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RATE YOUR DATE?
It is interesting to think of dating as a rating game but that is precisely what we do when we are looking for the one person to make our own. We rank them on their physical beauty, their education, on their personality, their wealth and on their compatibility. The higher we rank in each of these categories the more attractive of a partner we become.
Each of these categories can be traded for another category. For example, a woman with an attractive level of 9, might trade her looks for a man with a wealth status of 9. Likewise, a woman with a low educational status might be willing to sacrifice on the personality rank of her mate. Each innately knows what they can bargain with. What kinds of things do you rate on the opposite sex? What are you willing to trade when it comes down to dating? How important is it for some of these numbers to be high? Or How far down are you willing to go to find that someone?
Posted by December 17, 2007 9:07 AM
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junebaby - all the best for you and your son in Iraq. And his happiness has to make it worth it and help allay your concerns.
My daughter is in Thailand, hopefully safe though, but alone, so I can relate a little, not a lot.
happy christmas to you and yours
Posted by: today122 at December 24, 2007 9:39 AM
hey twoeyes, i know where you are coming from, no date, no lover for christmas...no one specially for me!! But I know that you have friends, who will contact you on the day, and friends are also very special in our lives. (just can't bonk them, unless they come with benefits...hehehehe)
My older son is in Iraq, so it is my first christmas without him, ever!!!And he can only call me, but he is on patrol for the next 3-4 days!! But he is happy, he has told me, "I Love it here Mum!!"
So my my younger son and I are having my parents over at lunch time, and we are going to my father inlaws house in the evening...I get on well with my outlaws!!!! ( they don't know about my extra curricular activities!!!hehehe)
On another thought, what is with guys sending kisses, you respond positively and then nothing, or they send a second kiss, I respond again, and still nothing, this happened twice over the weekend, aren't I worth the price of a stamp??? Maybe I can get a guys perspective on this!
Have a safe and happy christmas...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 24, 2007 8:44 AM
I will leave y'all with one of my favorites, especially by Judy Garland:
"Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas"
Oh yeah, mmm
Have yourself a merry little Christmas
Let your heart be light
From now on your troubles will be out of sight, yeah
Have yourself a merry little Christmas
Make the Yuletide gay
From now on your troubles will be miles away, oh
Here we are as in olden days
Happy golden days of yore, ah
Faithful friends who are dear to us
They gather near to us once more, ooh
Through the years we all will be together and
If the fates allow
Hang a shining star upon the highest bow, oh yeah, oh
And have yourself a merry little Christmas now, oh, oh
Faithful friends who are dear to us
They gather near to us once more, oh, oh
Through the years we all will be together and
If the fates allow, oh yeah
But 'til then we'll have to muddle through somehow, oh yeah, oh, oh
And have yourself a merry little Christmas now, ooh yeah, oh, ooh
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 8:21 AM
Twoeyes, make sure those DVDs are riotously funny,and perhaps you could make one of Jenjen's xmas cakes on the day? I don't think you actually end up with a cake,but geez you have a funny time making it !! Throwing a fluffy bowl out the window and greasing the oven sounds like fun! Anyway,we're there in spirit with you......guess you'll be there with a bottle of spirit too !!
Posted by: graceandcharm at December 24, 2007 8:15 AM
mstingle..try adding an egg to your mashed potato.. makes it extra creamy and yummy..
merry xmas etc everyone
Posted by: mushie6 at December 24, 2007 8:13 AM
Posted by: neuroticfish at December 24, 2007 7:42 AM
Good one. I can relate to a few maybe because I have 4 brothers so some of the traits rubbed of on to me.
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 8:08 AM
twoeyes at December 24, 2007 12:35 AM
Yes not a good time to be alone. I had some very lonely sad Christmases alone when I was a teenager. I would usually have a cat and a dog and any other pet I could get my hands on. One year I did the Christmas dinner thing and dished it up for the dog (Honey) and cat and myself and I had Christmas presents all wrapped up under the tree for the animals and myself including for the budgie and gold fish and we opened our presents in the morning whilst listening to Bing Crosby, White Christmas always had me misty and I would watch the Christmas movies with a bottle of wine or two curled up on the couch with the cat and dog.
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:58 AM
Oh and the mash potaotes must also have, cream, butter, salt and pepper as well as the whole milk.
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:50 AM
jenjen57 at December 23, 2007 11:50 PM
Yes Christmas time to indulge just love it especially the savouries. Talking about gravy I make mine with sour cream instead of flour, much yummier and made with real meat juices (less carbs also).
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:47 AM
auntykaz at December 23, 2007 11:13 PM
Love period films, where the female's falls helplessly into the arms of those dashing gentlemen.
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:41 AM
auntykaz at December 23, 2007 11:01 PM
Antonio, now your talking he's even hotter, love the hot Latin ones.
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:37 AM
auntykaz at December 23, 2007 11:01 PM
Now I would rate a date well if he wanted to take up dance lessons with me. Yes something I would like to do in the future.
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:33 AM
jenjen57 at December 23, 2007 10:50 PM
Yes I have the first two movies in my collection.
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:29 AM
graceandcharm at December 23, 2007 10:04 PM
For me too!
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:21 AM
auntykaz at December 23, 2007 8:36 PM
Yes what I do not understand is that, there are few that are so versatile, how come he does not win the big awards. The year that the 1st pirates was made I was sure that he was way superior then his contenders and it really annoyed me that he was not chosen. I think that I read somewhere that this happens at times becuase the big wigs of Hollywood being grey men have in the past gone for more the rugged old actors then the attractive younger talent when their is a choice to vote for one in thier own age bracket. Not sure if this would be why Johnny sems to not get a look in.
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:13 AM
neuroticfish at December 23, 2007 8:25 PM
lol!
You won't be our jack would you? (not that it is a problem you are both a giggle).
Posted by: mstingle at December 24, 2007 7:05 AM
Oh twoeyes.............thats sad :(
But I am sure some of us will be here some of the time to keep you company :)
Merry Christmas x
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 24, 2007 6:31 AM
i guess on the topic, having a date for xmas would be nice..........
but i will settle for being home alone with 10 dvds and a large bottle of scotch.
No family, going to noones place and no pressies, guess i was a bad boy this year, although i did try to meet some women but to no avail.
Have a good one all andcatchya in 08....
Posted by: twoeyes at December 24, 2007 12:35 AM
Sorry to change topic :)
I hate aspects of this time of year. Not for its crass commercialism and forced frivolity, but because it's the season when the food police come out with their wagging fingers and annual tips on how to get through the holidays without gaining 10 kilos.
1. About those carrot sticks. Avoid them. Anyone who puts carrots on a holiday buffet table knows nothing of the Christmas spirit. In fact if you see carrots, leave immediately. Go next door, where they're serving rum balls.
2. Drink as much eggnog as you can. And quickly. Like fine single-malt scotch, it's rare. In fact, it's even rarer than single-malt scotch. You can't find it any other time of year but now. So drink up! Who cares that it has 10,000 calories in every sip? It's not as if you're going to turn into an eggnogaholic or something. It's a treat. Enjoy it. Have one for me. Have two. It's later then you think. It's Christmas!
3. If something comes with gravy, use it. That's the whole point of gravy. Gravy does not stand alone. Pour it on. Make a volcano out of your mashed potatoes. Fill it with gravy. Eat the volcano. Repeat.
4. As for mashed potatoes, always ask if they're made with skim milk or whole milk. If it's skim, pass. Why bother? It's like buying a sports car with an automatic transmission.
5. Do not have a snack before going to a party in an effort to control your eating. The whole point of going to a Christmas party is to eat other peoples food for free. Lots of it. Hello? Remember uni?
6. Under no circumstances should you exercise between now and New Years, You can do that in January when you have nothing else to do. This is the time for long naps, which you'll need after circling the buffet table while carrying a 10-pound plate of food and that vat of eggnog.
