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What to say in a kiss?
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There's been a lot of talk lately about the kiss message options... well here's a chance to share your ideas in a common forum! What would you like to express in a kiss? What are some of the situations that often fall outside of a straightforward back and forth?
Some background... RSVP kisses are primarily to initiate communication. It is meant to precede an email and it is a chance for two individuals to acknowledge each other before deciding whether or not email contact is worthwhile.
Some members ignore it, others rely on it too much and there are those that get too many of them to begin with and decide to switch it off altogether.
We recommend taking a balanced approach - it is simply a tool, one that can help you make a decision but not the end all to communication and attraction. You will still need to impress in the subsequent emails, dates and whatever ends up happening.
Posted by August 24, 2007 3:34 PM
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woodnwine
Yes that elusive and much touted encouragement kiss........now I would also like to see an appropriate choice of kiss reply to a kiss from an attached/married person who is looking for "short/long term relationship"........any ideas anyone?
Posted by: jenjen57 at November 25, 2007 11:00 AM
Ummm, have they? If so, where? I don't see any new options...
(Or was that one of the more deadpan variants of sarcasm?)
Posted by: brushkestrel at November 20, 2007 3:33 PM
jenjen57 - that's why RSVP has kindly given us the encouragement kiss.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 19, 2007 11:59 AM
sls ...............somewhat the same
Posted by: twoeyes at November 18, 2007 5:58 PM
haha is a blog same as a blurb lol
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 18, 2007 1:05 AM
I hear that I am being roped into this Bris-blog fest.
As a newbie, I can't help but wonder how crazy I have to be to ge into this gathering.
Will a cowboy hat and spurs suffice for dinner?
Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 12:33 AM
hi all i think we should have a comments on how to blog lol wtf is a blog anyways hehehe
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 17, 2007 11:58 PM
I did think about using that aybie, but that didn't seem quite right so in the end I sent him a kiss saying "liked your profile and thought I would say hi" but today I see he is showing as a former member so all the agonizing over the whole thing was pointless !!
Posted by: jenjen57 at November 17, 2007 11:13 AM
I did think about using that aybie, but that didn't seem quite right so in the end I sent him a kiss saying "liked your profile and thought I would say hi" but today I see he is showing as a former member so all the agonizing over the whole thing was pointless !!
Posted by: jenjen57 at November 17, 2007 10:52 AM
Good point, jenjen57. Very true now that I think about it! I'd use "your profile doesn't match mine" (maybe???), but that's really not the point ... oh the etiquette ...
Posted by: aybie at November 16, 2007 8:08 PM
Thanks istj54.
I'm sure my parents have _plenty_ of secrets and, to be honest, I don't want to know! But thanks for confirming the convention.
Good luck, Brissie people with your catch up.
'cereal manogomy' ... hmmm ... what is it, pray tell?? Cornflakes or muesli?
Posted by: aybie at November 16, 2007 8:05 PM
What is the appropriate response to a kiss from someone interstate? If they say they like your photo and it seems they are just saying "hi, I like your photo (or whatever) ", then how am I supposed to respond? Why isnt there just a kiss reply that says "thank you :) ". I feel it is rude to say nothing but none of the generic responses are appropriate in these sort of instances.
Posted by: jenjen57 at November 16, 2007 8:01 AM
Hey , I look at the mens profile who blog here so I can understand whom I'm talking to. It determines the level of the conversation.
Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 10:58 PM
Hmm, well, I was planning on being in Brisbane around that time, but depending on whether or not I get the job I've applied for on the North Coast depends on how often I'll be able to make it to Brisbane....
Posted by: wraecca at November 15, 2007 9:50 PM
wraecca: I come home from holidays down south on the 19th Jan, so perhaps we could set a second date...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 15, 2007 9:13 PM
woodnwine: Okay, no problem.
Hope you don't mind I looked at yours though - I was only there looking for the 'email this person' button...
Posted by: brushkestrel at November 15, 2007 8:17 PM
Hey woodnwine, first its Monty Python, now Seinfeld?
Thanks for the invitation hiddencharms, but when I'm working, its just not practical on a weeknight. However, if you are looking at doing it in the new year, say around the 19th - 21st of January, I *may* just be in Brisbane at that point in time.....
Talk to you all later, I'm going to have an icy-pole. My throat is red-raw from coughing and I need to cool it down.....
But you should hear my voice......lol
Posted by: wraecca at November 15, 2007 8:09 PM
BK - sorry mate I don't read many men's profiles - it gives them the wrong idea. Not that there's anything wrong with that! Look forward to meeting you, you sound like a great guy (not that I'm like that of course. Not that there's anything wrong with that of course) - boy someone stop me.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 7:34 PM
Yup, currently residing in Brisbane (I think I wrote that in my profile - yup, just checked, it does say that :-) ).
As for luring Wraecca up, not for a Friday. It's a 9 hour drive (10 if you drive like me), and work would get in the way. OTOH, if there were to be a re-run in the new year some time, it might be possible :-)
Posted by: brushkestrel at November 15, 2007 7:30 PM
BK: could you try to lure warecca up, too?
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 15, 2007 7:22 PM
woodnwine: No! But we could tell "them" one place and we could sit across the street and wait and see who, and how many, actually show up!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 15, 2007 7:15 PM
BK - are you from Brissie? Then of course you are welcome. Are you in email contact with anyone other than Wraecca?
Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 7:08 PM
OK hiddencharms - let's have 2 meetings, one for the known bloggers and a seperate one for the unknown bloggers. How many seats should we book for the unknown bloggers do you think? There are a lot of them but I think they could all share one or two chairs.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 7:07 PM
BK: Sorry. We forgot you were local. Date is set. Place to be advised....Of course you are welcome...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 15, 2007 6:56 PM
Friday 30th eh? Sounds interesting. Can I invite myself? And where might I be inviting myself to? Has that been decided yet?
Posted by: brushkestrel at November 15, 2007 6:44 PM
woodnwine: The more the merrier...just not you-know-who....
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 15, 2007 6:33 PM
" i who sing at night to the sound of the sea
i who speak to the moon to understand the mystery of a love affair,
and i hear you all the more in the summer evenings
i hear your words like little fires burning at the bottom of my heart
inside my life the music plays
new poetry in memory of you.....
Posted by: twoeyes at November 15, 2007 12:16 PM
Hiddencharms - maybe we could ask cynicalandanonymous and all her alter egos too? Now that would be interesting! Maybe, really deep down, there is a meaning to it all - I for one would be interested to find out and gun laws are pretty strict up here so everyone should be safe. It may not be too far for her to drive.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 11:52 AM
Hiddencharms - all sorted darling. I believe we have miserableoldcow, jpkool, datelessnotdesperate, someone new (yet to be named), maybe moondolphin, you and me. Anyone else interested? I don't know why we are whispering on here (ssshhh), we all know each other so let's just talk amongst ourselves from now on. Over to you ma belle. We could even ask someone who can not be named (ssshhh, don't tell anyone, I said to keep it down) and I could even rustle up lurker. SShhh, we must whisper some of these names incase others are listening. Maybe I could get shybutperky - does anyone remember her - if she is in town on that night?
Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 12:03 AM
Moo: Somewhere central? I'm making jp drive anyway...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 14, 2007 8:22 PM
Moo: Two more. Terry (the old datelessnotdesperat) has scribbled us into his diary, along with his lovely new lady friend.
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 14, 2007 8:20 PM
HC...Let's just lock it in for Fri 30th ....now where in Brissy? Northside/ southside or city?....I am flexible (around Westend offers lots of choices)...any ideas
Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 14, 2007 7:25 PM
Moo: I'll try and get in touch with Terry...JP is booked, but can wrangle out of it if we can organise the defininte date pretty soon - Fri 30 Nov.
