RSVP Blog

Woodnwine: I had enough trouble sitting here, writing myself my own, new, unique profile - without the desire to write other profiles.

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 20, 2007 11:56 PM

its like getting left at the altar really isnt it................

Posted by: twoeyes at November 19, 2007 11:09 PM

oops...hidden...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 19, 2007 6:18 PM

brilliantblue: yet another reason to keep your photos hidded - myspace beware...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 19, 2007 6:18 PM

jpkool: Ha ha! You havev an admirer! Will you wear white?

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 19, 2007 6:00 PM

i have been searching for over a year now on various dating net site. i have been engaged twice and have learned many things which i will pass onto you. She must have a smile , her religion must be compatibie with yours, education minimum high school. get her telephone number and talk on the phone , this is the key to tell you her education and your compatibility. and when you look into hr picture can you see what is behind the picture. Good luck

Posted by: joey101 at November 19, 2007 5:19 PM

Oh no jpkool - now you've chased her away. What will you do now? You'll have to send another kiss to OLDG, he likes you.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 19, 2007 12:05 PM

jpkool - careful or you might trip over something.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 19, 2007 12:03 PM

Hi female persuasion a bit of fine tuning would be appreciated. Im not a one night kind of guy, I would like a long term partner. Someone with kids or is very understanding with someone who does have kids. Someone who is not going to get upset everytime I go off to work. A equal, partner. Thank you Muttley

Posted by: muttley1967 at November 19, 2007 12:31 AM

Femalepersuasion - yes hands up I agree - the photo is totally rubbish. Not good after a night shift!!

Posted by: muttley1967 at November 19, 2007 12:19 AM

Excuse me femalepersuasion, you say you write profiles. Just as a matter of interest can you please tell me what I am doing wrong. The only interest I have seen since I updated my profile has been from 3 men, someone in Botswana and a lady who is older than my own mother!! Thankyou.

Posted by: muttley1967 at November 18, 2007 11:48 PM

I asked madam earlier tonight whether I had kissed every profile I was supposed to kiss, in umbrage and grovelling. Obviously missed one

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 10:29 PM

No

I’m not leaving till I can drag my sweetie off this site and get her to the altar

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 10:11 PM

onlineguru, so if I keep sending kisses, you will eventually leave?

Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 10:09 PM

jovial67, I think it is the package that you fall for. Not just the wrapping.

Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 10:07 PM

Mr Kool

You kissed me in my previous incarnation, which caused me to abandon that persona post haste, leaving behind a trail of broken hearts. And now they no longer pine for me. Sigh

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 10:07 PM

onlineguru, I did not send you a kiss, duckie.

Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 9:52 PM

female persuasion, I would have sent you a kiss, however I am a bit confused. Who are you? I noticed that your profile reads almost word for word the same as hiddencharms. As I know hc, and that she has used the same profile for quite some time, I can only assume that your imitation of her profile is the highest form of flattery? I don't think hc would be amused.

Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 9:50 PM

Seraphsuzie great idea to have a BIG one next year. I would definitely be in that,would also like to get to another small one if that happens too.
PS guru, your play list {from other blog} seems to include a few songs from the years that "us oldies" were not much older than you. Not bad taste in some of them for one soooo young.

Posted by: dolphin46 at November 18, 2007 9:40 PM

Jovial67, I agree with seraphsuzies comment, also do you actually meet these people and then decide there is no attraction or judge by their profile pics? I have learnt not too judge too much on photos as all the people i have actually met in person are a quite different "in the flesh" and usually for the better. Its just a thought.

Seraphsuzie glad to hear yesterday at Parramatta was fun,sorry i could not make it.Any talk of the next one???? Maybe in the New Year??

Posted by: dolphin46 at November 18, 2007 9:17 PM

seraphsuzie - You're not the first person to say that (including my mother!). I've met some really nice people on this site and to-date have had no bad experiences, although I have had a couple of funny ones though, including one girl who, on our second date, fell down the stairs and fractured her ankle! I ended up dating her for six months in the hope that I would grow to "love" her, but alas it didn't happen. Heck of a nice girl though.

Posted by: jovial67 at November 18, 2007 9:07 PM

jovial67.. did you ever think that there meeting someone may not be just based on looks but if you actually took the time to get to know someone you might become attracted to them in time?

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 18, 2007 8:55 PM

Why is it that the best profiles (who actually seem to have a personality) are written by women who I'm not physically attracted to? Surely appearance in not inversely proportional to intelligence????

Posted by: jovial67 at November 18, 2007 8:47 PM

butler thats indicative of a lot of people. dont take it to heart.....

Posted by: twoeyes at November 18, 2007 6:00 PM

Any kind of positive response has got to be good. A cheer and wanting to know if you are interested in making contact would be the same as sending a kiss. So a cheer to say great profile would be good motivation and let's you know you are not speaking a different language to everyone else. Perhaps RSVP should show the profiles which receive the most cheers in a top ten. I believe in being courteous and if someone sends you a kiss you should respond, even if it was a "hell, no". So that's a maybe in the future then!!

Posted by: muttley1967 at November 18, 2007 12:53 PM

An option to send an encouragement kiss is a great idea. I've read so many wonderful profiles that (sadly) don't meet my ideal partner profile, but I would love to nonetheless let them know that they I enjoyed reading them.

Posted by: jovial67 at November 18, 2007 11:26 AM

Mr Kool. If you want to go round kissing strange men, please wait till Mardi Gras time. I might be more in the mood then duckie.

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 3:45 AM

If you have an ounce of sense deter them as politely as possible. If not I have some swampland you might be interested in

Posted by: brane at November 18, 2007 1:17 AM

I sent out kisses to most of the bloggers, just ot show that I am who I am and not the crazy myspace person. I received a couple of kisses back. Thanks ladies, with manners. I'm very confused as to wht to say to the prospective international brides who keep contacting me?

Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 12:36 AM

Ornamentalonly - defend yourself? Against what? What problem do you have with me? Please spit it out because I have no idea where all this is coming from or where it is heading, but please don't assume too much because you know what they say....

Can anyone else enlighten me? What is it that I have missed?

Ornamentalonly - if you and Earl have problems, take it up with him, not me. Is that it? Please tell me, someone!!

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 9:53 AM

woodnwine, I defend myself.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 1:24 AM

Anne - please stop picking on me.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 12:05 AM

Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 4:55 PM,
>"I would like to send an encouragement kiss to Earl but I don't know where to look any more.
>Earl, you are doing such a good job you deserve some extra encouragement.
>I just wish they would change the word kiss - uuurgh. Maybe an encouragement pat on the back would be better."

woodnwine at November 13, 2007 4:55 PM,

seeing as you want to pat Earl on the back

(and it also appears you have joined forces with the originator of the previous WoodnWhine on MySpace.com where our resident MIB exactly copied your RSVP profile.)

why don't you do it on MySpace.com where your RSVP nickname is spelt exactly as you have on here.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 14, 2007 11:51 PM

Butler 12/11 what you haven't worked out yet is that it doesn't matter what you put in your profile because 90% of RSVPers can't seem to read, they just look at the pictures

Posted by: naudy at November 14, 2007 10:33 PM

Hey Butler, I have to agree with malsie re the kiss responses. It is just a way to say hi, don't worry about the actual wording to much.
I always respond to a kiss, if I am interested, with looking forward to your email soon option. If they are really interested, you will get an email from them, If you never hear from them again, it is there loss.
The colgate responses were gr8, what happened to them.
Have a lovely evening.
jewels.

Posted by: junebaby57 at November 14, 2007 9:46 PM

A shame the Colgate smile kisses were dropped.
They were the ideal responses we wanted.