7. If you come across something really good at a buffet table, like frosted Christmas cookies in the shape and size of Santa. Position yourself near them, and don't budge. Have as many as you can before becoming the center of attention. They're like a beautiful pair of shoes. You can't leave them behind. You're not going to see them again.
8. Same for pies. Apple. Pumpkin. Fruit Mince. Have a slice of each. Or, if you don't like mincemeat, have two apples and one pumpkin. Always have three. When else do you get to have more than one dessert?
9. Did someone mention fruitcake? Granted, it's loaded with the mandatory celebratory calories, but avoid it at all cost. I mean have some standards, mate.
10. And one final tip: If you don't feel terrible when you leave the party or get up from the table, you haven't been paying attention. Reread tips. Start over. But hurry! Cookieless January is just around the corner.
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 23, 2007 11:50 PM
I don't get the attraction to Brad Pitt, never have...
Posted by: trumanscat at December 23, 2007 11:33 PM
John Cusack for me.... the slightly different edge that is attractive.
Posted by: trumanscat at December 23, 2007 11:26 PM
Colin Firth as that other Mr Darcy, Mark Darcy in Bridget Jones' Diary.
He was also in Love Actually as yet another lovelorn yearning for a woman. Who he eventually got.
And Matthew McFadyen as Fitzwilliam Darcy in the recent Pride and Prejudice with Kiera Knightley.....broodingly handsome yet wistfully needing.................K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 11:13 PM
yes to John Travolta, its his walk, his eyes, his smile and he still does it for me now!!!!! Also Sean Connery, eyes, voice and accent. Also Richard Gere, with the eyes.....And another Sean, Sean Bean from the Sharpe series on ABC. Probably the bad boy look about him!!
And Brad, did u see Mr and Mrs Smith, he looks so good!!! He just keeps getting hotter as he gets older, discovered him in Thelma and Louise when I was pregnant with my 1st son!!!
And Clive Owen first saw him in Gosford Park, he is very watchable!!
And Hugh Grant for fun and charm. and don't forget Colin Firth aka the best Mr Darcy, ever!!!mmm walking out of that pond ...
So sleep well all, have a safe and happy Christmas...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 23, 2007 11:06 PM
Richard Gere in "Shall We Dance", ooh la la. That film inspired me to take up ballroom dancing.
And his Tango with J Lo sizzled.
Antonio Banderas in Take the Lead, another dancing film. Now his Argentine Tango was HOT AS...........K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 11:01 PM
Goodnight, I have to leave this hilarious blog and let a son use computer. Have fun.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 11:00 PM
or maybe the guys are just a bit more PC than us? or maybe like Gordon they're all tucked up for the night
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 10:57 PM
yes - I thought that too. But where are all the wenches? walked the plank already? or out under the tree with the monkey?
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 10:56 PM
jenjen: exactly...that is what happened..
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 10:56 PM
yes today122 when I find the island. jjacksparrer may get to an island first though as he does have the Black Pearl. Oh yum prawns and avocado.
jenjen: agreement, even that commercial where Richard Gere lets those doves? out of a cage..
The guys do not want to divulge their favourite actresses. They are all asleep with boredom perhaps. Jovial67 hope being Santa works out well for you!!!!!!!
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 10:55 PM
slightsynchronicity
"I will have to take myself in hand and if that happens who knows when it will end................hmmm.........."
Posted by: jjacksparrow at December 23, 2007 7:43 PM
Now you know !!!!!!!!
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 23, 2007 10:54 PM
Richard`Gere's the one for me !!!!! Officer and a Gentleman, Pretty Woman, Runaway Bride ........ sigh
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 23, 2007 10:50 PM
but what a lovely drama to have. Can I come with you, not on your date, but to your tropical island. I'll bring the prawns and avocado
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 10:43 PM
jjacksparrow...did you drink ALL the rum? I think he is sleeping it off.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 10:43 PM
auntykaz: I suspect it was my vegan son...I will survive..its my only drama at the moment. Should have got two ha ha.
today122 this is a pleasant chap from last time round who does not look like any actor I can think of. We had emails and phone calls...but never met. I ceased contact due to my particular situation. Its Christmas..some people go through their phone and having a drink..is just a drink. It would be the: "meeting"...of course, not a date. No reason not to...? just unexpected how some people turn up after 6 months or so u know.
Kiefer Sutherland...hes sweet.
maybe I need to go find a tropical Island and loaf around eating mangoes and coconuts...
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 10:40 PM
Jude Law - a YES vote for me too.But not as good as George.
Posted by: graceandcharm at December 23, 2007 10:33 PM
and I like Laura Linney - as an actor, mind. I think she's great. ah yes - I know that guy, cute.
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 10:32 PM
Olivier Martinez is Kylie's ex.
Another one is the guy with Nicole Kidman in the Chanel commercial, and he also plays a character called Carl in Love Actually, Laura Linney's character falls for him but l can't recall his name. But spectacularly
spectacular he is.............K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 10:28 PM
ah yes - Jude Law. and a great voice too. Robson Green - tv actor, English and a lovely voice. the voice'll get me at hello, every time
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 10:24 PM
sorry auntykaz - noooooooo.
plastic fantastic I reckon. Too obvious as is dear old George Clooney. Who's that guy who dumped our dear Kylie? now he's something!!!
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 10:22 PM
George Clooney does it for me......although I have a thing for Jude Law too.
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 10:20 PM
And l will now undo all my good work of today by naming the one and only Brad Pitt as my number one.
Yes, all an illusion these actors but l aint commenting on his acting just his looks.
Which are spectacular. By the way.
In my humble opinion. Sigh...........K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 10:18 PM
well SSC - does he look like Johnny Depp? or maybe Christian Slater?
That's a transportable offence isn't it - stealing mangoes? They're really cheap here at the moment, so don't need to be nicked. just beautiful
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 10:15 PM
If one of my kids had eaten the perfect mango they would have been legally emancipated quick smart. When l go buying mangoes l always buy more than one just in case....................K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 10:10 PM
graceandcharm: Yes
auntykaz: Yes
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 10:09 PM
George Clooney does it for me..... :)
Posted by: graceandcharm at December 23, 2007 10:04 PM
I also like a man with a strut. Now John Travolta, he can strut. Remember him in Saturday Night Fever???? Strutted that butt the whole way throught the movie...........K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 9:56 PM
NF: ha ha of course, good on ya.
Slightly Sad Someone Stole my Mango..
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 9:46 PM
today122: loved that movie, the Secret Window or whatever, spooky movie. Johnny Depp could place his spectacles next to mine anytime. But he is taken...
Farout do I have a drink with someone out of the blue from last time on RSVP, who has looked on his mobile and found my number still there. Big decision. Does he look like Johnny Depp? The blog comments have made me laugh heaps tonight. Yay, I went to the beach, skipped tea time (just had it now). It is very nice to have a big laugh.
auntykaz...a man with a swagger...swaggers are cool. Thats the thing. I had no idea JD modelled himself on Keith. Was Keith the one who fell out of a coconut tree? : )
I came home tonight and someone had taken my very own perfect Mango I got 2 days ago and was saving (instead of eating chocky!) One of my kids ate it. I have been left the watermelon of course. Don't you love teenagers!!!
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 9:43 PM
enjoy your christmas dinner, auntykaz. Talking to myself again, mutter mutter
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 9:13 PM
and The Secret Window - at least I think that's what it was called. He played a man on the brink so so well. Does that say something?
he could put his thongs under mine any old how...........
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 9:12 PM
Johnny did model himself on Keef and got the swaggering swashbuckling pirate down to a t.
But then look at how he played Willy Wonka or Don Juan De Marco or Edward Scissorhands.....always puts in a top effort to entertain.
He can plant those black leather boots under by bed any darn time...................K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 8:36 PM
Why do people have to get so nasty, if you really don't like someone,ignore them...I happen to think HC is a lovely person and cannot understand all flack she's been copping on here!
