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Re seraphsuzie"s comments to jbach. ARE YOU SERIOUS SERAPHSUZIE???!!!

If you read jbach"s comments correctly,he said in the start of his comments "having a partner and financial security will not make you contented ". Other comments he made as well....

I looked at both your profiles. My belief is you need to grow up and get real. This poor person was only trying to tell the truth as it is. You tried to cut him down in flames with a very poor response,i believe.

I believe at 39 (I'm 41),yes that makes you less of a prospect for a relationship because you're renting. At around 40 both partners should have done the hard yards.i believe. Both partners should now be relaxing enjoying life to the max,through the foundation they haved tried to build/have built. I.e they wanted the best safer enjoyable future.I come from a large family with no divorces,and everyone owns their own home together. We are not greedy people either,by any means,and very down to earth.

Love is the only thing that matters,i agree. I believe that jbach is doing it for the right reasons because he sounds like a very caring,happy, genuine guy,and a great catch for someone.Please dont take that away from him Seraphsuzie because your life may not have been so fortunate. Please read his comments properly as his comments were to help a lot of other people also.

Posted by: foralifetimeonly at November 25, 2007 3:13 PM

I am only new to RSVP and thought I had met someone nice, but gee was I wrong! This 41 year old blond and blue eyed Brisbane guy claiming to be honest, genuine and down to earth with a great love of the beach is certainly everything but. After reading your blog I checked out the Top 100 and guess what sure enough he was right near the top. I have no doubt it's just a game playing ego trip for him nothing more. He's certainly nothing at all like his profile. So please beware ladies, he's quite manipulative and charming.

Posted by: beachbabe31 at November 24, 2007 4:42 PM

jbach are you serious?? I am 39 and still renting.. so that makes me less of a prospect for a relationship? I seriously cannot get over people who are so worried about money when it comes to meeting someone who you want to love and cherish for the rest of your life?

Love and money are not partners.. Love should be the only thing that matters.
What the hell is wrong with renting anyway? Why on earth would I want to spend all my money on a house, then have to fork out more and more money on rates, and then any repairs that need doing? Only to die and thats it?? I would prefer to save my money, see the world and have fun.

The benefits of Renting:
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Lower share of income

Costs of home ownership-ranging from the down payment to monthly mortgage and maintenance expenses-take a large bite out of your household budget. Many people sacrifice their entire lifestyle by sinking half or more of their income into home ownership costs. If you can rent for 30 percent or less of your income, you may find yourself less stressed by doing so

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Price depreciation

Prices of homes may fall in your neighbourhood. By renting, you will not be hurt by eroding real estate values. Once you think the local real estate market has "bottomed out," you can get a better deal if you choose to buy

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Alternative investments

Money you save by renting can be invested in stocks and other securities, which may be appreciating at a faster rate than home values. If you are disciplined with such investing, you may be able to build up your personal net worth faster this way

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Control of living expenses

You may be able to avoid a rental increase by moving or negotiating with your landlord in the event rents rise in your neighbourhood. On the other hand, with an adjustable-rate mortgage, there is no way to avoid higher monthly payments that come with higher interest rates

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Relocation-friendly

If you anticipate relocating several times with your career, it may make more sense to rent. Unless your local real estate market is extremely active, you probably cannot expect enough appreciation in a year or two to compensate you for the significant transaction costs of buying and selling a home.

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 18, 2007 2:40 PM

Dating on the internet is no different to dating in the real world. Know what you want out of life and go for it.

My philosophy to living life is: Always look on the bright side of life. You will achieve in life only what you are prepared to put into it. Having a partner and financial security will not make you happy and contented. Happiness comes from within, by having a positive mental attitude, pursuing your personal goals and a healthy balance between work and leisure activities. Living and enjoying a fulfilling life should be simple, an adventure, and without materialistic complications. Sharing life's adventures with a like minded partner is the gateway to bliss.

Be aware that not all people share your ideals in life. There is always a fox in a chook pen. Recognising the fox and eliminating it is a skill. You have to ask the right questions and be observant of the body language. Let’s start with the priorities of life. Income, food, clothing, and shelter. Unless you have a roof over your head and a decent feed, dating is a luxury. You have to determine very quickly if your potential partner is financially stable and willing to share dating expenses. Is that person renting or owns a home. Renting is fine in your early twenties. If you are in your thirties, you have to ask the hard questions, what is the person’s long term plans for living life. Over forty and still renting, either that person has squandered their income or a product of bad planning in a previous relationship.

Whatever you choose in life has to be a product of rational logic and not emotions. Sex is just relieving a biological itch. Love is just a by-product. The most important thing to consider in Australia is housing is expensive. Once your relationship has collapsed will you have enough collateral to start again? If not you will be stuck in a rent trap for the rest of your life.

Choose wisely and live a happy and prosperous life.

Posted by: jbach at November 18, 2007 2:29 PM

When I get a kiss from a man who says he likes the finer things in life, I take that with a huge grain of salt, especially after I check his profile and he has a mullet haircut, is wearing a singlet and lists trail bikes as an interest.

Just what type of woman are these men trying to attract with such bait?

Posted by: mendelssohn at November 17, 2007 7:05 PM

reply to "woodnwine", you said that htere are no codes in profiles, and that I am paranoid.
However onanother blog somewhere a lady blogger says that YES there are codes, and advises a particular woman NOT to use too many phrase like "fun loving" "open minded", "cuddles" , "leading me up the garden path "etc; , as this may give certain guys the idea that she is open to casual sex.!!

This lady also said , that she removed certain words from her OWN profile, as she was attracting sleazy guys!

See, this is the kind of good solid advice that iwas looking for, from someone with experience in writing a profile.

There are so MANY topics and blogs...(at the moment), that I can't tell you exactly where it is, it may even be further back on this very one.

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 13, 2007 2:39 AM

Somelifeinmeyet: God, just chill will you? relax, breathe, count to 10, and enjoy this site for what it is......F U N !!!

I'm still laughing at the whole idea of playing monopoly.....

Posted by: jellybean70 at November 12, 2007 6:49 PM

In reply to "brilliantblue", I have said plenty of nice things to heaps of people on these blogs. Where were you when they were posted????

I feel that the best way to teach people (and children and pets too), is to lead by example.

Therefore, if I am making a point about something, I may usually give an example of what I did, (not to boast) but to show how it worked for me.)

You are misinterpreting my style of writing.!

Don't you think that my giving an example of what I ACTUALLY did, is more concrete than an "airy fairy" general advice or directions on how to do something?????

There is a saying.."love is an action not just a feeling"..... and I feel that" talk is cheap"...and it is better to show people ..what one has actaully DONE, and how it worked, rather than amble on about what people should and shouldn't do.!!

IE: alot of people waffle on about what should dand shouldn't be done to help the poor , and disadvantaged women and children in theory...but I actaully got out htere and DID something!

Same goes for health and recycling, I don't just TALK about it, but get out and DO it!

I have always been a person of action, not of waffle.

It is a shame, that you did not understand my style of writing when I am trying to give good advice to people.

Just giving vague lists of what to do,( rather than personal examples), to me sounds too much like finger pointing, and I don't think that people try the ideas then, just to be stubborn.

I think that you misinterpret alot of what I say, and no doubt do this with other people too.

Have you never met anyone before who you thought was a good role model who you wated to emulate, or did you think that they were all "skytes" ?????

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 8, 2007 1:53 AM

Be careful of revealing personal details.

The following was posted in The First Phone Call by: chad1958 at November 4, 2007 9:16 PM -
>"how miserable is a man who complains about the cost of a phone call to his women"

is possibly, making a little more sense to me now...

After this character from Queensland emailed me direct (without a prior VK and my acceptance) to request my pic, then sending further emails (where I did give him access to my silhouette gallery pic only) and he declaring:

>"ive just met a women with brains and beauty great pics i think im in love"

and after me being gently humorous with my circumspection ("do you always work so fast?") and finally mentioning I made an exception in his case by accepting his contact because he's a blogger as normally, I will not engage with a pictureless profile (he said he was unable to post a pic)

and I also mentioned...
>"But I must admit, that I am a tad wary of any contact I receive from Queensland, as I hope you will understand.
I also, when approached by someone without a pic and particularly when from another state, will not engage in chat. I made a concession with yourself as you have blogged.

>But, I'm still cautious.

>And trying hard to stop a twitch developing, when I receive contacts from Queensland males.

>Just can't help the Aussi humour breaking out... :)"
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He then replied by talking about his dog Rocky and swore in his email to me (fellow bloggers would know my views on that) talked about being drunk, passing out on his couch and finished by an incorrect attribution to me with his statement/question
>"why dont you like qld men?"

