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notgodsgift, I get heaps of women look at my profile...I don't find it creepy cos they could all read the blog, or be very bored...no idea. I believe I did read Helter Skelter some time ago. I study this stuff so for recreation would choose Ian Rankin maybe...thanks for the ideas. May start with the Notebook...and I will Google the film and the book below.Truth is stranger than fiction, some court cases have very odd things. Sometimes I look up everyone who blogs, just to refresh my memory....I generally do not disable the view. Bob I guess you prefer it if its the ladies viewing you and not the men tooo much. I really have to do some gardening. This blog is fun.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 19, 2007 5:25 PM

SSC, Today122

What I find creepy is guys looking at my profile without disabling their "view" - fair dinkum fellas, I dont need to see that you are checking out who I am just because you blog!!

If you like reading books about this type of stuff try to get "The Devil in the White City". Its a true story about the Chicago Worlds Fair of the 1880's and a mass murderer operating there at the time. Also, read Helter Skelter...truth is stranger than fiction.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 19, 2007 3:36 PM

notgodsgift. just googled Perfume, sounds very odd, but odd films are what I watch. And anything with Dustin Hoffman is gonna be good.
and the kiss hello thing - yep. creepy? unusual? whatever.

Posted by: today122 at December 19, 2007 3:06 PM

Thanks notgodsgift...sounds intriguing, I will see if the uni has it : )

A simple hi "kiss" which RSViP has, I guess is the ideal. It would be easier if it was clearer about the interest factor and who knows unless its followed up. Two men from Adelaide I met lately, were much "better" than their profiles, so it is good to meet people in person. As I have looking for friends on my profile I assume a kiss is friendly unless otherwise is obvious.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 19, 2007 2:17 PM

Hi SSC and Today122,

Perfume is a picture adapted from a book by Alex Suskind - it sounds girly, but anything but!! You can rent it on DVD now. Its odd in some ways because there is not really that much dialogue by the characters, its mostly narrated by John Hurt.

I dont think the sending or receiving of a "hello" kiss is creepy, I found it unusual because I couldn't work out why people from places like Melbourne or Brisbane would bother contacting me that way. I finally decided to email one of them and ask, and thats when it was explained to me. I felt really bad because I had received a few and sent back the "not my ideal" reply due to location, when all they were doing was saying hello.

The tricky ones are those that are reasonably local with no message attached. Dont know whether they are hellos or genuine interest.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 19, 2007 2:06 PM

riversong1 thanks for the heads up, I could Google the film first..notgodsgift thanks for not revealing the ending of "Perfume."
I will buy stamps after Christmas and it is too bad if I appear "creepy" at present I guess. Odd thought.

Guys mostly say for me to email them, or its how it works out stampwise. Really must address those cards, still not finished.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 19, 2007 1:43 PM

Hi all, I'd just like to advise guys on rsvp to be as honest as possible with their profiles. I've had contact with "evahopeful1" who has changed his age 3 times since joining rsvp. First he was 41, then 51 and now he says he is 45? Also "ready4unow7" does not mention in his profile he is in a wheelchair, yet says he plays soccer, and claims to be 34 but is actually 36? It's not fair on genuine people who's profiles are truthful.

Posted by: tinker1972 at December 19, 2007 11:56 AM

yes, notgodsgift. how to say hi, without appearing creepy.
and what is this Perfume film? never heard of it.

Posted by: today122 at December 19, 2007 8:39 AM

Hi Riversong1 - I hope you have been well. I like your idea of a stampometer - that way we can spot those people who send us kisses but don't have stamps so can't follow through on their kiss.

Merry Christmas everyone - only 6 more sleeps! Hope you all get something nice.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 19, 2007 8:32 AM

Riversong1,

I dont think it was chasing romantic bliss; more like chasing the ultimate aromatic sensation. Interesting the ending though (dont want to spoil it here for Slightsynchronisity) - what do you do once there is nothing left for you to achieve and you realise what you have destroyed to get there?

Another problem with a rating system (especially on kiss replies) is that you receive kisses from people to which you are not really expected to reply (especially from fellow bloggers just saying hello). How do you get around that? I guess the answer to all of this is that you need a number of other things to happen on RSVP (hello only kiss, encouragement kiss, whatever); you cant do things in isolation.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 19, 2007 8:19 AM

I don't like the idea of a "rating" system, as everone rates according to a different set of criteria, and if one does not fit the "ideal" peg, it could be rather hurtful and insensitive to some people's feelings.

Bob - "Perfume" - creepy - tho on another level, I found it actually full of quite deep symbolism - chasing the elusive essense of perfect romantic bliss, while using/destroying those one plucks on the way to that ultimate ideal - a bit like RSVP, come to think of it!!

Slightsynchronicity - I don't think you would like it somehow!

I like the idea of a "reply rating" on profiles. Then we wouldn't bother wasing our time on those who don't deserve it to be wasted on. Next to this could be a "stampometer" meter, to help us also avoid cheapskates who can't fork out the cost of a stamp to play! :)

Posted by: riversong1 at December 18, 2007 11:44 PM

Hey bloggers, am trying to watch all those movies I am supposed to, "Perfume", "Notebook"...not really...another day.

today122, yes exactly. I read in the paper today (not my thought) that peoples self image, which includes body image is due to the youthcentric or even youth worshipping culture we live in....we are all aware of the influences that can affect the attitude of lots of society. OK everyone else skim over this...
today122, one of my sons (18 yrs) is a vegan and a girlfriend of mine. I am not. My girlfriend told me about the inaugural meeting of this vegan uni group to supposedly be on all the different campuses and TAFE. I am a bit into writing a few letters about some aspects of animal cruelty...a law student...blah blah you know why can't animals have some rights. (RSPCA and free range eggs etc) So I went with my friend to check it out. Mainly it would have been handy to find out some healthy vegan cooking tips and support healthy eating. No we were too old really, I think but it was because we were from a different uni or something. I did not want to go on about that on this blog. Maybe RSVP will put a chatroom on. Sorry to any other bloggers who this bothers. I have no stamps at present or I could email you today122. I try to stay on topic. The thing is my friend 42, and me, 44 are both uni students and it was a uni students meeting. It was not specified that people had to be under 30 or some other limit. Its OK, we will do something on our own campus. 5 people at this meeting and two of us were not "needed". Frees my time up anyway. So I try to support my son in his veganism...zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

jenjen57 thanks yes I did see it, I read the blogs!!! Love the new one, quite inclusive. They cut a lot out on the travelling green blog : (

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 18, 2007 11:24 PM

Hi all
Just logged onto this blog for the first time in 2 days. Too busy working and playing day and night, including only 4 hours' sleep last night (working, dammit.)

Loving the lack of puerile squabbling lately. Maybe the fulminators have been put on time delay and censored out of comment. Hope so.

Used my free birthday stamp, so that offer has lapsed.

Hope youall will each have your best Christmas season for ages. See your handiwork later, because I need my early night of the month, and I need it now. Cheers.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 18, 2007 11:03 PM

slightsynchronicity yes I posted the twelve days of Christmas from ABC that you were talking about but it was only up overnight and removed the next day :( Was on travelling green blog and was a bit long..........there is another one there now if you want to have a look.............the environmentally friendly, global warming aware Christmas memo !!

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 18, 2007 10:35 PM

another one - with less?? taboos does it make people confused?
yep - I reckon it does, or at least for those people who seem to get stuck and have to put themselves and others in boxes, and who only care about what the neighbours would say. bring on the diversity and the difference I say.

and you gotta tell us about the volunteering age thing - can't start saying something and then stop half way!!!

Posted by: today122 at December 18, 2007 10:28 PM

slightsynchronicity.
being with good friends who take you for who you are, makes age, looks, wealth, education and whatever else totally irrelevant. They love you and accept you for YOU not for anything else. Their values are similar, and that's what is important. So you then learn to accept yourself, upside down or something in that logic, but it does sort of make sense. And that takes away the cynicism and makes you feel younger anyway.
just my 10 cents worth.
cheers

Posted by: today122 at December 18, 2007 10:23 PM

Bob, I now have the movie "Perfume" to add to the list of must see movies which includes "The Notebook." OK.

Timewarp1 your posting about deodorant, dancing and customs from the past were interesting and amusing. And even before that in the earlier pre-deodrant days men and women managed to get together...without dating sites.

Neuroticfish: it was not just the rutting class who got into hanky panky though was it in the Victorian era? Surely there is some truth to the whole Upstairs/Downstairs idea? Are we becoming a less classless (social position wise) society and with less?? taboos does it make people confused?

General comment: Age is just a number...have never been happy with any age range I put on my profile as I would not care if someone was a year or two under or over. Not interested in being with someone two years older than my daughter though.

Saphires4me: nice attitude, people should grow old discracefully if they like or at least have a lot of fun. Age is definately just a number saphires4me and it should not define how you feel about yourself I agree. Two men recently from RSVP I met both lied on their profiles about their age. 39 (40) and 49 (52). Makes you wonder about their insecurity. One was to get in a certain age search.

ABC Kenny not all women are looking for a toyboy. It is pointless to exclude someone on the basis of age surely if it seems a person is otherwise compatable. Lots of people seem to make friends from RSVP. I have made friends in Adelaide and elsewhere from RSVP. In real life my friends range from 20's to 80's. I am 44 and a lot of my male and female friends are mid 50's but I do not think about their age when in their company. I did experience ageism yesterday though in a volunteer/interest group situation. I will not elaborate as I will get paid out about it : ))) It was open age but the guy indicated that he wanted younger people for whatever. My friend got huffy but we will just go elsewhere. abckenny I suppose if we do not let ourselves be totally jaded by the attitudes of some as there are "good" people out there surely. I find hanging out with good friends takes the edge of my cynicism. If we are happy within ourselves that is a big thing.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 18, 2007 10:57 AM

Hi All Ladies,

Watch the movie "Perfume" and see what you think about sniffing clothes after that!!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 17, 2007 1:14 PM

Hi bloggers how are you all? Will post the remaining links when I find them about those body chemical/hormone things. Pheremones etc. It is not about a smell, the chemical does not have a scent, it is undetected. The T-shirt could be sweaty and odourous but the pheremones, I am sure do not have a scent. Yes there is something related about women...i could post the link for that one day. Maybe I will wait for the appropriate topic to put it under. Like most scientific research it is contentious or at least not everyone agrees about it.

Going for job interviews, so sadly not that much time for the 12 log ins and the cutting and pasting. The blog is more positive at least and I am embarrased to not be able to spell ROTFLMAO...and other words. Forgive my spelling errors. Jenjen u posted the funny 12 days of Christmas thing. I wish to get a photo of me next to Santa but then I would have to get a stamp to change it! Tried to join RSVP by BPay but it would not recognise my customer number. Just as well maybe. The BBQ was great jenjen thanks and my friend may have a Toga New Years Eve Party. Have a great day everyone. Sorry for my lack of punctuation. Have only got a few Christmas presents so far but hey, its not about material things is it?

Have you bloggers been naughty or nice? : ))))

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 17, 2007 12:38 PM

My Dear,

Back in the Victorian era, it was the social norm for a Gentleman to be seen with a Lady who was his own age.

If he was seen with a girl, clearly young enough to be his daughter, she was called his “Niece.”

Only the Rutting Class would even contemplate referring to a girl, young enough to be the man’s daughter, as his “girlfriend.”

And. Of course, they exported the Rutting Class to Ostralia in Ships like the Charlotte, the Lady Penrhyn, the Sirius and the Alexander.

Spoken with a stiff upper lisp

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 17, 2007 8:49 AM

@neuroticfish- you wouldnt be questioning my honesty would you? No, I think you are wiser than that. The "princess" in question is now 32, lives up the gold coast way,works in fashion, was, is and always will be gorgeous!.....to add to my true funny story....the car we got to replace the written off one , we picked up on thursday night, she drove to Westfield Tuggerah on friday for work and on the way home wrote it off when a guy failed to give way coming out of side street onto the pacific hwy south of doyalson!! Airbag saved her from serious injury!! The very next day!!! We hadn't changed the rego over but did have a covernote for insurance of course. NRMA said It happens more often then people realise. I have learnt , truth is stranger than fiction! I have no need to make up stories or stretch the truth, for I am honest and my life has been ...mmm...interesting. I cant speak for others now can I?.... what do you call yourself now? and why is it you keep changing profiles/names etc

Posted by: imanenigma at December 17, 2007 8:42 AM

Amdoingit
Age is in the mind! (with men else where)
You are as old as you feel!!!
You don't need to be hanging off some 10-15 yrs younger just to make you feel young.
You also don't need medication to enhance your action - look at your self 50+ ladies you are natural and beautiful as you are. In this day and age we are not sitting at home and knittinf knee rugs like our mothers were.
Get over it men either except you are ageing -do it gracefully and naughty
Except your age if you are lying about it in your profile your body and actions are a dead give away!!!
Embrace the baby boomers life as exciting.
And yes next month my age changes it is only a number.

Posted by: saphires4me at December 17, 2007 8:05 AM

still copying even if you did change 3 words around....jewels

" wish you a very merry christmas and a happy new year, lets hope its a good one, with out any fear" (JL)

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 17, 2007 7:56 AM

neurooticfish, you paying imanenigma a compliment??? It is supposed to be a complment when you copy someone isn't it????

have a lovely day all....jewels

"" wish you a very, merry christmas and a happy new year, lets hope its a good one, with out any fear" (JL)

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 17, 2007 7:53 AM

A funny story...laying in bed one night....then CRASH!!!....my nieces’ car , which was parked in the street got hit by a drunk driver. The tow trucks arrived and the driver saw my niece (with no make up and looking about 16, she was, chicken stealer) and came up to me and said "don't worry mate, your girlfriend’s car is a rightoff!" I replied "ah, thats my niece, mate" he responded by apologising all sorry like before giving me a wink and a nudge "he,he,he!" as if to say , you sly old dog......"just tow the car away, mate!".........fairdinkum

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 17, 2007 6:08 AM

Pretty well summed up fotojedi although I haven't seen too many forty something females profiles that are prepared to even consider guys that are a day older than them.Most are seeking playmates for their children it would appear.

Posted by: abckenny at December 17, 2007 2:19 AM

Ta maisie for deciphering that acronym for me. And glad you're old enough and/or patriotic enough to spell it the Australian way, with the R and E included.
PS. That was supper break. Back to typing more Quotations.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 17, 2007 1:20 AM

A funny story...laying in bed one night....then CRASH!!!....my much younger girlfriends car , which was parked in the street got hit by a drunk driver. The tow trucks arrived and the driver saw my girl (with no make up and looking about 16, she was 24y/o) and came up to me and said "dont worry mate, your daughters car is a rightoff!" I replied "ah, thats my girlfriend, mate" he responded by apologising all sorry like before giving me a wink and a nudge "he,he,he!" as if to say , you sly old dog......"just tow the car away, mate!".........fairdinkum.

Posted by: imanenigma at December 16, 2007 11:26 PM

jenjen, it's not you. Having all sorts of problems tonight hence my blunder in 1st post. Resigning, etc, etc.. Right pain in the old proverbial... Tried the copy and paste thing with a little offline help.. Thanks "I".. X

Timewarp.. You're not an old fart fart darl, just lived a little longer than some of us that's all. Bet you've a tale or two to tell. Pity you live so far away.. Could have had a fun session just for fun!!!! Good luck in your search!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 11:24 PM

hermanhesse you are right. If a local woman sends me a kiss and her profile is not repugnant to me, I invite her email, irrespective of age.

And if she then puts her money where her pucker is, I'm happy to go on to a first date, irrespective of age.

In my age group with our man-must-lead conditioning, if an old girl plucks up the courage to take the initiative, she deserves at least a date, or where's chivalry gone?.

At 70, my youngest kisser was 51 and at 71 my oldest were several 75s. When I met them, a 75 and a 72 were much too young and sprightly for me, and went on to find very much younger partners. Told me later.

I now have a statistically-reliable sample size of about a hundred, and have found that the rest of the over-65s were older/ more set in their ways/ more creaky in their joints than me, and the under 58s were too young for me, for one reason or other.

So I now ask for 5 to 12 years younger than me by birthdate, expecting that group to prove to be physically and emotionally about as youthful and flexible as this timewarp-youthened, still-lively old fart.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 11:11 PM

Jedi, you are so right, I can already see that in my future, as now I an only looking at 5 years older.

BB, IAE I have always gone out with younger men. It just happens. My husband was younger. It has ranged from 2 years to 11 years younger. And it has been like that since I was 19.. I also have younger friends at work, who were surprised that we celebrated a 50th this year. (That's not counting toyboy at 19 years younger!!! But that is not dating or a relationship.)

Amdoingit, herman, jenjen and today, you are all correct, age is only a number!

If the world or society was kinder, jovial could have stayed with his true love, IAE would not have felt that he was lucky have his younger love.

But we are all conditioned by society on age, how old is too old? beauty, is it in the eye of the beholder?, how big is fat? how thin is too skinny?

Wouldn't it be great to meet your love, and there were no hangups about age, weight or beauty??

Food for thought...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 16, 2007 10:57 PM

Age is just a number and really shouldn't factor into the equation but unfortunately it does.
In today's day and age people should know better than to make comments such as in your case Jovial.. Society really does suck!!!! Besides, some people look older than their age and vice versa so to comment like that is just so out of line...
You meet somone and you either get on or you don't and that's all there is to it.
That's one of the down sides to being on a dating site like this. You have to put your age on your profile and if you're honest, and my vintage, you get relegated to the "too old" basket nine times out of ten and that's a fact.
Can't bring myself to respond favourably so anyone who is the same age as my older son though so I guess that's just another prime example of having to put age on profile. Maybe I could bribe rsvp and for a fee not have my ages on my profile??
Don't want those of you who know me jumping in and patronising me either ok...Grrr. I'm merely making a statement that is my opinion and it is true... Grr again!!!!
So, guys and ladies, get over the age thing and just live and let live.. Maybe I should have said love and let love???
Happy hunting all and be happy!!!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 10:56 PM

My ex-husband was 17 years older than me,not something I would personally want to enter into again.But then again one of my friends has been dating a man 16 years older than her for 2 years now and they seem so right together.Compatible personalities play a big part I guess.

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 10:51 PM

ah - that should say ex husband!!

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 10:31 PM

hi all.
I was 4 months older than my husband, we were both 23 when we met, were together for 25 years. I was not what his mother wanted for her baby either, but that had nought to do with age! And no - no friendship there.
My father has been with his 2nd wife for 34 years - he is 80 next year, she turned 60 this year. He was until recently an extremely fit, intellectual, vital man. She is a fun loving, intelligent, stable woman. SHE was and still is the parent figure in their relationship. He had a stroke earlier on this year, and he needs someone with her energy and ability now more than ever.
So age doesn't have to matter.

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 10:29 PM

Age is just a number and really shouldn't factor into the equation but unfortunately it does.
In todays day and age people should know better than to make comments such as in your case Jovial.. Society really does suck!!!! Besides, some people look older than their age and vice versa so to comment like that is ou either get on or you don't and that's all there is to it.
That's one of the down sides to being on a dating site like this. You have to put your age on your profile and if you're honest, and my vintage, you get relegated to the "too old" basket nine times out of ten and that's a fact.
Can't bring myself to respond favourably so anyone who is the same age as my older son though so I guess that's just another prime example of having to put age on profile. Maybe I could bribe rsvp and for a fee not have my ages on my profile??
Don't want those of you who know me jumping in and patronising me either ok...Grrr. I'm merely making a statement that is my opinion and it is true... Grr again!!!!
So, guys and ladies, get over the age thing and just live and let live.. Maybe I should have said love and let love???
Happy hunting all and be happyyyy!!!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 10:28 PM

Don't forget that you can meet someone who is say 40, that person can be a very active, fit and alive. Yet another 40 year old is unfit, unhealthy and leads a sedentary life. Yet a third 40 year old could be healthy, grossly immature and a parasite.

Keep an open mind, age is just one partner parameter unless you are counting on them dying soon :)

Ignore society and just be happy in your relationship.

Posted by: hermanhesse at December 16, 2007 10:09 PM

Yes that is sad jovial, that you let other people's comments put an end to something good. My ex husband is 9 years younger than me and had only just turned 19 when I met him. Initially my friends would say things like "you've got to be joking Jen", "you cant be serious!" etc as well as all the expected joking about toy boys and joy boys :) , but eventually everyone got used to us. Even his mother wished I would crawl back under wherever I came from as someone so much older was not what she wanted for her "baby". Well we were together for 21 years,and for the first 10 were very happy. Eventually it ended very badly, but his mum became , and still is, a very close friend.

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 16, 2007 10:04 PM

That's sad Jovial....you let go of something so good because of what society can't deal with :( What a shame.

Jedi - like your analogy there....probably a lot of truth in it. Age to me is irrelevant - its maturity - get that in all age groups (or not!)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 16, 2007 9:49 PM

My last partner was 13 years younger than me, we were together for 5-6 years. I too regret not understanding and meeting the challenges we faced and losing her. There is a major downside to dating someone younger and in my case very attractive, too attractive for this old dog and thats you get use to it! One sets unrealistic(maybe?)standards or expectations in partners and at the risk of sounding shallow, you find them a hard act to follow. Right or wrong? who know's, but this is my experience and my lot. I cant speak for others. I dont look at a persons age as I dont care,nor do they have to be supermodels! BUT I must be attracted to them or I'm being less than honest with them and more importantly, to myself! That is one thing I experience has taught me! True happiness and true love will only be found if we are true to ourselves and others....thats my belief.

Posted by: imanenigma at December 16, 2007 9:48 PM

I have always gone out with younger men....has never been a planned thing has just turned out that way...the biggest age gap being 8yrs!

Posted by: brilliantblue at December 16, 2007 9:44 PM

wishfulthinker

I dated a woman 12 years my senior for 18 months, but ended it due to a constant barrage of 'comments' from people thinking I was her son. It's a shame because she was an amazing woman and I do regret letting her go as I've yet to meet anyone who comes close to her (sigh).

Posted by: jovial67 at December 16, 2007 8:17 PM

Junebaby....too funny :) Thanks for the laugh. Jovial...society may "expect" that, but society expects us to marry and stay that way too - and we don't and that's acceptable to most....ah well....just something I keep noticing :) And no...I'm not after someone young enough to be my son.....at least not on purpose!!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 16, 2007 8:03 PM

Jovial...depending on who you listen to - that might leave a very wide range of things you CAN do :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 16, 2007 7:56 PM

wishfulthinker03

Here's my take on your age question. It's a cultural thing whereby society expects the man to be older or around the same age as the woman. This can also be said for the expectation that the man be taller than the woman.

By the way, it's not just the men that do it, many women also specify a younger preferred age for a male partner.

Posted by: jovial67 at December 16, 2007 7:53 PM

hi jedi, did the chinese girl understand her camera? It is strange what goes thru other peoples minds at times.

Imanenigma, you got me, a LOL moment, what men have to go thru for science..sheeshhhh..

Wishfulthinker, its just cause they think they can, and when you look at some of these old guys that are looking for younger women, you think " you have got to be kidding"!!! (or they have lots of money to throw around)
Some of them look like they have led very hard lives!!! and that is being kind!! So I am doing the same thing, 10 years is OK in my opinion.
I should point out that I have only ever done this on this site, once I realised that if old men can do it, so can any confident, attractive, sane woman!! So you go girl!!! Have a lovely evening...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 16, 2007 7:46 PM

jovial67 - what is it with Mr K Rudd? He doesn't remember whatever it was he was supposed to have done, wherever or whenever it was supposed to have happened, allegedly.

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 7:43 PM

welcome back, jedireturns. Wishfulthinker it is common,and also how many men late 40's and early 50's undecided about having more children as well. Maybe its their fountain of youth they are seeking.

Posted by: dolphin46 at December 16, 2007 7:27 PM

Getting back to the topic...

"Would a rating change your decision to contact them?"
No

"how (do) you feel about being rated yourself."
curious

"Would you want to know how you score?"
yes

"Would you want other members to see it?"
that would depend on how I rate! :-)

"would you want to be able to switch it off?"
yes

re profile completeness - waste of time. You can see that by looking at the profile.

re reply rate - as others have said it would depend on how this was calculated.

personally what would interest me most is a chatroom and a reduction in the cost of stamps.

Posted by: ysowl at December 16, 2007 7:16 PM

I have a question....anyone care to throw in their two cents worth??? What's with the "age" thing. While I dont look at female profiles (unless I'm putting a face to a blogger's name), but the vast majority of men I encounter are looking for women up to 17 years their junior, but only one or two years their senior? Do we have a "use by" date if we are, say, 5 years older. If you are willing to date someone young enough to be your daughters....why not slightly older too? Just a query....any ideas?

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 16, 2007 7:13 PM

imanenigma

Good one, very funny.

I just hope you wouldn't do anything that Kevin Rudd wouldn't do. :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 16, 2007 7:07 PM

@graceandcharm- jovial67 I have tried the smelling of womens tee shirt exercise.....and got my face slapped!!!.....ok they were wearing them at the time!!!........talk about overreacting......I mean all for the love of science.....nuthin suss!..Honest!......sadly...the judge wasn't convinced!!!

Posted by: imanenigma at December 16, 2007 6:37 PM

timewarp1 - I think it may have been, or meant to have been, ROFLMAO, meaning "rolling on floor laughing my arse off"..... that's my understanding of it anyway. Hope you managed to get yourself motivated enough to work in the end - hard on a Sunday, I would have thought.

Posted by: malsie at December 16, 2007 5:57 PM

Scent is supposed to be the main memory jogger as time goes on. Who remembers the scent of their mothers? all those years ago. It's all tied up with safety and security. Some research somewhere or other, don't quote me, cos I can't remember where or who.
Anyway, yep - even the lingering result of a hard day's work is great if he's great, regardless.
Interesting quotes from slightsynchronicity about other things coming in to mask it, women on the pill and whatever else.
and jovial67, maybe it's a fetish to some???!!! ya just never know

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 5:57 PM

jedireturns, just love it!!!!

Re the scents thing, my last big relationship, the 10 year one, he did shearing on his family property each year, and for some reason him being sweaty and in smelly jeans and blue shearer's singlet at the end of the day was a real turn on!!!
BTW they call those singlets wife beaters now, the son has been updating me on cool speech....have a lovely evening all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 16, 2007 5:43 PM

Graceandcharm

I can understand that women might want to smell guys shirts, but guys smelling womens shirts? C'mon, now your just being plain silly :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 16, 2007 5:29 PM

...and i for one have to admit that there are certain smells from a woman that have the same effect as vice versa............

Posted by: twoeyes at December 16, 2007 5:01 PM

Slightsync: to be fair then,has anyone done an experiment on guys smelling women's shirts ?

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 4:55 PM

probably not but remeber Andy Garcia.. Scent of a woman!

Posted by: twoeyes at December 16, 2007 5:00 PM

Timewarp: I think it's a pretty special goal in life...I wouldn't mind it...

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 16, 2007 4:58 PM

Slightsync: to be fair then,has anyone done an experiment on guys smelling women's shirts ?

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 4:55 PM

Imanenigma (sorry, it's Imanaughtyboy now!!!), Re your post I think was back on the 12th or there abouts.. Can't believe you didn't get any bites or was I just skimming over the posts too quickly and maybe missed them???

Bow tie will be fine and will most certainly add a touch of class!! Methinks maybe bbq won't be on the cards but hey, can still dress to impress!!!! As for the slap and tickle ( sorry, think you said slip, slop, slap). Oh well, same horse, different jockey so to speak.. Just stand there with lotion in hand and I'm sure you'll be inundated with offers ok??? "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 4:54 PM

Where are you all???. I go away for 4 days and you've all disappeared!!! Think I need to check some of the other topics....

Timewarp1... A belated birthday for last Thursday. X . Hope you had a good one!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 16, 2007 4:48 PM

hermannhesse: You're making it all too hard for yourself: What about this:

1) Be green and try to find someone within 25km, or 50 max.

2) Take her to the nearest RSVP gettogether. Too far away? Take her to any dance.

3) At mid-evening, tell her you're trialling a new B.O. Basher for the manufacturers, and ask her to sniff the cotton ball from your armpit, and tell you if the deodorant is doing the trick.

4) Pay some attention to her reply - at least write it down, but pay more attention to how she treats you for the rest of the evening.

5) Report the results of the experiment to us without delay.

hiddencharms: Thank you. Actually, that is my social goal in life (maybe via RSVP.) It's just a precis of the 2nd-last para. in my profile's main blurb.

PS. That was my smoko break. I'm being very wimpy about making myself work today. Feeling unusually playful and can't go to tennis. Grumblebum.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 4:27 PM

An afterthought, and right on Blogtopic: Could RSVP rate the guys by having a couple of girls who've dated him already, give their pinched trophy teeshirts a rating?

Or could it be done more reliably and unbiassedly live at the RSVP local get-togethers?

Just get the wallflowers to armpit the male dancers as they leave the floor at mid-evening, and give them a score.

What about

1) Overpowering deodorant (Name Brand if recognised.) Unable to detect owner's actual odour, so as to grade it.

2) Deodorant just winning. Unable to grade the manpong.

3) Sweat-decomposition products just winning, but too faint to grade.

4) Sweat-decomposition products way out ahead, but not at all attractive. Far from it. Cough uncontrollably as discreetly as possible, and then grade as gamma.

5) Sweat-decomposition products way out ahead. S-D products not unattractive, but not a turn-on either. Beta, subject to parallel rating of house, car and wallet. (ie. that bit about older and better-established, mentioned by S.Synch today.)

6) Sweat-decomposition products way out ahead, and what a turn-on! Alpha male for sure!

Such grading sessions might even be an excuse to stop the incessant unnecessarily-loud music for 2 minutes every 15, so non-dancers could hear to exchange 2 sentences, and dancers would have an excuse to change partners, like the gracious old days.

Similar ratings for the girls could be obtained even more simply, just by requiring them to include in their profile photos a real profile (ie semi-sideways shot) from head to waist, clad only in swimsuit or lingerie. (I feel that demanding the full wet teeshirt bit could be a health hazard in cold weather.)

Eeeeorrr! Eeeeeorrr! Doberman sisters alert! Run for the hair-raid shelter!

A historical parallel: In Elizabethan times when bathing tended to be annual in May, just before June Bride season, it was said that a man should fold up a kerchief and tuck it into his armpit before dancing.

Later, sitting beside the object of his desire, he should take it out warm and fresh and fan her perspiring brow with it, if he wanted to be sure of getting lucky that evening.

Maybe all males were alpha then, or were all females randy and unselective? (Or knew either how to interpret male unspoken body-language, and/or how to read a message from a flag?) An interesting topic for a social history thesis perhaps?

Must drag myself unwillingly off to work on Sunday arvo. Where IS that rich widow who'll fund my immediate retirement? Inyerdreams, Bill! Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 3:24 PM

Timewarp, re your comment: a Ms Rite-enuff who also thinks I'm Mr Right-enuff, so that we can share some serious bliss, and hopefully for yonks.

How true - I love it!

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 16, 2007 3:06 PM

bloody hell..........will have to go down to the local pub and pick a fight with some young hormonal alpha male, rip his teeshirt off him and then send it off to some female in Sydney. Oh what we do to find a partner.

Posted by: hermanhesse at December 16, 2007 2:34 PM

slightsynch: Please decipher acronym ROLFMAO, for me at least.

PS. I wonder if all the juvonegatives have gone away from this unapproving site, and are frolicing combatatively among the Friends and Lovers instead?

Haven't got time even to sample that blog at the moment.

Or maybe they've been put on time delay and censored away. How good that would be! Back to work.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 2:07 PM

Hi all
Just had a quick lunchtime peep, and today this blog is 100% delightful. All positive and all interesting. Just what you hope a blog would be.

And what an early start! They talk about owls (me) and fowls (him), but for me from now on, forget sparrowfart. The first crack of dawn is definitely fishfart.

And I'm entranced by the sweaty teeshirt parameter. Oh brave new world! No need now for pub brawls or other male contests - just get a couple of girls to check the contesting armpits, and locate the alpha male in a flash.

Who needs a laboratory or introduction agencies, now that we have teeshirts - sweaty for grading males, and wet for grading females?

Do we have the next-generation format for speed-dating here? The first round eliminates the alpha male and the alpha frontage, then the next round pairs off the 2nd places, and so on.

Disclaimer: before the Doberman sisters savage me again for sexist putting down of women (or men?) read between the lines and lighten up - only funning!

ijst54: thank you very much for the miniautobiog in your reply this morning.

I had only included my own background to try to justify my ideallistically high standards for adult interpersonal behaviour, and felt free to do that because a lot of other bloggers have also felt that I am too hard on childish wrangling between adults in public. It was a reply to them too.

But getting your detailed reply made it for me into a mini-date-without-blessing-of-RSVP-stamp, and I apologise to those 3rd parties who were embarrassed by having to eavesdrop.

ijst54: there were a lot of jokes and pranks in my family too, but I felt that they were all cruel - laughing at a fall guy, not laughing with empathy at the absurdity or serendpity of what fate had just dealt him.

I've got a birthday free stamp that expires on Wed. Anyone want me to use it, to email with you 1-on-1 during the next month? No romance need be intended.

PS. Enjoyed the dance, but am now grounded for the next coupla days. At a roadside routine check 200 mtrs before I got there, I found that this was the year I had to renew my licence (by last Thurs.)

A mate drove me and my car 6 blocks home after the dance, and my first job Monday is to cab it 3km to get a new licence. The nice copperette (another sexist term) didn't book me - till she catches me driving this weekend. So I'm catching up on work, and missing the tennis workout tonite.

