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Love Affair
We have all dreamed of having a love affair that takes our breath away at just the thought of him/her. Is it possible for everyone to have such an affair?
Like everything in life, all you need to do is go out there and get it. Is it easy to find someone to have such relationship at a bar or online for those with more discerning tastes?
Posted by November 26, 2007 4:10 PM
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..& Aliane (hahaha.. again!)
..I went to look at your profile, but it's hidden. I have stamps I certainly won't be using now, & I wanted to send you an email to say hello!
I've contacted rsvp to ask if I can pass on my unwanted stamps to friends on the site who can't afford them at present... we'll see what they say... maybe they'll surprise us!
Anyway- my profile is also hidden- but if you make yours visible for a few minutes when we are both online, I'll be able to send the email to you, & say hi properly! I'd like that.
I have always loved what you say..
you are such fun!!
Posted by: decoratress at December 7, 2007 11:31 AM
Aliane..
Re your post:
"..he wil Not raised his fist to "Punch"..if you don't do wrong and make mistake (deserved by your own faults).."
While I'm not 100% sure of your meaning, it sounds like you're saying it's ok for a man to punch a woman.. if she does 'wrong' and 'makes a mistake'.. and 'deserves it' in some way.... ?
I don't want to assume my interpretation is correct, but if it is... I have to disagree strongly...
No woman should be hit by a man.
(Just as no man should be hit by a woman... in this scenario, the physical damage may be less, but the psychological damage is equally disastrous).
Posted by: decoratress at December 7, 2007 11:08 AM
Aliane..... you are beautiful!!!
Yes! You got it!!!
I'm happy & excited...
love&peace
Posted by: decoratress at December 7, 2007 10:48 AM
Hi there Aliane....
hahaha! Lurker is fully occupied elsewhere at the moment..
I am keeping him busy.
Posted by: decoratress at December 6, 2007 8:09 PM
sorry lost the first bit, hang on...This bit goes before the part below. copyn and pasting and being spun around by the sign in system....
WnW
Great sex was part of my relationship with my ex, he was not faithful in the and I ended up actually being dissapointed when he came home from work. cos he had band night, practice night for the darn band night,
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 6, 2007 11:14 AM
he darn band night, 10 pin bowling night...practice..then he became a car salesman..
Boyfriend 1 was nice but almost had a stress attack if he could not find a carpark..you know u go to town for a date but have to park car first. He was very stress prone to situations where u need patience. Also thought the kids should be quiet. He tried. It was trying.
Boyfriend 2
nice but secretly in love with his mates wife. Loved her since school. I was a fill in for 2 years while he waited for her to break up finally with her abusive husband. If i had to choose between great sex or having a soul mate ect see NFs list. For some reason if I could choose one and not the other...i really think...
boyfriend 3 wanted me to hit him. He was used to abuse and wanted to be hit.
I divorced about 12 years ago
... i think. But if it happens of course the whole deal would be great. WnW of course sex is a vital and should be wonderful part of a relationship...
you have to consider where some of us are coming from. If its all or nothing...which it is for me. Living in hope hey.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 6, 2007 11:12 AM
.Who will be the First Bloggers to be featured in Success Stories? found true LOVE;
Posted by: aliane at December 4, 2007 9:58 PM
now thats an interesting topic for conversation.................maybe we could have odds....
Posted by: twoeyes at December 6, 2007 9:32 AM
Hey, what is is with these bloggs, getting bounced around all over the blace like a blindfolded Melbournian stumbling thru Sydney? Are they just trying to confuse us, disperse us, lose us, or is Big Brother (Sister?) drunk! Maybe it's a test to only let intelligent/persistent boggers blog, I mean bloggers bog, I mean... you know... weed out the dyslexic, bad spellers, directionally challenged, dazed and confused (like me!)... just kidding - silly silly mood now! Spent ages typing a post, and now have to re-do it all again!
Oh well... resilience :)
Thanks Trumanscat. No I'm not into ball games, more just peaceful co-existence.
Couldn't have been the same guy Ninaschen, mine asked me to be "exclusive" and was very "actively pursuing/wooing" with beautiful flowers and exclusive dates. But for what, that is the mystery? I seriously get the impression that a lot of people are looking for quite different things, even tho they use the same words to describe them. But if someone just wants "company and diversion", then a "love affair" is just too "intense", no matter how slow you go! (3 months before even the first kiss??)
Maybe it's a control thing - opening up emotionally takes one out of one's depth... But then that's the beautiful thing about love - it takes two - hence it's almost mythical attraction to experience something greater beyond oneself...
I'm a surfer, so it doesn't bother me :) I like the feeling of letting go and going with the flow... it's one of life's most beautiful experiences... kissing souls not just lips.... mmmm... just not the same without the heart in it. Too many emotionally scarred/crippled/frozen/unavailable people in the world. They just confuse the rest of us! All I can do is feel sorry for them - Tin men - missing out big time!
No, I'm not settling for convenient "friends with benefits" (even if he does pay!) :)
Posted by: riversong1 at December 6, 2007 9:22 AM
Hi Seraphsuzie and all, I am having trouble blogging, hope to see you Sunday.
Posted by: dolphin46 at December 6, 2007 7:18 AM
If I didn't know better, Riversong, I would swear we were talking about the same person! Oh, well. Back to the drawing board.
It was better than a picnic, Riversong. A veritable feast, in fact. We had 17 bloggers get together for lunch and a chat. Great fun.
Posted by: ninaschen at December 5, 2007 10:30 PM
Welcome back both Riversong1 & thelynaithdiary, where have you been girls?
TLD did you bring your bat & ball back with you? Just teasing you my a adversary... Nice to see you back, just don't annoy me or it will be on again! ;~)
Posted by: trumanscat at December 5, 2007 10:27 PM
Ahh ok junebaby.. I will see how I go. I would prefer it earlier then 3pm.. Karen has my email and details ...
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 5, 2007 10:11 PM
Hi Seraphsuzie
I think fotografer organised it, I will send him an email. I am hoping to get to karen's by about 12. We could probaly get into the city by 1.OOpm which would be great as we could do lunch somewhere near the water? I could send you an email on that other site maybe ? I am driving back to canberra, so would like to leave sydney by about 6.00pm. It should be a gr8 arvo...jewels.
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 5, 2007 9:54 PM
Thanks Ninaschen. I found a "friend" at about the same time you did 6 months ago. Interesting lesson, relevant to this blog - putting the time and effort in to build a slow grow friendship first doesn't necessarily help an emotionally unavailable man become any less emotionally unavailable! So much for "love" affair :(
Gee - did you have a picnic? Yep, sorry to have missed it. Next time.
Posted by: riversong1 at December 5, 2007 9:34 PM
Hey dolphin.. if we could make the time a bit earlier then 3pm it would be much easier for me.. I have work the next day. and will have to travel on the train.. and really don't fancy doing that at night by myself coming out west..
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 5, 2007 7:38 PM
Yes! Yes! Yes! My breath was taken away when I first saw him across a crowded floor in a club. I leant over to my friend and said I just had to meet him.We bumped into one another a couple of hours later and our eyes locked and that was it!
The next twelve months were amazing,waking up thinking of him and going to bed at night with the same thoughts. We spent every spare moment we had together. My heart flipped each time I saw him.Never had I had these type of feelings before in my life.Sadly,the relationship ended.Yes, I am sad it didn't turn out the way I wanted but amazingly enough I feel blessed that I have experienced such powerful emotions.
ps. on another issue..when it is time to discuss profile suspension?I have dated a man for two months now and it hasn't been discussed.I am happy to take my profile off if he feels comfortable about it.If he doesn't,well,I will start to date others.What do others think?
Posted by: romanceme4ever at December 5, 2007 6:00 PM
PS candles not the only thing to be careful of.... gas heaters too close to the lounge not a good idea in the heat of the moment either. No scars but a lot of laughter.
Posted by: dolphin46 at December 5, 2007 1:25 PM
Junebaby, great to read you and karencholat coming on Sunday. Please Seraphsuzie can you make it too?
Woodnwine you sound like a very switched on thinker. Find myself agreeing with a lot of your posts.And have to say ditto to Enigma as well.
