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Posted by: rsvpproducttest at November 27, 2007 8:27 AM

hiddencharms, waterbombe and others - the thing for me and probably many others is that smoking goes far deeper than just hiding behind a tree then using breath mints. This is not a direct comment about any of you but a general observation that many people seem to make light hearted comments about something that is in fact so serious.

I see that smoking ties up our health system needlessly and costs taxpayers millions of dollars each year while people inflict throat and lung cancer on themselves often bringing on premature death. I see people every day smoking in front of their children or when pregnant. I see dozens of people every day throwing their buts out of their car windows. Our footpaths, beaches, waterways and public spaces are absolutely littered with cigarette buts, which as I understand it take a very long time to break down. I see struggling families on welfare paying $10 (or is it more) for a packet of cigarettes while they complain that they can't afford life's necessities. It would be nothing for a smoking family to spend over $9000/year just on cigarettes. I can understand that many people have what others may consider bad habits but I am looking at the bigger picture here.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 11:19 AM

I tried to post on this last night but it got lost so I'll try again. I agree that if you meet someone in "real life" that you like a lot and they smoke you would give it a go to see if workable compromises could be reached. I went out with someone for a few years that was a light smoker (2 or 3 a day) and we managed quite well most of the time. However that is in "real life" and I don't think I would meet a smoker on RSVP as my search never includes smokers. Why start a relationship knowing that you have a major hurdle to overcome? If it happens it happens, but I won't go looking for it as I think smoking is too major an issue - health, cost, smell, taste. I'm sure everyone has no go areas in partner searches, be it political, age, religion, smoking, drinking, looks.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 26, 2007 9:06 AM

I agree with decoratress, if you like someone enough, the fact that they smoke is not going to be a huge issue. It's one thing if you meet a smoker and they are 'quite nice' - you can tell them to get on their bike because they smoke. But what happens if you meet someone who is pretty stunning (I mean in personality, not looks..oh well, ok, looks too)...would you tell them to get lost?

I've never smoked, I tried it once and I don't like the taste and smell of tobacco, but I reckon I would put up with a smoker as long as they didn't smoke inside my house. What they do in their house is their business.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 25, 2007 11:13 AM

HAHAHA....

oooh- some of you will..

...& some of you won't!!!

woodnwine- NO, you've got me wrong... you WOULDN'T be reasonable expecting a smoker to give up!
You would be reasonable for YOUR OWN response to the problem.
If you were besotted... you could ask them to modify their smoking to accommodate you if they weren't able to give up......
THEY would be reasonable in making an effort to restrain their smoking to please you.....

What I'm trying to say is that if you truly find LOVE.... all else is possible.

I would do my best to make the object of my love comfortable & happy... compromise & effort on both sides would be worthwhile.

LoveLoveLove conquers all
decoratress xxx

Posted by: decoratress at November 24, 2007 10:19 PM

decoratress, I don't smoke, but I agree with your comments. If the attraction for a person is strong enough, you will tolerate the smoking, or come to an agreement, like smoking outside or away from people.

Posted by: jpkool at November 24, 2007 9:27 PM

Woodnwine: If I met someone who was important enough to me, and seriously disliked smoking, I would make a more concerted effort to quit...or run off behind a tree with a bottle of perfume and a packet of pepermints...

In my last relationship, my partner did not like my smoking...but he had some habits I was not too fond of either...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 24, 2007 11:59 AM

decoratress: I hear what you are saying, as a smoker cum almost quitter, who is not doing too well on the quitting at the moment....

I can also understand others' preferences not to be exposed to the smoke and smells etc.

Quitting has gone back on my agenda...

I actually sat through 3 glasses of wine last night, without a smoke...and was really naughty afterwards and had 4....

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 24, 2007 11:53 AM

I don't know if that is reasonable woodnwine. Perhaps if their profile said they were trying to give up smoking.

By the same token, would it be okay for a smoker to contact you, assuming that if you like them, you'd be able to get over it?
I'd have thought that if it was the right person, I'd be able to get past smoking, even though I also find it a bit unpleasant.

Posted by: ds84 at November 24, 2007 11:49 AM

If i clearly states in my profile and ideal partner that i'm only interested in non-smokers then people need to respect that and asume that there will be no compromise.

Posted by: panic165 at November 24, 2007 11:11 AM

Hi Decoratress - I hear what you are saying, but as a non-smoker would it be reasonable/realistic for me to contact a smoker in the hope that she would give it up? I would have to say to her straight up that I thought she was nice but she would have to give up something she enjoys and most likely doesn't wish to stop.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 23, 2007 12:22 PM

What a hoot. I'm somewhat bemused that people are taking this so seriously.

Hmm... seems to me it's the sum of the parts - that is, it would take a pretty extreme single turn off to turn me off totally, but if you get enough of em adding up.

For instance - while I'm not a smoker, I dare say I could accept a partner who does.
I could also probably accept a parter who was a bit messy at times, or was into those trashy current affair shows, or was self absorbed on rare occasions.

But if she was a self absorbed, messy, smoker who went nuts over Today Tonight?

Not likely... she'd have to have some damn impressive traits for me to remain interested.

Posted by: ds84 at November 22, 2007 9:10 PM

Hmmmm
....all those "ooooh yuck, it's.. like.. disGUSTING... etc etc" comments-

well- here's a NOVEL APPROACH...

...if you're attracted enough
...if there's enough chemistry in the equation
...if you really REALLY think the person's cool.. & maybe.. worth the effort..?

Well-
Wouldn't you either

-make the effort to compromise
-give up (or accept the others' vice)
-or decide it's not as important as love?

I would.

All You Need Is Love
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at November 20, 2007 6:58 PM

I'm beginning to think that nothing is a turn-off anymore....or alternately, nothing is a turn-on......I hate the smell of tobacco though, especially straight after they've smoked it, Yuck!

Posted by: lorainer at November 20, 2007 4:30 PM

Clues, clues, clues. Do too many clues add up to clueless?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 19, 2007 11:52 AM

never seen an oozing redhead................the mind boggles

Posted by: twoeyes at November 18, 2007 5:57 PM

thanks for looking at the site guru...I have both on mine, grill and hotplate.
had feedback from a man who thought wood was the best! must live in a no fire restrictions area.

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 18, 2007 9:26 AM

......what about remember your name, let alone spell it correctly........

Posted by: twoeyes at November 18, 2007 9:26 AM

wondering about the identity of the oozing redhead?

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 18, 2007 7:42 AM

Brilliant Blue

I have never lost the plot.

Plan A is still fully operational

It’s just taking longer than originally planned

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 7:29 AM

Oh Dear Oh Dear

Let’s go back to Rule 1

Are there a range of photos? Are the in natural situations? Do they look authentic?

How many more times do I, the Great Guru, have to come down from Guru Heights to say this sort of thing.

Now the real person and the Oozing Redhead WOULD get on together. They could both hop on their bikes and ride to the shops. But the rest of you?

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 3:04 AM

Lorrainer, don't you think that you have made things a little difficult for those of us who are new to the blogs and are not being taken seriously because of the garbageoly you have created?

Fun for you = parinaoia for others. Think about your own actions and what you have done to other people.

Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 12:25 AM

Don't you just hate it when people can't even spell your name correctly?

Posted by: lorainer at November 16, 2007 6:21 AM

You've lost the plot Aginghippie...go back and smoke some more whackytabacco!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 15, 2007 9:14 PM

I'd love that too, Ninaschen.
Get Weta to send your address to me.

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 9:12 PM

I've always alternated comment on blog topics with repartee about what I am reading. This is what I am like in the flesh and my writing always reflects my personality and will continue to do so.
I'd love to come to the blogmeet and hope I am free.
Jennie

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 8:55 PM

istj54... have read, albeit briefly, the going on's and can understand why some are pee'd off. Don't despair though.. Most of us have buggered up at some time HAVEN"T WE??? I think you'll just have to take your medicine while it's being dosed out and then it will all be over. They're all a forgiving lot AREN'T YOU???
Do come to the Bloggers Lunch if you can. You will be made welcome I'm sure. Well, like WB and Nin I will talk to you. I know Saph's will too so hey, there's a handful already.
Give it a thought, but don't think too long or hard. Be a nike and just do it...
Hope to see you there "G"

Posted by: amdoingit at November 15, 2007 8:32 PM

istj54 - I have to agree with brilliantblue. If you had been up front from the start instead of trying to make funny remarks then no one would have suspected anything untoward. You played the game and didn't like the outcome.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 4:37 PM

gosh, istj54, if you come to the bloggers lunch I will talk to you. So will ninaschen I'm sure, and some others. We will take a whistle and a starting gun and appoint linesmen and an umpire if things get heated.

There is nothing wrong with having two or three profiles, I couldn't give a toss, nor could I give a rats whether you have a photo or not. I think you did get unfairly targeted about those things. However, when people thought they knew you under a different name, (and they were right) you told them they were wrong, and said you were completely new to them. I think it's obvious why they are annoyed.

But fer gods sake, we are all humans, and we can make an effort to get along in person, surely?

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 2:50 PM

lorainer darlin'

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 2:09 PM

Just returning to my origins fotoman, my first name here...and only one r....I got sick of seeing myself in the box n changed back.....started thinking that this is all upsetting me now, and that I usually stop doing things when they aren't fun anymore...so, so long, n I have enjoyed sparring with you even tho you did cross the line last week, was still fun.

Before I go again I'll tell u a funny story about the weather. I heard a few years ago that if you didn't work you needed to make contact with seven people each day...so...I told my very old dad he had to do that...He just goes up to safeway n flirts with the checkout chicks...but yesterday, when I was out with the family, we started doing it to see how easy it was....I swear,my sister talked to the forklift guy, behind the fruit shop, about the weather for at least five minutes...very funny..Wonder if it made his day>Seeya....

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 2:04 PM

lorraineR
wishingandhoping2
istj54

which one should I choose today?
are you like the weather ?
goodbye,hello,iam gone like the sun but will be back as the moon tonight.
is the sun shining today or is it raining on my parade.

sigh..............

Posted by: thefotografer at November 15, 2007 1:54 PM

If someone appears in the "Featured Members" column, does that mean that rsvp are saying "you've been on this site for too long, get off dearie."

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 15, 2007 1:23 PM

I am in no way complaining, BB, just telling it like it is.
A mirror has been held up to you bloggers and there is nothing but shattered glass.....what a mess!!

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 12:55 PM

Istj54….you should have been open and honest with other people on the blog site and let them know of your change of name….instead you kept the secrecy going….what did you expect!
Obviously you enjoyed this little game….well don’t complain when others are not happy over your little stunt!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 15, 2007 12:47 PM

Somehow I don't think that I would be welcome at the meeting, Michael.
Are you going to be there?

I could aslo tell you why you have offended OO but I doubt you would understand how she feels. And that is not because you are a man.

It is exactly as you left...I was just stoned by the rabble for a shorter period of time but for equally innocuous reasons. Cynicalandanonymous just did not like your views and she clearly stated that.
I was merely attacked for not having a picture up, nothing else, just that. People then swarmed around suspiciously and attacked me. Yes, after that I became a bit obtuse but who could blame me?
I did challenge you to re-read my earlier posts and tell me what I had said or done to attract such animosity, but you haven't bothered. You would rather continue to believe I am someone other than who I actually am....I am who I am on my new profile and I am still who I was on my earlier profile.
The one that made you smile. That is what you said in your kiss to me before you left a few months ago.
I am just as I kept saying on the weekend, a plain 54 yr old woman/mother whatever, nothing more, nothing less, just that.

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 12:19 PM

istj54 - actually, nothing like when I left at all.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 11:45 AM

istj54 - if you wish to avoid having people think you are someone else then I think you need to explain who you are. You often post in a way that invites cynicism plus your photo used to appear on another profile. Why don't you go to the bloggers' meeting on the 1st December?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 11:44 AM

Yes, I'm back already Woodnwine.....a bit like you leaving really.

So, will I book for four for that meeting, two for you and two for me??

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 10:04 AM

istj54 - you know deep down that everyone is very sorry. Let's all meet so we can appologise.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 7:54 PM

The biggest turnonffs to me are the posters at the moment. A few times in the last few days I've asked you all to have a look at yourselves and the way you have treated me. I started posting on Saturday, most sensibly, and in keeping with my OWN personality and wit. I can't say what happened but something went very wrong and I was accused of being MPD, a man, whatever.....it doesn't matter to me as I am out of here now on a permanent basis and will be out of the dating arena now too for a good long time. Nothing in the pool anymore except Karp n eel and snappy cats.
Sorry for being a big head, JPKool, I'm nowhere near beautiful, except to my children and those I teach.
This has been a most interesting social science experiment for me these last four days and I wish you all well and best of luck in your relationships cos you are so going to need it!!
Nothing like a good stoning on the blogs to put your life in perspective. I recommend it to anyone......broke my addiction.

Posted by: istj54 at November 14, 2007 5:11 AM

Smoking is definately the biggest turn off for me... I reply not interested, on every smoker, even if they're profile otherwise looks fine. They'd have to be damn hot and trying to quit otherwise!

Posted by: northqldguy78 at November 13, 2007 1:53 PM

A turn off?

I just posted the following in Does Hollywood influence bad behaviour? with parts referring to Summer Lovin' and Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook?

>If Hollywood influences bad behaviour, be wary of aspiring politicians-hoping-to-be.

With reference to Posting by: funlovertoo at November 11, 2007 10:58 PM in Summer Lovin',

again I find it ironic that while she's talking about being upset by someone else's post and then she openly states in,

"Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook?
* Posted by: funlovertoo at November 12, 2007 6:10 AM
>"OrnaMentalAsAnything may not be for real, given last night's posts, but does it matter in the sunny light of day?"
-----------------------

OrnamentalOnly -yes, I am me and no-one else.
I've been upset by this character's Funlovernot's accusation and will post my reply from
Is online dating better than MySpace and Facebook:
-----------------------
OrnamentalOnly:
">Excuse me funlovertoo at November 12, 2007 6:10 AM???
What exactly do you mean?
Quite ironic coming from you (if, indeed, it is) as previously you made the comment about me being too honest...
* Posted by: Ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 12:57 AM
---------------------

>"By the way, the people who've spoken to me (or seen my pics,) don't worry about confirming anything to "Fun"lovertoo...she seems to be quite fond of our residential reincarnator ageinghippy aka what'shisnamethisweek.

Associations such as that, can't help but muddy the waters and dirty the hands of anyone who touches it.
* Posted by: Ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 1:05 AM
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>Final thought:
Imagine such lacks in discernment being inflicted on us not only through Hollywood but politics as well?

>Oops, maybe "Fun"lovertoomany has already demonstrated her "suitability" - for the political habit of slagging.
-------------------------

Yes, I am upset.
Yes, perhaps I shouldn't be reacting but I am human.

There is nothing ambiguous about my honesty in what I post or for that matter, from what I've written in my profile.

Nor is there any doubt that I will defend myself when my integrity is questioned.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 2:43 AM

Yes, weta at November 12, 2007 12:05 AM, you're absolutely right.

She was a real member of the family. But Great Danes don't have a long life-span, unfortunately.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 12, 2007 12:37 AM

.......and "Your last baby".....is that a note of loss I sense?.....

......she makes Dot, my aptly named undersized Greyhound look like a sylph.....

Posted by: weta at November 12, 2007 12:05 AM

well OO.....Yours is consciously a tad ambiguous eh?.....one should always hasten slowly and with some degree of circumspection (not that other word relating to appendages) when it comes to public exposure.....hmmm....is there a potential double-entendre there he asked?........

Posted by: weta at November 12, 2007 12:01 AM

Mine, of course Weta.
Yours is fine and thank you for allowing a peek. :)

How did you like "My last baby"? That one has just recently been put on.

*Sigh*...I really miss her.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 11, 2007 11:52 PM

Hello OO......

yes'm.....I have taken the liberty of checking out your piccie album....I reckon I saw them fleetingly once before....v photogenic.......

...and - apropos your "...Still a tad ambiguous" post of November 10 @ 11.33am.....do you mean You/Your profile or me/mine?

Posted by: weta at November 11, 2007 11:38 PM

Weta, you haven't said anything so far. Did you manage to access my secondary gallery pics in time?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 11, 2007 11:19 PM

I don't smoke and I don't date smokers yet when I check my inbox, half the kisses are from smokers. I'm polite and respond to these ignorant, disrespectful people who've deliberately chosen to ignore my ideal partner criteria but in future, I don't think I will.

I've discovered another dating website where I can block smokers from contacting me in the first place.

The more incompatible people I can block out, the more likely I am to use an internet dating service that gives me those options.

BurberryPie

Posted by: mendelssohn at November 11, 2007 3:00 PM

Ah yes, thanks Waterbombe! LOL

Posted by: trumanscat at November 10, 2007 2:28 PM

ageinghippie - maybe the bloggers were the ones wearing the dark glasses and she didn't notice them?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 10, 2007 2:14 PM

Strike the second "the"!

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 10, 2007 11:33 AM

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 11:26 PM, -some ambiguity banished with your profile showing. Thought I'd seen your pic before. :)

For the record, I've sent you my secondary pic password.
-Still a tad ambiguous.

Speaking of which, I agree with trumanscat at November 10, 2007 10:22 AM.
I cannot see any connections between the the two.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 10, 2007 11:33 AM

I think ageinghippies question to weta was just one modern man's connection with another about reproductive responsibility, trumanscat :-)

Posted by: waterbombe at November 10, 2007 10:32 AM

Ageinghippie. I cannot see the connection Weta to Snipt.

Posted by: trumanscat at November 10, 2007 10:22 AM

Dear Weta, you haven't also been Snipt, have you?

Whilst bloggers were partying with nervous glances cast over their shoulder for someone in dark sun glasses hiding behind bushes, I have counted 4 new profiles with her trademark cynical and anonymous/ slimey humour

whatever keeps you amused, babe

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 10, 2007 2:34 AM

Weta....

saw you revealed in all your glory :) and a very attractive man you are too... it's unambiguous!!

Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 10, 2007 1:11 AM

Hi OO......
.....in the interests of unambiguity (I've made that word up), I reveal my profile - until the morning - when once again I shall retreat from the cyber-dating temple to my contemplative millieu.......

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 11:26 PM

Back in May, Weta, you used he/she interchangeably.

Perhaps it was simply a typo.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 10:11 PM

..contradiction OO?....what contradiction? I t.hink I've always blogged with a male voice.......and other blogggers who know me have referred to me as the male that I am......

....I am curious tho, as to where I may have appeared as ambiguous....

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 10:04 PM

By the way weta, seeing as you hide your profile and in the past I noticed a contradictions in your blogging as to your sex, what are you? Male or female?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 9:21 PM

Yeah weta and I've gone longer, received a marriage proposal during that time and still didn't budge.

Quality is definitely worth it and like I said in the topic, Customer Support would like your input!
>"Solitaire or Patience, can still be a better deal in this card-game of life."

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 9:17 PM

the biggest turn offs are the regulars on this blog,they seem to think they are there to offer therapy to others[ as if its their given right!!!!!!!]
joke; what did st. peter say to god when pavarrotti died? here`s the tenor i owe you!!! ps. "get a LIFE"

Posted by: jonjon48 at November 9, 2007 9:06 PM

I agree totally Weta!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 9:04 PM

OO.......

...only 8 months......

.........hmmmm........

........

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 9:02 PM

No worries brilliantblue, I didn't mean to get too serious and I don't take things personally. :)

I've always agreed with the attitude of doing things without expecting anything in return.

Maybe that's why always feel good when I help people, whether or not, they appreciate it.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 8:52 PM

'evenin' waterbombe and BB...

having the traits of pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism....doesn't mean we Virgos are lacking any highly desirable and coveted human traits (such as lust, desire, sensuality, risk-taking, adventurousness, care-giving, nurturing.....you get the picture).......

.....we may well be organised and detail oriented......but we aint remedial in being in touch with the human touch......

....come in spinner eh?......

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 8:48 PM

Ornamentalonly...I'm not saying you have these traits....I beleive everyone should live their life the way that suits...everyone is different....and thank goodness we are....how boring would life be otherwise!
But sometimes I think its good to reflect on what sort of person do I want to be on my death bed and think generally the answer is a person who gave without expecting anything in return!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 8:38 PM

brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 8:17 PM, I'll say what I said to a zealous person trying to convert me and questioning any fear at my deathbed.

I've faced it. Yep, nothing more frightening. But I can't do anything about it and I sure as heck won't be able to stop it and I'm not going to beg anyone's forgiveness.
Remember, I've faced it before.

Thinking about life is but a passing phase, as that too, ends.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 8:32 PM

Gee waterbombe,

I didn't know the depth of my ignorance and my lacks were so obvious.

Seeing as I don't post my birth sign -I'm agnostic about that too (although my mother is a Sagittarian and she's off the planet -no offense to you BB,) I guess I'll have to rely on your judgements in that area, WB. *grin*

But, for eight months I've been a born again...
virgin.
Does that count for anything?

The Old Ogre raises her glass of gin and tonic to "da bombe". :)

P.S. Unlike a lot of women, I can read and follow map books, so I don't waste my money with GPS' or male guides. :)

Although men aren't entirely useless to me...I'm having a young handyman lad call around tomorrow and he's going to be hanging a blind for me, replacing a doorhandle and holding up some pictures while I decide where to place them...men do have some uses to an older woman, after all. ;)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 8:22 PM

Waterbombe....I think they need to think about one day when you're on you're death bed what are the moments in your life that will come to mind in your last living moments...I'm sure it will nothing to do with pragmatism/literalism or detail nazism!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 8:17 PM

gosh, BB, now I'm befuddled.
OO and weta are crying out for assistance to overcome pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism ...what help can our less responsible bloggers give them...no good asking me, I'm a Capricorn.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 9, 2007 8:01 PM

Waterbombe...I'm a sagitarian but I obviously haven't kept up with this blog so not sure what you're saying!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 7:41 PM

This astrological explanation of your behaviour is hard to swallow, Virgoans.

But who am I to challenge such ancient knowledge? Can I ask instead how you would feel about trying to be Sagittarians for a week? They throw caution to the winds. AS well as their clothes, mind and morals. No I'm not suggesting you go THAT far to start with but could you take the battery out of all the clocks in the house, and then shuffle the billls so that you can't pay them in order? Put all tools/hardware/fix-it appliances in the bath to soak, and don't read the nutrition advisory lables on packages for a week? Lastly...and this will require stern resolve...turn off the GPS in the car?

Could you do it??? Are there any Sagittaarians who could give advice on how a Virgo could handle this?

Posted by: waterbombe at November 9, 2007 7:28 PM

Hi weta,

we do have something in common with,

"prone to such traits as pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism (amongst other things)....."

that's why I replied to your post. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 1:42 AM

Hi there OO and WnW

yep........I well and truley know the tongue-in-cheek dart.....

...and I admit I'm not one to automatically check out every blogger profile, prior to responding to a posted blog....so I didn't check out MIB's latest incantation.......

I'm a Virgo.....and the horoscopic students say we are prone to such traits as pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism (amongst other things).....and so, whilst I have a broad view about the vagaries of human behaviour, I'm also prone to occasionally reflect and comment in a quite literal and unambiguous way...hence my less than tongue in cheek and quite literal reflections on smoking and caffeine......Youse two have the advantage(and interest) in following the dynamic and contemporan eous life and times of MIB....

....at times, I respond more to narrative rather than profile.....hmmmmm....

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 1:10 AM

Hi brilliantblue....

I wasn't commenting or making any judgement about banning drugs or worrying about drugs or using drugs - nor saying that drug-taking is necessarily harmful.... just making the simple statement of fact, that caffeine is a drug -and amongst the most commonly used of all drugs......

.....I've spent the best part of 14 years working in the field of counselling and educating in drugs - and I make no judgements about drug-taking.....it is a common/regular/desired activity for many humans.....of all of the people you know or have ever known....how many have never taken a drug....we are a drug-taking society......sometimes though...we don't like to acknowledge that the substances we take are drugs, because drug-taking has negative connotations....but it is a most common human activity......

Posted by: weta at November 9, 2007 12:10 AM

Sometimes you die faster by worrying too much!
If they started banning every food that has a drug or chemical in it there wouldn't be much left!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 8, 2007 11:49 PM

come in spinner

Posted by: woodnwine at November 8, 2007 11:29 PM

Ummmm weta, I was having a joke.

Signed by,

(Yet again)
Widowed by a smoker.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 8, 2007 10:21 PM

....and YES ornamentalonly.....coffee contains caffeine - caffeine is a central nervous system stimulant.....it is a drug......

Posted by: weta at November 8, 2007 10:09 PM

ageinghippie......ANY smoking counts as smoking...isn't that self-evident?

....lungs are not designed to accommodate smoking......

Posted by: weta at November 8, 2007 10:00 PM

ageinghippy, does coffee still count as a drug to you?

Or, just a further irritant to an already compromised heart?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 8, 2007 9:30 PM

ageinghippie - it only counts if you roll it in tobaccie

Posted by: woodnwine at November 8, 2007 9:11 PM

hi, ageinghippie - I had a look at your profile - loved it! Some great ideas in there.... especially the bit about the horses forced to play polo... really hope you find the "partner in crime" you're looking for.

Posted by: malsie at November 8, 2007 8:31 PM

Does smoking herbal extract count as smoking?

Hate the dreaded tobacco.

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 8, 2007 7:33 PM

As a new member to this site I had a problem filling out the registration form.

I detest tobacco but don't mind a quick drag on a parcel of natural healthy dried pigroot and vitamins.

Was I supposed to fill out Non Smoking or Smoking?

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 8, 2007 4:08 PM

2nd attempt to post, yesterdays attempt is still not posted as at 3.14pm today, Thursday.

Naelie, re your delays in getting posted, I have been blogging regularly since early July, and I am still not posted in real time. It takes hours, sometimes days to get posted, and then they slot your message into time slot you wrote the message in, which could be a hundred messages ago, so no one, or almost no one, will get to read it, as it is too far down the list and out of the current conversation, out of date.

How can you participate in a real time conversation, when some get posted immediately, and others a day later?

If this gets posted quickly, you will have to pick me up off the floor. When I started blogging I thought that this was a fantastic idea. People in similar situations, that you could talk to and get advice, support and share funny and sometimes not so funny experiences. But the delays are really killing my enthusiasm.

I am also paid up with stamps and RSViP, so it doesn’t help by being a financial member.

I do not know how you become a trusted member.

I have asked RSVP twice now and keep getting standard template call centre type answers, you know the answer that actually does not tell you anything. It is extremely frustrating and occasionally gives me the sxxxts.

But maybe if we persist, they might do something to make it fair for all bloggers.

Have a lovely Tuesday. Jewels.
Biggest turn offs . Wed 7 nov 8.35.

Posted by: junebaby57 at November 8, 2007 3:15 PM

Get together tonight at The Blue Gum Hotel, Waitara 7pm....everyone welcome.
If you would like to meet some other members of RSVP for a drink, come along tonight!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 8, 2007 12:38 PM

Hi ninaschen - you know you can't afford to go away for a few days without someone picking on you. Keep your guard up woman!

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 11:07 PM

Goodness me! I go away for a few days and look what happens! Someone is angling for a bite. I'm so sorry I wasn't around so I could pointedly ignore it. Thank you my friends, for jumping into the breach to defend me (both here and on other blogs). But as AuntyKaz pointed out (here? elswhere?) I am rolling on the floor, holding my sides.

I just love this place!

Posted by: ninaschen at November 7, 2007 9:27 PM

That would be nice.
Seeing you know the "haunts" better than me I will let you decide on the time and the place.
i turn ino a pumpkin after midnight or maybe a mouse.I am sure i will find out on Thursday.

see you then!!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 5:47 PM

Thefotografer, I'll meet up for drinks Thursday night if you're in Sydney and anyone else who would like to as long as its not in the city?
Somelifeinmeyet...you can't say its not safe....you won't be the only female and your chance to prove you're geniune!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 5:30 PM

pixiemagic, sometimes "real" life and "blog life" blurs together in one amorphous blob - who knows where one ends and another begins? "Then I woke up and it was all a dream...." - welcome to the weird twilight world....

Posted by: malsie at November 7, 2007 4:51 PM

Pixiemagic...I actually agree. You guys seem to be taking the bait way too easily. I haven't commented on the blogs lately as it just seems like lining up in front of a firing squad.

Biggest turn offs....I had a man contact me the other day who Told me when and where we were meeting in the initial email...I Told him he wasted a stamp. Bit pushy if you ask me.

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at November 7, 2007 11:31 AM

Ms offwiththefairies

to me it is fun, to many it is serious and yes many do not have much of a life from what I can see of the posts.

Love your chairs btw.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 11:18 AM

My goodness!!...I cant help but comment on these blogs and I know I will be shot down in flames but I really have to wonder...do all you guys actually have a real life? or is it just portrayed on blogs like this??...how sad!

Posted by: pixiemagic at November 7, 2007 11:12 AM

well, somelifeinmeyet, you are way, way off in your comments about Ninaschen. You couldn't be further from the truth, actually. What you don't know is that at least 15 of the bloggers on here know Ninaschen in person. And every single one would tell you (and most have told you) that she's a lovely, kind, compassionate, funny, intelligent woman.

So where, I'm wondering, do your ideas come from....I'm with Malsie on this one, you probably do have some mental health problems. These outbursts of irrational rage are an indicator of that...I think you should go to your GP and get some help. I'm serious.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 7, 2007 11:07 AM

wishingandhoping2

I will be in Sydney (thursday) from 11am
My meeting could go as late as 6.00
So, if you or somethingthe cat dragged in would like to meet prior to eleven or after 6 iwill take your photo.
If you would like to jump a jet and give me all your relevant information I will even go to the airport meet you take your photo give you some dinner and send you on your way back to Melbourne>>

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 9:27 AM

Somelifeinmeyet....come on, if you're so genuine take up thefotografers offer and prove us all wrong!
You're continually going on about it so stop talking and do it!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 8:10 AM

He won't turn up for the shoot........all crap.....no point!!!!!!!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 7, 2007 7:41 AM

somelifeinmesomewhere

how about that photo and a meeting..I will take your photo for free..........that we can all cut through the crap and get to the point .........................whatever the point was !!!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 6, 2007 9:58 PM

Somelifeinmeyet....the only person who needs to grow up is you and while you're at it stop yelling!
I don't like your aggressive abusive behaviour! fullstop!....my thoughts are nothing to do with any other blogger on here!
If you want to make friends its easy stop the aggression and abuse that seems to spurt out of you continually like a volcano about erupting!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 6, 2007 9:40 PM

SomeVenonInMyHeart (masquerading as somelifeinmeyet).......

I know ninascen.......

you do NOT know ninaschen.......you have NOT spoken to ninaschen......you have NEVER met ninaschen.....

.....you are seriously mistaken and deluded in your rantings about ninaschen......

......ninaschen is a most honourable person.......

.....you need help.......

Posted by: weta at November 6, 2007 9:10 PM

somelifeinmeyet - I have shaken my head in disbelief at many a thing you've written, but honestly, that last post has me seriously worried about your mental health (and that's not meant to be an insult, but a genuine comment).

Posted by: malsie at November 6, 2007 8:15 PM

Aaaaah, just noticed some retrospective posts of naelie's from 1st & 2nd of November!

The retrospective posting used to happen to all of us before. I guess it is as wraecca said at November 6, 2007 5:39 PM re new bloggers.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 6, 2007 7:50 PM

Hmmm...I have just now got some of the posts on this topic from 4 November and it is now 6 November.

Anyway, naelie at November 5, 2007 6:24 AM -ta.

One thing I've noticed about posting on here is that you need to post quickly.

Sometimes, it is an idea to copy what you've typed before attempting to post, so you can easily paste it if you have to sign in again.
Of course, when you sign in yet again, you can then paste what you typed previously and then post immediately.

Hope that is of some help.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 6, 2007 7:41 PM

I think some of this angst could be cleared up if somelifeinmeyet told us what's the difference between "disagreeing" and "attacking" in her eyes. They are clearly not the same thing, are they....so how are they different? If we knowthat, we might be lmore likely to recognise a disagreement without taking it as a personal slight, and less likely to take umbrage.

There's too much umbrage on this site. We could do with less.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 6, 2007 6:55 PM

Hi Naelie, you are getting posted, it's just taking the moderators a while to see that you're a friendly type of person. A belated welcome to the blogs also :)
I read your profile, and want to encourage you for being so strong after what has happened to you.

Somelifeinmeyet, not all of the 'clique' as you call us (I've apparently been placed in that description) are spineless, desperate for friends, etc. I like Ninaschen for the encouragement and friendly advice that she has given me. Saying that, I don't always agree with what she says. I don't believe that you are Earl, however, you yourself have been guilty of the same kinds of behaviour you accuse Ninaschen of....bullying or making nasty statements. Before you go on the defensive, all I am saying is that nobody is perfect, we all say things that we don't necessarily mean at times. If you still feel like I'm attacking you, then so be it. I have agreed with you in blogs, and I have disagreed with you in blogs. I don't hate you, but nor do I think we will ever be 'bestest buddies'. You are simply another person on RSVP who I sometimes interact with, sometimes agree with and sometimes disagree with.

By the way, the definition of bullying is: "a form of habitual aggressive behaviour that is hurtful and deliberate". I think that, if I decided some of your comments were deliberate, then you could be accused of bullying as well. However, I'd like to think that some of your more hurtful comments are not intentional and not deliberate, so therefore not bullying.

But this is just my opinion....

Posted by: wraecca at November 6, 2007 5:39 PM

Hi Naelie....don't ever sign off and it should be easier!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 6, 2007 4:58 PM

There is still people who openly have no regard for others with the matter of passive smoking.

I was driving the other day and saw a 4wd with 3 small kids in the back and mum and dad were both smoking in the car.

Now thats what i call irresponsible...........

Posted by: twoeyes at November 6, 2007 11:23 AM

Day 5 attempt to post a comment thanking ornamentalonly for her welcome to the blogs, and her 'thumbs up' on my profile. I have posted every day under this blog heading, but doesnt seem to go anywhere. Am I doing something wrong?
Jeanie
aka naelie

Posted by: naelie at November 5, 2007 6:24 AM

wishingandhoping2 - yes, you could be missing out on the love of their (short) life. Just a thought.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 11:04 PM

amuso - Sorry but I would find it hard to be with someone who is knowingly killing themselves in spite of me. Opposites attract but rarely last (sometimes they die prematurely). If I knew I was doing something that was almost certainly going to kill me I think I would stop doing it. RSVP perhaps should promote smoking (just joking) because it would guarantee them of new customers. Everyone has a right to make their own choices in life but when it affects the ones they love???

Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 11:01 PM

A big turnoff for me is is LIERS!!!

"Ninaschen" is a BIG LIER!! Therfore she cannot possibly be nice! Wake up you fools! She is making fools out of all the "clique"! LOL!!

I am a woman, not a man!

Its hard to believe that adults can crawl so much to this woman! What do you owe her???..Why do believe any lie she says like it is truth???

Why show yourselves on a public blog to be SO desperate for any friend you can get at ANY cost???????..(even a lier).

What message does this send to any guy reading your blogs against me??????? It says that you will JUST as desperate to get ANY boyfriend you can get!!..(this will really attract the perverts..then later I will read on the blogs your dating horror stories...and you can't even see that you YOURSELVES have given these perverts the "green light" yourselves!..(by showing how desperate you are for ANYONE to like you!)

For goodness sake wake up, and get some SELF RESPECT!!

Don't degrade yourselves by believing any lie that "Ninaschen" says! Get some BACKBONE! think for yourselves!

So what if she bullies you next if you stick up for me????

Is that the cost you want to pay so she won't pick on you too???????

Do you really have no living , breathing friends in real life that you would lower yourselves to her level???????

Would you let man tell you what to do like that????

Please act like adults on this site, not school children! Don't follow the mob, stand out!

I have no intention of cowtowing to the likes of "ninashen" or any other bullies and liers!