Never mind - danced up a real sweat last night - but forgot to get anyone to sample it and rate me.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 16, 2007 1:53 PM

Slightsync. that's exactly what a friend of mine did with a guy she was in contact with online and hadn't met. They sent their used t-shirts in the post to each other (he lived in America and her here); they seemed to smell okay to each other, but she wasn't in the least bit attracted to him when they met in person eventually. Perhaps by the time his had arrived it had lost his "scent" - who knows! I do think there's a lot in the pheremone idea though.

Posted by: malsie at December 16, 2007 12:29 PM

Noticed my posts for December 11, 2007 9:17 PM and December 12, 2007 3:20 AM have been approved, and have heard that RSVP support has responded to a few people who kindly contacted them on my behalf (wasn't necessary, sweethearts, but I owe you one), so giving a post a go.

I reckon the practical reality of the proposed profile-rating system is that the majority of site users will ignore it anyway. The people receiving loads of kisses will continue to receive loads of kisses, even with a shocking rating; the people receiving a dismal number of kisses (hi!) will continue to receive a dismal number of kisses, even with a super rating.

Did you know that online dating is highly picture-centric? Yeah? Well, how about something a little less known than that: Did you know that the sun is hot?

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at December 16, 2007 11:00 AM

Please guys do not neglect your personal hygiene...just read the articles. It was done by scientists. Showering and other personal hygiene is great! ROLFMAO. I am not responsible for anything that occurs if any of u guys change your cleanliness habits.

The ABC radio just that silly 12 days of Christmas where is all goes pearshaped by Frank Kelly.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 16, 2007 10:53 AM

ijst54 here are some links, the original article was from ninemsn or some other everyday newspage. The lighter funnier article is lost in my email inbox. Will look later. Yes aftershave, I remember that but some of us thought Brut was OK. Oh I had forgotten that. I think the "smell" of these hormonlike or chemical compounds is non-existant. Hope the articles explain it?? I really do not hope that I can be obtaining scents from my computer, and on the bus with everyone else with all their scents from their computers. Ha ha. Oh and this is not my original "research" but this link below says women prefer older more established males.

http://gcuonline.georgian.edu/wootton_l/smellyt.htm

This next link http://www.learnbodylanguage.org/pheromones.html leads to

"In 1995, Claus Wedekind of the University of Bern in Switzerland asked a group of women to smell some unwashed t-shirts worn by different men. The women were able to sniff the shirts and reject (said they were "offensive") those shirts worn by males closely related to themselves. The women were attracted to clothing that was worn by males with a very different immune system than their own. Presumably, this difference in immune systems allows the male and female to combine their defenses and give their offspring the best chances for survival. This research was repeated in the U.S. and Brazil with similar results."

Cannot find the original article...anyway it depends on if the women is on the pill, whether the man has eaten spicey food in the previous two days. The pheremone detection ability by a female of a certain males "scent" is reduced if he has had sex in the the last two days.

So, and this is tongue in cheek, a guy just needs to post his shirt worn for 2 days off in the mail...sealed properly of course. Sort of bizarre and a running joke between a male friend and me, he keeps saying he will post some old gym shirt to me. Its just science though. Will post the link to the other site if I find it (from an ABC Catalyst show I think.) In real life we are not under controlled laboratory conditions.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 16, 2007 10:46 AM

........and there we were all thinking personal hygiene was an attractive trait !! How wrong can we be....

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 10:44 AM

today122 You asked a few questions because you do not understand why people do or say certain things especially with thier experience of 40-50 years. Well that answers your question, 40-50 years of experience has made them the way that they are. Some like to share others don't. You don't think it necessary and don't need to know, some of us do. I think the main thing is that when a person shares or not that it is done with all honesty with no animosity. Again I take my hat's off to istj54 and others who has kindly shared thier experiences. Why do people take offense to other people who should not be given the time of day? because we are only human. I didn't say anything before but I thought it was pretty narrow minded of someone to say that their was no 'Ladies' on the blog because of a few that we misbehaving, I didn;t say anything but it did not mean that I did not think it.

Posted by: mstingle at December 16, 2007 10:39 AM

Jovial67…………yes do let us know how that works for you !! Either you will have women hanging off you in droves or running away as fast as they can  . I did actually see an experiment about this very thing on TV some months ago. What they found in that very limited study was, however, that most of the women were attracted to the same tshirt. Lucky man !!

Slightsynch…………have a lovely day at you BBQ, and post that link when you find it !

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 16, 2007 10:23 AM

istj54 at December 16, 2007 8:39 AM
I loved this post! You gave a bit about you self, your thoughts about a current topic and a reflection on what others had posted. This is an example of what I like to read. You often have something rather interesting to share, keep it up

Posted by: mstingle at December 16, 2007 10:21 AM

I have noticed that the past few days neroticfish has contributed to the blog and has not made any negative comments toward anyone and has not taken anyones bait. Hopefully anyone else that needs to follow this, does also.

Posted by: mstingle at December 16, 2007 10:12 AM

neuroticfish: like I said before I like your sense of humour. jenjen57 also keep the jokes flowing.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 16, 2007 10:12 AM

jovial67 ha ha, thats it. I will try to find the link. Was based on "tests" researchers did on women who took a whiff of T-shirts men had wore. No men present. The point was to see if the attraction factor occured in the woman. The shirt worn for 2 days can trigger a desire in a woman to strongly bond with the man...i.e. have his child etc and stay with him longterm. Only do the unwashed shirt thing jovial if you seriously want to attract someone. Will go find the link...there is more but the article will say it better. It may amuse you and it is not full of chemical formulae BTW.

Off to hunt for the link.
today122, noone should feel they have to justify themselve on any blog. Everyone lightening up as far as possible is good advice. I guess scroll over personal details and stories you feel you don't need to know : )) It is a form of communication ideally and I hear the bloggers meetings are fun : )

This is a community of sorts and for myself I am newish, others are not. We get to learn more about one another than what is just on a profile. I do not mind reading about people's lives, hopes, dreams, love lost or even their pain. Vitriolic attack on any blogger is not on but jesting and light hearted stirring will occur as it is human nature. today122 thinking before we write and speak is the best thing to do. Do you think you would enjoy being a teacher today122, I always felt I could not cope with kids who mucked around lots...unrelated to the blog of course. [I asked my daughter who does Psych and Criminology at uni and is way more sensible than me...what she thought of some bloggers attacking behaviour in the past (seems to have ceased). Not my opinion, hers...she said that the person(s) must be a teenager or child to react like that. This is not an attack on anyone just writing to today122]. So if it is offensive or irrelevant we scroll past it but you are right we have to appreciate differences and some people like to divulge more. Personally I clown around sometimes and find ludicrous things amusing, lots of things I post are tongue in cheek. Surely we would all get on better in real life over a beer/wine/cuppa.
ijst54 no need for paranoia am sure, half of us possibly think we are referred to as loons. What is normal anyway? I have a penchant for telling silly stories. Don't worry istj54 you come across as fine...I suppose an undercurrent of judgement which has subsided then gets some of us to overthink. Cos when we are judged some of use become defensive. Can fun be allowed on the blog, I hope so?

We do not know what anyone is like totally until we meet them and some people are closed books in real life. Personally I am not on here to judge anyone and in real life am positive but mostly realistic. Trying not to be too cynical. Hope you bloggers have a good Sunday, am having a BBQ with a friend who is missing her ex a lot??? and some other friends (Will try to cheer her up).

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 16, 2007 10:08 AM

ninaschen & notgodsgift I totally agree why add fuel to the fire, I am sure we have plenty to talk about without fighting. I am sure that we are all very intelligent and interesting people and others will find that out if we le them. I think some people are unsure of themself so they hide behind finding fault with others. They are not only hurting others but themselves as well. We are not always going to agree on things or have the same ideas or taste but that is okay, that is what makes life interesting. Also if you hide how are you going to find people that think the way you do. It is okay to be different, others should not stand in judgement as long as you do not attack others.

Posted by: mstingle at December 16, 2007 10:01 AM

Well said IAE,most of us are here to find life partners and not to enter into a silly competition.Don't we do our own form of informal rating anyway in selecting who we contact?If we need help with that then that is a bit sad.Whatever happened to using intuition,commonsense,experience?? I'll choose a life partner based on that,not an external rating system imposed by who knows.

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 16, 2007 9:49 AM

Good point istj54, I do not wish to have my profile rated by anyone but those who may be interested in me as a potential partner and we do that already. Leave the scores,points or stars out of it! I dont understand the point of the Top 100, this is not a competition. We look,find,read, make contact and take our chances. It may be convenient and it has its faults...profiles are just ads for people, clues as to what may or may not be on offer....buyer beware!

Posted by: imanenigma at December 16, 2007 9:20 AM

istj54 - "Every time I read bloggers accusing others of being loons I start to wonder if they mean me...others must feel the same and it just puts you off blogging" YES. gives the paranoia some oxygen.
Why is there so much finger pointing and accusing? Why are some driven to feel the need to justify themselves here? I feel that I'm reading really personal details about people that I don't know, details that I really have no right to know, and in general I don't really have any opinion about, other than what they write here. What people write here is not the sum total of who they are, and this sort of communication is of course limited, no voice, no facial expression, of course and we know that. So why do some take it upon themselves to attack, when some of those being attacked do take it to heart. We alll need to toughen up and lighten up, of course, but some need to just think about what they write.
Agree to disagree, learn and appreciate differences in people's opinions, realise that so much of this is meant to be light hearted anyway. I see that the majority of bloggers are 40's and 50's - surely we've learned by now how to get along with people? Or will my naivety be my downfall?
My lecture for the day? should have been a teacher.
istj54 - enjoy your day and I'm sure you will anyway

Posted by: today122 at December 16, 2007 8:58 AM

Thank you for your response, Timewarp....and for your interesting biography..it's nice to get some background on bloggers..it gives you a clearer picture of where they are coming from with their views and responses.

I, too, started to do the housework and shopping etc. at an early age as my mother dies when I was nine. She was very sick for years before so, being a large family of five children, we were all expected to help. My dad then brought us up alone...hats off to you poppa.

We didn't have much money but we did have humour, teasing and love. This may be why I come across as flirty, flippant and silly at times. It can lighten the mood and deflect from nastiness.

I only have one profile and always have. I have changed my name three times but personally, see nothing sneaky or phoney about this. I have only changed it after quitting rsvp to take time-out and returning again. My names are all clearly stated on my profile.

...that said, I see nothing wrong with having two profiles running...most dating experts suggest people do this to attract different types to you. I just never have.

Hope you had fun dining and dancing last night. I love your get up and get out there attitude. It is inspiring to me!

Slightsynchonicity...I imagine we would never be without our laptops by our sides when that technology comes through. You can already get smelly stickers and textas...In my dim dark past I used to buy small samples of aftershave that some of the men I dated wore and sniff it just to remind me of them. Smell is a powerful aphrodesiac...

Now back to the topic: RSVP, I think it would be dangerous and devestating to allow members to rate one another. Some have vendettas and axes to grind. You just have to read these blogs to tell you why it is such a bad idea. Every time I read bloggers accusing others of being loons or unintelligent or nasty or writing drivel, whatever, I start to wonder if they mean me...others must feel the same and it just puts you off blogging.

Posted by: istj54 at December 16, 2007 8:39 AM

and put a rating on the smell? ooh grosser.

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 11:46 PM

slightsynchronicity

So THAT'S where I'm going wrong! From now on, I'm wearing my clothes for at least 2 days without washing prior to first dates. After all, first impressions do count. :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 11:46 PM

hi jen, sounds gross doesn't ??? think it maybe just for male pheremones...only. Seeing how it takes so long to log on even, on the blog sometimes due to "computer problems" it may not be worth the bother. (My computer would play up)However we could smell chocolate, coffee, roses....I will post the link one day. Loved the ironing joke, so apt : ))

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 15, 2007 11:31 PM

slightsynchronicity

So...........when sniff technology becomes a reality and they can transmit smell over TV/internet, we wont need pics, just post a profile with your personal pheremones :)

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 15, 2007 9:58 PM

Hi ijst54, you may know this anyway...just that you mentioned pheremones, apparantly all a female needs is the "scent" or whatever its called of the pheremones on a T-shirt the guy has worn for 2 days, to see if there is an attraction. No breathing in pheremones from shirts is not a hobby, by the way. Just reading about this kind of thing is interesting (to me). The article is tongue in cheek but based on real scientific research.

Will try to find the weblink (the article explains it all, so I do not need to mention it again) someone may find it entertaining or interesting.

ninashen, bloggers being civil is of course the way a blog should function.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 15, 2007 9:48 PM

Here here ninaschen & notgodsgift! :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 9:37 PM

NotGodsGift - I agree with you 100%, though it is not always easy picking the loons straight away. But once identified, they should be ignored. Talk around them. Talk over the top of them. But don't talk to them or about them. It is time some camaraderie was brought back to the blogs. We don't all have to agree with each other but surely we can all be civil.

Posted by: ninaschen at December 15, 2007 9:31 PM

Malsie - you're a sweetie.
buying a camera tomorrow actually!
cheers

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 9:19 PM

Hi Timewarp1,

Thanks for the vote of confidence in nominating me as a possible arbiter in the ongoing feud between HC and FP regarding the profile. However (and with no disrespect to either of these 2 ladies), I have absolutely no interest in the subject - it is a no win situation whichever way you look at it.

On another topic, I find it sad that good sincere people here continue to feed the various loons within these blogs by engaging them in debate or argument (loons dont know that they are loons); your are fighting a losing battle. Just ignore them and stop feeding their pathetic egos.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 15, 2007 8:57 PM

I looked at your profile before you hid it, today122, and you sounded as interesting as you do in your posts - I forgot to say that earlier! Although it's always nice to see the photo too to get more of an idea of a person.
Will now duly hide mine again.... I hope everyone's weekend is going well.

Posted by: malsie at December 15, 2007 8:45 PM

malsie
thank you for your 2.50 today.
I read and I appreciate that and I love your part of the world.
I will do the same shortly.
cheers

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 7:55 PM

Going dining and dancing now. Happy blogging to the solitary stay-at-homes, and if that fails, hope your plasma reignites NF..

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 7:33 PM

Well put IMANENIGMA. We should always aim to excel, whether or not we can manage a truly legendary performance on a given night or day.

No thanks NEUROTICFISH. a gal of 42 is miles too young for me. My son would have been 41 now, if he'd got past his late teens.

I have dated a few 55s last year, but they're too young for me, especially culturally. Just about to change my bottom cutoff from 59 to 60.

Active 61-63s seem to be about my match physically, and that's important to me. Want someone as energetic as I am, not much more or less, or one of us will be holding the other back all the time, just to stay together.

MYERS-BRIGGS, or is it the Disc? (buried my copies when I moved, so haven't deciphered you yet):

The viagra script is for a stingy 4 (yes blue) tablets, so with Dr appointment, less medicare refund, they're most of $30 each. But good sex is so good, people will spend a lot on it.

I'm sorry if my evaluation of others' postings sometimes seems severe to you. Most of me is an unusually fair-dinkum, very-responsible (often boring) person, brought up in a family where "childish", "juvenile" and "immature" were all strongly-disapproving allegations.

My mother lived on wallaby in the depression, because subsistance farmers can't afford butchers. Self-indulgent troublemaking childhood was an unaffordable luxury.

I started helping to work our farm on my 5th birthday, and my daughters began adult-style housework at 6.

My children were allowed tantrums only till they were 3, after which power-plays and attention-getting misbehaviour were diagnosed and explained to them, and discouraged. 'TA for kids' when still very young. My daughters are even higher achievers than their parents. I'm enormously proud of them both.

So the self-indulgent spoilt-childish squabbling and name-calling and the picking on (appeals for negative feedback rather than none at all),which are all rife in these blogs was a considerable surprise to me, and a great disappointment.

Who wants any contact with the kind of people who go on like that, let alone wanting to be their friend? 100 times too heavy-maintenance, to be worth having in your life. Liabilitiy-people, not assets.

My mum said civilisation is the byeproduct of most people usually being nice to most of the people that they meet, and I see a lot of the opposite here.

Sometimes I am disgusted enough to speak my mind, as lightly and playfully as my boring-old-fart try-hard good-boy personality will let me. I tried to explain it clearly and uncritically to a newbie a couple of nights ago in this blog.

Can't remember you personally going beyond the pale - perhaps a bit peevish occasionally - can't spare the time to blog-read for 4 hours, to let me quote you chapter and verse. And I've enjoyed and/or agreed with a lot of your posts. Always glad to see your name as I scroll upwards through the latest posts.

Not sure if you have multiple codenames and don't care. I obediently think of them separately, anyway. I've never been idle enough or coocoo enough to have multiple personalities myself. Answer your question?

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 7:20 PM

You’re terrible, Muriel

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:59 PM

The blue ones?

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:55 PM

Well sugarbabe I have to blame something, the plasma is playing up too.

where's my tablets

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:48 PM

Wraecca, I have always thoroughly enjoyed your postings and have never found them to be anywhere near offensive. I, too, enjoy a discussion with different viewpoints.....difficult to have here...respect is often lacking and personal hangups and frustrations come into play, that are then taken out on innocent bloggers just proffering their own views...funny old world...but boy, are these blogs boring without some debate going on?

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:45 PM

You are now repeating yourself...sweetiebabe...and that does not rate well either.

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:40 PM

And here I have a 2400mhz and 300 gig love machine and it still gets stucks in a rut

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:37 PM

Well I looked up the chemical formula for red cordial only to find that it normally has so many additives, preservatives, artificial sweeteners. So I thought. Why would she need an artificial sweetener. She’s already sweet enough as it is.

Jovial. The formula is about right when not done to excess. Quantity of chemicals ingested have various excretory effects. What comes out might be more uric acid (NH2)2CO rather than proteins, organelles, phospholipids, actins etc.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:33 PM

...and I think that you and jovial are being superscilious about your chemical formulas...JMO

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:26 PM

Had a funny artificial sweetener story from lunch today...I had the barman searching the premises for equal for my coffee after giving me my plum pudding with cream and custard...also a chocolate with said coffee...he was bemused to say the least.

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 6:24 PM

Well I looked up the chemical formula for red cordial only to find that it normally has so many additives, preservatives, artificial sweeteners. So I thought. Why would she need an artificial sweetener. She’s already sweet enough as it is. Suck. Suck.

Jovial, I think it’s flying right over their heads

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:21 PM

Well I looked up the chemical formula for red cordial only to find that it normally has so many additives, preservatives, artificial sweeteners. So I thought. Why would she need an artificial sweetener. She’s already sweet enough as it is. Suck. Suck.

Jovial, I think it’s flying right over their heads

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:20 PM

Well I looked up the chemical formula for red cordial only to find that it normally has so many additives, preservatives, artificial sweeteners. So I thought. Why would she need an artificial sweetener. She’s already sweet enough as it is. Suck. Suck.

Jovial, I think it’s flying right over their heads

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 6:19 PM

morganstanley, re your post on December 15, 2007 8:22 AM, I am a major complainant?
I have only recently stated that there was, for a dating site, some nasty and inappropriate comments being made. If you want to disagree with someone, fine, by all means, disagree. But to phrase it in such a derogatory and uncivilised manner on a *Dating Site* is just uncalled for. As for me being a 'regular' complainer, let's see, how many times have I posted over the last month? How many times have I complained? Was my position justified? Please don't criticise someone you don't even know, based on maybe 3 posts objecting to the language used on this website.

Oh and just so you know, if you have read any of my previous posts in previous topics, you will see that I endeavour to get my point across without resorting to name-calling and slanderous remarks. I don't believe people have to agree with each other all the time, but I do believe that they should at least try to be civil.

Posted by: wraecca at December 15, 2007 6:17 PM

Neuroticfish

I liked your last equation, but I can’t see how that would create chemistry in it’s own right. Perhaps this would help: [CnH2n+1OH] + C20H25N3O for the female, and [CnH2n+1OH] + C22H30N6O4S for the male.

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 6:14 PM

Neuroticfish, is that in her own lifetime or own mind..think the latter to be more the truth...and call her whatever you like...don't forgot who set up the rules and has proceded to break them over, and over, and over again...not me...so call me what you like babe!

TW, do they just give you a script for one blue tablet?...just out of interest..mind you. And TW, do you include me in those you are so scathing of on these blogs?...also just out of interest!

I saw a very funny British movie with a great Viagra scene. A group of men took them before going into a meeting with Saudis. They had to dress in the white robes and, as you can imagine, were all standing to attention. It was hilarious...not that I have a smutty sense of humour..cos I know that would not rate here, oh no!..on topic.

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 5:55 PM

I was just spending some time reminiscing, IAE..no recent regrets..you are so right about the drumloads though...don't know what gets into people....think a bit of group or gang mentality...can turn ugly very quickly....and someone always gets hurt...and apparently some people here enjoy that...

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 5:45 PM

I think She Who Cannot Be Named By Me is already a Legend in Her Own Lifetime anyway.

Timewarp. You hit it on the head in one blow. Go for a prescription of Mothers Aide and they whip a blood pressure cuff on you. Tells you to step up the au natural exercise program. So you slug it out on 50 km runs, and for what, may I ask. You are so buggered by the end of all that exercise that you settle for a cold beer instead.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 5:41 PM

I dont know about drumloads? But there's heaps of it here! All I can say is dont step in it!......@istj54- a cure for your morning regrets......aim higher! .....so in the morning its more of a case of....."Now I think I'm a legend!" or,"Oh my god,what have I done?....and I hope we can do it again!".......lol Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 15, 2007 5:27 PM

Hi again NF. So glad that reject bloke wasn't me. And very impressed with all your mysterious chemical formulae. Pity that the RSVP blog font doesn't run to subscripts, to do you justice. (I only did Chem 1 at Qld. Uni in '50s. All faded now. Use it or lose it. Or Google it.)

And No, NF, I'm not on any of those other substances you mentioned, whatever they were. That I know of.

Just the Superman/Supergirl diet in my 2.22pm post today, and an active metabolism.

But I did have an adventure with VIAGRA about 3 years ago.

A certain widow in her late 70s had found an equally-elderly lover, and when she'd worked her way through her dead husband's considerable stash, her lover's Doc wouldn't give him any, in case he then got blamed for his patient dying with a smile on both their faces.

So she asked me to help by getting her some, allegedly for me. I thought yes, what a way to go, so I agreed.

But when I got to my Doc and she clapped the blood-pressure cuff on me, I was so anxious about getting sprung/ not getting the stuff for my needy mate/ living a lie or whatever, that my own blood pressure shot up about 20/20 over its usual value, and I had to talk very fast, just to get the viagra for me. When I get to that stage, I'll just try a studded collar on the ferret.

The fan should have got rid of the paint fumes by now, so I'd better get back to work. Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 5:27 PM

Don't try to confuse me with chemistry, now.......I'll just have it in caramel or hot chocolate fudge...maybe sludge...can you just spray it around like perfume or pheromones?

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 5:13 PM

Drum load. What of?

Polyester or aliphatic polyurethane with silicone based dimethicone lubricant, dip or thermo moulded, extruded, die cut or heat sealed.

What flavour.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 5:03 PM

Hey the whole dating thing is about respect. You don't know what the person on the other end is like really. So why not just send a simple "thanks, but no thanks" IF THEY HAVE FOUND YOU ALLURING.

These days I hardly send any kisses, just wait for the women to send kiss/email to which I respond. Way too many women just don't answer at all or ever.

Posted by: whatcomesnext at December 15, 2007 4:59 PM

...where can I get some?

Can you buy it in drums from the servo?

...or maybe the guys should bring their own?

...and in my experience, it is more, "Now I think I am awful" or, "Oh my god, what have I done?" in the morning.

Apologies to all who may think me supercilious..just the way I am!

Posted by: istj54 at December 15, 2007 4:35 PM

Timewarp.

No. I was not referring to you.

Besides I think the girl concerned got over her fit of crying anyway. Isn’t it wonderful what alcohol will do. A good dose of which is about the only good chemistry that works wonders with these analysing femmes. CnH2n+1OH, EtOH, CH3CH2OH, C2H5OH, C2H6O
Take it in large doses girls and you’ll quickly find that “there was no chemistry” becomes “Now he’ll think I’m awful”

As for WnW, I did point him in the direction of a wonderful 42yo that made a brief appearance on this site. These creatures tend to be more feminine than any au naturels, in the same way that Oxford Street overemphasizes the outwards trappings of masculinity, but I think he got cold feet or something.

Maybe Timewarp you could fit her into your tight schedule.

And I do think you must be on High performance Sildenafil citrate, tadalafil, aor vardenafil. You must be getting that energy from somewhere

And for all you Ladies who insist on there being chemistry that is C22H30N6O4S

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 4:17 PM

today122, your comment is a long way back now, but the first chance I've had to comment. I'm glad you're letting some of the stuff that goes on in here go over your head and getting something out of reading posts and contributing. My profile has been hidden for a while as I'm now involved with someone, but I frequently "unhide" it for blogging purposes - to contact bloggers or enable people to "put a face to the posts" sort of thing, as I like to do myself.
I'll unhide it for a couple of days if you want to check it out so you can get more of a feel for a fellow blogger, if you like.

Posted by: malsie at December 15, 2007 2:50 PM

jaspercat
Who knows why many people send kisses? I've heard women complain that many men don't read profiles and just look at the photo's but I can assure you that this often works the other way around.

I agree with morganstanley's 9:16am post that it is probable that many of the kisses you've received have come from men who use the scatter-gun approach.

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 2:50 PM

neuroticfish -

one more stall before I have to start boring work - please do reply to my question at 11.30am on 13th about what I suspected was a slur on me in your 7.59am post that morning.

If you don't want to reply in public on this blog, say so and I'll use my free birthday email (dead early next week if not used by then) to let you do it privately.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 2:49 PM

Jaspercat,aren't we women only interested in men that can follow through with their actions? If they can't, I can't see the point in giving them another thought.Move on to someone worthy of your time girl !!

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 15, 2007 2:43 PM

Graceandcharm
I know but why do these people send kisses? Are they supposed to make you feel special in some way? In fact they depress you even more to the fact that there are not that many genuine people out there. Anyway that was great advice and I will take note. I am still only learning about this cyber space

Posted by: jaspercat at December 15, 2007 2:27 PM

Hi neuroticfish - going to stay with you in HealthAdviceLand, after thanking you again for your really valuable freebie tip at dawn yesterday:

No - I'm not running on 100-octane racing fuel, plus benzol, methanol OR nitro.

Yes - blood-pressure droppers, but different from the ones prescribed by the unqualified angry young man, and explained to me by Auntiekaz.

And I'll be able to halve the dose in 6 months time, once I've lost 15-20kg again, as I did in 2003. Hope to keep it off permanently this time, if I can find a fast-walking partner. Too boring walking or swimming laps on your own, if you're an extrovert.

Yes, RUTIN (no, the bioflavinoid from buckwheat, not the act itself - haven't been on that for 4 years, and
yes

MORGANSTANLEY, I do want to get it together with some nice old "boiler" again, and give us both the big one - 3 or 4 in a row for her if she digs multiples, and just one for me - don't reload as quickly, now I'm older, but I now last longer to begin with. And I hope you won't be upset with my frankness here, having said today that there are no ladies on this blog.

And by the way, I take offence when you call it "hitting on". So prudishly sexist. Why are 98% of us in RSVP anyway, for Eros's sake? And more women than men?

The Rutin is for my tennis and energetic dancing. A natural anti-inflammatory. Without it, I'm sore and lame in both feet within 48 hours. They're heavily loaded, and worked hard.

Yes - daily doses of GLAs, the only food group we can't synthesise - fish oil daily, and almonds, walnuts, brazils, pepitas and sunflower seeds (different GLAs) in turn. (Plus evening primrose and linseed, for that other gender).

By the way, soy has recent question marks, and (mildew-produced) soy sauce has just been confirmed (reported last month) as one of the top 10 carcinogens. Change to Vegemite. (Not its copies, adulterated with 20% of hunger-stimulating sugar.)

Yes, ordinary vitamins, lots of salad daily, especially mung bean sprouts (natural antibiotic), veges (raw when possible) and fibre. No more than 6 glasses of red a week, or less than 3.

And if I'm going out after work more than 5 nights a week (6 this week) daily Cenovis Energy Plus.

Enough exercise to get me breathing deeply every second day, and 50 hours of sleep a week, spread over at least 13 nights and preferably 14, plus one or two late-afternoon 2-hour siestas each fortnight.

Not rocket fuel. Just well-selected ordinary healthy stuff. And a naturally hyperactive metabolism.

As to my Notches-in-belt Syndrome as you so eloquently labelled it, neuroticfish, that's actually not a Disease. It's a Symptom of my recent major 2-year investment of time and money in trying to find asap. a Ms Rite-enuff who also thinks I'm Mr Right-enuff, so that we can share some serious bliss, and hopefully for yonks.

As a can't-help-myself statistician, I keep count. And because I believe that if you've got it (including vital statistics) you should flaunt it, I publish my statistics.

Partly to let those who are younger, fitter and richer than I am (and that's most of you) look at a fairly impressive benchmark, to compare your own performance with.

Hoping that the comparison will inspire you to stop snivelling into your coffee, vino or blog, or sitting reassuringly within reach of their remote and beer fridge all Saturday evening, and get out there and try to find someone that they can make seriously happy.

Or make you and them at least recognise that there are (to amend a bon mot from my high-school days,) old blokes out there, doing all year what the young blokes start thinking about in the Springtime.

That's what I tell youall. But I tell myself it's just being a good citizen, and publicly setting a good example to my peers. (Reckon I'd believe almost anything that I told mysellf, like the gullible shy bush-bred boy that I was.)

And now I realy must go downstairs and work. Gotta be up a manhole and inside a roof down at the Gold Coast at 8am Monday, supervising tradies installing one of my electric chandelier hoists. And I haven't even painted the next batch of parts yet, let alone order-picked the hundred different components and assembled the subassemblies. Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 2:22 PM

Jaspercat...we have all been there,don't worry.I had 2 kisses from the SAME guy and twice I said I was interested,and still no reply !! I just don't take it personally,at this stage it is still only just cyber-space after all.

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 15, 2007 1:20 PM

Tried to post this in the small hours last night, but site had gone down while my 2 slow old fingers were working on it, so saved it in Word and sending now.

I'm still too high to sleep.

AUNTIEKAZ:

Thank you for your info on the Ram-it drug. I hadn't bothered to google (or wikipedia) it, because I now know enough about enough different subjects, to be comfortable about not knowing everything about everything anyone mentions. Got past that insecurity at about 20.

TODAY122:

Thank you so much for your totally unexpected birthday good wishes. At 72 I'm still working very hard, trying to get a small nestegg together for my old age (hopefully starting in my early 80s.)

So I spread the celebrations out over 3 days: the DATE last night, 3 blissful hours this morning with my nearby daughter and my adored grandchildren aged 5 and 2 1/2, and my dinner tonight with my best 6 poet buddies, one of whom gave me a lift to and from, so that I could have an extra merlot for once, bless her.

And tomorrow night with my social club, Dabblers - 20 or 30 of the 150 there will be good mates, gathered over 10 years in the club. I know a lot of very nice people.

Now 3am real time, so I'm going to make myself do something totally boring like washing up or cleaning my shoes, or try to sleep. Goodnight Bill.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 12:14 PM

Morning all

Is it suddenly already the Christmas season of peace and goodwill? Or did everyone get out of the bed on the right side, on the same day? Or just weekend beautiful weekend? Just read this morning's posts, and it has gotta be one of them.

Who was the ingenue in 'The Tempest'? I feel like her. No no no - like she felt.

Thanks for the reminder about updating my profile. But I definitely won't hide it. Why?

1) Don't want to stop posting, now that the weather's suddenly got so nice in Blogland, and don't believe people have a right to post with their profiles down. Thats sniping through a knothole in the wall.

2) I am still looking for more platonic female friends. Only got about eight really close ones. and could do with a few more. And some more non-wimpy SNAG friends too, actually.

3) Who knows where my current hoped-for relationship will go in the next few weeks? In the last 4 months, the last two I was keen on (one after the other) each suddenly said 'No! On second thoughts, we won't head for the cot!' - just when we were about to set foot on the bottom step, after half a dozen dates just eating, talking and movies or DVDs, plus brief parting hugs and kisses.

4) RSVP has one kiss reply that I call "Not at the moment, thanks, till I decide about the one before you in the queue".

I see this as being exactly for situations like mine at the moment, and not just for people to use who don't fancy you, but are too wimpily 'polite' to say 'Thanks, but no thanks," and thus tell you where you really stand.

Should go earn my living. Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 11:59 AM

I think the general idea of rating is excellent, however, I'm not impressed with the RSVP options.

Replying to kisses, recently I have been getting fed up having to reply "I'm left wondering if you read read my profile", should I penalised for eventually giving up with the need for such replies? In fact if a member is getting a lot of that same reply, doesn't that say something about 'them'?

I'd rather get some quality feedback about 'me vs my profile'. I suggest some key words that only those who have exchanged e-mails could select as applicable, or possibly a comment line.

Appearance is a major aspect of dating, hence I think that should be rated, eg, how representative is the photo?

What about 'Age'?

And of course weight!

Most of the ladies I have met have been pleasent, just no magic between us.

I think RSVP's own profile and personality experts ought to able to advise on some key areas for feedback and their ratings, eg, Interested in me or talked about themselves; listener vs ?; dynamism; affluence;openess;honesty; eye contact; sense of humour. Just a thought but maybe having to consider such a list appropriately constructed by these personality pros, might get members actaully think about theirdates in a more meaningful manner, ie, more condusive to future success?

There are those who send a kiss or reply showing interest and then don't even acknowledge the subsequent stamped e-mail. I don't think RSVP's automated system will cater for that, but a suitable comment might, eg, "Requests e-mail but doesn't respond". Shouldn't they forefiet a stamp?

