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That is so true! I love every aspect of the ad because it's just so funny. :) It will also entice the viewers to join, as curiosity will get the better of them. :)

Posted by: sweetashoney07 at November 7, 2007 3:56 PM

If Prime Minister Howard was bullied at school (because he was short, four-eyed and bushy eyebrowed,...i think that he has actually mentioned that he was..) he got his revenge, because now he has run the country for TEN years..and the people who bullied him are probably losers who eneded up in jail.!!

THAT was my point..bullies are losers...and the nerds often turn out to be those in power!

Very IRONIC don't you think??????

So let this be a lesson to the bullies on these blogs too!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 3, 2007 7:17 PM

OK, but what about the kind of men you encounter on the website?? 99% want sex on a plater, 1% want families desparately!

Posted by: unregisteredviews at November 2, 2007 8:58 AM

I always read everyone else's posts, "ornamentalonly".

I am a very fast reader and typer, so often there is only a few minutes between my postings, but I can assure you I am reading others postings in that time as well as posting my own!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 31, 2007 8:43 PM

Do you mean to say notdeadyet, that you're actually criticising our resident imposter who can't spell the name of his illustrious antecedents.

By the way, that is a rhetorical question (note the absence of a question mark,) so there's no need to answer.

Nor is there any need to repeat the phrase I just posted today on the blogs. But it's nice to see you're actually reading someone else's posts.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 31, 2007 8:21 PM

I reckon Prime Minister Howard was a bully at school, SLIMY. He doesn't need our sympathy. And he's certainly not getting my vote.

Posted by: waterbombe at October 31, 2007 8:01 PM

Oooh, nice comment BK. Thanks for the stuff, too -wink-

Posted by: wraecca at October 31, 2007 6:46 PM

Oh, that's bad. Imagine accidentally admitting you've looked at MySpace. And in public too. Ouch.

LOL ;-P

Posted by: brushkestrel at October 31, 2007 6:42 PM

To "Lordcholmandeley"....(why do people have such difficult names to remeber and spell???????)......My grandmother would say..."Ther is no rest for the wicked"..and "a women's work is never done".

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 31, 2007 4:40 PM

RSVP ads are appearing in banners on MySpace!

Shock! Horror!

There is NO escape for the wicked

Posted by: lordcholmondeley at October 31, 2007 12:36 PM

little johnnie will be looking for a new job come end of november

Posted by: chad1958 at October 30, 2007 8:14 PM

little johnnie will be looking for another job come nov 24

Posted by: chad1958 at October 29, 2007 7:52 PM

I love it!!

I think rsvp is great :)
its the next best thing
to a marital set by your family
only we do it for ourselves
go rsvp...

Posted by: lovetodance1958 at October 29, 2007 10:51 AM

Saying:.."Do not go where the path may lead,instead go where there is no path and leave no trail".

In other words, do not sucumb to peer group pressure,ignore bullies..

I bet Prime Minister Howard got bullied at school, for being short, four-eyed and short and nerdy!!! But where are the bullies that tormented him now?

Go little johnny! GO!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 27, 2007 11:24 PM

ooohhh rubyred dunno about about the Harley, theres something about the "Grunt" that l find strangely interesting.....k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 27, 2007 10:43 AM

To "Aliane"..keep praying for that miracle...you only need ONE man to be the right one! Forget the fools, liers and idiots! Hang in there!
After all, you don't want thousands..ONLY ONE!!!!

P>S> I give the same advice to myself!)

From.. "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 4:29 PM

Saw a comment about where are the real men.

I am a nice guy and im sure there are loads, yet the ones I tend to like want guys whith a bad streak in the, which i dont have. It is difficulty for a nice guy to find someone

Posted by: demonsfan at October 23, 2007 11:56 AM

totally agree with ALIANE. I have had the same experiences. Where are the real men? Adding onto ALIANE's comments - Men who are very overweight, 10 years older and have a Harley Davidson are also EXTREMELY UNATTRACTIVE... Ooh YUK!!!

Posted by: rubyred8 at October 23, 2007 9:29 AM

Both Ads are Great :)

Posted by: warmfeelingofjoy at October 20, 2007 8:37 PM

hi brilliantblue would you go out with the guy in the car? think theres a lot of differences between him and average members not good advertising

Posted by: chad1958 at October 20, 2007 6:18 PM

My God!....I think some of you need to lighten up....its only an add....not directed personally at you....we all need to laugh at the funny side of being back on the dating scene!
Couldn't agree more with Thelynathdiary about political correctness!