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 14, 2007 7:06 PM
Moo: Friday 30 Nov is perfect for me!
but it looks like the hippie has already invited himself along...should I bring my brolly?
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 14, 2007 6:23 PM
Come on Jethro - stop playing Crusty Demons for a while and talk to that lovely, genuine lady. After all what have you got to lose that you haven't lost already?
Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 9:14 AM
Yes J P Kool
Come along. Bring your girlfriend.
Posted by: ageinghippie at November 14, 2007 3:24 AM
Aybie
Practice cereal monogamy in your emailing.
Ask Slimey. She knows what it means.
Good to see you back you lovely little creature (Slimey that is)
Posted by: ageinghippie at November 14, 2007 3:04 AM
jpkool...what about you for bloggers get together?
Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 14, 2007 2:42 AM
Hi HC...and all qld bloggers...
we are underepresented on the blogs and I think it could be good for us to meet in the flesh....given the difficulties we often face (sometimes feel like we are at Hogwarts School...waiting and watching for "he who cannot be named" to make an appearance" ) so how would Friday the 30th Nov suit people for a meet and greet (with party pies!! woo hoo!) Hiddencharms, woodnwine, myself are all keen...how about some others raise their hands...come on we need a little fun... :)
Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 14, 2007 2:31 AM
hey sethro1 come chat here lol i cant kiss u anymore
Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 13, 2007 11:59 PM
Hi all,
I think there should be more reply kiss options. I especially hate the one that quite bluntly states 'you dont fit my ideal partner profile'. I think thats a little harsh. I think we should have a short text box to put in a short reply message but I guess that will probably not sell a lot of stamps.
Posted by: goofyoptimist at November 13, 2007 11:38 PM
PS Moo: Go ahead and organise whatever suits everyone else...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 11:30 PM
Moo: I'm booked that Sat. Friday nights are easier for me, personally.
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 11:25 PM
Moo: Should be fun!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 11:09 PM
Moo: I want what you're on...double...with a scotch...please...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 10:48 PM
Chuckled at your post hiddencharms at November 12, 2007 10:24 PM. :-)
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 13, 2007 8:47 PM
Moo: better book a big table for our bloggers meet....
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 8:44 PM
Hi Moo liked your profile and always enjoy reading your blogs!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 13, 2007 7:51 PM
Thanks Woodnwine...
I like to think of myself as normal...but there are those who disagree...(I just keep taking the tablets and I can barely hear their voices at all)
Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 13, 2007 7:03 PM
I see you haven't taken up my challenge Woodnwine, but forget it now because I've been rude tonight. It must be the red cordial I'm drinking...sorry no offence meant I am just entertaining myself waiting for Futurama to take over at 7....The photo is there but password protected.
Posted by: istj54 at November 13, 2007 6:58 PM
Woodnwine: "close enough" to normal is ok by me....
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 13, 2007 6:29 PM
somelife - thanks for the tip but I don't laugh often enough to warrent the expense. I'll just put up with it on the odd occassion I see something funny.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 4:51 PM
istjk54 - it's not there, you've left us. Or have you re-joined us after dying your hair?
Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 4:47 PM
istj54 - who said I was talking about you? And who's your (big) daddy? Did you say you put your photo on yesterday? I'll just have a look.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 4:45 PM
OK, Woodnwine, here is a challenge for you after calling me a troublemaker.
I want you to bore yourself rotten and go back to Saturday morning where I first joined in. Read all of my blogs very carefully, and without thinking that I am bigdaddie's alter. Tell me where I have been a troublemaker and get back to me with the evidence.
Occasionally I have been flippant and playful but I don't see this as being a troublemaker. It is just a part of my true personality and not a sign of MPD, as you have all diagnosed on the basis of not seeing my picture which was not put up till yesterday morning. Actually I am now very worried about showing it to anyone, so thanks folks for ruining my RSVP experience.
Posted by: istj54 at November 13, 2007 9:51 AM
OK, I've thought of some: there is miserableoldcow - how could a woman with a name like that be anything but normal. Hiddencharms - you only had to see her photo on MySpace to realise she was normal (well, sort of but close enough).
Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 8:56 AM
Brisbane is being targeted unfairly. Some of us are almost normal up here you know; I can't think of any straight up but I will. Don't forget a current troublemaker lives in Melbourne so spread the love.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 8:54 AM
To "woodynomore" nov 4th, who said he almost wet himself laughing...perhaps it TIME old timer for you to go out and buy some "tena lady" for those little bladder accidents??????????
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 13, 2007 12:09 AM
How about: Can I have a sample of your profile dna so I can cross reference it against crazy Brisbane profiles...?
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 12, 2007 10:24 PM
what to say in a kiss? something different to the options we have would be good.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 12, 2007 9:59 AM
Aybie,
I do recall the convention but it was changing in the seventies when I was in my twenties. They were a time of free lovin and not much in the way of sensible protection. Some people had many partners and were somewhat indiscriminate in their choices.
They are the parents now and might not be willing to let you in on their secrets. I don't mean your parents so please don't take offense.
When I said date a few guys I meant without sex. When you begin to want sex with one that is the time to become monogamous. That is when you will know that you want to take the friendship further.
Posted by: istj54 at November 10, 2007 11:17 AM
Thanks for your wisdom, istj54. I think your generation actually had a much saner approach to monogamy; According to my parents, no one was completely monogamous till they were wearing a ring on their left hand. The engagement period (which could be quite long) was the monogamy. It meant you had stopped looking around. But with the changes in thresholds to intimacy, this seems to have also changed (perhaps for health reasons).
Of course, this is only according to my parents, so did anyone else recall this convention? Any comments to the contrary?
Posted by: aybie at November 10, 2007 10:44 AM
"I will repeat again for ther intellectaly impaired."
LOL
Posted by: trumanscat at November 10, 2007 10:41 AM
Aybie comment #2. I also have a new stamp suggestion. Does anyone else think this would be handy? I think RSVP gives some really good suggestions for writing your profile these days (much improved over the last couple of years). And I think these suggestions would gain greater following with a bit more encouragement from fellow profilers. I therefore suggest something along the lines of:
"XXX is genuinely flattered by your interest and your profile content profile portrays you as a nice person. However, the presentation and content of your profile is quite similar to a lot of other profiles. Os she doesn't feel she has a picture of what you are really like. You can either (a) update your profile and send another kiss or (b) email her, but the email should contain lots of extra information about why you feel you match her profile." (Of course, all 'she's will also be reverted to 'he's.)
This is different from the "your profile does not contain enough information" because (a) sometimes people have actually written a lot, but you can only read so many movie sections containing Shawshank Redemption or so many lists of words like 'caring, affectionate, fair and generous', and (b) some people would rather keep the public profile vague and be writing to people specifically even if they do spend an extra stamp.
I could say to these people 'waiting for your email' but then they spend their money with the high expectations that you thought their profile was fantastic - I feel bad doing that. I'd rather be able to give a 50-50 response.
Does this strike a chord with anyone else? Does anyone object? I'm very interested in feedback either way.
Posted by: aybie at November 10, 2007 10:32 AM
Agree aybie,
Difficult to give full attention to two emailers at once let alone six.RSVP should sell stamps two at a time with an expiry of say three months. I think that would be far more practical than six with six.
Don't think monogamy should come into the equation till you have at least met in the flesh and dated for a while.
It's a bit odd to commit to an email isn't it? You need to meet first and allow a getting to know you time. I see nothing wrong in dating a couple of people at once as long as you are up front about it.
I've just joined here but have used other sites and sometimes find men want you to commit way too soon but are not prepared to reciprocate. Guess both sexes can have double standards.
I think men might be a bit insulted with the perhaps reply though.