I don't care if she picks on me, and slanders me, as I am just sooooooooooo GRATEFUL that I am NOT one of her children, or her ex-husband, or one of her family members..........because if she is going to accuse a stranger of being a man, and being "earl"......what kind of lies did she say about her ex-husband duringthe divorce, or her own children????????

Just think about that for a minute those (ie: "brilliantblue" who so easily jumped in to repeat the same lies against me in todays posting!!)

What are you REALLY teling the male readers about YOURSELF..(not about me)..when you say such things?????????

Nothing very good, that's for sure!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 4, 2007 6:24 PM

Well, it is now Day 4.
I have attempted a posting since October 31, to thank ornamentalonly for her blog welcoming me to the blogging pages, and thanking her for the very nice comment about my profile. None have yet to appear.SOOOOooo....ornamentalonly, your comments did not go unnoticed, and they are very welcome, especially the OK on my profile ( no males have the same 'appreciaton', but I like me, so it doesnt matter).
Anyway, thanks again, and happy blogging
Jeanie

Posted by: naelie at November 4, 2007 9:20 AM

I agree, Amuso!
You could be missing out on the love of your life.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 3, 2007 6:34 PM

@ somelifeinmeyet- Thanks for your support? However your choice of words is not correct. It is not a matter of being "scared" or running from the "bullies" as my comments havn't really been challenged, as an aries male, born in the chinese year of the tiger (for those who believe or care in such things) and being self employed which should give clues to my personality. i.e I am more than capable of defending myself and do not suffer fools or nasty/ugly people and their sheep like bleating etc. I love stimulating/intelligent conversation not the constant squabbling that goes on in all these blogs regardless of the topic in question! It bores me! P.S As for dating through the ages etc? If a woman is going to drive me crazy, be nasty, have hang ups or the "single savage mum syndrome" that is so common, then give me one that is young ,cute AND doesnt smoke! ANYDAY THANKS.and you wonder why? As someone wisely said " there is one thing worse than being single and thats wishing you were!" :) Ahhh freedom! only a lonely fool would trade it for less than its worth! But I digress, Biggest turnoffs:Butts,Bad breath and Smokers Kisses?...YES that about sums it up!... or see my previous posting on this.....IMANENIGMA and still bored!

Posted by: imanenigma at November 3, 2007 12:01 PM

Posted by: woodnwine at November 3, 2007 12:17 AM
Old is romantic, not! Why deny yourself romance now for the sake of it coming with a guarantee later? Not saying that smoking's ok, but why worry. Even our planet has a terminal dose of lung cancer. Remember, the rule of opposites.

Posted by: amuso at November 3, 2007 7:35 AM

brilliantblue, I wouldn't waste time listening to the rattlings of an empty can.

It is a real turn off.

Best consign it to the bin and have it sent to the tip out of harms way.

At least you won't be constantly tripping over it and listening to its tinny, prattling echo going on and on and on.

Then too, there is no risk of the being jabbed by the sharp edges of a empty container.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 3, 2007 2:34 AM

Smoking kills and death is a big turn off. It makes it hard to sit on the porch in old age with your partner when they have died of emphasima, lung cancer or throat cancer. Very romantic - not. ( I did it my way!!!!)

Posted by: woodnwine at November 3, 2007 12:17 AM

Thank you for the welcome, ornamentalonly!
I keep trying to post a comment, but it never seems to appear.
Thank you for the thumbs up, too...most appreciated
Jeanie

Posted by: naelie at November 2, 2007 7:09 PM

ha! ha! Chad. By then, he could be wearing the coronation crown...!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 2, 2007 4:02 PM

Ornamentalonly, mny thanks for your welcome and the thumbs up for my profile.
I have blogged previously, but as I was none too complimentary about a "Pixie-Anne" character in here, I wasnt published..lol.
I have now become a 'blog addict'and read these pages more than the profiles. Keep up the great writings everyone.
Regards
Jeanie

Posted by: naelie at November 1, 2007 9:29 PM

hi hiddencharms maybe hislordship can borrow his son in laws tall furrey hat? it would be easy to pick out but i dont think he could stand still long enough or keep his mouth shut but with his connections he should be able to get one shipped out to the colonies from the old dart with lizzies approval of course

Posted by: chad1958 at November 1, 2007 7:38 PM

Reply to "brilliantblue', well I did think that I covered the double standards in my blog, as I gave that oh too typical example of nasty people who say things like "Oh , have you put on weight???" ....when the person has just lost three stone!!!!!----(I still prefer to talk in stones rather than kilos).

I am quite aware of the double standards when it comes to weight.

People can do all the right things...(which is good)...but there comes a point, after doing all that one can do, that one must acept that they DO look like their RELATIVES!!....(for better or worse!)

A man once said to me.."I shave my father every morning"...LOL!!! (because in the mirror as he shaved his face he saw an exact replica of his father!!!)

This can be unerving.......I should know....I make jokes to my children that "she's still stalking me"...and "How do I get rid of her???" as my mother is always in my mirror looking back at me!!

My father says that I look like someone took some dna of my mother and just made me!LOL!

My daughter( who looks like meI don't look like you when I get old!"----I replied just the other day to her..."Think of it this way, even though I may get old and die, its like I will never leave you, becasue anytimme that you miss me, just look into the mirror and I will be looking back at you! LOL!!"

Its ironic, but its life!

It's important for people to acept how they look...(and who they look like), in order to develop an inner peace. Restlessnes and discontent are NOT conducive to spiritual glow, they switchesit of!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 1, 2007 3:33 PM

Somelifeinmeyet....your blog post on Oct 26th 12.48
My close friends are the ones who comment....they think they are giving me a compliment...its usually something along the lines of you're so slim you can fit into anything and look great. I wouldn't take that as an insult!
All I was trying to point out is that people who carry a bit of weight are usually the first to say something about slim, thin etc but if anyone made a comment about overweight or carrying some weight they are usually the first to get upset. I'm was trying to say double standards!
We are all what we are!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 1, 2007 12:47 PM

I smoke thats it. If others dont like it then dont kiss me or reply to my kisses .I am me and i am not going to give up because someone else wants me to .

Posted by: sn13 at October 31, 2007 11:15 PM

Hey naelie, welcome to the blogging pages. :)

Nice comment on your October 27, 2007 8:41 AM post and a "thumbs up for your profile".

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 31, 2007 10:57 PM

A dicky ticker is a
bit tricky in the trouser department, lordchunderly.

As OrnamentalOnly has so politely pointed out.

Methinks you should try harder to be upfront and straightforward about this with the young ladies you seek to engage.

Untilthesunsetsontheempire-whichithas.
- Ladywaterbaby

Posted by: waterbombe at October 31, 2007 7:49 PM

Reply to" imanenigma" Oct 29th, 11.20pm......yet another blogger who has LEFT the site, saying that "I don't belong here' ands "Its like a school yard"...This about the third person to say so in as many days!!

If you are reading this, "imanenigma', I urge you to return and not to be scared away by the school yard bullies on these chatboards!!!!

Of course they are self-centred people, whose whole universe revovles around themselves and their dating failures, and they say over and over that they don't want to read about anything else! BUT JUST IGNORE THEM!!!!!!

They pick on people, make up fake stories about them that they have fake profiles, they don't even appreciate it when someone posts jokes for them to read!
They are loud, rude and ungrateful...but an "EMPTY KETTLE MAKES THE MOST NOISE"!!!!

They are really in a minortity..most people read, but don't post comments..so don't think that THEY are the standard of the blogs!( Just because they are the ones who post)!

Don't give up yet...keep blogging for the people like myself who actualy WANT sane, intelligent conversation. (I post as well, as read the blogs as I am not a coward, and not easily frightened away by these losers!)

They do NOT have a share in R.S.V.P. , they do NOT own the site, they can't tell you what to do or what to blog! Just ignore these idiots, and keep blogging.!!! Others will replyto you, even if they don't.!!

I am not on this site to play "let's be friends" with these low types of people, so I don't care if they don't like me!

If they DID like me, i would be more concerned..as "friends of a featehr flock together"!..The fact that they are MEAN to me, shows me quite clearly ..(and I am hapy for it.).that I am sooooooooooo diferent from them!)..THANK GOODNESS!!!!

So please stay...."imanenigma' and anyone else who was thinking of leaving.!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 31, 2007 4:30 PM

Okay, I'm back after having some strange "connectivity" problems.

Re: lordcholmondeley at October 26, 2007 6:26 AM.

lordchunderley (aka Earl,) I do not go out of my way to cause trouble but will defend myself.

As for your health problems - you may or may not remember that I cared for my late husband through his suffering and death before he could receive a heart transplant. I simply state that as a foundation for some of my following comments and definitely not for sympathy.

Earl, I did wonder why you went quiet for awhile.

My concern is always for the genuine people afflicted with disabling health conditions.

If you are involved in a health survey and had an ECG with your heart study; that is simply one of the basic tests for early signs of heart problems. Much more extensive checking is involved if there are any concerns.

Nevertheless, as I know from past experience and as you should well know Earl, a man with a serious heart condition is certainly not capable of a full relationship.

Which means lordchunderley, if your heart is seriously afflicted, your profiles in the Dating/Relationship section of RSVP, are not appropriate for someone looking to you for more than friendship.

For your own sake Earl, may I suggest that if your health is genuinely compromised, you consider taking a break from blogging (as some of us do at times,) to maintain your own peace, rest, and follow the medical advice given to you for your general health and well-being.

If you should also read the Bible (as you have referred to previously) and focus on the positive aspects, it may also be of some comfort.

One last tip lorchchump, you said:

lordcholmondeley: "I suggested that my heart problems might have something to do with the women I hang out with",

perhaps you should practise all things in moderation and confine yourself to one woman as opposed to the "women" you "hang out with" Earl?

Take care of yourself m'lad; for that is one area you can exert some control, surely?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 31, 2007 12:00 AM

Oh !DUHHHHHHHHhhhhh................you dummy!!!!

Posted by: thefotografer at October 30, 2007 9:57 PM

PS fotoman: Do you go to the same shrink as our Bris-based bouncer?

Speaking of which, bouncer-boy: If you've happened to land a gig at Cannungra on the 25th, please let me know which "hat" you will be wearing....just so I go to the other gate...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 30, 2007 9:51 PM

fotoman: In case you missed the point, the CR@p comments were directed at you!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 30, 2007 9:47 PM

turn off... profiles that state"its whats inside that counts ...... must be 6`6"!!!!!! is this whats known as an oxymoron!!!!!!

Posted by: jonjon48 at October 30, 2007 9:38 PM

Good on ya mate
The whole site is full of crap and yes the internet dates are different than normal people …my psychiatrist warned me and he was right.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 30, 2007 9:12 PM

To the Editor:
Isn't it about time we had a new topic for a blog. There have been plenty of good suggestions which seem to have been ignored. I for one am heartily sick of the smoking thing.
Also sick of blogs which freeze and take forever to load. Please give them a viking funeral!
Let's have some equality in posting as well.
Thanks in anticipation.

Posted by: mushie6 at October 30, 2007 7:12 PM

Geez folks, havnt read blogs for a while as I ,like many others I suspect, got bored with the "crap" that was going on. FAIRDINKUM! same s#*t different day! Reading some of the posts one would think we are back in the school yard! I thought RSVP would be a good medium for people of my/our ages to meet etc however im beginning to believe the old theory about computers, computer dating and "computer people" is true. Or maybe its just me? but I think im "over it!" and dont belong here. Good luck to all! some of you are gunna need it! @Trumans Cat , for what its worth, I do admire your intelligence as do many. @ Fotographer- see above comment. IMANENIGMA

Posted by: imanenigma at October 29, 2007 11:20 PM

Religion....don't get me started.....cos l won't shut up....definitely a no no for me., sorry can't help it.............k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 29, 2007 9:30 PM

yep, for me the deal breakers are New Age, religion, and Fat Cats.

Posted by: waterbombe at October 29, 2007 9:02 PM

New Age and Byron Bay are the two deal breakers for me.

This is the scary thing.
Many years ago a lot of the hill women from Byron Bay found themselves lying in this forest of green funny looking weeds.
When they got up and started to walk around they did not realize where they were.
After 3 or 4 days it was like a survival camp from a nuclear bomb blast.
The women had congregated together and realized that all the men were gone.
The only thing that was left was their dogs and cats.
Now, a funny thing started to happen after a few months. They noticed the cats were growing to immense sizes and the dogs started disappearing one by one.
They found out that the cats had started eating that funny green weed and started growing to enormous sizes and as they grew their appetites grew and the weeds were no longer sufficient to sustain them so they started eating the dogs.
The women then had a meeting and began wondering what they could do about these fat cats.
They decided to see who would take the cats off their hands.
One woman in the group was the only one with a computer so she began to search the web day and night to see who could take the cats.
At their next meeting she presented her findings and the group agreed to go with her recommendation.
The only problem was , they all had to log in and registered and it was only after a week when no one had turned up to pick up the cats that they realized they had not registered with the RSPCA as they first thought but with RSVP!!! And that my friends is how RSVP began. 

Posted by: thefotografer at October 29, 2007 8:01 PM

To thefotographer,

Im cracking up at the "no more soup for you" comment.... maybe you should add tim tams and alike too

Maybe the "just say no" promotion .."just say no to seconds, thirds and dessert" or dinner time aerobics ..."now push..and push..and push that plate away"

Keep it up mate...very amusing

regards to all

Posted by: stormtrooper at October 29, 2007 4:54 PM

My Dear SomeLifeInMeYet.

My support for you is not unqualififed.

You have to be a good girl now. Not like some of these twits.

Actually I just like to stagger in at some ungodly hour of the morning and post a blog. They never did say nighttime was for sleeping.

Posted by: lordcholmondeley at October 28, 2007 4:53 AM

Saying: ..."May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, Enough sorrow to keep you human, And enough hope to make you happy.!!"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 27, 2007 10:24 PM

I saw this one on a guy's profile..."What lies behind us and what lies before us,are small matters, compared to what lies within us."

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 27, 2007 10:19 PM

Reply to "waterbombe"..some of my blogs are just one-liners..theyare not all long.

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 27, 2007 10:16 PM

To 'somelifeinmeyet'.
I still consider myself a 'nice' lady, albeit a 'liberated' one.
Being 'liberated' entitles me to do the things i want or need to do...mowing the lawns, changing flat tyres when necessary, not waiting for someone else to'help' me, just because its not ladylike to do it for oneself!
I have had to support myself for several years now, so, yes, I am liberated, but I also extend good manners to the world, and appreciate the same in return.
Jeanie

Posted by: naelie at October 27, 2007 8:41 AM

Had my suspicions.. think there are a few too many turkeys on here.
thefotografer... love the jokes keep them coming

Posted by: anaturallady at October 27, 2007 7:35 AM

hey chummers, you're a bit rough on OO with her comments on SLIMY. Get yourself a bit of history first, old chap - read back through the blogs before you raise a flag.

SLIMY, perhaps they haven't posted your blogs yet because you go on and on and on and on and on and on and on.....

Posted by: waterbombe at October 26, 2007 8:56 PM

How do you know if you're in love, lust, or marriage?

LOVE - when your eyes meet across a crowded room.
LUST - when your tongues meet across a crowded room.
MARRIAGE - when your belt won't meet around your waist, and you don't care.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 26, 2007 6:54 PM

Thanks new blogger.."lordcholmondeley" re your support for me

From.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 4:23 PM

I do not not see my replies listed up here yet?

There was a lot of thunder today, is this why, has it not been safe at the office to use the computers?

I am only just checking the blogs now myself, as the thunder has been severe over my way.

For those who do not know..using the phone or computer during a thunderstorm is not advised.

from.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 4:19 PM

: wonder why you volunteered for a heart program, when its plain for all to see that what continues to pump inside your chest is probably running on duracell, fuelled by coffee, and a very bad dose of if its for free, then its for me, and has nothing to do with a heart.

Posted by: twoeyes at October 26, 2007 2:19 PM

OrnamentalOnly

I really do think you should go along to your local University Medical School and volunteer for any trial programs they are running for the various issues you have. You have conveyed to many of us your history, but blogging is not the answer to your issues, especially taking it out on someone else.

I seem to have "volunteered" for a heart research program or two with leading researchers at a medical school in SEQ. Signed up for 2 years of clinical trials in exchange for free cardiography and specialised treatment. An offer I couldn't resist. Even got to like hospital food.

Mind you I was hospitalised recently for reasons which were more work related than heart, but ended up on ECG ad infinitum. They didn't even believe me when I suggested that my heart problems might have something to do with the women I hang out with; they thought it probably had more to do with excessive caffeine and bad dietary intake, but the wisecrack was worth a try to see whether they recommended complete abstention and confinement to the safer realm of computer love aka blogs, or retreat to a health farm or even remote monastery in the vineyards of Bordeaux (any excuse to indulge, with medical licence as my raison d'etre).

Posted by: lordcholmondeley at October 26, 2007 6:26 AM

It says a shocking thing about what "liberation" has done, to women's manners and commonsense!

To the nice ladies on here, it must be hard to stand these horrible women!

They have turned me off now, to going to R.S.V.P. functions (previously I had been very enthusiastic about the idea), and I am sure that I am NOT the only one!...(I would hate to see any of them there, as it would ruinthe whole atmosphere of the evening for me!)

I remind myself that I am luckythat I onlyhave to tolerate her as words on a page, but that others must suffer her "Up close and Personal"..

from."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 1:56 AM

The spiritual glow of a person is very important in whether a person is attracted to another person, but I haven't heard anyone else here mention it yet except me.

Tom cruise is not very goodlooking, (his features are out of proportion, and he is very short), but when he smiles, he exudes a spiritual glow that washes over his face, that suddenly makes him seem maddeningly attractive to women!!!!

Some anorexically thin stars are seen as beautiful to some teenage girls and guys, but when I look at them.. I see a shrunken aura.....(like I said in my post)..and they see to be like half a person...that barely any spiritual glow is present.!

They are like a skeleton, and no amount of makeup, hair extensions (as their own hair often breaks offf rom lack of nutrition), fake nails or expensive clothes, can give them the God given glow that only comes from within, from the heart and the soul.

The spiritual glow cannot be bought at a shop, for any price.

Many an ugly guy has a beautiful woman on his arm, because he has a big spiritual glow, and the woman on his arm basks in it!

And likewise, many an ugly or much older lady (or even chubby)has a young attractive man hanging on her arm, hanging on every word she says.!

These people have let their natural spiritual glow develop, and have not let themselves be bullied re their looks, their weight or their skin colour.

They are happy to look just like their relatives, and accept themselves.

Doing the best that one can with what one has, and then being HAPPY about it..(not obsessing, not worring, not yoyo dieting...because these things kill the spiritual glow), are more attractive to a mate.

The happy RELAXED atmosphere they give off to others around them is what attracts people to them.!

When people give off obssession and anxiety vibes, people run inthe OTHER direction! (Wouldn't you too??????)

So my advice to "brilliantblue.".is to give off the glow that will attract people and stop them criticising your thinness, is to be very relaxed and accepting with yourself, and that you look like your realtives, and then other people won't worry about it either.

People subconsciously feel your insecurities, and say them back to you, which will just make you more anxious. If you stop worrying about it, your glow will increase, and people will probably stop commenting on your thinness!

There are many enormously fat ladies, that have a wonderful life, because they've given up worrying about it, and when they stop worrying, they are more fun to have around, and so people don't care how fat they are.!

The same applies to people who worry that they won't be accepted because of their race... my advise to them is.."if people like you, they WON'T care what race you are!"

But if people DON'T LIKE YOU, they will ALWAYS NAG about anything..,like you are too fat, too dark, too thin, your hair was too frizzy, you weren't educated enough, you had an accent etc;

sO IF ANYONE HEARS THIS, REMEMBER THAT IT really IS THAT they just plain DON'T like you.!!!! Don't try and change to please them, because then they will just find something new to dislike. MOVE ON! Find new friends!

(Alot of guys on the blogs complain that their dates turned out to be fat...well there was alot more that they didn't like than that, or they would have at least wanted to get to know them.)

If they had REALLY liked them, they wouldn't have cared that they were fat!!!

So really, they didn't like them anyway..they just focused on the fat as the reason.

So this should give hope to people who get rejected on dates!...it is never usaully ONE thing that they don't like, its a whole lot.....so you were not suited.

Therefore don't obsess on one thing..ie; "it was because I was fat"..or "if only I wasn't bald"...or ""If I was more curvy"...as it was not as simple as that.

Because even if you could change that ONE thing...they still wouldn't like you.

You need to find someone who likes the WHOLE package, as its the whole package that they are attracted too!

If they really like you, then even if they normally find a certian thing unattractive, they will excuse it in you!

I have seen it happen so many times...it does happen. just hang in there and keep looking!

From.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 12:48 AM

apm1

Congratulations on your great achievement in giving up smoking. Thank you for sharing your story. Have a wonderful time going through all those new doors in your life.

karenchocolat

Posted by: karenchocolat at October 26, 2007 12:03 AM

Well,
I want to say something about thinness.
When I was young I was really really thin and use to eat like a horse and play sport.
Now I am older I don’t play sport and don’t eat like a horse but I am not thin.
So that one is to do with calories in higher than calories out.

I know a nurse who has been loosing weight for over a year,she also has episodes of syncope,she has also had and been treated for two forms of cancer when she was 29.

She separated from her husband ..you guessed it about a year ago.
She will not eat well because she is :
Too busy working.
Studying for a degree.
Looks after a 17 year old daughter.

Is going through legal settlement
Her ex tried to kill her by attempting to run her over in his car.
He stalks her.
He tried to break into her house.
She had to get a violence apprehension order and a restraining order against him.
He ignores it.

When I look at all this I think sometimes the metabolism has something to do with staying thin but how can your metabolism not be high if you are in a constant state of fight or flight ?

Then on the other side we had a secretary who used to work for us .She was pencil thin and ate like crazy.
But she never stopped walking talking and would drive you insane if you got into a conversation with her,just could not draw breath,did not exercise.

It is just the luck of the draw of life sometimes.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 25, 2007 11:32 PM

Somelifeinmeyet...Oct 25th...being thin doesn't mean you have the inability to have muscle mass...you just lack the fat mass.
It also does not mean that you look sick or have rings under your eyes and
my friends would laugh at the shrunken violet aura.

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 25, 2007 11:21 PM

Somelifeinmeyet...it wasn't the comment about wanting to feed someone who is thin...that doesn't bother me at all....it was your comment - "They are not only thin but usually lack any spiritual glow, and they seem like only half a person!" that I took offense to!

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 25, 2007 11:09 PM

From: OrnamentalOnly (just to make it absolutely clear)
To: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 1:03 PM.

I'll say it once again-very-slowly:

Somelifeinmeyet,-please-do-not-ever-quote-me-in-your- opinions.

Let me also add:

Do not attribute me with feelings, that you have no clue about.

You don't know me and I don't know you.
So, let's keep it that way.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 25, 2007 10:58 PM

ANOTHER TURN ON: >>A thick head of long hair........(you be my Samson..and I'll be your Delilah) LOL!!!

from.."Somelifeinmeyet"

P.S...How about some others post your turn ons..(instead of your turnoffs on this blog???????)

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:32 PM

ANOTHER TURN ON>>:..A man with a deep, rumbly masculine voice..(I could listen to it for hours!)

Not a "high squealy voice" like Micahel jackson..what a TURNOFF!!)

FRom .."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:29 PM

ANOTHER TURNON:...A dimple in the chin, and in the cheeks!..YES!!!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:25 PM

ANOTHER TURNON :A man who can actually enjoy REAL food, and can tell that different fruits and vegetables actually have unique and individually exciting tastes! (that they are NOT just lumps of boring cellulose to be forced down because "its healthy".).but really gets a joy out of eating proper foods!....And can ALSO tell that there is a DIFFERENT taste between lamb, beef, chicken, eggs, lentils, etc;....(and doesn't need to add packet flavours to them to make them all taste the same...but enjoys their natural flavours!)

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:23 PM

A TURNON!!...A man who has "seen the light" and quit smoking for good!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:14 PM

TURNONS>>>"A man who has a sense of humour"!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:12 PM

To "apm1"..BIG CONGRATULATIONS to you for giving up smoking! I hope people are helped by your example!

How wise you were to see the financial gains from quitting as well! Good on you!!! Whooooohoooooo!

From.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:09 PM

Joke: Did you hear the one about the medical students in America now having to substitute family law court lawyers for the rats in frighteningly gruesoime science experiments????-------REPLY: No! Why was that???--ANSWER: >..THey found that the students were getting too attatched to the rats! LOL!!!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:04 PM

To the "fotografer"..great..keep those jokes coming! I am glad that someone else has a sense of humour!

from "somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 9:57 PM

the biggest turnoff.....................

One evening, Pinnochio's girlfriend says to him, "This stinks, Pinnochio! Every time we make love I get splinters."

So Pinnochio decided to go to Gepetto to ask for his advice. Gepetto says, "Sandpaper, my boy. That's all you need."

A few days later Gepetto runs into Pinnochio and asks, "So, Pinnochio, how are you doing with the girls now?"

Pinnochio replied, "Who needs girls!"

Posted by: thefotografer at October 25, 2007 9:28 PM

Raphael, prescribed medication also assists people to live productive lives that may have been otherwise cut short related to illness...just a thought............k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 25, 2007 9:18 PM

Sorry about the blog double up, it takes so long to post I thought it hadn't been accepted.

Posted by: raphael62 at October 25, 2007 9:13 PM

apm1, I know it's a huge addiction to kick for some people, and I wish you heaps of luck with it, and your great new life. Well done - stay focused and positive.

Posted by: malsie at October 25, 2007 8:52 PM

Brane... People would be much healthier in old age if they stayed away from prescribed medication - a huge cause of sickness and death. The medical profession thrives on and encourages people to become medically expensive.

Posted by: raphael62 at October 25, 2007 4:47 PM

Brane....Old age doesn't have to be medically expensive if people stay away from health destroying prescribed medication, a huge cause of sickness and death.

Posted by: raphael62 at October 25, 2007 8:28 AM

Hey this is my first post on any blog on this site, this wont be the best one as i am only doing this while i am waiting to go out for dinner so i may make a few mistakes in spelling and such. It may seem a long one but i want to tell you a story about someone who had their life ruined by smoking until recently when he finnaly woke up to what it was doing to him.

He started smoking when he was 13 at high school, before this he was a popular person, but once he started things changed, he found friends didnt want to be around him much because of the smell and he copped more than a few detentions and suspensions because the teachers could tell he was smoking at school, he also found it hard to concentrate on his work because he always felt like he wanted a smoke (he barely made it past year 10).

Anyway after he left school he found it hard to keep up with bills because he was always buying smokes before the more important bills were paid, he ended up owing alot of money and found it hard to pay any of it. This was also hard because he was still living at home ad thoes 2 combined made it very hard to have any relationship at all.

That was up until about 9 months ago, he got himself a really great job, but it was very physical, 2 weeks into it he almost had to quit because he was out of breath all the time and found it hard to work there, This job is what helped him make up his mind about changing the smoking habbits, he cut down the smoking to about 5 smokes a day and found he was growing in breath, stamina and health within 3 weeks of cutting down.

he still lives at home at the moment and hasnt totally given up on the smokes just yet, but is still on 5 a day, but his bills are almost all up to date and he is ready to start saving to get out of home.

This guy was a loser until he woke up to life and how bad of an effect smokes can have on someone, this person was me and since i woke up my life has gone in a total 180 degree, im alot happier because i am more energetic, i have money because im not buying smokes(well no more than 2 packets a week, as apossed to the 7 packs i used to buy), which means i can go out and enjoy life for once, and the best thing of all i can finnaly get out of this house and get my real life started.

Thats my story and i hope it may help some smokers realise that everything in life is so much better when you are not smoking (or very little amount in my case), as i am typing this i am having a smoke and am getting ready to finnish off the journey of not smoking at all, this is my last day a smoke will touch these lips, and i can guarentee 2 things, i will love life more than ever, and i will always look back on this day that i started my biggest step into not only a new me but a whole new door to life.

Stay safe and have fun.

Posted by: apm1 at October 24, 2007 5:44 PM

Its a well known fact that smokers in the long run cost less cause they die earlier rather than having to be supported in a ripe yet medically expensive old age

Posted by: brane at October 24, 2007 12:40 AM

brilliantblue, you don't look skinny to me, maybe its jealously on the part of the persons making those comments.

Posted by: sarge43 at October 23, 2007 7:08 PM

thelynathdiaryI can't see persecuting someone for behavior which you don't like. Especially as it is legal to smoke. If we want to start singleing out people for undesireable behavior what about fast food and people who don't excercise properly? Lets tax them. This is a very slippery slope. By the way I don't smoke and don't patronize fast food places.
With regards to passive smoke although it may aggravate Asthma or Emphysema it does not cause those deseases. And Cot death is a stretch. Once again show me the empirical data. Smoking is not for everyone but I put up with it as it a persons right to smoke. You cannot ban things because you don't like them. Sooner or later someone will be after something you find enjoyable. Live and let live.

Posted by: sarge43 at October 23, 2007 7:03 PM

To "brilliant blue"I forgot to mention in my last reply to you, today, that as most people lie (unlike myself)..when they say "You look so thIn"..they may really mean something else.!

Perhaps what thye are really thinking is.."you look sick"..or "you have dark circles under your eyes"..or "you give off a shrunken violet aura, rather than confidence" or a whole range of other things.!

People are too cowardlly to say what they really think, and cover up with fake smiles.!

Next time someome tells you that you have lost weight or are too thin, say back to them.."Come on, tell me what you are really meaning to say.!"..their answer could be worth more to you then, as there may be some info that you can act upon.

Personally, I would just say if I thought someone looked pale, or weak, or had dark circles under their eyes, I wouldn't need to lie, but most people are liers, so won't tell the truth.

From.."Somelifeinmeyet"

P.S> The same thing goes when people say things like.."oh, you've put on weight">>(when the person has just lost three stone) and other ":fat" comments. People jsut don't say what's really on their mind!
With the comment to the weight loser that they have put on weight, (if not an accidental comment), it is a clear nasty "put down", and the person should be put in their place immediately...(don't ignore such a rude comment!)

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 5:08 PM

Its fascinating to see that "Chad' complains about homosexuals reading his profile and sending him "kisses"and no one attacks him, yet when I said that some women may be uncomfortable getting a "kiss" from a woman because they may fear that they are lesbians, all the playgroung bullies came out to attack me!!
HOW IRONIC!!

People posted nice comments to "chad" telling him that they probably aren't homosexual, so not to worry.

This is either hypocrisy , (or more hopefully,they have LEARNT something from the fracas that previously developoed from my innocent comments.)

"Chad" is entitled to his feelings and concerns, as NO ONE likes to be sexually harassed from EITHER sex.!! If he feels uncomfortable..then that is how he feels., I quite understand it.
From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 1:27 PM

Reply to "brilliantblue" you should really be writing your reply to "ornamental only" instead of me, I am quite aware of the influence of genetics in a persons fatness or thinness,(especially thiness and the inability to grow muscle mass as well!)

I was agreeing with "Ornamentalonly" who said that when she sees a skinny person she wants to feed them one of her home cooked meals!

I know that a home cooked meal won't make them gain muscle mass, (if the problem was genetic), but I was agreeing with "ornamentalonly" on how I FEEL when I see them.
There a difference between how one feels about something, and the detailed cause of something.

(So don't take it so hard from me.)

Signed "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 1:11 PM

In reply to "ornamentalonly"..so you don't like it if people DO agree with you, just as much as you get upset if they DON'T agree with you?????
There is no pleasing you!! You said that when you see a skinny person thatyou have an uncontrollable urge to feed them one of your home-cooked meals!

I agreed that I also feel this urge, and then you have the rudeness to say.." Somelifeinmeyet do not ever quote me in your opinions"

This is an OPEN chatboard, and I have a complete right to AGREE with you if I want to!

DON"T post opinions if you don't want people to read them.(you made yourself seem crazy with that latest posting against me!)
Maybe you should just email your little "cliche" privately????????..you will look less crazy then!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 1:03 PM

Thanks Somelifeinmeyet....I'm thin not because I want to be but because of my genetics, I eat and nothing happens. I would love nothing more than to put on some more weight to feel more feminine.
I really don't think my outside appearance has anything to do with my inner being.
I get constant remarks from people along the lines of "you're so thin" or "you look like you've lost weight" most people don't realise this is just as hurtful as being called fat or telling someone they look like they've gained weight.

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 23, 2007 12:40 PM

sarge43 there may be no statistics stating death caused by "passive smoking." Doesn't mean it doesn't cause Lung Cancer or Emphysema or Asthma or Cot Death, in which case any deaths would have those listed as causes on the death certificate.

I am required to pay more for something I disagree with ( smoking) in the form of taxes, so isn't only fair that they can pay some more taxes on their purchases?
It won't stop the diehards(and they will)
The quickest way to stop them in the workplace would be to dock pay for all the extra breaks they take(now even longer if they have to go outside) or increase pay or allow time in lieu for non smokers.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 23, 2007 12:27 PM

Somelifeinmeyet, please do not ever quote me in your opinions.

I do not agree or ever want to be linked with your view:

Somelifeinmeyet: "They are not only thin but usually lack any spiritual glow, and they seem like only half a person!"

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 23, 2007 9:57 AM

thanks for the advice amdoingit and thefotografer im a novice on a computer much better with a hammer and will take it on board but there is one repeat offender but as auntykas said i can block him ill work it out thanks again

Posted by: chad1958 at October 22, 2007 6:01 PM

chad it may well be that they do see your blog entry l know that l get heaps of peope looking at my profile and they are male and female, however if there is something there can you not block them??...........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 22, 2007 5:27 PM

chad1958, a great many people of both sexes and all ages check your profile when you blog, it's just curiosity, I do it myself.

Mirrorman, I reckon the go is a kiss on the cheek if you like her, and no physical contact, just a courteous goodbye, if you don't want to see her again.

posted by:theartistformerlyknownasmysticocean

Posted by: waterbombe at October 22, 2007 3:46 PM

chad1958, happens all the time.. I don't worry if they just look.. Could be people reading the blogs (no input) and just curious to put faces to names. Have had a couple send kisses (non bloggers) so just sent back that profile didn't match. Hard to know what their intentions are unless we get some extra kiss options. Am telling myself they're just being "friendly". Hope so!!! :o))

Posted by: amdoingit at October 22, 2007 3:17 PM

chad1958

lateley the majority of people checking have been men.
But I just think they see a post and wonder 'who the hell is this person"

Posted by: thefotografer at October 22, 2007 2:28 PM

Since I started looking in on this blog. I have checked a few profiles. Sometimes the name doesn't give a clue as to the gender of the poster. And I sure havn't sent a kiss to any guy.

Posted by: sarge43 at October 22, 2007 2:00 PM

to "Chad1958"..i'm just " to attack you for saying something negative about homosexuals!!!LOL!!!--all the bullies will get stuck into you now! LOL!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 22, 2007 1:39 PM

To "ornamentalonly" )october 19th..I agreewith you! I too, (when I see a skinny person ) have an uncontollable urge to feed hem one of my homecooked meals!!LOL!!!

They are not only thin but usually lack any spiritual glow, and they seem like only half a person!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 22, 2007 1:07 PM

hi everyone i need some advice. do any of you have members of the same sex checking your profile and or sending kisses? bloggers excluded. ive nothing against homosexuals as long as they leave me alone. you know who im talking about please stop

Posted by: chad1958 at October 20, 2007 4:42 PM

I think that it's ok to have a different world view and opinion on anything.. I think the problem exists when that view is put forward in a way that is aggressive and leads to alienating others.

I am all for good debates, as long as they do not become personal and are backed up by facts.... or someones own experience.

