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Posted by: rsvpproducttest at November 27, 2007 8:27 AM

hiddencharms, waterbombe and others - the thing for me and probably many others is that smoking goes far deeper than just hiding behind a tree then using breath mints. This is not a direct comment about any of you but a general observation that many people seem to make light hearted comments about something that is in fact so serious.

I see that smoking ties up our health system needlessly and costs taxpayers millions of dollars each year while people inflict throat and lung cancer on themselves often bringing on premature death. I see people every day smoking in front of their children or when pregnant. I see dozens of people every day throwing their buts out of their car windows. Our footpaths, beaches, waterways and public spaces are absolutely littered with cigarette buts, which as I understand it take a very long time to break down. I see struggling families on welfare paying $10 (or is it more) for a packet of cigarettes while they complain that they can't afford life's necessities. It would be nothing for a smoking family to spend over $9000/year just on cigarettes. I can understand that many people have what others may consider bad habits but I am looking at the bigger picture here.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 11:19 AM

I tried to post on this last night but it got lost so I'll try again. I agree that if you meet someone in "real life" that you like a lot and they smoke you would give it a go to see if workable compromises could be reached. I went out with someone for a few years that was a light smoker (2 or 3 a day) and we managed quite well most of the time. However that is in "real life" and I don't think I would meet a smoker on RSVP as my search never includes smokers. Why start a relationship knowing that you have a major hurdle to overcome? If it happens it happens, but I won't go looking for it as I think smoking is too major an issue - health, cost, smell, taste. I'm sure everyone has no go areas in partner searches, be it political, age, religion, smoking, drinking, looks.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 9:06 AM

I agree with decoratress, if you like someone enough, the fact that they smoke is not going to be a huge issue. It's one thing if you meet a smoker and they are 'quite nice' - you can tell them to get on their bike because they smoke. But what happens if you meet someone who is pretty stunning (I mean in personality, not looks..oh well, ok, looks too)...would you tell them to get lost?

I've never smoked, I tried it once and I don't like the taste and smell of tobacco, but I reckon I would put up with a smoker as long as they didn't smoke inside my house. What they do in their house is their business.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 25, 2007 11:13 AM

HAHAHA....

oooh- some of you will..

...& some of you won't!!!

woodnwine- NO, you've got me wrong... you WOULDN'T be reasonable expecting a smoker to give up!
You would be reasonable for YOUR OWN response to the problem.
If you were besotted... you could ask them to modify their smoking to accommodate you if they weren't able to give up......
THEY would be reasonable in making an effort to restrain their smoking to please you.....

What I'm trying to say is that if you truly find LOVE.... all else is possible.

I would do my best to make the object of my love comfortable & happy... compromise & effort on both sides would be worthwhile.

LoveLoveLove conquers all
decoratress xxx

Posted by: decoratress at November 24, 2007 10:19 PM

decoratress, I don't smoke, but I agree with your comments. If the attraction for a person is strong enough, you will tolerate the smoking, or come to an agreement, like smoking outside or away from people.

Posted by: jpkool at November 24, 2007 9:27 PM

Woodnwine: If I met someone who was important enough to me, and seriously disliked smoking, I would make a more concerted effort to quit...or run off behind a tree with a bottle of perfume and a packet of pepermints...

In my last relationship, my partner did not like my smoking...but he had some habits I was not too fond of either...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 24, 2007 11:59 AM

decoratress: I hear what you are saying, as a smoker cum almost quitter, who is not doing too well on the quitting at the moment....

I can also understand others' preferences not to be exposed to the smoke and smells etc.

Quitting has gone back on my agenda...

I actually sat through 3 glasses of wine last night, without a smoke...and was really naughty afterwards and had 4....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 24, 2007 11:53 AM

I don't know if that is reasonable woodnwine. Perhaps if their profile said they were trying to give up smoking.

By the same token, would it be okay for a smoker to contact you, assuming that if you like them, you'd be able to get over it?
I'd have thought that if it was the right person, I'd be able to get past smoking, even though I also find it a bit unpleasant.

Posted by: ds84 at November 24, 2007 11:49 AM

If i clearly states in my profile and ideal partner that i'm only interested in non-smokers then people need to respect that and asume that there will be no compromise.

Posted by: panic165 at November 24, 2007 11:11 AM

Hi Decoratress - I hear what you are saying, but as a non-smoker would it be reasonable/realistic for me to contact a smoker in the hope that she would give it up? I would have to say to her straight up that I thought she was nice but she would have to give up something she enjoys and most likely doesn't wish to stop.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 23, 2007 12:22 PM

What a hoot. I'm somewhat bemused that people are taking this so seriously.

Hmm... seems to me it's the sum of the parts - that is, it would take a pretty extreme single turn off to turn me off totally, but if you get enough of em adding up.

For instance - while I'm not a smoker, I dare say I could accept a partner who does.
I could also probably accept a parter who was a bit messy at times, or was into those trashy current affair shows, or was self absorbed on rare occasions.

But if she was a self absorbed, messy, smoker who went nuts over Today Tonight?

Not likely... she'd have to have some damn impressive traits for me to remain interested.

Posted by: ds84 at November 22, 2007 9:10 PM

Hmmmm
....all those "ooooh yuck, it's.. like.. disGUSTING... etc etc" comments-

well- here's a NOVEL APPROACH...

...if you're attracted enough
...if there's enough chemistry in the equation
...if you really REALLY think the person's cool.. & maybe.. worth the effort..?

Well-
Wouldn't you either

-make the effort to compromise
-give up (or accept the others' vice)
-or decide it's not as important as love?

I would.

All You Need Is Love
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at November 20, 2007 6:58 PM

I'm beginning to think that nothing is a turn-off anymore....or alternately, nothing is a turn-on......I hate the smell of tobacco though, especially straight after they've smoked it, Yuck!

Posted by: lorainer at November 20, 2007 4:30 PM

Clues, clues, clues. Do too many clues add up to clueless?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 19, 2007 11:52 AM

never seen an oozing redhead................the mind boggles

Posted by: twoeyes at November 18, 2007 5:57 PM

thanks for looking at the site guru...I have both on mine, grill and hotplate.
had feedback from a man who thought wood was the best! must live in a no fire restrictions area.

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 18, 2007 9:26 AM

......what about remember your name, let alone spell it correctly........

Posted by: twoeyes at November 18, 2007 9:26 AM

wondering about the identity of the oozing redhead?

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 18, 2007 7:42 AM

Brilliant Blue

I have never lost the plot.

Plan A is still fully operational

It’s just taking longer than originally planned

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 7:29 AM

Oh Dear Oh Dear

Let’s go back to Rule 1

Are there a range of photos? Are the in natural situations? Do they look authentic?

How many more times do I, the Great Guru, have to come down from Guru Heights to say this sort of thing.

Now the real person and the Oozing Redhead WOULD get on together. They could both hop on their bikes and ride to the shops. But the rest of you?

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 3:04 AM

Lorrainer, don't you think that you have made things a little difficult for those of us who are new to the blogs and are not being taken seriously because of the garbageoly you have created?

Fun for you = parinaoia for others. Think about your own actions and what you have done to other people.

Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 12:25 AM

Don't you just hate it when people can't even spell your name correctly?

Posted by: lorainer at November 16, 2007 6:21 AM

You've lost the plot Aginghippie...go back and smoke some more whackytabacco!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 15, 2007 9:14 PM

I'd love that too, Ninaschen.
Get Weta to send your address to me.