Posted by: istj54 at November 10, 2007 10:29 AM
To return to some really valuable suggestions made back in August:
"replying to someone else" is a bit odd - I agree, with RSVP name 'Perhaps'. From my perspective, the singular 'someone' propagates an assumption that emailing is monogamous activity ... and ... well, I'm all for monogamous relationships (very much so!), but monogamous emailing? (Note: My profile, aybie, is probably worth a read if this argument seems a little left-of-field to you.)
It also contradicts the expiry dates set on stamps because if you have to use them in monogamous succession, then it's really hard to use them all by the used by date. Plus, as 'Perhaps' said, it contradicts a bit with hiding your profile.
Ironically, I actually use it a lot because I have got kisses from really great profiles, but am speaking with a couple of guys already and I don't have enough attention for a third in amongst the rest of my terrestrial life. To me, it is the most polite answer to people who do actually have a good vibe going in their profile.
Posted by: aybie at November 10, 2007 10:05 AM
Well, having found the time to pop in and read a little of the blogs, I'm blown away by the undertone of mystery and deceit going on here! I have to admit, it's almost enough to scare me off completely, wondering exactly what weird individuals I may be associating with, albeit remotely. Ninaschen, be careful about any meetings you may set up with new contacts, call me and I'll be your bodyguard!!
Posted by: tishb at November 8, 2007 10:49 PM
Methinks/wonders how the heck such a character as ageinghippy, can come back and blog again so quickly while other long termers say their blogs have to wait.
Or, is that the trick -resurrection privileges bestowed by the lord?
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 8, 2007 9:43 PM
Hi Guys
I have sent a few kisses, friendship kisses, this morning, as some of you are having a tough time, or have been targeted in the blogs. Please accept this as a positive and that my thoughts are with you.
But as my messages take days in some cases, to get posted, they slot into the time I wrote them hours or days ago, while heaps of others get posted in real time. So it is very likely I don’t get read, because Basically I am out of the conversation.
Editor, what is happening with a fairer method of blogging?
Have a gr8 day all. Jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at November 5, 2007 8:08 AM
brilliantblue - don't worry, no confusion only friendship. When oh when RSVP will we get that encouragement kiss you have asked if we wanted? You guys should get a job in politics (false promises and all that).
Posted by: woodnwine at November 5, 2007 12:12 AM
Woodnwine....I think we got a bit mixed up....you sent me an encouragement kiss before you went away and I sent an encouragement kiss back to you!
Just letting you know this after your response to my inbox tonight!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 5, 2007 12:05 AM
Thanks auntykaz, it's cold tonight here on my shelf.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 5, 2007 12:01 AM
Woodnwine, pucker up pal a big mwah your way.......k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 4, 2007 11:53 PM
Thanks Pommysheila for the encouragement kiss...it would be great to have you back on the blogs!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 11:46 PM
No idea what the latest fight is about but I have to say that I know from personal experience that ninaschen is a lovely person. Does anyone actually know some(but not much)lifeinmeyet? Come out, come out where ever you are.
BTW these blogs aren't the place to slag off at each other - that's called Parliament.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 11:34 PM
What to say in a kiss? - Pucker up.
Who cares who is who? Who cares who takes the time to post others on other sites? Who cares who says what any more. The targets are often the ones who remain standing at the end of the day. Some people are easily amused and easily forgotten if left alone. Either play their game or ignore them. Laugh, I nearly pissed myself!
Like a red commodore to a bull I say.
Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 11:19 PM
* Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 4, 2007 10:18 AM:
"I hope, whatever it is, it can be sorted out so there can be peace for us all.
-Especially for the deeply unhappy person who has brought about this latest furore."
-----------------------
I'm not having an easy time over the last few weeks with my family.
But I was honestly trying my best to be conciliatory with the above comment and give the benefit of the doubt for the party or parties concerned.
Apparently, this hasn't been recognized by the recipient. So be it, I cannot make any more concessions to whatever predicament they may be suffering from.
My thanks to all the honestly genuine and positive bloggers on here.
I like Hidden Charms' quote:
"Kisses are friends sent to us by angels...".
A friendship VK to all the good people in here.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 4, 2007 6:03 PM
Reply to "seraphsuzie' who said to me..."go back to the kitchen where you seem to belong",....
Well the kitchen is the heart of a home, and the home is the sprinboard to the world, and so there is NO shame in enjoying cooking and family life!
Maybe if "ninaschen" learnt to cook and sweetened up abit, she wouldn't have to go around making up lies saying women bloggers like myself are really men, and she would have more intersts in life than attacking me, becaus eshe sees me as competition.!
If she is SO nice as she says, why is she such a big lier???? ..LIERS are NOT nice people..or don't you realise that??????????
Think about that one "seraphsuzie" !
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 4, 2007 6:00 PM
BB: I think it would be a very lonely gathering, don't you?
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 5:26 PM
BrilliantBlue, go and check out the "First Phone Call" blog for details of what's up with me. Thanks for you encouragement and thoughts, though.
Posted by: wraecca at November 4, 2007 5:18 PM
You make me laugh Hiddencharms with your costume party!
Would it be a 1 person party or 2 do think?
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 5:10 PM
Wraecca.....I think I must have missed some blogs....it sounds like your not feeling too good at moment from what others are saying.
Sorry to hear that, I'm sure things will turn around.
There's a lot of people on here sending good karma to you!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 5:06 PM
Auntykaz: It would have to be a costume party - so they could take their furry hats, cowboy hats, guns, musician friends, cooking pots and cameras!
Shame you guys are all down south! No-one wants to do anything exciting up here!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 4:30 PM
"Kisses are friends sent to us by angels..."
Hope all goes well for you, wraecca...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 4:27 PM
HC there wouldn't be enough room for all of the personas it is after a growing family.......k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 4, 2007 3:59 PM
Hiddencharms, thank you for you VK, I took it as a friendly gesture, and it actually made me feel a little better. Thank you.
Posted by: wraecca at November 4, 2007 3:58 PM
Don't mean to scare anyone with my "kisses"...Just saying "hi"...letting you put a face to the name(not the one posted on the other site-although the boobs are stupendous)...
No emails, at present, and will probably go back into hiding(just being polite and clearing all of "hiddencharms/mavis's mail), but anyone who wants to make contact, can do so through Terry, Rocco or Ornamental (if you are in contact with them)
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 3:51 PM
Careful auntykaz...mention cowboys and lordofperfectionandwyoming will invite himself...and all of his friends
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 3:42 PM
Trumanscat, the dancing will be fantastic, the cowboys...hmmm....will be delicious.
Followed or maybe preceeded by some bubbles.
Sounds good!!......k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 4, 2007 3:32 PM
I suppose these are the sites that a lot of these weirdo's are going to prey on due to the fact that they can hide there true identity!
They are usually scared of anyone getting too close so find it easy to vent their anger on strangers over the internet.
I think it just takes time to work out who the genuine people are on the blog site!
I think as someone else said on here, they will probably loose interest if ignored....they need the attention!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 3:30 PM
dancing even!
Posted by: trumanscat at November 4, 2007 2:33 PM
Hey Aunty K. The dncing & cowboys is still on the agenda!
Posted by: trumanscat at November 4, 2007 2:30 PM
Actually, one of (their) conversations with themselves was about the lunatics who tried to have him banned from rsvp, but failed...
I wish I was his/her/their shrink...I could retire to the Maldives before my next birthday!
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 2:28 PM
I would also suggest that lordnotsoperfect read the terms and conditions, specifically part 12, limitation of liability and indemnity, to acquaint thyself with the term "enter at own risk"...........k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 4, 2007 2:25 PM
Hiddencharms, l guess that was sort of my point, if the other site can ban him/her/it/they, why can't RSVP??
