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I must be one of the few who can verify that cupid does hit the right mark occasionally.
I recently met a wonderful lady whose profile I would have completely missed if not for cupid's "alert". She and I are getting along so very well that we both feel like we've known each other forever such is the connection we have with each other. So cupid, thanks. After a few misses you finally hit the target & I haven't stopped smiling since!! And YES both of our profiles are now invisible.

Posted by: Still Smiling (Not my RSVP Name) at September 9, 2007 12:59 PM

Come on people, there is nothing at all wrong with cupid, he is a genius. The problem is that he only uses arrows and most women walk around wearing armour 3 inches thick. RSVP is doing a good job but how are cupid's arrows ever going to pierce all that armour. Think about it ladies or you will all be here complaing about RSVP in 5 years time, same names, same complaints.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 7, 2007 9:39 AM

Yes,cupid has definately got it wrong.
if they are supposed to be matches then how come when you send a kiss you get a reply that says"our profiles don't match"

I would like cupid to be alittle more narrower in his/her view then occassional she/he might hit the target.

Posted by: thefotgrafer at September 5, 2007 10:14 AM

Posted by: whatididforlove at September 1, 2007 2:03 AM

You see i read blogs and take outof them what ever i want.. Whatididforlove i never realized that this was pertaining to you . but i understand what yoiu mean.

and any man that is that shallow and just a mean and annoying bastard deserves all he gets.

Cheers chin up andf keep smiling

Posted by: TwoEyes at September 4, 2007 2:02 AM

On the whole I have been fairly satisfied with RSVP and cupid.
I am not seeking a permanent relationship and have met some fantastic females to dine with, or attend the theatre and movies.
In my normal life I would never meet such high calibre women. My profile states only highly intelligent women wanted, and that is exactly what I seem to get.
Having been married for a long time previously, I know that you can never change other people. Therefore, I prefer to meet other persons with similar ideas and thoughts.
I am a Capricorn and I prefer to meet other capricorns, as they are always positive and down to earth. Yes, I firmly believe in the stars. I have found them dead accurate in their portrayal of a persons personality.
My wife was a Cancer -an absolute nightmare of a " star " person to live with!
I haven't contributed much to RSVP blogs, because I write so many blogs to the Australian, and ABC and SBS blogs.

Posted by: nomadd at September 3, 2007 4:11 PM

You often send me the wrong prospective companions that do not match my wanted profile and, also my profile I have written is very important. For instance I list Classical music, therefore, I do not want pop music fans.

With regard to KISSES:
Why not allow two lines for a member to write their own comments with the kiss sent, instead of proforma comments?
I find the listed comments do not match comments I wish to send.

Posted by: nomadd at September 3, 2007 3:43 PM

Has Cupid has definately Lost His Aim for me but I don't realy know as to why...over the last year or so I have been out on several dates with women who give me all types of compliments and come ons that ultimately lead to nothing at all. When I respond with follow ups I either get no response at all or a brush off. Girls do us guys a favour and if you are not interested let us know from the start with constant false hopes.
On the other hand I have been approached by women who I feel are not suitable for me but I don't lead them on with come ons that I know are going nowhere. Any thoughts on this esp from girls. Ta.

Posted by: electricg at September 3, 2007 2:20 AM

I haven't blogged for a while, but I can't possibly let this one slip by without a response. heartTy thin LaDy, I really hope your blog is tongue-in-cheek, but even then it's plain not funny! If you're serious, it's horrible! Do you think we short people have chosen our height? I hate being short, but there's not a lot I can do about it. To say that tall men are more genuine.....someone with a narrowminded attitude such as you display probably doesn't know many short men, so how can you generalise? OK, that's all, I'm off my soap box (necessary equipment for me to be seen, let alone heard) but please be sensitive to others in future if you are serious.

Posted by: TishB at September 2, 2007 2:16 PM

There was no Scarlet flower in my life - did not want to be rushed - a pity really - at least honesty prevailed.

An interesting exerience but not for me

Posted by: Baroness Orczy at September 2, 2007 8:43 AM

two eyes the comment from heartythinlady Aug 30 is directed at me personally.

I was going to ignore it but instead I will use it to highlight the dangers of the internet to others here.

You see heartythinlady is really a man...one whom I have rejected in the past and who knows something about my profile and has mentioned details which are not on my current profile, so I know who it is.

Obviously he is still angry that he is not tall enough for me and that I did not wish to continue communicating with him. Obviously explaining my sexual preferences regarding tall men kindly to him was not enough. I wonder why people think they can force others to be attracted to them. Why can't people accept that certain physical features will be necessary in any physical attraction.What the features are will be different with each individual.
There can be no real sexual relationship unless each partner has what the other partner needs.

This low post designed to attempt to discredit me as a poster and make me appear shallow and foolish just serves to highlight that it is not height which is this mans problem.

To demonstrate that he can use my confidential information in this way is despicable. To know that people will stoop to these levels once rejected has just taught me a valuable lesson...and that is to be much more careful about sharing personal information with strangers.

To realise that the same strange man holds some sort of grudge and anger towards me for rejecting him (never meeting him)is disturbing. To realise that he is fixated on his height as the focus for his anger towards me is a worry.

He continued to email me even after I had replied negatively and I was too polite to ignore him. It is a lesson to be much more blunt in future.

Well, his stature as a man just shrunk even further in my estimation and I am taking steps to make others aware of the problem to ensure my safety...starting with reposting in the safe dating blog.

Posted by: whatididforlove at September 1, 2007 2:03 AM

5'8" Millionaire...you will always be overlooked by women with that attitude. So you think you can buy (and control) women?
You might buy some attention for a short (pun intended) while but you can never buy love.

Chop the giant chip off your shoulder and try to realise that everyone has sexual preferences of some sort.

* Posted by: whatididforlove at August 27, 2007 6:41 PM

TOO TRUE WHAT A NASTY PR**&^

Yes he has, so don't give him any more arrows.

* Posted by: woodnwine at August 29, 2007 10:53 AM

Also break his bow!!!!!!!!!!!!

!money can't buy you love but a 5'11-6'3 48-56 year old clean shaved package will do the job as long as he LOOKS appealing. Tall men are so much more genuine and suitable and able to steer canoes and kayaks don't you think? No wonder we women at rsvp want tall men, Darwin was sooo on the mark. Those shorter men are somehow just less preferable aren't they. you can tell a lot about who a man really is from his height.

Pecan tie

* Posted by: heartTy thin LaDy at August 30, 2007 1:06 AM

not sure there will be many men agreeing with that comment, but each to his own.

Posted by: TwoEyes at August 31, 2007 4:27 AM

whatididforlove

money can't buy you love but a 5'11-6'3 48-56 year old clean shaved package will do the job as long as he LOOKS appealing. Tall men are so much more genuine and suitable and able to steer canoes and kayaks don't you think? No wonder we women at rsvp want tall men, Darwin was sooo on the mark. Those shorter men are somehow just less preferable aren't they. you can tell a lot about who a man really is from his height.

Pecan tie

Posted by: heartTy thin LaDy at August 30, 2007 1:06 AM

Yes he has, so don't give him any more arrows.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 29, 2007 10:53 AM

5'8" Millionaire...you will always be overlooked by women with that attitude. So you think you can buy (and control) women?
You might buy some attention for a short (pun intended) while but you can never buy love.

Chop the giant chip off your shoulder and try to realise that everyone has sexual preferences of some sort.

Posted by: whatididforlove at August 27, 2007 6:41 PM

babelfishenabled.. am wondering what the purpose of your comment to nicster was as it is not very bright is it?
Could you please tell us why nicster is being superficial in wanting her partner to be taller than her? Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. You see babelfishenabled, it wouldn't matter if she wanted someone 6 inches shorter than herself..the point is that is her personal preference, her inbuilt needs that make someone attractive to her, and nothing is going to change it. Unfounded nastiness certainly won't make you very attractive to anyone I would think.

Posted by: whatididforlove at August 27, 2007 1:28 PM

Posted by: BabelFishEnabled at August 25, 2007 10:32 PMTotally agree ha ha!

Posted by: 5ft 8in Millionaire but Overlooked by Girls Like Nicster1 at August 27, 2007 1:11 AM

I have put out a contract on Cupid. Some Hitmen are going over to his house now. His aim has been terrible, and he must be "Taken Care Of!!"