Posted by: dolphin46 at December 5, 2007 1:13 PM
@ woodnwine- I couldnt agree more, all very important points for a healthy relationship, bought about by open and honest communication.......IMANENIGMA
Posted by: imanenigma at December 5, 2007 10:26 AM
Good for you junebaby57...at least you guys are having a laugh. I have had meetings and a few dates, some dates that led to friendships. I have good male friends but that is it at the moment. Waiting for the real thing. Settling for less did not cut it for me but others have nice interactions with delightful men even if not long term. Perhaps you know what you are looking for! I am not looking, would play scrabble online with my overseas pal but its not possible with our computer situation. I am apparently seeing what happens with my interest in April...oh and just stop reading everyone else
dressing up is coool junebaby57 maybe we can have a chat at a meeting one day. Oh and can I say that Farmerwants awife1 or 2 ? who I saw on my page..looks nice. Check him out. Could be a blogger meet he can go to or someone closer geographically. sorry for repeat postings. when a post fails now for me, it turns up. what could i change my name to? Toga parties...i have to tell you about one last year jbby.......
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 5, 2007 9:59 AM
Happycamper123 - I like your posts, you seem very grounded but I must comment on your comment:
"There has to be chemistry but I dont worry too much about the sex side of it, that all takes care of its self, all in good time.
Posted by: happycamper123 at December 4, 2007 7:05 PM"
and Slightsynchronicity "Sex is not that important. Its all the other stuff.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 5, 2007 12:15 AM"
Ladies, don't assume that just because you get on really well with someone that the sex will be good or please don't think it doesn't matter. You may be missing a very important point there to having a truly successful relationship. I am talking quality, not quantity, but I think good sex is a big part of a successful relationship, linked closely with intimacy, trust, compassion, understanding and valuing the other person.
Just some thoughts from a crazy (try-hard) male.
Posted by: woodnwine at December 5, 2007 9:59 AM
Good Morning all, another day for work and blogs (didn't mention the weather, must be getting a life!!)
hi SSY, I want it all, but do settle for less while I am on the "great search" a girl has gotta have fun.... it would be like a marathon runner never picking up his water supplies while on the run!!!!!if we never took less occasionally!!!
iamanenigma, I get the sheet, right, I look good in a Toga, actally have worn a sheet to parties twice in the past!!! once as a slave to a pirate and once as a roman to a toga party....probably need a bigger sheet these days!! And keep the candles away from the bed next time!! You painted a hilarious picture, cracked me up!!!
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 5, 2007 8:04 AM
I think lust is a wonderful thing.......
Posted by: istj54 at December 4, 2007 8:17 PM
Girls,girls,girls!......love, lust ,intimacy, passion,sex etc.....and with the lights on!....you are making me...........nervous!!!......next you will be suggesting, daytime,outdoors, public places!.......busted,charges, lewd conduct.......great story to tell though!!....@miserable old cow, thanks for the kiss! No, you are not hoping for too much! ya gotta keep looking. Me, I'm gunna find it or die trying!.......IMANENIGMA
Posted by: imanenigma at December 4, 2007 9:33 PM
BRING IT ALL ON***************** WITH ALL THE BELLS AND WHISTLES THAT GO WITH IT
Posted by: twoeyes at December 5, 2007 1:52 AM
hahaha i have a tear in my eye from laughing my head off again. yeah IMANENIGMA find what your looking for or die trying thats the spirit. what a jolly scene below and firemen too. Nice! Good to have a laugh. What is wrong with going to the beach...
If the choice was to choose one: sex or companionship and /or love or similar. You could only choose one and not have the other..I would choose the second. Sex is not that important. Its all the other stuff.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 5, 2007 12:15 AM
imanenigma
Candles........naked flames..........curtains...........made that very mistake a long long time ago !! Still sets me laughing every time I think about it, and remember trying to put it out with the closest thing to hand, a bottle of milk !!! Very mood setting, giggle giggle.........
Jen
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 4, 2007 11:57 PM
Ah, thats the spirit junebaby57!...and the candles....oh yeah!....sets the mood.....BUT....in the throws of unbridled passion, clothes,legs and arms thrown about....a naked flame....curtains...I can see you,me,woodnwine and istj54 standing out in the street, wearing nothing but sheepish grins and the one sheet we managed to save, as the fireman put out the flames!.....thus ending the great, four in the bed with mood setting candles experiment of "07"....IMANENIGMA
Posted by: imanenigma at December 4, 2007 11:42 PM
Riversong! Welcome back! Damn. You missed the lunch on the weekend. It would have been wonderful if you could have been there. Next time, maybe!
WaterBombe - you said: "but I wouldn't lie to Ninaschen, who is a good friend now (and whom I met through these blogs). So hand on heart, and Ninaschen can vouch for my honesty here, I am not ODE."
Yes, I will unequivocally vouch for your honesty, WaterBombe. And I have to say that I am really touched that you think my opinion may mean something to our fellow bloggers.
The bonus of special friendships with people such as WaterBombe, Decoratress, Rocco, TrumansCat, Weta, AuntyKaz, WoodnWine, AmDoingIt, Malsie etc etc etc is such an unexpected and delightful bonus of being a part of RSVP and the blogs. My life has been enriched by them all.
If others on the blogs have the opportunity, take advantage of invitations to blogger get-togethers that are organised in your area (and beyond). I doubt you will be disappointed.
I have a tear in my eye. But maybe it is just that dratted (I was going to say bloody, but with the strict moderating that is happening lately, I thought I might be censored) stray eyelash.
Posted by: ninaschen at December 4, 2007 10:27 PM
iamanengima, woodnwine and istj54 and the rest on this blog, it seems to be the fun one at the moment, so lets have fun in the park or at the beach, need a towel of course, god that takes me back to teenage years!!! and maybe not lights on but candles are very kind!!!
Good luck seraphsuzie, will you be at the catch up on sunday, I am coming down, am picking karenchocolat up on the way in from canberra...little details still to work out.
Have a lovely and lustful evening all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 4, 2007 10:24 PM
Girls,girls,girls!......love, lust ,intimacy, passion,sex etc.....and with the lights on!....you are making me...........nervous!!!......next you will be suggesting, daytime,outdoors, public places!.......busted,charges, lewd conduct.......great story to tell though!!....@miserable old cow, thanks for the kiss! No, you are not hoping for too much! ya gotta keep looking. Me, I'm gunna find it or die trying!.......IMANENIGMA
Posted by: imanenigma at December 4, 2007 9:33 PM
Hi jenjen.. thanks for the compliment... :-) Loved your profile.. you seem very lovely..
Thanks graceandcharm.. I think I may need lots of courage yet.. hehe will see I guess..
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 4, 2007 9:03 PM
istj54
" I think lust is a wonderful thing......."
Is it ?? I've forgotten.......sigh
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 4, 2007 8:23 PM
...and keep those lights on....
Posted by: istj54 at December 4, 2007 8:18 PM
I think lust is a wonderful thing.......
Posted by: istj54 at December 4, 2007 8:17 PM
Im looking for someone who despite their faults and our differences (because I dont have any faults ;-))we have respect and honesty and a desire to build a lasting relationship. There has to be chemistry but I dont worry too much about the sex side of it, that all takes care of its self, all in good time.
Posted by: happycamper123 at December 4, 2007 7:05 PM
Wow i am less shallow than i feared. WnW look if you scroll down...i did not have lust in my list from.
3.49 am..so happy
WnW "desire,intimacy, love, sex, commitment, respect and humor." is what i wrote: intimacy including emotional which would cover connection ect..
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 4, 2007 6:26 PM
jenjen57 that phrase...sounded good at 2am but then looking at the horrible phrase in the cost of dating blog, no we are not that shallow. I added one of those words. Intimacy can mean emotional intimacy surely. Don't tell me all I have to do is read the Secret and say it then write it in my little journal. Havent read the Secret. LOL
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 4, 2007 6:14 PM
woodnwine: you are right the important things are companionship, laughter, caring and sharing it is hard to clarify...of course shared values, connection. Yes definitely I agree with what you say..but for some of us it is a distant memory, we struggle to depict it romantically. No I don't want lust. The real thing or nothing.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 4, 2007 6:07 PM
Hi ladies,
Dont laugh at us in bed.....its shrinkage!!!