My reply simply was:
>"As I said before: I'm a tad wary of people with no photos and making contact from the other side of Australia."

chad1958's reply was even more simple and quite abrupt....
less than two hours later, his profile was deleted. (Former member appearing in my inbox.)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 7, 2007 12:11 PM

I find that when you let someone know you are not interested but that you are flattered, that they seem to come back under another name.
Or if they keep replying and you have answered them already, then they get very sarcastic towards you about how they would have been so good for me etc. That reallys worries me when they do that. So in the end i have to 'Block' them.

Posted by: sexyforyou4ever at November 4, 2007 5:40 PM

Somelifeinmeyet....from reading over your last blogs, one would get the impression that you are very judgemental of others and are full of self praises for yourself.....what about concentrating on saying something nice to someone else instead of telling us how wonderful you are?
I don't know you, so cannot comment on what sort of person you are but by the same token you don't know any of us either so please don't assume anything because I believe you are way of base with most of your generalisations.

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 1, 2007 7:49 PM

I noticed on the home page a couple of days ago.. a quote from the management of R>S.V.P..." R.S.V.P. blogs are your chance to have a say on R.S.V.P., the services we offer, dating and single life in general".

See! the blogs are for discussing "dating and single life in general"!!

Anything that can help improve a single person's life and dating IS relevant!..(from the management's mouth!)

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 1, 2007 3:53 PM

Ant topic related to being single, how it affects people, how to cope with it, and/or how to do things better and get a BETTER result IS onthe topic

As doctor Phil says to people who are unsuccessful in life and stubbornly refuse to make any changes to get a better result..."How's thatworking for you?????"

from.."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 26, 2007 5:39 PM

this blog is really hard to find, why don't you put it on the main page with the others, ED? It's an important topic for the women on here

Posted by: mysticocean at October 19, 2007 2:25 PM

This attitude is completely unfair on those who are open and genuine people!
No wonder there are so many single people!

I always park the baggage at the door, trust until that trust is broken and above all am completely HONEST.

Sure sometimes there can be hurt but what about when it is genuine! You are cheatng the genuine experiences with this attitude.

Also I hate endless "chat" & Email I am here to contact an meet people not computers! Sure meet in a public place but trust people.

No wonder I am having so much trouble when this is the attitude!

Posted by: creativestuart at October 8, 2007 8:08 AM

I just tried reading all of somelifeinmeyet's recent blogs on here but really, who can be bothered? Sorry somelife as I am sure you mean well but you just go on and on about the same things. Who cares about Queen of the Blogs, or your keyboard or playing monolopy at first meetings (what a ridiculaous suggestion), or circumcision, or how funny your friends think you are or whatever or whatever. Please take a break and catch your breath.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 8, 2007 7:40 AM

somelifeinme - there are no codes for profiles. Stop being so paranoid (about everything).

Posted by: woodnwine at October 8, 2007 7:35 AM

Wow, we all seem to be succumbing to negativity don't we? I used to really push a positive outlook and then I also started getting sucked into the negative vibes that are all over these blogs so I took a break. Somelifeinmeyet - you are so suspicious of everyone and everything I suggest you take a break too - it did me the world of good.

Lighten up everyone.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 8, 2007 7:33 AM

I have met quite a few men who are nothing like their profile. They are shorter, fater, older, not employed, have "issues" or smokers, etc. When I ask them if the photo and profile is current?

Why can't people just be themselves? Wouldn't life be easy.

And on a Positive note. I did meet one guy and he was just as he was in his profile and while we're not each others ideal we have become great friends. And I am thankful that there are lovely guys who do just want to be friends. Makes this whole thing worthwhile.

Even if maybe I don't find a partner just to have widened my cirlcle of close friends by one.

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at October 8, 2007 6:01 AM

somelifeinmeyet needs learn how to spell "alcoholic" before she bags people and gets on her high horse. I have meet many people with addictions who had "the courage to change" and are now hard working, respected members of society. It is people like her, who place stima on others , that relly need to take a "long hard look in the mirror" !

Posted by: cliffy44 at October 8, 2007 12:55 AM

Hey Kaz..nothing wrong with be in your "comfort zone" - if it wasn't a safe and snug place to be it'd be labelled something totally different.

We all have bad experiences here and some have good ones too (and some of us are still waiting for those)...but I still stand firm to the "If it's too good to be true - it probably is" thing :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at October 7, 2007 10:50 PM

Too good to be true?...I don't think so. I've met some really nice guys on RSVP, and I've been treated well, mostly - it's no different to guys I meet socially.

Sometimes you meet someone you like but there's no "spark" so you become friends. One of my RSVP friendships has lasted 18 months now. I've supported him emotionally through a move to another city and through an operation that went badly wrong, and he's supported me as I adjust to a tough job. So it's not just a fair weather friendship. There's just so many people on here, so there are some really lovely men, and some awful ones too no doubt.

Golitelee is right, you just have to be careful and take things slowly. Pay attention to emails, to what they say on the phone and don't overlook anything against your better judgement. Meet sooner rather than later because you don't get body language on the phone, and that's 80% of communication.

I think if you are careful, and pick up on the married men and players early, before they get a chance to burn you, the "too good to be true" can turn out to be true. OK, I'll take off my rose-coloured glasses now...

Posted by: mysticocean at October 7, 2007 9:41 PM

I think the topic title "if its too good to be true it probably is" to be a bit negative to my personal way of thinking, and l have thought about this one along with you wishfulthinker2.

l guess it all depends on perception and expectation.

Having read the myriad of experiences from both females and males that are to the negative (and having had my own personal negative experience as well) leads me to beleive that maybe l am just plain fussy these days and am very set in my comfort zone. Bit deep for me that comment but there you go........k

Posted by: auntykaz at October 7, 2007 7:34 PM

Well said wishfulthinker03!!

Posted by: mushie6 at October 7, 2007 6:09 PM

Sorry if this comes out twice....seems to want me to log in many many times. Can't remember what I said, it was reasonably long and had something to do with bloggers using this to whinge and whine rather than actually address the topic...somelifeinmeyet...10 entries in a row (that has to be a record) and yet nothing to do with the blog topic, only a lot of unrelated garbage aimed at pointing the finger at other bloggers. Give up please...it's just horrible to read and this isn't the forum for it

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at October 7, 2007 5:32 PM

Whatever happened to blogs actually being related to the topic??? Somelifeinmeyet...10 (I think) entries, screeds of writing, yet nothin to do with the If it's too good to be true....topic. This is why some of us old timers stopped reading blogs - it became just a medium for whinging and whining about anything and everything.

I'm so over reading about someone being "Queen of the blogs", yet never ever saw that person lay claim to that title. What is it with you men, get off the woman's back and let her be.

If it seems too good to be true, his photo is handsome, he seems smart, loyal, witty, loving, not to mention sexy as all get out, then yes, there is a good chance his female friend wrote the profile (or his mum/sister) and he can't string a sentence together adn even if he could, then it'd be riddled with typos.

Call me shallow (it's certainly not the worst thing I've been called) but if a profile is loaded with typing errors, simple things like the wrong "to, too or two", "their or there" and my all time favourite "alot" instead of "a lot" it shows me that basic grammar and schooling hasn't been a priority so what else are they lacking??? Profiles are the first thing we see - it's your "selling" point, so if it doesn't read correctly or is full of errors, then yes guys (and girls) those window shoppers will walk right on past!

Now...for those of you who seem to spend copious hours typing up nasty, vindictive blogs relating to nothing other than their ego, can't you please find something better to do with your time?? Just a suggestion :)

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at October 7, 2007 5:31 PM

somelifeinmeyet... your a comedian right?? You have to tell me where you perform cause damn you make me laugh ... :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at October 7, 2007 5:25 PM

Cancel my previous blogs about Dani46

Read my profile.

You'll see the wacko jackos I go out with

OMG they'res no hiding place is there

Posted by: tequieroputa at October 7, 2007 4:50 PM

RSVP is no different to meeting someone at a club or bar.

You don't know what you're getting, so you need to be careful and take the time to figure it out.

Don't email someone for longer than a month at the most before meeting them, pay attention to email content, and meet up in a public place during the day for your first 'date'.

Not everyone is what they appear - and not everyone appears the way that they think they do!

Posted by: golitelee at October 3, 2007 5:03 PM

Luck of the draw people.. luck of the draw :)

Posted by: niceguy4uwa at October 2, 2007 2:34 AM

"Somelifinmeyet"...People who know me in person have often said to me.."you are too good to be true..no one can be that nice".......So I am not really suprised that "ninaschen" thinks that I am really "Playtrains' or something!

So I wish to say.."yes I really am that nice..yes I really am a real person..yes I do really grow organic vegetables and sing at kareoke..(and allthe other things on my profile.!!)

But some people think that nice people are weak. WRONG!! I am nice but very strong! I am firm in my standards and beliefs, and will not tolerate any @#*&^from anyone, (especially on this site.)

Some people assume that friendly, smiley, sociable people are doormats and believe in "anything goes" and have low moralty standards!(and will accept ANY kind of person or behaviour into their socail circle!)

Not me, I have very high standards.

Those who use, abuse, lie. sleep around etc; are NOT welcome into my life.

