RSVP Blog
The first phone call
RSVP is keen to find out how long it takes before you make the first call to a potential date.
Do you part with your number easily? Are you concerned about sending your number to someone you haven't met? If RSVP offered anonymous calling, would you use it?
Posted September 6, 2007 5:13 PM
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romanceme4ever @ Nov21...
You would like to take your profile off...
so bring the subject up.
Then you'll know how he feels about it...
won't you.
love, peace & straight talking
decoratress
Posted by: decoratress at November 22, 2007 11:42 PM
I need some advice..I have been dating a man for nearly 7 weeks now and would like to take my profile off as I am not seeing anyone new because of him.Do I wait for him to say lets take our profiles off or suspend them or do I bring the subject up?
Posted by: romanceme4ever at November 21, 2007 12:37 PM
Woodnwine: That first phone call was local, not std....
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 21, 2007 12:08 AM
I soooo agree with jovial67 band lorainer's comments.
In the past I would do the send may emails thing, then maybe MSN , then phone calls, before even the 1st coffee meeting. I thought it was a way to build up an idea of if I could like and trust the guy. I did this with some guys this year, one was about 2 months before we met, and it didn't work out, once we met.
But, lets face it, they are still strangers until you actually meet them, and so many times, when I did meet them, it was a huge let down. They used old photo's, 2 guys lied about thier age (yes men lie about age too) and marital status, as in still married!! One lied about his height and hair colour, he was mostly bald and grey, not red, maybe 20 years ago for the red!!
So now I do the kiss, email or msn thing, phone call and meet within about 2-3 days, at most a week. That way you don't have time to build up a possibly incorrect image of the person. Then if it isn't right for you , you can move on easily and quickly. Sometimes you can tell from a phone call that it isn't right for you, if the phone call goes well, then coffee within a day or so.
I have found that this way is working much better for me. I don't build up any pre conceived ideas. It is no different to meeting a guy at the pub, club, restaurant or christmas party.
Good luck all....jewels
ps..profile is hidden at the moment, no ulterior motives or multiple personalities going on!!!
Posted by: junebaby57 at November 19, 2007 12:38 PM
jpkool - and who would that be?
Posted by: woodnwine at November 19, 2007 11:56 AM
I agree with everything you have said here jovial67.
There has to be that chemistry or, at least, a bit of a slow burning spark. It's like a loss if you have built up a cyber relationship for weeks only to be let down by the real thing....
Posted by: lorainer at November 18, 2007 4:14 PM
Getting back to the original topic of this blog, personally, I like to make contact via phone asap rather than wait weeks corresponding via email or chat. And, provided all goes well on the phone, I also like to meet asap. The reason for this is that, on so many occasions, I've hit it off with someone only to meet them face-to-face and be disappointed by their appearance. It's amazing how different some people look in the flesh as opposed to photo's in their profile. It may sound shallow, but for me at least, looks count for a lot when it comes to being struck by cupids arrow.
Posted by: jovial67 at November 18, 2007 4:00 PM
Brissie turned on some fine weather for bbq and drinks this afternoon/evening. Nice time to mix and mingle - if you have the hostess-with-the mostess.
Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 12:28 AM
Hi twoeyes - nice to see you finally on the blogs.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 16, 2007 6:43 PM
Hi junebaby57 - sounds good to me. Chill everybody and enjoy life (in the rain forest).
Posted by: woodnwine at November 16, 2007 6:41 PM
too true and wasnt nekked also said in a fairly recent movie, by some well known black actor..... denzel or eddie or someone like that?????????
Posted by: twoeyes at November 16, 2007 11:40 AM
tis a night for skinny dipping indeed!
Posted by: whatcomesnext at November 15, 2007 10:01 PM
lets get back to talking about running nekked thru the rain forest, or tulips (god I laughed the first time I read that expression, nekked) and travelling in the flower power kombi van, lets get back to the fun stuff.
it is such a lovely hot night tonite. Too hot for arguing, make love not war.
jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at November 15, 2007 9:12 PM
men are from mars women are from venus....................says it all really
Posted by: twoeyes at November 15, 2007 11:52 AM
thefotografer - I sure am glad that someone else is completely perplexed as to what ornamentalonly is going on about. Maybe men and women really do speak a different language because I have no idea what she wants from me.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 11:47 AM
ornamnetal only
what is your actual problem?
you seem to be going around in circles.
people have made helpful suggestions to you but it is as if they are talking to a brick wall
nothing is sinking in or you are not taking any advice
Posted by: thefotografer at November 15, 2007 9:54 AM
Ornamentalonly - why are you continuing to beat around this bush? Where are all these comments going - I am sorry but I just don't understand. Please explain.
If you have something you wish to say to me, just say it - either on here or if you prefer by email. Lots of people can tell you how to contact me or you can work it out for yourself. I am willing to listen and do what I can to appease you - for what ever it is that I have done, but please tell me.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 9:48 AM
Obscure cowardice demonstrated yet again and trying to gather support.
Soooo manly. Not.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 2:08 AM
I am afraid woodnwine that you have committed the mortal sin of being male
Quae nocent, saepe docen
Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 1:59 AM
I never said I was complaining. Do get your facts straight.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 1:53 AM
OO then I'm not sure what you are complaining about. I am a genuine person trying to contribute to these blogs. I am trying to maintain a sense of humour whilst being polite to people and keeping some vague form of reality going when many other genuine blooggers have given up due to all the goings on lately. What problem do you actually have with me? I'm sorry but I don't know.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 1:34 AM
woodnwine at November 14, 2007 11:56 PM,
I never once said you were scamming.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 1:19 AM
OO - think what you like, people (that is real people) know me and I am not scamming anyone. So what if I have a profile on myspace? I have friends on myspace and they don't go on with all the crap that happens on here. Try it, it is real and non-intimidating, a nice community where people speak the truth to each other. OK, it's not a dating site but it works and there are nice people on there.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 11:56 PM
Repeated for the sake of an amnesiac....
So woodnwine, you now have a character on MySpace.com with the spelling exactly as you have on here.
Have you joined forces with the originator of the previous WoodnWhine on MySpace.com that our resident MIB had copied exactly from your RSVP profile?
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 14, 2007 10:33 PM
woodnwine: tear yourself away from OO and go to What to Say in a Kiss and help organise our bris-blog night....
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 14, 2007 8:38 PM
Quite obviously, your amnesia needed reminding.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 14, 2007 8:27 PM
OO - I answered you elsewhere.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 7:56 PM
Re post by: kickit4me at November 13, 2007 6:46 PM.
I find your comment quite UNforthcoming.
A bit like your INvisible profile.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 14, 2007 7:49 PM
Re: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 9:12 AM.
I was just referring to your own countless comments in these blogs towards the MIB, when he had your MySpace WoodnWhine profile going.
Personally, I lost count.
Just thought you may have remembered, that is all.
And developed some empathy for others along with your own experience.
Plainly not.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 14, 2007 7:45 PM
sexylittleshorty - just go ahead and let someone else use your name, quid pro quo.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 10:01 AM
OO - sorry, I don't know what you mean about blogging while my fake profile was up on myspace. Am I a bit slow? Probably.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 9:12 AM
Just thought I'd come on and check out some blogs... read for about half an hour... then forgot what the blog was supposed to be about... oh, the first call, that's right... was starting to think this was just a site for everyone to put other bloggers down!!! Get on with the subject already... personally I don't like it when a guy asks for my phone number straight away, or asks me to ring him... i'd prefer to chat online a bit first, to see if we really do have anything in common.
Posted by: babybaby1970 at November 14, 2007 12:31 AM
someones using my name but with a y on the end omg that sux
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 13, 2007 10:14 PM
no we are not the same gees get over it hey i app for the capps
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 13, 2007 10:12 PM
Notmuchcharm? Could charm the pants right off me! What about you?