Bob
Posted by: notgodsgift at December 4, 2007 10:25 AM
RSVP - I am getting giddy from being thrown around all over the blogs. I click on something, get something else, sign in and get thrown back to the main menu, post and get thrown out again. My head is spinning!
Posted by: woodnwine at December 4, 2007 9:22 AM
waterbomber, junebaby57, miserableoldcow - we all deserve the best and needn't settle for less. It's just difficult to find the person who shares our values, desires and interests. We have all known, been out with or perhaps married to fabulous people but we didn't share these things with them so it didn't work. Now, about all this talk of lust, intimacy, love and sex. Ouch!
Posted by: woodnwine at December 4, 2007 9:21 AM
oh, don't worry about finding the right guy before you get old, junebaby57, I've found (unexpectedly) that age doesn't limit your chances, contrary to what the magazines and media say. Lots of men have a good deal of common sense about the appeal of older women. Some don't, but you wouldn't want them anyway, would you, you'd want someone whose opinions you could respect. DON"T settle for a second-best guy because you think your time is running out...it won't run out, believe me, I'm a very happy quilter.
BTW I heard that a few people think I'm OnlineDatingExpert. They think I created another profile to blog as ODE ... but unfortunately no, I'm not ODE.
I admire his writing and I wish I could write like that, but I can't. Now, the question is, would I lie to you? Well, I might, it would depend on the circumstances....but I wouldn't lie to Ninaschen, who is a good friend now (and whom I met through these blogs). So hand on heart, and Ninaschen can vouch for my honesty here, I am not ODE.
Posted by: waterbombe at December 4, 2007 8:34 AM
good morning all, it is grey and so wet in the Kapital, it is fabulous, did any one else get a lot of rain in this wide brown land of ours? (sorry pixiemagic, just had to do it!!!)
I also want it all, lust and sex (which is easy to achieve) love (which is a lot harder to find) laughter, intimacy, respect and the C word...commitment! or the 2 R words...a Relationship with the Right person.....am I being greedy??? will true love happen again before I look old?????
(LOL I am on a deadline here, won't look and feel younger forever!!!heheheh!!! I should explain, have inherited good skin and hair from Dutch dad, and longevity, my Opa lived till 100, so will I!!!!!!)
Where is Mr Right???
Have a lovely day all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 4, 2007 7:14 AM
miserableoldcow
Hi !! Lust,intimacy,love,sex,helpless laughter...........yep, I wouldn't say no !! According to "The Secret" don't we just have to want it badly and think about it all the time and it will come true........? Lol
Jen
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 4, 2007 6:42 AM
Seraphsuzie
Saw you said you had unhidden your profile so I peeked......hope you dont mind.....you have gorgeous fabulous hair! Good luck with your interstate romance !
Jen
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 4, 2007 6:36 AM
LOL, I tried to read and lurk without loggin on. Cracking up laughing. Yeah I am holding out for that too..desire,intimacy, love, sex, commitment, respect and humor. I think I have to leave Adelaide. ROLFMAO
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 4, 2007 3:49 AM
Oh! and helpless laughter....I want that too...
Posted by: miserableoldcow at December 4, 2007 12:50 AM
lust, intimacy, love and sex....we all want the magical mix of these ingredients...and once experienced it is difficult to settle for less...
I for one hope to experience this again...am i hoping for too much??...
Posted by: miserableoldcow at December 4, 2007 12:45 AM
I think there's a world of difference between "lust" affairs and "love" affairs. There are a lot of recycled singles terrified of the "L" word. So yes, while I have experience love affairs in the past, in this fast paced, disposable, on-line perfect fantasy cyber world, I think love affairs are much harder to find :)
Posted by: riversong1 at December 4, 2007 12:30 AM
Best of luck with everything Seraphsuzie,I so admire your courage and willingness to date someone from another state,I think that says alot about a person.
Posted by: graceandcharm at December 3, 2007 11:08 PM
Junebaby pets rule and thanks for the other days comment letting me know that it is normal to look at bloggers profiles : )
Onlinedating expert, i looked and it was not there...my eyesight is failing...I thought they censored it. Farout. Well I cant find it. sausagesizzle reckons u r a female....
I do have a dating lack of advice situation I wanted to discuss with you. I only have one stamp left..it is a dilemna : ) Thanks for the heads up.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 3, 2007 9:29 PM
woodnwine most nites I log in out, ect lots up to 7 or 8 times. have to copy and paste, relog. Lose my ideas. some bloggers can not even get on I heard. Tis strange. Then 2am ish there is often noone there. Then it works.
Hi bloggers
Laughter is great. Humour is a good attribute for a friend or partner to have. Probably wont get back on til 2am. So wont bother later.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 3, 2007 9:23 PM
@seraphsuzie- enjoy! and best of luck!!.....IMANENIGMA ;-)
Posted by: imanenigma at December 3, 2007 8:07 PM
Oh by the way I have unhidden my profile.. just cause.... ;-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 3, 2007 7:59 PM
Hi imanenigma.. thanks for your reply... and you too waterbombe.. All advice taken onboard to chew over..
This man is definitely not a wordsmith..No pretty words.. just him telling it like it is.. He does what he says he is going to do in terms of calling etc. Tells me what he has been up to with his children.. who I have spoken to..
Perhaps my dislike of him still chatting to other women is a little of my own insecurity shining through after being burnt a bit with the whole dating scene.. I guess the test will come when we meet in person.. Till then I am just going to enjoy getting to know him better.. :-) Nice to know that people care enough to give me advice when I ask for it.. thanks again
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 3, 2007 7:56 PM
no, twoeyes, sex is the best fun you can have without laughing, and if you do it properly, you can laugh too.
Posted by: waterbombe at December 3, 2007 7:45 PM
I sometimes think laughter shared is one of "the" most special things you can have with a fellow human being....and yes, there may be more satisfying things to do Twoeyes, the laughter at that time takes it to a higher level...JMO!
Shared laughter about something is often when you look deep into each others eyes know that you are in love with this person!
Posted by: istj54 at December 3, 2007 4:52 PM
Wow, things are going hay wire - what ever you click on you don't get it, you get something else. Now we not only have to log in twice, we have to click in twice. Teething problems I hope.
Posted by: woodnwine at December 3, 2007 4:06 PM
@seraphsuzie- I think waterbombe & junebaby57 and others have kinda nailed it!....and not wanting to rain on your parade or sound negative, for I wish for everyone to find that elusive partner we all seek, but as we have all seen here , there are plenty of "charming wordsmiths" in the world! If a person is open,honest and can speak from the heart, thats great!....Just be cautious of "what is" and "what we want" something to be......Me, I'm a total romantic, believe in the fairytail, love the whole be passionate, throw caution to the wind thing!...... a big fan of the saying "leap! and the net will appear!".......But, realise if it doesnt, someone's gunna get hurt!......IMANENIGMA
Posted by: imanenigma at December 3, 2007 12:15 PM
That was me and there is nothing better than laughing in bed....that would be an affair that would never end.
Posted by: istj54 at December 3, 2007 7:21 AM
arent there better things to do than laugh???????????????
Posted by: twoeyes at December 3, 2007 10:32 AM
slightsynchronicity - it's in the First Impressions blog, not this one :-)
Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at December 3, 2007 10:16 AM
Hi istj54, yes I have to agree with waterbombe re the laughing in bed thing. Fabulous if you have a relationship that is full of laughter, but in the end you have to be on the same page about your goals, morals, ambitions etc. I had a very very long relationship with someone with whom I laughed a lot, including in bed, but in the end it didnt work because not only were we not on the same page or the same book, we werent even in the same library. Important to have someone you can be silly and serious with. Although after reading some of your posts I am sure you will agree with that sentiment. And it is not that I am disagreeing with your comment, only that it is not enough to make things work long term
Have a lovely day............
Jen
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 3, 2007 8:42 AM
seraphsusie, all the best with meeting up your interest. Yay.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 3, 2007 8:11 AM
oh seraphsusie im sorry, was tired of writing my whole RSVP name, I did not realise you are SS.
OK well some one called me some initials...SSNCTY. or just whatever. How slow was that to notice.
waterbombe if you don't mind me intruding on what you said to seraphsuzie, adding that with for me withe some friends its better to send photos, jokes and not too many words. Good point. some people are more visual. Computer programmers and such are a bit diagramatc in their thinking aren't they? ditto visual artists. so what works for some...
