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Okay Willlow...I'll accept but of course it's going to cost you big time - best make the dessert a real treat and I'll have a double dose. Depending on the drink of choice I could be a little more wishful than usual, not much chance I'd be more thoughtful though :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at January 24, 2008 7:24 AM

Once in my life I have felt that spark that ijst54 mentioned...at work also...by bumping into someone as well. Funny that.

Goodnight to all of you...got much planned for Australia Day???

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at January 24, 2008 1:49 AM

Just ENERGY Slightsync...nothing planned...I hope to do "nothing".

Bob, I think you are the "naughty" one:))

Willow, I'll get back to you after I've watched Sesame Street...

Posted by: istj54 at January 24, 2008 3:41 AM

Hi All,

Well just got home from a night out at the pub with the boys and have to say...what a major disappointment this has turned out to be...hoping to read that WB and FP had sorted their differences and would be best mates next time they met.....another difference between men and women!!!

Anyway, doesn't really matter what I say girls...you cant cut 'em off, I was married for 13 years, so you will have to sew 'em back on first!!!

Willow,

Hate to say it, but you are starting to look a bit greedy there; all those fine young ladies and only you and Woody!!!

Istj54,

You are a very naughty girl....and no, not a chance I will be at the door waiting to leave; people actually pay money for this sort of entertainment.

I could say the way to a womans heart is through a mans wallet, but then I would sound bitter and twisted and dont really want to give that information away about myself yet.....DOHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 24, 2008 1:53 AM

There is no definite answer, but I do wish women would value the sexual aspects of a relationship--and therefore value what men are trying to say to us. (Believe me, I haven't always thought about things this way).

Humour is probably the most important human quality. Relax and laugh and forget what you should, or should not be doing.

db

Posted by: diamondblue2 at January 18, 2008 12:09 PM

If I knew then what I know now. Well db, I'm trying to fathom guys. Am in agreement with you and would like to know what guys are trying to say to women. Good point for sure. Does that go back to
1. show up naked
2. bring beer
3. bring food

Or am I missing the point here? (I'm kidding actually).

Interesting post ODE : )))) and I am undecided on my thoughts about chemistry between men and women.

Once in my life I have felt that spark that ijst54 mentioned...at work also...by bumping into someone as well. Funny that.

Goodnight to all of you...got much planned for Australia Day???

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at January 24, 2008 1:49 AM

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 7:18 PM

No I am not coming unless this is a pleasant surprise to me!

Posted by: mstingle at January 24, 2008 1:35 AM

samanthabrit: ha ha, I think. Well you could try standing up then I guess. Noone wants to lose their house again. Some bloggers have mentioned seperate houses for both the man and woman. Reckon its the 4th time I have mentioned it and other bloggers have also. You do not actually have to have someone move in with you, you know. Hope we can all grow old gracefully, or disgracefully...each to their own taste. Oh and sambrit of course if not wanting to be tied down, and fear of losing another house means some men do not want relationships, well that is their choice. Personally I would like companionship and all the other stuff (intimacy etc) than the rest of my life alone. I am happy without a partner though.

Perhaps you may meet a suitable perky woman who already has a house and does not want yours!!!! Goodluck of course. Personally age is just a number to me.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at January 24, 2008 1:27 AM

Posted by: waterbombe at January 23, 2008 5:09 PM

That is good to hear, everone was, just swell at the Brissyblog.

Posted by: mstingle at January 24, 2008 1:21 AM

Posted by: ninaschen at January 23, 2008 5:03 PM

So sorry you are feeling this delema!

Posted by: mstingle at January 24, 2008 1:12 AM

Will be away for 3 days as of the morning. Work. Check you all when I get back!!! Have fun and play "nice" ..

Posted by: amdoingit at January 24, 2008 12:54 AM

WnW best you accept poste haste... Spin the bottle, hmmm.. memories!!!! Last time I was into that was in my teen years.. Should be better as an adult but hey, gender balance definitely needs to be taken care of or ?????

Posted by: amdoingit at January 24, 2008 12:52 AM

NF, would you like to come instead of lazy susan?

I'm sure you would run rings around her in any case and add far more to the conversation.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 24, 2008 12:42 AM

istj, I forgot nina.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 24, 2008 12:38 AM

istj, I must admit I have lost track of who I have invited or who invited themself. Thats why I have asked you to take over this role.

I am not trying to ban men, in fact I would appreciate some help with the gender balance. I'm sure the men do not wish to sample the rich cuisine because they do not wish to induce any more of the sag that was talked about earlier.

wishful, please be moderator, I choose you for your balance between being wishful and being a thinker. We may need these skills, it is a very special role and you can contribute to the conversation and self-moderate. Is this acceptable?

invited I think are:
istj
kitten
amdoingit
junebaby
WT03
dolphin
tambelina
today
aunty
WnW (he has not accepted)
willow (me)

Posted by: willow1059 at January 24, 2008 12:36 AM

My bigpond is playing up so no "loop" for over an hour. Hope I haven't missed much.. May have to phone one of you??? Then again the person I've been on the phone to for last hour has missed out too. Nice to know I'm not an orphan!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at January 24, 2008 12:30 AM

2xi's that was mean!!!! Wait till I see you!!!! Thump!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at January 24, 2008 12:28 AM

WnW - The loop has been educational, tonight.

Posted by: ninaschen at January 23, 2008 11:18 PM

Nope WnW, everyone is off watching something on TV, but I can't find out what cos it sure isn't on my TV!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at January 23, 2008 11:14 PM

nothing much on here tonight.

Posted by: woodnwine at January 23, 2008 11:05 PM

Hey Willow, how come I get to moderate?

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at January 23, 2008 10:51 PM

I agree, totally.

Posted by: ninaschen at January 23, 2008 10:41 PM

...your bank account twoeyes...and I always thought it was through her stomach...it is in singles in the kitchen...I suppose it could be through the eyes, if you are ttractive, the ears if you have a pleasant voice and something intelligent, amusing to say and that would go for the mouth too...could have kissable lips...I'm confused now...are they all not errogenous zones...I am now old enough to remember when a book came out called Your Erroneous Zones. I was horrified that they were loudly advertising it over the PA system in Myer...silly me...if they did that now no one would even notice.

Eroticfish...thought you were away and planning a dinner party placement would keep me amused...lazy susan is always good for a spin and for the spin the bottle and spirit of the glass...don't want to take over Willow's party games though.

Did anyone here ever do the spirit of the glass thing? They were fun times..we took it very seriously and scared ourselves sometimes...turn down the lights and ask the question...Will I meet the man of my dreams on RSVPPPPPPPPPP.....ooooohhhhh....was it a nightmare....then yes you will....spooky!

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 8:27 PM

And way too much of a lady to involve yourself in one WB..............

and the way to a womans heart is thru her bank account......................

Posted by: twoeyes at January 23, 2008 8:16 PM

gosh, Bob, I haven't had a catfight in my life, and I'm not about to start now. Not that sort of girl, dahhhling.

The dinner sounds interesting, especially the question...“Is the way to a woman’s heart most direct through her eyes, ears or mouth”. I vote for all three at once.

Posted by: waterbombe at January 23, 2008 8:01 PM

Whatever you do, do not invite lazy susan

Posted by: neuroticfish at January 23, 2008 7:39 PM

Let me see...Amdoingit, AuntyKaz, istj, junebaby, kittycat, misstingle, notgodsgift(or will he be on the door waiting to leave?) Willow, Wishful...Willow, who have you invited?... and it seems to be all women...am now thinking round table, lazy susan intead of conveyor belt and spirit of the glass with our initials for later...asking questions about future relationship matters or maybe just spin the port or champagne bottle:)) Not that I am now trying to organise anything...it's your party...just make sure there is enough food!