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 9:12 PM

I've always alternated comment on blog topics with repartee about what I am reading. This is what I am like in the flesh and my writing always reflects my personality and will continue to do so.
I'd love to come to the blogmeet and hope I am free.
Jennie

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 8:55 PM

istj54... have read, albeit briefly, the going on's and can understand why some are pee'd off. Don't despair though.. Most of us have buggered up at some time HAVEN"T WE??? I think you'll just have to take your medicine while it's being dosed out and then it will all be over. They're all a forgiving lot AREN'T YOU???
Do come to the Bloggers Lunch if you can. You will be made welcome I'm sure. Well, like WB and Nin I will talk to you. I know Saph's will too so hey, there's a handful already.
Give it a thought, but don't think too long or hard. Be a nike and just do it...
Hope to see you there "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at November 15, 2007 8:32 PM

istj54 - I have to agree with brilliantblue. If you had been up front from the start instead of trying to make funny remarks then no one would have suspected anything untoward. You played the game and didn't like the outcome.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 4:37 PM

gosh, istj54, if you come to the bloggers lunch I will talk to you. So will ninaschen I'm sure, and some others. We will take a whistle and a starting gun and appoint linesmen and an umpire if things get heated.

There is nothing wrong with having two or three profiles, I couldn't give a toss, nor could I give a rats whether you have a photo or not. I think you did get unfairly targeted about those things. However, when people thought they knew you under a different name, (and they were right) you told them they were wrong, and said you were completely new to them. I think it's obvious why they are annoyed.

But fer gods sake, we are all humans, and we can make an effort to get along in person, surely?

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 2:50 PM

lorainer darlin'

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 2:09 PM

Just returning to my origins fotoman, my first name here...and only one r....I got sick of seeing myself in the box n changed back.....started thinking that this is all upsetting me now, and that I usually stop doing things when they aren't fun anymore...so, so long, n I have enjoyed sparring with you even tho you did cross the line last week, was still fun.

Before I go again I'll tell u a funny story about the weather. I heard a few years ago that if you didn't work you needed to make contact with seven people each day...so...I told my very old dad he had to do that...He just goes up to safeway n flirts with the checkout chicks...but yesterday, when I was out with the family, we started doing it to see how easy it was....I swear,my sister talked to the forklift guy, behind the fruit shop, about the weather for at least five minutes...very funny..Wonder if it made his day>Seeya....

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 2:04 PM

lorraineR
wishingandhoping2
istj54

which one should I choose today?
are you like the weather ?
goodbye,hello,iam gone like the sun but will be back as the moon tonight.
is the sun shining today or is it raining on my parade.

sigh..............

Posted by: thefotografer at November 15, 2007 1:54 PM

If someone appears in the "Featured Members" column, does that mean that rsvp are saying "you've been on this site for too long, get off dearie."

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 15, 2007 1:23 PM

I am in no way complaining, BB, just telling it like it is.
A mirror has been held up to you bloggers and there is nothing but shattered glass.....what a mess!!

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 12:55 PM

Istj54….you should have been open and honest with other people on the blog site and let them know of your change of name….instead you kept the secrecy going….what did you expect!
Obviously you enjoyed this little game….well don’t complain when others are not happy over your little stunt!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 15, 2007 12:47 PM

Somehow I don't think that I would be welcome at the meeting, Michael.
Are you going to be there?

I could aslo tell you why you have offended OO but I doubt you would understand how she feels. And that is not because you are a man.

It is exactly as you left...I was just stoned by the rabble for a shorter period of time but for equally innocuous reasons. Cynicalandanonymous just did not like your views and she clearly stated that.
I was merely attacked for not having a picture up, nothing else, just that. People then swarmed around suspiciously and attacked me. Yes, after that I became a bit obtuse but who could blame me?
I did challenge you to re-read my earlier posts and tell me what I had said or done to attract such animosity, but you haven't bothered. You would rather continue to believe I am someone other than who I actually am....I am who I am on my new profile and I am still who I was on my earlier profile.
The one that made you smile. That is what you said in your kiss to me before you left a few months ago.
I am just as I kept saying on the weekend, a plain 54 yr old woman/mother whatever, nothing more, nothing less, just that.

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 12:19 PM

istj54 - actually, nothing like when I left at all.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 11:45 AM

istj54 - if you wish to avoid having people think you are someone else then I think you need to explain who you are. You often post in a way that invites cynicism plus your photo used to appear on another profile. Why don't you go to the bloggers' meeting on the 1st December?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 11:44 AM

Yes, I'm back already Woodnwine.....a bit like you leaving really.

So, will I book for four for that meeting, two for you and two for me??

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 10:04 AM

istj54 - you know deep down that everyone is very sorry. Let's all meet so we can appologise.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 7:54 PM

The biggest turnonffs to me are the posters at the moment. A few times in the last few days I've asked you all to have a look at yourselves and the way you have treated me. I started posting on Saturday, most sensibly, and in keeping with my OWN personality and wit. I can't say what happened but something went very wrong and I was accused of being MPD, a man, whatever.....it doesn't matter to me as I am out of here now on a permanent basis and will be out of the dating arena now too for a good long time. Nothing in the pool anymore except Karp n eel and snappy cats.
Sorry for being a big head, JPKool, I'm nowhere near beautiful, except to my children and those I teach.
This has been a most interesting social science experiment for me these last four days and I wish you all well and best of luck in your relationships cos you are so going to need it!!
Nothing like a good stoning on the blogs to put your life in perspective. I recommend it to anyone......broke my addiction.

Posted by: istj54 at November 14, 2007 5:11 AM

Smoking is definately the biggest turn off for me... I reply not interested, on every smoker, even if they're profile otherwise looks fine. They'd have to be damn hot and trying to quit otherwise!

Posted by: northqldguy78 at November 13, 2007 1:53 PM

A turn off?

I just posted the following in Does Hollywood influence bad behaviour? with parts referring to Summer Lovin' and Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook?

>If Hollywood influences bad behaviour, be wary of aspiring politicians-hoping-to-be.

With reference to Posting by: funlovertoo at November 11, 2007 10:58 PM in Summer Lovin',

again I find it ironic that while she's talking about being upset by someone else's post and then she openly states in,

"Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook?
* Posted by: funlovertoo at November 12, 2007 6:10 AM
>"OrnaMentalAsAnything may not be for real, given last night's posts, but does it matter in the sunny light of day?"
-----------------------

OrnamentalOnly -yes, I am me and no-one else.
I've been upset by this character's Funlovernot's accusation and will post my reply from
Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook:
-----------------------
OrnamentalOnly:
">Excuse me funlovertoo at November 12, 2007 6:10 AM???
What exactly do you mean?
Quite ironic coming from you (if, indeed, it is) as previously you made the comment about me being too honest...
* Posted by: Ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 12:57 AM
---------------------

>"By the way, the people who've spoken to me (or seen my pics,) don't worry about confirming anything to "Fun"lovertoo...she seems to be quite fond of our residential reincarnator ageinghippy aka what'shisnamethisweek.

Associations such as that, can't help but muddy the waters and dirty the hands of anyone who touches it.
* Posted by: Ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 1:05 AM
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>Final thought:
Imagine such lacks in discernment being inflicted on us not only through Hollywood but politics as well?

>Oops, maybe "Fun"lovertoomany has already demonstrated her "suitability" - for the political habit of slagging.
-------------------------

Yes, I am upset.
Yes, perhaps I shouldn't be reacting but I am human.

There is nothing ambiguous about my honesty in what I post or for that matter, from what I've written in my profile.

Nor is there any doubt that I will defend myself when my integrity is questioned.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 2:43 AM

Yes, weta at November 12, 2007 12:05 AM, you're absolutely right.