Just as "you are what you eat"..so it also goes...."birds of a feather flock together".

You can tell alot about a person by the company they keep,and you won't find any weirdos and freaks alcaholics, drug addict,and the immoral in my company.

I may feel sorry for people, but I have learnt the hard way , that they have to WANT to change....so if they change their lives around, I may reconsider..but in the meantime i say >>"KEEP AWAY FROM ME>""

I like a nice moral , quiet family life..and I wish to keep it that way.

I enjoy my life, because I have boundaries.

Those who would say this is judgemental, probably are the abusers,( or don't have any boundaries, because they are these "weak , dooramt/anything is okay with me types" who the abusers love to tread on an use over and over.(some times they are those weak doormat new age /christian types who think that they are being judgemnetal if they stop people from abusing them).

When the freaks realise that you have worked them out, and their "game is up" they can get very angry..(as many on the blogs have mentioned tirades in emails, phone calls , txts etc;)
So if a ceratin woman, who made up lies about what I said on my blog (to try and get people to vilify me on the boards..like what happened to poor "woodnwine"), calls me judgemental, I will just laugh, as she will be showing herself into the daylight as one of these awful people that I am warning you about.

I have no time for "primrary school minded/pathological lying trouble makers."

Perhaps she wants to believe that she is "Queen of the blogs", and I am a threat to her, because my writing is better and funnier than hers.??????(And more people check my profile than hers?)

How childish! I say to her..."get a life"!

"Let the buyer beware"

FRom .."Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 1, 2007 12:22 PM

From "BloggerGetReal" to "Somelifeinmeyet" LOL...
I have repeatedly noticed that when you comment on other peoples comments, you dont even READ them properly in the first place. So why bother? You look foolish enough already after all your circumcision posts.....LOL

By the way you still havent twigged that it is redundant to intro and sign off each post with your name....it is posted via a hyperlink regardless.....duh!

Posted by: bloggersgetreal at October 1, 2007 12:18 PM

From "somelifeinmeyet"..I was pleased to see, that a new blogger"dani" likes to play card and board games.

I am not into gambling..but kids card games and board games are great fun for me to play.

Suggestion:::....instead of dinner dates......why don't people sit in a park or something and play monopoly or something like that together for a few hours????????

They will get to talk for hours, and have fun too. (And it won't be so much like a job interview!)

(And much less pressure on the poor nervous woman wondering if the guy is going to oversetep the line , and try to get fresh, and then the woman will have to call an ubrupt end to the date!!!.....)

I feel that a "board game date" sounds much more relaxed. Don't you agree?????

From .."Somelifeinmeyet".

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 1, 2007 11:52 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"...is the word "affectionate" in guys profiles a request for a sex mad woman?? ..also "tactile"???.There seems to be little codes, and I would like to be informed about them from those who know.

(Didn't "affectionate" and "tactile" used to mean a woman who likes to put her arm around her husbands shoulder, hold hands or give him a hug????....does "affectionate" now mean...."Will do oral sex" ..or something else?????)

I think it is a scarey world out there, with men talking in all these codes!!!!
Men should REALISE that not all women know these codes, or are using these codes in thier profiles!

(Maybe this is why some women are being distressed by being sexually propositioned on first dates, and writing about in in the blogs.????????Perhaps they said that they wanted an affectionate man..(not a cold typical Anglo/Saxon fish like their ex-..who likes to cuddle)...and instead men think "cuddle" means something else!!

Perhaps R.S.V.P. should start a new section..detailing that" old words and expressions have new meanings, on singlkes web sites".... and warning that if women put certain words in their profiles..that men will think other things!!!!

(Hopefully, I do not think that i have written anything in my profile that will cause a problem)

But you never know..perhaps "organic vegetables" and "free range eggs", and" cooking "and "gardening "could have taken on sinister meanings by now!!! LOL!!! (Which means "laugh out loud" for those who do not know).

What a world.things are changing for the worse!!

from.."Somelifeinmeyet'

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 1, 2007 11:44 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..i am still battling this naughty keyboard, typing and retyping again! it especially hates doing capital letters when i want it to, and loves holding down the caps lock when i didn't press it, and running off a whole sentence of capitals, which i then have to erase.!!!!

This keyboard has a special aversion to typing capital "i", so after numerous attempts at erasing and rewriting that don't work, i often think..."too bad, i give up!, i'll leave it there."

So please excuse any errors. i have a university education...but my KEYBOARD doesn'T!! LOL!!!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 1, 2007 12:10 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyt"..To "woodnwine'..I agree with your comment "a lot of people want to change the world, but not themselves".

I am a ver big believer in people self-improving themselves throughout their lives, not just in school.
especialy after a divorce, courses in self-awareness, self-esteem, assertiveness, knowing themselves better, counselling, relaxation,treatment for anxiety disorders and/or depression...(and whatever else will help, that i may not have named).

Attatched to the R.S.V.p. site, I noticed an email series by a guy, about how guys think..explaining it to women!

I have been checking it out, and am very impressed by it, and find it spot on, and would reccomend that girls read it.

(It really makes you see why our ancestors dispensed with all the agony, and guesswork by the girls as to what a guy was REALLY htinking......, and just arranged marriages and said to the young guys "I'm your Dad..and you will COMMIT to this girl now or else!!"

LOL!!

from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 6:26 PM

From ."Somelifeinmeyet"..well it just shows that you are NEVER too old to learn somrthing new or be shocked, (or laugh because its so shocking) at some of the terrible things that have happened to the men and women on this blog!!!

(I don't think that I will tell my daughters, as they will be upset, and tell me.."Mum..get off that web site immediately..I warned you what it was like!")

this stuff about "Warren1941" sounds shocking1

I laughed when "hiddencharms' asked "Are you my ex-husband?" and that she hopes that it turns green and falls off! LOL!!!

On August 1st..."ornamentalonly' talks about "Happyguy" and what he could be doing with her photo now!!!....(Another reason I don't post a photo, which I actually mention in my profile!)

I laughed about "hiddencharms' comments about Viagra being needed, and microscopic genitals like breakfast sausages!...(that's why they call them "little boys!" LOL!!)

I'm laughing, but of course it all deadly serious!

(But I myself know the benefit of delivering something serious with humour! Some friends have said of my writing.."I was squirming and laughing at the SAME time reading what you wrote!!!LOL!!")

Hope you enjoy my various writings, and get the point as well. Thanks!

From "somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 6:13 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" to "ornamentalonly" re your horible experience with that guy on here..he sounds a bit like a married lawyer that someonelse was warning people about on another blog!

I looked up the profile the lady said, and he was called something innocious like "gallantry" something or other.....and you would NEVER guess from his profile..nothing sleazy in it!

So, is it the same one? Maybe that's why he doesn't turn up, married, and probably juggling twenty different dating sites!!!

Maybe his penis will just DROP OFF from overuse???LOL!! Then we could all be grateful!! LOL!!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 5:40 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..to poor "Happygirl"..about her bad experience with the creep threatening to post things on the net of their intimate moments!!! What a rat!!!

Another reason girls to "Hold out" , and not invite any "cars to park in your garage" until you know them very , very, very well,( and have the engagement ring on the finger preferably...)...(well I'm very old fashioned!)

A funny thing/joke that was emailed to me recently....

"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" (what guys think)......

(and what girls think)..."Why buy the whole pig, when all you want is a little sausage">>LOL!!!

(I shouldn't really laugh..as its not nice when people are used.....But I had never heard the pig one before..and thought it was rather witty!! (Sorry!)

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 5:32 PM

From ."somelifeinmeyet"..Poor "getreal" complains that he met a sleazy woman who likes bi-sexual men!Quick! get the mouth wash! yuck!Run! Lucky you never kissed her before you found out!!! LUCKY YOU!!!.. to escape...AIDS/hepatitis A,B,C,/herpes/ chlamydia/thrush/warts..and anything else.

Yes there are some sleazy women as well as men!

(read my blog on my dislike of smokers for more info.You'll need mouthwash after just reading it, as it is very direct and to the point!!!)

As the Romans used to say (but in latin.).."Let the buyer beware"

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 5:21 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..I have some concerns about fake profiles. Mainly used by people who used to vilify people on the boards to now prank them and set up fake dates etc;

There is a new profile of what appears to be a retarded boy (by his photo and the things he says)...if he really is retarded then my apologies to him...but there has been some comments by others who think that he is someone who used to be mean on the blogs, (before they were cleaned up).

Another is a male blogger with a very harsh photo,(and I am wondering if he is one of the women bloggers posing as a man, so she can get away with all sorts of nasty comments.)????????????

Many bloggers have talked about people who they have talked to, setting up dates, and then the man/woman never turns up on the day!

Unfortunately, I would warn new profilers, that those people who may be jealous (when they see your great photo..or see that you are on the "Top 100". etc;).... and asTHEY have "primrary school minds")...may deliberately write to you under a false profile, as they are jealous as anything of you...and think that to pretend to be a guy/girl in love with you, and then dump you is a great thrill to them!