Posted by: jpkool at November 13, 2007 9:16 PM
Is "Sexylittleshortie" "Somelifeinmeyets" daughter? they seem to be inflicted with the same yelling problem!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 13, 2007 9:04 PM
All I did was send some kisses to introduce myself. Just for the record, I would show fellow rsvpers more respect and discretion than to pass on photo passwords to others. Obviously istj54 does not have the same integrity, or she would not have made the comment.
Posted by: jpkool at November 13, 2007 9:02 PM
woodnwine at November 13, 2007 8:49 AM -upset?
Like I said before in Does Hollywood influence bad behaviour?
>"How many posts did you write when what'shisnamethisweek had your spoof profile up in MySpace, woodnwine?"
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 8:42 PM
IDTH54: Why on earth would I want your password...??? If I was interested enough in you as a blogger, I would ask....
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 7:16 PM
Re Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 4:01 AM
That post was just UN......whatever.
Posted by: kickit4me at November 13, 2007 6:46 PM
Did I just get called "notmuchcharm"???
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 6:34 PM
JPKool sent me a kiss too, perhaps he's having a summer sale....and to think I suspected he was after my password to give to Notmuchcharm..silly me.
Posted by: istj54 at November 13, 2007 6:23 PM
Brilliantblue: JP is an old friend, um ex...a scruffy looking one a the moment...but harmless enough...Seriously, he's not trying to mess with anyone...but he does need a shave and a haircut!
I think he was just trying to let people know that he was real...not one of dogsbreathe's myriad of cyber characters...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 6:21 PM
Hiddenscharms who is this jpkool...he sent another kiss this morning?
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 13, 2007 6:17 PM
I know! "Somelifeinmeyet" has been resurrected!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 13, 2007 6:14 PM
Brilliantblue: I think there was a costume change going on in the wee hours, this morning...Aw shucks! I missed it!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 6:08 PM
JPKool: What did you do, boof, scare everyone to death with your ugly phiz..??
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 6:06 PM
OO: The scruffy looking JPKool is JP...You know - the long blog of way back...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 6:05 PM
sexyshortthingy - and what was it you saw in Jethro exactly? Yourself maybe? Stop yanking our chains woman.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 4:37 PM
well buy some its not hard
Posted by: twoeyes at November 13, 2007 9:30 AM
this is unfair lol kisses are pointless here if you dont have stamps i dont have any and he dont lol
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 13, 2007 9:25 AM
omg someone gotta help me now he is online i cant get hold of him his name is sethro1 lol
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 13, 2007 9:23 AM
sexylittleshorty - you shout a lot! Why? We can hear you without shouting.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 8:52 AM
hiddencharms - yes, hats must definitely be banned, that's a given. I am also thinking we should ban moustaches (after Movember, of course) so some of the blogging ladies will also be excluded - you know the ones I mean. You are right about many things you have said about this community evolving and some of the reasons. All is well that ends well so OO, join in and have fun like funlovertoo is or you will only upset yourself unnecessarily.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 8:49 AM
ornamental...thanks for the "blog bore" credit. I did apply it to myself one day when I did a lot of posts.
Maybe go to another church?
Posted by: funlovertoo at November 13, 2007 6:19 AM
I THINK IT I COULD USE IT RIGHT NOW LOL , I DONT USUALLY PART WITH A NUMBER EASY UNLESS I REALLY KNOW WHAT I WANT , if i click with someone and it happens lol ...id have to say yes i would use it .... why cant new members be allowed 1 or 2 short message emails
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 13, 2007 6:13 AM
Ornamental
Try going to church for the Kraft (as in "Kan't remember a..." about the whole scenario.)
You're a big girl now.
The public only worries about priests/pastors and kiddies.
Posted by: ageinghippie at November 13, 2007 5:34 AM
Okay, this was something nice that happened to me (now yesterday).
Got a phone call (while I was out on that wonderful-not customer job,) from my "mum" from craft/church worrying about why I hadn't been for the last week.
I eventually told her about the Pastor incident and asked if she and her husband, my "dad" would be a contact for me if the pastor ever wants to "find" me again outside my usual twice-weekly presence in "his church".
I usually go there for craft during the week and to be with friends on Sunday.
My second "mum" was totally understanding and very supportive.
Nice to know I will have this second "mum" of mine and her husband's (my second "dad") support later on this morning when I go to craft...
Ummm yeah...craft-with-the-Pastor-present, maybe that's part of the reason why I'm still not sleeping and its nearly 3am...besides the odd little misplaced dog turd within the blogs...hang on, those little droppings have probably helped me not think too much of how I will handle this morning's "appearance".
Okay, this "blog bore" (FL2 coined the phrase -let it not be said I don't acknowledge my sources, no matter where it comes from!) is now going to bed with a book -that helps get me to sleep along with a cup of tea.
Speaking of tea along with little dogs droppings, I just remembered, tea's meant to be good for ridding dogs of worms...
Let it not be said that I don't try to be of help.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 4:58 AM
I've had a wonderful month (topped off this morning by a customer) really spiffing -absolutely not :-(
...and now another lot of tripe that I don't need...
I do believe dog's breath is gathering at least one old, drooling, woof (translate that to the female kind) fan...
I just posted the following in Biggest Turn Offs: Butts, bad breath & smokers kisses -with references to Does Hollywood influence bad behaviour?, Summer Lovin' and Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook?
">A turn off?
I just posted the following in Does Hollywood influence bad behaviour? with parts referring to Summer Lovin' and Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook?
>If Hollywood influences bad behaviour, be wary of aspiring politicians-hoping-to-be.
>With reference to Posting by: funlovertoo at November 11, 2007 10:58 PM in Summer Lovin',
>again I find it ironic that while she's talking about being upset by someone else's post and then she openly states in,
"Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook?
* Posted by: funlovertoo at November 12, 2007 6:10 AM
>"OrnaMentalAsAnything may not be for real, given last night's posts, but does it matter in the sunny light of day?"
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>OrnamentalOnly -yes, I am me and no-one else.
I've been upset by this character's Funlovernot's accusation and will post my reply from
Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook:
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OrnamentalOnly:
">Excuse me funlovertoo at November 12, 2007 6:10 AM???
What exactly do you mean?
Quite ironic coming from you (if, indeed, it is) as previously you made the comment about me being too honest...
* Posted by: Ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 12:57 AM
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>"By the way, the people who've spoken to me (or seen my pics,) don't worry about confirming ANYTHING to "Fun"lovertoo...she seems to be quite fond of our residential reincarnator ageinghippy aka what'shisnamethisweek.
Associations such as that, can't help but muddy the waters and dirty the hands of anyone who touches it.
* Posted by: Ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 1:05 AM
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>Final thought:
Imagine such lacks in discernment being inflicted on us not only through Hollywood but politics as well?
>Oops, maybe "Fun"lovertoomany has already demonstrated her "suitability" - for the political habit of slagging.
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>Yes, I am upset.
Yes, perhaps I shouldn't be reacting but I am human.
>There is nothing ambiguous about my honesty in what I post or for that matter, from what I've written in my profile.
>Nor is there any doubt that I will defend myself when my integrity is questioned.
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Not hard to guess which witch is never going to get a phone call let alone a vote, from me.
After all, ageinghippy/Earl/what'shisnamethisweek licker doesn't believe I'm real anyway.
P.S. hiddencharms, on the subject of old, I do stand by my comment of the multi-profiler character's birthday falling in the 1940's. Like I said, it is an educated guess. Would that be funnyknickerstoo's era, also?
Or, does the "card carrying romantic" -despiser of the right wing...fall all over (or under if it had the chance?) a character who is a member of the right wing establishment when it says it's an "Earl", "Lord" and has a daughter hooked up with a palace guard?
And Lordy, lordy me -I too have a JP twitch in my inbox and like HC said it so well -I'm not replying "boof".