She was a real member of the family. But Great Danes don't have a long life-span, unfortunately.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 12, 2007 12:37 AM

.......and "Your last baby".....is that a note of loss I sense?.....

......she makes Dot, my aptly named undersized Greyhound look like a sylph.....

Posted by: weta at November 12, 2007 12:05 AM

well OO.....Yours is consciously a tad ambiguous eh?.....one should always hasten slowly and with some degree of circumspection (not that other word relating to appendages) when it comes to public exposure.....hmmm....is there a potential double-entendre there he asked?........

Posted by: weta at November 12, 2007 12:01 AM

Mine, of course Weta.
Yours is fine and thank you for allowing a peek. :)

How did you like "My last baby"? That one has just recently been put on.

*Sigh*...I really miss her.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 11, 2007 11:52 PM

Hello OO......

yes'm.....I have taken the liberty of checking out your piccie album....I reckon I saw them fleetingly once before....v photogenic.......

...and - apropos your "...Still a tad ambiguous" post of November 10 @ 11.33am.....do you mean You/Your profile or me/mine?

Posted by: weta at November 11, 2007 11:38 PM

Weta, you haven't said anything so far. Did you manage to access my secondary gallery pics in time?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 11, 2007 11:19 PM

I don't smoke and I don't date smokers yet when I check my inbox, half the kisses are from smokers. I'm polite and respond to these ignorant, disrespectful people who've deliberately chosen to ignore my ideal partner criteria but in future, I don't think I will.

I've discovered another dating website where I can block smokers from contacting me in the first place.

The more incompatible people I can block out, the more likely I am to use an internet dating service that gives me those options.

BurberryPie

Posted by: mendelssohn at November 11, 2007 3:00 PM

Ah yes, thanks Waterbombe! LOL

Posted by: trumanscat at November 10, 2007 2:28 PM

ageinghippie - maybe the bloggers were the ones wearing the dark glasses and she didn't notice them?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 10, 2007 2:14 PM

Strike the second "the"!

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 10, 2007 11:33 AM

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 11:26 PM, -some ambiguity banished with your profile showing. Thought I'd seen your pic before. :)

For the record, I've sent you my secondary pic password.
-Still a tad ambiguous.

Speaking of which, I agree with trumanscat at November 10, 2007 10:22 AM.
I cannot see any connections between the the two.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 10, 2007 11:33 AM

I think ageinghippies question to weta was just one modern man's connection with another about reproductive responsibility, trumanscat :-)

Posted by: waterbombe at November 10, 2007 10:32 AM

Ageinghippie. I cannot see the connection Weta to Snipt.

Posted by: trumanscat at November 10, 2007 10:22 AM

Dear Weta, you haven't also been Snipt, have you?

Whilst bloggers were partying with nervous glances cast over their shoulder for someone in dark sun glasses hiding behind bushes, I have counted 4 new profiles with her trademark cynical and anonymous/ slimey humour

whatever keeps you amused, babe

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 10, 2007 2:34 AM

Weta....

saw you revealed in all your glory :) and a very attractive man you are too... it's unambiguous!!

Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 10, 2007 1:11 AM

Hi OO......
.....in the interests of unambiguity (I've made that word up), I reveal my profile - until the morning - when once again I shall retreat from the cyber-dating temple to my contemplative millieu.......

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 11:26 PM

Back in May, Weta, you used he/she interchangeably.

Perhaps it was simply a typo.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 10:11 PM

..contradiction OO?....what contradiction? I t.hink I've always blogged with a male voice.......and other blogggers who know me have referred to me as the male that I am......

....I am curious tho, as to where I may have appeared as ambiguous....

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 10:04 PM

By the way weta, seeing as you hide your profile and in the past I noticed a contradictions in your blogging as to your sex, what are you? Male or female?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 9:21 PM

Yeah weta and I've gone longer, received a marriage proposal during that time and still didn't budge.

Quality is definitely worth it and like I said in the topic, Customer Support would like your input!
>"Solitaire or Patience, can still be a better deal in this card-game of life."

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 9:17 PM

the biggest turn offs are the regulars on this blog,they seem to think they are there to offer therapy to others[ as if its their given right!!!!!!!]
joke; what did st. peter say to god when pavarrotti died? here`s the tenor i owe you!!! ps. "get a LIFE"

Posted by: jonjon48 at November 9, 2007 9:06 PM

I agree totally Weta!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 9:04 PM

OO.......

...only 8 months......

.........hmmmm........

........

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 9:02 PM

No worries brilliantblue, I didn't mean to get too serious and I don't take things personally. :)

I've always agreed with the attitude of doing things without expecting anything in return.

Maybe that's why always feel good when I help people, whether or not, they appreciate it.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 8:52 PM

'evenin' waterbombe and BB...

having the traits of pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism....doesn't mean we Virgos are lacking any highly desirable and coveted human traits (such as lust, desire, sensuality, risk-taking, adventurousness, care-giving, nurturing.....you get the picture).......

.....we may well be organised and detail oriented......but we aint remedial in being in touch with the human touch......

....come in spinner eh?......

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 8:48 PM

Ornamentalonly...I'm not saying you have these traits....I beleive everyone should live their life the way that suits...everyone is different....and thank goodness we are....how boring would life be otherwise!
But sometimes I think its good to reflect on what sort of person do I want to be on my death bed and think generally the answer is a person who gave without expecting anything in return!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 8:38 PM

brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 8:17 PM, I'll say what I said to a zealous person trying to convert me and questioning any fear at my deathbed.

I've faced it. Yep, nothing more frightening. But I can't do anything about it and I sure as heck won't be able to stop it and I'm not going to beg anyone's forgiveness.
Remember, I've faced it before.

Thinking about life is but a passing phase, as that too, ends.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 8:32 PM

Gee waterbombe,

I didn't know the depth of my ignorance and my lacks were so obvious.

Seeing as I don't post my birth sign -I'm agnostic about that too (although my mother is a Sagittarian and she's off the planet -no offense to you BB,) I guess I'll have to rely on your judgements in that area, WB. *grin*

But, for eight months I've been a born again...
virgin.
Does that count for anything?

The Old Ogre raises her glass of gin and tonic to "da bombe". :)

P.S. Unlike a lot of women, I can read and follow map books, so I don't waste my money with GPS' or male guides. :)

Although men aren't entirely useless to me...I'm having a young handyman lad call around tomorrow and he's going to be hanging a blind for me, replacing a doorhandle and holding up some pictures while I decide where to place them...men do have some uses to an older woman, after all. ;)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 8:22 PM

Waterbombe....I think they need to think about one day when you're on you're death bed what are the moments in your life that will come to mind in your last living moments...I'm sure it will nothing to do with pragmatism/literalism or detail nazism!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 8:17 PM

gosh, BB, now I'm befuddled.
OO and weta are crying out for assistance to overcome pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism ...what help can our less responsible bloggers give them...no good asking me, I'm a Capricorn.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 9, 2007 8:01 PM

Waterbombe...I'm a sagitarian but I obviously haven't kept up with this blog so not sure what you're saying!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 7:41 PM

This astrological explanation of your behaviour is hard to swallow, Virgoans.

But who am I to challenge such ancient knowledge? Can I ask instead how you would feel about trying to be Sagittarians for a week? They throw caution to the winds. AS well as their clothes, mind and morals. No I'm not suggesting you go THAT far to start with but could you take the battery out of all the clocks in the house, and then shuffle the billls so that you can't pay them in order? Put all tools/hardware/fix-it appliances in the bath to soak, and don't read the nutrition advisory lables on packages for a week? Lastly...and this will require stern resolve...turn off the GPS in the car?