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 7:18 PM

Ha istj... sounds like an interesting dinner placement.
Will be well prepared with a glass of bubbles though.....as a mood setter of course...........K

Posted by: auntykaz at January 23, 2008 7:05 PM

Don't beat yourself up Nina... has nought to do with you sweet pea.. All you did was try so you gotta get points for that ok??..... X... "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at January 23, 2008 6:58 PM

I ask you all to come prepared for dinner; the subject of our conversation will be “Is the way to a woman’s heart most direct through her eyes, ears or mouth”. I felt this would be appropriate given all the earlier posts about chemistry, looks, humour and kitchen skills. Wishful 03 will be moderator.
Willow...some time today...so Kaz, Willow is the man for you if you are all ears or at least we can discuss it at dinner...I will place you opposite him for the discussion...but as a small conversation starter...the eyes,ears or mouth can lead to some interesting places but I'm not to surs about the heart...think that is the stomach?

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 6:50 PM

Bob, what a hoot.. Your 3.56p post did bring a smile to the old dial, can totally relate to the "leg" dilema in your 4.30p post and yes you are a brave man for your 5.43p post. Were you planning on issuing gloves or camera's???? No malice intended ladies, just sounded funny...

I did do a post earlier today but it didn't go on which is probably a good thing.. All I'll say now is that the group of bloggers who are going to lunch should be able to enjoy themselves (as we do) and not have to listen to a bitch fight. We are all adults and should just be able to move on so ... Either come to enjoy yourself or don't come at all.... That applies to everyone and I'm not singling anyone out so no comebacks please.. Que sera sera ok????

Posted by: amdoingit at January 23, 2008 6:50 PM

Ninaschen: rest assured I will be there with my camera and taking photos of everyone so we can then put faces to all the password protected photos.
Posted by: femalepersuasion at January 22, 2008 10:58 PM

*Will the bunny boiling be happening too?*

Smacks of a threat FP, surely you didn't mean it as a threat especially in this age of online stalking.

Posted by: trumanscat at January 23, 2008 6:46 PM

istj, kitty kitty bang bang for me to. I think is is the same thing. Will look it up next week when I am in the office after I dust the cobwebs off the cover.

Since you are good at this and your profile says so can I ask you to handle table placements and conveyour belt resupply including refreshments.

Can you seat us by riders blog first name letters, I am M. Given your liking for order perhaps start at A then go around the table in ascending order.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 23, 2008 6:44 PM

Woodnwine what is that you aren't telling us........the slide.....how to please a woman.......darl l am all ears.............K

Posted by: auntykaz at January 23, 2008 6:33 PM

...sounds like Chitty, Chitty Bang Bang to me now...but I think I have some Port left over from a past life just for such an occasion...I, too, am process driven or task oriented...is that the same thing?

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 6:19 PM

ISTJ you are in. Please bring the Port, such an enjoyable way to end a night.

Now my HBDI personality type I cannot remember, but I am lots of blue and green. Hardly any red or yellow to be seen.

I am process driven with not a creative thought in sight, you wait conveyour belts will be ready with main and dessert freshly loaded.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 23, 2008 6:13 PM

Pick me, Willow, pick me...I promise to floss...

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 6:08 PM

Waterbombe,

You misunderstand me completely. What I am saying is that if there is to be a stoush between you and FP, then let it be here....right where it started.

I for one, am not looking to get thrown out of some place as a result of a catfight......I am quite capable of getting myself thrown out.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 23, 2008 6:00 PM

From willow, Part 3 - Relationship Matters “In The Kitchen, dinner with dessert” is on the way, it will be served in this forum on Sunday 27 January at 8.00PM AEST (7.30 PM Adelaide time).

amdoingit and junebaby, I think I have spare seats so you are invited as well.

I apologise for the delay, besides needing to age the steak the Hollywood writers strike is causing delays. All helpers are refusing to cross the picket line; much is at stake or is it steak.

I am endeavouring to incorporate all suggestions into the evening. As with all good Hollywood blockbusters a trailer is needed. I can tell you the dessert and after dinner parts are complete, perhaps a tear or two hundred may be shed. Oh, as requested the chef is naked (almost) and sherry will be served.

The menu is:
Entrée, nil. The main course and desert demand an empty stomach
Main, Tower de la fillet asparée
Dessert, Breast of apple pie with peachy delights
Wine, Church Block (I will need God’s blessing)
After dinner, Sherry (kitten, you choose)

I ask you all to come prepared for dinner; the subject of our conversation will be “Is the way to a woman’s heart most direct through her eyes, ears or mouth”. I felt this would be appropriate given all the earlier posts about chemistry, looks, humour and kitchen skills. Wishful 03 will be moderator.

Happy dining, by the way for the ladies dress should be seductive but not overt, for gentlemen stylish, open neck, enclosed footwear and yes pants are required including the chef who will need them before being seated. Do not forget to floss your teeth, we want broad smiles, unwanted toothy guests are not invited. Web cams will be used to ensure all guests are suitably attired.

A poem to set the scene:

I have a table that can seat eight
A feast upon which we will dine
But only one can be my date
Accompanied by joy and fine wine

Until then, farewell from willow.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 23, 2008 5:57 PM

Ok Bob, no worries. End of story, FP, no more comment.

Posted by: waterbombe at January 23, 2008 5:53 PM

Bob, you are a brave man.

Having already suffered this week myself, all I can say is I agree better left here where it started.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 23, 2008 5:49 PM

Ladies (FP & WB),

And in this corner weighing......dont go there Bob, you idiot, you'll be a dead man either way......!!

Anyway, this is where it started, this is where it should finish. A civilised written stoush here is far more becoming than a public shouting match somewhere in Melbourne.

Eric,

Take note....and you thought that you were good.....ha, amateur!!!

Bob

PS I just KNOW I am gonna regret this post.

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 23, 2008 5:43 PM

Hold your horses, Ninaschen, there's only one person who has declared their intention to come to the bloggers lunch and be trouble...the other 13 intend to come and have a good time...so you showed very good judgement overall...I think you should be congratulated.

Posted by: waterbombe at January 23, 2008 5:09 PM

WnW, the "slide" is the one Bob referred to...from the chest to the belly ... geographically speaking, our bodies all go south as we age... by south I mean down...

Unfortunately it's not a new sexual position. In fact it's a phenomenon that decreases the chance to take part in new sexual positions, apparently.

Posted by: waterbombe at January 23, 2008 5:05 PM

Muttering to self - you idiot Ninaschen, do you never learn? See what happens when you try to organise a friendly get-together for a few diverse, interesting and ADULT people? Who the hell do you think you are? Pollyanna?

Never again.

Posted by: ninaschen at January 23, 2008 5:03 PM

I'm now thinking why not the whole adventure playground? We could start on the swings, head over to the slide, onto the see-saw, try the rocking horse, take a spin on the round-a-bout and oh, my goodness...I need a nap...ha,ha...there's the difference between young and older...resilience:))

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 5:02 PM

...woodnwine, you are exciting me today what with saying you know how to really please a woman now and a new position...the slide:))

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 4:53 PM

Misswendyxx I did apologise to you at the time when I had misconstrued some of your words. But they were your 'words' I was disagreeing with at the time, not you, or how you talk or how you look. I am sorry we didn't get to talk too, as I thought you looked very happy person, with a lovely smile and very approachable. So, I apologise again for hurting you - sorry.

Posted by: femalepersuasion at January 23, 2008 4:53 PM

I have said previously that even the slightest criticism can cut deep and people take things the wrong way because we don't get the full picture -- ie tone and context of the words written and the result is to jump to conclusions.

Posted by: misswendyxx at January 23, 2008 3:24 PM

This is the last I will say about this subject now...Yes, I agree Wendy. I also remember FP apologising to you as she mistook your remarks, but often it is hard to get past our initial reactions and we still carry the hurt.
That has happened to both of you.

I've been attacked here on occasion and it does hurt, even though you don't know the person, and they don't know you, it still stings.

That said, I have to say give me a healthy dose of discussion/debate/argument/disagreements/humour/wit/repartee over boring posting any day of the week!