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 20, 2007 5:54 PM

Kransky, you left off the end bit...the lowest form of wit and the highest form of intelligence...the highest form of wit being political satire...since I talked about Canberra and political correctness and had a bit of a giggle..well draw your own conclusions....

Now, which school of Virtue do you favour?
I don't think you are big on the Roman virtue of Comitas..humour....

Why did you quote me (in your own tone of sarcasm) if you did not want a reply?
You have not yet answered my original question as to what you would prefer in an ad?

Truly Kransky, you are 36 so I could safely conclude you have been raised along with Political Correctness and therefore you will express the views you have been taught..the Canberra bit was a fortuitous thing for the political satire aspect of my high form of wit....

Political correctness is a restraint which stops freedom of expression and truth.

About your profile...I don't think I will need to "profile you"(let's leave that to forensics shall we) but just a hint..this is a public internet site and you have put a profile up to be looked at. I am here to look at profiles ...I think it would be more than a tad odd if I didn't look...

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 20, 2007 4:51 PM

that is VERY clever! will make even the most discerning of 'ad viewer' curious to at least watch it to the end. Wish I knew who handles your advertizing.
Since I have your attention for a moment - my opinion that you need an "Ambitions" heading in your profiles list.

Posted by: jestalot at October 20, 2007 12:39 PM

thelynathdiary,

You say I am "jaded" because I disagree with the advertisement. On the contrary, I still believe that virtue exists, that we should respect each other, and that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. You may have been brought up on different values, but it is not my place to judge.

You are free to look at my profile and (try) to profile me on account of my age/sex/location, but that might make some people think of you a tad odd.

Posted by: kransky at October 20, 2007 2:46 AM

Hi GratitudeGirl..sorry I missed you post Oct 9th.
Thanks for the kind words.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 18, 2007 10:59 PM

What a terrible ad. I'm so tired of this mentality that says that to get a laugh you have to put people down. Maybe more of us men will take RSVP's opinions to heart and determine that we aren't good enough, and drop out. Though how that helps women looking for men is anyone's guess. And if you think I'm being overly serious, remember when women first reacted to sexual prejudice with anger, they weren't taken seriously either. And then wait for the women's ad. By the same measure that should make 'fun' of their distorted behaviour due to worry about their bodies, and so on. We'll also need an equivalent about about their psychological issues too. Hilarious! No, it is not. Yet when appied to men, it is somehow supposed to be creative and witty. I think RSVP have seriously shot themselves in the foot. Good luck with that...

Posted by: ieightnothing at October 18, 2007 8:20 AM

Love the ad. RSVP instantly and unnaturally increases your chances with the opposite sex

Posted by: ancia at October 17, 2007 11:23 PM

There seems to be more positive comments now about both the new ads, instead of negative whinging that was going on before.

What a relief! About time!

from "Somelifeinmeyet'

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 17, 2007 7:56 PM

Good for a laugh, the proof of the pudding is in the eating of course..
The 'tools' part cracked me up.
Marty

Posted by: artymarty at October 17, 2007 6:48 AM

RIP The Man in Black? I know who won't be getting any flowers.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 16, 2007 8:45 AM

A better add (and more honest)would have been.

"Yes we have them too,but we give you a choice"

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 7:15 PM

Guys, I think RSVP have acted on the various complaints of the man-of-a-hundred-names, because I can't seem to find many of his blog entries from over the past couple of days, or at least his latest incarnation.

Thanks RSVP, I can say that most of us, if not all of us, are grateful.

Posted by: wraecca at October 15, 2007 7:02 PM

Ed: breaches of the RSVP terms and conditions will lead to members being banned from the blogs. Breaches may also result in profiles being suspended. Please refer to the RSVP terms and conditions (http://www.rsvp.com.au/help/termsConditions.jsp ) for more information.

Posted by: rsvpproducttest at October 15, 2007 11:05 AM

think its about time for a "sin bin "type scenario where the offending player is sent till he or she learns to modify their their opinions, and stops denigrating the other sex.

Blogs are for expressions of personal experiences and funny stories...................not personal attacks or stories that really do need professional attention to deal with their problems. (maybe something from their childhood)

nurseandpurse ...case in point...

stop the diatribes against women learn to be tolerant and get some help.........you are a truely troubled individual, and i am sure that if you were portrayed in any of the current CSI shows, the producers would make sure that you were interred in the end of the show.