Could you do it??? Are there any Sagittaarians who could give advice on how a Virgo could handle this?

Posted by: waterbombe at November 9, 2007 7:28 PM

Hi weta,

we do have something in common with,

"prone to such traits as pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism (amongst other things)....."

that's why I replied to your post. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 1:42 AM

Hi there OO and WnW

yep........I well and truley know the tongue-in-cheek dart.....

...and I admit I'm not one to automatically check out every blogger profile, prior to responding to a posted blog....so I didn't check out MIB's latest incantation.......

I'm a Virgo.....and the horoscopic students say we are prone to such traits as pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism (amongst other things).....and so, whilst I have a broad view about the vagaries of human behaviour, I'm also prone to occasionally reflect and comment in a quite literal and unambiguous way...hence my less than tongue in cheek and quite literal reflections on smoking and caffeine......Youse two have the advantage(and interest) in following the dynamic and contemporan eous life and times of MIB....

....at times, I respond more to narrative rather than profile.....hmmmmm....

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 1:10 AM

Hi brilliantblue....

I wasn't commenting or making any judgement about banning drugs or worrying about drugs or using drugs - nor saying that drug-taking is necessarily harmful.... just making the simple statement of fact, that caffeine is a drug -and amongst the most commonly used of all drugs......

.....I've spent the best part of 14 years working in the field of counselling and educating in drugs - and I make no judgements about drug-taking.....it is a common/regular/desired activity for many humans.....of all of the people you know or have ever known....how many have never taken a drug....we are a drug-taking society......sometimes though...we don't like to acknowledge that the substances we take are drugs, because drug-taking has negative connotations....but it is a most common human activity......

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 12:10 AM

Sometimes you die faster by worrying too much!
If they started banning every food that has a drug or chemical in it there wouldn't be much left!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 8, 2007 11:49 PM

come in spinner

Posted by: woodnwine at November 8, 2007 11:29 PM

Ummmm weta, I was having a joke.

Signed by,

(Yet again)
Widowed by a smoker.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 8, 2007 10:21 PM

....and YES ornamentalonly.....coffee contains caffeine - caffeine is a central nervous system stimulant.....it is a drug......

Posted by: weta at November 8, 2007 10:09 PM

ageinghippie......ANY smoking counts as smoking...isn't that self-evident?

....lungs are not designed to accommodate smoking......

Posted by: weta at November 8, 2007 10:00 PM

ageinghippy, does coffee still count as a drug to you?

Or, just a further irritant to an already compromised heart?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 8, 2007 9:30 PM

ageinghippie - it only counts if you roll it in tobaccie

Posted by: woodnwine at November 8, 2007 9:11 PM

hi, ageinghippie - I had a look at your profile - loved it! Some great ideas in there.... especially the bit about the horses forced to play polo... really hope you find the "partner in crime" you're looking for.

Posted by: malsie at November 8, 2007 8:31 PM

Does smoking herbal extract count as smoking?

Hate the dreaded tobacco.

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 8, 2007 7:33 PM

As a new member to this site I had a problem filling out the registration form.

I detest tobacco but don't mind a quick drag on a parcel of natural healthy dried pigroot and vitamins.

Was I supposed to fill out Non Smoking or Smoking?

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 8, 2007 4:08 PM

2nd attempt to post, yesterdays attempt is still not posted as at 3.14pm today, Thursday.

Naelie, re your delays in getting posted, I have been blogging regularly since early July, and I am still not posted in real time. It takes hours, sometimes days to get posted, and then they slot your message into time slot you wrote the message in, which could be a hundred messages ago, so no one, or almost no one, will get to read it, as it is too far down the list and out of the current conversation, out of date.

How can you participate in a real time conversation, when some get posted immediately, and others a day later?

If this gets posted quickly, you will have to pick me up off the floor. When I started blogging I thought that this was a fantastic idea. People in similar situations, that you could talk to and get advice, support and share funny and sometimes not so funny experiences. But the delays are really killing my enthusiasm.

I am also paid up with stamps and RSViP, so it doesn’t help by being a financial member.

I do not know how you become a trusted member.

I have asked RSVP twice now and keep getting standard template call centre type answers, you know the answer that actually does not tell you anything. It is extremely frustrating and occasionally gives me the sxxxts.

But maybe if we persist, they might do something to make it fair for all bloggers.

Have a lovely Tuesday. Jewels.
Biggest turn offs . Wed 7 nov 8.35.

Posted by: junebaby57 at November 8, 2007 3:15 PM

Get together tonight at The Blue Gum Hotel, Waitara 7pm....everyone welcome.
If you would like to meet some other members of RSVP for a drink, come along tonight!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 8, 2007 12:38 PM

Hi ninaschen - you know you can't afford to go away for a few days without someone picking on you. Keep your guard up woman!

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 11:07 PM

Goodness me! I go away for a few days and look what happens! Someone is angling for a bite. I'm so sorry I wasn't around so I could pointedly ignore it. Thank you my friends, for jumping into the breach to defend me (both here and on other blogs). But as AuntyKaz pointed out (here? elswhere?) I am rolling on the floor, holding my sides.

I just love this place!

Posted by: ninaschen at November 7, 2007 9:27 PM

That would be nice.
Seeing you know the "haunts" better than me I will let you decide on the time and the place.
i turn ino a pumpkin after midnight or maybe a mouse.I am sure i will find out on Thursday.

see you then!!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 5:47 PM

Thefotografer, I'll meet up for drinks Thursday night if you're in Sydney and anyone else who would like to as long as its not in the city?
Somelifeinmeyet...you can't say its not safe....you won't be the only female and your chance to prove you're geniune!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 5:30 PM

pixiemagic, sometimes "real" life and "blog life" blurs together in one amorphous blob - who knows where one ends and another begins? "Then I woke up and it was all a dream...." - welcome to the weird twilight world....

Posted by: malsie at November 7, 2007 4:51 PM

Pixiemagic...I actually agree. You guys seem to be taking the bait way too easily. I haven't commented on the blogs lately as it just seems like lining up in front of a firing squad.

Biggest turn offs....I had a man contact me the other day who Told me when and where we were meeting in the initial email...I Told him he wasted a stamp. Bit pushy if you ask me.

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at November 7, 2007 11:31 AM

Ms offwiththefairies

to me it is fun, to many it is serious and yes many do not have much of a life from what I can see of the posts.

Love your chairs btw.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 11:18 AM

My goodness!!...I cant help but comment on these blogs and I know I will be shot down in flames but I really have to wonder...do all you guys actually have a real life? or is it just portrayed on blogs like this??...how sad!

Posted by: pixiemagic at November 7, 2007 11:12 AM

well, somelifeinmeyet, you are way, way off in your comments about Ninaschen. You couldn't be further from the truth, actually. What you don't know is that at least 15 of the bloggers on here know Ninaschen in person. And every single one would tell you (and most have told you) that she's a lovely, kind, compassionate, funny, intelligent woman.