Its nearly christmas, instead of trying to make people feel bad isn't it the time to spread good will and cheer!
Whats wrong with patting someone on the back and making them feel good...look for the good in everyone!
Posted by: brilliantblue at December 23, 2007 8:12 PM
Wraecca you can have my share I don't like rum.
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 8:12 PM
Junbaby57 just steal his rum and then I am sure he will wear those boots!!
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 8:10 PM
As long as he's willing to share them around, misswendyxx, I don't mind if he's had half a dozen!!!
=D
Posted by: wraecca at December 23, 2007 8:08 PM
Jjack, forget all them, jus run away with me.......don't forget to wear the knee high leather boots tho......jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 23, 2007 8:02 PM
Wraecca that would be a couple of barrels I think...........
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 8:02 PM
oops, I think jack's had a couple of rums already.............
:D
Posted by: wraecca at December 23, 2007 7:59 PM
Yes, jjacksparrow, throw me overboard near an island with a hidden stash of rum!!!
Where's all the rum gone? Lol....
Posted by: wraecca at December 23, 2007 7:36 PM
off to the beach to find a pirate or maybe just some fresh air. enjoy your evening bloggers.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 7:30 PM
Is it just me, or is this blog topic reminiscent of some earlier blogs that caused some flamage because people were talking about 'trading' etc?
I remember there was a huge blow-out a couple of months ago due to this very topic........
Hmmmm, I wonder if RSVP has an ulteriour motive here......?
Posted by: wraecca at December 23, 2007 7:24 PM
Mstingle I wasn't sure either....it's so easy to misinterpret isn't it? One thing I'm not misinterpreting is keith Richards....I agree with you there...who'd be into him...blahh
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 7:21 PM
yep mstingle - is it still a harem on a sinking boat?
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 7:15 PM
hi there db2......
re Your post @ 5.42pm where You say "......istj: dont ever believe that people who believe in "facts" are superior to you."...and....."....We have to stop saying SORRY everytime some one is more assertive than us."....
........neither my blog to istj54, nor her response, were about superiority or inferiority - nor was istj54 saying "sorry" as a result of me being assertive.....
......istj54 was apologising to those from another blogsite who also blog here, whom she may have inadvertently maligned.....she said so!
....it's a tad disingenuous to project a genuine apology as meaning istj54 is bowing to an assertive blogger - I reckon her apology was genuine - and motivated by a desire to correct an unintended potential slight .......
....istj54 has met me - and read my blogs......she is an intelligent, articulate and assertive woman - and would have no problem in telling me publically if she thought my blog was an attempt to have her conform to some form of inequitable power dynamic.......
....weta....
Posted by: weta at December 23, 2007 6:58 PM
...at least it's been hijacked with humour Jack...doln't we all want someone with a good sense of humour...who can make us laugh on a daily basis?
Take note, gentlemen, how easily Jack has charmed all the raunchy wenches of all ages with his humour!
Posted by: istj54 at December 23, 2007 6:57 PM
misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 6:28 PM
lol, gee I am in a much better mood after the laughs today.
A double misunderstanding sorry. I must have put it wrong, I was agreeing with you, "No I don't think that anyone has to leave the blog" not no to you but yes - No in agreeance, sorry for the misundersatnding.
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 6:57 PM
misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 6:20 PM
No I thought the accent was brilliant I think it made him even sexier in a naughty way. Maybe others know this but apparently he studied Keith Richards from the rolling stone for his swagger and voice. I am not into Keith Richards though but I thought it was funny when I found that out and then Richards played a cameo role in the last pirates which made me laugh because of Johnny mimicking him. The swagger and the slurred speach is much sexier on Sparrow. I think these would definately go towards his score of a nearly perfect 10. He would have to wash himself and brush his teeth to get a perfect score.
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 6:52 PM
In response to morganstanley's post of December 22, 2007 10:04 PM
> Who could you complain to then?
How about, ooh, I dunno, the owner, who would have no problem removing offending persons from the grounds should they turn up at random...
Posted by: brushkestrel at December 23, 2007 6:49 PM
Well said Junbaby57!!
jjacksparrow 50 lashings are coming your way..........let me warm my whip up.
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 6:46 PM
jjacksparrow at December 23, 2007 5:53 PM
Well you have definately drummed yourself up a Harem.
Okay I will admit it I am a bit partial to the Jack sparrow myself.
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 6:42 PM
OK, I luv Captn Jack Sparrow, and would run away with jack at the drop of his cute hat...those knee high leather boots...mmmmmmmmmmm
Now, I am with Weta on this. I am a blogger on this site and another, I do not fight or stir people up to fight.
But I will stand up for myself, or my friends if I see things that are incorrect, as was the case last night!!
I believe that any friend would do the same in any other situation in life, and the blogs are a part of life in this day and age we live in!
I am not ganging up with anyone, but I will not put up with untruths and crap, that is one advantage of being older, you know what you want, and you are not afraid to say it out loud!
Have a safe and happy christmas, and peace be with you all.....jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 23, 2007 6:35 PM
ericky at December 23, 2007 12:08 PM
Thats one oppinion but I do not agree, I could imagine some professional people would be constantly bombarded with unneccesary contact if people new who they were and in some professions it would be a requirement that you don't show you personal self in public including that you are looking for a date. It would be frowned apon, that is not thier fault it is how the powers that be have set it up and it does protect them and believe it or not those that would be doing the unwanted contacting. I am a student a present but I could imagine in the future that if I end up in the profession that I am currently going towards (who knows I may end up doing something different if it does not work out) that I would have to hide my profile.
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 6:30 PM
Mstingle you may have misunderstood what I said in the blog.....I didn't suggest anybody leave the blogs. In fact it was the opposite and it was in respose to Db2 saying she wouldn't be back on the blogs and I thought that was a shame if she did.
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 6:28 PM
pirates, schmirates. johnny depp in any role is just fine me hearties.
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 6:27 PM
istj54: I can not find db2s nice sentence below, in the blog..sounds great. Good advice from morganstanley and nice sensible thoughts from Weta and yourself.
misstingle I am glad you feel better. Shopping was a bit much for me today... skipped lunch, how silly. Nice to have a laugh again. Of course some of us react more or less and some of us do not think before we speak. Thank you for your positive attitude. jenjen will hopefully crack us up some more and NF is also very funny.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 6:20 PM
misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 10:50 AM
No I do not thinK it is neccesary for anyone to leave the site. There is a positive to the blog inregard to the bickering not that I want it to continue. The positive, is in life you come across many people who may be hurtful and you are left to sort it out on your own but on the blog, if someone say's something everyone else reads it and then that promps others to voice their oppinion on what occured. Everyone will have a different view or say about the matter and it helps to sort out what is going on in your head. I think there is something positive about us all, it is just that I think and this is only my oppinion, that some people are hurting or afraid and like an injured animal behave in away that may be even strange to themselves.
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 6:20 PM
Diamondblue2 good to see you changed your mind about the blogs.....couldn't resist hey?
Now Johnny depp....well he has always been on the top of my "who are the 10 people you would like to have at a dinner party" list. I wasn't really fond of the Jack sparrow character though maybe it was his silly accent....not sure.
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 6:20 PM
I've read some really great lines on these blogs roday...
DB2...I love your latest, "I want us to be honest, as I would love men to be REALLY honest--then we can really have lovely, relaxed, sexy relationships."
That would be so nice in combination with morganstanley's take on loving someone.
Jack, did you mean it about being best mate if I retract my apologies???? Very, very tempting....okay, I'm not that sorry...where's the Treasure Chest?