Posted by: not4real at November 14, 2007 5:28 PM

butler, I always assumed any of the "kiss" messages were just a way to say "hi, would like to get to know you" (although I realise there is some ambiguity as in "are you just commenting you like my smile in passing, or like it enough you want to know me better?")

But in all my dealings have used it to assume the former, and don't think I've been wrong yet. Although some that really don't seem to match - like "lots in common" when you just don't, is a little concerning in terms of the other person's comprehension skills! Still, I reckon if you're at all interested, respond positively anyway, and see what happens! Good luck.

Posted by: malsie at November 14, 2007 3:26 PM

welcome to RSVP reality artois81........

.........your comments/observations about the total lack of response from the temple hierarchy and apparatchiks masquerading as "RSVP customer service", have been well documented and aired by a veritable conga-line of the blogger congregation (no connotation with the Latham acid-tongue intended, fellow bloggers - merely a colourful metaphor).

It's all about the bottom line really....and there's four-fifths of bugger-all in an income stream related to realistic/meaningful/appropriate kiss replies....

.......RSVP customer service reading/hearing/listening to/responding to bloggers suggestions is an oxymoron.....or some sort other sort of moron......

......hmmmm......

Posted by: theundertoad at November 14, 2007 2:31 PM

[sorry this may end up being a duplicate]

I've been on RSVP for all of a week and already have a list of gripes the length of my arm!
I was going to come on here and query the ambiguity of kiss responses that tell me that someone likes my smile or my sense of humour or my photo. To now I've taken it as a sign of interest and responded accordingly based on my reciprocol interest. Having stepped back to think about it they could actually not be interested at all and just complimenting me and in turn I look like an idiot...though even with this potential realisation in mind I can still only reply as an accept of reject!

So I've stumbled upon this query from RSVP only to discover its 3 months old and a common theme running through the blogs I have perused is the need to alter the kiss options. Clearly RSVP isnt listening so why do they bother asking?!

It appears that although this is a great concept we are provided with substandard tools at an exhorbitant cost. The site appears to be clunky, the blogs are bordering on the ridiculous in their relevance and speed of update and one can only work within the parameters of the ludicrous kisses and kiss responses... unless you are willing to fork out $10 per month to be an RSViP.

I'm not an entirely negative person but after such a short time I find this frustrating and can only imagine how those who have been here fore a while and made such suggestions before feel.

As far as I can ascertain RSVP seems to hold it's member in contempt and it's just not right!

Posted by: artois81 at November 14, 2007 2:04 PM

I've been on RSVP for all of a week and already have a list of gripes the length of my arm!
I was going to come on here and query the ambiguity of kiss responses that tell me that someone likes my smile or my sense of humour or my photo. To now I've taken it as a sign of interest and responded accordingly based on my reciprocol interest. Having stepped back to think about it they could actually not be interested at all and just complimenting me and in turn I look like an idiot...though even with this potential realisation in mind I can still only reply as an accept or reject!

So I've stumbled upon this query from RSVP only to discover its 3 months old and a common theme running through the blogs I have perused is the need to alter the kiss options. Clearly RSVP isnt listening so why do they bother asking?!

It appears that although this is a great concept we are provided with substandard tools at an exhorbitant cost. The site appears to be clunky, the blogs are bordering on the ridiculous in their relevance and speed of update and one can only work within the parameters of the ludicrous kisses and kiss responses... unless you are willing to fork out $10 per month to be an RSViP.

I'm not an entirely negative person but after such a short time I find this frustrating and can only imagine how those who have been here fore a while and made such suggestions before feel.

As far as I can ascertain RSVP seems to hold it's member in contempt and it's just not right!

Posted by: artois81 at November 14, 2007 2:03 PM

what part of nz r you from weta???

Dunedin is my home town

Posted by: twoeyes at November 14, 2007 9:32 AM

Hey istj54, I wasn't talking to you - I was talking to you.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 9:16 AM

And I thank you Weta, for that understanding.

Posted by: istj54 at November 13, 2007 5:58 PM

You can pat me anywhere darlin'

Posted by: istj54 at November 13, 2007 5:56 PM

I would like to send an encouragement kiss to Earl but I don't know where to look any more. Earl, you are doing such a good job you deserve some extra encouragement. I just wish they would change the word kiss - uuurgh. Maybe an encouragement pat on the back would be better.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 4:55 PM

...ooopps.....had to do the multiple sign in thing (again RSVP -when are you going to sort that out?) and the cut and paste got truncated. The last para should read

".... her right to choose whether or not she reveals her photo - and to whom".....

Posted by: weta at November 13, 2007 4:37 PM

somelifeinmeyet........if you google weta, you'll find my namesake is a creature not to be taken lightly......

....and my choice of the weta tag?......well, it's a bit of a play on my surname and it reflects my New Zealand heritage......

.....and, if you read my blog of November 12 @ 8.50pm to istj54, you'll see I am in fact advocating for her right to choose w

Posted by: weta at November 13, 2007 4:33 PM

istj54 - yes it is your choice whether to reveal yourself or not. Given the current goings on in blogland anyone who chooses to blog without a photo is leading with their chin and should expect a few direct hits, but that's your choice so cop it sweet. BTW, why hide? You look OK to me.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 9:00 AM

.......err....here is the errant i....

Posted by: weta at November 12, 2007 8:58 PM

stj54.......

.........you are right.....it is entirely a matter of individual choice as to whether any person with an RSVP profile chooses to reveal their photo.......

...it is also true that by any objective measure, no inference should be drawn from any individual's decision to choose to reveal or not reveal their photo......

I think most of the coniptions coming from those bloggers who are getting bent out of shape about you not revealing your photo, are rooted in their perceptions that you are someone other than you appear to be.......

.....and an individual's perception is an individual's reality......

.......they seem to have overlooked weta's first principle of justice: "show me the evidence"........

.............speculation/rumour/innuendo/interpretation/projection are no substitute for factual evidence......

.....saying something is so, does not make it so......

Posted by: weta at November 12, 2007 8:50 PM

i think its called a democracy, and people can make up their own minds

Posted by: twoeyes at November 12, 2007 5:19 PM

Weta, thankyou for your answer.

That principle of choice must flow through to whether or not a member wants to show their picture to all and sundry too. People should be adult enough to respect others’ choices and not condemn them for said choices and call them MPDs (mental illness is not something to make fun of ever), and men (not that I take that as criticism, rather flattering really) and show offs…would you not agree?
I know I am being a bit childish here but hellooooooo. I am not anyone but who I say I am and seeing a picture is not going to help me now. My words have not been provocative but yet they have provoked. Weta, you are a wise man. Tell me why?
Also, thanks for the spelling advice. I’ve fixed them up too. I would never use the word der in my writing either. If I was to use it I would spell it ‘Doh’ as in the Simpson’s. Got to say I love Futurama too. Does that make me a young man? Maybe it does.

Posted by: istj54 at November 12, 2007 5:13 PM

Reply to "weta"..(.Mmmmwhat exactly is it that you have that is wet, that causes you to use this odd name?..LOL!!...you are just asking to be made fun of with a name like that!! LOL!!).....

Why are you bullying the new blogger ""istj54" to show her photo and respond??...HOW RUDE!!

Just because someone replies, doesn't necessarily mean theat the management will publish it anyhow!!....NOT ALL replies are printed, but some on here take it as an instant affront, if someone's reply is not printed immediately!

What bad manners..no wonder none of you have friends in the real world, and so havve to "power trip" on these blogs to feel like whole people!

This is NOT very encouragoing to the new people that management has spent a LOT OF MONEY to draw in, only to have them scared off by buffoons like you!

Get off her back and grow up! She doesn't have to prove anything to any of you!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 12, 2007 4:56 PM

.....mostly, bloggers respond only if it's in THEIR interest to answer, istj54......