So where, I'm wondering, do your ideas come from....I'm with Malsie on this one, you probably do have some mental health problems. These outbursts of irrational rage are an indicator of that...I think you should go to your GP and get some help. I'm serious.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 7, 2007 11:07 AM

wishingandhoping2

I will be in Sydney (thursday) from 11am
My meeting could go as late as 6.00
So, if you or somethingthe cat dragged in would like to meet prior to eleven or after 6 iwill take your photo.
If you would like to jump a jet and give me all your relevant information I will even go to the airport meet you take your photo give you some dinner and send you on your way back to Melbourne>>

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 9:27 AM

Somelifeinmeyet....come on, if you're so genuine take up thefotografers offer and prove us all wrong!
You're continually going on about it so stop talking and do it!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 8:10 AM

He won't turn up for the shoot........all crap.....no point!!!!!!!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 7, 2007 7:41 AM

somelifeinmesomewhere

how about that photo and a meeting..I will take your photo for free..........that we can all cut through the crap and get to the point .........................whatever the point was !!!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 6, 2007 9:58 PM

Somelifeinmeyet....the only person who needs to grow up is you and while you're at it stop yelling!
I don't like your aggressive abusive behaviour! fullstop!....my thoughts are nothing to do with any other blogger on here!
If you want to make friends its easy stop the aggression and abuse that seems to spurt out of you continually like a volcano about erupting!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 6, 2007 9:40 PM

SomeVenonInMyHeart (masquerading as somelifeinmeyet).......

I know ninascen.......

you do NOT know ninaschen.......you have NOT spoken to ninaschen......you have NEVER met ninaschen.....

.....you are seriously mistaken and deluded in your rantings about ninaschen......

......ninaschen is a most honourable person.......

.....you need help.......

Posted by: weta at November 6, 2007 9:10 PM

somelifeinmeyet - I have shaken my head in disbelief at many a thing you've written, but honestly, that last post has me seriously worried about your mental health (and that's not meant to be an insult, but a genuine comment).

Posted by: malsie at November 6, 2007 8:15 PM

Aaaaah, just noticed some retrospective posts of naelie's from 1st & 2nd of November!

The retrospective posting used to happen to all of us before. I guess it is as wraecca said at November 6, 2007 5:39 PM re new bloggers.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 6, 2007 7:50 PM

Hmmm...I have just now got some of the posts on this topic from 4 November and it is now 6 November.

Anyway, naelie at November 5, 2007 6:24 AM -ta.

One thing I've noticed about posting on here is that you need to post quickly.

Sometimes, it is an idea to copy what you've typed before attempting to post, so you can easily paste it if you have to sign in again.
Of course, when you sign in yet again, you can then paste what you typed previously and then post immediately.

Hope that is of some help.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 6, 2007 7:41 PM

I think some of this angst could be cleared up if somelifeinmeyet told us what's the difference between "disagreeing" and "attacking" in her eyes. They are clearly not the same thing, are they....so how are they different? If we knowthat, we might be lmore likely to recognise a disagreement without taking it as a personal slight, and less likely to take umbrage.

There's too much umbrage on this site. We could do with less.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 6, 2007 6:55 PM

Hi Naelie, you are getting posted, it's just taking the moderators a while to see that you're a friendly type of person. A belated welcome to the blogs also :)
I read your profile, and want to encourage you for being so strong after what has happened to you.

Somelifeinmeyet, not all of the 'clique' as you call us (I've apparently been placed in that description) are spineless, desperate for friends, etc. I like Ninaschen for the encouragement and friendly advice that she has given me. Saying that, I don't always agree with what she says. I don't believe that you are Earl, however, you yourself have been guilty of the same kinds of behaviour you accuse Ninaschen of....bullying or making nasty statements. Before you go on the defensive, all I am saying is that nobody is perfect, we all say things that we don't necessarily mean at times. If you still feel like I'm attacking you, then so be it. I have agreed with you in blogs, and I have disagreed with you in blogs. I don't hate you, but nor do I think we will ever be 'bestest buddies'. You are simply another person on RSVP who I sometimes interact with, sometimes agree with and sometimes disagree with.

By the way, the definition of bullying is: "a form of habitual aggressive behaviour that is hurtful and deliberate". I think that, if I decided some of your comments were deliberate, then you could be accused of bullying as well. However, I'd like to think that some of your more hurtful comments are not intentional and not deliberate, so therefore not bullying.

But this is just my opinion....

Posted by: wraecca at November 6, 2007 5:39 PM

Hi Naelie....don't ever sign off and it should be easier!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 6, 2007 4:58 PM

There is still people who openly have no regard for others with the matter of passive smoking.

I was driving the other day and saw a 4wd with 3 small kids in the back and mum and dad were both smoking in the car.

Now thats what i call irresponsible...........

Posted by: twoeyes at November 6, 2007 11:23 AM

Day 5 attempt to post a comment thanking ornamentalonly for her welcome to the blogs, and her 'thumbs up' on my profile. I have posted every day under this blog heading, but doesnt seem to go anywhere. Am I doing something wrong?
Jeanie
aka naelie

Posted by: naelie at November 5, 2007 6:24 AM

wishingandhoping2 - yes, you could be missing out on the love of their (short) life. Just a thought.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 11:04 PM

amuso - Sorry but I would find it hard to be with someone who is knowingly killing themselves in spite of me. Opposites attract but rarely last (sometimes they die prematurely). If I knew I was doing something that was almost certainly going to kill me I think I would stop doing it. RSVP perhaps should promote smoking (just joking) because it would guarantee them of new customers. Everyone has a right to make their own choices in life but when it affects the ones they love???

Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 11:01 PM

A big turnoff for me is is LIERS!!!

"Ninaschen" is a BIG LIER!! Therfore she cannot possibly be nice! Wake up you fools! She is making fools out of all the "clique"! LOL!!

I am a woman, not a man!

Its hard to believe that adults can crawl so much to this woman! What do you owe her???..Why do believe any lie she says like it is truth???

Why show yourselves on a public blog to be SO desperate for any friend you can get at ANY cost???????..(even a lier).

What message does this send to any guy reading your blogs against me??????? It says that you will JUST as desperate to get ANY boyfriend you can get!!..(this will really attract the perverts..then later I will read on the blogs your dating horror stories...and you can't even see that you YOURSELVES have given these perverts the "green light" yourselves!..(by showing how desperate you are for ANYONE to like you!)

For goodness sake wake up, and get some SELF RESPECT!!

Don't degrade yourselves by believing any lie that "Ninaschen" says! Get some BACKBONE! think for yourselves!

So what if she bullies you next if you stick up for me????

Is that the cost you want to pay so she won't pick on you too???????

Do you really have no living , breathing friends in real life that you would lower yourselves to her level???????

Would you let man tell you what to do like that????

Please act like adults on this site, not school children! Don't follow the mob, stand out!

I have no intention of cowtowing to the likes of "ninashen" or any other bullies and liers!

I don't care if she picks on me, and slanders me, as I am just sooooooooooo GRATEFUL that I am NOT one of her children, or her ex-husband, or one of her family members..........because if she is going to accuse a stranger of being a man, and being "earl"......what kind of lies did she say about her ex-husband duringthe divorce, or her own children????????

Just think about that for a minute those (ie: "brilliantblue" who so easily jumped in to repeat the same lies against me in todays posting!!)

What are you REALLY teling the male readers about YOURSELF..(not about me)..when you say such things?????????