Posted by: istj54 at December 23, 2007 6:15 PM
Hi jjacksparrer, I was going to ask you where I could meet a nice pirate who liked 44 year old women? At the Home For Retired Pirates, I guess. Yes db2...I had forgotten about Johnny Depp as a pirate. Well if he is my ideal man and yours..how many men in the world fit that ideal. Personally I think it is a fantasy of mine...and like I said before Clive Owen is actually my ideal guy. Johnny is next. Db2 the attractive thing about Johnny Depp: humour, intelligence, nice eyes, looks good in pirate clothes. I rate him quite highly, but its not real.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 6:15 PM
Jack, don't turn out to be a dud-- who the f is Liz Swan ? Please, stick with me on this one. It's important.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 23, 2007 6:09 PM
diamondblue2 at December 23, 2007 9:40 AM
Thank you for your appology it takes a big person to appologise. I make mistakes at times but I also appologise if I think I did the wrong thing. I suppose many do not appologise because it make one feel awkard and foolish but if you always make it a point to do so as soon as you notice a wrong then with practice it becomes easy it becomes a part of who you are. I laughed when you told me of my error "eroticfish" maybe that was freudian slip, maybe it is the lack of sex. I wonder what NF made of it, lol.
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 6:05 PM
Oh God, Aunty K and SS, Johnny Depp is totally, unbelievably beautiful, but as Jack, well, the girl can't help it, she just cant help it. He has me trippin, or stumbling, or rumbling , . . . . . . you know you got me fallin in luurve. . . . . .
So, on the topic of rating your date, well, we haven't dated Johnny or Jack, but I think I will be brave and say that women want a man who is like Jack Sparrow. Anybody want to rate Jack? Let's have a go at seeing what it is that attracts us so much. I want us to be honest, as I would love men to be REALLY honest--then we can really have lovely, relaxed, sexy relationships.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 23, 2007 6:04 PM
slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 9:39 AM
Thank you for your support and humour. I don't know why I got so upset, I suppose I am only human. I was fine only minutes later when I switched blogs and laughed over some of our clever bloggers jokes NF and Jenjen
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 5:57 PM
Oh jjack, I didn't realise you were gay, damn . The best ones always are, dont you think?
AAAAArghhh, me hearties.
Stay on the blogs, PLEASE.` and tell us some jokes.
db2 xx
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 23, 2007 5:52 PM
jjacksparrer you may have more luck finding young wenches if you got away from your computer. I am not looking, but if I was...I would be out there. Time you pulled up your anchor..and went somewhere in your boat? Or just entertain us, whatever you think. yo ho ho to you. And what is wrong with wimmin in their 40's and 50's pray tell. Way to limit yourself. Young wenches would only be interested in your boat and gold BTW.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 5:46 PM
istj: dont ever believe that people who believe in "facts" are superior to you. Weta thinks that as a teacher you need to (whatever he said) check your fu**ing facts or blah blah something. Facts are a historical phenomenon. They will not last too long as a reputable form of truth. It's just that some people, like scientists, and lawyers, especially, don't feel secure without them. I would trust your own instincts about what your students need--i.e. to be open to all possibilities, and never to accept the people who demand that they "stick to the FACTS". That woud be to minimise their own potential, their generousity, their understanding.
We have to stop saying SORRY everytime some one is more assertive than us.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 23, 2007 5:45 PM
diamond blue l think the fact that Johnny Depp IS Jack Sparrow does it for me.....sexy sexy man that he is.
Maybe l could be Kiera Knightly and get to snog him..........oh behave nortykaz.......................K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 5:41 PM
Gonna dig up my Pirates of the Carribean DVD...forget about The Notebook. Thanks Cap'n Jack for reminding me that Johnny Depp as a pirate is my ideal man. (If he was single).
Hi db2...welcome back
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 5:40 PM
Thank you Weta............
istj54 .......you do not know who here is a member elsewhere nor who you offend with "You all love a good fight and obviously your other site is so mindlessly boring and full of self praise, accolades and back patting that you have to step back in here to get a dose of reality".
So if you have comments to direct at HC, or anyone else, you should do so directly and not generalise. Please.
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 23, 2007 5:38 PM
OK, I can't resist it, I'm back. jjacksparrow I don't know you, but I think the persona of Jack Sparrow in the movie is THE most desirable man that has ever existed. I'm not sure why, I need to think about it.
weta: I just want to voice the view that there are NO facts as such (except the blindingly obvious, such as 1+2 = a threesome.) Why do you believe so much in empirical evidence? (That is a serious question--I have been influenced by my degree in Literature, and i'm curious to know if you have been influenced by your education as well). In a lit. degree we looked at how empiricism was a particular historical and cultural phenomenon. It is not a universal, ahistorical truth. Science is just a particular movement--very popular in the 19th and 20th and 21st century, but that's quite a miniscule time if you think about how long humans have existed. So don't assume that empirical evidence is superior to other kinds of knowledge--open your horizons to other ways of knowing what is "true" in the world.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 23, 2007 5:33 PM
I apologise to you Weta, and all the others I may have inadvertently maligned...however, there is a group who quickly jump into, or start, a squabble and then run off to hide behind their own supposed respectability and cronies.
I am cross/upset that mental illness is a constant form of insult/weapon used on these blogs and should not be used against anyone, here or elsewhere.
Hiddencharms does indeed have a problem with me and some other bloggers that she constantly refers to as multiple personalities. I believe she is a teacher and not a psychiatrist...but she apparently can diagnose people from their posts...amazing talent.
I, perhaps wrongly, just surmised that she had the support for her opining from all of her friends.
I apologise once again for any generalisations I have made today.
Posted by: istj54 at December 23, 2007 5:30 PM
Hi there istj54.....
....re Your blog this morning @ 9.47am where You say, amongst other things, "........The old regular bloggers now have their own invitation only site and only seem to jump back in here for a fight or altercation or to defend their “own.” They are contributing nothing about the topic...which is a good one…and I say to them, stop doing this to what is left of the blogs. We actually do not need you and were having fine, positive, interesting posts without your defensive, insulting intrusion…and that is what it is. You all love a good fight and obviously your other site is so mindlessly boring and full of self praise, accolades and back patting that you have to step back in here to get a dose of reality.".......
........I reckon any reasonable reader of the RSVP blogs today, could take Your words directed to hiddencharms, as saying that all the members of that alternative blogsite that HC is involved in are disaffected RSVP bloggers who only come here to spoil.
I reckon You have a personality clash with HC - and she with You - that's pretty obvious in the barbed narratives You exchange......
...but it is quite wrong of You to assert that those people who blog elsewhere, are in any way a group of sychophants who, to quote You, "...all love a good fight.......and are full of self-praise and back patting...."
.....I'm a member of that blogsite....I don't post at present - I just read - and many of those who post blogs there, post blogs here - and they are bloggers with whom You and many other bloggers here interact with and respond to - positvely and respectfully - sharing stories and reflections of mutual and common interest.......
.......that You and HC clash is axiomatic.....and that personal clash has coloured your perspective.......
....YOU cannot KNOW what goes on in that other blog, unless You have been present, or a member of that blog tells You what goes on there......
.....I don't know HC - I've never met her, nor blogged or e-mailed with her.... You and and I met socially - and exchanged an odd e-mail - and I have supported You on the blogs in the past........
...what I'm getting to here is: HC is no more "typical" of those who blog at that other blogsite, any more than You or I or Ninashen or AuntyKaz or ericky are "typical" of this RSVP blog....
...we are each "representative" of a broad range of bloggers - but we are not "typical".....we all bring our individual values/views/experiences/biases when we blog here......
...so, HC is "representative" of that same broad range that exists at the other blogsite - she is not "typical"......none of us are "typical" - here - or there.....
...stereotyping is a very slippery slope.....and when it is based on deduction, speculation, assumption, projection, rumour, or inuendo - rather than fact - then it misrepresents reality......and people can be inadvertently maligned.......
.....as a teacher of young children, I am sure you would counsel Your students about the importance of checking and re-checking facts.....especially if they are going to be articulated in a public forum......
....weta....