This is why I think some men also don't want to post their photo if they are good looking,(and women too)......as it encourages these loser pranksters!!!!

Also, if you have a the problem with someone at work/school/church/singles group/sports club/gym etc; who has always burned with envy of you (no wonder it is one of the SEVEN DEADLY SINS).....and wants to hurt you by writing to you under a fake profile., then be wary when answering kisses, or kissing toi profiles.!!!

Be aware, new profilers , if you fall into the top percentiles re looks/body/brains/personality etc; as there will always be those out to get you wherever you are. (its just that in the internet, as you can't see who they are, you are more vunerable!!)

Case in point...recently on "Today Tonight" a school girl was strung along on the internet for about 8 months, by a supposed boy that she was corresponding to. It turned out to just be a string of assorted school "mates" , who disliked her and wanted to play an evil prank on her.

When she finally found out what they had done to her, she was depressed and suicidal.!!!

It was on Tv as a warning to others, and a warning to all parents, to keep an eye on their kids on the internet. (Her parents were very distressed!!)

Forwarned is forarmed.!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 5:11 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" to "genuinehonest1"..I was pleased to read your comments on romance! I'm glad not all men on this site are "players".I'm glad that you have restraint and want to get to know someone first.

From "Somelifeinmeyet'

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 4:53 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..maybe these male "Nigerian scammers" are the new 2007 eqivilent of the "mail order bride" LOL!!!

Well the mail order brides have had the whole field to themselves for too long anyway! Now they are letting someone else get a "piece of the action"!! LOL!

I personally know some people who fell for these women, and now they(the women) and their children have Australian citizenship, because of these silly men! (And their stories turned out very badly!)

But once they have their citizenship, the governement has NO power to cancel their citizenship, which I feel it should.!

They should have a special ten year Trial Citizenship for these kinds of marriages..to protect the men, and to protect us! (ie: any of her children committing criminal acts in Australia, should be deported back to their country of origin, to serve out their sentences in their own country..never to return!)

Why should the Australian taxpayer bear the bill for their incarceration, for stupid white men who mary women 40 years younger then themselves, and kid themselves that these women are actually in love with them!! LOL!!

"Let the buyer beware"

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 4:50 PM

From"Somelifeinmeyet" re spelling..What if one has a naughty keyboard with a mind of its own?ie;..You press the "shift" button, but it doesn't come out as a capital?? You press the right letter, but it types the one next to it? LOL!!

Its just all done it now, AGAIN..just when i was typing this!! LOL!
(Perhaps i should chuck out my keyboard and get another one..but I am too soft hearted!...Thinking of the poor thing trying to decompose in landfill for decades...Boo hoo!)

it just made MORe errors yet again!

Ahhh... i am so sentimental..and such a recycler..i can't stand waste, eeven it its anaughty keyboard! LOL!!!

From :Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 30, 2007 4:39 PM

Hi after reading some of the things that some of you females/males have been through,it disgusts and deplores me how some people can call themselves human beings. I actually feel sorry for them,they need counselling. My animals are much greater beings than them.

Have my own story to tell.When i first joined this site,met a woman who said they had 1 child. Turned out she had 5 children to 3 different partners. Ok kind,caring loyal,understanding(fool)no problems.

I wanted to take things slow and after 3 months asked her if she wanted to go away to the Blue Mountains. A friend let us stay at their house as they were away. Went and got groceries and she get's a call from an ex. A child as they do are straight forward says to me that's (name i.e ex ex) not who lives with us(her ex)

Just goes to show take your time. I was lucky,unlike some of the peoples stories i've read on here. Could go on but i believe in water under the bridge/off a ducks back. It turns me off women with children,but that is not fair. Once bitten,twice shy,that's all.

Also what concerns me is that some guys/women want sex on the first date,comments. I say dont! Not for at least 3 months. Get to know the person. In this day and age,and the internet,i believe that's a wise thing to do.

There are a lot of people on this site who are wolves in sheeps clothing. Never lower you values, just ask heaps of questions,and take your time.

More importantly, whatever happened to romance? Dating,going out for a special dinner,having a picnic,buying flowers?

Then,and only then you could make love(Not Sex). Also i believe that you must like each other,and then can move forward.

genuinehonest1

Posted by: Genuinehonest1 at September 5, 2007 4:06 PM

Just reading this blog for the first time and interested in the African Scams, re Suzanner, Nicky and SeraphSusie. I was contacted by someone who was supposed to be on an oil rig in the North Sea. After a while of emailing and IM chatting he was coming home to Australia where he supposed to have a house in Brisbane.
He went via Nth Africa to visit an oil refinery, got mugged al his visas taken his drive shot and guess what, he want me to send money for the diver's hospital bill and his airfare. I conatacted RSVP his name has now been deleted( DANCING SAILOR, he was also supposed to be a widower) and also the fraud squad in Brisbane who were happy to have all the details for their files. If you look up Nigerian Internet dating scams there is a wealth of information about them. Please contact the police as they need all the information they can to deter these people and let RSVP know if you are suspicious. If it's seems to good to be true it probably is. No one is going to fall in love with you after a month of emailing and these people are expert professionals, don't fall for it.

Posted by: lalanie at September 2, 2007 5:54 PM

It is nice to hear all these ladies complain about the 3 monther. I would be happy if you ladies would just return my email after all the effort I go to writing you a nice introductory letter and spending money on the stamp. After all I did send the kiss first and you did follow up asking me to email you. It wasn't an off the cuff thing.

Posted by: cant remember at September 1, 2007 6:42 PM

Thanks ThoughtProvoking for your reply..however for me its not how the profile is presented, it's what it represents... the message behind it. If it's funny, interesting, I couldn't give two hoots if the person can't spell.. it will get my attention every time. And um people with dyslexia also have problems reading, so a dictionary is not always going to help them. What I think helps is a little more understanding by others that not everyone is able to read and write like a University professor and that does not make them any less intelligent! For as you probably know intelligence is not based on how many degree's or letters after your name. :-)

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at August 31, 2007 5:59 PM

Hi SeraphSuzie,
I hope I didn't imply that I yell or scream at what I feel would be an overuse of capitals. I'm saying that words in all caps represent yelling, if you LOVE football, then shout it out for sure. BUT IF YOU LIKE QUIET NIGHTS IN FRONT OF THE TV, using all caps might make it a little confusing. As covered elsewhere, we don't have alot of scope for nuance with straight text, that's why these conventions have come about.

In regard to spelling, grammar and all those associated things, I am well aware that some people have more difficulty than others (already in this post I have had to check my spelling more than once) and the reasons for that can be varied, dyslexia is the one you noted, so is english being a second, third etc. language, accessibilty of education is another reason. That is why I suggested having a dictionary nearby, alternatively, if like myself you find the little text box we have to post a comment small and awkward, type blogs/profiles in a word processor, run spell check and then copy/paste.You could then save a copy if an unfortunate event happens to your post/profile.
Finally, as for some people judging on words alone, I'm sure it was a general statement so I'd like to add to that by cautioning people that not only shouldn't we judge people by their words alone, but also not just by their picture and/or lack of one.Cheers,

Posted by: ThoughtProvoking at August 30, 2007 1:14 AM

Warning I dated a man off RSVP earlier this year high profile professional man, who I had developed real feelings for, but realised early on he was sleeping with other women. He then proceeded to send me nasty emails after the relationship ended, that he had taped our 'intimate' moments on his mobile phone ( without my knowledge or permission) and was intending to download it on the web. Be aware Sisters he's a journalist and is on and off this site and is unassuming doesnt look the type either. Pr--ck

Posted by: HappyGirl at August 29, 2007 7:42 PM

For those that yell and scream at people whose profiles are in caps.. or don't spell properly.. did you ever consider that perhaps they could be dyslexic? Just a thought.. seems we are quick to judge some based on words alone.

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at August 29, 2007 7:00 PM

Have just read the blogs above (well just the first half, too much to read in one sitting). I thought I'd post my 2c while I struggle to make RSVP save my profile properly. I have just recently re-entered the dating scene and the pitfalls I see now are only slightly different to what it was 5 years ago.
In regard to profiles, I limit my search to the things I am looking for, but even then... Headlines that imply desperation, 'Am Looking For' with any in all but two of the fields (usually age and height), women who love the gym, who love reading (if they can find the time) and like nothing better than curling up on the lounge to watch a DVD (if you love reading, there is your spare time).

If a person is genuinely interested in looking for a relationship (and check what sort of relationship they are looking for) they will spend the time to make their profile right. If someone writes in their profile 'I don't know what to say', expect when/if you meet them that they still will not know what to say. Finally (for the bit on profiles) please be aware that good etiquette still applies online. Punctuation should be used, ALL CAPS implies yelling, and correct spelling is not an option (use a dictionary, if you don't have one at home, google one). People will be much more impressed if they can read your post the way you intend.