....it's the principle of choice.......

Posted by: weta at November 12, 2007 4:39 PM

Hi,

My first attempt at blogging.

I would love your opinion and wonder if you also perplexed and frustration about others interpretations of your profile. What brought me out of the woods is my puzzlement of the various kisses I receive.

For instance:
“…wanted us to let you know that she has read your profile and would like to be your Valentine.”
Now how do you read between the lines of that?

Or,
“…wanted us to let you know that she has read your profile and likes your sense of humour.”
When IMHO there is nothing funny on my profile.

Or,
“…wanted us to let you know that she thinks you have a lot in common.”
And you check the kissers profile and there is NOT ONE common denominator.

Thank you for any replies,
Perplexed

Posted by: butler at November 12, 2007 3:58 PM

No

Posted by: woodnwine at November 12, 2007 10:00 AM

Doesn't anyone answer questions on these blogs?

I've been reading them all day and it's like skimming the surface of a deep deep pool or maybe more like an abyss.

Posted by: istj54 at November 10, 2007 2:45 PM

HUH???? funlovertoo, what did you mean by this?
"waterbombe...don't see anything to worry you in what was posted (other than the fact it was a private exchange).
You come out of it smelling like roses.
We are all enlightened."

I think we must have crossed wires somewhere, I just don't get it.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 7, 2007 6:29 PM

wnh2...don't think I can make the December 1 meet because my voluntary work is that weekend but I may be visiting the Deep South at some stage.
waterbombe...don't see anything to worry you in what was posted (other than the fact it was a private exchange).
You come out of it smelling like roses.
We are all enlightened.
thefotografer...a fun park more than a circus. Although a monkey has been mentioned!

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 7, 2007 12:59 PM

Please..... I agree take all this "rubbish" off the blogs....No one is interested in who said what about who and where you're meeting.

Now an encouragement kisss or just a kiss to say hello would be great. I receive kisses from guys and when I reply "looking forward to your email" ...nothing...why send me a kiss? It is a bit confusing?? The system really needs to be changed. Just a WAVE...instead of a kiss?????

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at November 7, 2007 11:59 AM

And besides I was not the one who wanted to turn this into a circus for bloggers.
As I said before this was taken off line but then Ms hoping decided to continue on about the “supposed” meeting and how I could not be relied upon,which to me is not only a lie but also places my credibility in doubt in a public forum.
I am entitled to defend myself.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 11:15 AM

When accusations are made they may be defaming in anyway I will back myself up with the truth.
Other than that it can become a court matter,I have nothing to hide or be ashamed about

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 11:10 AM

oh no, keep this stuff off line, fotografer. You should NEVER post information obtained privately in a public place. NEVER EVER. This is between you and whomever else and it's none of our business. Take it away, Sam.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 7, 2007 10:49 AM

well I've got to say you are right :)
cheers
eric
I'm paying !!!:)
cheers
eric

Woodnwine wouldn't approve.....I'm off to breakfast now.
What time?

I think I am missing something here ?
Woodnwine ?
Missy !!!!! please explain? :0
cheers
eric

He's always saying the woman needs to pay half.....don't you read the blogs

Oh, Ok I,m being serious here , do you want a time ?
cheers
eric

Why not? It is just a no strings meeting with a fellow blogger...should be fun!

Ok it's strings attached,
Must be kind,must be nice,must drink,must be on time, must not change your mind,must be willing to go to lunch ,dinner on the weekend, must be hospitable.
let me see, i could make a weekend out of it fly down on the Friday night and if I haven't got a date I could wander the streets with my camera and tripod till the early hours of themorning and then at some time during the weekend go out to those dressing sheds at Brighton? St.Kilda and get some shots and then fly back to Sydney on Sunday arvo or something like that .
what do you think?

cheers
eric

A wise man gave me some sage advice when I was but a teen.....One you knock back is one you never get!!!!!!

Please stop talking in riddles :)

Otherwise I will have to resort to things my mama said !!!

my email is fotogenicptusnet.com.au just in case you missed it.

cheers

I'll stop talking in riddles when you stop with all those jokes....

Ok I have stopped,now talk!!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 9:54 AM

wishingand hoping2
you have a short memory.
I sent you an email and took this conversation off line and I said if you are serious about meeting I will make my arrangements for later (how stupid of you girl to think you can get any accomodation or flights to Melbourne on a whim over the Melbourne Cup Carnival)
Youthen said only if I stop posting those stupid blogs.
I said OK I will now start talking.
What I got was nothing , not a word!!

check this out

Posted by: thefotografer at November 7, 2007 9:54 AM

glad you like the Blogland ride idea brilliantblue!

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 7, 2007 8:10 AM

Funlovertoo I had a laugh at the...."Somelifeinmeyet ride" Enter at your own risk" Lol!
disclaimer:- management takes no responsilibity for claims, thoughts, whacky ideas,yelling, abuse and identity of ride.

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 8:02 AM

Yep...wnh2...the self-confessed passion for Russian Barbie Dolls says it all, or some of it anyway.

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 7, 2007 7:51 AM

Funlovertoo,

I would have met up with any bloggers flying in if I was free....I, too, thought he seriously had the ticket, and, since was free, thought it might be fun.....obviously a blog joke and now know the true nature of the beast.

If you are ever down here I'd love to meet up too.

I've actually got a pretty good sense of humour, that verges the dark side, so I should have picked up that I was being played.....but then to get all that tripe spewed towards me...but no I was being a big head, it wasn't directed at me after all...hmmmmm....think it was or we'd have had another reply here......sad man.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 7, 2007 7:28 AM

It's hard to know sometimes what's real and what's a joke in blogs.

Reading the Langham scenario the other week I'd formed the view that thefotografer did want to meet up with wnh2 and that we would use his air tickets to fly down.
I think that issue should have been clarified as a joke or a flight of fancy perhaps. I know there was some talk after that about meeting somelifeinmeyet at Macca's - which was obviously a joke.

Meanwhile maybe we need a real-world Blogland like Dreamworld.
There could be rides - the scariest could be named somelifeinmeyet!

I never got to see the fake profiles so if anyone can point me in that direction it would be appreciated.

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 7, 2007 7:14 AM

Mr weta is a stickler for detail....thanks weta for that l knew l remembered something but didn't know where it was...............k

Posted by: auntykaz at November 5, 2007 9:13 PM

Thank you Weta for clearing up that point....YOU are a true gentleman..
I couldn't be bothered going back through the conversation, but knew I'd received the invite..how quickly the fotoman forgets. Now what is that a symptom of...encroaching?

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 5, 2007 9:08 PM

NikonIcon........

it's not unreasonable to interpret the blogtrail below as suggesting you were offering to meet wishingandhoping2 for lunch at the Langham - Sunday before last I reckon.... perhaps it was just that jesting/flirting stuff that bloggers like to engage in....you know...the fantasy rather than the reality......

.....as is the standard Temple protocol, the earliest blog is at the bottom.......

wishingandwoping maybe we could be a double act l think cameraman might enjoy the challenge of witty repartee times 2...........k
· Posted by: auntykaz at October 27, 2007 9:40 AM

Aunty Kaz,
I'm sure it was just an oversight and that we are all welcome...Hmmmmm, not sure I can afford the Langham...
· Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 27, 2007 6:43 AM

Cameraman...ouch, l'm upset me and ninaschen didn't get an invite to
The Langham..........k
· Posted by: auntykaz at October 26, 2007 9:53 PM

ok wishingand hoping2
i have the airtickets
and we can go for lunch in the restaurant in the Langham Hotel on Southbank?
· Posted by: thefotografer at October 26, 2007 8:07 PM

You'll only find me in Melbourne.......now there's a good joke for you!· Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 26, 2007 7:37 PM

On the other had if there is somebody in Sydney between the age of 35 and 55 who is gorgeous and would like a free meal with wine at the Park Hyatt for lunch on Sunday please send a kiss in the next 5 hours,otherwiseI will have to fly to Melbourne.
· Posted by: thefotografer at October 26, 2007 7:31 PM

Posted by: weta at November 5, 2007 8:57 PM

Thank goodness we got all that sorted....turns out I did have a big head after all!!!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 5, 2007 7:30 PM

funlovertoo

Ummmm.....the wrong ones?