Posted by: weta at December 23, 2007 5:05 PM
Why do grumpy old men continually call women "old" like it's an insult?
It is not an insult in my book. Everyone is getting older, fact of life sailor.
The trick is to do it gracefully and elegantly and never forget your dignity or your sense of fun. We can have as much fun and laughs as we want till the day we die.
Posted by: istj54 at December 23, 2007 4:56 PM
I agree Auntykaz and istj54.We are all different and find different ways of achieving the same thing.We all make different choices for our own individual reasons.Live and let live people.
Posted by: graceandcharm at December 23, 2007 3:21 PM
Password protected pictures are an individual's choice. Why people choose to utilise this feature is really nothing to do with anyone else.
As istj said, if you get the password on a reply to a kiss, what's the big deal????????.............K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 3:08 PM
re Password protected pictures, or no pictures: Bullying is rife in our communities, in families, schools, workplaces and even here on the blogs.
Some employers or employees, teachers/students are not ashamed of being on this site, or they shouldn't be, but do not want to give others ammunition to use against them...and a lot of people do deride and bully others.
Why make themselves targets? as long as you are given the password when you get a kiss, I can't see a problem.
Posted by: istj54 at December 23, 2007 1:57 PM
Jeez half the population these days is on some sort of medication for mental illness or so it seems.
And so what???
Better that it is acknowledged and treatable / treated than shoved in the corner and not talked about.
People who deride those with this sort of debilitating illness need to really look at themselves in the mirror in my opinion.
Having said that l am not accusing anyone here of doing that, merely making an observation...........K
Posted by: auntykaz at December 23, 2007 12:18 PM
misswendyxxx - that's really nice. And we all take the bait, a little or a lot, depending, and react and defend ourselves. And then get derided for that too, here or in real life. My name should be come in spinner, I think! How to not respond? million dollar question.
just started raining here, wonderful.
enjoy your christmas
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 11:03 AM
MsTingle try not to worry about what others are saying even though it is hurtful and even the slightest negative comment can cut to the bone. I too know what it is like to be attacked on the blog. I got attacked a couple of weeks ago and even got accused of a mental illness! Of course the bait was there and I reacted to it thinking I had to defend myself. In hindsight, I should have just let it slide but of course that’s easier said than done when you are emotional. Try not to worry, just ignore the negative. Db2 has been brave enough to apologize and an explaination too.
BTW, I think your profile is fine and I love how you came up with your name!
Db2 don't leave the blogs.........so you had a few too many wines......who cares, we have all said things we regret.....hindsight is a wonderful thing!! I am quite sure you would have a lot of interesting views on the topics and the more the merrier!
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 23, 2007 10:50 AM
I know exactly how you feel mstingle and I seem to have a certain person constantly alluding to me not being of sound mind. Now we don't know these people and, hopefully never will because to me they are mean spirited and totally ignorant...but it sure can hurt.
The thing that actually gets me the most is the fact that they are so cruel about people who really do have mental health issues...they use it as a tool to beat others...makes me think they are bigotted in other ways too...intolerant and lacking respect for others and their difficulties in life.
To HC and your cronies:
Istj54: Most of us have it all worked out...We're not totally stupid...just a little bit, some of the time...
I do have to wonder, though, what it must be like having all of these "personalities" running around inside your head? Do they bang around on your cranium walls and give you a headache? Supress arteries and blood and oxygen supply, making you hyperventilate and parylise bodily movement? Maybe run back and forth from left to right side and totally corrupt your rational thinking processes?
As you and I are both in the same line of work, we both know that Ritalin and Desamphetamine works well, but definitely not when mixed with alcohol...
As for Brane, will putmyself on a limb and say that he is not one of the many confused personalities running riot on the blogs...
Mistingle...we all know who she is...Duh...
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 22, 2007 9:45 PM
Now Hiddencharms, I don’t know if you are inferring that I have several personalities, or not, but that is certainly how this post “can” be read. If so, and if it is true re your mother, I find it very cruel and insensitive to both myself and to your mother.
I have never been anyone but me on these blogs and am rarely cruel or speak in any voice but my own. I have had three name changes and they are listed on my profile. These have occurred when I have become a former member and then come back. Nothing sinister there…The only difference in my personality would be if I am in a sensible frame of mind or being a wee bit silly/flirty.
I did not know that this sort of behaviour constituted MPD. Didn’t know that you had to be intelligent all the time or silly/flirty all the time and if you varied that, depending on the situation/occasion, then you had psychological problems that are not sympathised with but openly derided by such caring individuals as yourself.
I don’t know if this is true either but ericky’s blog to you about coming out to insult people could well have been in defence of myself being insulted by you. In this case he is being gallant not rude…and if it is him that you are talking about in your post he is just defending himself.
It is beyond me that people can so openly deride psychological/mental illness and get away with it. It is cruel and insensitive to say the least. People are living with this hell every day of their lives and bravely trying to lead normal lives. The people targeted here are just fellow bloggers, nothing more, nothing less and should “all” be treated with respect. That goes for “everyone.”
The old regular bloggers now have their own invitation only site and only seem to jump back in here for a fight or altercation or to defend their “own.” They are contributing nothing about the topic...which is a good one…and I say to them, stop doing this to what is left of the blogs. We actually do not need you and were having fine, positive, interesting posts without your defensive, insulting intrusion…and that is what it is. You all love a good fight and obviously your other site is so mindlessly boring and full of self praise, accolades and back patting that you have to step back in here to get a dose of reality.
Todays rant over...be back tomorrow...maybe!
Posted by: istj54 at December 23, 2007 9:47 AM
ms tingle: sorry, I was a bit drunk last night and shouldn't have been on the blogs at all. Apologies to everyone.. I was actually trying to weed out the cause of previous negativity and ended up being as negative and horrible as those I was condemning.
mstingle I didn't say anything negative about your profile at all--I just said that your posts sound more intelligent than your profile--that doesnt mean that your profile is unintelligent at all. Am also wondering why you called neuroticfish "eroticfish". And I know you are not alike, you are binary opposites of each other.
Anyway, I am going to stop participating in the blogs--I need to get out more!
I have a date on Thursday--Hooray--hope I get the tingles!
Sincerely, happy Christmas everyone, and continue blogging, whoever you are!
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 23, 2007 9:40 AM
mstingle just continue being you, and do not worry what anyone thinks. Hopefully you may meet some bloggers in person one day and until then people can speculate if they must. As I have not met one single blogger in person I do not know anyone apart from online. People do make friends on RSVP and even from this blog and apparantly there have even been couples who met from this blog. Do not let anyone put you down and I cannot see any similarity between you and our Fish. If he is you though, that means he likes to cook which means he has a rateable quality (sorry, being silly). I enjoy your descriptive writing mstingle, particularly about your adventures with food. Do not worry about multiple personas either, it is a blog so just blog away!!! Am going out of the house today...shopping and things. Hope everyones day is good.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 9:39 AM
istj54 at December 22, 2007 9:22 PM
Thanks for your post and anyone else that has responded to db2 and I think there will be others. I really needed to get it in perspective her attack. Another male said some nasty stuff when I first started posting but I dealt with that better. I don't know why but db2 you must have pushed some buttons for me because after I responded to your attack I am crying. Now I probably should not have said this because some bullies get pleasure out of knowing that they had successfully hit their target but I think I am sharing my hurt because it has to be known that sometimes ignorant people (talk about people talking about other peoples intelligence) often say things that they have no idea about what they are talking about.