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 3, 2007 8:10 AM
well, no, istj54, even laughing in bed won't save a relationship in the end, in my experience... it seems to depend on how many people your partner likes to laugh in bed with (just joking).
And, SS, maybe the writers can get to know someone a lot better through emails than us non-writers .. I find it hard to get to know someone through writing but I'm not an imaginative writer. I have noticed that engineers etc (can't remember if that's left or right brain but I'm talking about the nuts and bolts side of the brain) are often nicer than their sparse profiles iwould suggest and I've thought, "hmmm, I wonder if this person just isn't a creative imaginative writer?"...they are really nice people and they are not good writers. It doesn't matter because when you get into a relationship you won't be writing to each other (hopefully) but I think it does matter when you are meeting in cyberspace. I think you writers have a definite advantage there, Seraphsuzie. But I'd still go to his state (how far away is he?) and spend a week or several weekends with him pretty shortly, there is no substitute for that. And lots of good luck, I hope it works out for you!
Posted by: waterbombe at December 3, 2007 7:43 AM
Morning guys
A bit gray in the kapital, but the rain is wonderful (sorry pixiemagic, this is how I start a letter).
I agree a bit with iamanengima, femalepersuasion and waterbombe on this one, mostly, as every situation is different.
Seraphsuzie, i understand what you mean. When I first started online dating I did the intense email and phone thing first. One guy was 2 months before we met. (we did go out 12 months last year).
I thought that it was the best way for me, to find out about someone. Emails can be liberating as you can really talk about how you feel. I thought I was really getting to know someone, and you do, but you still have to meet.
I would then meet, and bugger, no attraction or chemistry. I always did a 2nd meeting/date (recently 5-6 dates with 2 guys, but they will be friends) , cause if the spark wasn't there to start with, it never came, and even if they are intelligent and make me laugh, you still need to want them, miss them when they are not around, have the total chemistry!!
Now I do a fast email, webcam, phone call, lets meet, very quickly.
Not that it is going any better, finding the elusive spark that is, but at least I can not get a huge build up before meeting them.
You really have to do what is best for you. And as there is a huge distance, what you are doing is the best way at the moment. I wish you heaps of luck and good karma with this contact.
Have a lovely day all....jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at December 3, 2007 7:37 AM
Waterbombe, That was me and there is nothing better than laughing in bed....that would be an affair that would never end.
Posted by: istj54 at December 3, 2007 7:21 AM
Dear fellow bloggers, my eyes may be failing me...but i can not find ODEs comment and my explanation/apology. Am i imagining things or did RSVP take it down? It was not vitriolic...I dont even know if ODE read it.
Onlinedatingexpert I posted an explanation. It definately got posted. it seemed to be taken off how odd. I put a lot of thought into it and dont think I saved it. In a nutshell , the comment I made was actually a compliment coming from me. Let me know if you read it, hey. If you visit Adelaide I will play pool and have a drink with you if you like and we can talk.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 3, 2007 1:14 AM
BB ok then, i can remember and the blog gets too long to keep scrolling down. Cheers
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 3, 2007 1:05 AM
I can follow the thread with more than one person at a time.. I usually chat to more then 5 people at once every night.. But they are friends.. I am talking about getting to know someone.. completely ...
I can throw out quick replies and chat quite easily.. but when you are talking about really getting to know a person.. taking in everything they tell you.. No I can't do that with more then one person.. But that is just me.
And waterbombe its not easy to spend time with someone a lot if they live in another state..So you get to know them in other ways.. I don't see that as any less real as getting to know them in person.. But I am different I guess... I see the written word as a very powerful tool... (thats the writer in me) and I think we convey more of ourselves online and on the phone then we would face to face.. So you get to know a person in a deeper way in one aspect then in person. I am not saying that face to face is not important ..it's probably the glueing so to speak of the already established rapport and feelings you may have.
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 2, 2007 10:57 PM
jeeex alot gets spoken on here during a 10 hr shift at work lots of reading to do...........
Posted by: twoeyes at December 2, 2007 10:57 PM
Someone asked if it was important for two people to have the same sense of humour...I read this on a dating site somewhere, can't remember where:
"If someone had told me that a shared sense of humour was so vital to a successful relationship, I could have avoided a lot of sex".
Posted by: waterbombe at December 2, 2007 10:37 PM
OMG imanenigma, I think you're saying you can multitask, and aren't you a bloke? And seraphsuzie, I do believe you are saying you can't folllow the thread with more than one person at a time...and I KNOW from Ninaschen that you are definitely a woman. Just goes to prove that people are enormously different and there isn't one way of doing things that will suit all of us.
I'm a woman, and I agree with imanenigma...even if you are talking by phone every second day and emailing all day every day, and it all seems good, you still don't KNOW the other person. You have to see them in person a LOT and it will take a long time to really understand them and I don't think there is anyway around this. There are no short cuts - remember the old saying, Easy Come, Easy Go.
Posted by: waterbombe at December 2, 2007 10:34 PM
This is not on topic I know, but its for slightsynchronicity and everyone else
having computer problems,
Bill Gates goes to Hell and is Allowed To Choose His Own Punishment :-
Satan greets him: "Welcome Mr. Gates, we've been waiting for you. This will be your home for all eternity. You've been selfish, greedy and a big liar all your life. Now, since you've got me in a good mood, I'll be generous and give you a choice of three places in which you'll be locked up forever."
Satan takes Bill to a huge lake of fire in which millions of poor souls are tormented and tortured. He then takes him to a massive coliseum where thousands of people are chased about and devoured by starving lions. Finally, he takes Bill to a tiny room in which there is a bottle of the finest wine sitting on a table. To Bill's delight, he sees a PC in the corner. Without hesitation, Bill says "I'll take this option."
"Fine," says Satan, allowing Bill to enter the room. Satan locks the room after Bill.
As he turns around, he bumps into Lucifer. "That was Bill Gates!" cried Lucifer. "Why did you give him the best place of all!"
"That's what everyone thinks" snickered Satan.
"The bottle has a hole in it!"
"What about the PC?"
"It's got Windows 95!" laughed Satan.
"And it's missing three keys,"
"Which three?"
"Control, Alt and Delete."
Posted by: jenjen57 at December 2, 2007 9:17 PM
@seraphsuzie- Not doing a backflip on this , but I hear you. Only you are aware of the "status" of your particular situation and it may be the exception rather than the rule(eg long distance etc). However as istj54 and aliane have said so well there are different circumstances and I think their comments reflect the rule or the "norm" so to speak. E.G you receive and send some kisses...you get positive feedback from some....do you know enough to pick one yet,no!.....you email,chat (i.e exchange info) getting a feel/vibe for these people.....you may choose to meet one or a few or all of these people.......the "culling" or "selection"process continues (ok,ok but you know what I mean!) perhaps narrowing prospects down to one or two .......and you meet them again......and if you are lucky you may find someone you really click with.......and then you may choose to hide your profile, discuss this with them or whatever!......OR ....none take your fancy...as profiles are false, talk is cheap and reality bites!!!.....and you are back to square one!...Now, I have a positive and open mind, but I'm a realist and I didnt come down in the last shower! and I know when I will hide my profile, what anyone else chooses, is up to them!!...thats as simple as I can say it, I'm not suggesting leading people on or false promises, im being honest!....as for more than two people? c'mon! I chat to people and I know they chat to others, big deal! I dont possess them or them me. We are just getting to know one another. I'm not desperate, needy or ready to grab the first person to show mild interest in me(not saying you are) Thats how bad choices are made, through desperation! I'm all for the head over heals in love thing,believe me! but until then, I'm my own person ,thanks....as I said your situation may be different, so I wish you luck and hope YOU find what YOU desire, ok?....IMANENIGMA
Posted by: imanenigma at December 2, 2007 4:54 PM
imanenigma.. what if it is phone conversations nearly every day. .sharing yourself with that person and as I said making a commitment to travel a long distance to meet them?
I really don't get the 'something better may come along' thing.. even when just initially chatting to someone..
Maybe I am just different .. I prefer to chat to one person at a time.. ..I mean how on earth could you keep up with say more then 2 people anyway? All that stuff you have to remember about them.. way too hard for me.