Can you tell me which are the right ones ?

You mentioned grief?
are you talking about someone grieving over their husband after a divorce ?
I don't quite follow you ............a lot of women that I date are still grieving about old boyfriends, lost loves, husband cheating on them etc.
Other than that the physical loss of someone who has done you no harm is totally different,you usually (for me ) do not start dating until you are ready, and for me that was over 10 months ago,I wish I could say the same for the women I have been seeing who still cry at the table over cheating husbands that were and obviously still are the love of their life.
yes ,i know, i pay for lunch or dinner when they should be paying me for a professional consultation,maybe I should start a service ???

Posted by: thefotografer at November 5, 2007 3:51 PM

tryandtryagain2

let's just get a few things straight here.
You were never asked to the Langham last Sunday.
At least not by me.
If you were, then I would have had to let you know my arrival time, the time I would be meeting you,my departure time,my phone numbers and as far as I know you would have non of them so if you have them post them here so we can all see them.
i also would have had to make prior arrangements, get your phone numbers etc. and I have non of that information.
So stop yanking off and get with it.
And don't go on about oh you can't talk to me like that blah blah blah.
We are in the real world and I would deal with you on an equal basis the same way I would treat males and females alike.
If you cared to notice,I posted an alternative reply for women to use when somebody does not reply to them .You can cut and paste this one and just change the wording.
I use it myself ,it is self explanetary and I use it when the other person cannot even be bothered sending a no thanks.
You would swear to God it is like trying to get blood out of a stone.
As for the Sydney meeting, if you read the blogs there was no reply from somethingleftoverfromlastnightsdinner.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 5, 2007 3:12 PM

Fotoman,

Is all that invective being directed at me or am I just being a big head?

I am not skinny and have the appetite of a man....My pic is a year old but I still look exactly the same, hair is a bit longer...I'll update soon. I rarely have any pictures taken so it's harder for me to update. I usually have to wait for a family occasion when someone may take a pic of me.

I didn't ask for an email....I didn't hide my profile till Saturday morning...as far as I could see nothing was sent to me during last week. You did ask me to go to the Langham last Sunday and I DID say that I would meet you there. Next thing you were asking somelifeinmeyet to McDonald's......HMMMMM This is all true...so just leave me alone and do not malign me on a public site or I will disappear forever.

Other bloggers know that I am a sincere, sensible woman and you are taking this too far and I can't for the life of me work out why.

If it is me you are so angry at you need to seriously ask yourself why....I have not been rude to you and not replied to a sensible letter. What gives???

What do you see in my profile, picture and bloggings that has caused such outrage in you towards me????

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 5, 2007 2:33 PM

theefotografer...There's nothing like a dame, but I still think you're going for the wrong ones.None of us are perfect but maybe people who are good matches can help and inspire each other.
From the female perspective I guess there's a difference between thinking someone is drop-dead gorgeous and a real possibility, and thinking that maybe there's a possibility - or you just feel like going out on a date at some time.

We've all been burnt here in one way or another. One of the first guys I kissed had a really fun looking photo but in reality he was somewhat staid. However he's found someone so that's good.
I know men who are too screwed up by grief or whatever to actually meet someone.
Anyway, I hope something works for you:)

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Posted by: thefotografer at November 5, 2007 8:18 AM

BLACK LIST NEEDED

We have the top 100 how about we have a page where we can look to see if our kiss or email is going to get a reply or have we just wasted another $5.00 to $10.00?
I believe this is a serial problem with RSVP members and there should be a black list for serial offenders so we know not to waste time with them.
It is usually the ones with the great photos twenty years out of date, aged 40 going on 50 looking for 20 year old stud.
From know on because RSVP do not seem to care I will be sending a nasty Robotic reply to theses pretenders who have not a shred of courtesy in their small minds and under under nourioused bodies.
Must be the lack of food that is doing the brain damage or just the heavy metals in the Air in inner Sydney that are causing them to act like vegetables.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 5, 2007 7:59 AM

Totally lost with this blog twist. I did try to look at the woodnwhine profile that was meant to be on MySpace but it wasn't there when I searched and I just don't think I have the energy to search for other spoof profiles.
Once again I think LordPerfect is taking off profiles. This time he's sending up thefotografer.I wish people would realise that rather than be offended by it. I think thefotografer would be flattered.
.

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 4, 2007 10:01 PM

Ornamental: there's been a few similarities showing through...each new blog revealed a little more...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 8:47 PM

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 4, 2007 3:53 PM -glad you said something first.

I did notice the eerie similarity with what I remembered of fotoman's profile to lordperfect's. But as I couldn't access fotoman's profile, I didn't dare say anything until now. At least it's not just me who remembers...

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 4, 2007 7:36 PM

Lordperfect's profile is also almost identical to lordchunder's...however, he's also added his (old)illustrious referee career to this one...

Mmmmm...fotoman and getalife missing in action together...???

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 4:16 PM

Lordperfect,

Your profile comments seem to be exactly the same as those of the fotografer........eerie......he seems to have gone into hiding today.......perhaps he has been sent to the corner for swearing at a lady.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 4, 2007 3:53 PM

Please note.

I am acquainted with a certain lady on this site.

That particular lady has never admitted to me that she blogs, let alone blogs under any particular name.

I am not that lady. It takes a certain ingenuity to masquerade as a woman; men who try, such as actors etc, often end up thinking like a man would think a woman thinks, which is not the same as the way a woman thinks.

The blogger, whoever she is, is herself and herself only. As for her opinions, read Toby Green's syndicated article today on opinion terrorists. You are not necessarily your opinions. You may have a real self and an opinion self. You may disagree with a person's opinions but still love the person.

Now I think I'll just go and throw up somewhere.

Posted by: lordperfect at November 4, 2007 3:37 PM

Thanks Ornamentalonly....beautifullooking dog...I've got a big boffy golden retriever...I had to laugh one day when I thought about the old saying -"owners looking like their dogs" and realised that my youngest son has the blonde surfie looking hair and myself with the blonde hair and then looked at my dog with the long blonde hair!
Your silloeutte photo is a great shot...I'm just waiting for my new main photo to be approved by RSVP!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 2:36 PM

trumanscat: scroll back through "ettiquette"...

"Mavis"

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 2:36 PM

Hiddencharms. What other site? Any clues?

Posted by: trumanscat at November 4, 2007 2:27 PM

woodnwine: Now why owuld he want to invite new friends onto his/her site(s)...? He/she/it is having such wonderful conversations with themselves...they don't need new friends!

"Mavis"

PS: Hiddencharms got 57 new kisses and emails...must have been the new boob job on the other site...!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 4, 2007 2:19 PM

hiddencharms

Your (RSVP) name is now gone from that site - you are now mavis. Some people are easily amused but to what end I wonder. Oh well, it makes me laugh and Earl doesn't even want to be my friend on that site, poor old boy. Cynicalandanonymous is also on there and doesn't want to be my friend either - boo hoo. Earl, please pass all messages to me if you wouldn't mind, there's a good cowboy.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 4, 2007 12:13 AM

brilliantblue, I've just sent my secondary password to you if you're interested in having a look.

