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notgodsgift, I get heaps of women look at my profile...I don't find it creepy cos they could all read the blog, or be very bored...no idea. I believe I did read Helter Skelter some time ago. I study this stuff so for recreation would choose Ian Rankin maybe...thanks for the ideas. May start with the Notebook...and I will Google the film and the book below.Truth is stranger than fiction, some court cases have very odd things. Sometimes I look up everyone who blogs, just to refresh my memory....I generally do not disable the view. Bob I guess you prefer it if its the ladies viewing you and not the men tooo much. I really have to do some gardening. This blog is fun.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 19, 2007 5:25 PM

SSC, Today122

What I find creepy is guys looking at my profile without disabling their "view" - fair dinkum fellas, I dont need to see that you are checking out who I am just because you blog!!

If you like reading books about this type of stuff try to get "The Devil in the White City". Its a true story about the Chicago Worlds Fair of the 1880's and a mass murderer operating there at the time. Also, read Helter Skelter...truth is stranger than fiction.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 19, 2007 3:36 PM

notgodsgift. just googled Perfume, sounds very odd, but odd films are what I watch. And anything with Dustin Hoffman is gonna be good.
and the kiss hello thing - yep. creepy? unusual? whatever.

Posted by: today122 at December 19, 2007 3:06 PM

Thanks notgodsgift...sounds intriguing, I will see if the uni has it : )

A simple hi "kiss" which RSViP has, I guess is the ideal. It would be easier if it was clearer about the interest factor and who knows unless its followed up. Two men from Adelaide I met lately, were much "better" than their profiles, so it is good to meet people in person. As I have looking for friends on my profile I assume a kiss is friendly unless otherwise is obvious.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 19, 2007 2:17 PM

Hi SSC and Today122,

Perfume is a picture adapted from a book by Alex Suskind - it sounds girly, but anything but!! You can rent it on DVD now. Its odd in some ways because there is not really that much dialogue by the characters, its mostly narrated by John Hurt.

I dont think the sending or receiving of a "hello" kiss is creepy, I found it unusual because I couldn't work out why people from places like Melbourne or Brisbane would bother contacting me that way. I finally decided to email one of them and ask, and thats when it was explained to me. I felt really bad because I had received a few and sent back the "not my ideal" reply due to location, when all they were doing was saying hello.

The tricky ones are those that are reasonably local with no message attached. Dont know whether they are hellos or genuine interest.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 19, 2007 2:06 PM

riversong1 thanks for the heads up, I could Google the film first..notgodsgift thanks for not revealing the ending of "Perfume."
I will buy stamps after Christmas and it is too bad if I appear "creepy" at present I guess. Odd thought.

Guys mostly say for me to email them, or its how it works out stampwise. Really must address those cards, still not finished.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 19, 2007 1:43 PM

Hi all, I'd just like to advise guys on rsvp to be as honest as possible with their profiles. I've had contact with "evahopeful1" who has changed his age 3 times since joining rsvp. First he was 41, then 51 and now he says he is 45? Also "ready4unow7" does not mention in his profile he is in a wheelchair, yet says he plays soccer, and claims to be 34 but is actually 36? It's not fair on genuine people who's profiles are truthful.

Posted by: tinker1972 at December 19, 2007 11:56 AM

yes, notgodsgift. how to say hi, without appearing creepy.
and what is this Perfume film? never heard of it.

Posted by: today122 at December 19, 2007 8:39 AM

Hi Riversong1 - I hope you have been well. I like your idea of a stampometer - that way we can spot those people who send us kisses but don't have stamps so can't follow through on their kiss.

Merry Christmas everyone - only 6 more sleeps! Hope you all get something nice.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 19, 2007 8:32 AM

Riversong1,

I dont think it was chasing romantic bliss; more like chasing the ultimate aromatic sensation. Interesting the ending though (dont want to spoil it here for Slightsynchronisity) - what do you do once there is nothing left for you to achieve and you realise what you have destroyed to get there?

Another problem with a rating system (especially on kiss replies) is that you receive kisses from people to which you are not really expected to reply (especially from fellow bloggers just saying hello). How do you get around that? I guess the answer to all of this is that you need a number of other things to happen on RSVP (hello only kiss, encouragement kiss, whatever); you cant do things in isolation.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 19, 2007 8:19 AM

I don't like the idea of a "rating" system, as everone rates according to a different set of criteria, and if one does not fit the "ideal" peg, it could be rather hurtful and insensitive to some people's feelings.

Bob - "Perfume" - creepy - tho on another level, I found it actually full of quite deep symbolism - chasing the elusive essense of perfect romantic bliss, while using/destroying those one plucks on the way to that ultimate ideal - a bit like RSVP, come to think of it!!

Slightsynchronicity - I don't think you would like it somehow!

I like the idea of a "reply rating" on profiles. Then we wouldn't bother wasing our time on those who don't deserve it to be wasted on. Next to this could be a "stampometer" meter, to help us also avoid cheapskates who can't fork out the cost of a stamp to play! :)

Posted by: riversong1 at December 18, 2007 11:44 PM

Hey bloggers, am trying to watch all those movies I am supposed to, "Perfume", "Notebook"...not really...another day.

today122, yes exactly. I read in the paper today (not my thought) that peoples self image, which includes body image is due to the youthcentric or even youth worshipping culture we live in....we are all aware of the influences that can affect the attitude of lots of society. OK everyone else skim over this...
today122, one of my sons (18 yrs) is a vegan and a girlfriend of mine. I am not. My girlfriend told me about the inaugural meeting of this vegan uni group to supposedly be on all the different campuses and TAFE. I am a bit into writing a few letters about some aspects of animal cruelty...a law student...blah blah you know why can't animals have some rights. (RSPCA and free range eggs etc) So I went with my friend to check it out. Mainly it would have been handy to find out some healthy vegan cooking tips and support healthy eating. No we were too old really, I think but it was because we were from a different uni or something. I did not want to go on about that on this blog. Maybe RSVP will put a chatroom on. Sorry to any other bloggers who this bothers. I have no stamps at present or I could email you today122. I try to stay on topic. The thing is my friend 42, and me, 44 are both uni students and it was a uni students meeting. It was not specified that people had to be under 30 or some other limit. Its OK, we will do something on our own campus. 5 people at this meeting and two of us were not "needed". Frees my time up anyway. So I try to support my son in his veganism...zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

jenjen57 thanks yes I did see it, I read the blogs!!! Love the new one, quite inclusive. They cut a lot out on the travelling green blog : (

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 18, 2007 11:24 PM

Hi all
Just logged onto this blog for the first time in 2 days. Too busy working and playing day and night, including only 4 hours' sleep last night (working, dammit.)

Loving the lack of puerile squabbling lately. Maybe the fulminators have been put on time delay and censored out of comment. Hope so.

Used my free birthday stamp, so that offer has lapsed.

Hope youall will each have your best Christmas season for ages. See your handiwork later, because I need my early night of the month, and I need it now. Cheers.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 18, 2007 11:03 PM

slightsynchronicity yes I posted the twelve days of Christmas from ABC that you were talking about but it was only up overnight and removed the next day :( Was on travelling green blog and was a bit long..........there is another one there now if you want to have a look.............the environmentally friendly, global warming aware Christmas memo !!

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 18, 2007 10:35 PM

another one - with less?? taboos does it make people confused?
yep - I reckon it does, or at least for those people who seem to get stuck and have to put themselves and others in boxes, and who only care about what the neighbours would say. bring on the diversity and the difference I say.

and you gotta tell us about the volunteering age thing - can't start saying something and then stop half way!!!

Posted by: today122 at December 18, 2007 10:28 PM

slightsynchronicity.
being with good friends who take you for who you are, makes age, looks, wealth, education and whatever else totally irrelevant. They love you and accept you for YOU not for anything else. Their values are similar, and that's what is important. So you then learn to accept yourself, upside down or something in that logic, but it does sort of make sense. And that takes away the cynicism and makes you feel younger anyway.
just my 10 cents worth.
cheers

Posted by: today122 at December 18, 2007 10:23 PM

Bob, I now have the movie "Perfume" to add to the list of must see movies which includes "The Notebook." OK.

Timewarp1 your posting about deodorant, dancing and customs from the past were interesting and amusing. And even before that in the earlier pre-deodrant days men and women managed to get together...without dating sites.

Neuroticfish: it was not just the rutting class who got into hanky panky though was it in the Victorian era? Surely there is some truth to the whole Upstairs/Downstairs idea? Are we becoming a less classless (social position wise) society and with less?? taboos does it make people confused?