I would think there had been enough evidence to support that action over the past months, especially over the past few weeks...........k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 4, 2007 2:12 PM
And l must say that ninaschen will be getting quite a laugh over comments made towards her in recent days.
Maybe those who make negative comments about her should take the time to read all of her entries before posting.
TC, and suzie, hear hear!!
To think that she doesn't have a heart is truly heartless.
(said in a deadpan voice)................k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 4, 2007 2:05 PM
auntykaz: If you read the conversations he/she has been having with himself, on the "other internet site" you can see that he/she has been "bannned" from the site, blaming other lunatics and psychos for bullying him/her(it)...Just seems to keep bouncing back with new monikers...
"Mavis"
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 2:01 PM
Quite frankly if this lordwhatever is who everyone seems to think he is then RSVP should have taken the bull by the horns long ago and dumped him very unceremoniously.............k
Posted by: auntykaz at November 4, 2007 1:53 PM
brilliantblue: Threats are not the only illegal acts to be perpetrated against fellow bloggers lately...Maybe the Fairfax legal tem will be called in...
"Mavis" - no, should trot over to the other site and check on who I've been called today...
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 1:37 PM
Thanks for your support "lord perfect".......
To "truman's cat" and 'brliantblue' he's not threatening anyone, you two are bullies, and "ninaschen" and 'ornamnetalonly' ...(and anyone else)..if you keep perpetuating this complete lie that i am a man posing as a woman or the muli-profiler!
"Lord perfect" is just telling the staff that they should think TWICE about letting libelous tripe through onto the blogs, as it could be their JOB at stake!
I will repeat again for ther intellectaly impaired..I am a woman, I am a new blogger, I have two engaged teenage daughters, and i don't take too kindly to libelous tripe from old hags!!!!
If I don't get an apolgy soon.....from these old hags, I will have to take stronger action..which they will NOT like!!!
I suggest the management instruct them to apologise for these false rumours, or be banned fromm posting anymore on the blogs.
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 4, 2007 1:35 PM
lordperfectlyinnocent: I guess it's ok for you to dish it out..diffent thing when it comes back to bite you in the bum, hey?
Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 1:34 PM
I normally just lurk on these bloggs and have to agree that they generally represent the same dysfunctionality of normal society....I am, first and foremost, a student of human behaviour.
Having said that though I must make some observations on recent posts.
Firstly I read the post by lordperfect and would suggest that this person actually learn the difference between defamation and libel. Having said that I could see nothing that was either defamatory OR libelous within Ornamentalonly's post primarily because no-one was identified by name (and there is extensive case history on this matter) further truth is an absolute defense to any action for libel or defamation.
Now brilliantblue perhaps there is more going on here than I have either the time or inclination to determine but lordperfects post wasn't a threat per se.
I appreciate that someone MIGHT determine it that way but equally it could be determined as being advice. Certainly on the content of that post there are no grounds to support a ban on any poster.
Posted by: justanormal1 at November 4, 2007 1:14 PM
I repeat YET AGAIN, that I want a public APOLOGY on these blogs from "ninashen" for daring to LIBELand SLANDER me in her postings by saying that I am a man, not a woman, and that i am the muli-profiler!!!
If she does NOT apologise, she should be baned from these blogs!
I see today that NEW people who also need to made to apologise are "brilliantblue"..who also repeats it by saying....""Somelifeinmeyet is a man trying to impersonate a woman."
This sort of lie could get you sued!( How would you like me to start saying that you are so thin, that YOU musrt be man pretending to be a woman?????)-------oh, you wouldn't like that would you????Well who do you think you are that you can make up this sort of tripe about other people????------(A hypocrit, that's what!!!)
Do you idiots on these blogs always go along with whatever "ninaschen" says??? Where are your brains?
Anyone who would tell such blatant lies about another blogger to try and get rid of them , obviously has ZERO credibility!!
She is getting you to do her dirty work for her, so that she can smoth her ego...getting you to say how nice she is, and complain about my blog about her and have it removed!
You are her foolish litle patsies! (Maybe it is her who aspires to be the queen of the blogs????How childish! Is this the only place where you can feel important "Ninaschen"??? I feel very sorry for you then, but you must stillp ay for the the numerous slanders, over and over again!
"ornamnetalonly" says...."Are they so bored and unhapy that htye have nothing to do with their lives, other than cause ongoing destruction in people's wellbeing???---I think.."ornamentalonly' that this coment should be directed to "ninaschen" ansd "brilliantblue" today.
And to "seraphsuzie' and .."weta" who said how nice "ninaschen :' is..if she is SO nice, ehen why does she keep saying that i am a man, posing as a woman????
(Remember that even Hitler had friends and family! Manipulative people are nice to those that they want to USE, that SUit their needs, and DUMP them immediately when they no longer suit their purpose!------------If you don't support me against these libelous attacks by "Ninaschen" and "Briliantblue"...remember that one day you will be NEXT on their list!
You will only then have YOURSELVES to blame, when the management does nothing!
Maybe next "ninaschen " and "Brilliant blue' wil accuse "seraphsuzie' and "Weta" of being men!! LOL!!!!..(or the mulit-profiler!! LOL!! YOu'll get what you deserve then!! LOL!!)
"Lordperfect" at 11.27am says.."In particular ask "ornamentalonly" for written proof of any alegations she might consider making that are either defamatory or libelous"-----------I totaly aggre with him, and direct this also to any in the nasty school yard bully clique , who think that they OWN this site!..such as "Ninaschen", "Brilliantblue", and anyone else who is a dribbling idiot that follows a crowd and hasn't got the guts to say to them..."that sounds outrageous"....and "shutup".
Next time she will lie about you! (remember by warning to you "wraecca" and "woodnwine"..mark my words!!!!.
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 4, 2007 1:00 PM
Lordperfect....that is a threat you directed towards RSVP staff....threats are illegal and people don't take kindly to being threathened.
You've just shown your true colours! quite frankly I hope your removed from this site if this is the sort of behaviour you wish to dish out at others!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 11:59 AM
LOL bigtime!
OO you have hit a nerve!
What a nerve, what a cheek! To threaten & to harangue, no doubt young RSVP staff. Very brave Lordperfect or whatever your current name is..... very noble... I think we have a name for that behaviour... it's called bullying.
Posted by: trumanscat at November 4, 2007 11:37 AM
To the Moderator of these blogs
You may be young. You may have a family. You may have a mortgage.
Be careful what you print.
In particular ask OrnamentalOnly for written proof of any allegations she might consider making that are either defamatory or libelous.
I would even suggest to you that you delay posting blogs from her under you consult Fairfax lawyers.
It is no fun for employees of any organisation to receive yellow slips because they fouled up big time and also, when unemployed face legal costs and jail time for criminal defamation
Posted by: lordperfect at November 4, 2007 11:27 AM
I'm not sure somelifeinmeyet is the same as that "other" controversial character but I gather "it" (judging by the support by other bloggers and their outrage,) has made an awful comment today re Ninaschen -which has been removed before I could read it.
It seems these two characters (past and present) have displayed a few traits in common...goading others beyond normal limits, to the point of being excluded if not banned.
Are they so bored and unhappy that they have nothing better to do with their lives, other than cause ongoing destruction in people's wellbeing?
Surely this type know the possible consequences to their actions, even if solely from one of their/its recent experiences?
Exhibiting signs of intelligence, no.
Supreme arrogance, possibly.
Rationality, doubtful.
Which leads to another question on whether or not, there are serious health issues contributing to the apparent decline in its posts.
I hope, whatever it is, it can be sorted out so there can be peace for us all.
-Especially for the deeply unhappy person who has brought about this latest furore.
Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 4, 2007 10:18 AM
Somelifeinmeyet...the only person we complain about is you and your numerous fake profiles...the games up ...go away!