Nothing very good, that's for sure!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 4, 2007 6:24 PM

Well, it is now Day 4.
I have attempted a posting since October 31, to thank ornamentalonly for her blog welcoming me to the blogging pages, and thanking her for the very nice comment about my profile. None have yet to appear.SOOOOooo....ornamentalonly, your comments did not go unnoticed, and they are very welcome, especially the OK on my profile ( no males have the same 'appreciaton', but I like me, so it doesnt matter).
Anyway, thanks again, and happy blogging
Jeanie

Posted by: naelie at November 4, 2007 9:20 AM

I agree, Amuso!
You could be missing out on the love of your life.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 3, 2007 6:34 PM

@ somelifeinmeyet- Thanks for your support? However your choice of words is not correct. It is not a matter of being "scared" or running from the "bullies" as my comments havn't really been challenged, as an aries male, born in the chinese year of the tiger (for those who believe or care in such things) and being self employed which should give clues to my personality. i.e I am more than capable of defending myself and do not suffer fools or nasty/ugly people and their sheep like bleating etc. I love stimulating/intelligent conversation not the constant squabbling that goes on in all these blogs regardless of the topic in question! It bores me! P.S As for dating through the ages etc? If a woman is going to drive me crazy, be nasty, have hang ups or the "single savage mum syndrome" that is so common, then give me one that is young ,cute AND doesnt smoke! ANYDAY THANKS.and you wonder why? As someone wisely said " there is one thing worse than being single and thats wishing you were!" :) Ahhh freedom! only a lonely fool would trade it for less than its worth! But I digress, Biggest turnoffs:Butts,Bad breath and Smokers Kisses?...YES that about sums it up!... or see my previous posting on this.....IMANENIGMA and still bored!

Posted by: imanenigma at November 3, 2007 12:01 PM

Posted by: woodnwine at November 3, 2007 12:17 AM
Old is romantic, not! Why deny yourself romance now for the sake of it coming with a guarantee later? Not saying that smoking's ok, but why worry. Even our planet has a terminal dose of lung cancer. Remember, the rule of opposites.

Posted by: amuso at November 3, 2007 7:35 AM

brilliantblue, I wouldn't waste time listening to the rattlings of an empty can.

It is a real turn off.

Best consign it to the bin and have it sent to the tip out of harms way.

At least you won't be constantly tripping over it and listening to its tinny, prattling echo going on and on and on.

Then too, there is no risk of the being jabbed by the sharp edges of a empty container.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 3, 2007 2:34 AM

Smoking kills and death is a big turn off. It makes it hard to sit on the porch in old age with your partner when they have died of emphasima, lung cancer or throat cancer. Very romantic - not. ( I did it my way!!!!)

Posted by: woodnwine at November 3, 2007 12:17 AM

Thank you for the welcome, ornamentalonly!
I keep trying to post a comment, but it never seems to appear.
Thank you for the thumbs up, too...most appreciated
Jeanie

Posted by: naelie at November 2, 2007 7:09 PM

ha! ha! Chad. By then, he could be wearing the coronation crown...!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 2, 2007 4:02 PM

Ornamentalonly, mny thanks for your welcome and the thumbs up for my profile.
I have blogged previously, but as I was none too complimentary about a "Pixie-Anne" character in here, I wasnt published..lol.
I have now become a 'blog addict'and read these pages more than the profiles. Keep up the great writings everyone.
Regards
Jeanie

Posted by: naelie at November 1, 2007 9:29 PM

hi hiddencharms maybe hislordship can borrow his son in laws tall furrey hat? it would be easy to pick out but i dont think he could stand still long enough or keep his mouth shut but with his connections he should be able to get one shipped out to the colonies from the old dart with lizzies approval of course

Posted by: chad1958 at November 1, 2007 7:38 PM

Reply to "brilliantblue', well I did think that I covered the double standards in my blog, as I gave that oh too typical example of nasty people who say things like "Oh , have you put on weight???" ....when the person has just lost three stone!!!!!----(I still prefer to talk in stones rather than kilos).

I am quite aware of the double standards when it comes to weight.

People can do all the right things...(which is good)...but there comes a point, after doing all that one can do, that one must acept that they DO look like their RELATIVES!!....(for better or worse!)

A man once said to me.."I shave my father every morning"...LOL!!! (because in the mirror as he shaved his face he saw an exact replica of his father!!!)

This can be unerving.......I should know....I make jokes to my children that "she's still stalking me"...and "How do I get rid of her???" as my mother is always in my mirror looking back at me!!

My father says that I look like someone took some dna of my mother and just made me!LOL!

My daughter( who looks like meI don't look like you when I get old!"----I replied just the other day to her..."Think of it this way, even though I may get old and die, its like I will never leave you, becasue anytimme that you miss me, just look into the mirror and I will be looking back at you! LOL!!"

Its ironic, but its life!

It's important for people to acept how they look...(and who they look like), in order to develop an inner peace. Restlessnes and discontent are NOT conducive to spiritual glow, they switchesit of!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 1, 2007 3:33 PM

Somelifeinmeyet....your blog post on Oct 26th 12.48
My close friends are the ones who comment....they think they are giving me a compliment...its usually something along the lines of you're so slim you can fit into anything and look great. I wouldn't take that as an insult!
All I was trying to point out is that people who carry a bit of weight are usually the first to say something about slim, thin etc but if anyone made a comment about overweight or carrying some weight they are usually the first to get upset. I'm was trying to say double standards!
We are all what we are!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 1, 2007 12:47 PM

I smoke thats it. If others dont like it then dont kiss me or reply to my kisses .I am me and i am not going to give up because someone else wants me to .

Posted by: sn13 at October 31, 2007 11:15 PM

Hey naelie, welcome to the blogging pages. :)

Nice comment on your October 27, 2007 8:41 AM post and a "thumbs up for your profile".

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 31, 2007 10:57 PM

A dicky ticker is a
bit tricky in the trouser department, lordchunderly.

As OrnamentalOnly has so politely pointed out.

Methinks you should try harder to be upfront and straightforward about this with the young ladies you seek to engage.

Untilthesunsetsontheempire-whichithas.
- Ladywaterbaby

Posted by: waterbombe at October 31, 2007 7:49 PM

Reply to" imanenigma" Oct 29th, 11.20pm......yet another blogger who has LEFT the site, saying that "I don't belong here' ands "Its like a school yard"...This about the third person to say so in as many days!!

If you are reading this, "imanenigma', I urge you to return and not to be scared away by the school yard bullies on these chatboards!!!!

Of course they are self-centred people, whose whole universe revovles around themselves and their dating failures, and they say over and over that they don't want to read about anything else! BUT JUST IGNORE THEM!!!!!!

They pick on people, make up fake stories about them that they have fake profiles, they don't even appreciate it when someone posts jokes for them to read!
They are loud, rude and ungrateful...but an "EMPTY KETTLE MAKES THE MOST NOISE"!!!!

They are really in a minortity..most people read, but don't post comments..so don't think that THEY are the standard of the blogs!( Just because they are the ones who post)!

Don't give up yet...keep blogging for the people like myself who actualy WANT sane, intelligent conversation. (I post as well, as read the blogs as I am not a coward, and not easily frightened away by these losers!)

They do NOT have a share in R.S.V.P. , they do NOT own the site, they can't tell you what to do or what to blog! Just ignore these idiots, and keep blogging.!!! Others will replyto you, even if they don't.!!

I am not on this site to play "let's be friends" with these low types of people, so I don't care if they don't like me!

If they DID like me, i would be more concerned..as "friends of a featehr flock together"!..The fact that they are MEAN to me, shows me quite clearly ..(and I am hapy for it.).that I am sooooooooooo diferent from them!)..THANK GOODNESS!!!!

So please stay...."imanenigma' and anyone else who was thinking of leaving.!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 31, 2007 4:30 PM

Okay, I'm back after having some strange "connectivity" problems.

Re: lordcholmondeley at October 26, 2007 6:26 AM.

lordchunderley (aka Earl,) I do not go out of my way to cause trouble but will defend myself.

As for your health problems - you may or may not remember that I cared for my late husband through his suffering and death before he could receive a heart transplant. I simply state that as a foundation for some of my following comments and definitely not for sympathy.

Earl, I did wonder why you went quiet for awhile.

My concern is always for the genuine people afflicted with disabling health conditions.