Thought I'd say something in here so I didn't frighten you, as the VK messages aren't always appropriate. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 4, 2007 12:12 AM

I reckon this is one person posing under different profiles creating it all. He probably thinks he's pretty clever and gets great joy out causing grieve for others but really just an outright low down coward hiding away where he never thinks he will never get caught. Usually the most pathetic of all.

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 3, 2007 11:38 PM

Okay, by discussing on here the plaguarising of our profiles to another site, as of this afternoon when I last looked -incriminating evidence has been removed.

What a pity the transgressor wasn't rumbled by the officials before "he/she" got tipped off.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 3, 2007 11:22 PM

what other site?

Posted by: chad1958 at November 3, 2007 3:54 PM

Hi All,

Its a while since I caught up with the blogs and even longer since I have posted. I think my last post was to Wraecca and it was a recent post from her on this topic that encouraged me to post again.

It's a leap of faith for all of us to be here........to be on RSVP..........to be on the blog.......to dare to post on the blog and to establish the bona fide versus the malevolent in this "community".

Some people have a foot in each camp.

Sometimes reactions are in response to buttons being pressed, and it seems for some the blogs allow an opportunity to vent and attempt to cause harm, as in the case of one person with multiple personalities.

I've also been guilty of making assumptions about people based on how they express themselves in the blogs, particularly on the dating over 40, which seemed to not bring out the best in people. I'm quite happy its been tucked up in the archives now. And then there was the Dear Member one, which disappeared off the face of the earth - banished even from the archives.

For me the experience on the blogs, brief and perhaps erratic as it has been, has introduced me to some quite delightful people - I now consider to be emerging friends, who I am getting to know through means outside of the blogs. What a bonus.

I do read some postings and cringe a bit, I think we all do, others that inspire a tender almost protective response, some I laugh out loud and others are just dismissable and not worth any more attention than they already generate.

I was sorry to miss the Melbourne gathering, it was also the day of a family event which could not be missed. I can see from the postings here, and elsewhere, those who managed to get there and those who would like to try for the next one. A number of you I have read your posts with interest and apprceciation; yes I confess also checked out your profiles (you wont know because I have not enabled that see who's looked at me thing) and felt a sense of "virtual camaraderie".......so to all of you, some will know who they are and maybe others will come to know who they are consider this my "encouragement kiss".

In a short space of time the connections made through the blog community have been the most positive outcomes from RSVP.

Regards,

Kalliope

Posted by: kalliope at November 3, 2007 2:30 PM

PLEASE RSVP!!..compliments, not kisses would be more appropriate for an 'adult' dating site..kisses are an intimate form of expression reserved for those we know.. We're all adults here and want to be treated as such. ALSO, the stamp purchase system needs to be reviewed ASAP...it really doesn't work to our (the members) advantage, particularly when you're a new member and still trying to find your way around..

Posted by: lurvshak at November 3, 2007 1:01 PM

woodnwine: Can't access any email on that site. You must have to be the site owner to receive messages.

I just can't believe that someone is deliberately choosing to misrepresent rsvpers in such a vile manner.

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 3, 2007 11:57 AM

woodnwine: Seems someone is making monkeys out of us!

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 3, 2007 11:28 AM

Oops, just checked again and you are right woodnwine but it still has the pretty, pale pink background peppered with hundreds of little white stars.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 3, 2007 12:30 AM

woodnwine, just viewed that "other site" and I didn't notice any change in your pic.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 3, 2007 12:25 AM

hiddencharms

sent an email to you on the other site but now am wondering if it's really you. Many others are on there too and my photo has changed (thanks Earl my lawyers will be in touch). And the bigger picture is ......

Posted by: woodnwine at November 2, 2007 11:59 PM

does anybody remember that Pixie-Anne Wheatley carachter created by the great Magda Szubansky?....Read a posting from S.L.I.M.Y, with the PixieAnne giggle...is the only way I can get through them with out wanting to strangle her!!

Posted by: naelie at November 2, 2007 8:42 PM

received another from melbourne looks like it was done just as quick
female 29 ?

Posted by: thefotografer at November 2, 2007 8:29 PM

I was typing out somelifeinmeyet one day when I thought, this is taking too long so I'll shorten it to the first letter of each word! And it came out as Slimy. Try it yourself.

As for people hiding photos, who would do that? Doctors, dentists and counsellors who don't want to be recognised by their patients, primary school teachers who don't want to date a student's dad, well known people, very good looking people and ugly people. And that's just a start. You might not know them, femalepersuasion, but there are a lot of people who do.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 2, 2007 8:07 PM

fotoman: Read the profile. Same as lordchunderhead....exactly, without the pollie's pic

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 2, 2007 7:52 PM

Dear Sir Fotographer,

You profile is perfect.

I am perfect.

In fact I am Lord Perfect.

I could not improve on your profile even if I tired, and as ATM OMG I would prefer to imbibe rather than resort to creative writing, I trust I am paying you the ultimate compliment by borrowing your profile pro tem, until I can come up with something even more perfect.

Posted by: lordperfect at November 2, 2007 7:48 PM

I have just received a kiss from LordPerfect and sent him an excited and waiting for your email reply.
But I took it as a joke,there was no photo to view either.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 2, 2007 7:40 PM

"briliantblue" mentions again that "woodnwine' says that he did not post a particular post, and today I noticed that confusing post that says that it is posted by "the fotografer" , but is lots of quotes from a wioman's blog!

What is going on up ther e management?

Are the "slaves"rowing the boat too fast and need a munchies break, as they are making SERIOUS typing errors that can get people into trouble!

(I certainly wouldn't want a blog attributed to me that I didn't write!)

There is enough verbal abuse going on these blogs without errors in who wrote something.!

We obviously need beter SECURITY , especially as there is a mention by "hiddencharms" of finding herself on some blog on another site with an unflattering incorrect photo!

What a world in 207.....such a lack of standards in adult behaviour!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 2, 2007 6:59 PM

reply to "woodnwine"..why are you saying I am having a go at you?...Do you mean when I gave you some "well intentioned kind hearted advice" to watch out for the "clique" on here, that if you step out of the role on these blogs that the bossy things "allow" you to have that they will start to attack you, like they do to me????

Don't listen to me then, I don't care, but only TIME wil tell!....(you obviously CAN"T tell the difference between friends and enemies!)

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 2, 2007 6:52 PM

brilliantblue: "Angry" is one word you could use. "Bemused" is another..Just think - I've managed to pi## someone off enough in the blogs that they have to stoop so low as to make a mockery on an international internet site...poor, gutless, buggar should have just taken a cheap pot shot at me on the blogs....duh#1...Can't wait to find out where the pic came from...if I had a chest like that I wouldn't hide it...wow!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 2, 2007 6:14 PM

Thats really disgusting....can imagine how angry you feel....there's some real sicko's out there!
Was reading Woodnwine's post where he was saying he didn't put a particular blog on here....how do they manage to get through RSVP posing as another person when it has who's posted the blog automatically?

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 2, 2007 5:27 PM

Brilliantblue: Some perveted imposter has created a profile, using rsvp members. My profile name has been attached, with the most offensive "doctored" and distorted photo of someone with a Dolly Parton chest bulging out of a very revealing swimsuit...with fake details about age, vicinity etc.. It is not my pic (not close in size or colouring etc)and at no time did I ever agree to be listed on someone's profile...

It is not only offensive to those of us concerned, but also illegal...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 2, 2007 5:14 PM

Hiddenscharms....whats actually happened regarding this other site?

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 2, 2007 5:05 PM

woodnwine: I'm assuming that you've been alerted to "the other inernet site". I find it offensive. It's also illegal to impersonate others, from information I have received today. Hoping you will join me in having the garbage removed...