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 4:51 PM

hence the "slide". Still, it's the only thing that works...and it does work, whatever age you are, in my opinion. So speaks a new convert.

Posted by: waterbombe at January 23, 2008 4:39 PM

Call me a dumb male but please explain the "slide". Is this a new sexual position that I need to know about?

Posted by: woodnwine at January 23, 2008 4:46 PM

Re the body thing... yep, exercise and diet (not dieting) work wonders - but between the job, the kids, the mortgage, the rellies, and the social life, they can take a back seat...hence the "slide". Still, it's the only thing that works...and it does work, whatever age you are, in my opinion. So speaks a new convert.

Posted by: waterbombe at January 23, 2008 4:39 PM

Posted by: woodnwine at January 23, 2008 2:12 PM

Here, here it is good to hear about other peoples opinions and experiences as long as they are not making personal attacks and baiting people. It gets rather boring.

Posted by: mstingle at January 23, 2008 4:34 PM

WnW,

Yeah...reminds me of The Simpsons and Barts poem..."Beans, beans the magical fruit, the more you eat, the more you toot....."!!

I can still fit into the same pair of jeans....just nowhere to put the other leg.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 23, 2008 4:30 PM

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 23, 2008 12:56 PM

Great post.

Posted by: mstingle at January 23, 2008 4:29 PM

Hi notgodsgift - yes, I must remember the walking out the door thing, good advice. Body type may have an effect on ageing but muscule can never turn into fat, it just deteriorates if not used. What many people find is that when they were younger they were more active so ate more, which fed muscle growth. As they aged, they became much less active but ate food at the same rate, which put on weight. If we reduce our physical expenditure we should also reduce our calorie intake accordingly.

Posted by: woodnwine at January 23, 2008 4:16 PM

WnW,

Body type plays a bit of a role in how you age. If you have had strong upper body and solidly built (like myself) your chest moves to your belly etc unless you actually continue doing the same routines as when you are young. I played very phsical sports and have had plenty of injuries, so not looking that much as I did then. Plus, I eat like a pig, drink like a fish and still have no idea how to make a woman happy.....unless you count walking out the door....then she will be ecstatic!!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 23, 2008 3:56 PM

Continuing the discussion on ageism .... why do people's bodies and fitness have to get worse with age? I still wear the same size jeans I wore 10 and probably 20 years ago because I eat (mostly) healthy food, drink a lot of water, don't drink excessive amounts of alcohol, exercise, play sport and live an active lifestyle. It's not hard and I'm certainly no gym junky .... in fact I don't even belong to one. I see plenty of older people (40s & 50s) who are fit and active so we should realise that we don't "automatically" deteriorate with age.

I know women face a temporary challenge after having children but I also know plenty of women who have children that look fabulous. Also remember that with age comes experience. When I was a teenager I had no idea how to really please a woman but now .....

Posted by: woodnwine at January 23, 2008 3:23 PM

Woodnwine, The lunch was great. I thoroughly enjoyed it but later some hurtful things were said to FP here on the blogs. It is sometimes difficult to put things away. You often think you have and they come to the surface again...bit like in relationships when you have a disagreement. It is all okay and then a few months later it all comes to the surface to haunt you.

Age comparisons...WnW, I have a gorgeous daughter in her twenties and the comparison is there on a daily basis for me...so no kidding myself but an older woman who has looked after herself should be able to make a man happy:))

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 2:53 PM

Regarding age .... I myself have no strong constrictions regarding the actual number ... it has more to do with the way a person has looked after their body and their mind. As you said, some young people don't look after their bodies as well as some older people do. I would be happy to meet someone older or younger than me if they made me happy (and me them) and we each found the other attractive, engaging, interesting and loving. Looks are just a part of the equation but they are a part.

Posted by: woodnwine at January 23, 2008 2:27 PM

yes Bob - let's look forward to some more interesting reading on here .... it's been a tad boring lately. People need to be able to express opinions and have them discussed, challenged even ... but not attacked. After opinions are only opinions. People generally form the best opinion they can ... based on what they know.

Posted by: woodnwine at January 23, 2008 2:12 PM

Roy, I also agree with you...why should age impair a great relationship? I am happy to date all ages myself...as long as there is a meeting of minds, humour etc...I'd say chemistry, but that is apparently a girl thing.

Bob, I, personally, did not think that roy was bragging. he was just sharing his experiences...I don't consider that to be bragging.

My only concern with dating someone "much" younger than myself is how "I" feel. We can all see our own ageing and older skin up against the younger is quite depressing at times.

I still don't agree with twobit and I find older women...and men...to be incredibly attractive in so many ways...and who says that young women aren't flabby and wobbly in places, twobit?

Another thing Bob, FP was obviously incredibly hurt and demeaned by what happened here after the last blog meeting. It did spoil it a bit. I had thoroughly enjoyed meeting the FP and the others and was surprised that it became so personally ugly here afterwards.
It has put me off attending another as I am not here to be judged on my looks, just on what I say. I, also, do not see why posters must have pictures displayed.

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 1:51 PM

Hello Roygotaas,

Couldn't agree more with you; get out there and meet people of all ages and do some listening - very sound advice. Whilst I personally cant see myself with someone that young, wont be knocking you either, good luck to you!

Cant wait for the flood heading your way bagging you for bragging though, at least the reading here will become more enjoyable!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 23, 2008 1:11 PM

Gee the Melb lunch sounds like its going to be an interesting afternoon.....frankly l think l will give it a miss. Who could really be bothered with the drama.
And no FP l do not think that you are referring to me before you think that.
I know that l l introduced myself to you at the last one and that we chatted for a few mnutes.
Just really do not see the point in any aggro.
Either sort it out privately, as should be done, or here if that is what you want.
Maturity and all that..........K

Posted by: auntykaz at January 23, 2008 1:06 PM

FP,

You may feel slighted and defamed by what was said about you after the last meeting, but not really sure what you hope to achieve by attending the next and creating an unpleasant situation for all......it will only damage you, not her.

Plenty of unpleasant stuff is fired across the blogs at, and by, all sorts of people, but who cares what another thinks of you...especially if they dont know you?

Pixiemagic,

Regarding the profile/photo thing; who cares if people are visible or not; everyone has their own reasons for doing their own thing, who am I, you, or anyone else to judge them? What does it matter what they write or look like, what matters is that they feel comfortable to air their views here and, whether we agree with them or not, this is a free forum for all - it is up to the moderators to determine what is and isn't acceptable.

A very famous man once said "I might not agree with you opinion, but I will fight to the death for your right to express it" - very profound words for us all.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 23, 2008 12:56 PM

Why the agism?

I'm new to the blogging side of his site but, reading back a little, there seems to be here, as elsewhere, the 'great debate' about ages in partnerships. Is an Australian thing? It certainly isn't the case in Europe or America to anything like the same extent, if at all.

There seem to be some very 'threatened' attitudes out there.
There's one from a number of women who seem unable to refer to a young woman in partnership with an older man in any but demeaning terms.
There's one (across gender) that seems to think gravity automatically wins at about age 40-something.
There's another that seems to think any relationship between people of diverse ages must somehow necessarily be sexual on the part of the older party.
There're more but those seem the chief ones.

Come on people! This is the 21st century! If you want to stay slim, trim etc., it's not a mystery and men can do it just as much as women: it just takes a little effort. And if you still wear 'pullovers' and 'trousers', shirt & tie or the female equivalent of the 1960's . . . yeah, well, you're not going to catch the eye for any good reason. People who look outwardly as if they're frozen in time, tend to give the impression they may be that way intellectually as well!