Also, do remember boof-who-loses-its-temper-so-well, what I said about keeping your dogs under control. Do be a good boy and put a leash on it. A muzzle too, wouldn't hurt.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 4:01 AM
BB: Glad you're laughing. I must go and and check the moon...I am full of mischief...
I look at Earl's world this way...We should be darned grateful that "it" spends their days and nights glued to a computer...this way, at least "it" is not out on the streets in a car or harrassing young girls in the Mall...We get a great giggle out of taking the piss out of "it" on the blogs and I am thoroughly enjoying it after a day from hell...Woodnwine got into the top 100 perhaps because of all the interest generated by our dodgy profiler....I have made some great new pen friends through the curiosity generated by the dodgy profiler...I know others have taken their blog friendships offline to avoid the "dogsbreathe"...and we are all getting so much better at picking out the new alter egos...Just look at how much fun we are having...Methinks "its" little cybertricks backfired...He's not getting the attention - we are!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 12, 2007 11:31 PM
To "istj54"..you observed that bloggers don't always reply to other bloggers.
Sometimes this is because they just ignore people who aren't in the "clique", and other times, nice people like me do reply, but not all replies are published by the management.
Then some in the "clique" get nasty, because they felt no one replied,( when it is actuallty the fault of the mangement!)
Really, I think that they should be more realistic, and realise that not everything gets published, or even published without bits missing>..(they just get angry like little school children.
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 12, 2007 11:22 PM
There is nothing wrong with Dr.phil or learning how to cook.!(so I take offence at "brilliantblue"s comments about me!)
The slow witted in the "clique' could learn alot from Dr. phil, and the women who can't cook, may improve their chances of getting a man if they learnt how to cook!
I repeat yet again for the extremely slow witted "nasty clique" (especialy "Nina idiot" and "brilliant zero" and "wooden drone" that I am not "earl", I am a woman,and have no connection with his various profiles. And I still wish for a public apology from those who continually perpetrate these ridiciolous lies!
My daughter suggested that I give "woodnwine" a new name..."woodynomore" LOL!! (meaning impotent) >>LOL!!!
I told her that I thought it was far too cheeky, even though its probably true!
She told me that she thought he deserved it, as he keeps making fun of my name, and may be responsible for posting a fake profile of me on another web site..(seeing as he mentioned it in a blog, and congratulated someone called MIB for doing it!< and laughed about it!!!!), and he should be taught a lesson!
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 12, 2007 11:13 PM
Hiddencharms I think Earls slipping....his new characters sound like his old ones
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 12, 2007 11:07 PM
Hiddenscharms....can't stop laughing at your blog...the visual thought was hilarious!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 12, 2007 11:04 PM
BB: You bring out the devil in my typing fingers...Poor old buggar wouldn't know whether to shake her head or scratch his fanny (yeah, that was deliberate)...besides, this dodgy system would crash and the rest of us would miss it!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 12, 2007 10:58 PM
I would really like to see Earls characters all on blogs at once!
I'd be laughing myself stupid watching him trying to keep up!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 12, 2007 10:04 PM
Ooops...back, boof!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 12, 2007 10:03 PM
OO: Hang on a tic...I'm 40plusabit and I was born in the 60s....My parents were born in the 40s....
Only twitch in my inbox was JP...and I'm not kissing you cak, boof!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 12, 2007 10:01 PM
Woodnwine: Somewhere waterfront, perhaps, in case "it" starts singing...under a coollibah tree in case he brings the long lost rellies...and a video camera...We just have to record it...we could win the cars on Funniest Vidoes...Can we have a new rule, please - no one wearing a hat is allowed to sign in at the door...???
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 12, 2007 9:55 PM
istj64 - now is your chance to try being a hippie just for one day, oh shucks, you might just see some old friends. Anyone could find you at a bloggers' meeting - you'd be the one with the lovely arm pits and the ring of confidence.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 12, 2007 9:42 AM
I was never a hippy, Woodnwine. I'm a classic lass and I use Palmolive Gold and so never wait to be told.
I think I may need a suit of armour for any bloggers meets that I go to. But wait, no one has seen me. I am safe. Thank God for that.
ps. I like your pictures and profile and have to wonder why you are hanging out here.
Posted by: istj54 at November 12, 2007 9:30 AM
istj54, maybe you would like to join us up here in hippieland for the QLD bloggers' meeting. We are thinking of getting together down on the farm and running nekked through the warm rain while drinking port and remembering the last time we washed under our arm pits with Western Australian hand made soap. That was before we all realised that soap was killing all the fish in the stream at the bottom of the paddock. We are also planning a tree planting session in Hastings St at Noosa in an effort to make all the holiday makers carbon neutral while they shop for fabulous jewellery.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 12, 2007 9:19 AM
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 11, 2007 1:38 PM
-laughed out loud at your Queensland bloggers out in "twitchland".
I'd be a nervous wreck responding to the local lads over there HC, you'd never know what manifestant might pop up.
(The trick with the 40 years of age thang, is to remember the character was actually born in the 1940's. -Oops, have I revealed something of a private nature?? Well, I am but returning the favour in this character's case with an educated guess.)
Also at your comment hiddencharms at November 11, 2007 3:19 PM,
>"We should be safe after dark."
Laughed too woodnwine at November 11, 2007 2:13 PM, with your restriction of how many hands up.
And brilliantblue at November 11, 2007 4:24 PM & November 11, 2007 4:44 PM.
I really needed that laugh. Thanks to all for the light-hearted banter.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 12, 2007 12:28 AM
Hiddencharms - I just hope he doesn't start singing, I don't like country music unless it's played underwater, then it sounds just fine.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 11, 2007 11:48 PM
Hiddencharms...I think we'd be laughing hysterically at character changes!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 11, 2007 5:20 PM
Thanks Brilliantblue. You just gave me the best laugh I've had in ages....Could you imagine the photos?
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 11, 2007 4:56 PM
Brilliantblue: Wasn't there some Oprah thrown in there, too?
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 11, 2007 4:45 PM
Maybe Earl could give us a show of his many characters, he could run backstage inbetween each character and change,
Somelifeinmeyet could give us one of super whiz cooking demo's and brainnumb us with her re-runs of Dr Phil (no mic needed)
"Aginghippie" could show us how to live without mobile phones and electricity (he could demonstrate his new computer that never needs charging, runs on flower power)
"Lordperfect" could bore us all with his ancestry and give us his new revised version of history,
"Comeplaywith trains" could set his train set and watch it go around and around while we all leave.
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 11, 2007 4:44 PM
Hiddenscharms....don't forget Somelifeinmeyets Dr Phil reruns!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 11, 2007 4:24 PM
Woodnwine: My hand is up. Friday nights are good. If I recall, our hippie friend has to make the nursing home roll call by 5.00pm. We should be safe after dark.
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 11, 2007 3:19 PM
Woodnwine: As I have said before in other blogs, if Earl and his friends are invited, then you either book a very small room, for a very small gathering of one, OR a huge room, big enough to fit in all of his friends, their bands, trains, cowboys and soccer teams...as well as the pots and pans and reference books...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 11, 2007 3:17 PM
istj54 - thanks, I always do a copy/paste but for some reason this time it didn't work. In answer to your wuestions about bloggers' mettings - some are, some aren't; yes, a bit; good, we are here to meet peopel so go for it.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 11, 2007 2:37 PM
You know if you type up your blog n then have to sign in again n again n again till you get in just go back n back n back to your letter and just post it then. It does go through so you don't actually lose it.
I'm interested about all these bloggers meeting up. Are the people like they sound in the blogs? Does it make blogging different after meeting up? If it is different is it better or do things become stilted?
What if one of the bloggers really fancied another, would this make things awkward?
I'm just interested in all these questions because it seems to make up a heck of a lot of the blogs here.
Real conversations don't seem to take place. People seem to pop in and say something but get ignored. Bloggers don't seem to ever answer questions put to them. It's a funny place to me as I've just joined so I am just observing at the moment and I just wonder if going offline with others and meeting up kinda messes up the blogs a bit. Worth thinking about anyway.