General comment: Age is just a number...have never been happy with any age range I put on my profile as I would not care if someone was a year or two under or over. Not interested in being with someone two years older than my daughter though.

Saphires4me: nice attitude, people should grow old discracefully if they like or at least have a lot of fun. Age is definately just a number saphires4me and it should not define how you feel about yourself I agree. Two men recently from RSVP I met both lied on their profiles about their age. 39 (40) and 49 (52). Makes you wonder about their insecurity. One was to get in a certain age search.

ABC Kenny not all women are looking for a toyboy. It is pointless to exclude someone on the basis of age surely if it seems a person is otherwise compatable. Lots of people seem to make friends from RSVP. I have made friends in Adelaide and elsewhere from RSVP. In real life my friends range from 20's to 80's. I am 44 and a lot of my male and female friends are mid 50's but I do not think about their age when in their company. I did experience ageism yesterday though in a volunteer/interest group situation. I will not elaborate as I will get paid out about it : ))) It was open age but the guy indicated that he wanted younger people for whatever. My friend got huffy but we will just go elsewhere. abckenny I suppose if we do not let ourselves be totally jaded by the attitudes of some as there are "good" people out there surely. I find hanging out with good friends takes the edge of my cynicism. If we are happy within ourselves that is a big thing.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 18, 2007 10:57 AM

Hi All Ladies,

Watch the movie "Perfume" and see what you think about sniffing clothes after that!!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 17, 2007 1:14 PM

Hi bloggers how are you all? Will post the remaining links when I find them about those body chemical/hormone things. Pheremones etc. It is not about a smell, the chemical does not have a scent, it is undetected. The T-shirt could be sweaty and odourous but the pheremones, I am sure do not have a scent. Yes there is something related about women...i could post the link for that one day. Maybe I will wait for the appropriate topic to put it under. Like most scientific research it is contentious or at least not everyone agrees about it.

Going for job interviews, so sadly not that much time for the 12 log ins and the cutting and pasting. The blog is more positive at least and I am embarrased to not be able to spell ROTFLMAO...and other words. Forgive my spelling errors. Jenjen u posted the funny 12 days of Christmas thing. I wish to get a photo of me next to Santa but then I would have to get a stamp to change it! Tried to join RSVP by BPay but it would not recognise my customer number. Just as well maybe. The BBQ was great jenjen thanks and my friend may have a Toga New Years Eve Party. Have a great day everyone. Sorry for my lack of punctuation. Have only got a few Christmas presents so far but hey, its not about material things is it?

Have you bloggers been naughty or nice? : ))))

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 17, 2007 12:38 PM

My Dear,

Back in the Victorian era, it was the social norm for a Gentleman to be seen with a Lady who was his own age.

If he was seen with a girl, clearly young enough to be his daughter, she was called his “Niece.”

Only the Rutting Class would even contemplate referring to a girl, young enough to be the man’s daughter, as his “girlfriend.”

And. Of course, they exported the Rutting Class to Ostralia in Ships like the Charlotte, the Lady Penrhyn, the Sirius and the Alexander.

Spoken with a stiff upper lisp

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 17, 2007 8:49 AM

@neuroticfish- you wouldnt be questioning my honesty would you? No, I think you are wiser than that. The "princess" in question is now 32, lives up the gold coast way,works in fashion, was, is and always will be gorgeous!.....to add to my true funny story....the car we got to replace the written off one , we picked up on thursday night, she drove to Westfield Tuggerah on friday for work and on the way home wrote it off when a guy failed to give way coming out of side street onto the pacific hwy south of doyalson!! Airbag saved her from serious injury!! The very next day!!! We hadn't changed the rego over but did have a covernote for insurance of course. NRMA said It happens more often then people realise. I have learnt , truth is stranger than fiction! I have no need to make up stories or stretch the truth, for I am honest and my life has been ...mmm...interesting. I cant speak for others now can I?.... what do you call yourself now? and why is it you keep changing profiles/names etc

Posted by: imanenigma at December 17, 2007 8:42 AM

Amdoingit
Age is in the mind! (with men else where)
You are as old as you feel!!!
You don't need to be hanging off some 10-15 yrs younger just to make you feel young.
You also don't need medication to enhance your action - look at your self 50+ ladies you are natural and beautiful as you are. In this day and age we are not sitting at home and knittinf knee rugs like our mothers were.
Get over it men either except you are ageing -do it gracefully and naughty
Except your age if you are lying about it in your profile your body and actions are a dead give away!!!
Embrace the baby boomers life as exciting.
And yes next month my age changes it is only a number.

Posted by: saphires4me at December 17, 2007 8:05 AM

still copying even if you did change 3 words around....jewels

" wish you a very merry christmas and a happy new year, lets hope its a good one, with out any fear" (JL)

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 17, 2007 7:56 AM

neurooticfish, you paying imanenigma a compliment??? It is supposed to be a complment when you copy someone isn't it????

have a lovely day all....jewels

"" wish you a very, merry christmas and a happy new year, lets hope its a good one, with out any fear" (JL)

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 17, 2007 7:53 AM

A funny story...laying in bed one night....then CRASH!!!....my nieces’ car , which was parked in the street got hit by a drunk driver. The tow trucks arrived and the driver saw my niece (with no make up and looking about 16, she was, chicken stealer) and came up to me and said "don't worry mate, your girlfriend’s car is a rightoff!" I replied "ah, thats my niece, mate" he responded by apologising all sorry like before giving me a wink and a nudge "he,he,he!" as if to say , you sly old dog......"just tow the car away, mate!".........fairdinkum

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 17, 2007 6:08 AM

Pretty well summed up fotojedi although I haven't seen too many forty something females profiles that are prepared to even consider guys that are a day older than them.Most are seeking playmates for their children it would appear.

Posted by: abckenny at December 17, 2007 2:19 AM

Ta maisie for deciphering that acronym for me. And glad you're old enough and/or patriotic enough to spell it the Australian way, with the R and E included.
PS. That was supper break. Back to typing more Quotations.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 17, 2007 1:20 AM

A funny story...laying in bed one night....then CRASH!!!....my much younger girlfriends car , which was parked in the street got hit by a drunk driver. The tow trucks arrived and the driver saw my girl (with no make up and looking about 16, she was 24y/o) and came up to me and said "dont worry mate, your daughters car is a rightoff!" I replied "ah, thats my girlfriend, mate" he responded by apologising all sorry like before giving me a wink and a nudge "he,he,he!" as if to say , you sly old dog......"just tow the car away, mate!".........fairdinkum.

Posted by: imanenigma at December 16, 2007 11:26 PM

jenjen, it's not you. Having all sorts of problems tonight hence my blunder in 1st post. Resigning, etc, etc.. Right pain in the old proverbial... Tried the copy and paste thing with a little offline help.. Thanks "I".. X

Timewarp.. You're not an old fart fart darl, just lived a little longer than some of us that's all. Bet you've a tale or two to tell. Pity you live so far away.. Could have had a fun session just for fun!!!! Good luck in your search!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 11:24 PM

hermanhesse you are right. If a local woman sends me a kiss and her profile is not repugnant to me, I invite her email, irrespective of age.

And if she then puts her money where her pucker is, I'm happy to go on to a first date, irrespective of age.

In my age group with our man-must-lead conditioning, if an old girl plucks up the courage to take the initiative, she deserves at least a date, or where's chivalry gone?.

At 70, my youngest kisser was 51 and at 71 my oldest were several 75s. When I met them, a 75 and a 72 were much too young and sprightly for me, and went on to find very much younger partners. Told me later.

I now have a statistically-reliable sample size of about a hundred, and have found that the rest of the over-65s were older/ more set in their ways/ more creaky in their joints than me, and the under 58s were too young for me, for one reason or other.

So I now ask for 5 to 12 years younger than me by birthdate, expecting that group to prove to be physically and emotionally about as youthful and flexible as this timewarp-youthened, still-lively old fart.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 11:11 PM

Jedi, you are so right, I can already see that in my future, as now I an only looking at 5 years older.

BB, IAE I have always gone out with younger men. It just happens. My husband was younger. It has ranged from 2 years to 11 years younger. And it has been like that since I was 19.. I also have younger friends at work, who were surprised that we celebrated a 50th this year. (That's not counting toyboy at 19 years younger!!! But that is not dating or a relationship.)

Amdoingit, herman, jenjen and today, you are all correct, age is only a number!

If the world or society was kinder, jovial could have stayed with his true love, IAE would not have felt that he was lucky have his younger love.

But we are all conditioned by society on age, how old is too old? beauty, is it in the eye of the beholder?, how big is fat? how thin is too skinny?