In regard to dating, I think I will be advising anyone who I arrange to date (hopefull aren't I?) to put in place a phone contact after x amount of time, and then try to encourage them to make regular phone calls. Unfortunately in todays society there is a heightened awareness of all the things that could go wrong, I say unfortunately because I am still a dreamer of a perfect world. For guys, think about the things you would want your daughter (when/if you have one) to be thinking about. Gals, be aware that guys are too thinking about these things and how it can prevent him from acting in a natural manner for fear it may send the wrong message.
I'll leave it at that for now, I'm getting vertigo from standing on my soapbox too long.

Cheers,

P.s. My profile will be up eventually, going to try a different browser.

Posted by: ThoughtProvoking at August 26, 2007 5:55 PM

Fefa63, and all the other man bashers...its not only men on the adult sites, I've seen bucketloads of ladies from RSVP there too.

One of them recently sent me a kiss thru RSVP. From her profile elsewhere, I knew she was 4 years older than she claimed , fatter than she claimed, her sexual preferences include bisexual men, and she was incredibly arrogant and refusing to have anything to do with men unless they were at least 5 years younger than her. Of course her RSVP profile shows her to be a sweet girl. ha ha ha

Whenever you accuse men of sleazy behaviour, just make sure you remember there is always a parallel for the women.

Posted by: getReal at August 21, 2007 9:26 PM

Regarding Naiad18'ss comment about men who 'Just send out a lot of kisses and see what jumps out of the mix', boy, you should see it from the male side. RSVP seems to be chockers full of females who put up a glamout photo, send out bucketloads of kisses and see what the cat drags in. IT is clear that they dont read the profile, just go on the photo.

No intention fo buying stamps it is purely a fishing expedition.

I am sure its these type of women who just auto matically respond with "Looking fwd to your email", and when they get it, THEN read the profile properly,and decide they made a mistake.

Posted by: getReal at August 21, 2007 8:54 PM

hiddencharms at August 14, 2007 5:48 PM -thanks! Will keep an eye out.

Posted by: Ornamentalonly at August 18, 2007 1:44 AM

Re posting by: EarlWyoming at August 13, 2007 9:31 AM - very good point.

I just pulled the plug two nights ago after a third telephone conversation with a JP, who works high up in the medical industry (and comes from Italy not Sicily but I wouldn't be surprised, going by some of his comments, if he had mafia type connections).

It was not only that of course.

He also continually dismissed my replies to HIS continual questioning of my life, etc.
If someone can't accept another person's experiences after asking for them and needs to constantly deride another person's responses BEFORE meeting in person BESIDES being sexually suggestive; complain often, on the fact he didn't get my home number, only having my mobile number (which he said he couldn't work out from my txt) even though I would ring him on his landline after he texted he was available to chat.
That was besides failing to ring as previously arranged, a specific time for an afternoon coffee meet (supposedly he was over the limit from a business luncheon & was driven home by a friend) and then txting me after 8:30pm (when House was on!! & I didn't telephone until it was finished) what hope would there be for a normal, unthreatening start to a friendship/relationship?

Perhaps I should have accepted his continual first meeting offer of a meal at Observation City Hotel?? Along with his prying on what sort of underwear I would wear to this "first meeting" and his description of the luxury suite we would go to after the meal??

But I only promise to have a cuppa at a first meet and if someone can't make that and then doesn't bother apologizing (even after my tactful mention of enjoying the cup of tea with him later while chatting on the phone rather than in person,) I think there are some issues.

Combined with this particular person's association with criminals, politicians, magistrates, lawyers and judges (all sometimes having few differences) with his Justice of the Peace duties (and who knows what else?) - I think this one was definitely on the "Not to be trusted List".

Just like EarlWyoming says: "If the flags are up, pay attention. Do not attempt to cross the tracks when the lights are flashing in your face."

And yes Earl, I agree with you that it goes for the women too.

Posted by: Ornamentalonly at August 18, 2007 1:40 AM

Re posting by: geminikj at August 12, 2007 6:24 PM,

-okay I do take your point and I should have responded directly to "galahad" with no thanks/absolutely not/no way ever, but I (being that kind of female) didn't want to hurt his feelings and sent a separate VK back with the compliment of liking his sense of humour too. -I honestly didn't expect any reply back.

Besides, I didn't think I would measure up to his:

"seeking any woman between 18-120years"[would I be superceded by “any woman� younger, better looking or richer? Besides his specification of being "slim to average" –yeah, I am average size and shrinking but what is wrong with a little extra?]

or his,

"Would like to meet a winner(spiritual sense) with a zest for life, [I have chronic fatigue] a free spirit(like me) [I’m not like that at all]. A sort of beautiful genius [I'm no genius!!!] who is tolerant and focused(on me). Age is not a consideration..it IS a state of mind. [It sure is and some days I feel like someone in their 80’s!]"

Geminikj, I felt I simply didn’t measure up to what he wanted, right from his opening statement to most things later stated in his profile (both of which, I won't go into here).

This besides me being closer in age to his eldest child of 37 years (that normally wouldn’t bother me in isolation,) as well as being his travel partner (if he couldn’t afford to email, I certainly can’t afford to travel with him –I did mention he lives in an old up-market area and I don’t,) as well as his -

“Reading: Fine print, anectdotals, dictionary,historical novels,contracts, bank statement,� etc. etc.

So, I felt a nice reply was the return separate vk:

“I like your sense of humour�.

Apparently, subtleness didn’t work too well with this particular person.

But let’s face it; if he was still interested, HE would have emailed in, seeing as he was the first one to send a VK.

Perhaps he forgot he had Vked me in the first place, as he had already sent out multitudes of free Vk’s, hoping for instant emails in return?

But I do take your point geminik. Next time I will simply send a reply straight back saying “She is flattered, but does not wish to correspond any further and wishes you well in your search.�

All much simpler and straightforward.

Ornamental Only bows her head in acknowledgement to geminikj, cup of tea in hand (I just spent 1 1/2 hrs in the pool so I've only had one glass of wine tonight,) and gives geminikj a smile. : )

Posted by: ornamentalonly at August 18, 2007 12:26 AM

Earlwyoming. What a view?! There has been some paranoia going round these sites.... & yes it is valid to be cautious, anyone can follow a trail....
But I am sure a big man like you who likes to wear big hats & has a super fast car is safe...... actually.... I can guarantee it.

Posted by: TrumansCat at August 17, 2007 12:39 AM

To hiddencharms, re- credit card fraud.

The numbers on the back of the card are for security only, if you are asked for the number, usually the last three digits it proves that you have the card in your posession.
I would never give those numbers over the telephone, they are commonly asked for when doing a internet transaction on a secure site. If someone has those numbers it verifies that they have the card wether they do or not.

Posted by: hereforu2 at August 15, 2007 1:14 AM

To the ladies who have mentioned African scams: I just had to share this with some of the people who have been tested by some of the African scammers. The Today Show, this morning at about 7.00am (for anyone who would like to trace the information and who to speak to), had a segment on African internet scams. The good news is that many of the African scams are now being tracked and funds are being impounded. I know there are ladies who have been, or potentially been, out of pocket for travel expenses etc., so maybe there is now an avenue to pursue to try and retrieve funds...? The bad news is, that they are branching out into free lotto frauds, mail order goods frauds and mail order bride frauds - even adoption scams.

Back to my point: It seems that these people use internet dating sites (among others) to establish contacts and obtain email addresses. They then send these "Free Lotto" emails or "You are a Winner" emails and tell you that you have a win of say $10 000 waiting to be collected when you pay your $14.95 subscription fee via credit card number. However, they also ask for extra card verification information, like the numbers printed on the strip where you sign (mine has 7 - I checked). Apparently these numbers indicate in some way your credit limit. Somehow, instead of taking the small $15 you authorise through this Free Lotto system, they tap into whatever credit is available on your card! (I got one of these emails, a couple of months ago claiming that I'd one $300 000 and did not give out credit card details to something I had not personally entered). So, quite possibly could have been someone who had made an email contact.

From what was said on the Today Show, the players don't have to be "African", but crawl from under rocks from all over the world, and have tapped into this highly lucrative scheme. As others have pointed out, it is getting very close to home, when contacting Aussie RSVP bloggers.

Sorry I didn't grab the info on exactly who to contact, as I was putting a bomb under teenager to get out the door. Hope, however, if Channel 9 can help (perhaps the Today Show website?), that some of our lady bloggers can receive some advice and help. They were also calling for any and all information that can help nip this in the bud.

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 14, 2007 5:48 PM

well well well
i had met this guy on rsvp
but he turned out to be a an ....... {make it what u will}
he showed me his true colors when he didnt get sex
ok you boyto men whats going wrong why is that we try to be friends to you but you take it the wrong way . we dont always want sex a nice cuddle sometimes helps

Posted by: dizblon at August 13, 2007 1:41 PM

Dating Safely.