Posted by: twoeyes at October 15, 2007 9:31 AM

Auntykaz: Ditto!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 14, 2007 5:09 PM

Come on RSVP you know this person constantly changes his profile, makes demeaning coments and now is calling females sluts. This is disgusting behaviour as l am sure most will agree.

We have all read the diatribe over the past several weeks, if he has a personal axe to grind don't do it here where we are all subject to it.

And an even shorter quote from the bible - Jesus!....k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 14, 2007 4:46 PM

Nurseandpurse: You are just plain vulgar! You know what they say about "playing with yourself"....If you don't stop it, you'll go...SENILE!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 14, 2007 4:29 PM

Please don't bother reacting to his (nurseandpurse) contributions to the blogs...he wants reactions and that is exactly what he is getting.
Rise above it...

Posted by: anaturallady at October 14, 2007 3:45 PM

I wonder at the persistance of nurseandpurse to return again & again to RSVP when it has become apparent that his regard for women is low. Perhaps he is not clued into the purpose of RSVP.....?

Who knows what motivates such misogyny? What experience shaped the man...?
In some cases it's worth the effort to explore motivations but in this case, pointless.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 14, 2007 2:16 PM

nurseandpurse

you are doing our tribe no favours with your caustic comments about the superficial nature of men when it comes to the mating game.

Whilst your intent might be to use a satirical/mocking/irony narrative voice to underscore the inherent gender stereotypes used in the advertising world (they'll use anything to sell a product) - and there may not be any equivalent commercial that portrays women in the way that the cougar ad portrays men - I'm not sure that your narrative take resonates here - and it may have the unintended effect of further reinforcing those stereotypes you are alluding too - catch 22?

Posted by: weta at October 14, 2007 1:00 PM

What a load of crap

Posted by: auntykaz at October 14, 2007 11:52 AM

ED,

I thought these blogs were being moderated for offensive comments.

I think that women on this site being referred to as sluts is highly offensive!!!!

Posted by: fefa63 at October 14, 2007 11:29 AM

Goodness me nursandpurse, your true colours show even more depth with the comment,

"Get a real slut for yourself off RSVP."

Now why don't you just stay home like a good boy and enjoy all the benefits you already have.

Even if it is just with a "blow up doll".

At least she won't answer you back.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 14, 2007 9:40 AM

Great pic……..loud shirt, laid back, loaded wrist… cheeky grin...what a hoot!!!!
Like gratitudegirl at October 9, can’t wait for the chick flick
Hhmmm can imagine ...
Beehive hair, lots of cleavage, lubra lips, a wink... a red hot convertible...whatever, I'm sure it will be a laugh too.

Posted by: anaturallady at October 13, 2007 10:58 PM

Hey, Wraecca - huge :)

Posted by: malsie at October 13, 2007 8:34 PM

i cant get the TV ad to show on my pc....growls loudly!

Posted by: justmefiona at October 13, 2007 5:37 PM

Wishingandhoping: You are not alone!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 13, 2007 5:29 PM

the gold bracelet looks good tho

Posted by: chad1958 at October 13, 2007 5:26 PM

Maybe Sir Les Patterson....I think his alter egos have been sending me kisses.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 13, 2007 5:22 PM

wishing&hoping: ditto with you on the guy in the car...do you think they could come up with anyone sleazier?

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 13, 2007 5:07 PM

To "Wishingandhoping2"..at least the guy in the car in the ad has a full head of wavy hair!..LOL!! I just LOVE a FULL head of hair on a man, (as I have long hair myself)

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 13, 2007 4:49 PM

Okay, we've waited the requisite week now.

Do we get to see the other ad yet?

Posted by: brushkestrel at October 13, 2007 2:45 PM

The guy in the car looks like every man who has ever been attracted to me in the past....could be why I am still single.

Love the ad and can't wait to see the ladies' version.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 13, 2007 2:08 PM

Hi Malsie,

Well, it looks as though your success *has* rubbed off on me, I've started talking to a fellow blogger, and we both think that there is that chemistry there...We've emailed, IM'd, and spoken over the phone/video chat....Now we just have to meet in person...Ooh, I'm nervous now...

Happy Hunting everyone!!

Posted by: wraecca at October 13, 2007 1:31 PM

That last guy pictured in the car above looks like all the guys who have ever been attracted to me in my life...could be why I am still single.Hmmm, just a thought.

I love the ad and think the female on ewill be equally great.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 13, 2007 9:09 AM

I still think that the new ad is really funny! It's on tV in the late evening for those who want to catch it!

(its certainly an improvement on those sleazy "call me" sex phone ads on late at night by other comapnies!!)