I see no problem with giving each other praise and encouragement.. wow the world can be a nasty place and it seems it is only getting worse.. so a little bit of kindness from a fellow human being is always warranted in my opinion no matter where it comes from.. even on a blog on rsvp.. :-)

Have a date tonight.. ho hum ... not terribly excited though :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 20, 2007 1:42 PM

There wasa huge tirade a few days ago against people who smoke eat fast food and do other things which the poster disagreed with. The solution was to raise their costs for these bad habits. Requiring people to paymore for doing things you disagree with is the worst form of social engineering. The consequences of such actions are huge. The damage to the work force would be enormous. Companies would institute policies required by their insurance companies to only hire persons with specific healthy life styles. Companies with policies of hiring people who have undesireable social traits would soon find themselves with no employees.

The reference to cigarettes in cars was amusing. Cigarettes are only one of many posssible distractions while driving. The kids in the back fooling around with the airconditioning, thinking about anything other than driving talking to a companion etc.

It takes quite a few years to get lung cancer from smoking and to die from it. There are no documented cases of people dying of second hand smoke. What people do with their lives is their business. sooner or later we will all do something someone else finds offensive, what will you do when correctness police knock on your door?

To paraphrase Voltaire, I may not like what you do, but I will defend to the death your right to do it."

Posted by: sarge43 at October 20, 2007 11:56 AM

Can someone tell me the protocol at the end of the first date, as a man? Kiss, handshake, what?

Posted by: mirrorman59 at October 20, 2007 9:46 AM

Totally agree with Female Persuasion......

Why are people regarded as not nice because they have a different life view?

People get too emotional about their views, either aggressively or passive aggresively, without, perhaps, really thinking through why they have those views in the first place. They are not prepared to look at another's view as it can be threatening to them for whatever reason.

Blogs are for stating those views, rationally, and expecting some intelligent debate. They are not for patting each other on the back and saying how nice we all are or are not.

In my personal experience I've found those who purport to be nice are the first to stab you in the back, lacking in character somehow........just MO.

Somelifeinmeyet....until alcohol and tobacco are illegal we will all have to pay...most addicts pay taxes too!!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 20, 2007 9:26 AM

Thanks seraphsuzie at October 19, 2007 10:57 PM, I'm glad I haven't offended you by my "foot in mouth" comment. :-)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 20, 2007 12:39 AM

Hey Imissyou... thanks.. I don't really say much anymore.. either too busy or tend to be a bit too fiesty sometimes on here ;-)

And Ornamental I so hope you don't think I was having a go at you.. I think your a great woman and love your blogs and thoughts.. Its just a fave poem of mine...:-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 19, 2007 10:57 PM

Hello Seraphsuzie,

I have been reading the blogs without contributing for a while now. I have enjoyed your comments.

Posted by: imissyou at October 19, 2007 10:51 PM

Mr Photgrapher,
A very intense and funny response.

Posted by: imissyou at October 19, 2007 10:46 PM

woodnwine can I ask why in your blog you put poem in inverted commas for?

Yep Ornamental.. its good to celebrate women.. and I really don't think that means that men are anything less by that either.. and if they do well.. tough :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 19, 2007 10:43 PM

imissyou

what dribble!!
we are all adults you know and it was not that long ago when we told it was socially incorrect to mention depression or suicide in public.

You just need to accept that everyone is entitled to their opinion.
It may not be yours, you may not like it,but , like a great man once said about free speech "I will defend your rights"
Your logic does not stand up.
Would it be wrong for someone who has attempted suicide to address a meeting relating their experience to others who may have considered the same ?
Would it be wrong from someone who has broken free of the debilitating effects(affects)) of depression to speak out and educate others?
Would it be wrong for an overweight cosmetic surgeon to carry out an operation for the removal of excess fat ?
I could go on forever........grow up!!

Posted by: thefotografer at October 19, 2007 10:38 PM

Mr Photographer,
Just best to not throw stones.

Posted by: imissyou at October 19, 2007 10:12 PM

imissyou

I put my body weight down on a weekly basis if you have a look.
It is no secret that I am 89.5kg
I even mentioned that my lightest weight is around the 86kg mark.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 19, 2007 10:00 PM

Mr Photgrapher.
Take a good look ...You're not so slim yourself.

Posted by: imissyou at October 19, 2007 9:54 PM

Anyone who wants that "poem" can find it on myspace or facebook if you look hard enough.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 19, 2007 8:31 PM

Addendum to my DISCLAIMER (at October 19, 2007 2:09 PM):

Besides not being a smoker, I'm also not overweight
or,
blessed with
"a perfect physical, mental and environmental start" and I'm genuinely, "so good at not being perfect".

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 19, 2007 7:50 PM

Fair enough, seraphsuzie at October 19, 2007 6:15 PM. :)

And having another look, it would be a bit odd substituting "man" for woman in the context.

Just trying a little encouragement for the sensitives on the other side. ;)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 19, 2007 7:35 PM

hey ornamental..it is a lovely poem.. but no, don't change woman to person..it is meant to celebrate women everywhere..It was written by the late educator-humorist Sam Levinson for his grandchild and read by Audrey Hepburn on Christmas Eve, 1992. The title is the Beauty of a Woman..

Womanhood is never celebrated enough.. :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 19, 2007 6:15 PM

Been there, done that woodnwine at October 19, 2007 8:12 AM.

For a few details on smoking and losing a life partner, see my post at September 17, 2007 1:07 PM.

While I still maintain my right to protect myself from certain behaviours affecting me ("habitual smoking, is definitely one of my unchangeable areas of compatibility",)

I also make allowances for differing situations, stresses and particular physical and genetic predispositions of other people.
I'm fortunate in not having a body with addictive tendencies but have some understanding of health issues through injury.

Nevertheless, I do not have the gall to judge others who are not so lucky in this lottery of life we are birthed into.
-Who can pick their parents to ensure a perfect physical, mental and environmental start to their lives and some of the consequences of these?

I try never to condemn people for their smoking, weight, health or other issues; only seek to understand and if possible, be there to help.

Must confess though, I do have a little problem that I keep firmly in control (well, when I'm out of the house, anyway) ...just can't help myself when I see a super skinny person and wanting to feed them with one of my home cooked meals!

DISCLAIMER: Besides not being a smoker, I'm also not overweight.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 19, 2007 2:09 PM

Following on from my last post, I would like to add one of the biggest turn offs - death of a partner.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 19, 2007 8:12 AM

chuckiegc - yes but will mouthwash and chewy cure lung and throat cancer?

Posted by: woodnwine at October 19, 2007 8:10 AM

2nd attempt , original posted on 17 oct!!! I also posted short messages on 2 other blogs, and they are also lost in some big black hole!

seraphsuzie, that poetry about women is exactly in the right place! It is gr8 and thank you for posting it. I will send it on to all the beautiful women I know! have a lovely evening all....jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at October 19, 2007 6:41 AM

I must say, kissing a smoker is horrendous - yet at 3am after a big nite, its not all that bad. Nevertheless - a boys poker night is never complete unless cigars are there...so i guess mouthwash and brushing of teeth and some chewy should do????

Posted by: chuckiegc at October 19, 2007 12:29 AM

I agree with "woodnwine" Oct 16th...never trust a skinny chef! LOL!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 18, 2007 1:57 PM

In response to "thefotographer" re his blog re overweight killing more people than smoking and being preventable...I totaly agree with you!

There has also been alot in the media at the moment (with an election looming) about poor service at outaptients clinics in public hospitals!

The BEST THING FOR ALL PEOPLE IS never TO GET THEMSELVES INTO THOSE LIFE AND DEATH SITUATIONS WHERE THEY NEED CARE AND CAN'T GET IT, BY "PREVENTION IS BETTER AND QUICKER THAN CURE'".

In other words.....Stop the filfthy cigaretes, learn to cook instead and peel raw vegatables and fruits (how long does it take to peel fruit and veg when you get home from work????its not that hard, even if you are tired!)(have a few bananas at least!)......do a bit of exercise, (just mowing the lawn or gardening is cheaper and more satisfying than going to the gym, as you can see where all your sweat has gone..see results for your sweating...)...

How many more people have to die in the outpatients having a heart attack, before people wake up, and realise that the doctors and nurses AREN'T GODS!!!...( and can't always tell the difference between angina, heart attack, or people secretly taking drugs or faking symptoms!!)

Please take RESPONSIBILITY people for your health, don't think.."oh, if i ever have a heart attack etc; someone else will fix it"..or "if i rot my liver from alcaholism I'll just get a liver transplant".

There is nothing worse than preventable illness, it really DISGUSTS me! (what a turnoff!)

Where do these abusers of their bodies think that the Australian tax payer is going to find to money to fund all the medicare, hospitals, staff, pathologists etc:?????Out of a magic hat???????

Such selfishness!

The money is better spent on more important things likes schools, roads, transport, recycling, lowering emisions from factories, recycling water at factories, recycling glass and plastics, facilites for the disabled and elderly,sports/exercise facilities for youth to keep them off the streets, crime prevention, etc;........anything but on these people who deserve what they got from drinking , smoking, taking drugs and being too lazy to cook and eating takeaways all the time full of additives and artifical colours and flavours!!!

I would start making these selfish people pay for their OWN treatment..instead of free medicare treatment in a public hospital being a right!

I would like to see hevier penalty charges for the smokers, drinkers, drug users and junk foodaholics pay extra for life insurance and medical benefits and car insurance (as they could die at the wheel (and cause a fatality to another person), or their judgement being impaired by alcahol(again therefore causing an accident) , or taking their hands off the steering wheel of the car to LIGHT a cigarette while driving,etc;

Why should the rest of us pay higher premiums to cover them?????

There are already discounts for non-smokers for life insurance..I would like to see that extended to other discounts for non-alacaholics, non-drug takers etc;

Sometimes the ONLY way to change some behaviours is to HIT THEM in the HIP POCKET!!!

Make these selfish people pay extra, and soon they will decide to stop smoking and sober up (so often the smoking and drinking go hand in hand).

Deny them free medical treatment for self -inflicted illnesses....and soon there will be plenty of nurses and doctores FREE to serve the public who really need them, and are sick through no fault of their own (just genetics, or where they live etc;)

It sounds harsh, but it will work!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 18, 2007 1:29 PM

fotografer - yes, we should all be concerned.

Quoting today's BRW "More than 60% of Australian working men are overweight or obese, according to Dr Garry Egger, a director of the Australasian Society for the Scientific Study of Obesity. Egger believes workplace obesity adds 8 to 10% to absenteeism rates and increases the risk of workplace stress tenfold. Egger estimates obese workers are 10% more costly than their leaner counterparts."

I also heard on the news that obesity has now overtaken smoking as the biggest killer of Australians, and both are preventable, that is the most shocking part.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 18, 2007 12:54 PM

An article “Actual Causes of Death in the United States, 2000� published in the March 10, issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association, indicates that tobacco use and obesity – caused by poor diet and physical inactivity – are the No. 1 and No. 2 causes of preventable death in the nation. The report calls for public health and healthcare systems to place a higher priority on smoking cessation and prevention, improved nutrition and increased physical activity.

According to the report, which is based on statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), obesity may soon overtake tobacco as the leading preventable cause of death. Regardless of this trend, both are leading risk factors for cardiovascular disease – the nation’s No. 1 killer – and both must be dealt with to significantly improve American’s health, according to the association.

Deaths from tobacco use and obesity can be prevented if public health policies are implemented that help raise awareness and create environments for change.

The association calls on our nation’s policymakers to act now to put the brakes on these epidemics. We are working with federal, state and local governments to implement the following policy solutions to fight obesity and reduce tobacco’s toll on our national health. We are:

Promoting minimum standards of physical education in grades K-8 and supporting the creation of coordinated school health programs to address nutrition, physical activity and tobacco use – laying the foundation for life-long healthy habits and minimizing the impact of chronic disease on our children.
Reauthorizing the Child Nutrition Program and including provisions to promote healthier nutrition choices.
Supporting transportation policies like Safe Routes to Schools to provide funding to design local transportation systems to allow kids to walk and bike to school safely.
Supporting significant increases in chronic disease funding at the CDC, for programs such as its State Heart Disease and Stroke Prevention Program.
Supporting meaningful, adequately funded Food and Drug Administration regulation of tobacco products.
Adopting clean indoor air ordinances in all establishments to protect workers and patrons from the toxic effects of secondhand tobacco smoke.
Increasing excise taxes on tobacco to both decrease the demand for tobacco products and to help fund tobacco prevention and cessation programs.
Promoting the investment of a significant portion of funding from the 1998 Tobacco Master Settlement into prevention and cessation programs, at levels recommended by the CDC.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 18, 2007 12:15 PM

ornamentalonly - yes, it must be a reflection of our society (or dominant male syndrome) that there always needs to be someone who likes to stir the pot. As one leaves, and there have been a few, another takes his/her place. Maybe cynical&anonymous had too many raging male hormones and needed to be dominant?

PS Signed in 4 times - such dedication!

Posted by: woodnwine at October 18, 2007 9:08 AM

woodnwine at October 17, 2007 10:54 PM -re an attacking echo and seeing as you noticed these similarities from a male perspective...

I'll let my stray thoughts wander a little (it is past midnight here after all,) meandering into your tributary and wondering a tad if the pinhole peeper, cloaked in black (original camera style,) is being operated from behind... by the likes of a puppeteering, fellow Man In Black?

Are they hand in glove, in each other's pockets, intranetworked, on the same mainframe -take your pick, choose your code.

Trickling back to the original stream of thought (yes, it did rain here in Perth yesterday and being a sandgroper, the wet stuff can have some strange effects) ...could it be that the Pinhole Peeper -PeePee for short (so much better than a ventriloquist's "dummy", don't you think?) is being worked by the Mudslinger In Back, jerked around by this line puller?

Or, are they hand in glove, in each other's pockets...

Anyway, enough of this jumble of analogies and delete the above ramblings as end of a hectic week/no wine and not enough cups of tea and a post-midnight (not menopausal) rambling, if you wish.

But now onto the real and positive stuff!

seraphsuzie at October 17, 2007 6:59 PM, a lovely post!

I would like to forward it on to others, perhaps with a little modification. -Changing "woman" to person, 'cos both sexes should be capable of such?

Speaking of which, your posting rocco61 at October 16, 2007 8:51 PM, where you seem to be demonstrating the art of complimenting a lady. Nicely done. :)

brilliantblue, from your sensible posting at October 16, 2007 8:20 AM,
-I'm sending you a VK of admiration! :)

And posting by aliane at October 16, 2007 11:31 AM,
-yep, I agree.
In the past, have said similar myself. I naturally expect my man to treat me like his queen...
as I do worship him, like the king he is to me... . ;)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 18, 2007 3:53 AM

Funny how one @#((^% leaves and another immediately takes his place isn't it? RIP The Man In Black, long live the Man With The Camera.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 17, 2007 10:54 PM

trumanscat.
What? Do you mean it is actually working?

Sorry girls, that's all for tonight.
Iv'e got to spend the rest of the evening working out why that young girl at the door wanted to dance the Hula for me and what it has got to do with the LION KING.................oh well I guess it worked she signed me up for SAVE THE CHILDREN.
Oh...if anyone would like to donate or become a life time donor you can sign up at www.savethechildren.org.au

goodnight and goodluck.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 17, 2007 9:47 PM

thefotografer. Why do you personalise your blogs?
What gain do you glean from it?
Can we assume/speculate that you are keen to get SOME attention & you will resort to denigrating individuals in order to get it?
Your blog directed to hiddencharms was offensive & inappropriate.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 17, 2007 9:27 PM

rocco61 bumper sticker on my car reads "aged care prepare for our future today.....another one reads "nurses you can't live without them"......k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 17, 2007 9:09 PM

fotoman: Would love to hang around for the next enthralling episode...unfortunately, I have a life...one outside of my computer...don't need to spend my days and nights glued to the screen for your next angry outburst at the world...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 17, 2007 9:08 PM

fotoman: You seem so much like my ex-husband that I could read you like a well-worn book...YAWN...Sorry fotoman...YAWN...I don't tolerate idiots or fools...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 17, 2007 9:03 PM

hiddencharms
Are you sure we haven't met before ?
You know me so well?

Posted by: thefotografer at October 17, 2007 8:53 PM

fotoman: Vile, insufferable creature that you are...YAWN...I'm not the one posting the incoherent ramblings of a drunken bum...YAWN...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 17, 2007 8:46 PM

Ahhh...........back on the blogs again Hiddencharms ....finally sobered up a bit ?

Posted by: thefotografer at October 17, 2007 8:24 PM

seraphsuzie, that poetry about women is exactly in the right place! It is gr8 and thank you for posting it. I will send it on to all the beautiful women I know! have a lovely evening....jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at October 17, 2007 8:21 PM

Wasn't sure where to put this..hmm this seems as good as place as any...

Sent to me by gorgeous woman:

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of each of your arms.

As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 17, 2007 6:59 PM

Woodnwine: Agree with you. The biggest turn off is RUDENESS.

Methinks cameraman has been sniffing flash fumes...again!

What he fails to realise is that he is his own worst enemy...Whilst he obviously craves attention and the company of a lusty, scrawny, young bombshell to squire around his racetracks and wineries, he fails to realise that every outright rude comment he makes here is the thing that turns women away...

Ladies, all of you intelligent, independent, hard-working and beautiful women, join me in a toast to our boofhead camera-guru....YAWN!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 17, 2007 6:46 PM

Biggest turn off - RUDENESS.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 17, 2007 12:07 PM

A bumper sticker I read recently

"Gave up drinking and smoking the other day......it was the worst 20 minutes of my life"

Posted by: rocco61 at October 16, 2007 9:09 PM

There could never be too much of TC

Posted by: rocco61 at October 16, 2007 8:51 PM

Of course TrumansCat is a truly gorgeous, sensual woman (with a great sense of humour too, of course - why shouldn't you laugh at your own jokes, they're good!!!) - who certainly doesn't need anyone telling her what weight she should be, for heaven's sake (as indeed nobody needs).
There's just so many things wrong with that whole concept, including prejudice, assumptions, etc, etc - I'm not even going to attempt to go there or will take up pages and pages, so will leave it at that, with love to TC.

Posted by: malsie at October 16, 2007 6:42 PM

FrillyFloralFrock71, I'm not quite sure whether or not you were recommending that I attend one of the Winery Walkabouts in Rutherglen, or recommending it to other people. Just so you know, the reason *why* I know so much about it is, my parents live 10kms away from Rutherglen, and I went to Rutherglen High School between 1992 and 1995, inclusive. I've never been as an adult, but I remember what it was like as a kid.

I really *should* go back again.....

Posted by: wraecca at October 16, 2007 4:49 PM

Ha trumanscat they are all great pictures!!!!

Maybe those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, is the thought that comes to mind, Cameraman.Your profile picture may or may not appeal to others. Remember none of us is perfect.

Criticising someone's look for whatever reason is a tad rude don't you think?

Woodnwine agree with you l am overweight and am upfront about it in my profile.

I go to the gym 5 times a week for an hour on the treadmill and go to classes after that 3 times a week.

I also have my dancing lessons twice a week followed by 2 hours of social dancing.
Dancing lessons sound soooo daggy but my 5 left feet have now become 1 and l have found that l am actually quite good at it, to the extent that l dance to grade level now. I also do a mean cha cha, modern waltz and quickstep.
I also take pooch1 and pooch2 for a walk most evenings.
I feel quite fit with all of this activity, however my body shape does not reflect it. What to do?

Stress that l do not meet someone's ideal body shape?
Not me, l am happy with myself and that is what counts.........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 16, 2007 3:52 PM

Thefotogafer,
I’ve started to wonder if you get a thrill out of working women up….is this your way of getting attention? I can tell you just because you’re not carrying any weight doesn’t mean you look great….if anything the women who carry a little weight usually have the really pretty faces because they have that extra weight on their face…. As women get older I think it looks far better to put on a bit of weight rather than being skinny….I would love to put on more weight as I think I am too thin but no matter how much I eat it doesn’t happen so I’ve resigned myself to the fact that you are who you are.
We concentrate on our good points and lets face it far more important with who you are as a person on the inside than the outer appearance. I really don’t think you should comment on a womens appearance unless it is positive…..we were all born with what we’ve been given.
Looks fade but as time goes on the really genuine nice people on the inside shine.

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 16, 2007 8:20 AM

Morning fellow bloggers.

Age , weight , beauty. I can't believe that someone has said, you have a great face, just lose some weight!!! Thefotografer to Trumanscat.

What a backhanded comment!. We are now 40plus, Haven't we all learnt any lessons in life so far, or has the journey been a waste.?

I agree looks are always important, we are all visual creatures. BUT, (sorry for shouting) not many people look the same as they did when they were skinny 20 year olds. Life, children, jobs, divorce and age happened. this applies to men and women.

I don't tell bald men that you have a nice face, shame about the hair or gut

Plus we are not in Hollywood! thank god!

This issue with hot bods and looks stems from Hollywood. And we are in Australia, lets not be dictated to by Hollywood!

Trumanscat is an attractive women, and is honest about her curves. She, and all of us other curvy women , are very happy with the way we are.

And, I have discovered, a lot (more than I thought) of men (young and old)love women with personalities, boobs, backsides, curves and life scars! And at our age, we know exactly what to do with it.

As Seraphsuzie said, we can change our weight if we choose, but you are stuck with your face....Soooo true! I think I prefer my face and curves any day!

Have a gr8 Tuesday. If this is posted today that is....jewels.

Posted by: junebaby57 at October 16, 2007 7:59 AM

At the risk of stirring up an issue which has clearly gotten out of hand, surely the real issue should be health and fitness. Every week I play volleyball with a very big guy, but hell he is fit and very healthy and could run rings around me on the court, and often does. If a person is fit and healthy then after that it becomes personal choice.

If however a person is very unfit and/or very unhealthy then that is cause for concern in our society. Unfortunately our health system is struggling to cope with people suffering from self induced illnesses such as lung cancer, throat cancer, obesiety, hardening of the arteries & substance abuse. Surely this is something we should all be worried about rather than whether someone is a different shape to us.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 16, 2007 7:56 AM

ornamentalonly - don't be wary of skinny males, just skinny chefs.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 16, 2007 7:44 AM

And of course...humour.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 16, 2007 7:41 AM

Recent conversations have highlighted what is & isn't attractive in an individual irrespective of gender.
What is attractive to me...
*generosity of spirit
*a wide view of life not limiting self or others
*a desire to grow from life's challenges
*simple kindness & caring

Posted by: trumanscat at October 16, 2007 7:37 AM

Gee, gosh and golly whiz! Has the fotographer been "possessed" or even, hijacked by another multi-dimensional character?
Or, is this honest writing of such insulting and discriminatory views, all due to this character's sexist and emotionally retarded self?

Don't forget, foto-one-dimensional-portrait, that I was married to a far older man than you were to your late wife AND widowed at 30yrs of age with three, very young children as well as, coping with my own life-long legacies from physical injury.
And I worked with no family support whatsoever.

So, getting back to my original point, I well know how a MATURE and very experienced man behaves with females.

Aside from that, my own hard won personal experiences in life suggest:
-if an older person is still obsessed with outside appearances; it is a strong indicator they have never moved on from some or, ANY of their juvenile phases.

It is natural for the very young (from new born babies who can distinguish different human faces, to primary school children who can react strongly to physical appearances and teens, whose raging hormones can hone in like heat-seeking missiles on society's homogenised, commercially driven and plastic standards of attractiveness) and understandable, that they don't have the mental capacities and/or experience to use other more sophisticated, tried and true methods of assessing a person's physical and personal beauty.

Still trying to be absolutely fair here and giving some benefit of doubt;
I do wonder if the thefotographer is actually responsible for these latest and horrifically scathing attacks?
Is he under stress (still no excuse for the most recent opinions,) on medication or even, have a little trouble with substances and abuse?
Or, does he think he will take over the mantle of a far more skilled misogynist than he?

Aside from all the above: Trumanscat and Seraphsuzie, you both are gorgeous women outside -and in!
Trumanscat, you have cheekbones to die for -I'm so jealous!
And Seraphsuzie, I've long admired your quick witted way of handling some of the rubbish that goes on -plus your individuality.

No time needs to be wasted with deliberately blind, ignorant and immature submissives who blame others for their condition.
Real men and gentlemen would not behave in such a way.

Signed by,

A sort of person who can't be bothered and hasn't got the energy or inclination to give compliments, unless they're dinkum.

P.S. I am wary of skinny males -but like woodnwine says of trumanscat; I would never be rude to such.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 16, 2007 12:42 AM

Deja vu, we've had this conversation before.

I like me, love my curves, have great friends, a fantastic, loving family, new job with a dynamic & respected organisation.... how lucky am I? I do alright in the bloke department...& one day I will meet a a good, kind, gentle man who means so much more to me than my freedom.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 15, 2007 11:31 PM

Uh...Oh...It looks like the blogs are getting nasty again. Okay everyone, take a deep breath......deeper....now go to the October blogs and check out the new RSVP ad for the guys. Put a smile on your dial and let's all play nice again.

Jenny :) :) :)

Posted by: fefa63 at October 15, 2007 11:13 PM

fotografer.. like TrumansCat said you have no idea about anyones mind or motivations on here.. .. you don't know what I eat every day.. you don't know about the hour of exercise I do every morning... because all YOU know is your own shallow, insensitive, ignorant self!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 11:08 PM

BTW fotograher, trumanskat may not like skinny men but I doubt she would be offensive towards them.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 15, 2007 10:57 PM

the fotographer

We all have things we need/would like to change about ourselves-we all should be our own never-finished canvas- always trying to improve.
Yes, for our physical health, the issues of weight, smoking and other addictions, and other issues, need to be addressed. These things are all transient though-your physical body could be changed in a moment in some kind of accident.

What is ultimately important is our inner selves - the type of people we are and strive to be.

Posted by: karenchocolat at October 15, 2007 10:56 PM

Come on guys. Let's not go there again. Rise above it. We are being baited. SeraphSuzie and TrumansCat, we just need to accept that there are a lot of people out there who are preoccupied with the external rather than the internal. Eventually, their shallowness will bring them undone. It perplexes me that people who consider themselves physically ‘normal’ are so critical toward those who they deem aren’t. Who died and gave them the right to judge? I am so sick of people with naturally occurring, stable metabolisms riding their high horse. I am also sick of those who work at keeping themselves lean, acting holier than thou. Good for you. Well done. Wish it were me, but it isn’t. But don’t denigrate others just to make yourselves look good. It just makes you look bad.

Posted by: ninaschen at October 15, 2007 10:56 PM

fotograher - well I certainly misjudged you. I thought you had learnt to lighten up and enjoy the blogs without offending people, but I was wrong. You are still offending or should that be offensive? Why not try being nice, it doesn't hurt. Getting mad just makes you mad.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 15, 2007 10:55 PM

That's not a very logical deduction Miss Doubtfire

"if she is serious' does not imply she can't date or won't find a date.

Why would she accept something less than she can get by staying overweight ?
it's a cop out and a defense to not attract men and it is a deep rooted negative thought process buried away in the subconscious.
You should know how hard it is to hang on to a man by being overweight.
It's okay if you accept a partner who is overweight and you mutually agree to keep putting on the pounds and increasing butt size,but have a look around we are becoming a fat nation,is that a desirable look when all that is required is to exercise and eat the right kind of food.
It will save you money as well as improving your self image.
There is no excuse for not caring about yourself and your health.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 10:46 PM

Oh dear oh dear.
Presumption thefotografer.
How can you possibly know my mind, my motivations? You can guess & you can speculate but you can never know....

Thanks brilliantblue, you're a spunk too...
XXX seraphsuzie Thank God for our godgiven right & desire to be unique otherwise we would all be going baaaaaa & who are ewe? (she laughs delightedly at her own joke yet again).

Which one AuntyKaz? :~)

Posted by: trumanscat at October 15, 2007 10:41 PM

"she can lose the weight because she knows what caused the weight gain in the first place and if she is serious about a relationship it is the same as the smokers.'....that jog your memory fotografer???

That implys to me that if she is serious about wanting a relationship she will lose weight just like smokers will give up smoking.. which then suggests that to have a relationship you need to be slim!!! ........!!!!!!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 10:27 PM

Hi Trumanscat,
Just looked at your profile after Thefotografers comment…. Don’t listen to a word of it….You look fanastic just the way you are!

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 15, 2007 10:20 PM

I don't recall saying anything to that effect Miss.
I plead the 5th amendment! and rest my case.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 10:18 PM

fotografer... so you are saying that you cannot have a relationship with someone unless you are small? is that right?

All I have to say to you is.....pfffffffffttttttttttttt!!! Up yours !!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 10:10 PM

sreaphsuzie

You need to lose some weight as well.
From today, no more soup for you,you have been banned, go to the end of the line and get a diet.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 10:06 PM

I love my face.
I was born with it,so i had to learn to love it.
Trumanscat has a beautiful face and she admits herself that she is largish and inside her she knows that she can lose the weight because she knows what caused the weight gain in the first place and if she is serious about a relationship it is the same as the smokers.
You stop smoking , you stop eating the wrong kind of foods.
Not only does your health benefit but your mental attitude and self confidence reaches new heights and I am all for self improvement and helping people see their true potential and not be governed by their own mental restraints which prevent them from changing.
Sorry I am not a woman and into these defensive put downs that you pull out when it suits.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 10:03 PM

Trumanscat has one hot picture in my opinion, should be in the top 10......k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 9:55 PM

fotografer that wasn't nice what you said to trumanscat..... truly it was mean... a backhanded compliment is always worse than an insult in my books..

And really you can say all you want about my hair colour.. at least I can change my hair colour and weight.. however your stuck with your face? How does that feel huh? :-P

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 9:52 PM

trumanscat

Looking at your face I can only say if you lost some weight you would not even bother being on this site let alone the top 100.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 9:46 PM

Hi Wraecca,
I went on that Queens Bday rutherglen winery tour about 3 years ago and I have to say I had an absolute ball. It was run as an RSVP event.
I cannot recommend it enough, it was like going on a school camp. The beauty of the whole thing is there is no pressure like on a date to measure up to other peoples expectations. Go there have a drink or few and make new friends.

If your thinking of going on it next year... go for it!

Cheers
Wendy

Posted by: frillyfloralfrock71 at October 15, 2007 9:45 PM

Wraecca
I have never been to Rutherglen but I will put it on my list of must does.
Just for bragging rights though my resume of Winery areas is.

Okanagan(Canada) famous for ice wine
Champagne(France)
Hunter Valley(30min away)
Barossa Valley(dad’s birthplace)
Brindebella (Canberra District)
Yarra Valley
Clare Valley
Adelaide Hills
MCclaren Vale
Kangaroo island
Mornington Peninsula
Napa Valley(California)

I have a lot to see.
So many wineries ,so little time…………….

Auntykaz.
I watched it go round on Saturday and when it came around the turn at Caufield and it said
“Give me some Galloping room� and it took off and spaced them it reminded me of when Might and Powewr won the Cup.
I am hot at the moment so take my advice.

Miss Purple People Eater alias Purplehead or better known as

“My God I forgot to take the dye out Suzie�

What happened?

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 9:41 PM

I'd love to get on the top 100! really I would....
if the extra exposure (I must be a slut) exposed me to a special man who liked what he read/sees & he would have only had found me via the top 100 then so be it.
Limitations create limits, give me freedom over wowserville anyday.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 15, 2007 9:23 PM

Went there 2 years ago wraecca friends of mine organised a massive weekend with a busload of people.
I found it too crowded at times sooo many busloads of people everywhere, but one nice place we did stop at was a boutique brewery for lunch out in the middle of nowhere.
They made their own honey beer which was different, and their ginger beer was lovely and l don't like ginger as a rule.

There are so many wineries down here on the Mornington Peninsula l think one that l personally find nice is Montalto at Red Hill. Lovely spot overlooking the vines and olive groves, nice artwork on display and of course the food and wine hits the spot too.........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 9:19 PM

Hey, AuntyKaz and Thefotografer, have either of you ever been to the Rutherglen Winery Walkabout? Its held over the Queens Birthday long weekend in June. Over 20 wineries in the Rutherglen region (there's 6 in Wahgunyah alone), and they make a wonderful drop of red. Rutherglen's slogan is "Sydney may have a good harbour, but Rutherglen has a Great port!"

Brown Brothers winery in the Milawa Gourment region is not too far away either; about a half to 3/4 hour drive from Rutherglen. Great food, great wine, great scenery, what more could you ask for?

Wraecca.

Posted by: wraecca at October 15, 2007 9:06 PM

hahahah fotografer@ my hair colour.. What are you going to call me? Purple head? hahaha.. too funny!!

And I will never reveal my source :-) Just trust me I am a woman ..hehe ;-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 8:35 PM

Put your house on him good grief cameraman famous last words indeed. Brother in law once put a house payment on a horse he was leasing with some friends.....dead set certainty, can't lose, you know what l mean???

Well of course it didn't win, his howls could have been heard all over Melbourne, wife was not a happy girl.

Funnily enough, said brother in law has been for some years a "professional punter" and has not had any other job.

Does quite well out of it now too...........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 8:14 PM

aunty kas i dont believe you about a good day in? where do you live down south isnt it

Posted by: chad1958 at October 15, 2007 7:59 PM

Girl, I just don't believe you.
Back it up with facts,
that is why politicians are taken with a grain of salt !!

Oh seeing you are into name calling....about your hair colour.....no ...I will not stoop to your level.

whew!! that was close!

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 7:09 PM

I just know someone fotografer .. and they know someone .. hehe I know that sounds hmm a little mysterious, but thats me, Ms Mysterious.. and I'm not angry woodnwine.. just frustrated because fotografer is such a poopyhead...

And for the last time mr poopyhead.. .it is NOT based on how many kisses you send... 'phew' :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 6:33 PM

Auntykaz.
That's it girl,the only one I know.
they make a nice Chardonnay, but I am a Sav Blanc person myself Margaret River or NZ.

You have heard it here.
MALDIVIAN

CAUFIELD CUP this saturday can't be beat,put your house on him.

No to keen on the Taylors brand though.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 3:57 PM

Fotographer,dear, not my day off, working from home, not really into the gee gees until cup week so can't help you there, and do you mean Paringa on the Mornington Peninsula?? Although more partial to a sauvignon blanc myself...cheeky little number nice and crisp, and prefer the Margaret River brands myself, Taylors especially......cheers cameraman......k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 3:01 PM

seraphsuzie - I was making no comment about you. I don't care if people are in the Top 100. I think maybe thefotografer has got you annoyed and so you snapped at me, ouch!

Posted by: woodnwine at October 15, 2007 2:31 PM

Seraphsuzie!!
this is the RSVP slant,so what do you know that they don't or aren't telling?

Insider trading ?

How do I get in the Top 100? How does it work?
The Top 100 is generated on a daily basis and is determined by a number of factors, including

The amount of contacts members have sent/received and replied to.
Having a visible photo.
The "Top 100" feature is enabled.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 2:24 PM

fotographer.. i am telling you .. you are wrong.. but hey if you want to think that way who I am to stop you..
I don't send anywhere near 20 kisses a day.. for the last few days have not sent a single one..

I have inside information.. through someone I know how the top 100 is worked out.. and you are WRONG!!..

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 2:10 PM

AuntyKaz.

Seeing it is your day off can you do two things for me?
Have a talk to Lee Freedman and get a tip for Saturday and pick up a couple of bottles of Pinot Noir from Paringa Estate.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 1:57 PM

You miss the point seraphsuzie.
You can send a maximum of 20 a day and then it is based on the number you receive ,the number you send and the number you reply to on A DAILY basis.
That means you have to maintain your figures ?
I will send you 20 kisses in a day you send me 20 replies ,i will send 20 replies and then we should both be on there ? or maybe the figure has to be a lot higher?Tell me the number,because I am amazed that some of them get one reply.
tell me out of this how many dates to you average?
To be honest ,even looking at some of the profiles and the photos of some of those on the top 100 I would have them at the bottom of the top[ 10,000 on those 2 things alone.
There are plenty of beautiful women and handsome men with great profiles that do no appear on the top 100 by choice.
Woodwine! so you see what it takes to elevate yourself.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 1:48 PM

yeah so what if i have it enabled woodnwine.. ? Does it really make me any less of a person? I dont think so.. it certainly does not define who I am..and it hasn't made any difference to how many kisses or emails I get..