Posted by: freoishome at December 15, 2007 11:55 AM

love it jenjen
where do you get these classics!
the beer gut - yes yes yes!!!!

enjoy your day

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 11:05 AM

Jaspercat...that is a very common thing here...people throw out their trolling net (kiss everything in sight) and see who responds....then they sit back and toss back the little fish, the not so attractive fish, the weird fish, the bad fish....whatever, and are left with a nice plate of the "best fish' they caught.....then pick through that.....however, not always the "prettiest" or "smartest" fish are the real catch...hang in there

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 15, 2007 11:01 AM

Jenjen
Love it and I will put it to use. Thank you so much.

Posted by: jaspercat at December 15, 2007 10:51 AM

Jenjen, another classic. :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 10:38 AM

jaspercat/jovial67

Found this little gem..............perhaps you can adapt it for use...........:)

Mr. Right Rejection Form Letter

Dear (____rejectee's name here____ ),
I regret to inform you that you have been eliminated from further contention as my Mr. Right.

As you are probably aware, the competition was exceedingly tough and dozens of well-qualified candidates such as yourself also failed to make the final cut. I will, however, keep your name on file should an opening become available. So that you may find better success in your future romantic endeavors, please allow me to offer the following reason(s) you were disqualified from the competition:

[Check all those that apply]

___ Your breasts are bigger than mine.

___ Your last name is objectionable. I can't imagine taking it, hyphenating it, or subjecting my children to it.

___ The fact that our finest dining experience to date has been at McDonald's reveals a thriftiness that I find unappealing.

___ Your inadvertent admission that you "buy condoms by the truckload" indicates that you may be interested in me for something other than my personality.

___ You failed the 20 Question Rule, i.e., I asked you 20 questions about yourself before you asked me one.

___ Your legs are skinnier than mine. If you can FIT into my pants, then you can't GET into my pants.

___ Your "Putting on a few, aren't you babe?" comment, given the 9-months pregnant size of Your Own beer gut, was inappropriate.

___ You failed the credit check.

___ I find your inability to fix my car extraordinarily unappealing.

___ The fact that your apartment has been condemned reveals an inherent slovenliness that I fear is unbreakable.

___ The phrase "My Mother" has popped up far too often in conversation.

___ You still live with your parents, and attending night classes to get your High School diploma, are slight negatives.

___ You mention your ex-wife's name more than you mention mine.

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 15, 2007 10:28 AM

I think that one very valuble tool would be a KEY word search e.g. passionate, fishing, travel, etc. I think that some people on this site may already have some self esteam issues and having others giving them a rating could further compound their problems. Not all of us are good at writing profiles and I dont think that people should be judging others this way.

Posted by: therightstuff1962 at December 15, 2007 10:23 AM

None of the stuff on this site should be taken personally. I've had a couple ofl emails from women who took my negative responses personally. One asking me why they didn't fit my ideal partner profile, and another who didn't appreciate my sending her the 'recently responded to someone else' reply - gosh, that email was quite abusive!

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 10:02 AM

jovial67 - yes! gawd, then what to do?
and jaspercat - yes, and we all take things differently, and thank goodness for that I reckon. The key is to understanding that and working with it.
Touch wood, but it seems very nice this morning. lovely day here in brisvegas, the hills are alive with the sound of lawn mowers. and there's only goodwill flowing in blogland.

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 9:53 AM

Jovial
Yes yes and yes. Very awkward and I am sorry what other way is there around it except say you are not interested but then how hurtful for the other person....ah wo is me.

Posted by: jaspercat at December 15, 2007 9:52 AM

jaspercat
I agree with jenjen57, if you've received a kiss from someone interesting, it's worth sending them the email.

My pet hate is when people send a kiss but don't include a photo or password. It makes things difficult if you send a kiss reply asking for it, they send the password back, but you DON'T find them attractive. Hmm, that's when it gets awkward.

Posted by: jovial67 at December 15, 2007 9:44 AM

Well today
Dont ask? I am obviously not on the same planet as this guy and thank goodness. Yes I am the same as you it has toughened me up as well but you can still get hurt by some of the antics of the people on this site.

Posted by: jaspercat at December 15, 2007 9:37 AM

so jaspercat - what do a cat and a fridge have in common? or shouldn't I ask.
And one thing I'm figuring is that this stuff can't be taken personally, as no-one knows us anyway. sort of round about maybe. But for me even being on these blogs is toughening me up and making me realise it isn't personal.
(About to re-do my profile, so I can't be accused of hiding for some ulterior motive!)

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 9:33 AM

Actually while we are on this topic...I did have one email from this guy who asked me what does a cat and a fridge have in common...I answered his silly question and I obviously had the wrong answer or it was not funny enough and I never heard back?!?! Has this happened to any of you girls on this site?

Posted by: jaspercat at December 15, 2007 9:22 AM

jenjen
I am glad it seems to happen to other people as I was starting to take it a bit personally. Thankyou for your advice and I will take you up on that...

Posted by: jaspercat at December 15, 2007 9:17 AM

jaspercat

This happens to all of us all the time !! And then they keep looking at your profile almost daily ?? Yes !! I think it is because they either have no stamps, so why do they bother, or, they have stamps but dont want to use them, so they want you to send the first email.

If you would really like to meet them then I suggest you use one of your stamps and send the first email. After all, we are all here to hopefully meet people. Well most of us are (multiple hidden profilers excepted ).

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 15, 2007 9:12 AM

A question to you experienced bloggers out there....Why do people send kisses and when you say you are interested they NEVER follow it up????? I have had a lot of kisses lately and NO response!!?? Why is this so?

Posted by: jaspercat at December 15, 2007 8:50 AM

Morgan Stanley

The bottom fallen out of your futures market has it.

Not much financial gain being on this site, unless you have a nose for the monied ones (and Christmas wishes to one of those and hopes for a speedy recovery)

As for old boilers, there is a great collection of those at Dorrigo on the northern NSW Tablelands. Tar makes a good preservative as does buckets of killrust.

Rather than throw poetry at them, offer them a seat in your four wheel drive and a bed in the camper at the back. Make sure both are well sprung.

Old boilers and grey army. Probably doing it a bit more vigorously than young whippersnappers surmise

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 8:44 AM

Timewarp1, apologies, of course it was hiddencharms posting to you...of her hidden profile, due to being off the market. I'm sure it will be your experience soon too. I can not believe I posted it. Tact is not my strong point.

NF there is too much rage around, did u mention last minute shopping queue lines at Christmas....the very last minute..and not just men hating...women hating also, any intolerance is wrong at Christmas or other times. Misunderstandings happen easily in real life and the blogs I guess. Hope your "festive" time is how ever you hope it to be and other bloggers too. I may go re-read that Dickens book.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 15, 2007 8:38 AM

Timewarp1 that is great to hear that you are off the market. Best wishes then to you.

misswendyxx thanks for your answer to my question.

Hmmm so heaps of you bloggers will go leaving me with.........................OK I am going to go out more : ) Bickering is a waste of time I agree.

How do the bloggers meetings go?

Ideally a rating system would be good if it prevented RSVP members for being on the system for some purpose other than to meet friends/date/to meet "the one". We are all human and not perfect. Finally I think it is unpleasant that there is judgement by a few/one???? of what bloggers say and or do, or even how they are. Acceptance is just better. ...."give peace a chance."

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 15, 2007 8:23 AM

FROM the woman pushing her shopping trolley into the back of your ankles at the supermarket to the footpath hog who refuses to let you pass, there's a seemingly endless list of annoying behaviours unleashing the rage within.

Road rage, car park rage, shopping rage, surf rage, queue rage, air rage, workplace rage, hedge rage, water rage, footpath rage, blog rage, rsvp rage, dating rage, boyfriend rage, anti-male rage, and bowser rage creeping into our vocabulary.

According to experts, we're raging more than ever, prompting warnings that getting yourself into an almighty flap can end in injury, a jail term and even death.

"They're things that we'll forget by the end of the day . . . but if they are potential triggers for us, they offer opportunities to have reactions that are essentially representative of frustrations, which can then be built to anger very quickly. If you respond to all of them you're not going to be a very happy person, and it's very possibly going to shorten your life in some way."

And with Christmas on its way, expect to hear terms like shopping rage, car park rage, Xmas present rage, Ex rage, Children Misbehaving Rage, Drunken Spouse Rage, Intolerable In-Law Once a Year rage, and queue rage much more often.

While we may face a myriad of so-called rage triggers, Dr Isaac Newton says we have a social responsibility to keep our cool.

"When people do things to annoy you, accept their apology if they apologise," he says.

"If you do something to annoy someone then apologise, smile warmly.

"If you're in a vehicle, apologise by maybe a wave out the window or mouthing 'sorry'.

“If you are in a blog feud, apologise and say you’re sorry, it will never happen again.”

"Quickly that defuses someone else's potential reaction."

Adapted from a syndicated article.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 8:20 AM

Timewarp

I was merely alerting to the fact that a lot of Allied Health Professionals are now on medicare bulk billing. I was vaguely aware of that for some time, but it was only really when my GP started flashing the paperwork that it hit home. Well you can always expect paperwork!! Trust Health department to bureaucratize everything in a flash.

Being the biggest hypochondriac around (I’m not neurotic for nothing) if I see that I can get a lot of bulk billed consultations per year, you may rest assure that I’m in it in a flash.

Contrary to the expectations and hopes and wishful thinking of one person who would like a Houdini Vanishing Act to be bulk billed, I have decided that a psychologist would suit me next year, maybe mental health the year after, as I have more pressing problems arising from when this woman tried to do me in for life and my leg is still sore.

AS for your Notches In The Belt Syndrome, I just don’t know how you do it at your age. Are you on some supercharged Hypo Vxxxxx or something. All I know is that you can’t get the stuff bulk billed so that rules me out anyway. Might just go and take my tablets.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 7:48 AM

ok - thanks misswendy. need new glasses?
a happy saturday to you all.
and enough of the bickering.
worse than kindergarten.

Posted by: today122 at December 15, 2007 7:20 AM

Timewarp.

The competing camps appear to have done the right thing.

Oozing One and She Who Must be Obeyed and Now Can’t Be Named went off to a pub to drink red cordial, drown their sorrows, and compare notes. That took care of Melbourne.

The trigger happy Brisbane version already appeared to be well under with Christmas cheer by time she posted her last distorted blog. “Who says I was phished. I dare youse. Cum out an fight me youse whenkers”

Alls well than ends well.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 15, 2007 5:44 AM

Timewarp: My profile has gone into hiding, as I have started seeing someone, so out of courtesy, have taken myself "off the market"...And...this therefore means that I cannot receive any unwanted mail.

PS to the others: I'm a lousy typist to start off with...

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 15, 2007 4:27 AM

Hi morganstanley

Haven't heard of you before, and I haven't heard "Oooowah! You're norty! I'm gunna tell teacher on youse!" since primary school, about 60 years ago.

Got anything positive to say about some of the other bloggers here, or anything useful and original about the blog topic? (First read the 750-odd posts so far, to get yourself up to speed.)

Signed Timewarp1
(the numbers are on the keyboard above the letters)

PS. Now you do have something to run to teacher about - the nasty boy insulted you personally! And he looked at you!

PPS. I need to stop reading this blog - the unremitting constant juvenile bitching IS infectious. Night all.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 3:20 AM

Did! Didn't! Did! Didn't! Did so! Did not! Yes you did! No I did not! Ad infinitum/nauseum.

I am of course talking about copying/stealing/plagiarising someone else's RSVP profile, and I don't need to mention the names of the 2 ladies. Like the poor, they are always with us, and so is their ongoing boring brawl about this.

I find this particular squabble to be especially interesting, for several reasons:

1) Neither profile is visible, so third parties have no evidence to help them decide whether they agree that the 2 profiles actually are the same, and if so, to what extent.

But the argument is being repeatedly broadcast with pleas for third parties to take sides. Sounds like attention-getting behaviour to me.

2) We also have no photographic evidence to prove that the 2 ladies are not the same person, just using an ongoing fictional brawl to draw repeated attention to the fact that she (if it IS actually a woman) writes profiles for a fee.

3) And not having seen the contested profile, we can't hunt through lavalife and other such clubs, to see if she has also sold the same profile to illiterate people in those galaxies too, and if so, whether to one or more people, per galaxy.

RSVP does have a preferred-partner category for people already in a romantic relationship, who only want extra non-romantic friends.

I'm sure that all the frequently-posting BlogLords, including these two? one? people DO want to make extra friends, or why are they posting personal stuff all the time, rather than only their thoughts on the actual blog topic?

So I'd vote with both hands up for the recent suggestion that people with hidden profiles should be automatically disabled from posting to any blog, till they unveil.

And I reckon it's time for these two? one? to either put up, or shut up and leave our eyeholes in peace.

What date did each of you launch the disputed profile?

Put your money where your mouth is. Each of you send a stamped email to your choice of woodnwine or notgodsgift as an honest broker, to tell him your profile's launch date, and with an authority for him to cut and paste the authority, to ask RSVP to verify the date, because that date is on your homepage, whether visible or not.

Then he can report back here to all your eagerly-interested blogreaders.

And then, after that, we can hopefully be spared further reinfection of the blogwaves with this mouldy old chestnut.

But if either of you won't cooperate with this suggestion, I for one will suspect the veracity of her claims in the matter.

Well girls, are you for real, or for attention-getting squabbling forever?

PS. Excellent RSVP second dinner date with HER last night, then a very pleasant dinner tonight with my best 6 friends from my monthly poetry club. That's a lot of hugs and lipstick for the end of one night.

Tomorrow night Dabblers social club Xmas dinner dance, partnering my previous RSVP contact (recently decided to be friends only forever, after 7 dates in our first month.)

Tennis on Sunday night will be a change, and more help to my diet. Must crash fast and work hard both days, while there's plenty of work around at last. Seeya.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 3:02 AM

Hi neuroticfish

Nice to see you back in this blog tonight, doing what you often do when the kiddies have reduced the blog to a boring little bickerfest - you politely change the subject and offer something more worthwhile to think about, and maybe post about. Like your very helpful post here at 5.55am Dec 13.

And now you're back, I'd love you to reply to my question to you in my post at 11.30am on 13th.

Till you do, I'm not sure what path my future life should take. Please advise.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 15, 2007 1:49 AM

twoeyes/ninaschen

tishtosh...recrudescent.....love it !!!!

I see we have yet another no profile reincarnation................yawn

See you two elsewhere :)

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 14, 2007 11:35 PM

Tishtosh, TwoEyes? I like it! A good word. My word of the day is recrudescent. Exactly what is happening in these blogs. Another outbreak of disease.

Posted by: ninaschen at December 14, 2007 11:17 PM

Today122 - The blog hasn't been closed as the post has an extra "P" in it so it hasn't come from rsvp.

"Blog now closed; thank you for your comments!
Posted by: rsvppproducttest at December 13, 2007 10.20 PM"

"Posted by: rsvppproducttest at December 14, 2007 10:06 AM"

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 14, 2007 11:14 PM

Slightsynchronicity - In answer to you post about what to put on your profile. I would just leave it as you have it (I looked at it earlier today) saying that you are looking for both male and female friends.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 14, 2007 11:00 PM

i'm with you twoeyes, lets get to that pub, brawl, cops and all..."if you leave me can I come too""

i will now make a graceful retreat...night all ...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 14, 2007 9:32 PM

wraecca
you know if you are offended you don't have to read it.
Do you phone the TV channels and complain after you sit through an offensive program?

Posted by: neomore at December 14, 2007 9:18 PM

jovial767
the facility to complain has always been there and many of the people who are on theses blogs are the ones responsible for the blogs being wrecked because of their constant complaining about other members.
Eventually RSVP will either close the blogs or ignore the ones who are continuously complaining about others.
personally i would send a warning to those members for the amount of work that they are creating for RSVP and also for their loss of revenues.

My adage would be if you don't like the heat get out of the kitchen and find another place .

Posted by: neomore at December 14, 2007 9:16 PM

gosh an hour away and look to what depths we've shrunk.............better fun at the pub with an allin brawl and 5 cop cars.

Posted by: twoeyes at December 14, 2007 9:04 PM

Remember when you ran away and I got on my knees and begged you not to leave because I'd go berserk?? Well...
You left me anyhow and then the days got worse and worse and now you see
I've gone completely out of my mind.. And..
They're coming to take me away, ha-haaa!!
They're coming to take me away, ho-ho, hee-hee, ha-haaa
To the funny farm. Where life is beautiful all the time and I'll be
happy to see those nice young men in their clean white coats and they're
coming to take me away, ha-haaa!!!!!
You thought it was a joke and so you laughed, you laughed when I had said
that loosing you would make me flip my lid.. RIGHT???
I know you laughed, I heard you laugh, you laughed you laughed and
laughed and then you left, but now you know I'm utterly mad... And..

They're coming to take me away, ha-haaa,
They're coming to take me away, ho-ho, hee-hee, ha-haaa.
To the happy home. With trees and flowers and chirping birds and basket
weavers who sit and smile and twiddle their thumbs and toes and they're
coming to take me away, ha-haaa!!!
I cooked your food, I cleaned your house, and this is how you pay me back for all my kind unselfish loving deeds.. Huh??
Well you just wait, they'll find you yet and when they do they'll put you
in the ASPCA, you mangy mutt!!!

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 14, 2007 9:01 PM

how is this blog closed if people are still writing to it?
maybe the moderators are the only one's not reading and not realising that it's still going.
is it a full moon? why are normally sane and pleasant people going loopy?

Posted by: today122 at December 14, 2007 8:55 PM

hi hiddencharms you sure do attract them but its clear who the nutter is.people with low iqs tend to be jealous of people with any type of education thanks for the referal to king arthur it was very interesting

Posted by: chad1958 at December 14, 2007 8:35 PM

You can also select MEMBER COMPLAINTS if you wanted to...

Posted by: jovial67 at December 14, 2007 8:12 PM

Hi all, I just discovered an interesting feature of the RSVP site. If you need to send a complaint to RSVP, here's how...

- Go to HELP.
- From the dropdown menu, select CONTACT US.
- Then select GENERAL COMPLAINTS (on the left).
- You can then send RSVP an email.

Too easy! :)

Posted by: jovial67 at December 14, 2007 8:08 PM

Perhaps its time for RSVP to allow us all to rate each others profiles and blogging skills.

I think we only need three categories:
1. Venenous
2. Extremely venenous
3. Stark raving mad

Posted by: hermanhesse at December 14, 2007 8:08 PM

Good evening everyone!

I am so pleased to see that everyone is really enjoying the spirit of the season and being kind to everyone else ;)

Time was that the blogs on here were actually INTERESTING! I really enjoyed reading answers to the questions posted and the comments really showed people's different opinions and life experiences.

Now, sadly though, it seems that far too frequently these blogs are turning into slanging matches and private conversations.

Please, please, PLEASE can we keep to what blogs are all about (commenting on the posted questions) and keep the nasty fights, horrible comments and personal conversations out of here once and for all?

I know this probably sounds very naf but if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all!

And for the personal conversations - why not just exchange MSN addresses? Then your conversations will be private and not open to rude comment by others.

Maybe I'm just asking for too much ... sigh ...

Anyway, Merry Christmas everyone!

Posted by: sydneyinnerwestgirl at December 14, 2007 7:55 PM

Onlinedatingexpert and others who may like to know this..hi, I had to contact RSVP about log in issues and an error message recieved once, when I could not get on a blog. Was in correspondence with I think, Hayley so also mentioned that I wrote an politically and in other ways incorrect statement in response to another post. (ODE's post) I should have not said anything in hindsight I suppose. I thought what I wrote could have been offensive to someone in that situation, I asked you ODE if you kept captives..blah blah. You did not take offence I do not think but later I thought that some people have that in real life. So if by dobbing myself in I drew attention to your post?? which was of course witty and humorous. I think RSVP misconstrued what I said. Repeatedly I said I had no problems with your posts, that they were witty and written from your perspective as a psychology postgrad or whatever. Well I guess I owe you a platonic jug or two of beer if we are ever in the same room. So I never complained about your posts...I apologised for my unpleasant comment. Sorry.

Totheonebloggeritmayconcern
I begin paid employment on January 7th. Am on uni break after having gruelling exams. Double degree and am in 4th year in 2008. Have done voluntary work and unpaid placement "work" course related. Voluntary work related to passions/causes...a bit of this and that, to fit in with uni hours..babysitting, gardening. Yes I have a work ethic, and this is a luxury to have a few weeks off. Have been jobseeking and going for interviews. Oh and my real job is a mum, I am there as much as I can for my 3 teenagers, plus do the lawn (shared task with teenage boy) painting and things around the house. Oh that reminds me I am supposed to paint the eaves. If people are free to post in the day,between 9-5 does not mean they are actually I do not know...lazy. Some people have different schedules. I grab the computer sometimes when my teenagers are not on it and of course while multitasking.

Any RSVP kiss I have sent has been platonic BTW, as things get misconstrued occasionally.

Some advice please someone: as I do not mind making female platonic friends as well as male friends as a possibility, not looking for a partner and I may not need to (here for the blog and to maybe meet people)...do i put looking for female friends on my profile as well as male or leave it. Do not know what the protocol is for that.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 14, 2007 10:35 AM

hey cyclops! it's no different than women or men that send kisses and have no photo up.
Would you waste a stamp to find out they are fat and ugly ?

Posted by: kyotohilton at December 14, 2007 9:17 AM

have done so and will again if i find the profile to be interesting........of course i cant comment on yours cos like you, i suspect its pretty much fictional.......

Posted by: twoeyes at December 14, 2007 10:05 AM

kyotohilton - just one question for you. Is being on RSVP fullfilling your requirements and are you happy with the outcome you are getting? Yes, this is one question.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 14, 2007 9:01 AM

isnt it funny how some people get banned from these topics of conversation , for no apparent reason , and others get carte blanche to post and publish what they want. Seems abit of a double standard really.

I wonder if any good can come from having a rating system, cos in reality if the people who post have a hidden profile, what chance do others who may be genuinely in them, have to see what their profile is like.

Defeats the purpose somewhat methinks.

Posted by: twoeyes at December 14, 2007 8:49 AM

Hello kyoto - very profound of you. Thank you for your words of wisdom, they will be greatly valued.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 14, 2007 8:40 AM

...the word is aspersions, HC...you keep on saying the wrong word...what are dispersions?

Personally, I think you copied the profile...but there you go..you have your friends and FP has hers...agree to disagree, but for heavens sake..grow up all of you!

Posted by: istj54 at December 14, 2007 6:39 AM

Female persuaion has "implied" that the reason that other profiles look like hers is because she writes them, presumably for a living.

I wrote my original profile. It had been the same for several months before SHE copied it. I DID NOT pay her to write me a profile that "looked like hers" some months after I had already composed it myself...

FP, you spun your web, now I suggest that you extricate yourself from it-and don't go weaving more fantasy stories to cast dispersion upon others.

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 13, 2007 11:39 PM

to malsie and jenjen57 - now I sound really precious and easily offended, and I'm really not.
It's just a matter of getting it, I think, and I'm just starting to figure it out. And I get the "get the feel for who you resonate with". and really ignore the rest.
You gotta wonder about some of the stuff though, but I couldn't be bothered worrying.
Some great conversations and some really interesting thoughts around, and you really do gain some insight. Sadly lacking sometimes methinks.

just sneaked a peak, and a really interesting profile by one of you.
anyway thanks ladies and keep having fun.

Posted by: today122 at December 13, 2007 10:19 PM

woodnwine, I agree with you, it is indeed the pattern, and we've seen it happen several times already! One reason I refuse to engage in it, because it's all a lot of nothing in the end, people just get themselves all stirred up to no avail ultimately.
today122, you can find some true friends here, though, you just have to get a feel for who you resonant with and ignore the dross! (with one person's dross being another person's pearl, of course).

Posted by: malsie at December 13, 2007 9:04 PM

today122

There have been a lot of personal vitriolic attacks made by some, and its a shame you feel you have to pull your profile down because of the verbal attacks by someone. Like you I am a relative newbie to the blogs but am enjoying it immensely for the most part.And yes it is very odd that there are some who attack, withdraw, hide behind multiple profiles etc. I don't get it either..........obviously he/she is getting some perverse pleasure from upsetting or offending others. But there are also a lot of other nice, intelligent people here who are very welcoming and sincere in their interaction with other bloggers. Woodnwine has good advice......switch to ignoring mode and file the offenders under irrelevant.

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 13, 2007 8:48 PM

hi again.
Yes - I know. And some of this phantom's comments have been incredible, stalking almost. But reading them I've got to see some sort of a pattern of attack. And shouldn't mention this in case he starts up again.
And I'm only a relative newbie to this, and I've pulled my profile down for now, partly because i felt attacked by some blogger's comments. just creepy, but I didn't get the "rules" here.
I don't get the ongoing "he said she said" stuff, just don't get the point. And it turns people off what could be just a different way to communicate. And makes me feel sometimes like I'm intruding on some private conversation half way through. Like I missed some initiation. I think I said that before somewhere. I find the whole thing very odd anyway.
cheers

Posted by: today122 at December 13, 2007 7:54 PM

Hi today122 - I couldn't agree with you more but I still think it's hard to stand by and watch someone verbally abuse women like that. Enough said, I'm switching to ignoring mode. As I think I said last night I'll file him under irrelevent.

Isn't a strange pattern though as those who have been on the blogs over the last few months will have seen? Everything goes smoothly for a while then someone comes along and abuses everyone, people react so the rude one either leaves or is removed by RSVP then the pattern starts over again. Curious.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 7:27 PM

woodnwine - I know - challenge rather than attack, but that also gives oxygen. Sometimes the motive is clear and ignoring is the only option. Acting like a child should be treated like a child. Ignore the bad, praise the good?

Posted by: today122 at December 13, 2007 7:19 PM

today122 - I agree with what you are saying but occassionally someone has to challenge people over such rudeness and vile language to others. Challenge not attack - attack plays right into their hands as you said. Smile at your oponent - it confuses them.

misswendy - I have heard that story before and think it is fabulous. FP - you might like to re-think my comments about saying I would have liked to meet you? It wasn't because I fancied you, it was just because I thought there might be another side to the story. Unfortunately my comments were misinterperated.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 7:13 PM

miss wendy - very very good. mmm gives you a bit to think about hey. perception is everything, always.

and malsie - thank you. this little blog thing seems to be getting very stuck in "he said she said" rubbish, with someone throwing in bombs to stir it up even more. I don't get that in the real world and I get it even less here.
Time out needed for some methinks.

and yes - pina colada? with a grubby ending.

Posted by: today122 at December 13, 2007 7:13 PM

jenjen57, I heard about that story the other day. What a great opportunity that would have been to re-discover each other, see each other afresh without all the rubbish that had built up over the years. But no, some people would rather focus on the negativity (accuse each other of being unfaithful, when they were both equally to blame!) and never actually deal with the problems.

Posted by: malsie at December 13, 2007 7:02 PM

JenJen67 - I read about that story.......reminds me of the Pina Colada song.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 13, 2007 7:01 PM

Hey guys this is a little long......so feel free scroll past. My lecturer put this to us as a lesson in perception, I think it has some relevance here on the blogs at the moment.

**Think outside the box**

Imagine you're in London's Heathrow Airport.... While you're waiting for your flight, you notice a kiosk selling shortbread cookies. You buy a box, put them in your traveling bag and then you patiently search for an available seat so you can sit down and enjoy your cookies.

Finally you find a seat next to a gentleman. You reach down into your traveling bag and pull out your box of shortbread cookies.

As you do so, you notice that the gentleman starts watching you intensely. He stares as you open the box and his eyes follow your hand as you pick up the cookie and bring it to your mouth. Just then he reaches over and takes one of your cookies from the box, and eats it! You're more than a little surprised at this. Actually, you're at a loss for words. Not only does he take one cookie, but he alternates with you. For every one cookie you take, he takes one.

Now, what's your immediate impression of this guy? Crazy? Greedy? He's gotsome nerve?! Can you imagine the words you might use to describe this man to your associates back at the office?

Meanwhile, you both continue eating the cookies until there's just one left. To your surprise, the man reaches over and takes it. But then he does something unexpected. He breaks it in half, and gives half to you. After he's finished with his half he gets up, and without a word, he leaves.

You think to yourself, "Did this really happen?" You're left sitting there dumb founded and still hungry. So you go back to the kiosk and buy another box of cookies. You then return to your seat and begin opening your new box of cookies when you glance down into your traveling bag. Sitting there in your bag is your original box of cookies -- still unopened.

Only then do you realize that when you reached down earlier, you had reached into the other man's bag, and grabbed his box of cookies by mistake.

Now what do you think of the man? Generous? Tolerant? You've just experienced a profound paradigm shift. You're seeing things from a new point of view.

Is it time to change your point of view? Now, think of this story as it relates to your life. Seeing things from a new point of view can be very enlightening. Think outside the box. Don't settle for the status quo. Be open to suggestions. Things may not be what they seem. Unless, and until one realizes about the fact, no one will change his/her view of thinking inspite of lot of external factors.

Every Point has 3-sides; Your Side, My Side & the Right Side.

To understand either the Other's Side or the Right Side, one needs to leave His Side........

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 13, 2007 6:56 PM

I totally agree with you, today122. I'm enjoying your posts - what a welcome addition to "blogland".

Posted by: malsie at December 13, 2007 6:54 PM

True Story,

A married couple are divorcing after they chatted each other up on the Internet using fake names.
Sana Klaric and husband Adnan poured their hearts out to each other over their marriage troubles.
Using the names 'Sweetie' and 'Prince of Joy' in a online chatroom, the pair thought they had found a soulmate with whom to spend the rest of their lives.
It should have turned out like a real-life version of the 1979 Rupert Holmes song, Escape, where a couple meet through advert by someone 'who likes pina coladas and getting caught in the rain'.
But, unlike in the song, there was no happy ending after they turned up for a date and realised their mistake. Now the pair, from Zenica, Central Bosnia, are divorcing after accusing each other of being unfaithful.
Sana, 27, said: 'I was suddenly in love. It was amazing, we seemed to be stuck in the same kind of miserable marriages. How right that turned out to be.' But when it dawned on her what had happened, she said: 'I felt so betrayed.'
Adnan, 32, said: 'I still find it hard to believe that Sweetie, who wrote such wonderful things, is actually the same woman I married and who has not said a nice word to me for years.'

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 13, 2007 6:51 PM

I can't see how people don't realise what kyoto/blabber/whatever is doing. I don't get how people are taking him soooo seriously.
Like a little kid who throws a water bomb, then runs away and laughs at everyone getting wet and cranky.
Ignore him and then he won't come out and play.
All the analysing and calming down is just proving his point, whatever that was.
I think it's funny, but the responses are even funnier.
have fun everyone.

Posted by: today122 at December 13, 2007 5:34 PM

happy birthday time warp
enjoy your day

Posted by: today122 at December 13, 2007 5:27 PM

Timewarp ramipril is your everyday boring hypertensive medication nothing more or less.....nothing exotic about that one.

FP l enjoyed reading your post earlier today (the longish one cant remember the time), and think you make some interesting comments.

When we met up at lunch, and l will say that it was difficult to get around to everyone except just a quick hello, l had the feeling that you maybe would have enjoyed a smaller group more to maybe interact better, if l am mistaken l apologise.

Such a different way to meet people especially those we may have formed an opinion of based on writings / perceptions.

Anyway l think that if we all live and let live things may settle and we all may just enjoy ourselves a little more.

I'm over all the fighting its wearing my poor brain out remembering who said what to whom on which blogtopic!!!!!!!!!!!!.....................K

Posted by: auntykaz at December 13, 2007 5:18 PM

Woodnwine, I'm the person who FP thinks is not nice. You're right, FP, sometimes I'm not nice, sometimes I'm straightforward and honest instead of being nice.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 13, 2007 5:17 PM

Hi Femalepersuasion,

Can I ask you a valid question that might be on topic (maybe)?

You mentioned that you write profiles for different people; how do you do that (I mean this in all sincerity)? Do you meet the person in an interview type situation and ask them pertinent questions etc?

I guess my feeling is that if you get a professional person to write something on you, it somehow isn't really your personality coming out - I guess its like the difference between a Biography and Autobiography to me.

I think the "on topic" part is, how do you really rate if you are comparing the authorship of a profile between that written by a complete amateur and a professional writer?

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 13, 2007 2:59 PM

Hi All,

Heres a piece of advice for everyone; I think we all know already whom we like, dislike, agree and disagree, so whats the point of the continual bickering?

Seems to me the best thing to do is say your piece once and let it go - we all get the message loud and clear.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 13, 2007 2:45 PM

keep your shirt on before your pants fall off? What the? Are you suggesting my shirt holds my pants up? Sorry, I don't get that one.

Now I need to get back to work so I'll thank you for the very intelligent and enormously funny chat and say goodbye.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 2:44 PM

babble on - sulking? about what? I am sitting finishing my luch quite relaxed, thanks. Hiddencharms gave her version of the events and I just invited femalepersuasion to give her version, no more, no less. Like I said, I don't really care, it doesn't matter to me but femalepersuasion asked why people were suspicious of her and I offered a possible explaination. Get over it.

PS How do you weave wood? Woodnspoon is good though woodnyouthink.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 2:40 PM

timewarp1

Happy birthday! Don't work too hard. Have a lovely birthday dinner.

karenchocolat

Posted by: karenchocolat at December 13, 2007 2:33 PM

femalepersuasion - I have read that answer before but it still doesn't explain why you had the same profile as hiddencharms. She has catagorically stated that she didn't copy yours so the question still remains. Frankly I don't care, why would I, but I am just putting forward that idea to you as a possible reason why some people were a little suspicious when they met you.