Wouldn't it be great to meet your love, and there were no hangups about age, weight or beauty??

Food for thought...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 16, 2007 10:57 PM

Age is just a number and really shouldn't factor into the equation but unfortunately it does.
In today's day and age people should know better than to make comments such as in your case Jovial.. Society really does suck!!!! Besides, some people look older than their age and vice versa so to comment like that is just so out of line...
You meet somone and you either get on or you don't and that's all there is to it.
That's one of the down sides to being on a dating site like this. You have to put your age on your profile and if you're honest, and my vintage, you get relegated to the "too old" basket nine times out of ten and that's a fact.
Can't bring myself to respond favourably so anyone who is the same age as my older son though so I guess that's just another prime example of having to put age on profile. Maybe I could bribe rsvp and for a fee not have my ages on my profile??
Don't want those of you who know me jumping in and patronising me either ok...Grrr. I'm merely making a statement that is my opinion and it is true... Grr again!!!!
So, guys and ladies, get over the age thing and just live and let live.. Maybe I should have said love and let love???
Happy hunting all and be happy!!!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 10:56 PM

My ex-husband was 17 years older than me,not something I would personally want to enter into again.But then again one of my friends has been dating a man 16 years older than her for 2 years now and they seem so right together.Compatible personalities play a big part I guess.

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 10:51 PM

ah - that should say ex husband!!

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 10:31 PM

hi all.
I was 4 months older than my husband, we were both 23 when we met, were together for 25 years. I was not what his mother wanted for her baby either, but that had nought to do with age! And no - no friendship there.
My father has been with his 2nd wife for 34 years - he is 80 next year, she turned 60 this year. He was until recently an extremely fit, intellectual, vital man. She is a fun loving, intelligent, stable woman. SHE was and still is the parent figure in their relationship. He had a stroke earlier on this year, and he needs someone with her energy and ability now more than ever.
So age doesn't have to matter.

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 10:29 PM

Age is just a number and really shouldn't factor into the equation but unfortunately it does.
In todays day and age people should know better than to make comments such as in your case Jovial.. Society really does suck!!!! Besides, some people look older than their age and vice versa so to comment like that is ou either get on or you don't and that's all there is to it.
That's one of the down sides to being on a dating site like this. You have to put your age on your profile and if you're honest, and my vintage, you get relegated to the "too old" basket nine times out of ten and that's a fact.
Can't bring myself to respond favourably so anyone who is the same age as my older son though so I guess that's just another prime example of having to put age on profile. Maybe I could bribe rsvp and for a fee not have my ages on my profile??
Don't want those of you who know me jumping in and patronising me either ok...Grrr. I'm merely making a statement that is my opinion and it is true... Grr again!!!!
So, guys and ladies, get over the age thing and just live and let live.. Maybe I should have said love and let love???
Happy hunting all and be happyyyy!!!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 10:28 PM

Don't forget that you can meet someone who is say 40, that person can be a very active, fit and alive. Yet another 40 year old is unfit, unhealthy and leads a sedentary life. Yet a third 40 year old could be healthy, grossly immature and a parasite.

Keep an open mind, age is just one partner parameter unless you are counting on them dying soon :)

Ignore society and just be happy in your relationship.

Posted by: hermanhesse at December 16, 2007 10:09 PM

Yes that is sad jovial, that you let other people's comments put an end to something good. My ex husband is 9 years younger than me and had only just turned 19 when I met him. Initially my friends would say things like "you've got to be joking Jen", "you cant be serious!" etc as well as all the expected joking about toy boys and joy boys :) , but eventually everyone got used to us. Even his mother wished I would crawl back under wherever I came from as someone so much older was not what she wanted for her "baby". Well we were together for 21 years,and for the first 10 were very happy. Eventually it ended very badly, but his mum became , and still is, a very close friend.

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 16, 2007 10:04 PM

That's sad Jovial....you let go of something so good because of what society can't deal with :( What a shame.

Jedi - like your analogy there....probably a lot of truth in it. Age to me is irrelevant - its maturity - get that in all age groups (or not!)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 16, 2007 9:49 PM

My last partner was 13 years younger than me, we were together for 5-6 years. I too regret not understanding and meeting the challenges we faced and losing her. There is a major downside to dating someone younger and in my case very attractive, too attractive for this old dog and thats you get use to it! One sets unrealistic(maybe?)standards or expectations in partners and at the risk of sounding shallow, you find them a hard act to follow. Right or wrong? who know's, but this is my experience and my lot. I cant speak for others. I dont look at a persons age as I dont care,nor do they have to be supermodels! BUT I must be attracted to them or I'm being less than honest with them and more importantly, to myself! That is one thing I experience has taught me! True happiness and true love will only be found if we are true to ourselves and others....thats my belief.

Posted by: imanenigma at December 16, 2007 9:48 PM

I have always gone out with younger men....has never been a planned thing has just turned out that way...the biggest age gap being 8yrs!

Posted by: brilliantblue at December 16, 2007 9:44 PM

wishfulthinker

I dated a woman 12 years my senior for 18 months, but ended it due to a constant barrage of 'comments' from people thinking I was her son. It's a shame because she was an amazing woman and I do regret letting her go as I've yet to meet anyone who comes close to her (sigh).

Posted by: jovial67 at December 16, 2007 8:17 PM

Junebaby....too funny :) Thanks for the laugh. Jovial...society may "expect" that, but society expects us to marry and stay that way too - and we don't and that's acceptable to most....ah well....just something I keep noticing :) And no...I'm not after someone young enough to be my son.....at least not on purpose!!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 16, 2007 8:03 PM

Jovial...depending on who you listen to - that might leave a very wide range of things you CAN do :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 16, 2007 7:56 PM

wishfulthinker03

Here's my take on your age question. It's a cultural thing whereby society expects the man to be older or around the same age as the woman. This can also be said for the expectation that the man be taller than the woman.

By the way, it's not just the men that do it, many women also specify a younger preferred age for a male partner.

Posted by: jovial67 at December 16, 2007 7:53 PM

hi jedi, did the chinese girl understand her camera? It is strange what goes thru other peoples minds at times.

Imanenigma, you got me, a LOL moment, what men have to go thru for science..sheeshhhh..

Wishfulthinker, its just cause they think they can, and when you look at some of these old guys that are looking for younger women, you think " you have got to be kidding"!!! (or they have lots of money to throw around)
Some of them look like they have led very hard lives!!! and that is being kind!! So I am doing the same thing, 10 years is OK in my opinion.
I should point out that I have only ever done this on this site, once I realised that if old men can do it, so can any confident, attractive, sane woman!! So you go girl!!! Have a lovely evening...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 16, 2007 7:46 PM

jovial67 - what is it with Mr K Rudd? He doesn't remember whatever it was he was supposed to have done, wherever or whenever it was supposed to have happened, allegedly.

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 7:43 PM

welcome back, jedireturns. Wishfulthinker it is common,and also how many men late 40's and early 50's undecided about having more children as well. Maybe its their fountain of youth they are seeking.

Posted by: dolphin46 at December 16, 2007 7:27 PM

Getting back to the topic...

"Would a rating change your decision to contact them?"
No

"how (do) you feel about being rated yourself."
curious

"Would you want to know how you score?"
yes

"Would you want other members to see it?"
that would depend on how I rate! :-)

"would you want to be able to switch it off?"
yes

re profile completeness - waste of time. You can see that by looking at the profile.

re reply rate - as others have said it would depend on how this was calculated.

personally what would interest me most is a chatroom and a reduction in the cost of stamps.

Posted by: ysowl at December 16, 2007 7:16 PM

I have a question....anyone care to throw in their two cents worth??? What's with the "age" thing. While I dont look at female profiles (unless I'm putting a face to a blogger's name), but the vast majority of men I encounter are looking for women up to 17 years their junior, but only one or two years their senior? Do we have a "use by" date if we are, say, 5 years older. If you are willing to date someone young enough to be your daughters....why not slightly older too? Just a query....any ideas?

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 16, 2007 7:13 PM

imanenigma

Good one, very funny.

I just hope you wouldn't do anything that Kevin Rudd wouldn't do. :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 16, 2007 7:07 PM

@graceandcharm- jovial67 I have tried the smelling of womens tee shirt exercise.....and got my face slapped!!!.....ok they were wearing them at the time!!!........talk about overreacting......I mean all for the love of science.....nuthin suss!..Honest!......sadly...the judge wasn't convinced!!!