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 2, 2007 2:55 PM
Iamenigma, I have to agree with you. There is actually only a cyber relationship until you actually do meet the person in the flesh. In the meantime a greater part of the relationship is in our own minds. We project what we want onto this mystery cyberbuddy and sometimes, when you meet it all comes crashing down. We can fel foolish. This is why I think it best to meet very quickly, or be happy to remain penpals and figments.
Posted by: istj54 at December 2, 2007 11:51 AM
to imaneginma
RELAX.
My latest bit about looking over the shoulder was when in a real relationship, not RSVP kisses, whatever.
I think we've all got it now, but, and I'm only speaking for myself, I think we've moved on to later on.
enjoy your Sunday
Posted by: today122 at December 2, 2007 10:40 AM
FAIR DINKUM!! DO YOU PEOPLE ACTUALLY READ THE POSTS???.....I made the remark about someone better or more suitable or however you want to "fluff" it up, being around the corner, in reply to seraphsuzies question "when to hide profile" on the "first impressions" blog. I thought I made it pretty clear (female persuasion got it/agreed!) and no way suggested you do this while involved with or actually dating someone! However if you have only had RSVP,kisses (there not real, by the way!) a few initial emails or some online chat and havn't even met. YOU DONT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP!! ...So I wouldnt hide my profile at this stage!!.....Man!! talk about making a mountain out of the WRONG!! molehill!...........Sigh, try again....Hide your profile, when you proceed to the point of being able to communicate this with your new flame, cos until then....you are just two people meeting for coffee or whatever!........ah, lack of communication, the downfall of many a relationship...EVEN BEFORE THEY START!!....if you dont get it this time, too bad, im over it!....IMANENIGMA
Posted by: imanenigma at December 2, 2007 10:24 AM
No SS wasn't me who blogged about looking over your shoulder....I did however bring up the bit about - if BOTH put the other first...its a pretty good start
Posted by: brilliantblue at December 2, 2007 9:38 AM
to seraphsuzie.
I'm so not shallow, too analytical if anything. I didn't intend to sound that way. I would never in a million years discount anyone on their appearance or initial manner, and how nervous is everyone anyway. But I've found that the initial impression is generally totally spot on, and what I pick up on during a first conversation generally only confirms my immediate impression, without any anticipation. So maybe it's sort of the other way around. And maybe I'm getting better able to "see" people, after so many moons of not having a clue. That's my other ten cents worth I guess!
Posted by: today122 at December 2, 2007 9:06 AM
slightsynchronicity.
Yes I know. And I agree with both your little phrases. Plus - nothing ventured, nothing gained? It was extremely hard, and of course in the end totally foolish. But we do these things. Learn along the way, mostly about yourself really. Cos you ain't gonna learn anything sitting at home with a book, however involving it is! And that's what these sort of things have to be eventually looked back as, an experience, good bad or indifferent, but something that you did at the time. It's if you keep doing it, if you don't learn from it, or if you keep replaying the cringing of it all in your mind, that you're hurting only yourself.
As for the "looking over the shoulder", disposable relationships, that's very sad for both people. For the one doing the waiting for the better option, he/she could have walked away from something very rewarding, but being unable/unwilling to commit, waiting for the perfect one. And does perfection exist outside of hollywood?
Posted by: today122 at December 2, 2007 8:54 AM
today122 hi, I guess post on the one you can get on sometimes. I can not always get let into the system. I don't know where our posts are to refer to. New Years Eve kiss..and he said up front he did not want a committment first. The chemistry was there in a big way but now now as far as I know. He was afraid of commitment and I was afraid of being hurt by someone who would not stay for that reason. I had "unrequited love" a theme of mine for someone else in the circle of friends. He and I could have had a great love affair, who knows? so today122 you went for the romance with the friend and it messed things up. Ohh. That is very sad for you.That is a common fear whether to risk losing a friendship so your choice did not work or mine at the time. How do we know at the time?
1. He who hesitates is lost or
2. Fools rush in where angels fear to tread
My thought is do what you think is the right thing in your heart, be honest. Put the other person before your own wants like someone mentioned in other blogs. And don't look back. Was it BB? who blogged about looking over the shoulder for the better option. Very nasty to have someone as a they will do for now, then drop them when the "better" one comes along. Another blogger (sorry do not remember who) mentioned people treating each other ?? like disposable items or similar. today122 relationships dont run to a formula or whatever. hang in there. SS
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 2, 2007 1:58 AM
SLS, hi how are you? by the way, while having my break from RSVP from May until 3 or so weeks ago...I read these blogs a bit. I did this largely to see what people wrote about long distance online relationships. Also by accident, I stumbled onto the "All Men are Liars Blog". Not all his topics were my cup of tea, but some were very relevant. nyway I blogged on there a teeny bit, before coming back to RSVP. They spoke about LOVE AFFAIRS a bit which is our blog topic. I was not trying to promote the blog and i am sure Sam is a real person.
On topic: Hi everyone..
thinking about love affairs, our blog topic, I just remembered a gigantic crush on a teacher I had, no I was in what i thought was love, "limerance" i believe its called. Any one interested will have to Google it if u want to know, I could not explain it properly!! Some of you may know the word. Like infatuation. Straight after year 12 graduation we.....(to be continued) I was reminded of him when thinking of the topic.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 2, 2007 1:36 AM
today122.. how on earth can you sum someones whole existence up in less then 3 seconds.. That is really shallow to me.. and I think shows a weakness in humans.. to merely look at the outer shell of something rather then dig deeper.. People are not one-dimensional and I think it is a real insult to anyone to just sum them up in 3 seconds..
It would seem that in today's society people are more caught up in beauty and power.. rather than character and spirit.. It says a lot for where we are all headed...
Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 1, 2007 11:27 PM
hello again
I posted my bit on the wrong blog topic, oh well.
And it still ain't raining in the sunshine state.
Slightsynchronicity - cheers for your sense. I also fell for the spark with the long time friend, but foolishly decided the risk was worth it, despite the screaming instincts. Oh well, you live and learn, and slowly get some wisdom along the way. Surely?
cheers
Posted by: today122 at December 1, 2007 8:41 PM
I am in the midst of the most wonderful love affairs of my life....my pets adore me and look at me with adoration, my children...well...love...I remember a month ago driving to he airport to pick my do up from an overseas trip...I smiled all the way and could not wait to see him and wrap my arms around him and kiss him...that is true, unconditional love...the love I see in my daughter;s eyes every time I see her..the laughter I have with friends every time I see them...my lover's eye's meeting mine before that first kiss hello, yes, I am having the best love affairs of my life...Oh, what a feeling!!
Posted by: istj54 at December 1, 2007 5:55 PM
This I can’t resist.
Sam de Brito columns as Kate de Brito on Brisbane’s Courier Mail.
He’d feel right at home on rsvp. OMG he would.
But then again you might also like to check whether either, both, none, whatever even exist, and it's just some crotchetty old subbie
Posted by: superlittlesnag at December 1, 2007 2:07 PM
hi today122
welcome. I have not passed the initiation if there is one (and if it dont work out here i am going back to the Sydney Morning Herald "All Men are Liars Blog" which is done by Sam de Brito.) I read the blogs for inspiration after I left from May to November. Eerily similar.
on topic, yes the blogs do show our human side. First impressions, there is a spark or chemistry sometimes. sometimes though it can occur with time or unexpectedly with a long time friend. Well that happened just once to me. One new years eve kiss and we were both staggered. That was all, then we went back to not wanting to take a risk and go for it. You can not force things with people clicking.Have a nice rain then, hopefully and we have a hot dry beach day in Adelaide. Have fun.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 1, 2007 1:55 PM
hi
Reading these makes my feel like I've stumbled into the middle of a private conversation.
Can anyone join in?
You all seem to know each other very well, argue back and forth, send each other pats on the back, and give weather reports!
(Today in Brisbane it's supposed to rain, but believe that when and if it does happen)
So can a newbie join in this little circle? Or is there some initiation that I know nothing about?
And - these blogs show a lot more about human nature than the 2 dimensional profiles.
And - yes first impressions do count, and 3 seconds is probably stretching it. The conversation about the ex, the in-laws, the obvious desperation in the pick me, pick me, self-marketing, sad, sad, sad, but you can almost tell that from the initial glance, and just confirms the immediate opinion, sadly. It's not shallow, it's real, and if it ain't gonna do the trick, then there's no point forcing the issue.
