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Woodwine. I find the opposite of men and their children. I find it really strange when a 50yo has 5-10yo children. What where they doing when they were in their 20's.

Having kids is something that most people do in thier 20's and 30's not their 40's. My kids are in their early teens and when a guy 5-10years older than me has kids 5 or so years younger than mine. Strange.

[Ed: And on that note (comment 1333) the blog is now closed because it's now too big for many people's internet connections to download(!). Sorry woodnwine, you just missed out on last dibs this time... thanks for participating everyone, and look out for a new blog in a similar vein soon]

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at October 3, 2007 7:10 AM

I always said I loved the warmer weather, as opposed to freezing my butt (and toes) off through winter...and I would much rather a candle-lit bbq and chilled wine to huddled inside with the aircon roaring hot and blankets to keep your fluffy feet warm...but gee whiz...what have they put in this year's flu shots? Hormones? Insanity?

Tonight alone I have been subjected to all sorts of sex stories...married friends trashing husbands who want it...single friends looking for a bit...my grandmother wanting to know what I think the family would think if she shacked up with her "studley"....

Do I look/sound like an Agony Aunt...? I only just got rid of most of my home-invading family and their soggy towels, dirty dishes and screaming kids...and here they are picking my brains over their sex lives...THEN my mother who can't quite work out what to do now Dad is sick and won't be there for her every need and thinks it would be a good idea to move in here so I can help look after him (no her, the princess in the glass bubble of life)...and has rung me 9 times today for the most ridiculous reasons....guess why...apparently because I'm single and don't have the "stresses" that they do...

For those of you who have seen my blogs, you'll know I'm not exactly long in the patience and temper department...Here I am listening to their besotted drivel...and I can only call it drivel because I would thank my lucky stars to be in their shoes...and trying to be polite and sound like I care to some degree about their sex life...or marriage...or problems...

Meanwhile...I don't have anyone to come home to talk to or even think about "making love to" as opposed to just sex...and I'm hammering my frustrations out on the blinkin' computer....

So there you go singles...apparently we don't have the "stresses" that others do....Thought others might like to comment....

I personally gave this advice: 1) Nan, you are old enough and ugly enough to do what you like when you like...2) Friend, if your hubby wants sex, give it to him...or get a divorce...3)If you're not getting any what do you want me to do, go an play pimp and buy you some? 4) Mum, there is no way in hell you are moving into my house. I would walk on hot coals first and die with shards of glass driven into my eyeballs....You need to get off your "happy pills" and get with the real world and start to realise that it is not the be all and end all to go without new rings and jewellry and expensive clothes and learn how to cook a few meals and take care of yourself and your husband...For God's sake...she had it all worked out...I could move out of my room and give them the big room with the ensuite and I could move into the spare room...I would have to build a shed so their car can fit in the garage...Get rid of my furniture so the horrid chiming clock can clog up my wall...and have the house immaculate by Fridays for her morning teas with her friends....Oh and since I seemed to manage so nicely on my income "you won't need any more than just half the food bill in money, so your father and I can spend our assets on holidays and being retired..." without a second thought for all the extra costs involved in having 2 more people in my house....Nor the lack of privacy...nor the fact that I would be giving up my life entirely, outside of work to support them, to take care of them. No freakin' way!

Sorry for venting. I am. Sorry for taking your time. I just wanted to pour it out. Sorry for sounding callous...I know I am...however I have worked darned hard for this house and the life I live with my child, and my indpendence and future foward planning, and I don't think I should have to give it all up because Mumsie can't behave like a grown up and deal with the responsibility of a husband! She parked her kids off onto her husband and her parents (Nan was the closest thing to a mother we had) and then when I was old enough, parked the taxi driving and cooking and cleaning onto me....she wonders why we all married young and ended up in disasterous marriages (the boys are OK second time around)...

Who do I get to talk to? Gee, everyone I know is pre-occupied with sex!

Thanks for letting me vent, guys! Just needed to let loose!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 11:04 PM

Hiddencharms - just read your blog of Sept26 about the unsettling experience your ex had on a first date. Yes it's true that women can be just as predatory as men but I for one am hoping that sexual desperaion hasn't set in for everyone over 40. I still like to think (or hope) that there are people out there genuinely seeking true love and willing to forgoe the instant "hit" of a one night stand in favour of slowly and genuinely pursuing a "proper" relationship.

I certainly am not out there chasing one night stands and I think you'll find most people aren't. Maybe I take things too seiously and should loosen up a bit, but then again maybe not.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 2, 2007 10:31 PM

I haven't posted for a while. I have actually had a bit of a break
from the "dating scene". Now the profile is up again and well...quite
abbreviated. I have been checking out the profiles of fellow bloggers....a
big wave to all those who caught me peeking..!! It is interesting to
read the profile when you read the blogs you do see more of the real
person. And you are a feisty lot.( I am a little nervous putting up a
post?)..... But me I am a bit of a "lurker".

Firstly thanks Rocco for the positive comments about the profile and
the feedback. I do actually get contacts from further afield than 100km
and met a guy yesterday from further west. I am located in Bundaberg
so Brisbane for me is a 4.5 hour drive. But beng as "open" as I am have
tried to meet a guy in Tassie....but I did put a piece in the long
distance blog about that failure. Have met a guy from outback SA, he was
nice, but....