The R.S.V.p. ad is funny without being vulgar! ..Good work creative team!!

from.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 12, 2007 7:51 PM

Internet dating is just that - a site to meet other people and form a friendship or have some sort of social interaction.

Posted by: micky1000 at October 11, 2007 6:40 PM

Thanks, Wraecca, for your good wishes. I am happy and would happily allow that to rub off on you if it were possible! I've always found it encouraging when I've read on here of things going well with people met through rsvp, as a bit of an antidote from all the negative stuff that happens. So possibly it's useful from that point of view - hope so.

Finally got to see the ad and I loved it actually; thought it was funny, and also look forward to seeing the "female" version.

Posted by: malsie at October 10, 2007 10:58 AM

Hi Malsie
I'm glad that you are experiencing success with a relationship, I hope it continues to go well, and that you are happy. I can only hope that a little of the magic you are enjoying can rub off on me.
Take care,
Wraecca.

Posted by: wraecca at October 9, 2007 5:10 PM

Welcome back, Wraecca - glad you had a good time.
Things are indeed well with me at the moment. I've embarked on a thoroughly delightful relationship (through RSVP).

I agree with the sentiments expressed by pettyasyou (or my interpretation of the gist) re not wanting a relationship so as not to be "alone", and would add I would far rather "want" one than "need" one, and do indeed believe that to be the healthier way to view it. Having said that, I DO want one and am quite happy to acknowledge that, and that yes, indeed, as thelynathdiary says about RSVPers' motivation for being here, that is why I've been on this site. To have found such a lovely man, however long it lasts (for who can know that) has certainly enhanced my life in the last few weeks, and again I am quite happy to acknowledge that too! As others have said before who contribute to the blogs from time to time yet are no longer actively looking for a partner, I too like to still see what's going on for people and keep in touch.

Still haven't got to see ad, despite the best endeavours of a friend to aid me in that regard, so apologies for not being able to comment on the topic in hand.

Posted by: malsie at October 9, 2007 4:54 PM

me? Find it hilarious. Don't all us guys imagine we're all one of the "5". Least I know I don't have a bad haircut. Ladies you know it's all true. Of the 40 women in the ACT that have used rsvp in the last 2months and match my perfect partner categories I have only had contact with 10 and met 2. Met 2, thats 1 in 20, or 5 in 100. Ad works or me.

Posted by: faolan at October 9, 2007 3:38 PM

No, Pretty, I did not mean fear of being alone as in fear being alone in a big scary house with a bogeyman outside(although ,hey... that is not a bad fantasy..then a man dressed only in a ..oh never mind......)
Alright replace the word fear with need..need not to be alone. I think it safe to say that everyone on rsvp is motivated to be here by a basic human need to belong or connect to social groups or other human beings. Most hope they will find a partner and not feel alone or lonely, but rather acceptance and love and a sense of belonging. It has nothing to do with how well you know yourself or how well you cope as an individual. It is not about fear of social failure(although that can be part of it for some people) All relationships are about the need and motivation not to be alone.
The fear you mention regarding staying in abusive relationships is more to do with self esteem issues as well as practicalities which provide freedom of choice.

I am not clear on your point about sperm donors.

Are you saying that any man a woman finds via rsvp is not capable of being a present, great father? Are they somehow inferior men? Are the men and women who meet via rsvp of lower intelligence, morals, standards than people who have met elsewhere? That they will accept anything or anyone for the sake of it?
If a biologial clock is getting close to alarm time then what sense would there be in not exploring every opportunity including internet dating? There are no second chances.
Finally, there are no guarantees in life no matter how carefully you plan and hope and dream.
The man you think will be the best will often turn out differently when reality is at play.
Women take note...there are no perfect men(just as there are no perfect women) Do not put your life on hold or miss opportunities waiting for perfection to show up. It won't happen and one day you will realise that life has passed by. Life is a series of risks, but you have to take some to really live.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 9, 2007 2:33 PM

Maybe they will do both..get more people in..equals more money..leads to improved service!!?????????

The blogs have already speeded up!!! (Thanks management!!)

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 9, 2007 1:30 PM

I think you should be spending money improving your customer service response times before you spend it on advertising.

Posted by: simparadox at October 9, 2007 10:20 AM

If it brings more people in for you to meet, why complain..(I see many are).

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 9, 2007 9:44 AM

I thought that the ad was funny, and quite true, (about a bar not being the place to meet the best of men.)
Congratulations to the creators of the ad!