So that's my ten cents worth.
enjoy your weekends
Posted by: today122 at December 1, 2007 9:14 AM
it's like graffitti
someone's gotta clean it up later
editor, put a broom through all this
they're trashing the site
Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 30, 2007 12:10 AM
Seraphsuzie,BB,and junebaby, I would also like to make it to a Sydney bloggers get together. I will be in Sydney Sunday 9th dec, any possibility of a mini get together on that date? would love to put faces to names.
Funlovertoo, read your post 10.11 pm last night and it bought a tear to my eye. My opinion of RSVP rather jaded at moment but so happy to hear of your success in finding the real deal,even tho i don't know you. Good luck to you both.Heres hoping we all find a happy ending.
Posted by: dolphin46 at November 29, 2007 7:16 PM
funlovertoo & amuso: Best of luck and happy lovin'...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 29, 2007 7:13 PM
woodnwine: A new contact today - another Bris blogger interested in joining us!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 29, 2007 7:03 PM
Funlovertoo - Oh to be in love like you two so obviously are!! You will have to change your name to funlovertwo.
I am truly jealous of what you have and wish you both the very best. Have a wonderful Christmas - can you arrange to spend it together? That would be nice. xox
Posted by: woodnwine at November 29, 2007 9:39 AM
Amuso,s final dawn report.
Dawn 1 - Amuso 0.
Met my match.
Cheers all.
Posted by: amuso at November 29, 2007 8:08 AM
Good morning, it is a bit gray in the kapital but warmish, had a little rain last night.
SS we all look at profiles of the other bloggers, or at least I do.
Yesterday at work, i started another affair. Someone sent an email around, looking for a new home for a little black and white kitten. I looked at the photo, back to first impressions!!! But the result is, he is now mine. My son and I have been talking about another cat or dog, after one of our pets went to doggy heaven in Jan.
So he agreed and we get Oscar tonight! Just hope our old dog, Jack, gets on OK with the new member of the family, we will see tonight!
So have a lovely day all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at November 29, 2007 8:08 AM
seraphsuzie thats nice you have someone nice to chat with. Lovely. Yes I thought I would put faces to names, I hope that is the blog ettiquette LOL. have fun. goodnight people.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at November 28, 2007 11:18 PM
All night its taken, he he. the blog is busy it said. not signed in when i was...and a post i just saw which looked like it failed oh well its better than tv. how are you all? Wow I just read the news for you funlovertoo. Congratulations how wonderful. Wishing you and amuso every happiness. Have a nice non virtual life together. It happens, how heart warming! Heard "Love me tender" by Elvis on a train today, and it touched me.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at November 28, 2007 11:10 PM
Seraphsuzie and Junebaby57...I'm interested in another sydney get together!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 28, 2007 11:07 PM
hey slightsynchronicity..
I saw you peeking at my profile.. hehe BUt you can't now!!! ;-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 28, 2007 11:04 PM
Thanks Jewels.... I hope so too... fingers crossed..
And it would be great to have another bloggers meet.. Just need to get the people to come!!! So if anyone is interested say so!! Maybe some of the Melbournites would come????
Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 28, 2007 11:03 PM
RSVP.lemme in..i have tried 7 times. you say im not signed in when i am..lost 3 posts. hi everyone.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at November 28, 2007 11:03 PM
hey seraphsuzie, hope all goes well with your new contact.
general question, Is there going to be another bloggers catch up in sydney again, on weekend sometime?
sleep well all...jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at November 28, 2007 10:53 PM
Thanks misswendyxx and seraphsuzie (hope it goes well for you!)
Posted by: funlovertoo at November 28, 2007 10:31 PM
ninaschen...thanks! Yes he did mention other relationships. I'm suspecting a certain man who volunteered for GetUp and whose profile is offline and a certain hippy chick.
Would be good to know!
Posted by: funlovertoo at November 28, 2007 10:30 PM
Good luck funlover.. your a wonderful lady and I am very happy for the both of you. It is good to see two people make a go of it....
As I said in a previous blog.. my profile is hidden.. talking to someone who could be special.. early days.. but .. well... who knows.. hehe ;-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 28, 2007 10:28 PM
Funlovertoo I read every word with delight and happiness for you - when you know it's right everything else just falls into place. I wish you both the absolute best of luck xxx
Sounds like finding love in the blogs is successful!!
Posted by: misswendyxx at November 28, 2007 10:27 PM
FunLoverToo, I hope Amuso passed on my best wishes to you. Good luck to the both of you! It is heartening that relationships are being formed and taking off via the blogs. There are a couple of others as well that haven't been made public, yet. Maybe the blogs is the way to find 'the one'!
Posted by: ninaschen at November 28, 2007 10:25 PM
My apology to shiningheart
i just went back to see if I had contact and i did and I did not reply to your email and I am a pig for doing it but I just don't know how I missed it.
sorry
Posted by: thefotografer at November 28, 2007 10:20 PM
Thanks to brilliantblue, junebaby57, istj54 and woodnwine for your positive thoughts about our wonderful love affair that's only just beginning.
Today it felt like we were on honeymoon as the Hawkesbury ferry cruised to Dangar Island and then past Wobby’s Beach on a perfect bright, sunshiny, blue sky, blue water day.
We met exactly one month ago tomorrow and hit it off instantly.
We just love being in each other’s company – not clingy, not needy but because we make each other laugh and we like being close so much.
We have more in common than I’ve had with any other man and he’s so much fun. You could say he’s a fun lover too!
Tomorrow we’re going to the movies and having afternoon tea with now-mutual friends. Friday we’re shopping in Chatswood for a friendship ring and having a meal with a friend.
Saturday I’ve got my marine rescue work and amuso goes home. Until then we’ll enjoy every second. We'll meet up in Melbourne very soon and amuso is coming here for Christmas. then I'll go to the farm for several weeks, taking my dog. Basically we want to spend the rest of our lives together. We are both 57 and have young adult children so no worries about blended families etc. Amuso had already wanted to sell the farm so that will happen next year and he'll move to the Central Coast.
And the best thing is that neither of us has to worry about the future – no more lacklustre dating and RSVP. Well, not the best thing; the most wonderful aspect is that we’ve found each other.
So it can happen. Love is not just a fairy story.
Amuso will file a final weather report tomorrow.Not from the kangaroo filled bush but watching his first sunrise over the water at Point Clare.
Posted by: funlovertoo at November 28, 2007 10:11 PM
Hiddencharms - this may be food for discussion on Friday night at the bloggers' meeting. I'm sure we will all have some stories to contribute.
BTW - are any other Brisbane bloggers interested in coming? It may cost you a stamp but it will be worth it. Where else will you get the opportunity to meet around 9 or 10 like minded, fabulous peopel for the cost of one stamp?
Posted by: woodnwine at November 28, 2007 8:55 PM
Falling In Love
You see your world inside their eyes,
They stand by you in good times and bad,
Falling in love is hard to do,
But once you do there’s no turning back,
For their soul locks deep into your heart
Love is powerful,
Love is strong,
Love gives meaning to our lives,
And happiness throughout our souls,
You face begins to glow and your energy builds more and more each day
Don’t be afraid to love,
Don't say you don't know how
The true secret to learn how to love someone is to walk side by side with no walls around.
Let down your shield and let that person become a part of you.
Then look into their eyes and if you see your world inside their eyes then my friend you've discovered love.
Posted by: jenjen57 at November 28, 2007 7:21 PM
woodnwine: Um...don't you have to do a little more than dream about it...??? (Naughty me! ha ha!)
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 28, 2007 5:37 PM
Yes, still dreaming of having a love affair. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Posted by: woodnwine at November 28, 2007 4:38 PM
twoeyes, a fine temperature, and yes, should be a great day (your horoscope wouldn't lie, would it??)
I currently feel I'm coming down with some sort of 'flu (wouldn't you know it?), so as long as I can shake that should be okay...
Posted by: malsie at November 28, 2007 12:15 PM
funlovertoo - we wish you well. Stop by every now and then if you see our light on and say Hi.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 28, 2007 11:16 AM
25 and fine from all accounts...should be a great day, well according to my stars for the 1st anyway..........but who believes in that stuff....