Who is paying attention?

There are males on this site who have connections to the criminal underworld. That is putting it politely. Some actually boast about it, brag is the word. So you think they are only skiting and hang around because it sounds exciting? How is your funeral policy? Up to date?

Then there are plenty with DVOs and AVOs. You are not entitled to a copy of their criminal history. Shame isn't it. How are you going to learn about it till the first heavy blow hits you hard in the jaw. How fast can you run, and are you one of those who suffer from embarrassment and will not pursue it in court. You do no favours to the police, or the community, if you let the offender off.

And now, something which everyone avoids.

Dating safety tips are oriented mostly towards women, on the assumption, statistically, that they are the most vulnerable. That is normally correct.

But if you are a male, do not rule out the potential for any female to cross the line. Women are quite capable of sinking a kitchen knife into you as you blissfully sleep on their bed. There are a few online with deep seated psychiatric issues. As a male, you will be overembued with self confidence and arrogance not to pay any attention to the warnings signs.
If the flags are up, pay attention. Do not attempt to cross the tracks when the lights are flashing in your face.

Most of this washes over everyone. C'est la vie

Posted by: EarlWyoming at August 13, 2007 9:31 AM

Insomnia kicks in so I started reading the blogs before work.

So glad I do not have any daughters, some of the stories here would give me nightmares.
I have read some great advice for people here and thought I would throw my thoughts into the ring.
No one should ever feel pressured at any time when on a date or when meeting someone, unless of course you are really late and did not call. 15 minutes I can handle but 45 minutes and hmmm. Tardy is untidy.
I would recommend

- Never meeting anywhere but a very public place until your absolutely comfortable

- Always telling a friend/family member where and who you are going out with and dates ph#.

- Getting a friend to call/message after 30 minutes to make sure all is ok, or even go to the ladies and message your friend all is ok.

- If you have a friend that is aware your dating have them accompany you with their partner or be at the venue you are going to. If someone is interested in getting to know you this really should not freak them out.

- Kiss>email>chat>call>meet is a great concept. Is a good way to avoid the non genuine ones and time wasters.

- Careful of those that want to meet in nearby towns. What are they scared someone might see them? I am sure there are some legitimate reasons but be careful anyway.

- Don�t rush it, if a gent is truly interested he can and will deal with it.

- If you find yourself in an uncomfortable position say hello to a staff member or strike up a conversation with someone in the area. Pushy people tend to back down when they find it is no longer their private party.

- If in doubt call it off.

Some things to ponder

- I do give my number out early in emails when I receive a message, I do NOT ask for or expect one in return. The reason I do this is because I felt it was a sign of being open. No hidden girlfriend or wife etc.

- Not all men who list looking for friends are looking for friends with benefits. Some of us actually do enjoy female company on a friendship basis.

Turned into more a lecture than I intended but just my thoughts all the same. Just previewed the post going to have to work out how to format these things so they dont appear as a wall of text.
Blog on folks some of these are great reading.
G

Posted by: WorkerOne at August 13, 2007 3:49 AM

oops think i may have inadvertently posted anonymously. (re the blog to ornamentalonly re confusion abt kisses). & thats withOUT a glass or 2 of anything. maybe thats my problem! LOL.

Posted by: geminikj at August 12, 2007 6:24 PM

ornamentalonly, im confused by your friday night red wine vent. (maybe cos i dont drink red, lol). not sure what was wrong with the guy who sent the kiss you discussed? why not just respond 2 his original kiss rather than confuse the issue by sending another? most people would expect the kisser is also the emailer. if i kissed someone then they kissed me back, i would take that to mean they wish to spend the stamp.

Posted by: at August 12, 2007 6:05 PM

Sorry to drag you all back to the Warren41 saga. There was actually a profile up. Well, someone making the same miserable offers. Silly people should not make contacts and hope you will not keep them in your history. Then they can be traced when they change their names and try to make new contact.

Posted by: at August 12, 2007 4:40 PM

Addendum to my "Friday night (10.8.7) vent aided by a glass or two of red":

.....But the real kicker is:

when I returned his VK (saying he liked my sense of humour,) with my separate VK ( saying I liked his sense of humour)
- he then sent a return VK awaiting my email!!

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 11, 2007 10:43 AM

Friday night vent aided by a glass or two of red:

Okayyyyy�.some people have more hide than a rhino.
I was contacted/vked on 7 August by an older man (I generally have no problem with that) with 6 kids (his youngest 11yrs/my youngest 23 years) who lives in an old money area (I don't) and says he is a business owner in real estate (an ominous sign?).

His heading includes his desire for a "like minded female who likes holidays (with me)" [he wants to save money by getting the couples discount along with the "fringe benefits"?] who wants a slim/average woman between 18 and 120 years old (does not care how young/old the paying bimbo/desperate is?) at most one inch shorter than himself (an indicator of his inferiority feelings?) and also wants:
"to meet a winner(spiritual sense)..with a zest for life, a free spirit(like me). A sort of beautiful genius who is tolerant and focused(on me). Age is not a consideration..it IS a state of mind."

And he does not mind I am an old, worn out, bag of 45years?? Whoopy doo!

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 10, 2007 9:13 PM

SO GUYS OUT THERE if you "SPEED" then us ladies do not think "Big" of you! Posted by: Celo at August 10, 2007 10:56 AM

Agreed especially since i get to clean up the mess after you get it wrong. Not a pleasant experience

Posted by: notmyrealname at August 10, 2007 7:22 PM

nrg4life - well said, too many people on here are quick to blame but are reluctant to take any responsibility for what happens to them, sometimes over and over again. This is worth a read people. Cheers.

Everyone wants to change the world but few people are prepared to change themselves.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 10, 2007 6:36 PM

This must be one the longest single handed thread! lol but was a enjoyable read. I must say a few of my experiences weren't quite merry.
Who hasn’t met a guy like this? I seem to end up with manchos who drives irresponsibly!
Just to prove themselves and their masculinity, he went through the red light and did burnouts right in between the intersection and thought it was funny!!
I was totally freaked!
Ironically the recent Pinkie /XXsmall condom Ad launched by theRTA truely depict this-Uncoolness;
SO GUYS OUT THERE if you "SPEED" then us ladies do not think "Big" of you!

Posted by: Celo at August 10, 2007 10:56 AM

Have a safe weekend everyone and hope if you have a meeting or date that it goes well.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 10, 2007 8:50 AM

I dont think the problem is just fake profiles but also people who use the site for an ego trip. There seems to be many profiles who are more intent on making the top one 100 then actually meeting anyone, and yet there profiles talks relationships. I have had many girls acknowledge my kiss and say look forward to hearing from me, and after sending an email I never here from them again.

Posted by: Dare2RiskiT at August 10, 2007 8:18 AM

"if it's too good to be true... it probably is!" - even the title bespeaks prejudice!!

It has been interesting to read some of the comments, ideas and suggestions in this forum. For the most part I can understand and appreciate at least a little of where the writers are coming from, and (sadly) where they might be going to.

Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it!) I disagree with/feel a bit sad about/even pity many of the "reactions" people (from females and males alike) have to the experiences they describe.

If I come away from a connection with somebody with negative feelings (anger, betrayed, victimised, cheated... the list could go on considerably), then I need to consider a number of points, such as:

What did I contribute to bringing that experience into my life? These things do not "just happen". Yes, I have to take some responsibility for what I attract in my life.

What am I going to learn from it? And that does not mean prejudge every subsequent experience based on the previous one. It is more about what can I learn about myself, so that I can move on to a higher level of experience. Even to learn how could I have touched that persons life in a different way to help them to see things differently? THAT takes a lot of energy, and I must confess I am not always up for that. So I choose otherwise. But that is my choice. Again, my responsibility!

How can I continue to move to where I want to be in this life? To be present so I can fully experience what is going on around me at any particular time, and not be dragging with me my own past, and lumping that on those around me. And to not be trying to push others inexorably into a future they do not want to have. And yet balance that with a gentle tug to help them to be the best they can be (in their eyes, not mine!) Again, THAT takes a lot of energy, and I must confess again I am not always up for that either. And again, I need to be responsible for what I do.

After all, you and I are human (I was going to say "only" human, but that is a "cop out"!)

I hope I have succeeded in making this non-sexist, since it applies to all of us regardless of gender.
Naive? Maybe!
Idealistic? Possibly!
Present? I hope so!
"At cause" , and not "at effect"? Even better still!
Helpful to you?! I hope so, but I am not counting on it! Ultimately that is up to you! Your responsibility! {;-D)
And do I know what I am talking about? Ask me tomorrow - hopefully I will have learned more by then!

Posted by: nrg4life at August 10, 2007 3:37 AM

Well I would like to say after many many kisses, like nearly 800 I met someone, all he ever did was text msg me. I cannot even remember his profile name, but his name was John and for a whole year thats all I knew, I did'nt know where he lived, never met any of his friends, would'nt take me out and called me the most disgusting names you call a woman, I finally had to change my mobile number and I have a new profile, now, I find it so hard now, and still have nightmares on what he did and called me.... I am so weary now!!