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 9:33 AM
diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 9:00 PM
That's okay everyone has their own oppinion. Our profiles are all different and those that can relate to my profile will find it to be okay, I have had many nice people give me positive feed back which is great if I had not and and had only had yours and jedi's negative comments, I may not feel as comfortable on the blog after all everyone knows it is difficult starting again and also contributing to a blog when in the begining everyone are strangers to you but you give have to give it a shot, which I am glad that I did. You say that my profile is not as intelligent as my posts, well only you can judge for yourself. The interesting thing however is that you think that I am eroticfish, I didn't think we were anything alike, can't see the similarity, can anyone else? As for why do I have to wait for 6 photo's not that I have to justify myself to you, it is interesting there are so many profiles with, with out, some with one, some with more than one. Why you do not know that everyone has their own reasons for doing things. Okay seen as you asked and why it matters to you seen as you think my profile in unintelligent anyway, it is because I have sen other profiles and I think the profiles with more than one photo looks better. I am not sure it may have been misswendy's profile for example, she has really nice photo's all doing something different. Now as far as these people with multiple profiles, I was thinking about it last night while I could not get on the net and I to be honest thought that it is a bit annoying and I thought that RSVP had a rule about this.
Posted by: mstingle at December 23, 2007 9:14 AM
Howard just did nothing for me and I am sure his wife was nice...however they represented our country so here is hoping for something better from The Lodge.
A good one with out any fear junebaby57 is what we should wish for loved ones and everyone else. Hope your Chrissie is fine then, armed forces members can record greeting for their families is that right? Must be hard. One of my close friends has her partner on duty overseas. Petty bickering seems so ridiculous compared to other things going on.
cheers
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 23, 2007 9:04 AM
morning all, finally the sun is out, so I am off to the Bus depot markets for coffee and christmas shopping.
NF....kevein wasn't at the lodge on Friday night...(hehehehelol)
He was in Iraq visiting with my son and the rest of our sons, brothers, partners that are serving with the army at Iraq and not at home with thier famlies this christmas!!! This will be the first chistmas ever with out my older son at home!!
So as John Lennon once said, and this can apply to all concflicts, including blogs.
..so this is christmas, what have we done.............we wish you a very, merry christmas, and a happy new year, lets hope its a good one, without any fear.....war is over....
have a safe and happy one all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 23, 2007 8:55 AM
but surely she's got more going on than her predecessor? oops - shouldn't talk politics.
Posted by: today122 at December 23, 2007 8:36 AM
neuroticfish
Hmmmmmm now why do I like that one better ??.............and for all any of us know (not that I care) Therese might be a very hot little chickybabe !!
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 23, 2007 8:24 AM
nueroticfish
Another "joke" that seeks to perpetuate the myth that women are cold and disinterested !
Yawn.............
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 23, 2007 7:33 AM
flutterby: Don't ever apologise for having a hidden pic. I too have a high profile job and I don't want the people in my local area making me an object of their scorn or gossip about my personal life...Quite frankly, it is none of anybody's business....
And that goes for the fotonutter and his many psychological-only friends and their friends...
And, yeah...it was a great world orgasm day...I think we should have it at least once a week...
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 23, 2007 1:01 AM
Hi all... this is flutterby aka cath and no I dont have multiple personalities! have had the most awesome afternoon/evening/night/world orgasm day with some beautiful friends and had the most fun/laughter in ages! sad to see the blogs seem to have retreated to something thats a little ugly again... I dont have my photo up because the population of Newcastle is relatively small and I have a high visability job with one of the areas biggest employers.. I do have a password protected photo.. adds another dimension entirely... dont want to hide and have nothing to hide.. am extremely open & honest... hence the whole conundrum re photo up or not...
Posted by: flutterby10 at December 23, 2007 12:39 AM
Hi Hiddencharms....send you a personal message through that nice place!
Posted by: brilliantblue at December 23, 2007 12:20 AM
BB: I have to agree with diamondblue. Just because you met him on a sane day, does not mean that he does not have "little people" running around inside of his head.
We all know that I am a Russell Crowe fan-that voice and butt could take me away to la la land forever!... One of his most endearing and fascinating movies is "A Beautiful Mind"...He had different people and a whole life running around inside of his head, that no-one else could see or understand...(based on a true story)...But he learnt to "ignore" his friends, so that he could lead a normal, happy, active, socially-interactive and highly productive life...
I've dealt with my mother's psychotic, bi-polar disorder for about 30 years...BOTH MY BROTHER AN I ARE TESTED REGULARLY FOR ANY SIGNS OR HEREDITARY DISORDER, AND WE ARE CLEAR, TOTALLY CLEAR...and highly successful in our personal lives, loves, family and careers...This is why I can relate to those who do have many personalities floating around cyber space...My mother has about 4 personalities that emerge at different times...My brother and I are 200% behind my poor Dad in trying to stay one step ahead of which psycho will emerge next, and what we have to deal with....the nutters on this site are nothing in comparison with what we deal with in real life...actually, they are very sad imitations...and I hold them in nothing but contempt...
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 23, 2007 12:00 AM
Diamondblue....Eric is real not fake...I just don't understand the abrupt changes in him!
Posted by: brilliantblue at December 22, 2007 11:57 PM
no - db2, I disagree. We can't just assume that all people have no integrity or are just not worthy of our trust. We are social beings, needing relations with those around us, partners or otherwise. And ethical people are all around us, we just have to be wary before we trust and assume honour in others. And we have to trust ourselves and our instincts to be able to do that freely.
This isn't wishful thinking. This is reality, for me anyway. Of course we're all trouble and hurt and complex, that's people and that's life, no flippancy intended. If we assume that all people are without ethics and integrity then we're consigning ourselves to a hardened attitude in isolation, surely.
And this is regardless of whichever "phantoms" are posting or otherwise.
Just thoughts
Posted by: today122 at December 22, 2007 11:52 PM
brilliantblue, dont worry about the integrity of people you think you know. None of us know anything--I know we really need to trust, but in the end, it is better to remove yourself from really needing anyone to be ethical and honest, and enjoy people for what WE are: complex, troubled, hurt, but still trying. I don't expect people to be some ideal, I respect them for getting on with life--when it really is difficult. ERicky is fake and not what you thought, but that's OK--that's just how it is. I need to accept that as well about everyone. We are what we have been raised to be. That's it.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 11:38 PM
Everyone has their opinion and views on other people. That doesn't make anyone right or wrong, just different. And that's what makes the world go round. If everyone agreed how boring would it be.
One person's version of another, personal, anonymous or real, is theirs, and doesn't take anything away from a totally different view held by someone else. So just agree to disagree. It ain't rocket science.
Posted by: today122 at December 22, 2007 11:37 PM
weta: that's OK, I'm cool--let's just let it all roll out by itself.
To me, Brane is quite damaging to people on the blogs, to you, he is a lovely person. So does that make me wrong, and you right?
Seriously, I find his persona troubling, and fascinating. It is not personal--I don't know the REAL person at all. Just commenting about what appears in virtual reality.
Goodnight everyone--I'm just another blogger.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 11:23 PM
Eric....what is going on with you?
You can be such a gentleman in real life....but a complete a...hole on the blogs sometimes!
Its like you have two persona's!
Posted by: brilliantblue at December 22, 2007 11:22 PM
Eric: I'm not the delusional one, darling boy. while you think you are funny, I do find you a terrible bore...as many have commented lately: we should just let the 2.5 people, witht he 23 different personalities rule the blogs....you do seem to have so much fun talking to yourself and your many little "mind friends"...
Sorry sweetcakes...you do bore me...and I could probably manage another game with my new toy before he goes to work...
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 22, 2007 11:19 PM
BB sorry I posted that question, hi secretk!!!!!!!! I have not met any bloggers and they were going on about brane. I think secretk and brane are real. Am I? You would not know...but what a waste of time that would be (for me!!!) Really no, sorry I am just me...one of about 3 bloggers from Adelaide. The others seem to have gone off the blog. BB, the rubbish should stop, that is right.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 11:10 PM
Hi again db2......
...it ain't a competition.....and I'm not blogging You to win.....I've only commented about Brane......I don't know about the other potential multiple profiles......
.......I have no reason to believe Brane is any one other than whom he presents himself to be......