Maybe too it might be something to do with the Myer/Briggs stuff cos most of you said you were Es so I guess you are used to not listening and talking over people all the time. Just another thought and observation.
Posted by: istj54 at November 11, 2007 2:26 PM
Oh no, lost my post so I'll have to re-type what I can remember. Is anyone in QLD interested in a QLD bloggers' get together, miserableoldcow is thinking about organising something? If enough people are, we will organise a place then get everyone to sign in at the door (5 or 6 times) to make sure they are real RSVPers. Can we have a show of hands? Earl, you can only raise one hand, OK.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 11, 2007 2:13 PM
OO: I guess that leaves us Queenslanders out in twitchland...I get really nervous about opening my inbox now....Remember, Noiceguy was 40 something and from the Gold Caost...Comeplaytrains was also 40ish and fat with a read hat...hard to tell where he dreams them all up...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 11, 2007 1:38 PM
How long before one makes phone contact?
I think this is probably a very individual thing, but for me - I would say.. all going swimmingly, and given the time to exchange emails...generally one to two weeks, or around a half a dozen emails each way - some of which were a bit longer and have covered some deeper topics and exchanged opinions and reasoning, more than just the basics.
I strongly think that many people often find it easier to be somewhat more frank, and to open up more quickly in emails than face to face, and so sometimes a deeper measure of trust can be ascertained.. I find this also gives a better initial 'feel' for the person, to which following up by talking on the phone, at least twice, then meeting is just the balancer - by which you check out the validity of impressions gained while emailing. I find that the more time you have to cover this ground in emails, the quicker you meet.
If there is any doubt, - I'll still usually give people the benefit of it by meeting them at least once, but
If I strike anything that sends up serious red flags while emailing, or calling, it doesn't go any further.
Overwhelmingly, I have found that the longer and more in depth the emails - before I meet someone, - the longer and more promising and rewarding the relationships have been, and even several of those that have not come to anything romantically, have ended up as close and enduring friendships.
For security I always use my mobile - not a home phone till after we know each other pretty well. And I don't give my exact address till I am quite confident in the person. I've never had any problems with doing it this way, and so can't really see the benefit of anonymous calling. In fact I think that might be somewhat frustrating, - in that I suppose you would not be able to call the person back to clarify things said, - you'd have to wait for them to recontact you. But how would this work anyway?
Posted by: dawnsinger at November 10, 2007 11:07 PM
Poor woodnwine at November 7, 2007 11:04 PM,
my "reflexive twitch" or perhaps call it "radar detector", is activated by Queensland "profiles" contacting me because:
1. They're the opposite end of Australia from me and,
2. I thought this one would be obvious...
the multi-profiling MIB/Lordwhat'shisnamethisweek is supposedly living there.
Your touch of paranoia feeling a little better now woody? *grin*
And you said it:
>"We are great looking (except in our crappy photos), very normal (when compared to school children), don't dribble too much at the table and can almost afford stamps."
So, I guess you were pulling my leg a bit woodnwine, hehehe. :)
Besides, I never actually said my "twitch" was activated by "men from Queensland", did I? :)
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 8, 2007 12:16 AM
Hi wishingandhoping2.......
......believe it or not - some of us blokes may have reason to be somewhat circumspect about some of the females profiles we come across here at the temple. I've learned from personal and professional experience, that not only are things not always as they may appear - they are sometimes not what they are made to appear.......sometimes people put a lot of effort into making things appear to be other than they really are.......and both tribes do it.....it ain't biologically determined.....
Posted by: weta at November 7, 2007 11:17 PM
Hey OO what is it you are implying about men from Queensland? We are great looking (except in our crappy photos), very normal (when compared to school children), don't dribble too much at the table and can almost afford stamps.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 11:04 PM
That's right wishingandhoping2 at November 7, 2007 7:53 AM.
But I have to give the benefit of the doubt to someone who blogs and then still has the courage to approach me. (I just try to control my reflexive "twitch" when it comes from Queensland.)
Besides, my secondary pic is silhouetted.
Then there is a marriage pic from 25 years ago and the final one is called "my last baby pic" ...of my Great Dane.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 7, 2007 10:58 AM
OO that 1958 thing should have alerted you, but I must admit his profile sounded legit....any wonder we girls are cynical of some blokes.
Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 7, 2007 7:53 AM
Hmmmm....the following post by:
chad1958 at November 4, 2007 9:16 PM -
"how miserable is a man who complains about the cost of a phone call to his women"
is possibly, making a little more sense to me now...
After this character from Queensland emailed me direct (without a prior VK and my acceptance) to request my pic, then sending further emails (where I did give him access to my sillohette gallery pic only) and he declaring:
"ive just met a women with brains and beauty great pics i think im in love"
and after me being gently humorous with my circumspection ("do you always work so fast?") and finally mentioning I made an exception in his case by accepting his contact because he's a blogger as normally, I will not engage with a pictureless profile (he said he was unable to post a pic)
and I also mentioned...
"But I must admit, that I am a tad wary of any contact I receive from Queensland, as I hope you will understand.
I also, when approached by someone without a pic and particularly when from another state, will not engage in chat. I made a concession with yourself as you have blogged.
But, I'm still cautious.
And trying hard to stop a twitch developing, when I receive contacts from Queensland males.
Just can't help the Aussi humour breaking out... :)"
He then replied by talking about his dog Rocky and swore in his email to me (fellow bloggers would know my views on that) talked about being drunk, passing out on his couch and finished by an incorrect attribution to me with his statement/question "why dont you like qld men?"
My reply simply was: "As I said before: I'm a tad wary of people with no photos and making contact from the other side of Australia."
chad1958's reply was even more simple and quite abrupt....
less than two hours later, his profile was deleted. (Former member appearing in my inbox.)
Oh well, another Queensland male profile that has disappeared into the sunset...
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 6, 2007 11:16 PM
Thank you to everyone for their kind words and condolences. I'll be ok, it'll just take a while. It's just hard at the moment.
Woodnwine, thank you for your advice, but I don't operate with Telstra at all. I've been burnt too badly with them previously. Now that I know about my call rates, etc, I can make sure I don't run over them.
And Malsie, Fudge has impeccable taste (so far). I mean, she chose to trust me, didn't she? (I found her in the ACT last year - she'd been dumped)
Take care all and make sure you don't leave the important stuff until tomorrow - the important stuff being your family, friends and loved ones.
Posted by: wraecca at November 5, 2007 5:22 PM
Sorry about your sad news, Wraecca - big virtual hug to you.
Btw, glad to hear Fudge has such great taste....
Posted by: malsie at November 5, 2007 4:04 PM
auntykaz - that's my line, keep smiling. I will expect royalties next time I am in Melbourne.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 11:12 PM
Hi Wraecca - I have spoken to fellow bloggers on the phone for over 2 hours and never paid more than about $2.50 per call at night. Talk to your friendly Telstra (or similar) person.
Sorry about your bad news as cancer is nasty and often chooses good people to attack. Where I ask is the justice in life (or does it come later?)
Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 11:10 PM
wraecca
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your loss. Cancer is such a horrible thing. My best friend died of it in 1993. The pain does fade in time. I still find myself thinking of her at the strangest times with a smile on my face-she feels like she is there with me, as I remember some of our past.
brilliantblue
My prayers and thoughts are also with you and your friend. She is lucky to have you there supporting her.
karenchocolat
Posted by: karenchocolat at November 4, 2007 10:20 PM
how miserable is a man who complains about the cost of a phone call to his women
Posted by: chad1958 at November 4, 2007 9:16 PM
Meditation and relaxation therapy is excellent for the mind, BB and l hope that your friend gets benefit from it.
Sometimes clearing the head is a better stress relief than all the medicinal therapies out there.
