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timewarp you little pseudohermaphrodite you.... Looks like a boy squeals like a girl....

Your post at 7:01am Feb 18 reads as follows.... She said you did I would she will they can't. I said I will they won't who said what .......

As in the above abridged version please just keep your crap filled long winded posts short and simple. Much like yourself in fact.

Posted by: rsviper at February 18, 2008 9:25 AM

WILLOW: Thank you for reminding me I should be busy $$ working, or else adding to my collection of first-dated females, instead of still blogging to excess.

I can only plead occupational therapy.

My Melbourne week had been a major emotional overload. Eleven hours straight of listening to Sydney Bob charming the hearts and minds off the Melbourne blogfemmes was a long hard assignment for a dedicated student.

And I was sometimes even called upon to speak briefly myself, during the regular pleniary sessions on the opposite footpath.

And left wondering helplessly what to say back to the charmer who said late at night "Yes Bill, I'd certainly have your babies - if only you were 30 years younger."

Then lunching on Monday with my actual 1960 lover and on Tuesday with my 1961 lover brought back floods of older memories.

Add Traumas trying to climb up my hostel top bunk's ladder at midnight on Saturday, without pulling the whole empty double-decker bed over on top of myself, and missing the wheeled stool I was planning to sit on at the hostel phone on Wednesday, so that I landed on my back on the floor.

And finally hearing faintly through the hostie yelling at me to switch off my mobile "IMMEDIATELY" so she could sit down ready for takeoff, that my 9pm lift home from the airport had fallen through. And being unable to contact another friend till I'd landed almost penniless ...

And after that the total anticlimax of living and working hard alone, night and day.

I'm sorry Willow. I've been hiding from reality most of the weekend back in the blog with my friends. But now I must ask forgiveness from the usually-lurkers who pop out to pick on me for submitting such long posts that they can't even fast-forward their unathletic meece across them, and then I must get back to work.

Enjoy your cyber-fun, and you dedicated Negatives, try to flog only live horses to death.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 18, 2008 9:05 AM

Morning NF, just up and catching up on the remainder of last nights blog with cuppa in hand before going to work. Was the compliment to Bluey me? Thanks if it was and no I am no other entity than myself. (name actually matches my profile-one name,one profile,one and only me).

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 18, 2008 7:38 AM

Good morning, lapdog of ISTJ and PC/OLDG. Dawn there yet? Not quite yet, up here, but a few birdcalls.

You were dead wrong, sonny, at 5.19am today. Get it straight, for Eros' sake:

1) Ninaschen clearly explained at 7.04pm last night (all over again, for the many-too-manyeth time) why her planned open meeting in Feb suddenly had to be restricted to those who had NOT made public written threats against the privacy of other attendees.

2) Then in a hysterical post at 7.27 last night, OLD Goddess re-torpedoed her claim that she ain't Boo HooFP, nohow, posse.

Following her previous boo Boo of posting the same piece under both aliases.

3) And now you're taking your turn on the Exclusivity dead horse. So I'm guessing buddy ISTJ will take the following shift, perhaps later this morning.

4) Two completely separate Brisbane bloggermeets were being planned simultaneously and separately for mid-January.

I organised one, which was open to all actual posters, and advertised as such on the blogs for a couple of weeks. It was to have been held at today122's Bayside home.

As well as the open invitation on the blogs which a number of people responded to, I personally invited a number of positive-posting south-Queensland regular bloggers, by individual stamped-emails at my own expense. I like a nice big party, and why not rent a crowd?

JenJen was coming, but was then also invited to another meet, then being planned by another mob of Brisbanites, for when Wraecca was coming north on holiday.

Theirs was going to be on the same afternoon, so I wanted to join with them somewhere, to make well over a dozen attendees. I asked, and they agreed.

They wanted a more central location than Bayside. Our mob agreed - yes, that would be better, and I chose it for us all.

5) As for Melbourne in Feb, after BooHooPF's threat made her persona non grata at the now no-longer open meet, I challenged her to hold a competing one on the same weekend - to put up or shut up.

6) And I asked if I could come to hers too, while I was down in Melbourne for a week on business. And I offered to send stamped emails to other people she wanted to invite, at my expense.

It's all in the blogs, clear as day, for anyone who can read, as well as stir.

7) And we're all still waiting for BooHooFP to do something (anything) useful or proactive, instead of just playing her habitual game of noisy victim, in between posting unacknowledged plagiarised populist periodical extracts, signed off with one of her aliases.

8) And as for you, Mr MorphMaster, how about getting back on your own 10-name bike, and back to insulting us or amusing us or educating us, all of which you do so well - till you get on the turps and regress back to lower-primary-school invective that's so pitiful, it's funny.

Now it is dawn. Think I'll go for a nice healthy walk before sunrise, instead of sleeping last night. Still got my runners on, from tennis.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 18, 2008 7:01 AM

Brilliant Bluey,

You wunnerful person (starting to sound like Slimey; gunna have to watch that).

May be you are the Viper, der Vishus Vinscreen Viper.

Someone obvious has got to be the guilty party, unless Fotoman has honed his quick change vaudeville act to perfection. Wants to give Dame Edna a run for her money.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 18, 2008 6:47 AM

Lynath Sweetest.

I only suggested a Benny Hinn Show as a means of getting you out of the house.

I found it wonderful entertainment. I admire people who are at the top of their profession. The Art of Persuasion is an incredible skill shared eg by only a few top QCs, and this gentleman is at the height of his calling. (We all know about the downside, thank you.)

You must remember that as a callow kid I was dragged to the front at a huge Billy Graham meet to rid me of my sins, such as I had then accumulated by that tender age (hadn't really had a chance to have a good go at sin, but that is by the by, still trying to get a few under my belt).

Since those early days, the healing, falling backwards and jumpies for joy performances have been added to the retinue to great effect. Watch his hands snap and lo, the Lord helps them fall backwards into the ever waiting hands of a few dozen ever present minders.

And I stood so much in awe of Sly, the head bodyguard ex Gridiron player, at 400 kg and wearing a suit like a tent, the biggest of a huge contingent of personal bodyguards Hinn had brought over from the States, that I regret not being able to photograph him so I could hang his pikkie on the wall as a pin up boy for us lackeys.

AS for antibiotics and blood tests (yes, these are mandatory for those of us who get up front and personal with crowd control), I only mentioned these as a form of relief from my onerous duties as a male on a site like this. Maybe a good holiday would also do the trick- by myself.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 18, 2008 5:46 AM

1) WILLOW: You are an omnivorous delight. Thank you so much for lightening up this blog tonight so skilfully, just when it most needed it.

2) To those I disappointed last night, eg. AL58 @ 3.18 and 3.40pm today, and especially to the gorgeous and usually incisive TLD, in response to hers at 6.41pm:

Sorry for delay replying. Only home from tennis way across town at 11.30pm Mexican time, and a number of new very personal emails to answer, before I could clock off from my onerous dating life, and come play with youall in the blogpit.

TLD: I like your idea, and I will do as you suggest. Starting now.

I WILL come clean and reveal all. And not in my previously-planned private email just to you, in response to your pucker-up yesterday (which has today become so much more welcome, thanks to your detailed explanation of its rationale.)

No: I'll say it out here in fenceless blogland, for all the tribe to hear.

The -original people of this continent (I'm calling them that, because I am sure that the prefix "ab-" will by now have been No_mentionable_colour - Listed by the 2_letter_acronym PC Nazis that you mentioned in yours, whoever they are ...)

- well, thosefellers had a very different style of management, which I always suggest my students should call "The Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing" style of management.

This was OK for them back then, because all they had to wash was G-strings (my Eros! think of the bum-cracks!!)

Or, if you're a visualising chick, fantasize about all those totally-visible hot buns, and not only for the 3 whole months before Easter ....

Later on, this particular style of dealing with altercations of any kind has led to the removal of all the backyard fences in Redfern, to provide an uninterrupted venue for full-city-block tribal hearings of all interpersonal complaints.

(There have been No_mentionable_colour-feller allegations that the fences were actually removed in winter time, to fuel Redfern's wood-burning room-heaters, but these claims have not yet been substantiated.)

This is because the proposal to fund that investigation was vetoed by the Department of -original Affairs, on the grounds that No_mentionable_colour-feller activities in Redfern or anywhere else are no bleep concern of No_mentionable_colour-fellers in Canberra, or anywhere else where the red, yellow and black flies proudly (or is replaced by a red, white and blue one), over drunken wife-beating, childhood incest and whatever also happens in No_mentionable_colour normal society, outside the No_mentionable_colour-feller Reservations.

Enough of this -diginous social history, and back to explaining why I disappointed you ladies in my post to oldergent last night.

Oldergent had been a naughty boy yesterday. Went swimming in the red cordial in the evening, and it had the same effect we've often seen before with Eric - it makes Knowledgeable Newcastle Niceguys into Nasty Negative Knockers.

Back to the transparent-coloured-hatted chase, where the horses are now spray-painted pink over white, and blue over black:

Last night the old bloke from Newcastle used his red-cordial-buoyant wireless laptop to speak to several of you ladies as if he was a cranky oldcodger aged 72, and not an ageless -gent at all.

That's bad enough, but he doesn't have Eric's flair for going far enough over the top to overshoot his target, so as to amuse as well as insult. It just sounded nasty.

I do use the Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing style of management. So I spoke sternly to the naughty boy in my whole-tribally-visible post last night. So did Sydney Bob at about the same ungodly hour, but not at such length.

I also use the public praise, private blame technique. So I also spoke to the older-ex-gent much more sternly in a private email, to spare him the extra embarrassment of having the whole tribe, including one and a half battalions of lurkers, witness the worst of the stick that I was giving him.

This country is too modern and merciful to still have public executions like some US states, or the public leg-spearings of our own -diginous past.

But it is better if even Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing justice can seem a little merciful to the accused.

So I pandared to his rapidly-bruising ego with the give-them-the-last-word clause which amberlight58 took such exception to.

Please remember that my whole post was addressed to the older gent personally, and to no-one else. Youall were only getting courtesy copies, because I had chosen to play that particular round by the rules of Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing.

So if uninvolved third parties sitting in the public gallery 3 backyards up the street should choose to listen in, because it's the prosecutor speaking out loud in a Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing court, what I say is this:

They chose to be attending the arrainment, AND listening in to every word, rather than fast-forwarding across all the boring-old-fart legal jargon.

And if those same uninvolved third parties then chose not to control their Dobermans OR their self-knotting knickers (where are those Silent-K police, when you need them?) but instead chose to try from the public gallery/next backyard to widen the case so it would also include their own vested interests, I claim that that's their problem, not the prosecution's.

Please also note that this particular factor is a recognised complication of the Show_the_whole_Tribe_all_your_dirty_Washing legal system.

And is one of the reasons why the "Public praise, private blame" system has replaced it, whereever modern merciful official policy allows punishment to be given in private, rather than always being served with a side-order of public humiliation.

Ladies of the jury, my case rests. Now can I go to bed please? It's 4.30am natural sun time, and I'm tired.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 18, 2008 5:26 AM

Maybe the point has not been hammered home.

An invitation only bloggers meeting is offensive to many people on here and was an insult to 2 individuals who attended the previous open meeting.

The Rules of RSVP clearly require offensive material to be removed or edited out.

The same would apply if some idiot starting to use the blogs to advertise.

There is a place for advertisements on RSVP- after paying the dues- and it would not be on the blogs.

Likewise the blogs are no place for offensive and insulting material.

The moderators should now go through the blogs and remove every single reference to any bloggers meeting, which includes both Brisbane meetings (which were also vetted- now weren't they Michael!)

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 18, 2008 5:19 AM

Sorry Willow, l forgot that Tony Martin is a largely Melbourne known radio guy, once part of the D-Gen years ago on ABC with the Working Gog guys, Rob Sitch, Santo Cilauro, Tom Gleisner.
He was also on radio here on a program called MartinMolloy with Mick Molloy, and until recently had a show on MMM l think.
May have been syndicated.
Still gets his head on the telly now and then, and your profile pics bear quite a likeness to him in my ever so humble opinion.............K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 18, 2008 1:08 AM

amberlight 11:46PM "You could perhaps write to the editor and ask for a special pull-out section (maybe in the middle of the sporting pages?)"

Given where I am reading the Sunday Mail in the post I made at 9:09PM exactly what are you suggesting I pull out here. Is you mind as "unusual or naughty" as mine?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 18, 2008 12:12 AM

Willow...still giggling at the carwash episode - I'm sure she was definitely a lights on, nobody home kinda girl.

Rider, invest in a belt - the buttcrack thing is just the worst look going. Nothing worse than seeing guys with their jeans seam down around their knees and their boxers hanging out!
Another solution is keep eating those easter-eggs...that'll fill you out and hold the shorts up :) If they are Cadbury's can I share with you??? If not, then it's quite okay...more to fill you up and hold those shorts on!!

Just plowed through pages of blogs...some very entertaining, thanks Blue and Willow...some the usual vindictive crap. Why, oh why, do people keep going on and on about private blogs? Is it the whole "I've not been asked over to play, therefore I'll bag anyone who has?" syndrome. It is so 2nd grade it's not funny. See that type of behaviour in the classrooms often. Get over it - if friends want to get together and you're not invited, get over that too - or get some friends and have your own drinks...simple. Don't crush others for doing a social thing. So what if the ratio is even, is it ever? Social drinks are not pairing off parties...they are simply SOCIAL drinks!

All this reading....time to sleep.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 17, 2008 11:59 PM

Hello everyone,
Busy tonight so have only just checked in and out. The talk was mostly very amusing and civil tonight; more like some of the entries I saw on the Dangerous Mistakes blog when I thought it might be nice to join in!

Willow, I can't wait for the latest update of your quest to lose your post-marital virginity. Will you be seeing your "first date for 08" again in the near future?
It was a pity you were disappointed with the "new look" Sunday Mail. You could perhaps write to the editor and ask for a special pull-out section (maybe in the middle of the sporting pages?)
Keep it up!

Cheers All

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 17, 2008 11:46 PM

Malsie - could we ask you to unhide your profile for a little minute please?

Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 11:25 PM

Blueeyes-then I would be Slidersofthecrackerstorm!

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 11:06 PM

life is much more interesting with footy back, the tribal conflict can be so much more interesting than the personal abuse that is sometimes evidenced here

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 11:00 PM

Malsie- not fair ...you don't display your profile :(

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:59 PM

I hate the Eagles (used to be just the fans I hated but then it was the whole club) and it's not that I like Freo - I just don't have anything against them.

Posted by: stoic at February 17, 2008 10:53 PM

Malsie- Thanks for the comp :) what is her profile name ? if I may ask of course :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:53 PM

goodnight willow, and blue eyes, loved the Irish joke.
an Adelaide meet would be really cool slight synch.
stoic, do you like freo? or just hate the eagles?

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:51 PM

Rider, if you went commando or is it "free-ba**ing" for guys, then you wouldn't have to worry if the shorts were slipping. A scary thought either way.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:51 PM

willow, will send you an email on colour selection after comsulting with daughters. Not that I think anyone was noticing toe nail polish-methinks the focus was elsewhere.
I also must bid goodnight. Some of us need more sleep than others.
Congrats to all tonight-you turned the tables around and unless things deteriorate after my departure-everyone has been on a much more positive note for the last couple of hours.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:43 PM

Blueeyes- funny you mention that particular look as I was guilty of it today..I was walking to the cinema and forgot the shorts I had on were not as tight as they uesd to be. By the time I crossed the road my undies were there to be seen by the whole of society!

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:42 PM

Thanks, ridersonthestorm - I just had a look at your profile, and I think I'll send her over from Perth to Melbourne!!! Always looking out for my girl.....

Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 10:41 PM

willow1059 - thanks for the chuckle - loved your joke! tee hee....

Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 10:37 PM

Goodnight all, I've had fun. Time to go do a hundred sit-ups so I can see my toes in the morning.

Blueyes, should I put on pink or purple toe nail polish so I can get an invite to one of these wild parties.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:37 PM

Who is Ars.wiper....Eric, Earl or FP?

Posted by: brilliantblue at February 17, 2008 10:36 PM

well stoic, when I go to watch the game next week I wont have divided loyalties as I watch the pride of south australia demolish the freo bombers

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:36 PM

hi Slightsynch
I would like to attend a meeting of Adelaide bloggers, I will wear my Adelaide Tshirt and bring my Westcoast Bag, as it holds my camera, my phone my water bottle assorted bus timetables and my little transistor radio

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:33 PM

Virgil - The Freo Bombers are giving the West Coast Wankers a 40 point hiding in the second quarter :)

Posted by: stoic at February 17, 2008 10:32 PM

Voted best joke in Ireland 2007.

John O'Reilly hoisted his beer and said, 'Here's to spending the rest of me life between the legs of me wife!'

That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night!

He went home and told his wife, Mary, 'I won the prize for the Best toast of the night' She said, 'Aye, did ye now. And what was your toast?' John said, 'Here's to spending the rest of me life, sitting in church beside me wife.'

'Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!' Mary said.

The next day, Mary ran into one of John's drinking buddies on the street corner. The man chuckled leeringly and said, 'John won the prize the other night at the pub with a toast about you, Mary.'

She said, 'Aye, he told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he's only been there twice in the last four years. Once he fell asleep, and the other time I had to pull him by the ears to make him come.'

I believe John played football as well but did not understand the rules.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:32 PM

Willow, would be doubly flattered.
Rider-Wonder if all us bloggers are over 25 as we are not arguing on this topic. Any of the looks are not enticing-including the 'hang the trousers on the front coat hook' look where the crutch is about level with the knees making the legs look like they are half the length they should be and that there is more hanging in the rear of their pants than we care to imagine.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:30 PM

Malsie-I am sure she will make great choices..
:)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:27 PM

virgil 10:12PM "I cannot get tv reception, as I dont have foxtel and didnt go to the casino tonight because i wanted to be here sharing special moments with you all"

This is great news, I see we have partly helped you to cure your addiction to footy.

By the time blueeyes teaches you how to bowl the maiden overs (be very gentle) and I teach you about legal balls (solicitors, etc) and how to protect yourself from injury with leg before wicket you will be fine.

Believe me, once you have convinced the ladies about how your sporting skills and stamina have grown you will have no shortage of gorgeous women to watch footy and cricket with.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:27 PM

OK now look what the in-clique have gone and done. You lot have scared off Kateegirl. She has run off sulking because none of you would talk to her....... You girls of the coterie club better stop chasing away all the lookers or someone might think you nasty old nags are jealous.
You should of hung around a bit longer today Kateegirl because someone, I think it was another looker, has upset one of the clique and it seems that the rest of them have been on the turps all day and have immediately raced in to join the melee, just itching for a cat fight................. Well Kateegirl your are as silly as the rest of them for wanting to be a part of their snobbish gang mentality.

Posted by: rsviper at February 17, 2008 10:26 PM

ridersonthestorm - I think currently she's rather enjoying being a "chip"! She's level headed and I know she'll make great choices. I know even from my own experience how "new" people invite interest, I just never got near that level of "exceeded maximum kisses" thing.... perhaps indeed it is an age thing. Anyway, she's having fun, and I know she'll take it in her stride! Just made me laugh....

Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 10:22 PM

BOB,

Any kind of bum-crack is a bad look..what about the undie+bum-crack look?

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:21 PM

blueeyes 10:10 "Permission granted Willow. I'm flattered."

Just discovered you were already there, if I add you again will you be twice as flattered.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:20 PM

blueeyes, I suspect you could teach Virgil far better than I how to bowl a maiden over.

Do you know cricket umpires can be sooooo rude. The other day I was watching Brett Lee bowl, when the umpire yelled out really loudly NO BALLLL. Poor Brett appeared really distraught the umpire would announce his impediment to the whole TV audience. Sheepisly he put his hand in his pocket while he walked back to where he starts his run.

Worse still, after calling it the umpire stuck his arm out staight to his side then turned around to the scorers in the grandstand for all to see. As if to say this is how big mine is, what about yours. I wonder if the scorers were men or women.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:17 PM

ahhh after shoes

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:15 PM

As we blog happily here West Coast and Fremantle are battling it out for the honour of playing the Pride of South Australia the mighty Adelaide Crows.
I cannot get tv reception, as I dont have foxtel and didnt go to the casino tonight because i wanted to be here sharing special moments with you all

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:12 PM

Virgil, I do not recall my footy definitions on Valentines Day covering T-shirts, we did talk about socks, etc.

Is a T-shirt something the full back wears, if so what do the forwards wear. Also, at what point of the evening do you take it off, before or after shoes.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:10 PM

Permission granted Willow. I'm flattered.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:10 PM

Hi Rider,

Same sex kissing to me is like the bum-crack revolution - a bad look...male or female (who'd have thought female bum-crack was a bad look)!!!

And before everyone on here who thinks that I am homophobic jumps on this...you could not be any more wrong if you tried. I have had many gay friends throughout my life and have no problem one way or the other - to each their own.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 10:09 PM

Willow,am sure you could teach them all how to bowl the maiden over.
Virgil, it's okay if it wasn't you-just means someone out there is interested.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 10:05 PM

willow, so far i havent got a scarf, or socks, but I now have 3 Crows T shirts and both Permiership videos.

There certainly wer some lovely ladies in the crowd watching the historic first premiership.
The camera crew certainly put the whole thing in perspective by focussing on several St Kilda male supporters openly crying.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:03 PM

blueeyes, can I add you to my favourites?

I think Virgil has been at footy practice.

SS I missed The Maldives as well, I think it was after the Willow Virtual dinner, do you remember which blog it was in?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 10:02 PM

Hi Kate,

My earlier post seems to have gotten lost so, if you should read this, I will very much miss your posts....you are a lovely lady and its always disappointing to see good people leave through disillusionment.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 10:01 PM

two guys kissing just is not a good sight...my gay friends don't even do that in front of me...male or female...but whatever takes you fancy I suppose.

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 10:01 PM

virgil, its OK if you cannot play cricket, I'll post instructions for you in the future. Its like the footy game but you play with smaller balls. These days they have one day, 50 over games. Great for us approaching that age.

Just watched the last Indian batsman get caught behind. Do you know he did not smile, when I was young I knew lots of men in the gay clubs who loved to get their behinds caught.

PS Are you trying to find the lady to go with your socks and scarfes?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:57 PM

Hi there kategirl...shame you are going...maybe you will read and pop back in one day. Its quite positive at times. Did you ever read the Maldives Monday night blog. Now that was funny and a bit naughty even. I totally agree that there is too much bitterness, resentment and angst at time. Shame people can not leave that outside of the blog. I attempt to be neutral but some comments get a rise out of me. Take care and hope that you find "The One."

ANY blogger coming to Adelaide who is going to Womadelaide music festival...send me a kiss and I will email (when I buy stamps, this week, WOW) or if you email I will buy several drinks if we meet up at Womadelaide. Of course it is subject to ticket availability.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 17, 2008 9:56 PM

Now turn the tables around. If the guys are intereted in what the girls are doing at parties (as described below) what would the reaction be if 2 guys were doing it? I don't think it would excite me!
Bloggers-so far so good- no criticism of people's opinions and we have had a few so far.
Virgil- i knew you were there somewhere.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:55 PM

OLDG/NF,

I was one of the number of guys at this lunch in Melbourne - no manhaters or maneaters present...just a bunch of normal people who had developed on-line friendships using the opportunity to meet each other in person. None of the women seemed the least bit desperate and eveyone just enjoyed each others company.

The reason nothing much has been posted here is because it unfortunately ended up "invitation only", and no-one sees the point in discussing it on RSVP; an open site for all to participate and find relationships of all sorts.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 9:53 PM

Hi blue eyes, i did look at your profile, while catching up with what went before, while I was out.
I am sorry to say it was not me that added you to my favorites. I have not added anyone to my favotites for a while now. I was out most of today, and so far have not looked at the Sunday Male. No doubt will get a chance later.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:53 PM

aunty who is Tony Martin, should I know?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:50 PM

Whilst at Uni (still is), my daughter won a competition at her local pub for smooching another female. When I raised my eybrows as she related this she did the eye-rolling thing at me. You know, the one that says "mum, you are just sooo not cool". This is what they do, apparently!

Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 9:50 PM

Blueeyes- I see that kind of behaviour at clubs from time to time..never had the pleasure of seeing it at parties when I was 18!! or did I ?? best I go check my memory card ...thinking...thinking ...ahhh yes...now I remember...WOW !!!

:)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 9:46 PM

my teachers never minded me wagging much because when present, physically, I certainly wasnt present mentally, and had a tendency to be a bit quietly disruptive.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:42 PM

I thought RSVP had an IM or rather chat feature on it ...oh hang on that cost a stamp doesnt it..the blogs are free lets chat there..because heaven forbid we should actually comment on the topic. Online dating is easy people, its the meeting that turns out to be a worry.

Posted by: hondalady at February 17, 2008 9:41 PM

Hi Willow,
I was never much interested in cricket, as i have a bad tendency to hate losing. I loved chess, tennis and 10pin bowling, because I was good at these things, but as I was not good at cricket, I was usually one of the last to get a bowl, or to get to bat, so I quickly lost interest in cricket, and usually used to wag the summer friday afternoons.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:39 PM

My daughter has just gone on to rsvp - I tried to send her a virtual kiss tonight, and couldn't, because.... she's already exceeded her maximum kisses for the day! Ha! I thought that only happened in fairy tales... tee hee, way to go, darling!!

Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 9:28 PM

Mmmm, when a girl comes up as a new member the seagulls come flying in screaming "mine mine " ask her in a few days what it feels like to be a chip ?
:)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 9:37 PM

quote -There is an invitation only private blog site for horsche refugees from rsvp blogs, including that Kath and Kim Escapee Hidden Charms, where you can post and no-one but yourself reads your blogs.
It is the ultimate in narcissism, self flagellation, self vindication and mysticbating.
One of the Big Girls on this site can give you the reference.
It's a great site for Big Blousey Girls.

If they let you on, you could pen as Katies and give a few of them some dress sense, or address sense (as in how to address men's issues properly)
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 1:11 PM "

You are hilarious NF and as usual have hit the nail on the head. You forgot to mention that these low self esteem "man haters" band together to boost their victim mentality, as they are in the most part unsuccessful in getting dates, unsuccessful in healthy living ( read back over their numerous posts about how they view themselves as being over weight) they also smoke, their past partners left them..and for the icing on the cake they still rock up to "private" lunches that they organise through the blogs - approx 18 women to 2 or 3 men.

Good riddance I say. Concern yourself no more NF. Like attracts like..and it appears to be working very well.

Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 4:32 PM - end quote

What a pile of horseshit..and you are sounding like femalepersuasion!!!

I don't mormally get into these shitty little fights, but I an getting sick of the garbage.

If you want to organsie a lunch or dinner with your friends...DO IT. Because that is what we have done.

Do not keep crapping on about other people who have formed friendships. friend go out with each other....don't you do that with your friends?

I don't expect to be invited out with your friends, so you are not invited to go out with mine especailly as it turns out you are both whingers!!!!

One of the unexpected benefits of RSVP , as well as dating many men, and I love men!!!! Is that I have made genuine friendships, not just virtual...I have met 8 of the Melbourne bloggers at a lunch last Sundayin Melbourne, and I did the same at Sydney last December...and again this coming weekend.

We have used our stamps to communicate, plus I blog!!!!! RSVP and a friends site....It is really simple.....I have not met any man haters, or lone bloggers, or seen victim mentality, or too many females at any event, it has been a really even mix and it is a lot of FUN.

So get off your butts, stop waiting around for RSVP to fufil you love or lust dreams, be proactive and organise something yourselves.

Who wants the soapbox tiara now...I am done..If you want to talk.....Email me and stop the bitching.....jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at February 17, 2008 9:36 PM

Willow has anyone told you that you resemble Tony Martin???..........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 9:34 PM

I think it may have started in the 1970's blue eyes, when gilrs started to dance together, and has become girls pashing together.
If we said that we dont approve, they might think they are on a winner here, especially as the young boys might be getting some sexual excitement from watching it. What do we do? I dont know, but it needs to be done in a loing respectful and caring manner, and definitely not a knee jerk reaction.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:33 PM

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:53 PM

I like them hard :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 9:32 PM

today122, maybe it's just my mood, but your earlier longish post rather resonated with me - I don't know you, but I like you, for whatever that is worth.

My daughter has just gone on to rsvp - I tried to send her a virtual kiss tonight, and couldn't, because.... she's already exceeded her maximum kisses for the day! Ha! I thought that only happened in fairy tales... tee hee, way to go, darling!!

Posted by: malsie at February 17, 2008 9:28 PM

thanks for the instructions tip blueeyes but there really were no words printed at all, where would I find instructions?

Honestly, I know the VIC's think we live in a backwater here in SA but how hard can it be to read a paper.

The more I think about it, the more flushed I get.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:19 PM

pickle and blueeyes, the weird thing is that I remember anything about those parties.

Virgil, if you are there as blueeyes says let me know whether you need me to teach you how to play cricket as well as football.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:15 PM

willow-did you forget to read the instructions first?

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:14 PM

Willow again. I must tell you about a really exciting development in the print media business in South Australia.

Today I purchased a paper exclusively produced for us men. It is called The Sunday Mail. I eagerly anticipated what awaited me after I had unrolled it.

As many men do I retired to the toilet with it so my undivided attention could be bought to bear upon the contents. You will not believe this, there was not a single word printed on any one of the one hundred and eighty pages that were 11 cm square (about the size of a male hand), however there were some motifs.

I was most angry, even more so when I discovered each sheet had been poorly manufactured so they were very soft and textured.

Do you think I should ask for a refund or take it to the recyclers?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 9:09 PM

Hi Virgil, are you going to add your opinion? Just caught you smiling at me, so know you are somewhere there.Did you just add me to your favourites-my number just jumped up by one.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:06 PM

willow, forgot to add-I must have been brought up in the wrong state. I didn't ever go to parties like that.But then again-you are a tad bit younger than I.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 8:59 PM

Willow - Blue Eyes - they didnt do that at any parties i went to in "my day" or maybe NZ missed out on that party trick??

Posted by: picklessister at February 17, 2008 8:59 PM

Videos moreofaman- if my daughter was there and someone was making videos-then i would be doing everything in my power to make sure noone,including you,saw them.
Willow,seeing how you live so far away, you might have to be satisfied with a 'virtual' invitation.
Well done so far guy and gals-no one has criticised or put down someone else's opinion on the topic. But it is only early!

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 8:57 PM

rider, just caught up with your generous offer to supply easter eggs for the next virtual dinner.

May I have ninas eggs since she has declined them.

I must ask, do you have them hard or melted?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:53 PM

faman4u, she had lights on, lots of them, way smarter than me, smart enough for my whole street.

blueeyes, they did that in our days. Well they did at the parties I went to. Mind you, so did some of the boys. Same reasons, perhaps some times.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:49 PM

willow was she a blonde, lights on, nobody home look or theres air between those ears?
Blueeyes pls ask your daughter when does the video or cd come out. To be honest guys these days are shit scared to ask a girl virtually anything at a party work supermarket just anywhere.Mainly cos if she calls rape or claims he s stalking her he is in the car car, so thats why its safer just to watch;)

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 17, 2008 8:41 PM

blueeyes, would you get me an invite to these parties please.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:39 PM

i think with todays society i do back that up because i hear alot about it these days. and i have to agree with you blueeyes . i mean that the way they go on its crazy

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 17, 2008 8:38 PM

Blue Eyes - thats positively scary - my boys arent leaving the house till they are 30 now!!

Posted by: picklessister at February 17, 2008 8:36 PM

Good to see some men here as well tonight. Perhaps you can help me with this, I think it is an Adelaide problem. Given we just talked about Ronald Mc and KFC this seems to be on topic now.

After getting ready for my date I decided to get the Willow car cleaned. I must admit the options bewildered me, wash only, wax, under car, wheels, blow dry (sounded like fun for a single guy).

I decided to go for the full Monty. With a broad smile I asked the girl attendant (perhaps late school age) at the servo for a car wash with the lot. She advised this would cost $13.70. As I paid I asked her if I could have mayonnaise as well to go with the car wash with the lot.

Well she just stood there and scratched her head for an eternity. Clearly they did not do car washes with mayo so I just paid the $13.70 as she seemed speechless.

After leaving the wash some ten minutes later she was still scratching her head, do you think she had head lice? Is there a law against this in the eastern states?

Really, I wouldn't ask but this did truly happen.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:33 PM

Very generous, Rider! Fortunately for you, I don't have a sweet tooth and eat chocolate rarely. I know, I know, I'm a freak. But all the more for you, then.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 8:30 PM

Okay fellow bloggers-can we do it? Here is a topic my 25 year old daughter and I were discussing a few days ago re generation gap, moral and sexual expectations and behaviour etc. She told me that she has recently been to parties and quote " 18 year old girls are pashing each other,not because they are into own gender sex but merely to excite the boys and create a scene" . (and here my daughter at 25 thought she was over the hill).
Bloggers-can we give an opinion without being critical of other's thoughts.
I personally was surprised at this behaviour-not something I would have imagined was happening-not my thing -but do the young find this acceptable these days?