Posted by: twoeyes at November 28, 2007 9:52 AM
Morning, Istj54 - 25 is hot by Tassie standards, would you believe it! (not by mine - I still think in WA terms). So that will do very nicely.... and thanks for the info. Yeah, I don't think "dressing etiquette" books would have a section covering "blogmeets" somehow. I'm thinking something fairly casual (will leave the tiarra at home).
Posted by: malsie at November 28, 2007 9:48 AM
Morning Malsie,
Hot for the next few days, but should be a pleasant 25 on Saturday...It's hot now..I don't think I will get up!
Pack for hot and mild.....what does one wear to a blogmeet? I may have to look at thefotografers pics again....
Posted by: istj54 at November 28, 2007 9:42 AM
Looking forward to meeting you too, istj54. Any ideas what the weather is likely to be on the weekend in Melb? How hot? I'm contemplating what to pack.... could just look it up on the net, I suppose!
Posted by: malsie at November 28, 2007 9:27 AM
You should change your name to WittyWon, WnW.
Funlovertoo, I will miss your morning chats with your beloved...It's been a bit like those phone ads where we can all be part of it. Good luck.....I'll have to take over the Victorian dawn reports, but they are not as attractive here in the burbs, and only cats n birds, no roos n wombats.
Posted by: istj54 at November 28, 2007 9:25 AM
Apologies for the smart remark....but I still want the ring and the Mykonos honeymoon...I mean holiday.
Posted by: istj54 at November 28, 2007 9:13 AM
istj54 - don't mention bodyguard. I did once but I think I got away with it.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 28, 2007 9:12 AM
slightsynchronicity
Just saying hi, any sort of reply is ok to get me out of the inbox !!
Posted by: jenjen57 at November 28, 2007 7:13 AM
Just want to say that sometimes people in existing relationships post their profile under different names on this site ... sad but true.
For all of you who fall in love ... just a little word of caution ... I'm not being cynical its just that it happened to me and it can be distressing. In reality honesty is always the best policy its just that not everyone remembers that.
Posted by: shiningheart at November 27, 2007 11:20 PM
And a big, brawny, handsome bodyguard...hmmmm...sounds worth the wait....
Posted by: istj54 at November 27, 2007 10:31 PM
istj54: Hold out for a holiday house in the Maldives...and a private jet...and a housekeeper...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 27, 2007 10:23 PM
I'm hanging out for the lot too...wonder if you can deliver!
Posted by: istj54 at November 27, 2007 10:15 PM
For a moment I was wondering whether I could recycle this damn diamond ring.
Mind you I am sure that Slimey wouldn’t hesitate to swap a romantic tour of Moskau and Paris for a honeymoon sail around the Greek Islands.
Knowing her she would want the lot. And the Kohinoor diamond to boot. I was always going to have a few problems delivering on that one!
Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 27, 2007 10:06 PM
Flattery will get you everywhere, sugarbabe!
Posted by: istj54 at November 27, 2007 9:51 PM
How strange.
Slimey was playing the alternate version “Loving him was easier..” by Mixt Company on her MySpace site up till her latest mind change.
I’m going to have to talk to that woman and see if she really meant it.
xox you wonderful little creature
Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 27, 2007 9:40 PM
No,not Willy, can't stand willy particularly after doing the "all the girls I loved before " with Julio,
Just your voice over will do.
I am going to Hamilton tomorrow my Import has arrived and I'll start ripping the voice off "happy Together"' and then replace my old Audio with it.
Oh cars arrived too I will pick it up on Saturday
Posted by: thefotografer at November 27, 2007 9:40 PM
Can't wait to meet you on Saturday Malsie, you are always so positive...
HC, I was the one being mean...
Fotoman, songs and lyrics have great meaning for me, that song especially. I saw Willy Nelson sing it with the Highwaymen years ago and it blew me away...I fell in love with Willy there and then...his voice, a gift from God....Should I send you a tape of me singing it karaoke style or Willy?? Will it increase my kiss rate? How's yours working for you?
Posted by: istj54 at November 27, 2007 9:32 PM
don't know where the word rough fitted into my actual post...maybe one of those frozen blog things?
Posted by: funlovertoo at November 27, 2007 9:31 PM
Woodnwine...Replying to your summer lovin' post suggesting to amuso that he should give me his private email address so I didn't do extraneous posts.
I'd just like to explain the circumstances of people who live in rough his regional areas and who are on dialup. This is probalby a new perspective on cyber life for you as, I presume, a near city dweller with fast broadband.
This morning amsuo was sending me an MP3 file before he left for Melbourne. We both knew this would take maybe 40 minutes to go through his outbox and another 30mins to go through mine.
In the meantime we had both posted on the blogs.
I can't send outlook messages to him nor him to me when files are uploading/downloading.
Other mailboxes can be problematic, failing to send items properly. And the more windows open, the slower the speed.
So why don't we text each other? We do, and we talk on the phone, but you can't do that on dialup while sending files AND amuso lives on an isolaed farm which makes texting difficult.
He has to climb up the watertower or go outside the property to receive texts.
Isuspect you never thought of that chain of events when you posted that message and hope than when we leave the blogs extremely soon that you will not be so harsh on other people living in regional areas.
Posted by: funlovertoo at November 27, 2007 9:29 PM
alphabetacetasenioritta
I think you might be barking up the wrong tree on this one?
Posted by: thefotografer at November 27, 2007 9:28 PM
sexylittleshortie hope you find happiness and you have your treasured memories of course. What can we say?
to all of us - seize the day, while we can I suppose is a good motto.
I agree with Imanenigma the rollercoaster could be the way to live/love.
Song lyrics are great and am having few tears like the wuss I am. Hang in there everyone.
Posted by: slightsynchronicity at November 27, 2007 9:24 PM
Whats in a name?.... honest words spoken from the heart or the head are far more important.....especially if they relate to the blog topic!......If we listen(read) we can learn from others here, even if its only what we dont want in a partner......But!!! you will never find true love or happiness here or anywhere if you concern yourself with bitching,insulting or worrying about multiple profiles etc!.....you just end up getting hit by the "karma bus"..........its a dating site so most of us are genuinely looking for love..........be nice, stay on topic, smile(even if only to yourself)....and believe!!.....what do you have to lose? ...You are not ready or dont belong on RSVP if you have a negative attitude toward men/women...........its just not going to happen for you......"Love is like money...its potential is only realised, when you give it to someone else".... (William aka IMANENIGMA)......IMANENIGMA
Posted by: imanenigma at November 27, 2007 9:18 PM
sexylittleshortie, that is so heartbreaking, there are no words.
I wish you heaps of luck, wishes, positive vibes and good karma for you dating experiences and the future....jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at November 27, 2007 9:11 PM
istj54/lorainer: Sorry if I came across as "no charm" some weeks ago.
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 27, 2007 9:11 PM
amdoingit: Oh, wouldn't it be nice?
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 27, 2007 9:08 PM
istj54
please ease up on the lyrics.
If you want to make an impression send your audio to me and I will see if I can fix it.
Posted by: thefotografer at November 27, 2007 8:56 PM
lorainer, or istj54 makes no difference - still good to read your posts. "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet" ... and all that... I'm so bored with my posting name, I'd love to change it, but would I ever hear the end of it? No, probably not.
Posted by: malsie at November 27, 2007 8:44 PM
7.
LOVING HER WAS EASIER
(Kris Kristofferson)
« © '70 Combine Music, BMI »
I have seen the morning burning golden on the mountain in the skies
Aching with the feeling of the freedom of an eagle when she flies
Turning on the world the way she smiled upon my soul as I lay dyin'
Healing as the colors in the sunshine and the shadows of her eyes
Waking in the morning to the feeling of her fingers on my skin
Wiping out the traces of the people and the places that I've been
Teaching me that yesterday was something that I'd never thought of tryin'
Talking of tomorrow and the money love and time we have to spend
Loving her was easier than anything I'll ever do again
Coming close together with a feeling that I've never known before in my time
She ain't ashamed to be a woman or afraid to be a friend
I don't know the answers to the easy way she opened every door in my mind
But dreaming was as easy as believing it was never gonna end
And loving her was easier than anything I'll ever do again
[ piano - harmonica ]
Coming close together...