Posted by: littlemick2 at August 26, 2007 11:22 AM

Here's how his mind works: if he can't find the age range you specified then you may be sent profiles that are 5 to 10 years older and/or younger. As for location, the search sometimes needs to expand to state-wide or even country-wide to reach the minimum 10 results - he's particular that way. Cupid does however honour your gender and smoker/non-smoker preference.

Say it all.......as to why Cupid may be slightly to totally off his aim....I get a vision of a drunken little cherub wildly aiming his arrow all over Australia trying to find ten, just ten, matches for me...how depressing.

No, wait, there is a tallish,non smoking, red wine drinking virgin 55 yr old on top of Uluru with a big target on his Acubra...What's that in his hands...The Shawshank Redemption and a map of Beach Walks...Oh, Thank You Cupid.......FIRE!!!!!!!!

missed again........

Posted by: Wishingandhoping at August 26, 2007 9:45 AM

Well Nicster1, since the average man stands 175cm maybe it's not the mans height that is the issue. Perhaps it's your lofty expectations.
I want, I want, me, me, blah, blah,
Your so busy being supperficial, that you wouldn't notice cupids arrow hanging out of your posterior.

Posted by: BabelFishEnabled at August 25, 2007 10:32 PM

Yes Cupid's aim sucks. . .

I get guys in the age range I look for but whats with the height??
Come on. . .

Being 5' 9" I want a guy who's taller than me . . . It's not that hard is it? Or are all the men shrinking?

Posted by: Nicster1 at August 24, 2007 6:46 PM

I am a little sick and tired of people on this site who answer your kiss saying that they would love to hear from you , so you go to the trouble to purchase stamps then send a chatty get to know you email and you never hear from them again.
Are they just playing games or perhaps they just got a better offer. I don't understand their mentality. Please just have some good manners and let people know that you have changed your mind, after all you get a free email back and it does not take long. You don't have to be nasty, just thank them for their time and wish them luck. Not too much to ask really.

Posted by: luckylady6 at August 23, 2007 9:52 PM

I don't mind using Stamps, but when i get insulting emails by some members that is the only thing that bothers me. Thanks for your

Posted by: TheGentleman2 at August 23, 2007 6:56 PM

Cupid? CUstuPID, you mean! I guess that everybody on this site wants to believe that "Cupid" is going to tar over all of their inadequacies and blemishes from the past BUT.... No sir ee! It doesn't work that way. If you don't look in the mirror and at least "like" who you see, then forget it, Babe. Cupid may be a cool dream but....

Posted by: Phillby1 at August 21, 2007 5:10 PM

Cupid has no idea obviously - I receive kisses, I send kisses but when will both match? Isn't this just the way of the world?

Posted by: woodnwine at August 21, 2007 3:37 PM

Personally I think he has lost the plot and needs some rehab.

Posted by: ARIES4U63 at August 21, 2007 10:50 AM

'Stupid cupid your a real mean guy ~ stop pick'n on me.' So the song went. Or 'Cupid, draw back your bow, and let your arrow go~ straight to my lovers heart'. To another song lamenting 'little arrows in your clothes and little arrows in your hair'. I was 5yrs old and thanks to my ma's records, thought Cupid was the bogey man. Mean, real mean. When my sister got married, she had a Cupid theme~cake, invites, name cards the lot. Cupids arrow struck and struck again 4 yrs later when they got divorced. He strikes when you want love, he can strike when you don't and he does'nt charge $80 bucks an hour to aim the wake up call either way . Stupid Cupid can pick on me if he wants.

Posted by: joee at August 17, 2007 12:04 PM

Cupid is definitely lost somewhere and I am hoping he/she gets back on track soon. Maybe he/she has just used all his/her arrows up.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 17, 2007 10:16 AM

dischorded, the reason why the arranged marriages don't end in divorce is because women have no rights or say in the matter. They are not permitted the right to divorce.Poor young girls some barely into their teens are bartered as a chatel by the men in their family for financial gain. The buyers are most often ten 20 30 or more years older and these so called brides have no say or no rights in the matter and have to endure years of abuse slavery and rape.
I would much rather have my freedom and my rights upheld ,and a failed relationship, than to endure what a great percentage of the world's women currently do.

Posted by: mswynter at August 14, 2007 10:11 PM

does cupid really aim his arrow, or are we such silly people and not know what the arrow is for,
i believe in fate but sometimes we get thrown of the mark by LOVE.
i had a guy once and i would see him everywhere i went, even his ute was in my face whenever i drove anywhere,and then it got to the stage where i was seeing another guy and his number plate had the other guy's name on it , so how do you get over them when something's there pushing it in your face. let me know fellow blogger's is it just me or has it happened to you as well

Posted by: dizblon at August 14, 2007 8:34 AM

This is my first visit to one of the blogs.. but the subject interests me. I lost all faith in Cupid when I was matched with a 'man seeking man' and there is nothing masculine about me!

Posted by: Solange at August 12, 2007 11:06 PM

Well I paid for stamps and have a few left. Once they are used then I wont be buying anymore. Dating sites are getting to expensive. RSVP need to change their costs or they will lose more members.

Posted by: singlelady at August 12, 2007 2:24 PM

To doobs73. Have to say this. I am a visual creature, in that I like the way some men look and how other men look turns me off. Isn't that OK? It's not about how they look, it's about how and with whom I want to spend my time. Everyone has different tastes and we all like to be satisified, in some things. I won't waste any time worrying about what a guy thinks about my looks, because it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. It's how we feel about ourselves that's important. Who wants to spend (waste) time on someone who only sees the outer shell? There can't be too much going on, on an intellectual level with those kind of guys, so you're better off without them in your life. There's a lot of nice men out there in RSVP land. Just met one today. No sparks, but a really pleasant few hours spent in the sunshine. It beats staying at home marking essays!

Posted by: jenny1952 at August 12, 2007 12:09 AM

doobs,totally agree with you i was stupid enough to buy 25 stamps,still have 23 left ,if there was any way of giving them to someone elsei would in a minute ,this site is only good for chatting not meeting

Posted by: CAPABLE1 at August 9, 2007 11:13 AM

to doobs73 you are correct my dear men are very much very visual creatures ,in the western world at least,i mean in other cultures particularly some eastern lands they have arranged marriages that would not go down with western culture but hey their divorce rate is nowhere near ours,i am not saying i agree with these marriages but i what i am trying to say,perhaps we put too much emphasis on the physical being and not the essence of that particular person and that is why after awhile our relations sour?

Posted by: dischorded at August 8, 2007 6:21 PM

I have been biting my tongue but sh*t, passive aggressive behaviour irks me.... say what is meant & don't follow through with a second guess.... a contradiction, a "just in case'.
Proudly proclaim all parts of self.
We are NOT one dimensional & that's OK.

Posted by: TrumansCat at August 8, 2007 1:41 PM

Hi SeraphSuzie

I'm glad to see you and would like to welcome you back. Good advice about the blog where we "dare not say it's name" though. It definitely is poisin. New members beware unless you have a magic wand.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 8, 2007 8:24 AM

I've never received a cupid email. Hmmm... Maybe you have to be a paid up subscribed memeber for that.
To tell you the truth though i think it wouldn't matter if i received cupids suggestions or not. I think i'm just getting more cynical by the day and am starting to think maybe its better just to be single!
I find that the men i correspond with have different personalities online compared with real life. Maybe they're just nervous? I am too, but at least i am who i say i am. You wouldn't believe some of the things that have happened/been said to me on first meetings! I could write a very humorous article about it all i'm sure. lol
What's been confirmed though, is that men are VERY visual creatures
(and not being a skinny blue eyed blonde seems to be a pretty big turn off to them.)
I had a man ask me once if i would consider loosing weight (i'm pretty average weight i think) if we 'hit it off' as he doesn't like to be seen with 'fat chicks.' And then another, who had seen my pics and then upon meeting said 'you do look like your pics, but i was just hoping you'd be better looking than you are.' Bloody hell, he'd previously told me he LIKED my pics. I guess there's no pleasing some people. lol
Maybe thats why i'm getting more cynical by the week :)
I'm thinking of throwing in the towel...sometimes this is just all to hard.

I really hope cupid strikes true for everyone else though...you all seem like lovely people.
All the best,
debs

Posted by: doobs73 at August 8, 2007 12:09 AM

Hey TishB..good to see you on the blogs. You make me laugh!!
Also welcome Miss Tallulah... ditto what TishB said!!