Posted by: imanenigma at December 16, 2007 6:37 PM

timewarp1 - I think it may have been, or meant to have been, ROFLMAO, meaning "rolling on floor laughing my arse off"..... that's my understanding of it anyway. Hope you managed to get yourself motivated enough to work in the end - hard on a Sunday, I would have thought.

Posted by: malsie at December 16, 2007 5:57 PM

Scent is supposed to be the main memory jogger as time goes on. Who remembers the scent of their mothers? all those years ago. It's all tied up with safety and security. Some research somewhere or other, don't quote me, cos I can't remember where or who.
Anyway, yep - even the lingering result of a hard day's work is great if he's great, regardless.
Interesting quotes from slightsynchronicity about other things coming in to mask it, women on the pill and whatever else.
and jovial67, maybe it's a fetish to some???!!! ya just never know

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 5:57 PM

jedireturns, just love it!!!!

Re the scents thing, my last big relationship, the 10 year one, he did shearing on his family property each year, and for some reason him being sweaty and in smelly jeans and blue shearer's singlet at the end of the day was a real turn on!!!
BTW they call those singlets wife beaters now, the son has been updating me on cool speech....have a lovely evening all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 16, 2007 5:43 PM

Graceandcharm

I can understand that women might want to smell guys shirts, but guys smelling womens shirts? C'mon, now your just being plain silly :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 16, 2007 5:29 PM

...and i for one have to admit that there are certain smells from a woman that have the same effect as vice versa............

Posted by: twoeyes at December 16, 2007 5:01 PM

Slightsync: to be fair then,has anyone done an experiment on guys smelling women's shirts ?

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 4:55 PM

probably not but remeber Andy Garcia.. Scent of a woman!

Posted by: twoeyes at December 16, 2007 5:00 PM

Timewarp: I think it's a pretty special goal in life...I wouldn't mind it...

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 16, 2007 4:58 PM

Slightsync: to be fair then,has anyone done an experiment on guys smelling women's shirts ?

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 4:55 PM

Imanenigma (sorry, it's Imanaughtyboy now!!!), Re your post I think was back on the 12th or there abouts.. Can't believe you didn't get any bites or was I just skimming over the posts too quickly and maybe missed them???

Bow tie will be fine and will most certainly add a touch of class!! Methinks maybe bbq won't be on the cards but hey, can still dress to impress!!!! As for the slap and tickle ( sorry, think you said slip, slop, slap). Oh well, same horse, different jockey so to speak.. Just stand there with lotion in hand and I'm sure you'll be inundated with offers ok??? "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 4:54 PM

Where are you all???. I go away for 4 days and you've all disappeared!!! Think I need to check some of the other topics....

Timewarp1... A belated birthday for last Thursday. X . Hope you had a good one!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 4:48 PM

hermannhesse: You're making it all too hard for yourself: What about this:

1) Be green and try to find someone within 25km, or 50 max.

2) Take her to the nearest RSVP gettogether. Too far away? Take her to any dance.

3) At mid-evening, tell her you're trialling a new B.O. Basher for the manufacturers, and ask her to sniff the cotton ball from your armpit, and tell you if the deodorant is doing the trick.

4) Pay some attention to her reply - at least write it down, but pay more attention to how she treats you for the rest of the evening.

5) Report the results of the experiment to us without delay.

hiddencharms: Thank you. Actually, that is my social goal in life (maybe via RSVP.) It's just a precis of the 2nd-last para. in my profile's main blurb.

PS. That was my smoko break. I'm being very wimpy about making myself work today. Feeling unusually playful and can't go to tennis. Grumblebum.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 4:27 PM

An afterthought, and right on Blogtopic: Could RSVP rate the guys by having a couple of girls who've dated him already, give their pinched trophy teeshirts a rating?

Or could it be done more reliably and unbiassedly live at the RSVP local get-togethers?

Just get the wallflowers to armpit the male dancers as they leave the floor at mid-evening, and give them a score.

What about

1) Overpowering deodorant (Name Brand if recognised.) Unable to detect owner's actual odour, so as to grade it.

2) Deodorant just winning. Unable to grade the manpong.

3) Sweat-decomposition products just winning, but too faint to grade.

4) Sweat-decomposition products way out ahead, but not at all attractive. Far from it. Cough uncontrollably as discreetly as possible, and then grade as gamma.

5) Sweat-decomposition products way out ahead. S-D products not unattractive, but not a turn-on either. Beta, subject to parallel rating of house, car and wallet. (ie. that bit about older and better-established, mentioned by S.Synch today.)

6) Sweat-decomposition products way out ahead, and what a turn-on! Alpha male for sure!

Such grading sessions might even be an excuse to stop the incessant unnecessarily-loud music for 2 minutes every 15, so non-dancers could hear to exchange 2 sentences, and dancers would have an excuse to change partners, like the gracious old days.

Similar ratings for the girls could be obtained even more simply, just by requiring them to include in their profile photos a real profile (ie semi-sideways shot) from head to waist, clad only in swimsuit or lingerie. (I feel that demanding the full wet teeshirt bit could be a health hazard in cold weather.)

Eeeeorrr! Eeeeeorrr! Doberman sisters alert! Run for the hair-raid shelter!

A historical parallel: In Elizabethan times when bathing tended to be annual in May, just before June Bride season, it was said that a man should fold up a kerchief and tuck it into his armpit before dancing.

Later, sitting beside the object of his desire, he should take it out warm and fresh and fan her perspiring brow with it, if he wanted to be sure of getting lucky that evening.

Maybe all males were alpha then, or were all females randy and unselective? (Or knew either how to interpret male unspoken body-language, and/or how to read a message from a flag?) An interesting topic for a social history thesis perhaps?

Must drag myself unwillingly off to work on Sunday arvo. Where IS that rich widow who'll fund my immediate retirement? Inyerdreams, Bill! Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 3:24 PM

Timewarp, re your comment: a Ms Rite-enuff who also thinks I'm Mr Right-enuff, so that we can share some serious bliss, and hopefully for yonks.

How true - I love it!

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 16, 2007 3:06 PM

bloody hell..........will have to go down to the local pub and pick a fight with some young hormonal alpha male, rip his teeshirt off him and then send it off to some female in Sydney. Oh what we do to find a partner.

Posted by: hermanhesse at December 16, 2007 2:34 PM

slightsynch: Please decipher acronym ROLFMAO, for me at least.

PS. I wonder if all the juvonegatives have gone away from this unapproving site, and are frolicing combatatively among the Friends and Lovers instead?

Haven't got time even to sample that blog at the moment.

Or maybe they've been put on time delay and censored away. How good that would be! Back to work.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 2:07 PM

Hi all
Just had a quick lunchtime peep, and today this blog is 100% delightful. All positive and all interesting. Just what you hope a blog would be.

And what an early start! They talk about owls (me) and fowls (him), but for me from now on, forget sparrowfart. The first crack of dawn is definitely fishfart.

And I'm entranced by the sweaty teeshirt parameter. Oh brave new world! No need now for pub brawls or other male contests - just get a couple of girls to check the contesting armpits, and locate the alpha male in a flash.

Who needs a laboratory or introduction agencies, now that we have teeshirts - sweaty for grading males, and wet for grading females?

Do we have the next-generation format for speed-dating here? The first round eliminates the alpha male and the alpha frontage, then the next round pairs off the 2nd places, and so on.

Disclaimer: before the Doberman sisters savage me again for sexist putting down of women (or men?) read between the lines and lighten up - only funning!

ijst54: thank you very much for the miniautobiog in your reply this morning.

I had only included my own background to try to justify my ideallistically high standards for adult interpersonal behaviour, and felt free to do that because a lot of other bloggers have also felt that I am too hard on childish wrangling between adults in public. It was a reply to them too.

But getting your detailed reply made it for me into a mini-date-without-blessing-of-RSVP-stamp, and I apologise to those 3rd parties who were embarrassed by having to eavesdrop.

ijst54: there were a lot of jokes and pranks in my family too, but I felt that they were all cruel - laughing at a fall guy, not laughing with empathy at the absurdity or serendpity of what fate had just dealt him.

I've got a birthday free stamp that expires on Wed. Anyone want me to use it, to email with you 1-on-1 during the next month? No romance need be intended.

PS. Enjoyed the dance, but am now grounded for the next coupla days. At a roadside routine check 200 mtrs before I got there, I found that this was the year I had to renew my licence (by last Thurs.)

A mate drove me and my car 6 blocks home after the dance, and my first job Monday is to cab it 3km to get a new licence. The nice copperette (another sexist term) didn't book me - till she catches me driving this weekend. So I'm catching up on work, and missing the tennis workout tonite.