I'm lucky, I guess: I'm well over 50 but I have a 21-year old daughter living at home (thank goodness and in her own 'granny-flat', which is as good as it gets!). I wouldn't go shopping for clothing or bling without her! She has terrific dress sense for herself (all her friends come to her for advice) and for me.
Also lucky because her friends have become my friends too and keep me fresh in thinking/attitude terms. I can put their unspoiled clarity of vision together with my lifetime of experience. They invite me out with them, clubbing, theatre etc., we have joint parties at home and it's all a very two-way street. Some of them have been far more helpfully supportive in times of personal trouble than many of my own-age friends! I've as many friends I value in that age group as my own!
Maybe a little less 'attitude' and a lot more listening on the part of the over-40's would close the gap somewhat and make age-mixing more common, more fruitful and comfortable.
Some of the most intelligent, intellectually exciting women I’ve known are very much younger than I: less baggage, less concreted attitude, more openness and sense of the adventure of life.

The greatest love of my life was 26 years younger than I: our relationship was only ended by tragedy: we had a life together planned. We each said that we had to run to keep up with the other! Age just wasn't a consideration for either of us.

Next Saturday I'm going out on a first date with someone 30 years younger than I . . . . but that's just chance . . . . the first time we met we talked for nearly 3 hours on what should have been a half-hour business discussion. But our minds met, she's so intelligent and we're both writers. She also happens to be lovely to look at . . . . but that's partly because this great, interesting, thinking personality shines out of her. If you're boring, it's gonna show! If you're interesting/ exciting, so will that!

Get over it, people! Scrub up, dress up, stop wrinkle-gazing, use your minds, be the sort of person you'd like to meet . . . agism just isn't relevant.
And guys: drop the pick-up lines: it's not about 'picking up' . . . . it's about 'meeting'! Otherwise, as Pink puts it, it'll be 'you and your hand'!

I could bang on about this at greater length (Yes, really!) but I do think maybe we need one web site for people who just want sex and another for people who want relationships! (Or, you could say, one for juveniles, one for adults?) On the latter, I'd ban the listing of people's ages!!

Posted by: roygotaas at January 23, 2008 12:47 PM

Posted by: timewarp1 at January 23, 2008 11:09 AM

I don't know who you are refering to that attended the brissybloggers and she is a nice person that happened to come with someone.

However you are probably right because every female that attended were really exceptional and we were also lucky to have equally as charming males there also.

It was my first meeting with other bloggers and it was truely amasing to have so many people in one place all from different backgrounds be so cool.

Posted by: mstingle at January 23, 2008 11:52 AM

...rsvp...ninaschen...can't make it on the 9th Feb but thank you for the personal invitation...enjoy!

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 11:35 AM

Istj54: Most of us have it all worked out...We're not totally stupid...just a little bit, some of the time...

I do have to wonder, though, what it must be like having all of these "personalities" running around inside your head? Do they bang around on your cranium walls and give you a headache? Supress arteries and blood and oxygen supply, making you hyperventilate and parylise bodily movement? Maybe run back and forth from left to right side and totally corrupt your rational thinking processes?

As you and I are both in the same line of work, we both know that Ritalin and Desamphetamine works well, but definitely not when mixed with alcohol...

As for Brane, will putmyself on a limb and say that he is not one of the many confused personalities running riot on the blogs...

Mistingle...we all know who she is...Duh...

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 22, 2007 9:45 PM

A lovely woman...how right you are Timewarp...and good luck in your search:))

Challenge for you...go back through every posting ever made and see if you can find one anywhere that I have been so cruel to a fellow poster...good luck with that too.

Posted by: istj54 at January 23, 2008 11:33 AM

FEMALEPER @ 12.24am, 23rd

I think you're safe from a certain confrontation at the Melb. gabfest.

That's if you mean the invisible beauty that I'm thinking of, the one who pulled out of RSVP in tears after your heated response to her accusation that you had plagiarised her profile in your own.

She graced the Brisbane gabfest on Sunday with her RSVP man, and we made her so welcome that she probably doesn't need to do the Melbourne meeting too. Even without your turf-claiming animosity.

I suggested a couple of days ago that JenJen should acknowledge the authors of those of her posts that she didn't write herself. In capitals by mistake, because I was fighting off exhaustion in the small hours. Sorry Jen.

I also mentioned that subject obliquely (in a censored post?) about your '10 things wrong with men' post @ 8.12am 21st. Who was its male author, and why wasn't his authorship of that excellent piece acknowledged?

I know you do write some of your excellent stuff yourself, but people have to think less of you when you don't give credit where credit's due.

Posted by: timewarp1 at January 23, 2008 11:09 AM

Hey there ppl,

I'm a first time blogger... so please.. be gentle ;)

As per the topic of this blog, has anyone had any "relative" success on RSVP? I'm sure plenty of people have had bad experiences, but I'm more interested in any good experiences?? :P

Posted by: deliciousmama at January 23, 2008 10:22 AM

A general sweeping statement that women in their 40's, 50's and 60's are no longer sexy is a little off. Men in that age group are often suffering the same problems (not that I see it as a problem myself). Not too many trim, taut and terrifics running around with the body of Adonis in that age group - at least not where I can see them.

As a 40's woman, sure gravity may have had a small effect, but physically (and mentally) I am in far better shape than I was as a 20 something. If men are looking for the pert, bouncy little things then perhaps its merely a handbag they are after, not someone with substance.

Bloggers meets are a lot of fun, always nice to put a body/voice to the style of writing. Can't imagine why FP would want to pick a fight at one, that just seems pointless, let it go girl, there are better things to do than make people look at you with eye-brows raised for the WRONG reason!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at January 23, 2008 8:34 AM

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at January 23, 2008 1:35 AM

SScity your post about the sexiness of women in thier 40's 50's and 60's....soooo spot on!! If I still wanted the same type of male that I had at age 22, i.e tall, blond, blue eyed, able to surf etc...I would never get a date now that I am 50!!! gotta change your outlook as you get older guys!. Us girls do, so I expect intelligent mature males to also be realistic about a future female partner!!!

Posted by: junebaby57 at January 23, 2008 7:47 AM

now, about the blogger meets....I attend sydney meets and they are a lot of fun!!! (party, party) I do not blog with the purpose of meeting someone, my profile is there for that stuff.
Blogging is a lot of fun, you get to chat, have a laugh, meet people and make friends, of both sexes.

Peolpe who have been lucky enough to meet someone, ARE still very welcome at the blog catch ups, just cause they met someone doesn't mean that they don't want to maintain friendships they made thru the blogs.

Friendship , though not the purpose of RSVP, is a wonderful benefit from blogging, and I for 1, appreciate friends, shit I still have the girlfriends I went to school with!! They outlasted my marriage.!!!

So blog meets are for all of those genuine bloggers, who do not have multiple profiles and who don't want a fight!!!! though a bitch fight might attract more males...heheheheh..have a lovely day all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at January 23, 2008 7:40 AM

what would you like willow, and i will ship it over...do you need chocolate and lots of bubbly...maybe you could come over to the fun side of the country and have a drink on the porch with kitten, dolphin, today and myself....back to posting.....overnight express?? while I am shipping the ladies to Neuroticfish that the gentlemen don't want to take advantage offf!! hehehehehe..have a lovely day all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at January 23, 2008 7:25 AM

Pixie,

Why not direct your complaint to RSVP. Maybe they should change the response from:

“No matching visible profile(s) found on the RSVP database. NOTE - there may be hidden profiles which match your search criteria. Profile owners sometimes hide profiles when they have too much contact, or when they have just started seeing someone seriously. ‘

To

““No matching visible profile(s) found on the RSVP database. NOTE - there may be hidden profiles which match your search criteria. Profile owners sometimes hide profiles when they have too much contact, or when they have just started seeing someone seriously, or are having a rest from all the crap…need a brain drain, needs to get a life, could do with something better to do than blog, is thinking of escaping to Antarctica, but will settle for the Back of Beyond, wondering why she said get on your bike when she knows it’s got a flat tyre…

Posted by: neuroticfish at January 23, 2008 6:44 AM

“ I love you, but I am not ‘In Love” with you

~translation~ if you ever hear this one, it’s a lost cause.

Posted by: femalepersuasion at January 22, 2008 11:48 AM

my ex said that LOL. What a laugh...