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 8:23 PM

oh yes he's a big flucka of pheasants. As for preening, nah , only if your taking them to the local fish n chip shop you don't want the locals to know shes a razor back

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 17, 2008 8:22 PM

mmmmm just started eating some Easter eggs...who wants a bit? And I mean a BIT as I don’t like to share my chocolate haha, my favourite are the Birds Eggs.

Next Virtual dinner I will supply the chocolate! :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 17, 2008 8:21 PM

faman4u. Doesn't Colonel Sanders pluck feathers, I thought were are supposed to preen our dates.

It seems this little chicken has a lot to learn.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 8:15 PM

yes agree with your idea Blueeyes, as there is way to much bullshit floating about here.
Willow you have to stop dressing as Ronald McDonald, try Colonel Sanders( he doesn't wear a big red nose). Tell us when the 2 nd date is , we have to know, gl

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 17, 2008 8:08 PM

""Blah Blah Blah""
Yes please, lets move on....... You know you want to!!!

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 17, 2008 8:06 PM

I wonder whether it is possible to pick a new topic, and everyone give their opinion on the topic only rather than on everyone elses opinion. Not sure that is humanely possible.
Like your poem Willow. Hope date 2 is on the horizon.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 7:56 PM

That is just lovely, Willow! What a romantic you are. Sigh. I wish you well for your future dates with the mischievous and captivating one.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 7:55 PM

Willow here, hello all.

I have prepared this statement because I have been informed several members of the blogger community wish to know how my first 2008 date went. For obvious reasons I need to protect the identity of the lovely lady to maintain confidentiality so I will only cover the less personal aspects.

It was a beautiful night weather wise, the restaurant was nice, food great and company even better. We did not talk much because she kept laughing at me, I felt so embarrassed for I did not know whether it was my face, body or dress that humoured her so. We had a great time, her laughing at me, I laughing at her laughing at me (is this a bit weird?) but we did not talk much.

Given the lack of discourse on the night and my recent lack of the course starting with inter I asked my date about sex, she advised me there needs to be chemistry of which fourplay is an important ingredient, and in any case not after the first date. I was happy with this since we had chatted a few times prior to meeting, I believed that our night out would not be considered to be the first date. Also, I have two really good single mates so putting together the requisite four people should not be difficult.

As we left the restaurant being the gentleman I am and certain my luck was in given her previous response, I asked whether we should do it at my place or hers and could I pass on her address to my mates. I was told in a most forthright manner that it was too soon and that I would have to wait until after the 31st.

Well I was impressed my beautiful date could resist the charms of Willow for so long, she must indeed be a lady of very high moral standing. This didn’t seem very long to wait until I remembered this month is February and it has only twenty nine days in this leap year.

Now feeling somewhat frustrated I consulted my watch calendar to see when the next thirty one day month will arrive. To my great relief I noted next month, March 2008 has thirty one days. So we kissed goodnight then said until next time.

I arrived home with a broad smile knowing I had hit the jackpot so I entered the details into my RSVP profile matching computer powered by Intel (RSVPi) to ensure my date with relationship nirvana would not be missed. I did this by attempting to set a reminder in the calendar function.

At that moment my heart sunk in a moment of extreme desperation for the computer advised I would never have sex. Unable to reconcile this with my own quick mental calculation as we kissed goodnight I sought a detailed breakdown of the results. The analysis revealed the number after thirty one is thirty two, and thus the 32nd should be the first day after the 31st. Further to this, the computer stated no month in the coming two years has thirty two days so my copulation will not take place. Devastated I was unable to ask the computer whether any year after that would have a month with thirty two days.

If the Willow profile matching computer powered by Intel is correct I may never again engage in the art of sexual reproduction. Is this to be my fate, to die a virgin in post marital coitus?

As you know Willow is an optimist, so I have pondered this unsavoury problem all day to seek a silver lining. My efforts have been well rewarded, perhaps unduly so because after running the results again through RSVPi I have been advised I will be laid to rest upon dying. So it would appear I will indeed be laid once before I am cremated.

Life is wonderful, always offering a great solution to an intractable problem. Enjoy your day, as Willow will knowing my life is about to get better if a little dustier.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 7:52 PM

"It is indeed interesting how things get distorted NF- Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 7:04 PM "
And we wonder why with people like you insinuating that I am someone else called FP.

Seems you are the one that should be giving it a rest don't you think, as it is not very nice to suggest people are one in the same??

Whoever she is, shes got to you for sure. Maybe you are jabberthe hung- your profile photo fits the description at least!

Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 7:45 PM

i'm with amberlight and today122 ..what are the men's issues as they see them?

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:44 PM

Refer to previous posts OLDG not just mine but others and once again your true colors are shining through......Nothing like a bit of poison on a Sunday..........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 7:41 PM

Aunty Kaz,
even though I cooked Italian tonight I could not face the Lambrusco.

Also discretion being the better part of valour, and seeing the way this session is going I am going to duck for cover.
Cheers
Ps lynath, thanks for the computer tip, truly appreciated, it works a treat

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 7:39 PM

Benny Hinn? Benny Hinn the 'televangelist"(don't you just love that title?)
Benny Hinn the TE under investigation for misappropriation of funds?
Benny Hinn whose name is not really Benny but Toufic?
Benny Hinn who exploits the hope of the desperate?
Benny Hinn who preaches witchcraft and feminism are inseparable?

Oh, I thought you said Benny Hill....

Sorry you are not well, but I think Benny Hinn can heal you and you do speak so well of him.
I would keep the medical certificate to yourself if I were you....antibiotics are a wonderful thing.....

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:38 PM

For anyone who is interested, this is what Willow thinks of his first 2008 date.

Her eyes a deep ocean blue, soothing and enticing
A voice with timbre and clarity so pure
Cheeks sculptured by the world’s finest artist
Features equal to the finest diamonds for sure

Laughter rich and endearing
Her mind full of depth and intellect
Slightly mischievous and totally captivating
Oh yes, it was a date to remember

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 7:35 PM

It's so much easier to try the smoke screen tactic isn't it Ninaschen and Auntykaz..by accusing me of being someone else..so convenient. Never met either of you, and NEVER want to.

Are you the queens of these blogs?? No one can have opinion other than yourselves???

I refuse to justify myself to any one, let alone to a couple of women that continue to blog privately and only come on here sporadically to cause trouble.

You think I am FP.. well, prove it then. you bitter old bags.

I would NEVER have wanted to come to a lunch that anyone organised privately through a public forum AND IT IS MY RIGHT TO SAY THAT...AS ITS MY OPINION...so sod off.

Seems to me that you lot are the ones that are having trouble discussing the lunch.

What I cant work out is why you don't just stay on your PRIVATE site as those who are on it are OBVIOUSLY interested in it, those who are not interested AREN"T.
..oh wait, but YOU are entitled to your OPINION but NOONE ELSE IS???

Your pathetic comments about your piddling lunch have caused a lot of angst which has emanated from YOURSELVES.

Organise it amongst yourselves

Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 7:27 PM

Fear not Oldergent.....enjoy your tipple.............K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 7:25 PM

OlderGent - OLDG is shorthand for OnLineDatingGoddess. Also known as FemalePersuasion.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 7:21 PM

FishMince and the rest still carrying on after 2 weeks and still going.....why don't you gather all your persona's and hold your own meet with you and youself and any other whingers you can find.

It has obviously affected you greatly...maybe a deep sea fishing trip where you can use each other as shark bait!

You Whine worse than a girl!

Posted by: brilliantblue at February 17, 2008 7:18 PM

I am at a bit of a loss, is OLDG reffering to oldergent or is it a seperate entity? I hold fear that I am going to live, clawed chastised and never to drink red again.
Cheers

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 7:17 PM

today122 love your post, but if you noticed I was doing a lot of talk to the boys too....

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:17 PM

good point Virgil.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:14 PM

Timewarp2
The black hat witch thing(and I can't wait to get up to reply to NF in a minute) is documented historically as how non conforming women were controlled. They were labelled and derided until the labels became truths and it was then okay to kill them off or 'test' them for evilness by drowning them. If they did not drown that was proof and so burning at the stake was next.
Anyway, FYI it is now politically incorrect and frowned upon under EO to continue to associate black with evil, baddies or outlaws The stereotyping you see...but let's not get onto that,,,,,let's leave you with the memories Earp and Roy Rogers and Hopalong Cassidy in their hats...

Yes, I agree there are plenty of cases where men are unjustly treated in relationships. That is why it would be great if everyone in one was on a more equal footing. Of course there will not always be a perfect balance as you say, because life is not static and circumstances change. It would be nice to enter a relationship on the premise of mutual support.

Happy trails to you.....

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 7:11 PM

It is indeed interesting how things get distorted NF. If you were paying close attention to the blogs as all good little bloggers should, you will have seen an OPEN invitation to lunch. The invitation was CLOSED when threats were made to the privacy of one of the participants.

Those threats were taken very seriously and were made by FP also known as OLDG. The threat consisted of FP saying she would take photos of the participant and make said photos public (because the participant had password protected photos). Totally inappropriate behaviour and quite scary, actually. Hence, a genuine invitation to anyone on the blogs to meet up for lunch became high drama and the pin was pulled. End of story.

FP has been invited to organise alternative social activities for those who might be interested. Waiting.... waiting.....

And by the way, there is another coming up soon. But you won't hear about it here. A lesson has been learned.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 7:04 PM

Timewarp..post 1...
don't like your management communication methods..I believe in saying what I think, and discussing openly so that it is not then necessary to attribute private blame and not knowing where one stands. That sort of two faced carrying on is very bad because it leads to lack of trust and honesty whether in business or relationships.
I sent you the kiss because you do make me smile...you are good value for contributing to discussions on the blog and I love to have some good material which forces me to think about my views.
I am never offended by what anyone says, to, or about me, in the context of blogs, and I have a feeling you aren't either.
Has anyone ever seen the late night Parliament sessions on TV ?
No one should be getting upset just because people post differing views and the occasional shot.
I love Viper, Origami and all the other incarnations..hilarious and entertaining...and keeps things interesting.Could Somelifeinme come back for a turn?
Don't be hard on Kenny I think he was trying to defend you in some way in your absence and I am extremely flattered if you did say that.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 6:41 PM

Really OLDG you should let this lunch thing go.......

You didn't attend, and many people who know you as your other persona know why, as you do yourself.
Not going to reiterate boring blah blah about that and you know what neither should you or anyone else....
As JenJen said so well, your vitriol does you no favors.....

NF, l didn't attend the lunch but would love to know what mendacious means.

Off to put my rod in the water and see what l catch........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 6:40 PM

Oldergent, it is easy for you to preach hamony and acceptance when as a male you are not on the receiving end (for the most part) of the injustice.
It is quite natural that you will fight against anything which will upset life as you know it.
Women can like and love men but still be unhappy at the fact that they are at a disadvantage because we live in a Patriachal society.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 6:15 PM

Aliane @ 1.58pm:

No, no, not you - I would never make fun of your name.

When I said naughtyfish was morphing last night during his post into Dim Sam, I meant Samantha Brite, one of his previous more abusive aliases.

Just back from very enjoyable lunch date and then Laundromat; now off to friend's nursing home and then to night tennis (St Hugh willing.)

Will address some very valid arguments from some very worthwhile blogfemmes when I get home, just before midnight, Mexican time.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 17, 2008 6:10 PM

Isn't it interesting how things get distorted.

According to my source, the Melbourne bloggers meeting was by invitation only and certain people, including my source and OLDG were specifically not invited.

So lets get a message through to these little cliques of fishwives. Run your own net site if you like. Run your own exclusive little meetings if you like. Entertain yourself with narcissistic boring old farts but leave all the decent people on this site alone with your nauseous rantings and ravings on these blogs.

You are mendacious, self righteous, self absorbed, debris. Float off to some other beach and pollute that.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 5:50 PM

OLDG.........there are one million people on this site........twenty or so of them got together for lunch in Melbourne, you didnt go and neither did I, SO WHAT ??!!.............your continued vitriol at a group of people you dont know (me either) says a lot more about the sort of person you are than it does about any of them.

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 17, 2008 5:38 PM

timewarp 14 Feb 11:40PM "WILLOW: You are leaving me for dead in both the length and breadth of your posts, without considering your virtual hospitality as well.

Time I retired from frequent blogging, to concentrate again on my income-earning and my RSVP serial dating - lining up a couple more FDs for the next few evenings."

timewarp, nice to see you are still around posting until the wee hours in the morning.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 17, 2008 5:35 PM

Good riddance I say. Concern yourself no more NF. Like attracts like..and it appears to be working very well.

Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 4:32 PM

Like attracts like. So true, OLDG, so very, very true.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 17, 2008 5:25 PM

Mate, there is an old saying in the industry, (and in any scrum, for that matter).

If you see a head, kick it.

Its the only way you'll ever earn respect.

Gawd, the football season can't come soon enough.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 5:17 PM

Having reviewed the events of last night and this mornings posts (also having my wrist well and truly slapped from a friend) Virgil in his posts this morning put it in perspective. If my comments of last night caused any offence or insult to anybody involved please accept my apologies.

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 4:49 PM

"There is an invitation only private blog site for horsche refugees from rsvp blogs, including that Kath and Kim Escapee Hidden Charms, where you can post and no-one but yourself reads your blogs.

It is the ultimate in narcissism, self flagellation, self vindication and mysticbating.

One of the Big Girls on this site can give you the reference.

It's a great site for Big Blousey Girls.

If they let you on, you could pen as Katies and give a few of them some dress sense, or address sense (as in how to address men's issues properly)
Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 1:11 PM "

You are hilarious NF and as usual have hit the nail on the head. You forgot to mention that these low self esteem "man haters" band together to boost their victim mentality, as they are in the most part unsuccessful in getting dates, unsuccessful in healthy living ( read back over their numerous posts about how they view themselves as being over weight) they also smoke, their past partners left them..and for the icing on the cake they still rock up to "private" lunches that they organise through the blogs - approx 18 women to 2 or 3 men.

Good riddance I say. Concern yourself no more NF. Like attracts like..and it appears to be working very well.

Posted by: onlinedatinggoddess at February 17, 2008 4:32 PM

I forgot to add the whole string:

"Or else one dummy puts in enough energy for two, while the other has its feet right off the tandem-bike pedals, like a parasite.
And it doesn't have to be the woman doing all the work, girls - in oldergent's case and mine, it was the man who was the dummy, pedalling for two".

Also this about us (the women):

"Just let them have the last word, and then they don't feel quite as keenly and presently the memory of all of the hurts that their own men have ever done them in the past."

You are accusing your ex partner of being a parasite, but we are the ones who are bitter about...."the memory of all of the hurts that their own men have ever done them in the past"

The worst part about misogynists is they often present as really nice men who respect and like women!! Give me NF anytime at least we know how he really feels!!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 17, 2008 3:40 PM

Posted by: rsviper at February 17, 2008 10:39 AM

And that's pretty funny - every 2nd post of mine is full of venom?
And I'm not a multi profiler. Have enough going on with one life, thank you kindly, don't need another one to get me through the day.

Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 3:30 PM

Hello Everyone,
I read Timewarp's comments this afternoon and I would just like to ask one thing about the following :

"And it doesn't have to be the woman doing all the work, girls - in
oldergent's case and mine, it was the man who was the dummy, pedalling for two".

If we (the women on this site) make a statement even remotely similar to that e.g. from today122 at 7:03 PM yesterday:

"All I can add to this is that I spent many many years nurturing and caring and being responsible for my family, and I think it's now my turn for a life, and maybe even some caring and nurturing of me. I can choose to do that myself or I can look for someone else to give something back to me. But I cannot keep giving without this being replenished. I will not again deliberately take on responsibility for another adult, with the "reward" of only caring and nurturing them further down the track".

We (the women) are accused of being bitter and twisted and holding on to past hurts, whereas you men are seen as just merely reminiscing about your past!!

What exactly is the difference?

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 17, 2008 3:18 PM

thanks aliane i will take that advice ive only got stamps and pretty much they will expire on march 08. i know there is still good people out there and its hard to meet good peolpe like your self .and i have that respect take care

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 17, 2008 3:16 PM

NF and viper and others - tell us what are the men's issues that we should be debating then.
All we seem to hear is how hard women are to understand, moaning and groaning about what we want. Then we tell you, and it's attacked as bitterness and hysteria and not being able to move on or some rubbish.
You don't want to hear? so then don't ridicule what you can't listen to.
But stop blaming us for not being interested in fitting some mould not of our making or of our choosing.

The floor is all yours...........

And of course this is all generalising and putting in boxes - but then that's what you guys are doing to us.

Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 3:12 PM

Katie

There is an invitation only private blog site for horsche refugees from rsvp blogs, including that Kath and Kim Escapee Hidden Charms, where you can post and no-one but yourself reads your blogs.

It is the ultimate in narcissism, self flagellation, self vindication and mysticbating.

One of the Big Girls on this site can give you the reference.

It's a great site for Big Blousey Girls.

If they let you on, you could pen as Katies and give a few of them some dress sense, or address sense (as in how to address men's issues properly)

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 1:11 PM

hi everone how is your sunday going mine was going great until i had found someone and she was intrestred in me. and the next part i sent her a kiss and i sent her a message with my stamp and with no reply shes already gone .any ideas thanks take care everyone i have been awake at least 7 am still searching good luck. enjoy your sunday

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 17, 2008 1:10 PM

Hi Bob,it's last time I look at these blogs,it's very cliquey and seems you have to either be extremely nasty or overly fawning for someone to respond or acknowledge you. I have become more mean spirited with each entry I post and I dont like that at all. There are some nice genuine people on here, but its a forum for bitterness and arguments with the odd flirtation thrown in rather than a site to talk about the topics mentioned. Well good luck to you all, I do hope you find what you are looking for...and yes I can hear the cheers..yay she's finally gone!!! haha

Posted by: kateegirl at February 17, 2008 11:54 AM

Well I only have the one profile so can give sock puppets (the lowest form of life in internet forums) a hard time :)

RSVP should get on it and start logging IP addresses and banning sock puppets like any internet forum worth its salt would do.

Posted by: stoic at February 17, 2008 11:28 AM

I find it very odd/amusing that those giving Multiple profilers a hard time are actually guilty of the same offence. As for Today122 being a "crusty old cow" - you couldn't be further from the truth. Having spent several "girl nights" with her - she is truly the most amazing woman around, insightful, thoughtful, educated and just a wonderful person - and my guess is the mere male is intimidated....

Oldergent you are entitled to your opinions, but I refuse to believe we are not all equal. No one is better than me and I'm no better than anyone else, doesn't that make people equal??? Maybe that is naive, and so be it - but if I look at it any other way I'm going to be looking down on people or trying to look up and please them, not a way to make a relationship work.

Viper...I don't get why you have to be so damn nasty - does it make you feel "big", more of a man, dominant, whatever. Lessen the venom, see the light and try be a nicer person...the only one you are impressing on here is probably your good self and your clones.

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 17, 2008 10:51 AM

Oldergent , l really could not be bothered comparing male and female profiles, and don't know why l would want to.

My point last evening was that there are imperfections on both sides of the fence, male and female....l thought l made that simple and clear....

Not having a direct go at any one with that comment...just my humble opinion is all ................K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 17, 2008 10:43 AM

Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 9:29 AM

Are you for real. You are the archetypal example of your own accusations. Every second blog you present pays mention of your x by way of some nasty bitter little comment..... Why not have a good long read of your own writings and then go away and practice what you preach....... Or better still instead of doing as lynath does, why not just do lynath.

Posted by: rsviper at February 17, 2008 10:39 AM

today122 re: your post at February 17, 2008 9:29 AM

Are you for real. You are the archetypal example of your own accusations. Every second blog you present pays mention of your “x� by way of some nasty bitter little comment..... Why not have a good long read of your own writings and then go away and practice what you preach....... Or better still instead of doing as lynath does, why not “just do lynath�.

Posted by: rsviper at February 17, 2008 10:35 AM

Hi Blue eyes
Ther seems to be something about kids and walking out, leaving the door open, my son did that to me a few years ago, I came in by the front door, and I also wondered if my house had been broken in to.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 10:03 AM

Virgil, I agree. I actually made a simialr comment a few days ago to a blogger. His own comments only showed his lesser side of his personality. MAybe we can come up with another topic.
I've got one-almost 20 year old daughter came home through front door and left through garage door while I was out. I got home about 10pm, only to find front door wide open. I had entered through garage door, left my attire in the laundry and walked to my bedroom only to find door wide open, then stood there in a slight panic thinking that someone else might be in the house.
I can one have a social life if you feel you have stay home and watch the grown up kid? She may not have a front door key for very long.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:49 AM

Hi Blue eyes

a lot of people on here dont do themselves many favours by the things they say, I would, however hope that like me, in times gone by, they read the logs of what went before, and feel a bit embarrassed.

Possibly, as some have suggested, the use of a stamp, to actually say sorry, if they feel they have been unduly critical or rude.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:35 AM

Lynath Sweetest. I have the perfect date for you.

Next time Benny Hinn comes to Australia, I will take you to see him. Just you and me Babe.

It's time you met J-E-S-U-S.

Let the Lord take control of your Life and You will Rest In Peace, eternally.

He will heal your past and you will leap into the future a happier soul with The Lord by your side.

Hallelujah sweetie.

Meanwhile, due to a bit of over-enthusiasm by a younger patrona of the Lord possessed by the Holy Ghost, I now have to get blood tests done every 3-6-9-12 months. She probably thought she saw the Devil Incarnate standing there and needed a good bite to put him down once and for all.

Nothing like variety. Spent 4 days in hospital after Indi. Who would have expected such a drama from a religious service.

If I survive this one, at least I will have Medical Certificates to flash in front of the faces of all these darlings on rsvp. I can proudly boast Heres Mine; Where's Yours.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 17, 2008 9:29 AM

Good morning
I rarely blog on here these days because it's all just same old, same old.
And I'm not a serious old trout, full of my own self-importance I laugh and love with the best of em!!
But the condescensing and prescriptive fashion that women here are being communicated at, is not funny, however many jokes are thrown into the middle.
Men on here will never get women if they continue to a) act like a victim b) tell us we're selfish, god, what a joke! c) view women's statements as bitterness d) disregard women's stories.
Do these men really not realize that it does take two people to have a relationship? And if one of them is not listened to and patronized, but is continually told what is good for them and how to act and react, then it ain't ever gonna happen? What are men so scared of? Is protecting their turf really so important?
And all we are doing is telling our stories, to each other, for confirmation and acceptance, and to men assuming that somewhere in there they may actually listen and get what we mean, maybe somewhere take us seriously, for your own sakes.
We would all love caring full relationships, but we're not settling for more of the same. We're allowed to be fussy and if that means that some are rejected, fine but don't blame us any more.
We've been there and done that, and aint gonna do it again in a hurry.
If some men are so scared of being on their own maybe they should look at themselves, rather than continuing to tell women what is wrong with them.
Women of this age have done the doing for others for ever, and if that is all thats on offer all over again, then no thanks. We have other much better things to do in our lives. Will these men ever get it?

Or maybe I should do like Lynath and just talk to the other gals!

Too much too early on a Sunday morning, too bad.

Posted by: today122 at February 17, 2008 9:29 AM

Multiple bloggers? There are also multiple profilers. Actually picked one after reading profiles carefully. One of his profiles was on the straight and the other was there just for fun but did make out that he was rather chauvinistic. He had 2 sets of photos and until you looked closely you would think they were two different people. (different length hair etc .) It was quite clever and when i met him he seemed like a lot of fun. Oh, the things we do when we have spare time on our hands.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:26 AM

Before I go, one last comment, on misunderstanding:

Well lynath, seeing the great roundup of the feminist socitey has been gathered to the glory of all concerned. I as a male will let you on to the secrect of equality.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING. Nobody or anything is equal to another, to be individual, refutes the premise. All real people know this from first experience,and accept and adjust as needs may be. each person or living entity, lives or dies by this principle, feminists demand this as a right without knowing the cause or effect

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 12:30 AM

We would all love romance but on an equal footing with any new partners.
Fantastic 40's and Fabulous 50's Sensational 60's and 70's

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 12:13 AM

It is easy to see where misunderstanding occurs by looking at the above posts.

What the lynathdiary wants is an equal playing field, which is everybodies right.

To anwser that, older gent talks about people not being equal, which of course is absolutely correct, everyone has different talents and attributes.

What has happened here is that older gent has not read what Lynath said, and has commented at length on what he thought she said.

I suspect this may be the cause of much friction on here, and in the real life relationships we have.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:24 AM

Morning Virgil,
not sure that many would be up yet considering how late they were up blogging. And I do hope that their words are not fuelled by alcohol.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 17, 2008 9:13 AM

I wonder if all those with multiple blogger persona's could make a list and publish it here.

It could be fun having muliple persona's.
One could be a reasonable well thought out person who would get along with everyone, the second could be the woman hating mysoginist so well represented here, and the third could be a man, posting as a woman, appearing to come form a female perspective, but displaying the same woman hating attitude that pervades a lot of the text on here.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 9:10 AM

I may have mentioned before, that several years ago, I used to go into a chat room called "club34plus" with the plus being the verb, as we were all much plus.
In those days I used to smoke, while on the computer, and drink alcohol as well, as I feel most of us in the channel did.
I occasionally had disagreements with some other bloggers, and go to bed feeling sad, that There had been friction between myself and someone else on the channel I liked.
In the mornings I would look at the logs of the channel, and be horrified at what had been said, both by me, and others.
It is harder to get our meaning across in this medium, so we have to try harder, so alcohol in large quantities and blogging are not good companions.

Posted by: virgil at February 17, 2008 8:57 AM

theLynath Diary @ 5.41pm

1) "Timewarp... I do recall being "nice" just last Saturday to someone on the blogs.."

And you were very nice a lot of times tonight. Even to some members of that other sex.

(And thanks for an easier way to save my words, ready for when RSVP tells me I type such long, boring posts that they'd completely forgotten I was still there. So log in again. Which for me is nearly every time.)

2) "black hat...
witch...evil...bad....let's keep her quiet by burning her at the stake...or at the very least making her appear 'not nice" to distract from her points.

women (sic) know thy place?" (end of quote.)

TLD: Why do all you women have to put a male-vs-female-fight-to-the-death totally-sexist connotation onto every bloody thing all the time? It's all so one-dimensionally unproductive. As well as boring.

(Oh dear - I'm sounding like The Stirrer, tonight impersonating naughtyfish for a while, and then, once he got out of his adult into his critical parent, morphing seamlessly into DimSam.)

The above TLD quote is the best example I've seen lately of this one-eyed sexist paranoia. Which is why I just quoted it in full.

And guess what: As a converted card-carrying feminist for the last 25 years, AND a victim of the PC Doberman Sisters on these blogs a few months ago, (you included, TLD, I seem to recall), I had very carefully chosen a completely asexual symbol for the difference between agressors and law-enforcers:

In the classic G-rated coyboy movies of my youth, the outlaws always wore black hats, and the sherriff and posse wore white ones.

So even at their usual full gallop, you could see in a flash who were the aggressors, and who were the upholders of embroyonic civilisation amongst greedy, selfish chaos.

So much for male attack, imagined every moment and from every quarter. Kvatch.

And my take on tonight's gabfest?

Some people who happened to be female recalled the bad treatment they'd received from some people who'd happened to be male, and wove that shared memory into

All_men_are_bastards .com (a recent best-seller) and

We_dont_need_them_anymore .com
(Soon to be another best-seller? All the women on here tonight were writing chapters ...)

- but wait a bit: if and when we get over our angst at all that male maltreatment so long ago, we might just like to see a little teeny bit of some very nice man, ON OUR OWN TERMS.

If any nice men still exist, that is, outside of the marriages that are continuing decade after decade,

(and now it's me talking)

because BOTH PARTNERS keep doing the hard yards year after year, ie. contributing the continuous flow of positive energy that is needed to keep any physical or social system from soon grinding to a halt. (Entropy theory.)

Or else one dummy puts in enough energy for two, while the other has its feet right off the tandem-bike pedals, like a parasite.

And it doesn't have to be the woman doing all the work, girls - in oldergent's case and mine, it was the man who was the dummy, pedalling for two.

That's why "unselfish" is on the top of my preferred-partner list, as it needs to be for you girls, when you finally get around to wanting a partner, enough to do something about it.

Nightie-bye for now, or if you're reading this on Sunday morning,

Go tigress! Skitch him!

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 17, 2008 3:56 AM

Oldergent,

There is no animosity between the sexes, only between individuals of either sex.

You will have a good connection with women if you actually like them, and they understand that you enjoy listening to their points of view without being condescending.

We all like people to whom we are not attracted for a physical relationship; that doesn't make us bad people, it makes us human.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 2:59 AM

Greetings, Small-hours snorers! (Some other night-owl may even see this tonight.)

OLDERGENT, you are wrong. About several things:

* Your first glitz was blabbing what I'd emailed to you today, telling you what I thought of theLynathDiary. Now she's gone and sent me a kiss, saying she's finally read my profile, and it made her smile.

But I don't know how widely. So I'm guessing a roolly big smile, and probably ROFLHBO. (A gentleman doesn't use the "A" word in front of ladies - even in an acronym, so I substitute a "B".)

So I'm going to have to use my last stamp to ask her how widely, and more-importantly, which bits caused her the most unbridled mirth.

And then buy another book of stamps, when the first of my most recent batch of outgoing kisses leads to an invite to email someone. Never mind - I'm always prepared to put a bit of money where my kisser is.

* Your second mistake was trying to defend a previous statement of yours when under femmattack.

Just let them have the last word, and then they don't feel quite as keenly and presently the memory of all of the hurts that their own men have ever done them in the past.

* But your worst booboo tonight was saying negative personal things out loud on the blog about one or more ladies.

The first rule of modern man-management is "Public praise, but private blame." I used to teach that very slogan (amongst many others)until 30 years ago, when I stopped moonlighting on the evening staff of the management school at my local TAFE.

And that advice goes for woman-management too, in trumps.

This is the drill, mate: spend a stamp to send her a private email, and even then choose your criticising words very carefully - don't want to seem churlish, even in private to someone who's just given you stick in public, out in plain sight of our whole team - AND all the lurkers. (Thanks abcKenny for suddenly popping out from your lurk, to Out me tonight.)

* You were also wrong old mate, about my trip to the dance - I was very glad to see again twenty Dabbler mates of both sexes that I hadn't spoken with for most of a month, and I enjoyed the cardio-vascular aerobic exercise - no tennis in Melbourne.

And mate, the blog was still here in all its glory when I returned. With some good robust debate on it for once.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 17, 2008 2:30 AM

Lynath.
it is late, likewise at any price is not for a lot of men, or as you suggest the difference is up to our choice as to what we desire and at what terms. I accept no men were mentioned and I was maybe being factitous. But why is there so much animosity between the sexes? I have always believed what has happend is past, and to dwell on it only eats you up spirituality. But it certainly was a night of great discussion, pity origami 1107 was of such high interlect, she could of taught me so many things.
cheers

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 2:05 AM

Hark, Thank you Origami, I agree with you. It is sad to see the same people on the blogs all the time and talking about anything but the subject at hand; why the heck don't you just phone each other and 'belly ache' that way.
Some of us really would like to extend our circles of friends, sincerly and not just on the computer but in REAL LIFE.
It appears to be the same people here all the time making comments on anything but the topic on hand. Yes, I hae checked a few profiles out and most are not as old as I; what is wrong with you people that you hide behind a computer. I myself am not hiding, I do shift work which makes it hard to socialise far from the home front, I am not keen of pubs and clubs; I do meet very nice people at the supermarket!, how, I wonder would some of you go moaning and whinging around such places each week..oops sorry, you'd complain about the way customers and staff alike "looked" at you.
Go to the everyday places, smile, talk to people, real people and then come on the computer and say what a nice day it has been and how lovely people are.
Grow up bloggers. Keep to the topic or have a massive tea party and moan together in private so we don't know about it.
Some of us enjoy intelligent conversing.

Posted by: jawsj at February 17, 2008 1:35 AM

Hi Kate,

I'm still around but dont really have anything much to contribute at the moment, so one would say "just lurking".

I am not much of a Valentines person....I believe that you should show that special person how much you appreciate them and that they mean to you constantly, without being sickening about it all. That is not to say that if Valentines (or any other day for that matter) is important to them, but not to you, that you dont do something special on that day.....certainly would, and have.

Hope that you had a great Valentines......how much fun is it beating guys off with a big stick????