Never mind - danced up a real sweat last night - but forgot to get anyone to sample it and rate me.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 1:53 PM

Slightsync. that's exactly what a friend of mine did with a guy she was in contact with online and hadn't met. They sent their used t-shirts in the post to each other (he lived in America and her here); they seemed to smell okay to each other, but she wasn't in the least bit attracted to him when they met in person eventually. Perhaps by the time his had arrived it had lost his "scent" - who knows! I do think there's a lot in the pheremone idea though.

Posted by: malsie at December 16, 2007 12:29 PM

Noticed my posts for December 11, 2007 9:17 PM and December 12, 2007 3:20 AM have been approved, and have heard that RSVP support has responded to a few people who kindly contacted them on my behalf (wasn't necessary, sweethearts, but I owe you one), so giving a post a go.

I reckon the practical reality of the proposed profile-rating system is that the majority of site users will ignore it anyway. The people receiving loads of kisses will continue to receive loads of kisses, even with a shocking rating; the people receiving a dismal number of kisses (hi!) will continue to receive a dismal number of kisses, even with a super rating.

Did you know that online dating is highly picture-centric? Yeah? Well, how about something a little less known than that: Did you know that the sun is hot?

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at December 16, 2007 11:00 AM

Please guys do not neglect your personal hygiene...just read the articles. It was done by scientists. Showering and other personal hygiene is great! ROLFMAO. I am not responsible for anything that occurs if any of u guys change your cleanliness habits.

The ABC radio just that silly 12 days of Christmas where is all goes pearshaped by Frank Kelly.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 16, 2007 10:53 AM

ijst54 here are some links, the original article was from ninemsn or some other everyday newspage. The lighter funnier article is lost in my email inbox. Will look later. Yes aftershave, I remember that but some of us thought Brut was OK. Oh I had forgotten that. I think the "smell" of these hormonlike or chemical compounds is non-existant. Hope the articles explain it?? I really do not hope that I can be obtaining scents from my computer, and on the bus with everyone else with all their scents from their computers. Ha ha. Oh and this is not my original "research" but this link below says women prefer older more established males.

http://gcuonline.georgian.edu/wootton_l/smellyt.htm

This next link http://www.learnbodylanguage.org/pheromones.html leads to

"In 1995, Claus Wedekind of the University of Bern in Switzerland asked a group of women to smell some unwashed t-shirts worn by different men. The women were able to sniff the shirts and reject (said they were "offensive") those shirts worn by males closely related to themselves. The women were attracted to clothing that was worn by males with a very different immune system than their own. Presumably, this difference in immune systems allows the male and female to combine their defenses and give their offspring the best chances for survival. This research was repeated in the U.S. and Brazil with similar results."

Cannot find the original article...anyway it depends on if the women is on the pill, whether the man has eaten spicey food in the previous two days. The pheremone detection ability by a female of a certain males "scent" is reduced if he has had sex in the the last two days.

So, and this is tongue in cheek, a guy just needs to post his shirt worn for 2 days off in the mail...sealed properly of course. Sort of bizarre and a running joke between a male friend and me, he keeps saying he will post some old gym shirt to me. Its just science though. Will post the link to the other site if I find it (from an ABC Catalyst show I think.) In real life we are not under controlled laboratory conditions.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 16, 2007 10:46 AM

........and there we were all thinking personal hygiene was an attractive trait !! How wrong can we be....

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 10:44 AM

today122 You asked a few questions because you do not understand why people do or say certain things especially with thier experience of 40-50 years. Well that answers your question, 40-50 years of experience has made them the way that they are. Some like to share others don't. You don't think it necessary and don't need to know, some of us do. I think the main thing is that when a person shares or not that it is done with all honesty with no animosity. Again I take my hat's off to istj54 and others who has kindly shared thier experiences. Why do people take offense to other people who should not be given the time of day? because we are only human. I didn't say anything before but I thought it was pretty narrow minded of someone to say that their was no 'Ladies' on the blog because of a few that we misbehaving, I didn;t say anything but it did not mean that I did not think it.

Posted by: mstingle at December 16, 2007 10:39 AM

Jovial67…………yes do let us know how that works for you !! Either you will have women hanging off you in droves or running away as fast as they can  . I did actually see an experiment about this very thing on TV some months ago. What they found in that very limited study was, however, that most of the women were attracted to the same tshirt. Lucky man !!

Slightsynch…………have a lovely day at you BBQ, and post that link when you find it !

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 16, 2007 10:23 AM

istj54 at December 16, 2007 8:39 AM
I loved this post! You gave a bit about you self, your thoughts about a current topic and a reflection on what others had posted. This is an example of what I like to read. You often have something rather interesting to share, keep it up

Posted by: mstingle at December 16, 2007 10:21 AM

I have noticed that the past few days neroticfish has contributed to the blog and has not made any negative comments toward anyone and has not taken anyones bait. Hopefully anyone else that needs to follow this, does also.

Posted by: mstingle at December 16, 2007 10:12 AM

neuroticfish: like I said before I like your sense of humour. jenjen57 also keep the jokes flowing.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 16, 2007 10:12 AM

jovial67 ha ha, thats it. I will try to find the link. Was based on "tests" researchers did on women who took a whiff of T-shirts men had wore. No men present. The point was to see if the attraction factor occured in the woman. The shirt worn for 2 days can trigger a desire in a woman to strongly bond with the man...i.e. have his child etc and stay with him longterm. Only do the unwashed shirt thing jovial if you seriously want to attract someone. Will go find the link...there is more but the article will say it better. It may amuse you and it is not full of chemical formulae BTW.

Off to hunt for the link.
today122, noone should feel they have to justify themselve on any blog. Everyone lightening up as far as possible is good advice. I guess scroll over personal details and stories you feel you don't need to know : )) It is a form of communication ideally and I hear the bloggers meetings are fun : )

This is a community of sorts and for myself I am newish, others are not. We get to learn more about one another than what is just on a profile. I do not mind reading about people's lives, hopes, dreams, love lost or even their pain. Vitriolic attack on any blogger is not on but jesting and light hearted stirring will occur as it is human nature. today122 thinking before we write and speak is the best thing to do. Do you think you would enjoy being a teacher today122, I always felt I could not cope with kids who mucked around lots...unrelated to the blog of course. [I asked my daughter who does Psych and Criminology at uni and is way more sensible than me...what she thought of some bloggers attacking behaviour in the past (seems to have ceased). Not my opinion, hers...she said that the person(s) must be a teenager or child to react like that. This is not an attack on anyone just writing to today122]. So if it is offensive or irrelevant we scroll past it but you are right we have to appreciate differences and some people like to divulge more. Personally I clown around sometimes and find ludicrous things amusing, lots of things I post are tongue in cheek. Surely we would all get on better in real life over a beer/wine/cuppa.
ijst54 no need for paranoia am sure, half of us possibly think we are referred to as loons. What is normal anyway? I have a penchant for telling silly stories. Don't worry istj54 you come across as fine...I suppose an undercurrent of judgement which has subsided then gets some of us to overthink. Cos when we are judged some of use become defensive. Can fun be allowed on the blog, I hope so?

We do not know what anyone is like totally until we meet them and some people are closed books in real life. Personally I am not on here to judge anyone and in real life am positive but mostly realistic. Trying not to be too cynical. Hope you bloggers have a good Sunday, am having a BBQ with a friend who is missing her ex a lot??? and some other friends (Will try to cheer her up).

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 16, 2007 10:08 AM

ninaschen & notgodsgift I totally agree why add fuel to the fire, I am sure we have plenty to talk about without fighting. I am sure that we are all very intelligent and interesting people and others will find that out if we le them. I think some people are unsure of themself so they hide behind finding fault with others. They are not only hurting others but themselves as well. We are not always going to agree on things or have the same ideas or taste but that is okay, that is what makes life interesting. Also if you hide how are you going to find people that think the way you do. It is okay to be different, others should not stand in judgement as long as you do not attack others.

Posted by: mstingle at December 16, 2007 10:01 AM

Well said IAE,most of us are here to find life partners and not to enter into a silly competition.Don't we do our own form of informal rating anyway in selecting who we contact?If we need help with that then that is a bit sad.Whatever happened to using intuition,commonsense,experience?? I'll choose a life partner based on that,not an external rating system imposed by who knows.

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 9:49 AM

Good point istj54, I do not wish to have my profile rated by anyone but those who may be interested in me as a potential partner and we do that already. Leave the scores,points or stars out of it! I dont understand the point of the Top 100, this is not a competition. We look,find,read, make contact and take our chances. It may be convenient and it has its faults...profiles are just ads for people, clues as to what may or may not be on offer....buyer beware!