Wraecca, my sympathy on the loss of your friend.
There are really no other words that one can offer.
And l would look into that suggestion of the cameraman about the cheaper connections. An investigation wouldn't hurt, your bills must be incredible!!
I am sure that the support you get from BK is giving you some comfort.
Keep smiling..............k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 4, 2007 7:28 PM
BrilliantBlue, your suggestion about donating some proceeds from stamp purchases is a good idea. Maybe next year, during October (Pink Ribbon month) RSVP could do this. Or just do it all year round.
Everyone, take time out today to send a message to all of the people you care about, telling them how you feel. Don't leave it until tomorrow, because you don't know if they'll be here to hear it tomorrow.
Wraecca.
Posted by: wraecca at November 4, 2007 7:10 PM
Thanks Ornamentalonly....I know she does the meditation along with the traditional forms of medicine and the natural alternatives.
Wraecca's blog made me realise I should spend more time with her while she's alive!
I put the blog about a pink day on all of the different blog topics hoping to get other members to ask for this also. With over a million members imagine the money that could raised for the breast cancer assocition and I've been told any new advances in breast cancer medication helps men with prostrate cancer also.
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 6:42 PM
Thank you wraecca at November 4, 2007 1:48 PM. Again, my condolences on your loss.
brilliantblue, my thoughts are also with you and your friend.
In the past, I have recommended a book by Dr Ian Gawler (no friend or relation of mine but he is Australian,) who wrote a little book called: "Peace of Mind."
It is about how he dealt with his own cancer using pure meditation (without religious overtones but you can use the pure meditation in conjunction with your beliefs if you wish) and I originally read it in the 1980's.
I needed it for the relaxation benefits to deal with my then severely hyperactive son. I used to wake every morning, heart palpitating, hearing him wreck things while rampaging through our house at 5am.
Anyway, I do believe the pure meditation written about in Gawler's 80's version of his book, could be of great benefit in addition to (not instead of) a person's medical treatment for cancer.
brilliantblue, I do hope your friend does make it through again.
Your support to her is so very important at this critical time for her.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 4, 2007 6:27 PM
Have just put a blog up on RSVP Support asking them to run an "RSVP PINK DAY" for every stamp purchased a percentage goes to the "Breast Cancer Foundation"
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 6:11 PM
my deepest simpathy wraecca my best mate is in a similar situation but he too laughs it off; cant imagine the courage that takes
Posted by: chad1958 at November 4, 2007 6:10 PM
So sorry Wraecca to hear that....life never seems very fair and its the ones left behind that suffer the loss!
One of my close friends who has gone through the works 3 times over after orginally being diagnosed with breast cancer, she told me just last weekend that her markers had gone up again which means the cancer is back again.
Its amazing she got through it last time as it was in her spine and lungs as well as her breast but she beat the odds. She's a real fighter and I admire her continuial strength and courage but worry that maybe this time she won't be so lucky as it has come back very fast since the last!
She's amazing the way she keeps smiling and gets on with life while going through this!
I'm sure she appreciated having a friend like you!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 5:51 PM
OrnamentalOnly, thank you for you kind words. It's a little strange at the moment, because I'll be doing something and feel just fine. Then I think of Anne and I just start to cry.
For everyone else, I found out on Thursday night that a friend of mine and my mothers (she was the wife of one of my high school teachers and we got to know each other from there) had passed away after a long fight with breast-cancer. She had been told 9 days previously that it had gone to her liver. I will not be able to make her funeral and even though I knew she was quite ill, it just happened so fast.
Life is so short and so precious. We need to embrace every day that is given to us as the gift it is. We should be thankful for all that we have and know how blessed we are.
Ok, since people are asking, I'll give you all an update. BK is great. I was talking to him over the phone when my mum called with the news and oh how I wish he had been here when I found out. He is arriving for another visit next week and will also be traveling down for my birthday a couple of weeks after that. We've worked out a system now of when to call each other. He has a capped plan, I don't, but I get cheap call rates and can make up to $110 worth of calls on my landline per month, or $230 worth of calls on my mobile per month without repercussion.
We are still taking things fairly slowly at the moment, but we are really happy with the direction that we are headed. We are comfortable with each other and can tease each other without offense. A big plus is that my cat Fudge has taken to him, pretty much instantaneously and she doesn't usually do that with people she's never met before. So that's a big bonus :)
Well, hopefully all of this will be taken in the friendly nature I have intended. Please note, when I was writing this, in no way whatsoever was I implying anything other than how our friendship is developing and that I am not implying anything sexually. If people think that the above information is too personal, then I really give up.
Be thankful for what you have, even if it is only the freedom to choose your own direction in life. Live your life to the full, because you never know when it will be taken away from you. Tell your loved ones how you feel and often, because you don't know when they will be gone.
Wraecca.
Posted by: wraecca at November 4, 2007 1:48 PM
tpg is another very cheap option, lovebirds.
I enjoy your stories so keep us informed, please.....
I miss your updates.
Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 3, 2007 6:36 PM
My sympathies for the hardship you are currently going through wraecca.
Let your developing friendship with BK and others help you through this time.
Ideally, there should be no adverse repercussions in talking about the genuine friendships and happenings you have on here and in real life.
Keep going wraecca.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 3, 2007 2:35 PM
AuntyKaz, maybe I should have added -wry grin- to the end of my previous post, just to show that I am able to poke fun at myself.....? It was meant as a joke only.
Sorry, in a weird mood tonight, one minute I'm fighting off tears, the next I'm being a bit cynical about life, and then I swing to wry humour. Death and grief does that to me.
Posted by: wraecca at November 2, 2007 11:42 PM
Now now miss wraecca, bit of positive spin if you please.......
A pity that you are both so far away from each other, in my view. Keep smiling.................k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 2, 2007 11:33 PM
Hi Weta,
Yes, a comfortable ergonomic chair *would* be cheaper than exorbitant phone bills (you should see mine...), but I haven't gotten around to getting one yet.
And yes, your lateral thinking *is* stating the obvious, but that's ok, because we outed ourselves a couple of weeks ago.
Now, let me sit back and wait for certain bloggers to start attacking me for sharing too much information......
Posted by: wraecca at November 2, 2007 11:14 PM
Hi wraecca
the pragmatic Virgo in me says...."wouldn't a comfortable ergonomic chair be cheaper than exorbitant phone bills?"......
..and if it's brushkestrel saying he has the exorbitant phone bills - and it's you who needs the chair......hmmmm......meethinks an opportunity for some lateral thinking........
....I realise this is stating the bleeding obvious....I shall go and pour a smallish glass of tokay and read on.....
weta advises that alcohol should always be consumed at safe levels......
Posted by: weta at November 2, 2007 10:28 PM
Weta, BrushKestrel has got Skype and a web-cam and has used both in the past. However, extremely long Skype calls whilst sitting in an uncomfortable chair is not much fun.
Blame me for the huge telephone bills, I need to get a new computer chair :|
Posted by: wraecca at November 2, 2007 9:38 PM
Hi brushkestrel
have you thought about downloading Skype (it's free). You can make free internet hosted telephone calls to anywhere in the world - and if you invest around $60 (not much considering your telephone number phone bill) on a webcam, you can make realtime phone-calls as well as eyeball on your pc screeen, she with whom you are smitten (or any other person you wanna talk with who also has Skype).
This has been a free community service anouncement, sponsored by weta, in association with the "make the world smaller co-operative".
Posted by: weta at November 2, 2007 8:37 PM
Note to self:
Phone calls == good, but phone bill with a number that looks suspiciously like a phone number only with a dollar sign on the front == bad.
...Oops...
Posted by: brushkestrel at November 2, 2007 6:59 PM
Its good to get to a phone call pretty quickly. A lot depends on how comfortable the other party is.