Posted by: hiddencharms at November 2, 2007 4:22 PM

somelifeinmeyet
Just got back from 2 weeks away and I see that you are still having a go at everyone, including me - even though I have been away and off the blogs. What is your problem? If you tell us maybe we can offer you some well intentioned, kind hearted advice.

And to Earl (can't be bothered with all your other names and I see you dreamed up another one while I was away) - I presume it was you who posted me on another internet site. Why? What are you hoping to achieve? For what purpose do you go on with all this juvenile behaviour? Don't you have a real life outside the blogs and the internet?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 2, 2007 3:58 PM

Oops, in case it may add confusion to any other blogs, I meant,

"my right royal battle"

rather than,
"this right royal battle".

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 31, 2007 2:58 AM

I'm saying this bit yet again, as a reason for the delay of my post:
I've been offline due to some strange "connectivity" problems.

And I will add that I was just about to post a message of support to Wraecca (and reply to somelifeinmeyet at October 24, 2007 2:51 PM,) when this right royal battle took place.

(Just tonight, told a complete stranger that I loved him -on the phone- when he restored my online access. I'm sure as a computer technician, he gets those sort of declarations from web-deprived people quite often, as he took it in his stride, didn't miss a beat or even, choke!)

Anyway, my comment is obviously quite late now but I will still respond (sorry ninaschen) to notdeadyet's October 24, 2007 2:51 PM passive-aggressive post.

Slimy (wonderful acronym waterbombe,)
-Wraecca had formerly posted the meaning to her nickname and if you had bothered to read and remember other peoples' posts as much as your, at times deliberately obtuse, written babblings; you would have remembered that.

Speaking of babbling...to paraphrase an old saying:

Waters that run deep are often silent;
it's the shallow, babbling brooks that make the most noise.

Or is there an old Aussi saying,

it's the empty can that makes the most noise as it rattles and bounces around?

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 31, 2007 2:17 AM

Thanks "femalepersuasion' for your support. AndIsay it once again, (for the "clique") I am only a new blogger, I am a female, and I only have one profile, which I am sure that the mangement can confirm if they want to!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 29, 2007 8:42 PM

fotoman: What is this? Everytime you have a thought (gee, that must hurt) or glean a new piece of knowledge from the internet or comedy club, you have to sit down and prattle it off to us? Every second entry, on almost every blog site has your name on it! You don't contribute to the conversations - you merely clog them up. I am so over having to waste my time to scroll over all of the shallow nonsense you spout, so that by the time I get to other bloggers, I am too weary to reply or have no more time to play...Don't you have anyone else to talk to? Try buying a mirror and sitting in front of it and talking to the face you see...or buy a cat - you did say that we batty, hormonal women talk to our cats, didn't you?

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 28, 2007 11:08 AM

Reply to "Wraecca"..it seems that you have quite misunderstood my blog to you as an attack.

I was actually supporting you, and trying to protect you from exploitation

The other day also when "the fotografer"
attacked you, I wrote politely to him in support of you.

Recently you complained of being suddenly attacked on the blogs because now you were happy about your new realtioinship. (this is what promted my blog to you).

My blog to you, was to try and explain to you why this was starting to happen to you, as you didn't seem to understand why, and were very upset.

I wasn't attacking you, I'm attacking the "clique" who I knew would shortly begin to attack you .."in force", because your role on the blogs has now changed. (Instead of a settler of childish other people's squabbles, you were now the happy dater!...and already I could see how they didn't like it! )

It's THEM that are jealous not me..(some of the "clique' in replies tried to suggest that I was jealous, but I had already sent you a blog of support wishing you happiness)....(didn't it strike you as odd that they would say I was jealous??????)

While I was warning you, I thought to warn "woodnwine" too, as he fits a role and a purpose in the blogs in the "clique' too. And likewise, if he suddenly changed from the role that the bullies "allow" him to play onthe blogs, they would lay into him to!

But the 'bully clique" rallied around you, pointing the finger at me instead, saying it was an "attack"! If you want to believe that you can, but mark my words, you change the role that they "let" you have on the blogs, (the concilliator/ego stroker) ..and they'll be jumping on you like they do to me, sooner than you can say "Jack Robinson"

I am a friend to you "wraecca " not an enemy (like the "clique'").

But maybe you are too hopeful in human nature to see it...but only time will tell..............

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 28, 2007 1:51 AM

OK SLIMY you've been outed as a bloke posing as a woman, give it up now and go home for good.

Posted by: waterbombe at October 27, 2007 9:45 PM

thank you very much koolkaz. Yes I do keep my witchy streak hidden at first, victoriadownunder. All the better for slime-spotting.

Posted by: waterbombe at October 27, 2007 9:41 PM

Hi wraecca, simple advice.... majority rules and most bloggers applaud your manner, and have nothing but happiness in their hearts for your new relationship. Go with the flow and enjoy it!!!
Thank you for sharing your happiness on this site, it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling and helps keep me positive that maybe just maybe it can happen for others.
Dolphin46

Posted by: dolphin46 at October 27, 2007 9:30 PM

Victoriadownunder miss waterbombe is da bombe.......k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 27, 2007 9:18 PM

Waterbombe, you must have a streak of evil in there somewhere - I love it!!!

Posted by: victoriadownunder at October 27, 2007 9:07 PM

ah hah! Somelifeinmeyet otherwise known as SLIMY is a man masquerading as a woman, and that is why we will never see a photo. And SLIMY has had about ten other names and profiles. It all makes sense now. Ok, Ill completely ignore SLIMY from now on. He/she may go away.

Posted by: waterbombe at October 27, 2007 5:51 PM

Good pick up, WaterBombe, though I doubt the choice of name was an accident. To give Earl his due (this will be the one and only time I will do that) he is creative in his choice of noms de plume.

Posted by: ninaschen at October 27, 2007 4:44 PM

A very shy guy goes into a bar and sees a beautiful woman sitting at the bar. After an hour of gathering up his courage he finally goes over to her and asks, tentatively, "Um, would you mind if I chatted with you for a while?"
She responds by yelling, at the top of her lungs, "No, I won't sleep with you tonight!"
Everyone in the bar is now staring at them. Naturally, the guy is hopelessly and completely embarrassed and he slinks back to his table.
After a few minutes, the woman walks over to him and apologizes. She smiles at him and says, "I'm sorry if I embarrassed you. You see, I'm a graduate student in psychology and I'm studying how people respond to embarrassing situations."
To which he responds, at the top of his lungs, "What do you mean $200?"

Posted by: thefotografer at October 27, 2007 3:45 PM

Hiddenscharms and waterbombe....well said...you certainly summed up I how I've been feeling about Somelifeinmeyet and her comments of late!

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 27, 2007 3:33 PM

somelifeinmeyet, do you realise that your own name, when written in short form, spells out the word SLIMY??? (see: Some Life In Me Yet)

Was that an accident? I don't think so....given your own dreadful attitudes and language, which are offensive to many people here, I'm going to call you that from now on. Can I suggest we all just use the short form for SLIMY as it is so much more appropriate...and because it's a name she chose.

Posted by: waterbombe at October 27, 2007 3:13 PM

Thanks TrumansCat :) I hope everything is going well at your end (how is the City of Churches today?), and that we both may be lucky enough to one day meet at one of the BlogFest's that I'm so envious of.

Posted by: wraecca at October 27, 2007 1:44 PM

wraecca. Yep even me is supporting you against attacks unwarranted.
Bug off somelifeinmeyet & get a life.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 27, 2007 1:20 PM

Hello all.