From "Somelifeinmeyet'

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 9, 2007 9:31 AM

Oh. And PS. I really loved the ad, and can't wait for the female version too.

Posted by: gratitudegirl at October 9, 2007 7:40 AM

Prettyasyou & TheLynathDiary (btw, welcome back P, thank the goddess!)

I'm really enjoying the ambivalence you two have drawn out in me. On one hand I'm the first to jump on my feminist high horse (still racing and not got the sniffles yet) about subliminal messages of fear that paralyse women and keep them subjugated and manageable. Fully understand what you are saying (and Prettyasyou, trust, me TLD has championed women's issues big time on these blogs, you are amongst friends here).

However, I think what TLD draws out here is really important, that humour is crucial tool in managing the fears that many of us do experience. PAY, you demonstrate formidable mastery of your fears, awesome. But many happy relationships acknowledge the fears and insecurities and deal with them with humour. Of course, that's "fear" with a small "f", not "Fear" with a big "F". As TLD as stated, laughing at the stereotypes doesnt prevent fighting the big fights of discrimination. Keep it coming...

Posted by: gratitudegirl at October 9, 2007 7:38 AM

ALL of us are here because we fear being alone? Jeez. OK, being new to these blogs I may have missed that you are qualified to speak for everyone here, but you're not qualified to speak for me. I am my own best friend, as I discovered much to my delight when my marriage ended. Fear is NEVER a decider in anything important I do in life (except perhaps crossing the road, wearing high stilettos on rainy nights and suchlike), and most certainly not in relationships. Furthermore, I don't know of any happy relationship that was founded on fear of being alone. Fear of being alone is, in fact, one of the biggest reasons why people stay in unhappy, abusive relationships.

I'm aware of the parody. I'm also aware of the psychological buttons that advertisers push. I've both studied advertising and media at length and worked in the industries, and much as we may disagree about the content of the ad there is no denying the psychological manipulation that's at play here. It's an effective ad and I have no doubt it'll encourage droves and droves of people to be proactive about finding a partner on the Internet; I just disapprove of the messages they're using to do so.

And sure: women do have a "biological use-by date" but what do these women want? Sperm donors or actual present fathers for the children they have? I'm thinking that in most cases it's the latter. And for the latter, you have to be willing to take the time to find the right man, the one who will last the distance, no matter how loud that clock may be ticking.

Women's issues? Why not? I don't know whether you've noticed, but there's nothing on God's green Earth that ISN'T "women's issues". Or men's, for that matter.

Posted by: prettyasyou at October 9, 2007 12:38 AM

kayperz..it is not real , it is only an ad and it is only loosely based on some statistics.
There are no statistics as far as I know on how many man have BO or bad haircuts....Besides that could have been a slow night at the bar..the next night there could have been a hundred guys in there...all straight and sweet smelling... there are more than five suitable men in the world for you, don't worry..

prettyasyou..fear mentality? ...but isn't that why we are all here...fear of being alone? It might just encourage someone to do something about it.(which of course is the aim of the RSVP accountants) and wouldn't that be a good thing? The background music is very similar to some recent documentaries about lifestyle and human behaviour..I think it is just parodying ..but even if the subliminal message is as you say about "time passing" it cannot be denied that women do have a reproductive use by date and it becomes harder to find a partner the more we age especially given the latest statistics on male /female ratio's.

Good God! RSVP have produced a public service announcement on women's issues!

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 8, 2007 11:36 PM

Personally, I really liked the add. I found it to be a bit of light hearted humour that takes away the whole "seediness" of internet dating, just a fun way to meet people.

Posted by: frillyfloralfrock71 at October 8, 2007 11:19 PM

Yeah, it's funny, but the humour serves to divert attention from some really horrendous messages there. It's denigrating to men, it's encouraging the fear mentality, and... what's that I hear in the background? Is it a "tick tock tick tock"? What's ticking, people? The biological clock? Or the woman's beauty use-by date? Ach. Gimme a break.

Posted by: prettyasyou at October 8, 2007 10:39 PM

RSVP Sorry I was unable to download the ad too.

I think you'll lose out on a lot of potential feedback due to who ever the geek was that set it up for you. No Malsie I don't think it was your computer with the problem.
Unless it's aired on SBS I probably won't get to see it either. Doesn't really though does it? I'm already a customer.