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at January 23, 2008 2:09 AM

Posted by: aliane at January 22, 2008 12:30 PM

Aliane: hi there. Well you are quite articulate on the blog and if men are put off in case you no speak Engleesh well...I guess it is their loss. With all your prayers and your premonitions you will surely know when you meet "The One." A matter of waiting for your destiny? The blog is fun at least and you can express yourself on here.

Well thanks for asking, and I have met male friends on here and made nice online female and male blog friends. Getting to know some people a bit on the blog. Hey aliane, there are lots of nice guys out there and as you can see on my profile, right now am only looking for friends on RSVP. I met a man online almost 1 year ago from overseas and we have been corresponding. Back in November when I went back on RSVP... I thought it was off due to a misunderstanding and we were just friends but after some sorting out, its back on. However as we have not met its not the same as a person to person relationship. Going to see how it goes with him...depends if he comes to Australia as planned. Thats all and working heaps, meeting lots of people in my new job and nice people at work too.
Just you stay positive aliane as sure there is a prince for you and perhaps its a matter of waiting for the right time. At least your job gives you flexiblility then to do fun things also.

Conquest is easy. Control is not.
Kirk, "Mirror, Mirror"
stardate unknown

Posted by: mrsteppenwolf at January 22, 2008 1:05 AM

You think so? Kirk is speaking of a planet/territory here? Not up to date with StarTrek. Good show though : ))

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at January 23, 2008 2:07 AM

I chose E. Really, there is no other choice.

Posted by: getthemostoutoflife at January 22, 2008 9:53 AM

getthemostoutoflife, good choice there!

Might be Ok when you are young pretty,firm,perky,desirable,but man all that changes pretty quick once you have kids and get into your 40's.

Posted by: twobits at January 20, 2008 5:24 PM

Way to limit your self two bits and I can not believe that you believe there are no pretty, firm? perky, desirable women in their 40's (50s even) Do you not ever go outside? You should put your profile on visible then so we can see what you have to offer. I assume that you look like an Adonis then and good luck to you in finding a "perfect specimen" of younger womanhood then. If you do find Ms Right and she stacks it on sometime down the track, would you dump her?

Women in their 40's, 50's and 60's etc are sexy. Just because you prefer younger women who have not had children, why make such a sweeping ridiculous statement. Some men are affected by gravity and so on. Most of us on this blog are not shallow enough to be looking for perfection I think. IMHO.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at January 23, 2008 1:35 AM

MR STEPPENWOLF @ 1.24pm, 22nd:

Hi, and many thanks for your support for my far-too-long but on-topic post about 3.30am.

Should I see the DVD, to help me dig your cryptic comment?

Posted by: timewarp1 at January 23, 2008 12:32 AM

Amdoing it: I think the "unpleasantry" has already occurred and I will certainly be confronting this person. So my suggestion would be to discourage her from attending.

She not only doesnt blog, she doesn't have an active profile..and I am informed she is no longer single..so why is she coming at all ?????

But if she is, she will certainly have me to account to BECAUSE she defamed me and called me a liar, which was untrue.

SO.. I will address the issue if she has the audacity to turn up .
I am sorry if this is going to make your lunch unpleasant. I will also take a picture of HER, and as it is in a public place this is perfectly legal.

So, it might be in everyones best interes to get your "friend' to take a raincheck... would hate to think what she may say about the "newbies" after the lunch.

Posted by: femalepersuasion at January 23, 2008 12:24 AM

Nina, geriatric uncle??? Good god, you need a young buck darling ok!!! Willow, forget her request ok?? Well, for the geriatric anyway... Maybe an uncle??? or two and then we could do a double date thing thing!!!! Just a thought.... :0))

Good night all... "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at January 23, 2008 12:06 AM

'night 'night all

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 23, 2008 12:03 AM

I hope there's not going to be any nasty cofrontations at the lunch. I for one am looking forward to catching up with my "friends" and also to meeting those newbies.. Any planned unpleasantries will not go down well and of that I'm sure. Maybe they could be dealt with elsewhere and at another time????

Posted by: amdoingit at January 23, 2008 12:02 AM

Goodnight all.

I am going to pull out the cookbooks from storage. You know, Womans Weekly, Donna Hay, etc.

Now where did I file them. Ah yes, under Y for You have to be joking.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 11:52 PM

Willow, you poor, hard-done-by man, all that has fallen upon your board shoulders (surely you can handle this, no?). Okay - just to show you I'm not out to get what I can I have sheathed those claws, and I shall bring the wine but I'll pass on the Sherry, perhaps Kitten can bring that. Don't worry about the music, the wonderous sounds of your conversation will be music to our ears...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at January 22, 2008 11:49 PM

The women in this blog are so demanding.

First breakfast, then dinner with dessert, a brother, a geriatric. What next will you seek.

Are there no men present to defend the role of our gender in society. Must I ride this torrent of discontent, alone, unrelenting and brave in the face of disorder.

Yet, not one woman has offered to supply the meat for this dinner. Nor dessert. Alone I shall forge forward knowing that I alone will also need to choose the music, wine and most likely the sherry.

Anarchy rules this home of the blog, venture in here at you peril for only fortification of great strength can protect you from the claws hidden within.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 11:42 PM

Ninaschen: I was not referring to you at all, and you know it. I am really not concerned as to the reasons why people have password protected photos, or infact why people have their whole profile hidden. It is their business.

However, I do feel that if you attend a bloggers meet, it is POOR FORM and downright BAD TASTE to discuss your impressions of people you meet at the blogs on these posts. People should feel welcome and safe attending a blog lunch, and the height of MATURITY is being able to meet and interact with others WITHOUT making personal attacks on the blogs.

However, if a person tries to defame my character, when their profile is hidden ...rest assured I will confront them in person.

Posted by: femalepersuasion at January 22, 2008 11:42 PM

I'll leave that one up to you Kitten...might have more success. However, I can wash up if you like!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at January 22, 2008 11:38 PM

very good .. now if we can just teach you how to cook ....

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 11:29 PM

WF and kitten I have a brother physical and "mental" like me. But he is not in your state he is in me. I believe this condition has a name.

As crazy as I may be
Cannot be split in two
For all to see
Not even for you

Just had to get a poem in somewhere, first one for the night.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 11:24 PM

Willow - a geriatric uncle for me?

Posted by: ninaschen at January 22, 2008 11:20 PM

but I am sure BB offered 4 ...

looks like we are on a diet until Sunday ... but I think I can sneak into the kitchen and put together something to tide us over if you are interested ...

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 11:19 PM

wishfulthinker03 - I thought it was 3?

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 11:15 PM

Sunday? You mean I don't get dessert until Sunday? Oh my....what is the world coming to :(

Willow...Kitty wants to know if you have a brother, preferably in her State I'm thinking (physical not mental), actually do you have a couple - seems 2 lovers on the go at once might be the order of the day!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at January 22, 2008 11:14 PM

If not B, then what do you sugggest willow?

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 11:12 PM

Neither my photos nor my profile have ever been hidden, FP (apart from 5 minutes when I decided I didn't want to play anymore but then like many others, I got sucked back in). And those current or former bloggers who are coming to lunch and who have hidden profiles, have so for their own reasons. Some because they are now in relationships, others because they are having a 'rest'. Their call. It doesn't bother me. I can't see why it would be an issue to others.

Posted by: ninaschen at January 22, 2008 11:11 PM

kitten no no no no, do not choose Brother "B" to be yours and WF's man.

You will have things in common with this man but I suspect he will not fully satisfy either of you.

B-
You give off vibes of lazy sensuality. You enjoy being romanced, wined, and dined. You are very happy to receive gifts as an expression of the affection of your lover. You want to be pampered and know how to pamper your mate. You are private in your expression of endearments and particularly when it comes to lovemaking. You will hold off until everything meets with your approval. You can control your appetite and abstain from sex if need be. You require new sensations and experiences. You are willing to experiment.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 11:07 PM

evening wishfulthinker03, nice of you to join us ... unfortunately willow is not going to satisfy us with part 3 until Sunday pm

and if you find him ... can you ask if he has a brother?