Just be careful of the blog that we 'dare not say its name"..(can u tell I am reading Harry Potter) ...stay away its a Death Eater that blog...hehe ;-)

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at August 7, 2007 10:06 AM

TrumansCat

Nice, funny, non-agressive reply to the holiday comment. Good to see and made me laugh. BTW - any sign of cupid on your holiday?

Posted by: woodnwine at August 7, 2007 9:05 AM

Thanks anon blogger August 6, 2007 12:31 AM for your concern re my holiday.
I am so sorry that you are disturbed by how I utilised my holiday time, perhaps you could come with me next time to monitor me & make sure I do it right?!

Posted by: TrumansCat at August 6, 2007 9:52 PM

August5,

Fish, cats, dogs, what's the difference? Obviously they are very passionate about their fishing, nothing wrong with that.

Why wouldn't TrumansCat check up on RSVP while on holidays? The love of her life may have contacted her while she was on Magnetic Island and she wouldn't want to miss an opportunity would she?

By the way, welcome back TrumansCat.

Oh and August 6, how about trying to be a bit more positive in you blogs.

Posted by: senee at August 6, 2007 6:34 PM

Truemans Cat. Why on earth are you checking up on RSVP when you are on holiday? Are there not any rea; people where you are staying? That's disturbing!

Posted by: at August 6, 2007 12:31 AM

Nothing to do with the topic - 'Cupids Arrow' But can anyone explain to me - Why do men like to post a picture of themselves with a fish? It seems the bigger the fish the better. I find it really strange. Am I the only one who finds a picture of a bloke with his 'catch' (the big fish) to be quite unattractive?

Posted by: at August 6, 2007 12:09 AM

Hi Miss Tallulah, and welcome to the blogs! I feel like a school teacher introducing the new kid in class! Enjoy, mostly we're harmless, but sometimes, when frustration sets in, we get a bit tetchy. Bear with us, and we'll try to be nice. PS I checked tetchy on spellcheck, so I know I'm right!

Posted by: TishB at August 4, 2007 8:00 PM

Hello All,

This is the first time I have read the blogs section of rsvp and it is quite amusing!

Just thought I would say hello to you all and I hope when you read this, you are having a lovely day!!!

Posted by: MissTallulah at August 4, 2007 12:09 AM

Well spotted, fellas!
No prizes, or even a brownie point I'm afraid, but definitely no black points either. I really enjoy your comments, woodnwine, you're smarterthantheaveragebear, I think!
Weta, semantic differential - that's much classier than a typo, isn't it! I like that, can I adopt it as my own?

Posted by: TishB at August 2, 2007 8:51 PM

.....g TishB.... is that a semantic differential? Ha!....

Posted by: weta at July 31, 2007 9:42 PM

Hi Hamo71

Just took a peek at your profile and could I suggest that you write a bit more about yourself to give potential interested peopel a better idea of the type of person you are? Hope you don't mind the suggestion and good luck.

Posted by: woodnwine at July 30, 2007 11:11 AM

Difference spotted - do I get a point? Or do I just get a black mark for spending too much time reading blogs?

Woodnwine

Posted by: woodnwine at July 30, 2007 11:00 AM

Re July 6,
SeraphSuzie comment about CAPABLE1.
Have only been reading blogs for a few days, but noted that Capable1 actually approves of women who are 'a bit overweight'. I believe that was a big issue in other blogs!
Naelie

Posted by: naelie at July 30, 2007 8:37 AM

Being a first time RSVP member, I decided to place a password photo of myself and I've hardly had any hits at all. I'm a 5"8 blonde with blue eyes and I sort of feel that security is an issue but I in order to find someone I feel that I have to place a photo in order to attract some sort of attention. I hope there is no sicko's out there.

Posted by: Hamo71 at July 28, 2007 7:30 PM

Spot the difference?

Posted by: TishB at July 27, 2007 11:37 PM

This site is ridiculous. Why should you pay for a dating site? It's the only kind of site in the world that you have to pay to access (excluding porn, but that actually provides a service.) There are free sites with better features which I have had far greater success on. Advertising revenue can sustain other sites on the net, this place is just one huge money grab.

Posted by: advancetomayfair at July 27, 2007 8:22 PM

My goodness, I'm verbal tonight!!
How far outside the perameters should we go, woodnwine? Before you know it my criteria would be an 6'6" 18 year old residing in Outer Mongolia. Hey, that doesn't sound so bad......

Posted by: TishB at July 26, 2007 9:51 PM

My goodness, I'm verbal tonight!!
How far outside the perameters should we go, woodnwine? Before you know it my criteria would be an 6'6" 18 year old residing in Outer Mongolia. Hey, that doesn't soung so bad......

Posted by: TishB at July 26, 2007 9:50 PM

Haha ha Iodioticio, that's where he's been hitting me!

Posted by: Riversong1 at July 26, 2007 9:05 PM

There's probably nothing wrong with cupid it's just that a lot of people these days want his arrow to be perfect before they'll take any notice of it. Oh the possibilities lost and life is so short.

Posted by: woodnwine at July 26, 2007 9:19 AM

Hey Bloggers,
please be aware that Cupid aims for bums!
therefore that's where the pain will be.

Posted by: iodioticio at July 25, 2007 6:56 AM

so naturelover you live nearby,and im trying to quit smoking,at least i have a photo to show the damage my smoking did,whats your excuse for not posting a picture,as for wanting only younger women my profile says 45 to 56,but if i see you with your walking frame i am more than willing to shout you a coffee

Posted by: CAPABLE1 at July 24, 2007 9:01 AM

i received 2 kisses today from gents that had nothing in common with me at all!!! Tell ya, not happy. Had to reply with the most appropriate response, so l would say guys if you are not reading ideal partner info and just kissing anyone you will probably get a lot of knockbacks. and l'm not being a bitch just realistic.

Posted by: auntykaz at July 22, 2007 11:05 PM

Hey, this is such fun. Much better than waiting for the non-existent kiss or reply to mine. I discovered the blogs just before going on holiday, so have a lot of catching up to do. Spent a very cold morning reading the Cupid site, and had lots of laughs. Checked out a few mentioned profiles, and feel like many of you are old friends.

AmDoingIt - if I was a male and lived in your area I'd love to met you.

Capable1 - believe it or not, you are not only in my state but live nearby - but I'm very definite about non-smoking, and you want only younger women.

Must go now and check out some of the other blogs. Sorry I missed Frigid's earlier profiles, but the current one, plus Jon the Pillow, are a real delight.

Keep up the good work everyone.

Posted by: naturelover13 at July 22, 2007 10:02 AM

OK I may be on Magnetic Island lazing in the winter sun, snorkelling despite the cold.... but you guys are on my mind.

Cupid finds it's arrow in humour I think.... a powerful way for individuals to connect....

is it as per the topic moderators set....? No.
But that is the beauty of the blogs...

Posted by: Trumanscat at July 21, 2007 7:34 PM

Well...didn't find the time (or courage) to walk through the art galleries acousting goodlooking art admirers and asking them if they were Frigid. However...the USS KittyHawk and her 5000 sailors has arrived in our town so I'm thinking there are an awful lot of Australian males really peeved because the girls are going to by-pass them....but the way it looks there isn't any decent Brissie men left anyway!!!!

Frigid....take ya laptop....we'll all be needing an update!!! Enjoy your holiday.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker at July 20, 2007 8:18 PM

Frigid? Budgie-smugglers? Yes, I don't think we RSVPers contemplate you in that way somehow.
But I'm sure you'll find a wonderful partner.
Then you can have a son.
I'm really convinced that you'll name him Rigid.
A fine upstanding name for a young lad.
However, not such a great name for the Art Gallery pickup line. "Are you Frigid ?
That was difficult enough but the next step would be more confronting for the gallery-going female.
However, if it all happens with Rigid your grandchildren could be Gidget and Widget.