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 1:41 PM

Now I'm sad because I'm not in the Top 100 and I reply to all the kisses I receive. Maybe because I don't have it enabled?

Posted by: woodnwine at October 15, 2007 1:38 PM

thefotographer wrote "...to be on the top 100 you have to send the maximum amount of kisses(up to 20 a day)".

This isn't true. That is all.

Posted by: chopperpilot at October 15, 2007 1:32 PM

Fotografer.. nah you have it all wrong.. To be in the top 100 all you need to do is reply to all the kisses you get sent. You do not need to send out 20 kisses a day. Get your facts straight.. And I really resent the fact that you would say to be on there you are cheap and sleazy.. Because that infers that I AM cheap and sleazy and I can assure you I am not!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 15, 2007 1:28 PM

Thanks the fotographer, l never really understood how the top 100 worked.
Having not looked at it either l guess l didn't think much of it. think l will have to take a peek now...

A bit more education for auntykaz...knew there was a reason why l had today as a work at home day. Far too nice a day here in Melbourne, yes we do have them, think my pooches need a walk.........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 1:02 PM

One of the things that really turns me off are those on the top 100.
I chose not to be there and even if I was, I think you come over as cheap and sleazy.
Most men and women like to think they are exclusive in some sense, but to be on the top 100 you have to send the maximum amount of kisses(up to 20 a day) and to reply to the maximum amount of kisses and emails.
It's a bit like promiscuity.
Men and women don't generally think of themselves as promiscous and women in particular tend to hide the number of partners they have been with because they see that they makes them appear more desirable,fussy and exclusive,yet to be on the top 100 actually implies that you are totally the opposite to the most desirable characters sought for in a partner.
It beats me why you would even want to be on the list, they are the first I strike off.

Posted by: thefotografer at October 15, 2007 12:49 PM

Mysticocean, 'wraecca' is actually an Anglo-Saxon word, which means 'wanderer' or 'outcast', depending on the context.

Just something I learned during my first degree, when I studied the English Language from its Anglo-Saxon origins through to Old English, Middle English to Modern English.

Happy Hunting everyone!!

Posted by: wraecca at October 14, 2007 8:34 PM

hey 'wraecca', what language is that? Is it one of the Scandinavian ones, and what does it mean?

Posted by: mysticocean at October 14, 2007 6:16 PM

A quick fly by.

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 13, 2007 10:52 AM -yep girl, you've done it again and made me chuckle out loud. :)

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 13, 2007 1:00 PM,
"...live and let die...",

had a chuckle at that too.
(No offense to smokers or Kaz's original blog.)

Posted by: trumanscat at October 13, 2007 12:33 AM,
"...I have a preference for men who have commonsense, are practical & hands on & (no other way to say it) down to earth..."
-what can I say but yes, yes, yes -I totally agree! But where the blinkin' heck are they??

Finally, have to say this here, as I'm not always able to respond (just recently, I missed out on an instant messaging session from a lovely person while I was working and only popping in every few hours to catch up,)
my thanks to all who have been complimentary and supportive on the blogs and in private.
-You all, each and every one of you, help ameliorate (glad I could find that word in the dictionary!) a lot of the "Biggest Turn Offs" in here, by just being yourselves.

As it has just gone midnight here, I can now wish you all a peaceful Sunday.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 14, 2007 2:12 AM

Hi dovima,

Excaliburwheta has gone under many names on these blogs and was recently using RamsteinAFB (no longer there). Check my blog entry on 12 October 1.01pm and ornamentalonly's on 10 October 12.48am for further details.

Jenny :)

Posted by: fefa63 at October 13, 2007 9:30 PM

like the comments made on this blog particularly chopperpilot's on the smoker still exuding smoke for some time after having a cigarette. A man at my work leaves a trail of cigarette smell all along the corridor as he walks back to his office after smoking. As he is such a heavy smoker he never loses his smoking smell. Many years ago I worked for a cigarette company giving away free cigarettes and was the only non smoking cigarette girl in the group that I worked with. I hated the smoking but the job paid well so I did it. I was always affected by the smoke. On another topic from the "Dating over 40" blog (now closed) I have tried to look at the profile of excaliburwheta, who made a comment on that other blog, but his profile is not available. I was wonder where he lives? Does anyone know? Mr sharp sword if that is what you profile name is supposed to mean, I am intrigued by your comment on Carolyn Oates the Dove Face of Aus and the fact that you suggest that there is a person on this site who could have been the Dove model. Do you actually know this person? I thought that Carolyn Oates was a good choice to promote a product that is in competition with one that has Jane Fonda in its advertisements. She is tall and very photogenic. She worked in media during her working career which makes her an appropriate choice as she knows the ropes.

Posted by: dovima at October 13, 2007 8:50 PM

Happy birthday Chad1958. I have one coming up shortly, too. Damn it! But a free stamp will be appreciated. There are more bloggers I need to contact!

Posted by: ninaschen at October 13, 2007 7:46 PM

To "thelynathdiary" Oct 13th, you brought back memories of my father's little smoking table/stand that used to stink up our loungeroom(you may have not read my September post about how my father was a five packet a day "the strongest brand you could buy" smoker)..which I why I detest the stench and cost of cigarettes!

When you mentioned that cigarette stand with the special ashtray and all, I suddenly remembered how my father had one.

The stench first thing in the morning when I had to empty it unbelievable!
He was very inconsiderate and refused to smoke outside like other fathers did in those days, (just having one or two after dinner).

My father smoked non-stop, so if he went outside he woul never get to see the tv, would he??

He refused to go outside despite my coughing and blocked sinuses. As I got older,(into primrary school) I realised that if I shut my bedroom door, then I could keep my room smoke free for bed-time. Most of my school holiday time was spent sick in bed with terrible flu infections from the filfthy smoke, instead of going somewhere nice and enjoying myself., like other school children.

As I looked into the "chocoblock" ashtray in the morning, I felt sad thinking of all the things that I needed for school (including school shoes, a new uniform because my old one was getting too small), or the home, my birthday, Christmas and Easter that I was never going to get that ,as his excuse was.."We can"t afford it"!

Of course we couldn't afford it , because what HIS NEEDS WERE always came first!!!..After he got everything he wanted first, then if there was anything left, then I might get it.

Lucky for me, my maternal grandmother was a caring woman, and picked up "some of the slack" for things that I needed for school, as she valued education highly, as her own mother had been a schoolteacher.

So, to me, my hatred of cigarrettes is not only about the medical aspects, the stench, cancer etc; its about the poor sad children who see the money needed for their needs "go up in smoke" right in front of them..(just like I used to) and the terrible feeling of sadness it gives them to see how selfish their parents can be.

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 13, 2007 5:14 PM

hi nursey that made me laugh

Posted by: chad1958 at October 13, 2007 5:12 PM

Nurseandpurse: I am quite happy in my life. Thanks all the same for your unwarranted advice - whatever it was you were trying to say, anyway.

I would be even happier if you chose to stop shoving yourself in my face - here on the blogs and my inbox...Thanks.

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 13, 2007 4:30 PM

I remember all those orange and green glass ones...ew!
I'm talking about ashtrays.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 13, 2007 2:11 PM

Thelynathdiary,True comment, l just don't care whether they smoke or not was really the gist of what l was saying, when they are ready (if ever) they will stop.

I received a crystal ash tray as a wedding present years ago, thought it was quite nice, although l didn't smoke back then either. It now decorates the outdoor table, anyone who comes to my house has to smoke outside and has done for years......k

i if you had a crystal ashtray that was very impressive

Posted by: auntykaz at October 13, 2007 1:23 PM

hey Kaz. if all your friends smoke I think you should change that to "live and let die"...

How times have changed is all I can say... for a wedding present back in the dim dark ages I got a charming marble and brass special occasion ashtray(only "for good", when guests were coming) Several ash trays were necessary around the home and on the table for formal dinners...

I have recently retrieved from the depths of "under my parents house" a late 50's -early 60's smokers table for a romantic couple. There are two Bakerlite round trays coming out from the stand to hold a drink (Shandy or Pimms?) and the packets of Viscount, Turf or the manly roll your own Drum. The trays can spin around to either side of the stand(modern or what?) and the stand continues above the trays to end in an ashtray with a very neat and tidy lid that opens and closes with a push down button(an innovation) AND best of all a little attachment which neatly holds the matches so you don't loose them...

Apart from a dalliance with Gauloise back in the late 70's when it was sooo coool for liberated women to be seen with a cigarette holder and a Gauloise after dinner I have never taken up smoking.
However, having grown up in clouds of cigarette smoke and breathed it everywhere for years I am quite sure I have passively smoked hundreds of cigarettes. I just hope it does not affect me any time soon.
My husband smoked in the early days of my marriage and one of my daily tasks(which I just accepted and thought nothing of at the time) was to empty and clean his filthy overflowing ashtrays.. I can't believe that was me.....
As a child I was often sent to the shop to buy cigarettes..no one thought anything of it at all...
even funnier looking back was seeing nurses wheeling patients out to the balconies for cigarettes while having one themselves..often people in for having lung and heart disease..and only because they couldn't smoke around oxygen...
I can't stand smoke at all now and would never date a smoker because it just wouldn't work...but hey, wasn't it great in the days when you knew you could always buy men a carton of cigarettes for a gift????
That could be another blog topic..might suggest it...what to buy for gifts!

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 13, 2007 1:00 PM

fefa63 & Ornamentalonly: I'm enjoying the peace and quiet while "whatshisnamethisweek" is thinking up a new profile...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 13, 2007 10:52 AM

Ninaschen: Returning your lovely compliments, to you...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 13, 2007 10:51 AM

Rocco61, congrats on a gr8 new profile, I believe that it will work well. Also congrats to your daughter on the makeover, she obviosly loves you very much and also supports you in the dating adventure.

Congrats to Auntykatz on the 9 weeks not smoking. It is very hard to give up something that brings you pleasure, even if we know it is not good for us, it is still a hard thing to do, so congrats...jewels.

Posted by: junebaby57 at October 13, 2007 10:37 AM

Trumanscat: Cheers to you, too! I think along the same lines as yourself. It is the "person" that attracts you and the "package" that they bring to you...warts 'n all...all that hands-on stuff sounds great too!

It's been illegal here in Qld to smoke in a public place for about 12 months or more. Our local club has built a very nice outdoor area for smokers...It's actually quite funny...you spend half the night wanting to smoke because you are having a drink...the other half not wanting to walk half a mile back to the smokers' garden...then, you discover all the desperate 'n dateless have lined up at the doors to suss out the available women...it seems to have become quite a pick up spot!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 13, 2007 10:37 AM

Smoking in others does not bother me one bit.
Most of my friends smoke, the fact that l have given up is for me and no one else needs to be concerned about that.

Anothers personality is far more important to me than if they smoke or not.

Each to their own l guess, but l think the term "live and let live" works for me.................k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 13, 2007 10:14 AM

A drunken, boozy kiss is just as bad as an ashtray pash.

Alcohol abuse kills more people too.

Till the government stops reaping the benefits of human, deadly addictions like smoking, drinking, gambling etc., people should still be free to make their own choices.

We just don't always know what is good for us and the flesh is oh sooooo weak.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 13, 2007 9:37 AM

I agree with you Malsie... give me a great, grounded man with personality.... if he smoked then so be it.

Having lived & worked the majority of my adult life outbush, I have a preference for men who have commonsense, are practical & hands on & (no other way to say it) down to earth.... I am rambling... lol.
I was at my favourite pub (partaking) tonight & it was TEEMING with testosterone.. perhaps girls we could have a RSVP get-together there?!

Posted by: trumanscat at October 13, 2007 12:33 AM

Madame Ninaschen....thank you for the lovely feedback. They say like attracts like, the friends that we have are a reflection of us, if so, all good.
You too Malsie & seraphsuzie...

I am looking forward to November 1st, here in SA it becomes illegal to smoke in a public place. This also has it's downside..... I regularly go out with a friend who is a smoker. It will mean each time she has a smoke she will have to leave the premises. Not great for the continuity of a good night out.
C'est la vie.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 13, 2007 12:23 AM

Oh my goodness me... David. You do scrub up well.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 13, 2007 12:16 AM

Don't worry about the spelling of my nickname, Ninaschen, the a and e are actually supposed to be blended together to make one letter. And it *is* a word that hasn't been used in over 1000 years, lol!

And I completely agree with you regarding your statement regarding this as a special little community. There are people here who I count as friends, and one in particular who, well, when I talk about him on the blogs, I tend to start a slow blush, lol (but you know who I'm talking about, anyways).

I never discriminate against my friends for smoking, and funnily enough, around my friends, I can tolerate the smell. When you are ready, you will give up, and we will be here to support you. Until then, we are still your friends, and love you no matter what your smoker-status.

Be happy, and we will be happy for you :)
Wraecca.

Posted by: wraecca at October 12, 2007 8:40 PM

Ninashen, thanks for the kiss, if only it were real (sigh)

Hey,I grew up in Latrobe Valley, left when I was 16 ( 2 years after I quit smoking, there, almost addressed the topic). My parents moved back there, why, I know not.

I sometimes think about some of the girls I grew up with there, during my formative years, I wonder if some of my favorite ones( like my first love) are single/divorced.
Now that's getting a bit desperate, isn't it? Must stay focused on 40 to 50yo female profiles in my little patch.

Posted by: rocco61 at October 12, 2007 8:36 PM

Thank you so much Malsie and HiddenCharms. It really does touch me when fellow bloggers direct positive comments my way. There are some very special people on this site and you are two of them. Along with SeraphSuzie, TrumansCat, Weta, Wraecca (I always have to go check how to spell that one!), OrnamentalOnly, AuntyKaz etc etc etc. Sorry if I have left any out, if I have sent you a kiss, you all know who you are!

There are many others that I haven't kissed (believe it or not, I can be a little shy!), who I also think make very valid and interesting contributions to the discussions here.

It is a special little community, isn't it?

Posted by: ninaschen at October 12, 2007 8:29 PM

Agree! Damned cute, Rocco. If only I were 10 years younger. And you were a trillion kms closer! Your new photos and updated profile are sure to reel them in!

Posted by: ninaschen at October 12, 2007 8:15 PM

Thanks Malsie and HC, you guys must have payed my profile a clandestine visit, as I didn't notice you both, you don't have to hide from me and yes O U both, coming this weekend.

Well, who would of thought we would have to congregate in the smoking blog, just like at High school, congregating in the toilets to smoke, not me of course, too busy in the library working on my future profile.

David

Posted by: rocco61 at October 12, 2007 7:53 PM

Malsie: re your comment to Ninaschen-rather spend time with a smoker with positive energy....

Ninaschen: re your comments about quitting being on your list of things to do...

CHEERS to both of you!

Ninaschen, maybe we could try a mutual support system and try quitting together...life always seems to get in the way and I always end up trying to deal with other, more important and immediate problems...but I've never tried quitting with a friend...???

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 12, 2007 7:53 PM

David: I agree with Malsie. Much better! I take back my nasty comments about your "unsexy" yellow Tshirt...by the way...U O Me!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 12, 2007 7:38 PM

And you know what, Seraphsuzie - you'll probably end up meeting the man of your dreams there just 'cos you're focussed on having a good time for yourself. Love dancing - what a therapeutic way to spend an evening....

Posted by: malsie at October 12, 2007 7:30 PM

Ninaschen, I would far rather spend time with a "smoker" who's delightful company any day, than put up with a non-smoker whose negative energy is more detrimental and toxic to my psyche!

If your Melbourne get togethers gather momentum and happen regularly, I would love to make the attempt to pop over and join the next one, perhaps? I hope you all have fun....

Posted by: malsie at October 12, 2007 7:28 PM

Thanks Malsie.. it should be fun.. just hope theres no men there.. hehe just how I am feeling at present.. I just want to dance and have a good time... :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 12, 2007 7:12 PM

I love the sound of that witches and warlocks evening, Seraphsuzie. I would thoroughly get into the part, I reckon!! All these fun things going on interstate.... hope you have a great time, and sorry to hear you're feeling a bit down at present. As they say, this too will pass, but it's not much fun in the meanwhile.

Posted by: malsie at October 12, 2007 7:04 PM

Hey, David - love your new photos and profile! If I lived closer, and didn't have my new playmate, you might just be in serious trouble, my friend!
That should reel them in, for sure.....good luck with it.

Posted by: malsie at October 12, 2007 7:00 PM

Myself and karenchocolat.. who blogs are going to the Witches and Warlocks rsvp event ... so if any Sydney bloggers want to meet us that would be cool!! :-)

I can't wait to Goth up.. hehe ;-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 12, 2007 6:52 PM

Jack/serendipitouskarma:

As you very clearly stated: I have not read your profile, nor have you read mine...therefore you quite clearly cannot be the person I was in correspondence with...so I am left wondering why would you chose to direct such harsh words at me(re slagging off in my inarticulate manner about the person still living a married life, but looking for another lady's company)?

I hope you have gotten over your grumps, Jack.... I do, however, and extremely tongue-in-cheek, apologise if my "inarticulate" words hit a sensitive spot and offended you. I was merely pondering one of the oddities that I have encountered in my RSVP correspondence, in reply to another blogger's frustration (You might notice that I did not name the person concerned, out of courtesy, and hoping not to directly offend anyone).

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 12, 2007 6:24 PM

hi everyone i know its outside this blog but rsvp sent me a happy birthday email yesterday with a free kiss.i thought that was cool but i have to use it within a week oh well back to the profiles

Posted by: chad1958 at October 12, 2007 5:47 PM

Thanks OrnamentalOnly, I'm glad that there are people on here that have appreciated my genuine and sincere thoughts. I try to always put a positive spin on things (not always possible, even *I* feel a bit low from time to time), as we have to deal with what life hands us, no matter what, and I may as well try to do it by looking for the positive.

As for my potential slow blush guy, he has been a great friend to me on here, and has helped me see the positive spin on things, and I know that if nothing else, I have someone who I can trust, hang out with, and run amok with.

Happy Hunting everyone!!

Posted by: wraecca at October 12, 2007 4:42 PM

A big turn-off for me is boring people!( When you are in the grave you can be silent, but while you are fortunate to be ALIVE (many today alone have died)..be grateful, and make the best of your time between sunset and sunrise!)

Liven and lighten up!

from "Somelfeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 12, 2007 4:25 PM

Forgot to add this to my previous post.

Wraecca, a quick catch up. :)

It is always nice to read your positive view on life and to know you've been a good friend to many of us on here.

Also, that you have a potential slow blush guy. ;)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 12, 2007 2:13 PM

Re posting by: junebaby57 at October 10, 2007 10:45 PM:
good points on why some of us do use this website.

And good luck with the nice bloke. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 12, 2007 2:04 PM

Good thinking fefa63 at October 12, 2007 1:01 PM.

And like you said, you can't discount someone running two (or more) profiles (from separate email addresses) as some within us, well know.

One of the points I do take notice of in profiles is not only their similar writing style -but their particular (or is that peculiar, as I once even referred to my own in that way,) sense of humour and their similar views on life.

Anyway Jenny/fefa63, a Dinki Di *smile* to you for thinking out of the box.

Signed by
A real sandgroper (and female too) in Perth, Western Australia.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 12, 2007 1:53 PM

Ornamentalonly,

I don't think that nurseandpurse and EarlWyoming are the same person as our everpresent name-changing friend (or is that fiend?). I only say this because he sent me a kiss when he was noiceguy1. With RSVPs new system, his name in my Inbox changes each time he changes his profile name. Since he sent the kiss to me, his name has changed to comeplaytrains, Excaliburwhet, tequieroputa, and ramsteinAFB (Current name - profile hidden). I have checked, and nurseandpurse is not coming up in my Intray.

I once checked out EarlWyoming (EarlofWyoming) when RSVP first changed the system to make bloggers more accountable. Our name change friend had his name as comeplaytrains at that time, so they couldn't be the same person. Of course I can't discount the fact that he may be running two dual profiles at the same time, especially given that nurseandpurse's profile seems to run in the same stream of weird humour as tequieroputa's profile. How scary - maybe the mystery of cynicalandanonymous has finally been solved!!

Jenny:)

Posted by: fefa63 at October 12, 2007 1:01 PM

Can I just say that I am so glad I never took up smoking - it is obvious that it is a very hard habit to kick and anyone who achieves it certainly deserves praise. It is horrible to consider the number of Australians that die from lung cancer every day and the trauma this causes to their families. Good luck to those who are trying to quit and to those who aren't, please re-consider.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 12, 2007 8:05 AM

I haven't had a ciggie for 9 weeks but boy today l sooooo wanted one. However l didn't and will continue my journey of the reformed smoker, they say there is nothing worse and l have to say l do feel better having stopped.

Ninaschen when you find your way you will know, you have to do it when it is right for you, no-one else. Que sera sera.......k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 11, 2007 11:12 PM

Ninaschen, I agree with Seraphsuzie. You'll stop when you're good and ready. In the meantime you do what you gotta do!!!! I haven't had one (smoke that is!!) for over 21 years but will admit that when I did, I enjoyed it so can relate totally..

Posted by: amdoingit at October 11, 2007 10:20 PM

Ninaschen.. you are such a cack... your fantastic...

You will stop when you need to.. :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 11, 2007 9:27 PM

I agree with Malsie, Chopperpilot - welcome back. I also have enjoyed your posts and admired your intelligence.

And harking back to the past – I always thought your tatts were cool but you disappeared before I had the chance to say that.

I haven't weighed into the smoking thing on this blog as, much to my shame (may I burn in hell, and I probably will, but not just because of that) I smoke. I appreciate your, and a couple of others, not-too-damning comments.

I completely understand how abhorrent smoking is to those that don't. Giving up is on my list but not at the top, just yet. One day. One day… Besides, if I didn’t smoke, I would be perfect. And that would be so intimidating for others, wouldn’t it (says she with tongue planted firmly in her cheek)?

Posted by: ninaschen at October 11, 2007 9:12 PM

Hi, would you believe I didn't even know what a blog was until recently... sad hey!! Anyway I thought I'd put my 2 pennies in. I find RSVP to be a positive experience. I have met some really nice guys.. albeit some only for a coffee but others I can now call friends. It isn't easy being single and RSVP gives you the chance to chat and meet people. It also gives a bit of hope when you are lonely that maybe Mr Right, Mr Wonderful or whatever may be there one day. I'd just like to say to everyone - just take it for what it is and don't get hurt when you are rejected - as we have all rejected someone ourselves. It's an avenue to meet with a "possible" future partner but if not at least it beats staying home in front of the telly. Hang in there is my advice and stay positive and happy. Cheers and the best of luck to us all!!! :-)

Posted by: maurslewis at October 11, 2007 9:00 PM

I will try posting on this blog, as it appears to be RSVP's favorite at present,
I am still having trouble posting on these blogs.
Woodnwine, I take it you are having trouble too.You must be more persistent than me, if I can't get it second attempt, I give up and try another day.

The topic is smoking, hmmm.
Well, I don't care for topics or smoking, they both suck (pun intended)

Woodnwine,are you having better luck with your new profile? I managed to get my Daughter to take some new photos for my profile, I think they are better than the ones I took myself. Now I have to re-write my entire profile which I think will be a bit harder than having my photo taken.

Posted by: rocco61 at October 11, 2007 8:22 PM

Thanks, Malsie, and as I've been saying all day, I'm feeling a bit gleeful today, my inner child has been let loose, she's running riot, and I'm wanting to share my delight and joy with everyone, so, here it is....

**MWAH!!**

A big, happy, friendly kiss to you all!!

Sorry, when I'm happy, I like to spread it around, lol.

Happy Hunting everyone!!

Posted by: wraecca at October 11, 2007 7:24 PM

Wraecca, yes, I kind of gathered that was the gist of the situation. Sounds good, and I'm still rooting for you!!!

Posted by: malsie at October 11, 2007 7:19 PM

Nice to see you back, chopperpilot - you write interesting blogs (this one being no exception). Amen to summer coming - hurray!

Posted by: malsie at October 11, 2007 7:16 PM

Malsie, I would have completely understood what you would have meant, and taken it in the spirit of generosity.

As for being cryptic, well, I don't want to advertise something that isn't definite yet, nor do I want to put the poor guy on the spot (fun as it might be - sorry, in a bit of a nutty mood at the moment)

So, Happy Hunting everyone!!!

Posted by: wraecca at October 11, 2007 7:11 PM

Wraecca, that was delightfully cryptic (the slow blush bit) - good luck with that!!! (I would have said I'm rooting for you, but that wouldn't sound quite right somehow!)

Posted by: malsie at October 11, 2007 6:59 PM

AuntyKaz, thank you for your lovely words, I love reading your blogs, you always make me smile. So, big hugs of thanks to you :)

OrnamentalOnly, I agree with you when you say "I expect that many of the regular bloggers are still here because they appreciate the general sense of community and camaraderie here. I also expect they appreciate being allowed to let off some steam on the frustrations of dating in this century. I know that is why I am still here."
Indeed, that is one of the main reasons why, even while I was feeling very low, I continued to log in to RSVP and read through the blogs. I have found many 'kindred spirits' here (I know, I know, very Anne of Green Gables), and have formed some wonderful friendships, and have hope that one might turn into a great friendship, if not more (slow blush).

Lastly, woodnwine, I could never make you redundant, you bring something to the blogs that I could never do - a mature male perspective.

Happy Hunting everyone!!

Posted by: wraecca at October 11, 2007 12:42 PM

Somelifeinmeyet - I agree with ninaschen completely. We don't want to discuss recipes, knitting or whatever on a dating site - yawn!
Wraecca - careful, you are turning into me - you will make me totally redundant.

Had to sign in twice ED.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 11, 2007 7:27 AM

Somelifeinmeyet - I agree with ninaschen completely. We don't want to discuss recipes, knitting or whatever on a dating site - yawn!
Wraecca - careful, you are turning into me - you will make me totally redundant.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 11, 2007 7:26 AM

ninaschen, I was uplifted by the calm, well written common-sense, you posted on October 10, 2007 10:37 PM. Well done.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 11, 2007 2:54 AM

Well, I have just come home from 2 dates, 2 days in a row with a lovely bloke

SHOUTING is extremely bad manners and uneducated. I am a former school Teacher, now a full time Project Manager in a male dominated field, the Telco/it world, who also employs staff, and I know a bully when I run into one!

It is a shame that the above harsh words are being used in the dating blogs, as well as derogatory references to lesbians, those who might want sex without a relationship, working women possibly being the cause of marriage break ups, and I am sure there are other sanctimonious blogs I have missed, mainly because I ran out of time to the read the heaps that this person seems to have the time to write!

One of the reasons so many of us , male and female, are on the dating websites, is that we don't have the time or opportunities to meet men, or men meet women, in our current hectic lives. The web is a fastrack way for us to do this.

Without the lectures and moralising would be so much better for us all, so lighten up!"

Posted by: junebaby57 at October 10, 2007 10:45 PM

Somelifeinmeyet – Sorry to burst your bubble but I expect it is not only JuneBaby and I who are disinterested in your introduced topics. I haven’t seen anyone else jump in to discuss recipes, gardening, jokes, etc, apart from those with their tongues planted firmly in their cheek. This is, after all, a dating site.

Of course we will discuss dating, relationships and all that goes with that. It is our common thread. Now and then (more often now than then) we veer off topic but that is just the natural flow of conversation. Forcing topics on others doesn’t work. I expect that many of the regular bloggers are still here because they appreciate the general sense of community and camaraderie here. I also expect they appreciate being allowed to let off some steam on the frustrations of dating in this century. I know that is why I am still here.

I love gardening (it is in my profile), I have a sense of humour (usually), I even enjoy creating a meal for a special person. But I am not on the RSVP blogs to discuss those issues. There are other sites that deal with that. I am here because I appreciate the support and upliftedness (I just made that word up) of others in a similar situation.

May I politely suggest that you respect others on this site and not insult them nor hold them up for ridicule. We should all play nicely, together.

Posted by: ninaschen at October 10, 2007 10:37 PM

Wraecca even when you are feeling low you are always eloquent, thoughtful and mindful of other people, a special gift, and one which requires an enormous amount of patience as well as a caring nature.

I think that this shines through in whatever you write.................k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 10, 2007 10:31 PM

Hi all,

I know that there has been a fair bit of to-ing and fro-ing on the blogs recently regarding certain posts from certain bloggers.

Somelifeinmeyet, I can see where you are coming from, and that you are injecting your own type of humour into the blogs. However, even though I can see your point of view, and recognise that most of what you write is not necessarily intended to offend or upset, sometimes the way that you phrase what you say comes across in the wrong way. I am not trying to have a go at you, or trying to make you feel as though I hate you, I'm just trying to calmly and politely explain why you may find some bloggers getting upset with you, or even taking offense. You once sent me an encouragement kiss, which I thank you for, and please consider this as a friendly reply.

As for some of the other bloggers, why are you wasting your time and money by trying to make this site into a joke? If you really don't like RSVP, then feel free to leave. Nobody is forcing you to be on here, and by doing what you are doing, you are wasting your time and money. But it is your choice.

I realise that this probably isn't one of my most eloquent blogs, but I'm a bit drained after feeling low the last couple of days.

Take care, and Happy Hunting everyone!!

Posted by: wraecca at October 10, 2007 9:58 PM

A ripper post aliane, at October 10, 2007 9:32 AM!

Enjoyed your jokes. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 10, 2007 9:41 PM

Reply to "auntykaz"..Yes I have suggested new topics to the management, including a clean joke page!

Just because people are single, doesn't mean that they only want to talk about dating horror stories! (it is informative to be warned..however, there is an overload of it on this site, and I wish to add more topics...just like one would discuss at work, with friends, family or on a date.)

Besides, those with poor social skills, could benefit form learning to SENSIBLY discuss a variety of topics,( and could then use these skills to help "break the ice' as they say, and start conversation swhen they are out.)

I have noticed that "woodnwine" gives philisophical quotes,( which I like), and different comments

Most people are not as brave as me, and are scared off easily.!!!
Having done lots of volanteer work in my life, I know the value of "sticking it out", in order to help people.

There is a good saying in the Bible..."don't throw your pearls before swine"....so I won't be wasting my blogs on swine.

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 10, 2007 8:35 PM

reply to "Anutykaz", my blog of 3.19pm October 10th was re your smelly work collegues, (but shortened a bit by the editors, so it didn't include that I was replying to your blog.)

From "Somelifeinmeyet'

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 10, 2007 8:12 PM

somelifeinmeyet perhaps sticking to the topic of the blog may help, or else maybe suggest to RSVP to introduce topics that you feel may warrant more discussion.

just a suggestion.........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 10, 2007 7:36 PM

reply to "Junebaby"and "Ninashen"..I have the right to reply to attacks on myself, and if I am being bullied..it is quite within my rights to say so., and call a "buly" is a "bully".

It is obvious that you two, and perhaps (thankfully only a couple of others) are NOT intersted in the variety of topics that I introduced to the blogs (which is the main reason I am being attacked!!!!!

The ONLY topic that you seem to like and NOt attack, is the broken record topic of people's complaints about their failed dates!!!

Surely a singles site can provide a bit more than that! (but you don't want it!)

Coments like "sanctimonious blogs' does NOt encourage others to post topics!

Most people I find are cowards, and at the first sign that they will be abused (like I have been on the blogs), they will no way want to say something that might lead them to being attacked too.(so they just send "kisses" of support to me instead)

So then you are stuck on the blogs with the same horror dating stories going around and around, making the readers feel more and more depressed as time goes on!!!

For goodness sakes....get some life in you, some positivity, and talk about something else! Like health, music, tv, food, recipies, jokes, the environment, social issues, organic vegetable growing.....something besides your dating failures!

Those who have only one topic of conversation, (their boring dating failures) must be EXTREMLY BORING on a date......so I can see why they are still single, and that their only life is lived through these blogs, whinging to each other and attacking newcomers!

From "somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 10, 2007 5:05 PM

Reply to "Cattymeow" You have such a nice profile, and yet for some reason write a very nasty blog attacking me!

You go on and on ( in a very negative way)about various things that I have written in my various blogs,( either initiating or responding to more intersting topics than just about dating alone.)

You go on about my blogs being emotive and subjective etc;

Have you actually read my profile????

Of course I am emotional..I am an atristic creative type (as i state clearly in mt profile)who loves family life, gardening cooking, doing arts and crafts, pets, crying in sad movies,organic vegetables and free range eggs, singing dancing and kareoke!!!!

Have you not read my blog (you seem to have read so many of them so far) where I say that I am NOT an accountant type of person!....(And that those who do not like emotion should hang around with accountants!!LOL!!)

You have a VERY BIG CHIP on your shoulder to get this aggressive with someone you don't even know.!

I am giving lots of good tips for health, anxiety relief, some cooking tips, some medical info, some good tv shows to watch..(a variety of topics other than just plain dating grumbling,) and instead of you saying "thankyou, that was interesting"..or "that gave me some food for thought"..you come out with all guns blazing, making fun of eveything I said!

Would you prefer just to read people grumbling about their failed dating adventures...(or if you have been to university...) wouldn't you prefer a variety of topics instead to think about, something where you can help yourself? or others? A new topic of conversation to bring up at work the next day???

I have even suggested a clean joke page to the management, as something that would be good to lighten people's day. (Would you make fun of that too?)

You went on alot about people wearing grey clothes.(but as I never mentioned this at all in any of my blogs, I do not know what you are going on about!)

Also, as you didn't read my blog where I say that I use capital letters to highlight keywords, for people who have a tendency to "skim over" blogs without reading them properly, and then rattel offa reply.

It is NOT aggressive.

Also I use lots of paragraphs and exclamation marks, to help set out the ideas more clearly, and make it easier to read.

(Like at uni where i used to do double spacings inthe type for ease of reading and clarity0

Also, I have avery expressive way of speaking, (I do not drone on in a monotone like some people) and wish my typing to reflect my lively quick way of talking.

I am a quick thinker, quick reader, quick talker and very quick typer. (This is why I am able to do so many blogs , so quickly, in so short a space of time)(Two people have asked me how i do it already.)

Now, "cattymeow", yous eem so nice in your profile, so I will give you the benefit of doubt this time,( that something else was going on with you , which is why you attacked me) so I will try not to be offended, but if tyou do it again,I will definetly have to be exremely offended.

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

P.S> You are far too young to be so angry at someone who is old enoughto be your mother>

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 10, 2007 4:43 PM

To "Chopperpilot" intersting bit of info about smokers still breathing smoke into the air after finishing smoking.(.especially in public transport in the winter.)

Great, I always love to learn something new, especially as it may not have even occurred to me before.

I am glad that you said it though, or the "blog thugs" would attack me for saying it, and say I was just making it up, just because it had never occurred to them before!!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 10, 2007 4:06 PM

Once upon a time, employees were expected to be AWAKE and sparkly and smiling and the clients, now they don't get fired if they amble along, slowly attending to your request like they had all day.

Personally, I would never leave the house (even just to pop down to the shops) without a shower, a facial, tooth brushing, hair brushing , deoderant, perfume and makeup! (but then I am old-fashioned!)

Australian society,( having beeen founded by England,) follows English thinking, which is about doing one's duty to others and to ones elders and betters as well.

Because of this, in Australian society, ones employer used to be able to tell one's employees that their dress code or smell, or grooming was not up to scratch...but now I fear that it may be "politically incorrect" to do so.

(I feel too many things are now listed as "politically incorrect"..and too much about the other persons rights!)....(also too much about the supposed rights of the criminals, and NOT ENOUGH about the rights of the poor victims!)

There is an old saying..."no one can smell themselves".

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 10, 2007 3:19 PM

well luckily wnw these two don't liaise with me often, and l'm gonna handball the problem to my boss (that will keep her busy) as she is the queen of tactfully handling sticky situations.
Once they have stunk out her office, she will be onto it!!