Posted by: imanenigma at December 16, 2007 9:20 AM

istj54 - "Every time I read bloggers accusing others of being loons I start to wonder if they mean me...others must feel the same and it just puts you off blogging" YES. gives the paranoia some oxygen.
Why is there so much finger pointing and accusing? Why are some driven to feel the need to justify themselves here? I feel that I'm reading really personal details about people that I don't know, details that I really have no right to know, and in general I don't really have any opinion about, other than what they write here. What people write here is not the sum total of who they are, and this sort of communication is of course limited, no voice, no facial expression, of course and we know that. So why do some take it upon themselves to attack, when some of those being attacked do take it to heart. We alll need to toughen up and lighten up, of course, but some need to just think about what they write.
Agree to disagree, learn and appreciate differences in people's opinions, realise that so much of this is meant to be light hearted anyway. I see that the majority of bloggers are 40's and 50's - surely we've learned by now how to get along with people? Or will my naivety be my downfall?
My lecture for the day? should have been a teacher.
istj54 - enjoy your day and I'm sure you will anyway

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 8:58 AM

Thank you for your response, Timewarp....and for your interesting biography..it's nice to get some background on bloggers..it gives you a clearer picture of where they are coming from with their views and responses.

I, too, started to do the housework and shopping etc. at an early age as my mother dies when I was nine. She was very sick for years before so, being a large family of five children, we were all expected to help. My dad then brought us up alone...hats off to you poppa.

We didn't have much money but we did have humour, teasing and love. This may be why I come across as flirty, flippant and silly at times. It can lighten the mood and deflect from nastiness.

I only have one profile and always have. I have changed my name three times but personally, see nothing sneaky or phoney about this. I have only changed it after quitting rsvp to take time-out and returning again. My names are all clearly stated on my profile.

...that said, I see nothing wrong with having two profiles running...most dating experts suggest people do this to attract different types to you. I just never have.

Hope you had fun dining and dancing last night. I love your get up and get out there attitude. It is inspiring to me!

Slightsynchonicity...I imagine we would never be without our laptops by our sides when that technology comes through. You can already get smelly stickers and textas...In my dim dark past I used to buy small samples of aftershave that some of the men I dated wore and sniff it just to remind me of them. Smell is a powerful aphrodesiac...

Now back to the topic: RSVP, I think it would be dangerous and devestating to allow members to rate one another. Some have vendettas and axes to grind. You just have to read these blogs to tell you why it is such a bad idea. Every time I read bloggers accusing others of being loons or unintelligent or nasty or writing drivel, whatever, I start to wonder if they mean me...others must feel the same and it just puts you off blogging.

Posted by: istj54 at December 16, 2007 8:39 AM

and put a rating on the smell? ooh grosser.

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 11:46 PM

slightsynchronicity

So THAT'S where I'm going wrong! From now on, I'm wearing my clothes for at least 2 days without washing prior to first dates. After all, first impressions do count. :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 11:46 PM

hi jen, sounds gross doesn't ??? think it maybe just for male pheremones...only. Seeing how it takes so long to log on even, on the blog sometimes due to "computer problems" it may not be worth the bother. (My computer would play up)However we could smell chocolate, coffee, roses....I will post the link one day. Loved the ironing joke, so apt : ))

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 15, 2007 11:31 PM

slightsynchronicity

So...........when sniff technology becomes a reality and they can transmit smell over TV/internet, we wont need pics, just post a profile with your personal pheremones :)

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 15, 2007 9:58 PM

Hi ijst54, you may know this anyway...just that you mentioned pheremones, apparantly all a female needs is the "scent" or whatever its called of the pheremones on a T-shirt the guy has worn for 2 days, to see if there is an attraction. No breathing in pheremones from shirts is not a hobby, by the way. Just reading about this kind of thing is interesting (to me). The article is tongue in cheek but based on real scientific research.

Will try to find the weblink (the article explains it all, so I do not need to mention it again) someone may find it entertaining or interesting.

ninashen, bloggers being civil is of course the way a blog should function.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 15, 2007 9:48 PM

Here here ninaschen & notgodsgift! :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 9:37 PM

NotGodsGift - I agree with you 100%, though it is not always easy picking the loons straight away. But once identified, they should be ignored. Talk around them. Talk over the top of them. But don't talk to them or about them. It is time some camaraderie was brought back to the blogs. We don't all have to agree with each other but surely we can all be civil.

Posted by: ninaschen at December 15, 2007 9:31 PM

Malsie - you're a sweetie.
buying a camera tomorrow actually!
cheers

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 9:19 PM

Hi Timewarp1,

Thanks for the vote of confidence in nominating me as a possible arbiter in the ongoing feud between HC and FP regarding the profile. However (and with no disrespect to either of these 2 ladies), I have absolutely no interest in the subject - it is a no win situation whichever way you look at it.

On another topic, I find it sad that good sincere people here continue to feed the various loons within these blogs by engaging them in debate or argument (loons dont know that they are loons); your are fighting a losing battle. Just ignore them and stop feeding their pathetic egos.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 15, 2007 8:57 PM

I looked at your profile before you hid it, today122, and you sounded as interesting as you do in your posts - I forgot to say that earlier! Although it's always nice to see the photo too to get more of an idea of a person.
Will now duly hide mine again.... I hope everyone's weekend is going well.

Posted by: malsie at December 15, 2007 8:45 PM

malsie
thank you for your 2.50 today.
I read and I appreciate that and I love your part of the world.
I will do the same shortly.
cheers

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 7:55 PM

Going dining and dancing now. Happy blogging to the solitary stay-at-homes, and if that fails, hope your plasma reignites NF..

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 7:33 PM

Well put IMANENIGMA. We should always aim to excel, whether or not we can manage a truly legendary performance on a given night or day.

No thanks NEUROTICFISH. a gal of 42 is miles too young for me. My son would have been 41 now, if he'd got past his late teens.

I have dated a few 55s last year, but they're too young for me, especially culturally. Just about to change my bottom cutoff from 59 to 60.

Active 61-63s seem to be about my match physically, and that's important to me. Want someone as energetic as I am, not much more or less, or one of us will be holding the other back all the time, just to stay together.

MYERS-BRIGGS, or is it the Disc? (buried my copies when I moved, so haven't deciphered you yet):

The viagra script is for a stingy 4 (yes blue) tablets, so with Dr appointment, less medicare refund, they're most of $30 each. But good sex is so good, people will spend a lot on it.

I'm sorry if my evaluation of others' postings sometimes seems severe to you. Most of me is an unusually fair-dinkum, very-responsible (often boring) person, brought up in a family where "childish", "juvenile" and "immature" were all strongly-disapproving allegations.

My mother lived on wallaby in the depression, because subsistance farmers can't afford butchers. Self-indulgent troublemaking childhood was an unaffordable luxury.

I started helping to work our farm on my 5th birthday, and my daughters began adult-style housework at 6.

My children were allowed tantrums only till they were 3, after which power-plays and attention-getting misbehaviour were diagnosed and explained to them, and discouraged. 'TA for kids' when still very young. My daughters are even higher achievers than their parents. I'm enormously proud of them both.

So the self-indulgent spoilt-childish squabbling and name-calling and the picking on (appeals for negative feedback rather than none at all),which are all rife in these blogs was a considerable surprise to me, and a great disappointment.

Who wants any contact with the kind of people who go on like that, let alone wanting to be their friend? 100 times too heavy-maintenance, to be worth having in your life. Liabilitiy-people, not assets.

My mum said civilisation is the byeproduct of most people usually being nice to most of the people that they meet, and I see a lot of the opposite here.

Sometimes I am disgusted enough to speak my mind, as lightly and playfully as my boring-old-fart try-hard good-boy personality will let me. I tried to explain it clearly and uncritically to a newbie a couple of nights ago in this blog.

Can't remember you personally going beyond the pale - perhaps a bit peevish occasionally - can't spare the time to blog-read for 4 hours, to let me quote you chapter and verse. And I've enjoyed and/or agreed with a lot of your posts. Always glad to see your name as I scroll upwards through the latest posts.

Not sure if you have multiple codenames and don't care. I obediently think of them separately, anyway. I've never been idle enough or coocoo enough to have multiple personalities myself. Answer your question?

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 7:20 PM

You’re terrible, Muriel

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:59 PM

The blue ones?

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:55 PM

Well sugarbabe I have to blame something, the plasma is playing up too.

where's my tablets

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:48 PM

Wraecca, I have always thoroughly enjoyed your postings and have never found them to be anywhere near offensive. I, too, enjoy a discussion with different viewpoints.....difficult to have here...respect is often lacking and personal hangups and frustrations come into play, that are then taken out on innocent bloggers just proffering their own views...funny old world...but boy, are these blogs boring without some debate going on?

