flash in front of the faces of all these darlings on rsvp. I can proudly boast Heres Mine; Where's Yours.
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 9:29 AM
Good morning
I rarely blog on here these days because it's all just same old, same old.
And I'm not a serious old trout, full of my own self-importance I laugh and love with the best of em!!
But the condescensing and prescriptive fashion that women here are being communicated at, is not funny, however many jokes are thrown into the middle.
Men on here will never get women if they continue to a) act like a victim b) tell us we're selfish, god, what a joke! c) view women's statements as bitterness d) disregard women's stories.
Do these men really not realize that it does take two people to have a relationship? And if one of them is not listened to and patronized, but is continually told what is good for them and how to act and react, then it ain't ever gonna happen? What are men so scared of? Is protecting their turf really so important?
And all we are doing is telling our stories, to each other, for confirmation and acceptance, and to men assuming that somewhere in there they may actually listen and get what we mean, maybe somewhere take us seriously, for your own sakes.
We would all love caring full relationships, but we're not settling for more of the same. We're allowed to be fussy and if that means that some are rejected, fine but don't blame us any more.
We've been there and done that, and aint gonna do it again in a hurry.
If some men are so scared of being on their own maybe they should look at themselves, rather than continuing to tell women what is wrong with them.
Women of this age have done the doing for others for ever, and if that is all thats on offer all over again, then no thanks. We have other much better things to do in our lives. Will these men ever get it?
Or maybe I should do like Lynath and just talk to the other gals!
Too much too early on a Sunday morning, too bad.
Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 9:29 AM
Multiple bloggers? There are also multiple profilers. Actually picked one after reading profiles carefully. One of his profiles was on the straight and the other was there just for fun but did make out that he was rather chauvinistic. He had 2 sets of photos and until you looked closely you would think they were two different people. (different length hair etc .) It was quite clever and when i met him he seemed like a lot of fun. Oh, the things we do when we have spare time on our hands.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:26 AM
Before I go, one last comment, on misunderstanding:
Well lynath, seeing the great roundup of the feminist socitey has been gathered to the glory of all concerned. I as a male will let you on to the secrect of equality.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING. Nobody or anything is equal to another, to be individual, refutes the premise. All real people know this from first experience,and accept and adjust as needs may be. each person or living entity, lives or dies by this principle, feminists demand this as a right without knowing the cause or effect
Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 12:30 AM
We would all love romance but on an equal footing with any new partners.
Fantastic 40's and Fabulous 50's Sensational 60's and 70's
Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 12:13 AM
It is easy to see where misunderstanding occurs by looking at the above posts.
What the lynathdiary wants is an equal playing field, which is everybodies right.
To anwser that, older gent talks about people not being equal, which of course is absolutely correct, everyone has different talents and attributes.
What has happened here is that older gent has not read what Lynath said, and has commented at length on what he thought she said.
I suspect this may be the cause of much friction on here, and in the real life relationships we have.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:24 AM
Morning Virgil,
not sure that many would be up yet considering how late they were up blogging. And I do hope that their words are not fuelled by alcohol.
Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:13 AM
I wonder if all those with multiple blogger persona's could make a list and publish it here.
It could be fun having muliple persona's.
One could be a reasonable well thought out person who would get along with everyone, the second could be the woman hating mysoginist so well represented here, and the third could be a man, posting as a woman, appearing to come form a female perspective, but displaying the same woman hating attitude that pervades a lot of the text on here.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:10 AM
I may have mentioned before, that several years ago, I used to go into a chat room called "club34plus" with the plus being the verb, as we were all much plus.
In those days I used to smoke, while on the computer, and drink alcohol as well, as I feel most of us in the channel did.
I occasionally had disagreements with some other bloggers, and go to bed feeling sad, that There had been friction between myself and someone else on the channel I liked.
In the mornings I would look at the logs of the channel, and be horrified at what had been said, both by me, and others.
It is harder to get our meaning across in this medium, so we have to try harder, so alcohol in large quantities and blogging are not good companions.
Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 8:57 AM
theLynath Diary @ 5.41pm
1) "Timewarp... I do recall being "nice" just last Saturday to someone on the blogs.."
And you were very nice a lot of times tonight. Even to some members of that other sex.
(And thanks for an easier way to save my words, ready for when RSVP tells me I type such long, boring posts that they'd completely forgotten I was still there. So log in again. Which for me is nearly every time.)
2) "black hat...
witch...evil...bad....let's keep her quiet by burning her at the stake...or at the very least making her appear 'not nice" to distract from her points.
women (sic) know thy place?" (end of quote.)