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 17, 2008 1:32 AM

Honestly, oldergent (what a misnomer for the second part) and timewarp (a more apt moniker with the warp) -it's males like you that seriously make me, a genuinely red-blooded woman who adores real men, wonder about switching to my own side for satisfaction.
Or, at the very least, be a radical celibate to the end of my days.

Then, I would at least have peace.
That's more precious to me than having life made a living hell by nastiness.

After all, with your continual barrage of sexist and bitter opinions, your abysmally one-sided-blame-the-female-sex tactics, as previously exhibited with your blogs; you will never turn a woman on.
-Let alone get her to live with and care for you and your ever-nearing end of days.

Yes, I've been in a long term marriage to a man I loved (who also dealt out mental abuse but that didn't stop me caring, loving and supporting him until he died,) as well as our children, etc.

But you can be sure I won't ever be trapped by dinosaurs such as yourselves, with such misapplied sexist views from centuries ago.

Shame, shame, shame to you both.

Especially, for tarnishing the dinkum and genuine men looking for the same in a female partner, with your one-sided and misogynous outlooks.

Oldergent, I have dealt with quite a few consumed by anger and bitterness (your words at February 17, 2008 12:01 AM) in real life and they are even older than you and still they keep kicking on. (I sometimes wonder if it is their nastiness that keeps them alive.)
So using that as a cheap shot at your age, tends to highlight yet another one of your lacks.

As for using your age as an excuse to try to demean and discredit a younger person's (relatively speaking,) ie Lynath's views -how juvenile and ungentlemanly is that?

Lord (or whatever god or not people appeal to,) help us to defend ourselves against those who blame others entirely, for their own faults.

Posted by: honestlyspeakinghere at February 17, 2008 1:31 AM

Well said lynath............another invisible profiler.......

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 17, 2008 1:13 AM

origami1107...or is that rsviper?....much better... 10/10 for effort...love your work....

you're home early...

If it is not for you then why do you feel the need to keep coming back to tell everyone? Just stay away.

The internet is a wonderful thing for lots of people. It helps them to feel connected(no pun) and part of a group. Nothing wrong with that at all.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 1:09 AM

oldergent since amber has gone to bed I will say that a lot of what we talked about today was about this subject. We realise there are men out there who don't want to "get us at any price" and we don't care! The whole point is that women are not desperate to have a man approve of them, or to partner them as perhaps they once needed to in your heyday. What is more, women are leading very happy lives, independently and thinking seriously about whether they will want another relationship and if so on what terms.
My post was directed to the women who engaged in sharing great posts today on this subject. No men were mentioned because they weren't in that conversation except as catalysts for the discussion.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 12:53 AM

I am continually amazed by the communications on this site. I would normally say interactions in regard to an open forum blog. However, you people do not interact. You do not exchange. You do not even communicate.

This site seems to be used to vent bitterness and frustration or to while away the long, boring and lonely hours of your lives.

I've read through the posts of the last few days. Do you people ever get off your computer? Do you have a life outside of the internet?

I've seen nothing but lonely frustration poured out in blog after blog.

People waffling on about former marriages and nursing partners and those looking for shaglads and cutie pies' to take care of them in their old age. Get real! No sane or ethical woman in her 40s would give up their life for a dirty old man, just to end up changing their dirty clothes and linens. Move into a nursing home. I hear they have great social activities.

Virtual dinner parties, planned days in advance for those feeling sorry for themselves on Valentines' Day. Hour after hour of virtual get togethers and back patting and palaver and feeling sorry for yourselves. Get over it. Valentines' Day is a commercial enterprise. If you love someone, every day is Valentines' Day. Get a life outside of your computer and you might not need to visit a virtual cafe.

Then, of course, we see the regular, apparently sincere male blogger who cried so heavily into his cups in his Valentines' despair that he forgot who he was and kept blogging under his different profile names. Amazing. No one was supposed to notice this pitiful faux pas. You shot your own credibility to pieces. Shame.

Then, this amazing little group of multiple profilers who blog away day and night. It must be hard to keep track of all of the people you are imitating. It must be even harder to remain civil with other bloggers when you are so preoccupied trying to work out who you are and what you will say to bore everyone to tears next. They must feel fulfilled after discredting so many fellow bloggers.

I can't believe our own online expert and goddess. They make so little sense that they can not be taken seriously at all. Perhaps it is their own pitiful existence that leads them to their brain deadening posts. Perhaps they have over inflated egos that need a boost by offering pathetic and useless advice that no one wants or needs. Perhaps they are just so desperate for attention that they draw it to them with their own stupidity.

Totally laughable. Totally not for me. As an adult dating site, this is more like a kindergarten playground. No more for me.

Posted by: origami1107 at February 17, 2008 12:52 AM

older gent did miss something here? I sent you kind regards, a post of support (not to mention spending time posting to assist you with the computer problems) and then you tell me I am bitter and angry?
Again, those are the sort of words used to attempt to discredit women's opinions and ideas by men who can't cope.
Your thought patterns and posts directed at me have been quite erratic tonight though.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 12:36 AM

amberlight,
consider the fact that some guy's just don't want to get you at any price, you may find that uncool but true.

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 12:35 AM

Well lynath, seeing the great roundup of the feminist socitey has been gathered to the glory of all concerned. I as a male will let you on to the secrect of equality.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING. Nobody or anything is equal to another, to be individual, refutes the premise. All real people know this from first experience,and accept and adjust as needs may be. each person or living entity, lives or dies by this principle, feminists demand this as a right without knowing the cause or effect

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 12:30 AM

Here! Here! Lynath
I enjoyed today's chat too! (pity some of the guys just can't "get" us isn't it?)
Goodnight Everyone!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 17, 2008 12:20 AM

Also to my last post Kaz have a look at the open profiles (sorry Vip) but in all fairness it is the males who are more open than the females ( my hat is off to the honest and open Ladies)
cheers

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 12:17 AM

amberlight, Wishful, Blueeyes ,today122 ,slightsynchronicity, kaz,
june ,jenjen, katee, archerrising, hinterlandlove and istj it was wonderful to read your ideas and contributions today and to realise that many of us share similar experiences and thoughts about our futures, and importantly that it is okay to want to retain whatever it is we have worked for be it independence or assets or career or confidence and self respect and self esteem. We are feminine feminists! We would all love romance but on an equal footing with any new partners.
Fantastic 40's and Fabulous 50's Sensational 60's and 70's

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 17, 2008 12:13 AM

ok people , down here in vic it is the witching hr, now will i turn into a mouse or a pumpkin, any witches about, nah can hear em down at the local all cackling away.
Night all ;)) alan

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 17, 2008 12:07 AM

One thing I know, after our old mate Timewarp sees tonights session he will not be so keen to go tripping the light fanstastic.
cheers

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 12:05 AM

Lynath,
I have lived a considerable longer time than you, I do not think I could have if I had been consumed by as much anger and bitterness as you appear to be.

Posted by: oldergent at February 17, 2008 12:01 AM

Okay, well that is a relief! I'm not as "uncool" as I thought I was! No, I last visited QLD when my dad was dying in 2003.

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 11:56 PM

Kaz,
I might well tell you to go back and compare the profiles of the different sexes, sorry not just compare, read and understand them, then come back and critisize me. no Cheers on this one
Lynath . Touche, The right is always right, right. Just as an aside this is the 8th attempt I have made to get this posted. Shame site owners

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 11:55 PM

Well said Lynath!
The old snake's insults are becoming a tad predictable?

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 11:52 PM

yes Queensland the state owned by Asia.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 11:50 PM

Maybe we should all tell our stories (in brief) and then we can understand where each of us is coming from. I did tell mine a little earlier.And that doesn't mean we dwell on them, but rather they just help shape our thoughts on where we want to take our lives next.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 11:46 PM

MoM4U,
QLD? Do you mean the state? Or am I letting everyone see how "not cool" I am with today's chat?

rsviper bites again!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 11:42 PM

i think we must all have the situation where our carefully thought out words of wisbom disappear into the ether, so the advice from the lynath diary is good advice for us all, I have been using this method for some time now and it certainly saves a lot of anguish at losing something I have put considerable time into

Posted by: virgil at February 16, 2008 11:42 PM

rsviper.. if you are going to be an effective viper you must put some decent venom in your bite.

What else have you got? Do you have your own ruing story for instance?

Sorry I am just about to get back to the great thinking ladieswhoblog.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 11:40 PM

lmao, cheeky.(lynth)i have 4 active buttons,,,,,,,,,,,,on the mouse, lololol

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 11:38 PM

Thxs amber much appreciate your thoughts. Have one question is that u in QLD?

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 11:34 PM

I must say I do like to hear a good rueing story.

Well, that is a relief..you did the right thing in the end for yourself.
Excellent news! I know things aren't as cut and dried as they appear here, written in the blogs. It is always easier o look at a situation in hindsight or as an outsider and know exactly what to do or what should have happened.
How is the right click option working for you?
kind regards,
Chris

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 11:32 PM

Dear thelynathdiary, for your next magic trick could you try right clicking on today122 and have her held in perpetuity, in, as you call it, an invisible clip board so that we don't have to listen to the crusty old cows bitterness any longer. If this proves successful then please feel free to use the procedure on yourself .

Posted by: rsviper at February 16, 2008 11:29 PM

MoM4U,
I looked at you profile and there was nothing in it that made me want to "throw up" at all, so don't put yourself down man! I can't imagine anyone would! (However, one thinks you may have been a bit wild in your younger days?!) You sound like a really nice man. Tatts and piercings aren't for everyone, but I know there are women out there who just love them!
Don't let the old cynics of this world like me put you off! I was probably too cynical and unkind, so keep looking for true love if that's what you aspire to. Don't get disheartened, I'm sure there is someone out there for you. Why don't you stay on RSVP, after all what have you got to lose? And who knows, tomorrow is another day.

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 11:28 PM

hi all, back for a short eving tonight, I had my computer tech over here between 5pm and about 9.30pm.

I have to say I agree with slightsynchronicity regarding space and security

Posted by: virgil at February 16, 2008 11:26 PM

Hey Twoeyes nice cat you have there.........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 16, 2008 11:25 PM

lynth ,wtf are you talking about. jenny craig, you must be jk.
Butter me both sides then call me toast

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 11:25 PM

Righto Lynath,
I am back full of confidence that this, the 10 th attempt will come blasting out of the ether unconvuluted, I am neither selfish or naive, the story was told and I chose to believe. I am not looking for sympathy and would resent any offered. It was not all a disaster, the moments of sheer ecstacy and unbridled love wrapt in lust, live with me still. I knew the true story of long time love, she chose not to believe that it could be so. I did not have to get an annulment to be married she was the catholic. I did instigate the divorce, only because she was not being just. But Lynath, it is not me rueing the past, she is now rueing the future or so I have been told.
With respect Robert.

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 11:22 PM

Oldergent, re the comment you made about women only looking to see their needs and not the hope of others.....

So generalist it is beyond funny.....

Not all men and women are perfect....we all know that but hey, not all men and women are shallow either.....

We are, all of us, different and bound by our own set of values. If that conflicts with others well so be it..............K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 16, 2008 11:21 PM

Thanks abckenny.
Sorry, I am not ready to retire and nurse him just yet....

Older gent was your story a hoax?

moreofaman.good .mind spirit soul...yes okay.. body? Jenny Craig is after me as we speak...

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 11:20 PM

Bob is in Sydney and Eric and his multitude of alter egos is in a world of his own

Posted by: abckenny at February 16, 2008 11:15 PM

bill is` in a 'timewarp'

Posted by: abckenny at February 16, 2008 11:11 PM

Compliments from the boys? Well done!

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 11:07 PM

who is this Bill and where can I find him?????

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 11:06 PM

lyanth,
Bill said you were not only beautifull but close to perfect, I would have to agree two posts in a row, he should have told me you are a genius. LOL
Cheers

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 10:59 PM

lynth point made and dually noted. your answers to my points are good. I raise a glass of diet coke and then bow to you. See all that uni wasn't a waste,roflmao.
Cheers to you lnyth, good heart body mind and soul

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 10:59 PM

The biggest mistake a human can make is by thinking they can escape the woes and tribulations of this existence by choosing to finish it by their will, it will come back in the next round to haunt you till you learn the lesson. There is no cheer in that.

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 10:56 PM

I don't expect anyone to look after me in my dotage, and I would also assume that the men out there are capable of taking responsibility for their own lives, surely, by this stage, and not still looking for a mother!
cheers

Posted by: today122 at February 16, 2008 7:03 PM

Ditto today122, we are capable, confident women who want a strong man who can stand on his own two feet! Just like we can. And also a man who does not expect us to devote every hour of our waking day to him..but who is secure enough in himself to let us have the space we need. Also to take the space he needs.
cheers from SSC

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 16, 2008 10:56 PM

man,
I know where you are coming from, but my friend I think you are crying into the great beyond. But if one female soul out there could only look but not see, and feel the heart of you she would find the universe she is seeking, unfortunately in this day and age they only look to see their needs not the hope of others.
Cheers

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 10:50 PM

jen jen your heart is golden, i know your not desperate, nut as for 15 years younger ,girl i just wouldn't be able to keep up, even though i am early 50's.
Amberlight, pls do your self a trip and see my profile? now before you throw up , i understand. I know im am over weight ,diabetic, tatts, piercings, but in my heart i know there is someone for me. And yes amber i might be looking at this RSVP, incorrectly, but how many times do you need to be told where to go or get off.
A man's or womans heart can only take so much, then they just give up and surrender.
So maybe you can understand why some ppl think of removing their self from,!!!!whatever.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 10:47 PM

Moreofaman...nothing so dramatic I am afraid. I read the posts and respond with a viewpoint if I read something which does not seem fair or right to me.
This is a blog...people who post in public forums usually get feedback.
I get my fair share of feedback here too!
I am yet to hear from oldergent himself. But if you read his post he seemed to emphasiizing the fact that this 'woman" did all these bad things to him and he was just a helpless, passive victim. He was implying that most women are of similar character. as a matter of fact I thought he might even have been having a joke with us. I gave him some helpful advice which he might think about for his childrens sake, just in case he really is that passive and gullible.

You asked a question general or not and I answered.

As for your dilemma and pain, I can understand it. The thing is you can take some action to change things in your life. Coming on here is one of them.

As for knowing love you do know it already. You will not die not knowing love. I am sure there are people in your life who love you and you them. You love your cats I bet, and they love you. Love does not have to just be romantic love to make you feel worthwhile and accepted.

What are you prepared to do to achieve your goal of finding a romantic partner? Don't be passive lie oldergent..start taking control.

The fear of dying alone is common.
It is unlikely it would ever happen literally. Many people who have had families and partners and 'full lives and friends' still end up dying without them for various reasons.

It is what you do during your life that will cause you to live on in peoples memories.
Lots of people who have been in long marriages still feel they have not known love.
If it is just physicality you are craving then there are solutions to that to. Don't live your life by what other people think or have told you. Make you mind up for yourself.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 10:44 PM

What an abymisal sytem this site is, instead of bitching at each other, why not turn on the site owners to get it right, with that being said this might be my last blog as I have been told they are not too keen on being called to fault, if it is so, Cheers it has been interesting.

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 10:43 PM

It would seem that my simple story has stirred up old wounds and resentments. It was not the intention, it was just a simple story of one life. I am not bitter or twisted, it was just a life as it happened. As t
It would seem that my simple story has stirred up old wounds and resentments. It was not the intention, it was just a simple story of one life. I am not bitter or twisted, it was just a life as it happened. As to the conclusion, no apology intended or offered, that is the way I see it ,and, as maybe the host of non verbal participants of these blogs see it, but by the Lord Harry, if nothing else it may show them that this forum is not just the domain of a select few and they should ALL excersize their opinion.
Cheerso the conclusion, no apology intended or offered, that is the way I see it ,and, as maybe the host of non verbal participants of these blogs see it, but by the Lord Harry, if nothing else it may show them that this forum is not just the domain of a select few and they should ALL excersize their opinion.
Cheers

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 10:39 PM

Neither am I into being bitter. If you haven't let go of the past then you aren't ready to move on. I often wonder if any of us are really meant to , or are capable of, spending our entire adult life with the one partner.An elderly neighbour (in her late 80's) asked me if my divorce was completed last year. On answering she then added "don't ever get married again-men just use women". I guess she didn't have a wonderful marriage and she only had the one.We all have some expectations in our desired partners but often we find the right person at the wrong time or the wrong person at the right time.I think it is more difficult now than when we were in our youth and no one had money or kids to consider,and you weren't worried about losing assets,it was based just on mutual attraction.Hopefully , Moreofaman , you will find the right person at the right time.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 10:36 PM

lynath and wishful I agree and identify with what you have said. And MoM4u I know how you feel when you talk about yearning !!

But after being married twice (omg) I have learned a lot about what things are important to me in a long term partner.So while I may be alone, and I do feel very lonely sometimes and yearn for the kisses etc of someone special, I am not desperate.Going to be much more fussy this time around.

And lynath, yes, what is it with men who are looking for women 15 years younger ?? This seems to be a very common thing amongst many of the profiles I have read.

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 16, 2008 10:30 PM

wft03 yes i can see that girl, and as i said i did try to generalize.
lynth yes man may need to correct hes errors ,but only if woman gets off her high perch.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 10:28 PM

I may sound cynical (you may say bitter) moreofaman4u, but true love in the way I think you mean it, is very rare and only ever really happens to some. I am not bitter or angry, just a bit of a realist. For the majority, true romantic love is a nice fairytale but not a reality.
If you aspire to true love as you mean it MoM4U, you may be forever disappointed. I don't think you are that old that you should be morbid and worry about dying alone yet (unless you are already ill), perhaps you need to cultivate friendships first and not concentrate on finding love necessarily. You might scare a potential partner off!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 10:28 PM

If only more men could get over the ego's and fears which make them look for much younger women or women who don't pose any threat or challenge to them, and realise what "absolutely fabulous" loving, aware, smart and genuine (who can be a truly fun best friends and share a wonderful life with equal responsibility) recovered, and now independent ex-long term marriage/relationship mid -life women really are.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 10:14 PM

MoM4u, I'm fussy yes, I'm the first to admit it - but I sure as hell am not lonely - alone yes...but not lonely. My profile even says that. We are not all bitter and twisted, I get along well with my ex-husband, he is a decent man, we had a very good divorce, no lawyers, nothing nasty - we sorted it out - all very civil.

There is no desperation in my search, I enjoy my own company and that of my friends....my heart didn't take a severe blow...the whole relationship kind of wore out. I'm neither angry nor bitter MoM4u....I'm happy with me :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 16, 2008 10:04 PM

@lnyth yes i see the point on the right click.
my reason is you tend to go into great detail in picking out weakness in others?or is it a certain time of the year, when something hurt you or someone.
As for the being alone, it was a generalization.
For me i dread dying alone and not knowing love,true love

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 10:04 PM

today, lyn and wishful. I agrre with a lot of what you have said.

And 2nd marriage, god no, the first one was such a roller coaster, that I have never ever felt the urge to jump in again!!!

just looking foyr the one meant for me, and see what happens in the future...have a lovely evening all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at February 16, 2008 9:55 PM

Hi moreofaman4u,
I didn't think we sounded bitter or angry at our ex partners, it's just that having experienced years of not being appreciated as wives/partners, we are determined not to make the same mistakes again.
Now we are much older and wiser, we have a better idea of what we are looking for than we ever did in our early twenties!!
Being alone does not necessarily equate with loneliness

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 9:54 PM

you are right moreofaman...I should never have told him about the right click option.......

am curious and having a night in...what is your reasoning for your statements?

Not lonely at all....alone, but not lonely...

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 9:42 PM

Ladies ladies please, what has got into you girls, this seems like it really turning into a bitch session?
Lynth you seem to be a master or mistress of everything, but know nothing. Your comments on oldgent i found a little out of place, and yes oldgent is a respectable age, true as you are of a different era.
WFT03 girl good luck in your wisdom. Stick to your guns, i know a little of your passed as you have put into print, cant blame you either.
But!!!! there are some people who have never experienced marriage, i for one, but it seems everyone is so bitter & angry at their ex's. Why?
Your divorced, or separated, your heart has taken a severe blow this i understand but to say your getting fussy, fine but how lonely are YOU?Meaning every body.
I yearn even to kiss a lady, yes i am old fashioned, this is how i was raised, not with anger and bitterness

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 16, 2008 9:27 PM

Oldergent you seem very jaded about females in general. Your whole blog of 4.35pm smacked of "look at all I did and for what? Just so I can be used by some disgrunted female".

Your comment about if bloggers have been on here a while they need to ask themselves why and what is wrong with them - well perhaps we should revisit that in a couple of months time, because with your attitude my guess is you'll still be here and perhaps could answer your own statement.

I'm still single by choice. It's not for lack of offers/kisses/dates whatever, its because I am at a point in my life where I am going to be fussy. I've done the "right" thing by a husband and children, I've had another long-term relationship where I was used and then abused, and now I'm living for me - and if it takes 6 months, 12 months or 2 years, I'm not worried, nor do I have to ask WHY I am still here, I KNOW why, and so do many women, it's because we are not going to settle for anything LESS than we deserve this time round.

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 16, 2008 8:53 PM

Today122 totally agree with your post, but think it also relates to relationships in general - as in open your eyes and take some responsibility.

That goes for men and women equally in relationships, as it is far too easy to let one person take on more than the other in terms of emotional input and thought.

I think the older we get the harder we make things sometimes..........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 16, 2008 7:37 PM

and Lynath - exactly! If the father of my children was still complaining in another however many years that he was robbed - well and aren't we all? then I would think there was something seriously amiss.
A first marriage - young, naive, absolutely clueless, kids, career, whatever, and the contribution and the division is generally about even, and is this what it's all about anyway?
But a second marriage - yes - take some responsibility, open your eyes, and quit the blame game. I you feel that you've been suckered, then you probably have, but you would have done it willingly. So feel like a fool, kick yourself over it, but stop blaming others. And stop whinging about it.

Posted by: today122 at February 16, 2008 7:20 PM

Today122,
How true!!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 7:08 PM

Obviously not always spelling "literate"

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 7:05 PM

amberlight - I think we are twins. All I can add to this is that I spent many many years nurturing and caring and being responsible for my family, and I think it's now my turn for a life, and maybe even some caring and nurturing of me. I can choose to do that myself or I can look for someone else to give something back to me. But I cannot keep giving without this being replenished. I will not again deliberately take on responsibility for another adult, with the "reward" of only caring and nurturing them further down the track.
But that is what timewarp seems to be foreseeing as our futures, or we're selfish slatterns? No - I don't think so.
I don’t expect anyone to look after me in my dotage, and I would also assume that the men out there are capable of taking responsibility for their own lives, surely, by this stage, and not still looking for a mother!
cheers

Posted by: today122 at February 16, 2008 7:03 PM

Thanks thelynathdiary,
I have also experienced losing my comments when I tried to post them. I am generally quite computer litearate but I actually had never thought of doing that!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 7:02 PM

Hi All,
Reading the comments today I feel I have to agree with thelynathdiary @ 2:01 pm. Also wishfulthinker03; although I am 50 in a few weeks I am still not at all desperate to have a new partner. After being married for 22 years, being with my ex for 24, having 4 children and as far as my ex was concerned, it was always me that was the problem (neurotic, demanding, manipulative, over-emotional) and as our marriage faltered unstable (I did have depression in the last 2 years of our marriage), I am so enjoying being on my own! It is nearly 3 years since I left him and I'm not sure I will ever be able to live with a partner again!
I obviously don't know your life stories, TLD and Wishful but I do believe that many of us, particularly women, stay far too long in empty and lonely marriages because of the hopes and dreams for our relationships and because there are children involved. When we do finally leave, there is no way we are desperate to go there again!! We are looking for so much more in a relationship and I'm not sure I'd be willing to settle again.
Today women are so much more independent, we have jobs and our own income, we can apply for loans and have our own bank accounts, unlike our many of our mothers and grandmothers. We don't need men like previous generations did for security (yes there are still those who are happy to opt for the easy way, relying on a man for their security and income; but sometimes it turns out to be far less easy than they thought!) but I think most older women are pretty content with themselves and their lot. We've learnt to value ourselves even if our previous partners didn't. If that upsets some men then so be it.
Maybe I'll feel differently in 10 or 15 years or so, but hell, many women are alone by that age then anyway, because the guys often don't live as long as we do!!
Have tried posting this but my computer or RSVP has gremlims!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 6:49 PM

oldergent , when you get the post written ,use the right mouse control button and click it once. A menu should pop up which says
undo
cut
copy
paste
select all

click on select all and the writing will turn blue
then right click on the mouse again and select copy
this will 'hold' what you have written on an invisible clip board so if you lose the post then all you do is click you mouse into the comments box, right click on mouse and press paste and your work is not lost.
If you don't have a mouse with the right click feature you can do the same thing by clicking on the
Edit button at the top of the screen page and the commands will drop down.

If you want to cut a chunk of text from your post ,or cut from somewhere else(to save retyping) and paste here then you use the left mouse button and hold it down while running across the words you want to cut ..this will highlight them. Then you select right mouse and cut and they are gone....again to an invisible clipboard.

If you want to put them in somewhere else then point the cursor at the place you want them to start and right click and select paste(or use edit button above)

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 6:29 PM

thelyanthdiary,
I will respond but for the last 5 times of trying I have had contact that wiped out the response. I will wait for a quiter time to post.
cheers

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 6:14 PM

blueeyes and istj I agree there comes a time when we need a break from intense nurturing(although often this occurs at the same time as parents are becoming dependent)
I want a man at a similar life stage and age because like you I don't want to go back to raising young children again.

Blueeyes my empathy to you...unbelievable that your husband chose to do that when you had demonstrated such strength and loyalty and the meaning of real love to him.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 6:12 PM

Timewarp... I do recall being"nice" just last Saturday to someone on the blogs..
black hat...witch...evil...bad....let's keep her quiet by burning her at the stake...or at the very least making her appear 'not nice" to distract from her points.

women know thy place?
there is a difference between the concept of "what you say is what you are" and projection.

I am what I just said ...a woman who questions not just accepts blindly.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 5:41 PM

TLD @ 5.18pm:

Never 2 hours a day, and 24 hours a day only for a month, and that only twice. (See my post in last 24 hours - forget when.)

And she was an ex-lover I'd left 18 months before, because I caught her being really cruel to a third party.

BTW It's called 'projection', but Brisbane 8-year-old girls say it in one longer word:

"Whatyousayiswhatyouare!"

Must go shop, before they close. ciao.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 5:27 PM

Signing out - supermarket, then dine and dance with 20 of my Dabblers Social Club mates to an Elvis + Roy Orbison tribute act. (No first date till lunch tomorrow.) Seeyezall.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 5:18 PM

Timewarp-
your Aunts lived in a different era and had little choice but to conform and obey their husbands and work hard to survive.
There were limited aged care options then and the average age of death was younger than you are now!

No one is talking about not caring for a loved spouse who has become ill, only about the concept of finding a partner with the idea of future carer in mind.
How awful. You state that you prize unselfishness..but only in your partner not in yourself??
How selfish and unloving it would be to plan to burden someone.
Have you ever cared for anyone long term 2 hours a day?
You don't have to worry about being cared for in your old age...it is free or means tested and very good. No one in this country needs money to receive care delivered with dignity and respect. In fact the less money you have the more you are likely to get.
As for most voiced criticisms being self descriptions..really!

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 5:18 PM

theLynathDiary: Could you please prompt my memory? When was the last time you posted to a blog without criticising some person for something?

Just want an excuse to imagine you in a white hat, not a black one.

Name of blog and your post date and time please.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 5:09 PM

This is a comment a friend emailed me on a discussion about the different things we search for and want out of life. I think it is rather fitting.

"We each have our road to travel, some of us have different cars, some are Ferraris whils some are Holdens, some of us have more rest stops than others, some travel by the scenic route and others choose to go on the motorway. Some pick up hitchikers whilst others travel alone, some engines break down and others run perfectly.. .
But in the end we all end up at the same destination."

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 5:08 PM

OLDERGENT: Cop this one:

Goodonyer mate. A whole card of bullseyes.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 5:02 PM

well oldergent, your story serves to illustrate the saying "if something is too good to be true then it usually isn't"

Everyone wants love and loneliness is not so good; however, it is not selfishness but commonsense which should prevent people being taken advantage of in second time around relationships.

Older men sometimes like to believe that it is their charm and good looks and not their money or assets which are the main attraction for younger women.
I would suggest that would be rare.
You had the power to prevent this happening ,and you were quite aware of this womans previous history. You continued to let her take advantage of you and use you. Why? You can't sit back now and expect people to feel sorry for you.

I am curious as to why you would need an annulment if your first wife had died?
Secondly as you are still alive you still have the power to take responsibility for your own affairs, divorce this woman and arrange your Will how you wish. You have children, so if you don't act then you are not being very fair to them. While she is still your spouse she does retain some entitlements under the law, but a property settlement does not entitle her to dictate the terms of your Will.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 5:02 PM

No onslaught oldergent. We all have our baggage to file away and hopefully we all learn something from our experiences. I for one consider myself to be lucky that I am healthy and energetic and able to consider more adventures. I did think I met my match last year on this site but it was only 99% on his part and he chose to look for the 100% model. (his words). This week a good friend and colleague of mine finally took a downhill turn after battling and keeping abreast of ovarian cancer.She was admitted into hospital 2 days ago never to return home. I look forward to every day and the opportunities that might come my way.Still having 2 teenage daughters my friend will miss so many things in their lives that we all hope to enjoy.Maybe life is meant to bring us different people at different stages. A posting (yesterday I think) on reason ,season and life is most fitting.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 4:57 PM

istj @4.31:

Yes - lots of old fellers looking for the trophy wife. Joke:

Three school-mates meet up after 50 years. Now aged 70. Two with equally grey-thatched spouses.

Third introduces a gorgeous 25-year-old as his 2nd wife. In the Men's the others ask him how he landed her.

"Told her I was rich - and 90 next birthday."

But what about the women looking for a toy-boy as mentioned below? Surely not for carers, and I say neither for "partners and equals" as you put it.

I'm thinking just for shaglads: switches to turn on your libidos. And good on you. So long as you can afford a nursing home, when it's his turn to turn the tables, and seek someone 30 years younger, to charm his now-bellrope back into a hatstand again.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 4:56 PM

Having had an older and a younger wife, the first, older dying after a long illness and I nursed her (bedriden) for the last 5 years of that. This marriage lasted for 30 years. Then the mourning stopped after nearly 3 years, when I realised it was not her I was crying for, but myself. I was fortunate to find a much younger woman for company, after 12 months of company, SHE decided we should live together. 12 months after that SHE decided we should be married and I had to go through the rigmarole of annulment etc. So I got her house into a good enough condition to sell, sold my house that I built and we bought, OUR house, do not get me wrong she was and is a very moral, religious and extremely clean woman, the thing was that after 3 previous husbands, and all of the marriages ending badly, she could not believe that there was a man that would do the right thing, after another 4 years IT WAS ME that decided I had had enought of the constant derission, fault finding, demands, and all the other garbage, a disgrunted female can carry on with. No it was not that she did without the things a younger woman requires in life, the clubs, dinners out, entertainment, shows etc. They were there, then the purgatory of another 6 years trying to sell the estate so we each could have enough settlement to each buy a reasonable house each. Eventually it sold and we parted, I might add that in all the time we were together she cooked 4 meals for me, she would decide what she wanted and it was cooked for her, and however many courses she wanted. I am not bragging this is the way it was. Also during the time till we seperated, she was the sole custodian of my pension and her carers pension, I had part time work and if I ran out of money and needed some of my pension I had to beg and I mean beg. Even after the parting I did not file for divorce, being a bit old fashioned, it always to me a concession to failure. She has now had 3 and sold 2 houses that I have painted, and got ready for sale for her, then she after the last purchase, and notwithstanding that we talked and attended functions etc, decided that as we were still married she was entitled to be left half of my possesions in my will. End of story, DIY divorce. Now I read these blogs, and wonder at them/ Age is just a number/ where are all the nice people gone/ I want an honest person to love me/ I am honest. Truly the amount of hypocricy displayed on these pages is getting to the point of being inane and self serving, If you cannot see why you have still not found your whatever it is you are yearning for after the length of time on this site
isnt it time to ask yourself, 'why hasn't your whatever found you?' I will still keep conversing with the few that have bothered, to contact me I still have one stamp left. Not all of use old men want a Wife, carer, housekeeper or constant compainion, rather a person with whom we can let " the winds of heaven dance between us" attached but non attached giving, come to think of it could this not apply to all of any age.
Now that is off my chest, I will don my shield and buckler and await the onslaught.
Cheers.

Posted by: oldergent at February 16, 2008 4:35 PM

blueeyes @ 3.52pm:

I reckon the ones of either sex who want someone about 15 years younger are hoping it would rub off and make them younger too - especially in bed. In yer dreams, gals and guys (except msSunshineCoast).