Posted by: BidetGroansDiary at July 20, 2007 4:25 PM

Ahhh the Grande.. myself I always grab a Venti..specially when going into a movie.. coffee, chocolate and Harry Potter!!..(block out the noise from the little rugrats and its perfect!!) hehe ;-)

Enjoy your holiday!! Send a postcard.. :-)

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at July 20, 2007 1:52 PM

Thanks for the rap Sharon/JJJfan10BidetGroans---sure, Pilates would be great - the women would be extra-flexible ;-) I'm not so sure about the aquarobics though - the sight of Frigid in the budgie smugglers wouldn't go own well at the Ian Thorpe Aquatic Centre, Seniors Aquarobics 11am session... besides, I don't really fancy the Annette Kellerman/Mermaid/synchronised swimming routines...SeraphSuzie - a few nice coffee meetings in recent weeks and the usual email pleasantries. Am heartened the resonance remains long after the 3rd Grande Latte.A reminder to all: FMD is a work of fiction and any resemblance to persons living or dead or members of RSVP is entirely coincidental blah blah...so don't sue me ! ;-)Sheesh...what a time to cultivate a, umm, fanbase - sorry to advise you all but the updates will be intermittent (if at all) over the next 3 weeks as I'll be on hols overseas wk/c 23/7. See how I go - might feel creative enough (read: bored) after my umpteenth cocktail, lying poolside at the resort. Back in mid-August, but will keep an eye on the blogs.Cheers everyone, Frigid

Posted by: profilename FrigidMoansDiary at July 20, 2007 1:01 PM

Nup! No sign of Cupid anywhere... BidetGroansDiary? FrigidMoansDiary?!
???

Posted by: Riversong1 at July 19, 2007 11:32 PM

Totally lost the thread of this one! Something about Cupid??

Posted by: Riversong1 at July 19, 2007 11:22 PM

Hi Frigid,

Along with the vast majority of bloggers here, your profile is my number one favourite ever! What an intelligent, articulate and witty inidividual you are! Congratulations. Send me a kiss if you are ever visiting the Apple Isle!

RE your question about whether other people are attempting to write witty and original profiles my view is that it is exceptionally rare.

One great profile I found today is - Jonthepillow. It's another classic!

Keep up the great work everyone.

Sharon

(For some reason this is all coming out as one paragraph - which is not how I wrote it - and looks incredibly ugly!).

Posted by: JJJfan10 at July 19, 2007 8:57 PM

Frigid,
Just saw the latest episode of your diary and I have to say that if yoga isn't full of "desperates" then try aquarobics and Pilates. My friends who go say the classes are mostly female.

Posted by: BidetGroansDiary at July 19, 2007 4:29 PM

More war stories to come from the dating front, Frigid...but not for a few days.
Meanwhile this diarist has had a kiss from the local serial kisser. Maybe he fits the ideal partner description!
A shame about the vast age difference between the two of us because, given a different time frame, we just might have had lovely offspring named Fidget and Midget.
Maybe I should pay royalties to you...

Posted by: BidetGroansDiary at July 19, 2007 4:04 PM

All comments noted, fellow bloggers. Thank you.
Posted by: funlovertoo at July 17, 2007 2:54 PM---I'm sure Bidet could tell me a few war-stories from the dating front. Very funny. I'm paying royalties to Helen Fielding - can I expect the same from BidetGroansDiary ?

Posted by: profilename FrigidMoansDiary at July 19, 2007 10:59 AM

Glad I made you smile Frigid!
BidetGroansDiary was a response to your query: "Just wondering girls - are there any other jokers out there writing this sorta stuff?"

Posted by: BidetGroansDiary at July 19, 2007 10:41 AM

Hey Frigid, love the new entry.. very funny..except the bit about middle aged ladies and purple.. purple happens to be my favourite colour.. am 39..hmmmm not for ONE minute do I consider myself middle aged. I actually considered doing one of the those writing courses... but decided on Uni instead..
Looking forward to the next instalment...and I want to know how many dates you have got out of it....I may need to update my profile ;-)

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at July 19, 2007 7:59 AM

TrumansCat and wishful thinker July 15 Missed the "you had me cracking up- imagine calling a kitten that!!
What was that about ?

domien Seem to be asking myself the same question s "Is anybody still out there and is RSVP updating this blog? They seem to have missed updating "The dating over 40" blog as well?

Used to train at the old Balcombe Army Apprentices sSchool ( near Mount Martha) between 1958-61 was at Portsea 1963 and have visited down there since and always liked the area between Mornington and Portsea. Glad to see your viewpoint that basic profile requests need to be evident to motivate contact with others Keep looking and Take Care Cheers Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at July 19, 2007 3:42 AM

yes, I agree the cupid is way off the mark....here I am almost melting with anticipation ....received over a hundred kisses and emails in just over three months.... and some men just drop out of corresponding....sigh. Interesting not many have the courage to meet for a coffee and a chat ????
I am going solo....giving cupid a miss...

Posted by: sosayme at July 18, 2007 7:53 PM

Hey Frigid.
After reading everyone raving about your profile, just had to have a look myself. Loved it. Especially the guys equivalent to reading chick-lit "guy-fi"?!?! Fantastic. Looking forward to the next instalment.

Posted by: MonkeyLion at July 18, 2007 5:10 AM

hi people i am new to this what is cupid it doesnt sound very good but like to read these blogs maybe someone can tell me and also how to put a photo on my profile

Posted by: chad1958 at July 17, 2007 7:48 PM

Frigid,
You may find that BidetGroansDiary has sent you a kiss....now that is a trutly tragic account of life n love for the over 50s.
Others may learn from this angst-ridden tale...

Posted by: funlovertoo at July 17, 2007 2:54 PM

FrigidMoansDiary...
Don't stop.
We ARE your appreciative audience.
And having fun will always draw comment.... just keep having fun.

Posted by: TrumansCat at July 17, 2007 11:37 AM

I know Cupid's blind, but seriously, what's the point of putting in ideal partner information when it is almost completely disregarded?
Gender and smoking habits are NOT enough information for the discriminating Cupid recipient.
At the bare minimum, I want:
- within my age range
- within my location range
- within my "no children" range.

These are pretty specific things that most viewers have definite views about. I really couldn't care less if I got a Cupid email that only had one or two matches, if it means I don't have to check through ten "matches" that don't "match".

Of course, living on the Mornington Peninsula means that I get less matches than others, but that's the price I pay for my beach view! I can live with that.

So... is anyone with any Cupid-changing powers actually reading this Blog?

Posted by: domien at July 16, 2007 6:02 PM

Dear Frigid,
Consider this a kiss. Love ya work.

Posted by: Lipstick Princess at July 16, 2007 4:09 PM

wishfulthinker...
you had me cracking up... imagine calling a kitten that?

Posted by: TrumansCat at July 15, 2007 9:38 PM

I just wanted to congratulate FigidMoans on his diary as well - with that sense of humour what a pity you're in the wrong state!

And thanks wishfulthinker, I was practically rolling around on the floor laughing imagining you accosting total strangers with "are you Frigid'... (though I suppose it is one way to start a conversation with someone LOL).

Posted by: DangerousTraits at July 15, 2007 6:53 PM

Oh gawwwd...how am I gonna keep this up now? Thanks again everyone for the kind words. Thanks for the kiss wishfulthinker :-)
Just wondering girls - are there any other jokers out there writing this sorta stuff?Or are they all wanting to take a walk on the beach with you before snuggling up with Shawshank on DVD? Am curious.
Have a good week everyone.
Frigid

Posted by: profilename FrigidMoansDiary at July 15, 2007 5:46 PM

Hahah Frigid...today's entry is a classic too. What a sense of humour you have, so much so, even 1000km south I had to send you a kiss to put a face with the humour.

What a treasure....makes me want to be walking through art galleries tomorrow - however, I'm not likely to be asking anyone "are you Frigid?" I can only imagine the looks (and glares) I might receive.

Posted by: wishfulthinker at July 14, 2007 8:37 PM

@CAPABLE1:

Don't pay too much attention to the wasted stamps thing, I've found that even after receiving a 'is waiting for an email' kiss response, only 1 in 6 actually leads to a reply.

As far as RSVP's cupid - well, it could do with a lot of work - there are sites out there with much better matching algorithms (scary accurate in some cases), they just don't have enough users from Adelaide.

I treat the site a little like a super-market, walking up and down the isles I'll eventually find what I'm looking for, but asking (the search) for help is generally met with a blank stare.

Posted by: bezierspline at July 14, 2007 1:29 AM

datelessnotdesperate, have been tracking your blogs, and gee whiz, you don't let up, do you? you seem to have an opinion on everything, from single women, to money, now to smoking!

frigidmaonsdiary is a real hoot! ha ha! Entertainment value, ha ha! Full of himself, blah blah! Attention seeking, blah blah, blah, blah, blah....bet that boosts his top 100 ratings!