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 3, 2007 11:29 PM
Somelifeinmeyet is a man trying to impersonate a women on his profile.
Posted by: brilliantblue at November 3, 2007 10:54 PM
somevenominmyheart
I know Ninaschen personally.....she is everything TC and Suzie say...and more......
.....I don't know you - thankfully........
Posted by: weta at November 3, 2007 10:42 PM
somelifeinmeyet.... I thought maybe you had changed a little in your blogs.. but of course a leopard never changes its spots. You have to be one of the nastiest, most uncaring, unfeeling women I have ever had the displeasure to come across on these blogs. I would have to say your even worse than Cynical and Anonymous. And yeah I know I am not being Christian .. but hey you talk to Ninaschen like that and I just have to say something. That woman could run rings around you.. she is a gorgeous lady.. with a heart of gold. Go back to the kitchen where you seem to belong and stop harrassing the people of the blogs. And I do apologise to the other bloggers for my outburst but I just couldn't let her get away with that one.
Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 3, 2007 10:09 PM
somelifeinmeyet. If you cannot determine that Ninaschen is a compassionate, warm woman then you are verging on the moronic.
Posted by: trumanscat at November 3, 2007 9:29 PM
Some of the "clique" used to complain about "the fotographers" comments. Now that he mainly posts jokes instead..they complain EVEN LOUDER!!!!
This just proves that its not WHAT he posts, but he himself that they object to!
So just carry on regardless .."the fotographer" , and the funny mixed profiler..and anyone ealse out there,as you can only please yourselves....
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 31, 2007 8:28 PM
I have men approach me when im out with friends and ask "do you want to go home with me and F***?) I have been asked to swap spit, been groped, harrased and MANY a night ruined from others thinking that because im out at night, that I want to pick up. However.... on rsvp i can safely sit here drink a glass of wine and politely say thanks but no thanks without hopefully hurting feelings and go to bed safely knowing i wont be followed, harrased or have to throw yet another good drink over someones head.
The kiss options definatley need an update, theres many an occasion where ive wanted to say "hi" or "that i agreed with someone" but not necessarily "i liked their photo"... does anyone use that?
i must say my favourite is "i want to be your valentine" if someone sent me a kiss with that message, i would so not know if they were joking or serious :)
I have kissed a few people that i though ti may get along with... and most replies where negative so ive stopped and soley only receive kisses and take it from there.
ps. if you are really keen/interested buy stamps and stop bloody complaining about options available and email the life stories of said kids please (or hook me up on a date with the single sons over 21!) :P
:) ps dont take life so seriously!
Posted by: lifesmint at October 29, 2007 2:32 AM
Just trying it out. Like the rest of this site, it's unbelievably dysfunctional.
Posted by: expatjamtart at October 27, 2007 12:08 AM
Get a life Earl. One outside the blogs. You are incredibly tedious. Your game is up. Move on. And you are STILL not welcome to lunch.
Posted by: ninaschen at October 26, 2007 11:46 PM
I can't see any of my new blogs on this one either. Where are they?
I did them last night, they should be up by now????
Must be the thunder we had today!
(Well I certainly wouldn't want it on my conscience that someone got hit by a lightening strike putting my posting up on the blog!).......but wouldn't offices have special high-tech protection for things like that????? After all, office work can't come to a standstill evertime there is rain?????
from.."Somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 4:57 PM
thank you Ninaschen, your support really is appreciated. He is coming home on the 4th Nov for a week, so it will be great to have him home, but really hard when he leaves! Am trying hard not to think about it....thanx again....jewels
Posted by: junebaby57 at October 25, 2007 11:44 PM
To "Ninaschen"..I can't believe that you finally found a post by someone that you didn't classify as boring!
(You even showed some feelings towards "junebaby")
Truy it seems that miracles still occur in life! LOL!!!!!
from.."Somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 25, 2007 10:54 PM
JuneBaby - my heart goes out to you! Really, really. My eyes welled as I (belatedly) read your post.
That could be my story, my son. He is also 21 and has been directionless for a while. He has toyed with 'joining up' realising he needs some focus in life. Like you, I don't want to discourage him but I can't bear the thought of him being at risk. He is a gentle giant with few social skills nor ingrained survival instincts. He would be eaten alive.
I have a temporary reprieve. He recently found some worthwhile employment and thoughts of joining the army have receded.
From one mother to another - my love and support to you.
XXX
Posted by: ninaschen at October 25, 2007 8:58 PM
Speaking of our children, I have 2 boys. The older one is in the army, he is 21 and going to Iraq in the last week of November. I have been telling myself that this is fine, he is happy in the army. He is doing well, and it has really straightened him out. He has volunteered, and tells me it is his job, and this is what he has trained for. He wants to go and don't worry mum!
But this afternoon there was a big envelope in the mail, a support pack from The Dept of Defence for families. So that made me cry, as it is really going to happen! The date is now set.
I think, and this was before he joined up, that we should now be out of Iraq, But once he joined, I don't talk about it as I want to be supportive of him. So I can't tell him my feelings, as he really wants to go, he is happy and has a purpose in his life. I don't need to burden him and I don't want him to worry about me.
So I am telling you guys! All have a lovely evening....jewels.
Posted by: junebaby57 at October 23, 2007 8:32 PM
To "auntykaz", you encouraged your children then in what they wanted to do.....that is a VERY VALUABLE thing that you did, and not to be tossed aside lightly!
If more people encouraged their children and uplifted them, (instead of criticising and discouraging them), there would be more sane and well adjusted children.
I use encouragenment all the tiime with my children , and I find that it is a good method to use with all my pets, aswell, (no matter what type they are.)(Not only dogs and cats, which people think are intelligent, and that other animals are not smart enough to be trained or understand things......I have found that even my chickens will come when called by their individual names!!!)
Praise reinforces the good behaviours, eliminating the need to be in conflict with pets or children.
Maybe more people could try using praise in the workforce too, instead of swearing at and abusing their staff!
FRom.."Somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 4:44 PM
somelifeinmeyet builder son has wanted to be a builder since he was 12, and followed his "dream" right through high school.
He took me to see a house he had been working on for 12 months or so last week, on a cliff at waters edge just near where we live and it was absolutely beautiful (mind you it was a $2m renovation / extension of a beach shack!!
I was so proud of him, seeing the fantastic workmanship that had gone into this house. Having only seen him coming home covered in plaster, paint, grime and dirt for the past 2 years, l certainly now am aware of his passion for his chosen career.
Daughter on the other hand had no idea what she wanted to do after year 12 and it was actually one of her teachers who aimed her in the area of nursing, not me. Having worked in nursing myself - and still do - l didn't feel it was my place to influence her decision.
She now works at the same Aged Care Facility that l do and she very much enjoys it.
The residents all love having younger people looking after them, as there aren't that many really, and l quite admire her for wanting to work with the elderly. I know that when l was her age , 21, the last thing l wanted to do was look after old people.
So somelifinmeyet, l take credit for having 2 kids who are very mature and sensible, but take no credit for their career paths. All l did there was encourage them to do what THEY wanted, not what l wanted them to do..............k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 19, 2007 8:32 PM
Nothing new on this blog either! Very disappointing, especially after waiting ages for it to begin scrolling!What a waste of time!
from "somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 18, 2007 11:05 PM
hi feta63 happy birthday for that day. i will be there with bells on voting little johnny and his despicable ir laws out the door good luck
Posted by: chad1958 at October 18, 2007 4:55 PM
To "aunty kaz" Oct 15th..how delightful..one can build you a grannyflat, and the other can care for you when you are old! LOL! >I"d make them stick to it..especially as you raised them, and they wouldn't probably be in those professions if it wasn't for you, so when you are old they can pay you back!