I don't want someone who seems younger than me - not my match.

But a statistically-sound sample (over 100 RSVP first dates in the last 2 years) has proved that the women who seem to be my age (and are the age that people guess I am, before they know the terrible truth) are actually 8 to 10 years younger than my birth certificate.

And they and I already have adult children and some grandchildren, and are both still working full-time for the next few years, before they retire ahead of me. So I don't seem to have the problems you foresee, JenJen. So can I chicken-snatch? Pretty please!

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 4:32 PM

timewarp...........you aunts sound quite extraordinary, and not typical for their age group, although I know there are quite a few very active 80+ somethings out there doing all sorts of extraordinary things, my Dad and some of his friends amongst them.

And you are right, it is pure luck who crocks up first, but finding someone close to our own age, in some ways can even the odds perhaps.

Not that that worked out that way for my own parents........now if I could only figure out what it is that keeps one fit healthy and not frail at nearly 90 !!

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 16, 2008 4:31 PM

...also lots of us are still raising children, or just finished, and want to have a break from "caring n nurturing" for a while...it's funny that it is just the men looking for carers...women are looking for partners...equals.

Posted by: istj54 at February 16, 2008 4:31 PM

Timewarp, no criticism intended. We all make choices by our own life's experiences. I for one did look after a hubbie whom at 49 had a brain anneurysm after 26 years of happy marriage. I took on a 2nd job to keep the income in and he eventually was able to return to work but with brain damage which caused behavioural changes on his part. The marriage ended because he chose to cheat on me while I was out covering his lost wages as we still hd 3 kids at home. And that does not make me bitter. I see it as being very sad that his illness caused the family to fall apart.But this chapter is over and I have moved on and looking forward to my next adventure-hopefully with a partner in crime.But I would just like to at least start the next relationship with someone more closely matched in age and health as well as interests.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 4:24 PM

Respected ladies below:

ISTJ reminded us this morning that a blog benefits from opposing views, and I was just putting up a contrary view to BlueEyes @ 11.10am.

My 2 mentioned aunts had worked hard in their dairies twice a day for many years, and were delighted to discard their wellies and cowpat shovels in their early 50s.

And in retirement they didn't rusticate. They did other things, eg one was at 83 still picking up some couple from the Cancer Patient Hostel one Sunday a month and taking them for a 3-hour bush picnic.

With a driver (sometimes me) after age 80, to talk to the philosophic patient, while she took the desolated spouse along the creek to cry his/her heart out to a sympathetic stranger in private.

She helped staff the Flying Doctor stall at the Ekka till 83, and was an overseas student airport meeter till 80. A number of them flew from afar for her funeral at 90 - one from Europe.

She was my father's little sister, and my spare mum for months at a time when things got beyond my real mum. She told me she adored her second husband (my mother's elder brother) and it was a joy to nurse him, and take him for frequent drives with his portable oxygen tank that lived in the car.

I suspect that some of us here are more intrinsically selfish than others, and therefore less prepared to even think of being giving to a later-less-rewarding spouse. (Most voiced criticisms also prove to be self-descriptions, you know.)

I'm looking for someone who's my own physiological age at the time when we pair off, and then it's pure luck who crocks up first, and will need support from the other.

That's if the other has the requisite unselfishness - a characteristic that I prize far beyond wealth or beauty.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 4:07 PM

This life stage thought poses some problems for many of us. I have well finished raising my kids-the youngest almost 20. There are many men in their 50's on this site with children as young as preschoolers. I am not criticising them for their late start but at the same time don't want to spend alternate weekends helping to raise another one's children.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 4:04 PM

I'm with you jenjen57. Although sometimes I think it's more about life stages than age per se. I'm 43 and there are lots of people of my age group in the area where I Iive. However, where I have teenage kids, most others in the area are either single and no kids, or have little kids. Nothing wrong with either of those, but I'd want to be with a man of a similar life stage. If he was also of similar age - great. But I think life stage is more important in terms of being able to empathise with each other's positions as parents, in careers and so on.
On the other hand, my last relationship was with a man who was 9 years older than me whose life stage as far as kids was similar but in career terms was completely different. This meant he was looking at retiring at 55 (for him) which was 46 for me - when I'm just getting started! So, it isn't easy to match these things I guess.
In real life I suspect that the strength of our 'connection' with or feeling for a potential new partner makes us willing to compromise in all these areas.

Posted by: archerrising at February 16, 2008 3:53 PM

Age difference is quite interesting. Have asked a few guys on this site who say there are a lot of women looking for much younger men. If the men want women 15 years younger than them and the women want men15 years younger then where does it leave the rest of us whom are looking for someone close in age.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 3:52 PM

So I see 2 advantages for most younger wives: being retired when you are still only middle-aged and lively, and nursing a failing spouse while you are still capable.
Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 12:11 PM

Have to agree with blueeyes lynath and wishful timmewarp. I couldnt think of anything worse than retiring at 50 something.......to do what with a much older spouse who by now is having trouble keeping up and soon going to need nursing ?? Personally I am looking for someone close to my own age so that we come to these stages in life at the same time.......at 50 I just couldnt see myself with someone aged 60 - 70..........we are at completely different stages in life with probably very different interests, activities and future plans.

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 16, 2008 3:43 PM

I agree wholeheartedly wishfulthinker. A typical man's view of women panicking about being left on the shelf. I'd rather be sitting comfortably on a shelf with a glass of champers and a close friend than washing some old geiser's smelly socks 'cause Im so grateful to have him. Get over yourself jabba. Hi Bob wherever you are, hope you had a great Valentine's Day..Katexxxx

Posted by: kateegirl at February 16, 2008 3:37 PM

And when you are my age wishful, you won't feel any more desperate either. Age is relevant to how you feel and I feel very young. A friend's mum is in her late 70's and been widowed for a few decades. She seems to have no trouble having boyfriends in her own age group and still does not want to settle.
It's not a matter of grabbing the first nice guy you meet because he might be your last chance (and that doesn't mean you are too picky) ,the important thing is that you choose someone who feels equally attracted to you.The first thing you see when you open your eyes in the morning is your partner.You'd want to hope that you both enjoy the view.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 3:24 PM

to wishfulthinker03, blueeyes1955 and thelynathdiary - well-said! I've also been wanting to post a comment expressing similar sentiments, but you've done it so well I won't bother now. Thanks. There remain many 'old school' types on this site ...

Posted by: hinterlandlover at February 16, 2008 3:16 PM

Well being close to mid-40's, I can afford not to "grab the first nice guy I meet", although can't imagine in my late 40's or early 50's I'd be that desperate to cling to the first nice man that happened along. There are plenty of older couples out there picking and choosing so it'd appear that the "less chance they have" statement is just garbage.

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 16, 2008 3:05 PM

Looking after a spouse that has become ill is one thing but looking for a younger partner on the premise that they might look after you in your old age is selfish. I thought the idea of finding a partner is to be able to enjoy quality time with a person of similar interests and hopefully health.I wouldn't like to date someone my dad's age and I'm sure you guys won't want someone the same age as your mum. (Not unless you are still in your 20's and looking for a tutor- as I suspect some of the 20-30 year olds who have sent me kisses are hoping for.They should find someone their own age and learn together.)

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 3:00 PM

So I see 2 advantages for most younger wives: being retired when you are still only middle-aged and lively, and nursing a failing spouse while you are still capable.

Timewarp...excellent name...do you really believe what you wrote above? Let's look at the advantage...

Firstly why do you presume the younger partner will want to "retire" just because the older one has . Do you think she wil just do what her partner expects?
I can think of nothing sadder than the much younger partner being catapulted into retirement or the lifestyle which inevitable comes with older age way before their time.
Your idea of thinking it is great to have the younger person in good health, in order to then sap them of it by nursing you, is in no way an advantage to the younger wife, but an example of really selfish thinking and only advantageous to you.

So you see Jabbathehung...many sane women in their 40's are way too smart to be caught by this.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 2:13 PM

Oh and any woman in her right mind in her late 40 to early fifties should grab the first nice guy they meet regardless of age,because the older you get girls the less chance you will have.

Posted by: jabbathehung at February 15, 2008 8:30 AM

Jabba could you please finish the sentence....the less chance you will have...for what?
Are you implying that no woman is ever going to live a happy and fulfilled life unless she has a man?
What a myth! Do men like the idea of a partner who wants them to fill in perceived embarrassing gap in someone's life? I think there would be nothing more disastrous. The man in my life will only be there if there is mutual attraction and joy in their company, not because of insecurity and panic.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at February 16, 2008 2:01 PM

Hi picklessister - being an open forum like this, any blogger is free to take up the offer :)

And thanks for the kiss - as I tell everyone here - I won't demand you waste a stamp on me but will respond to any correspondence I receive.

Posted by: stoic at February 16, 2008 2:00 PM

Is the sydney meet "by invitation" only, or can newbie occassional bloggers attend to??

Posted by: picklessister at February 16, 2008 1:38 PM

Hi, still a sometimes blogger, i read about a sydney meet? Where can I find details about this? Would be interested if I can work it in around kids and life as we know it. Thanks

Posted by: livinglife at February 16, 2008 12:54 PM

Not all women Woodnwine....bit of an overgeneralisation I'm thinking. There are plenty of us who are happy to be friends with those who simply don't offer the "whole package"...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 16, 2008 12:54 PM

GGTC ........looking forward to Sydney...its getting bigger and bigger by the day :)

timewarp and blueeyes...........yes there are no guarantees no matter the age gap between partners........my parents are 89/77 and at 89 my Dad is not frail and very active, while my Mum is quite disabled and relies on my Dad to keep house and look after her. Not what either of them expected when they got married 53 years ago.

Posted by: jenjen57 at February 16, 2008 12:47 PM

timewarp, thank you. Perhaps a little stumble whilst holding hand? Much luck tomorrow.

Posted by: kianee at February 16, 2008 12:46 PM

GTTC, yep, will be there, with about 20 others, should be a lot of fun!! jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at February 16, 2008 12:36 PM

Kianee, welcome back. Loved your poem, but want to disagree with your last couplet.

In my experience, having a hand to hold is often the preventative alternative to falling at all.

That's one of the reasons I'm looking so hard on RSVP. Next try, a lunch date at Sizzler tomorrow.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 12:31 PM

Hi again all ….. It has been a while, and again, interesting to read the comments, Love them all. When reading blogs though, what becomes so very obvious is how people’s moods vary from day to day, from frivolous and flirtatious to deep and meaningful to sad and black It is great to have this venue to express thoughts and emotions and to share feelings. My hobby is writing poetry, so herewith my little contribution, which perhaps relates to many of the issues which have been blogged about in the last few days:

Why do people seek partners, what do they gain,
Security, happiness, or ease lonely pain?
Relationships balanced on a very thin wedge
Holding precariously, desperately to a slippery ledge
Confusion; is it companionship, compassion or unappeasable lust
Am seeing financial devastation spirits broken, and hearts calloused,
Yet ultimately, it becomes quite clear
The most desperate need is to have a friend near

Look to heaven, to the top, the gutter or hell
The most deprived human is the lonely, all alone shell
When material, physical and sexual descend into decline
Then true friendship becomes the precious sublime
Most people seek appropriate others, in groups, or pairs
And in searching and seeking have optimistic affairs
But ultimately, the most profound find of all
Is the hand you hold, if you should fall.

Take care all, have an enjoyable Saturday, with maybe a little excitement thrown in. !!! 

Posted by: kianee at February 16, 2008 12:15 PM

BlueEyes @ 11.10am: Interesting point about age difference. Two of my mum's brothers married women 16 years younger. Sold their dairy farms at about age 67/51 and retired to the big smoke.

When they were about 80/64 they got frail, after their wives had already had 13 years of very active retirement in their 50s and early 60s. By age 67 their young widows were out to grass. Neither chose to remarry despite offers, and both died just over 20 years later.

My mum married a man her own age. He died at 49, leaving 3 sons aged between 16 and 7, and mum chose to remain widowed for the next 38 years.

So I see 2 advantages for most younger wives: being retired when you are still only middle-aged and lively, and nursing a failing spouse while you are still capable.

I home-nursed an ex-lover for a month after each of 2 hip replacements in 2004 and 2005, starting 18 months after I'd had trouble keeping up with her on our 45-min dawn power-walks when she had been 70. Death or disablement can come at any age - I had 4 months in hospital with polio at 15.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 12:11 PM

junebaby57! At this stage it does look like I'll be making the Sydney blogmeet.. Yee hah! I did make another commitment (gave first option), but that is not firm yet and may not arise.. You?
GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 16, 2008 11:41 AM

ISTJ @ 7.58am:

I liked your post (as usual), but don't completely agree with you. I think a balancing act is the healthiest approach:

Age: At 72, I'm way into antique, and am honest about that. But I don't just use that as an excuse for inactivity. I try to keep active physically and mentally, to let me remain a match for younger people.

So I find that most women my own age are acting and looking much older than I do. Sorry, not my match.

Size: At size XL, I'm pretty wide, and not as fit as I was ten, even five years ago. I don't despise myself for it, and I don't just accept it.

I'm trying to lose 20kg by August, so I'll enjoy my life more, and also last longer. Lost 15kg in 2003, before broken ribs etc garaged me beside the fridge for months, and I can do it again.

In a word: I don't beat myself up for my imperfections, but I don't happily accept them as a licence to blob. I try to work on them and reduce them - even the length of my posts here.

Must go get my Melbourne photos processed - still saving up for my Canon Ixus 70, after spending its cost and more on my Melbourne trip. The view from Eureka 88 is magnificent, but the Melbloggers eclipsed it. Lovely people.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 11:33 AM

I have made a few male friends from this site and considering everyone's work committments you need more than one.
I blogged last night on the topic of age difference but it disappeared so here goes again,. My father in law was 18 years older than his wife and although this was okay in their younger years the gap got larger as they got older. Mum ended up nursing an old man when she should have been enjoying her retirement..jabba take note.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 16, 2008 11:10 AM

WnW @ 10.03am

I wonder if you can guess from reading their profiles? Mine says I'm looking for female friends and/or a long-term relationship. Because I am.

I used to say short-term rel. too (better to have loved and lost, than never to have ...) but a couple of women told me they read that as 'player', so I took it off.

And yes, Michael, a lot of women do say up-front that they are only looking for an LTR with an M. And yes - it may mean that they prefer girls for friends, and only want a man for a shaglad.

You're like me - looking for a friend who will later be self-promoted to lover, so all we can do is keep on looking for someone who is looking for the whole experience of love, and not just a switch to turn on her libido.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 11:03 AM

http://psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-2113.html

Could be of interest, WnW, re the conundrum of friendship...men do not seem to want to ever just be friends with me...same as the Catch 22 Jabba was speaking of...men don't fancy older women but neither do older women fancy older men...so we remain eternally and happily single:))...or not!

Kaz, don't forget that drink.

Posted by: istj54 at February 16, 2008 10:44 AM

We really are a disposable society ... aren't we. Chew 'em up ... spit 'em out.

Why is it all or nothing with women? What is wrong with being friends .... do all the women on RSVP have too many friends already and can't use another one? This puzzles me.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 16, 2008 10:03 AM

istj 7:58 Willow...bees make a happy buzz all day long and love and respect their queen. They are magnificent workers and produce delicious honey products, royal jelly...is that an aphrodesiac?

It would seem I have created quite a problem for myself with my bee joke. How can I possibly respect and keep a queen happy until I find a queen. The jelly does sound like fun.

I am wondering if Virgil enjoys cricket. There is a Willow version of cricket that is even more fun to play than football. It has maidens, swingers, stumps, balls, leg glance and lots of definitions. You really do not want to know what a slip does.

For example what is a cricket glove?

A prophylactic device worn by males to prevent maidens from getting pregnant.

There are several vesion of the game you know. Tests, One dayers and Twenty 20. The Twenty 20 version is more commonly known as an orgy.

aunty 2:40. Thankyou

Must go, need to keep 2 little rug rats happy before I tackle the queen issue. Breakfast then 3 hours of getting drowned at the pool, with 36C in Adelaide today.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 16, 2008 9:18 AM

Good Morning all in blogland

'''I believe if people were comfortable with their bodies, whatever shape or size, we would not have any sizeism at all...so everyone out there...start to love yourselves and your bodies more...you will then never be offended by perceived insults again...Jabba's jibes about older women could be read with the disdain they deserve..."if" you have a healthy self-esteem...'''

Istj that is sooo true. You have to like/even love your self, before any others can. If you feel good and are positive, those vibes are picked up by others around you. Being positive about yourself, will attract positive people to you. No amtter what your age is!!!

Nina, I have been feeling down in the last 2 days, so I have put it down to over tiredness, as going to both Hobart and Melbourne in 3 days last weekend, Hobart for work and Melbourne for pleasure has really slowed me down all week. But is was sooo good to meet the bloggers that could make the Sunday lunch. It is lovely to put faces to all the names.
It was lovely to meet you, at last, and notgodsgfts idea of regular national meets sounded like a good one to me.

GTTC are you making Sydney?

Willow, I have not made yor lovely V dinners, 1st time I was down the coast, then this week my lap top died and is now in the repair shop, so can only get onto the desk top while the teenager is asleep!! like now. But I did have a black russian while chatting to dolphin, it sounded like you all had a lovely time of it.

have a lovely day all, it looks like it will be a gr8 one here in the kapital...jewels!!

Posted by: junebaby57 at February 16, 2008 8:49 AM

Good Morning Neuroticfish...it is overcast here but warming later...that was for oldtimesake...I do believe your contenetious post about self-sabotage was directed at yourself...was it not? Meaning that if you fed "your" lady-love on chockies she would get fat and you would suffer this consequence as you may do away with the competition...I guess this could also be interpreted as fattist...I believe if people were comfortable with their bodies, whatever shape or size, we would not have any sizeism at all...so everyone out there...start to love yourselves and your bodies more...you will then never be offended by perceived insults again...Jabba's jibes about older women could be read with the disdain they deserve..."if" you have a healthy self-esteem...Just my rambling thoughts on this overcast mourning...before I get uo and try to find something to fit me:))

Willow...bees make a happy buzz all day long and love and respect their queen. They are magnificent workers and produce delicious honey products, royal jelly...is that an aphrodesiac? and, as Ninaschen said, fruit trees and vegies. They are part of a community and are valued members of our staggeringly huge insect world...They are attractive to look at...but not too closely...I may go to said movie myself...I do like Jerry Seinfeld.

Also people...for any discussion to take place and be of interest, you need alternative viewpoints...be more open to them today...doesn't mean a person is negative 'cos they don't agree with you...Could mean you are wrong!

Posted by: istj54 at February 16, 2008 7:58 AM

Aliane, don’t worry about hotel accommodation in Brisbane.

My friend will pick you up at the Gold Coast Airport in a black tinted bullet proof Lada (converted into a panel van with appropriate mattress and on board stubbie holders and esky with short boards supa glued to the racks- to blend in with the locals and not be noticed) and will whisk you away to several nights of fun frivolity, caviar, vodka, borsch and bullsche. He is a very hospitable gentleman and I am sure you will love him forever

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 16, 2008 7:20 AM

Willow, your posts are always entertaining and if others dont like it weII stiff bikkies to them...

got a song for you all to listen to..The Panics....Cruel Guards Cd song 4 listen to the words....Don't fight it, dont fight it, dont fight it, if you dont know what it is....... awesome song and makes me think so deeply about many things in my Iife...................K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 16, 2008 2:40 AM

Willow @ 11.30pm: You are too kind. I will be calling in now and then, but only short visits and won't say much after tonight.

GreatTimesTC @ 11.30pm: Not a chance of me getting to the next Sydney blogmeet, I'm afraid. Thanks for asking.

Night all, but you've gone already ...

Spent 10 days house-sitting at Neutral Bay in Nov, and can't justify another work sales trip to Sydney till Spring.

Will definitely be down on Fri. Sept 19 - Mon 22nd inclusive for a Tony Robbins Firewalk 18-hours-a-day man-killing seminar, and thinking of coming down the weekend before (fly down pm Fri 12th or am Sat 13th) to see family plus whatever, then a coupla weekdays with nephew in Bathurst, before the man-killer.

So if there was another Sydney meet on Sept 13 and/or 14, I'd plan to be there, but no other chances in 2008.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 12:50 AM

"I.C." said the blind man.. (He used to be an electronics technician...)

Well, Nina, Amber and lurkers, Have a great night.
All for now,
Ho...
Ho...

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 16, 2008 12:42 AM

Born and bred here, GTTC. The folks were from Berlin and Kiel. Bloody Germans, they called themselves, with tongues planted firmly in their cheeks.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 16, 2008 12:37 AM

Thanks GTTC.
Yes I notice the Fish seems to enjoy baiting the hook! (Just couldn't resist though!) From what I've read in the blogs RSViper pops in and out occasionally with some snaky comments. It all adds to the fun & variety, life would be boring otherwise.
Thanks, you too. Night All.

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 12:32 AM

Ninaschen.. Had a friend from Bavaria who used to say ' its nice to be a Preiss, but its higher to be a Bayer'..

Just a silly teasing chant referring to people from the north (Preisse) and the south (Bayer).

However my spelling could be cactus.

It was a lame attempt at asking which part you were from..

Please don't talk to me in THAT voice!! sets my teeth on edge... :-D

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 16, 2008 12:32 AM

Time for bed, I think. But before I go, sorry GTTC, I couldn't quite decipher your schoolboy German (mine is much, much worse, trust me!). Please explain (insert Pauline Hanson voice, here).

Posted by: ninaschen at February 16, 2008 12:23 AM

Amberlight, Hi.. Didn't think there were as many sarcastic or poisonous remarks as usual.. seemed quiet. Sometimes they're quite funny, however R.S. Viper always appears nasty and when the Fishes Neuroses are running rampant, I scroll past.. He calms down eventually...
Have a great night,
GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 16, 2008 12:21 AM

Wow,
there are some very sarcastic and angry comments tonight! Some people had a bad day? RSviper having a go and Neurotic Fish with what seems to be the normal disparaging comments about women!! Sure, Neurotic Fish most of us know all about self-sabotage and lack of self-esteem, we've all been there! A healthy self-esteem takes years for some of us to develop. If all children at birth were blessed with bucket-loads of self-esteem there would be no need for the Jenny Craigs or Weight Watchers of this world and the Mental Health Teams in this country would have little work to do!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 16, 2008 12:14 AM

Nina, I have taken a long time tonight to get to your current depression, and now it seems you are feeling better without my input.

I sympathised with you because I began tonight feeling bad too. Came back from Melbourne on Wed night physically and emotionally exhausted, and hadn't had time since to recharge. Too busy working. You too?

Our 11-hour continuous party on Saturday was just about all I could handle that weekend. I phoned WB for the venue of Sunday lunch, but did so an hour too late, because my elderly wrist sundial has no tank to save the daylight. And I don't know if I would have had another eat or squeak in me, if I had gone to lunch.

Then the emotion of meeting my 1960 girlfriend for lunch on Mon (not seen for 35 years - only Xmas cards), and the frustration of not meeting my 1961 girlfriend for lunch the next day, because I got the venue wrong. (We caught up briefly that evening.)

On Wed am I went to sit on the wheeled stool in front of the youth hostel phone, missed it and fell flat on my back on the floor. Wump!

And a few more dramas, including finding that my prearranged 25km lift home from Brisbane airport at 8.30pm wasn't going to happen - just as the hostie was savaging me to turn off my mobile "immediately", so she could sit down for take-off.

Knocked off work tonight at sunset and felt bad. Release of tension I guess. Phoned a mate and she cheered me up enough to get on this blog, which has helped a lot more - especially your gracious compliments, VDU.

You were right. Inside the cafe, I couldn't hear much at all except Sydney Bob holding court, but outside with the smokers I could hear everyone, all being so nice to everyone.

Nina, when you feel down, go cheer someone else up. My grandpa called it "sink self." Always works for me.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 16, 2008 12:06 AM

VDU, Willow - G'night!!
Ninaschen, looks like you are fond of bees... (as am I), you forgot to mention honey as well!! They are a powerhouse...

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 16, 2008 12:04 AM

'night, Willow. Sweet dreams.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 16, 2008 12:00 AM

nina, excellent. I hope you are feeling better. Goodnight.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 11:54 PM

This little black duck needs some sleep - I'll see you all tomorrow, hopefully in greater numbers.

Happy weekend everyone!!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 11:53 PM

Find a pro for being a bee. You have set me a difficult task, Willow. Hmm. Let me think. Okay! Got it. Without bees there would be no flowers, nor fruit nor many vegetables. How could we live in this world without them? Give thanks to the humble bee. They make the world a better place.

As we all do.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 15, 2008 11:52 PM

rsviper I have no idea what I have done to cause you to post that.

It was not directed at you or anyone for that matter, just a simple comment that sometimes tempers flare and it is best to leave them alone as I now will.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 11:39 PM

timewarp, you cannot go. You form part of the fabric of RSVP bloggsville. people like me just drop in and out when we can find time.

This is not competition, it is complementation. I think this may be a new Willow word.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 11:30 PM

Timewarp, mine wasn't a complaint, per se, just an observation...

And you are right some others are rather lengthy (and frequently boring) so I do use the scroll wheel on my rat frequently.

Good luck with earning some more for others!! You coming to the Syd Blogfest?

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 11:30 PM

QUOTE OF THE WEEK comes from willow1059.... "One other tip, if anyone gets a bit nasty just let it go". February 15, 2008 12:08 AM

......................................................................................................................................

This little gem is from the nasty insensitive mouth of willow1059, a person who's own perfection allows him the extravagance to happily ridicule and embarrass those unfortunate enough to suffer from Tourette Syndrome, just to get a laugh..... Well, you're funny alright. You're a joke.
......................................................................................................................................

Posted by: rsviper at February 15, 2008 11:29 PM

Nah Wishful - I hate those buzzy little mongrels too :)

Posted by: stoic at February 15, 2008 11:29 PM

I must be the nasty one...but I have no sympathy for those nasty little bees - something the size of my fingernail has the potential to kill me in a very short space of time...so no...can't say I give much thought to what it is like to be them....enjoy too much being ME!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 15, 2008 11:26 PM

Ninaschen, Germans aren't dour! Just mistaken...

Preiss (sp?) oder Bayer? and thats the limit of my schoolboy Deutsche

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 11:25 PM

VDU Thankyou I think. "Willow, you've put it all into a very succinct perspective - well done!!!"

I will be consulting the Willow dictionary ASAP to understand what the big words mean. I am especially concerned about the willow meaning for "succinct". Do you think I need to know this before my date?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 11:22 PM

Thanks guys.

You know that poem "To Bee, or not To bee".

Well now you know how difficult it would have been to write. I can think of so many things against being a bee but currently none for.

Ah, to be an author such a difficult occupation.

Nina, can you think of any pros?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 11:17 PM

GreatTimes: I am reformed.

No more lengthy posts from me.

(But be fair, man: mine were only ever half as long as the lengthier ones from Willow, Femalepers, naughtyfish etc, and a quarter as long as some from OLD Expert and OLD Goddess.)

Why my change of heart?

My finances have left McCawber territory (spell?) and I need to spend a lot more hours a week right now, earning what I owe too many people at the moment, and need to pay back soonishly.

And I just realised: people have been complaining about the length of my posts, instead of just fast-forwarding across them in search of shorter, more frivolous offerings.

But they don't complain about others' far longer posts. So maybe the others' are not as interesting, so readers with short attention spans feel free to fast forward across their longest posts, but feel they need to read all mine. In yer dreams, Bill.

The alternative is that their long posts are interesting, and mine are boring.

Then I realised that my projected image of "antiquity significantly delayed" does not fit very well with being a boring old fart.

Digestion is unavoidable, but I know that age is boring, so boring may be aging, and decided to give it up, just in case. After this post.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 15, 2008 11:16 PM

VDU - You have mail!!

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 11:13 PM

Thanks Wishful, VDU and Willow (and of course, Stoic). Your support is touching and appreciated.

Willow, being of dour German stock, I don't laugh out loud often, the most I can usually manage is a conservative grin. You make me laugh out loud. Thank you.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 15, 2008 11:13 PM

Willow, you've put it all into a very succinct perspective - well done!!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 11:12 PM

Hey nina, willow sends a kiss.

Its OK to think life sucks some days, but there is always someone worse off than you.

Think of those poor bees sucking on stamens all day, out in the hot sun, no shade, not even a single cocktail to help pass the day. Worse still you have kittens peeing all over you.

I wanted to go see bee movie with the kids but then I started thinking about what they go through each day. I just couldn't go to see it.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 11:04 PM

TimeWarp, you flatter me!! The get togethers are fantastic but the sheer weight of numbers makes it difficult to converse with all the attendees.

I mentioned in a an email to the Melbourne bloggers that I was most impressed with you coming out and joining the smaller smokers group outside as talking was much easier out on the street.

Just as in your blog posts, you are articulate, erudite and a complete gentleman - it was lovely to meet you.

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 11:03 PM

Oh well, timewarp, it was just an idea..thank you for your comments though and thanks to everyone for being patient with me as I brave this new world of technology. It has worn me down though, so I must away. Busy day tomorrow and then I am off to visit the beautiful Darling Harbour tomorrow night. I live in Sydney but rarely visit our tourist delights....too expensive to do too often!!! Have a lovely weekend all.
Cheers.

Posted by: bm1960 at February 15, 2008 10:58 PM

Hang in there Nina....I know what you are feeling :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 15, 2008 10:56 PM

She'd wear me out, Stoic!

Yeah. I'll ride it out. Thanks. We both will (you and me). We all have to stay positive otherwise we get gobbled up. Can't have that now, can we? There are too many wonderful experiences in front of us yet to be savoured and enjoyed.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 15, 2008 10:55 PM

VDU are you telling me I was stood up for a daughter and her boyfriend.

Does he play football?

Timewarp, you can look at my profile anytime, I am not homophobic. In fact I have no phobia about being at home at all.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 10:54 PM

BM, I hear your frustration. The only times I've flown into a rage in the last ten years have always been caused by computer problems!! Persistance my friend...

Nina, all will be better in the morning, or next week or next month... we all have phases of disillutionment and we all come out the other side better than when we went in. I have complete faith there.

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 10:53 PM

27th try later...

Just a quick story about my Grandfather (seeing I brought it up earlier and he's not with us now)...

I was at the local shopping centre with him a couple of years ago and we were enjoying a coffee. A young bloke with a mohawk haircut that was coloured blue, red, green and orange came and sat at the next table. My Grandfather kept staring at him until he snarled; "Whats the matter Pops? Never seen anyone a bit different before?"

My Grandfather considered this for a moment and responded; "Actually, I was just remembering that I got drunk a few years back and had sex with a parrot. I was wondering if you were my son....."

Funny man...

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 10:51 PM

Hello VDU. Did you know it was your saying on a blog that you hoped I was coming down from BrisVegas for the Melbmeet so you could meet me, that persuaded me to smash the piggy-bank?

At that stage, I had no idea who or what you were, but one peep at your profile and Wow!

The best bit was that you are twice as gorgeous in 3D. What a pity so many years and kilometres separate us ...

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 15, 2008 10:51 PM

Yeah I hear ya, nina. But you will ride it out. Even if you have to hit the town with Yuka one night ;)

Posted by: stoic at February 15, 2008 10:44 PM

BM @ 9.20pm

I'm delighted about three or four times a day, when someone 50 years younger than I am, (or older than that) and/or of either sex looks at my profile, to see who the hell wrote that last piece of whatever.

So I don't need to use your coding idea, to try to stop readers from checking me out in more detail.

But there are some gentlemen on here (no names, no pack-drill) who are so homosensitive that they've told us that they become intensely uncomfortable, if a male ever looks at their profile, and thus leaves his tell-tale face showing in their "I seen yer" panel.

Maybe THEY would like to use your idea, to signal to other males that that's all the information they're comfortable with giving out about themselves, thank you very much, unless you're a chick?

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 15, 2008 10:39 PM

Hello again.....this fantasmagorical contraption is letting me down....tried to post before...Yes, I know....a good tradesperson does not blame their tools....so I fess up....I ain't as clever on this thing as I try to be....:-) Who wants a drink? I need one!!!
Cheers!

Posted by: bm1960 at February 15, 2008 10:38 PM

The disillusionment is catching up with me, Stoic. I try to stay positive and up-beat but sometimes it all just catches up with me. I'm sure I will drag myself out of the doldrums soon. I spoke with Yuka tonight. She is happy. Good to hear!

Posted by: ninaschen at February 15, 2008 10:37 PM

Nina my love, why so wistful??? (A lovely word we don't here anymore!!)