BrushKestrel, big hugs and kisses to you for defending me, and the same to Ninaschen, BrilliantBlue, Wishingandhoping2, Auntykaz, and even possibly TrumansCat (was that post aimed in this particular direction?). Thank you all for supporting my outlook, even if you do not share it.

Somelifeinmeyet. You have accused me of having no spine, of being a coward, and of being someone of weak moral fibre. Only one other person on these blogs has ever slammed me like that, and she has not posted since I replied back to her in a calm, adult fashion.

I try to speak calmly, politely, and with a positive demeanor, because verbally spewing out vitriol and invective does nothing but bring the entire blogging community down. When I *have* gotten upset, my apologies are more about the fact that I have let negativity control my words, and have let that positivity fade. It also shows that I believe that every blogger here, whether I agree with them or not, has a right to post. This is, after all, a free country.

As for me changing my name, have you even *read* my profile? 'Wraecca' is an Anglo-Saxon word. Anglo-Saxon is the language that our current language is based off. The 'a' and the 'e' are actually supposed to be a single letter blended together, but my keyboard doesn't type it. 'Wraecca' actually means 'wanderer' (or 'outcast', depending on the context, but in this one its 'wanderer'), and in my profile I clearly state: "I believe that you learn something new every day; for example, my profile name "Wraecca" is an Anglo-Saxon word which means "wanderer"; I'm wandering through this life, living through, learning from, & enjoying the experiences that it brings." By you telling me to change my name indicates that you are not actually as open to different people, experiences, thoughts, ideas and personalities as you claim. You may not think that this is the case. However, try looking at it from my point of view. You post an entry regarding a topic that has not even been introduced on this blog, without any provocation, which casts unpleasant comments in my direction. I have never been nasty to you. I have always tried to be polite and accepting, and have even been the 'voice of reason' many times over. And yet you slam me, and other people who may not have the emotional strength as the rest of us, as being 'weak', and having no 'backbone'.

As I have previously stated to that other nasty blogger in the past, my post on September 18, 2007 5:11 PM in the Online Dating Etiquette blog says "Do not judge me or my actions, you do not know me, you do not know what I have experienced, nor would I want you to." I can tell you right now, there are 2 bloggers here who *actually* know some of what I have been through, and only 1 who knows *all* of what I have been through, and they would agree, most people would not understand. What I have seen, what I have experienced, what I have *endured*, would make most 'strong' people break. I try to use my experiences to encourage others, to let them shine, to let them love, rather than let the bitterness and anger surround us all and poison our lives.

Somelifeinmeyet, you once lauded me for trying to live my life by the values and ideals that my mother instilled in me when I was young; you are now attacking me over those same values and ideals. That is your choice. But in doing so, you are actually propagating the actions that you despise on these blogs; you are attacking a fellow blogger for no reason, showing no tolerance, and attacking them for being who they are.

I am sorry for you, Somelifeinmeyet, that you feel the need to dictate to other people on who they should be, and what they should call themselves. I am sorry that you think that, while not even knowing who I am, or any of my life experiences, I know nothing about strength of character, strength of soul, and am emotionally weak and frail. I am sorry for the fact that you know nothing about me, yet have judged me to be lacking, and have pigeon-holed me with people who need support and help, not derision and contempt.

Somelifeinmeyet, I am sorry for the fact that you have just shown a side that is not very pleasant, that is not conducive of support, by attacking me. I wish you the best of luck, because if you are going to do this to everyone on the blogs, you are going to need it.

Posted by: wraecca at October 27, 2007 12:47 PM

Somelifeinmeyet, Wraecca has shown to all of us that she is a lady of great sensitivity, how you choose to interpret her is your own doing but insulting her is unnecessary.

Nothing like rudeness to put people off congratuations you have succeeded.

Wraecca keep your light shining........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 27, 2007 1:10 AM

Somelifeinmeyet.... how wrong you have got it....Wraecca appears to be one of the most genuine people on here....when she appologises it is because she genuinely cares about others feelings....it is not a sign of weakness to apologise but rather sign of strength...I would suggest that maybe you are jealous because she has found happiness.

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 27, 2007 12:45 AM

Brushkestrel (did I spell it right this time?), Earl (Somelifeinmeyet and his other many personas) is just yanking our chains. If we all take a pledge and ignore him, he will eventually take his bat and ball and go home. He thrives on attention. If he doesn't get it, he will wither and die (please, please).

Posted by: ninaschen at October 27, 2007 12:02 AM

I agree with you Brushkestrel!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 26, 2007 7:34 PM

Oh dear. Here we go again.

Posted by: trumanscat at October 26, 2007 6:17 PM

Somelifeinmeyet wrote:

> When I read "wrAECCA' I THINK OF A WRECK...LIKE A SHIP WRECK".!!

Now that was uncalled for.

You have no right to tell someone their name sucks, even if it is a pseudonym. I don't care much for yours - but I sure as hell ain't about to slam you for choosing it. It's your identity, and that's your choice.

Show some common courtesy to others and treat them how you would wish to be treated.

Also, you appear to have a problem with your keyboard. Please make sure the little 'caps lock' light (often signified with an 'A' next to it) stays off when you are typing stuff.

HTH

Posted by: brushkestrel at October 26, 2007 6:09 PM

I wish to encourage "thefotographer" to keep typing out all those funny jokes!

I really enjoy them!

Exchanging jokes with my daughters on a daily basis is something I am used to, so reading jokes on the blogs too just adds to this!

Those who don't have a sense of humour, and don't like irony....what you need is a BIG DOSE of tragedy, so you can get what is important in life in ORDER, and then maybe you can laugh harmlessly at yourself and others and see the ironies in life!

from.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 2:29 AM

To "woodnwine' and "wraecca"..please be warned that the blogging bullies on here are only nice to you because they think that you are both weak and innocious, and the purpose you serve for them is to stroke their egos!

I wouldn't want them being nice to me at that cost!

Try talking to them differently, and see how quickly you are no longer "useful' to them, and how they will turn on you!.

Please "wraecca". try not to sound so apologetic and grovelling all the time to these bullies!

Say what you have to say, and DON'T take it back in your next post, apologising and grovelling! Stick to what you had to say in the first place!

(i hope that this grovelling and apologising is not how you go on in romantic relationships, as those sort of weak people attract domestic abusers, alcaholics, gamblers and drug addicts...( as they know the woman will always want to "forgive" them, and believe that "i'll never do it again" etc;)

Please get some backbone "wraecca", and even change your name.!!

When I read "wrAECCA' I THINK OF A WRECK...LIKE A SHIP WRECK".!!

change it to "won't toleratefools"... or "donttrampleonme"...or "get lostblogging bitches' etc;......LOL!!!
from .."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 24, 2007 2:51 PM

Laughed at your profile lunachild. :)

Here's a VK right now -with absolutely no strings attached; just in recognition of your humour. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 24, 2007 12:04 AM

OOH! there's so much to read here it's overwhelming, but for what it's, i'm in total agreement there should be a 'friendship kiss'... actually, i kinda mention that in my profile... i'm sure that no one reads it before having decided not to response... to save you the hassle of looking me up ------> so why MUST we communicate with 'kisses'? so susceptible to ambiguity... howz about a 'pat on the back'... ok, MAYBE NOT a 'pat on the back', but not a 'pat on the ass' either... you hear me right? so if i 'kiss' you, take heed that i'm also looking for more friends/pen pals, so please don't misconstrue my attention....

Posted by: lunachild at October 23, 2007 11:53 PM

Hi Woodwine...your blog 19th Oct...thankyou for your kind words...and hope your enjoying your holiday!

Posted by: brilliantblue at October 23, 2007 10:50 PM

Well management, I am quite ready now for you to introduce" sex neutral platonic" kisses/greetings.