TLD: Why do all you women have to put a male-vs-female-fight-to-the-death totally-sexist connotation onto every bloody thing all the time? It's all so one-dimensionally unproductive. As well as boring.
(Oh dear - I'm sounding like The Stirrer, tonight impersonating naughtyfish for a while, and then, once he got out of his adult into his critical parent, morphing seamlessly into DimSam.)
The above TLD quote is the best example I've seen lately of this one-eyed sexist paranoia. Which is why I just quoted it in full.
And guess what: As a converted card-carrying feminist for the last 25 years, AND a victim of the PC Doberman Sisters on these blogs a few months ago, (you included, TLD, I seem to recall), I had very carefully chosen a completely asexual symbol for the difference between agressors and law-enforcers:
In the classic G-rated coyboy movies of my youth, the outlaws always wore black hats, and the sherriff and posse wore white ones.
So even at their usual full gallop, you could see in a flash who were the aggressors, and who were the upholders of embroyonic civilisation amongst greedy, selfish chaos.
So much for male attack, imagined every moment and from every quarter. Kvatch.
And my take on tonight's gabfest?
Some people who happened to be female recalled the bad treatment they'd received from some people who'd happened to be male, and wove that shared memory into
All_men_are_bastards .com (a recent best-seller) and
We_dont_need_them_anymore .com
(Soon to be another best-seller? All the women on here tonight were writing chapters ...)
- but wait a bit: if and when we get over our angst at all that male maltreatment so long ago, we might just like to see a little teeny bit of some very nice man, ON OUR OWN TERMS.
If any nice men still exist, that is, outside of the marriages that are continuing decade after decade,
(and now it's me talking)
because BOTH PARTNERS keep doing the hard yards year after year, ie. contributing the continuous flow of positive energy that is needed to keep any physical or social system from soon grinding to a halt. (Entropy theory.)
Or else one dummy puts in enough energy for two, while the other has its feet right off the tandem-bike pedals, like a parasite.
And it doesn't have to be the woman doing all the work, girls - in oldergent's case and mine, it was the man who was the dummy, pedalling for two.
That's why "unselfish" is on the top of my preferred-partner list, as it needs to be for you girls, when you finally get around to wanting a partner, enough to do something about it.
Nightie-bye for now, or if you're reading this on Sunday morning,
Go tigress! Skitch him!
Posted by: timewarp1 at February 17, 2008 3:56 AM
Oldergent,
There is no animosity between the sexes, only between individuals of either sex.
You will have a good connection with women if you actually like them, and they understand that you enjoy listening to their points of view without being condescending.
We all like people to whom we are not attracted for a physical relationship; that doesn't make us bad people, it makes us human.
Bob
Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 2:59 AM
Greetings, Small-hours snorers! (Some other night-owl may even see this tonight.)
OLDERGENT, you are wrong. About several things:
* Your first glitz was blabbing what I'd emailed to you today, telling you what I thought of theLynathDiary. Now she's gone and sent me a kiss, saying she's finally read my profile, and it made her smile.
But I don't know how widely. So I'm guessing a roolly big smile, and probably ROFLHBO. (A gentleman doesn't use the "A" word in front of ladies - even in an acronym, so I substitute a "B".)
So I'm going to have to use my last stamp to ask her how widely, and more-importantly, which bits caused her the most unbridled mirth.
And then buy another book of stamps, when the first of my most recent batch of outgoing kisses leads to an invite to email someone. Never mind - I'm always prepared to put a bit of money where my kisser is.
* Your second mistake was trying to defend a previous statement of yours when under femmattack.
Just let them have the last word, and then they don't feel quite as keenly and presently the memory of all of the hurts that their own men have ever done them in the past.
* But your worst booboo tonight was saying negative personal things out loud on the blog about one or more ladies.
The first rule of modern man-management is "Public praise, but private blame." I used to teach that very slogan (amongst many others)until 30 years ago, when I stopped moonlighting on the evening staff of the management school at my local TAFE.
And that advice goes for woman-management too, in trumps.
This is the drill, mate: spend a stamp to send her a private email, and even then choose your criticising words very carefully - don't want to seem churlish, even in private to someone who's just given you sti
timewarp you little pseudohermaphrodite you.... Looks like a boy squeals like a girl....
Your post at 7:01am Feb 18 reads as follows.... She said you did I would she will they can't. I said I will they won't who said what .......
As in the above abridged version please just keep your crap filled long winded posts short and simple. Much like yourself in fact.
Posted by: rsviper at February 18, 2008 9:25 AM