I have a real problem with telling people l don't know that things are offensive, but find it a bit easier with friends and tend to use humour to diffuse situations - knew my experience handling behavioural problems would come in handy......k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 10, 2007 1:45 PM

Auntykaz - I agree bad body odour is a big turn off but perhaps of greater relevence was your comment of "how do you tell someone?" In fact how do you tactfully tell someone about anything offensive, particularly if you have to work with them? It is probably easier (but not always easy) with friends. Things that come to mind:
bad body odour
constant sniffing
bad eating habbits e.g. slurping
spitting and the horrible sound that pre-empts it
sticking their finger inside your glass as they hand it to you
not washing hands after going to the toilet (the last two seem to go hand in hand, don't they?

Posted by: woodnwine at October 10, 2007 8:02 AM

Hi all.

I genuinely gave reading the whole blog my best shot, but gave up a little over halfway due to the incoherent ramblings of some members, who don't need to be named/encouraged.

What I wanted to add to this blog is my perspective on dating/smoking. I don't smoke, and have never actually even tried it, despite this, I have enough evidence to know it's not for me.

I know better than to call smokers stupid or any other derogotary term, as they are simply suffering from an addiction, which bypasses their other normally fully functional good sense.

So please don't think I am trying to be nasty when I point out the following:

When you smoke, your lungs continue to, for a period of time afterward. I heard 20 minutes, the actual length isn't really important. So when a smoker has finished, and walked into a room, they are still breathing smoke (albeit less) into that room, and the faces of those whom they may be addressing. Breath mints do nothing to stop this unfortunately.

This is part of what makes public transport (especially in the winter) so trying, as some people smoke right up to the point of entry, and therefore continue in a sense, long after the doors close.

Aside from this, the smell in smokers clothes and hair is off putting to me, so I am clear that I won't date a smoker again, regardless of how well we may click on other levels. I understand it is an addiction, and don't wish to judge smokers, but I don't have the time or the will to wait for someone to give up when the facts of smoking have been clear for many years now.

Having said that, I wish all the smokers on ths site the best of success, whether you give up or not.

All addictions aside, it would be nice if everyone could find themselves in reciprocal love with someone compatible.

*end rant*

Summer is coming!!!!
-chopperpilot.

Posted by: chopperpilot at October 10, 2007 4:44 AM

My, my, my....two different profiles in a single topic on one day from:

ramsteinafb at October 9, 2007 10:45 AM (an oblique reference to a former failed trip buddy?)

to,

nurseandpurse at October 9, 2007 7:07 PM.
-Maybe he was feeling a little worn out by all his personality changes, the poor old thing.

Or maybe, he's smoking something? (Blog topic appeased!)

He does seem however, to have progressed somewhat and stopped waiting for the "crumbs" to come his way and now is declining into nursing home dribble.

BUT, still obviously flaunting exhibitionistic tendencies by giving the usual loaded hints as well as finishing the so obviously farcial nurseandpurse with,

Other interests:
"I have an extensive stamp collection (an alternative to his steam train dvd collection, one of his usual indicators of obsessiveness) and like to walk through rainforests cataloguing all the known varieties of toads and marsupial insects".

This character, besides making deliberate errors with facts, consistently shows no inhibitions proclaiming his delight in revealing private conversations.
So I'm sure he won't mind some more of his confabulations (made up imaginary experiences after loss of memory -in his case, a sign of ageing?) being outed, even though their details do echo with monotonous and hollow regularity:

nurseandpurse,

ramsteinafb,

tequieroputa,

Excaliburwhet,

comeplaytrains,

noiceguy1,

RodeoKill,

RodeoRoadKill,

Lee Van Cleef,

MidnightCowboy69,

EarlWyoming.

As well as, lest we forget, redhat posted on Dontdatehimgirl.com.

It appears there is more than a broken leg feeding this character's boredom and penchant for dissociative behaviour.

A pity he doesn't know when to stop and actually do something constructive with all this spare time he has in his declining years.

Hasn't he heard of what most, normal grandfathers do with their time?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 10, 2007 12:48 AM

Here's a turn off with adifference.....had a couple of health professionals in my office today (female l may add) and they stank to high heaven with body odor.
Couldn't even sit in my office when they where in there to do some much needed paperwork.

Then when they left, l had to put a fan on and spray the office to kingdom come.
Now l know we all have our wiffy moments, but this was 9 am.

And the funny part is every office they went into was the same.

Now its not a turn off but it is definately a stomach turner and from health professionals its bad form.

Lucky l am not there tomorrow as they will be back and l don't think l could cope!!!!!

How does one tell someone that they smell????? Badly???

...................k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 10, 2007 12:01 AM

Had to sign in 3 times again - thanks ED

The thing I like most about all these crazy stories is that they make me feel wonderfully normal in comparison.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 9, 2007 10:07 PM

Dear Hidden Charms,

I haven't read your profile - And I am fairly sure you haven't red mine - because RSViP tracks those who have.

I, also, have not read the profile of the person of whom you refer/castigate .. but I am happy to attempt to "explain that one?" as you have requested.

People do exist in relationships for reasons that you may not understand - everyone isdifferent and no one is perfect.

I am married, I "live at home" and I am, for all intents and purposes single and individual.

If the person exists (whom you haven't identified) says those words then I am preparedto accept them. You do not indicate that you have sought clarification, if you need such.

Not every one is as articulate, or as inarticulate as you, if you feel the need to boost your ego by "slagging off" at someone, then please slag of at me.

One of the many reasons I haven't 'run away from home' is because I feel/have responsibility for my children regardless of what I may/or may not feel for their mother.

Please, clarify your comments, unload your baggage and/or move on.

Sincerely yours

Jack

...until I read the profile that openly states he is still living at home with his wife and child..."so no-one misses out...". Can someone please explain that one?

* Posted by: hiddencharms at October 9, 2007 7:52 PM

Posted by: serendipitouskarma at October 9, 2007 8:53 PM

Remember we are not all out of the same mold! I would like to think that readers of my profile might appreciate the fact that I have put alot of thought and alot of energy into making it just that - a profile thats articulate, concise and individual - without the age old 'loves walks along the beach and berbecues' Who dosent for crying out loud!!! I hope I'm not being overlooked because women feel that what I've put in my profile is a con job from some guy with a 3 word vocabulary trying to be a SNAG....

Posted by: whereismysoulpartner at October 9, 2007 8:42 PM

amazon69 at October 9, 2007 7:30 PM: You wrote: Real men looking to commit are just signing off from this site because of that minority or is it majority??

I agree with almost every word you wrote. We women find the same in men's profiles - some fantasy of SNAG, searching for the one true love..blah blah blah....Sorry, haven't read any M&B lately to know what kind of ramantic blubber is apparently being spouted...

It is frustrating and off-putting and a thousand other things....What do you do...? Engage in lots of emails, chats, phone calls and very wary "dates" and hope that you can weed out the winners from the losers...

I had a guy, today, tell me that he was genuinely looking for a life partner, someone to have and hold and grow old with...until I read the profile that openly states he is still living at home with his wife and child..."so no-one misses out...". Can someone please explain that one?

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 9, 2007 7:52 PM

How about the major turnoffs like people being dishonest in their profiles.

No kids...but have kids

Their age

Their picture

I have no stamp comments..too tight and expect everyone else to cater for them and then don't have the decency to respond if you do.

Profiles written out of Mills and Boon novels..get real do you expect people to fall for that crap

Real men looking to commit are just signing off from this site because of that minority or is it majority??

Posted by: amazon69 at October 9, 2007 7:30 PM

Auntykaz: I'm with you on whatwillhisnamebethisweek...the immature rude, and irrelevent remarks, hiding behind multiple personas only highlights one of the biggest put offs discussed repeatedly on all blogs - lack of sincerity and respect...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 9, 2007 6:29 PM

Whatwillhecallhimselfthisweek seems to have come up with a new alter-ego...just another one to avoid...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 9, 2007 6:18 PM

thelynathdiary l think that you may find if you read my post that l was very upfront in saying that l couldn't abide Germaine Greer, the reason l say that is because like any great Australian(not) she moves countries and pops her head up now and then to bag the shit out of this country then pops her head back in its box.....from afar.....never says anything positive.

The fact that she is
female is secondary to her impervious pronunciations, and that is just my opinion.

That she had an impact in furthering the cause of women is not in dispute from me.l was addressing a post by mystic ocean.

As far as whateverhecallshimselftoday goes if you check any of my posts regarding him under his several names over the past few weeks l think you will find that far from agreeing with him, l find his insults to mostly female bloggers simply rude and can't be bothered addressing any comments that are aimed at me from him.

.He wont get a rise from simply because l really couldn't muster the effort.

Ahhh ignorance can be bliss sometimes, and l mean on my own behalf, no one elses.

happy day..........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 9, 2007 6:15 PM

very good, thelynathdiary, I like that,,,terquioputa (or whatever) is crummy in bed...very clever! Due to too much toast. I bet the toast regrets it, but we all suffer momentary lapses of judgement. To the toast: glad you moved on.

About the difference between "bagging" (putting down) and "critiquing" ( an informed and reasoned analysis) - I have a lot to say about Bettina Arndt (as a critique)...but this is not the place...I don't support every well known Australian woman, god knows, Pauline Hanson is well known and some people would say she's improved their lives, but I could make a serious critique of her views if this was the right place. Critiquing a woman's views (analysing/rejecting her beliefs and reasoning) is not the same thing as bagging her (personalising your rejection of her). Women have brains, we think, we make decisions, and we don't have to agree with each other just because we're women. If you think we do, that's a biological determinist view you have there, don't you think? So there's no irony...

Posted by: mysticocean at October 9, 2007 6:11 PM

I�ve learnt so, so much today- Thanks somelifeinmeyet

I�m stoked to hear that to cure my anxiety, I don�t need to smoke, exercise or comfort eat- all I need to do is pray you say?! Silly me for consulting a professional!
Funny�. Your �remedy for prayer� sounds more like meditation to me.

And when I made a healthy decision to lose weight, I�d merely combated my anxiety? Thank god it had nothing to do with depression, quitting smoking or work-dominated lifestyle. Well, that sure answers a few questions. It poses a few too!

And if praying doesn�t fix me- I should just watch the news! The solution is to find solace in the misfortune of others, you say?

I�m very interested to hear what it was exactly that you gained from your �university education?�
From what I can gather, there are some issues here with emotional maturity and a tendency to respond on an emotive/subjective level.
Factual statements that seemingly come fresh from Google searches, and it appears confirmations of your values are being sought from educated professionals based on your own assumptions of their value systems.

When confronted with an alternate viewpoint, the response is seemingly defensive, childish and irrational:

�There are very few entries from pro smokers- thankfully.� And the tendency to yell (I assume with all your education and online studies you are aware CAPS LOCK WORDS ARE PERCEIVED AS AGGRESSIVE.)

At one point you are claiming university students must conform to streamlined thought processes to obtain a degree, thereby discrediting the ethical value of higher education. Only later to call on your own supposed university education in an attempt to derive credibility?

The arguments are sensationalised, quoting 60minutes as a source? Who else, may I ask? ACA? Today tonight? Clearly the degree didn�t include any media studies.

Smokers are not only rude sluts with glazed over eyes and unworthy of comment, but now we�re all expected to wait for an outbreak in illness, born of the skin of a penis? Step aside equine flu!

Somehow I fid myself doubting your claims of being a free, non-conformist thinker, purely due to the presence of bigotry and ignorance, and the irrelevance of your posts. Not even those with grey in their wardrobes or high-pitched voices are safe!

I�d like to make a few suggestions, perhaps having open discussion with those who oppose your viewpoint may be beneficial to fertilise this free thinking mind of yours.

Perhaps also, if we all start to give people who wear grey a chance, those who weren�t circumcised, those who enjoy instant noodles from time to time?

To sum up, I�m curious as to whether others see any irony in your username?!
To really get the most out of life, give people more of a go. Debate is far more rewarding when you appreciate and consider the opposing viewpoint.

I�m a 21-year-old woman. Reformed smoker. Two unfinished degrees. Does that make me a slut? A drop out? Ready to put anything in my mouth? I�d rather an uncircumcised disease riddled penis, or a smokers tongue in my mouth any day, than the unintelligible rubbish you spill into these pages on regular intervals.

I apologise for going off topic- but was compelled to point these things out, and suggest some of the preceding posts, (and this response of course) would be better located elsewhere.

My only feelings "re: biggest turn offs" being that personal standards vary, and that I'd date a fat dude or a smoker any day if he had the charisma, respect and ambitious optimism required to sweep me off my feet.

Thankyou for filling my day with amusement somelifeinmeyet. Best of luck finding a lover/partner.

Posted by: cattymeow at October 9, 2007 5:42 PM

Choices.

We have the choice to date who we want but no right to judge others for what they choose.

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at October 9, 2007 2:57 PM

So,tequieroputa ...
you are crummy in bed then?

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 9, 2007 2:56 PM

outamycomfortzone,
it sounds like you have been very hurt by your experience. You are right we do learn from experience and we grow too..that is some comfort. It is hard when you are the person rejected..no one likes that feeling.
One lesson learned is that just because someone does not connect with you for the long term does not mean there is something wrong with you.
Never believe that. It is just a matter of finding the person who does click with you and this will happen when all circumstances are right.
You have to kiss a few frogs as they say....

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 9, 2007 2:54 PM

mysticocean.. do I have to? Damn! that means I have to go back and find how to spell tequieroputa again...

Let , me see... teq quoted "Australian women are their own worst enemies"

Immediately two Australian women came out and bagged two well known Australian women(women who have been catalyst for change in womens lives, at that)

You both therefore just proved his quote and his statement that this behaviour is rife on the blogs.

A good bit of irony I thought...

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 9, 2007 2:42 PM

Good post "Wraecca" about you having to be the mature one on these posts!
I am a mature one too, but unfortunately the silly primaray school minds and bullies "make the loudest noise".

If you want to be the "policeman" and "peacemaker' on this site, all I can say to you is ..."You've got your work cut out for you".

As I was told by one of the management of a different internet site...."The bloggers are not typical people that use a site.Those who find that they get dates quickly leave the blogs, as they are too busy, but those that cannot get dates, and are disatisfied with their lives, are the ones who do the blogging. So don't be too offeneded by anything that they say to you or anyone else, as they are just having a go at everyone. I advise you to avoid the blogs, and stick to the profiles where the more typical users of our site are located."

So "Wraecca" perhaps you should take this woman's advice,( as you said in your most recent blog, how you feel from reading the blogs to scared now to let anyone near your heart.)

I myself hgad a few days breaks from the blogs, as I was getting annoyed at the childishness going on.

i had hoped that on a more classy site like R.S.V.P. I would find like-minded university educated men and women who would like to discuss important issues like health, medicine, the environment,movies, tv shows, jokes, family matters, pets, gardening,intersting travel adventures and stories etc;

Instead I get idiots accusing me of being old bloggers that they didn't like, or being in leauge with a male blogger who is new that she doesn't like, and all sorts of other irrelevant mindless twaffle!!!

I have already stated a number of times that I am a new blogger, who only joined a couple of weeks ago, but still get the same mindless twaffle......and yet a new one today from "Ornamental only"...(Who seems oddly enough quite sane from her profile).

(Perhaps someone else wrote it using her name....which i imagine woul dbe an offence under the rules of the R.S.V.P. site???)

Are you a school teacher????Because you would need to be "Wraecca' to keeep this playground in line! LOL!!!...You have your work cut out for you! Good luck!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet'

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 9, 2007 2:08 PM

Hi. Yes I have smoked on and off for years. Latest not smoking - but yes have in the past. Luckily not too heavy so if I want to give it up for a while I do.

Turn off - of course - it smells. I have smoked and yet I cant stand to be with other smokers, especially kissers. Heavy smokers - urrgh

However, I dont get upset with them if they do smoke. I just dont get in contact with them again. Eventually the penny will drop for the fortunate ones.

People smoke for a myriad of reasons. People eat for a myriad of reasons, people drink for a myriad of reasons, all these things can be addictions but they often run deeper than that. You just have to wait until the time is right or if you dont like it say goodbye nicely.

Posted by: julies4u at October 9, 2007 1:56 PM

As has been said a myriad of times on this particular blog, smoking is an addiction. Some people are able to give it up cold turkey. Others have to gradually wean themselves off the cigarettes. Others try, fail and give up. Whatever the stage that a smoker is at (even being a non-smoker all their lives), we should be supportive of the person, and not belittle them because of the choices that they have made.

I get quite distressed when I read blog entries that slam people for certain aspects of their lives. Issues on weight, gender identity, sexuality, and even mental illness have been bandied about on these blogs, with little to no thought of the people who are involved. 1 in 3 people in Australia are affected by a mental illness, be it depression (acute or ongoing), post natal/partum depression, bipolar disorder, schitzophrenia, etc. A large percentage of sufferers of depression go undiagnosed, because of the shame that they feel, that society induces. Our farmers are committing suicide because they are suffering severe depression over the drought, and are not seeking/receiving help. Our children are committing suicide because of a myriad of aggressors that they deal with during their adolescent years. We need to stop our senseless bickering and become aware of how our attitudes on these blogs are affecting the wider community.

I am sure that I am opening a whole new can of worms here, and will most likely be blasted by other bloggers who will disagree with what I have posted. However, I work in an environment where I see how certain attitudes and beliefs affect our children. I have watched as a loved one has spiralled down into the black hell-hole of depression, ending in a nervous breakdown, all because of intolerance, bullying, stress and abuse. I try to encourage patience, tolerance, acceptance, kindness, compassion and understanding on these blogs, because I have seen FIRST HAND what continual negativity and abuse will do to a strong person.

People make choices with their lives. They choose to smoke. They can choose to give up. Quite often the choice to give up is a difficult one, and one that may take them years to achieve. However, until we are sainted and perfect, and have never made a wrong choice, never hurt someone with our words or actions, until we have been sainted because of our perfection, we should not denigrate other people who need our encouragement, support and understanding.

This is a free country. Everyone has the freedom to make their own choices. However, as a free country, we have a responsibility to ensure that EVERYONE is allowed to enjoy this freedom without discrimination, bigotry and intolerance. Take a step back, people. Look at what you are saying. Listen to how you are saying it. Would you want your children/parents/friends hearing what is coming forth from your minds? If you think they'd be ashamed, or if you would be ashamed of them if you heard them say the same things, maybe you need to have a long, hard look at the influence you are displaying, and how it will impact on your community.

I'm 27 years old, for crying out loud. I shouldn't have to always be the mature, adult voice on these blogs. After all, isn't everyone here over the age of 18, and legally an adult? I don't want to be so disillusioned by the time I am 30 that I won't let another person near my heart. I want to remain optimistic and hopeful that I will find my special someone. Please, don't strip me of my hopes.

Sad, weary and disappointed, but still protecting that flame of hope,
Wraecca.

Posted by: wraecca at October 9, 2007 1:31 PM

This is not quite on smoking but it is on smoke.

There is a term used in certain professions that "it is all smoke and mirrors."

Users of this site should become more familiar with the vagaries of that term and that will not be so easily upset with what goes on here.

Shall I leave now.

Posted by: ramsteinafb at October 9, 2007 10:45 AM

Flexibility and the ability and willingness to make some concessions all go toward making a relationship last.
I think that if one is not prepared to accept someone outside one's ideal match then don't bother looking. I want to win the lottery too but not much chance of that. As woodnwine says keep an open mind and you might be surprised.

Posted by: mushie6 at October 9, 2007 8:25 AM

OK third go at signing in! Ed - are you monitoring this?
alaine - thanks for your constructive comments. I certainly know what I would prefer in my ideal woman but instead of what you refer to as a changeable mind I believe I have an open mind and often also consider women outside my ideal match as I believe we all need a certain amount of flexibility.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 9, 2007 8:10 AM

A turn off (okay, I have to address something towards the topic,) Somelifeinmeyet, I see you are still slipping in misquotes, misrepresentations and total irrelevance with your most recent post to me. -Why do you firstly, bother writing about me and then, to me, when I've never bothered with you?

But please, to make it specifically clear -don't exert yourself anymore in regards to myself, as I only replied to your blatantly fabricated and completely nonsensical comments you falsely attributed to myself -just like tequieroputa says, "On and on and on and on ad nauseum".

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 9, 2007 1:17 AM

Negativity -a big turn off - we are all being sucked into it by these blogs, myself included. It is amazing how much happier I feel when I haven't read or participated in these blogs for a few days yet there are so many nice people on here I keep coming back. Let's agree to stop or at least reduce the amount of negative comments, I for one will be doing this as I admit my guilt. It is a bit hard though with topics like this but I will try my best.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 8, 2007 7:48 AM

Dear Agony Aunt

Major cooking for me these days is a piece of toast with Lady Marmalade spread across it.

And you are soooooo supportive. I need your support. After all the toast tends to sag in the rump region where the cellulite starts to seep through the butter.

But I am in my comfort zone, I like to eat my toast in bed

On and on and on and on ad nauseum

Posted by: tequieroputa at October 8, 2007 6:22 AM

junebaby major cooking for me these days is is the occasional roast when all three of us are at home at the same time - which is a rare occurance.

The hardest part l find is deciding what to darn well have that can be cooked, reheated when needed, taken to work the next day by my son along with his 5 sandwiches, 4 peices of fruit and a few tubs of yoghurt everyday, busy builder that he is.

happy day.......k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 7, 2007 11:39 PM

no, enlighten me, thelynathdiary. How do you think I validated tequieroputa's point?

Posted by: mysticocean at October 7, 2007 9:53 PM

sorry thelynathdiary..oct 7 11.41 i cant aggree on this 1 it was emotionally challenged at its best when i thought about it all the warning signs where there at an early stage .Even to the point that i thought he was married at 1 time.Turned out not married physically but still emotionally his ex even told him he puts walls up .When ever we made arragments he would opps i have to work or ive got some stuff to do with the mates so if i had opened my eyes i would have figured it out .But it seems i didnt want to see what was right in front of me . My learning lesson .Open your eyes and you will see. Yes i did learn some things from him that were good so it wasn`t all bad.Sorry for genralizeing it .But its how i feel and yes you know i probably would have liked to know what was so bad about me that he couldnt stand so i could really learn from this time .But in general if you are not ready for a relationship y start 1

Posted by: outamycomfortzone at October 7, 2007 9:25 PM

Point taken thelynathdiary no offence to any ladies here l just can't abide Germaine Greer, Australia's worst expat in my opinion, the Poms can have her. A bit more irony, as l am a Pom..................k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 7, 2007 7:10 PM

Irony, Kaz, irony...

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 7, 2007 6:11 PM

Don't think l referred to whateverhisnameisnow, l simply disagreed with mysticocean..........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 7, 2007 2:58 PM

Ninaschen Oct 3, I agree with your comments re Somelifeinmeyet. "I have noticed in your postings a tendency to insult and denigrate others. Just in this blog you have used the words:
Using bully tactics
Liars
Reading impaired
Feeble-brained
Alcohol affected
Stupid
Idiots
Looking angry and psychotic
Demonstrating liberal sexual behaviour
I gather you are not on this site to make friends. Congratulations. You are succeeding."

This is a pretty good representation of this persons blogs across the board. I tried to address it in the Online Etiquette blog, but I don't think my message was understood by Somelifeinmeyet - see blog and response on 3rd Oct.

It is a shame that the above harsh words are being used in the dating blogs, as well as derogatory references to lesbians, those who might want sex without a relationship, working women possibly being the cause of marriage break ups, and I am sure there are other sanctimonious blogs I have missed, mainly because I ran out of time to the read the heaps that this person seems to have the time to write!

Somelifeinmeyet, where do you get the time to practise all that you say in your blogs. I work from 9-00am to 6-30pm each day, so get home at 7-00pm at night. Who has time for any major cooking?? the teenager is hungry, so it is quick and simple, that is on the days I feel like cooking, otherwise it is take away, usually Thai or the Noodle bar.
How does one work the long hours, do housework and gardening, have a life with dating, playing, seeing family and friends and still manage to do all the things you say in your blogs, you must never sleep!!!!

Or do you stay at home, if so where is your empathy to all the women out there that do not have that luxury!

One of the reasons so many of us , male and female, are on the dating websites, is that we don't have the time or opportunities to meet men, or men meet women, in our current hectic lives. The web is a fastrack way for us to do this.

Without the lectures and moralising would be so much better for us all, so lighten up!

Wishing all you sane and happy bloggers a nice and safe day....jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at October 7, 2007 12:01 PM

outamycomfortzone, I agree with you about allowing time to get over previous relationships.
I think though that there is a difference between people not being willing to commit to spending the time needed on relationships(as opposed to time they spend with work. friends or other interests) and people not willing to commit instantly.
You cannot expect anyone to make a firm commitment to you about a relationship on the first or second date. Many fledgling relationships end at around the three month mark because that is about the same time that true personality starts to show through and you know enough about a persons background and lifestyle to know whether or not their could be a future. They are not all emotionally challenged, they will tell you they can't commit as a more gentle let down. Would you rather they state all the things about you they can't stand? That would be more damaging.
Taking the time to get to know someone and risk having the relationship end is just a part of the whole process. You can't get to something more permanent without it. It is not time wasted, but time put to good use because at least you are active in your pursuit of happiness in love,and each time it happens you may learn something more about yourself which is always a positive.

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 7, 2007 11:41 AM

May not be active at moment but can`t help myself still reading the blogs. re woodnwine oct 3rd 12.29 biggest turn offs relationships. Why is it people on this site state looking for long term relationship let you get involved ring you nearly daily for mths go out a few times. Then tell you that they don`t ever see them selfs being able to get into a commited relationship. When what they forgot to tell you is they are Emotionally Challenged and can`t commit to anybody and are just waisting your time. These peolple should get them self help or give them self time to get over what ever it is they need to get over .Without hurting other people along the way . I suppose i should count myself lucky i only had 3 mths waisted ,others wait years to tell you this .So for those of you who are Emotiionally Challenged think before you act as all you are doing is hurting more people along the way.If you cant commit or dont want too y be on here to begin with.Get over it first....

Posted by: outamycomfortzone at October 7, 2007 11:17 AM

Aunty Kaz and Mystic Ocean surely you have just validated tequieroputa's point

Posted by: thelynathdiary at October 7, 2007 10:18 AM

Mysticocean have to disagree there. Surely that title belonge to Germaine Greer...........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 7, 2007 9:16 AM

Bettina Arndt is Australian women's worst enemy.

Posted by: mysticocean at October 7, 2007 8:59 AM

the biggest turn off for me is men who don't like women...and there are some bloggers on here who are downright misogynist. If you are having trouble attracting someone, have a look at your own attitudes to the whole sex...that's where your problem lies. You don't like women. You probably like sex, but you don't like women. Herein lies a dilemma. How to solve it, boys? Keep on running women down? I don't think so....

Posted by: mysticocean at October 7, 2007 8:55 AM

"Australian women are their own worst enemies."

Bettina Arndt

Boy. She didn't have to go far for that piece of brilliancy. Just have to skim these blogs

Posted by: tequieroputa at October 7, 2007 8:24 AM

yes, smokers can be a turn off but each to their own. I have kissed smokers and sometimes accidently had a cigarette or two after one too many drinks. It can be bad but what about someone that has four bulbs of garlic or chews on something weird.

a persons mind or looks (loosely termed I mean) is more important than anything. Also, how do you know that person may want to give it up and needs a a little push.

aaaaarrrrggghhh, who know's, where was I.

Posted by: anotherclint at October 7, 2007 2:40 AM

hiddencharms, l wasn't going to comment on your post a few days earlier regarding your family issues as you obvously needed to let it all out but since whatevernamehecomesupwithnext had a go l thought l would comment.

Every topic that
rsvp come up with seems to get hijacked by those who seem to want only to upset and hang shite on others.
We all have the right to our opinion but constant denigration is tiresome and boring eventually.

Hiddencharms you shouldn't have to stick up for yourself to anyone least of all someone who can't even make up his mind who he is.
................k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 6, 2007 10:40 PM

somelifeinmeyet - not all vegetarians choose to be so to be "trendy". Maybe some do, although that is not my reason for being one nor any of the people I know who are. So I personally don't see why you choose the adjective "trendy" to accompany a lifestyle choice of "vegetarian". My reasons are not primarily health orientated ones, although that is a consideration, but more my ethical beliefs re animals.

However, that is not something I would push down anyone else's throat as being the "right" path in life - merely my own beliefs. But it is certainly not based on any thoughts of "trendiness"!!

Posted by: malsie at October 6, 2007 9:39 PM

Check it out. A new site. A new RSVP schmoose commercial! Open for comment, an positngs available within seconds...!!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 5, 2007 6:16 PM

excaliburwhet: Is that whet your whistle (you would have to be dreaming) or sword stuck in the stone...No yankin', no pullin', no fun...??? Either way, you luck out....

With others on this...you have to be related to one of Earl's personas...Probably a free yahoo 14 day account...

As for laying slack on my "family problems"...I was venting and stating a case....anyone with an ounce of ethics or morality would have either ignored my out bursts, or offered support. Creeps lay slack.

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 5, 2007 5:43 PM

somelifinmeyet: It's funny. You never get rid of the smell. It's like dog sh-- and gets into the sinuses and stays....You can't get rid of the psychobabble that goes with it....the excuses and stories....the poverty...desperation...they tear you apart because you wear Kmart or Crossroads...or because you feed your kid meat and veg and they have poor-house soup....

The funny thing is...they don't recognise the fact that you can't afford to put braces on your own kids mouth, because it costs you thousands each year to make sure she can see...or to recognise that you don't make std phone calls because they cost money or that you don't buy take-away because it is more expensive than cooking at home...or that school uniforms and text books are more important than seeing the latest big screen movie....

Like most people on this site, I have had to work, bloody hard, to over come the hand that life has dealt me....and I won't have others bring me down because of it.....

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 5, 2007 5:34 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..to "Ornamentalonly"...I will scroll back and check to see the blog where you say that it was NOt you who accused me of being the old blogger "Cynical andanonymous" who wrote ablog about herpes.

I do try to be extremely accurate in my writings, and if I find that I am in error, naturally I will apologise to you on these blogs immediately.!!!!

It will take a bit of scrolling to find it, as their are so many sections that it could be under. I would have just replied on the scroll that the criticism of me was made.
So be patient as I look for it.

(I also noticed that many blogs of others that I have previously read, when I look next time have disapeared into "blog heaven"....and their are only ahandful of new enetries...Whats going on???????????)
Thankyou.

[Ed: Check out the Archive category - that's where the old blogs go when they retire from the fray....]

"From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 5, 2007 3:41 PM

excaliburwhet: I'm not sure what I've done to push your buttons, aside from refuse your kiss, then respond to your bottled farts-whatever waffle that you slung at me...

If I sound too intelligent for you to correspond with politely and intelligently, I do apologise.

My mother would be glad to hear that she did not waste all of those years (and money) of good Catholic Girls' schools, and that all of the years I have spent forcing myself to stay awake after long hours of work to get through uni has not been a dead loss, either.

Anything that I have to say, Trainboy, comes from my own experiences...my life, my family, my education...not off the internet...To think that I would be so interested in you and your trainsets that I would spend hours on the the net trying to beat you...all I have to do is remember my childhood, or ask Dad, or pull out the photo albums - now there's a thought...the photos taken of Dad, hauling a Goods train south, through the Tamrookum flatlands...and my brother and I (at 18), in the new little Suzuki, racing him and the train along the highway...I seriously got my butt kicked for that one...or for all of the years we spent in the Yerongpilly shed, cleaning the big buggars, because Dad was working and he needed to supervise his kids...Comeplay trains....

As for your job...I really don't have any idea or interest in what you do...sounds like you really enjoy the stuff that gets out of hand...I always thought that you guys were supposed to stop things getting out of hand...As for the football...you've probably read it on my profile. I make no secret of it. Believe me, when I'm at a game, the last thing on my mind is eying off the bouncers....

Aside from that, I do think we can add Earl to your list of aliases....

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 5, 2007 3:23 PM

why does everyone concentrate on smoking

have you ever tasted anyone's breath when they been on the weed.

and how about garlic. I been out with girl who eats garlic whole for breakfast, lunch and tea.

Posted by: tequieroputa at October 5, 2007 9:41 AM

Aliane,

Are we on to nutritional foods now? Well I've gagged on being forced to eat home made vegetable soup without a pig trotter having run amok through it and given it an ounce of taste. Now it's the home made salad. How long does one have to wait before the slug bait shows in one's system. What are those little white pellets in the rabbit food. And should any self respecting male be forced to eat live slugs merely because she calls it "organic" When women go eco tripping, men should run

Posted by: excaliburwhet at October 5, 2007 3:59 AM

Alaine Oct4 - I am sorry but I have no idea what you are trying to say to me.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 4, 2007 12:12 PM

funlovertoo - thanks for your comments, I appreciate it. Smoking is an issue for me although I do try to respect other people's personal choices.

You said -"imagine if you were out walking your dogs and met a gorgeous woman several times, someone you and your dogs got along really well with. Imagine you had coffee at a dog-friendly cafe. Then suddenly you discover she's a smoker. What then? Would all prospects die for you?"

I suppose I would have to raise the topic and if she indicated that she was a regular smoker and had no intention of quitting then I would not date her. I have been out with a smoker once and it was a constant source of irritation so why climb into a fire and then complain about the heat?

You also wrote - "I think it would be "pushy and foolish" in your words to ask someone you don't know and have no real world connection with if they'll quit smoking. If you like their profile then why not meet up anyway."

Based on your comments I think I would not want to initiate contact because I would not get on with a smoker so why meet someone whose habits you know will irritate you? That would be basing the potential of a relationship completely on her changing something about herself. I think you have made my mind up for me but other comments would be appreciated.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 4, 2007 12:06 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet", I agree wholeheartedly with "hiddencharms" re he dislike of bad body odours, that "Aliane" posted.

Soap and laundry detergent is cheap, and so is water!

I also like your suggestion to cover the other turnoffs on a blog like Nose Picking and Gambling.

I have a real weak stomach, and get very squeamish at bad smells, and men's crotch scratching, nose picking etc;.Who would want to get intimate with them?????????

I commend you that you keep yourself clean and well groomed and are considerate of others by not smoking dirctly in their faces.

I wish you all the strength possible to finally give up, as it must be really controlling you like a man strangling you, if you can't throw it off, (and yet are doing all the right htings).

It must be a trial for you, going to work in that environment, and seeing how they bring up their children, and the way they have them near the race track etc;

I can't stand people who abuse and neglect their children, it would make my blood boil, I couldn't even stand it for a day.!! It is good that you have a stronger stomach for it, as you may be able to help someone here and there, even though most don't seem to listen.

What a releif for you to come home and have a refreshing shower and wash the stench off you!
(I think that the "Psychological stench" of witnessing the abuse and neglect of the children, is the hardest to wash off!)

But just like nurses and doctor and police friends of mine have said to me...."you get used to it"!

One of my nursing friends said that I would make a great nurse, and I would get used to it all too, (her favourite ward was the cancer ward, as she said that "everyone is so nice in there, as they know that they do not have long to live, as so they can't be bothered being nasty to the nurses.!")....but I don't think I could do it.

Naturopathy has less gross things to look at and do, so I prefer that.

best of luck to you "hiddencharms".

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 4, 2007 10:34 AM

Re woodnwine's comments about obesity: we have become a takeaway society. It is easier and often cheaper to buy a meal than cook it. There is a Mackers at my local shopping centre and the majority of people in the queue are overweight. They sit there stuffing themselves with fatty food then wonder why they are overweight and end up with diabetes, heart disease etc. Most obese people will tell you that they don't eat much. Fiddlesticks!!Schoolchildren go to Mackers for breakfast and a large number of them are obese. It seems that we are raising a generation of fatties!
Should not we as parents accept some of the blame?
Having said that there is no doubt in my mind that advertising has a profound effect on children and what they want but what has happened to old fashioned parental control? Isn't it time parents took control over what they and their children eat?