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:45 PM

You are now repeating yourself...sweetiebabe...and that does not rate well either.

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:40 PM

And here I have a 2400mhz and 300 gig love machine and it still gets stucks in a rut

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:37 PM

Well I looked up the chemical formula for red cordial only to find that it normally has so many additives, preservatives, artificial sweeteners. So I thought. Why would she need an artificial sweetener. She’s already sweet enough as it is.

Jovial. The formula is about right when not done to excess. Quantity of chemicals ingested have various excretory effects. What comes out might be more uric acid (NH2)2CO rather than proteins, organelles, phospholipids, actins etc.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:33 PM

...and I think that you and jovial are being superscilious about your chemical formulas...JMO

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:26 PM

Had a funny artificial sweetener story from lunch today...I had the barman searching the premises for equal for my coffee after giving me my plum pudding with cream and custard...also a chocolate with said coffee...he was bemused to say the least.

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:24 PM

Well I looked up the chemical formula for red cordial only to find that it normally has so many additives, preservatives, artificial sweeteners. So I thought. Why would she need an artificial sweetener. She’s already sweet enough as it is. Suck. Suck.

Jovial, I think it’s flying right over their heads

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:21 PM

Well I looked up the chemical formula for red cordial only to find that it normally has so many additives, preservatives, artificial sweeteners. So I thought. Why would she need an artificial sweetener. She’s already sweet enough as it is. Suck. Suck.

Jovial, I think it’s flying right over their heads

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:20 PM

Well I looked up the chemical formula for red cordial only to find that it normally has so many additives, preservatives, artificial sweeteners. So I thought. Why would she need an artificial sweetener. She’s already sweet enough as it is. Suck. Suck.

Jovial, I think it’s flying right over their heads

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:19 PM

morganstanley, re your post on December 15, 2007 8:22 AM, I am a major complainant?
I have only recently stated that there was, for a dating site, some nasty and inappropriate comments being made. If you want to disagree with someone, fine, by all means, disagree. But to phrase it in such a derogatory and uncivilised manner on a *Dating Site* is just uncalled for. As for me being a 'regular' complainer, let's see, how many times have I posted over the last month? How many times have I complained? Was my position justified? Please don't criticise someone you don't even know, based on maybe 3 posts objecting to the language used on this website.

Oh and just so you know, if you have read any of my previous posts in previous topics, you will see that I endeavour to get my point across without resorting to name-calling and slanderous remarks. I don't believe people have to agree with each other all the time, but I do believe that they should at least try to be civil.

Posted by: wraecca at December 15, 2007 6:17 PM

Neuroticfish

I liked your last equation, but I can’t see how that would create chemistry in it’s own right. Perhaps this would help: [CnH2n+1OH] + C20H25N3O for the female, and [CnH2n+1OH] + C22H30N6O4S for the male.

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 6:14 PM

Neuroticfish, is that in her own lifetime or own mind..think the latter to be more the truth...and call her whatever you like...don't forgot who set up the rules and has proceded to break them over, and over, and over again...not me...so call me what you like babe!

TW, do they just give you a script for one blue tablet?...just out of interest..mind you. And TW, do you include me in those you are so scathing of on these blogs?...also just out of interest!

I saw a very funny British movie with a great Viagra scene. A group of men took them before going into a meeting with Saudis. They had to dress in the white robes and, as you can imagine, were all standing to attention. It was hilarious...not that I have a smutty sense of humour..cos I know that would not rate here, oh no!..on topic.

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 5:55 PM

I was just spending some time reminiscing, IAE..no recent regrets..you are so right about the drumloads though...don't know what gets into people....think a bit of group or gang mentality...can turn ugly very quickly....and someone always gets hurt...and apparently some people here enjoy that...

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 5:45 PM

I think She Who Cannot Be Named By Me is already a Legend in Her Own Lifetime anyway.

Timewarp. You hit it on the head in one blow. Go for a prescription of Mothers Aide and they whip a blood pressure cuff on you. Tells you to step up the au natural exercise program. So you slug it out on 50 km runs, and for what, may I ask. You are so buggered by the end of all that exercise that you settle for a cold beer instead.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 5:41 PM

I dont know about drumloads? But there's heaps of it here! All I can say is dont step in it!......@istj54- a cure for your morning regrets......aim higher! .....so in the morning its more of a case of....."Now I think I'm a legend!" or,"Oh my god,what have I done?....and I hope we can do it again!".......lol Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 15, 2007 5:27 PM

Hi again NF. So glad that reject bloke wasn't me. And very impressed with all your mysterious chemical formulae. Pity that the RSVP blog font doesn't run to subscripts, to do you justice. (I only did Chem 1 at Qld. Uni in '50s. All faded now. Use it or lose it. Or Google it.)

And No, NF, I'm not on any of those other substances you mentioned, whatever they were. That I know of.

Just the Superman/Supergirl diet in my 2.22pm post today, and an active metabolism.

But I did have an adventure with VIAGRA about 3 years ago.

A certain widow in her late 70s had found an equally-elderly lover, and when she'd worked her way through her dead husband's considerable stash, her lover's Doc wouldn't give him any, in case he then got blamed for his patient dying with a smile on both their faces.

So she asked me to help by getting her some, allegedly for me. I thought yes, what a way to go, so I agreed.

But when I got to my Doc and she clapped the blood-pressure cuff on me, I was so anxious about getting sprung/ not getting the stuff for my needy mate/ living a lie or whatever, that my own blood pressure shot up about 20/20 over its usual value, and I had to talk very fast, just to get the viagra for me. When I get to that stage, I'll just try a studded collar on the ferret.

The fan should have got rid of the paint fumes by now, so I'd better get back to work. Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 5:27 PM

Don't try to confuse me with chemistry, now.......I'll just have it in caramel or hot chocolate fudge...maybe sludge...can you just spray it around like perfume or pheromones?

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 5:13 PM

Drum load. What of?

Polyester or aliphatic polyurethane with silicone based dimethicone lubricant, dip or thermo moulded, extruded, die cut or heat sealed.

What flavour.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 5:03 PM

Hey the whole dating thing is about respect. You don't know what the person on the other end is like really. So why not just send a simple "thanks, but no thanks" IF THEY HAVE FOUND YOU ALLURING.

These days I hardly send any kisses, just wait for the women to send kiss/email to which I respond. Way too many women just don't answer at all or ever.

Posted by: whatcomesnext at December 15, 2007 4:59 PM

...where can I get some?

Can you buy it in drums from the servo?

...or maybe the guys should bring their own?

...and in my experience, it is more, "Now I think I am awful" or, "Oh my god, what have I done?" in the morning.

Apologies to all who may think me supercilious..just the way I am!

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 4:35 PM

Timewarp.

No. I was not referring to you.

Besides I think the girl concerned got over her fit of crying anyway. Isn’t it wonderful what alcohol will do. A good dose of which is about the only good chemistry that works wonders with these analysing femmes. CnH2n+1OH, EtOH, CH3CH2OH, C2H5OH, C2H6O
Take it in large doses girls and you’ll quickly find that “there was no chemistry” becomes “Now he’ll think I’m awful”

As for WnW, I did point him in the direction of a wonderful 42yo that made a brief appearance on this site. These creatures tend to be more feminine than any au naturels, in the same way that Oxford Street overemphasizes the outwards trappings of masculinity, but I think he got cold feet or something.

Maybe Timewarp you could fit her into your tight schedule.

And I do think you must be on High performance Sildenafil citrate, tadalafil, aor vardenafil. You must be getting that energy from somewhere

And for all you Ladies who insist on there being chemistry that is C22H30N6O4S

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 4:17 PM

today122, your comment is a long way back now, but the first chance I've had to comment. I'm glad you're letting some of the stuff that goes on in here go over your head and getting something out of reading posts and contributing. My profile has been hidden for a while as I'm now involved with someone, but I frequently "unhide" it for blogging purposes - to contact bloggers or enable people to "put a face to the posts" sort of thing, as I like to do myself.
I'll unhide it for a couple of days if you want to check it out so you can get more of a feel for a fellow blogger, if you like.

Posted by: malsie at December 15, 2007 2:50 PM

jaspercat
Who knows why many people send kisses? I've heard women complain that many men don't read profiles and just look at the photo's but I can assure you that this often works the other way around.

I agree with morganstanley's 9:16am post that it is probable that many of the kisses you've received have come from men who use the scatter-gun approach.