Babble on - you just can't help yourself can you? Yet.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 2:27 PM

Well said to FP, Woodnwine...take your own advice, femalepersuasion. And for the record, I did not "insinuate" you posted old photos on your profile, I said it outright. In person, I only recognised you from your hairstyle, and some of us didn't recognise you at all. That was a surprise... and that's a fact, however you care to take it. And that's the last word from me on the subject.

Sorry for being so boring guys, this has turned into a brawling room, hasn't it. It should be funny and entertaining but it is so easy to get sucked into negativity.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 13, 2007 2:05 PM

Hear Hear jovial67, I have always thought that to blog your profile should be visible, therefore some how accountable. Any way these blogs not much fun at moment, so think I might RETREAT for a while.

Posted by: dolphin46 at December 13, 2007 1:19 PM

Bye all. Can't spend any more time here today, even if it is my 72nd. Gotta go earn my Dutch half of dinner with HER tonight. Seeya.

PS. woodnwine you're on a roll today - equally wise and fair response to FP.
Keep it up, and we'll soon stop frightening the unacknowledged (let alone unwelcomed) newbies away.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 13, 2007 12:52 PM

Hi Timewarp - one of my favourite sayings is "don't get upset ..... it just get's you upset". Have a great day.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 12:44 PM

woodnwine - of course you're not fighting with that unfortunate angry young man.

You were counselling him like a well-meaning knowledgeable uncle, and that was what I was applauding.

Even got me to reply to his dismissive post to me this morning in similar vein. Thank you for the good example to us all.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 13, 2007 12:37 PM

woops, typo - 3rd line, 2nd last para of blog to FP should read "for some very strange reason" not "for some very strange people" but it wasn't a bad freudian slip was it?

And while I am back on here, femalepersuasion, I don't really care about babbleon's views, comments, ideas etc - it is his attitude to others that I was objecting to. He can disagree with anyone, and I invite him to disagree with me at any time as I do you, but there is never any reason to be rude or abusive.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 12:36 PM

femalepersuasion - your latest post makes a lot of sense up to the point where you say the blogs should be closed. No one is forced to read the blogs and no one is forced to post on them. I also would like to say that you should consider taking some of your own well intentioned advice. You must surely be wondering why so many people have been left with a less than perfect impression of you - some of them may have gone off at a tangent, but all of them? I think not. I am perhaps one of the few people that has always wished you well but that doesn't mean that I have condoned many of the things that you have said to others and to myself.

Then there remains the question of how your profile came to be exactly the same as hiddencharms' - you never answered that or gave your view of that rather unusual situation and that may be why others were suspicious about your profile and your photos. Instead you just withdrew your profile and disappeared. Can you really blame others for being suspicious?

Most of the people you are referring to are not angry or antagonistic people, they have just been caught up in the web that you and others have spun on the blogs. They offered you the chance to be friends with them and within days you were on the blogs attacking some of them and for some very strange people me as well even though I wasn't even there. You then said it was all just a joke (even though it wasn't in the least bit hunourous) and disappeared again.

I suggest you look within for the answer you may be seeking elsewhere.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 12:27 PM

Good morning babblon

Thank you for your reply at 11.01am to me for telling you rather strongly last night to pull your horns in. You were very restrained. Condescending even.

What is Ramipril? A mind-altering substance I guess. Don't need them - I can change my mind just by seeing new evidence.

Woodnwind is right. Try to get people to talk to you by being nice to them rather than nasty, because getting positive feedback is so much more enjoyable than starting a brawl.

And if you can look outside yourself for a moment and enjoy how talented or nice someone else is, you don't have to put them down to feel good about yourself. You can just be glad you're in touch with someone so nice, and let it rub off on you.

Remember: if you want to be something, you only have to act as if you were, and suddenly you will be.

Peace and love are much more fun than jealousy and hate. Try them.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 13, 2007 12:22 PM

In case anyone is thinking of accusing me of plageurism, the following is the quote I modified earlier.

There is no road to peace. Peace is the road. Gandhi. I have this on the back of my car and think it is truly great.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 12:12 PM

jovial67 - I agree, I too am tired of all these frustrated people coming on the blogs and taking out their aggression on others. This site is supposed to be informative, helpful and above all fun. These people need to sort their lives out before they start messing with other people's lives.

Timewarp1 - I am not trying to fight with the babbler just to point out that his rudeness towards women isn't welcome here. Personally, I hope he is able to learn to manage his aggression and in that way he may get over whatever is causing him trouble and then he will start to see women in a different and better light. Then he can move along the road to happiness, or should that be the road of happiness?

After all, there is no road to happiness. Happiness is the road.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 12:07 PM

woodnwine - better and better. Bet you've got children who appreciate you. And if not, you deserve them.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 13, 2007 11:54 AM

My my my. I must say that the absolute dribble that has been posted on these blogs lately has taken away the fun of it all. Whilst insulting people and generally being antagonistic might be some peoples idea of a good time, for me it is not. To be honest, it's becoming a bit trite.

*RSVP*, In the same manner that you cannot initiate contact with someone if your profile is hidden, may I suggest that it no longer be possible to post on a blog if your profile is hidden?

Posted by: jovial67 at December 13, 2007 11:52 AM

Hi neuroticfish

Was I the "2 faced poor apology for a man" that you were talking about in your post at 7.59 this morning?

The one who shouldn't be standing up for attacked women, which you see as a job for "real men" only?

Please say yes or no, and if it wasn't me, then say out loud who it was that you were denigrating in that post, like any real man (or woman) would.

And neuroticfish, if it WAS me as I suspect, don't just be negative and abusive towards other men.

Please tell me what I need to do, to try to come up to your standards for real men, as well as spelling arse as "ass" like a yank.

When I lectured in Management 30 years ago, I used to say that a good idea doesn't care who has it, and I'm always open to helpful suggestions from anyone, as to how I can become at least a better person, if being a Real Man turns out to be beyond my short fat old reach.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 13, 2007 11:30 AM

babble on - I have no interest in your profile or who you are or who you are not. Your attitude towards the women on these blogs is contemptuous and you need to be more mature no matter how old or young you are. I am not fighting with you, just pointing out that your attitude is somewhat lacking. Before you are ready to date you need to let go of whatever hurt you are hanging on to. If a woman has mistreated you in the past don't assume all women are like that or you will miss out on being happy. I live alone but I am very happy and I value the friendship of women. They are different to us (admittedly sometimes difficult) and you should accept that and work with it - not against it. In the end you will be the loser, whether you win the argument or not.

ED - why did I have to sign in 3 times when i had not logged out? I tried to post twice in succession and the 2nd one failed. I don't get that.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 11:29 AM

babble on - say what you like, I don't care. I am not going to fight with someone like you and I hope that no one else wastes their valuable time doing it either. Release your aggression elsewhere please. BTW, women can see through me, I am completely transparent and have nothing to hide.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 11:18 AM

woodnwine good on you. Mature and unemotional - almost olympian - and even amusing to third parties. A really excellent post. I dips me old Akubra to you, sir.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 13, 2007 10:47 AM

istj54 - did we sort out why you thought I was being horrible to someone? I presume it was just a misunderstanding so won't worry any further.

Fluorofish- you have disappeared again - I woke up this morning and had one less friend. Your trust was never betrayed so I don't understand and don't care any more. Enjoy.

ODE - your Melbourne friends are missing you.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 10:27 AM

babble on - why don't you go and teach your son to drive or something? Your blogs are offensive and quite frankly, boring. You keep complaining about almost everyone on these blogs (particularly the women) but you keep coming back. Are you a masochist or just plain foolish? If you despise women so much, why are you on a dating site? Surely there is a local anti-woman group you can join instead. The rude comments you make are quite frankly irrelevant and very uninteresting. Maybe when you are so mad you should just go out to the carport and slash your tyres or you could set up a dart board with a woman on it and just throw darts while you drink and complain to yourself how bad they all are.

Ladies, I would suggest that you just ignore rude people like this and don't let yourselves get upset by them. They are trying to coax you into an argument to satisfy their contemptuous attitude towards women. There are many men on RSVP who like and respect women so you should be giving your attention to them not to people like babble on et all. Consider instead chatting with men like notgodsgift, weta, imanenigma, brane, brushkestral, twoeyes etc - they have something valid to say. I'd even chat to the fish & chip man before I'd waste my time on you my mysogenistic friend.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 13, 2007 9:48 AM

babblon "when I was young" Men also compare life to when the where younger including dating, it is just that women are more open about it. This is not a remark to attack you it is just the way men and women differ. Just don't forget there are other women reading this blog than the ones you are currently fighting with. I am also not saying you are fighting alone so please do not get that wrong either. Just think about what you say before you say it and others who put fuel on the fire, ask yourself why you are doing this.

Posted by: mstingle at December 13, 2007 9:43 AM

Babblon....what is with you??? Obviously no-one taught you correctly (or perhaps you weren't paying attention), please find the correct use of the apostrophe.."say's"???? Maybe one of those shameless bunch of neanderthals should have been teaching you, at least we know how to apply grammar! As one of those "let loose" in the schools to teach young children, I find your comments to be really unnecessary. None of my 7th grade had perverted minds when they graduated last week - just upstanding little Aussies who could defend an opinion!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 13, 2007 8:31 AM

1. I do not have multiple profiles, ONE only.
2. my photos are real and current, and I actually look like them, which 8 other real bloggers can verify now!! My profile is also honest, no fantasy!
3. I am an intelligent, genuine blogger, who is being driven away by the crap that is happening, eg. the stuff last night.
4. mutiple profiles = lies/untruths/fibbing. What is the point, you only need one profile, as you don't provide personal details on it !!
5. all the genuine, REAL, one only profile, honest, bloggers....PLEASE STAND UP!!!

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 13, 2007 8:26 AM

A lot of the venomous blogging is more likely to be women dressed up as “males”

Hate to say it, but it’s in their character.

However when I learn that a very nice girl spends a night in tears because of the attacks by another woman, it is time for real men to step in and kick ass.

Real men, not 2 faced poor apologies for same

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 13, 2007 7:59 AM

God, a loy of s**t was still hitting the fan last night.

ODExpert, I also found your posts, mostly, funny, and I DO belieive in everyone's right to have thier say and to be able to post. I hope you do get back on the blogs.

For some reason babblon/kyoto, who I believe is the same person, he actually said he was, has been allowed to blog, even when he mentioned hoping that someone what hang them selves, RSVP what is with that!!!!

BTW I do not believe they are fotografer!!!

Have a lovely day all, if the sqabbling ever stops!!! I think I will now retreat....jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 13, 2007 7:16 AM

My local GP works in a practice that was taken over ages ago by some huge medical corporate, so she has to run monthly stats through the roof, worse than lawyers, so you get these time for a check up flyers on an all too frequent basis. So it’s top to bottom, what conceivably can we treat/drug/induce/surely you have a few more undiagnosed complaints/ invent a few/ you got nothing to do with your time.

New one. New scheme. 6 medicare rebated allied health practitioner visits a year. Let’s get you on this. What would you like out of these?

“Mental health?”

She gives me a quizzical look. Been talking to someone again I see.

“Psychologist?”

Another one of those looks. Have to head this one off quick.

“They got physio on there. Might save me having to hassle some rsvp women for a massage.” Yes all you part time remedial masseuses. No freebies I see.

But when she was going through the list I was thinking of all the bloggers on here who may not know about the new scheme.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 13, 2007 5:55 AM

Thanks hiddencharms.

A good merlot would certainly hit the spot, but as a true knight of chivalry, my main concern is saving innocent damsels in distress from the attentions of the Black Churl (or was that Geek?) and his minions, rather than any personal reward or consideration from the aforesaid maiden.

My year 12 English teacher convinced me (if nobody else), bless her heart, that a gentleman leaves a girl in as good a condition as he finds her, so I don't pursue the maidens I rescue. Wait till they've graduated to slit sleeves in their cassocks.

So I'll have to shoutya back, won't I?

Can we all meet again by mid-January? I missed the last one, working late in Toowoomba that day.

The excellent 4MBS jazz has stopped, so it must be Good Morning, Brisbane!

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 13, 2007 1:24 AM

Hi cutemummy84

To try to reply to you before I nod: This blog is now up to about 600 postings, and I'm sure we all agree the topic's been done to death.

So why did I write a long essay on the tiopic tonight, at such a late stage? To add stuff that I felt hadn't been covered yet, before RSVP closes this blog down, which I predict they'll do about Friday morning.

The RSVP codenames I see in the blogs include about 10 or 15 (haven't counted exactly) who are having their say several times a day, most days. These Vital Few I call the BlogLords.

There are maybe another 30 or 40 I've noticed who post a comment more rarely, from maybe 3 or 4 a week down to less than one a week. I guess these Trivial Many have got a life, so only comment when they have a significant point to make.

But for the BlogLords, blogging is a really important part of their social life. (Perhaps their only social life, one is sometimes forced to suspect.)

So once they've had their say on the topic, they keep rabbiting on about anything or nothing - anything, anything to avoid the lonely cold isolation of absolute zero conversation.

And if you're an extrovert, conversation is much more interesting and engrossing if it has an emotional dimension. (If you're an introvert, you avoid both trivial and emotional conversations, so being a BlogLord would be painful.)

How to get emotion into the blog curriculum? Talking about emotion is good. Feeling it is better, and if you crave attention, it's better to be attacked than ignored.

In my first book of verse there's a senru about this:

Masochists can't lose -
say "Hurt me!" and the answer
must be "Yes" or "No".

And for every negative-attention-seeking masochist there's at least one sadistic bully, prepared to give her her yearned-for Victim fix.

Often they attack too brutally for civilised standards, leading others to seek to moderate the verbal violence, as you've seen tonight.

The BlogLords also include a number of potentially-alpha females, so there are also periodic verbal wrestles to recheck the current peck-order, with or without S-M overtones.

And the nicest Blogfemme can suddenly savage a number of targets in a single post, so that you have to suspect that she's either copped a smack in the mouth outside Blogland, and is passing the compliment over the border, or she's just got out of the wrong side of the bed, or the wrong day of the month.

I was one of the targets of such a scattergun attack last week - forget which blog.

When you watch the mud-slinging, always remember that an insult is nearly always a self-description. Look back a few posts tonight.

My Bible-bashing forebears would have summed it up for you as "The Devil makes work for idle brains."

That answers your question as well as I can. Night night Adelaide.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 13, 2007 12:46 AM

cutemummy: It is mainly just one person and their gang of imaginary friends, chatting, arguing with each other that do most of the attacking...and the few tired, hard working singles who log in for a chat and are sick to death of their rot...! Just ignore what you find tiresome or don't understand...and most of what you do..!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 13, 2007 12:29 AM

Timewarp: IOU a drink of your choice at the next Brisbane get together...Cheers and cheers again! Well done!

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 13, 2007 12:23 AM

A Community Announcement

The following is from ODE concerning the loss of his immediate posting rights:

"Hello, hiddencharms wasn't responsible for me being banned. I myself am responsible for what I post to the blogs. Actually, I don't believe I've been outright banned -- my posting access has simply reverted to the needs-moderator-approval status. However, two on-topic posts I sent over 24 hours ago haven't gone through, so who knows. A few of my posts over the last couple of days were off-topic and probably against posting guidelines, so I don't believe there was an error of commission when my posts were removed and my real-time posting privileges removed. My only complaint would be an error of omission and an error of inconsistency, the scourges of most moderated environments, but it's not for me to cry innocent here, for I know that I made the following insults: "bickerers like you", "short-term memory loss", "why are you so petulant? I have no idea why I appear in your insults every few days", "did I even mention your name before your attack on me and its implications?", "I don't know enough about you to either like you or dislike--or have any opinion on you whatsoever". I also amused myself by throwing up the diagnostic criteria for Paranoid Personality Disorder, saying "here's something that may assist RSVP in creating the rating I mentioned earlier." Umm, I mentioned the "flawed logic" in linking me to someone I most assuredly am not and showed how the same flawed logic could be used to link one of my accusers to someone I don't believe she is. So, no, I am not entirely innocent here and don't pretend to be. Hiddencharms and I both had several posts removed, which was disappointing because I believe her suspicions of me being femalepersuasion could have been resolved with a little discussion, and it was my posts that had my posting privileges removed, not her complaints or anyone else's. I take responsibility for that.
As Nina pointed out, I have a pic of myself holding a piece of paper that says "O.D.E." Hopefully that limits me to a graphics expert or a paid stooge. I think you will all agree that what I've done with the photo is more than 95% of site users have done to establish their genuineness. If all users had to do that, we would probably witness dwindling numbers overnight. Now, of course, most of you bloggers have gone further than that by actually getting together as a group. But the funny thing about knowledge is that, with the exception of one or two arguable propositions mostly of interest to philosophers and no one else, all knowledge falls far short of absolute certainty. In this way, if you think about it, it is impossible to eliminate the paid stooge belief entirely, even at blogger meetings. Nothing I do could ever entirely escape the contortions of reason available to those who are adamant that I am not a genuine person. Evolutionary biologists and geologists are only too painfully aware of the power of denial. And when it comes to proving that I don't have multiple profiles, if anyone here comes up with a miraculous way to prove that he or she DOESN'T have multiple profiles, I promise I will follow suit. Also, I'm keen on proving that I HAVEN'T stashed weapons of mass destruction somewhere, so if anyone comes up with a way for me to prove that, please bring it to my attention. Thank you."

Posted by: waterbombe at December 13, 2007 12:00 AM

PS babblon - it's not dead drop gorgeous, it's drop dead. But don't say it - do it.

And having proved that I can still remember primary school, most of 60 years ago, I'll sign off for the night.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 12, 2007 11:13 PM

I'm new to this blogging thing so please forgive my stupidity & ignorance... Why do all of these blogs end up being attacks on one another?

Posted by: cutemummy84 at December 12, 2007 11:02 PM

chingchong

Now you are starting to sound like someone else

Careful, you'll get dizzy

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 12, 2007 11:00 PM

Hi again babblon.

Just read your 10.31 post and I think you should take your own advice and go visit the enticing bars of Sydney, instead of lowering the standard of our RSVP blogs.

But you'd rather insult your betters in a blog than prove to yourself that you haven't got what it takes to interest desireable girls, face to face.

I'm not a dobber, but you need to be put on time delay, so you can be deleted every time you disgrace the rest of us.

Then maybe you'd go away, you horrible little excuse for a man, and leave us to get on with our superior style of frivolities.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 12, 2007 10:56 PM

Hmmm let's see "How do you rate"....well I am thinking a few of your rate highly in bitchiness, also in stringing a few adjectives together, high on the scale of boring reading....is it worth the mental angst obviously being expended here to carry on like this??? HC you seem like decent lady blogwise at least....often have a laugh at your comments, I see no reason for the attack on you...so I guess I missed that. Those who want to blog under multiple personalities, head to the chatrooms on ICQ or whatever one uses these days - and go for your life - you are boring us to tears!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 12, 2007 10:38 PM

Thanks babblon for your good wishes for my dating life in my old age. She was my RSVP first date No. 100, give or take a few, in 2 years on RSVP.

Just looked at your following post and then at your profile with the "ain't I cute" smile.

You were bitching (is that OK, girls, if I apply it to a man?) in your post about the older women who had been bothering you with their kisses. Silly cows! Just because you asked for women up to 8 years older than yourself.

I'd suggest you change your want age to 17-18, and see if you get fewer, younger and less desperate applicants, which seems to be your aim.

And sonny, stop bothering the worthwhile women in the blogs with your half-baked, incoherent and illiterate attacks, which only show what a sick puppy is writing your posts for you.

PS. I had the best times in the cot ever in my life 5 years ago with a woman who was then 70, you ageist philistine.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 12, 2007 10:36 PM

Wow, the blogs at the moment are definitely NOT encouraging me to stick around to see how much hatred and vitriole can be spewed forth.....

And I thought this site was for adults to meet other adults......

My Year 7's are behaving in a more adult fashion than some people on here.....

Posted by: wraecca at December 12, 2007 10:35 PM

babblon.. what ARE you on about. Why on earth can you not speak English like the rest of us?? Why the need for the cryptic language? Goodness If your going to call someone something.. just come out and do it...

Hmm I am a man hater huh? Yeah thats why I am on RSVP looking for one.. DUH!!

You really need to get out more babblon..... I think you need to back slowly away from the computer and get yourself either a life or a really good psychiatrist. Hmmm maybe just settle for the psych..

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 12, 2007 10:02 PM

Hi all.

Just back from a coupla days' solitary slavery, and nothing has changed in Blogland: lots of happy chitchat/ cheerful stirring, with nary a thought about the specified topic.

Sorry to be boring, but before RSVP closes this one off (wonder why it's been chosen to be the one to run so much further than usual past its use-by date???) I wanna say:

1) The profile rating is a red herring. I can't see anyone being happy to let other members or even RSVP give them marks for English composition, Ability to write Fiction/Advertising copy, blatant plagiarism, or whatever you see profile-writing as, and then to have RSVP publish those examination marks on your profile. Get real!

2) The profile-completion score is also a furphy. Think of it in 2 very different contexts:

a) Once you've opened up someone's profile, you need to be blinder than Freddie to miss seeing which data boxes haven't been filled in, and whether they've used most or all of the available wordage to paint as detailed a preview of themselves as they can.

If they, like me, have gone to the trouble to include a lot of fine detail, that can be very helpful to the literate/discerning - but it's a threatening and impenetrable jungle of alpha-numeric symbols, for those who mouth the words as they read.

On the other hand, if the words are scanty, monosyllabic and misspelt, that will be less threatening to the word mouthers. Birds of a feather ... Which is all good. Helps you tell.

So I feel there's absolutely no need to show other people the profile -completeness % score THERE IN YOUR PROFILE, the way they now show you only in your own, to encourage you to fill in more of the boxes.

b) But I never thought RSVP was talking about showing your profile-completeness score to others, on your profile page. No, mate - somewhere else.

How do people surf RSVP? Put in some gender, age and address criteria and then look at the resultant list of profile extracts - for me, about 270 women 59-66 and within 25km, when I last looked. (Now they don't show those inactive for over a year.)

Each extract now has a photo for the picture-it to check, plus some extra info in words for the rest of us, including the person's 160-character headline paragraph, and how many photos they have.

I reckon RSVP actually has to be talking about showing your profile-completion rating HERE, as a gauge of how much use it would be to open the profile and read the fine print, if the photo didn't quite do the trick for you. I just look at the vital statistics, headline paregraph and photo, and if there are no vetos there, I look at the whole profile.

3) Reply rate: I reckon RSVP put in the other two possibilities, mainly to draw attention away from this one.

Way down in this blog I had a hissy-fit about people who don't reply to kisses, and the Doberman sisters led by waterbombe savaged me for hinting at a certain female canine descriptor that I invoke privately when women don't reply to my kisses - a name, by the way, which I see them using freely out loud themselves, higher up this and other blogs.

I now think that this word might be un-secret women's business that they can use anywhere to anyone and particularly to one another, but if a man ever dares to use it, he gets called for all kinds of a bastard (which in Australia, is actually the male version of the same word.)

I got the same snapping of teeth when I carefully replaced the code for the forbidden word with "little darlings", proving that the Doberman sisters do not allow the use of irony (which the uneducated call sarcasm) either, if it's men describing women whose behaviour they despise. If they're that hair-triggered, those women would seem to deserve help with anger-management.

Some female bloggers also said that it is possible to get so many kisses coming in so fast that you couldn't possibly have enough spare time to open all their senders' profiles in turn, and decide in an instant for each one whether you wanted to hear more from them or not, and then with a few mouse clicks tell them "Buzz off Buster" or "OK - Put your money where your mouth is, and Chat me up".

I've just realised these female bloggers may have a point. If you're as drop-dead beautiful as most of them are, you WILL get a flood of kisses from dedicated readers of Picture magazine's Home Girls supplement, because you're so up there by comparison.

And if you're also a finger-following reader, (as they obviously aren't) it does take a while to read enough of the senders' profiles to decide what you think of them.

But not as long per week as I hope you'd be planning to spend with the person you finally found, at the end of the current mate-hunt.

So to those who suggested that lack of time to process the flood of kisses was a valid excuse, I say self-indulgent Bull.

Just miss your turn in some blog or other, so you can do what you've got your RSVP profile visible for - to process all incoming contacts, to see if any look as if they might have what it takes, to start working towards becoming your sweetheart.

And if not, to send them packing as soon as possible. And AFTER you've knocked the no-hopers back, block them if you like, so they won't waste your time again.

Surely you know that saying "No thanks" is a much more reliable rebuff than keeping them guessing? So if your self-esteem is only based on being ahead of enough other people in the peck-order, rather than on your own intrinsic worth, get busy telling them "No way, Jose!" and feel wonderful about how many you've knocked back this week alone.

Or if you have any empathy at all with the human beings who timidly or confidently sent you a kiss, have the human decency to honour their offer of contact, at least by telling them to pee off.

Are we all divorced and recycled as singles, just because we're not fit for relationship material? I hope not, and ask you all to prove that you're better than that, by replying to the people who say hello to you in the train, in a bar AND in an internet dating club. To make a different case for a bar and the internet doesn't make sense to me. I see the bar as a hell of a lot more dangerous.

I am the same person whereever I am, with the same varying respect for varying other people irrespective of where I meet them, and in the context of answering RSVP kisses, I say either yes or no to every beggar who stops me on the street.

Who is so superior to me, that they don't have the same social obligations?

So I say, Go for it, RSVP! Show who's too proud and egocentric to answer all their incoming kisses and emails, because that or permanent wimpy indecision are the only two genuine reasons not to. We all deserve to be warned off both these kinds of partner-unworthy members.

I've noted recently a number of bloggers claiming to be taking robust positions on the blog topic, in the hope of distracting some of the other excellent minds here from their alternative topic of secondary-school-stage flirting/teasing.

I'm with you, and I just did. Now we''ll see who gets peevish and who refutes me like a fair-dinkum debater.

PS. Hoping I may have reason to hide my profile soon. Dinner with her again tomorrow night, for my 72nd.

Posted by: timewarp1 at December 12, 2007 9:41 PM

woodnwine

Sorry. Just my attempt, albeit a poor one, to change the tack of things........as you say it is getting boring..........might just go and leave babblon to it...........

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 12, 2007 8:45 PM

babblon..you and all your aliases should be banned from the blogs.... You are vulgar...

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 12, 2007 8:44 PM

its time for a spinnaker me thinks..................

Posted by: twoeyes at December 12, 2007 8:34 PM

jenjen57 - remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

OK, this is getting boring so it's good night from me and it's good night from him.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 8:34 PM

Hi FP - hope you are doing well. Testing? That's an understatement. Hiddencharms - I'd change tack if I were you - going about!! Who's on the sheet? Who's grinding?
Babble on - we are all holding our breath - as if.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 8:30 PM

Translation Dictionary for decoding personal ads and dating profiles

This handy guide will help clarify any confusion, helping you intelligently and informatively wade through all the personal ads and dating profiles so you can choose the right person for you.

40-ish…………………………….49.

Adventurous……………………..Slept with everyone.

Athletic…………………………..small breasts.

Average looking…………………Moooo.

Beautiful…………………………Pathological liar.

Emotionally Secure………………On medication.

Feminist………………………….Over weight.

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 12, 2007 8:29 PM

Gee can't you people be nice to each other for the festive season?

Posted by: whatcomesnext at December 12, 2007 8:22 PM

Woodnwine: It's all good. From what I understand, there is this little "clique" who have taken a dislike to hiddencharms....boo hoo...I outed one of them...and they are out sending emails across Asutralia about what kind of nasty, dog with no personality I am...Like I care?

If I were at all interested in any of them I would have made contact with them by now...maybe that's their problem - I'm just not interested in them...

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 12, 2007 8:08 PM

OK, now I'm confused, which is easily done. istj54, are we talking about FP or ODE? If it is FP, then I have already commented that I always supported her despite what she said about me. If we are talking about ODE, I posted a blog supporting him today. So I am completely lost - maybe just a simple misunderstanding. It's all good, or if it isn't, it should be.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 8:05 PM

istj54 - slow down for a minute. I was referring to red cordial making people hyper (see my earlier post). There was absolutely no inference to you being drunk, that was your interpretation.

OK, so you seem to be talking about FP. I never, ever said anything bad to her despite her various attacks on me as herself and as psychobabble. In fact, on many occassions I stepped in to support her and on a few occassions said nice things to her. Go figure. I was saying in my "offensive" post that HC should let sleeping dogs lie (no pun intended). I was being polite to HC and offering no criticism of anyone.

Are we talking paranoia here?

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 7:57 PM

And as for that babbling japanese fish...what is it that you want? A photo? An email? Some attention? You start calling me names and all I can think of is the low-down-bacteria-that-grows-in-gutters...

Go and annoy someone else...some of your playmates must be lonely...Because I am sick to death of putting up with your insults! Rude person!

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 12, 2007 7:55 PM

ISTJ54: They did not "withdraw"...sweetie...they were banned from blogging..And, from what I hear, the other party is creating pretty nice little smear campaign off the blogs - remind them, please, that some of these people are in touch with me and have fowarded correspondence. Damage that ego? God, I wish. There is nothing that could deflate that ego!

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 12, 2007 7:50 PM

hiddencharms - where is the prize? The other runner has already pulled out of the race with a damaged ego so there is no need for you to keep running. She has admitted defeat by withdrawing.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 6:40 PM

You should be ashamed of this blog..read it again. It would seem that you have taken pleasure in damaging peoples, sometimes, fragile egos....and I hardly ever drink, so asking me if I am drinking red cordial
is a bit mean too. Just cos I have an opinion doesn't mean I am drunk.

I'm not saying you were party to it, but sometimes, no always, taking no action can be just as bad.

Posted by: istj54 at December 12, 2007 7:38 PM

babblon

never sent a kiss,an email or went on a date

Put a profile up......come on , lets have a peek at you........

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 12, 2007 7:36 PM

Here's a thought - what if we had to rate ourselves? Now that could be very soul searching.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 7:35 PM

I'm ashamed of you Woodnwine....

Posted by: istj54 at December 12, 2007 6:49 PM

istj54 - please explain.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 7:29 PM

babble on - why do you feel the need to be so vulgar to someone you don't even know? This fascinates me.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 7:21 PM

Its time that RSVP increased the range of choices in a number of the 'My Ideal Partner' areas. The 'Body Type' needs about forty more options including a how many kg you weigh option. This way you could accurately describe what your body is like and what your ideal partner should have. Then any fibbers would have to wear very baggy clothes or be evicted for lying ;)

The 'Drinking Habits' needs expanding too so you could include how many gin and tonics you get through in an hour etc etc.

Finally, 'Personality Type' needs to be open so people can put their foot into it and give us all more laughts.

Posted by: hermanhesse at December 12, 2007 7:12 PM

twoeyes what a lucky man you must be.
I made it to number 6 in two days , never sent a kiss,an email or went on a date , it is totally meaningless.

Posted by: babblon at December 12, 2007 7:10 PM

twoeyes

Yeah I noticed that is only 30 days, but only cos`my numbers went south too.......The other thing that sucks is that we dont know who these people are that have us on their favs........

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 12, 2007 7:04 PM

has anyone noticed..............the rsvip kisses sent , emails sent,and added to favs list has been updated to now only comment on the last 30 days. Now the numbers are really low. I am no longer in 61favs lists but only 2. Now that sucks

Posted by: twoeyes at December 12, 2007 6:55 PM

istj54 - what on earth are you referring to? When did I ever give anyone a hard time? Are you drinking red cordial?

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 6:52 PM

......and is that what the game is here..to try to damage someone's ego, or self-esteem?

Do you consider yourselves winners when you badly hurt the feelings of strangers? Does it make you feel better about yourselves to be part of the pack?

You all act like the mean girls here at times.

I'm ashamed of you Woodnwine....

Posted by: istj54 at December 12, 2007 6:49 PM

hiddencharms - where is the prize? The other runner has already pulled out of the race with a damaged ego so there is no need for you to keep running. She has admitted defeat by withdrawing.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 6:40 PM

And as for photos...I could put a sign around my dog's nec reading "hiddencharms" and it still would not prove that my dog was the blogger and not me...

And considering that I had very little to do with this character until he launched his attack on me, about being the multiprofiler, imposter and profiler pincher...Well, I pretty much state my case...I've never had much to with with it, but was engaged in a bit of a battle with FP who is continually trying to discredit me, and now...this "expert" suddenly re-appears and starts acting with great authority about who I am and what I do...and accusing me of being a part of the same kind of Boring, childish, mind games that I have made it quite clear that I despise...

FPs profile says she likes games...of the mind...Terry has printouts of both my old one, and the one she pinched off me...

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 12, 2007 6:16 PM

I added friend with male and female, thinking it would not hurt to meet other females in the area, so that if we got on we could travel together to RSVP socials. Then I started getting profiles of both male and females, boy it looked wiered so I took female off.

Posted by: mstingle at December 12, 2007 6:15 PM

Ninaschen: I'm sure there had to be more to the expert being banned than what he has let on to you in his correspondence...I was involved in that spat, as were several other bloggers...The rest of us are still blogging in real time...

Perhaps, when the whole story emerges, you could share the details with us - it being a fair and equitable world, as Malsie mentioned.

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 12, 2007 5:59 PM

It's diet cordial, WnW but I occasionally have lemon or lime and if I'm feeling adventurous a combo...tempted????