Posted by: whatcomesnext at October 28, 2007 1:09 PM
Some folks are better on email than in conversation, and vice versa. I've had lifelong friends email me for the first time and completely surprise me with their charm and erudition, or shock me with their dodgy grammar and "too many is never enough" approach to a'postrophe's and ellipses...
But relationships are hard to carry off purely over email (I for one can't type mid-hug), so I say get on the phone as soon as you're comfortable.
Posted by: tangoorcash at October 27, 2007 12:41 AM
The 1st phone call should be organised pretty fast, probably after only 1 or 2 emails. Email doesn't carry tone of voice like a phone call and you can spend weeks getting nowhere. I have no problem giving my number out, have never had any probs with stalkers etc. Obviously nothing works like meeting someone, but phone calls are a good midway stage - I have ended the whole thing there a number of times - after all, what's the point in arranging to meet for coffee if you can't chat on the phone, have no real connection and can't communicate well? There's no point in 'being polite', wasting anyone's time just to avoid hurting someone's feelings. It's better to say 'hey, you sound nice but I don't feel we have much in common, good luck wiht RSVP!' Mermayd
Posted by: mermayd at October 21, 2007 12:36 PM
Hmm - the first phone call.... I definitely agree that I don't want to be trading e-mails for too long. Firstly, I have a hard enough time keeping up with work & friends e-mail so spending lots of time writing long e-mails to someone you may / may not meet seems kinda pointless. That said - the phone isn't always the best indication of whether you'll click with someone either. I recently kissed a guy & followed up with a phone call. Chatted for an hour no problem - thought there was def potential. But when we met it didn't really work.
So my theory is - you can only know if you'll connect with someone if you meet face to face. We're all here to meet someone - so I say 'stop procrastinating - and get on with it'. Ok - you may get someone that keeps texting you (not that it's happened to me) but that could happen if you met in a bar / through work / via friends. The whole dating thing is one of chance - and I am def going to keep taking the risk as I am an eternal optimist and believe my soul mate is out there somewhere.
Don't really think I'd use the anonymous call option as I am quite comfortable giving out my phone number and am more than capable of telling someone if I'm not interested (or ignoring the call if they don't get the message!).
Posted by: smileywelshgirl at October 19, 2007 8:55 AM
i notice that the blogs are still really slow at the moment and are not being updated fast enough.
Offer more money to get the slaves to "row the boat faster" up in the office!! LOL!!
From "Somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 18, 2007 2:12 PM
wraecca and new friend from the blogs, good luck with your new friendship, your meeting and enjoy those lovely phone calls.
Enjoy the fun, the newness, the passion, lust and love that is always at the begining, and hopefully it will be for longer than 3 months!! jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at October 17, 2007 8:47 PM
auntykaz
I did not imply everyone...sorry
I spoke with Lee today and all he had to say was read it in the 30 page lift out in "THE AGE" on Friday.
How much do you want for the bottle plus postage ?
Posted by: thefotografer at October 17, 2007 8:44 PM
Come on fotografer even l have injected a bit of humour in my posts in the last few days......even went and bought you a bottle of wine from Paringa estate as requested.....couldn't get on to Lee Freedman though he is a bit busy this week........k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 17, 2007 8:32 PM
You poor buggers,
you have absolutely no sense of humour and take yourselfs way to seriously
Posted by: thefotografer at October 17, 2007 8:19 PM
fotoman must be awfully lonely in that ivory tower of his...
Posted by: hiddencharms at October 17, 2007 7:58 PM
Hi Chad1958, if you are talking about the being able to talk about stuff, I know that it can last longer than 3 months...I had it with my last partner, who was, and still is, one of my best friends. Right up to the end of the relationship (which was over 3 years) it was the same...
Posted by: wraecca at October 17, 2007 7:19 PM
hi wraecca you know that only lasts for about 3 months dont you?
Posted by: chad1958 at October 17, 2007 6:48 PM
BrushKestrel, regarding what you wrote on October 13, 2007 2:57 PM in reply to my blog which said "The first phone call was the type that everyone wants; there wasn't really any awkwardness, the conversation flowed really well, and time just flew by. Before we knew it, about 3 hours had passed."
You wrote "Those type are great, aren't they. (With the possible exception of the ones where you suddenly realise it's 3:30am and it'll soon be time to get up... Still, even then, for that kind of call, it's worth it :-)"
EXACTLY!!! That instant connection, where you can talk about a huge variety of topics, and then you turn around, and not only have you been on the phone since 7pm with this person (and it's now almost midnight), but the conversation is *still* going strong!!
I love having a conversation with someone where the concept of time flies out of the window. I find it really difficult to talk to someone where there are long periods of awkward silence, and yet, with the person I'm talking over the phone to at the moment, there have been times when neither of us has said anything (at first, we thought the other person may have dropped out, lol), but now, it feels more like that companionable silence that you see old married couples sharing, where they don't actually have to speak to have a conversation; they are that in tune (not that I'm saying that my 'slow-blush-guy, who is now my eyebrow-twitch-evil-grin-flirtation-guy is psychic, although he *did* know when I had had a bad day, even *before* I emailed him....).
Anyways, before I rambled off, what I was trying to say was that I quite like those runaway conversations, especially if the conversations tend to always do that.
By the way, BrushKestrel, I'm *still* waiting for your audio clip to come up. You said you were waiting for mine, well, it's up and running. Where's yours? -laugh-
Happy Hunting everyone!!
Posted by: wraecca at October 17, 2007 1:09 PM
thefotografer - why do you feel the need to use words like terrorise and war on a dating site? There is actually no war going on between the sexes and the sooner you realise that the sooner you will start having fun.
Signed in 4 times on this one ED.
Posted by: woodnwine at October 17, 2007 11:14 AM
Actually wraecca i will terrorize RSVP with me rendition of "photograph' and put it up as audio within the hour.
please be gentle I am 58 and my voice has had it.
Posted by: thefotografer at October 16, 2007 7:07 PM
wraecca.
considering your taste for heavy.
maybe "photograph" would suffice or even a few bars from "call me when your sober" or "Lithium"
Posted by: thefotografer at October 16, 2007 7:00 PM
And thanks to everyone else who has said complimentary things about me.
Now you can put not only a face, but also a voice to these blogs :)
Posted by: wraecca at October 16, 2007 6:06 PM
Sorry fefa63, I'm the youngest of 3 girls. Thanks for the compliment, though :)
Posted by: wraecca at October 16, 2007 4:51 PM
Wraecca,
Great audio. You have a wonderful sense of humour. Read your profile and was impressed, pity your aren't a guy, closer to my age, living closer to Brissie. I'd be sending you an e-mail today. You don't have an older brother up this way by any chance??
Jenny :)
Posted by: fefa63 at October 15, 2007 10:45 PM
thanks Malsie, it was a bit of a surprise, it has made me more cautious. But I am giving the dating thing a break for a while now anyway.
Notgodsgift, I like what you say in support of the women here, you're open, tolerant and considerate. I had a look at your profile and I can see why you 'get' (understand) women, good luck to you up there!
Posted by: mysticocean at October 15, 2007 9:58 PM
Wraecca l couldn't figure how to turn the audio on l must be technologically challenged at this time of night...............k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 9:09 PM
hey wraecca.. Listened to your audio.. you have a lovely voice!! wtg!! :-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 8:45 PM
I had to 'sign in' 4 times, RSVP ED.
Thefotografer, I once worked for Telstra in their Faults Department Call Centre, during the 2001-2002 bushfires where half of NSW lost their telephone lines. Out of the thousands of upset/angry/furious/homicidal callers that I spoke to, I managed to calm them all down and give Telstra another chance. All except 2 gentlemen (and I use that term loosely), who found it fun to verbally abuse a young lady that they didn't know, until I had to disconnect the call.
Apparently I can have quite a soothing voice, that is, when I'm not yelling, lol. You'd have to ask the absolute sweetie that I'm talking to at the moment, though, he'd be able to tell you what I sound like, and he's even heard me sing, poor thing!!