Posted by: mushie6 at October 4, 2007 6:42 AM

THE GREAT SMOKING DEBATE!...@SMOKERS- Sorry folks, mints or no mints, your breath stinks, it doesnt look cool be it guys or gals, it shows you have an addiction or weakness, you have to skulk off from work to "hava fag" it is costly to your health and hip pocket. But hey, its your life, do what you want, just take it outside and do it on your own time!! keep the filthy things and the smoke away from me and throw your crap in the bin!! As part of a society I'l cop the financial burden you smokers/gamblers/ alcoholics/junkies etc place on our resources but it doesnt mean I have to like it!! @NON-SMOKERS- Breath easy!! (as you pick up the slack!)....IMANENIGMA

Posted by: imanenigma at October 4, 2007 12:18 AM

oh my I feel like I am in the fifties... please excuse me while I check dinner ;-) hehe

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 3, 2007 11:19 PM

[snip]

[Ed: Yes, we were...!]

Posted by: eureka1854 at October 3, 2007 10:48 PM

davelawrence - you are entitled your opinion, what ever it is (I'm not quite sure) but I suggest you grow up a little. Yes smokers are real people too but that is not the issue. Smoking is not a minor detail as you so eloquently put it, it kills people and destroys whole families. Certainly you can choose to ignore it and that is your right but others also have the right to object to it politely.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 3, 2007 10:05 PM

Somelifeinmeyet,

You did make comments about lesbians in "the first phone call" blog on September 25. While you did not make a direct attack on lesbians, there was definitely a subtle undertone that came through. You may not have intended that, but that is how it came across, so no wonder seraphsuzie took offence.

It's always a good idea to check back through your blog entries before hitting the "Post your comment" button, to avoid unintentionally offending someone else.

This isn't meant as an attack, just some common sense advice. Many people on these blogs do read them regularly and are able to remember what was said by who (eg see ornamentalonly October 2, 10.03pm). It is always a good idea to be able to refer back to the blog entry you are commenting on. It adds authenticity (a little something I learnt at Uni, along with proof-reading everything before handing it in).

Posted by: fefa63 at October 3, 2007 9:59 PM

Funlovertoo – That wasn’t me who made that comment but I admit to complaining about blog updates ad nauseum! I sense the rolling of eyes every time RSVP receives a complaining email from me. And on that point, I would like to say a public thank you to Ivan (RSVP) who has been extremely polite and responsive and has never made me feel I was being brushed-off.

TrumansCat – Thank you. Supportive as always!

SeraphSuzie – You have the right attitude. It is certainly not worth wasting your wonderful passion in this instance.

Woodnwine – welcome back.

Hiddencharms – Noiceguy/Comeplaytrains/Excaliburwhet are all the same blogger. Noiceguy also sent me a kiss early on. If contact has been made with someone else on RSVP and they change their name, it is reflected in your contacts list. Go check! When I first received the ‘kiss’, it was from Noiceguy. Then it changed to Comeplaytrains. Now it is Excaliburwhet. Thanks RSVP for this feature. Very helpful!

Somelifeinmeyet – On reflection, and reading subsequent postings by both you and the other party, it was a silly conclusion I came to. I was influenced to think that because of the common thread of bizarre and wild thought-processes demonstrated. Apologies. You are unique. One of a kind. Thank God. I have noticed in your postings a tendency to insult and denigrate others. Just in this blog you have used the words:

Using bully tactics
Liars
Reading impaired
Feeble-brained
Alcohol affected
Stupid
Idiots
Looking angry and psychotic
Demonstrating liberal sexual behavior

I gather you are not on this site to make friends. Congratulations. You are succeeding.

Posted by: ninaschen at October 3, 2007 7:49 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" re :woodnwines" statistics re overweight in Australia....a fix to this is good old fashioned homecooking.(.without all the artificial flavours and colours of store bought pre-packeged foods!!!!!!!)

A perfect example of good home cooking that has great flavours is that great cooking show on tv, (which I love to watch )called "Ready Steady Cook".....In record quick time they produce highly tasty nutririous food, with reliance on the beautiful NATURAL flavours of the foods themselves. (and even quicker than take-away).

As I tell my two daughters, when I was a girl, everyone ate big home-made meals with home-made deserts, and the women all had BEAUTIFUL figures.!!!! (Perhaps a slight baby belly ocassionally, but they were never fat!)

I spent alot of time at the beach as a child, and had never heard or seen a stretch mark until I was long married and heard health professionals discussing them on tv!

Likewise, I had never heard of cellulite, and didn't see it on the beach either.

The beach was a family beach, full of young mum, with big families, (not single girls, just in case you think that it was not a typical beach!)

People didn't agonise about what was on their plate ,the rule was "shut up and eat what you are given, and be grateful!!" LOL!!...(and yet everyone looked beautiful!)

Strangely, now when people are a agonizing and calorie counting I notice puffy ,baggy faces and undereyes all around the place, three chins, big swollen bellies, poor posture, hanging flat pancake breasts, and agressive attitiudes in men and women. (Not to mention even teenage girls now, who haven't even had any children with deep stretch marks and cellulite! I have seen it, and am astounded! What a blow to their self-esteem it must be! Poor things!)

So, had did this change happen in such a short time in history?

No one knows for sure, but I am sure at least that a movement to bought supermarket foods full of artificial flavours, colours and preservatives hasn't helped....!

Bought foods like this, change the taste buds respons to REAL fods, as the fake flavours, eventually change the taste buds response on the tongue, so that the tastebuds only register a mild response to the strength of flavour of real foods(.ie; a casserole without the "packet mix" added doesn't seem to have any flavour anymore. )

Also their is an escalating effect, in that the tongue craves for more and more of the same fatty artificiall flavoured foods, until weight gain begins, and then continues up and up)..(this patricular response, has helped to make some takeaway food giants very , very rich!)

I suggest people go "COLD TURKEY" on this fake flavouring stuff, and rediscover the taste of unadulterated real fruit, veg, meat, chicken, fish etc;

It might take a week or two, but your real tastebubs will come back, and normal old-fashioned food will start to taste great to you again.

Another thing that I will mention (That could have made a positive difference to men and women's health when I was a girl)that I used to eat myself too as a girl....(as i didn't really know what it was and was told to eat it)that used to be "In" when I was a girl, and has gone "out" of fashion, are the some of the low fat nturtious foods (ie: TRipe, liver, kidneys, brains etc;)

These food s that men praticularly used to like (mixed grill/ lamb and kidney pie etc;)have lots of MEAT flavour without all the fat.

It is trendy these days to be vegetarian, or bordering on it..everything is "skinless this, and skinless that"....and people proudly proclaim especially girls that...."I never eat meat"....(But don't mention they eat chicken and fish which are also meat)..to give the impression that they are trendy vegetarians!! LOL!!!

Now I am older, I can't bear to eat these "offal" items, as I am too squeamish, but I know that I am missing out on alot of health benefits that I gained from eating them as a child. (So if you don't mind eating them, i would encourage you to do so).

Good homemade soup stock is alo off the list these days, which is another reason why aches and pains are increasing in the population.. ( arthritis,jointswelling,poor joint mobility,joint pain and inflammation etc:)and people have to resort to taking expensive tablets made from fish gelatinous flexible parts and "Glucoasimine"......(when good old soup stoock did the job instead for thousands of years!!!)

Especially all those supposed athletes in the profiles I read, should think of boiling up some chicken or lamb bones, and drinking cups of stock instead of coffee, to help them recover more quickly from their training sessions.

TIP:>Adding half a cup of viniger and some salt to the water in the stockpot will help draw more minerals out of the bones into the stock fluid.(so it will help you rehydrate after exercise like "Gatorade" does, except cheaper).

Get the stock onto a good boil in a stainless steel pot (not aluminium as it has a bad reaction with many acids in mant foods and your cooking will not taste as good)....and then after having it on a good boil for hours, cover the pot and turn it down to simmer overnight, and let the stock fill up with all that wonderful calcium and minerals.

A good jelly like soup when it has cooled, shows that you have done a realy good job. It will also be good for growing strong thick hair and nails and flexible skin. (Save buying those tablets too at the health food shop!!)

Soup is cheap and good, and you won't ned to buy all those trendy anti_wrinkle creams at the chemist.

Ant-wrinkle comes from within, from what you eat really, not that $80 cream that you slap on the outside of your face!

Just try it!

From .."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 3, 2007 4:31 PM

Great to see you back decoratress!

woodnwine...imagine if you were out walking your dogs and met a gorgeous woman several times, someone you and your dogs got along really well with. Imagine you had coffee at a dog-friendly cafe. Then suddenly you discover she's a smoker. What then? Would all prospects die for you?

I think it would be "pushy and foolish" in your words to ask someone you don't know and have no real world connection with if they'll quit smoking. If you like their profile then why not meet up anyway.

Excaliburwhet..just posted elsewhere that I miss comeplaytrains and the hiss of steam from his DVDs.
I love fantasy joke profiles (as opposed to the inventions in profiles). Almost tempted to revive the adventures of BidetGroansDiary.

Posted by: funlovertoo at October 3, 2007 3:57 PM

While we are all talking about smoking, quitting etc, I sometimes see quite interesting profiles but the women smokes so I move on as I can't stand smoking. Would it be reasonable of me to contact them (assuming they responded positively to a kiss) but immediately ask them if they were prepared to quit? Or would that be pushy and foolish? What do people think?

Posted by: woodnwine at October 3, 2007 2:37 PM

FitForLife

Your State has done the right thing re smoking. Other States should be following in due course.

It is not just the confinement of these anti-social types to defined areas that is the consequence of the legislation.

It is the psychological impact of turning them (rightly) into the pariahs, social outcasts and hounded sewer rats that they are. Watch their brains get even more addled than it is at the moment as the heavies shuttle them around like cows and stupid sheep.

They whimp and they whine (why they're even whining here), but they will be hounded relentlessly for hence on in until their dying day, and that can't come quick enough. No way they can ever hold their heads high again. They are not cause for any misplaced sympathy or emotion, nor should anyone apologise for what is being legislatively done to them. They can't be deported, they can't really be jailed. But they are a scourge and curse on society.

Posted by: excaliburwhet at October 3, 2007 2:18 PM

Funlover

Thank you for your kiss. Hope you like the new look me. Fresh out of brawling with the Goths and Neanderthal primitives, or the great unwashed masses (Amanda's generation- poke ya tongue back in kid), all of whom seemed to descend from Parklife onto the hotel I was working last wkend and tried to torch it. And Indi and Schoolies hasn't even started yet!

AS for HiddenCharms I have not consciously picked her out of the crowd and seething masses at the football but, unfortunately, she has seen me. I am highly visible, but only because of the work I choose to do and enjoy (well it was easier than anything else for casual cash). Yes, some of us enjoy our work, esp when the fun starts. Sadistic tho it may seem. And I don't have a big bum. I am athletic. Punters find out how athletic me and my lot are when the fun starts.

I don't have anything going with HiddenCharms. She can take a leaf out of someone else's book and get all her "learning" off other net sites, which she can repeat here and sound ever so intelligent. I know it is cruel, given that she has family problems et al, but sometimes the temptation to press buttons gets too much and the Devil made me do it. She'll learn. There is someone else on here who knows how to press all my buttons at once, but fortunately she's tired of it. Let's keep it that way.

Posted by: excaliburwhet at October 3, 2007 1:46 PM

Yes decoratress - lack of truth is a big turn off. I know exactly where you are coming from.

And speaking of small dogs, can I tell a quick story that happened in my dog walking area last weekend? Where I walk my dogs there are areas on either side of the creek - one side has a pathway and is used by walkers, joggers and cyclists and the other side is an off-leash dog park. On Saturday a jogger ran through all the dogs on the off-leash side and when a small dog barked at him, he turned around, walked back to the dog and kicked it in the head. Can you imagine the owner's horror? She was apparently in tears. Pity he did this when there were no men around to kick him in the head wasn't it?

Posted by: woodnwine at October 3, 2007 1:08 PM

"Almost 63% of women and more than 72% of men (in Australia) are overweight or obese, putting them at higher risk of conditions like diabetes, heart disease and some cancers. The World Health Organisation estimates that if we continue at current rates, overweight levels will reach 70% for women and almost 80% for men by 2015." The Bulletin Sept25 2007.

Any comments?

Posted by: woodnwine at October 3, 2007 12:59 PM

Biggest turn offs - (already touched on in other blogs) people who want a relationship but won't commit the time and effort necessary to making one work. I guess some people are lucky enough to find perfect relationships that just fall into place but most (long term) relationships require effort and participation. I see many profiles of people that are just SO busy that I pretty much skip over them. I even saw one woman's profile that actually said "I'm not actually sure I have time for a relationship". Wow, why was she on RSVP?

Been there, done that. Now I want a woman who is interested in making a relationship work and is prepared to spend time working on it rather than just her work. Work life is important but so is relationship life. OK, that's one of my biggest turn offs.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 3, 2007 12:29 PM

To everyone that smokes, that is your choice but please be considerate of non-smokers when we are trying to enjoy clean air (I know many of you are).
To everyone that is trying to quite smoking, good choice as few things are more proven to be potentially fatal AND avoidable. We all know it is hard to quit as it is for most people an addiction so good luck and think of how much better kissing will be! Your taste buds are already thanking you.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 3, 2007 12:21 PM

A big turn off is some of the disgusting things men do when they are just meeting a woman for the first time. Guys, come on, wake up and get real. Don't turn women off men altogether by acting like neanderthals and asking for sex on the fist meeting or sending them unwanted intimate photos, do you really think that will impress them? Do you? Really? If you think the answer is yes, then what are you using for a brain? Obviously not the organ in your head.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 3, 2007 9:23 AM

semel, I for one appreciate your balanced views and honesty in your post of [September 29, 2007].

It would be ideal if people's judgment wasn't clouded by an individuals decision to smoke, but since the situation referred to is usually associated with meeting someone for the first time, it is quite understandable. By that I mean ruling someone out before giving them the opportunity to adjust their lifestyle to the extent to which they are willing in a new relationship. Ultimately, it would be even more ideal if no one had ever started smoking in the first place, given our current understanding of the negative effects, but in reality it is up to the individual to be as open/closed minded and/or patient with regards to giving a smoker a go.

As you say, people who are ruling the honest ones amongst us out may be missing out on far more than just smoke. Those smokers who lie about their smoking, however, I have little respect for.

bloggersgetreal's comments may be quite true for many smokers, but a person prepared to quit for a partner for the rest of their lives doesn't deserve to be called a cop out because they wouldn't do it just for themselves. Anyone who hasn't been addicted to nicotine would find it hard to understand the myriad of subtle psychological trappings and powerful physical barriers presented to a quitter. Some people can stop cold turkey, no worries, while others may go through hell.

In the end it doesn't matter why or how, it's the simple fact that a smoker has stopped smoking.

Posted by: kimb4 at October 3, 2007 12:17 AM

After a night of sheer frustration with the human race(read over 40s), I am sitting here, puffing away, with a vino in hand...So much for quitting...!!! At this rate, I will be an "alcho" before I go back to work next week...however, as long as I stay on the net, I keep my drivelling friends and rellies off my phone line....seems as singles, we don't have the same "stresses" they do...

Anyhoooo....Has anyone else noticed the sudden demise of noiceguy and comeplaytrains? I got a big red label from RSVP, not just a "hidden" message.

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 11:48 PM

Apologies if this is a repeated post but blog gremlins have been playing up.

Re somelifeinmeyet and your posting at September 30, 2007 8:59 PM and your comment,

somelifeinmeyet: "It was "Ornamenatl(sic) only" who mentioned it in her criticism of me."

I have not criticised you somelifeinmeyet and have only responded kindly (in your early days of blogging,) to the VK you sent me on 20 September 2007.

Please check your facts before promulgating such personal criticism.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 2, 2007 10:03 PM

funlover @ 1 October: comeplaytrains has not ever seen me. Nor will I ever allow him to. I hope. He sent me a kiss, and after reading his unimpressive, but crazy profile and pic I decined -far too politely.

He made a comment in Over 40s about accosting a woman in the park, because he recognised her pic from RSVP and asked: don't I know you from an internet dating site? . Apparently the woman ran away.

I replied back to him about his lack of subtlety ....on other blog sites he chose to respond to me with comments about bottling farts and flicking boogars...

I actually think that his "wit" is more in tune with another of our sites formiddable "bouncers"... that is of course, my opinion only...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 8:50 PM

Anyone got a light for my Durrie?

Posted by: eureka1854 at October 2, 2007 8:44 PM

So, with the introduction of our State Governments initiative (SA) on the 1st November all enclosed areas in pubs, clubs and at the SKYCITY Casino, will be completely smoke-free.

I wonder if this will equate to more people giving up smoking or the clubs and pubs building more "un-enclosed" areas?

Posted by: fitfourlife at October 2, 2007 8:18 PM

Aliane: I'm with you on the bad body odours...they are enough to turn your stomach...there can be nothing worse than the smell of filth and lousy hygiene....

I have worked in communities where the kids (and their parents) are filthy and their clothes are worse...and that is without the smell...The socially accepted theory is that they can't afford proper hygiene...However, you would usually find that the same ones who claim they can't afford $2 for a box of generic soap powder, or could not be bothered to stand under a shower with a cheap piece of soap, or use adequate monthly hygiene methods, are the same ones who raise their kids outside the TAB, or at the side of a race-track....or outside the pokie hall at the club...Honestly, you come home, smelling of filth after being in contact with it all day, and can't wait to scrub yourself and clothes clean....

Woodnwine: I can honestly agree with you about the harmful effects, and smell, of smoking, both on myself and others. And I am a smoker. Some people, especially from work who have never seen me smoke, just about die when they see me light up at social gatherings...I do try to be as clean and fresh as I can be...I do avoid smoking in/on/around/ other people and their property (did that make sense?)...I don't smoke near babies or children...I don't smoke near my mother or grandmother who are not well...I never smoked in front of or near my asthmatic step child...I go to restricted areas...and I do smoke "lite"...so don't get many complaints about the smell....some of us DO try not to be a public nuisance...

PERHAPS, RSVP EDS, you could start a new blog on body odours and dirty habits (bottling farts and flicking boggars), or more addictive habits such as gambling, that are major "put offs"???

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 8:15 PM

I met up with a guy recently who purported in his profile to be "looking for connectedness without fear or judgement"....
He was a non-smoker, & his religion was given as Buddhist.

hahahahahahaha......

The first thing he did was light up a cigarette & say "I'm just having one, I've given up"....

The second thing he did was to remark that he "didn't much like small dogs" (I had a small puppy with me who was too young to be left at home).

Non-smoker?
Non-judgemental?
Buddhist?

I don't think so.
Too many people lie- it gives me the total shits!

love&truth
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at October 2, 2007 7:30 PM

hiddencharms.. you definitely have my support.. I know where you are coming from.. its going to be hard but I know you can do it. I am sure everyone on here would support you in quitting!! :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 2, 2007 7:14 PM

Hi Chad58 Sept 30,

Just had a look at your profile, and am pleased to see that you are honest about your drinking. I apologise for not looking at it earlier, but given that you live so far away from me it's not surprising that I did not see it sooner.

I'm not knocking people who do choose to drink, just those ones who are dishonest about it in their profiles. I don't consider regular drinkers to be drunks, but I prefer to date non / occasional / social drinkers. That's my choice, and I'd just like that choice to be respected. You might not want to date someone like me, who only has a drink once or twice a year, but that's okay because I respect your choice in the matter.

You were right in presuming that my feelings about drinking were influenced by my past, but you would need to look a lot further back than my ex. As a child growing up around regular alcohol use, I found that sometimes those couple of drinks after work can hurt another person (especially children). I am only speaking from my own experience, and I acknowledge that many other people would have a totally different experience, but this is my reason for making the choice I have.

So Chad58, I'm sorry if I offended you, I didn't mean to, especially as you are one of the few regular drinkers who are honest about it,

Jenny :)

Posted by: fefa63 at October 2, 2007 6:46 PM

woodnwine, I don't think that all smokers are unaware of the lingering and lateral effects of which you speak (Oct 1), but I absolutely agree with you. I haven't met many smokers who think smoking is actually a great idea, but many people just don't have the courage or desire to give it up (this is simply all that is required to do so).
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Psychological conditioning over months or years makes it easier for many people to favour denial over doing the healthy thing, committing to giving it up, and prefer to take their chances at finding the right people for them who are willing to tolerate or join them in the habit. It is these people who will brush their teeth and chew gum as a ritual to satisfy their own conscience.
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Your post contains sound advice, and those smokers who really do believe that simply rinsing the mouth is sufficient to cleanse them of the smell and taste will hopefully benefit from it.
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I have always regarded smoking as a disgusting thing to do to my body, regardless of why I took it up in the first place. Happily, I'm on track to saying I have beat the nicotine addiction and illogical comfort that smoking has provided me in my recent past.

Posted by: kimb4 at October 2, 2007 6:11 PM

Biggest turn off at the moment are self-righteous busybodies who purport to have Christian values, but whose writing makes true Christians cringe and run for cover.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 2, 2007 5:57 PM

From "somelifeinmeyet"..to "Woodnwine"..no I'm not a share trader! LOL!!!!..my blogs don't take too much time (if its scrolling down properly), as I write it just as I would say if someone was sitting opposite me just having a coffee.

Not only that, but some of my comments may be new to you and others, but have been well discussed over and over many times with other people that I keep company with, and have been received well by them,and been "thrashed out well" with them over coffee.

(I am not sittiing down for hours writing them, and all the big words, are how I speak in daily life.)

"woodnwine" You said that some of my blogs are long, and some may not be interseted in them...well that's their loss.========"Those who have ears to hear..can hear"

Some of my blogs are only a couple of lines..it depends on the topic.

I like intelectual stimulation, maybe soiem would prefer to return to the old blogs where they atacked you and others!
When i first joineda couple of weks awy, and read all the nasty comments on blogs, i would then scroll back to read the actual blog..and zsee that NOTHING OF THE SORT" had been said by you or whoever else they picked on.
Then I would go and read any availble relevant profiles, and saw that what they accused people of putting in their profiles didn't exist either!

Then just the other day "seraph suzie" accused me of being a christian (which I haven't mentioned on any blog)and saying things about lesbians that I never even said!

So I see that she was probably one of those people behind those childish school yard bully tactics used on you and others, in the old blogs!

She just lies,and hopes no one will check the previou s blogs!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 2, 2007 2:00 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" to hidden charms..."Go Go GO girl with the giving up the smoking.!! You can do it!"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 2, 2007 1:44 PM

I am almost a non-smoker [trying to quit - it's been a long long weekend, let me tell you!] but would prefer any future boyfriend of mine to be a non smoker. Not just due to the breath factor but due to the health and temptation factor! Smoking is an addiction and it exists beyond all possible reasoning! [Aren't ALL addictions?] Non smokers need to give most smokers a break. Superficially, we smell and we have bad breath and sometimes, our teeth are yellowed as a result but factually? We are ADDICTS! And it can sometimes take years to stop. So, even though I would PREFER a non smoker, if I "spark" with a guy and he smokes, I'm going to enquire more as to the intention of stopping. And let's face it: if someone really rowed my gondola, ain't no bad breath getting in the way of a good old fashioned snog... :)

Posted by: kayperz at October 2, 2007 1:32 PM

somelifeinmeyet.
I think you will find the blogs attract people from all walks of life....formally educated & otherwise.
Personally I don't think an education determines an individual's emotional IQ or commonsense factor.
However, if you find the blogs are beneath your level of intelligence perhaps I could suggest you find another outlet?

And lovely Ninaschen.... I have had the fortunate opportunity to have made a connection to her..... she has a wealth of wisdom & warmth about her.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 2, 2007 1:15 PM

somelifeinmeyet - wow, you post a LOT of comments on here, where do you get the time, are you a share trader? Anyway, good on you for all your concerns but you do remind me a little of a street preacher - many good things to say, in a very long winded way, but most people just aren't interested.

How about you choose some new topics because your same views are all over several blogs? And when will you stop with the circumcision thing? Open your mind a little and learn to be a bit more tolerant of other people's views.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 2, 2007 12:00 PM

I don't wish to keep picking on smokers as it is their choice to smoke or not but smokers, please understand it isn't just a matter of brushing your teeth and everything's OK. If you don't smoke you can still taste it long after brushing and you can still smell it long after their last fag for the day. Please understand it can be highly offensive to a non-smoker plus there are the health issues going all the way to possible death and early loss of your partner. So please don't just sweep it under the carpet and say oh, but I brush my teeth before kissing.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 1, 2007 3:00 PM

To Semel

You comment "I'd quit for a partner". thats just your typical smoker's cop out. You should quit FOREMOST for yourself, not for anybody else. Oh God, here come the pregnant brigade....

Posted by: bloggersgetreal at October 1, 2007 12:59 PM

Well done fefa63!
An excellent forensic blog analysis re the herpes issue. Great logic on your part - if someone claims not to have read something then why praise it without knowing what was said?
Also glad I'm not alone in reading the tea leaves in these blogs and drawing conclusions about new identity/identities who share the same mindset as prior identities.
Re alcohol..very few profiles state "often." Think I've seen maybe four? But I'd suspect it's because occasionally/socially is more acceptable and "often" could be interpreted purely as alcoholic. I'd imagine that the heavy drinkers would not contact you because you've stated your preference.
Ninaschen...I was offline and away for a few days so didn't get to see when blogs were updated.
I don't think somelifeinmeyet and comeplaytrains are the same person somehow, given the dialogue involving hiddencharms and comeplaytrains about him recognising her. But I could be totally wrong.

Re the slow blog updates, I think it was you, ninaschen, who posted a couple of months ago about a blog not being updated for four days when it had been - I could see the update.
Was that you?
I think you also said you could see an update in the side window when you did a search?
Maybe your browser isn't checking automatically for a new page? Just a thought.

Posted by: funlovertoo at October 1, 2007 8:28 AM

One of my biggest turn offs is people who obviously lied in their profiles. I have met up with women who smoke but said they were non-smokers, said they were slim but were overweight, said they were several years younger than they actually were or looked nothing like their photo. Come on people, have the self confidence to say you are what you are and meet people who are looking for that in the opposite sex.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 1, 2007 7:53 AM

The fortuitous way in which you were holding the blogs up was great.

Delay posting them for a week. Force them to date!

I've been trying to get Lady Marmalade to go out with me for ages. She's glued to her computer. Nearest thing I'm ever going to get to Guinevere. At least she stuck "Lady" in front of her name. Now I wonder how my Mastercard is holding up.

Posted by: excaliburwhet at October 1, 2007 6:13 AM

somelifeinmeyet l don't think l said the medical talk was boring, seeing as l hear it every day l hardly think it could be classed as boring and l can see how your interest in health is important to you, what l said was the blog was beginning to sound like a medical journal.

I think we all get your feelings on smoking and its associated effects (real and imagined).

I look after several aged people who have emphysema related to smoking in younger days and it is not pleasant to see them gasping for every breath they take, but l look after them the same as l would anyone.

The choices that they made to smoke were exactly that. THEIR CHOICE.

tis still a free country.......k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 30, 2007 11:26 PM

To all: By now you've become pretty much aware that I am a smoker. Have been since I was 16, despite various attempts to quit, for various reasons.

However, in the space of days, several things have happened, to make me more determined to give the habit away....or at least cut back to the odd, stress-filled puff...

Parents' neighbour, and family friend of 30 years, has just been diagnosed with a tumour in his lungs - small and operable, but there, and scary just the same. Yes. He is a smoker. A chain smoker. They lost their son to an Ecstacy laced drink 3 New Years ago...take note, the place was crawling with bouncers...but no-one was watching what got put into drinks....they were more interested in keeping smokers out of the billiard room...

My father has been diagnosed with Emphysema. A mild smoker, but doctor says more due to the years on the railway, in coal fired steam trains, trapped in collapsed tunnels, later diesel fumes and various chemicals involved in stripping engines etc back in the dark ages...or maybe, the years he spent "double dipping" and working a second job, hauling tar out to the airports in my grandfather's trucks...

And finally...yet another cut in Child Support... while he's out salary sacrificing his Landcruiser and superannuation, to deliberately reduce his taxable income and therefore liable child support, I have to find more ways of "finding money" to keep the roof over my kid's head....the couple of packets of smokes a week, is now a luxury item and has to be struck off the grocery list...

So.....some interesting "sanity" times ahead for me....All I can ask for is some support from fellow bloggers....even those who don't understand the withdrawal process and want to sling shit...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 30, 2007 10:25 PM

Comeplaytrains: Ooooh! I'm so sorry I knocked back your kiss! Looks like I missed out on another "real charmer". Poor me!

You commented on all of the charming things you can do..notice you negelcted the one about squeazing your butt into a winged bistro chair...betcha can't!

As for your specs...you've never seen my face, nor are you ever likely to...and you can be assured, that if I ever encounter you at a public venue, I will steer clear of you...After all, if you are saving your boogars and farts up just for me, then I'm sure it would make for a pretty vulgar display...I'll just make sure I have my specs on so I know the face to ignore...!!!

Oh! Just for the record, those who brag about their bits, or have to constantly ascertain that they are still there, usually don't have much to worry about....

It's a bit like your little train set Vs those big, old, diesel engines - what would you do with a big 40 class under your butt...or even better, a big Super Freighter - 4 or 5 engines and 2.5km of carriage hauling along behind you...110km per hour and millions of dollars worth of freight and/or passengers behind you? You can't pull up at the first paper-mache station and turn off the power point! Toot! Toot! Come play trains! My Dad drove the big, Interstate lines for 30 years! Wanna' compare notes?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 30, 2007 10:00 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" replty to "woodnwine" re my set out of the words...I highlight some words in CAPITALS for the "skimmers" (who if I don't do that, read one line and post a coment before reading the whole thing!) As they are "reading impaired" I feel that if I HIGHLIGHT WORDS to catch their interest, then they may stop long enough to read it properly!

If it is all in small letters (especially if they are reading it affected by alcahol), they will miss important bits.

So you see "Wooodnwine" , I am just trying to simplify it for the "skimmers,"( and I put in an exclamation so that their feeble brains realise that it is the end of that paragraph!) and don't fly by it.

If it is all one mass, exactly the same..they probably won't even read it all, just run off a tirade, (like it seems that they used to do to you, before the site got cleaned up.)

(Though it is seeming that some would like to make me the new "woodnwine"!!)

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 9:54 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" to "Aunty Kaz"..I already said that Australia is a free country..and people can choose..but the old saying "you made your bed..you lie in it" applies.

From the governments point of view..with an aging population..anything that will cause a big finacial burden on the small middle aged group main taxpayers is a concern.! So restirictions on ANYTHING that will save the taxpayers money, is now in various campaigns...(so smokers shouldn't get too worked up about ant-smoking policies..its just about saving mone!)

Diabetes, overweight, cholestoral, the need for exercise...tennage girls binge drinking.....the recent booklet for parents re their kids taking drugs...is all, because if AUSTRALIANS want to continue the standard of living that we have in this country..then we must stop wasting money on preventable diseases!!!...(Its just like a running tap)

Wouldn't you rather they stop smoking (and all the others I listed), and spent the money that was wasted on those things, now spent on other things....roads,schools, childcare centres, defence, health, parks, entertainment, community facilities,hospitals, birthing centres, research into illnesses,water recycling, waste recycling plants, money back for bottles and glass items,respite care for people with disabled children or elderly parents, more nursing homes in areas close to the rest of the family etc??????????????

I ceratinly would like to see the money better spent!
from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 9:40 PM

from "Somelifeinmeyet"..to "Ninaschen".....I am really suprised that you would think that I am the same person as "Play Trains".You didnt look that stuPid to me!

Perhaps the mangement could help me out here, by confirming our different locations and computers! this is getting very offensive!

How could he comment on something that wasn't even on the blogs yet? It must be a coincidence, or some management flaw as usual.

Perhaps they were not posted in the right order? What did he say???

I REFUSE to be targeted because of your emotional baggage from past bloggers.

If you all start going on like this, nice friendly people like me will just LEAVE the blogs! I have better things to do with my time, than talk to people who don't appreciate my time and effort!

And better things to do than send "kisses" to "primrary school minded people"!!

I am looking for intelligent university educated people like myself to correspond with, not idiots!

From an annoyed .."Somelifeinmeyet"

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 9:25 PM

From .."Somelifeinmeyet" I sympathise with "Kati80" who gets genital photos sent to her mobile! PersonaLLY i WOULD BE MORTIFIED IF ANYONE DID THAT TO ME..but just by agreeing you I will probably get the nurses on the blog like "Funlovertoo" picking on me again!...(Just because they have seen so many genitals that they can't remember how many there were..doesn't mean that other women like myself will be shocked!..you are numb to it all..just like bad body odours that "aliane' mentioned too!

I don't want to smell "uncircumcised penis' as washing does nothing for it either!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 9:15 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet".. I agree with "aliane" RE BEING SQUEMISH ABOUT BAD BODY ODOUR! This list should include, bad uncircumsied penis odour as well!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 9:06 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" to "Funlovertoo" and "fefa63"...I can assure you that I am a BRAND NEW MEMBER!!!!... With all my own original opinions!!

I am a free thinker, and think for myself..I am not boxed in to any particular stream of thought from university or otherwise.

As much as I have invited the professionals on these blogs to coment on important issues, I take exception to comments made by "Stormtrooper" and that you "funlovertoo", would repeat them with all seriousness.!!...ie; "I hope that you have taken on board the sensible comment of the health professionals on this blog. If you havebn't, then maybe seek one-on-one help/advice that ".Stormtropper" suggested."

(I think that anyone who would post such an aggressive looking/meanfaced photo as "stormtroopper"(like an angry psychotic john Clees) needs the counselling.!!!!!!!!!( Either he is a woman posing as him under a false profile..or he needs counselling as to why he thinks a photo like that would attract the interest of any woman!)

Nurses etc; are used to gross and disgusting bodily discharges, as so are not "grossed out" like normal people by phlem, pus, vomit, blood, herpes, warts,blood, saliva....etc;

So some of them like "funlovertoo", fails to realise that I VOICE THE CONCERNS OF MANY MEN AND WOMEN WHO CONTEMPLATE INTIMATE CONTACT WITH SOMEONE OTHER THAN THEIR HUSBAND WHO THEY MAY HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO for many years......and may even have been their first boyfriend!!!

(men often chase nurses as they are known to be more lberal in their sexual behaviour, and less grossed out by sexual practices that other women would refuse!..It's true...plenty men have told me!!)
Many years ago, "safe sex' was new........as the things I spoke of in my blog...(like the coming back of circumsicion due to mediacl necessity) are new to you...But in the end ."safe sex" has become part of our culture.=====More and more people have cancer, and are taking longer to die with it, so issues of sexual contact with cancer carriers will be a big medical issue in the near future!!!!!===MARK MY WORDS!!YOU HEARD IT HERE FIRST!!!!!!

In order for doctors/nurses to pass their exams and get their degrees, they have to brain wash themselves in agreeing with everything their teachers tell them..if they write different in their essays and exams they give them a big FAIL!!.......

So you (nurse/doctors etc;) have to think in an acceptable box, and agree with whatever they say! (So I suppose then that I shouldn't be suprised that you think I am crazy!!LOL!!!)

However,I am not in fear of getting sacked or fail in an exam..I may think as I will! .....I may draw on whatever health resources there are...whether standard medical practice, naturopathic, relaxation, prayer,acupuncture...etc;

OPEN YOUR MIND and LIsten to me..and do NOT insult me with stupid coments like agreeing with "stormtrooper".

Look outside your own narrow profession, and be willing to absorb new information, even if it had never ocurred to you before.!!!
Sometimes some professionals can be so pompous in their attitiudes to others, even if they are telling them something they should know, and be thinking about.