.....I spent many years working in both prison and community correctional settings......and I have learned to be very circumspect when people speculate about actions and identities without any empirical evidence.......saying it is so doesn't make it so......
...my blogs to you were not meant to be personally critical......they were intended to focus on the facts as I know them about Brane.....
......You don't need to leave the blogs......
...none of us are immune to occasionally misinterpreting......
...weta....
Posted by: weta at December 22, 2007 11:09 PM
Ericky: Where were you? Slinging insults at someone that you have never met, never contacted and know nothing about...
To quote a very dear male friend of mine: it only takes a 2% man to sling shit, abuse, humiliate and offend a woman...and hide behind his aliases to try to bring them down to their less than effectual level....A true man, with all of his mental, emotional and physical capacities running at 100% capacity, does not have to put a lady down...swear, curse, belittle, bemoan, or hide behind fake personas, to get their attention....or to try to exert non-existent power and influence over said woman...
I do enjoy sparring with you, you old loony, but quite frankly, I am terribly bored by the "me Tarzan-you Jane" scenario...everyone knows that Cheetah was the winner in that relationship....
Sweet dreams, Eric...May Christmas bring you everything you deserve...
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 22, 2007 11:09 PM
junebaby57 Happy Christmas. I generally can suspend belief in this blog. I really do not care who people are and believe that people are closer to who they pretend they are than maybe they think. I usually do not assume or have expectations. Usually I am detached and live NOW and really do not care heaps about lots of trivial stuff. I love meeting people, find human nature interesting. False profilers from places like Nigeria are far more of a concern that a blogger who has more than one persona. Lots of times the blog is a real h00t. HAPPY NEW YEAR and it is a shame that regular bloggers are put of by shite. Also it is a pity that complaints by a few stop others who want to blog. Although I have been verbally attacked for no proper reason I could see by someone who commented when I did not post to him, it got removed..I have not complained about anyone and would not. I believe in freedom of speech.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 11:07 PM
Secretk is a real person too and another exceptionally nice person!
Don't know where some of you are getting all this rubbish from!
Posted by: brilliantblue at December 22, 2007 11:06 PM
Diamondblue.....I can assure you Brane is very real and a lovely guy...have met him in real life along with others on here!
Posted by: brilliantblue at December 22, 2007 11:01 PM
Eric/morgan-the foto-nutter: It is only 9.35pm here in Qld...not late to be up and running...I do seem to have worn out my new toy and he does have to start work at midnight...
PS Eric: Your lack of discrestion and respect is becoming apparent. when you use private information to try to humiliate other people, you will only make a bigger fool of yourself, rude man....I'm not the one who has complained about you and your rude friends...but you might be really surprised to discover who it really was...and, sweetie, secret women's business tells all...
PPS: Would you like me to post a pic of my new toy, JPK and I together, just to prove that we are all separate people and not meer figments of the hyperactive imagination you keep implying that I have? I've done it before, and proven you wrong.
Cheers, sweetie. May you and all of the people in your head that you hold near and dear, have a very happy Christmas and holiday season....
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 22, 2007 10:57 PM
Hiddencharms: You absolutely must not accept that this person has any power or influence over you. You are a person of integrity, and you must not let troubled, anally retentive people into your thoughts, your life. There is so much more out there. Be confident in yourself. And same to everyone. Fun and laughter is one thing--fu***** with people is a whole different thing and the good peole on these blogs need to let everyone know what you will and won't accept. Even if that includes not accepting my stuff.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 10:55 PM
come on. stop this rubbish, people. Yeah - I know i posted my bit earlier on, but this is turning into just so many stupid little school yards comments again so quickly. dolphin46 - exactly. How about the name calling and the "he said, she said" stops. Or the only people who'll be on here will the 2 1/2 people who inhabit the 23 personalities that everyone's talking about. paranoia or otherwise. and the one who throws the bombs just still sits there laughing
Posted by: today122 at December 22, 2007 10:55 PM
Dolphin, Jewels, ninaschen, weta: it's OK! You win--they are real, and sane and wouldn't hurt a fly. I understand.
Bye for now, and sincerely, I hope you find what you are really looking for.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 10:48 PM
diamondblue: Ericky/morgan-whoever his little friends whisper to him is calling me the "charmlesspieceofguttertrash".... unfortunately, I have become accustomed to his "charms"...don't take offence, he is only trying to hit me below the belt....not you...
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 22, 2007 10:40 PM
ericky (aka jedi and foto) is real, i have met him in person at a bloggers meet in Sydney, along with Brane, 2 separate people!! And they are both lovely, sane people.
These guys are not chingchong, babblon or kyotohilton!!! Kyoto admitted he was under a few alias's on the blogs, but he was a young guy, a lot younger than the usual bloggers!!!
ODE is another separate person, have had emails with him. He is having trouble posting in real time, so can't participate at the moment.
Neuroticfish, a man of many faces , don't know him so can't comment!!!
The problem is that you should not say things about others unless you know for sure and have proof. It gets everyone excited, and a lot of untruths and nastiness gets sprayed around the blogs, pushing us regulars away as we get the shits with all the rubbish...
so now I will gracefully retreat..have a safe and happy christmas all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 22, 2007 10:31 PM
I think Weta is a bit busy at the moment, DiamondBlue. Did you have a message for him? I could pass it on. He lives just around the corner.
Though Weta has a rather impressive brain, I can vouch that he isn't Brane the Besotted.
Posted by: ninaschen at December 22, 2007 10:29 PM
....hello again diamondblue2.....
...yes, I am here...my profile is currently visible - but I'll be hiding it again at midnight.......I can only take a certain amount of the rsvp temple....then I need to withdraw and reflect and ruminate......
......I really only blogged tonight to defend Brane's integrity......from what I know of him here and in other blogs, he is no one other than Brane....
....and I am no one other than weta.....
Posted by: weta at December 22, 2007 10:29 PM
Just when the blogs become a pleasure again all the venom pops back again. db2 it maybe the wording of your posts that gets on peoples nerves. I am one of the bloggers who has met brane, and he is real, he is one person and a male. He along with all of us has differing opinions on things. Can we not make things so personal, and respect each others right to post comments without indulging in name calling.
Posted by: dolphin46 at December 22, 2007 10:26 PM
Sorry morgan etc etc, could you repeat that please? It didn't make sense to me. Re my other personas, well, other people on the blogs are not stressed by this matter, so why should you be? Just enjoy the conversation!
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 10:24 PM
OK--it is all rather incestuous--
How come all your "niceness" has disappeared guys?
I'm not about to disappear--
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 10:14 PM
db2 I have to admit that I do like tallish guys also. Maybe it is imprinted into us.
NF your profile is hidden...are you updating it, not that you need to surely. Am refreshing my memory again as to what you bloggers all look like.
ijst54, very sensible comments from yourself..we should just blog pleasantly and we do not need to be paranoid. today122 if people we do not know are taking the mickey? and they may not be, well it does't matter : )
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 10:13 PM
OK--I'm a charmlesspieceofguttertrash to you morganstanleyfotomanwhateverblah blah blah. I have brought out your best haven't I.
BTW--It's only ten past eight in WA--so you might be up too late, but I'm not. Go for it baby. Let it all go.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 10:09 PM
And no DB Weta is NOT Brane.. geez why don't you just get over it and move on.... You do know that a lot of people who blog on here have actually met each other in person?? Weta is also a lovely guy who I have not had the pleasure of meeting as yet.. but some of our Melbourne bloggers have!!
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 22, 2007 10:08 PM
Well DB I can tell you don't want to ever be nice.. and for YOUR information I have met Brane in person and from what I have read in your last blog he is more honest, compassionate then you could ever wish to be... So compute that!!!!!!!
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 22, 2007 10:04 PM
seraphsuzie, I don't ever want to be "NICE", but I am honest and compassionate. I truly believe brane is sending everyone up, because his comments are often nasty, sarcastic, toxic, and then he writes sentimental, soppy, drenched in honey poetry.