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 11:00 PM

willow ... a kitten is always precise about what she wants ... and when she wants it ...

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 10:58 PM

Ninaschen: rest assured I will be there with my camera and taking photos of everyone so we can then put faces to all the password protected photos.

Posted by: femalepersuasion at January 22, 2008 10:58 PM

Rider...I am laughing so hard at your alphabet....Willow...not sure why you'd not be pleased with yours...hehehe..."I" suits ya does it Rider? "J" is looking pretty good too - ahhh now to just find HIM...whatever his letter may be...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at January 22, 2008 10:58 PM

misswendy you are not slow, the joke about the kittens relates to kittenheels very precise requirements for breakfast. You will find the answers in last nights posts here from kitten and others along with Parts 1 and 2 of my trilogy Relationship Matters in the Kitchen.

But you did miss my pun about the lady in the photo with chopped off head, she should get ahead (A HEAD) in life.

Don't worry, many at work are still trying to understand my jokes from last year. At times they are so subtle, I forget why I found them funny.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 10:54 PM

Buggered up with spelling... Sorry!!! Was meant to be blaming bump on head..

Posted by: amdoingit at January 22, 2008 10:50 PM

Nina, glad you just posted my love. Would no doubt have gone to the "old" place if I hadn't read this. Can you tell that emails are probably not registering either.. Blming the bump on head over Xmas!!!!

Me is waiting too Weta!!!! Best I read my emails properly from here on in too.. "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at January 22, 2008 10:47 PM

Likewise Amdoingit and Kittenheels...looking forward to catching up with you both again :)

Posted by: misswendyxx at January 22, 2008 10:46 PM

Hey G, wow I am impressed or has someone let you in on the secret ...

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 10:44 PM

Kitten it is then, should've had a good read of previous posts. 'G"

Posted by: amdoingit at January 22, 2008 10:43 PM

14 confirmed so far for the Melbourne lunch. Anyone else out there want to join us on the 9th of February? Everyone is very, very, welcome! Venue in or close to the CBD to be advised (get a wriggle on, Weta, where are we going??).

Posted by: ninaschen at January 22, 2008 10:40 PM

Hey Wendy, am going to totally revamp mine too. Need to get some photo's with some "colour" instead of the regulation black. More importantly though I need to pound the pavement to get rid of those few kgs that latched on to me over the festive season. Bugger!!! Now if I had a man it would be easy to shed wouldn't it??? Oh well, cross trainers are less costly so that's some consolation. Look forward to catching up again!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at January 22, 2008 10:39 PM

amdoingit - yep you will .. and I will be there with bells on ... looking forward to meeting everyone and catching up with the delightful MissWendyxx again.

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 10:39 PM

sorry MissWendyxx ...

and perhaps kittykat might be more appropriate?

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 10:38 PM

evening wendy ...

amdoingit, K2 is fine but I think that I have been named kitten somehow ...

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 10:35 PM

Pixiemagic: interesting point you bring up about being able to view profiles of bloggers. Having a password protected photo is pretty much the same as having a profile that is hidden . Either way you are not recognisable to the general public. I admire both the male and female RSVP'ers that have a visible photo. To me it says that person has inner confidence, and I admire that.

If there is one person that I think is cowardly , it is the type that has a hidden photo and yet criticises a person who has the confidence to post theirs.

This happened to me recently, when a woman who I saw at a bloggers lunch ( AND without getting the pleasure to speak to her) for some reason felt the need to post a blog saying she thought my photos were at least 7 years old.

Not only was she a very unattractive woman ( quite plain) and at least 15 years older than me but she felt safe to criticise me knowing full well that her image was unavailable for comment or scrutiny.

So, Im with you Pixiemagic...and btw I love your profile and photos.

Posted by: femalepersuasion at January 22, 2008 10:35 PM

Hi Amdoingit!! I have been a bit like you too just lurking not contributing. In fact my profile is a shambles at the moment....need to get on to it and fix it up.

Willow1059 - Yes the photo with the boats is at Watson's Bay absolutely beautiful. Now I am a bit slow what is the joke about the kittens?

Posted by: misswendyxx at January 22, 2008 10:33 PM

Howdy back kittenheels. Think I'll call you K2??? Only for quick reference if that's ok... I believe I'll be meeting you soon??? Look forward to it !!!

Hello my darling "L".. Not long to go!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at January 22, 2008 10:32 PM

howdy amdoingit ...

willows ... hopefully, and definitely full cream ... thanks

"L" we should talk too

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 10:28 PM

'L' is not too far off the mark, Rider. And Neville, we need to talk!

Posted by: ninaschen at January 22, 2008 10:25 PM

misswendy, do not worry about the other person in the photo, she should just get a head with her life.

I will have some of the outdoor scene with the boats in it. Looks like a great place to have breakfast. Do they serve home made muesli for kitten, also full cream milk ... meow.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 10:23 PM

Ridersonthestorm.. love your alphabet thing. I'm a "G" but I don't think that the description fits me to a T. Maybe those of you who know me might like to comment??? What say you all???
"K" (damn there's 2 of you now) sorry Auntykaz.. and Wendy!!!good to see a familiar name on here. Have been having the odd sticky beak so thought I'd best put a post up for a change..

Have fun all and "Happy Hunting".."G"

Posted by: amdoingit at January 22, 2008 10:22 PM

auntykaz - yep, I agee.
We could change her name by deedpoll to ... say ... Penny?

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 10:00 PM

If you were fat and ugly that could daunt a few. People should be able to view genuine bloggers profiles because they can ascertain that person's personality and respond accordingly and its nice to have a genuine insight in to whom you are responding to.

Posted by: pixiemagic at January 22, 2008 9:53 PM

Well l think that the description of "K" is the mostest.....It needs no other words to describe us in my opinion................Kittenheelsxx l have a daughter whose name starts with "N".......boo hoo........K

Posted by: auntykaz at January 22, 2008 9:53 PM

of course, the beef must be aged ... silly me for trying to rush it ...

... looking foward to Sunday pm then

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 9:52 PM

hi kitten, sorry no Part 3 of the trilogy "Relationships Matter in the Kitchen" tonight. Perhaps on Sunday PM when I am kid and sport free.

With the dish being fillet mignion I am still ageing the beef for the required 8 days.

Rest assured you, WF, dolphin, tam and today are all invited. I hope none of you would mind if I invite WnW to save me from naked men syndrome and FP who can advise me how to best avoid going in the wrong direction again with my next partner .... if I ever find one. Oh and if I can ever get this bloody (no pun) meal cooked.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 9:48 PM

fires can be put out by water ...

... as one scorp to another ... it seems you got a double whammy!

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 9:37 PM

Evening tiger ... glad that "j" fits you to a "t"

Do you have time to sit and chat about relationships (aren't I good) or are you still updating your profile?

The punch is a waiting ...

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 9:31 PM

willow is here, for me the letter is M

You are emotional and intense. When involved in a relationship, you throw your entire being into it. Nothing stops you; there are no holds barred. You are all consuming and crave someone who is equally passionate and intense.. You believe in total sexual freedom. You are willing to try anything and everything. Your supply of sexual energy is inexhaustible. You also enjoy mothering your mate.

Wow, add this to cooking in the kitchen and you get FIRE. No wonder I have been eating alone for so long.

Thanks for the post rider, one more piece of the puzzle to understand my singular existance.

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 9:30 PM

Evening Willow - do we get Part 3 tonight?

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 9:24 PM

Hi auntykaz: From one "k" to another, isn't great to be marvellous

... and I am so thankful my parents didn't name me Nelly!

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 9:24 PM

FP love the excuses for getting the brush off 22 Jan 11:48 AM

Do you have one for going in different directions?