Perhaps the hold up is you finding a suitable name for them.

What about "platonic hellos"..or "platonic greetings"..or "platonic encouragements"..or"platonic waves"???????????

How do you like those names???????

From.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 23, 2007 4:55 PM

Hi bloggers, Thanks for a great day yesterday.
It was a great venue and a nice comfortable size of people.
I'm the one John "West" (sorry Weta) rejected!!
Have a great week, looking forward to meeting up in December.

Posted by: satinandlace at October 21, 2007 12:13 PM

XXX Mr J

Posted by: trumanscat at October 21, 2007 12:01 AM

Hey T.C. yep. You did come up in conversation AND it was all good... Catch you "one day". Encouragement kiss to you too. I'm feeling good. One Tokay too many methinks.. Best I call it a night..
Cheers all.

Posted by: amdoingit at October 21, 2007 12:00 AM

....ahhhh TC....of course we were......

Posted by: weta at October 20, 2007 11:57 PM

oh bummer. I would have liked to have been there guys.... I hope you were thinking about me or at least talking about me. ;~)

Posted by: trumanscat at October 20, 2007 11:53 PM

Malsie... Sorry... Forgot to mention you in my last post.. Missed you but know you were with us in spirit. We did think of you ok. Next time.. Talk soon!!

Posted by: amdoingit at October 20, 2007 11:45 PM

Just lost my post. Duffer. Here goes on second attempt..

To all who were at today's Blogfest. You all rock. Yum cha was "yum".
To all who didn't come... Your loss.. Maybe next time??
Great choice of venue Weta.. Tonight's "Tokay" is for you baby.. Sniff, Sip Sigh... What more can I say??
Ninaschen, thank you for your encouragement kiss. One back to you girl.. Mwah.. Look forward to next time.
AuntyK..those deserts.. Definitely a goer.. Let's try!!! Think of you when I have my next "platter, plus!!"
Decorat.. Mystic is a closet scallywag, not me, not much. She had hair gel in her bag, I had "Schnoodle" on my lap.. Almost had a "different" style of mohawk!! Almost!!! See, it's the quiet ones you have to watch!!! Look forward to catching up again "J".
Victoria/D/U.. Took a while but we finally got there.. Woohoo.. So glad we did. Welcome "Trumps".. glad you came along. Remember me when you look at all those singles at work. Well, if there's any my vintage that is!!
Satin..welcome aboard girl.. you blend in like a bee in a honey pot.. Got a sadistic kick out of your "rejection" story.. Gotta chuckle "W". Don't think you've heard the last of it yet Mr!!!
Woodnwine.. welcome.. glad you came down early.. See, we did wait for you.. Only cause you're special.. And we even had sunshine.. What nore could you want??

That's it..To "ALL" of you.. A big encouragement kiss each.. Roll on next "fest"..
God we're a great bunch aren't we???

Posted by: amdoingit at October 20, 2007 11:43 PM

Ninaschen,

I never saw the place and time for the blogmeet anywhere on the blogs..that is why I am not coming today....Sorry...maybe I didn't log in that day...

Maybe next time, enjoy!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at October 20, 2007 8:56 AM

woodnwine - cheers, mate, just saw your comment! I'm genuinely fond of our "community" here and still enjoying reading people's comments, and contributing when moved to do so - nothing altruistic in it!!!

As my profile is hidden, I don't think I can send kisses at the moment, so an "encouragement" kiss, or more like "hello, love your work" kiss to auntykaz, Ninaschen, Wraecca.... oh, I could just goes on and on (feel like I'm giving an Oscar speech, so will leave it at that....for now....)

Posted by: malsie at October 19, 2007 7:13 PM

Watch out Melbourne bloggers - I am flying in tomorrow afternoon so don't say I didn't warn you.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 19, 2007 11:14 AM

I don't often actually look at other bloggers' profiles but took a quick peek at brilliantbue this morning - nice profile, good luck.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 19, 2007 8:27 AM

Woops, hitting post too early this morning. RSVP, you should also be aware that many of us (including myself) have used stamps to contact fellow bloggers and other people we just want to be friends with so you will make money from giving us the encouragement kiss. And while you are at it, how about changing the word "kiss"?

Posted by: woodnwine at October 19, 2007 8:22 AM

ninaschen - thanks for the encouragement kiss and here is one back to you because I like your blogs. I remember your kiss and in fact it was only the 2nd kiss I ever received from a blogger and I had no idea how to reply. When I replied to the first blogger in the affermative I think she thought I was trying to come onto her so it was very confusing hence my negative reply to you. RSVP really does need to acknowledge that people (particularly bloggers) would like to just send a kiss expressing friendship and we should be able to send an appropriate one back. If the first person actually intended more than friendship then they can easily send another one expressing a desire for more. Come on RSVP, you asked if we wanted this months ago, we said yes and still no action. Why did you ask if you won't listen to our answer?

That is why I declared this blog the place to send encouragement kisses. Ninaschen, this is my encouragement kiss to you for being such a well natured, genuine person.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 19, 2007 8:20 AM

Its not very encouraging when the new blogs take too long to be put up, or are not put up at all!

Especially if we manage to attract new bloggers, who then give up in disgust!

Please hire more staff, to "row the ship faster".

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 18, 2007 11:02 PM

Hi WoodnWine - I have send kisses to most of those I would like to encourage on the blogs. As they have to me. Even though the responses (blogger to blogger) aren't ideal, the message seems to be understood. Though, other options would be fantastic!

As I am sure you are too, I or they have spent stamps and I am now in contact with a wonderful variety of people.

Quite some time ago (and before the introduction of this blog topic, and before the concept of encouragement kisses was discussed) I sent a kiss to you in response to something you had said on the blogs. I can't now recall what comment I reacted to but I do recall that you responded with the 'doesn't wish to correspond further' option.

So, I will take this opportunity to send you an encouragement kiss again, in the hope you now understand, that is all it is!

Posted by: ninaschen at October 18, 2007 9:47 PM

Does no one else wish to send an encouragement kiss?

Posted by: woodnwine at October 18, 2007 7:39 AM

Oh, and thank you for the kiss, too :)

*MWAH!!!*

There's my kiss to all of my friends here in the land of blog :)

Posted by: wraecca at October 16, 2007 4:57 PM

Hi woodnwine,
The 'May Contain Traces of Nuts' is actually a bit of a tribute to Terry Pratchett. In his "Science of Discworld II: The Globe", the warning appeared at the bottom of every page. And if you know anything about Terry Pratchett's style of humour, you will understand what is meant. If you don't, start off by reading "The Colour of Magic", and work your way through the Discworld series. He's a fantastic author.

Posted by: wraecca at October 16, 2007 4:56 PM

My second encouragement kiss goes to Malsie for staying in our blog community & continuing to support us singletons even after she has met a potential partner. Thanks malsie and good luck.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 15, 2007 11:08 PM

Seeing we don't seem to be able to actually get an encouragement kiss after asking for it for months, I now nominate this blog as the place to lodge encouragement kisses.
I start off by sending an encouragement kiss to wraecca for a great attitude and a great voice message (still wondering about the traces of nuts though).

Posted by: woodnwine at October 15, 2007 11:06 PM

It seems we all agreed in some way to new responses to kissses. I've had kisses from fellow bloggers, from ladies and guys all over the country. It would be nice to have something appropriate to reply to them with.

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 14, 2007 4:55 PM

I recently received a 'kiss' from a gentleman who sounded very intelligent, witty and nice, although we were both outside of each others criteria (the whole age, location, children thing mainly).
Now he sent me a 'kiss' which said he admired my intelligence. Usually, I would have emailed this person back, thanking them for their kiss, and explaining that I was flattered, but not in