Willow, I'd love to tell you that I'd been swept off to a romantic date with the man of my dreams last night, but the truth is that my darling daughter and her boyfriend bought me flowers for Valentine's Day and we ended up having a lively evening together. At least I felt loved!!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 10:37 PM

What's bugging you ninaschen?

Posted by: stoic at February 15, 2008 10:32 PM

Willow?? What was that post at 921pm supposed to be saying? Or are you just 'parroting' 2-I's to make a point?

GTTC

GTTC no parrots at my place. I was just trying to confirm I am mad and to be avoided, so no new blogger can have any doubt about it. Save them reading all the earlier stuff to come to that conclusion.

VDU Nice one, your idea to have a party last night but where were you. I couldn't even send a live kiss.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 10:30 PM

I'm here, VDU. Just reading. I'm being quiet and feeling a little wistful.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 15, 2008 10:29 PM

GTTC, your efforts to keep the old Aussie vernacular going is to be admired - now get back to that email!!!!

So BM, Chrome, Timewarp, and Willow maybe, please post comments to liven up this blog - PLEASE!!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 10:22 PM

Hi Bill, at least there's another soul floating here tonight - you now make us a group of six if Willow is still with us...

I honestly can't remember it being so quiet here - ever!!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 10:14 PM

VDU, yes I feel it is a personal mission to keep old colloquialisms alive and well...

However I can't use some of my Grandfathers expressions any longer... e.g. when he calls a waitress in a coffee shop a 'nice young tart' he isn't casting aspersions upon her moral character, but it seems to be taken that way nowadays!!

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 10:12 PM

But that doesn't stop timewarp from posting some really really really long blogs.... ;-D

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 10:08 PM

Keep at it GTTC... I know you're up to the task!

Seems like we both need to get a life, and I can't remember the last time I saw the word "strewth" - thanks for the trip down memory lane!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 10:06 PM

Hi bm1960 and welcome. I have a laptop too, and hate the tiny keys and the useless tit that is pretending to be a mouse.

So I spent an extra $90 and got a real keyboard, a real mouse with scrollwheel and a drawer thing - the laptop sits on top and keyboard goes in drawer.

Now I can type twice as fast, ie. 1/4 as quickly as anyone else. 72/M/Bris

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 15, 2008 10:05 PM

VDU!!! Still writing the other email... strewth you can type!! ;-)

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 9:58 PM

BM, You'll get there... Just relax or you'll get bent out of shape like some of us here..

Chrome, did you really want kisses from Karina?

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 9:57 PM

It's unusually quiet here tonight... surely we're not the only people not out on dates??

I need to get a life...

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 15, 2008 9:55 PM

RE: Actual topic

"...There are kisses in your inbox..."

No Karina...none. Not nice of you to get my hopes up!

Posted by: chrome79 at February 15, 2008 9:52 PM

Sorry, wasn't trying to incite anything....a bit to exuberant with this new contraption....really am so proud of myself for setting it up and using it without the help of my son or my nephew!!!! I just want to contribute and enjoy.....

Posted by: bm1960 at February 15, 2008 9:50 PM

BM, Chill. People come and go on here. Sometimes conversations go for hours but only have a post every 30 mins. Depends on who's about. So keep in mind that with numbers on here it can be 'feast or famine'.. Do some searches on RSVP between posts or something... Cheers,
GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 9:43 PM

Dare I ask, what was the point? I hope I haven't annoyed anyone with my postings...that was most definitely not my intent.
Cheers

Posted by: bm1960 at February 15, 2008 9:38 PM

Willow?? What was that post at 921pm supposed to be saying? Or are you just 'parroting' 2-I's to make a point?

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 15, 2008 9:34 PM

Huh???? Isn't life all about figuring out what is going on and trying to make the best of it? That is the way I try to go about living anyway...and I hope I don't tread on anyone's toes as I go about my journey of discovery....mind you...learning how to use this flat keyboard and touchpad is a very difficult journey indeed...:-)
Cheers,
BM1960
47/F/Syd :-)

Posted by: bm1960 at February 15, 2008 9:33 PM

bm1960 dont talk to willow, he is bizarre amd wicked. Everything he writes is tripe.

bm1960 "This probably means that I will spend most of my time trying to figure out what I am doing"

twoeyes 9:11 "dont worry bm if your smart then you will work out those people that are not worth talking to and or reading the trash and tripe they write and be able to form you own opinion about them and the difference to others on here that actually have something nice to say............"

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 9:21 PM

I have an idea...back in the early days of yahoo chat etc., people used to ask your A/S/L...Age/Sex/Location....probably should be A/G/L now...gender is more politically correct! So, if bloggers signed off with the A/G/L thing, it would give the readers more of an insight of the person rather than having to check profiles...(hard to do when at work with very limited personal computer time...)......Sorry if I have brought up an previously mooted notion....
All the best,
BM1960
47/F/Syd

Posted by: bm1960 at February 15, 2008 9:20 PM

dont worry bm if your smart then you will work out those people that are not worth talking to and or reading the trash and tripe they write and be able to form you own opinion about them and the difference to others on here that actually have something nice to say............

Posted by: twoeyes at February 15, 2008 9:11 PM

Hello everyone....I am a regular reader but rarely contribute as I usually only check this site on work breaks....but now I have my very own terrifyingly hi-tech laptop at home. This probably means that I will spend most of my time trying to figure out what I am doing rather than actually doing anything! Bit like this RSVP thing, don't you think? :-)
That was a silly analogy that means I am experienced to some degree on computers etc., but basically not real good at it, and in matters of love, it is much the same. I hope that makes sense. Have a lovely weekend.
Cheers.

Posted by: bm1960 at February 15, 2008 9:06 PM

I'm a virgin blogger..sorry...I can hear the sighs now. I just wanted to say that I used to think you should take time to get to know someone online to see if there was any real connection. Speak on the phone for a while to see how the conversation flowed..then meet. Not any more. I did that recently for about a month. Chatted online, on the phone..the person knew pretty much everything about me. What I sounded like, looked like, did in life, wanted out of life, liked, loved hated. We then met and the next day I received a short email saying that was it. No future. I say meet the person ASAP!

Posted by: choochi68 at February 15, 2008 8:03 PM

Hello genex2. You sound exactly like all the other nasties.

I like naughtyfish better. Could you try copying him?

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 15, 2008 7:46 PM

PS. So I should have posted it to the other blog. But no-one seems to be on that one, even talking interesting rubbish.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 15, 2008 7:35 PM

Thank you RSVP for inviting Brisbane members to a free preview of "Dan in real life" about ten days ago.

I went along and really enjoyed it - certainly good enough to spend your own money to see. And on a topic of relevance to those of us who are looking for a dearest darling. If I had one yet, I'd take her next week. Thanks again, RSVP.

Relevance? I bought my free ticket on the internet.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 15, 2008 7:30 PM

In yer dreams Jack...I mean gene!!:))

Posted by: istj54 at February 15, 2008 7:30 PM

slightsonc
had fringe cut???? and it blurred the photo ??? that will teach you to stop using the cell phone while cutting your hair.

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:15 PM

laughsand talks

this happens from time to time
I think he/she is a mormon or a seventh day advetnist or maybe just a hypocrite with half a brain.
Any comments welcome............................sounds like it could be a good blog topic Karina.

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:12 PM

istj54

kiss/kiss/kiss/hug/hug/hug

heheheheheh!!!!!!!!

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:09 PM

they ban people for no reason.
I think one of the moderators has a problem with bloggers

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:08 PM

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:21 PM

What is the story with the moderating here? My post asking for aliane and jabberthehungs visible profile names has been excised.
Have I comitted sin and violation?

Posted by: laughsandtalks at February 15, 2008 6:05 PM

...well I have just been censored...how do I feel?????hmmmmmm...let you know later.

Wonder why you weren't WnW...hope today was a better day for you.

Posted by: istj54 at February 15, 2008 5:43 PM

sorry oldergent ididnt know how to work the blog page before my self .and i had problems trying to figure it out my self if to. if you are new to rsvp i give you my best and hopefully you will find the right woman good luck in searching

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 15, 2008 5:07 PM

laughsandtalks - most of us know Mr Jibberjabba ... not sure if he still has his original profile up but he is from the Hunter and that's what he does.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 15, 2008 4:39 PM

Now they are even mucking up my spelling !

Posted by: oldergent at February 15, 2008 4:34 PM

I WAS SIGNED IN, THE LAST TEXTING/ what I was saying stonecold 3 that you are doing better than most of us newbee's in getting your posts through. It looks like my conspiraicy theory might be true.
Cheers.

Posted by: oldergent at February 15, 2008 4:33 PM

sorry woodwine ive got to get use to making my full stops right . i will correct it anyway good luck searching . for the right woman

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 15, 2008 4:07 PM

NF...need your help please, I need good location for Brisbane Hotel, during my weekends stay. Need some idea, never been to there yet. Just for meeting you and your friend :), I need only weekends stay cos need to be back to Sydney for work weekdays. Thanks

Posted by: aliane at February 15, 2008 3:59 PM

stonecold ... man I'm left breathless from reading your post. How about buying a couple of full stops?
Otherwise ... good luck.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 15, 2008 3:47 PM

NF...let him stay that way having responsibilities for citizen safety. I have my own mission to figured out the revelation...it seems where in separate mission don't we! But same job to make a report to highest superiority, any allocated tasks to us. I am only just subordinate follow the orders.

Posted by: aliane at February 15, 2008 2:52 PM

its been close to one year and ive i nearly been through most of the profiles of the woman here and i have been searching ivegot stamps and im not wasting themwhen you send stamps or intrested of getting to know these woaman or send kisses to them they cant bothered to reply to youi keep moving on until they are the right woman who you want to spend the rest of your lives with but they are so judgamental . but i think keep searching and good luck out there but with me im thinking maybe looking at dating an american woman to be honest good luck every one on blog im new to this and trying to figure this out still its great to meet new peolpe and friends

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 15, 2008 2:13 PM

Aliane,

My friend was actually on rsvp a couple of years ago.

He gave it up because he was getting hit upon by too many Russian women who recognised him from his senior position with the GKB in Moskau.

These days he is just tracking down Russian Mafia who seem to have taken up residence on the less salubrious parts of the Gold Coast.

Otherwise he is a nice bloke.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 15, 2008 2:09 PM

NF my dear,...

Thank you for sending "my space" I got a good laugh those "Love Juice" or "Love You" that was really romantic funny. I could think myself on that situation trying to escape saying "Juice" instead of "You" honestly that's what I see in me.

This is off topics for both of us but my Purpose is open up on this Public Forum ( To encourage everyone have faith on themselves, finding someone in right time & in right path; patience is needed & positive attitude ).

As off the record, we're not exchanging emails in private. It took only here in this Blogs knowing each other. I enjoying reading your Blogs same time teasing you, & cheekiness. But I don't take it seriously to meet anyone from male-bloggers, my reason because I exposed my life writing blogs base on my true real life stories and experiences. (out of my sight, Not wanted to meet any guys bloggers for romance, cos they knew already my personal life and I don't want to take them as my credit). Reason I used different blog-name from profile name.

I was totally stunned and full surprised, saying your friend is " Secret Service Agent"...I have No idea why I said it...it just only base on my mental senses and my psychic dreams, that, I will have connection of him.
I know and understand people don't need to believed in dreams as a prediction can communicate us in real life. BUt I lived on this dreams..my foremost guidance and power to walked with me in right path as Prophecy says. Because TRUTH & POWER laid on it.

I made a Poem of Chosen One on Valentines Day that base on my dreams I wrote....If someone Asked me if I see my future, YES absolutely, I see this Man has a good heart and chosen from "Divine", Its not me to pick him neither him to pick me But the Power of Divine has made it so. And this is the answer of my years of prayers>

Long time ago one of a lovely Lady said to me " Does the Beauty is a Gift or a Curse". I made my silence, as myself is a "Curse" because mostly men find me attractive But for me Finds it Destructive. Can't not make a choices as I was sealed to stay that way. And Bound to a "Chosen One" as I am forbidden to have affair not my destined fate. Curse is the Payment to disobey. It's happened to me and I pay the Price. So as People deceived me too can not escape of this curse.

Only dreams communicated me saying "Be Patience" as this omen have had very important revelation on this Quest...A Secret to Revealed at the end. Why I was been chosen and HIM to be chosen of this Journey. I know what it is but my lips is sealed.

NF, keep open your profile, I will log again to rewrite my profile and will send you email, I like to know you well, and see my dreams to proved all is right. Maybe I will fly to Brisbane to meet you one of this days either you come to Sydney to meet me. I want to trace this Chosen One cos I can not fulfilled the mystery without him vice versa of him either. Love to see you around...

Posted by: aliane at February 15, 2008 1:58 PM

Hello all, hope you all enjoyed your V-Day :)

My first post here, and the only reason I did so was to comment on Willow's post. Very funny indeed. I hope you are no longer dateless in 2008 :)

And Gyspynurse, congratulations. A wonderful story :)

Posted by: wanabeprincess at February 15, 2008 12:35 PM

Amberlight58,
This is now the 4th attempt to post this message. Please disregard all the other attempts that failed. Sometimes but only sometimes you can get straight through ( cherish them). It doesn't seem to matter what procedure you follow, the criteria to follow is perserverence, and in my case heaping all the expletives I can think of and some I make up in frustration, on the powers that be in control of this site. This may not be the best procedure for you as at the momen I am working on a conspiracy theory

Posted by: oldergent at February 15, 2008 12:27 PM

Good luck with that gypsynurse - wow, a first date on Valentine's Day.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 15, 2008 11:41 AM

Hi Gang,
Just reading back through last night's blogs. I'm sorry I missed the party, I don't have a note but I do have a good excuse.
I got kissed late on the eve of the 13th, duly requested an email, not a lot of information there but something caught my eye.
Only after I sent my reply kiss did I realise there was no photo so duly sent off another kiss requesting said photo.
Morning of the 14th email in my inbox.. short but sweet, several emails too and fro all in one day.. still no photo
We get to phone texting, lots of fun for valentines day ..

Cut a long story short, I had a blind date,still no photo; dinner and saw a show, a wonderful evening and the company of a lovely gentleman.. And I'm having dinner with him tonight!
Who knows where this will lead but
I'm having fun and I suspect so is he. Isn't that the point.
All this because I took a chance and met with a man purely on his profile and how he communicated with me.
So, sorry to miss the party, but perhaps I will be here for the next one.
Not skiting folks, just saying, broaden your horizons and take the odd risk in life occasionally
@-->-->--

Posted by: gypsynurse at February 15, 2008 11:21 AM

NF Bourne Supremacy....you can read my mind, glad my antenna still working track down your radar..:))) mission accomplish Sir! (Salute)

Posted by: aliane at February 15, 2008 11:12 AM

Oh and any woman in her right mind in her late 40 to early fifties should grab the first nice guy they meet regardless of age,because the older you get girls the less chance you will have.

Posted by: jabbathehung at February 15, 2008 8:30 AM

i will keep that in mind then jabba, when I get to that age.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 15, 2008 9:57 AM

OK, sobered up this morning and dusted myself off ... ever onward. Now jaspercat ... don't give up, just take a well deserved break, refresh your spirits, go out with a few friends (maybe join some other Brissie bloggers for a drink some time) then have another go. You are young and attractive and will find someone but it is definitely a numbers thing so you've got to be in it to win it.

We all now have another 12 months to find someone to celebrate next Valentine's Day with.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 15, 2008 9:44 AM

NF...this is your message to Istj..does also applied to me...." You'll only get out of this site like this (which is just a facilitator what you put in. If you are not proactive, don't want to make the effort (like your last relationship- you didn't work on it, you made no effort-you just sat back and expected it to flow in) - then you will very quickly join the rank of the Dammed, the Disgusted and the Losers.......ha ha awww :))
Did you know why? I kept online not dating , just online..to stay single for a moment cos I'm afraid in... OUT of TIME...a Shot-Gun Marriage...:)))

Posted by: aliane at February 15, 2008 9:41 AM

NF...This good things in blogging learnt and read many things, taught of alert from 1 to 5 deacon either to deploy warfare for self-defense. Dealt from past digging top confidential military mission...Help from those Voluntary Samaritan to decode my devices wavelength...I need a Top Secret Agent...
ASIS, CIA, KGB, CSIS, MI6, MOSSAD, GESTAPO, YAKUZA. ECT. INC ALIANE

Posted by: aliane at February 15, 2008 8:57 AM

NF...does applied to me too for self-sabotage?, same things you wrote to Istj? So, what I supposed to do, a Self-help? which is which....whom is whom?
Anyway, I am not obsessed of chocolate mudcake. I have sweet tooth all for good cause...

Posted by: aliane at February 15, 2008 8:13 AM

Istj

The trick is to keep her fridge full of chocolate. Indulge her one obsession (usually shared by most women).

Every time you visit or pick her up, keep adding to the supply of chocolates. Most chocolate manufacturers have large ranges so mix it up a bit for variety (or the ploy will become as stale as your love life).

It is called sabotage. She stacks on the kilos, you get rid of the opposition.

But it is also self sabotage. You are now stuck with a little fattie.

But most people on here know all about self sabotage. They have been doing it all their lives. Probably the very reason they are here in the first place, and it is certainly the reason why we get them exiting visibly in disgust.

Yes. Self sabotage. “I’m off this site for good.” Yeah, pull my other leg. You’ll be back, but will you have learnt your lesson next time. You’re joking of course. It’s always “the site is no good” or “the men are dregs”

You’ll only get out of a site like this (which is just a facilitator) what you put in. If you are not proactive, don’t want to make the effort (like your last relationship- you didn’t work on it, you made no effort- you just sat back and expected it all to flow)- then you will very quickly join the ranks of the Damned, the Disgusted and the Losers.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 15, 2008 6:17 AM

Hey guys, I have just returned home from dinner, beautiful grilled chicken with prawns and a garlic cream sauce, lovely wine and very good company. I also received a lovely red chocolate heart and two lovely e-mails from past friends made on rsvp. What is wrong with you miserable lot sitting there moaning to a computer night after night. Don't you realise the reason you are so miserable and boring is you never get out into the real world. Make friends, be nice to people, it's called Karma and it comes back in spades. Stop being judgemental and just plain nasty, smile and someone will definitely smile back but being miserable all the time and some of you just plain nasty will only bring you pain, which I think some of you actually enjoy!!

Posted by: iaminperth at February 15, 2008 1:46 AM

kitten- where is that kiss ?

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 15, 2008 12:31 AM

Yes Willow, you seem very caring. You also have a wicked sense of humour!
Night all!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 15, 2008 12:19 AM

Hope that you all had a great Valentine's day & night..sending you plenty of hugs and all that jazzzz from Ridersonthestar's :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 15, 2008 12:14 AM

So we have all survived this day of lonely hearts and waiting for flowers...... I got neither but still know I am loved very much. I offer you many hugs, for future need, sweet kisses, for those sour times, and a smile for every tear. Although I know at times those tears can seem never ending! Love is what it is......the only emotion that can bring us to the height of elation and the depths of despair, sometimes in the one day. Yet we continue to seek, find and devour it...time and time again. So my guess is, thats theres got to be something to this elusive feeling that has us hook line and sinker. I suppose it all depends on the bait you use, as to what you will eventually catch, or throw back.
Cheers to all.....We are who we are, do not compromise that essential sense of being for anyone...... :-)

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 15, 2008 12:13 AM

Goodnight everyone, new and old.

Willow hopes the evening made Valentines Day at least a little nicer for you.

Try to carry todays kisses real or virtual with you on Friday, the day will pass better that way.

xxxxx

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 12:10 AM

Annie, hi welcome to RSVP blogsville. Who knows what this is all about.

The general thurust is a few of us were dateless for the evening so a Willow virtual party (this) was arranged last night.

The place is sometimes fun, sometimes less so.

As for the people having trouble posting, RSVP is a bit tricky with logging in to the blogs. My tip once you are in successfuly and have managed to post then stay logged in.

One other tip, if anyone gets a bit nasty just let it go.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 12:08 AM

I'm new to this too anniep1, it took me days to work it all out, then I posted a comment on Dangerous Mistakes (well I thought I did!) and I guess RSVP must have closed the blog! Obviously RSVP likes to decide when enough is said ... (BB is alive and well?!)

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 14, 2008 11:54 PM

I agree Virgil, it's much better to be alone, making your own choices and decisions in life than living that feeling of knowing that your life is falling apart and being unable to do anything about it
(I have the wonderful advantage of dial-up internet! You've all changed topic 5 times and I am still reading yesterday's comments!)

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 14, 2008 11:48 PM

Hey guys you sound like fun, finally worked out how to sign in after many attempts. and no I am not blonde, well maybe a little bit. Tell me what this is all about

Posted by: anniep1 at February 14, 2008 11:46 PM

Hi ISTJ. I've been enjoying what you've been posting lately. So positive.

Personally, I prefer the Lindt 85% dark chocolate. There's so much chocolate in it (85%, instead of the usual under-50% for Australian darks) that you don't need to eat much at all to get your chocolate hit.

And so little sugar (under 15%) that it's not an appetite stimulant, keeping you gobbling. Just going to the open bowl in my fridge for my second square for today.

WILLOW: You are leaving me for dead in both the length and breadth of your posts, without considering your virtual hospitality as well.

Time I retired from frequent blogging, to concentrate again on my income-earning and my RSVP serial dating - lining up a couple more FDs for the next few evenings.

'bye all, for now.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 14, 2008 11:40 PM

The most unhappy time of my life was just before my wife left me in 1996.

Since that time my life has improved immeasurably, I have had one wonderful girlfriend, and a few others.

I am single, but I feel I could have a partner tomorrow if I chose Ms rightnow, while not prepared to wait for ms right.

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 11:37 PM

Well!!
Very funny Willow.. Good luck.

Again, HAPPY VALENTINES EVERYONE!!

All for now,
Ho....
Ho....

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 11:34 PM

No just a little dizzy, but definitely more fun than speed dating.Don't need a calculator-my maths skills are up to the task. Did I invent it ? No but maybe I should market it. Wanna help? You could write the instruction manual for me.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 14, 2008 11:32 PM

Hello Everyone,

I have really enjoyed your comments tonight!
Valentine’s Day is so much more commercialised these days, it must really improve the profits of the retailers; the better the present the more you are loved??
When I was young and single I dreamed of romantic Valentine’s cards and presents and I felt sad and lonely. Now I am older and single; it really doesn’t matter anymore. There are lots of people out there who feel damn good about themselves if they splash out and buy their partner some flowers or chocolates on Valentine’s Day; but who then treat their partner as if they didn’t matter for the other 365 days of the year! It’s a long time to wait between “bones”!!

All “special” days make some people feel sadder and lonelier if they are alone; but isn’t it better to be alone, than to experience the soul-destroying loneliness of living with and loving someone who doesn’t care about you?

On a lighter note, Willow’s tips on the art of footy seduction could really improve the lot of some footy “widows” this season; but for some of the guys it may significantly increase their risk of a severe groin injury!
My computer must have gremlins: I have tied 4 times to send this!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 14, 2008 11:28 PM

Goodnight kitten.

Thanks for the tip Virgil, Greek Oysters?

Bob, you are a gentleman wine or not.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:28 PM

Happy Valentines Day everyone.

Thanks for the drinks and dinner.

xxx

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 11:25 PM

40 guys in one night, wow I don't think I have met that many girls in my whole life.

Did you need a calculator to count them. Can I borrow it because my Intel Profile matcher isn't this powerful.

Can you get pregnant rotating evey few minutes, this does seem to be a very cost effective method of birth control. Did you invent this?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:24 PM

Willow

The best suggestion I can make, is to have an entree` of oysters, followed by a small dish of maybe fish of the day. Avoid the prawns with shells on, mussels and dont get them in a bowl of soup stuff.
It is much easier concentrating on the pearls of wisdom your date will be saying, when you have clean hands, and are not dropping the mussels back in the soup, and spilling on your clean shirt

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 11:24 PM

istj54 - yes, should never blog from a friends computer or after drinking. Bad day ... yes, but better day tomorrow. Will people think less of me for saying dumb things after a wine or two? Who cares ... didn't do anyone any harm and didn't abuse any one. Even when I'm in a crap mood I'm still friendlier than some.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 11:21 PM

Willow, you passed with flying colours on the questionaire. Follow your own answers and you will be fine.
As to how up close and personal- considering there were at least 80 people -equal number of each gender - and that you rotate every few miinutes- and the routines include being held against each others bodies,twirls and dips- that means I got to be up close to approximately 40 guys in one night. yahoo! You people here all night were in the wrong place. And I still get to visit here to top off a reasonably good day with a cuppa in hand and a good read.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 14, 2008 11:20 PM

istj, yes I remember these things, add some ice cream too. Great idea.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:20 PM

You can eat the chocolate from a Magnum and then put the rest in your whatever and coke and you have a spider...or was that a science experiment...gone wrong?

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 11:15 PM

Hi everyone, I need to announce Willow is set to break his 2008 dateless existence soon.

Some of you may recall my old profile where I talked about a journey to the Moon and my love of science. It is with great pleasure I can say I have managed to get in contact with a woman who is both attractive and intelligent and she lives in South Australia, even better!

At first I believed she was a perfect match for she is a biochemist. I thought WOW a smart scientist, perfect. Since then I have consulted the Willow Dictionary, it describes the following.

Biochemist, pronounced bio-chemist. Meaning Bio, a writer of biographies and a chemist, a practitioner of the science of chemistry.

It would appear that my Valentine is a writer rather than a scientist, at least she writes about scientists so this is a start. I wonder whether she has written a book about any famous scientists. I would particularly like to know if she has written a book about a very famous scientist called Wayne Carey, he studies romance and policing around the world. I understand he is a practical scientist who learns by experimentation rather than being a theoretician. I believe he wants to extend his studies into the prison system soon.

She has described my humour as bizarre. I was somewhat taken aback by this revelation so I consulted the Oxford dictionary as I believed the Willow book was inappropriate.

Bizarre, adjective. Strange, eccentric, grotesque

Please bloggers, I need some advice about how I should handle this. It appears I am going to have a date with a woman who considers me to strange (weird), eccentric (very fat stomach) and grotesque (very, very ugly). Should I apologise since it appears my profile was misleading (we have discussed this issue in the blogs).

Should I eat a lot in the next two days, regrow my beard and perhaps purchase a purple suit to wear on the evening. I have considered what other form of dress I could wear on the evening but regrettably I gave away my beautiful lace summer frock to my wife when we separated.

I do not want to disappoint her for she is so very generous. She has suggested we eat at a Greek Restaurant. How romantic for a first date, on the Greek Isles. Unfortunately my passport has expired so she then suggested we eat Greek here in Adelaide. At this point I became alarmed, why would an attractive and intelligent woman want to eat these valuable immigrants to the wonderfully diverse country we call Australia. I shall solve the problem before we order by suggesting we choose something from the menu.

Oh, she has suggested we choose something from the whine list on the night. I consulted the Willow dictionary again, it says this is monotonous complaining. Is this appropriate for a first date I ask. Should I complain about the food, the drinks, the weather, work or her dress, perhaps I can borrow her dress if my attire is inappropriate?

I am not very experienced with dating since becoming divorced, I would appreciate any advice you may kindly offer. It appears I am going to greatly disappoint her. Perhaps we should go the football instead.

Willow.

PS Did the blogs ever reach a conclusion about relationship chemistry, I shall ask her if her writing has looked into this topic.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:11 PM

hi istj and blueeyes, nice of you to drop in.

Just as well jenjen isn't here making cocktails who knows where the night would end. Do either of you play football?

Sydney gal, exactly how close and personal did you get?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:10 PM

Well.....I hope you all had a happy Valentine's Day, despite being single! Kitten, great music, but alas, time to go do something constructive (sleep counts doesn't it?).

Virgil, un-hide and get new footie shots, you have to now after Willow's attempt and the updating of the Willow 64,000 book.

Willow great poems....as always.
Goodnight one and all

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 11:09 PM

I am on the baileys thanks Willow - happy with that

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 11:08 PM

Has dessert been served. I was really looking forward to the chocolate kahlua thingy and the strawberries. Do they float in brandy and coke or will I need to change to Port?

It is getting late, I need to post a story about my coming date.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:06 PM

Woodnwine...you sure have "outed" yourself tonight. I hope you do not regret it in the morning... but then again...was anyone really listening...pick yourself up, dust yourself off...and start all over again:) At least you now know what you want...be grateful for that.

NF...I eat dark chocolate all the time, in copious quantities and never gain a pound...so there goes that great theory.

GTTC...thanks for the compliment re my morning posting...I am trying to be nice and helpful on this friendship day...

Looks like I didn't miss dinner after all and you all got into the drinks well before Malsie rustled up some dishes.

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 11:04 PM

HI Willow,
am back from twinkle toeing across the dance floor and getting up close and personal. Am I in time for supper? Thanks for my mention in your poem.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 14, 2008 11:04 PM

oldergent thankyou. I am afraid I have to disappoint you, the reason I do it four lines at a time is that I can only count this high.

You will see from my profile I need an Intel based microprocessor to assist in all my activities including partner selection and shopping. Again I am sorry for I neglected to mention poetry counting in it.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:02 PM

you can cook the bunnies - way too cute and they love to dance

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 11:02 PM

OlderGent! Welcome to the dinner, where all have imbibed far too much!!

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 11:00 PM

Virgil, Och Hie from the Clan Fletcher!!

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:57 PM

Hey Virgil...if you have a nice butt - face away!! That'll draw the girls in :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:56 PM

This is a story for our school teachers here at RSVP blogsville.

Now a science lesson and conspiracy theory about gravity.

One of the Apollo astronauts dropped a feather and a hammer at the same time on the moon to prove that when removed from air, objects of any weight fall at the same speed. What happened, well both hit the lunar surface at the same time. I say Der, how gullible Americans are. Of course both hit at the same time, the hammer was made by John Feather in his company called Feather manufacturing USA. Why should a feather and a feather hammer fall at a different speed. I wouldn’t be surprised if George Bush had a financial interest in the company.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:55 PM

Willow1059 posts today 14/2

I thought the quatrain genre of poetry only had one adherant left.
Absolutely delighted to see it in print again.
Cheers./This is about the 10th try to get this post through/ not good enough moderator, have a read of my formal complaint.

Posted by: oldergent at February 14, 2008 10:55 PM

Wishful, Normally they're well behaved at work - its when they go out drinking, one needs to avoid.. ;-)

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:54 PM

kitten did you say the bunnies are hopping around and shagging madly at the moment. If so how is GTTC going to cook them.

GTTC do not worry about my post regarding the wriggling prawns. It's not the prawns, its my hand I have had one brandy and coke to many, this is my second. Sorry about that.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:53 PM

Hmmm...sounds like a few men I know GTTC!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:51 PM

Willow, my real names are Douglas Bruce, fine Scottish names. If anyone has seen the recent Black Douglas billboard, they will know.

Maybe I will be facing away from the camera

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:51 PM

Willow! You've drunk too much and grabbed a cockaroach!! Didn't you clean up before we came?? Or did you get it after the trip outside to the flower-beds...

My prawns are headless, legless, shell-less and were initially flash-fried after marinating, so they definately have no life left in 'em... However, had you asked for drunken prawns, then that would have been different...

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:50 PM

Stop complaining about the bum pinch guys. The last one I got was from a crab at St Kilda swamp.

Oh no, sorry that was my mother in law.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:48 PM

Hi Auntie Kaz
meat pies, and that excellent, well thought out and very well written piece by willow, makes me glad to be here among friends.

If I was out on a date, I would have missed all of this, as well as an offer of a work assignment that was phoned through after 8pm

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:48 PM

all requests are accepted willow - your wish is my command

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:47 PM

Virgil, No thank goodness.. I'm worried he might want to have another try!!

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:45 PM

virgil will you be facing forward or rearward in your new photo

GTTC, are you sure you cooked them enough, the prawns are still wriggling as I dip into my brandy and coke.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:45 PM

I saw that GTTC, maybe a pinch on the bum from a co-worker in your office might have been a bit embarrassing. Did anyone have a camera?

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:43 PM

bunnies are hopping around madly to Shaggy at the moment

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:41 PM

kitten will you play I can see you now please. Don't delay I need the song right now if you can.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:41 PM

Just an earlier post or three about underbelly wishful... Not a biggie.

Now Virgil, do you feel more comfortable now there is a bit of footy talk on the board???.............K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:40 PM

Willow, The chicken and the prawn dishes are served...

Still... trying.... to..... get..... Kittens... bunnies..... off.....

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:38 PM

Willow

That was excellent, so many great ideas, the only thing missing is the woman.
I will have to advertise in the AAMI stadium members area.

As a second option, maybe make my profile visible again, delete all references to a life apart from football, have photo's of me in both my West Coast gear and My Adelaide Crows gear, and see if I get any interest?

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:38 PM

timewarp, my story about astronomy.