Posted by: willow1059 at January 22, 2008 9:21 PM

Where are the powerblogstars? Lurking until the new people give up and disappear?

Well, I'm off for a getaway--mid week--need to get my sarongs packed, and do some waxing.

I will be telling my two lovers about each other today. I hope they are able to understand.

Posted by: diamondblue2 at January 22, 2008 5:20 PM

Taking them both on the getaway??

Posted by: lamuse at January 22, 2008 9:13 PM

How would hiding my photo stop any contact? Isn't it only a problem not having your profile up and still be blogging if that person is rude, condescending etc to others

Posted by: sue4you at January 22, 2008 9:12 PM

ridersonthestorm, l have to agree with "K" suits me to a T....and another "X" is Xanthe...from Buffy apparently.
When my daughter used to watch Buffy she wanted me to have another baby and call it Xanthe......good grief.............K

Posted by: auntykaz at January 22, 2008 9:04 PM

Maybe should be on a different sort of blog?

Posted by: pixiemagic at January 22, 2008 8:52 PM

well you can always hide your photo but I think it's only fair that others have a fair idea who they are blogging with otherwise it doesnt seem fair

Posted by: pixiemagic at January 22, 2008 8:50 PM

I diasagree. I've hidden my profile at the moment because I've got enough contact to deal with. Currently I really don't want men kissing me but I still want to blog

Posted by: sue4you at January 22, 2008 8:44 PM

You know what??...my personal belief is that anyone blogging on this site should have an available profile otherwise what credibility does that person/persons have and sorry but how shallow to voice your opinions when you arent prepared to put your profile where your blog is!!

Posted by: pixiemagic at January 22, 2008 8:30 PM

"J-
You can be very romantic, attached to the glamour of love. Having a partner is of paramount importance to you. You are free in your expression of love and are willing to take chances, try new sexual experiences and partners, provided it's all in good taste. Brains turn you on. You must feel that your partner is intellectually stimulating, otherwise you will find it difficult to sustain the well. Only you see her. You require loving, cuddling, wining, and dining to know that you're being appreciated. "

That is jewels to a T!! I need to update my profile...again....have a lovely evening all...jewels or tiger depending on who you talk tooo...hehehehe nickname!!!

Posted by: junebaby57 at January 22, 2008 7:32 PM

I live in hope ... & hope that classic 66 is reading this & to please be patient.

Posted by: seagreeneyes69 at January 22, 2008 7:07 PM

-K-

WOW this thing knows me so well!! LOL!

Posted by: proudmum1973 at January 22, 2008 6:51 PM

The letter "w" how true, me to a "t"..........mmmmm "m"

Posted by: imanenigma at January 22, 2008 6:09 PM

Oh and BTW RSVP--

the answer to your question is:
NO.

But we can find sex in a respectable manner.

Posted by: diamondblue2 at January 22, 2008 5:27 PM

Where are the powerblogstars? Lurking until the new people give up and disappear?

Well, I'm off for a getaway--mid week--need to get my sarongs packed, and do some waxing.

I will be telling my two lovers about each other today. I hope they are able to understand.

Posted by: diamondblue2 at January 22, 2008 5:20 PM

... or even an addiction ...

(see, it does happen Bob)!

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 4:47 PM

Dear Bob - whoops, sorry, Neville? - are you talking to me or to me? Oh well, s&^% happens, hey (and if I am involved, well, then invariably it does) (lol).
Wendy - kiss kiss - how is the peanut butter going? I am developing a major addition.

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 4:46 PM

Rider,

Great post.......I knew my real name was Neville!!!

Wendy,

At least the arm around you proves you have friends; mt photo was taken from 5 miles away with a great big telephoto lens......the only thing missing is the number under my chin!!

Kittenheels,

You remind me of someone else from the blogs; you are not one of those multi-profilers are you?

Neville (the person formerly know as Bob)

Posted by: notgodsgift at January 22, 2008 4:17 PM

Kittenheelsxx - Thanks for the enc. kiss and ditto!

"W"

"Nothing is too good for your lover. You enjoy playing love games".

Sounds about right to me!!

Mstingle and Ridersonthestorm - The photo thing I have a photo that has "someone hanging off me".....some random person who wanted to be in my photo!! Anyway I liked the photo so I added it. Most people have their photos taken with other people, and if they have had to cut them out, it doesn't necessarily mean that it is an "ex" who has the arm draped around you.....and really what does it matter if it was?

Posted by: misswendyxx at January 22, 2008 3:57 PM

Well I hope I brought some fun & humour to your day today my fellow BLOGSTARS and Please......don't take the alphabet thing to seriously but the letter I is spot on !! ;)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 3:36 PM

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 3:27 PM

Yes it is an ordeal getting photo's together, I must admit.

Posted by: mstingle at January 22, 2008 3:30 PM

I suppose Rider it doesn't matter really, I hope we all get what we are looking for.

Posted by: mstingle at January 22, 2008 3:27 PM

I just don't do good close up shots on my own and can"t stand the arm in photo shot either ! :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 3:27 PM

and your conversation with myself and others in a few instances has not been crazy?

Posted by: mstingle at January 22, 2008 3:25 PM

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 3:03 PM

Sorry that should have been which ones haven't you slept with? seen as you stated that the rest are mostly acurate but you haven't as yet made it through the whole alphabet.

I must admit your photo with someone hanging off yourself, well part of them hanging off you say's it all:)

Posted by: mstingle at January 22, 2008 3:23 PM

now now ....that would be crazy talk if I were to divulge such information

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 3:21 PM

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 3:03 PM

The letter 'N' em interesting what other letters have you slept with?

Posted by: mstingle at January 22, 2008 3:17 PM

hey ... so am I, a "k" that is ...

Posted by: kittenheelsxx at January 22, 2008 3:12 PM

mstingle- I must admit the letter "N" is spot on in my books ...sorry.
Not that I have managed to make it through the whole list ...BUT....I must say the rest are VERY close to being spot on :)

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 3:03 PM

Posted by: lamuse at January 22, 2008 2:07 PM

Dito in regard to the silly study in regard to a persons sexuality in accordance with the first initial of your name.

It is a bit like the adds late at night that try to suck money from he gullable. The one that makes me laugh the most is the love compatability of name and then they make a rediculous statement to say that psychologist believe that crap.

Studies have to be conducted by reputable scientifically approved bodies.

Ah well, I suppose the thing is not to take it serious and laugh at it's rediculousness. Which was maybe what rider was trying to do, you would hope!

Posted by: mstingle at January 22, 2008 2:49 PM

woohoooo ... my name starts with a "K"

Posted by: secretk at January 22, 2008 2:46 PM

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 1:20 PM

So were these from your own studies, my you must have been a busy man.

Posted by: mstingle at January 22, 2008 2:42 PM

Phew .....

Posted by: woodnwine at January 22, 2008 2:22 PM

Xavier

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 2:19 PM

Whose name starts with X?

I appear to be a cross between a V, a W, and an R.

What a hoot, and how very silly!

Posted by: lamuse at January 22, 2008 2:07 PM

-V-
You are individualistic, and you need freedom, space, and excitement. You wait until you know someone well before committing yourself. Swing someone means psyching him/ her out. You feel a need to get into his head to see what makes him/ her tick. You are attracted to eccentric types. Often there is an age difference between you and your lover. You respond to danger, thrills, and suspense. The gay scene turns you on, even though you yourself may not be a participant.
-W-
You are very proud, determined, and you refuse to take no for an answer when pursuing love. Your ego is at stake. You are romantic, idealistic, and often in love with love itself, not seeing your partner as he or she really is. You feel deeply and throw all of yourself into your relationships. Nothing is too good for your lover. You enjoy playing love games.
-X-
You need constant stimulation because you bore quickly. You can handle more than one relationship at a time with ease. You can't shut off your mind. You talk while you make love. You can have the greatest love affairs, all by yourself, in your own head.
-Y-
You are sexual, sensual, and very independent. If you can't have it your way, you will forgo the whole thing. You want to control your relationships, which doesn't always work out too well. You respond to physical stimulation, enjoy necking and spending hours just touching, feeling and exploring. However, if you can spend your time making money, you will give up the pleasures of the flesh for the moment. You need to prove to yourself and your partner what a great lover you are. You want feedback on your performance. You are an open, stimulating, romantic bedmate.
-Z-
For you, it is business before pleasure. If you are in any way bothered by career, business, or money concerns, you find it very hard to relax and get into the mood. You can be romantically idealistic to a fault and are capable of much sensuality. But you never lose control of your emotions. You are very careful and cautious before you give your heart away and your body, for that matter. Once you make the commitment, though, you stick like glue.