Posted by: at July 13, 2007 9:40 PM

Frigid.
we want more.......

Posted by: Lipstick Princess at July 13, 2007 5:17 PM

You have set the bar high FrigidMoansDiary....
we await with bated breath.... no pressure though. :~)

Posted by: TrumansCat at July 13, 2007 1:17 PM

Had to check out your profile too Frigid. What a hoot. Look forward to your new one. This one will be a hard act to follow though. Good luck and bring it on.!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: AmDoingIt at July 13, 2007 1:01 PM

Haha I agree, very funny Frigid. You must be enjoying the attention of all the visitors. ;)

Posted by: krosco at July 13, 2007 11:41 AM

Thanks for the kind words fellow Bloggers.
Time for a profile update but bugger...what a time for writer's block...
Have a great weekend everyone. If nothing else, keep on bloggin'
FrigidMoans

Posted by: profilename FrigidMoansDiary at July 13, 2007 8:36 AM

Frigid moan you are a legend! I checked you out too. Stay warm and keep moaning and I don't mean that in a negative way.
To the smoker guy Capable1 You just don't get it. Even if you don't smoke in front of a person. You have the stuff in your body. It forms part of you and continues to exude from your pores and lungs long after smoking. If you knew how it makes a non smoker's eyes sting, sinuses block up and chest congest when a smoker walks past or even enters a room perhaps you could understand. Not to mention the coughing I end up doing when I breathe in. It is not in my mind this is how I am always affected by smokers.

Posted by: activities please at July 13, 2007 3:22 AM

Hahahah FrigidMoan...I'm still laughing and thinking that your profile has truly got to be the most wittiest one I've read in a long time. What a hoot..shame you are in Sydney (and luckily the Kittyhawk and her 5000 men have left!).

Hope all regular bloggers are having a good week..back to work for me and too damn tired to even read a profile - not that I can find one in my area worth reading these days :( Luckily I'm in the "want" not "need" category.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker at July 12, 2007 9:40 PM

Frigid,

After having read the very positive comments from other bloggers I just had to read your profile. They are right, what a hoot!!! Gotta love a guy that can make you laugh. Looking forward to when you post a pic of you in your High School Air Training Corp uniform. Keep up the good work.

Posted by: senee at July 12, 2007 7:59 PM

Just wear the High-school Air-Training Corps uniform... then you're in ! :~)
and profile...? perfect as you are.

Posted by: TrumansCat at July 12, 2007 12:35 PM

Hey Frigid, I did like your profile hence the kiss... and thanks for the password. I do see why traffic is good ;-) Oh and i sent the reply as meaning chatting on the blogs :-)

Good luck with your dating!!

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at July 12, 2007 12:21 PM

Hello everyone - FrigidMoansDiary here, just stepping out from behind the curtain to out myself and say g'day.

funlovertoo: thanks for the kind words above.
TrumansCat: I should pay you for the referrals ;-)
SeraphSuzie: a very sincere thank you for your kiss.
It's interesting seeing the various people view my profile. Traffic's been good - almost as high as you guys ;-)
Just to pre-empt any negative feedback (still welcome though), I just wanted to say for the record that I've tried to follow all the rules about writing an interesting profile - make 'em laugh, and make it resonate.
It may not push *every* woman's buttons but on the whole, the target market seems to buy it. (not that I'm out on the town every night...I wish)
Oh, and if you think it's *too* out there and flippant, please think back to a moment ago when you rolled your eyes and replied "Thanks But No Thanks" to your umpteenth "Soulmate-Walking-On-The-Beach-Watching-Shawshank-Redemption" kinda profile. All other aspects of my profile are genuine and earnestly described, probably to a fault.
Feedback welcome.
Happy dating and blogging everyone. Talk soon. I may even be brave enough to venture out to a Sydney event soon !
FrigidMoansDiary

Posted by: profilename FrigidMoansDiary at July 11, 2007 7:23 PM

I find it interesting when cupid sends me profiles that i have already seen or have already looked at me and there has been no connection...........

Posted by: Rhodry at July 11, 2007 12:27 PM

Thanks TrumansCat for the pointer to FrigidMoansDiary. So funny!
Everyone should read it.
This guy's a real comedian.
Nomadd...why not raise the age of your desired bohemian backpacker to your own age? Then you may find the one you are looking for.

Posted by: funlovertoo at July 11, 2007 9:48 AM

IN RESPONSE TO MY SMOKING BLOG,YOU WOULDNT GO OUT WITH A SMO

in response to my smoking blog,i hear you say you wouldnt go out with a smoker,what part of trying to quit dont you get,i wouldnt smoke in front of you,i am just about over smoking,i could just as easily have written non smoker ,at least im honest.As for stamps,being new on here i used 3 ,no reply must be the trying to quit thing,maybe its my crappy photo,i know i will change my photo,there goes another stamp.I did get one reply though she sent a kiss ,so i used a stamp i was given her phone number straight away and we arranged to talk the next day at 1pm,she was in bed,poor baby must work nights,instead of buying a book of 24 stamps i might just ring her and make an appointment

Posted by: CAPABLE1 at July 11, 2007 9:15 AM

Cupid does seem rather dreamy and seems to lack an understanding of why I specify certain personality types.
I concede Cupid's accuracy with the smoking/ non-smoking thing. Not once has he ever sent me a smoker (sorry Smokers... nothing personal intended).
I stopped opening Cupid's emails a long time ago as it seemed pointless. Sort of seemed like he was guessing rather than aiming.
Regards,
DiP

Posted by: Duskinperth at July 10, 2007 10:20 PM

Nomadd

They are all sailing around the world solo or are in Africa I would imagine!!!!

Posted by: senee at July 10, 2007 7:32 PM

Nomadd, just because a woman is besotted with her grandchildren & loves her children, doesn't mean than she's not adventurous.
I'm both of the above but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't take off on whatever adventure, etc takes my fancy at the time. I will always have time for my children/grandchildren but I also have a life to live and believe me I intend to live it. My life doesn'r evolve around them but I most certainly do and always will make time for them. You could be missing out on a wonderful person with that mindset of yours. No malice intended please, just my opinion/advise ok so please don't take offence.
That said, I gave up on cupid after only a few of the emails. Like many of you, height was an issue as was the geographics. Age not so bad as I do believe we're all different to what our biological age is. I'm younger in my thinking than my daughter in law is at 39 yet some my age (male and female)have given up on life as I see it. Having said that I do have a shut off but nothing wrong with 5 years or so either way (depending on the person).
Woodnwine, I'm with you on the people who don't respond. Takes 2 seconds to click reply and submit.
Admin should consider weeding them out. Never mind, Karma will do a full circle eventually and bite them on the bum. Ouch. Hope it hurts!!!!

Posted by: AmDoingIt at July 10, 2007 2:32 PM

Most of my cupid
" wannaabees" are failing, because I clearly state that I do not want family orientated females, nor besotted with grandchildren.
My profile states.
" Adventurous women who are free to take off." Where are all the " Kay Cottees and Gorilla's In The Mist Women?"

Posted by: Nomadd at July 10, 2007 11:52 AM

Lipstick Princess OMG I couldn't sneak a look at you or Capable 1..... So!! you ought to come out of hiding as did BeachMouse and then you might get reserved to "maybe snapped up status" too!!
How's it going Beachmouse --is he still nibbling ?

To all the definite "no smokers needed" hang in there but frankly there seem to be many more women sucking on their ashtrays than men these days. TIP If you decide to give it up and try to find something more enjoyable and better to do with your lips, mouth and hands give up smoking "cold turkey" rather than get addicted to patches!! It's tough but, like most habits, replacing it with a good habit makes the effort so much more easier and rewarding.
JANIE38
Seems one of the biggest let down from Cupid from comments on this blog is in realtion to size so I'm suggesting perhaps members might like to take it into their own hands by putting in such things as sixe 8-10-12-14=16 etc and weight. With weight combined with height most astute viewers can get a better perspective of body appearance but EASIER STILL adding a full length body photo helps a lot. And if the message is still not getting across using words such as "voluptuous" ( is that allowed?) "cuddledomey" (is tat a word?) and the like in the headline (first few words of your profile may bring more attention.