Comet, pronounced Com-met. I believe these objects are named after two Europeans who fell in love. One Russian (Com, short for communist) and met which means to meet.

Hundreds of years ago a beautiful Russian girl (Rush’n, she was always running late) met a handsome Polish man (Pole-ish, he was very slender and tall). This is a long story so I will cut to the end. They had chemistry (organic and inorganic), made love, a big warm slushy mess ensued and they created new life through conception. This replicated how life started in our solar system so we call these big white fuzzy things in the sky with tails, comets.

Comets are a perfect tale to tell on Valentines Day. The story of life and love combined.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:37 PM

And we are getting the Victorian Police shooting statistics....why?

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:37 PM

Hi Virgil
The problem you have Virgil is a lack of comprehension skills.
Fact is, I did not mention you today at all. Please try to read slowly, then try your best (or ask someone else) to comprehend exactly what the text is about.

Knock-off the he-he stuff you don't want everyone to think you laugh like a girl.

Posted by: rsviper at February 14, 2008 10:36 PM

Virgil. Posted a note for you at 910pm tonight..

Jabba, Go VIC police!! Rah Rah!!

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:35 PM

Oldergent : re your post 14 / 2 / 08..... 3 : 09 pm

Yes there is a social club, but be careful, any mention of it's existence on here, and all the members, who refute being members, but who in reality are members, will all start squealing foul that there is no club.
However, should you insult one member the rest of the gang will crawl out and attack like a cowardly mass. Proof enough that there is a clique.

Yes they spend their time on the Blogs doing not much more than stroking each others egos with one hand and stroking more than just their imaginations with the other.

Yes I have seen them do it to others, so as a mere mortal you won't be given much of a choice to join in.

Yes you are quite correct it is RSViPer but we will let Virgil believe whatever his imagination suggests.

Posted by: rsviper at February 14, 2008 10:35 PM

wishful we can do sewing if footy is too much for you.

GTTC what is nearly ready the prawns or kittens rabbits?

PS How did you remove the rabbit from her PJ's. No, dont answer that.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:35 PM

Willow you silly man...why you eat it of course.... sheesh do we women have to teach you everything about the finer art of being a footy tragic???

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:34 PM

And that translates into more murders by police in Victoria how, Jabber? By the way if your life was being threatened or the life of a loved one would you call the police to help you or would you take matters into your own hands and, thus risk be branded a criminal yourself??

Police are damned if they do and damned if they don't..........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:33 PM

Wow Willow...I might just take up being a football fan after all....although I think some more careful explanation might be needed - I'm a slow learner :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:31 PM

Willow, No. Done the first stages already. Just a few minutes for final put-together...

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:31 PM

karena in the blog heading says "What is what in the world of online dating etiquette? How do you do what you need to do to get the ball rolling?"

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:19 PM

slightsonc
had fringe cut???? and it blurred the photo ??? that will teach you to stop using the cell phone while cutting your hair.

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:15 PM

laughsand talks

this happens from time to time
I think he/she is a mormon or a seventh day advetnist or maybe just a hypocrite with half a brain.
Any comments welcome............................sounds like it could be a good blog topic Karina.

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:12 PM

istj54

kiss/kiss/kiss/hug/hug/hug

heheheheheh!!!!!!!!

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:09 PM

they ban people for no reason.
I think one of the moderators has a problem with bloggers

Posted by: genegene at February 15, 2008 7:08 PM

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 15, 2008 12:31 AM

Kiss, kiss, kiss, (lol)

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 15, 2008 6:47 PM

What is the story with the moderating here? My post asking for aliane and jabberthehungs visible profile names has been excised.
Have I comitted sin and violation?

Posted by: laughsandtalks at February 15, 2008 6:05 PM

...well I have just been censored...how do I feel?????hmmmmmm...let you know later.

Wonder why you weren't WnW...hope today was a better day for you.

Posted by: istj54 at February 15, 2008 5:43 PM

sorry oldergent ididnt know how to work the blog page before my self .and i had problems trying to figure it out my self if to. if you are new to rsvp i give you my best and hopefully you will find the right woman good luck in searching

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 15, 2008 5:07 PM

laughsandtalks - most of us know Mr Jibberjabba ... not sure if he still has his original profile up but he is from the Hunter and that's what he does.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 15, 2008 4:39 PM

Now they are even mucking up my spelling !

Posted by: oldergent at February 15, 2008 4:34 PM

I WAS SIGNED IN, THE LAST TEXTING/ what I was saying stonecold 3 that you are doing better than most of us newbee's in getting your posts through. It looks like my conspiraicy theory might be true.
Cheers.

Posted by: oldergent at February 15, 2008 4:33 PM

sorry woodwine ive got to get use to making my full stops right . i will correct it anyway good luck searching . for the right woman

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 15, 2008 4:07 PM

stonecold ... man I'm left breathless from reading your post. How about buying a couple of full stops?
Otherwise ... good luck.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 15, 2008 3:47 PM

its been close to one year and ive i nearly been through most of the profiles of the woman here and i have been searching ivegot stamps and im not wasting themwhen you send stamps or intrested of getting to know these woaman or send kisses to them they cant bothered to reply to youi keep moving on until they are the right woman who you want to spend the rest of your lives with but they are so judgamental . but i think keep searching and good luck out there but with me im thinking maybe looking at dating an american woman to be honest good luck every one on blog im new to this and trying to figure this out still its great to meet new peolpe and friends

Posted by: stonecold3 at February 15, 2008 2:13 PM

Aliane,

My friend was actually on rsvp a couple of years ago.

He gave it up because he was getting hit upon by too many Russian women who recognised him from his senior position with the GKB in Moskau.

These days he is just tracking down Russian Mafia who seem to have taken up residence on the less salubrious parts of the Gold Coast.

Otherwise he is a nice bloke.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 15, 2008 2:09 PM

Hello all, hope you all enjoyed your V-Day :)

My first post here, and the only reason I did so was to comment on Willow's post. Very funny indeed. I hope you are no longer dateless in 2008 :)

And Gyspynurse, congratulations. A wonderful story :)

Posted by: wanabeprincess at February 15, 2008 12:35 PM

Amberlight58,
This is now the 4th attempt to post this message. Please disregard all the other attempts that failed. Sometimes but only sometimes you can get straight through ( cherish them). It doesn't seem to matter what procedure you follow, the criteria to follow is perserverence, and in my case heaping all the expletives I can think of and some I make up in frustration, on the powers that be in control of this site. This may not be the best procedure for you as at the momen I am working on a conspiracy theory

Posted by: oldergent at February 15, 2008 12:27 PM

Good luck with that gypsynurse - wow, a first date on Valentine's Day.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 15, 2008 11:41 AM

Hi Gang,
Just reading back through last night's blogs. I'm sorry I missed the party, I don't have a note but I do have a good excuse.
I got kissed late on the eve of the 13th, duly requested an email, not a lot of information there but something caught my eye.
Only after I sent my reply kiss did I realise there was no photo so duly sent off another kiss requesting said photo.
Morning of the 14th email in my inbox.. short but sweet, several emails too and fro all in one day.. still no photo
We get to phone texting, lots of fun for valentines day ..

Cut a long story short, I had a blind date,still no photo; dinner and saw a show, a wonderful evening and the company of a lovely gentleman.. And I'm having dinner with him tonight!
Who knows where this will lead but
I'm having fun and I suspect so is he. Isn't that the point.
All this because I took a chance and met with a man purely on his profile and how he communicated with me.
So, sorry to miss the party, but perhaps I will be here for the next one.
Not skiting folks, just saying, broaden your horizons and take the odd risk in life occasionally
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Posted by: gypsynurse at February 15, 2008 11:21 AM

Oh and any woman in her right mind in her late 40 to early fifties should grab the first nice guy they meet regardless of age,because the older you get girls the less chance you will have.

Posted by: jabbathehung at February 15, 2008 8:30 AM

i will keep that in mind then jabba, when I get to that age.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 15, 2008 9:57 AM

OK, sobered up this morning and dusted myself off ... ever onward. Now jaspercat ... don't give up, just take a well deserved break, refresh your spirits, go out with a few friends (maybe join some other Brissie bloggers for a drink some time) then have another go. You are young and attractive and will find someone but it is definitely a numbers thing so you've got to be in it to win it.

We all now have another 12 months to find someone to celebrate next Valentine's Day with.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 15, 2008 9:44 AM

Istj

The trick is to keep her fridge full of chocolate. Indulge her one obsession (usually shared by most women).

Every time you visit or pick her up, keep adding to the supply of chocolates. Most chocolate manufacturers have large ranges so mix it up a bit for variety (or the ploy will become as stale as your love life).

It is called sabotage. She stacks on the kilos, you get rid of the opposition.

But it is also self sabotage. You are now stuck with a little fattie.

But most people on here know all about self sabotage. They have been doing it all their lives. Probably the very reason they are here in the first place, and it is certainly the reason why we get them exiting visibly in disgust.

Yes. Self sabotage. “I’m off this site for good.” Yeah, pull my other leg. You’ll be back, but will you have learnt your lesson next time. You’re joking of course. It’s always “the site is no good” or “the men are dregs”

You’ll only get out of a site like this (which is just a facilitator) what you put in. If you are not proactive, don’t want to make the effort (like your last relationship- you didn’t work on it, you made no effort- you just sat back and expected it all to flow)- then you will very quickly join the ranks of the Damned, the Disgusted and the Losers.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 15, 2008 6:17 AM

Hey guys, I have just returned home from dinner, beautiful grilled chicken with prawns and a garlic cream sauce, lovely wine and very good company. I also received a lovely red chocolate heart and two lovely e-mails from past friends made on rsvp. What is wrong with you miserable lot sitting there moaning to a computer night after night. Don't you realise the reason you are so miserable and boring is you never get out into the real world. Make friends, be nice to people, it's called Karma and it comes back in spades. Stop being judgemental and just plain nasty, smile and someone will definitely smile back but being miserable all the time and some of you just plain nasty will only bring you pain, which I think some of you actually enjoy!!

Posted by: iaminperth at February 15, 2008 1:46 AM

kitten- where is that kiss ?

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 15, 2008 12:31 AM

Yes Willow, you seem very caring. You also have a wicked sense of humour!
Night all!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 15, 2008 12:19 AM

Hope that you all had a great Valentine's day & night..sending you plenty of hugs and all that jazzzz from Ridersonthestar's :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 15, 2008 12:14 AM

So we have all survived this day of lonely hearts and waiting for flowers...... I got neither but still know I am loved very much. I offer you many hugs, for future need, sweet kisses, for those sour times, and a smile for every tear. Although I know at times those tears can seem never ending! Love is what it is......the only emotion that can bring us to the height of elation and the depths of despair, sometimes in the one day. Yet we continue to seek, find and devour it...time and time again. So my guess is, thats theres got to be something to this elusive feeling that has us hook line and sinker. I suppose it all depends on the bait you use, as to what you will eventually catch, or throw back.
Cheers to all.....We are who we are, do not compromise that essential sense of being for anyone...... :-)

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 15, 2008 12:13 AM

Goodnight everyone, new and old.

Willow hopes the evening made Valentines Day at least a little nicer for you.

Try to carry todays kisses real or virtual with you on Friday, the day will pass better that way.

xxxxx

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 12:10 AM

Annie, hi welcome to RSVP blogsville. Who knows what this is all about.

The general thurust is a few of us were dateless for the evening so a Willow virtual party (this) was arranged last night.

The place is sometimes fun, sometimes less so.

As for the people having trouble posting, RSVP is a bit tricky with logging in to the blogs. My tip once you are in successfuly and have managed to post then stay logged in.

One other tip, if anyone gets a bit nasty just let it go.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 15, 2008 12:08 AM

I'm new to this too anniep1, it took me days to work it all out, then I posted a comment on Dangerous Mistakes (well I thought I did!) and I guess RSVP must have closed the blog! Obviously RSVP likes to decide when enough is said ... (BB is alive and well?!)

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 14, 2008 11:54 PM

I agree Virgil, it's much better to be alone, making your own choices and decisions in life than living that feeling of knowing that your life is falling apart and being unable to do anything about it
(I have the wonderful advantage of dial-up internet! You've all changed topic 5 times and I am still reading yesterday's comments!)

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 14, 2008 11:48 PM

Hey guys you sound like fun, finally worked out how to sign in after many attempts. and no I am not blonde, well maybe a little bit. Tell me what this is all about

Posted by: anniep1 at February 14, 2008 11:46 PM

Hi ISTJ. I've been enjoying what you've been posting lately. So positive.

Personally, I prefer the Lindt 85% dark chocolate. There's so much chocolate in it (85%, instead of the usual under-50% for Australian darks) that you don't need to eat much at all to get your chocolate hit.

And so little sugar (under 15%) that it's not an appetite stimulant, keeping you gobbling. Just going to the open bowl in my fridge for my second square for today.

WILLOW: You are leaving me for dead in both the length and breadth of your posts, without considering your virtual hospitality as well.

Time I retired from frequent blogging, to concentrate again on my income-earning and my RSVP serial dating - lining up a couple more FDs for the next few evenings.

'bye all, for now.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 14, 2008 11:40 PM

The most unhappy time of my life was just before my wife left me in 1996.

Since that time my life has improved immeasurably, I have had one wonderful girlfriend, and a few others.

I am single, but I feel I could have a partner tomorrow if I chose Ms rightnow, while not prepared to wait for ms right.

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 11:37 PM

Well!!
Very funny Willow.. Good luck.

Again, HAPPY VALENTINES EVERYONE!!

All for now,
Ho....
Ho....

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 11:34 PM

No just a little dizzy, but definitely more fun than speed dating.Don't need a calculator-my maths skills are up to the task. Did I invent it ? No but maybe I should market it. Wanna help? You could write the instruction manual for me.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 14, 2008 11:32 PM

Hello Everyone,

I have really enjoyed your comments tonight!
Valentine’s Day is so much more commercialised these days, it must really improve the profits of the retailers; the better the present the more you are loved??
When I was young and single I dreamed of romantic Valentine’s cards and presents and I felt sad and lonely. Now I am older and single; it really doesn’t matter anymore. There are lots of people out there who feel damn good about themselves if they splash out and buy their partner some flowers or chocolates on Valentine’s Day; but who then treat their partner as if they didn’t matter for the other 365 days of the year! It’s a long time to wait between “bones”!!

All “special” days make some people feel sadder and lonelier if they are alone; but isn’t it better to be alone, than to experience the soul-destroying loneliness of living with and loving someone who doesn’t care about you?

On a lighter note, Willow’s tips on the art of footy seduction could really improve the lot of some footy “widows” this season; but for some of the guys it may significantly increase their risk of a severe groin injury!
My computer must have gremlins: I have tied 4 times to send this!

Posted by: amberlight58 at February 14, 2008 11:28 PM

Goodnight kitten.

Thanks for the tip Virgil, Greek Oysters?

Bob, you are a gentleman wine or not.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:28 PM

Happy Valentines Day everyone.

Thanks for the drinks and dinner.

xxx

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 11:25 PM

40 guys in one night, wow I don't think I have met that many girls in my whole life.

Did you need a calculator to count them. Can I borrow it because my Intel Profile matcher isn't this powerful.

Can you get pregnant rotating evey few minutes, this does seem to be a very cost effective method of birth control. Did you invent this?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:24 PM

Willow

The best suggestion I can make, is to have an entree` of oysters, followed by a small dish of maybe fish of the day. Avoid the prawns with shells on, mussels and dont get them in a bowl of soup stuff.
It is much easier concentrating on the pearls of wisdom your date will be saying, when you have clean hands, and are not dropping the mussels back in the soup, and spilling on your clean shirt

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 11:24 PM

istj54 - yes, should never blog from a friends computer or after drinking. Bad day ... yes, but better day tomorrow. Will people think less of me for saying dumb things after a wine or two? Who cares ... didn't do anyone any harm and didn't abuse any one. Even when I'm in a crap mood I'm still friendlier than some.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 11:21 PM

Willow, you passed with flying colours on the questionaire. Follow your own answers and you will be fine.
As to how up close and personal- considering there were at least 80 people -equal number of each gender - and that you rotate every few miinutes- and the routines include being held against each others bodies,twirls and dips- that means I got to be up close to approximately 40 guys in one night. yahoo! You people here all night were in the wrong place. And I still get to visit here to top off a reasonably good day with a cuppa in hand and a good read.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 14, 2008 11:20 PM

istj, yes I remember these things, add some ice cream too. Great idea.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:20 PM

You can eat the chocolate from a Magnum and then put the rest in your whatever and coke and you have a spider...or was that a science experiment...gone wrong?

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 11:15 PM

Hi everyone, I need to announce Willow is set to break his 2008 dateless existence soon.

Some of you may recall my old profile where I talked about a journey to the Moon and my love of science. It is with great pleasure I can say I have managed to get in contact with a woman who is both attractive and intelligent and she lives in South Australia, even better!

At first I believed she was a perfect match for she is a biochemist. I thought WOW a smart scientist, perfect. Since then I have consulted the Willow Dictionary, it describes the following.

Biochemist, pronounced bio-chemist. Meaning Bio, a writer of biographies and a chemist, a practitioner of the science of chemistry.

It would appear that my Valentine is a writer rather than a scientist, at least she writes about scientists so this is a start. I wonder whether she has written a book about any famous scientists. I would particularly like to know if she has written a book about a very famous scientist called Wayne Carey, he studies romance and policing around the world. I understand he is a practical scientist who learns by experimentation rather than being a theoretician. I believe he wants to extend his studies into the prison system soon.

She has described my humour as bizarre. I was somewhat taken aback by this revelation so I consulted the Oxford dictionary as I believed the Willow book was inappropriate.

Bizarre, adjective. Strange, eccentric, grotesque

Please bloggers, I need some advice about how I should handle this. It appears I am going to have a date with a woman who considers me to strange (weird), eccentric (very fat stomach) and grotesque (very, very ugly). Should I apologise since it appears my profile was misleading (we have discussed this issue in the blogs).

Should I eat a lot in the next two days, regrow my beard and perhaps purchase a purple suit to wear on the evening. I have considered what other form of dress I could wear on the evening but regrettably I gave away my beautiful lace summer frock to my wife when we separated.

I do not want to disappoint her for she is so very generous. She has suggested we eat at a Greek Restaurant. How romantic for a first date, on the Greek Isles. Unfortunately my passport has expired so she then suggested we eat Greek here in Adelaide. At this point I became alarmed, why would an attractive and intelligent woman want to eat these valuable immigrants to the wonderfully diverse country we call Australia. I shall solve the problem before we order by suggesting we choose something from the menu.

Oh, she has suggested we choose something from the whine list on the night. I consulted the Willow dictionary again, it says this is monotonous complaining. Is this appropriate for a first date I ask. Should I complain about the food, the drinks, the weather, work or her dress, perhaps I can borrow her dress if my attire is inappropriate?

I am not very experienced with dating since becoming divorced, I would appreciate any advice you may kindly offer. It appears I am going to greatly disappoint her. Perhaps we should go the football instead.

Willow.

PS Did the blogs ever reach a conclusion about relationship chemistry, I shall ask her if her writing has looked into this topic.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:11 PM

hi istj and blueeyes, nice of you to drop in.

Just as well jenjen isn't here making cocktails who knows where the night would end. Do either of you play football?

Sydney gal, exactly how close and personal did you get?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:10 PM

Well.....I hope you all had a happy Valentine's Day, despite being single! Kitten, great music, but alas, time to go do something constructive (sleep counts doesn't it?).

Virgil, un-hide and get new footie shots, you have to now after Willow's attempt and the updating of the Willow 64,000 book.

Willow great poems....as always.
Goodnight one and all

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 11:09 PM

I am on the baileys thanks Willow - happy with that

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 11:08 PM

Has dessert been served. I was really looking forward to the chocolate kahlua thingy and the strawberries. Do they float in brandy and coke or will I need to change to Port?

It is getting late, I need to post a story about my coming date.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:06 PM

Woodnwine...you sure have "outed" yourself tonight. I hope you do not regret it in the morning... but then again...was anyone really listening...pick yourself up, dust yourself off...and start all over again:) At least you now know what you want...be grateful for that.

NF...I eat dark chocolate all the time, in copious quantities and never gain a pound...so there goes that great theory.

GTTC...thanks for the compliment re my morning posting...I am trying to be nice and helpful on this friendship day...

Looks like I didn't miss dinner after all and you all got into the drinks well before Malsie rustled up some dishes.

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 11:04 PM

HI Willow,
am back from twinkle toeing across the dance floor and getting up close and personal. Am I in time for supper? Thanks for my mention in your poem.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 14, 2008 11:04 PM

oldergent thankyou. I am afraid I have to disappoint you, the reason I do it four lines at a time is that I can only count this high.

You will see from my profile I need an Intel based microprocessor to assist in all my activities including partner selection and shopping. Again I am sorry for I neglected to mention poetry counting in it.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 11:02 PM

you can cook the bunnies - way too cute and they love to dance

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 11:02 PM

OlderGent! Welcome to the dinner, where all have imbibed far too much!!

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 11:00 PM

Virgil, Och Hie from the Clan Fletcher!!

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:57 PM

Hey Virgil...if you have a nice butt - face away!! That'll draw the girls in :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:56 PM

This is a story for our school teachers here at RSVP blogsville.

Now a science lesson and conspiracy theory about gravity.

One of the Apollo astronauts dropped a feather and a hammer at the same time on the moon to prove that when removed from air, objects of any weight fall at the same speed. What happened, well both hit the lunar surface at the same time. I say Der, how gullible Americans are. Of course both hit at the same time, the hammer was made by John Feather in his company called Feather manufacturing USA. Why should a feather and a feather hammer fall at a different speed. I wouldn’t be surprised if George Bush had a financial interest in the company.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:55 PM

Willow1059 posts today 14/2

I thought the quatrain genre of poetry only had one adherant left.
Absolutely delighted to see it in print again.
Cheers./This is about the 10th try to get this post through/ not good enough moderator, have a read of my formal complaint.

Posted by: oldergent at February 14, 2008 10:55 PM

Wishful, Normally they're well behaved at work - its when they go out drinking, one needs to avoid.. ;-)

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:54 PM

kitten did you say the bunnies are hopping around and shagging madly at the moment. If so how is GTTC going to cook them.

GTTC do not worry about my post regarding the wriggling prawns. It's not the prawns, its my hand I have had one brandy and coke to many, this is my second. Sorry about that.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:53 PM

Hmmm...sounds like a few men I know GTTC!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:51 PM

Willow, my real names are Douglas Bruce, fine Scottish names. If anyone has seen the recent Black Douglas billboard, they will know.

Maybe I will be facing away from the camera

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:51 PM

Willow! You've drunk too much and grabbed a cockaroach!! Didn't you clean up before we came?? Or did you get it after the trip outside to the flower-beds...

My prawns are headless, legless, shell-less and were initially flash-fried after marinating, so they definately have no life left in 'em... However, had you asked for drunken prawns, then that would have been different...

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:50 PM

Stop complaining about the bum pinch guys. The last one I got was from a crab at St Kilda swamp.

Oh no, sorry that was my mother in law.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:48 PM

Hi Auntie Kaz
meat pies, and that excellent, well thought out and very well written piece by willow, makes me glad to be here among friends.

If I was out on a date, I would have missed all of this, as well as an offer of a work assignment that was phoned through after 8pm

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:48 PM

all requests are accepted willow - your wish is my command

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:47 PM

Virgil, No thank goodness.. I'm worried he might want to have another try!!

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:45 PM

virgil will you be facing forward or rearward in your new photo

GTTC, are you sure you cooked them enough, the prawns are still wriggling as I dip into my brandy and coke.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:45 PM

I saw that GTTC, maybe a pinch on the bum from a co-worker in your office might have been a bit embarrassing. Did anyone have a camera?

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:43 PM

bunnies are hopping around madly to Shaggy at the moment

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:41 PM

kitten will you play I can see you now please. Don't delay I need the song right now if you can.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:41 PM

Just an earlier post or three about underbelly wishful... Not a biggie.

Now Virgil, do you feel more comfortable now there is a bit of footy talk on the board???.............K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:40 PM

Willow, The chicken and the prawn dishes are served...

Still... trying.... to..... get..... Kittens... bunnies..... off.....

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:38 PM

Willow

That was excellent, so many great ideas, the only thing missing is the woman.
I will have to advertise in the AAMI stadium members area.

As a second option, maybe make my profile visible again, delete all references to a life apart from football, have photo's of me in both my West Coast gear and My Adelaide Crows gear, and see if I get any interest?

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:38 PM

timewarp, my story about astronomy.

Comet, pronounced Com-met. I believe these objects are named after two Europeans who fell in love. One Russian (Com, short for communist) and met which means to meet.

Hundreds of years ago a beautiful Russian girl (Rush’n, she was always running late) met a handsome Polish man (Pole-ish, he was very slender and tall). This is a long story so I will cut to the end. They had chemistry (organic and inorganic), made love, a big warm slushy mess ensued and they created new life through conception. This replicated how life started in our solar system so we call these big white fuzzy things in the sky with tails, comets.

Comets are a perfect tale to tell on Valentines Day. The story of life and love combined.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:37 PM

And we are getting the Victorian Police shooting statistics....why?

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:37 PM

Hi Virgil
The problem you have Virgil is a lack of comprehension skills.
Fact is, I did not mention you today at all. Please try to read slowly, then try your best (or ask someone else) to comprehend exactly what the text is about.

Knock-off the he-he stuff you don't want everyone to think you laugh like a girl.

Posted by: rsviper at February 14, 2008 10:36 PM

Virgil. Posted a note for you at 910pm tonight..

Jabba, Go VIC police!! Rah Rah!!

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:35 PM

Oldergent : re your post 14 / 2 / 08..... 3 : 09 pm

Yes there is a social club, but be careful, any mention of it's existence on here, and all the members, who refute being members, but who in reality are members, will all start squealing foul that there is no club.
However, should you insult one member the rest of the gang will crawl out and attack like a cowardly mass. Proof enough that there is a clique.

Yes they spend their time on the Blogs doing not much more than stroking each others egos with one hand and stroking more than just their imaginations with the other.

Yes I have seen them do it to others, so as a mere mortal you won't be given much of a choice to join in.

Yes you are quite correct it is RSViPer but we will let Virgil believe whatever his imagination suggests.

Posted by: rsviper at February 14, 2008 10:35 PM

wishful we can do sewing if footy is too much for you.

GTTC what is nearly ready the prawns or kittens rabbits?

PS How did you remove the rabbit from her PJ's. No, dont answer that.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:35 PM

Willow you silly man...why you eat it of course.... sheesh do we women have to teach you everything about the finer art of being a footy tragic???

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:34 PM

And that translates into more murders by police in Victoria how, Jabber? By the way if your life was being threatened or the life of a loved one would you call the police to help you or would you take matters into your own hands and, thus risk be branded a criminal yourself??

Police are damned if they do and damned if they don't..........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:33 PM

Wow Willow...I might just take up being a football fan after all....although I think some more careful explanation might be needed - I'm a slow learner :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:31 PM

Willow, No. Done the first stages already. Just a few minutes for final put-together...

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:31 PM

karena in the blog heading says "What is what in the world of online dating etiquette? How do you do what you need to do to get the ball rolling?"

For heavens sake if she doesn't know how to get a ball rolling (see football post) when making love what hope does she have.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:29 PM

Essendon.

Long before those drugged out West Coast Wankers joined the competition, I was in the Black and Red.

Got nothing against the Freo Bombers...err... Dockers :)

Posted by: stoic at February 14, 2008 10:28 PM

And Willow, you also forgot that most favorite call of all footy tragics...
BAAAALLLLLLLLLL.........YEESSSSSS........Also can be transposed into an intimate setting if one has imagination......K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:27 PM

kittten you are always smooth, you don't need the song.

Was just thinking I haven't had rabbit for ages, perhaps you could give one to GTTC to cook with the prawns. Are you attached to the bunnies?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:26 PM

hi stoic
With the mention of WA, I just had to have a look at your profile.

It didn't answer the burning question, Eagles or Dockers?

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:24 PM

Willow you forgot the pie and sauce...that most important of all footy rituals, particularly on a Saturday arvo between the traditional months of March and that one day in September......it can be transposed to the most intimate of settings the old four n twenty.........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:24 PM

GTTC May I have some, YUM.

Will it take long to cook up.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:23 PM

Night Malsie

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:21 PM

Okay K - for you and for you alone I will put on Santanas "Smooth" I think you will like

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:19 PM

kittenheelsxx - thanks for keeping the music going so expertly. I don't know any of those songs, but I'm sure they were wonderful! I'm off to bed - night all. Thanks for your company, and enjoy your evening....

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 10:17 PM

A few nights ago Virgil talked about his dilemma in having to choose between football (Aussie Rules) and finding a partner.

I am pleased to announce the National Sorry Day (great day) has given cause for me to consult the Willow Book of Valentines Day Sorry Solutions, this publication has not yet been released and is a companion to the Willow Dictionary of 64,000 INglish words.

Virgil your problem can be easily remedied by combining both football and the art of seduction, they key is understanding the meaning of the terms then applying them in the appropriate setting.

By applying the principles of sequential thought I offer the following advice. Please note it is of a general nature and should not be used in lieu of obtaining professional advice from an expert such as a head coach, please note it must be a head coach not any other.

Firstly you must set the ambience of the room, turn the lights low, arrange the cushions on the sofa to suit two people and turn the sound down to a comfortable level. Please ensure this is done on both the stereo and TV because you do not want the music to drown out the football commentary except at half time (more on this soon).

Next ensure suitable attire is being worn by both parties. In this context I recommend against wearing a birthday suit as Willow did for the virtual dinner, you really must ensure dress is appropriate for the circumstances. I recommend for you a hybrid solution where you slowly remove your shirt, pants, shoes and socks. Do not forget to remove your tie but keep it handy as you may need it later. With this all removed and you are temporarily in your birthday suit assist your partner to reach the same stage of nakediscity (a Willow hybrid word meaning naked in this city).

I need to be careful now as the next stage is quite intimate so I will need to leave some detail to you imagination.

While fully naked slowly lower your partner onto the sofa, close her eyes with a most gentle touch by sweeping the outer part of your hand downwards from forehead to nose, and kiss her gently repeatedly on her lips telling her how beautiful she is in between kisses. When she is aroused it is time for the more serious endeavours.

Place your old West Coast scarf around her neck and the newly purchased Adelaide Crows scarf around yours, this way you can honour your love of both teams at the same time. Put on a West Coast sock on your left foot and hers then a Crows sock on your right foot and hers.

Now the mood is set I need to introduce some terms:

Handball, pronounced hand-ball. Really this is quite simple, after the siren sounds to start the game you do some then she does some. Now you know why you must be able to hear the commentary.

Mark, pronounced mark. This words has two meanings, one refers to the art of catching the ball before it bounces, a most difficult skill. The second is to place a mark using a fine felt tipped texta upon the woman’s body in the early sages of football watching so you know where to go when the action heats up.

Football, pronounced foot-ball. Well you are an inventive couple if you progress to this so early in the game, please be careful.

Goal, pronounced G-oooooolllllllllllllll. The ultimate consequence of a series of expertly executed skills where you slam it through the big white sticks.

Half time, pronounced half-time. Again dual meaning, half the time for you, half the time for her. The other meaning refers to the 20 minute break you must take halfway through your game. Please remember to cover both of you with a blanket, you would hate to go cold then get injured before the game ends. If you do become injured and the game gets too hard you may use your tie now.

Umpire, pronounced Ummmmm-pire. Ideally you will have at least six, two goal umpires, two boundary umpires and two field umpires. Place the two goal umpires near your partner’s most private regions one forward and one rearward, their function when a goal is scored is to say Ummmmm then wave the white tissues (there are like flags but are softer, great for a contact sport). Place the two boundary umpires so that one can see you and one can see your partner, their function is to blow the whistle if either you or she touch yourselves. The field umpires are there to bounce the balls if a stalemate occurs and to whistle half-time.

Anyhow, I hope you get the idea. Enjoy your football, I believe you have purchased season tickets so I guess you will have no need for RSVP until after the September finals. By the way if your partner is a Carlton supporter make sure you are on top since Carlton supporters are used to being on the bottom of the table and presumably elsewhere such as sofas. It is good to be considerate of others feelings.

PS Remember to score a few (good) points as well as goals, you may need them for a rainy day.

PSS there are other terms such as tackle, head high (you wish), report (after the game to your friends), half back, half forward, centre (these are body positions), pack (orgy like). I hope you can sort these out now I have given you the basics. Please train soon, a game lasts over two hours of playing time so you need to be fit as does she.

With friendly regards from Willow to Virgil (and others) on Valentines Day.

PSSS Now the non followers know why so many Australians looove Aussie Rules football. It is OK if you cannot play, there are other exciting pastimes such as lawn mowing, knitting and croquet.