To "fefa63"..as I have only joined in ther last few weeks, I am not aware at all of "Cynical and anonymouses" herpes blog. It was "Ornamenatl only" who mentioned it in her criticism of me.

I think that as there has been some really mean players and backstabbers on this site before it was cleaned up by the manangement..that I have now been targeted, because you think I am someone who has been on these blogs before.!!..(I think that I am getting to know how "woodnwine" felt, as apparently he was constantly vilified and left thwe blogs for a while.

This is like when someonone goes on a date, and treats the new person badly, because they remember what their last boyfriend did to them and it scares the new guy away.!

Well if you are trying to scare me away, you are doing a good job!!!

This site needs new bloggers, but I won't be insulted by people who don't listen to me!

My style and my way of thinking is quite unique (I always get positive comments from people about the way I express things...they say it is easy to read, concise, and they "SQUIRM and LAUGH at the same time" because what I say is so true!"=========So the comment that was made by one of you that I have the same style as an ex -blogger OFFENDS me GREATLY!!!....

I say that you cannot be too observant if you would say such a thing!

I hope that you both feel EMBARRASSED now, that you know that I am a totally NEW blogger, who you have offended greatly by your stupidity and baggage!

Perhaps I will direct my wit towards those who deserve it more,and leave you both bored!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 8:59 PM

For a committed pagan, I seem to be saying 'Amen' a lot of late -- Sarge43, Sep 28, Stormtrooper, Sep 26. As a committed pagan, compassion is usually a given in my day to day practice. I am struggling. You wonder why the blogs take so long to update? I wouldn't hurry to put the current monopolizing rot and drivel up. It's a shame -- there are many really interesting and great folk on these blogs and I have been genuinely appreciative of the different view points. Not so grateful now...

Posted by: gratitudegirl at September 30, 2007 8:14 PM

hi feta63 you obviously havent checked my profile i enjoy a few beers after work it doesnt mean im a drunk small minded women like you need to look forward not back at your exs thats baggage

Posted by: chad1958 at September 30, 2007 7:50 PM

somelifeinmeyet...As I said previously your health scare posts reminded me of those from cynical and anonymous on herpes.
I'd wondered if you were a rebadged C&A, not a "redbadged C&A."
I hope you've taken on board the sensible comment of health professionals on this blog.
If you haven't then maybe seek one-on-one help/advice that Stormtropper has suggested.
bloggersgetreal..if you take precautions with demolishing adbestos then you're OK - but some still don't alas. Saw some demolishers breaking up panels recently without masks.
dezzy1976...agree about the paid advertising thing.
The problem with the cheap round patches is that they don't stick on well.
I used a Nicorette 2 for my Sydney-Melbourne-Perth plane flights this week but did end up smoking afterwards, though smoking less. Was socialising with some smokers.
The trip back was stressful because the Melbourne-Sydney flight was cancelled and we ended up on other planes minus baggage. Hung around the airport yesterday for several hours (not fun after the overnight red-eye trip from Perth) but it wasn't on the flight the Qantas baggage people said it would be on.
Gave up and went home minus bag, which is meant to be couriered to the Central Coast today. I'd put frozen Ikea meatballs inside for an easy meal on return - what will they be like, I wonder!
Not an ideal keep to resolve situation.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 30, 2007 8:24 AM

I HAVE BEEN SMOKING FOR 33 YEARS AND I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE UP IN THE FORSEEABLE FUTURE .I HAVE ALSO POSTED THIS INFO ON MY PROFILE SO I ONLY EXPECT TO GET REPLIES FROM MEMBERS WHO EITHER DONT CARE OR SMOKE THEMSELVES .I CHOOSE NOT TO GIVE UP AND THEY CHOOSE WHETHER THEY WANT TO CONTACT ME .

Posted by: sn13 at September 29, 2007 7:01 PM

Woodnwine,

Welcome back buddy. It's good to hear ("read") from you again. I hope you'll stay and keep us all entertained and thinking more deeply about life.

Somelifeinmeyet,

I am left wondering if funlovertoo is correct in surmising that you are a rebadged C&A (In other words CynicalandAnonymous blogging under a new profile). Apart from the obvious similarities in writing style (and length of blog entries), I noted your comment on September 26 -
. Well I read back through the blogs and could not find any entry that directly referred to the herpes blog, apart from those comments made at the time the herpes blog was posted. So if you haven't read that blog, how did you know about it (unless you ARE Cynicalandanonymous)? Also, do you think you should really be advocating that people take serious notice of a blog you claim you haven't read? If you haven't read it, how can you be sure that you actually agree with what was written?

Back on the blog topic - Another pet hate I have, people who claim to be occasional/social drinkers, who are really regular/heavy drinkers. I have noted that no-one will admit on this site to being a regular/heavy drinker (although sometimes their photo or profile narrative gives it away), yet on other adult sites, some of these people state being party animals who love to drink. I don't mind if people are heavy drinkers, so long as they don't lie to me about it. It's all about respect and choice - I respect their choice to drink, and they should respect my choice not to date a heavy drinker.

Jenny

Posted by: fefa63 at September 29, 2007 10:40 AM

dma57: Don't worry about the people that want nothing more than travel and a degree. Some of them are the same people that 'have to find myself' which as I choose to believe is a stupid statement that drives me crazy, if you have been you for god knows how many years and you still don't know who you are, what makes you think that you ever will?

I'm a smoker and as such I have noticed that a huge percentage of the profiles state 'non smoker' and I understand that, I'd quit for a partner and have done so in the past, I'd just like people to be less picky and more open, your perfect partner can quit smoking for you, your non-smoker may never be your perfect partner.

Its a matter of perspective I suspect, if you have lost a family member to smoking, you are not likely to look on it favorably.

Posted by: semel at September 29, 2007 9:31 AM

I'm not a programer or a website creator and know nothing about it. I'm also one of the world's worst spellers. Is there some way that RSVP can put a spell checker on the profile text entry and blog comments?
It's hard to give an opinion on the blogs for people like me because folks tend to think that because I can't spell, I'm an idiot and my opinion is not taken seriously.
Hey people, don't forget the conferences. To all those invited, let's have our input into making RSVP better for all of us! No excuses!
Phill

[Ed: Please have a look at "Does it matter if your date can spell" in Archive. I think we eventually decided no spell checkers...!]

Posted by: phillby1 at September 29, 2007 9:15 AM

Biggest turn off for me ? Without a doubt its the men who feel it necessary/ acceptable to send me an mms photo of their genitalia to my mobile. This is usually before we have met in person, but after email and/or phonecall. Im absolutely incredulous at the number of guys who do this. STOP doing it, its gross.

Posted by: kati80 at September 28, 2007 8:12 PM

Somelifeinmeyet and Comeplaytrains are pulling our collective leg. Surely. It is interesting that Comeplaytrains commented on Somelifeinmeyet's post on another blog that hadn't even been visibly posted, at the time. Sometimes the time-lapse in blog updates can trip you up 'guys'!

Posted by: ninaschen at September 28, 2007 7:10 PM

touchofgold.
that's an interesting point about talking of exlovers and partners as a turnoff.
I have had women sitting with me over dinner or lunch reducing themselves to tears over not only ex loves but also their problems with dating !!!
I just sit there and nod my head and I really should give myself a right upercut to the jaw for allowing myself to be used in that manner.
Oh well, I have always been a sucker for a sad story.

Posted by: thefotografer at September 28, 2007 4:44 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" to "andyswoosh"..I have always marked non-smoker wanted, and also on my searches. If it is not on my profile, then it must be a technical error from management.(And alas there are alwyas plenty of those)!!! LOL!

I shall just pop back now for your benefit, and correct it if it is missing! (thanks for pointing it out to me)

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 28, 2007 4:30 PM

from "Somelifeinmeye. Did you see that funny scene in "Flying High" with Priscilla Presley and some guy were trying to have sex with a huge condom size rubber tent over each of them????? LOL!! Hilarious!

You mention not liking condoms, well I feel that's not enough anyhow for protection. Some oufit like what Priscilla was wearing would probably best provide full protection...but who would want that??? LOL!!

Marriage and monogomy is a close second to that! (and what most people on this site are hoping to find...especially as they are all getting older..they are looking for someone to "see them out to the end".

..(they don't fancy going through that whole divorce thing yet again..as the last time was bad enough...and I agree with them)

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 28, 2007 4:27 PM

So if l kiss a smoker l am going to get mouth cancer?????? Is that the gist, somelifeinmeyet????

Smoking or not smoking is a choice, you know ,freedom, free country etc, etc.You don't have to can others just because its their choice, just as smokers have no right to can non smokers.

So many venues are now competely smoke free - well they are in Victoria dunno about other states - you are certainly able to enjoy a night out without going home smelling of smoke.

Maybe the topic gets a bit heated now and then for good reason but heavens!!!lighten up!!!! no pun intended.

happy day............k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 28, 2007 4:23 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet".. tO "IMANENIGMA" very well written and funny, loved your closing lines about the blindness....(many may have to resort to that if things keep going as they do!!)

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 28, 2007 4:20 PM

from "Somelifeinmeyet"..Soor Stormtrooper..you ARE WRONG.....if you read my profile you will see that I have quite an interst in health issues (even oraganic vegetables, free range eggs and free range pets),so my comments on smoking are just an extension of my interest in medicine/naturopathy. psychology/sociology/etc;

NO I am not NOT mad,.....or need any "Help"....I am just following on a natural line of interest and opinion from my various studies.

I invited others in these fields to make comments about any topics they like in their professional fields (including giving statistics), as I am an avid watcher of documantaries, and the internet and books, and am always upgrading my knowledge in various fields.

Just because something I say is NEW to you, that you have never heard it before, or never even considered it, does not mean that I need "help" (Stormtrooper)LOL!! LOL!!!

"Aunty Kaz" says that she gets plenty of the medical talk at work, so would rather talk about other things.True, true, I can see how that could be boring to you to find it here as well, but I find it all very fascinating, and something that alot of people don't think about until they are actually ill, and then it becomes relevant to them.

Instead of the worship of sports heroes and movie stars, I'd rather see a bit of glory going to those that slog away in the laborotories, or the community , or the environment,or with the disabled, doing something to benifit others., (not just looking good or walking the red carpet).

Its a shame that my interst in medical issues and helping people has wrongly got "stormtrooper" thinking that I need help! LOL!!! (Oh well, everyone makes mistakes...and we don't know each other personally, so its hard I suppose to tell justy from some typed words.)
best wishes to all!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 28, 2007 4:17 PM

From "somelifeinmeyet" I wish to encourage "dma57" that nice guys do NOT always finish last! Don't give up! (I have read alot of profiles on this site, and there seems to be lots of genuine ladies on here, who are not "drama queens", and are NOT looking for all the horrors that the "bad boy types" dish out!

I too have noticed that alot of people list alot of going to the gym, overseas holidays and extreme sports, but I am sure that not everyone is like that!

I could also say that "nice girls like me finish last",( but I won't, because over the years I have met many men who like nice girls..(me), but they weren't the right "click' for me...) but I know one day I will meet the final soul mate for me to see me out until my old age!

So don't give up!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 28, 2007 4:03 PM

HiddenCharms wrote:
"So are those who pick their nose in public, or belch and fart and keep having to assure all their "bits" are still tucked in their pants, or smell worse than my wheelie bin, are constantly on their mobile phones...or hit on you for sex."

Next time I'll flick the boogies in your direction, remind me to save a fart up for you, I have to keep tucking my bits back in because they have a habit of coming out automatically with all the young chics around, I'll carry a 2nd can of deodorant around just for you, and it's not a mobile, it's a 2way.

So it was you after all i hit on for sex. I'll promise to wear my glasses next time

Posted by: comeplaytrains at September 28, 2007 3:45 PM

Somelifeinmeyet - it is obvious that you are misinformed on many things that you have said but on some issues you are also correct. The trouble seems to be in the way you present your comments. You say everything in such an emotional way (seems like you are shouting) that many people are just turned off by your presentation. Can I politely suggest you tone your comments down and then people may listen to you a little more, after all this is just a blog. But in the meantime, check your facts before going to print. Hope this helps.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 28, 2007 3:27 PM

bloggersgetreal.. um actually I have been dating regularly, which really is none of your business but you do seem so interested in my personal life it seems. And no If you had read this blog you would know I have given up smoking as of 5 years ago. Good on you for meeting someone.. [snip].. Have a lovely day :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at September 28, 2007 1:59 PM

somelifeinmeyet must be having everyone on. No one could be that uninformed about the issues she raises.

Posted by: sarge43 at September 28, 2007 8:42 AM

I've only been a member for a short time but so far it has'nt been very encouraging,seems to be that if you hav'nt got a college degree,not in a position to go overseas every year,not tall dark and handsome and many other traits mentioned you're virtually not in the race.is there any genuine people out there that may realize that a lot of the finer things in life the real qualities that we all talk about reach beyond the material world and are also found in the average person as well, sometimes more often and talking from experience i wholeheartedly agree with the old phrase 'nice guys finish last'

Posted by: dma57 at September 27, 2007 11:04 PM

Topical? Not strictly but I couldn't resist...

INFECTIOUS PLEASURE

Smiling is infectious, you can catch it like the flu.

When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner and someone saw me grin; when he smiled, I realised I'd passed it onto him.

So, if you feel a smile begin don't leave it undetected -start an epidemic, quick and get the world infected!

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 27, 2007 2:39 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" Did someone say "puritanical diatribe"? try telling that to the workers who make a whole CAREER out of cleaning up the MESS left by people who think common sense advice is "puritanical diatribe"..!!!LOL!! Like, social workers, doctors, police, nurses, ambulance workers, emergancy services,lawyers, family law court counsellors, women's refuge workers, local court workers, jail wardens, parole officers...(the list goes on and on....)..(or you the best friend who has to be a "shoulder to cry on" and listen to your friends troubles).....TALK IS CHEAP!!! Comments like "puritanical diatribe' are easy for those on the abusing side of the equation!======those who have been on the RECEIVING END never say that..they just say things like ..."good on you "Somelifeinmeyet"...keep saying it more...because I'm not brave enough to say it myself!"
Signed "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 27, 2007 11:16 AM

this blog really gets off topic of biggest turn offs...

for me my biggest turn off would be hearing about ex-partners...Because really I don't want to know how many partners you've sleep with, it's only the future that counts...

Posted by: touchofgold at September 27, 2007 11:00 AM

Perhaps some of us smokers lead creative lives and need timeout for meditation. I'm not saying we're more sophisticated, but the partners we look for certainly have to be. I'm not going out with anyone based on my breath which can easily by freshened with a meal or a mint, but on whether they like the poetry of Byron, for example, or the music of Chopin, Debussy or Bill Evans. Surely that would be more conducive to a long term rshp than a wet smooch

Posted by: johnpolidori at September 27, 2007 10:56 AM

somelifeinmeyet - did you know that 80% of statistics are actually incorrect....

all statisctics are written in a way to prove a point. And generally that point is that of the person conducting the survey or running the tests long before they started.

The best statistics are usually found when they prove themselves wrong.

So to state a statistic you should reference it correctly otherwise its absolutely useless.

Back to what this topic should be about. I prefer Nicorette orthe Pharmacists brand. Sorry GSK but you're paid advertising in blogs is a disgrace.

Posted by: dezzy1976 at September 27, 2007 12:19 AM

From "somelifeinmeyet"..I wish to ask..what is a "Redbadged C&A"????I've never heard of it.

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 26, 2007 7:22 PM

mind if i smoke while youre reading this?

i dont think smokers breath is bad with regular brushing... no ones complained to me... ever.
If a ladies attitude and personality is my kind, i'll kiss them with all my passion.
make love and a smoke after it.

Posted by: oldschool69 at September 26, 2007 3:38 PM

Funlovertoo,

Please display some compassion towards somelifeinmeyet as its clear to see that she is suffering from some form of emotional and psychological decay and most probililty can not afford the proper medical treatment and counselling that she so urgenly requires.

By her postings you can see that she is delusional and misinformed about the facts in these matters.

Let us all hope that she does recieve the assistance she so dearly needs and afford her the support (as you just did) that she deserves.

I am sure many of you in here echo my sediments

Rwegards to all

Posted by: stormtrooper at September 26, 2007 11:16 AM

To funlover
you can mess all you want with asbestos, just completely cover your nose and mouth so that no particles of dust can enter your airways. Renovate away.

to Seraphsuzie - well i havent been on the top 100, but I have met someone. Unlike yourself, who has been on the Top100, and still cant get lucky. whats your excuse? Smoker perhaps? Keep it to yourself , Im really not interested.

Posted by: bloggersgetreal at September 26, 2007 9:57 AM

Comeplaytrains: You do realise, don't you, that there are some smokers who do try to be considerate of others, do not intrude their smoking habits on others, and do play by public rules....

Ifya wanna ring der nek fa smokin', den ya culd be nyc 'bout it and isk 'em to go ta pufffin' zone...(very tongue in cheek and probably nasty come back here, sorry bloggers).

At a concert, I would be more concerned about the effects of alcohol, and inappropriate behaviour, in a venue full of people both under and over age, than smoking in the "outers"...

Are you, per chance, related to some other "bouncer" on this site?

Sorry, comeplaytrains, I'm on holidays...I have a date with a very old Russel Crowe movie which has exposed body bits...while I play with my Leggo set and finish of the last glass of a bottle of vino (from last night)...with a smoke in my hand....ifya wann ring da nek for dat, den go rit ahid...

Childish, I know. Gee whiz! So are those who pick their nose in public, or belch and fart and keep having to assure all their "bits" are still tucked in their pants, or smell worse than my wheelie bin, are constantly on their mobile phones...or hit on you for sex...or have such huge butts that they can't sit in a winged bistro chair....

This site is about dating turnoffs.....smoking is only one of them....

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 26, 2007 12:37 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..I am on the topic as it is about "Turnoffs", and smoking was the main one people talked about.

"Funlovertoo" said "Is the smoking blog an appropriate place for "somelifeinmeyet" outpouring about the possibility of developing cancer from intimate contact?"...I say "Yes, as I initially was talking about smoking being a turnoff to me, and its smokers related cancers."

Then after "philby1"s flippant comments, I felt it necessary to give the full blog of the things that turned me off had worried me about smokers cancers.

I found it sickened me to my stomach to write it, as these things turn me off!

However, if it saves one person, and makes one smoker stop and think, then it is worth it!

Because of medical experts being sued, they do not normally will not get on tv, or write books and issue health warning without doing "double blind experiments".(on humans)(WHIch cannot happen with alot of medical conditions, as the risks are too high, and no one wants to volanteer!)

Sometimes if they can get a close result by using rats etc; they can sometimes get enough data to justify publishing a paper in a medical journal..(but they need big funding just to get the research done).

Remeber the fiasco, when people were told to eat carbs, as they wouldn't get fat, and fats became "the enemy"????????

The the experts had to do a 360degrees turnaround and say.."ooops! Fats arent the bad guys we thought they were...SORRY!!!!,"( and now we have packed foods with carb counting on the packets???????)

So, medical advice lags behind what's happening, as it is hard to experiment "double blind " on humans (which is the standard in order to prove that something is, or isn't good for us! They just have to wait till enough people get diabetes (for instance) before they go...."oops...wrong advice..stop shovelling down those carbs!!"

(Or enough people drop dead for overdoing it on the lavish cholestoral foods (that in your old country only the rich could afford, and now that you were in Australia you thought you should be entitled to) .........until someone goes..."oops..lets go back to eating the more peasant foods that you ate in the old country with plenty of fibre before you migrated to Australia, for the "good life" which instead killed you at forty years of age!)

So the only way to prove that I am wrong about sexual activity with smokers or people with active cancer in their bodies. being very unwise......is to do a "double blind' experiment. (And who in their right mind would put themselves in harm's way, and play "russian roullette" with cancer..just to try and prove I am wrong?????)

I read that "Cynical and anonymous" had a herpes blog that someone didn't like. I haven't read it...but it is something that daters should keep in mind.

"Aliane" said that my comments were good, and that an uncircumsied man, is like a banana with the skin still on". (I got a good laugh out of that one!! LOL!!)

"Ladycap" said to me that criticising uncircumsied men is a bit rude> Well, perhaps I should berate their parents instead????

However, as adults, men can choose to have the operation, and I know men who have. (my ex-husband being one of them)!!

"Ladycap" continues on "Maybe its safer to advocate safe sex"....well in my blog mentioned married& faithful , &monogomous women who died horrendous cancerous deaths.......People do not use condoms with husbands, (unless wanting to avoid pregnancy)...a marriage is a place where a woman should feel safe, not to need "safe sex"........so those women are most at risk if their husband is uncircumsied..(and if their husband is cheating on them.)

If you can't trust your own husband...in this world who can you trust??????

There have been cases of women in their 50's contracting Aids ,( as being past childbearing age, they did not think that they needed to use a condom with a divorced man in their age group.)

Unfortunately, they were looking for love, but the men had been previously looking at prostitutes instead.!!!!(One woman had known this white-haired man for many years as a family friend, and trusted him!).

Safe sex is not good enough, circumsicion and monogomy are what is required.

It is good to see those with a medical background on R.S>V>P. joining in the debate, and on other topics, if we have any social workers, psychiatrists,police, or anyone else with access to good information and statistics, I would really like to hear their input on any topic they would like to talk about.

P.S. Cigarette smoke contains oodles of carcinogenic materials, and it obviously follows that it is STILL all in their mouths if you kiss them, and you breathe it in if you sit next to them.

So if you are a non-smoker..you would be just licking up all those disgusting carcinogens in their saliva.. and skin......is this what you really want to do?

If you are a non smoker..do you want a whole lot of carcinogens getting into your private parts from their dirty smoker's mouths?????

(I apologise for being so graphic..but I feel that my point is NOT getting accross.)...as distasteful as this image is, its the only way to get through to people to think about what they are REALLY doing!!(instead of arguing about whether cancer is catching.)

Please just use common sense!

Whether it is catching or not..the result is the same..cancer in the private parts and the mouth...which wouldn't have happened if the partner wasn't a smoker!!!

Do I really need to prove it to you, to get your attention, and to not let a smoker near you?????

Australia is a free country...choose as you will.....but remember the old saying..."you made your bed..now lie in it"!!!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 26, 2007 12:05 AM

HELLO ALL! ...hold the phone! just when I thought the singles scene was a tough gig and trying to find my princess an impossible task....now this!!! warts,herpes and cancer from kissing peoples ( lips! ) Im well aware or so I thought of practising safe sex but this is all too much to swallow(sorry)!!! THANKFULLY my present situation means as a virile single guy with a shortage of takers I will practice the ancient art of "ultimate safe sex" completely immune to the previously mentioned horrors!!.............whats this.....blurred vision......failing eyesight.......oh my god im blind!!!!....IMANENIGMA :)

Posted by: imanenigma at September 25, 2007 10:29 PM

somelifeinmeyet - find all your comments totally hypocritical - why on your profile haven't you marked as your ideal partners smoking habits as DO NOT WANT rather than just a blank?? Your fanatical, medically mis-informed, bible bashing bull is the last thing we need on this site. I'm a social smoker who would be more than happy to give up for someone just right for me, and yes I wish i'd never started. But I did. So it's difficult to stop without the right motivation. I give plaudits to a number of other anti smoker posters as they have reasoned and justifiable reasons for their dislike. Yours have just been a ridiculous diatribe, backed up by incorrect facts and added to by prejudice. Walk the walk if you're gonna talk the talk and don't let any smokers fall into your trap by not stating on your profile that smokers are not welcomed here!

Posted by: andyswoosh at September 25, 2007 9:50 PM

Personally, as much as people believe otherwise.
If i see a man walking down the street just casually, and then pulls out a cigarette and lights'er'up, i find it the BIGGEST turn on.
Sooooo many people disagree with me.
But i just love it, no idea why.
I guess it shows a form of maturity and immaturity at the same time.
And to me it communicates that the person is a little open minded, theyre not straight up and down.

Long live male smokers i say.
Ironically it seems they wont be long lived after all.

xo.

Posted by: oxjessmichelle at September 25, 2007 6:24 PM

comeplaytrains..congrats on being a non-smoker but I don't believe your profile at all. I think you're having a joke, and it's a good one.

Thanks for the kiss when you were noiceguy1 - didn't realise you were a blogger when I sent my negative reply.
I love it that you have a collection of approximately 200 steam train DVDs and that you enjoy listening to the hiss of steam on them!
Beats smoking any day.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 25, 2007 6:02 PM

And am also a "medical punter" but get enough of that at work...sheesh this subject is starting to read like a medical journal...pretty soon we will have a mims online.....
happy happy day........k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 25, 2007 5:39 PM

T,he fotografer thanks to you and all others regarding my resisting the temptation light up on Saturday night. The issue about the booze is another thing entirely...

It was my daughters 21st, the champers was quite pleasant, interspersed with lots of water, however there is absoloutely NO chance of me becoming an alcoholic seeing as my kids dad is one and was passed out on the couch by 10 pm.....Then got up 2 hours later and drove back to his place.... Now that is a piece of work right there!!!!

Having lived with an alcoholic for far too long and finally getting out of that situation - the occasional celebratory drink will do me just fine, especially on such a special night surrounded by lots of her friends.

However the hunky male gay nurse can look after me in other ways....

Happy day..........k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 25, 2007 5:36 PM

I think the point is really being stretched here in regards to catching diseases.
I think we get a bit phobic about these things.
We are all going to die, it does not matter what you do, and you will die regardless.
It is just a matter of when.
Why are we also sensitive about sexually transmitted diseases?
Consider what we actually do when having sex.It is really a wonder that there are not more problems than we encounter.
Let?s get it into perspective though.Most that you can catch through sexual relationships are non life threatening and more than an annoyance if anything.
Even problems that originate inside a woman are more likely to be passed to a companion than any other sexually transmitted disease, yet I don?t see too many men complaining about it, they just accept it as a part of life.
Think about this, the common cold and flu causes more symptoms and problems than any sexual transmitted disease and that includes aids.
Yet your chance of catching the flu is, in any one year about 20%.
That means that on average in five years you are likely to catch some strain.
It is life threatening and in this State(NSW) alone, there has been over 200 flu related deaths this year.
OK, next phobia, Genital Herpes.
Cold sores are the common variety affecting the lips but in over 70% of cases there are no symptoms EVER!!!
Over 80% of the population has the cold sore virus that is Herpes Simplex ONE.
Now the hard part is testing .WOW !!!!! If we were all blood tested over 80% would have herpes in some form.
Just a normal test for sexual diseases will not show it.
It is a specific test, and unless you actually have lesions at the time it will show negative.

Okay, I know some are never going to have sex again, but that?s life and if you have managed to live to my age I don?t think a condom is the answer, most men don?t like them and what is the point?
You may as well go and have sex with yourself in a plastic bag!!

Posted by: thefotografer at September 25, 2007 4:22 PM

Just stopped in for a quick look after being hounded off the blogs for a while and saw this new topic. I used to often wonder about sending a kiss to someone who said "trying to quit" because that can mean so many things, just like "average" build is open to a very wide interperatation. I for one can not stand the smell of cigarettes nor the taste of kissing someone who smokes - tried it once and never again.

I don't think there is any point in trying to cover it up, if I was to get together with a smoker she would have to be very serious about quitting. Pitty because there are some very attractive smokers on this site.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 25, 2007 3:54 PM

Yeah to kiss a smoker could be shocking and would require commitment to stay with one.

Posted by: kavikahirsvp at September 25, 2007 2:47 PM

hahah comeplaytrains...i think i know who you are.. and yeah maybe purple is the go.. and it is spiky at the back!! ;-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at September 25, 2007 2:05 PM

Is a smoking blog an appropriate place for somelifeinmeyet's outpourings about the possibility of developing cancer via intimate contact?
I don't think so.
Maybe RSVP should have a SEX&INTIMACY=DISEASE blog topic where those who wish to vent can do so ad nauseum - and there is a nausea factor!

somelifeinmeyet - your post actually reminds me of the herpes posts from cynical and anonymous a while ago on another blog.
Hoping you are not a rebadged C&A!

On topic - I'll buy some patches this afternoon for the plane tomorrow and hopefully I won't light up when I finally get off.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 25, 2007 12:15 PM

hmmm.... Interesting blog comments here... I am a smoker, i am not particularly proud of my habit.... I do want to quit and remember when i quit for a while, the smell of a smoker who walked in a room was not the nicest one... It is a habit that can be broken and i know i will be a non-smoker one day.... I do feel that dating a non-smoker may be a reason and inspiration to quit.... I think that Somelifeinmeyet may be a bit sensationalised and going a bit far (i bet ya got a few looking at your profile from that message.... i know i looked)....
I think cancer (and there is research on this) is more caused by a stressfull lifestyle... but i think Somelifeinmeyet is def going too far and 60 minutes is often very sensationalised news.... are u going to ask for a std check before u kiss someone??? hmmm i think that would be a turn off!!

But back to the smoking....
smokers can quit!! and i probably will exp... if i find someone..... and yes.... i think it is harder to find someone being a smoker.

Posted by: girl98765 at September 25, 2007 12:09 PM

Hello...!#?????...

If someone really thought they could catch cancer from kissing and from having sexual contact, why would they be on a dating site? Seriously . . .

Also, why don't we bloggers demand that we make up our own topics for blogging? I resent the fact that everything we do on this site is related to the profit margin of RSVP. I don't want to suddenly belong to the Nicabate, nicoffette, nicyourfags, nicaragua or any other 'COMMUNITY' just because I have read the blogs. We are all being sucked in big time people. Please be a little more assertive and think about what you really want out of life. You will have better "dates" this way too.

diamondblue2

Posted by: diamondblue2 at September 25, 2007 12:07 PM

I thought this blog was about smoking/ smokers and its effect on relationships/ dating.

Now its turning into It's a knockout on your latest dating gripes!

However, seeing I'm a"Medical Punter".....Australia has one of the lowest incidences of Cervical cancer in the world-mainly because pap smears are so widespread and the HPV which is more common than you think is detected; More than 50% of the population carry one type of the virus (There are about 100 types-some dangerous and some not) at any one time.

I wouldn't go labelling people with HPV a dealers in death though!

Precancerous changes because of HPV are detected and managed with regular testing

Prostate Cancer is a terrible disease if undetected early-however IT IS NOT CONTAGIOUS, nor is any cancer.

Although a virus or substance may cause a cancer-which is an abnormal change in YOUR OWN cells they aren't contagious-if they were in someone else's body their immune system would regard them as foreign and eliminate them.

Please be careful frightening people with untruths. The spread of HPV is not a case of unselfishness given that many have it and are completely unawares they have it, and especially given how many types of the virus actually exist.

I'm not hear to criticise others, but I won't have fear created by untruths...

Posted by: thecannulator at September 25, 2007 11:32 AM

I think we could be confusing sexually transmitted diseases with cancer. Tumors and Cancer are the result of uncontrolled cell division. It is of my understanding these abnormal cells then pretty much take on a life of their own. Through uncontrolled cell division these cells and masses then spread to tissues and organelles depriving them of the nutrients they need to sustain life. Where as in the case of warts or some genital disease, the tumour/s is benign, it remains localised and there is no uncontrolled cell division (just some yukky STD we dont want), therefore this is NOT cancer.

To my knowledge you cannot "catch" uncontrolled cell division.

As a daughter I will not hesitate to give my mum a kiss hello on the weekend, as i have no fear of catching cancer. As a single woman I would practice safe sex to avoid an STD.

As I have repeatedly stated this in what my understanding of cancer is, and is not a medical opinion.

I strongly suggest anyone with a loved one suffering from cancer to speak to a doctor and not take anything (including mine) that has been written in an RSVP blog as gospel. As I Think "YES, MY OPINION" the thought of contagious cancer is both backward and dangerous preaching.

Posted by: frillyfloralfrock71 at September 25, 2007 11:15 AM

To "Somelifeinmeyet" Im unsure about the validity of your comments re catching cancer so I wont comment on those ...but seriously having a go at men for being uncircumcised is a bit rude ... usually these decisions are made at birth or soon after by their parents ... based on a whole lot of reasons.

Maybe its just safer to advocate "Safe Sex" and not criticise people for situations beyond their control.

Posted by: ladycap at September 25, 2007 11:13 AM

Smokers are users, loosers, and abusers. What they do in private is one thing. Their anti-social behaviour in public is another. Amongst a wealth of touring bands coming up, one of my favourite hard rockers are due in Feb. But instead of me being inside lisenting to der music and generally pulling surfers off der waves, I will spend all night telling wankers to put out their filthy cigarettes in a licensed area. I would actuallly like to screw their necks, but der bosses say I can't. Soon as I force them to stomp on their garbage, and go to attend to another loser, they light up again. Gawd I'd like to throw them. Anti social morons. And crazy chic, you need more poiple in ya hair and some spikes

Posted by: comeplaytrains at September 25, 2007 9:49 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"...Cancer is catching.....to "Philby1"..Cervical cancer from uncircumsiced men...Vaginal/cervical /mouth cancer from men with prostrate cancer..mouth cancer from oral sex with uncircumsiced man and or with prostate cancer also...and of course for homosexuals bowel cancer from anal sex with an uncircumsised man with penile warts/prostrate cancer.....etc'....the list GOES ON AND ON>!!!!!

Obviously "Philby1" you are ignorant of all these matters, and so must be taking sexual risks that put any of your sexual partners and yourself at risk.(Otherwise you wouldn't have criticised my comments!)

ALSO< I forgot to mention the reverse, is unproteceted sex/ or oral sex with a woman who DOESN'T know that she has cervical cancer or cervical warts!!( YUCK!! Just stop and think of all these things for a minute, before you tell me that I don't know what I am talking about.!!

There are a few medical punters here on R.S.V.P., (as I have read their profiles) so i am sure that they will back me up!!!

Men who are circumcised are 60% less likely to contract a sexually transmitted disease, herpes, warts or AIDS!!!!!!.. (It is so well known now, that it was even on "60 MInutes" recently..you must have missed that episode!).

.Men who are NOT circumsided, also are prone to give THEMSELVES CANCER OF THE PENIS...and the the whole thing has to be cut off! Think of that for a minute.====

The same papiloma virus that they can infect a woman with that hides in the corners of the foreskin, (which they don't care about giving to an unsuspecting woman)...comes back to "bite them in the bum" so to speak...and gives them cancer instead! LOL!!!

Serves them right for being so inconsiderate and selfish as to not be circumcised!!

And I can hear the rumblings of "barbaric"about circumcision....but believe me, its ON ITS WAY BACK IN!!!!!....Not having it ..(Circumcision) has cost the Australian taxpayer millions in medical bills from the outfall.!!! (as it has in many other countries.).

What I think of as BARBARIC is a woman I know who had cancer of the mouth (inside and part of her tongue so she could no longer speak) and suffered years and years of having cancer cut out of the inside of her mouth, until in the end she died!

BARBARIC is a woman suffering from a slow long painful death from cancer of the vagina and cervix, so that urinating was excruciating! (I know two women personally who died this way.) (And they had long time marriages, they weren't sleeping around on the singles scene! They didn't deserve these horrible deaths.!!)

I had to watch them get sicker and sicker for years until their deaths, as they were close to me......I know what I am talking about.

Any intimate contact..(YES kissing is an intimate contact, is a risk.)

Especially as in 2007, one never knows what dirty places someone's mouth has been.!!
(one can't even trust that a man hasn't had oral/anal sex or kissing with another male!)

(Just writing that makes me feel sick..I feel that I need some mouthwash! Poor women!)

I know that it is not popular to talk about all these medical things on a singles site, when people are hoping to find a loving faithful person who won't treat them like their ex did (usually cheating)....

I tried to avoid giving the gross details..but after what flippant comments "Philby1" made, I thought that i better type out the FULL BLOG of what I had originally wanted to say, but I hoped that people would understand without my really having to say it all out.

This stuff turns me off too, and is not something that I want to think about...but "forewarned is forarmed".

Of course it DOESN"T fit into the romantic picture, but it is reality. SO punters..choose you dates carefully, as many who block this stuff out of their minds, have found themselves in the sexually transmitted clinic, and the cancer ward!