It just doesn't compute.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 10:02 PM
What a way to spend World Orgasm day, ijst54 you reminded me...diamondblue2 I liked the songs Brane posted...
morganstanley what you said about family is fair enough for some, but I have a great circle of friends.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 9:59 PM
...hi again diamondblue2......
...there is no "if"........Brane IS really Brane.....
Posted by: weta at December 22, 2007 9:58 PM
I happen to think Brane's poetry is fantastic... I do think it is a bit rude DB to point out that someones poetry is 'terrible' just because you don't happen to like it.. Ever heard the saying.. "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all?'
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 22, 2007 9:53 PM
Diamond blue: paranoia, or creating the sense of paranoid anxiety, is the major source of amusement and personal satisfaction for some people on these blogs...
Ericky AKA: jedireutrns, morganstanley,kyotohilton, babblon, chingchong and many other little people who run around inside of his head, thinks he is funny...amusing...witty...but can't work out why his rude, offensive, abusinve and swear-ridden posts are taken off the site....
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 22, 2007 9:49 PM
Istj54: Most of us have it all worked out...We're not totally stupid...just a little bit, some of the time...
I do have to wonder, though, what it must be like having all of these "personalities" running around inside your head? Do they bang around on your cranium walls and give you a headache? Supress arteries and blood and oxygen supply, making you hyperventilate and parylise bodily movement? Maybe run back and forth from left to right side and totally corrupt your rational thinking processes?
As you and I are both in the same line of work, we both know that Ritalin and Desamphetamine works well, but definitely not when mixed with alcohol...
As for Brane, will putmyself on a limb and say that he is not one of the many confused personalities running riot on the blogs...
Mistingle...we all know who she is...Duh...
Posted by: hiddencharms at December 22, 2007 9:45 PM
misswendy--what made me think brane couldn't be real is his terrible poetry which just sounds like a send up or a parody. Sorry Brane if you are real.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 9:42 PM
NF Christmas time is commonly a time for indulgence...if someone makes you a trifle or plum pudding do you decline it? If mstingle wants to bake, good for her. Personally even though I am a (not strict) vegetarian the crayfish description was yum. I am not bothered if anyone wants to bake lots at this time of year. Years ago, I decided Christmas was not for overindulging. You know the whole eat too much then the whole family sits around watching cricket or that yacht race.. I do not care who is not following a fitness program right now or not. If you want to share exercise tips with me, go for it. We have a Fun ?? Run called the City to Bay and I am going to enter it this year. Cheers to you and hope you enjoy being slim at this time of year then : )
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 9:40 PM
Diamondblue2 - Welcome to the blogs and enjoy those wines! I don't normally comment on the multiples because I don't really care but you are totally wrong with Brane he is real and he has met someone so therefore has a hidden profile and no longer blogging.
Posted by: misswendyxx at December 22, 2007 9:38 PM
istj54: Please don't think I'm getting paranoid--or wanting others to become paranoid. You are all intelligent enough to cope with what's going on--and as you said, what does it matter if people have multiple personas? So long as they are not causing discomfort and hurt. I really can't bear that.
Weta: how do you know brane is brane, seriously.
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 9:38 PM
ijst54 OK point taken, I suppose it just takes some getting used to...whatever...just ignore my comment and farout some bloggers have been here for a while I guess, so I guess if you all do what you have to. Peace on Earth and Goodwill to All Bloggers (I did not read all the way down the page...)
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 9:30 PM
I know, it's horrible to think that a lot of "fake" stuff is going on here, but on the other hand, it could be fun to join in and have fun. As I said on the relationship matters blog the other night, it's only when people want to hurt others that it all becomes yucky. So, eroticfish, where are you--we all enjoy your brilliant understanding of the world and people, give us all more of your brilliant wit (I'm serious). I have laughed more at your comments than I have laughed at anything lately.
Well, you guessed it, I'm from WA--that's to the WEST of all of you. However, I was born in Melbourne and lived there till I was 15. Perth is a gorgeous place--fresh, open, full of diversity, lacking in an anxious past, has the whitest sand in Australia, and water the same colour as the Greek Islands. We survive by using arterial water mostly because rain is rare here--I miss the four-seasons in one day of Melbourne, and the more gentle sunlight.
Anyway--back on the topic--to be honest I rate men a little bit :) somehow taller men really attract me--and it's possible I might compromise in another area for the amazing f.eeling I get from being held by a tall man. There are probably shorter men who really would be "better" for me in the long run, but as we have all said, chemistry is still so important, and wonderful.
I have had a wine or two--which means I might read this tomorrow and think OMG you have said too much...but ce la vie . . .
db2
Posted by: diamondblue2 at December 22, 2007 9:29 PM
I meant, I am in my emails and logged in to non RSVP chat while cooking something. We have lives and do not need to be blogging with someone with out a proper persona.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 9:27 PM
morganstanley: honestly why do you not put up a bit more info. How intriguing do you thing no profile info is??? I looked at your profile as you were on the other topic about computer problems. Why bother being on here with no info..surely you could watch a DVD? I am only on here cos I am on some other sites as well. You start dialogue with RSVPers who are on topic and getting on well, but insist on being a mystery. It is not interesting at all.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 9:26 PM
Ericky and Morganstanley have quite openly admitted to being Jedireturns and the fotografer.
Ode is just ODE...and Brane is just Brane and mstingle is certainly not neuroticfish...but may well be a friend of his...and really what does it matter when all we should be doing is reading posts and thinking about them and responding to what is written by them?
Who are we to judge if one person has many personalities...we all wear many hats and behave differently depending on who we are with...or one personality with many profiles?
Don't all start getting paranoid again, which to me is db2's intent. Just keep up the positive, friendly blogging!
Posted by: istj54 at December 22, 2007 9:22 PM
well diamondblue2 how amusing but who is secretk? is she also neuroticfish? or fotographer...personally I loved the sensitivelittlesausage persona and I had coffee with someone who on their profile page looked like a caricature of a sensitive New Age soul..I almost did not meet with the real guy cos of the New Age thing. He was not half as funny as SLS.
OK db2 well nice for you to pop in and obviously someone like me, has no idea about who all the multiple persona people are...and also sometimes you do not actually care. today122 you should post a pic also, I decided to put up all my secondaries again. Ok well I know jedireturns is fotoman cos he said. OK neuroticfish and fotographer, do you actually meet people and have a drink ever? db2 apparantly who we pretend to be is a reflection of who we really are...
I do not even want to imagine what the few people who have multiple personas discuss when they get together??? Seriously db2 I considered doing a pscych topic this year, just for interest. Nice to "meet" you on here. I looked at your profile and someone...misswendyxx maybe can't remember said to suspend all belief on the blog. Well on the upside db2 I am meeting real people in Adelaide, so yay! How long you been around the blog...oh and its fine by me if you do not answer as the blog is not supposed to be for private conversation...this is rather funny and I go with my gut feelings usually.Thanks for the info db2...how fun for the RSVP crew.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 22, 2007 9:22 PM
and misswendyxxx - no, not offended, of course not. Just explaining is all. And it's just weird to run into someone who knows someone who knows someone else who knows you.
And I didn't know the population of Brisbane, so there you go!
Posted by: today122 at December 22, 2007 9:20 PM
diamondblue2. well I hope I haven't been conned again. I figured out a couple of them, but not the miss tingle. bit sick of this. yeah - we may all have multiple personalities, but some of us can keep them to an acceptable level, and some use it to take the mickey, and may need something more than a bex and a good lie down. so come in spinner, me, yet again.
how do we know if anyone's for real? am I? are you? sick of it.
Come on guys. how about some time off for christmas?
Posted by: today122 at December 22, 2007 9:12 PM
Blog now closed; thank you for your comments!
Posted by: rsvpproducttest at December 24, 2007 9:46 AM