Perhaps even sewing, this a complex ritual of bobbins and tensions, overlocking, straight and zig-zag, it has many threads and button holes, cams and cranks, needle size and fabric. Yes, perhaps one day we should explore the relationship between sewing, blogging (threads and cranks) and sex (tensions, needle size and button holes). What a ripping subject, bound to have all of us in stitches.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:16 PM

thanks Willow
I will be all ears
a dating problem
is what I have
not the least of the problem lies in the fact I need to watch WCE games at the Casino. Sundays game might not even be on live, so may have to watch replay on my computer.

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:16 PM

Well l think that a bit of Tony Bennett may be in order now Kittykat....a crooner if there ever was one..and l do like Harry Connick Jnr singing The Very Thought Of You...and BANG there goes my credibility right out the window..........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 10:15 PM

Wishful, you will always be welcome for a quick WA trip.

Just give me enough notice to get the ingredients and tidy up :)

Posted by: stoic at February 14, 2008 10:15 PM

Willow - I did suggest some mains last night at 928pm, but seemed that no-one was interested... I even intended to cook them..

Hiya Bridge Troll!! Liked you earlier suggestions of sending kisses to annoy... very good.

GTTC (Forest Troll)

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 10:15 PM

timewarp, a beautiful poem. Astronomy is one of my favourite loves, I can relate to every word of it.

I'll post a comet story soon, but first Virgils answer.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:14 PM

And now for my all time favourite Jack Johnson singing ALO's "Girl I Want To Lay Down"

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:12 PM

I was a naive young slip of a thing when first that song came out - now I'm an "older" not such slip of a thing, but possibly still naive. What's wrong with the words??

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 10:11 PM

Love that song Kitten. Stoic...stop tempting a quick trip to W.A. - I wanna try those dishes. Hold the Hurricanes, it's a school night!

Willow....I didn't forget....didn't eat them, and have only just poured a drink....maybe a few more and I'll "think" I remember them??

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:11 PM

A positive poem dedicated to a past love?

Nothing new tonight, but I do have one I wrote in 2003 for my Ex of almost 30 years, who'd taken off in 1993:

AFTERGLOW

Astronomers tell us it's true
that the universe started anew
with a hell of a blast
in the far-distant past,
but the afterglow's still in their view.

When a couple have really shared love
(it can come from below or above),
when she's terse or perverse
and the marriage gets worse,
a small glow still remains of your love.

So you cannot erase
for the rest of your days
all the hopes you had dared
and the bliss you had shared
till the love slowly turned into shove.

We had a good thing going, for a while. Quite a while.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 14, 2008 10:10 PM

virgil are you still here. Stay around I'll post my solution for your dating/footy problem.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:09 PM

I have a request - Neil Young's "A Man needs a maid" - here it comes

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:08 PM

wishful, I sent you heart shaped chocolates. Have you been drinking and have now forgotten.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:08 PM

ohh willow
you are a star

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:07 PM

Coming up an old but a goodie Meatloafs "Paradise by the Dashboard Light"

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:07 PM

I would recommend a choice of Bourbon Street Chicken or Cajun Snapper.

Of course a Chicken and Andouille Gumbo will feed a large group quite well.

Then after dinner I shall mix up some Hurricanes :)

Posted by: stoic at February 14, 2008 10:07 PM

Chocolate Willow...but alas no one sent me any :( So I guess it'll be whatever's in the fridge and of course Kitten's cheesecake

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:05 PM

Malsie, may I suggest you do not ask for Nutbush City Limits on a dating site. Just think about the words a little, do you know what you have just asked for using the Wilow Dictionary of 64,000 Inglish words.

Wishful, brandy and coke is kicking in. Another cocktail please.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:05 PM

Well, this is vegetarian, but very tasty.... red capsicums stuffed with feta cheese, pesto and baby tomatoes; cooked in the oven, served with crusty bread, roasted parsnips lightly covered in lemon juice and olive oil, and salad. It's a lovely combination actually.

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 10:05 PM

Going for loud - Faith No More "Epic" ladies and gentlemen

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 10:05 PM

As the curtain is about to go down on another US inspired day, as the honourary 51st state, I feel its time to consider adding thanksgiving to our long list of imported days, to Valentines day, to Haloween. I feel sure the marketing Guru's can figure some good reason.

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 10:05 PM

Time for a main course, suggestions anyone?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 10:02 PM

Very cute Willow....well done!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 10:01 PM

kittenheelsxx - don't know it, but if it's got a beat, that will do! ta :)
Particularly partial to Nutbush City Limits, though - it's an old rave from the grave, and one I used to hurl myself around to frequently (well, still do actually....)

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 9:59 PM

It has been a while since a bloggers poem, here goes.

A lovely lady is kittenheels
Known to me in this virtual world
With whom I have shared sheet and meals
A woman to be tightly held

Bob known as not gods gift
I see a gentleman for sure
Man who tries to heal a bloggers rift
A man to love more and more

Blueeyes from Sydney’s south
Unescorted at recent wedding
Many a man lusting for her mouth
Oh give me your heading

Virgil a lover of oval ball
Virgin here in bloggers land
Known to frequent Rundle Mall
And beaches made from the finest sand

Wishfulthinker made from dreams
To describe her well
Will take several paper reams
Beauty and brains I can tell

Victoria down under
A voice of reason
Resides in land of thunder
Suitable for any season

For many of us here
Time is short
Hold love dear
Skin no longer taut

On this Valentines Day
I send love with all my might
As is Willows way
Hold it to breast very tight

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:58 PM

Probably best you don't ask Stoic that Willow

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 9:58 PM

Just knocked up a home-made hummous with some carrot sticks (for the health conscious) and biscuits for not so bothered. Any good to you? Heaps of garlic in it, though, so we'll all have to have a bit or else the consequences may be dire.

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 9:57 PM

unpleasantness, willow :)

Posted by: stoic at February 14, 2008 9:57 PM

frogs scooted willow, got my bunnys out tonight

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:57 PM

okay some dancing music Sneakys' "Hip Hip Hooray"

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:56 PM

kittenheelsxx - and are there any other dancers here?? If the music is blaring, I've just GOT to get dancing....

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 9:55 PM

kitten, what are you wearing tonight. Will you be sleeping over?

Anyone made any nibbles?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:54 PM

stoic How about.... The second most recent past love tends to suck just a little bit less than the most recent past love?

May I ask on what?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:53 PM

will take all requests my darling K

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:52 PM

auntykaz, 20 years' marriage, supporting someone through such difficult times - sounds like a definition of "mature" love to me, the hard stuff, not the easy falling in love across a room fantasy....

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 9:52 PM

nice stories wishful, aunty and malsie, there are easy to find if you just look a bit.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:51 PM

Of course Willow...lots of ground work in those two - I can't take all the credit there. Nice poem there too - looks familiar :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 9:51 PM

So can anyone other than I bring themselves to say something nice about a past love.

Posted by willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:39 PM

How about.... The second most recent past love tends to suck just a little bit less than the most recent past love?

Or not :)

Posted by: stoic at February 14, 2008 9:50 PM

Kitteykat l think l prefer Blurry.......K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 9:50 PM

wooohooo - changing to Foo Fighters "The Pretender" (up real loud)

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:50 PM

willow1059 - past loves - yes, I've had a fair few, and have good feelings and memories about most of them actually. I feel grateful for the time and love shared with them and don't regret a thing. Together, and through knowing each other, we learnt much. One in particular was a great support to me in some traumatic times, as was I for him. It was a loving relationship based on deep friendship. We're not in each other's lives now, but we were for 20 years or so in one way or another - frequently as supportive friends - and I treasure that memory.

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 9:48 PM

Now we are making progress, two people with a positive memory.

I hope there were more than just two nights wishful.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:47 PM

Well l have a nice valentines day story for you all..though no doubt some will turn it into something else...

A work colleague who has been married for over 20 years received a beautiflu bunch of red roses from her hubby today.... nothing particularly spectacular there l guess.....

However this lady has had a difficult time in the last 10 years helping her hubby through some despair as he is constantly suicidal and has attempted suicide many times.

Her love and devotion to him has taken its toll on her emotionally, however she is there for him no matter what........
When she received the flowers today she cried.....................K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 9:46 PM

Sure can Willow....without that one I'd not have the two most amazing kids created.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 9:45 PM

That was the boys song earlier in the night.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:45 PM

Music changing to Puddle of Mud's "She ...... hates me". Woohooo, anyone wanna sing along?

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:43 PM

OK, past love is no good. New love is better.

HAPPY
VALENTINES
DAY
2008

MAY LOVE FIND A WAY
TO FILL EACH DAY
NO TEAR TO BE SHED
IN EMPTY BED

A KISS FOR YOU
HEARTFELT SO TRUE
ONE FOR EACH DAY
SENT FROM WILLOWS WAY

xxxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx
xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx

366 kisses, one for each day (leap year)

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:43 PM

It is in the past (lol).

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:40 PM

So can anyone other than I bring themselves to say something nice about a past love.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:39 PM

Night ninaschen

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:37 PM

wishfulthinker03 - it is divine, toffee swirled through - it is yours

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:36 PM

My internet provider is having a conniption so I am afraid I am an apology for tonight's festivities. Have fun, my friends. I will catch up with the goings-on tomorrow!

XX

Posted by: ninaschen at February 14, 2008 9:35 PM

Kat....I would love that recipe for the toffee cheesecake!!!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 14, 2008 9:34 PM

shot glass, my dear Willow, baileys deserves the biggest glass one can find (yummmmmmmmmmmmm)

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:33 PM

Happy Valentines Day to you malsie.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:32 PM

kitten is the baileys in the cake or in the shot glass

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:31 PM

jaspercat try to stay with us just tonight, see if we can find a few laughs for you.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:30 PM

Thank you for your kind words timewarp but I am OK. As for I have myself to blame for lack of dates.....I dont think so. I have as I said been on this site and this will be my very last blog I am sure but anyway I have been on this site for nearly three years and I have been on a LOT of coffee dates. I have given a fair go to everyone and it has never been past the initial coffee date. Yes some of that is my choice eg guys living still with their mother in laws, and lots of other horror stories but I HAVE been more than fair. I went on 2 coffee dates on the weekend both dates said they were very interested and we talked for 2 1/2 to 3 hours on both dates so there was a connection but NOTHING since and especially on Valentines night - well I am not a fool. I know I am worth more than that and I know I have intelligence so it has to be my looks ect and I find that extremely hurtful and I am sorry I am not on here to find "friendships" I was on here to find a loving relationship with someone who thought enough of me to have one. OK enough said. Once again good luck to you all I hope you do find love. I think on this site it is one in a million .... but I hope you do.

Posted by: jaspercat at February 14, 2008 9:27 PM

mystiemuse - sane words indeed. I put Valentine's Day in the Mother's Day camp - a very over the top, over commercial occasion. Nice to have a phone call from your offspring on Mother's Day, nice to have some little recognition of a love shared when you're in a relationship - but nothing elaborate required, and certainly no drama if neither of those things are in your life. Sure, it highlights things for people, I understand, and can exacerbate fragile emotions, but it really is just another day, and I have spent heaps in my life "alone" without giving it a thought really.

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 9:27 PM

Pink is playing in the background (got to have some tough girl stuff) and I bought toffee cheescake (plus some baileys) - wooohooo

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:25 PM

kitten so what's playing, did you bring anything to eat apart from your frogs?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:23 PM

The music is starting .... let's party!

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 9:19 PM

Here it is, a poem about past love. We need to remember the good parts and clear our hearts of anger so we can move forward to embrace our next love. These are is my thoughts:

How I adored your face
Was enchanted by your smile
Gripped by your beauty and grace
Life without you has been a trial

Bound by your laughter
Bubbly you were for sure
Many years together
This I sought more and more

Together married then through divorce
Love long faded in your eye
Shared our property with bird and horse
Unable to be saved, I did try

These years cannot be taken away
Yearning for a life long gone
So many words I could not say
For now it is time to move on

Live your life now free
May it be full of joy and love
Set apart from me
When found hold with fitted glove

Coming soon a poem about new loves.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:18 PM

Hi, willow1059 - lovely sentiments about remembering past loves in a positive way, and Happy Valentine's Day to everyone :)

Posted by: malsie at February 14, 2008 9:11 PM

VIRGIL posted at February 14, 2008 8:50 AM- Said;
“Do we say " Happy Valentines day to the bloke next to us at the bar, and get punched in the mouth for our trouble?”

I saw this entry this morning before work. Thought i'd try your suggestion Virgil and wish some blokes at work a happy valentines day (as well as the girls). Well! I have to say thankyou very much!! I didn't get punched, but got my bum pinched for my trouble.. Beetled back to my desk in a hurry after that. You and your great ideas....

ISTJ5 4 at February 14, 2008 9:15

Beautiful post…

Jabba at February 14, 2008 6:13 PM

I believe in Santa Clause!! And if I’m in a relationship, I like to use Valentines day as another time to reaffirm my feelings for the woman I am involved with. Usually in a card with some nice verse… I certainly do NOT expect any ‘favours’ in return and would be rather put-off if they thought that of me. So speak for yourself!! (how does one type that blowing a rasberry sound...?)

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 14, 2008 9:10 PM

Willow here. Happy Valentines Day to all, male and female.

I hope everyone has had a great day and received at least one kiss from a special person. If you have not had a great day it is time to change it into one right now!

I have received a few virtual kisses that are greatly appreciated.

Most importantly I received a real kiss from the most beautiful girl in the world. She is 3 years old and calls me by the name of Dad.

Shortly I will post a poem about lost love. I ask on this special day of love we give some thought to our past partners, remember there was a time when they were one of the most important things in our daily lives and we loved them greatly.

Who is here to start the party?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 9:09 PM

Kitten and I have been waiting impatiently for our illustrious host, Willow.

Let the games begin! Though I may have to leave you before the end of your grand banquet.

Happy Valentine's all!

Posted by: ninaschen at February 14, 2008 9:08 PM

Scathing comments for both sexes NF.

Better to have no expectations and then the vino is there to enjoy...and not to get bitter and twisted...

Posted by: picklessister at February 14, 2008 9:07 PM

That’s alright M. You’re not alone.

Don’t forget, there are women who have been stressing out all day.

Waiting, waiting, waiting, for No 1 boyfriend, or Main Man, (Partner/ Hubby for the attached) to show just an iota that he actually cares.

Of course, he doesn’t.

He believes in “treat em mean and keep em keen.”

Just about now these women are hitting the vino as well.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 14, 2008 9:05 PM

No more booze for you WnW..you need chocolate...and put some music on..and smile babe :)

Posted by: picklessister at February 14, 2008 8:59 PM

PS ... yes I have mates ... two of them.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 8:54 PM

Will this work? Motto is ... don't get on the piss at a mate's place and start blogging ... especially one that is giving you a hard time on V Day. Will this come out under my name or my bastard mate's ... who knows? Not me. Back to my normal, boring self tomorrow ... promise.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 8:53 PM

Guys I leave you for two hours and all the humour goes to be replaced with bad vibes.

Go make a stiff drink or three, warm up your funny bones because we are going to party as soon as I get myself a drink and a nibble. Bring along your wit, smart comments but leave the anger for another day. Love yourselves and others for two hours please.

I to am dateless, the only flowers I got were the ones I bought for my ex-wife because no-one else did, but I refuse to have a sh.t Valentines Day.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 8:53 PM

FishnChips - thanks B I have obviously had too much to drink and shouldn't be posting ... it will have repurcussions, I know already ... woops. Picclesister - you are right ... I know that but my stupid heart won't fall into line .. it keeps on with the same old shit ... bloody hell. Stoic - no it was no surprise ... really.

Anyway, moving on and meeting some wonderful new people ... they know who they are. It's all relative ... isn't it? Does this make sense? Hope so.

Posted by: isanyonelistening at February 14, 2008 8:45 PM

Jaspercat was it you?

Who came to the Brisbloggers meet a month ago, and sat next to jpcool and chatted with him,

and is definitely the most beautiful woman I have seen for years?

If so, you have no-one to blame but yourself for lack of dates.

Anyone short of Prince Charming would be too intimidated by your radiance, to dare even to approach you, let alone send you an RSVP kiss.

Take a new set of photos in a bad light, change your name to something less cool and try again. Please pretty please. Before I cry at the injustice of it all. And on Valentine's day too!

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 14, 2008 8:34 PM

Wood n Whine

I was discussing with a flower vendor why she was selling a dozen roses for $2.00.

They had already opened in the heat.

She said there is quite a market for them.

Apparently they are very big for graveyards.

So buy these for your “Sweetheart”

Your note should say “It’s your funeral, Baby.”

Now, the role of chocolates in your love life.

Chocolates are NEVER meant to be a pure gift.

They are an instrument of war.

If you are experiencing too much competition, the way to knock your opponents off is to give chocolates.

Buy dark chocolate by the 20kg bucketload. Enough to add another 5 extra love handles to her waist and hips.

Voila. The competition falls away and she’s all your. Little Miss Piggy.

Lastly, keep the teddy bear.

If all else fails, at least you have something to go to bed with.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 14, 2008 8:33 PM

Man o man..you guys are not in the party mood at all!!

WnW - If its all too difficult then its not with the right person..move on...

Getting out and about, meeting people, and having faith in love and companionship is good for the soul.

(OMG i sound like a preacher man) Enjoy it and have fun, or don't play the game, but then you dont get the prize either :)

Posted by: picklessister at February 14, 2008 8:32 PM

You sound surprised, woodnwine.

Posted by: stoic at February 14, 2008 8:29 PM

waiting ... waiting .... waiting

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 8:29 PM

woodywhine - get over it you slack excuse for a man. Jabbyhunter was right, you are an old woman. Velentines day is a crock and so is love. Wake up and you will then be able to get on with your dismal life, by your self. Just a bit of unwanted advice from a fellow disillusioned moron.

Posted by: isanyonelistening at February 14, 2008 8:24 PM

Valentines Day - what a miserry. I sent flowers, chocolates, cute cuddly bear - huge expense but got nothing, not even a thanks but no thanks. Why is all this love stuff so f...ing hard? You continually put your heart out there to people in a genuine way and they just crap all over it. Is this RSVP experience a good thing or something that just scars you for a long time? I feel like giving up too jaspercat and did I see someone else saying the same sad shit?

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 8:14 PM

Jabber, Underbelly is about the Melbourne criminal murders not about who kills the most.
Read your tv guide for further info.
Underbelly was what l was referring to.
As for cops killing more people than criminals...l think not............K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 8:08 PM

Hi Virgil,
Simple RSViP ER

Posted by: oldergent at February 14, 2008 7:58 PM

anyone who can understand the post below from RS Viper becomes president of his/her fan club (not sure of gender, as there is no visible profile).
By the way, what does the RS stand for? ohh dont tell me, let me guess

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 7:47 PM

Wishfulthinker03 February 12, 2008 11:55 PM Read them Virgil, but pay little attention, they are so poorly written and make little sense...grammatically all over the place too.........
You just can not be serious. You are still criticising and giving advice on a subject you obviously struggle with yourself.
Your own sentence structure is horrendous, and it is no surprise that your spelling is still not correct.

Posted by: rsviper at February 14, 2008 2:31 PM
please explain? hehe

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 7:32 PM

Thanks Notgodsgift...just saw it. My son downloaded it as I am sure that loads of victorians have already...thought it was great too...just like the ones they said it was like...Blue Murder, Janus etc. Very well made and acted. Love Carl Williams!

I can't make dinner tonight now Willow but the food is all prepared and just needs to be served...as I hope you will serve Virgil for his rudeness about Collingwood...someone told me a few days ago that they had two teams, their team and whoever Collingwood is playing...hurtful...n then I read Virgil's posts.

I'm off to a barbeque with friends...nothing romantic...Valentine's Day is friend's day too...I'll be back later in time for the port and I hope to read some great discussions...

Eric...Happy Valentine's Day:))XXXXX000000000 be nice and send a bulk e-card to all the girls you've loved before, who travelled in and out your door....sounds like a song.

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 6:58 PM

Willow, will be out dancing tonight but will hurry home to read the blogs. Or maybe not if I get a better offer. To those a little on the negative side and feel that the day has let them down, try dancing lessons. The rule where I go is that if someone asks you to dance you are not allowed to decline.At least you get a few minutes of 'up close and personal'.Just remember it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.
Good luck Willow on your love advisory role tonight.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 14, 2008 6:31 PM

Willow I would love to but my heart is not in it anymore. How many knocks can one take. I would rather now resign myself to the fact that men find me ugly and I have a LOT of female friends and I would rather go out with them and not be hurt anymore - whats the use. I cant take it anymore.

Posted by: jaspercat at February 14, 2008 6:31 PM

jaspercat, sounds like today and others have sucked.

Join us tonight, it should be fun and a distraction.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 6:28 PM

Jabbathehung..re Underbelly and the cops in Victoria being trigger happy.....l thought it was the crims who mostly did the killing not the cops. And have to say that l am p****d that it was banned here...........K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 14, 2008 6:21 PM

Jabba you are in fine form

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 14, 2008 6:18 PM

Happy Valentines everyone I hope you have a lovely night and find the person of your dreams. I have now resigned from Rsvp as I have been on it for two years NOTHING has ever come from it except a coffee date _ good luck I would rather be single and happy than get hurt anymore.

Posted by: jaspercat at February 14, 2008 6:18 PM

Willow says Happy Valentines Day to boys and girls.

I look forward to chatting in RSVP blogsville later tonight around 8.30PM Adelaide time. Don't worry kittenheels, I gather you men start at 8.30 Melbourne time. I have plenty to keep us going well into the night.

In advance, I apologise that I have been unable to cook for a variety of reasons, mainly lack of expertise. Hopefully you will not be offended if I appoint myself director of love and frivolity for the night instead.

I will have several poems, one bloggers specific, a resolution to Virgil’s football/woman problem from the Willow Book of Valentines Day Sorry Solutions (a new publication) and an instalment about a first date.

A word of warning, if you are easily offended tune out. Willows mind has been running super charged. Not even the wonderful game we call AFL football can survive this onslaught. If football is not your thing then sewing gets a serve or should this be run as well.

Bye until later.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 6:13 PM

Hey jabba .... talk about the pot calling the kettle black! I'll try to keep the matronly side of me under control and be more rude in future.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 6:08 PM

ODE

“The thing you need to realize about this day is that women tend to flaunt their Valentine's gifts. Two is better than one, and bigger is better than smaller. Female competition is at an all-time high. Female curiosity is at an all-time high. I know from my experience on Valentine's Day two years ago that if you walk around with a Valentine's gift, you get a lot of rubbernecks taking notice of you -- some even asking you questions along the lines of "Who's the lucky girl?"

Apart from betraying yourself, girl, most blokes know this (apart from a few idiots who buy knickers and expect her to wear them on the outside, like superwoman or catwoman)

My Valentines Day was yesterday. Her birthday is 6 months away. Gives me some breathing space, while she goes off and does her thing, as usual.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 14, 2008 5:58 PM

Jabba

You are not allowed to use certain words on rsvp.

Or you will get shushpendid.

Rules you know.

Hate to see your smiling face disappear

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 14, 2008 5:50 PM

Yes, Jabba, but they’re “going straight,” at least for the first 2 months of any “relationship”. Old habits die hard though.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 14, 2008 5:27 PM

woodnwine at February 12, 2008 2:28 PM

To woodnwine

All men that I have kissed and there reply is yes I am interested and looking forward to your email and I then I follow with the email then they dont reply back - 1. wasting my stamps 2. not descent enough to then advise they are no longer interested.

So I am very over RSVP online dating!! Have met alot of people in the same situation men and female as myself - common respect goes along way. So the people that are looking for a relationship get majorly played.
Now belong to a great Social Group formed by previous RSVP members.

Happy Valentines Everyone

Clarrice

Posted by: clarrice at February 14, 2008 4:59 PM

istj54 - what is Underbelly? I was watching SpicksnSpecks and Little Brittain.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 4:52 PM

Hi Istj54,

Underbelly was really good......much better than I anticipated given all of the hype....worth a watch for sure (and guaranteed it will be replayed as an encore very shortly).

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 14, 2008 4:43 PM

My goodness people, its just another day, that the Powers that be in the world of retail madness, have hyped to extreme!! I am single and I have no Valentine, but strangely I do not feel sad nor overlooked. If you have a mutual love of this day with a significant other then by all means enjoy!!! But otherwise let it pass. Love is elusive and can be fleeting in its elation but why should one day have the power to make us feel alone, if the rest of the time we are quite happy being ourselves. Who says that this day should be able to measure our worth? Rejoice in being alive and let love find you happy in your own company. *Hugs* to all :-)

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 14, 2008 3:51 PM

Did anyone interstate watch Underbelly last night? Or were you all watching the abc or sbs?

Was it good?...am I just shallow...doesn't matter... I think we have a copy and I can go watch it myself now:))

Might be late for dinner...I have prepared a selection, or buffet, of curries, both Malaysian and Thai, Morrocan dishes, cold roast beef and lobster salad...Just going to try some out now...and see if those Margherittas are strong enough...must be five somewhere.

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 3:50 PM

ODE...I think it would backfire and people will just think you are a "Crow stripogram on its way to delivery...and, isn't it more tragic to try to look like you are loved on such a day by carrying around gifts for no one?

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 3:44 PM

I have watched the the to and froing about hidden profiles etc.. Also I have to plead guilty to wanting to put a face to the words, both female and male. The thought has just crossed my mind. What if the powers that control this site, were to stipulate that to blog here you would have to register one name just for blogging, this could be internally linked to your profile No name no photo for refference back to. To compensate the social club people, they should also set up a site just for them, where they can stoke each others ego's to their hearts content, or be as bitchy and pedantic as is their desire. This then would give us mere mortals a choice.

Posted by: oldergent at February 14, 2008 3:09 PM

A little advice to Onlinedating expert, stop predicting your continual failures and then congradulating yourself for actually failing.
You can't possibility give yourself the slightest chance of success if you look at failure as the only option.
Although it takes a fair amount of effort why don't you convince yourself that next time you go to meet someone that you will actually succeed.
You may not succeed, but l'm sure you will have made a more sincere effort and you most likely will not be emitting the negativity that you are now.
Give positive thinking a go !

Posted by: koolkurl1950 at February 14, 2008 2:46 PM

Wishfulthinker03 February 12, 2008 11:55 PM Read them Virgil, but pay little attention, they are so poorly written and make little sense...grammatically all over the place too.........
You just can not be serious. You are still criticising and giving advice on a subject you obviously struggle with yourself.
Your own sentence structure is horrendous, and it is no surprise that your spelling is still not correct.

Posted by: rsviper at February 14, 2008 2:31 PM

Like xmas, mothers & fathers day and to a lesser extent easter; Valentines Day has been totally captured by capitalists. It's now about making rich people richer.

The best way to get revenge on Valentines day is to ignore it. Personally I can't think of a worse night to be out at a restaurant/bar/etc if you are single.

Take my advice and stay at home, watch the TV, tidy your room or spend some time on a hobby. You'll feel much better for it (or at least avoid feeling a whole lot worse - which is a distinct possibility otherwise)

Posted by: hopefullrealist at February 14, 2008 2:19 PM

ODE - how does revenge actually improve your position though? Is there actually an upside to your revenge tactic?

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 2:13 PM

HOW THE SINGLE GUY CAN GET REVENGE ON VALENTINE'S DAY

OK, this installment is a quickie, given that I intend to get out there today and enact my own advice.

Maybe the following describes you (it describes me!): For the past year, you've been to all sorts of places (from clubs to museums to theatres to libraries), trying all sorts of approaches with women (from the genial to the humorous to the aggressive to the downright bizarre), withstanding all sorts of verbal and near-physical attacks, and wondering why your self-esteem hasn't fallen off the ship and foundered.

You've followed all the conventional advice, witnessed it fail miserably, and have come to realize that, with the majority of today's women (at least in the 18- to 30-year-old bracket), every approach stinks, every signalling of interest stinks, and every approach stinks because every approach is a signalling of interest and is therefore doomed to failure. No matter what you say, you're doomed from the moment you open your mouth. (Incidentally, sitting at a table of women and saying nothing until spoken to lets you last a little longer.)

You've realized that, with the majority of today's women (at least in the 18- to 30-year-old bracket), a smile amounts to nothing more than 32 or fewer bits of cold, solid matter.

You look around at the guys women ARE with, and it makes you wonder, since you consider yourself at least in the middle range among all those guys, and yet somehow they've managed to pull off something you haven't. The mystery is intensified by the fact that you've seen guys at the top of the pecking order fail miserably with all kinds of different approaches. Maybe at the gym you've even overheard bulked-up, attractive guys wailing about their inability to pick up women, and yet somehow their whining is for you a source of comfort and relief, since it means there's unlikely anything wrong with you as an individual.

In your quest for answers, you consider the fact that maybe all those apparently happy couples out there are simply high school sweethearts, platonic friends, activity partners, workmates, classmates, or the result of a family or friends matchmaking intervention. I know from personal experience that it's easy to give the appearance of being a couple when you're sitting in the university cafeteria and laughing with a female classmate who has no romantic interest in you whatsoever and who already has a boyfriend.

But it's not my purpose here to fuel your bitterness; it's my purpose here to share with you a way to release all the resentment and pain you're feeling on this day of lonely lament.

It's just after noon as I write this. You have approximately 12 hours to inflict your revenge, mate. So read the rest of this post and get crackin'.

The thing you need to realize about this day is that women tend to flaunt their Valentine's gifts. Two is better than one, and bigger is better than smaller. Female competition is at an all-time high. Female curiosity is at an all-time high. I know from my experience on Valentine's Day two years ago (an experiment, by the way) that if you walk around with a Valentine's gift, you get a lot of rubbernecks taking notice of you -- some even asking you questions along the lines of "Who's the lucky girl?"

OK, I almost got carried away with my usual psychology babble, so let me cut to the chase and tell you what you need to do, sharing with you the how and sparing you the why. Follow these steps down to the tiniest detail, because they're all important:

1. Wear a red shirt, the brighter the better. Purchase a set of stickers that are red hearts or red lipstick kisses, and stick one or more of these on your face and neck, with high visibility. If you're bold enough (I'm still mixed about whether I can do this), wear a cape that's a darker shade of red. You're about to trigger the Peacock Effect.

2. Optional step: wear mascara, eyeliner, and eyeshadow. The look you want is not a Dolly Parton one but one that should get you the lead role in the next instance of The Crow. Yours is a deeper, more powerful romance.

3. Purchase the biggest teddy bear you can both afford and carry around with you for the rest of the day. Make sure the teddy bear has a message on its tummy, such as "For the best girl in the world". Maybe have the bear holding a bouquet of roses and a box of chocolates. You're about to trigger the Snow White Mirror Effect.

4. Make the rounds among all the clubs, museums, libraries, classes, etc., you've been to in the past year.

5. If AT LEAST ONE of the women who showed no interest in you doesn't approach you and ask you about the gift, feel free to disregard everything I say in future. Keep in mind that the approach may come under the guise of an insult: "Who's the poor lady victim?" No matter what the approach, you work in there the following reply: "*friendly laugh* Hey, I remember you! You gave me that hard time when I was drunk! How you been? ... Yeah, this is for my girl; her name's Crystal. It's funny, but we were both on the same plane from Sydney to Rome [or Paris, Athens, whatever]. Straight out of a movie, that situation. We hit it off immediately. Never thought someone like her was out there. I mean, first and foremost, I value someone with a wicked sense of humour, because a wicked sense of humour is usually a good indicator of intelligence and emotional stability. Nothing is worse than a wet blanket of a woman who has so many issues that she's lost the ability to laugh, smile, and find the humour in all kinds of situations. Plenty of guys complain about the snotty attitudes of many women out there, women who've lost that ability of childlike playfulness and who do nothing but count how many guys they can freeze out. But I don't reckon all women are like that -- it's just about looking long and hard and finding someone with a golden personality who welcomes you into their world and gives you the chance to demonstrate that you're a different kind of guy. I don't know, I suppose when you find that girl, forking out a few grand on a Valentine's gift is a no-brainer."

6. Tomorrow, return the gift to the store and get your money back.

Happy Stinkin' Valentine's Day.
OnlineDatingExpert

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Previous installment (which has links to all earlier installments):

HOW TO WIN THE NEGATIVE-EXPECTATION GAME OF DATING
http://blogs.rsvp.com.au/2008/02/dangerous_mistakes.html#29003

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at February 14, 2008 12:35 PM

Hi ISTJ

I didnt mean to be cruel, we can exhibit the worst behaviours around football, knowing that such behaviours are not acceptable in normal social situations ge a bit of gloating over a win etc.
Your coach got us 2 premierships in the early 90's beat us in extra time to finish our 07 season.
Collingwood were on the end of a 3 week road trip, during which many of the players were unwell, so as much as Adelaide can be very pleased with its younger players, Saturday could not be thought of as any guide to what may happen in the season.