Posted by: metaphor at October 8, 2007 10:09 PM

The advertisement can be taken either way; as amusing, or insulting, it all depends on how we look at ourselves. Can we take the micky out of ourselves, and not take ourselves so seriously? If so, I think people will laugh. However, if people take themselves too seriously, and can't see the light-hearted poking-fun-at-you tone, then they will not find this ad at all amusing. I can't wait to see the one from the male point of view.

Malsie, thanks for the salute, I'm back from holidays now. I went to Victoria and visited my parents, I enjoyed myself. The holiday was over too quickly, though. Hope all is well with you.

Happy Hunting everyone!!

Posted by: wraecca at October 8, 2007 8:38 PM

Kransky and wnw..I suppose it depends on how your view the world, If you are a glass half full person you could see the ad as positive, I do. It says although there are obstacles in the path of the search(statistical evidence eg married /gay/old/young etc) there are new and modern ways to meet a SUITABLE partner. That is a very positive message to me. That some statistics may be negative for women is just stating factual evidence to make a point that the odds are not always high. Knowledge is power isn't it? You have the knowledge so you take appropriate action ...that is how successful people operate. That has to be a positive.
Insecurity sells? Yes it does,you are right again, it has sold everything from toilet paper to Chanel handbags over time...however, my comment reflects that in these modern times consumers are more than aware of the sales pitch and psychological manipulation...and yet we still like to buy into the dream...

I am concerned at your 36 year old jadedness(is that a word?)...you too Woody..
political correctness has gone to far...I suppose you have been immersed it in from boyhood Kransky..living in Canberra would not help either...
let's learn to laugh again at ourselves, with ourselves and about ourselves and our human imperfections and while we are at it stop the boring stultification of thoughts and ideas and freedom of expression that has taken over in recent times. There is a difference between taking up the fight for serious discriminatory causes and enjoying a bit of harmless fun which in this instance pokes fun at a few stereotypes. The test for discrimination is to ask the question "Would the average person find this offensive?" I doubt it. I will laugh even harder at the female version..particularly if it includes one of my own shortcomings.

Comedians for hundreds of years have used human behaviour or steroetypes to get a laugh.
And do you know what? those male actors who have agreed to be in the commercial are also laughing...all the way to the bank.

I am curious though Kransky as to what your ideal ad would be

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 8, 2007 8:17 PM

Thanks woodnwine..i intent too, Life is full of possibilities and i know he's out there somewhere!!

Posted by: daisiesandsunshine at October 8, 2007 5:27 PM

Kransky and wnw..I suppose it depends on how your view the world, If you are a glass half full person you could see the ad as positive, I do. It says although there are obstacles in the path of the search(statistical evidence eg married /gay/old/young etc) there are new and modern ways to meet a SUITABLE partner. That is a very positive message to me. That some statistics may be negative for women is just stating factual evidence to make a point that the odds are not always high. Knowledge is power isn't it? You have the knowledge so you take appropriate action ...that is how successful people operate. That has to be a positive.
Insecurity sells? Yes it does,you are right again, it has sold everything from toilet paper to Chanel handbags over time...however, my comment reflects that in these modern times consumers are more than aware of the sales pitch and psychological manipulation...and yet we still like to buy into the dream...

I am concerned at your 36 year old jadedness(is that a word?)...you too Woody..
political correctness has gone to far...I suppose you have been immersed it in from boyhood Kransky..living in Canberra would not help either...
let's learn to laugh again at ourselves, with ourselves and about ourselves and our human imperfections and while we are at it stop the boring stultification of thoughts and ideas and freedom of expression that has taken over in recent times. There is a difference between taking up the fight for serious discriminatory causes and enjoying a bit of harmless fun which in this instance pokes fun at a few stereotypes. The test for discrimination is to ask the question "Would the average person find this offensive?" I doubt it. I will laugh even harder at the female version..particularly if it includes one of my own shortcomings.

Comedians for hundreds of years have used human behaviour or steroetypes to get a laugh.
And do you know what? those male actors who have agreed to be in the commercial are also laughing...all the way to the bank.