Don't get swept away with emotion... Check in his mouth with a torch first for mouth ulcers!! LOL!!! LOL!!!!

(It may not be even that HE is immoral..but maybe HIS wife cheated on him and transmitted something to him.... its not his fault...BUT after SHE LEFT he had a duty to go to the doctor and be checked out.!!..(Not to put blinders on...it's not fair to you, is it???)

FRom "SOmelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 25, 2007 1:40 AM

My friend who died was not a smoker.
He was killed by mesothelioma - the asbestos cancer - a tragic legacy of spending time as a teenager in Wittenoom, where his father worked at the blue asbestos mine.

He went to boarding school in Perth but had summer jobs in the asbestos mill and the mine office.

Forty-five years later, fit, healthy, playing tennis nearly every weekend, and going on walking holidays with his wife, he had a cold last July he couldn't shake.

Then came the diagnosis, months of harrowing treatment that did little, and finally death.

Young bloggers, don't mess around with asbestos when doing renovations because you can die before you can contemplate retirement.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 25, 2007 1:06 AM

Good on you auntykaz - an inspiration to us all.
You're a star!
Passed the alcohol/party test with amazing ease.
Can we do it?

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 25, 2007 12:46 AM

I have to say I agree with Phill on this. Why not support the people who are really trying to give up smoking instead of just calling them names and getting nasty.
Some of us smokers do actually have half a brain and also try not to impact non smokers with our addiction. I don't smoke in my car, I don't smoke in my house, I don't smoke around my kids and I am trying to give up. The problem I have is it is an ADDICTION. It is hard and even harder when you are pretty much described as the lowest of the low because of some stupid mistake you made as a teenager when smoking was seen as cool.
Yes I don’t have enough will power to quit but I have also been previously told by a doctor not to quit but to cut down at the time I wanted to because my body was under too much stress to handle the impact of quitting.
Give smokers a fair deal. some of us just need some help and support to quit when we are ready to without being labelled losers.

FYI - some of the biggest turn offs for me are people who can't spell, people who can't put a sentence together and people who push their own beliefs on to others.

-- Freckles

Posted by: freckleseverywhere at September 24, 2007 11:32 PM

Hello somelifeinmeyet. Thank you for your recent kisses. Have taken them to be sent as a gesture of friendship and have responded to you with that in mind ok. Once again, thanks and good luck in your search.

Posted by: amdoingit at September 24, 2007 10:46 PM

I'd really like to know why it so hard for some ladies to reply to a guy's kiss. I am genuine when I send them but get a 50% success rate in replying. What has happened to common decency these days?? Also, it would be good to receive a reason why a kiss is rejected, not the easy way out. If I get a kiss from someone I don't want to reply to, at least let them know why in all honesty, it makes someone feel better to know why. Dating and trying to get to know someone new is hard enough without being treated like a nobody. Guys have feelings too, not sure if women understand that these days. Don't be as pathetic as a lot of males are, it may just not work in your favour.

Posted by: allanmac at September 24, 2007 10:09 PM

@bloggersgetreal.

Yes there are so called "losers" out there if that's what you want to call them that. I smoked and am in no way a loser nor was I. I wasn't lazy, nor stupid.

My behaviour was questionable by taking it up at naive point in my life-to the point it became a habit. Then again i don't have to justify my behaviour and choices to you or anyone.
Considering that you are hanging around dating sites are you a loser then too?? Are you absent from loser behaviour?

It's very easy to hide behind a keyboard and a hidden profile and sling mud, a smarter person shows tolerance and understanding of why addictive behaviour develop-being a loser isn't that high on the list.

Posted by: thecannulator at September 24, 2007 10:07 PM

Phillby1 wrote:

> They used to throw a woman suspected of being a witch into water. If she could swim and float she was released. If she wasn't a swimmer and ran into trouble, they pulled her out and burned her at the stake.

Actually, the way it worked was a lot more sinister. They'd tie her up so she couldn't swim, then throw her in the river. If she sank (and thus drowned), she was considered not guilty. Exonerated from being a witch, but also dead. If she floated, and thus survived, she was considered guilty and burned at the stake. It's not a coincidence that she'd be dead either way. Think of it as a conviction kit...

Posted by: brushkestrel at September 24, 2007 10:00 PM

@bloggersgetreal, anyone who has the time 2 spew out that diatribe has issues. some people use this service as we are either professionals, single parents or otherwise to busy. those people have a right to smoke, its still legal last time i looked. i think everyone who reads your blogs knows your the socially inept loser hey, bet u still live with mummy or live alone!!!

Posted by: ahappyhubby at September 24, 2007 9:55 PM

Well done Kaz.....great to hear you didnthave the urge to light up!!

Posted by: frillyfloralfrock71 at September 24, 2007 8:13 PM

Hello Ms Auntykaz.........
Oh ......the biggest hurdle!!................sorry i thought you were talking about something else :0
Anyway,as long as the champagne was a good one and I could not think of anything better on a hot night (well it is up here anyway)

Look at it this way,you might not die of lung cancer but you could become an alcoholic end up on a dyalisis machine requiring homecare by a strong,virile and handsome male nurse....who could just turn out to be...............gay !!!! :)

Posted by: thefotografer at September 24, 2007 6:41 PM

hmm noiceguy1.. or maybe you go under another name.. we both know what that is.. I reckon you like trains. Well anyway you sent me a kiss and I replied I was looking forward to your email and some how I haven't yet received one.. No wonder you don't have a girlfriend.. ;-) By the way.. I think your quite funny! hehe

Posted by: seraphsuzie at September 24, 2007 6:07 PM

Congrats Auntykaz! Sounds like a great night! Even better if you beat the need to smoke, whilst "indulging" in the bubbly! I'm at my worst when drinking...maybe if I quit the coffee and the vino I could stand a better chance of quitting the fags, too?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 24, 2007 4:59 PM

Hi Phillby,

Please don't take this blog as me attacking you personally, I only wanted to point out that you got your witch story muddled. If the woman floated, it meant that she was using "black magic" and would be burned at the stake. If she sank and drowned, she was presumed to have been innocent. The women were actually tied up when they were thrown into the water, hence most of them drowned. I only point this out because I'm passionate about my history. No offense towards you meant.

However, I agree with you 100% about using these blogs as a positive forum to help each other, encourage each other, and even educate each other about aspects we may not be aware about within our society.

Happy Hunting everyone!!

Posted by: wraecca at September 24, 2007 4:24 PM

bloggersgetreal... why is it so hard for you to treat people with respect, humanity and compassion? I don't know if you are female or male, that really doesn't matter..however it makes me wonder how on earth you could meet anyone with that kind of nasty attitude??

Posted by: seraphsuzie at September 24, 2007 2:18 PM

This is an issue that annoys the you know what's out of me! I don't mind if people don't like people smoking around them or if they don't want to kiss someone who has just had a cigarette, but what really irks me is the fact that people will go out with you - fully knowing that you're a smoker (cause it's on our profiles people!) and then they try and tell you 'you shouldn't smoke it's bad for you' and go on to make you feel guilty for smoking! If you don't like it, then don't date us! Smoking is an addiction and some non-smokers tend to think it's very easy to stop, which it's not, and more to the point, we can't quit because you want us to, we quit because we want to!! Accept it or say no!

Posted by: jessalicious at September 24, 2007 10:10 AM

well the big hurdle has been overcome successfully!!!
Had far too much champagne Saturday night
stayed up til 5am (good grief what was l thinking?)and not one urge to light up......probably overcompensated with the bubbles.

happy day to all......k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 23, 2007 6:48 PM

Somelifeinmeyet. Contagous cancer? Are you kidding? You can not get cancer from kissing somebody!
I would sugest that you do a bit of research on the subject before you make comments of this nature. It's like saying that one can get AIDS from a toilet seat after a gay person has used it. Utter rubbish.
I as a smoker understand that you don't like smokers or kissing them, but if you kissed me I can assure you that cancer for you would not result! Talk about old witch hunts. They used to throw a woman suspected of being a witch into water. If she could swim and float she was released. If she wasn't a swimmer and ran into trouble, they pulled her out and burned her at the stake.
Let's use the blogs for positive statements of encouragement to each other. Not sit in judgement to declare a smoker a non person because you don't like the idea!
Phill

Posted by: phillby1 at September 23, 2007 4:23 PM

My GP recommended against Zyban when I asked him about it because a patient had a really bad reaction.
I wasn't game to try it.
Less so after reading hiddencharms story!
Agree with hiddencharms that smokers can be clean and fresh. I don't smoke in the house, wash my hair daily, have clean clothes and various people have been surprised that I smoke. I guess it's a covert activity except with other smokers. Nor was I ever a hang around outside the office smoker.

Have to go to Perth on Wednesday for a funeral so might try patches - on the other hand it will be a stressful occasion and the flights are both via Melbourne so a long trip.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 22, 2007 8:37 PM

@ thecannulator
Your question "why resort to naming someone a Loser because they smoke?". A: Because smokers are losers...losers of their own health through sheer stupidity, laziness, and lack of will power. L O S E R. I mean, losers do exist you know. Your other question "What if we said that lonely and socially inept individuals who hang around dating sites....are losers" he he do you really want me to answer that? They sure arent winners at dating are they? lol

@ senee
Whether you are nice or not is irrelevant. If you are addicted to something, and it is causing you or others harm/discomfort , and you are an adult who should know better, and you fail to address the issue, then you are a loser! L O S E R! Your drinking analogy is not appropriate as many a drunk may imbibe all they wish, and I couldnt care less if they dont drive. With nearby smokers, whether they are robbing a bank , or nursing a baby I care, because the stink impacts on my health - 100% of the time.

All the rest of you whiners, take note of that last paragraph. Do try and comprehend. I dont care who smokes, injects heroin, practises sodomy, etc etc, as long as it is between consenting adults and away from those who do not consent. And that is the problem with smokers. They foist their filthy disgusting habit on the rest of us. The law is now telling smokers in ever increasing circles that smoking is not tolerated in public. In other words, your passive smoke is not wanted. Full kudos to all who wake up and succeed in overcoming their addiction.

@ somelifeinmeyet
Your comment "Women or men smoking says to me slut, as does a drunk man or woman slut".....LOL.....Good grief, think I would rather cop passive smoke than hear any more puritanical diatribe like that!

Posted by: bloggersgetreal at September 22, 2007 8:16 PM

RULES OF TODAY

no smoking
no drinking
no gambaling
no eating
no dogs
no thongs
no siglets
no standing/blocking access
no phones
no excess noise
no photographs
no recording
And that was just to see a concert at the "entertainment center".

Posted by: eureka1854 at September 22, 2007 3:25 PM

I live with me mother and she cannot stand having a smoker in the house.

In fact she chased a girl I brought home from church one day with a broom stick because she tried to light up.

It was so embarrassing. Then word got around the whole Church Fellowship Group about what my mum was like and I have not had another "girlfriend" if that is what she was (we never actually ever went out)

Posted by: noiceguy1 at September 22, 2007 2:03 PM

Oops..in my last blog I forgot to mention the most important turnoff for me is a smoker. I have lost 3 partners due to the effects of cigarettes so will not even consider a smoker. I do not like arranging funerals.

Posted by: mushie6 at September 22, 2007 1:59 PM

from "Somelifeinmeyet"..guys are meant to be visual, but I wonder, as they often choose the most AWFUL photos of themselves to put on their profiles.

I look at some of the pictures of the guys, and they are blurry, they have a mean severe face in them (and what other women complain about..sunglasses etc), turning on the side away fromthe camera, too far away, in shadow, etc;

Can't these guys tell that they look mean or suspiciously disguised in these photos, and its a turnoff?

Haven't you got a sister to take a nice front on headshot of you, smiling, but not "all in your face" too close to the camera?

For the females photos, I have thought about what many of the men have said about the "glamour" photos", and I have to agree, that yes, its very possible that they look so good in those photos,that you can't recognise them onthe first date!...Yes , so I have to agree that a normal photo is good.

Alot of the ladies on R.S.V.P. have lovely , perky,pretty, happy photos, that are very naturally relaxed, and I am wondering where are all the men that should be "snapping them up"????? I can't believe that they need to find someone...they should be already "taken"!!!!

So hurry up men, before someone ealse snaps them up!!!!

"he who hesitates is lost"! LOL!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 22, 2007 1:56 PM

Where do I start! I don't want to sound negative however my comments might get through to those that need them.
Turnoffs:
Men whose clothes reek of mothballs will turn me off straight away.
Plus the usuals such as bad breath, rotten teeth, food stained clothes and men who want to 'handle' me as though they have the right to.
Maybe I am a bit oldfashioned but if I am meeting a man I make myself clean and presentable and I expect the same in return.
I agree with 'somelifeinmeyet' regarding sparse profiles.
Another thing which is a turnoff is when a man talks about his ex/deceased wife/parner all the time, or even worse about himself. Conversation is a two-way thing guys.
Ok I'll get off my soapbox now that I have got that off my chest.

Posted by: mushie6 at September 22, 2007 1:11 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" a turnoff for me is a sparse guys profile,where is the info to help me diecide if you would good for conversation?

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 21, 2007 7:58 PM

good luck to all of you who have the desire to quit but have not yet found whatever necessary to do it. It is not easy as l think l mentioned a few days ago l gave up about a month ago and have found it quite easy - sorry all -.

My big test will be my daughters 21st tomorrow night - first time l will be having a relatively serious drink since giving up but l am determined to follow it through.

By the way as an aside to this topic, agree with l think it was stormtrooper about the ex files...had a recent experience myself...bitter bitter bitter.
Will be a tad more wary l think in future ..happy day to all..............k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 21, 2007 7:54 PM

Well said, thecannulator at September 20, 2007 7:04 PM,
"Smoking cessation is one of the most powerful life changes one can make and those attempting and or succeding should be supported and encouraged not labelled losers."
and
"If you need help see your doctor not just your pharmacist-.".

Also stormtrooper at September 20, 2007 7:49 PM with,
"The hospitals in Victoria now refuse to do heart/lung surgery on smokers if they refuse to give it up before the operation."

I don't know about now in Perth but 15 years ago, people waiting for heart transplants (at that time Western Australians had to be flown over East for a new heart although now, Royal Perth Hospital does there own,) were refused to smoking patients.
My late husband supposedly gave up. He didn't, just hid it. Addiction is a very hard habit to kick.

hiddencharms at September 20, 2007 8:14 PM, you poor thing with Zyban/IC!! Must admit though, in hindsight and after the fact, the irony of the cure being worse than the cause is amusing. -Just as long as you survived it.

-Sounds like we have other similar reactions... Although I haven't needed to use Zyban, I do get all sorts of odd (and sometimes dangerous) reactions to different meds like antiobiotics, intravenous iron and even cleaning chemicals and peoples' perfumes/deodrants/abuse/aftershaves.

Congrats on giving up, seraphsuzie :)) (at September 20, 2007 4:35 PM). All my kids smoke and like your ex, my son at home got the flu (he smokes) and is still battling to get over it two months or more down the track.

hellwatsleft at September 20, 2007 10:50 PM, congrats too on giving up but I must admit to a little smile at the picture of you hiding in restaurant loos like a kid at school. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 21, 2007 10:08 AM

I gave up smoking 6 years ago. It was the absolute best think i could have ever done especially for my self esteem.
I found myself on a date hiding in the toilets at the resterant smking like i was 12 again, disgusting!
I had itried all sorts of things to stop. Zyban R brilliant!!!!! Yes some side effects for a couple of days (felt a bit like i had a mild flu) but absolutly worth it. Yes some people have died from it but 100's of people die every year from penicilin and heaps more from smoking!
I not a "reformed " smoker i really dont mind if others smoke but for me NO WAY.

Posted by: hellwatsleft at September 20, 2007 10:50 PM

Seraphsuzie: Lucky you! I tried Zyban, about 6 years ago. Put me in hospital in intensive care...At the time, the hospital staff thought it was hilarious-it was not the smoking that put me in IC but the side effects of trying to quit! I did not think it so funny. So I agree with you that some of the effects have been dangerous.

I think the good old fashioned "cold turkey" will be for me...

As for the old "kissing an ashtray" jokes, well, if on a date, then I try not to smoke and if I do, always use mints...neither my ex husband nor ex partner smoked and they never complained....but I appreciate that others find the smell offensive. Then again, I find the smell (and taste) of garlic repulsive...so I guess it's all just up to the individual

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 20, 2007 8:14 PM

Senee: I'm with you. I have to admit, I'm a sometimes smoker, sometimes a quitter...the quitting just doesn't seem to last long...cutting back does...and, yes, I do tend to smoke more when I have a drink in my hand...

I don't smoke at work. I don't smoke in the car-unless I'm alone in it. I don't smoke in other people's houses - happy to go for a walk. At outdoor gatherings, will walk away from the group...I have good personal hygeine and always have breathmints in my purse. Which is more than I can say for some people I have encountered in this life....(No punns to anyone on this site, just a general reference...I think somone else made a comment about even non-smokers needing mints and deodoriser...?)

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 20, 2007 8:00 PM

Suzie,

My mate is a dyed in the flanno, trakky dax wearing westie that drives the WB panel van and drinks VB. He used to have a mullet but as you well know that the smooth look and goatees with beanies are the lastest in westiewear.

It really worked well with him, even to the fact he developed a new taste for food and went mad on making stir fries and even put those "green things" (as he called vegetables) .

I know someone else that gave up smoking and started getting a sore throat afterwards. He was diagnosed as a diabetic and claimed that his smoking masked over the signs and symptoms.

You were most probabily used to the "smell" on your ex. I found when I was bouncing in pubs my clothes stunk of cigarette smoke and alcohol even when I didnt have a drink. The smell was worse in the mornings after I woke up and I noticed in on my clothes.

The hospitals in Victoria now refuse to do heart/lung surgery on smokers if they refuse to give it up before the operation.

We are all in here for wanting to make a change in our lives and maybe improving our health will have an impact on how we live our lifestyles and attract a new partner.

Regards to all

Posted by: stormtrooper at September 20, 2007 7:49 PM

Zyban is an antidepressant. Docotros found that depressed patients on it smoked less or stopped.

Anxiety is only one emotion and not the only cause of addictive behaviours I'm afraid, as are yur parents.

If you need help see your doctor not just your pharmacist-.

Smoking cessation is one of the most powerful life changes one can make and those attempting and or succeding should be supported and encouraged not labelled losers. AMzing how we label smokers and not any other addicitv e behaviour as socially and biologically reprehensible.

Posted by: thecannulator at September 20, 2007 7:04 PM

Stormtrooper..I gave up smoking 6 years ago using Zyban.. and it took me a week and I didn't want another one. It works by telling the brain you don't want a cigarette. Very effective, but there can be terrible side effects and people have known to die from using it..but its rare and with every kind of drug I guess you just have to be careful.

My ex used to smoke..in the house.. eventually I banned him to the garage.. but funnily enough it never bothered me and I couldn't smell it on him. He wasn't allowed to smoke in my car either. He still smokes.. and has just had the flu..its taken him 3 months to get over it.. its a wonder it hasn't killed him by now!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at September 20, 2007 4:35 PM

Auntykaz,
I'm having the same problem with the blogs, I'm not about to take up smoking though....worse... I'm back to reading profiles

rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 20, 2007 3:39 PM

A mate of mine was a large pack of "winnie blues" a day smoker for years. He was obese and lived a seditary lifestyle. his diet was the typical "fine western suburbs cuisine"- read that as meat and potatoes as long as it was fried - (as he called it).

He went on a prescription medication called "zyban" and it worked well for him.

Very rarely does he smoke now. Zyban was know for some adverse side effects, however Wazza did well on it and it worked rapidly for him, within the first month.

Maybe some of the bloggers in here should form a support group if they wish to give up smoking. Yahoo groups might be the right furom to do this, I don't know.

I wholely agree with finewine1's comments about getting a lecture about the "ex files" - That would rate as a tie for the gold medal in the biggest turn offs. I have no patience for a person like that. Sure, we all have a past and we all would like to know about our new interest but constantly whinning about the ex pushes me away. Take up a new trade as a bridge builder and then test out the finished product.

Play nice folks

Posted by: stormtrooper at September 20, 2007 11:41 AM

I wish to congratulate anyone who has "seen the light" and given up smoking.

I wish to really encourage those trying to give up,to keep fighting.

Cigarettes burn up your vitamin B, the very thing that you need to calm your nerves.
So, as you can see from that it is falsehood when people say "I have to smoke to calm my nerves"! They are ACTUALLY upsetting the very nreves they are trying to calm.

It would be like whipping a horse with the riding crop,and actually expecting it to go slower! LOL!!!

ANXIETY is at the rot of alot of health and emotional problems, so to all you smokers (and other addicts), I say," if only your parents had helped you to get control of your anxiety in primrary school, then you wouldn't be a smoker/drinker/drug addict/allergies/rashes/migraines/ grossly overweight (not just a few pounds) etc;"

So to those of you with children, I would ask you to look at them, and think...."do my children suffer from anxiety????" (as severe anxiety is hereditery)

If so. try and head it off now, because its just a disaster waiting to happen.

There is no point in saying "If i ever catch you smoking i will kill you" (with a cigarette hanging out of your mouth like my father did all the time, over and over), as you will just look like a hypocrit.

There are better ways to allay anxiety, one is the slow breathing, concentrating thoughts of PRAYER.
Pray until the heartbeat slows right down, and a feeling of peace comes over you.

For beginners, trying lying down on a bed, closing your eyes, shuttingthe blinds,( turning music/tv off ) and let your whole body flop onto the bed, and make your limbs feel limp like jelly (so if someone were to lift them they would feel very heavy and just drop back onto the bed.)

Then breathe very slowly, over and over again, and think of sometime in your life when you were really happy, or a happy place.

I like to think of being in my grandmothers garden with my grandma. I was smelling all the lovely flowers, looking at all the vegies, and dreaming of eating them! yum! I remember it was a hot spring day, and the feel of the warm sun on my skin.

When your breathing slows, and you are filled with happy thoughts, most people actually doze off and have alovely nap.!!

As you train yourself to relax, you will be able to relax yourself within five minutes anywhere, sitting up.
You could be at work, watching tv, at a bus stop, or on a train trip. (I used to love to do my relaxation and doze off on long train trips on the train,(but wearing dark sunglasses....as i don't want criminals to know i am asleep!)(COmmuters could try this).

Doing this relaxation and prayer, (Count your blessings as you have your eyes closed, think of all the people who are worse off than you! .....Just watching the evening news its full of those who were murdered/ raped or injured today, or whose children died, or spouses left them..that should be enough for anyone to stop feeling sorry for themselves, and give up smoking,( because your anxiety is really not that bad.....the people on the news...THEY have something to be anxious about, not you! Your life is NOT really all that bad. You are STILL ALIVE! Many are dead and wish they only had ONE MORE day with their families.

Make use of this day that you were given that others don't have! Be GRATEFUL! Don't waste it!

Honour the dead by living well and respectably!

Get a hold of that anxiety that you have (and most people have) and conquer it, as anxiety holds you back from enjoying all aspects of life!

When people who have lost alot of weight get on tv and are so happy about their weight loss, I wish they would really say what REALLY happened!

They didn't just lose weight, they CONQUERED THEIR ANXIETY and finally knocked it on the head!!!

By killing the ANXIETY, they no longer needed to eat, to get that "I'm full feeling" that babies get, and helps them to relax and sleep.

Notice how in these adds they are excersing?
It's not just movement, but the fun of belonging to a group at the gym, having exercise in common, laughing, feeling happy, having a routine, the endorphins released from fun activity, and the improved emptying of the bowels (which removes the toxins which if unmoving cause headaches and feeling of lethargyetc;)which leads to weight loss.

If exercise alone led to weightloss then housework would result in slimness, as house work is HARD work! LOL!!!!

Most women these days do housework alone, and in a rush, it is not a pleasant experience like in the Bible, with an extended family of other women, all working together.

Many women over the years have told me, that in the end they just went and got a job, so they could have the company of other women, they hated the aloneness of their house/flat.

Yes, work can be a very happy social place,and for some,( if the job is not to demanding), can really help to allieviate the the anxiety of aloneness.

Men tell me that the alonenes of an empty house when they come home, (after seperation, or divorce) is more than they can bear.Maybe this is how you feel?

In an extended family, a house is never quiet. Modern western society is not conducive to happiness in alot of ways, and I often wish that there were some things that hadn't changed!

Well, in the meantime, just try my suggestions for relaxation and prayer, and see if that helps you giving up smoking or whatever else your basic coping strategy for anxiety is, which is holding you back from really enjoying life.

best of luck to you all.!!

Signed "somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 20, 2007 10:54 AM

Smoking.... A Dying habit..Until recently I was a very heavy smoker, up to 50 a day. And I smoked in the house, it was the smell that greeted me at the front door, that inspired me to give up. If a 50 a day smoker can smell it how bad was it ??? I found it surprisingly easy to stop after reading ALLEN CARR'S easy way to stop smoking. would probably have difficulty going out with a smoker now..

Posted by: greg1954 at September 20, 2007 9:18 AM

hmmm seems that the blogs are back to taking ages to update.....l can't update at all l think......see what happens..Enough to drive a girl back to the gaspers.....
happy day.....k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 19, 2007 8:47 PM

I was once a smoker, and I can say from my experience that kissing is now in a whole other ball game. Before it was nice, and I quite enjoyed a snuggle and a kiss. Now however, everything is so much nicer. When you go from a smoker kissing another smoker to both non smokers, the taste of the other person, especially that first spine tingling kiss, is so much nicer. I don't think it's that smokers taste like an ashtray (mind you, I haven't kissed any smokers since quitting), its just that when you both have smokers breath, there is no difference in each others taste to notice. But now... :P

Posted by: ishereallyoutthere at September 19, 2007 8:32 PM

Disclaimer: **If people want to smoke, that is their own choice**

Butt.... (pun intended)

As I dislike the taste, smell etc, I prefer to date non smokers. What annoys me on RSVP is people choosing 'don't smoke' on their profile, then when you meet them, they happen to mention that...well.. maybe they have one now and then.. but they are trying to quit.. honest... etc

I actually had a gentleman try and tell me that he was a non smoker... based on the fact that he had given up..... a whole 20 minutes before we met!

Thats not given up, thats a bus ride! If it's true that 73% of smokers think that smoking makes it harder for them to get a date, then surely some of them are going to lie?

How can you tell who isn't? Second biggest turn off - talking about your ex

Posted by: finewhitewine1 at September 19, 2007 7:42 PM

All,

What a red hot subject!

With the comment about "being a mental thing" All addictions start as a psychological dependance before it becomes a physical one. Even being in love was discribed by one drug and alcohol medical specialist as "being addicted to another person".

I once sat in an office behind a chain smoker who smoked constantly at her desk so one day I brought in a stubbie and sat at my desk and had a quiet one. I got reported but my arguement was if this person can smoke I can have a beer at work. I got the health warning lecture as it was a medical center for a state govt organisation so I said I would desist if she would. Smoking suddenly was banned from the office.

There is a police station in melbourne that has alcohol in a vending machine in the CIB office "hidden" from management. and yes, its a no smoking building too...lol

BTW Bubblesme..what favour breathmints do you prefer? even with a non smoker?

Play nice all and not with matches

Regards

Posted by: stormtrooper at September 19, 2007 6:56 PM

Do you think it is possible to quit for someone just because they do not smoke? OR, would you expect that person to allow you to smoke as long as they are not around and do not need to kiss you?

Posted by: misslittleone at September 19, 2007 6:20 PM

Bloggersgetreal

Smokers are Losers are they? I'm sorry you think I'm a loser. Just shows you doesn't it, I thought I was a really nice person. Sorry, those sorts of comments are really annoying. I'm not saying that smoking is good, of course it's not, and everyone knows how hard it is to give up. Why stop at calling smokers losers, why not also target people who drink alcohol, after all look at all the people who are killed in accidents by some idiot who just had to have one more before jumping behind the wheel. For too long smokers have been targetted, isn't about time the government targetted drinkers as well. We have warnings on cigarette packets but none on bottles of alcohol. AAARRGGGHH What am I saying, if they do that then I'll feel guilty when I have a drink as well as a smoke!!!!!!!

Posted by: senee at September 19, 2007 5:43 PM

From "somelifeinmeyet" (thought itr would be helpful if people but their names at both the beginning and the end of blogs, so people know who wrote them)

I popped on to R.S.V.P. today to check whos looking at my profile and read a bit of the blogs.

Its been encouraging to see lots of people reading my profile, and also some ladies wanting to chat with me, or liking the honest direct comments in my profile.(and guys saying they like my honesty too.)

It's nice to have replies from the men, but also nice to have some chats with fellow ladies about what they think of this site.

I am here to expand my circle of friends, not just to find "a man" LOL!!

I was encouraged on this blog,to see so many comments against smoking, and how many people had learnt this valuable lesson by seeing relatives smoke (like I had mentioned too, my father). Even a poor woman who was widowed by a smoker.....keep telling everyone that all the time, because then it may hit home with them!, (and they may give up.

There were very few entries from pro-smokers thankfully.

I was concerned to hear yet another mention of a married lawyer on this site, this time he was mentioned as a man who likes to "bed' smokers! (its a pity management can't cancel his profile!)

Apparently the blog says that he finds smokers 'better in the sack". perhaps he really wants to say "more slutty..so better in the sack" LOL!!

Women or men smoking says to me "slut", as does a drunk man or woman "slut" (or any equivelant for a man like "rooter" that one wants to use.)

I think..."gee, they'll put anything in their mouths!" (including strange genitals!)

To the blogger that complained about this married man on site...think of it this way...maybe one of these smoking women will give him CANCER of the PENIS, or the LIPS!!! LOL!! See how attractive he will look then, and who will want to get intimate with him then!!! LOL!!

What goes around comes around! he likes smokers....well smokers he will get...and their mouth cancer too! Serves him right!

(However I worry that he will pass it on to his wife, and she will get vaginal cancer, or lip cancer)

Maybe he will read this and think again? signed "somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 19, 2007 5:01 PM

Smoking; what a topic, full of strong opinions, and stronger smells.

In April this year i resigned from a job i had been in for 4.5yrs, and on the morning i resigned i also gave up smoking. I was a 5-10 a day for about the previous 30yrs, until recently ( like about 18monthss ago) when it skyrocketed to about 35.......

Made the conscious decision and have struck by it since then. Yes there has been 2 occasions when i really felt like i needed one but resisted. And did it cold turkey. No help no patches no gum. Unfortunately the downside is that i may have put on a little weight (lol) as smoking is an appetite suppressant. Not that i have started eating lollies and such, just more better food.

So now all i need to do is continue walking for longer periods that i do now, and it should all fix itself. (right ?????0

Posted by: twoeyes at September 19, 2007 1:54 PM

thecannulator..Totally agree with your comments about the pop-a-few-Nicabate/solve the problem attitude.
The commercialisation also sucks. What a shame good often can't be achieved without some company foisting a brand in there. And they're all trhying to boost the company image with the "goodness" of what they are perceived to do.

Anyway, I agree with what you say about smoking and addiction and am truly heartened by the fact that you have quit.
Good on you.
I'm now looking to quit again.
For me it's a mental thing.
There are times when i don't miss smoking at all but my weak point is actually first thing in the morning when I'm up with the larks - a kickstart-my-heart type of smoke. I think I got into that when I was doing 5am start shifts years ago.
Personally I'd like to see all tobacco sales banned and addicts supplied from licensed retailers or some other means.
Maybe when a new government is in there will be change in that difrection.
Also it would be good to see blog updates from someone actually on the blog who has quit rather than the ditzy, girlie, gushy, upbeat, demographic constructed offering of non-smoker
Sam.
I'm not in the demographic but I have to say - Fairfax, get real!
That sort of thing is not really 2007, is it? It's about 8-10 years behind the cutting edge.
Think you'll find we're into a bit of maturity and self-help these days.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 19, 2007 11:09 AM

Hi, trumanscat - I had a good laugh at your post about your foray into cigarette smoking and the farting incident! How very uncool! But huge, huge chuckle.....

I think my general feelings on this one are with Beachmouse - I'd prefer a non-smoker (I am), but that's not the worst thing someone could be in the scheme of things.... in my opinion.

Posted by: malsie at September 18, 2007 11:03 PM

As a non-smoker to kiss a smoker... plain and simply it is a turn-off

doesn't mean you guys don't have looks and great personalities... bring on the breath freshener and mints lol then I'll kiss you :)

Posted by: bubblesme at September 18, 2007 10:32 PM

Oh. I am convinced now...
still lol.

Posted by: trumanscat at September 18, 2007 5:48 PM

Hi all,
Smoking's not great, but some smell more 'smoky' than others. Interesting how different bodies react. If two people are pretty keen then I reckon the smoking thing can be worked around. Sam in the intro waxes lyrical about kissing. There are so many ways of kissing, and hooking up with someone with whom you kiss like you were make for each other is a) bloody marvellous and b) not that common!

Posted by: heymgirl at September 18, 2007 5:34 PM

cat: no, because stupidity does not have anything to do with IQ, that's idiocy love.

Posted by: imhungrycanucook at September 18, 2007 5:26 PM

Wow, I am for sure in the minority here when I say if everything else about the guy is perfect (ok, no such thing but you know what i mean) if the only negative is that he smokes, I would at least give it a chance. And I am pretty health conscious, wouldnt touch the things myself and there is no way i could run around the squash court (my new found addiction) if my lungs wernt working to their full capacity.

I guess my attitude comes from the fact my mum ( a non smoking nurse) marrying my dad ( an at the time very heavy smoker)....who eventually quit cold turkey and hasnt touched cigarettes for 30 years. If mum had decided nope, no smokers for her ,then I wouldnt exist!!!

Posted by: beachmouse at September 18, 2007 5:14 PM

Cynical and Anonymous

Keep away from Charley

He's my main man now.

Brilliant profile Charley

I couldn't stop laughing.

These boitches ain't got no SOH, probably do all their buying at Tarja, and run tris,

Posted by: shazza35 at September 18, 2007 5:12 PM

As far as l know smoking is not illegal so anyone who chooses to smoke is not breaking any law, however, breathing exhaled smoke over someone really is poor form, and as a used to be smoker, l am disgusted that l used to do that.

Guess there is nothing worse than a reformed smoker after all.

Happy day.................k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 18, 2007 4:39 PM

Wow! As a smoker I have now learned some stuff from this blog!
Ladies don't like me because I smoke.
I'm not very bright because I smoke.
I'm never to be sucessful because I smoke.
I'm a bludger because I smoke.
I'm a pariah to the community at large because I smoke.
I don't deserve any respect because I smoke.
My smoking gives people the right to be rude and inconsiderate to me.
Ok. Here's my view. You have had yours.
If I want to smoke, I will. The same as if I wanted to buy one car over another, I would.
I've got to tell you that I abhore smoking. Why do I do it? Because like any junkie, I'm addicted to it.
One day I'll stop. I don't blame the government or anybody else for my addiction. I blame me. No one else.
So if you think that I'm repugnant because I smoke, that's your choice. You're probably right, though.
But if I have to put up with your bad habbits, don't judge me! Ok?

Posted by: phillby1 at September 18, 2007 4:23 PM

What is with the people on here, I looked over the blog, looked at the profile of a contributor and received this in return....thanks "thefotografer" your all class.

THIS IS AN AUTOMATED REPLY FROM THE ADAMBOND CORPORATION

ON BEHALF OF ONE OF OUR MEMBERS

YOU HAVE RECENTLY VIEWED HIS PROFILE AND THIS IS HIS AUTOMATED
MULTI CHOICE REPLY.

1. Hi love your tits but:

a. I have seen better
b. I have touched better
c. I only date twins
d. You need a transplant
e. Breasts included
f. Look forward to seeing your pussy when you update your photo
g. Please include recent ones
h. Is that a bottle in your hand or a boob.

HOPE YOU