I only have daughters, so I would need a nice son-in-law to build me a flat!..LOL!!
From "Somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 18, 2007 2:18 PM
mushie6, thanks for that. I guess I can't have done too bad a job, but I was quite young when I had my daughter and in lots of ways I think we kind of grew up together, so I definitely made mistakes.... but obviously I realise everyone inadvertently does.
I agree with whoever it was that said in the blogs about the giving of love being the most important thing in child rearing, and would second that. If a person knows they're loved deep within, everything in life just flows so much easier because of it. And well done to you - 6 children to raise on your own! I can't begin to imagine how difficult that must have been at times.
Yes, Ninaschen, I totally concur with what you were saying and think it is a lot to do with why it's been taking me such a while to find a "serious" relationship I was happy to embark on. And it's one of those weird things -you think it's never going to happen, and then suddenly out of the blue it does with no effort. But that's the ephemeral nature of life really, isn't it - or maybe it isn't, but I like the word and just want to use it anyway - relevant or not! teehee
Posted by: malsie at October 16, 2007 7:02 PM
Good point, Malsie! So true. There are certainly men out there - but not too many I would want to persue a relationship with, so far. I am fussy and I don't want someone around just for the sake of it. My time will come, I am confident. If not, I have wonderful friends to share my life with. They make me warm and fuzzy inside. What more could I ask for? Hmmm, well, I could maybe think of a thing or two....
Fefa - your 'uncoming birthday' glitch will stay with me forever, I think! When my son was little, he wrote me a card saying 'happy boffday'. My kids and I always wish each other a 'happy boffday' now. It will now be a 'happy uncoming boffday' thanks to you! Still love it! Still chuckling!
Posted by: ninaschen at October 15, 2007 11:23 PM
Hey everyone,
It looks like little Johnnie didn't want to forget my "uncoming birthday", he decided it would be a good day to re-apply for his job. Pity I also have to work that day. It's the first time in my whole life where I have to work on my birthday, and a Saturday at that (bugger). So when you are all off voting, spare a thought for me, with my nose to the grindstone, earning more tax dollars for the next PM.
Jenny :)
Posted by: fefa63 at October 15, 2007 10:59 PM
Malsie I would not call it luck..you were your child's role model and she has turned out well because of you. And I agree that raising children alone is challenging, in fact I would call it more than challenging having reared 6 young children alone after their father died at 43. Parenting is not easy at any time and especially today when there is so much peer pressure.That was almost non existent in the 60's. I am glad I am not raising children today when there are so many more problems and pressures on parents.
Posted by: mushie6 at October 15, 2007 4:27 PM
Ninaschen, yes, raising a child as a single parent is definitely "challenging". I had a couple of relationships when my daughter was growing up where my partner was a positive father figure for her, but essentially she was still my responsibility (she doesn't actually know her father, although knows about him, of course, and chooses not to know him in person, for good reasons).
That sharing and support of a good partner with a shared child is something I really wished I'd had. But things were as they were, and she's grown up to be the most delightful and balanced 28-year-old I could ever have wished to have given birth to. I reckon I got damn lucky!
By the way, I hope Saturday is a hoot (bet it will be) and happy birthday. I don't know what you're on about with the "less desirable" bit (all very subjective, isn't it!). Perhaps like a few of us as we're maturing, it's not specifically lack of interest from men that's the problem, but our own discernment and need to be attracted back. Getting the two to click seemingly such a hard thing to attain.
Posted by: malsie at October 15, 2007 3:58 PM
Have a nice day off Kaz. Dealing with children when you are in a relationship can also be tricky but life wasn't meant to be easy.
Posted by: woodnwine at October 15, 2007 1:40 PM
auntykaz - who has an answer for everything -says thats an easy one, woodnwine,.. my kids have never been to their fathers house, they have a less than ideal relationship with him unfortunately, and see him rarely.
I consider myself to be a fairly easygoing mum, my kids are 19 and 21 and adults, and for the most part we live in a harmonious household.
God yes we have our differences however l am proud that they both are in careers that they chose at an early age and both love, Building and Nursing.
He can build me a granny flat when l am old and grey, she can look after me.
Ha yeah right.... l threaten them with that from time to time and strangely the response is not what l would like.....k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 15, 2007 12:40 PM
This has nothing to do with the topic of kisses but everyone seems to be talking about it so let's make it the current topic - Kids. I hear what everyone is saying but would just like to throw the word "step" in front. Now that can be tricky! Enforcing discipline on children can be difficult at the best of times but when they are step children it can involve new problems.
I laughed when I read auntykaz talking about whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher, sounds familiar. What about when you get a reply like "but I don't have to do that at Dad's place"?
Posted by: woodnwine at October 15, 2007 12:08 PM
Fefa - I love it! 'uncoming birthday'! Exactly what I am wishing for. You made me laugh. Thanks!
Suzie - Thanks. Again!
Posted by: ninaschen at October 14, 2007 12:20 AM
Ninaschen... you are no less desirable i am sure then you were when the kids were younger.. Its just that the men out there perhaps are just blind and stupid? hehe ;-)
And I wish I could give you a birthday hug for when it comes around :-)
And fefa its cool ;-) and thankyou
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 14, 2007 12:14 AM
Oops again, that was meant to be upcoming birthday Ninaschen. Gee, I must be having a bad night,
Jenny :)
Posted by: fefa63 at October 14, 2007 12:07 AM
3rd or 4th attempt at posting,
Seraphsuzie, Re your Oct 12 message, I luv your sense of humour and sane messages, keep it up. Also hope that today is a better day with the kids. The man, well not sure there, you might be better without him?? I don't know as my "man advice" is not always very good, which is why I and all the rest of us are here! But there is a big "man" ocean out there. Have a gr8 day.
Ninaschen, thank you for the friendship kiss, I appreciate the support, hope your lunch with other bloggers in Vic goes well…all have fun.
Rocco61, great makeover, I hope it works well for you. Your daughter must love you very much to help you in your dating adventure, you must be very proud of her.
Wishing a gr8 Saturday to all ....jewels.
Posted by: junebaby57 at October 14, 2007 12:02 AM
Oops, sorry Seraphsuzie, I didn't mean to get your name the wrong way around. I must have been having a "grey" moment.
Jenny :)
Posted by: fefa63 at October 14, 2007 12:02 AM
Yes, dating when you have kids is certainly a balancing act. When I first left my husband, I put a lock on my bedroom door, to get my kids used to the idea that sometimes Mummy wants privacy. Not that I needed it for quite a while, but it has been a lifesaver on the odd occasion (Even with a steady boyfriend, you don't want the kids surprising you first thing in the morning).
Now that my kids are grown up they tell me that they "have to" meet anyone I plan to date, to "check him out". They are a bit like Mama's Mafia. I think they want to warn any guy that comes near me that he had better do the right thing, or else!!! Nice that they care, but a bit daunting for any prospective dates. Needless to say, I DO keep secrets from my kids, even if it is just to enjoy some privacy in my social life.
Happy uncoming birthday Ninaschen. When is the joyous day? Mine is towards the end on November. Another year down, hopefully not another one on the shelf.
Jenny:)
Posted by: fefa63 at October 13, 2007 11:59 PM
Now there is a more appropriate topic for a blog! The tribulations of dealing with children in a single-parent household. And the tribulations of dating when you have sole responsibility for those children.
Both mine have left home now (but still cause me a little grief, at times) but I clearly remember the anguish I would go through when they were younger and it was time to make a major decision that might affect the course of their lives. Sharing that responsibility with a partner was so much easier. A problem shared, is a problem halved. But when I was on my own, I was acutely aware that if I made a wrong decision, the responsibility was mine alone. It was scary, at times.