I am curious though Kransky as to what your ideal ad would be

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 8, 2007 5:19 PM

I think the ad is great in some ways... a little concerning in others... out of the 50% of humans who are available to me [meaning men!] only FIVE out of that percentage are suitable, none of which I would be able to meet at a bar...?! I think that people need to feel more positive about themselves and how they meet others. And not just rely solely on RSVP or other related sites in order to meet people. It should give you the confidence and open up doors for you whilst you ARE out at a bar... and to daisiesandsunshine, you are ONE VERY BEAUTIFUL WOMAN! I am sorry to hear your heart has been broken... mine very recently too. Chin up! Keep smiling and know you'll meet someone wonderful! xx

Posted by: kayperz at October 8, 2007 12:55 PM

daisiesandsunshine - I hope someone will come along soon and make you forget all about your previous bad experience. Keep your heart and your mind open, don't stay in the past for too long.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 8, 2007 9:57 AM

Not very flattering to men is it? Maybe we deserve it but it is pretty negative. Will there be a similar one about women? If so, I wonder how the average woman will be portrayed? Maybe a more positive slant on things would be better.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 8, 2007 9:55 AM

I agree; ad is great and quite true; as its hard to find that needle in the old haystack!!But even with RSVP's help i still meet the wrong men!!
Don't know about any of you out there but i feel like such a loser sometimes!!.......sorry; just feeling a little sorry for myself;bit wounded as had a relationship with someone from "here" for almost two years; but it just wasn't going to work out.
Even though i know it's for the best it still hurts.But i guess i will dust myself off and keep on trying ..but after i'm a bit stronger.
Yes i know what your all thinking...Why then if she's not ready to meet someone does she have her profile up????.(this is what my girlfriend has said to me;and i know it to be true.)
Well my answer is that i ...just don't know!!!Maybe someone special will send me the kiss i need..i don't know!.Life can be tough sometimes.

Posted by: daisiesandsunshine at October 7, 2007 5:50 PM

The ad's cleverly done with a clear message to women of evaluating the odds. However commercially, apart from a little branding of the RSVP name, I see that the ad will ultimately be helping the online dating industry as a whole, rather than RSVP individually.

Would have been nice to see a direct benefit built in for choosing RSVP rather than the online dating concept.

Still, good production! I like it.

Posted by: ziger at October 7, 2007 9:47 AM

Frankly, it is ghastly. A negative advertisement appealing to negative emotions. And I doubt 'evening the score' by denigrating women (60% are overweight, 20% are money grubbers and the rest are just plain psycho) would make this campaign any less sordid.

"The ad also had me believing that I am the women, with the same chances as she does..."

yup, insecurity sells.

Posted by: kransky at October 7, 2007 3:24 AM

Couldn't see the video as l had trouble downloading it....not as clever as l thought l was obviously. or maybe l am too tired after watching Austrlia lose to England in the Rugby Union World Cup.
Oh well least l can go to bed earlier next Saturday night..............k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 7, 2007 1:20 AM

Thanks, hiddencharms, for your comments re the new man - and I totally hear you about your mother - I'd have been exactly the same re my dad (mum's now married to a man who treats her well and she's happy with, but no amount of money or any incentive of any kind would have had me live under the same roof as my father again!).

Reading these comments about the ad has got me even me more intrigued than before - will have to look out for it on TV obviously.

Posted by: malsie at October 6, 2007 9:17 PM

I love the ad, it's bright and very funny and I would think pretty true. I'm really looking forward to seeing the female one. This should all be a happiy experience for everyone and I believe only the individual can make it that way.

Posted by: iaminperth at October 6, 2007 1:16 PM

Hi RSVP, Dug the ad! I'm thinking David Attenborough should get royalties for people parodying his documentary style so much. ;) But hey, it worked (i.e., reminded me how much I am missing out on compatible partners due to seldom meeting new people through 'normal' channels). I am looking forward to seeing the female version (and if I am offended by it). :) By the way, I think if any men are offended by this ad, I'd say it's somewhat valid. There are indeed negative stereotypes of men portrayed here, although one might notice that this stuff is already pretty prevalent in popular culture. Just for starters, the 'overcompensation' joke is referenced in Shrek (taking a leaf from Freudian psychoanalysis?); the 'tool' stereotype in The Wedding Singer (take your pick as to which one is the biggest), and the notion of the mother complex is exemplified in The Simpsons (in Principal Skinner). I think most people would consider these narratives to be pretty innocuous (perhaps the gender stereotypes are presented in such a farcical manner that they cannot be taken seriously). I certainly didn't take this ad that seriously, and always believe that 'toolism' (in real life - not a Hollywood comedy) is always in the eye of the beholder. :) So in the end, for me, it didn't make me look down on men.

Posted by: qwerty26 at October 6, 2007 12:30 PM

It did appeal to my sense of humour. It was the obvious play on stereotypes combined with the "pseudo human behavioural/ scientific research project" voiceover(is he married?) that worked and ensures that you have to love it, relate to it and of course agree that statistics and everyone else are to account for your singledom...nothing to do with you..... Can't wait to see the female stereotypes in the next ad.