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 2:50 PM

neuroticfish -

one more stall before I have to start boring work - please do reply to my question at 11.30am on 13th about what I suspected was a slur on me in your 7.59am post that morning.

If you don't want to reply in public on this blog, say so and I'll use my free birthday email (dead early next week if not used by then) to let you do it privately.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 2:49 PM

Jaspercat,aren't we women only interested in men that can follow through with their actions? If they can't, I can't see the point in giving them another thought.Move on to someone worthy of your time girl !!

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 15, 2007 2:43 PM

Graceandcharm
I know but why do these people send kisses? Are they supposed to make you feel special in some way? In fact they depress you even more to the fact that there are not that many genuine people out there. Anyway that was great advice and I will take note. I am still only learning about this cyber space

Posted by: jaspercat at December 15, 2007 2:27 PM

Hi neuroticfish - going to stay with you in HealthAdviceLand, after thanking you again for your really valuable freebie tip at dawn yesterday:

No - I'm not running on 100-octane racing fuel, plus benzol, methanol OR nitro.

Yes - blood-pressure droppers, but different from the ones prescribed by the unqualified angry young man, and explained to me by Auntiekaz.

And I'll be able to halve the dose in 6 months time, once I've lost 15-20kg again, as I did in 2003. Hope to keep it off permanently this time, if I can find a fast-walking partner. Too boring walking or swimming laps on your own, if you're an extrovert.

Yes, RUTIN (no, the bioflavinoid from buckwheat, not the act itself - haven't been on that for 4 years, and
yes

MORGANSTANLEY, I do want to get it together with some nice old "boiler" again, and give us both the big one - 3 or 4 in a row for her if she digs multiples, and just one for me - don't reload as quickly, now I'm older, but I now last longer to begin with. And I hope you won't be upset with my frankness here, having said today that there are no ladies on this blog.

And by the way, I take offence when you call it "hitting on". So prudishly sexist. Why are 98% of us in RSVP anyway, for Eros's sake? And more women than men?

The Rutin is for my tennis and energetic dancing. A natural anti-inflammatory. Without it, I'm sore and lame in both feet within 48 hours. They're heavily loaded, and worked hard.

Yes - daily doses of GLAs, the only food group we can't synthesise - fish oil daily, and almonds, walnuts, brazils, pepitas and sunflower seeds (different GLAs) in turn. (Plus evening primrose and linseed, for that other gender).

By the way, soy has recent question marks, and (mildew-produced) soy sauce has just been confirmed (reported last month) as one of the top 10 carcinogens. Change to Vegemite. (Not its copies, adulterated with 20% of hunger-stimulating sugar.)

Yes, ordinary vitamins, lots of salad daily, especially mung bean sprouts (natural antibiotic), veges (raw when possible) and fibre. No more than 6 glasses of red a week, or less than 3.

And if I'm going out after work more than 5 nights a week (6 this week) daily Cenovis Energy Plus.

Enough exercise to get me breathing deeply every second day, and 50 hours of sleep a week, spread over at least 13 nights and preferably 14, plus one or two late-afternoon 2-hour siestas each fortnight.

Not rocket fuel. Just well-selected ordinary healthy stuff. And a naturally hyperactive metabolism.

As to my Notches-in-belt Syndrome as you so eloquently labelled it, neuroticfish, that's actually not a Disease. It's a Symptom of my recent major 2-year investment of time and money in trying to find asap. a Ms Rite-enuff who also thinks I'm Mr Right-enuff, so that we can share some serious bliss, and hopefully for yonks.

As a can't-help-myself statistician, I keep count. And because I believe that if you've got it (including vital statistics) you should flaunt it, I publish my statistics.

Partly to let those who are younger, fitter and richer than I am (and that's most of you) look at a fairly impressive benchmark, to compare your own performance with.

Hoping that the comparison will inspire you to stop snivelling into your coffee, vino or blog, or sitting reassuringly within reach of their remote and beer fridge all Saturday evening, and get out there and try to find someone that they can make seriously happy.

Or make you and them at least recognise that there are (to amend a bon mot from my high-school days,) old blokes out there, doing all year what the young blokes start thinking about in the Springtime.

That's what I tell youall. But I tell myself it's just being a good citizen, and publicly setting a good example to my peers. (Reckon I'd believe almost anything that I told mysellf, like the gullible shy bush-bred boy that I was.)

And now I realy must go downstairs and work. Gotta be up a manhole and inside a roof down at the Gold Coast at 8am Monday, supervising tradies installing one of my electric chandelier hoists. And I haven't even painted the next batch of parts yet, let alone order-picked the hundred different components and assembled the subassemblies. Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 2:22 PM

Jaspercat...we have all been there,don't worry.I had 2 kisses from the SAME guy and twice I said I was interested,and still no reply !! I just don't take it personally,at this stage it is still only just cyber-space after all.

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 15, 2007 1:20 PM

Tried to post this in the small hours last night, but site had gone down while my 2 slow old fingers were working on it, so saved it in Word and sending now.

I'm still too high to sleep.

AUNTIEKAZ:

Thank you for your info on the Ram-it drug. I hadn't bothered to google (or wikipedia) it, because I now know enough about enough different subjects, to be comfortable about not knowing everything about everything anyone mentions. Got past that insecurity at about 20.

TODAY122:

Thank you so much for your totally unexpected birthday good wishes. At 72 I'm still working very hard, trying to get a small nestegg together for my old age (hopefully starting in my early 80s.)

So I spread the celebrations out over 3 days: the DATE last night, 3 blissful hours this morning with my nearby daughter and my adored grandchildren aged 5 and 2 1/2, and my dinner tonight with my best 6 poet buddies, one of whom gave me a lift to and from, so that I could have an extra merlot for once, bless her.

And tomorrow night with my social club, Dabblers - 20 or 30 of the 150 there will be good mates, gathered over 10 years in the club. I know a lot of very nice people.

Now 3am real time, so I'm going to make myself do something totally boring like washing up or cleaning my shoes, or try to sleep. Goodnight Bill.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 12:14 PM

Morning all

Is it suddenly already the Christmas season of peace and goodwill? Or did everyone get out of the bed on the right side, on the same day? Or just weekend beautiful weekend? Just read this morning's posts, and it has gotta be one of them.

Who was the ingenue in 'The Tempest'? I feel like her. No no no - like she felt.

Thanks for the reminder about updating my profile. But I definitely won't hide it. Why?

1) Don't want to stop posting, now that the weather's suddenly got so nice in Blogland, and don't believe people have a right to post with their profiles down. Thats sniping through a knothole in the wall.

2) I am still looking for more platonic female friends. Only got about eight really close ones. and could do with a few more. And some more non-wimpy SNAG friends too, actually.

3) Who knows where my current hoped-for relationship will go in the next few weeks? In the last 4 months, the last two I was keen on (one after the other) each suddenly said 'No! On second thoughts, we won't head for the cot!' - just when we were about to set foot on the bottom step, after half a dozen dates just eating, talking and movies or DVDs, plus brief parting hugs and kisses.

4) RSVP has one kiss reply that I call "Not at the moment, thanks, till I decide about the one before you in the queue".

I see this as being exactly for situations like mine at the moment, and not just for people to use who don't fancy you, but are too wimpily 'polite' to say 'Thanks, but no thanks," and thus tell you where you really stand.

Should go earn my living. Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 11:59 AM

I think the general idea of rating is excellent, however, I'm not impressed with the RSVP options.

Replying to kisses, recently I have been getting fed up having to reply "I'm left wondering if you read read my profile", should I penalised for eventually giving up with the need for such replies? In fact if a member is getting a lot of that same reply, doesn't that say something about 'them'?

I'd rather get some quality feedback about 'me vs my profile'. I suggest some key words that only those who have exchanged e-mails could select as applicable, or possibly a comment line.

Appearance is a major aspect of dating, hence I think that should be rated, eg, how representative is the photo?

What about 'Age'?

And of course weight!

Most of the ladies I have met have been pleasent, just no magic between us.

I think RSVP's own profile and personality experts ought to able to advise on some key areas for feedback and their ratings, eg, Interested in me or talked about themselves; listener vs ?; dynamism; affluence;openess;honesty; eye contact; sense of humour. Just a thought but maybe having to consider such a list appropriately constructed by these personality pros, might get members actaully think about theirdates in a more meaningful manner, ie, more condusive to future success?

There are those who send a kiss or reply showing interest and then don't even acknowledge the subsequent stamped e-mail. I don't think RSVP's automated system will cater for that, but a suitable comment might, eg, "Requests e-mail but doesn't respond". Shouldn't they forefiet a stamp?

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