Posted by: istj54 at December 12, 2007 4:40 PM

istj54 - my bad. I would love to come to another Melbourne bloggers' meeting (some of the best bloggers are from Melbourne) but January might be too early for me as I was just down there a matter of weeks ago. You are right though - unfortunately for me sometimes, I am a gentleman and would just sit and sip on my cordial. Do you have any other flavours though? Red tends to make people a bit hyper and I already have trouble with restlessness.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 4:10 PM

I notice that there has been judgement passed on others using religion and particularly the christian faith. Well I am always puzzled when this happens because if they read and understood what is written. Jesus was against the old ways where people stood in judgement of others. None of us are perfect. The only truely happy people are those that know themselves well and live up to their own true potential. If they believe in god then only their relationship with him/her/they matters. No one can profess to know the love of god for another human being. There have been many accounts infact of god loving the most unlikely by 'peoples' standards. What is there problem, maybe they are insecure, I don't know it is not for me to judge.

Posted by: mstingle at December 12, 2007 4:03 PM

Woodnwine...the offer was for January...I thought you might come down for the next blogmeet so I suggested I would watch the movie with you...just in case you got upset...nothing suss...I have it here and haven't watched it...I have retracted the offer because I have now found the light and my way is clear...and I am no longer going to tempt men with curling up on the couch under, or on, the doona with a DVD and a nice red(cordial)...I only do it once a year, and you were my choice, because I know you are a gentleman and would not read anything untoward into my offer..now wood you?

I said I would now watch the movie by myself this week so I am no longer tempted...enjoy your weekend..BB

ps..you could fly!

and yes, I agree about Eroticfish...greengills..

Posted by: istj54 at December 12, 2007 4:00 PM

Thanks for the kind offer istj54 but I am otherwise occupied this weekend. And besides, it takes the best part of 2 days to drive to Melbourne - just too far for any movie I think. It appears that someone is offering you fish & chips with your movie anyway.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 12:38 PM

Thank you, Ninaschen, for that information. Here's hoping the situation is rectified as soon as possible with regards ODE, helping to restore my faith that this is a just and equitable world (even if sometimes it doesn't seem so...)

Posted by: malsie at December 12, 2007 12:19 PM

sugarbabe don't need yo prayers old timer..I'm doin farn...all on my ownsome....Praise the Lord...I Am Saved!.....

which, most unfortunately, for WnW means I must retract my off of curling up on my couch to watc "The Notebook" together...to ensure that I am not tempterd to tempt him again, I will watch said movie by myself this week.

Posted by: istj54 at December 12, 2007 11:03 AM

@amdoingit, ok, just the apron, but I insist on the bow tie!!! It shows class! If its one of those melbourne scorchers I will need someone to apply sunblock to those nether regions the sun doesn't normally see!!!!....and maybe a hat....be sun smart!!....slip,slop & slap me on the a#*e!.......Imanaughtyboy

Posted by: imanenigma at December 12, 2007 10:18 AM

Cripes neurotic one...is it Sunday already? What's with the sermon???

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 12, 2007 9:59 AM

Did I see my name mentioned? What was that about?

I know nothing!
Seargent Schultz.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 12, 2007 8:44 AM

Imanenigma.. Any backless apron is fine.. As long as that's all there is!!! And pray for a warm day!!!!

K... I'm with you re maintenance... Am off to the spa for 4 days so may have to get a couple of early treatments myself???

Need to fly.. Where's my broomstick???

Away till sat eve... Miss me won't you??

Have fun all...."G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 12, 2007 8:25 AM

Hey guys,

I've cycled through "undecided" vs. "wants children" a few times, and although I can't control all variables, it seems "wants children" gets you a LOT more profile-viewing activity and kisses than "undecided". No idea about "doesn't want children".

Around 80% of the female profiles I look at seem to have "wants children" listed for the Ideal Partner.

Hope that helps you move from undecided to decided.

P.S. Other comment awaiting moderation, probably because I mentioned mail or because of my recent off-topic posts. Basically, it said I'd added a pic of myself in my pyjamas holding up an "O.D.E." paper.

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at December 12, 2007 3:20 AM

malsie, waterbombe - thanks for backing up my genuineness. The pic of me holding up a piece of paper with "ODE" on it has been approved, so hopefully now I'm merely a graphics expert or a paid stooge. ;-) That's all I'll be doing to show I'm genuine, since I believe I've already done more than 95% of the users to demonstrate my genuineness through that pic alone. I have no intention of going to the Sydney bloggers meetings, even though there are nice, fun people there, but I'm up for friendly activities or dates if any Sydney women aged 18-27 are interested and want to email me on here. Thanks.

Which brings me to the proposed rating system. Recent events have convinced me that it's probably better not to entrust the users to rate other users. I'm sure there are many metrics that can be used to calculate a few ratings, metrics such as number of replies, length of replies, speed of replies, time spent on the site, number of kisses sent & received, profile completeness, picture availability, number of pictures, number of times someone rejects a person who fits the Ideal Partner description, number of profile views, number of searches, number of blog contributions (we should all be rated negatively!), number of open email channels, and so on. Or does that approach Big Brother land?

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at December 11, 2007 9:17 PM

Sorry ladies I thought there was talk of a BBQ in park or something, I'm easy I'm up for anything, though a drink or a latte wouldnt go a stray, dont really want to be seated ie restaurant, give me freedom to mingle!....@istj54- my apron is a little black backless number!.....Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 11, 2007 7:35 PM

Who is Mrs nevereverland...let us all in on your cryptic posting, please.....

Neuroticfish...never forget, a bird in hand is worth two in the bush..or is that interstate?

Ladies..and gentlemen..how would you rate betrayal of trust?..just out of interest, mind you...

Posted by: istj54 at December 11, 2007 7:23 PM

'use the corset would be so tight, the boobs up so high, all for an authentic look of course, that I would not be able to breath !!!! ( aahh, but that might work to, resusitation!!!)'

Jewels sounds like what I wore to the Witches and Warlocks RSVP party in October.. hehe with my whip!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 11, 2007 7:02 PM

why not have a new RSVP blog........... and an evening event to match this theme in the New Year ...........Males to dress as Paris Hilton and the Females to dress as Brad Pitt whilst transvestites can dress as either or both !

Posted by: hermanhesse at December 11, 2007 6:59 PM

Ladies, please!!! I am having these vivid images of imanengima in one of those sexy bronze tausoed(?) naked "Kiss the chef" aprons...with a sporren in the appropriate place...

Iamanenigma..you are a sweetie, and I am only pulling your leg...(oops, that could sound naughty)

And to top off this image, poor Ninaschen, dripping with coleslaw...dabbing her skirt...with tears of laughter rolling down her face...Do us a favour...If you decide on a bbq...video it!

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 11, 2007 6:52 PM

Ninaschen...getting visions of Kath and Kim on the train to the races.....I'm not keen on a barbeque either....IAE...is your apron one of those wonderful creations with its own breasts? You know we have a dress code down here, don't you? No latex aprons!

Posted by: istj54 at December 11, 2007 6:43 PM

Sounds like a damned fine outfit to me, ImAnEnigma and I'm sure it will be a hit no matter what the venue. I'm not convinced about the BBQ idea, though. I'm a country girl. BBQs are done to death, here. I go to the city for the bright lights and the excitement! Balancing an overnight bag, coleslaw and a few snags on my knee while 'training' it to the big smoke might prove tricky for this old stick.

Posted by: ninaschen at December 11, 2007 6:31 PM

I think the profile rating and for that matter the top 100 shouldn't be there.

I believe a profile should be judged on it's own merits. If a profile lacks detail I should decide myself whether that person is worth contacting or not. I certainly won't be judging someone on their top 100 status.

But I know RSVP had good intentions so keep the ideas coming.

The reply rate is good though for guys. I know most guys would like to know their stamp isn't going to be wasted on someone who wants to just receive contact for the sake of it.
But the problem is that some girls could be receiving a lot and can't handle replying. Of course if that's the case she should limit the number of kisses she gets in a day.

Hope this helps.

Posted by: fireflybck at December 11, 2007 6:24 PM

about men in tights (with or without socks) men in kilts (do you wear underwear) ladies wrenching up bras (what is that?) I would be one of those damsels in distess!!! cause the corset would be so tight, the boobs up so high, all for an authentic look of course, that I would not be able to breath !!!! ( aahh, but that might work to, resusitation!!!)

Boy, have a I got a hugh picture in my head at the moment!!! (did I ever tell that I have a very vivid imagination!!!)

Have a lovely evening all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 11, 2007 6:21 PM

Trumanscat: Try the chalets in winter, with the fireplace ablaze and champers under the stars...

And go down the valley on a Sunday argvo tot he toad races at the Bearded Dragon...You should see the men! Um...You might also see a few things you never dreamed of seeing, either...ha, ha!

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 11, 2007 5:47 PM

Twoeyes that was not a wenching up .........more a wenching down actually.........K.

Posted by: auntykaz at December 11, 2007 4:58 PM

just buy a new bra like last time for the wrenching up of you know who...........................lol

Posted by: twoeyes at December 11, 2007 4:54 PM

amdoingit, if we get these guys to the next melb meet best we get some maintenance before we wench up.
We wouldn't want to lead them up the wrong garden path l think........
I don't think Bob would be able to cope with us both............K

Posted by: auntykaz at December 11, 2007 4:45 PM

if its going to be that hot why not wear a kilt and a bow tie and grin??????????????

Posted by: twoeyes at December 11, 2007 4:36 PM

@ misswendyxxx- Why would you need it with all that gorgeous hair? ....but as you have me charmed (for the moment) your wish is my command!......the wig is yours!.....Re: your sign in troubles, that use to be me but after complaining to RSVP re my "untrusted to blog in realtime" status all is perfect in my blogging world. Dont ask me any techno questions, I can fix anything around the house,car etc as I'm very talented with my hands....BUT .....with computers...the word ninkinpoop springs to mind! @amdoingit- as for wearing tights I dont know, I was going to get all dressed to kill and try and impress you girls. But if it turns out to be a BBQ and hot how about if I wear, shorts & tee,cooking apron , bow tie and a cheeky grin? .....Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 11, 2007 4:19 PM

why work at all today. sit back relax have a beer like me cos i got a day off.............

Posted by: twoeyes at December 11, 2007 4:10 PM

Hey Earl/ChocolateStarfish,

What makes you think you are a misogynist cretin fella; you fall into a category of your very own - psychotic drop-kick. One would think that even you would have realised by now that you and your comments are irrelevant.

On the bright side though, at least you have an excuse for being you…..and him, and her, and him etc. etc.

Back to topic though – ratings-wise……guess!!!

bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 11, 2007 4:08 PM

waterbombe

Don't go !! This is all such fun !! Forget work...........it will wait for you, just like mine will :)

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 11, 2007 4:01 PM

How do you rate - with inuendos? Seems to be the name of the game today.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 11, 2007 3:57 PM

Would those be prison stripes that you earned, nowrottingfish?

Ooops, I must get back to work!

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 3:53 PM

Oops again. Yet another classic example of needing to ponder...

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 3:51 PM

Poor baby, you certainly earned your stripes.... I really do have compassion for you but I am sure you would hate that.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 3:50 PM

Misogynist cretins are an exclusive club. You don’t get lumped in with them; you have to earn your stripes the hard way.

There are Real Alpha Males, Pseudo Alpha Males, Try Hards, and the remainder march in the Gay Mardi Gras.

Everyone else is Delta, Gamma, Snaggie, Limp Wrists, Neuros, Julia Gillards, and vote Labour

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 11, 2007 3:47 PM

Touché notgodsgift, I will leave the stick alone & thank goodness you are not yet another misogynist cretin.
(This from a girl who should ponder before she blogs) :~)

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 3:44 PM

Hi TC (could also be TopCat),

No worries, just dont like the idea of being lumped in with the misogynist cretins on here.

Now that we have sorted the nuts; please dont go near the stick otherwise I will be likely to get into even more trouble!!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 11, 2007 3:29 PM

Have I compleletly got the wrong end of the stick?
Oops sorry notgodsgift, I take it all back.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 3:15 PM

ok, notgodsgift, uncharted waters are a tricky place for a waterbombe to find herself. I had better find a charter boat and get myself back to shore before I explode.

And you tell him, Misswendyxx!! JapanAccomodation, lay off!

C ya later, I have to do some work. Thanks for the larfs.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 3:06 PM

You might be all nuts twoeyes but is this really the place to say that? Oh yes, it is, it's a dating site, I forgot....I thought it was a boxing ring. Will the links never stop, Christmas Day is followed by Boxing Day... it's boxing day on here every day. With the occasional Nut.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 2:43 PM

now thats GOLD.......very funny

Posted by: twoeyes at December 11, 2007 3:02 PM

Kyotohilton.....well I see you are still in fantasy land........let me tell you again......never!!

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 11, 2007 2:44 PM

You might be all nuts twoeyes but is this really the place to say that? Oh yes, it is, it's a dating site, I forgot....I thought it was a boxing ring. Will the links never stop, Christmas Day is followed by Boxing Day... it's boxing day on here every day. With the occasional Nut.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 2:43 PM

Hi Waterbombe,

You know me better than what TC has suggested, I hope. Its all about what squirrel's gather - just a natural progression of the of the "men in tights" gag.

Having said that, Twoeyes suggestion to stop digging is a good one; we are now getting into unchartered waters and I dont want to be misconstrued by anyone else otherwise I may lose anything that squirrels might have an interest in within 10 seconds of landing in Melbourne!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 11, 2007 2:42 PM

I think you are still in Never Never Land.Posted by: kyotohilton at December 11, 2007 2:31 PM

she's flying so high she will NEVER LAND............

Posted by: twoeyes at December 11, 2007 2:37 PM

here's hoping we all get our share of nuts this Christmas.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 2:34 PM

but arent we all nuts anyway????????????

Posted by: twoeyes at December 11, 2007 2:36 PM

The squirrel's diet? ....Let's think now....Nuts??? !!! Are we talking nuts??? Well, that would fit, rolled up socks and nuts...I can see the connection...

...but it's starting to sound like a Christmas stocking to me now .... here's hoping we all get our share of nuts this Christmas.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 2:34 PM

My...... you have an eye or two for detail don't you!

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 11, 2007 2:31 PM

Clive Owen in tights would be nice, minus the socks please....ouch.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 2:30 PM

Actually don't bring back fight club...........I really came on here to join the quilters club.........

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 11, 2007 2:26 PM

My name might be Wendy.....

can we be sure about that??????????????

Posted by: twoeyes at December 11, 2007 2:22 PM

What's going on with these blogs.....is this a dating site??? What's this business with men in tights?

My name might be Wendy but I didn't come on here to meet Peter Pan..........geez.....bring back fight club!!!!!

Waterbombe I am not sure but maybe something to do with the squirrels diet.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 11, 2007 2:18 PM

As I see it 2eyes WB has dug no holes.
Funny how context is seen differently.
However I love the sense of humour, perfect.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 2:14 PM

I am happy to stand corrected WB.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 2:10 PM

the holes is getting deeper WB........
stop digging

Posted by: twoeyes at December 11, 2007 2:10 PM

Is this true, Bob??? *gasp* Surely not!

I don't know the expression - "squirrel" - TC, no one has said that to me before, so probably I'm not one ... whatever it is. I'm all talk and no intentions, that's me!

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 2:06 PM

Correction, I didn't mean the pigeons would use the internet now, I mean the Brits would. :-)

And it would be clean harmless fun, but only if those socks are washed, Bob :-) *sigh*

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 2:01 PM

I think it is this....

"Let me make the suggestive comments but if you respond on any level I will deem you a sl%t"

Lovvelllyy double standard.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 2:00 PM

I don't get it, Bob... what's with the squirrel thing?...you're suggesting I change my name to SquirrelBombe? Where did that come from...were squirrels used in bombing raids in WWII, I wonder...I saw something on the ABC the other night that said pigeons were entirely responsible for the success of the Allies. Apparently they took vital messages around the world during the war..pretty funny isn't it, they'd use the internet now. Perhaps it should be renamed the pigeonnet.

Ah, there's nothing wrong with a spot of harmless flirting on the blogs...we've never met...it's clean, harmless fun...isn't this what the pigeonnet is for?

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 1:55 PM

I suspect Waterbombe that there are men who advocate a certain role that women SHOULD play & not to deviate from it.
And here we are.... women who have had a full life.... I won't be restricted by someone's ideals & from what I know about you neither will you, you are far too dynamic & gorgeous for that cr@p.
Don't accept anything less than loving & supportive girls!

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 1:51 PM

Waterbombe,

Just how close is your face going to be to our groins anyway; and you a taken woman - shame on you??!!! Maybe you should change your RSVP handle to Squirrel!

Oh well, there goes that charm you were wrapping me on.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 11, 2007 1:32 PM

to ODE and HC, from Malsie via Waterbome:

Malsie confirms that ODE did indeed have the ODE name up before ODG - she noticed it, commented, and within an hour ODG had plagiarised it.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 1:32 PM

Woolly work socks??? Jeez...washed or unwashed? I'm holding my breath....

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 1:07 PM

Amdoingit,

Socks in tights though - works for the ballet; why not the RSVP guys. That way, you will only have to worry about the saggy butt look on us all (didn't someone famous once pose the question "what is it with old men that their arses disappear")?

Waterbombe,

Just one pair of woolly work socks ought to do it; after all, I'm not that much of a braggard. Also, be careful what you recommend, your friends will surely end up hating you afterwards!!!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 11, 2007 12:55 PM

TC... Back atcha baby..X X X

Need to go.. check you all tonight.. Enjoy!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 11, 2007 12:53 PM

WB.. Oh to be a few years younger!!!
Need to rustle up a few males of my vintage who wouldn't mind running around in tights for a bit.. Hmmm...Cherish the thought!!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 11, 2007 12:51 PM

Sorry Bob that was a bit misleading to the Damsels...you live in Sydney, not Melbourne. Although you are thinking of popping down here for a bit of spectator warfare in January, I believe?

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 12:50 PM

Yes but if I did go I wouldn't want to encounter any gnomes in countenance or otherwise.

And here's a thought Earl, good girls do do it.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 12:44 PM

Did you say you wanted to go to the Rumpelstilsken restaurant on top of Mt Tamborine. Don’t waste a stamp. Just turn up.

I’m having a few problems with November Sierra at the moment. Not unexpected tho'.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 11, 2007 12:40 PM

oh, Bob, surely not rolled-up socks...there will be some Damsels in Distress when that is discovered....but we might cotton on before the critical stage, have you thought of that?

But I think you have enough charm to compensate for wearing too many socks. Pity I'm currently Interested Elsewhere, as it were, but if there are any unaccompanied damsels planning on coming to the next Mel Bloggers meeting, I recommend you snap up notgodsgift notwithstandinghissocks asap!

Posted by: waterbombe at December 11, 2007 12:37 PM

Notgodsgift.. If you wear rolled up socks baby I doubt you'll catch any wench.. The on'es I know (I think) would run the other way..
Tights, well that's another story!!!!
Imanenigma.. are you gonna wear tights too????
WnW methinks you'd better get your little tuche down here for the next one too. You'd look kinda cute in tights..

Hey K... do you think we could turn him into a bit of a Robin Hood??? There's a thought!!!
See, if they come as knights we'd have to dress accordingly but if it were Robin Hood and his merry men style we could all indeed be wenches.. Hmmm!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 11, 2007 12:31 PM

TC forgot to say hope you get some interesting responses to your offer of emailing!!!! Could be interesting !!!

Messing up the sheets.. Sounds like fun.. Hmmm...

Posted by: amdoingit at December 11, 2007 12:22 PM

TC must get the details of that Polish restaurant off you. Email me please!!!
Too true about the rose coloureds and the misinterpretations.. In a big way or what??
Also Ditto to your 10am post..."G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 11, 2007 12:20 PM

Hi All. I have three stamps to use in three days. Send me a kiss & I'll email.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 12:01 PM

For me? Having a leisurely day off, delightful chat with Mum, coffee ad infintium, still in PJ's (eewwww yuck, pre-empted you there, nah na na nah na) bright sunny day overlooking verdant bush....
Living in the moment, Yay!

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 11:50 AM

What's going on here? Talk of messing up sheets, catching wenches - have I accidentally logged into a dating site or something? I thought this was Fight Club.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 11, 2007 11:24 AM

Guys,

Back to the next Melbourne bloggers meet and specifically "men in tights' - I will bring along the rolled up socks!!!

Now all I have to do is remember what to do with you wenches if I actually happen to catch one??

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 11, 2007 11:18 AM

HC.
I love the Polish restaurant at the top of Mount Tamborine. Every time I return to Brisbane I have to go back, sitting on the balcony overlooking the side of the mountain, rainbow lorikets cheekily inveigling themselves of our food, watching the paragliders ride high on a thermal, glass or two of the sav blanc....
That's bliss to me.
One day I am going to take a man special to me to their lovely chalets & mess up the sheets.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 10:59 AM

Hilarious happycamper. Had a chuckle reading your post. XXX

Posted by: happycamper123 at December 9, 2007 10:03 AM

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 10:50 AM

Hey Malsie, wnw, misswendyxx, amdoingit, lovely auntykaz, mob etc...
Sometimes people hear what they want to hear (a day off & a chance to catch up on the blogging goss), they wear the rose coloured's & interpret the message that suits their needs.

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 10:37 AM

Morning all, just thought i would let you all know how much fun was had on Sunday.Everyone looked much better than their profiles,as to be expected as they were there in person.Great lot of people,thoroughly recommend everyone get to a meet if possible.Great to see amuso and funlovertoo, good to see RSVP does work magic,lovely to feel the happiness these two have with each other.

Easy "to rate" these members, all of them would get 11/10

Posted by: dolphin46 at December 11, 2007 10:35 AM

Wow..lots of sand flying in the litter box this morning.....does it really matter if people want to pinch your profile ideas? Isn't imitation the best form of flattery? Just remember if they copied it first, they are going to have a hard time living up to someone else's profile...it'll all fall flat soon enough :) Can we ease up on the bitchiness please...it's getting a little boring to read...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 11, 2007 10:15 AM

Yes neuroticfish, there are women out there that will let men down in various & creative ways. Acknowledged.
As also there are men who similarly will do so to women.
Whatever bitterness there is perhaps it's time to shed it rather than letting it have ownership of what could be a dynamic, positive life, loving life?

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 10:00 AM

Hello!
I heard there was a fight somewhere.... where is it? Just point me in the right direction please mob.
LOL

Posted by: trumanscat at December 11, 2007 9:53 AM

JenJen57 I think it is when you log on and you are in the system and you switch over to the blogs even though you think you are logged on (the comment box is visible) when you go to post a comment it will ask you to sign in. Then it goes through the process of signing in and then before you know it you have clicked umpteen times to sign in. I think it automatically logs you out if you are not commenting within a certain time frame too. It seems to be worse when a lot of people are posting comments. I have had no problems this morning with it though.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 11, 2007 9:20 AM

misswendyxx

Glad you liked it. Must say I dont understand these sign in woes you are having.........I seem to be permanently signed in, and have to deliberately choose to sign out !!

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 11, 2007 8:38 AM

oops "You" should have read as "Your".

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 11, 2007 8:03 AM

JenJen57 - You did make me giggle with you post on "computer woes"..........that day I'd had 3 hours sleep, there was gremilins in my computer and of course the never ending sign in ......sign in.......sign in............sign.......oh I'm in...whoohoo.

PS. Imanenigma shame on you wanting to have suzie's wig all for yourself........she was going to lend it to me

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 11, 2007 8:00 AM

Any rating system should primarily deal with honesty in profiles, or rather, any failure to disclose relevant and pertinent facts that might influence another person to seriously consider entering into a relationship with them.

Men do take into consideration, as it is extremely relevant to any serious relationship, things like:

“I have the mouth of a gutter snipe” yep, seen that a lot in profiles.

“I am presently and will continue in a sexual relationship with a younger man and have no intention of giving up that sexual relationship as it gives me great pleasure” yep seen that in a few profiles

“I have extensive sexual experience, will go to bed with everyone and anyone and am likely to sleep with others on an indiscriminate basis during the course of my relationship with you.” Yep. Seen dozens of those in profiles.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 11, 2007 5:28 AM

ODE I recall you did post first. I will check back and let you know my findings.....
The Earl character has been around for a long time now.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at December 11, 2007 12:16 AM

ODE

Just want to say I met both hiddencharms and jpkool at the Brissy bloggers meet, HC female, jpkool male. Definitely NOT the same people. Hiddencharms is a very attractive and lovely person, jpkool a very friendly and nice bloke. I do also remember some discussion some weeks ago that "someone" had pinched HCs profile........sincerest form of flattery anyway hiddencharms that someone else thought it was worthy :)

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 11, 2007 12:14 AM

woodnwine.. its all good but thanks anyway!!

And enigma... what do you think I was thinking?

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 10, 2007 11:20 PM

ODE - HC is real and looks exactly like her photos. Several of us met recently at the Brisbane bloggers' dinner. Seraphsuzie - are you trying to get in touch with amdoingit? Did I read that correctly? If so, I can help you.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 11:11 PM

Hello!, have a look at my head.....wear it of course!... what were you thinkin?..........dont answer that! :-)

Posted by: imanenigma at December 10, 2007 11:10 PM

Hmm enigma.. what do you want with it? What sadistic thing might you do with it?? ;-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 10, 2007 10:52 PM

Hey suzie! can I have ya wig?

Posted by: imanenigma at December 10, 2007 10:41 PM

Apologies, FP. I should have said 'please' back off.

Posted by: ninaschen at December 10, 2007 10:38 PM

ODE while you are about ,I have to say that I think your Dick Cheney is more like Richard M. Nixon or perhaps Ladybird Johnson (in her later years) or possibly one of the Kennedy's....you are definitely a great impersonator.....
For some reason I am starting to suspect you are connected with the multiple personality profiler...it was something that you both said word for word in a blog.... doesn't matter really, as it is entertaining and someone pretty smart is behind them all..and I was interested to see neurotic fish say something possibly real in one of his recent posts

Waterbombe, I have met femalepersuasion recently and she looks exactly like her profile photo's.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at December 10, 2007 10:36 PM

OMG SUZIE!!!! YOU'VE SHATTERED MY ILLUSIONS!!!

lol

Bald as a badger, eh? I thought badgers had hair.......hehehe

Oh and do those badgers have anything to do with mushrooms?

Posted by: wraecca at December 10, 2007 10:35 PM

ODE...I'd really like to see your pic with you holding up a piece paper with ode on it....and a clear picture!

Posted by: brilliantblue at December 10, 2007 10:33 PM

Ok ok ok ok.. I own up... I am not really SeraphSuzie... I do have another name.. but for security reasons I cannot divulge that here..
Also.. I don't really have purple hair... Its a wig.. OMG I can't believe I actually have told the world (well some of it anyway) my deepest secret.. I am bald.... as a badger (not sure what that is though). :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 10, 2007 10:29 PM

hey guys

a little conundrum

HC has been to the recent Brisbane Bloggers get together, with woodnwine, jpkool, datelessnotdesperat, I have seen photo's of them all (about 8 people)

FP has been to the Melbourne lunch that Ninaschen and Malsie went to recently, plus about 18 others.

I went to the sydney bloggers get together with brilliant, dolphin, brane...and 5 others, just in case people start to think that I am not real!!!

Bit ODE you haven't been seen yet..in realife

Just an observation..see I really do pay attention sometimes...it that teacher training stuff that I did years ago, it comes out every now and then!!!! have a lovely evening...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 10, 2007 10:23 PM

I know I'm a bit slow jumping in here, but you know, work, life, blah, blah gets in the way, sometimes. So I guess it is all over bar the shouting and I don't want to stir things up again but I really need to comment on this.

FP - I really can't grasp what your issue is with WnW. I have met him and he is a laid-back, gentle, genuine person. We are in regular contact and he has proven himself to be a warm, supportive and valued friend. He is entitled to his opinion just as we all are and he shouldn't need to defend that opinion to the death. For what it's worth, I happen to agree with his 'you contact me first and you pay for the email' stance. But I suspect your issue with him goes much deeper than that and I for one, am very puzzled by your campaign against him. He is a nice guy. Back off.

Posted by: ninaschen at December 10, 2007 10:21 PM

ODE, HC is a real person. I know this because I have been in contact with her not only via email, but video call and phone call for quite a while now. I can say quite happily that she is NOT ODG. Just as I never believed you to be.

Oh, btw, I am just me, have never been anyone else and if you need that verified, ask half the bloggers on here about me.....

Posted by: wraecca at December 10, 2007 10:15 PM

I used my last stamp amdoingit... as iamengima suggested..... I had no use for it anyway... and it is nice to meet fellow bloggers... :-) I have already met so many wonderful women and men from here!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 10, 2007 9:41 PM

Suzie, don't fret sweetie, I'll get to you direct as soon as I get more stamps.. Think it's better that way.. Some things are best kept private for now ok??

Posted by: amdoingit at December 10, 2007 8:53 PM

WnW: the worms were a little over done, but the company could be rated quite highly - in my opinion, anyway.

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 10, 2007 8:33 PM

HC - I've heard worms are over rated.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 8:27 PM

woodnwine: What kind of updates?

I could talk about the Chinese "worms" I had for dinner with a rather charming companion...

Or real life date number 2 coming up this week...

Or some of the lovely emails I have just answered....

BUT I WOULD SOUND LIKE A BRAGGART...

Seriously, "our old local friend" will have to suss out "updates" as I got blocked. Deary me! But that's OK. There is a new profile that keeps popping into my view box and it looks stragnely familiar...

By the way...has anyone else noticed that when FP gets frustrated and disappears...suddenly ODE comes bouncing back?

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 10, 2007 7:48 PM

Very droll, WnW, made me laugh :)

Posted by: malsie at December 10, 2007 7:47 PM

twoeyes - just so long as you don't take it too far and end up back at the same person. Sort of like pass the parcel?

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 7:35 PM

Hi HC - any updates?

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 7:21 PM

...its all about networking,,..............you know meeting a friend of a friend of a friend etc etc

Posted by: twoeyes at December 10, 2007 7:19 PM

Yes ODE I agree with Malsie, your current friends obviously haven't lead you to your dream girl so it never hurts to make more friends. One of the women I met on here has already introduced me to her friend and this could happen to you as well, so you never know how fate works.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 6:38 PM

hiddencharms, yes, that's the one with Keanu, spot on.

Don't worry about missing the "fight", not too late to catch up :)

And Junebaby thought things were getting boring.....

Posted by: malsie at December 10, 2007 6:36 PM

Actually, WnW, her current partner is a year older than me - and you're certainly not geriatric!!! Okay, be very nice to me and maybe I'll offer her up to you (when she's in the market looking again that is..... as if she'd ever be influenced by my judgement anyway, but I can have illusions of influence....)

Indeed, ODE, perhaps you should be thinking more laterally...

Posted by: malsie at December 10, 2007 6:32 PM

Malsie: Keanu in "Something's Gotta Give"...Oh...he can give all he likes...mmmm

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 10, 2007 6:27 PM

Gosh! It looks like I missed a battle that I would have loved to have participated in...

Femalepersuasion: I have two things to say, hopefully, that will get you thinking more about your inner self...
1) What is worse - a hidden photo, a photo that is not quite what you look like now, or a profile that belongs to someone else...???
2)There are several people who would actually like to meet you - not becaue they find you desirable in any way, shape or form, but to meet the person who comes across as so nasty, egotistical and self-absorbed on the blogs...Add me to the list...As I would dearly love to learn if you are indeed the identical twin sister that I must have been separated from at birth...

Posted by: hiddencharms at December 10, 2007 6:25 PM

seraphsuzie - yeah, I am. I'm a misanthropist, so that makes me ageist (young-hating, old-hating), ablist, sexist (man-hating, woman-hating), racist, classist, homophobic, heterophobic, and self-loathing.

istj54 - thanks... and good point about the daughters... hmmmmm...

malsie - hmmmmmm...

Hmmm.....

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at December 10, 2007 6:10 PM

Hey Malsie - I'm an older guy. I know, I know, you said older not geriatric.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 6:07 PM

In "real" life you mean, istj54? Half her luck!

Yes, I'd already been thinking of offering up my daughter for you, ODE (what are mothers for, after all, looking out for potential fun son-in-laws)- trouble is, you're too young even for my daughter! (I was fairly young when I gave birth to her and she veers towards older guys). But don't say I didn't think of you...

Posted by: malsie at December 10, 2007 6:02 PM

It's me Suzie!

Posted by: istj54 at December 10, 2007 5:57 PM

He started dating her Malsie..wonder if they have broken up...

ODE you rate very highly with me...I wish you were my son..I also wish Hamish Blake was too but you both might not get along with the real one...you make me laugh and out loud..
and some of us have daughters too, so keep that in mind.

Posted by: istj54 at December 10, 2007 5:56 PM

ok amdoingit.. I am still none the wiser.. hehe I am so bad at clues.. You may need to keep going ... I will work it out sooner or later.. probably later!! :-)

ODE are you ageist??? Cause it sure seems it... I guess the counts for any person over the age of 30 is old???

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 10, 2007 5:53 PM

Hey, ya know what ya do, mateys?

What ya do, right, is ya make a lil list of three things you like about each other. That's what ya do, mateys.

Get that lil list goin pronto, because the last fing we need is overcrowding in the Melbourne geriatric wards.

The Age - Police are investigating a spate of violence at a Melbourne restaurant that occurred late Saturday afternoon. The individuals involved are believed to be a group of middle-aged singles who were meeting for a "bloggers" event in relation to the RSVP Internet dating site. Patrons of the restaurant were alarmed when the singles group erupted into a violent exchange of bag-swinging and knitting-needle-jabbing. One woman is undergoing trauma surgery for the dentures she swallowed.

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at December 10, 2007 5:49 PM

istj54, didn't see Much Ado About Nothing, I don't think, but thought Keanu (I can't spell it either!) was very cute in the film with Diane Keaton - he was a doctor and quite a bit younger, and very, very gorgeous in it. Yes, it's on topic - how would I rate him? Very highly....