As for singing, I sound better singing Pearl Jam, Snow Patrol, Metallica, James, or Powderfinger, rather than Nelly Furtado. I don't hit high notes well, lol. But thanks for the compliment :)
Happy Hunting everyone!!
Posted by: wraecca at October 15, 2007 8:37 PM
Wraecca nicely done,
if you worked in a call centre you would be right at home.
I would have liked to hear you sing something from Nelly Furtado's latest.
Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 7:04 PM
MY AUDIO IS UP!!!!! YAAAAAAAAAYYYYYY!!!!!
So, everyone, if you want to hear what I sound like, check out my profile!!!
Happy Hunting everyone!!
Posted by: wraecca at October 15, 2007 6:49 PM
And before anyone yells at me the previous comment did happen at the end of an uncomfortable ending to an uncomfortable dinner date......k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 5:51 PM
Malsie come closer....l have a secret to tell you......l also told him l had to get home to watch the Rugby.....Australia were playing Canada, and l was a half hour away from home. I knew liking sport would get me out of a sticky situation one day.........k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 5:35 PM
Hi All,
Personally I hate talking on phone and prefer to meet face to face. I find it hard enough to converse by phone with my friends so what chance a complete stranger?
Maybe drunk is the only way that some people get the courage to make that first call - I say give them a break and just have a laugh about it - unless they are low or nasty to start with. Who knows, once they have realised that you are OK, maybe they will feel comfortable and be able to converse whilst sober!!
Bob
Posted by: notgodsgift at October 15, 2007 4:24 PM
auntykaz, that kind of awkwardness that can arise when things turn out less than positively on meeting is something that put me right off the rsvp experience to begin with - just the fear of it, and then how to deal with it - exiting graciously without hurting anyone's feelings.
I learnt to get past it, because you've got to be out there meeting people to get the opportunity to meet "the one", although never got over feeling bad at having to "let someone down" - especially when they think everything is fine and going so well (perhaps a little like your date). Mind you, with yours, if his expectations were of something more than just dinner on first meeting - maybe it explains a lot as to why you weren't feeling the connection!
Posted by: malsie at October 15, 2007 4:10 PM
Malsie, l had a similar situation a little while ago, chatted on msn for a day or so, lonnngggg phone converstations for a few days and then when we met.....nuthin.
Sorry to say l couldn't get out quick enough, paid my way and that was it.
Now before l get yelled at, l did say that l thought this was where we should finish, and he was a bit taken aback, but without going into detail it was not a good date.I had no expectations of anything except a nice dinner. somehow l think he had more...........k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 3:56 PM
woodnwine - indeed it does happen that way sometimes, and I agree totally with amdoingit about that being one of the very good reasons for getting to the phone call stage early!
I had a bit of email contact with someone once, which went fine, and profile was fine, but realising the huge scope for illusion and delusion in the intense emailing scenario had learnt to get to the first phone call soon.
Straight away I realised this person just wasn't for me - nice enough though he was, and didn't say anything inappropriate or offensive. I didn't like the way he talked, his laugh, his expressions - all of those things, and we did talk for about an hour, so I gave it what I thought was a fair go. I was faced with the dilemma of how did I get out if it now with any reasonable kind of explanation, because he thought everything was going fine.
I managed to explain it (hopefully as nicely as I could) and he seemed okay about it, for I knew it would be wasting both our times to actually meet. I was just really glad we hadn't had too much prior build up or it woud have been a huge let down for us both, I would imagine.
Posted by: malsie at October 15, 2007 3:42 PM
mysticocean, that must have been a bit disconcerting for you (and disappointing). Who knows what that particular guy's story was, but I have noticed how some people are more comfortable with certain modes of communication than others. Usually if "chatting" online doesn't flow well, or on the phone, I believe it's unlikely to be any better in person (had this experience with someone once, and that was indeed the case - but he was cute so I'd wanted to meet him anyway!)
So you'd think if things had gone as well as they had for you online and phone, in person would have been similarly good. Unless of course he was shy and a bit intimidated by the "in person" thing. I know it's far easier to hide behind a computer screen, and maybe for some people it's the same with the phone.
I've also experienced having trouble getting any flow happening on the phone, but fine in person - some people seem to have "phona-phobia"!
It would be weird if he'd used his brother's pics (or even got him to make his initial communication for him) - what on earth would someone think they have to gain by doing that? Get to an initial meeting, and then what - all downhill from there!
Posted by: malsie at October 15, 2007 3:28 PM
To "mysticocean"..perhaps you should have gone for coffee and cake for a first date, where there was no chance of anyone drinking.
Also because then there are no excuse in your mind for him..like "maybe he was drunk from first date nerves". Then you wouldn't feel guilty in standing up to leave and saying..."I really don't think that you are the same guy that I spoke to on the phone".
This is how women get date -raped, being too polite and not wanting to hurt the guys feelings, and ignoring their bad gut feelings and continuing on with the date.
My advice to women if this happens to them is "Leave".( Its better to be safe than sorry.)
From .."Somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 13, 2007 5:32 PM
Wraecca wrote:
> The first phone call was the type that everyone
> wants; there wasn't really any awkwardness, the
> conversation flowed really well, and time just flew
> by. Before we knew it, about 3 hours had passed.
Those type are great, aren't they. (With the possible exception of the ones where you suddenly realise it's 3:30am and it'll soon be time to get up... Still, even then, for that kind of call, it's worth it :-)
I've had a couple of the awkward type (trying to find things to talk about where the other person suddenly seems to share nothing in common with you), and it's such a breath of fresh air to get one where everything just works, and there's no scrabbling around for topics.
> However, one thing that did come out from our
> conversations is the realisation that, even if you are
> very open and honest in your profiles (as we both
> are), there will always be surprises in store,
> because there is not enough space to put
> everything.
Gotta love those character limits. I've hit the end on pretty much every section in my profile. I've even had to do things like pick which bands I put in my 'music' section based on how many characters long the name is, rather than how much I like the music...
Posted by: brushkestrel at October 13, 2007 2:57 PM
Comment made by misticocean. Same. I was emailing someone few several weeks before we met. He phoned beforehand to take me for coffee. When he turned up he did look different from his photo. Even when he phoned, his voice didn't match his picture. It was a lot higher than I expected. Things didn't work out. Glad, coz there is someone else who interests me more.
Posted by: needacompaniona at October 13, 2007 12:11 PM
Seraphsuzie, vamp up that witchy outfit and enjoy...witches can be verrry sexy...just don't put a wart on the end of your nose.
Lots of black eyeliner, red lippy, a suggestively placed fake beauty spot just above the lip and spiky black boots.......you look fabulous already, keep your head high, shoulders back and breathe deep...........k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 13, 2007 11:37 AM
Can anyone explain what happened to me last weekend. Last week I sent a kiss and the guy came back with instant chat, which was fun, then he phoned and seemed even more appealing, we talked and laughed a lot. And then when I met him it was unpleasant, he couldn't string a few sentences together in person, although he was ok on the phone. I suspected he was a drinker...got a bit drunk for a first date, out of nerves, maybe...that could explain the incoherence. I was really taken aback, because that hasn't happened before. I was really uncomfortable, I felt like this is a different person I'm meeting. Maybe it was? He did not look like his photo - I think he probably used his brother's photo, you could see a slight resemblance between him and his photo but his brother was a lot better looking - and it was hard to recognise him from the photo, which throws you for a starter, doesn't it? anyway if anyone else has experienced anything like this, I'd like to hear from you.
Apart from this I've had great experiences with RSVP, men have been consistent on the phone and in person, and they looked their ages etc, so I haven't ever felt "conned" before, but I did this time...
Posted by: mysticocean at October 13, 2007 11:21 AM
I'm always terrified of that first call...I have a deep voice and think it will put them off. I think it has on occasion.