Posted by: blon1971 at August 10, 2007 12:31 AM

hiddencharms, Aug. 5
If anything turns green and drops off, I hope it is environmentally friendly.

Posted by: LivelyAndFunny at August 9, 2007 9:22 PM

Laughed with Jessy4 at August 2, 2007 10:16 PM, sicumrex at August 2, 2007 10:33 PM, LivelyAndFunny at August 3, 2007 12:00 AM and hiddencharms on August 5, 2007 8:55 PM, August 8, 2007 1:23 AM, particularly with some of hc's comments:

"the lethal dose of medication" needed, "magnifying glass" and "cocktail brekky snags".

My disclaimer (to any who may be offended/take my amusement personally at the medication/magnifying glass/cocktail brekky snags or any other comments,) I am showing my support for hc (and others) for the hurt she has sustained and the right for her to make comments from her own knowledge - nothing else.

I gave my own opinion on August 3, 2007 10:30 AM with:

"Oh, silly me for not realising!
This Warren1941 posting and profile is a real life demonstration and warning, on the dangers of dating."

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hiddencharms, I find your following opinion absolutely right!!

hiddencharms: "My point? It is only the ones who cannot prove themselves, that have to go out and find repeated avenues to try and prove themselves."

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 9, 2007 10:59 AM

Chad58 and Woodnwine, I wouldn't put all men in the same category as a creature like Warren41. Women aren't that shallow that they don't know what class is and guess what? HE AIN'T GOT ANY. Creep he is.

Posted by: LivelyAndFunny at August 8, 2007 9:30 PM

hi hiddencharms do you think warren really existed did you peruse his profile i couldnt bring myself to do it but your recent comment was apt he is a loser and best forgotten

Posted by: chad1958 at August 8, 2007 8:04 PM

Ok. Been to bed and still awake. Have lots of other stuff keeping my mind hyperactive - more work and study related than sexual fantacies!

Chad58 and Woodnwine, you are absolutely right. It is people like this Warren moron who give you guys a bad name, which is not good in the world of dating.

Warren is the kind of guy who lives on the "buzz" and thrills he can get from schmoozing women...My bet is he has to put a lethal dose of medication into his system before you could take a magnifying glass to his pelvic region to find the thing that he finds so fascinating about himself. There has to be something that makes him want go prove himself and sleeze and slime himself onto women...what would that be? I bet it is smaller and less fulfilling than one of those little cocktail brekky snags we pick up from woolies! If he needs to go out and prove himself, then he is probably not proving himself at home. My ex husband blamed me. Thing was, and is, I prefer more than a 90 second wonder...My point? It is only the ones who cannot prove themselves, that have to go out and find repeated avenues to try and prove themselves.

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 8, 2007 1:23 AM

So Warren, as Arnie says "Hasta La Vista"

Posted by: auntykaz at August 7, 2007 11:23 PM

warren1941, women do not want to be charmed by married men! especially you, have you looked at your profile at all!!. I really feel sorry for your wife, that she is married to such a selfish, cruel oaf as your self. It is a small world, and the baddies always get caught out in the end. When that happens. I hope she takes you to the cleaners, and imagine her humilation when she finds out that so many people know what you have been up to!

I have been on the receiving end of a selfish husband when I was 29 weeks pregnant with our younger son...and I would never inflict that kind of pain and agony on another woman, ever. Any sane, thinking woman would agree with this 100%, so I don't what kind of women play with you behind your wife,s back. They are certainly not the type of person you could take home to introduce to your mum!(so to speak)

It is extremely sad that RSVP encourage this type of profile on an otherwise good dating website.Originally posted Friday morning, 2/8/2007. but never made it onto the blog so trying again...4/8/2007 no luck ...maybe 3rd time lucky!!!!!!7/8/2007

Posted by: junebaby57 at August 7, 2007 6:48 PM

Maybe this Warren41 fellow just wants to get in the Top 100 so he has written what he did so everyone will look at his profile and maybe lift his chances? I for one haven't looked at it and wouldn't want to.

Chad1958 - I actually think he improves our chances (so long as he doesn't put women off men completely) because compared to him we are like Prince Charming!

Posted by: woodnwine at August 7, 2007 9:54 AM

dont think warren1941 was legit, more of a sarcastic warning as to how easy it is to stooge people.

Posted by: geminikj at August 7, 2007 7:20 AM

Well warren if you are married then why are you wasting ppls time and money by being on this site.

Posted by: singlelady38 at August 6, 2007 11:01 PM

hi hiddencharms good comment made me laugh but if he is for real it makes it hard for us decent blokes re woodwines comment i am amazed a full grown male would post that crap on here for everybody to read

Posted by: chad1958 at August 6, 2007 7:42 PM

SeraphSuzie, so nice to see you back - I missed you and hope you'll post from time to time! When I read Nicky's story, I wondered if she was talking about your Italian "friend"... the similarities were striking.

Posted by: VictoriaDownunder at August 6, 2007 7:04 PM

Warren41, I too originally wrote what I thought was an apt description of your vulgarity, immorality, deceptive sleaziness and total lack of respect for your wife. The Blog Nazis must have way-laid it. Are you sure you are not my ex-husband? If not, I will tell you what I have told him:" I hope it turns green and drops off!"

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 5, 2007 8:55 PM

WARREN, you are only getting desperate women with very low self asteem to be one bit interested in you, you would never have my attention as i am extremly fussy (why I am single) wouldnt matter if you were Brad Pitt you wouldnt turn me on, I had the opertunity of starting a relationship with a man worth over 40 million but didnt like his attitude and that is more important to me, plus would never trust a man with that much money, supose I could have tried to rip him off but couldnt be bothered with all the crap that I would have had to go through.

Posted by: at August 5, 2007 12:21 PM

what, this guy actually has a profile???? EWWW. Didn't even waste my time looking for it.

Posted by: auntykaz at August 4, 2007 11:57 PM

Seems that warren1941 has taken his huge gut and equally huge attitude to parts unknown. Hopefully the wife has taken her revenge or the rsvp police realised he was just too obscene to tarnish their pages. Anyway I'm sure karma will deal with Warren appropriately.

Posted by: at August 4, 2007 10:22 PM

I have to be anonymous for this one.....
Warren41..is that the year you were born? If so, you're really old! Old is ok, old and sleazy isn't!Yuk! Besides which, were needs an apostrophe, it's separated, not seperated, your should be you're, wifes should be wife's ...not that I'm pedantic, but sleazy and dumb??????????????If you're baiting us, well done, if you're genuine, go bang it on the bath and I hope your wife walks out on you and leaves you suffering!

Posted by: at August 4, 2007 8:44 PM

Warren1941,

What a p***k you are. How sorry I feel for the women you are conning into believing that you really care for them. Have you never heard of karma?Your wife will eventually find out and when she does I hope she makes your life a misery. I sincerely hope one of the women you've been bedding of late does a Lorina Bobbit on you. You deserve it!!!!

Posted by: senee at August 4, 2007 7:09 PM

omg nicky the same guy contacted me on Lavalife... he would even call me!! And last I heard from him he was stuck in Africa becaus his bank wouldn't let him have his money ...he never actually asked me for any money though.. i just said how bad for him and that was it and have never heard from him again. He would send me emails too and said how he had fallen in love with me.. i just laughed and told him that i had no intention of moving to Italy.. he was going to come here on holiday and wanted to meet me. Peter was his name. But the stories almost match up he said he was a contractor for a building company.. showed me two pictures of himself and the houses he was building in Italy.. in Milano. It is probably the same guy. WOW that is so freaky.

I wasn't going to post on the blogs again but when i read your blog nicky I just had too..

Oh and by the way i met him via lavalife about a month or bit more ago!!

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at August 4, 2007 6:39 PM

Warren1941

The only thing I can say about your revolting attitude is it sure makes us other guys look pretty good.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 4, 2007 6:06 PM

I'm glad other people have picked up on what an appalling person warren1941 is. I wrote what I thought was a very apt reply to him but it seems the blog nazis thought it was more important to censor my blog than actually check up on what this poor excuse for a human has written in his blog and profile. Guess this will also be censored since it criticizes the CS. Precious lot.