Loving her was easier than anything I'll ever do again
**********
I did post this song(lost), as this is one of the best love songs of all time and resonates with the love I would like to feel or, even better, how I would like a man to feel for me...
Posted by: istj54 at November 27, 2007 8:33 PM
HC @1.26pm I'm with you. An affair that lasts forever would be like living a dream.. And no comments from you doubting Thomas' on that either. It may take a little thought and a little work but hey... That's half the fun. Keep the passion alive I say!!!
Damn, where's a partner... Oh heck, that's what I'm here for isn't it???
Well, I'm looking!!! Hey, where are you????
Oh, and get better soon... It's a pain.. been there... "G"
Posted by: amdoingit at November 27, 2007 8:17 PM
Twoeyes, hear you're on real time at last... Good one.. See, patience prevailed!! Said tongue in cheek of course.. "G"
Posted by: amdoingit at November 27, 2007 8:11 PM
Imanenigma.. such profound words.. wow.. so true and from one so young...
Good luck with your search... "G"
Posted by: amdoingit at November 27, 2007 8:09 PM
How quick you are alphabetaphi...I had to change it back because LoraineR wasn't getting her posts up.....I have posted some rather profound blogs this week and not one up....The customer service people, especially Ellida, have been excellent in their support.
But, sadly for you, do not have my posts.....
I actually prefer LoraineR but there you go..I am back to being a label....
Now love affairs, where do I begin to tell a tale of how great a love can be...
Posted by: istj54 at November 27, 2007 7:41 PM
Lorainer has changed her name back to ISTJ54 again.
Looks like we’re in for another round.
Stay on topic sweetie.
Tell everyone about all the love affairs you’ve had
Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 27, 2007 6:41 PM
sexylittleshortie sounds like you found the one in a hundred million guy who really makes all the past heartache worth it. I am sorry to hear that you lost him so early in your relationship. But yes once you have had such unconditional love, its hard to move on.
Posted by: goofyoptimist at November 27, 2007 6:22 PM
Hope you are getting over your flu hiddencharms.. I would like one of those 'affairs' you mentioned in your post.
Posted by: mushie6 at November 27, 2007 4:33 PM
sexylittleshortie.. when things like that happen you wonder why me and it is tough getting through it. But life goes on and when one door closes another will open somewhere along the way for you.
I think that when we get to a certain stage in life we realise that material things are not so important any more. We do not need to have the latest of everything and become more content with what we do have. Having had a cancer scare made me realise that time is short and every day is a bonus. Every day would be an even greater bonus if I could find my mate. I was not meant to live alone.
Posted by: mushie6 at November 27, 2007 4:30 PM
fotoman's posts from last night have disappeared - what a shame. Talk about overexposure. Spread the love not the scorn.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 27, 2007 4:27 PM
imanenigma - here here!! Happiness can not be bought in a shop.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 27, 2007 4:24 PM
@ sexylittleshortie- my heart goes out to you!!.......although my story is not as sad as yours I do understand....Yes, it is hard to settle for anything less ...whoever wrote " it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all"......surely ..has never been in love!!!...that sort of pain we can do without!!....however, time heals all and we must take what positives we can find from all situations, for they are there , we may have to look damn hard though, but believe me, there is always something there for us to learn....Me, im not looking for riches, trinkets or any of that "must have" crap , so many of us feel we need to make us complete. How many people do you know with all the toys and they are still unhappy as their relationship or marriage is a train wreck, their kids are spoilt brats and you wouldnt trade places with them if your life depended on it!!!........is it having a cancer scare or being deeply in love at sometime that makes feel as if I know a secret in regard to whats truly important in life?.....and its not a plasma tv, harley or jet ski!!.......or is it just me?.......give me the love of a woman, with a good soul ,a passionate heart, a sense of humour and a warm body and you can have my tv!.........ah, like a moth to a flame...the search goes on!!!......IMANENIGMA (and happy I am!)
Posted by: imanenigma at November 27, 2007 3:53 PM
passion and intensity rule lol
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 27, 2007 2:41 PM
hi there im 37 and a single mum of three teens around two years ago i was out at a friends having coffee, this was the day i was to meet the man of my dreams and a true love i never thought possible!
After 19 years in an abusive relationship i finally got the courage to leave only from the help of andrew, who made me feel safe and protected from my ex partners mean and violent temper. andrew and i fell in love on instant its a feeling i will never forget love is so many feelings you cant explain them , i can say that every time i looked at him i would fall for him every time, after a year we were still very much in love we just got along so well was almost too good to be true, one day we went out to buy a car as he had a motorcycle and it wasnt always practical for me , so we went on the bike we found a car everything was going fine we headed of i was following him in my new car and we decided to show a friend we had almost got there andrew aproached a roundabout he was just through it when a car turned in front of him colliding into the side of him i was watching this in horror was like slow motion he come of his bike and so far into the air i almost crashed my car , i slammed on the brakes and ran to him screaming for help i got closer to him and he was not good he was barley breathing i knelt down at his side i lifted his head and kissed him he knew i was there as he responded to my voice i was crying i felt sick all the while telling him dont give up please sweetheart he was taking breaths but not often the ambulance arrived i had to move i told him i loved him and will always will , not long after the ambulance driver told me he hadnt made it he had died in my arms. i miss him alot even now after two years i find it hard to be in a relationship with anyone that can give me the love he did!! i know that might sound synical but when a love like that coes your way you find it hard to settle for anything less
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 27, 2007 2:34 PM
Seems last night's post got wiped out...Here we go again...
I would like an "affair" that lasts a lifetime...the kind that when you think of "him", makes you want more...
I'm stuck at home with a wild dose of summer flu, so I could do with some TLC at the moment...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 27, 2007 1:26 PM
Imanenigma....liked your post...I agree, I personally would rather be on the roller coaster than drifting through life on the one plane.
Take a chance...throw yourself in the deep end! Life's here to be lived!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 27, 2007 12:31 PM
had a love affair once with someone.......................it lasted about 10 yrs.
she said it was the longest one night stand in history..
Posted by: twoeyes at November 27, 2007 11:38 AM
Wet rainy day just relaxing listening to music. Here's some lyrics from Pavlov's Dog Pampered Menial thats timely.
Late November
Steve Scorfina and David Surkamp
Oh, she wants, she wants it badly
And I, I can't believe all she said
Because she's cool, yeah she's cool
She's just like lightening
Take her home, keep her warm in late November
I can't say why she's so strange now
Why did I always believe all she said
She's came down, held me close
Came down from night skies
Take her home, keep her warm in late November
She just goes to show you never know
What's in your heart, what's in your soul
She just goes to show you never know
What's in your heart, what's in your soul
She's home now, but far away she flies
But she don't know how she came
Or how she leaves
'Cause she's cool, yeah she's cool
She's just like lightening
Take her home, keep her warm in late November
She just goes to show you never know
What's in your heart, what's in your soul
Posted by: brane at November 27, 2007 11:08 AM
Why is it that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence?
Why is it that we do not appreciate what we had until it is gone?
Alas, that is human nature I fear.
Posted by: mushie6 at November 27, 2007 10:39 AM
What about the Love Affair you wish for with the one you can't have?
"What is it's one essential quality?
Unattainability.
The most intense joy lies not in the having.......but in the desiring.
Delight that never fades, bliss that is eternal......is only yours when what you most desire is just out of reach".
(C.S. Lewis - Shadowlands)
Posted by: misswendyxx at November 27, 2007 10:15 AM
Fotografer.. I am waiting with bated breath for this research!
Let's be realistic, these affairs happen mostly in fairy tales don't they, and they always have a happy ending. Not so in the real world. Perhaps I am getting too old and cunical but I think that there has to be more than lust and chemistry for something to last. I believe that 2 people need to be intellectually compatible as well or one ends up being very frustrated.
I don't go to bars or clubs so the only way I can meet someone is via a dating agnecy or via the internet.
Posted by: mushie6 at November 27, 2007 9:54 AM
I think most people have some of these feelings when they first get together with a new partner, it is just a matter of how long this feeling lasts. In a good relationship the feelings last in a poor one they quickly fade. I think younger people meet others more often at bars but older people seem to rely more on other methods such as friends, parties, internet,
Blog now closed; thank you for your comments!
Posted by: rsvpproducttest at December 7, 2007 12:09 PM