Somewhere, on another blog I think (they tend to blur, a bit), there was mention of dating discreetly when children are in the home. As discussed there, I too (as I am sure we all have), sacrificed dating and more intimate opportunities because of the kids. Now that they are grown and relatively independent (are they ever?) I am of course much older and my prospects of finding companionship are diminished.
It is not their fault and I don't hold them responsible nor resent them for it. I love them dearly. But, gee, now I am older and less desirable and seem to be relegated to the scrap heap. That sounds a bit bitter, doesn't it? I don't mean it to. That is just the way it is. But I don’t like it, as I know I have a lot to offer. Can you tell I have a birthday coming up and I am marking the passing of the years?
Posted by: ninaschen at October 13, 2007 11:43 PM
Seraphsuzie, our kids can at times wear our patience thin can't they?
my 19 year old son can be an absolute hothead over the smallest of things and we have enormous arguments over something as trivial as whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher!
You know the "l did it last time l always have to do it"
variety that ends in a bunfight.
I have at times become hoarse with anger at him as one thing leads to another as they often do in these situations.
We always get over it - eventually - and l always know that we will, but they are upsetting incidents in our life that we do regret and apologise for.
On the other hand he is sooooo protective of me and his sister which makes me proud to be his mother.
I guess its all about hanging in there and getting over the bad times...........k
Posted by: auntykaz at October 13, 2007 10:02 PM
Hang in there Suzieseraph,
Being a single parent is the hardest job in the world (not helped by a government who thinks we should be working full time by the time our children are teenagers - just at the time when they are most likely to get into strife when unsupervised). I have 3 grown sons, who are only just adults, but who act like toddlers when things aren't going the way they want them to. I have had to make some pretty tough decisions along the way, which weren't always popular with the boys, but which were in their best interests in the long term. They have been very angry with me at times, but that passes, and they know that I only do what I have to do because I love them so much.
Just keep your focus on your children's long term well being and keep telling them how much you love them. They will come around, when the emotion has settled.
Chin up!!!
Jenny :)
Posted by: fefa63 at October 13, 2007 9:45 PM
Thanks Ornamental and Wishing... your words of support and sharing your own situations are very much appreciated as is all the support from these blogs I have received.
I had a great day today with my youngest daughter, went to Newcastle to have lunch with my Mum and Dad... and laughed and laughed.. just the right type of medicine for what ails me! And of course having a good old whinge to my Mum who completely understands was great too!! :-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 13, 2007 7:28 PM
Seraphsuzie,
I don’t know what happened with your children this week but I had a run in with my son about a few ongoing, unresolved issues.
I hate it when I have conflict with my children and my first reaction is to give in to restore peace. I stood firm this week and have not had contact and it is killing me, but I won’t let him think what he is doing is right. I guess this is the hard part of being a mother, and as they get older it does not, in any way, become easier.
Hold firm and strong, but as you say always supportive and loving!! There is a saying that if you truly love someone let them go. They always come back.
Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 13, 2007 1:40 PM
Seraphsuzie,
I don�t know what happened with your children this week but I had a run in with my son about a few ongoing, unresolved issues.
I hate it when I have conflict with my children and my first reaction is to give in to restore peace. I stood firm this week and have not had contact and it is killing me, but I won�t let him think what he is doing is right. I guess this is the hard part of being a mother, and as they get older it does not, in any way, become easier.
Hold firm and strong, but as you say always supportive and loving!! There is a saying that if you truly love someone let them go. They always come back.
Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 13, 2007 9:07 AM
Seraphsuzie, Re your Oct 12 message, I luv your sense of humour and sane messages, keep it up. Also hope that today is a better day with the kids. The man, well not sure there, you might be better without him?? I don't know as my "man advice" is not always very good, which is why I and all the rest of us are here! But there is a big "man" ocean out there. Have a gr8 day.
Ninaschen, thank you for the friendship kiss, I appreciate the support, hope your lunch with other bloggers in Vic goes well, all have fun.
Wishing a gr8 Saturday to all ....jewels.
Posted by: junebaby57 at October 13, 2007 9:07 AM
Re post by: ninaschen at October 12, 2007 9:12 PM,
"funnier" than you may realise...
Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 13, 2007 1:43 AM
Posting by seraphsuzie at October 12, 2007 6:24 PM.
Suzie, my sincerest sympathy (not just empathy) with your situation... You are brave enough to talk about it on here and I admire you for that. Keep going, know that you'll always be there for your children when they are down. (If like me, you can't help that instinct.)
Even if they are not necessarily there for you and are perhaps, denigraters.
It is wise to protect yourself from those nearest and dearest.
I had to do that yet again, last night from the Big O (6'4" son at home) and it wasn't pleasant. It never is.
Like you said seraphsuzie, it will take more than a day. But, when you do move on from it, you will be one, resilient person.
I find the experience can help especially, when other people think they may be hurting you with their puerile actions and you just honestly laugh. Because it aint as bad as what you've already been through.
Now back to appreciation of your humour, seraphsuzie. Your post at October 12, 2007 6:09 PM -so apt! *grin*
P.S. A virtual hug to you, just like Wraecca's. :)
Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 13, 2007 1:35 AM
Seraphsuzie, I am only a part time blogger, but every time i read an entry of yours i at the very least smile broadly but more often than not actually laugh out loud. Was really sad to read your entry tonight as i have had a peek at your profile and its like your blog entries,warm witty and wise. Love the purple in your hair, mern will come and go... have learnt this the hard way and your children will return to you, how could they not. You are so NOT yuk or unlovable. This blogger thinks your great!!!!!!!!!
Posted by: dolphin46 at October 12, 2007 11:07 PM
SeraphSuzie, if you need someone to talk to, let me know, and I'll be ready to listen. Saying that, I don't have any stamps at the moment, won't be getting any until Wednesday, so we'd have to find a way around that little mess :(
Chin up, stay strong, and know that we all love you, ok?
Wraecca.
Posted by: wraecca at October 12, 2007 10:45 PM
Ha! Wondered when you would 'out' yourself, Stormtrooper! You wouldn't also happen to be related to Lurker, would you? You are a funny man!
Posted by: ninaschen at October 12, 2007 9:12 PM
thanks Wraecca.. your a sweetie :-)
This will take more than a day to get over though..
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 12, 2007 8:42 PM
SeraphSuzie, I am sending you a hug via the blogs.....
***SQUEEZE***
I hope this helps a little, and I hope you feel better soon. Just know, like I did when I was feeling down the other day, that there are plenty on these blogs who think you're wonderful.
You are wonderful, ok?
Love and huggles,
Wraecca
Posted by: wraecca at October 12, 2007 8:31 PM
hehe thanks HC.. :-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 12, 2007 7:30 PM
Seraphsuzie: Luv it!!! Wish my wit was as sharp whenever I have my bad days!
Posted by: hiddencharms at October 12, 2007 6:57 PM
Its ok wraecca.. I have just had a hell day.. been rejected not only by a man.. but also by my eldest two kids.. so I am feeling very unlovable and yuck right now..
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 12, 2007 6:24 PM
SeraphSuzie, are you in need of a new wooden spoon at all? It's just with all the stirring you do, I'm wondering if your old one has worn out yet.....
-laugh-
You always bring a smile to my face, and give me a laugh, Suzie. Keep up the enjoyable reading, lol.
And please, take this in the vein that it is meant - a gentle stirring of my own, no offense meant, just a gentle ribbing from a friend.
Wraecca.
Posted by: wraecca at October 12, 2007 6:14 PM
somelifeinmeyet.. Your the most beautiful person I have ever seen on these blogs.. your so kind and considerate of others feelings.. you bring a big smile to my face every time I read your blogs.. Keep up the good work..