Posted by: at August 4, 2007 5:18 PM

warren41 are you for real if so you are the biggest moron i have ever heard of. i wish i had your wifes ph no you wouldnt be on here much longer

Posted by: chad1958 at August 4, 2007 2:32 PM

There are alot of male preteders out there, oh yes and female ones desperater for lots of money so they can have thier nails done and bye lots of clothes to make their fat asses look smaller.....
how about this for a story, I was cantacted by a charming man from Italy on lavalife, he wrote a very long loving email leaving his msn for me, so we started our online relationship, I was not as loving as he was with me, i mean come on I cant fall in love with the key board and the one picture he had in his msn window, mind you I asked him several times to send me more pictures of him and he never did.
Our regurlar contact continued for months asking me about my son and now calling him his son also, offering to pay for the expensive bike that my son wanted and of course I said no.
He was a business man working in France and other countries for an Italian company promoting Italian building machinery.
For the last 2 weeks he has been in Ghanna Africa as he got a contract from the company he works for, but he is suddenly in financial trouble hasnt eaten for two days with worry as his bank in Italy wont send him any money and the rest of his money is stuck in the ship port?
Oh my worried heart as I was feeling bad for him as he was telling this over and over again, I said I cannot send you much money as I dont have it, he replied I only need $800 and he will pay me back with interest, I made my last reply with F_ _ _ off you African thief.....glad I have a brain to work out the pattern of his con. WAKE UP PEOPLE.

Posted by: nicky at August 4, 2007 9:33 AM

*Sigh* Another repost of my comment originally put up 2:47pm 2.8.7.

Re Post by: warren1941 at August 2, 2007 10:00 AM:

Oh, silly me for not realising!

This Warren1941 posting and profile is a real life demonstration and warning, on the dangers of dating.

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 3, 2007 10:30 AM

Trying again!

Originally posted 2:41pm 2.8.7

Re Post by: warren1941 at August 2, 2007 10:00 AM,

that is exactly why I do not allow contact from married men.

Regarding your profile pic Warren, with your openly flaunted, huge bare belly and your promise to pay a partner; you appear to be sending up this whole site, including yourself and not just females.

Are your viewpoints and profile actually for real??

(This is a rhetorical question so please do not answer me, Warren!)

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 3, 2007 10:22 AM

warren1941

GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: LivelyAndFunny at August 3, 2007 12:00 AM

Gee warren1941 i'd like to meet you, never.

Posted by: sicumrex at August 2, 2007 10:33 PM

Warren1941:- I suppose cheating on your wife makes you feel more of a man. Better start tucking away some of that money you're bragging about having to spoil your unsuspecting conquests with because when your wife catches you out - and she will, You will barely have enough left for a bus fare.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!
What a shame your wife means so little to you that you would brag about what you are doing to her on a forum like this. I once knew a lying pr--k like you and he destroyed his family for his own pathetic pleasure. No one thinks your a hero, your a loser!

Posted by: Jessy4 at August 2, 2007 10:16 PM

cynical cynical cynical. Makes all women out to be stupid bimbo's who have no brain, are needy and will listen to any crap to hold on to a man. Offended??? Yes l am.

Posted by: auntykaz at August 2, 2007 9:33 PM

women just want to be charmed.I want to charm.yes I have a wife who works late to buy nice things for me and our home,but I tell you were seperated and you believe me because you want it that way.yes I have enough money to spoil you and make you feel wanted take you to concerts and tell you my sob story in return you give me love sex and home cooked meals and you believe your enlightened about having sex and a relationship behind my wifes back.good for you,please dont stop.

Posted by: warren1941 at August 2, 2007 10:00 AM

definitelyoverrsvpmen at July 29, 2007 9:08 PM, think your experiences echo what some of us may have gone/going through one way or another, on here.

And I believe you were right that it was sleaziness you were subjected to in the context it was used via email and before you had met. (For eg, who would go up to someone in the street, discuss different sexual positions without encouragement and then get abusive when their approach is not accepted??)

I think there are laws against accosting/sexually propositioning people in public; so why would some think they are exempt from civilised behaviour when it is via email/mail/telephone to an unmet person?

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 1, 2007 1:19 PM

junebaby57 at July 30, 2007 1:31 PM, I definitely agree with you that we have to laugh at the horrible experiences. Keep going with your posts, we all keep learning from each other that way and hopefully, avoid some of the creeps, even if some of us others (I do not know about yourself) then get accused of being fussy!! You are lucky to have girlfriends you can laugh with over these website dates.

Before meeting someone for coffee, I always get their landline number (after all, you have to talk to them first) with the reasoning that it is gentlemen first when it comes to giving out phone numbers (and I only give my mobile number initially) and in the conversation try to find out where they work. I also check the whitepages but never thought to do it online.

But there are always the creeps that slip through. A contact initiated a chat onsite this morning and quickly started getting explicit in the sexual sense. After checking again that it was not my misunderstanding and he continued on in the same vein, a complete BLOCK from me was put in place.
I had previously refused his VK, as he stated in his profile all his interests were sports I cannot participate in. Only accepted his chat as I thought he was willing to overlook that aspect. Turned out he does not do any of those sports anyway. Maybe the only activity he participates in, is making contacts via RSVP (and goodness knows where else) and the bedroom?

Does this ' happyguy.. ' (who says he lives in Palmyra, is 45yrs without every being married or having kids, works away as a crane driver and does not use capitals) post his pic of himself in a boat that he takes to Rottnest, mean to represent himself as a floating floozy? (I cannot use a more appropriate or stronger terms in here, out of respect for others.)
Unfortunately, I had already given him access to my pic during the conversation. Who knows what he is going to do with it. Going by what he ended up saying this morning, it will be used to fuel his self-help sex, proving what he is in all areas.

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 1, 2007 1:15 PM

I think this one got lost, so trying again! re deinitelyoverrsvpmen at July 29, 2007, and others who have shared thier expierences , there are a few men out there giving us girls bad experiences. I have to say males, as I am not dating women, so guys don't bite my head off!!

Recently I spent 2 weeks doing emails and phone calls with a guy that lives 2-3 hours away. (outside of my profile, but he made me laugh). We swapped photos and he was calling me 2-3 times a day. He was coming to my city last weekend to meet up and spend the day with me, until we get to the phone call before our meeting.He decided to tell me exactly what he wanted to do and he joked (I thought) that the meeting for coffee at lunchtime, then for dinner that night , constituted a 2nd date so therefore we could have sex!! it got very descriptive, g string, stiletto heels, did I wear false long nails, red lipstick, it was like something out of an 80s porn film. When I told him that I think we should actually meet and see if we liked each other or not, you know, see if we were comfortable and if there is a spark, before talking about sex, he said that I had led him on and he hung up!!!

I was a bit stumped as my profile states that I do not want a one night stand. But the chat provides a laugh now, I have told my girlfriends what he actually said and we all ended up nearly crying it was so funny. Having lots of bubbly helped. One of my male mates wants to take notes as he did not know that you could do some of the things that were suggested to me!

If I didn't laugh about it, I would have to take myself of the dating websites, then I wouldn't have the pleasures of the blog!!!

To stay safe, go with what you feel comfortable with, go with your gut feelings, always arrange to meet in public. Do what ever you need to do to be and stay safe!

Posted by: junebaby57 at August 1, 2007 7:26 AM

Daisy: sheeeee------t!!! I thought I had come acros some absolute charmers or losers or whatever else they have been referred to on this site! These guys take the cake. I'm afraid to say that I was about to say that I agreed with others who have said that internet dating is cheaper than using a brothel....

However, faith has been momentarily reformed, by a male who has said that I can set the pace, number of emails, time to think about calls, time to plan a meeting...actually choose our first "date"-coffee, ice-cream or dinner, not drinks which was a real boost. I actually made the first phone contact! A first for me! go dhelp him if he happens to be a professional personal salesman, or sex fiend, or worse...I've made it pretty clear what I can and will do to him...Blogs come in pretty handy for selling yourself as a B..witch!

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 1, 2007 12:16 AM

Oops!!! Just discovered my profile was hidden. Do not know how that came about.

Was wondering though, why there were no VKs for a couple of days.

Thought it was Karma paying me back, for refusing the recent contact of a 33 year old youngster.

So, feel free to READ my profile, rocco.

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at July 31, 2007 4:47 PM

Deinitelyoverrsvpmen - so totally agree with you! Me too!

Posted by: Riversong1 at July 30, 2007 11:31 PM

re deinitelyoverrsvpmen at July 29, 2007, and others who have shared , there are a few men out there giving us girls bad experiences. I have to say males, as I am not dating women, so guys don't bite my head off!!

Recently I spent 2 weeks doing emails and phone calls with a guy that lives 2-3 hours away. (outside of my profile, but he made me laugh). We swapped photo's and he was calling me 2-3 times a day. He was coming to my city last weekend to meet up and spend the day with me, until we get to the phone call before our meeting. He decided to tell me exactly what he wanted and he joked (I thought) that the meeting for coffee at lunchtime, then for dinner that night , constituted a 2nd date so therefore we could have sex!! He got very descriptive, g string, stiletto heels, did I wear false long nails, red lipstick, it was like something out of an 80's porn film. When I told him that I think we should actually meet and see if we like each other or not, you know, see if we were comfortable and if there is a spark, before talking about sex, he said that I had led him on and he hung up!!!

I was a bit stumped as my profile states that I do not want a one night stand. But it provides a laugh now, I have told my girlfriends what he actually said and we all ended up nearly cryin