Hope you all enjoyed that one and by the way Riders is the letter I.

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 1:46 PM

-N-
You are crap in bed! sorry :(
-O-
You are very interested in sexual activities yet secretive and shy about your desires. You can re-channel much of your sexual energy into making money and/or seeking power. You can easily have extended periods of celibacy. You are a passionate, compassionate, sexual lover, requiring the same qualities from your mate. Sex is serious business; thus you demand intensity diversity, and are willing to try anything or anyone. Sometimes your passions turn to possessiveness, which must be kept in check.
-P-
You are very conscious of social proprieties. You wouldn't think of doing anything that might harm your image or reputation. Appearances count, therefore, you require a good-looking partner. You also require an intelligent partner. Oddly enough, you may view your partner as your enemy; a good fight stimulates those sex vibes. You are free of sexual hang-ups. You are willing to experiment and try new ways of doing things. You are very social and sensual; you enjoy flirting and need a good deal of physical gratification.
-Q-
You require constant activity and stimulation. You have tremendous physical energy. It is not easy for a partner to keep up with you, sexually or otherwise. You are an enthusiastic lover and tend to be attracted to people of other ethnic groups. You need romance, hearts and flowers, and lots of conversation to turn you on and keep you going.
-R-
You are a no-nonsense, action-oriented individual. You need someone who can keep pace with you and who is your intellectual equal the smarter the better. You are turned on more quickly by a great mind than by a great body. However, physical attractiveness is very important to you. You have to be proud of your partner. You are privately very sexy, but you do not bed, you are willing to serve as teacher. Sex is important; you can be a very demanding playmate.
-S-
You are secretive, self-contained, and shy. You are very sexy, sensual, and passionate, but you do not let on to this. Only in intimate privacy will this part of your nature reveal itself. When it gets down to the nitty-gritty, you are an expert. You know all the little tricks of the trade, can play any role or any game, and take your love life very seriously. You don't fool around. You have the patience to wait for the right person to come along.
-T-
You are very sensitive, private, and sexually passive; you like a partner who takes the lead. Music, soft lights and romantic thoughts turn you on. You fantasize, but do not tend to fall in and out of love easily.. When in love, you are romantic, idealistic, mushy, and extremely intense. You enjoy having your senses and your feelings stimulated, titillated, and teased.. You are a great flirt. You can make your relationships fit your dreams, oftentimes all in your own head.
-U-
You are enthusiastic and idealistic when in love. When not in love, you are in love with love, always looking for someone to adore. You see romance as a challenge. You are a roamer and need adventure, excitement, and freedom. You deal in potential relationships. You enjoy giving gifts and enjoy seeing your mate looking good. Your sex drive is strong and you desire instant gratification. You are willing to put your partner's pleasures above your own.

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 1:45 PM

-F-
You are idealistic and romantic, putting your lover on a pedestal. You look for the very best mate you can find. You are a flirt, yet once comitted, you are very loyal. You are sensuous, sexual, and privately passionate. Publicly, you can be showy, extravagant, and gallant. You are born romantic. Dramatic love scenes are your favourite fantasy pastime. You can be a very generous lover.
-G-
You are fastidious, seeking perfection within yourself and your lover. You respond to a lover who is your intellectual equal or superior, and one who can enhance your status. You are sensuous and know how to reach the peak of erotic stimulation, because you work at it meticulously. You can be extremely active sexually that is, when you find the time. Your duties and responsibilities take precedence over everything else. You may have difficulty getting emotionally close to a lover, but no trouble getting close sexually.
-H-
You seek a mate who can enhance your reputation and earning ability. You will be very generous to your lover once you have attained a commitment. Your gifts are actually an investment in your partner. Before the commitment, though, you tend to be frugal in your spending and dating habits and equally cautious in your sexual involvement. You are a sensual and patient lover.
-I-
You have a great need to be loved, appreciated... Even worshipped. You enjoy luxury, sensuality, and pleasures of the flesh. You look for lovers who know what they are doing. You are not interested in an amateur, unless that amateur wants a tutor. You are fussy and exacting about having your desires satisfied. You are willing to experiment and try new modes of sexual expression. You bore easily and thus require sexual adventure and change. You are more sensual than sexual, but you are sometimes downright lustful.
-J-
You can be very romantic, attached to the glamour of love. Having a partner is of paramount importance to you. You are free in your expression of love and are willing to take chances, try new sexual experiences and partners, provided it's all in good taste. Brains turn you on. You must feel that your partner is intellectually stimulating, otherwise you will find it difficult to sustain the well. Only you see her. You require loving, cuddling, wining, and dining to know that you're being appreciated.
-K-
You are totally fucking marvellous!
-L-
You are very romantic, idealistic, and somehow you believe that to love means to suffer. You wind up serving your mate or attracting people who have unusual troubles. You see yourself as your lover's saviour. You are sincere, passionate, lustful, and dreamy. You can't help falling in love. You fantasize and get turned on by movies and magazines. You do not tell others of this secret life, nor of your sexual fantasies.
-M-
You are emotional and intense. When involved in a relationship, you throw your entire being into it. Nothing stops you; there are no holds barred. You are all consuming and crave someone who is equally passionate and intense.. You believe in total sexual freedom. You are willing to try anything and everything. Your supply of sexual energy is inexhaustible. You also enjoy mothering your mate.

Posted by: ridersonthestorm74 at January 22, 2008 1:43 PM

Posted by: timewarp1 at January 22, 2008 3:47 AM

my my - the 'silence of the lambs'...
Good for you timewarp!

Posted by: mrsteppenwolf at January 22, 2008 1:24 PM

How good are you in bed?
According to studies, the first letter of your first name reveals your sexual identity... What do you think?
My sympathies to anyone whose name begins with N ;)
________________________________________
-A-
You are not particularly romantic, but you are interested in action. You mean business. With you, what you see is what you get. You have no patience for flirting and can't be bothered with someone who is trying to be coy, cute, demure, and subtly enticing. You are an up front person. When it comes to sex, it's action that counts not obscure hints. Your mate's physical attractiveness is important to you. You find the chase and challenge of the "hunt" invigorating. You are passionate and sexual as well as being much more adventurous than you appear; however, you do not go around advertising these qualities. Your physical needs are your primary concern.
-B-
You give off vibes of lazy sensuality. You enjoy being romanced, wined, and dined. You are very happy to receive gifts as an expression of the affection of your lover. You want to be pampered and know how to pamper your mate. You are private in your expression of endearments and particularly when it comes to lovemaking. You will hold off until everything meets with your approval. You can control your appetite and abstain from sex if need be. You require new sensations and experiences. You are willing to experiment.
-C-
You are a very social individual; you must be able to talk to your sex partner before. You want the object of your affection to be socially acceptable and good looking. You see your lover as a friend and companion. You are very sexual and sensual, needing someone to appreciate and almost worship you. When this cannot be achieved, you have the ability to go for long periods without sexual activity. You are an expert at controlling your desires and doing without.
-D-
Once you get it into your head that you want someone, you move full steam ahead in pursuit. You do not give up your quest easily. You are nurturing and caring. If someone has a problem, this turns you on. You are highly sexual, passionate, loyal, and intense in you’re involvement, sometimes possess