I prefer to meet via email and have never had a problem leaving out the phone call. I suppose I've been lucky there.
It's funny though that I am extremely nervous of a phone call, but can easily walk into a place with no nerves to meet a stranger.
Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 13, 2007 9:12 AM
I have posted this on Biggest turn offs.. but thought I would put it here just in case no one reads the other .. hehe
Myself and karenchocolat.. who blogs are going to the Witches and Warlocks rsvp event ... so if any Sydney bloggers want to meet us that would be cool!! :-)
I can't wait to Goth up.. hehe ;-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 12, 2007 6:53 PM
Due to a sad experience when I first joined RSVP I never disclose my telephone number to any woman.
Since that time I only hand out my email address. Actually, I prefer to correspond by email as I find I can judge a female quite well from her emails, and for my part I can type an email of lengthy proportions in no time whatsoever.
In every case where I have only emailed a lady, and subsequently dated out to dinner I have found the female is exactly as I imagined from her emails.
Providing you are a good letter writer there is a way of obtaining information from the other party in a subtle manner.
First of all you must closely examine her profile, or sometimes, her lack of profile, to assess her character.
Overall I have met very interesting females in this format.
Posted by: nomadd at October 12, 2007 4:21 PM
Hi all, here's a happy phone-call story for you :)
I've recently started talking to someone here on RSVP via the telephone. For the past few weeks, we've been exchanging emails, chatting online, and just generally getting to know each other as friends.
The first phone call was the type that everyone wants; there wasn't really any awkwardness, the conversation flowed really well, and time just flew by. Before we knew it, about 3 hours had passed. We've since had a couple more telephone conversations (again, time flying by), and even spoken to each other via Skype (gotta love it, you can even video-call via it, lol). I really enjoy talking to this person, and can't wait to *actually* meet them, because no matter what, I know I've found someone who I can trust (which is a major thing for me), and who will become a wonderful and dear friend.
However, one thing that did come out from our conversations is the realisation that, even if you are very open and honest in your profiles (as we both are), there will always be surprises in store, because there is not enough space to put everything. The way I act, speak and react when I am happy/sad/angry/delirious with joy cannot be accurately gauged through the profiles; it's only through interaction that humour, quirks (I love quirks), and passions will arise in a manner which we can interpret.
I hope that my phone calls continue to be great ones, and that everyone else can experience the same.
Happy Hunting everyone!!
Posted by: wraecca at October 12, 2007 12:55 PM
Twoeyes.. had to chuckle at your first phone call saga.. What a hoot.
Here's one for you all. Responded to a kiss a while ago, exchanged emails then received his phone number with request to call. Did so and wait for it...Chap didn't know who I was..His daughter had selected 3 profiles and sent kisses and emails. He lived rurally, she was in Melb and he knew she'd sent kisses, etc but had no idea of email contents or which female I actually was..Bizarre to say the least..Another reason to get to first phone call sooner rather than later..
For the record that phone call was over with very quickly..Enough said!!!
Posted by: amdoingit at October 11, 2007 10:06 PM
Woodnwine..that's why you get to talk on the phone as soon as you can. I've made the same mistake so now I get to the phone stage after just a few emails and I also "share" less info than I used to. At least till I get to know them better..
Posted by: amdoingit at October 11, 2007 9:56 PM
I like it when you talk to a person over the phone, and they are surprised to find out that you have.....(wait for it).....an Australian accent!!! Heeheehee!!!
Yes, this has happened to me, and in no way am I trying to be mean and nasty to the person who I am talking about (you know who you are), I am just riding high (emotionally-wise) at the moment, and want to share my glee with everyone.
On the audio-clip front, I'm still waiting for take-two to be approved. Hopefully it will be???
Happy Hunting everyone!!
Posted by: wraecca at October 11, 2007 2:29 PM
First phone calls - Here's a thought - what do you do after you have emailed for weeks, told the other person things you probably shouldn't have then you finally talk on the phone and ....... they are nothing like you imagined? And you don't like the way they sound. And you don't like what they say. It happens.
Posted by: woodnwine at October 11, 2007 1:58 PM
Interesting first phone call the other night from someone whom i had sent a kiss to the same day.
had been watching telli with the pc on in another room, went in to look and found that the female in question had tried to im me...................
i responded and she eventually came on line and started to type.......albeit very slowly................ she then put her phone no up and suggested that i ring......
wellafter about 5 mins i decided thaT THERE WAS SOMETHING TERRIBLY STRANGE ABOUT THIS PERSON.....................(as in dodo dodo dodoo you know the theme music)...
she kept asking what was my handle...(read TwoEyes)............. then alternately my name ( Iain )
Then why wasnt i pissed like her....( cos i had only just got home from work and probably hadnt consumed a 4 litre cask of red ( her drink of choice)
Take into account the 30 or 40 seconds between me asking a question and her replying, i reckoned that this wasnt going to "fly". So i politely stated this and she went right off tap...
how dare i lead her on etc ranting so i hung up in her ear then blocked her and hope that she has sobered up by now.
Interesting and also funny
Posted by: twoeyes at October 10, 2007 11:25 AM
why doesnt my audio save??? by the way SeraphSuzie luv ur clip and u profile haha heaps funny, stay purple.
Posted by: ebonyblu at October 10, 2007 10:51 AM
Oops. Thanks WnW. Saturday the 20th for the get-together, everyone!
Posted by: ninaschen at October 10, 2007 9:29 AM
First phone call - get it over and done with as soon as possible (as soon as you feel safe/comfortable) because it's not until you talk to someone that you really get to know them. How often have you spoken to someone for the first time and thought they were nothing like you imagined from their emails?
PS ninaschen - the 19th is a Friday.
Posted by: woodnwine at October 10, 2007 8:07 AM
Hi all Victorian bloggers. Saturday 19th of October is the proposed date for a get-together, in Melbourne. Yum Cha for lunch is sounding good! More details to follow. Post if you want to hook-in. Everyone welcome!
Posted by: ninaschen at October 9, 2007 11:10 PM
my audio file story:
used voice recorder on my mobile phone, transfered to computer via bluetooth, downloaded "amr to wav" converter program from internet, converted, logged on to rsvp, uploaded wav file, 2days later, viola! hear me speak.
Posted by: faolan at October 9, 2007 2:37 PM
londonium - sorry to hear about your terrible first phone call experience - what a jerk. Try to remember the more jerks you meet the closer you are getting to meeting the right man for you (law of averages).
Posted by: woodnwine at October 9, 2007 12:57 PM
Well, audio file take 2 is on its way to the RSVP moderators. Fingers crossed it gets through....and quickly!!
Happy Hunting everyone!!
Posted by: wraecca at October 9, 2007 11:59 AM
SeraphSuzie, your love of Monty Python knows no boundaries, lol. Here you are, with TWO audio clips having been accepted, and I'm still struggling with one! Oh well, I'll just keep bombarding RSVP with my *beautiful* voice (hahaha) until they yield.
Everyone else, don't forget my challenge - put up your own audio clip on your profile, and enable the world to hear you!!!
Happy Hunting everyone!!
Posted by: wraecca at October 9, 2007 11:43 AM
hahaha wraecca... your funny!! Its a shame about your audio file.. I put in another one.. I wanted two up there but they took the old one down.. Have a listen.. make sure you haven't just eaten though cause I am singing in it.. hehe ;-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 8, 2007 10:17 PM
treat me gently this is my first time (blogging!)
I had such a horrendous experience today with a first call I had to share. I received a call at midday from a guy, while I was at work. He was so drunk he could not string 2 words together, he mumbled for me to grab my eyebrow pencil (urghh) and write his address down as he wanted
romanceme4ever - if you are getting on well enough to be thinking of removing your profile then you should also be getting on well enough to be able to discuss it with him. Just ask him what he thinks then you'll know if he is at the same stage (in the relationship) as you are at.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 23, 2007 11:53 AM