If you are involved in a health survey and had an ECG with your heart study; that is simply one of the basic tests for early signs of heart problems. Much more extensive checking is involved if there are any concerns.

Nevertheless, as I know from past experience and as you should well know Earl, a man with a serious heart condition is certainly not capable of a full relationship.

Which means lordchunderley, if your heart is seriously afflicted, your profiles in the Dating/Relationship section of RSVP, are not appropriate for someone looking to you for more than friendship.

For your own sake Earl, may I suggest that if your health is genuinely compromised, you consider taking a break from blogging (as some of us do at times,) to maintain your own peace, rest, and follow the medical advice given to you for your general health and well-being.

If you should also read the Bible (as you have referred to previously) and focus on the positive aspects, it may also be of some comfort.

One last tip lorchchump, you said:

lordcholmondeley: "I suggested that my heart problems might have something to do with the women I hang out with",

perhaps you should practise all things in moderation and confine yourself to one woman as opposed to the "women" you "hang out with" Earl?

Take care of yourself m'lad; for that is one area you can exert some control, surely?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 31, 2007 12:00 AM

Oh !DUHHHHHHHHhhhhh................you dummy!!!!

Posted by: thefotografer at October 30, 2007 9:57 PM

PS fotoman: Do you go to the same shrink as our Bris-based bouncer?

Speaking of which, bouncer-boy: If you've happened to land a gig at Cannungra on the 25th, please let me know which "hat" you will be wearing....just so I go to the other gate...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 30, 2007 9:51 PM

fotoman: In case you missed the point, the CR@p comments were directed at you!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 30, 2007 9:47 PM

turn off... profiles that state"its whats inside that counts ...... must be 6`6"!!!!!! is this whats known as an oxymoron!!!!!!

Posted by: jonjon48 at October 30, 2007 9:38 PM

Good on ya mate
The whole site is full of crap and yes the internet dates are different than normal people …my psychiatrist warned me and he was right.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 30, 2007 9:12 PM

To the Editor:
Isn't it about time we had a new topic for a blog. There have been plenty of good suggestions which seem to have been ignored. I for one am heartily sick of the smoking thing.
Also sick of blogs which freeze and take forever to load. Please give them a viking funeral!
Let's have some equality in posting as well.
Thanks in anticipation.

Posted by: mushie6 at October 30, 2007 7:12 PM

Geez folks, havnt read blogs for a while as I ,like many others I suspect, got bored with the "crap" that was going on. FAIRDINKUM! same s#*t different day! Reading some of the posts one would think we are back in the school yard! I thought RSVP would be a good medium for people of my/our ages to meet etc however im beginning to believe the old theory about computers, computer dating and "computer people" is true. Or maybe its just me? but I think im "over it!" and dont belong here. Good luck to all! some of you are gunna need it! @Trumans Cat , for what its worth, I do admire your intelligence as do many. @ Fotographer- see above comment. IMANENIGMA

Posted by: imanenigma at October 29, 2007 11:20 PM

Religion....don't get me started.....cos l won't shut up....definitely a no no for me., sorry can't help it.............k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 29, 2007 9:30 PM

yep, for me the deal breakers are New Age, religion, and Fat Cats.

Posted by: waterbombe at October 29, 2007 9:02 PM

New Age and Byron Bay are the two deal breakers for me.

This is the scary thing.
Many years ago a lot of the hill women from Byron Bay found themselves lying in this forest of green funny looking weeds.
When they got up and started to walk around they did not realize where they were.
After 3 or 4 days it was like a survival camp from a nuclear bomb blast.
The women had congregated together and realized that all the men were gone.
The only thing that was left was their dogs and cats.
Now, a funny thing started to happen after a few months. They noticed the cats were growing to immense sizes and the dogs started disappearing one by one.
They found out that the cats had started eating that funny green weed and started growing to enormous sizes and as they grew their appetites grew and the weeds were no longer sufficient to sustain them so they started eating the dogs.
The women then had a meeting and began wondering what they could do about these fat cats.
They decided to see who would take the cats off their hands.
One woman in the group was the only one with a computer so she began to search the web day and night to see who could take the cats.
At their next meeting she presented her findings and the group agreed to go with her recommendation.
The only problem was , they all had to log in and registered and it was only after a week when no one had turned up to pick up the cats that they realized they had not registered with the RSPCA as they first thought but with RSVP!!! And that my friends is how RSVP began. 

Posted by: thefotografer at October 29, 2007 8:01 PM

To thefotographer,

Im cracking up at the "no more soup for you" comment.... maybe you should add tim tams and alike too

Maybe the "just say no" promotion .."just say no to seconds, thirds and dessert" or dinner time aerobics ..."now push..and push..and push that plate away"

Keep it up mate...very amusing

regards to all

Posted by: stormtrooper at October 29, 2007 4:54 PM

My Dear SomeLifeInMeYet.

My support for you is not unqualififed.

You have to be a good girl now. Not like some of these twits.

Actually I just like to stagger in at some ungodly hour of the morning and post a blog. They never did say nighttime was for sleeping.

Posted by: lordcholmondeley at October 28, 2007 4:53 AM

Saying: ..."May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, Enough sorrow to keep you human, And enough hope to make you happy.!!"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 27, 2007 10:24 PM

I saw this one on a guy's profile..."What lies behind us and what lies before us,are small matters, compared to what lies within us."

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 27, 2007 10:19 PM

Reply to "waterbombe"..some of my blogs are just one-liners..theyare not all long.

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 27, 2007 10:16 PM

To 'somelifeinmeyet'.
I still consider myself a 'nice' lady, albeit a 'liberated' one.
Being 'liberated' entitles me to do the things i want or need to do...mowing the lawns, changing flat tyres when necessary, not waiting for someone else to'help' me, just because its not ladylike to do it for oneself!
I have had to support myself for several years now, so, yes, I am liberated, but I also extend good manners to the world, and appreciate the same in return.
Jeanie

Posted by: naelie at October 27, 2007 8:41 AM

Had my suspicions.. think there are a few too many turkeys on here.
thefotografer... love the jokes keep them coming

Posted by: anaturallady at October 27, 2007 7:35 AM

hey chummers, you're a bit rough on OO with her comments on SLIMY. Get yourself a bit of history first, old chap - read back through the blogs before you raise a flag.

SLIMY, perhaps they haven't posted your blogs yet because you go on and on and on and on and on and on and on.....

Posted by: waterbombe at October 26, 2007 8:56 PM

How do you know if you're in love, lust, or marriage?

LOVE - when your eyes meet across a crowded room.
LUST - when your tongues meet across a crowded room.
MARRIAGE - when your belt won't meet around your waist, and you don't care.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 26, 2007 6:54 PM

Thanks new blogger.."lordcholmondeley" re your support for me

From.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 4:23 PM

I do not not see my replies listed up here yet?

There was a lot of thunder today, is this why, has it not been safe at the office to use the computers?

I am only just checking the blogs now myself, as the thunder has been severe over my way.

For those who do not know..using the phone or computer during a thunderstorm is not advised.

from.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 4:19 PM

: wonder why you volunteered for a heart program, when its plain for all to see that what continues to pump inside your chest is probably running on duracell, fuelled by coffee, and a very bad dose of if its for free, then its for me, and has nothing to do with a heart.

Posted by: twoeyes at October 26, 2007 2:19 PM

OrnamentalOnly

I really do think you should go along to your local University Medical School and volunteer for any trial programs they are running for the various issues you have. You have conveyed to many of us your history, but blogging is not the answer to your issues, especially taking it out on someone else.