Posted by: malsie at December 10, 2007 5:41 PM

istj54, didn't see Much Ado About Nothing, I don't think, but thought Keanu (I can't spell it either!) was very cute in the film with Diane Keaton - he was a doctor and quite a bit younger, and very, very gorgeous in it. Yes, it's on topic - how would I rate him? Very highly....

Posted by: malsie at December 10, 2007 5:40 PM

What about Denzel Washington, or was it Keaneu(sp?) Reeves in Much Ado About Nothing..both those actors rate very highly with me...sticking to topic...now I have visions..oh, which one to pick?

Wonder if they could make the vat of coleslaw..hmmmm.

Posted by: istj54 at December 10, 2007 5:34 PM

junebaby57, I tried replying to your comment about the Sydney bloggers meeting in the "First Impressions" blog (after going to some effort to find it -- it's disappeared from the main links), but it seems the "First Impressions" blog is royally screwed when you try to post to it.

So here:

----------------

junebaby57, I told you a few days ago why I wasn't going. :-)

First, because the Sydney bloggers make up 80% of the people who disapprove of me. Of the five people nationwide who have strongly disapproved of me, four of them turn up to the Sydney bloggers meetings. I'd probably go to the Melbourne bloggers meeting if I lived down there, but not the Sydney one. (Actually, seeing the war going on in this blog, I'd probably avoid the Melbourne bloggers meeting for reasons of personal safety.)

Second, I'm not on here to make friends. I already have enough friends and enough outside adventures with those friends. If I had reason to believe that an attractive and intelligent 18- to 27-year-old single woman was showing up at the Sydney bloggers meeting, I'd reconsider my decision not to attend. Otherwise, I'd fail to see what I'm attending for. I already hang out with plenty of fun and good people. Cost-benefit analysis 101.

You see, the main reason I'm even on this site and even post to these blogs is hopefully to expose myself to women on the site. I'm not into any of the diversions from that goal. You could say I have a single-track mind. ;-)

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at December 10, 2007 5:30 PM

Does anyone remember Leonard Whiting in Franco Zefferelli's version of Romeo and Juliet? Sigh - what a lovely memory of a beautiful young man in tights.....waterbombe, you naughty woman, you've filled my head with that vision now and it's just a little hard to concentrate....

Posted by: malsie at December 10, 2007 5:28 PM

hey there WB it wasnt about me looking it was about me wearing them silly

yuckky...........

Posted by: twoeyes at December 10, 2007 5:27 PM

Two eyes, you are a typical bloke :-) ...does everthing have to be about YOU?????

The men in tights sight is for US, not you!!!! You just pull that helmet shield down if you don't like it.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 10, 2007 5:20 PM

youngguymature, your profile looks pretty good. There seem to be a lot of people who are OC about spelling on this site, though...if you were to make any changes you could just fix a few typos. Otherwise, just wait...it's a numbers game, eventually someone interesting will come across your profile. Or so they tell me.

Posted by: waterbombe at December 10, 2007 5:17 PM

not a sight i want to see thanks....

men in tights uurrrrrggggggggggggggghhhh

Posted by: twoeyes at December 10, 2007 5:16 PM

I won't be running.....

Posted by: istj54 at December 10, 2007 5:16 PM

As far as I know, WoodnWine, women in the middle ages all sat around in beautiful dresses combing their long hair and waiting for the (k)night to arrive. We Melbourne women could do the same.

On second thoughts, the only women who did this in the Middle Ages had a bob or two...the vast majority slaved in the kitchen all day long. Hmm...wait a moment! !!! We will have a bob if notgodsgift comes to Melbourne!!! And what's your name, Imanenigma...Bill?...that's close enough to Bob for us, alliteration is all we need to turn our heads down here. Right, now we've got a bob or two, we can have the party!

Posted by: waterbombe at December 10, 2007 5:06 PM

Waterbombe - a fancy dress party! Now that's something I haven't been to for a while. But if the men get weighted down with armour, chains, lances, helmets, shileds etc - how are we going to catch the women? You do all want to be caught don't you?

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 4:54 PM

Femalepersuasion what is the problem with woodnwine - as far as one can see from the blogs he is a real gentleman and I am sure he would treat his partner with the utmost respect? I think deep down you fancy him yourself.!!

Posted by: jaspercat at December 10, 2007 4:50 PM

W&W.. Well there goes my next question!.....a tease as well as a scrooge!..no wonder you still single mate! lol.........Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 10, 2007 4:47 PM

Gimme a break, everyone is safe in Melbourne, there's no war. But it is nice to see the guys reaching for the armour for a change. I think a well-fitting suit of chain mail each should do it - get one knitted before you come - and of course a helmet and a sheild will be necessary. Come to think of it, a white charger (horse not ipod) wouldn't go amiss, either.. but if you bring that you won't be able to get in the taxi ... not even in the boot ... forget the taxi, let's see you in the outfits, guys!!!

Posted by: waterbombe at December 10, 2007 4:45 PM

Imanenigma - mate I think you would have to pay for the taxi fare because (apparently) I'm a real scrooge - that's why I'm more than happy to ride in the boot. Sorry, but it's best to be up front in these things and don't think because you pay the fare you will get any special favours later on because I'm a bit of a scrooge in that department as well.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 4:36 PM

Hey W&W, we are still splitting the fare arn't we? Dont forget your kevlar vest! :-) @ wishfulthinker03 - did you just call me "alliterate"? or did I write something clever? :-) @misswendyxxx- remind me to stay on your good side, if its not too late.......Imanenigma :-)

Posted by: imanenigma at December 10, 2007 4:28 PM

WnW best you sit up on the roof, just incase one of those missiles goes astray :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 10, 2007 3:56 PM

Femalepersuasion - Constructive cristicism is one thing being plain nasty is another. You seem to be on a mission to prove that other bloggers are wrong at every turn in an attempt to prove how intelligent you are. Now I don't mind having my eyes opened to new thoughts, and I take them on board but your approach is aggressive and vindictive.
It seems you are not open to any others opinions and therefore lack any remorse for your own comments when they are misguided.

Now I wonder why you would call me a narcissist, when it is clearly you who displays the traits of exaggerated self-importance and self-loving and all so evident in you posts to Woodnwine.

"am not "your darling" and I know you secretly wish that I was :)
One of your confidants at the Melbourne lunch told me that "Woodnwine REALLY wants to meet you" Posted by: femalepersuasion at December 10, 2007 11:31 AM

Woodnwine..you have several women coming to your defense...my advice would be to follow up with them :) ......As opposed to the woman you secretly want but can't have.
Posted by: femalepersuasion at December 10, 2007 2:06 PM

Now tell me you are KIDDING right??????

Now could you please explain to me why you suggested that there was some "conspiracy" going on between myself and other bloggers and that I have influenced them in some way on their opinions? Actually never mind I think paranoid schizophrenia would cover it.

Following this trail is difficult...May be this is all down to you Misswendyxx..and the suggestion wasn't put by Amdoinit afterall !!
Posted by: femalepersuasion at December 9, 2007 5:54 PM

BTW .........do you think that the smiley faces after your comments somehow neutralise the message?

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 10, 2007 3:54 PM

Imanenigma,

I'm with you mate; though on second thought how much fun would it be to sit there listening to a catfight - Meeeeow??

I dont really care who likes whom, so long as I can talk with whomever I like without getting caught in any crossfire, there is a care factor of zero on my behalf (I guess that says that I wouldn't mind going to the next Mexican meet too)!!

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at December 10, 2007 3:53 PM

why on earth would you want a truce....

didnt all the generals in times gone past sit at the back of the scene of engagement, astride their generally white steads, and survey far and wide and make the decisions regarding which of their minions went into battle , in which direction, and then see the outcome.

rkon thats a safer place to be...........!!!!!

.....ah, just messin with ya's!.....Imanenigma (think thats called poetic licence...)

Posted by: twoeyes at December 10, 2007 3:52 PM

Amdoingit (correct me if I'm wrong) - don't worry, you are right. Of course I know you aren't in the least bit worried but I just thought I'd add that for the record.
Imanenigma - don't worry mate, all the heat seeking missiles would be aimed at me so you would be safe, just make sure you are in the front and I'm in the back. Better still, I'll ride in the boot.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 3:47 PM

Wow and wow again. Femalepersuasion now you amuse me - what for heaven's sake is the problem? There is no battle, I am not being aggressive or hurtful in any way so why are you taking offense? I do not fancy you and have never expressed any interest in you so I don't know why you are going on about that. However, and let me stress once again that I am not interested in you, if I was - why would you be so nasty and spiteful about it? If a woman fancied me and I didn't fancy her I would be flattered and nice about it, not rude. Sorry, I just don't get it, you are the only one fighting or how ever you want to put it.

On a few occassions I came to your defence when some less than nice things were said about or to you because I do not condone personal attacks on the blogs. If you want to misconstrue that as attraction then you are mistaken, but once again I ask you why would you be nasty in return?

Please calm down and stop rejecting friendship when it is offered or you may end up unhappy when you needn't be. Talk about tilting at windmills.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 3:41 PM

Lovely alliteration there imanenigma!!!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 10, 2007 3:36 PM

Ah mondays...... madness , mayhem & misunderstanding mars melbourne merriment!.....geez woodnwine, I'm not sharing a cab with you, I'm too young & handsome to die in all this crossfire!!......I hope a truce can be arranged by the time I visit? .......ah, just messin with ya's!.....Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 10, 2007 3:21 PM

Hi everyone
I am looking to get some feed back on how I can improve my profile

I am also trying to find a way to get women to look beyond my age as my age is not a true indication of my maturity

thanx

Posted by: youngguymature at December 10, 2007 3:07 PM

What battle? Femalepersuasion, what you don't know is that a lot of the Melbourne bloggers (which includes WnW and a few of the ones in the other states) talk to each other off the blogs. We have also spent a bit of time together as friends. In all my experience, you have never come up in conversation as being thought desirable by any of them. That's quite true - I have never heard a man or a women articulate any interest in you as a desirable or possible partner. That's just for the record. I'm sure you have had the experience of being desirable in the past, and will do so again in the future, but if you are entertaining illusions about any of the bloggers group, you should lose them.

You might find yourself with more credibility if you updated your profile photos, too...by my reckoning, from seeing you at the bloggers lunch, they would be at least 5 years old, wouldn't they?

Posted by: waterbombe at December 10, 2007 2:35 PM

I am working from home today, don't feel 100%.
The blogs seem to have died or something....not as much choice in writing topics, many bloggers have disapeared because of moderation, censorship, or just can not get thier stuff posted, it is a bit sad!!! Its not as much fun as when I started in July. Has any one noticed this, or am I having a blonde moment!!

Think I need to retreat back to bed!!!

have a lovely arvo...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 10, 2007 2:22 PM

Femalepersuasion, as possibly the "confidant" to whom you are referring, my memory of the conversation is how emphatic you were that you wanted to meet Woodnwine (or have an opportunity for discussion). I fully understood the context of that, and duly passed on your comments as requested.

I thought my telling you that Woodnwine would equally like to meet you - for the purposes of discussion and sorting out your differences - would have been understood by you, as you are clearly an intelligent woman.
If you took from it that WnW is interested in you in any other way, then that's a mistaken impression and not what I was trying to convey.

Posted by: malsie at December 10, 2007 1:15 PM

sorry sugarbabey, my bad

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 12:57 PM

WnW

She's a woman!

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 10, 2007 12:38 PM

Mr fish - again, I can't reply.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 12:33 PM

Amdoingit - thanks for trying to help clear things up but don't worry, I don't squabble. It's all good, or if it isn't, it should be.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 12:22 PM

FP I don't like interfering in other peoples squabbles but Woodnwine is a friend of mine and I feel the need to comment here.
I think you've totally misunderstood Woodnwines post (Correct me if I'm wrong "M") but when he says if he's interested in someone he will pursue them he means he will initiate the contact. He's not talking about if they send him a kiss on that one. If they send the kiss and he thinks they could be worth chatting to then he expects them to email. That basically comes back to what myself and a lot of others on the site have said before. You initiate the contact then you send the email.
There's nothing sinister in his comment at all so please don't misconstrue it.
Also the reason he wanted to meet with you is not what you think ok? Why do you look for reasons to always attack him?? He doesn't do it to you... Please call a truce for heavens sake!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 10, 2007 12:18 PM

My dear femaledelusion - you really have got the cat by the tail, haven't you? I don't fancy you at all in any way what so ever, I just try to be nice to most people as getting upset only gets you upset, hence my nice comments to you. The reason I said I would like to meet you is so we could have an intelligent discussion because I think you often read things I write the wrong way. That could probably be my fault, I don't mind admitting, so I thought a discussion over a cup of tea or a glass of wine might let us better explain what wave length we are really on. For instance I don't understand your post of 11.43am at all.

Please try not to be so swift to bight a hand that is extended in friendship and don't worry I'm not holding my breath about you.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 12:11 PM

sure you can make a mean potato salad k , but can you make it in 5kg lots,.....?

Posted by: twoeyes at December 10, 2007 9:52 AM

I'm still here istj54, I just don't often blog on the weekend, either too busy or too lazy. You say it was all my fault but I think you misunderstood - I wasn't talking about bloggers' photos. I was just saying I was tired of meeting people through RSVP and not being able to recognise them at the arranged meeting place. I am not joking, I have met several women who look NOTHING LIKE their photo and wonder what their intention is. Anyway, done to death already? I'm taking a spell at the moment so have removed my profile so I won't have to go through that again for a while, or maybe longer.

Auntykaz - thank you very much for your kind words they are much appreciated and reciprocated (except of course I don't think you are a gentleman).

Femalepersuasion - sorry darling we will have to agree to disagree as it is so hard to conduct a discussion like this in a blog - if we ever meet face to face we could share a drink and discuss it. The point I am making (or trying to make) is that I will most definitely pursue someone I am interested in and do so but if someone sends me a kiss and they are not someone I would normally pursue but think "OK, she seems nice and could be worth chatting to" then I expect her to follow through on her initiative and send me an email. That seems like a correct approach to me.

Mr fish - thanks for the updates but as you know I can't reply to you. Your choice, mate.

Posted by: woodnwine at December 10, 2007 9:42 AM

A new topic might be in order.
I have noticed a drop off in the people posting maybe I have got everyone running scared.
I just can't bare anymore of this dribble that gets written .
I plead to the mangement to give us a decent topic.

Posted by: babblon at December 10, 2007 9:27 AM

Thank you sugarbabe. I wasn’t aware that there were any compliments yesterday. But you are not a bad sort anyway.

fettucine marinana / fettucine carbonara- standard orders when one doesn’t feel like reading the menu anyway (or left one’s glasses at home – and been cursed for being as blind as a bat- again and again)

But I don't need glasses to see how lovely you are.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 10, 2007 8:11 AM

@seraphsuzie- Thanks, but you hang on to it, for a rainy or an "amdoingit" kinda day, maybe? Your a sweety for thinking of me,though. So you know people, eh?.....contacts,eh?.....mmmm? :-) @istj54- It appears you may have hooked a fish?....p.s your second photo-great eyes!......Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 10, 2007 7:43 AM

If that was by way of an apology...accepted...and be nicer to the Melbourne gals, or they'll be running in fright when the bottle comes out itching to spin!

Actually I had fettucine marinara and washed it down with H2O.....in keeping with the ocean theme...do you know who that person was...cos I don't.

I'd just like to say thankyou for any compliments I received yesterday...and same back atcha...made me smile on a working weekend....off to work now to put the finishing touches to my words of wisdom...I wish you all well...Mrs Robinson

Posted by: istj54 at December 10, 2007 7:01 AM

Dear Mrs Robinson (blame Newcastle boy)

I thought you were off to get some more curry, so I went and got some beer to wash it down with, and that was the last of me for the night.

My diatribe against mutual back slapping about “oh don’t we all look like our photos” was intended to highlight that the rest of people’s profiles leaves a bit to be desired. So what if people look like their profiles if there are nasty shocks to be found out later in other departments (and when it comes to looking like photos one person in particular must have just slipped in under the radar)

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 10, 2007 6:30 AM

Soaked for 2 full days so was B Beautiful.. Can still tase it.. Yummm..

That's my lot for tonight... Check you all tomorrow...

Have got my cap in hand Suzie!!! Remember to just post gotcha when you work it out and I'll stop.. Shouldn't take you 2 long!!!!
Don't post the name either ok... Will be my hide.... x

Posted by: amdoingit at December 10, 2007 1:00 AM

Mango soaked in vodka whaddya reckon??? Although your effort sounds very tempting G, l might just have to have a crack.............K

Posted by: auntykaz at December 10, 2007 12:47 AM

K.. you having a late one again too??
Maybe I could do something mango???
What did you think of my Grand Marnier effort??? Was to die for I can tell you!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 10, 2007 12:41 AM

Hope this goes through.. 3rd attempt. Damn frustrating..

Suzie, we only play with plastic knives down here so no damage done... True..
As for the admirer.. Hmmm.. Can't tell you on here sweet pea... Maybe I'll pull on my sleeping cap and think of a plan to divulge overnight..Cryptic could be the way to go and in parts.. Will have to be good to get past prying eyes though!!!!
Stay tuned..

Posted by: amdoingit at December 10, 2007 12:36 AM

amdoingit.. I would love to go to a Melbourne blog meet.. as long as there is no sharp knives around.. h ehe just jokes. There are a few I really want to meet... and Ninaschen is at the top of my list :-)

I am intrigued however about what you said about an admirer?? Do tell!!

And Iamengima.. I have one stamp left.. which I don't really need.. If you want I can use it on you and then we can go from there as I know people.. hehe wink wink...

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 10, 2007 12:11 AM

Man with eyes times two l do a mean potato salad.......K

Posted by: auntykaz at December 9, 2007 11:53 PM

and as long as those involved did their part it would be a fantastic affair, for a saturday or sunday arvo.

thanks "G" lets see what the others think

Posted by: twoeyes at December 9, 2007 11:47 PM

2 x i's.. Bbq sounds like it could be a plan. Depends on the number of attendees, etc... On the banks of the Yarra, a beautiful sunny day.. Mmm..
If not for this, then at least for a future get together.. "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 11:40 PM

Hi Guys

Have just gotten home /in Canberra, after spending the day in Sydney at the Bloggers catch up, and yes I recognised all the others from there photos!!

It was a great day, I met Fotografer, Funlover, Amuso, Dolphin46, karenchocolat, brilliantblue. and Brane. We had lunch, then went over to the Park Hyatt for drinks , and we were all chatting so much, that when somone pointed out that it was nearly 7.00pm , it was, like , where did the time go??

Sorry that you were not well Seraphsuzie, I hope that tooth gets better soon, but maybe next time at the next catch up!!

Now I am off to bed as very tired...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at December 9, 2007 11:38 PM

the best way for social interaction is not a lunch nor a bar but a b.ar b cue can be planned at many and varied sites, with the catering done by the attendees..that way people can move and shift around, and chat with whomsoever they wish.

Having organized many in the past and even done the catering for over 500 people at hanging rock, i am prepared to be of assistance here.

maybe around the end of jan perhaps with plenty of time for people to organize flights if coming from interstate.

logistics can be worked out later, but theres a thought.

on another note veryone looked like their profile at the melb meet, except for FP's daughter cos she doesnt have a profile, and 1in25million, cos i had never heard of her before.( i think).
Not being rotten just honest

thoughts please.

Posted by: twoeyes at December 9, 2007 11:08 PM

misswendyxx

Given your sign in problems I thought this might give you a giggle...........its topical rather than on topic :))

The Twelve Days of Windows 95
On the 1st day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

Windows 95 for my PC

On the 2nd day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 3rd day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 4th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 5th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

5 eighty six
4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 6th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

6 ints conflictin'
5 eighty six
4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 7th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

7 files missin'
6 ints conflictin'
5 eighty six
4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 8th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

8 Megs overflowin'
7 files missin'
6 ints conflictin'
5 eighty six
4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 9th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

9 apps a crashin'
8 megs overflowin'
7 files missin'
6 ints conflictin'
5 eighty six
4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 10th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

10 modes not supported
9 apps a crashin'
8 Megs overflowin'
7 files missin'
6 ints conflictin'
5 eighty six
4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 11th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

11 instructions faulty
10 modes not supported
9 apps a crashin'
8 Megs overflowin'
7 files missin'
6 ints conflictin'
5 eighty six
4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

On the 12th day of Christmas, my true love gave to me . . .

12 illegal operations
11 instructions faulty
10 modes not supported
9 apps a crashin'
8 Megs overflowin'
7 files missin'
6 ints conflictin'
5 eighty six
4 sectors bad
3 ports not responding
2 GPFs
and Windows 95 for my PC

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 9, 2007 11:00 PM

Thanks, istj54, for your lovely comment. I was avoiding saying something complimentary about how gorgeous you are in person as in photo, as it seems to invoke unpleasant reactions in people when others are positive towards each other, but why should I care - let them deal with it!
Yes, lunch went by in a bit of a blur and wasn't long enough to talk to everyone in depth. I'm not sure if I'll get over to Melb for the next one, although would love to, but definitely want to be involved in something similar in the future.

Posted by: malsie at December 9, 2007 10:40 PM

Ah misswendyxxx..very diplomatic....thankyou. @Istj54 or should I say "Mrs Robinson" be gentle , its my first time! lol!!! :-) ....Imanenigma or William,Will,Bill..just not Billy,Willy or Silly,ok?

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 10:17 PM

istj56 l didn't take any offence from what you posted regarding woodnwine (sorry M, to talk of you) its just that some bloggers in the past have in my own and others opinions treated him very unfairly and somewhat rudely so thought it might be best to perhaps nip it in the bud as it were.

Those of us who know woodnwine and have met up with him know him to be a lovely fella.

So now that has been cleared up l must say that l am enjoying reading your posts, haven't been able to write much lately as l have been quite busy but will try to catch a read now and then.................K

Posted by: auntykaz at December 9, 2007 9:59 PM

Finally have the little cherubs settled into bed....now it's sign in....sign in....sign in....sign in...................sign in.... grrrrr

Now ImanEnigma the Melbourne girls would be very excited to meet you and looks like you aren't short of any offers either! I am sure a meet could be organised.........January sounds fine for me ;-)

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 9:35 PM

Auntykaz...I wasn't being rude about him, just being silly. The photo stuff started after I read his blog about people needing recent pictures...Sorry, no insult intended!

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 9:31 PM

Not sure about this! People are judged solely on their photo, followed a poor second by what they've written. Regardless of how much time you spend polishing your profile, it won't resonate with absolutely everyone in your age bracket. It's purely subjective what makes a person click onto someone and skip the next. An image will always win the day over rating stars, reply rate stats and profile completeness graphs. Too serious! Let people go with their gut feelings so they have a real chance of taking it out of the online dating community and into the real world!

Posted by: thesilvercrown at December 9, 2007 9:30 PM

istj54, woodnwine is inmy opinion the epitome of a gentleman, some here would do themselves a favor and take a leaf out his book.
At the very least they would learn some manners................k

Posted by: auntykaz at December 9, 2007 9:18 PM

We'll stop if you feel uncomfortable....

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 9:11 PM

Smart post, Femalepersuasion Dec 9th at 5.24pm.Women ARE different to men,isn't that what makes it so interesting?

Posted by: graceandcharm at December 9, 2007 9:04 PM

Haha imanenigma...pick me pick me.......................K

Posted by: auntykaz at December 9, 2007 9:01 PM

I agree with FP somewhere we can have a chat,mingle and a few "ice breaking" drinks of course.

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 8:58 PM

istj54, No, but I'm a keen learner!......nuthin suss is it? ......just means I may have to be shown twice!

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 8:54 PM

ImAnEnigma - At the last count I was/am in touch with over 30 bloggers, past and present so the chances are that you and I might have mutual contacts. Check it out! If not, spend a stamp on the Melbourne blogger of your choice (I'd be happy to spend a stamp but I am all out at the moment - they were well spent on other bloggers).

Posted by: ninaschen at December 9, 2007 8:40 PM

Auntykaz, it's all Woodnwine's fault- he started it, he did...where is he???

Love to, Imanenigma- Can you play tiddlywinks?

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 8:36 PM

Geez! talk about no pressure!! I would like to catch up with as many Melbourne bloggers as is convenient and yes it would be nice to meet misswendy,istj54,femalepersuasion , ninaschen,amdoingit and anyone else from down that way, my apologies if I have left anyone out, not sure who comes from where. Have we settled down now ladies? :-) Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 8:31 PM

Evening all hope you have had lovely Sunday.....hmmmm, after considering this for a few minutes, personally, I think that other members being able to rate your profile is perhaps not the best way. How can you rate a profile based on your own biased view of what is acceptable and what is not. What you see as an interesting profile another person may see as dull and lifeless. Lets face it all it is is a bunch of strangers viewing you and making their own assumptions on if you are a nice person and if they would like to get to know you better. And I mean that in a nice way, that is the nature of the game. I believe that so very much of it comes down to your photo and if there is an immediate attraction to the one that you have posted. Think of someone who is having a bad day, they log on to find that they have a poor rating profile. Personally I have enough confidence that this would not necessarily bother me but I am sure that there are many people out there who feel very differently. I think occassionally we can all feel a little vunerable, perhaps after a bad date or a bad day at work. Do we really need to be rated when we have already put ourselves out there a little in the hope to finding that suitable someone. I personally am only looking for one person, therefore should the opinions of the other people really be important. Just some food for thought, thats all....

Posted by: somewhatsceptical at December 9, 2007 8:24 PM

What are you saying ninaschen? I suspect the Melbourne lovelies are way too classy for this little ol Newcastle boy! But I do like a chat and if the opportunity was there, why not? Perhaps I will email someone on the quiet and see if we can organise something. Can you suggest someone, you wise woman you? Methinks you thinks too much! :-)........enjoy that glass of wine...........Ima shy-enigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 8:18 PM

Wendy... answer the man!!!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 8:05 PM

Imanenigma, Ninaschen is right, you will most definitely meet with some VERY interesting people and hopefully one in particular. Good Luck!!
We ARE a very friendly,hospitable lot down here and that's a guarantee.. There are some bloggers who can attest to that..
I will be watching this site with interest as you become inundated with offers!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 8:05 PM

Oops -I meant Enigma not Inigma. Damn that third glass of wine!

Posted by: ninaschen at December 9, 2007 7:59 PM

Methinks there may be someone in particular you would like to catch up with, ImAnInigma! But I will answer on behalf of the 'Victorian group' and say we will do our best to gather together some interesting people to catch up with you (and anyone else who comes to Melbourne, at any time) while you are here. Are you in email contact with any bloggers in Melbourne? Or someone else who might be? It may be best to organise this semi-privately rather than boring everyone else on the blogs with the ins and outs and tos and fros of a get-together.

Posted by: ninaschen at December 9, 2007 7:50 PM

l wonder why after a week we are getting these posts about the Melbourne lunch some of them not terribly complimentary either.
It makes sense that some would want to hang it on what was a very pleasant afternoon, afterall its more fun to hang shite than admit that you actually enjoyed yerselves.

So this has come about because of photo's?????

Jeeeez guys come on!!!!!!!!...........K

Posted by: auntykaz at December 9, 2007 7:49 PM

Attention melbourne girls! I have a niece working in melbourne and I have been considering flying down in the new year to catch up with her. Any chance of me catching up/meeting with you ladies if I do? ........well its a thought. @misswendyxxx, you didnt answer my question,very evasive, or are you sparing my fragile ego? After you miss......Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 7:25 PM

Suzie, don't be put off.. Honestly we are as istj said.. A warm, wonderful group of people.. This has just been a misunderstanding and is now all sorted so no damage done.. Seeeee...
And besides.. you have an admirer down here soooo.... Maybe next time????? "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 6:30 PM

Apologies accepted and no harm done.
Don't think a bar would make any difference FP.. Sheer numbers make it hard. Plus we had a much shorter lunch so not conducive to serious mingling. Like I said before.. Next time.. Have a good one.. "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 6:25 PM

Ninaschen glad to see you understood what I meant.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 6:06 PM

Thank you Ninaschen.. Must've been writing my last post when yours went up. Still shite though!!!!
F.P. I don't think (in fact I'm sure) there was any malice intended toward anyone by Wendy's statement. Just a figure of speech so to speak.
"G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 6:06 PM

Everyone did look like their pictures, but better...Nastyfish...and I never did find out what tiddlywinks was, but I'd sure like to play...if you jump into the ute now, you might just get here in time for the next meet.
We'll be sure to let you know when it is on.....and you'll see us playing charades on Southgate...and kicking on into the night with games of scrabble and monopoly and you can bet your life you would hear the joyful laughter up in Queensland. It "was" a fun lunch with lots of wonderful, witty, wise,warm people, and isn't that what this site is about?? Meeting up with like minds for friendship and laughs? hmmmm?
I'll be back later(off for pizza now) and hope to see an apology here in print, Babe....

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 6:05 PM

FP and MW - I am hoping I can head this misunderstanding off at the pass. I think (correct me if I am wrong MW) that MissWendy wasn't necessarily talking about someone she met at lunch. I think she may have been talking about people in general that she has met through RSVP.

Posted by: ninaschen at December 9, 2007 6:01 PM

Wow FP... thats there some true fighting words??? I hardly think Misswendy is a narcissist.. ??

I think if there is ever another Melbourne blog meet I might just stay away... too scared of what happens afterwards????

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 9, 2007 6:01 PM

Femalepersuasion that comment was not about anybody at the bloggers meet, I should have clarified that it was men I had gone on dates with and one particular one looked completely different so of course I was shocked, disappointed or whatever.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 6:00 PM

Good one Nina.. You know this Krazy Kraut suffers from foot in mouth.!!! I did ask for that didn't I??? Shite!!!! "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 5:59 PM

AmDoingIt was definitely there, FP. Larger than life, and just as adorable as at the first meet. As MissWendy said, it was difficult to get around to talking to everyone. A longer lunch is definitely called for the next time, I think!

Posted by: ninaschen at December 9, 2007 5:57 PM

Neuroticfish... smellyfish.. seaweedhead...Earl.. and whoever else you are...

I think your just a wee little put out because most of the (sane) women on the blogs wouldn't have a bar of you.

Posted by: seraphsuzie at December 9, 2007 5:55 PM

Thank you wendy..XX... FP.. I do seriously hope you're joking.. I was at the opposite end to your gorgeous daughter and was facing you.. I did speak to Lorraine but didn't get to speak to you. Like Wendy, maybe next time.."G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 5:52 PM

Femalepersuasion - I can guarantee Amdoingit was there she was two seats away from me and a fun, genuine lady too! I think we didn't have enough time to get around to everybody...maybe next time.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 5:43 PM

Herr Hitler

Your prize system is unfair.

It would remind me of my High School Speech Night when I just stood there and stood there and stood there, then used the trolley to exit.

As far as you girls go, I suppose your next Melbourne Bloggers meeting will have things like tiddlywinks, spin the bottle, come play with me because noone else will etc on the agenda. Do we need an orgy of “Ain’t I wunnerful an I look jess like me fotos”

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 9, 2007 5:42 PM

Well. Duh! There is such a word, of course. But is there such a saying?

Posted by: ninaschen at December 9, 2007 5:23 PM

I'll fourth it (is there such a word?).

AmDoingIt - you know you can't make a statement like that and expect us not to nag and nag and nag until you spill the beans? Who didn't look like their photo? Who? Huh? Huh?

Posted by: ninaschen at December 9, 2007 5:21 PM

Ratings. Give out monthly awards to the people who:

1. Been on RSPV the longest (and still active thus proving that they have not died of boredom or excessive bedroom activity).

2. Most useful blog of the month.

3. Most useless blog of the month.

4. Have been assessed as the most likely person to be a serial killer.

5. Are telling the most lies in their profile.

6. Are probably not telling any lies in their profile.

etc

Only a thought to generate some prizes.

Posted by: hermanhesse at December 9, 2007 5:20 PM

Oops....what just happened to my post!! It just posted on me without me clicking on the button...must be gremlins.

What I was trying to say was that of the people I have met through this site all have resembled their photo bar one, who looked nothing like their photo, I was totally shocked and it probably showed on my face the disappointment.

Imanenigma - I should ask you the same question.....seems like you have been browsing quite alot lately????

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 5:06 PM

istj54 I can third it. You do indeed look like your photo, I thought you looked exactly like your newer photo which is lovely BTW.

Amdoingit I agree everybody at the meet looked like their photos except one I couldn't recognize.

Of the people I have met through this site, all

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 4:57 PM

istj54..I can second Malsie in vouching for the fact that you do look exactly like your photo. In fact all those that I've met at the last 2 bloggers meets have been easily recognisable (bar 1 and please don't ask who!!!) so we bloggers must basically be an honest lot???
Not so for the others I've met.. Has been a 50/50 on those...
NB. Still no name change!!!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 3:33 PM

istj54..I can second Malsie in vouching for the fact that you do look exactly like your photo. In fact all those that I've met at the last 2 bloggers meets have been easily recognisable (bar 1 and please don't ask who!!!) so we bloggers must basically be an honest lot???
Not so for the others I've met.. Has been a 50/50 on those...
NB. Still no name change!!!!!

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 3:33 PM

You are like yours too, Malsie, but lovlier. I only wish the day had been longer. We had just got started...ah well...next time.

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 3:12 PM

Yes, istj54, you do look exactly like your photos - or the one I saw a while ago anyway, which is how come I recognised you straight away at Melb bloggers meeting! (and a pleasure to meet you, by the way)

I've never had the unpleasant experience of not recognising anyone on rsvp because they looked so different to their photos, but certainly have heard of others who have. Must be very disconcerting.

Posted by: malsie at December 9, 2007 2:33 PM

Woodnwine...I look like my pictures! and the new one was taken at the end of an arm just a month ago. Is that recent, and up close enough?