Anyhow it's time to get back to Checking out the profiles so TTFN and I'll check back later Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperate at July 9, 2007 6:55 PM

well Capable1 im 39 and im here........OMG! there must be something wrong with me.

Posted by: Lipstick Princess at July 9, 2007 5:06 PM

Cupid kissed the frog.. then turned to tadpole.. then dry-up the pond...whats lift-over is wrinkles.

Posted by: Aliane at July 9, 2007 11:36 AM

Isn't cupid a mean little creature? Why do we so often get attracted to people who are not attracted to us and vice versa? Life is so unfair sometimes, but at least it goes on, and on, and on.

Posted by: woodnwine at July 9, 2007 10:15 AM

I turned the Cupid service off a long time ago on the basis that it was simply a waste of time looking through it.

Posted by: Baggagexpress at July 8, 2007 10:44 PM

FrigidMoansDiary...
thank you for the laugh, reading your profile was a delight, a real chuckle.... good luck in the hunting.
Cute smile btw.

Posted by: TrumansCat at July 8, 2007 9:37 AM

seraphsuzie,thank you for your thoughtful comments,at 57 i realise i need all the help i can get,but if i was 39 again im damn sure i wouldnt be here looking for someone

Posted by: CAPABLE1 at July 8, 2007 8:59 AM

Lipstick Princess - Such a cool name BTW! Thanks for your compliment, I always reckon a compliment from a girl means so much more then from a guy....no ulterior motives! If you are the attractive blonde who uses a different name who peeked at my profile then trust me you wont be on the shelf for long!

I havent officially been snapped up yet, he is O/S for business for 3 weeks (cant believe the timing) but we have a date planned already, and the way I figure it I have 3 weeks to get to know him thru emails, msn etc. Being an instant gratitude kinda girl is making this a very hard test tho!!!

Posted by: BeachMouse at July 8, 2007 8:38 AM

Many, many times I have wanted to shove cupid's little bow and arrow right where the sun don't shine! Evil lil creep lol!! And I am guilty, if I read smoker in a guy's profile I don't go there regardless of what he looks like.

Posted by: choosey61 at July 7, 2007 10:01 PM

Capable1 .. not sure why you feel like you are treated like a parasite .. I reserve the right not to have anything to do with a smoker as I cant stand to be enveloped by the maladorous cloud. I like to smell fresh and clean and subtly scented. Have dated a few guys who were "Trying to Quit" only to find they were not trying too hard at all and by the second or third date had given up trying entirely. My profile says I prefer a nonsmoker ... because I really do !!

Posted by: Naiad18 at July 7, 2007 9:59 PM

Sincere thank you for your Kiss, TrumansCat.

Posted by: profilename FrigidMoansDiary at July 7, 2007 8:57 PM

Hi Beachmouse, I took at look! No wonder you were snapped up!
Best of Luck. Ill just sit here on the shelf....

Posted by: Lipstick Princess at July 7, 2007 1:48 PM

Cupid must still be on holidays with Santa and the Easter Bunny........

Posted by: dearohdear at July 7, 2007 6:05 AM

hullothere.... what an excellent suggestion!
"Thinks you sound very nice, and while you dont meet my ideal partner criteria happy to chat with you as a friend."
What about it moderators? Do you think you could pass it on? It does seem we have a burgeoning little subculture happening here.... lots of emails back & forth at the Temple....

Thanks for the kiss datelessnotdesperate... XXX

Posted by: TrumansCat at July 7, 2007 1:37 AM

Capable1 if YOU are all that then why are YOU still here? Obviously the girls on RSVP don't like your attitude maybe? I suggest you lose the caps and try and talk to people instead of shouting them down!

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at July 6, 2007 9:04 PM

I just wish some people would actually read people's profiles before sending a kiss. I received a kiss from a man in India 10 years my junior who wants in his profile a blonde beachie from around Collaroy. I am a red-head from Sutherland shire. Not sure how he plans of keeping a relationship going. Maybe he should take notice of Cupid. At least Cupid's choices might be closer to him.

Posted by: blueeyes1955 at July 6, 2007 8:05 PM

Cupid....bow and arrow then target to bullseye....find your match....dont know about this ....always bounce back...aha.

Posted by: Aliane at July 6, 2007 4:58 PM

ALL I HEAR ON THIS SITE IS WANT THIS DONT WANT THAT,I AM A SMOKER TRYING TO QUIT AND I AM TREATED LIKE A PARASITE,IF YOU ARE SO PERFECT GIRLS WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE,OH AND WE ALL WALK WHAT IS THAT ABOUT

Posted by: CAPABLE1 at July 6, 2007 10:56 AM

hellothere...you are spot-on with your reply suggestion: "Thinks you sound very nice, and while you dont meet my ideal partner criteria happy to chat with you as a friend."
Or maybe leave out the reference to ideal partner.
But the replies to kisses are far too limited and reflect badly on RSVP and society in general.
Life is not as black and white as we are seemingly forced to be. There are many fascinating shades of grey. Nor to we want to be forced into a mould that doesn't fit.

Posted by: funlovertoo at July 6, 2007 8:39 AM

.. I get lots of hits .. yet nothing .. no sparks flying ..any where.. no chemistry ... I've stop being excited .. only window shopping recently ..and willing to just settle for friendship... we foreigners heard of all the great things about australia .. including the men ... but where are they? and where is Cupid.. ?. not in Perth for sure..

Posted by: Mahaica at July 6, 2007 12:08 AM

The one thing I like about Cupid is that you can turn him off and on at will. At 55 you don't get that chance too often!Browniz4u, I agree. I've had two kisses from the same man, have replied to both with the "kiss" reply "looking forward to your email" but to no avail. And I REFUSE point blank to use a stamp to contact him, I've done that several times and won't be caught again. His loss, I say.

Posted by: TishB at July 5, 2007 7:36 PM

Hi, datelessnotdesperate -thanks for the lovely comment!!

I should balance out my comment about the lovely women on the site by adding there are some lovely men too....

Posted by: Malsie at July 5, 2007 7:35 PM

Yes well I feel cupid needs to read more than just whether your a smoker or not.
Being a plus size lady all cupid sends me are alot of narrow minded men who couldn't possibly be seen with someone that's bigger than a size 8 to 12 pity cos they could be missing out on something good! Nothing against skinny girls but where are all the guys that like' bigger girls'.seems like there are a few around but how do we tap into them on this site! anyway I've said my bit,lets see what happens from now on.Maybe I'll have to forget about cupid and do the looking for myself,thanks for all the advice on this blog!

Posted by: JANIE38 at July 5, 2007 7:16 PM

DatelessNotDesperate..oh im game for anything! I went into hiding as Ive met a potential possibility and I always feel bad rejecting others...but seeng as there is such a demand to view my profile (Im kidding!!) well, its up again. Feel free to say hi!

Posted by: Beachmouse at July 5, 2007 4:56 PM

In order to blunt the tip of a bounced back cupid arrow.. I would like to suggest some new rejection replies to encourage more people to reply..
how bout:
Thinks you sound very nice, and while you dont meet my ideal partner criteria happy to chat with you as a friend.
(there are plenty of people i dont want to reject out of hand with a dont want to correspond further email... )
another tip.. please make people fill out all the personal info fields such as occupation.... some profiles have next to NO info even in the personal info section much less in the text bit...
For Gods sake WRITE something about yourself other than 'dont know what to say'.. !!

Posted by: hullothere at July 5, 2007 11:00 AM

I have sat back and thought this is ridiculous, either you do not get replies or somehow you dont fill the "bill" this is the first time I have looked at this blog and I am elated to find that other people have the same problems connecting as I do, the trick seems to get me to use my stamp, not nice.

Posted by: Browniz4u at July 5, 2007 8:32 AM

lol! just noticed in the spiel about this blog up the top there it states: "Cupid does however honour your gender and smoker/non-smoker preference"........good to know it matches the gender preference, otherwise things could get really ugly!

Posted by: at July 5, 2007 7:06 AM

Full agreement MarkH61 - I hardly read through the cupid mails anymore because the guys just are not what I'm looking for. Granted, I might be a little fussy but a girl's gotta have some standard of what she's looking for!

And I'm really glad I got onto this blog - I was beginning to think I was being difficult! :)

Posted by: MyFakeName at July 4, 2007 11:27 AM

Gee, can't you tell I'm not that busy this time of the year?