I seem to have "volunteered" for a heart research program or two with leading researchers at a medical school in SEQ. Signed up for 2 years of clinical trials in exchange for free cardiography and specialised treatment. An offer I couldn't resist. Even got to like hospital food.

Mind you I was hospitalised recently for reasons which were more work related than heart, but ended up on ECG ad infinitum. They didn't even believe me when I suggested that my heart problems might have something to do with the women I hang out with; they thought it probably had more to do with excessive caffeine and bad dietary intake, but the wisecrack was worth a try to see whether they recommended complete abstention and confinement to the safer realm of computer love aka blogs, or retreat to a health farm or even remote monastery in the vineyards of Bordeaux (any excuse to indulge, with medical licence as my raison d'etre).

Posted by: lordcholmondeley at October 26, 2007 6:26 AM

It says a shocking thing about what "liberation" has done, to women's manners and commonsense!

To the nice ladies on here, it must be hard to stand these horrible women!

They have turned me off now, to going to R.S.V.P. functions (previously I had been very enthusiastic about the idea), and I am sure that I am NOT the only one!...(I would hate to see any of them there, as it would ruinthe whole atmosphere of the evening for me!)

I remind myself that I am luckythat I onlyhave to tolerate her as words on a page, but that others must suffer her "Up close and Personal"..

from."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 1:56 AM

The spiritual glow of a person is very important in whether a person is attracted to another person, but I haven't heard anyone else here mention it yet except me.

Tom cruise is not very goodlooking, (his features are out of proportion, and he is very short), but when he smiles, he exudes a spiritual glow that washes over his face, that suddenly makes him seem maddeningly attractive to women!!!!

Some anorexically thin stars are seen as beautiful to some teenage girls and guys, but when I look at them.. I see a shrunken aura.....(like I said in my post)..and they see to be like half a person...that barely any spiritual glow is present.!

They are like a skeleton, and no amount of makeup, hair extensions (as their own hair often breaks offf rom lack of nutrition), fake nails or expensive clothes, can give them the God given glow that only comes from within, from the heart and the soul.

The spiritual glow cannot be bought at a shop, for any price.

Many an ugly guy has a beautiful woman on his arm, because he has a big spiritual glow, and the woman on his arm basks in it!

And likewise, many an ugly or much older lady (or even chubby)has a young attractive man hanging on her arm, hanging on every word she says.!

These people have let their natural spiritual glow develop, and have not let themselves be bullied re their looks, their weight or their skin colour.

They are happy to look just like their relatives, and accept themselves.

Doing the best that one can with what one has, and then being HAPPY about it..(not obsessing, not worring, not yoyo dieting...because these things kill the spiritual glow), are more attractive to a mate.

The happy RELAXED atmosphere they give off to others around them is what attracts people to them.!

When people give off obssession and anxiety vibes, people run inthe OTHER direction! (Wouldn't you too??????)

So my advice to "brilliantblue.".is to give off the glow that will attract people and stop them criticising your thinness, is to be very relaxed and accepting with yourself, and that you look like your realtives, and then other people won't worry about it either.

People subconsciously feel your insecurities, and say them back to you, which will just make you more anxious. If you stop worrying about it, your glow will increase, and people will probably stop commenting on your thinness!

There are many enormously fat ladies, that have a wonderful life, because they've given up worrying about it, and when they stop worrying, they are more fun to have around, and so people don't care how fat they are.!

The same applies to people who worry that they won't be accepted because of their race... my advise to them is.."if people like you, they WON'T care what race you are!"

But if people DON'T LIKE YOU, they will ALWAYS NAG about anything..,like you are too fat, too dark, too thin, your hair was too frizzy, you weren't educated enough, you had an accent etc;

sO IF ANYONE HEARS THIS, REMEMBER THAT IT really IS THAT they just plain DON'T like you.!!!! Don't try and change to please them, because then they will just find something new to dislike. MOVE ON! Find new friends!

(Alot of guys on the blogs complain that their dates turned out to be fat...well there was alot more that they didn't like than that, or they would have at least wanted to get to know them.)

If they had REALLY liked them, they wouldn't have cared that they were fat!!!

So really, they didn't like them anyway..they just focused on the fat as the reason.

So this should give hope to people who get rejected on dates!...it is never usaully ONE thing that they don't like, its a whole lot.....so you were not suited.

Therefore don't obsess on one thing..ie; "it was because I was fat"..or "if only I wasn't bald"...or ""If I was more curvy"...as it was not as simple as that.

Because even if you could change that ONE thing...they still wouldn't like you.

You need to find someone who likes the WHOLE package, as its the whole package that they are attracted too!

If they really like you, then even if they normally find a certian thing unattractive, they will excuse it in you!

I have seen it happen so many times...it does happen. just hang in there and keep looking!

From.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 12:48 AM

apm1

Congratulations on your great achievement in giving up smoking. Thank you for sharing your story. Have a wonderful time going through all those new doors in your life.

karenchocolat

Posted by: karenchocolat at October 26, 2007 12:03 AM

Well,
I want to say something about thinness.
When I was young I was really really thin and use to eat like a horse and play sport.
Now I am older I don’t play sport and don’t eat like a horse but I am not thin.
So that one is to do with calories in higher than calories out.

I know a nurse who has been loosing weight for over a year,she also has episodes of syncope,she has also had and been treated for two forms of cancer when she was 29.

She separated from her husband ..you guessed it about a year ago.
She will not eat well because she is :
Too busy working.
Studying for a degree.
Looks after a 17 year old daughter.

Is going through legal settlement
Her ex tried to kill her by attempting to run her over in his car.
He stalks her.
He tried to break into her house.
She had to get a violence apprehension order and a restraining order against him.
He ignores it.

When I look at all this I think sometimes the metabolism has something to do with staying thin but how can your metabolism not be high if you are in a constant state of fight or flight ?

Then on the other side we had a secretary who used to work for us .She was pencil thin and ate like crazy.
But she never stopped walking talking and would drive you insane if you got into a conversation with her,just could not draw breath,did not exercise.

It is just the luck of the draw of life sometimes.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 25, 2007 11:32 PM

Somelifeinmeyet...Oct 25th...being thin doesn't mean you have the inability to have muscle mass...you just lack the fat mass.
It also does not mean that you look sick or have rings under your eyes and
my friends would laugh at the shrunken violet aura.

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 25, 2007 11:21 PM

Somelifeinmeyet...it wasn't the comment about wanting to feed someone who is thin...that doesn't bother me at all....it was your comment - "They are not only thin but usually lack any spiritual glow, and they seem like only half a person!" that I took offense to!

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 25, 2007 11:09 PM

From: OrnamentalOnly (just to make it absolutely clear)
To: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 1:03 PM.

I'll say it once again-very-slowly:

Somelifeinmeyet,-please-do-not-ever-quote-me-in-your- opinions.

Let me also add:

Do not attribute me with feelings, that you have no clue about.

You don't know me and I don't know you.
So, let's keep it that way.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 25, 2007 10:58 PM

ANOTHER TURN ON: >>A thick head of long hair........(you be my Samson..and I'll be your Delilah) LOL!!!

from.."Somelifeinmeyet"

P.S...How about some others post your turn ons..(instead of your turnoffs on this blog???????)

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:32 PM

ANOTHER TURN ON>>:..A man with a deep, rumbly masculine voice..(I could listen to it for hours!)

Not a "high squealy voice" like Micahel jackson..what a TURNOFF!!)

FRom .."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:29 PM

ANOTHER TURNON:...A dimple in the chin, and in the cheeks!..YES!!!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:25 PM

ANOTHER TURNON :A man who can actually enjoy REAL food, and can tell tha