And if you believe that then you will believe anything :-)
Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 12, 2007 6:09 PM
How about a kiss that says - Gee you really have tickets on yourself, are there any left?
Posted by: woodnwine at October 11, 2007 2:00 PM
femalepersuasion - maybe I am too conservative and need to be more adventurous, thanks for the comments. The photo was taken a long time ago at Byron Bay, when it was a nice, remote downmarket place for surfies and hippies to hang out.
Posted by: woodnwine at October 10, 2007 8:24 PM
From "Somelifeinmeyet" to "Jessfranco"...is that your experience of this site?I have seen this behaviour in singles groups before too! (Racism)
Has it ever occurred to you that its NOT why you think???????...That its because southern european usually means catholic...and the "godless" on these blogs despise religion???
Did you see how someone on this site recently accused me of being a christian, (even though NONE of my blogs say that I am a christian...) because then she thought some whose views she previously knew well would jump in WITHOUT reading my ACTUAL blog and start vilifying me..), and then SHE started raving on against me, and about lesbians, and jesus and prostitutes etc;??????????
And a few DID make IDIOTS of themselves, jumping to agree with her, before they even read my actual blog!! LOL!!!!
So you see "Jessfranco" it could be a "religious racism" that is your problem.
But you wouldn't want a woman like that anyhow , would you????
Hang in there "Jessfranco" for a better class of woman...as the new ads on tv may very well bring the lady of your dreams on to the site
Summertime will bring more "romance punters" out of cobwebs, so don't give up yet!!!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
From "Somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 9, 2007 1:01 PM
I would like to be able to reply to a kiss reply - any chance of considering this ED? The one I would like to be able to send is "why".
Posted by: woodnwine at October 9, 2007 12:59 PM
I think that I have replied to all the kisses I have received, but as I have so many, it is hard to keep track.(Even though they are printed up in the "Inbox" and my replies are in the "outbox")
So I had another look again today at some to double check.
After a couple of back and forth "kisses' its probably time to email I suppose, (but I am glad that I took the friendship no further with acouple of ladies on these blogs,as chatting with them would have been asking for trouble, now that I have seen what they have written about me on the blogs!!!!)
To anyone sane, normal and nice that I have not replied to with a kiss, maybe none of the selection seemed suitable, or it is an oversight.(Or after two kisses, I couldn't think of a third one).
But thanks for the kisses that you sent to me so far, it is very encouraging.
from "Somelifeinmeyet'
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 9, 2007 12:49 PM
jessfranco, I have sent you a 'kiss' with no message attached. I have sent it to you as a show of support. Not every woman on RSVP desires 'perfection'. I'd hate to have a 'perfect' partner, they'd always be right, and possibly quite self-righteous to boot. The flaws and frailties that make us unique is what I look for, and how a person lives with or in spite of these flaws/frailties.
I'm not perfect, in fact, I'm far from it. I want to find someone who appreciates me, cares about me, and wants to be with me. I want to find someone who I can do the same for back. Perfection isn't the answer, why look for it?
By the way, I am a real person. If you look at my profile, it is who I am. I am open and honest with what I have put in there; however there are also things I have left unsaid, as does everyone. I am not perfect, do not profess to be, nor is it a requirement for the person I am seeking.
Stay strong, be happy, and I hope you find what you are looking for.
Wraecca.
Posted by: wraecca at October 9, 2007 12:09 PM
I would like to be able to ask a basic question in a kiss reply and would be happy to have it censored by RSVP before going through. I often get kisses from women who live interstate and don't know what their intention is (unless I recognise them as bloggers). I would like to be able to ask a question like "please let me know why you kissed me". Trouble is then they would have to be able to send a short reply.
Posted by: woodnwine at October 8, 2007 7:53 AM
from "Somelifeinmeyet"..I like "Googlesback" idea of a "Reminder kiss", to remind people that they haven't responded yet.
Also some indication from the management, that they expect ALL kisses to be responded to, whether "yeah" or "Nay"..would be good.( And of course, to insist on this, they would have to provide a MUCH BROADER selection of friendship only, thankyou, yes and refusals!)
From "Somelifeinmeyet"
Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 3, 2007 5:07 PM
jessfranco - I take it from your comment that you are somewhat disillusioned with the online dating game. I have to agree it sure is difficult as many women do seem to want complete perfection in a man even though they claim men are shallow. Seems like we are as bad as each other, doesn't it. Why not give it a break for a few weeks or a month like I did and remove the stress?
Funny how the human mind works though, isn't it? I send off kisses to women who I truly think could be a good match and most reply that I do not fit their ideal partner criteria; then I get kisses from women who I think couldn't be less suited to me if they tried. Are we all going crazy? Did someone mention dementia?
Posted by: woodnwine at October 3, 2007 8:59 AM
rsvp kisses.Bollocks.Perfection is the only criteria excepted from neurotic female members.And oh yes if your a wog forget about your chances.You might as well join a monestary,it's more fun!
Posted by: jessfranco at October 1, 2007 5:28 PM
I feel a new & appropiate Kiss could say, in response to a new one received, "thankyou for your Kiss, I look forward to receiving your email soon"
Posted by: mrsbubbles1 at September 25, 2007 9:15 PM
Could I have a kiss that says "I'm in love with you already" even though we've never met.
Or: "I'm in love with your profile. Can I borrow it and take it out to dinner."
Posted by: noiceguy1 at September 22, 2007 2:05 PM
Encouragement VK to you too, wraecca! :)
Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 17, 2007 10:28 AM
I *really* wish that RSVP would add some kisses that are meant only in the spirit of friendship! I have recently received some kisses from people who seem lovely, but because there isn't a "would like to develop a friendship" style kiss reply out there, I've gone and used stamps to email them a thank you. Not that I mind spending stamps, because I always enjoy making new friends, but some of these kisses are from fellow bloggers who are just wanting to encourage me, or to say "keep up your positive attitude". I know that RSVP is going to add another kiss/reply, hopefully more than one, but there really needs to be more variety when it comes to potential friends/pen pals.
While I'm here, *kiss* to all you lovely, supportive, positive people out there in the land of blog, keep your chin up, head high, and know that this kiss is an encouragement one.
Happy Hunting everyone!!
Posted by: wraecca at September 16, 2007 12:03 PM
I've been thinking about this lately - do we really care WHY people don't want to date us?
If there was just 1 Kiss reply a "Thanks but no thanks" kind of reply, wouldn't that be plenty?
If someone gets a "Not following up your contact at the current time" reply, do they sit and wait until their kissee will follow it up? No, they kiss someone else (They do, don't they, please say they do!)
Does it really make the kissee feel better if they send a "Have you even read my profile" reply? I'd really hope it wouldn't.
So, to my mind, there's no need for all the pfaff after "No thanks" part of the reply.
If you get a kiss from someone and they have potential that you can't follow up right away, you could send a Negative response, then when you could follow up, send them a kiss and be prepared to use a stamp to email and explain the earlier no thanks?
Posted by: dt1974 at September 15, 2007 11:26 AM
Young man/Biggsy at September 14, 2007 12:34 AM, consider yourself sent a simple VK of admiration for your humour. :)
Signed by
One who knows she's not what you're looking for!!
(Aka the old man fancier.)
Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 15, 2007 12:21 AM
Many good comments on here - it will be interesting to see if I decide to return down the track if any of your suggestions have been taken on board. For now, goodbye and keep blogging positively - give negativity a wide berth.
Posted by: woodnwine at September 14, 2007 11:31 AM
It is all good and well to receive a kiss from someone...it is even better when you are interested in the person who has sent it.
However there are times when you read the other person's profile and, although many of th
Has the money spent on tv brought more members to the site. I dont think so thought about opening a chat room seems to me we already have one
Posted by: nova777 at November 25, 2007 2:06 PM