Reading some of these blogs I''d like to add my opinion (which may go down like a lead ballon).
I view this place as a mine field,you need tread carefully (and I'm a guy). Whether cupid (which I haven't used) or individual searches throw up "possibles" don't we still have read through them and dissect them? I get confused enough with the choices I make on this site, without letting a computer program make choices for me.

Posted by: Notfos at July 4, 2007 9:50 AM

The Cannulator - very interesting cut n paste of the email.
As someone who is 5.9 I prefer to meet men who are 5.8+ but Cupid doesn't think height is an issue.
Maybe our feedback will change Cupid's mind.
I suspect that featured members on the home page are people who've been online that day in your area.

Posted by: funlovertoo at July 4, 2007 9:35 AM

Beachmousie - some of us want you to come out of hiding -game? funlovertoo - Perhaps you are looking too close to home as is wishfulthinker? Why not come to Queensland as most of the southern states have?We have taller and real men here? Malsie I snuck a look too - MMMmmm !!??- we could do with some more quality up here too and so glad you prefer not to be a guy! Good on you SeraphSuzie for getting out there They reckon it takes meeting 100 to find 3 soul mates. Hope you meet one of them soon? Riversong -perhaps the other lucky girls have grabbed all the older guys you're looking for or perhaps that age group shortage of men is still trying to replay "house" again?!!
Oh! My comment ?? Yes -to Riversong1 By and large Cupid does a pretty good job sending me quality matches according to my request which is for ladies younger to up to my age which is the way most matches were preferred and occurred in the past where a man's age and experience surpassed youth, foolishness and lust?
Now it seems there are a lot of young widows out there somewhat scared to meet a man any older for fear of the grief and loss again? Perthaps they've lost sight of the fact that we are not guaranteed any time let alone a long time so we should be seeking quality and a good time with someone who feels similarly and prepared to take a chance? I don't seem to find many women jumping out of the computer monitor? Perhaps they are too busy trying to find the "fateful fantasy" Search button instead of actually meeting?? many tell me that all the knowledge and sensual imaginings and dreams and visions in the world are in no way as important or productive as doing something about it - what do you think? at least Cupid is keeping occupied rather than doing nothing and expecting everything for nothing??

Posted by: datelessnotdesperate at July 4, 2007 12:08 AM

Being 5ft6 and having like everyone else their 'ideal' ranges, cupid is nothing more than a rotten database matching program. When I asked why I would as a 38 yo be matched with women much older much taller ie 6ft women with children etc this is the reply I got.

"Dear RSVP member,

Thank you for your feedback regarding Cupid Matches.

Unfortunately Cupid only matches age (give or take 5 years), gender, smoking preference and location.
This also applies to the FEATURED MEMBERS on your home page.

If you have any further queries, issues or feedback please feel free to get back to us."

Really what is the point? You may as well pick the number of jelly beans in the jar. Perhaps RSViP members could get better data matching?

Even the usual 'search' function is just as bad sometimes.

The "Featured Members" always leaves me intrigued as well-how is that chosen?

Posted by: TheCannulator at July 3, 2007 10:47 PM

Nothing to do with this topic, but... had a lot of trouble finding where all the recent threads had gone, so popped into the "deal breaker one" and caught up with lots of fun in there, but not sure if that's about to be shut off or not soon (it certainly has been going a while) - but anyway, have posted a message to "just a guy" about the bipolar thing. If you don't get to read it it, "just a guy", would be happy to repeat my "words of wisdom" for you because I can understand it's an issue you could do with some other people's ideas on.

Posted by: Malsie at July 3, 2007 10:09 PM

My personal preference would be to have a small number of closely matched responses, than to stretch the results to get a minimum number that only meet some of your criteria.
Same with a 2 way search, I'd rather get a small, fairly accurate return - even as little as 2 months ago it was much better - than get a larger, not very accurate return. After all it is about the quality, not the quantity, right?

Posted by: DT1974 at July 3, 2007 7:02 PM

So far in 6 months on here: kisses sent : 0, kisses recieved: 0

as far as i'm concerned the whole benefit in using the electronic medium for dating over just going out and meeting people is that you are less likely to pick someone based on how they look - you get to find out a bit about them first to see if they are the right person for you, before you go getting into a relationship with no substance.

That said, the search and cupid system this site uses does not take advantage of this whatsoever. sure i can filter down to the age and race i desire, but i honestly don't care about someone's height, horoscope, political persuasion, career, etc. I'm far more interested in whether someone has the same attitudes as me and whether i can get along with them. and since i can't do this i just end up looking for the most attractive photos, and then i generally close the page over them not liking the same music as me, which is generally something i don't care about but since i've got no other way to gauge my compatibility with the person i've got to base it off the trivial.

If instead i could answer a short personality test , that asked me about attitudes particularly towards relationships, and how i form opinions on people - then the search function could say "you have a 90% compatibility rating with this person" - i'd care much more about that then what they look like or what music they listen to, etc. because i would think to myself "gee i might contact this person since it actually looks like i might be able to hold a conversation with them".

I just think that way would make a lot more sense when the technology exists to take advantage of it. OKCupid.com uses this sort of idea but unfortunately there are few Australians there.

Posted by: MarkH61 at July 3, 2007 6:30 PM

hahahahahahahahaha.....the work experience kid, too funny Patience!

Dayan - the Beachmousie is not only 1000000 kms away but also gone hiding (again) - fingers crossed Im not making the same mistake in a 2 week timeframe!

Posted by: Beachmouse at July 3, 2007 5:40 PM

I think cupid's aim is OK the big problem is that almost no one responds to kisses and I think the RSVP management should attempt to do something about it so these rude people are removed from the site.

Posted by: woodnwine at July 3, 2007 3:33 PM

Cupid in this day and age has lost his sense of direction and aim. Maybe he should stop keeping up with the advances of technology and go back to doing things the old fashioned way!! I gave up on cupids help a long time ago. Too old, too short or just to far away.

Posted by: Harminy at July 3, 2007 11:03 AM

I like to do my own research..
I think the data for my cupid matches must have been entered by the "work experience kid"

Posted by: patience at July 2, 2007 11:11 PM

dayan & beachmouse: add the datelessdreamer to the list who attracts the insecure, the desperate, the ones looking to be taken care of or the ones older than my father!

Posted by: dateless dreamer at July 2, 2007 9:09 PM

The B'mouse is 1000km NE, T'cat is 1000km SW, Dayan's stuck in the middle with no chance.

Posted by: dayan at July 2, 2007 8:54 PM

Okay...okay....okay....now I KNOW Cupid has his arrows pointed firmly up his...well...you can fill in the blanks...

Having just opened "Cupid's little email" and doing the usual "window shop", I find he has matched me with a "man of God", about 4 inches too short for my "ideal".

I'm not sure this "profile" is for real - scarey thing is he is right in my area (and has his street address in his profile - CS you reading this??)

How are we in the least bit compatible Cupid?? I list movies, his is too religious to watch them as they are apparently not the work of God, I list music, he only listens to praise and worship (yes, i can see how close THAT is), and of course he only reads the Bible - so how the heck is he compatible with me Cupid?? Tell me??
I'm heading towards the agnostic side of things and Cupid is matching me with a Born Again (since 2005) Christian who is singing the praises of God right throughout his profile, no sex before marriage etc. (come on Cupid....I know you are young but can't you read!). Perhaps its a message.

Please, I have nothing against religion, nothing whatsoever, each to their own, and no, I'm not having a go at Christians, I was raised that way and still treat others the way I wish to be treated....just a go at Cupid and his total inaccuracy.

Actually in the list cupid sent me, not one is even the same height as me, yet one of my criteria is "tall" - hmm...perhaps when you are just a cherub, anything over barstool height is classed as "tall"...

Cupid...back to the drawing board buddy...you had a shocker this time around!!!

Posted by: wishfulthinker at July 2, 2007 1:26 PM

Ultima...if we "gloss over" too many things doesn't that actually suggest they ain't gonna be "ideal" anymore? Ideal simply means a few more "ticks" on the right side of the page - not the be all and end all of the whole thing. "Glossing over" things often leads to those "things" bugging the hell out of you and yep..you guessed it...we are recycling (gotta love that one) again!

Malsie....I snuck a look too...you are right..nice to put a face to a blogger...