Where have you been anyway? If you have been out dating, you know you need to be debriefing with us.....come on tell all..we are waiting...please!!! some dating news needs to be told.

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 1:11 PM

I dont have anyone on faves list, because everytime they came on line when I was blogging or whatever I would get pulled out of the blog and back to home page , finding it difficult to return to the blog. A real hassle if you are halfway through writing an epic! @ happycamper- chin up little buckaroo, good things come to those who wait! Give us a smile you can do it. :-) @ misswendyxxx...can I help you or just browsing? :-) ....Imanenigma....P.S Fitness is good, obsession?,is not so good!

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 12:45 PM

Neuroticfish...elite athletes are still fun people to go out with. They all eat, sure they don't eat junk food, but will dine with you, they don't all obsess with training, and there is nothing worse, in my opinion, than a man who can't walk around the block without wheezing like a train...give me an athlete with good sleep patterns anyday!!!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at December 9, 2007 12:11 PM

Istj

Fitness is relative. The difference between Macchu Picchu and Everest.

She doesn’t do tris anymore – sounds like that detested abomination that got relegated to ddhg. Skis and sailboards can end their life on the rocks and their riders retire to scotch on the same.

How fit do you need to be to blog. Or more pertinent how fit do women want their blokes to be. There are those whose obsession is running. You won’t get them on a dinner date. They’ll be timing their sleeping patterns for their next morning’s clocked marathon training session. And you wonder whether you need to buy a Full Bore shotgun because you certainly will have ended up with one. A Full Bore that is. A Total Bore

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 9, 2007 11:10 AM

Goodmorning Twoeyes......

I better go and update my favourites list...........ohh I just got added to 4 peoples favourites!!

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 11:06 AM

cos your on someones favs list my dear.

like mine lol...........
xx

Posted by: twoeyes at December 9, 2007 10:51 AM

I have the online status disabled permanently and I still get the odd chat request.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 10:47 AM

Ahh thankyou twoeyes. Happycamper smiles again :-)

Posted by: happycamper123 at December 9, 2007 10:44 AM

amdoingit. I dont think Im on anyones favourite list :-( Oh poor poor happy(or not so happy)camper

Posted by: happycamper123 at December 9, 2007 10:19 AM

well you should be...........

Posted by: twoeyes at December 9, 2007 10:39 AM

While the unreturned emails represent a lost expenditure, I still send them when I think the person I am contacting "looks the goods", ie they are local and in the right age group.

I also enjoy receiving emails and kisses and try to respond to them all - not that difficult considering the volume.

Every now and then I make contact even though the likelihood of long term is slim. I do that just because because something about that person grabs me.

have a nice day

Posted by: whatcomesnext at December 9, 2007 10:27 AM

Favs list will do it everytime. Just cos you have the green light turned off you can still be chatted. 2 responses i use..not that it happens much...bless it lol is to hide your profile, but then that opens another can of worms, or to ignore the chat request and it will go away, telling them that is is not convenient at this time and the request is declined....

Posted by: twoeyes at December 9, 2007 10:21 AM

amdoingit. I dont think Im on anyones favourite list :-( Oh poor poor happy(or not so happy)camper

Posted by: happycamper123 at December 9, 2007 10:19 AM

woodnwine yes totally agree that is why I am not posting any photo's of myself until I have some home taken natural ones. I have glamour shots of myself and was an ex model years ago but I think it only far to show me as I am today. Still attractive to some I suppose but of course alone with the few extra kilos and wrinkles and per anyone my age. If I am not attractive to someone who sees my photos when I finally put them up bad luck. I only want someone that finds me attractive and makes me feel good about their attraction for me and vise versa

Posted by: mstingle at December 9, 2007 10:16 AM

Morning to you too "2xi's" !!!!

Happycamper... I too turn the green light off but still have the odd person come on asking to chat. Think if you're on their fave list you must show up as being online or something. A pain when you want to be obscure.. Maybe someone can enlighten me... "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 10:08 AM

Have a great day all and happy hunting/blogging.."G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 9:54 AM

morning "G"..............

Posted by: twoeyes at December 9, 2007 10:03 AM

Often I turn the green light off to avoid the incoming chat pop ups. Especially late evening on the weekends. For example, last night I got home from drinks and logged in and straight away some guy popped up asking if I would like to go over to his place (bless him) Funnily enough he cut me off when I declined his delightful offer. So if I had my green light off he wouldnt have thought I was online so in effect i would have saved him money. Im such a nice person.

Posted by: happycamper123 at December 9, 2007 10:03 AM

istj54, you have unused stamps, cant think of any reason why that would be....

now heres a thought about something slightly related. If you are on someones favs list, ( and according to the total of mine..) i should be receiving lots more kisses than i do. Or is it that i am on these list as a put away for a rainy day type scenario , so that when everyone else has been exhuasted, then i might get a kiss. Cos i aint getting any kisses at all....................lol

Posted by: twoeyes at December 9, 2007 9:58 AM

WnW I'm with you on the photo's. Meeting people who look nothing like their photo is frustrating. Still, not much we can about it is there????

Same goes for the stamps. I DO buy stamps and I DO use them too. I have used them (ame as other women and men I know on site) simply for friendship as well.. There's good and bad on both sides so lets not get into man/woman bashing ok!!!!

Have a great day all and happy hunting/blogging.."G"

Posted by: amdoingit at December 9, 2007 9:54 AM

The green light just does mean you are online, IAE,as far as I know.

You can run several chats at once, apparently...if you have the spare brain cells. And although its unusual, some people use the chat for company in the evenings - they have pen pals - not for picking up someone, so best not to jump to conclusions too quickly, istj54. I think that those of us who have had bad relationships are extremely sensitive to any sort of apparently untrustworthy behaviour in a partner...goes with the turf, I guess. Sometimes its hard to remind yourself that this person might be alright, despite (temporary) appearences to the contrary.

Oooh, I'm glum today .... due to speaking before I think (in real life) and now having to take the consequences... what a sad, sad me I am.

Posted by: dalarna at December 9, 2007 9:45 AM

Misswendy & some others - if you have bought stamps then good on you but I would suggest that you are probably in the minority (of women). In the last month I have received kisses from almost 20 women to who I have said that I am looking forward to receiving their email and I have not received a single one. I can only assume that all of those women had no intention of buying stamps and were counting on me to do it. Come on women, this is 2007, not 1967. And before you start typing FP, I have stamps and use them on women I want to pursue but am also open to hearing from others, I just don't think this should all be so one sided.

And while I am typing, ladies it is nice if you look something remotely like your photo when it comes time to meet. Selecting the most fabulous photo ever taken of you (10 years ago)I am sure makes you feel good but I can assure it is a big turn off when it comes time to actually meet. I would rather meet someone and think "gee, you actually look better than your photo" than "what the?"

Posted by: woodnwine at December 9, 2007 9:38 AM

@istj54- yeah sorry, my mistake,did see your reply (bit slow-waiting for coffee to kick in) as for the green light? I thought it just meant we were "online" as we are now , not if we were "chatting" to someone, am I wrong on this one?.....as for shallow, I have been called "shallow hal" before, do you think they were trying to tell me something?...mmmm...I may have been ruined for life by my last partner.........but as they say "better an empty house than a bad tenant"...Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 9:21 AM

...I do read profiles..I meant that I don't search, read and send kisses..I read bloggers profiles and those that send me kisses and emails...How shallow must you all think I am???oh dear, more coffee.

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 9:14 AM

Kisses well received, IAE. They made me happy and I went on to tell you yesterday that we could add discerning to your report card.
All that corporal punishment has seen a beneficial effect on your blogroom behaviours....

Sometimes, if I see the green chat light on when I know I should write to someone, I just think I don't have to because they have someone else..just a thought!

You need to get the Apple for the looks, or the new ones with a touch of silver. I got mine for the looks but know I am now a far less shallow person...hmmmm!

Or sucks......surfskiing fisherman...Is that true or are you using it as bait to lure out the fitter ladies?

I was so positive when I first joined that I bought 24, ha, ha, ha...After a year there were 12 left and still no success..many unanswered letters. I thought I was just a big bore in the letter department, but now know it's just the way it is. I have bought more though.

Call me a tightwad...but I would buy drinks and also do pay for my dinner...I don't read profiles anymore either.

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 9:03 AM

Istj

That is not how you are being shape or moulded.

How can you say that you are looking for “the One” when you buy a book of 6 stamps.

You might as well saying you are looking for “The Six.”

Or in Kiwi Land, you are looking for 'The S..xxxxx"

Yoke for the morning. Goes with the coffee

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 9, 2007 8:34 AM

Sorry, spell check!...."after women" Goodmorning Melbourne girls!!...istj54 , the image of you springing out of bed to save the bird got me thinking...........that I havn't had my coffee!!!.....mmmmm......coffee...ah, thats better. Hope my encouragement x's were well received, wasn't being a smarty, meant what I said....Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 8:33 AM

Morning....all, Yes the unanswered email thing I thought a bit rude when I first started, but being an RSVP veteran of 6 months I am no longer worried about it. I have sent the initial email after woman have requested I do , they have responded a couple of times, then .....nothing!.......I thought that a bit strange at first, no explanation e.g I have found someone else, you bore me, etc etc but I think its the cyber way, some people find it difficult to communicate their thoughts & feelings and so they dont. Not too polite but hey, so be it. Ah, cyber dating...... if only my computer was better looking!.....Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 9, 2007 8:19 AM

Just about to say, still in bed drinking coffee, when an Indian Miner bird came in to play with the cat and couldn't get out again...got outta bed pretty darned quickly...saved the bird, so good Karma for the day...

I'm wondering is Karma Sutra blends easily with those meditations...maybe more Tantric stuff...anyways.....

You really need to be fairly positive you have a match if it comes down to spending $55 on contacting just the one person......if it works out well, it is money well spent but otherwise "you " have decided to take the risk and need to let go the feelings of lost $s...it's all part of this game called internet dating.

Sometimes you are in the red and other times the black, just like in everday life. It's long odds that you are going to meet soemone from just one stamp expenditure, but people here seem to have a positive approach and think that the person they contact will be "The One."

They are then highly aggrieved when the other person begs to differ...funny old world we live in......

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 8:09 AM

Neuroticfish you are not alone??? Why are people so unkind - to quote a famous person there. No seriously I have been down the stamp issue but that is the gamble you take and in the long run we are all just hoping to find that special someone.

Posted by: jaspercat at December 9, 2007 8:02 AM

Here I am.

Just been for my 50km run, 20km swim, and 2 hours of surf skiing.

Ooops. Wrong profile.

Just been for my 50 transcendental meditations, 20 karma sutras, and 2 hours of reading the Holy Writ.

And I come back and you are out of bed already.

Well my last book of stamps was a total waste. I bought them to email specifically someone who had 3 times invited an email, only not to reply when one was finally sent.

The rest of the book was sacrificed to Jehovah when the Ten Commandants were thrown at me.

Curiously that same person has recently spent money on a book of stamps and has emailed me back.

And all I wanted to do was hop on her ride on mower and zoom around her paddock mowing her grass for her. Now that IS weird

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 9, 2007 7:34 AM

Non-replies are probably the reason why rsvp make you buy so many stamps at a time and it is such a short expiry period.

They know that people don't always reply. If you look at it that way it's not as annoying, because if you start a conversation with two, you are wasting those other stamps anyway.

Does it really matter which way they are wasted? What's the difference if they do reply but only once or twice? Same outcome....Next!!

Posted by: istj54 at December 9, 2007 7:10 AM

I am with you misswendy. I have stamps as well but I have also been burnt before with sending emails and not hearing back....you just have to accept and move on. Yes it feels like a waste of money but when you weigh up going to a dating agency the RSVP stamps are very cheap in comparison.

Posted by: jaspercat at December 9, 2007 6:42 AM

Modelaeroplanessuk - I can assure you that women do buy stamps, I have them and plenty of others I know have bought them too. I don't think having a rating system is going to solve the problem of people not replying to emails, as it is possibly a function that you can turn off, so therefore at the end of the day pointless.

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 9, 2007 3:19 AM

Actually I think the reply rate is a great idea, because i have only bought one lot of stamps, but half the women who said they wanted to hear from me never wrote back...and no i didn't write anything werid. It is really frustrating but because it costs money and I don't think the women on here really buy stamps (well they don't need to the lucky buggers). As for the profile rating to be honest I wouldn't really care what people rated mine at, cos it is me and if they don't like me or my profile then fair enought I dun care.....that sounded bitter, I assure you i'm not!!!

Posted by: modelaeroplanessuk at December 9, 2007 12:55 AM

misswendyxx

Here are some more possibilities ,

Not dishwasher safe
Warning : has been found to cause cancer in laboratory mice
May irritate eyes
Do not use orally

Possibilities are endless......hehe

Posted by: jenjen57 at December 8, 2007 4:57 PM

Excellent misswendy. I would also welcome scores from my first meetings/dates... 'hapycamper, lovely girl. Looks just like her photo... if you squint and have had enough wine'

Posted by: happycamper123 at December 8, 2007 11:09 AM

Imanaenigma, as someone said to me onetime...flattery will get you everywhere sugarbabe...........maybe I can add that you are discerning.

..........wonder who that was?

Posted by: istj54 at December 8, 2007 10:43 AM

Good, a great idea!

I would be really intersted in feed back from both male and females in regard to my profile. I am new at this and all feed back I would be greatful for. I promise to accept both the negative along with the positive. I really was not sure what I should have written or how it came across.

Posted by: mstingle at December 8, 2007 10:29 AM

Interesting concept happycamper123 we could have all sorts of labels for profiles such as:

Fragile handle with care
Illustration for marketing purposes only
Highly dangerous
This way up
May contain traces of nuts
Factory second

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 8, 2007 9:22 AM

'Damaged goods' would be a great idea. Would save their stamps because I dont think I could cope with anymore first emails whinging about past broken hearts...blah blah blah

Posted by: happycamper123 at December 8, 2007 9:02 AM

Oh you melbourne girls! please, please..............continue! :-) as for fifty lashes...a person should be shocked at the thought of corporal punishment......but actually I'm getting a disturbing feeling.....please miss, may I have another? I have been a naughty, naughty boy!........ Have a great day girls! Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 8, 2007 8:42 AM

Imanenigma - OOHhhhh.....I can tell you now, you are rating pretty highly with me.............intelligent, kind, loyal, sincere, funny..........I could go on and on.............

Posted by: misswendyxx at December 8, 2007 8:12 AM

...no rest for the wicked, apparently...Unfortunately I always wake up early but with my trusty laptop, I actually don't have to make any effort at all to "get up", unlike some...

IAAE...all is forgiven, but maybe fifty lashes just to keep you nice...bend over.

How would I rate you? Very highly. You are witty, intelligent, handsome(no matter who you look like..but Gary Sweet- he's lost it), like a good discussion(dare I say argument?).....I think you would talk about more than the gas bill at dinner....a "good" catch or, should I be more effusive and say, a "great" catch.*****

Posted by: istj54 at December 8, 2007 8:06 AM

@istj54- goodmorning! am I forgiven yet?....and how would you rate me?...or shouldnt I ask?.. :-) Imanenigma

Posted by: imanenigma at December 8, 2007 7:54 AM

You out of bed already sugarbabe. That was a quick recovery.

Who wants verification of identity. Anyone would think this is an open shop.

There are only about 3-4 people who would ever really want to speak to at any one time. Everyone else is nice in the usual schmooze fashion, but really, I just want to get as quickly as possible to talking in person to just a few. Detest the idea of being some sort of product on general display. It's a by product of the way this site works, but it does consume a lot of time and emotional energy being my normal polite, gentlemanly and courteous self to decent people who express an interest.

Posted by: neuroticfish at December 8, 2007 7:17 AM

You have to show your driver's liscence to join "Dinner for Eight."

...and what a great conversation starter when you all get out your utility bills....hey you used a lotta gas this year!

Posted by: istj54 at December 8, 2007 7:00 AM

Hi all, have been reading the blogs. I am one who has changed my name and profile, also after a while the photo. The reason being that I was not sure or confident of what to write, am feeling better about it now. Don't want to come across as a BOF or the opposite. Nor do I want to appear to be asking too much of what I am looking for, sometimes I think it is like an employment criteria listing i.e. wish list. Sorry if I have offended anyone by doing this just settling in!! And honestly, why can't a woman tell a little fib about her age, just a little if she feels she needs to, after all that's the one question you should never ask of a woman!!...Malessa

Posted by: malessa at December 7, 2007 8:48 PM

forget about ratings
lets have a five star verification policy.
for instance if you supply a copy of your license ,birth certificate or passport that's 3 stars acopy of a utility bill will give you an extra star because it verifies your current address a fifth star would be if you provide date stampedphotos.
that along with an email address other than hotmail or yahoo

problem sold,a true rating sytem to stop 90% of the compaints and charades.

Posted by: kyotohilton at December 7, 2007 6:41 AM

ANY rating system is open to abuse by those who perceive themselves to have been 'slighted'... wouldn't you say?

Easy for them to 'get their own back'.. take revenge.. by dragging the victim's rating down by scoring them negatively, multiple times.

Posted by: decoratress at December 6, 2007 9:24 PM

How about adding a button to rate people as timewasters? This seems to apply to so many people on this site

Posted by: funoutd00rsguy at December 5, 2007 11:29 PM

oh hiddencharms i just saw that. yeah lots of cool galleries and little shops. so nice.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at December 3, 2007 3:04 AM

Not very well, apparently!

Posted by: istj54 at December 2, 2007 6:19 AM

sorry - no. bad idea. it's too subjective and too open to bunny boilers of both genders to vent their issues, after a face to face encounter or three has gone badly. Each to their own after all. The ones that really need to be rated are those that are abusive, nasty, controlling at the email stage. But that's what reporting is for isn't it?
As for the name changes, some people just aren't particularly smart, by changing the name and some of the profile, but leaving the same photos up. Huh?
have fun you all

Posted by: today122 at December 1, 2007 9:35 AM

Hi woodnwine and all, sorry I wont be able to make it tonight as I have a previous function, but would love to keep in touch about the brissie get togethers. Hope you have a great time tonight! x

Posted by: alady7 at November 30, 2007 11:07 AM

I would be wary of this becoming an unofficial popularity rating; it might highlight the vulnerable who don't get many/any replies.

Also it gives an obligation to reply and open up communication just to keep your ratings up, which is not good for honesty and may waste a lot of people's time.

Posted by: tielserrath at November 30, 2007 12:06 AM

Hi SS...Sorry, it's easier to spell than the whole name...

It's a nice, easy afternoon escape for me. Some nice cafes and crafts. The views are so peaceful. A couple of new little wineries, too.

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 27, 2007 10:20 PM

Mount Tambourine is lovely, sorry am eavesdropping.

They closed the Summer Loving blog, how odd!! Guess what I saw the fresh blog "Do You Fall in Love Easily" when it came and resisted being the first poster.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at November 27, 2007 10:15 PM

wraecca: It's changed a lot since then. Do you remember the Polish Cafe on top of Mt Tambourine, that overlooks the valley? Best iced coffee around.....lots of whipped cream...!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 27, 2007 9:38 PM

Yes junebaby57, I wanted to post something in the myspace/facebook blog this morning but couldn't and I noticed quite a few others were closed too.

Posted by: misswendyxx at November 27, 2007 9:36 PM

Sure thing, Hiddencharms. Oh, by the way, I haven't lived in Canungra since September 1987.

Posted by: wraecca at November 27, 2007 9:30 PM

junebaby: They kept crashing, anyway.

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 27, 2007 9:29 PM

hey guys, did you notice that heaps of the various blog topics are now closed!!

Posted by: junebaby57 at November 27, 2007 9:23 PM

wraecca: I'll practice my smooching - one for him, and one for him to pass on to you...

Cangura? Went out to Elton John. Now I'm sick with the summer flu. I live a little further west...How about I swap emails with bk on Fri and we can yatter away all we like?

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 27, 2007 6:28 PM

I kind of like the idea of rating profiles but probably there is a need for some kind of objective criteria to rate them. Simply saying someone has a great profile does not really tell me what the person voting likes about my profile. I saw this idea for sending Cheers to a person to let them know they have a cool profile somewhere in this blog threads. I think thats a great way to let people know that you think their profile is awesome without agenda.

Posted by: goofyoptimist at November 27, 2007 6:26 PM

Too true ww i think anybody rating anybody on here would be a recipe for disaster.

But as is the case at present, some people are doing it anyway and casting judgement.

Posted by: twoeyes at November 27, 2007 4:58 PM

I certainly wouldn't want some of the people on these blogs rating my profile, particularly after some of the things that I read last night. I think the only thing worth considering is the reply rate, particularly to emails but probably to kisses as well. I do however have one unanswered email in my inbox that I can't reply to or remove as that person's profile has been removed. Any ideas how to fix this any one?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 27, 2007 4:42 PM

fotoman - hiddencharms and jpkool are both coming to our bloggers' dinner on Friday night. We booked two seats so we'll see soon enough if they are both filled. Somehow, I think they will be.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 27, 2007 4:38 PM

Hiddencharms, I'll look forward to chatting with you as well and as for the smooch.....if it's from me, it'll have to be a big one, lol.

Now, you never actually answered my question a few weeks back concerning Canungra. Do you live there? Wonglepong, that brings back memories. Wonglepong was green, Sarabah was red, Flying Fox was yellow, and Witheren was blue. Yes, I went to Canungra State Primary School and my two sisters still have records standing from 1985-7 for their running. Witheren had a good time while we lived there......

Posted by: wraecca at November 27, 2007 4:32 PM

Age could also be verified. Lets face it , why start with a lie.

Posted by: brane at November 27, 2007 8:29 AM

hi folks, a rating system for authenticity would be good as some have suggested I also have seen same photos on 2 profiles. For people who have been on RSVP, left, then are back again - it should be impossible to have a new user name without it saying "formerly" (the old name)

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at November 27, 2007 12:00 AM

wishfulthinker03 and alady7 - please spend a stamp and contact myself, hiddencharms or miserableoldcow if you aren't already in touch with someone on the blogs and we will fill you in about Friday night. alphabetsoup is in charge of security so don't bother contacting him - he's sworn to secrecy and never spills the beans. It should be a good night and all for the price of one stamp.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 11:02 PM

On ratings, I can't see the point especially on profiles. Rating doesn't ensure the content is honest. I know of a person who had three profiles, now only two and none were completely honest. Funny thing is the same photos were used on each profile and RSVP didn't pick up on it. I don't know how many other people did but to me it was fairly transparent. Oh and der they used the same password for their pic. Now being able to change your pseudonym and being advertised as a former member is encouraging dishonesty in my mind. At least you used to know who the original member was if they changed their name and if you had history, time wasn't wasted if didn't want to contact that person or reply. Seems to me it is the same as having multiple profiles.

Posted by: adreamcatcher2 at November 26, 2007 10:32 PM

You are right hiddencharms seeing you are not middle aged do you expect to live to be 110?

Posted by: thefotografer at November 26, 2007 9:22 PM

fotoman: You bore me....yawn...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 26, 2007 9:20 PM

Ahhhh what is love , Lonely girl, lonely girl ahhhh lonely girl.........................woops sorry i was just drifting off there I am right in the middle of "Must Love Dogs"

Posted by: thefotografer at November 26, 2007 9:19 PM

Only those that can be trusted. But then what is trust?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 9:13 PM

fotoman: When I hit middle age I'll remember that...thanks for the info though...I'll store it under "b"....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 26, 2007 9:04 PM

Who would have that information Woodnwine?

Posted by: thefotografer at November 26, 2007 8:46 PM

My goodness i used to enjoy reading the blogs now i just find that they are full of bitchiness towards each other....what is this site coming to?

Posted by: pipigirl41 at November 26, 2007 8:45 PM

Hiddencharms.you should try it more often.
It works for me.

Oh and Pyscho's can be women too, the only problem is those who are pyschotic don't know they are pyschotic.
I can help you though.

I have a friend in Queensland that has a library on pyschosis and it's effects on middle aged women.
She lives on one of those little islands off the coast of Surfers.She Is a croupier by day and sings to herself at night.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 26, 2007 8:32 PM

fotoman - if you wanted Earl's email address all you had to do was ask but you may be chasing the wrong person.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 8:28 PM

It is called the Wonglepong Polo Club. Woman.

And they hold quite a few concerts, including Pink Armband.

Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 26, 2007 8:22 PM

woodnwine: According to fotoman, I'm not a woman. I'm some psycho cross of jp and me!

And to think...last night, I was out at Canungra, not a computer in sight, singing away...How wonderful life is when you're in this world....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 26, 2007 7:54 PM

alphabersoup - watch out, he's coming to get you ready or not.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 7:42 PM

fotografer - what is your story man? Why so much aggression towards a woman you don't even know? Have fun chatting with your new friend and say hello for me please. Sybil!

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 7:40 PM

fotoman: Laughing at you...like I have never laughed before.

Like I have an interest in who you contact. Whoopie! I'm thrilled that you finally found a friend....I'm sure that you and Earl and all of his "friends" will get along spendidly......

As for my being a schizoid, suicidal, dill of the highest order, well, I'm laughing tears of merriment....

There is one of me, and one of jp, and BOTH of us will be at the Brisbane meet on Friday - jp's the male with the goatee and the glasses. Would you like us to take photos of BOTH of us together, and send them to you....???

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 26, 2007 7:35 PM

You are a dill of the highest order Hidden charms.
i have had an email from a third party who is going to put me in touch with Earl, alphetaphi, and all his personnas.

You are such and ass with your JPkool.
Go and see a pysch. before it gets too bad and you kill yourself.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 26, 2007 5:06 PM

wraecca: I look forward to having a chat...and will give BK a big smooch for you...OK?

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 26, 2007 5:05 PM

fotoman: I just wanted to congratulate you on over-exposing yourself and alphbetaphi yesterday.

You do know what they say about those who point fingers, don't you? They are the ones who have orignally caused the mischief.

I don't happen to have an alter ego, either. My ego is just fine on it's own - and it doesn't have little voices talking to it, feeding it, pumping it up....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 26, 2007 4:55 PM

Hey woodnwine, even though I won't *physically* be at the meet this Friday, I will in spirit, as well as possibly via mobile.......

Hehehe......

Talk to you all soon.......

Posted by: wraecca at November 26, 2007 4:45 PM

jpk & fotoman: After last night's entertainment, I think you both need to realise that you cannot drink and blog.

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 26, 2007 4:45 PM

alady7 - see my post just below to wishfulthinker03. You will need to contact someone as we will not be posting the venue on the blogs. It will only cost you one stamp and you will get to meet several local bloggers and maybe make some new friends. It is a nice network of friends both local and interstate.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 10:36 AM

Hi all, this is my first blog after trying for so long.... so difficult to do without it playing up, so hope it gets through! I am not sure I agree with the rating system for a couple of reasons. Sometimes when I go to reply the user has their profile closed and the system wont allow you to reply. And to rate someones profile is such a personal thing... how would that be done? If you kissed back someone that you didnt want to have contact with would they give you a bad rating?
Also I see there is a Bris get together on Friday night - how do I find out the details? Do I have to email someone?
Hi to all and hope to blog with you more!

Posted by: alady7 at November 26, 2007 9:23 AM

alphabetaphi - welcome back, keep those hints coming and you never know what might happen.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 8:36 AM

wishfulthinker03 - the Brissie bloggers are having a get together this Friday night. The venue will not be published on the blogs for obvious reasons. If you would like to come along you will have to get in touch with someone. You could try miserableoldcow, hiddencharms, brushkestral, myself, most of the regulars in Melb, Wraecca, brilliantblue, funlovertoo, seraphsuzie - need I go on?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 8:35 AM

Fotoman, it could also be women doing it, as you well know, seeing you called one of them an old scragg, which was directed at her personally and not her false profiles.

I have wasted stamps on her, but have done so deliberately to shut her up, although she did have me fooled last year pretending to be a Sydney doctor. Ho hum dearie!!

And yes Lorainer, I have kissed you again for the 50th time and the last one was Would You be my valentine. So pack your bags for a Greek Island honeymoon sweetie

Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 26, 2007 8:18 AM

Oh Sibel? you don't no who Sibel was ?
One of the first documented cases of multiple personalities....................think Sally Fields.

Sybil originally aired as a made-for-television miniseries in 1976. Sally Field starred in the title role, with Joanne Woodward playing the part of Sybil's psychiatrist, Cornelia B. Wilbur. Based on the book Sybil by Flora Rheta Schreiber, the movie dramatises the life of a shy young graduate student, Sybil Dorsett (in real life, Shirley Ardell Mason), suffering from dissociative identity disorder. With the help of her psychiatrist, Sybil gradually recalls the harrowing childhood abuse that led to the development of sixteen personalities. Sally Field's portrayal of Sybil won an Emmy.

The film, originally 198 minutes long, was initially shown over the course of two nights in 1976. In the VHS version of Sybil, released in the 80's the film was edited, with one version running 122 minutes and another, extended version running 132 minutes. Several key scenes, including Sybil's final climactic "introduction" to each of her sixteen selves, are missing in both versions. The film is shown frequently on television, often with scenes restored or deleted to adjust for time constraints and the varying sensitivity of viewers. The film was graphic for its original prime-time viewing slot and even today contains many disturbing images and themes.

Due to high viewer demand, a 30th anniversary edition of Sybil was released on DVD in North America on July 18, 2006, with the original full length running time of 198 minutes.

Warner Bros. has produced a remake which will air in 2007 on CBS. The remake stars Tammy Blanchard as Sybil and Jessica Lange as Dr. Wilbur.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 26, 2007 7:30 AM

Seems there are some rather disturbed paranoid women on this site

I have complained to RSVP about the fake profilers and they sent a nice letter back asking me to forward on to then any profile that looks fake.
So I would suggest to all those women (could be just the one ) to email RSVP nominate the profiles and ask to have verified or removed .
To do this you would need to be insulted or ripped off by that person so my suggestion would be also to send them a kiss or an email and see if they offend you in some way other than that just report them.
RSVP are trying to clean up this site and the first one I suggested would be to remove all email addresses that are provided by hotmail or yahoo.
They agreed that email addresses coming from a provider are more legitimate but would not remove the hotmail or yahoo addresses because the majority of their members use them.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 26, 2007 7:25 AM

jpkool...any ideas where the "top night" is gonna be?

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at November 26, 2007 6:48 AM

Fotoman

You're great.

Stick it up them, or "him"

Having worked as a real bodyguard, I doubt if "he" knows an iota of what "he" is talking about.

Let's keep the Fotoman Fan Club alive and kicking. Whoompf!!

Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 26, 2007 5:57 AM

I don`t like the idea of my profile being rated by someone who thinks they`re educated or qualified enough to do so.

Personal tastes vary, leave it as it is.

Posted by: bogan1971 at November 26, 2007 12:19 AM

wishfulthinker03, a top night out, apparently, not to be missed by our Bris-based bloggers. No boots or spurs or friends of Earl and his gang are invited. hc is skull-dragging me along as body guard against axe-murderers and those who make her laugh hysterically and reach for a quick draw fag.

Posted by: jpkool at November 25, 2007 11:52 PM

So much nastiness in the sandbox again....what brisbane blog met is on Friday??? I scrolled and went cross-eyed and couldn't find a thing :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at November 25, 2007 11:30 PM

fotographer, in case you missed the point. I am the schmuck she lived with and almost married. The one with the bad habits she dislikes so much. The one who will be taxi driver to the Brisbane blog meet on Friday night. No boots and spurs. Yes, i am protective of her. She's too good to be putting up with some of the shi-- on this site. Like yours and the Earl character. Why don't you go ho ho ho this sibel person?

Posted by: jpkool at November 25, 2007 10:25 PM

fotographer, way off on that score, mate.

Posted by: jpkool at November 25, 2007 10:16 PM

jpkool.

Hohohohohohohohoh!!!!!!and merry christmas to you to.

Do you think I came down in the last shower of rain????
take your alter ego somwhere else.

Charming oh hidden one or should I call you
Sibel?????

Posted by: thefotografer at November 25, 2007 10:02 PM

fotographer, it was still aimed at the alphabetaphi. Not you. I think you owe her an apology for your rudeness.

Posted by: jpkool at November 25, 2007 9:55 PM

I haven't been on here for a dog's age (been datin'!) and come back to this.

Ick. For the love of mike, RSVP! Don't even go down this road. As if enough people weren't leaping off the vulnerability cliff with the mere fact that they're putting their profile online.

Posted by: prettyasyou at November 25, 2007 9:32 PM

No she commented about has the cat got your tongue which I used in a previous insulting post to waterfalls

Posted by: thefotografer at November 25, 2007 8:59 PM

fotographer, I think you got your wires crossed. I just read back through the blogs. hc was being sarcstic in reply to alphabetaphi's comment about the red light.

Unless you are one and the same person, there doesn't seem to be any reason for you to blurt off at her.

Just for the record, you have not seen the dear woman get infuriated yet. I haven't seen anything but sarcastic wit = no less biting than yours.

Crocodile Rock = Elton John. She's been throwing off hints all over the blogs.

I think she is also dating=very mysterious at the moment.

Posted by: jpkool at November 25, 2007 8:47 PM

hiddencharms, you made your point. We have all seen the new profile. we know it is yours.

Posted by: jpkool at November 25, 2007 8:16 PM

hiddencharms

what the hell are you talking about.

You really have got to get a life, go on a date or something sounds to me that you take offense if somebody agrees with me?
In this case I would put my money on Earl or datingexpert or haven't you noticed that it happens occassionally and then you get infuriated which is the whole point of his postings ?????