All the male negatives are exactly what we have talked about in the blogs...RSVP your research and pr company must love the blogs...
The ad also had me believing that I am the women, with the same chances as she does...and hell, if I wasn't already a member I would race to the computer and join!
Apart from that...didn't know we drove on the left in OZ....

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 6, 2007 12:03 PM

whoops I think I messed up on my first blog.Just joined, might be new but also wise. Not looking for mr perfect making new friends around my age would be nice.So for all the men, There is a good reason . no photo. You may be very surprised. Some profiles sound to good to be true. Sure some are social drinkers, but are they. Smelling of alcohol is just as bad as having the odd cigarette,and if I feel the need to I will. Do not copy other members, be yourself sooner or later the real you will be exposed .Have fun.And thats ok if no one contacts me without a photo ..

Posted by: nova777 at October 6, 2007 10:59 AM

Ok we've seen the male ad.. can't wait to see the female one. The mind boggles.

Posted by: mushie6 at October 6, 2007 9:29 AM

I am going to lose my prime time slot on the Comedy Channel if you keep that up

Posted by: tequieroputa at October 6, 2007 7:08 AM

Malsie: A man, huh? Enjoy the moment...hope all goes OK...

It's the other way around with the parent thing...My Dad on his own I would take, any time, for any reason.......My mother... I would eat glass and die a painful death before I even discussed the notion....because that is what life with her would be...emotional and psychological pain, misery and suffering...No thanks....child and I have far too much going for us to go back to that clapp trapp....

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 5, 2007 10:31 PM

I hope this comment doesn't pop up twice - I stuffed up a bit somewhere, I fear!

Just wanted to say, I couldn't access the video, which was a pity as I wanted to (my computer to blame, I think). Also, that at the moment, having met someone through rsvp in the last couple of months (and inadvertently through the blogs), that I imagine I'd be more than positive in my comments to do with all things rsvp - not a hint of negativity in sight..... sigh.

As Kalliope (I believe it was) so eloquently said a while back, it's good to enjoy the moments, and I'm enjoying the moments, and that feels good!!!!

By the way, like your new profile, woodnwine.

Happy springing to you too, Junebaby - and Hiddencharms, totally saw where you were coming from re your parents wanting to come to live with you..... I would be saying to mum, "Mum, now look at me, look at me - I've got one word to say to you - no." Her on her own if her old man moves on, fine - but both of them together? Absolutely no way....

David, hope all is going well with you, and datelessnotdesperate, hope you're recovering well from whatever it was that happened - an accident, was it?

Hoping you're having a fun time wherever you are too, Wraecca.. no doubt will be seeing you back here soon, I trust.
Enjoying reading your comments too, trumanscat, as always.

Posted by: malsie at October 5, 2007 10:06 PM

This ad is fantastic! well done. It shows the true benefit of RSVP - that it is really hard to meet someone in the 'normal' way and using RSVP is 'beating the odds'. Love it. (its funny to)

Posted by: caramilk at October 5, 2007 9:23 PM

LMAO. The ad made me giggle. Thanks!

Looking forward to seeing the second ad too :)

Posted by: freckleseverywhere at October 5, 2007 8:00 PM

gee i hope the guy in the sports car isnt portrayed as an average member he reminds me of a slimey car salesmen. note the gold bracelet and also warren41 comes to mind

Posted by: chad1958 at October 5, 2007 7:40 PM

Gosh the odds aren't that bad are they??
Seriously though, I think it is tacky and puts men down. Surely RSVP you can do better than that!

Posted by: mushie6 at October 5, 2007 6:47 PM

hmmm .. I am with you Fefa.. can hardly wait until they turn up... I didn't like the ad.. partly because I feel like it was a bit of a go at men.. and um aren't men part of rsvp and looking too??

[Ed: we should have made clear, we're going to be running a male ad and a female ad. The female ad is ready first, so we thought we'd post that now...]

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 5, 2007 6:19 PM

What happened to our new, revamped Over 40s site....????

[Ed: It's not a small project. We will be releasing a blog soon, and then a bunch of new features in the coming months....]

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 5, 2007 6:14 PM

I think it is all "hocus pocus".....media and HR to draw you in....The preview sux...The guy in the pic at the top is a fair indication of the Mr Schmooze that we all ignore.....

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 5, 2007 5:49 PM

Really funny, can hardly wait until my 5 men have joined RSVP!!!!

Jenny :)

Posted by: fefa63 at October 5, 2007 5:48 PM