Posted by: wishfulthinker at July 2, 2007 1:05 PM

anokayguy...just posted on the now-archived, fascinating dealbreakers thread. Hope it gets a run so you can read it.

Posted by: funlovertoo at July 2, 2007 12:49 PM

Cupid keeps sending me profiles of men who are too short!
Please respect the height criteria Cupid!

Posted by: funlovertoo at July 2, 2007 12:43 PM

I think my Ideal Partner is realistic. After some deliberation, I broadened the criteria, to 'gloss over' some of the smaller things.I think everyone could 'gloss over' some things. Perhaps it would cut all the complaining that is so often the case on these blogs. Listen to Phil Collins: 'You can't hurry love. No, you'll just have to wait...'

Posted by: UltimaWizard at July 2, 2007 12:09 AM

I have no idea what these "RSVP cupid messages" are - I probably haven't paid much attention to "features" or something. In my own little world really...

Totally unrelated to the subject, but I don't see why that should matter (and reckon the subject matters are only to get us talking anyway, a bit like the Monty Python restaurant "conversation" sketch, if anyone recalls that!!) - it's great seeing my profile being looked at by some of the gorgeous women on here. Someone else has said it before now, I know, but what a lovely lot you are! It kind of makes me wish I was a guy... well, perhaps I wouldn't go that far :) .... and great to put a face to a blogger's name too.

Posted by: Malsie at July 1, 2007 9:30 PM

Awww Dt1974..perhaps that's Cupid's way of working...but I see your point on that one....I mean I get the 5 years too old or two young bit...but when it's the whole underlying part of your life...you really do need to wonder...

Posted by: Wishfulthinker at July 1, 2007 5:18 PM

Shocking record! Cupid recommends Atheists and animal-hating types....I'm stuffed really!! :)

Posted by: soph1 at July 1, 2007 4:35 PM

Cuipid emails, don't really serve much purpose if you're online as much as me. I still get them though.
I do remeber the good old days though, when the 2-way search actually gave you relevant results. Now it seems to return almost as many profiles as a normal search.
To my way of thinking, getting someone who specifies Christian\Born again Christian as their ideal man, when I am an atheist, in a 2 way search is not very 2 way at all.

Posted by: dt1974 at July 1, 2007 11:06 AM

Dayan...hang in there!!!! You too BeachMouse.

I would rather READ a well thought out profile than click on a "handsome" pic (not that I've found too many of those lately). While the wrapping is nice (and has to be to a certain degree before I'll do anything about it), it's the words (or lack thereof) that get my attention.

Cupid should ENSURE that all boxes are filled in, to at least give the reader some indication of how "matched" they may be - bit hard to go on the "I like all music" and when you pull out some ethnic mix they look at you with stunned surprise.

Keep in mind Cupid is a little cherub....undeveloped eyesight, not too many muscles (to really pull that arrow back and let it rip) and of course....a lack of maturity...hence why poor Riversong is ending up with choices much younger than desired...

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at June 30, 2007 11:14 PM

I gave up on cupid a long time ago when he started sending me guys that I already had history with. I figured I'm adult, educated, a modicum of intelligence, a good dash of common sense and lots of adventure, I do my own reading and vetting sure beats what someone in nappies can do for me anytime. Sorry cupid but I don't use your service cause you just can't seem to get it right and I seem to be able to manage with better odds on my own.

Posted by: shybutperky at June 30, 2007 11:14 PM

Dayan, My aim sucks more then yours....except I get to meet my poor choices, fall for their somewhat dubious charms, then once Ive realised they are a snake in knights shining armour I have to start all over again. Thank god I get over guys quicker then I fall for them!

Yes, I realise this has nothing to do with the blog topic; I dont ever read the rsvp cupid emails...maybe I should?

Posted by: BeachMouse at June 30, 2007 6:08 PM

Dayan I hope things work out better for you with Cupid and that he is kinder to you than he has been to me... But then what can you say for a child who has never grown up all the years he has been around and whose aim seems to be pretty bad .. with only rarely an excellent target happening?
Perhaps its time I gave up and withdrew... before I become a total cynic?...or is it too late already ?

Posted by: Naiad18 at June 30, 2007 12:23 PM

Hey Dayan, your stats are positively glowing compared to mine,......cop this 427 kissed...25 imd...105 emailed...10 dates over 14months, (where I paid for lunch most of the time), and STUPID CUPID tried to get 5 right and failed...............

I also dont just kiss photos, so wheres the logic in that

Posted by: Rhodry at June 30, 2007 1:54 AM

When I started on rsvp I was hoping to come across someone nice. To date I have sent kisses and emails to a few, but ave come across someone who was really worth getting stamps for. Now her & I have started friendship and could not ask for a more nicer and cute girl to be getting to know. So year Cupid has done a good job, thanksalot.
Cheers from Paul.

Posted by: paulb84 at June 29, 2007 11:34 PM

Hmmm not sure I believe in cupid. I basically don't even believe in my ideal partner, because he doesn't exist and I end up falling for the wrong guy anyway... And no I am not bitter, just realistic based on my past life and loves. I am one who has seemed to fall in love very easily only to mistake it for lust. However I have in the past made it past the lust and found a love that I suppose you could say was not true love but something which was lovely anyway. I know I am yet to experience that true love as I have mentioned in a previous blog...

I think most of us, if honest, are looking for that kind of love that takes your breath away..I know I want to experience that.. and I still have a picture in my head of sitting, on the porch, when I am old and grey, with the one who will be my forever.

Cupid? Oh Cupid? ...um...I am over here....SEE ME? Waving at you!! hehe ;-)

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at June 29, 2007 9:47 PM

I used to click on the cupid's search that delivery into my inbox, but I found that those people just don't bother to reply to me if I send kiss to them... it feels like they think they are the hot ideal profile....

So I kinda learn that search myself and put as much as requirement if necessary..... and just like Dayan, I tend to look closely with those profile without photo or password protected.... and how their profile have been written....

Posted by: IceMelting at June 29, 2007 8:50 PM

Given the extraordinary number of disgruntled bloggers and the fact that we've all painted big targets on ourselves by joining RSVP, Cupid either does not exist or couldn't shoot straight in the first place. You might as well ask: Is the tooth fairy looking after your dental needs? or Are peoples' star signs working as a filtering tool for you.

Silly question but fun :-)

Posted by: anokayguy at June 29, 2007 8:22 PM

Weehoo....right up the top of this one!! I'm not sure Cupid has lost his "aim" so to speak, I'm thinking more likely the target has shrunk to minute proportions! Sorry Cupid...but you need to sharpen up ya arrow boy and take better aim, there are a lot of disgruntled people on here.

However, I'm thinking Cupid's aim wasn't too bad, that I had, perhaps, had my target setting a touch wrong...but I'm working on it and enjoying every minute. So Cupid...for now, aim elsewhere and let me see if I can't work on this one on my own, no offence, but your help has been less than desireable lately.

Do I think what I'm looking for is too hard for Cupid? I'm not sure, alive and male is a good start (plenty of those), aged 36-48ish - that narrows it down but still leaves a large bunch, non-smoker (please), yep...a few just dropped off (see, told ya smoking was bad for your health), tall (sorry, I'm picky, I'm 5'10 in no heels and it'd be nice to look up - but I'm willing to compromise on that one), educated (yes, I want to READ without marking for spelling, I do that all day in the classroom), and not be tied to the TV with armchair sport (here's a novel idea, get up off ya butt and do something - might be good for the soul).

Okay, okay, I'm the first to admit I'm picky, and Cupid hasn't done a "bad" job, although he wasn't responsible for the fun I'm having right now...but keep those arrows sharp Cupid and uncross your eyes.....

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at June 29, 2007 8:17 PM

Cupid is useless for me - keeps showing men 5-10 years younger, who are looking for even younger girls :(

I've actually asked CS whether I could adjust it somehow to around my own age, but they said NO - 5-10 years younger it is then, by poular demand from the men, I guess :(

Posted by: Riversong1 at June 29, 2007 6:41 PM

Dunno about cupids aim, but mine sucks.
99 kisses sent, 4 dates. (over a couple of years)
We (cupid & I) even agreed on some.
Who's gonna be lucky 100.

and in case your wondering, no I dont just 'kiss' gorgeous photo's. 85% of kisses I've sent are to password protected photo's. So thats just going on written profiles.

Posted by: Dayan at June 29, 2007 4:34 PM