Posted by: thefotografer at November 25, 2007 6:58 PM

yeah it was funlovertoo...hehe AuntyKaz.. thats ok... I have those moments all the time!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 25, 2007 5:16 PM

oh sorry suzie l thought you were doing campaigning in the seat of Bennelong l must have got you confoosed with someone else, l do apologise. Was it maybe funlovertoo???? Help me out guys l am having a senior moment........k

Posted by: auntykaz at November 25, 2007 5:11 PM

alphabetaphi: Still waiting....Cat got your tongue?

Anyway, much and all as I await, holding my breathe, for your next fascinating installment...I have a date to go to.........Crocodile Rock........nah, na-na-nana-nah.......

Cheers........Hellsbells

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 25, 2007 4:52 PM

fotoman: I hadn't noticed any of that. I've probably just skimmed over it.....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 25, 2007 4:49 PM

Oh look! It's me! I say, clapping my hands with childish glee....

Take a look. Quick. The new, original, now totally unique version of me....

3.43pm Sunday 25 Nov 2007 (QLD time). Copyright is mine..........

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 25, 2007 4:48 PM

It depends on the number of changes you make in a given time span.
I don't know about suspicious,there are plenty on here that are more than suspicious.
I also notice quite a few are puttin in their email addresses and phone numbers and getting away with it because they are spelling it out .No need to pay money for stamps but probably leaves you a bit open for the occassional harpoon.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 25, 2007 4:31 PM

alphabetaphi: Do go on...I am most interested to see what the flashing read sign reads....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 25, 2007 3:34 PM

misswendy: I've made some minor changes before and never had any problems. I can't think of anything that I've changed in the newer version that would arouse any suspicion....

I made a few, rather grumpy comments last week, so maybe they are just making me sit and fume....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 25, 2007 3:32 PM

Of course your profile is going to get frozen.

There's a flashing red light above it saying..........

Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 25, 2007 3:31 PM

Hiddencharms - I didn't change my photos either, just put a date in the caption and it froze pending review. Definately frustrating, I am not sure what happens on the rsvp end but do you think that there are "key" words that are flagged as suspiscious by their system?

Posted by: misswendyxx at November 25, 2007 3:29 PM

misswwendy: I didn't change the photos. They are the same ones I have used for the last few months. All I did was change the wording in the profile - same thing, different version....I also have mail that needs answering and I can't respond until they let me make my profile visible again....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 25, 2007 3:19 PM

Knowing the reply rate of other RSVPers would be excellent. I get really sick and tired of sending kisses and not receiving anything back. I would think twice before kissing anyone who has a low reply rate as I really don't want to waste my time.

As for the other two areas, I'm totally ambivalent to whether they're posted or not.

Posted by: princesseris at November 25, 2007 3:18 PM

Hiddencharms - I put the date on one of my photos awhile ago and straight away it was taken down for review. I had to wait about 5 days to get it up again even after complaining. At the time I had someone emailing me, it just looked like I had hidden my profile to this person.

Posted by: misswendyxx at November 25, 2007 3:05 PM

When, oh when, can I have the changes made to my profile made available to me...? I used the same name, same personal details, same date of birth etc etc etc and same email and phone details that I have always used..All I did was change the words about myself...totally unique, individual, free-spirited...me...and only me...kinda stuff...

Seems I've been a naughty little w(b)itch...and my new profile has gone under "review" by the rsvp team...so don't have a late night whinge about new rsvp moderators....don't snipe if someone swipes your personal characteristcs...don't agree with others who have the same complaints against the system...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 25, 2007 2:53 PM

Hi, I think having a rating system that everyone can see is a bit overdone.
I maybe a minority here but I would prefer to get no response from a kiss than a negative one .
& as for people voting on great / good / more needed ... Rather than being influenced by others opinions , why can't people just have a look and make up their own minds?

However if you want to list how many times someone has changed their age/ relationship status / and number of children - I'm all for that!

Posted by: somethingshiney at November 25, 2007 2:42 PM

auntykaz: I don't mind the tickle factor myself....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 25, 2007 2:36 PM

Auntkaz.. not sure what you meant by your post?? I am nowhere near the seat of Bennelong.. however I am happy that John Howard is gone..

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 25, 2007 12:32 PM

wraecca that's the one.
My ordered copy arrived from the US on thursday, I will go down and pick it up and then strip the vocals off it.
It may be coming to a theater near you !!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 25, 2007 11:04 AM

Ratings dont sound that scary lol, over time here Ive learnt its not personal , an comments on here use to ..grrr get under my skin...but hey Id love a star lol, not all members like my look or what i have to say thats cool, at least with this systerm could you be accused of copying?

Posted by: bluebyeu1 at November 25, 2007 11:03 AM

This is amazing.
The election has just finished and this morning somebody called THETREASURER17 had a look in(no photo)

So you see.there is life after politics and nice to see Peter doing something constructive for a change.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 25, 2007 11:02 AM

How about an "I trust (insert RSVP name here) system like a verification/authenication system. Done on some sites like Thehospitalityclub.org (not for dating, but it works for them)

and/or I have dated/met ................... and they are safe/real or similar. And no comment for people who are not.

A verification/authentication system to prevent multiple persona's would be better than a rating system. A system that made the players more obvious would be helpful.

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at November 25, 2007 10:52 AM

wraecca

Yep thats the one. Wonderful sentiment.....thats why there are so many attached/married people on this dating site. What are they thinking ?

Posted by: jenjen57 at November 25, 2007 10:44 AM

Thefotografer, is that the song that goes "I can't see me lovin' nobody but you, for all my life....."?
(You know, regarding the question about "Happy Together" by the Turtles?)

Posted by: wraecca at November 25, 2007 10:26 AM

Ever noticed how at a dinner party noone admits to voting for other than the Greens in the Senate, Not de rigeur. Certainly not those strange ones, What Women Want, The Fishing Party, The Drunken Party (sorry Funlover, we’ll make an exception for you, Maxine et al) and the Assorted Wackos Party

Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 25, 2007 10:24 AM

Seraphsuzie will be a happy camper in Bennelong this morning....Maxine McKew what an effort...........K

Posted by: auntykaz at November 25, 2007 10:19 AM

That's it happy in the mud
playing with the crew
I am feelin so sick
i think I could................speeekiiinnnggg of being sick.I think Fonlovertoo is still out celebrating

Posted by: thefotografer at November 25, 2007 10:12 AM

Higher rating Fotoman?

I’m doing my best to stay down the bottom.

In the ocean we’d be called bottom feeders, muck rakers, low life and other scum

It’s a lifestyle choice

Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 25, 2007 10:00 AM

I am going to change my audio to see if I can get a higher members rating :0

Does anyone remember the "Turtles"

"Happy Together"

Posted by: thefotografer at November 25, 2007 9:54 AM

woodnwine - clean shaven for me, don't want a free exfolliation from a three day growth.

Posted by: misswendyxx at November 25, 2007 9:27 AM

woodnwine, the tickle factor is a high rater in fact. Maybe l am a bit quirky and odd but l like it. I like it a lot.......k

Posted by: auntykaz at November 25, 2007 12:01 AM

wishfulthinker03, I am learning that. Thanks.

Posted by: jpkool at November 24, 2007 10:48 PM

jpkool....not much in the blogs is what you'd expect to see on a dating site...but still makes for some entertaining reading at times :) Just skip over the dull or non-relevant bits and you'll find the occasional piece worth a second read!

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at November 24, 2007 10:33 PM

Is that Alpha, Beta, Phi? The Revenge of The Nerds creeping in here?

Posted by: jpkool at November 24, 2007 10:31 PM

fotographer, thanks for the lecture on toxoplasmosis. Not what you'd expect to see on a dating site. Not at all interesting. Or relevent.

Posted by: jpkool at November 24, 2007 9:46 PM

Seraphsuzie, you called me a jerk because I am a jerk. No harm in calling me what I am and what I'm proud to be. I still think your hair is awesome.

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at November 24, 2007 4:19 PM

yes, it's pretty easy to get offside when all you can do to communicate is write or read. The words don't have any sounds ... there is no tone of voice to go by, no body language to interpret. It's tricky. Even when we have all that in real life we don't always get it right.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 24, 2007 3:43 PM

I think alphabetaphi is a re-incarnation...makes the same kind of suppporting statements to fotoman, every time...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 24, 2007 3:10 PM

Hi waterbombe: I can be quite direct, too. I also don't tolerate the fools, but have been known to settle in for a good chat and laugh and giggle with everyone else...It just interests me to see someone that I don't know, or not communicated with, make such a statement about me...all I did was express my opinion (very tired and grumpy as I was), the same as everyone else has...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 24, 2007 3:08 PM

wow good on you Seraphsuzie.

HC, notgodsgift is a friend of mine, he's a lovely guy. He doesn't have any time for fools and he might be, like me, a bit too direct at times, although he probably doesn't think so. I don't know why he said that Hiddencharms was a good name for you...I was perplexed.

Fotografer, do you have a second profile called alphbetaphi? He sounds like your clone.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 24, 2007 2:58 PM

I agree with you Waterbombe...

However I know I have been a garbage truck sometimes.. makes you feel like crap.. I guess the secret is not to let things bottle up inside you.. get it out.. talk about it with someone. ... don't call people jerks on a blog.. hehe
Speaking of which.. I am sorry ODE... it was wrong of me to call you that. I still don't agree with your words or what you have said.. but it was wrong .

:-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 24, 2007 2:46 PM

Yes, excellent post Fotoman- garbage truck, that is.

One of your best to date

You are so perceptive and highly accurate in your observations.

Keep it up

Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 24, 2007 1:18 PM

Hey thefotografer Nov24 re garabage truck .Great stuff!You made me really think doesn`t happen to often .I`m sending it off to a few of my friends to see if it can get them thinking toooo.

Posted by: outamycomfortzone at November 24, 2007 1:10 PM

fotoman: Might I suggest you take whatever it is you have been hoarding and dump it on your own website somewhere (maybe join up with notgodsgift)...or the local collection station...I can send you my rates notice so you can dump for free...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 24, 2007 12:29 PM

fotografer.. re your New York cab post: I have only one thing to say to you and that is 'practise what you preach'!!
from the mushroom

Posted by: mushie6 at November 24, 2007 12:00 PM

Posted by: decoratress at November 24, 2007 1:18 AM

decoratress: I agree with that posting 100%. It is the point I have been trying to make about several who like to tease and goad...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 24, 2007 11:38 AM

Mate , genius tempered with arrogance is mere intelligence. Genius tempered with compassion is wisdom. Wisen up.

When I was 24 I wrote this and its since been recorded on "The Sounds of Poetry" Sheathe your knife!!!

The Knife Inside

I asked the man if it should be
A knife inside to tear at me
He turned around and looked in me
The man said yes, it will, you'll see

You used the knife with scant regard
How others felt, their lives you scarred
You cannot be your brother's keeper
He pushed the knife a little deeper
Why wear within a taste of hell
The knife is yours so sheathe it well

I looked at him , walked off in pain
And gave the knife a twist again
He turned around and stared me down
The man said yes, it will, you've found

Posted by: brane at November 24, 2007 8:25 AM

Oh, I agree, Fotografer. I try not be affected by them, but also I try not to BE a garbage truck. You, on the other hand, richochet around dumping on everyone you can. I agree with decoratress, you are handing out treatment that would make you feel pretty bad yourself - if you let yourself have feelings. That seems to be what you are advising us - don't feel. The only way you can maintain that state is to drink a lot. So no thanks, because if you go that way you end up an alcoholic.

I've got two words for you, Fotografer: respect and consideration. Meditate on what they mean.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 24, 2007 8:18 AM

Mr Fotoman

You know you are developing a huge male following as you stick it right up these clowns

Oh Heil Pack Leader

Posted by: alphabetaphi at November 24, 2007 8:07 AM

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or insensitive co-worker ruin your day? Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant, you're probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly he or she can return to focusing on what's important.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson in the back of a New York City cab. I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car pulled out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and started yelling bad words at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So I said, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!"

And this is when the driver told me what I now call the "Law of the Garbage Truck."

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you.

I started thinking, how often do I let garbage trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people — at work, at home, on the streets? It was that day I said, "I'm not going to do it anymore."

Now I see garbage trucks. I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And, like my taxi driver, I don't let it be a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.

What would happen in your life, if, starting today, you let more garbage trucks pass you by? Here's my bet: You'll be happier!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 24, 2007 7:14 AM

"Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The trouble-makers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them. But the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do."
— Apple Computers

Posted by: thefotografer at November 24, 2007 7:13 AM

"We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same."
—Carlos Castaneda

Posted by: thefotografer at November 24, 2007 7:11 AM

ninaschen @ Nov23...

hahaha!.. he's not worth any expense!

... you know... just my personal opinion...
& isn't it NICE that we are all allowed to have them?

Infuriating others shouldn't be confused with humour, wit, intelligence, or a pleasant nature.
Does anybody enjoy being infuriated?
I think the appropriate word would be "goaded".

Fotografer- do you enjoy being goaded? Of feeling infuriated?
If the answer is yes... sorry, but I think you're an idiot.
If the answer is no... well, then you're just plain nasty to enjoy inflicting it on others.

Either way- I'm sure we wouldn't get on.

love&ambivalence
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at November 24, 2007 1:18 AM

@ "BLOG HOGS" well it didnt take you long to turn this blog into another dreary version of days of our lives!!!.....I know, it loads up faster than the "summer lovin" blog which you lot killed with your constant private wafflings!!..... Hey fotographer, given your "war & peace" length posting that had nothing to do with the topic "summer lovin" are you that surprised RSVP may have pulled you up? There is no point having these blogs if you cant keep even close to the topic.......SORRY HOGS BUT YOUR PRIVATE LIVES ARE NOT THAT EXCITING OR INTERESTING!!!! .....save it for private emails,phones calls etc Let others have their say and keep some flow to these blogs.....yes, I fear this "sandpit" will end up full of poop like the others.....read the surrounding posts and wake up! We all know you lot are soooo intelligent, soooo caring, soooo understanding and soooo boring...soooo how about being respectful and putting a sock in it!!!!........mmmmm an RSVP Boring rating????... instead of stars we could have...zzzzzzzz's........IMANENIGMA

Posted by: imanenigma at November 24, 2007 12:15 AM

Fotografer - I wasn't implying you have ever been rude to me, the reverse is the case, in fact. I was merely pointing out that you can be ornery at times. But you know that. And play on it.

Welcome back to the blogs, by the way. I was going to send out a search party. You saved me the expense.

Posted by: ninaschen at November 23, 2007 10:59 PM

waterbombe

that is the truth regarding Toxoplasmosis and yes I did have a paper published.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 10:26 PM

jewels i agree....unless you were one of those hanging off the platform at Byron bay the other day.

Well my sentiment exactly the more germs the merrier and it is perhaps why the older generation is more resistant.
That is always my theory as well, you could be hit by a bus it's not as if someone is going to tell you that it is going to happen, it just happens,like cancer ,and other diseases ther is strong evidence that heredrity genes can carry faults that make some people more likely to fall ill than others.

whoopee just got the last three winners at the Valley.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 10:24 PM

ok, I give up, this will never stop. I'm off to bed. c ya.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 23, 2007 10:21 PM

Oh and if you had children and a sandpit you would know to keep it covered becausecats use it and that is one way Toxoplasmosis is spread to humans.
It is extremely dangerous to pregnant women but can reside inside us without any ill effects.
in canaries it can cause blindness.
How do i know this?
I am canary breeder from way back and started to get blindness in some of my birds I paid a vet called Graham Brown to submit sample to Taronga Park zoo for testing and study.
It came back that the cause was Toxoplasmosis.
Without boring you with the finer details on how it got into the birds I did write an article on the disease with the help of Graham Brown and it was published and is now a well established fact in the community.

Previous to that there was no published data on Toxoplasmosis and blindness in birds.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 10:12 PM

Oh dear, Fotografer. Are you not listening to me? My wise words have gone to waste, it seems. Think BEFORE you post! Not AFTER!

Posted by: ninaschen at November 23, 2007 10:04 PM

hey fotografer , what did you do to get banned?? Good to have you back. Shame about being replaced by a hand held device though, but remember, batteries go flat!!!!

Re the lady and the germs etc, she sounds extremely weird. I tend to steer clear of anyone, male or female, who waste time on endless medical, health, or whinge type talking. God you could die from walking across the road after work!!

The last guy I went on a few dates with, once he found out that i luved the beach, kept asking me if I had seen sharks, did I think about sharks while in the water, was I scared, how many attacks were there on the south coast etc etc....he even mentioned jaws!!!
So that guy was (obviously) not the one!!!
These people need to get out more and get a life.

Have a gr8 weekend all...jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at November 23, 2007 10:02 PM

Cat got your tongue waterwimp heheheh.you can't take a joke ?????

Know come on don't start pulling "the I'm precious stuff "with me because you are a woman.
maybe a lot of men don't understand the tactic,but I think you should stop resorting to the feminine type defense of getting offended and huffy and puffy it just shows that you are letting others "pull your strings"
the trouble is you don't know me and can't see me sitting here howling with laughter everytime I infuriate somebody.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 10:01 PM

hello? Fotografer? We haven't met. You don't know anything about me. In case you don't realise, what you said was insulting...*sigh* don't you get it?

Posted by: waterbombe at November 23, 2007 9:52 PM

Anyway, Big day tomorrow.
Vote, then off to Sydney for lunch and then photo exhibition.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 9:48 PM

I don't want to play in your sandpit waterwheel,too many cats have been in it already.

This is just a respite to fill in time between races from Moonee valley

i might go down and cook for the nurse and her daughter next week she seems to be pretty ill and is becoming a bit of a worry with her non appetite .i think it is just stress but she has had cancer twice and reckons she is too busy to go for the tests after her last episode.
That is the sort of thing you hear from a man and in my old age I just worry about people, maybe it is a direct result of the last few years of my life.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 9:40 PM

Just another thing brane , I don't chase women ,never have never will, that is probably why I have such a high turnover when dating.
I get the message quick and it is usually fifty fifty They don't want to see me(after giving me a hug and a kiss )
and I don't want to see them(minus the hug and the kiss)

Although I can be quite rude in the way I impliment the disappearing act.
Ninascen knows how rude I can be ?

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 9:32 PM

yep, jaspercat, many of us agree with you for the same reason.

F, don't play dumb, you said some appalling things. Sometimes you are really funny but when you get into a slanging match you can really lose it.
Glad to have you back, you are one of the funniest people on here. Hope you can modify your descriptive language when you are feeling under attack because then they will let you play in our sandpit.
cheers, waterbomber
aka waterbombadier
wateroffaducksback
Niagara Falls
etc etc

Posted by: waterbombe at November 23, 2007 9:24 PM

oh my fotografer what a great story... your photos must have been pretty good..

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 23, 2007 9:21 PM

seraphsuzie, talking of home sick.
A little story for you a few years ago i was dining at scratchelys for lunch we had just got back from Canada.
Our waitress was Canadian and we got talking and I said I would drop some photos in from the trip.
I went back in a couple of weeks to see if she had received them and the girl at the register said "Oh your the guy who sent those photos in.
Yes she did get them but had to go home for the day,she broke down crying when she saw them"
I said "where is she now"
"Oh , she quit and is going back to Canada"

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 9:20 PM

sorry brane
i have known her for over 6 months

It was just something that kept coming up in conversation with her fetish on cleanliness .
There was no intent to have any physical contact .I picked up on the problems with her when all she could talk about was how dirty australians are and how we all had worms and parasites and we didn't care if how we died.
it is her intent to live to 150 like all good citizens of Siberia.
How they don't care about washing their hands etc etc.

Still though I am just the interpreter,should say was the interpreter,I have been replaced by a hand held device.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 9:16 PM

Well, see, Fotografer, you think you 'kid around' but sometimes others don't see it that way. You can at times come across as rude, insulting and ornery. And then you take people by surprise with your insightfulness and kindness. You are a bit of a conundrum, to some. I am wise, I am astute, (I'm also old) and I tend to take most of what you say with a grain of salt and look past your, at times, gruff exterior. RSVP is trying to clean up the blogs (about time). I'll give you a tip ('cause, like I said, I am wise), BEFORE you post your comments, read them again, from an objective point of view, as if you didn't know yourself. Think: 'Could my words be construed as offensive by someone who doesn't know me, or think like I do?' If the answer is no, go ahead and press that 'post your comment' button. If the answer is yes then... you know what to do.

Posted by: ninaschen at November 23, 2007 9:14 PM

it is a small world!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 23, 2007 9:10 PM

seraphsuzie

my brother lives in cardiff(Macquarie Hills)

small world huh!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 9:09 PM

wow fotografer they are awesome photos.. you certainly are talented. My brother who lives in Cardiff, Newcastle.. has taken some really great shots in the past .. and had them blown up into poster size.. he used to take photos of bands for their publicity..

Your photos made me homesick.. :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 23, 2007 9:03 PM

Mate its obvious the woman did not want to kiss you. Most women will try and let you down as gently as possible. Chemistry is a two way street. Perhaps you have been chasing women out of your league and that's why you have become bitter. Us men are just peacocks remember.

Posted by: brane at November 23, 2007 9:00 PM

I dont like the idea of rating members. It can be humiliating enough going through this process so no I dont think rating is a good idea

Posted by: jaspercat at November 23, 2007 8:54 PM

I have been banned for days now according to RSVP my posts contained inappropriate content ?

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 8:48 PM

Indeed you do have a talent, Fotografer. No tongue in my cheek on this occasion, and I hope not in yours either (regarding Lorainer). I never can tell with you.

No cross reference to previous posts on tongues and germs intended.

By the way, did you see my post that RSVP saw fit to pull (still puzzles me, that) about your Freudian slip re 'Ninesch tarts'? I thought I was quite clever, there! You like me. I can tell!

Posted by: ninaschen at November 23, 2007 8:21 PM

Oh dear, oh dear. Another reading content with one eye closed.
Gleaning what reinforces the outmoded (80's) concepts.

timewarp1. However you put your argument it still shapes up the same & if it fulfills some inner urge to denigrate others then go for it.

Posted by: trumanscat at November 23, 2007 8:13 PM

fotografer
Why would i call you a jerk , but hey if you wanna call me kittylitter , then if the shirt fits wear it

Posted by: kittyspirit at November 23, 2007 8:10 PM

Wow fotografer.. what a small world.. I had friends in Hill St..

Where is the link? would love to have a look?

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 23, 2007 8:07 PM

fotografer, sounds extreme and somewhat obsessive behaviour to me. In my view, any "germs" to be caught from kissing are totally counteracted by the hormones produced from the pleasure and relaxation that comes from that delicious activity! (unless someone was really seriously ill with something communicable in saliva, and it's not so likely they'd be going out on dates, I'd have thought).

I dated someone for a while who had all sorts of odd quirks about possible health risks. I figured they were all indicative of a state of inner disquiet, manifesting in external fears.

Posted by: malsie at November 23, 2007 8:07 PM

i have a shot of redhead beach you will not believe seraphsuzie.
Have you got that link to my Fototime site ?

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 8:06 PM

fotografer.. my auntie is an artist.. some of her works are for sale in a little shop in Morpeth.. not sure of the name though..
I miss East Maitland.. nice little place!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 23, 2007 8:02 PM

I used to be able to walk through the bush to the beach when I was young... its probably all taken over with housing developments now. We used to go to Blacksmiths Beach .. but I remember a very big party I went to on Redhead beach for a friend who lived across the road.. wow the memories!! hehe

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 23, 2007 8:01 PM

Oh and the first girl that broke my heart went to school at Belmont.....lived in Hill st.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 8:00 PM

i have an acid tongue.is that Ok?

seraphsuzie and kittyspirit

Small world don't like to bring it up but my 2nd wife lived in Belmont North
I Live in Tenambit/east mailtand.

Oh and kittylitter
are you saying I am a jerk?

Ninaschen yes we put up the flag of truse after she looking at some of my photos and realised i was a true talent and genius

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 7:59 PM

Seraphsuzie
Yeah kewl , i luv it here :) Redhead beach one side and the lake on the other side .
I grew up on the Gold Coast and this is perfect for me . Can it get any better :) .

Posted by: kittyspirit at November 23, 2007 7:58 PM

He he FotoGenie, best not have sharp tongue then. Errr.... how does one stiffen their tongue??

Posted by: amuso at November 23, 2007 7:50 PM

And p.s. Fotografer - I hope you have kissed and made up with Lorainer. Good lad!

Posted by: ninaschen at November 23, 2007 7:42 PM

OMG Kittyspirit.. I grew up in Belmont.. Went through kindy and did my HSC there... How cool!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 23, 2007 7:41 PM

Oh, my God, WaterBombe! Have we mind-melded? I was just about to suggest that Fotografer may finally have met my nemesis. Tell me Eric, is she everything I thought she would be?

Posted by: ninaschen at November 23, 2007 7:38 PM

thefotografer
I actually live in Belmont Lake Macquarie .

Posted by: kittyspirit at November 23, 2007 7:35 PM

jenjen57

you're right i do have to get out more :)

Posted by: kittyspirit at November 23, 2007 6:57 PM

thefotografer
I believe you stated on the lips .

Quote "asked her when was the last time she had kissed somebody on the lips " Unquote .

Not on RSVP ,, Well i don't have time to reply to every kiss . Honestly there are some real jerks in the real world n cyber
space .

I'm still waiting for a bald foreigner , boo hoo haha .

Posted by: kittyspirit at November 23, 2007 6:52 PM

thefotografer

Perhaps your reluctant germ phobic penpal might change her mind if you point out the following.....

Kissing prevents the formation of the stress hormone glucocorticoids which causes high blood pressure, muscle weakening and insomnia.
Kissing does its part to vaccinate people from new germs. Saliva contains bacteria, 80% of them are common to all people with 20% unique to each person. By sharing saliva with a partner, you are stimulating your immune system to respond to the different bacteria you are being exposed to. The result is that your immune system creates certain anti-bodies to these new bacteria, which in effect vaccinates you against these germs. This process is called cross-immunotherapy.
Kissing stabilizes cardiovascular activity, decreases high blood pressure, and lowers cholesterol.
Kissing prevents cavities and plaque build-up by stimulating saliva production while preventing gingivitis through the calcium present in saliva.
Kissing stimulates over 30 facial muscles which smoothes out skin and increase blood circulation to the face.
Kissing burns 12 calories per five-second episode and three passionate kisses a day will help you lose one pound!

Best of luck!

Posted by: jenjen57 at November 23, 2007 6:47 PM

hey fotografer.. I used to live in East Maitland... I grew up in Lake Macquarie in Belmont :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 23, 2007 6:45 PM

fotografer, it sounds to me like your penpal might be somelifeinmeyet. But if it wasn't her, the answer to 'does this woman have problems?" is Yes, she has rather large ones. No one in their right mind prefers hygiene to kissing for 2 years straight.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 23, 2007 6:19 PM

Translate into Polish....

West Pole....

Best way to prevent contact with germs, keep hands in pocket. even when kissing.

Posted by: amuso at November 23, 2007 5:56 PM

I think we do rate ourselves by our photos.
here is an instance.
i saw this lady(presumption on my part) who was new to RSVP.
She just looked wonderful , fresh , glorias or what ever.
I sent her a kiss and got knocked back.
A month later (today) I saw this new photo appear and went to check it out only to find it was this woman with new photos .......aaarrrrgghhhhhhh!!!!! I would not date her if you paid me.....now how deceitful is that? she did rate herself in the beginning but has now obviously gone for a downgrade.
How would I rate her......let me see.................-.5 out of 5 ?

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 5:01 PM

Facial hair has never bothered me.. tickling is nice! A beard is ok as long as it is washed daily along with the rest of the body and kept trimmed. I met one guy with a beard and it smelled so bad that I did not want to kiss him. We were not suited anyway so that was not a problem.
I did have a partner with a beard and it really suited him and I liked it.
So to answer your question woodnwine, I like the tickle factor.

Posted by: mushie6 at November 23, 2007 11:12 AM

woodnwine tickle factor rates high with me...........K

Posted by: auntykaz at November 23, 2007 11:30 AM

but what about the tickle factor with body hair. Some men have more than others, and some men have way more than others.

Whats your personal preference?????

Posted by: twoeyes at November 23, 2007 4:50 PM

Very good woodnwine..
One could use it for tying things to.. dog..fair maiden.. clothes line and anything else that comes to mind.
Re the germs and parasites.. some people are just germophobes.. we had a nurse at work who was obsessive about cleaning everything in sight in case she got germs.. she would use the phone then had to go and wash her hands before doing anything else. Nearly drove me to drink after working 10 hours with her on night duty.
I believe she had a serious problem because it interfered with her life.

Posted by: mushie6 at November 23, 2007 4:17 PM

Oh yes she is real and unbelievable attractive, around 45 46 used to manage a hotel in Siberia, that does not surprise me,but for some reason has got these unusual things going on in her life.
To be honest she drives me crazy, i can't get a word in edgewise and as i said to Lorainer(we kissed and made up) I am heading for a life change and I just had to tell her to rely on someone else for her language difficulties,which she had done by buying some sort of hand held with interpreter software.
Thank christ for that !!!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 4:10 PM

thefotografer, I don't know any girls that have ever had an issue with germs from kissing......one of the most enjoyable pastimes on the planet (you gotta get out more kittyspirit !! )... maybe this is just her way of saying politely, "don't even think about it" !! Perhaps she is just quite happy to be your good friend and not take things any further than that. Good luck with it all but she sounds a little too phobic........

Posted by: jenjen57 at November 23, 2007 4:09 PM

kityspirit
i don't believe you, your photos tell me the opposite and yes i did kiss you late 2006 (RSVP) of course and I got no reply...booo hooo hhho .

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 4:05 PM

Hi thefotografer

Well are you sure she was for real ?
Maybe she thought you wanted to kiss her and she didn't want to kiss you .

Honestly i haven't kissed anyone on the lips for over ten years , yes Brane if you read this i told you , i'm boring hehe.

Maybe she is just a little too concerned about germs .

Posted by: kittyspirit at November 23, 2007 3:57 PM

Girls and Guys… this is way off topic but I need some opinions on this.
I had a funny experience the other day .
I have been conversing with a penpal for a while now and have met her for coffee a few times.
I thought she was a bit on the extreme because her main topic of conversation was medical and disease.
I asked her when was the last time she had kissed somebody on the lips and she said two years ago and I asked why, and she said you can catch too many diseases and viruses from the saliva in kissing.
So I said, do you ask people to wear a condom on their mouth and she laughed.I then suggested that over her life time she must have kissed many people and been intimate as well to which she said yes, that is true.That being a given then she would have antibodies that have formed.okay?
Then there was the comment about parasites(not the human kind)
They live in our body and we all have them,but she commented that she had no parasites and did not want to get any.
So, my question is what is happening here is there some sort of problem emotionally with this person.

Girls???

Posted by: thefotografer at November 23, 2007 3:43 PM

mushie6 - OK, what else could we use a pole for? Lets see:
*pose for your own fireman's calendar
*hide your jewelry in it and use it as a pole vault

Posted by: woodnwine at November 23, 2007 2:53 PM

The next question OLDE is - what to do with those spare 15 minutes in each day? What is it they say about idle hands?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 23, 2007 2:49 PM

Woonwine, nah, didn't ask about facial myself, but the my little survey led to a discussion of facial hair.

A few people have mentioned that they like and get good responses from the 5 o'clock shadow. That's good news to me, because it means I can reduce my 6-hour grooming routine to 5 hours 45 mins for most days.

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at November 23, 2007 2:00 PM

Hey misswendyxx - do you really think I could improve my fitness just by watching women pole dance? Now there's food for thought. Would that be through working up a sweat?
OLDE - this could be similar to the gym principal where you go along just to watch and assist the women.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 23, 2007 1:16 PM

Poles have many other uses too. One that comes to mind is if you have a 2 storey house. Much quicker to get downstairs if in a hurry.

Posted by: mushie6 at November 23, 2007 1:09 PM

Love the pole dancing comment woodnwine (in the Summer Lovin Blog - responding here as it loads up quicker). Do you think that the installation of a pole could increase the resale value of your home. Might be worth looking at, not to mention a great way to get fit, replaces the need for a gym room too.

Posted by: misswendyxx at November 23, 2007 12:59 PM

Woooo...dnwine...an impressive level of tolerance of diversity! BTW lots of men don't respond to kisses either- I've got used to it. If we really want to get bothered, aren't there bigger things we could find ....

Thanks for the compliment about not personalsing my response to you, timewarp1: I don't do it and anyway it's ridiculous - have a look at all the things you said about me, you know, manhater, that's why you're on your own, blah blah - none of that's true anyway. You can't tell much about anyone from a few comments on a blog, as you so ably demonstrated yesterday.

And you are quite right of course timewarp 1, if I don't respond to all my kisses I'm not the right one for you, and if you get bothered by that you're not the right one for me. Except, frankly, I make these decisions on the basis of more serious matters, such as politics, (lack of) religion, emotional compatibility, etc. We all have filtering devices but I think using kiss responses to reject a person is trivial.

I do wonder how a man who calls women female dogs can seriously claim HE has been the victim of sexist savagery. That comment you made is the very definition of sexist savagery, which is why you got all the negative flak. We were protesting against sexist savagery because YOU committed it. (I have never been able to spell commitment, which is probably why I'm single). You could acknowledge that.

You can say what you like on here, rsvp willing, but so can anyone else. If you are abusive, as you were on this blog, you can expect the women and some of the men on here to stand up to you.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 23, 2007 12:52 PM

Dear waterbombe
Thanks for yours just posted, and especially for its calmness and lack of the sexist savagery of yours and others' responses to me yesterday, which wound me up to call you all for it last night, in no uncertain terms.

You and amuso are right. Different values for people of different generations. My complaint was that people of MY generation were selfishly misbehaving, by the standards of our generation, not yours.

I'm looking for my match