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 12:22 PM

"Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away.

I don't know the author of this piece but I do know that it helped me to get over a partner that I thought was the "one" ...but they didn't agree...so for all those with broken hearts today...thgis may well help you too:)))"
Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 9:15 AM

How true.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 14, 2008 9:24 AM

Virgil,

I was a product planner for Hallmark for many years and introduced their line of St V's Day cards and gifts here. I was all about marketing and making money for them...so what does that tell you?

Valentine's Day is about friendship not love or lovers. That is just hype. Call a friend and have dinner with them if you feel lonely tonight. Just because you happen to be part of a couple, it does not make you happier or a better person than a single. We need to realise that salient point.

....and Virgil, you have been very, very cruel about Saturday night....not sure I can forgive you for that....but Happy Valentine's day anyways:))

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 9:23 AM

"People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON...It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON...It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant."

I don't know the author of this piece but I do know that it helped me to get over a partner that I thought was the "one" ...but they didn't agree...so for all those with broken hearts today...thgis may well help you too:)))

Happy Valentine's Day friends!!:))...or should that be ?

Posted by: istj54 at February 14, 2008 9:15 AM

When I lived in WA, I used to be a member of the Anglican Church at Beaconsfield, where we had a rather nice tradition.
As we were predominantly between mid 30's to mid 60's with at least half being single, separated divorced etc, we used to have Christmas dinner together ( The evening meal, rather than lunch) this was for people who otherwise had no Christmas lunch to go to.
For those without family, Christmas is the lonliest time of the year.

For those without an intimate partner, Valentines day surely would be a very painful day to many singles, and I feel RSVP maybe could have forgotten commercial advantage for this day, and maybe organized a Valentines day dinner for the singles.

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 9:06 AM

What is Valentines day?

Is it like Christmas day? where everyone wishes each other happy Valentines day?

Do we say " Happy Valentines day to the bloke next to us at the bar, and get punched in the mouth for our trouble?

Or maybe it has aspects like Halloween, where dinky dye true blue Ossies say dont want to know about that American crap?

From the days of my youth, I do not remember Valentines day. Am I maybe getting old and senile maybe?

Of course, I always remember Christmas day, sensational in the morning, fantastic at lunchtime, then go for an afternoon nap and wonder why I felt a bit let down, maybe too much expectation?

What may we expect on Valentines day?

For some the evening will be the best part of the day, restauranters obviously will love it. Hallmark clearly does.

What happens tomorrow? Post Valentines sales?
Do we return unwanted valentines to Myers and get our money back?

Maybe we can exchange them for a different one?

Posted by: virgil at February 14, 2008 8:50 AM

happy valentines day everyone...

you are my only true love
the one i truly wanna hug!!

Wondering what it really is?? its my keyboard, cause that is what we are all on...our keyboards!!!

Have a lovely day all, if you are working, as most will be, hope that you can get out and have a coffee in the sun with friends....jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at February 14, 2008 7:54 AM

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 10:23 PM
Ah, you obviously have an inside contact! Hehe, thanks, don't know about the demon eyes though.

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 13, 2008 11:43 PM

Thanks Bob. Right back at you.

Posted by: archerrising at February 14, 2008 7:54 AM

Posted by: willow1059 at February 13, 2008 11:42 PM

Willow can we make it 8.30pm as my boss decided that working late on valentine's day was a good idea.

P.S. I can take care of the music if everyone likes?

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 14, 2008 7:42 AM

Hi Willow,

No mate, speed dating is not my thing and only really blog when there is something of interest to me; or just pissed and frivolous!!! Unfortunately tonight am sore and sorry...spent the day moving furniture from a 2nd story unit with narrow stairways!!

HI Mystiemuse,

I see your point completely; everyone has their own set of reasons for doing or not doing things. I dont have a problem contacting someone with no stamps....I dont know their reasons, financial or otherwise, nor do I set rules around it....if a woman appeals to me I will email her first anyway, regardless of who makes initial contact.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 14, 2008 12:41 AM

Blueeyes when i said i didn't like your third pic the reason for my comment mainly cos it was for me really hard to make out it was you.A woman walking across a pedestrian crossing, and you see more of the crossing than the woman. But that was my 2 cents.
SSC why cant you blog to your hearts content? and yes d/h me forget your request.
timewaster, or spacecadet which ever you answer to, re your post about gravy,i did make a post , and yes i did sign off at about 11.45 pm, do i need your permission now to sign off? GET BENT

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 14, 2008 12:27 AM

For me buying stamps is not a viable investment, not because I don't think someone may be worth it but simply because, I just would not make first contact with 6 men in just two short months. So therefore I would be wasting my money. Out of all the kisses I have dared to send I have only had two positive responses, one of which I emailed through a friend. He answered me in a friendly email. I replied and then never heard from him
again. So needless to say I don't send kisses anymore unless I really think they may be an interesting discovery. Would I buy stamps if I thought someone was worth it, if I could afford them yes...but they would have to be special. But how will I know that without some contact?
Hence I am still here and "Valentines Day is merely a commercial attempt to fleece the general population of their hard earned cash, by using emotional blackmail."....Hehehehehe
But thats just my opinion..... :-)

Posted by: mystiemuse at February 14, 2008 12:20 AM

bob are you attending the RSVP record night or blogging tonight?

Posted by: willow1059 at February 14, 2008 12:08 AM

Ooops forgot to suggest, if we would like savoury ... then we can't have a valentines feast without oysters...

How about a rustle us up some kilpatrick and mornay.. or perhaps you would prefer oyster shooters

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Posted by: gypsynurse at February 14, 2008 12:08 AM

TimeWarp1
There is nothing like fresh fruit picked straight from the tree, makes you realise what we miss out on in the supermarket.
I missed the Brissy meet end of Nov/early Dec as I was organising to come down here, so yes would love to come to the next one I am home for.
Happy Valentines day all as it's now past midnight here a rose for you all
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Posted by: gypsynurse at February 13, 2008 11:55 PM

Hi All,

I once sent a Kiss to a woman who has absolutely nothing on her profile but a photo and basic personal information saying "we share a love of the written word".....needless to say, no response, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do!!!

To All the Ladies (especially those that wont get anything tomorrow) - Happy Valentines Day - be happy and stay beautiful.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at February 13, 2008 11:43 PM

blueeyes, it was a perfect poem. It is great to see an evening where everyone has been so happy tonight.

For those who can make it I'll see you tomorrow for the virtual Valentines Day Party. Will be a little late pethaps around 8-8.30PM Adelaide time.

I hope the main course is covered by someone, jenjen will you be doing cocktails? I too have a desert planned, best I can do with the short notice.

I have some poetry, can anyone take care of the music?

Perhaps someone can tell me tomorrow what you do with these choc covered strawberries.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 13, 2008 11:42 PM

AuntyKaz and Trumascat - I love you two!!! Bubbles and choc-dipped strawberries added to the rest of the menu at Willow's... sounds divine!!!

A virtual Valentine's Day dinner is better than nothing from my point of view!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 13, 2008 11:40 PM

Posted by: aliane at February 13, 2008 8:21 PM

aliane, am getting my Vedic astrology done by someone in India through a work buddy. Will let you know how it goes, you may be interested also. He is doing the bosses first of course for him. Sorry very off topic everyone.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 13, 2008 11:13 PM

Hi slightsynchronicity (man that's a long word! hehe) not to worry I won't be on a date either tomorrow night. But hey you're right, it's not the end of the world...!

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 13, 2008 8:13 PM

sophisticated68 hey, I think I posted in the wrong blog.in reply..just shorten my RSVP name to SSC or whatever.

TCat choc dipped strawberries for two, even.

blueeyes1955, nice poem, how delightful.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 13, 2008 11:10 PM

my comment, for the first time, by the way, is... kisses kisses and please email me, obviously these men dont wont to pay for the stamps, and are sitting around waiting for you to email them, at no cost, get real.....

Posted by: leolass2 at February 13, 2008 11:02 PM

El cheapos..

Sudoku book is cheaper.

Nite all, oh joy its valentines day tomorrow, they are going to need a truck to deliver all my flowers (not)

Have a good one y'all.

Posted by: picklessister at February 13, 2008 10:53 PM

Picklesister, there is another profile that suggests you read it carefully in order to make contact. I did and after a few tries at different email addresses I worked it out. (The things you do if bored).Mind you he sent me 3 kisses and still no email correctly. Obviously he doesn't want to spend a stamp.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 13, 2008 10:48 PM

Teasing Chris....

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 10:41 PM

Nice one yourself pickles - I hadn't thought of that one.

Something else to try :)

Posted by: stoic at February 13, 2008 10:41 PM

I wouldn't know Trumanscat - I don't read guys' profiles :)

And thanks rider. Feel free to try it yourself :)

Posted by: stoic at February 13, 2008 10:39 PM

Yeah stoic nice.

I like telling the reject cheap nasty ones that have their pics hidden that they have a great photo..makes me smile even if they do think i am nuts :)

Posted by: picklessister at February 13, 2008 10:38 PM

Because you know me, and my limited fool-suffering abilities too well, Wishful :)

Posted by: stoic at February 13, 2008 10:37 PM

Even the guys? There are plenty out there too..

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 10:37 PM

stoic- I like it I like it ...

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 13, 2008 10:35 PM

his nickname was made up of letters and you had to guess what it meant...i dont think he needs the publicity though..dont want to do him any favours..he already spurned the catch of the year ;)

Posted by: picklessister at February 13, 2008 10:34 PM

Haha Stoic, now why doesn't THAT surprise me :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 13, 2008 10:33 PM

pick- you should send a puzzle back haha

...what was the puzzle ? we can all try to work it out for you :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 13, 2008 10:30 PM

I like sending kisses to those cheapskates who say "I don't have any stamps. Send me an email" on their profile just to annoy them :)

Posted by: stoic at February 13, 2008 10:27 PM

Just thinking on the theme of cheapness and meaness..there was a profile that had a puzzle sorta thing in it, so i emailed with what i thought the answer could be, and said hey let me know the answer even if you arent interested..and he just did auto response back. How hard to tell me the answer to the puzzle..it was more interesting than him anyway.

Never mind, next time i will play chess on line...live and learn :)

Posted by: picklessister at February 13, 2008 10:26 PM

Well, we can't all be like us now can we Wishfull....but on the flip side the true colour's are shown and displayed up front...

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 13, 2008 10:25 PM

Archer... I meant of the bloggers meet.. with Bob in particular. ;~)

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 10:23 PM

trumanscat: why, thank you.

Posted by: archerrising at February 13, 2008 10:19 PM

Cheap aren't they Rider.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 13, 2008 10:16 PM

Nice photos by the way archerrising...

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 10:15 PM

I will have to take your word for it Tru Mans Cat.. oo la la :)

Posted by: picklessister at February 13, 2008 10:15 PM

rider @ 10.09am: Yeah, I'll say. Those people are pretty much telling you right up front just how much they're (not) prepared to do to meet someone aren't they?

trumanscat: yeah, you did. But it's a fair bet there will be a repeat performance.

Posted by: archerrising at February 13, 2008 10:12 PM

Bugger.
I missed a great bloggers meet didn't I?

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 10:09 PM

Don't you just love the profile's that have.....

"Email me if theres anything else you might wanna know as i cant buy stamps coz i dont have a credit card-or any debts!"

mmmm...BPay?????? :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 13, 2008 10:09 PM

Yeah picklesister, a cat for the true man.
:~)

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 10:08 PM

Aw shucks, thanks rider! If you were ten years older ...

Posted by: archerrising at February 13, 2008 10:07 PM

What about Tru Manscat??

Posted by: picklessister at February 13, 2008 10:05 PM

Posted by: archerrising at February 12, 2008 6:37 PM

It was a pleasure meeting the cheeky :) archerrising

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at February 13, 2008 10:05 PM

Or it could be Truman's scat... :~)

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 9:56 PM

TC - No, off to sleep now. Thanks.
All for now...
Ho..
Ho...

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 13, 2008 9:56 PM

Need to know? Will lose some sleep if not told? Not really?
Truman's cat.

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 9:54 PM

Hi Trumanscat. Don't mean to be rude here, but there's something I've been wondering for a while when I see you post...

Is it supposed to be Trumans Cat? or are you telling someone called Truman to Scat?
Sorry, I need to know these things.... sad I know.

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 13, 2008 9:40 PM

Corny it is GTTC. Found it whilst looking for some possible poems for school tomorrow. I wouldn't take credit for writing that myself. But I then clicked on your profile and saw you smiling.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 13, 2008 9:37 PM

VDU
how about chocolate dipped strawberries?
Double dipped?
Yum.

Posted by: trumanscat at February 13, 2008 9:33 PM

Oh dear, Blueeyes.. Thats terrible!!! (mind you, I couldn't do better)

OK. for dinner I'll offer some mains - Twice cooked crispy skin chicken with spicy fried dipping salt and King prawns in ginger and shallot sauce..

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TOMORROW EVERYONE!!

GTTC

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 13, 2008 9:28 PM

VDU l will bring the bubbles after all its Valentines Day and we do like our bubbles................K

Posted by: auntykaz at February 13, 2008 9:15 PM

Here's a Valentine's Day poem that might go with the virtual dinner.We already have heaps of dessert. Some may be watching their waistlines.

You may not "carrot" all for me
The way I care for you.
You may "turnip" your nose
when I plead with you.
But if your "heart" should "beet" with mine
Forever "lettuce" hope
There is no reason in the world
Why we two "cantaloupe".

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 13, 2008 8:58 PM

Happy Valentine's Day tomorrow to the woman of my dreams if you are reading this. You'll never know what could have been. I'm pretty sure it would have been spectacular ....... and worthwhile.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 13, 2008 8:45 PM

Here's to love - the only fire for which there is no insurance.
Happy Valentine's Day tomorrow everyone.
And that goes for you too, Jabba-and yes I will remain sickingly positive-hoping that some might just rub off your way.
Thanks Willow for the card.You are a sweetie in more ways than one.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 13, 2008 8:25 PM

MMMM chocolate coated raspberries sounds divine!!

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 13, 2008 8:24 PM

Hi slightsynchronicity (man that's a long word! hehe) not to worry I won't be on a date either tomorrow night. But hey you're right, it's not the end of the world...!

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 13, 2008 8:13 PM

I could post some virtual chocolate coated raspberries that they sell at my second job.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 13, 2008 8:11 PM

Happy Valentine's Day to all bloggers. Am supposed to be working tommorrow night, Yay! Would offer to make something for a virtual Valentine's Dinner as I will not be on a date but that is fine, however time does not permit the baking of a virtual dish. Hopefully next time. Silly computer almost ground to a halt in the last few days and am not posting this from home. Cheers to you all and I think we can be as happy as we choose to be : )))

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 13, 2008 8:10 PM

Everying everyone, I too wish everyone a Happy Valentine's Day for tomorrow. :-)

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 13, 2008 8:09 PM

Evening everyone, I too wish everyone a happy valentine's day. :-)

Posted by: sophisticated68 at February 13, 2008 8:09 PM

Oh and I have to say Happy Valentine's Day, E...you sure make me smile.Truly hope you have a good one.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 13, 2008 8:01 PM

Now to Jabba, oh forget it you wouldn't understand if i drew it for you or it bite you on the ass.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 12, 2008 9:47 PM

Now that I would like to see, MMFU. Oh and I will see how I go with the Thai recipes myself thanks, and sing out...if I can not find any decent ones. Did not think that you may get asked lots or anything like that. Was just thinking of Thai food and you know.

Can someone tell me if I can blog with my profile hidden? I assumed I can't.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at February 13, 2008 7:58 PM

Willow has been desserted all day today and look at him now. He's injured and has turned to drink to ease the pain.
Jabberthehung it is just as well the women here have deserted you. You would get fat as well as ugly and have to hide your picture.
Neuroticfish you will be happy to have two valentines days one after the other. If todays was good the real one will be fantastic. I see it in the tealeaves.
Woodnwine I am having trouble getting my photo approved but hope it will be soon so that I may get a kiss sometime before next Valentines day.
All those ladies who make such good cakes for Willow I am jealous. I can only do the main courses and entrees. I'm hopeless at desserts. I just buy something from the cake shop.
Aliane can you see the future? You sound fun.

Posted by: oohlala1 at February 13, 2008 7:37 PM

I must say that I had a good valentine’s Day

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 13, 2008 6:17 PM

To all, I have been reading all the cake posts. My waist now enlarged, pants button has broken, they are now around my knees.

Attempting to walk, I fell injuring myself. I will eagerly partake of the cocktails to sooth my pain tomorrow evening.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 13, 2008 5:57 PM

Gypsy just below

Just in time to see your post, while printing my boarding pass for tonight's flight home to Brissy.

Had guessed alter ego but too new to know it was a prior ego. Hope you can come to a Brissymeet after your contract expires.

Don't eat all the peaches. I worked for Golden Circle from late 50s to late 60s and we got our stone fruit to can from thataway by rail, ice-chilled.

Seeyezall lateron.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 13, 2008 12:33 PM

alaine - don't mourne Valentine's Day ... send someone a card.
gypsynurse - what would you cook for the reconcilliation dinner ... skippy?

Is anyone going to the RSVP world record speed dating even on Thursday?

Posted by: woodnwine at February 13, 2008 12:29 PM

WnW
If I was still in Brissy, I would quite happily cook us a consillation dinner, a 4 course meal with suitable liquid refreshment for each. Thank goodness for spare rooms! Though I really think you should go speed dating sounds like fun, I would go but it isn't offered where I am and I don't fancy driving back from Melbourne after the event.

TimeWarp1
Thank you for the offer, but there is no need for the stamp, unless of course you wish to.
I had for a time left the pages of RSVP. My life changed somewhat and I had a relocation hence the name change. My home town is Brissy and unless something remarkable happens while I am contracted to work down here I will be returning.
Nina recognised me and WnW and I share the occasional laugh, wine and meal (platonic)
And I that note I have an afternoon shift for which to prepare and soup to decanter since I still cook for more than one after all this time.
Have a great day all.
For tomorrows virtual feast I can contribute, a Mississippi Mud Cake and a Chocolate Rum Swirl New York Baked Cheesecake
Hugs

Posted by: gypsynurse at February 13, 2008 12:21 PM

Happy Sorry Day everyone.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 13, 2008 9:50 AM

Ladies on RSVP .... can I urge you to post a photo with your profile (not password protected)? If I do a full search (not a browse), it brings up 1026 profiles .... do you think I have the time to read all those without photos? My estimate is that would be about a third. If I do a browse, I get over 3000!

Come on ladies, why are you hiding? You could be my perfect match but you are hiding from me.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 13, 2008 9:50 AM

Hi Willow
I have been a West Coast member for 20 years, I moved to this wonderful city of Adelaide in August last year. ( I came across on the Indian Pacific, in a sleeper cabin with my car also on the train, awonderful journey.)
In the event of me possibly wanting to go back, I purchased a 2008 membership for the Eagles, more as a safety net.
I now have a membership of AAMI stadium, with reciprocal facilities for MCG, and a membership of the Adelaide Crows, and I believe they are called the pride of South Australia.

Their demolition of Collingwood on Saturday night certainly made me proud.

Posted by: virgil at February 13, 2008 9:33 AM

Hi Willow - re Thursday night, still deciding if I can be bothered attending the RSVP world record speed dating event. Have never done speed dating and don't really like the idea of it but apparently they are short of men and it "might" be fun.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 13, 2008 8:57 AM

Morning Willow,
no misadventure, just a new adventure.Mango cake, topped with real pieces of mango is ready in the freezer unless you need the aroma of a freshly baked one on Thursday.But unless dinner starts early I may have to take a raincheck on it. Being Valentine's Day and a Thursday I'm going to a 'reality' dance lesson where 'up close and personal' moves will no doubt be the order of the night at Ceroc.This could be a case of having my cake and eating it too.
Am enjoying your emails Willow> maybe I should ask you the same question you asked me?

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 13, 2008 7:49 AM

'a giant chocolate ripple cake for desert... laced with Kahlua of course!!'

VDU, that sounds like the bestest cake....I will make the black russians to go with this lovely cake(vodka, kahlua and a bit of cream on top) yummmeee!!!

Food for thought....Have a lovely day all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at February 13, 2008 7:24 AM

Posted by: archerrising at February 12, 2008 6:37 PM

Saw your message but it was hidden amongst other stuff. How was yoga? Will call tonight.

P.S. Bet I can get you drinking again (lol). Soon hopefully.

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 13, 2008 7:05 AM

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 13, 2008 12:51 AM

I'm in

I can bring cheescake with toffee swirled through (yum)

And of course, some red cordial!

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at February 13, 2008 7:01 AM

Hi Victoria, unfortunately time does not permit a full Willow dinner on Thursday. But I will be returning home mid-evening after my 5yo son's karate lesson. Thankyou for being willing to trust me with such a task on this special day.

Before Thursday I need to undertake a risk analysis on whether for my own safety I should allow my son to do this karate. Preparation time eludes me as I also need to chase little bouncy white balls (not my own) around a table after work tonight. They make funny noises (ping) but do not smell (pong) unless they are hit very hard (smash).

I would love to sample your fine wares in exchange for a poem on the night. I will also see whether a Willow word can be found. Unfortunately blueeyes did not deliver the cake promised last night, perhaps she had a better offer.

Being the trusting person I am, I prefer to believe blueeyes may have met with misadventure on the crossing rather than just forgot about me. I wish her a speedy recovery so she may again attend weddings presumably with cakes in hand, unless she wishes to prove me to be a foolish trusting banana. It this were to be I can only ask where should a Man Go.

Perhaps she will be sufficiently healed to attend on Thursday.

Victoria, if you can will you ask Virgil about his allegiances prior to his potential attendance. I seem to recall something about his wanting to purchase a West Coast membership but he lives in Adelaide. I try to indulge others but this may be a bridge just a little too far in this beautiful city called a backwater founded on flower beds of roses and petunias.

Or should that have been floundered, we can leave resolution of the word to either wishful or blueeyes since either are well qualified to offer advice in this regard.

Also would you attempt to provide gender balance, it is my undestanding the weather on the eastern seaboard has not been good in recent times. WnW (WoodnWine) would be an excellent invitee, he can supply the raw materials should the night be cold for both log fire heating (very romantic on V.Day) and liquid refreshments, red please for me. He does appear to be a true gentleman, well able to control my more expansive behaviour.

Goodnight now.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 13, 2008 1:41 AM

Hey Willow,

What about a virtual Valentine's Day dinner for we poor lonely hearts with no better offers?

I do a brilliant Mezze Plate and could even conjure up a giant chocolate ripple cake for desert... laced with Kahlua of course!!

Anyone else up for a contribution??

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 13, 2008 12:51 AM

From wordspy.com -

sock puppet n. A fake persona used to discuss or comment on oneself or one's work, particularly in an online discussion group or the comments section of a blog.
thanks stoic and wishfulthinker3.

Before RSVP the newspapers were big for meeting people, I used to sometimes chat for a very long time with women, before they would decide to meet me.
I am much less patient now, eithr meet someone quickly after establishing contact.
Most people i have met, I dont want to see again, a few dont want to see me again. I have a good feeling about the next person I will meet

Posted by: virgil at February 13, 2008 12:26 AM

nina sock puppet got me too. Mind you so does LOL, BTW, Gr8.

I get the feeling I have no idea what I am saying these days.

NF 9:49PM "And, you never know, you might actually enjoy Valentines Day for a change."

I really do hope all bloggers can do so in the correct spirit, I feel a poem may be needed on the night.

Posted by: willow1059 at February 13, 2008 12:22 AM

Read them Virgil, but pay little attention, they are so poorly written and make little sense...grammatically all over the place too....just invent the "topic' as you go - works for the majority!

Scroll down for Stoic's rather good description of "sock puppet"...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 12, 2008 11:55 PM

Hi Virgil, brownie points for you 2. You can't imagine how many goes we had at getting that photo-leaping out onto the crossing between cars.I'm here and have actually put in my tuppence for the new blog. Copped a bit of flack for it to.
I actually prefer to get out and meet people. If nothing more, I have a pleasant couple of hours indulging in adult company,usually in great surroundings and well worth the cost of a stamp.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 12, 2008 11:54 PM

What is a sock puppet?
Hmmm
maybe I dont want to know......
am I showing my ignorance, or is it an in joke?

Posted by: virgil at February 12, 2008 11:48 PM

Whats wrong with the 3rd photo?
I would love to have a photo of me walking across the crosswalk at Abbey Rd

Posted by: virgil at February 12, 2008 11:46 PM

Does anybody read the blurbs for a new topic?
Does anybody care?
Is anybody out there?

Posted by: virgil at February 12, 2008 11:42 PM

blueeyes ... yes I saw your photos.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 12, 2008 11:36 PM

Jabba.
i have actually met blueeyes and she is a lovley lady. Not at all as you described.I have yo say it was my gain and perhaps your loss.
not much more needsto be said.
G.

Posted by: meetandgreet at February 12, 2008 11:26 PM

TAFE cookery lecturer: Asked you another question about midnite last night in the just-closed blog on "when do you tell ...

Could you help me with an answer please sir?

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 12, 2008 11:03 PM

gypsynurse: You were also trying to tell me shy but perky over a week ago, you said, but that blog had closed.

I must be slower than a Melbourne tram coming, because I don't get it still. Can you explain? I've got stamps if it's private.

Posted by: timewarp1 at February 12, 2008 10:59 PM

Hi moreofaman, in my profession I have to deal with many people who have lights on at home only, and can accept them as is,just don't want to date them.When poeple send me an email saying that they have read my profile but can I have your photo password, then they sort of fail the intelligence test up front.As to 3rd photo-yes it is not wonderful but is there just to show I am truthful about my build.
Back to blog, I prefer to meet people early in the piece. Xmas wrapping in the form of words can hide a multitude of surprises. Luckily, most I have met have been worthwhile men.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 12, 2008 10:39 PM

Oh my God! ShyButPerky! Hello! I must be a bit thick. The penny didn't drop. Nice to see you! Waving back.

Posted by: ninaschen at February 12, 2008 10:28 PM

Well Ninaschen, unless you are a total net nerd with no life, you are unlikely to know the lingo.... err.... wait... :)

Posted by: stoic at February 12, 2008 10:25 PM

My sock puppet and I are waving to Ninaschen
ShyButPerky sends her regards Nina

Posted by: gypsynurse at February 12, 2008 10:17 PM

Thanks for the insight, Stoic. I hate to show my age but I didn't know what a sock puppet was, either. Nice to see you blogging again!

Posted by: ninaschen at February 12, 2008 10:04 PM

NF you been at the plonk again,,,,,,lolol

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 12, 2008 9:56 PM

You are welcome, wishful :)

There truly is a whole other language that has evolved in the ether of cyberspace - some might call it "l337 5p34k"

Ok. I'll stop now...

Posted by: stoic at February 12, 2008 9:54 PM

What’s so big a deal about characters with multiple profiles.

The sweetest little honey on earth has used alternate profiles to deliver lectures to me that she doesn’t want to do herself, and which are usually spot on anyway. You don’t see me complaining.

So why not show some love to the Jabberwocke and say “E we love you, where would the blogs be without you.”

After all, if you have love in your heart, it might flow through to your other more meaningful liaisons on here.

And, you never know, you might actually enjoy Valentines Day for a change.

Posted by: neuroticfish at February 12, 2008 9:49 PM

To Blueeyes.
you have to accept some peoples intelligence on rsvp, considering you even told em how to access your pics.As they say lights on, nobody home. didn't like the third pic of you.
Now to Jabba, oh forget it you wouldn't understand if i drew it for you or it bite you on the ass.

Posted by: moreofaman4u at February 12, 2008 9:47 PM

Well my day wasn't wasted Stoic..just learned something - thanks

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 12, 2008 9:34 PM

Sorry gttc - it must just be that I have been mistaken for a bridge troll from time to time :)

Posted by: stoic at February 12, 2008 9:29 PM

Stoic - Why are you insulting us Forest Trolls? We're pretty harmless really...

On topic; One first has to get kisses from people who are of interest..

once that has happened, then get on the phone pretty quick and meet quickly if the other person is amenable. That way you both find out if there is any likelyhood of future contact very quickly. This saves time and you can move on.

Posted by: greattimestocome at February 12, 2008 9:27 PM

Sock puppets are generally considered to be the lowest of the low on internet forums - even lower than your common variety trolls.

At least trolls will generally do what they do without bringing in "back up"

From wordspy.com -

sock puppet n. A fake persona used to discuss or comment on oneself or one's work, particularly in an online discussion group or the comments section of a blog. —adj.

Posted by: stoic at February 12, 2008 9:16 PM

Virgil...some have 5 or more profiles...all the same person....you get to sort them out after a while....but I dont see the point either. I have enough trouble sorting out my own head let alone having a few others "in" there to blog with!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 12, 2008 9:02 PM

Top blog Virgil- brownie points for you.
Thank you.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 12, 2008 8:50 PM

I have a question, why do bloggers use multiple names?
I wont criticise anyone for hiding their profile, as mine is currently hidden, due to not feeling well, and a bit coffeed out.
But I do feel that unless people have mutiple personalities, I dont feel it is appropriate to use multiple names.

When people come on here on a regular basis, it would be good to get to know others, and it is disappointing to think someone can open up a secodary profile name just to come on and exhibit many traits that would create conflict, and hurt to some people.

Posted by: virgil at February 12, 2008 8:43 PM

hi Blueeyes

that is probably the most intelligent thing I have so far seen on RSVP and the blogs, where you are quite happy for people to see your photo's but you want them to actually read the words first. The words being very well thought out, but in this world, where people as so impatient, they often just look at the photo's and maybe never read the words. In one easy action, you have weeded out all the neanderthalls who happily drag their knuckles across the ground.

Posted by: virgil at February 12, 2008 8:27 PM

Blueeyes, I sneaked a peak at your profile..nice pics and not hard to find at all - so I'm not sure what Jabba is on about - just another of those multiple personality bloggers you learn to overlook....

I dont see much point in spending forever emailing and/or chatting if you have any intention of actually meeting that person - it can, and often does, lead to a false perception of what they are really like, and you find yourself disappointed at the meeting....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at February 12, 2008 7:50 PM

Absolutely right Victoria.Maybe that is why jabba is so critical.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 12, 2008 7:41 PM

Any publicity is good publicity, isn't it???

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 12, 2008 7:33 PM

Thanks Victoria, maybe jabbas comments will get me a few kisses.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 12, 2008 7:27 PM

Hey BlueEyes, I peeked at you the other day and I can't believe you're 52!!!

It really proves that reading a profile THOROUGHLY is a very good idea...

Posted by: victoriadownunder at February 12, 2008 7:18 PM

Hi Woodwine,noticed you checking my profile. Did you find my photo as someone else obviously didn't?

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 12, 2008 6:51 PM

WnW: no doubt you're right. I was probably trying to say that I wanted to die without regrets.

kittenheelsxx: the head was terrible! Better now, but only started feeling human late Sunday arvo. I can't believe you guys all went out again on Sunday - I'm obviously too old for this, or something. Anyway, I'm never drinking again! No, I don't have your number but text me and I'll give you my email address. Going to yoga shortly.

rider: nice play on the names there, I'm impressed. It was great to meet you on Saturday.

ninaschen: thanks again for organising the meet. It was great to meet you and everyone else who happened along.

Posted by: archerrising at February 12, 2008 6:37 PM

Now there's a stoic idea. Maybe I could double my wardrobe or he might have some labels I would love to wear.Hadn't thought of that.Thanks.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 12, 2008 5:54 PM

To play off that old joke - maybe the guy blueeyes mentioned is just looking for a quick and easy way to double his wardrobe...

Posted by: stoic at February 12, 2008 5:31 PM

My advice is to read the profiles carefully and more than once before spending the stamp. It is easy to overlook some small thing which if you noticed would have made the decision for you.eg. I was sent a kiss by a fellow and I replied in a positive manner which resulted in an email and meeting. But I missed the bit where he said he was a smoker. I didn't notice it because I specifically say 'no smoking' and assumed he would not have sent me a kiss in the first place if he read my profile.Some people have some very odd words in their profile. eg without naming names-there is a profile where the guy (quite good looking and is looking for a relationship with a female)) adds at the end of his self description that he "likes to dress in women's clothing'.I'm sure that comment would make your decision easier.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at February 12, 2008 4:10 PM

So this is it now .....
Hasn't all this been covered before? Firstly, I find that most women who send kisses don't follow up with an email after receiving a positive response. Having said that, I suggest if you do get to the emailing stage, keep them brief and get to talking on the phone fairly quickly then if that goes well, meet as soon as possible. That says it all, I guess. Next topic.

Posted by: woodnwine at February 12, 2008 2:28 PM