Now back to my latest learnings and the over 40's bit. I have come to
the conclusion that I am finding it hard to find a guy as a lot of
them have a way of thinking which I am not keen about. I get the feeling
that there are many men ( and I guess they have been burnt) that look at
a women as a liablitly instead of an asset. Just a few things that
have been said to me in the past and then again on the weekend. I look at
myself as an asset, not how much I'll cost in a divorce. And until I
can find a guy who thinks I am an asset then I guess this one will be
single. So if there are any guys out there looking to increase their
assets..!!

Why is it we live in such a disposable society and our relationships
are treated the same way? We "older" generation should be more into
holding onto things that. While they may not be the latest model or work
the best we are built of stronger stuff and worth a little effort in the
long run? Lets start taking the environmental friendly approach to our
relationships....lets make an effort.

Ok that's my 2 cents worth....oh that's not currency anymore...well I
guess I could have said pence. I am older, but not quite that old. I
did get the odd shilling in the corner shop change tho.

But on the lighter side of things...Hope you are all enjoying the
beautiful spring weather, plants are jumping out of the ground, flowers
sprouting in the garden, blue skies and sunshine...well it is here in
Bundaberg... :-)

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at October 2, 2007 8:16 PM

Woodnwine: Love the new profile!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 7:13 PM

Twoeyes: Yeah. I got a good giggle out of it, too. I eventually gave in and told him what he would be incapable of doing in that state...He didn't think that was funny, either!

Metaphor and junebaby: So imagine how I feel, having my grandmother tell me she has found herself a "studley" in her retirement complex and she is getting more than enough!

Add to list of things to do: Start trawling Nan's retirement village..maybe the residents have sons or grandsons...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 7:04 PM

Woodnwine

Why are you worried about what age a woman wants to claim.

Are there not more vital working parts.

1.....

2. a bod

3. not totally off her rocker

Posted by: excaliburwhet at October 2, 2007 6:27 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" thanks "Woodnwine' for your positive coments re my recent blog on people putting effort into their relationships.
I also really liked your coment that "Its not how many degrees etc; you die with, but the one who has the most love in their life,is the true winner." I totally agree.

I do find that alot of people on this site, who sometimes critcise me, actaully agree with me later on in a post or in the next one.

I am avery direct ,downto earth person, (as i say in my profile)..it may be too direct for some (though tempered often with humour to "soften the blow")..but I do not mince words.

To me , people who mince words, and tone things down to much, have usually turned out to be types who are fake smilers, and stab people in the back..and no one suspects it was them as "she was always so nice" etc:

No one need fear that from me! I don't play games.! If I don't like someone or something , I JUST SAY IT!

I do NOT pretend to be the friends of people i don't like and then speread false rumours about them behind their backs!

If I have something to say, I say it directly to the face of the person.!

It is annoying, that "being honest" and "No game playing" is a quality that many on the R.S.V.P. site put in their profiles, (But don't use the blogs)..but a few that do use the blogs, attack this very honesty and no game playing when they find it!
I do not think that my blogs are "Over the top" , as I have discussed these very issues, many times before over the years, with many people, and have had great responses.

I have a constant stream of "kisses" coming to me from this site, from both males and females Saying, that "they loved my down to earth attitude," "love my attitude to life", and "love my sense of humuor and "would love to get to know me","would love to chat" etc; and others have emailed me.

So i think "Woodnwine" in your comment that some of my comments are "Overthetop" would be a small minority.

(I am sure the mangement can confirm how many kisses I get, as they process them).

Maybe the people on the blogs have a lower standard of morals than those with profiles, and so are offended by my talk about fidelity and good clean family values"??????

Maybe if they tried it, then they could meet someone and get off the blogs and out dating??????

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

P.S> "Empty pots make the most noise". the complainers are heard louder on the blogs..... BUT .. .its the silent majority who like my blogs(nad send me emails and kisses)... that do not speak up on them! I urge you all to show your support for me on the actaul blog, so that those that criticise my views can see them!..(and then might starrt listening to me!)

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 2, 2007 3:40 PM

I don't think it is strange that women of my generation have older kids and many of my friends are similar age to my kids. It's great to grow up with your kids or else wait until your find the right man and have kids in your 30's or 40's. Now I am in my 40's and the kids have left the nest I am ready for my new exciting life!

Posted by: sunnyroad at October 2, 2007 2:31 PM

In my day, woodnwine, (I sound like an old codger!) girls married young. I married at 19 had my first child at 20 and my 6th at 30. These days women seem to be leaving it a lot later to marry and have children. Not sure I would want to do it that way though. With my children off my hands I was able to go to university, then to work and have enough time and money to travel.

Can anyone tell me why most older men are looking for a woman much younger than themselves and definitely one who is NOT even a year older than them. When I send a kiss to men a couple of years younger than me (and I have sent heaps) I always get a negative return even though I fulfil all their partner requirements. I am not looking for a 'toy boy' but someone within my age group. Just because I am 67 does not mean I am decrepit or ready to fall off my perch. Is this an ego thing?
Come on guys, give us "old" girls a go.

Re skiqueen's blog: I would feel uncomfortable/out of place going to a party/dance for the young. How about some events for over 50's because there a lot of people in this age group. Maybe a trip to Lord Howe or Norfolk.

Posted by: mushie6 at October 2, 2007 2:17 PM

I am highly annoyed that Carolyn Oates won the competition to be the face or rather "body" (naked that is) of Dove

There is someone on this site 10 times better.

Next time, sweetie, don't hold back. They pay well and you can get a good break in advertising.

Posted by: excaliburwhet at October 2, 2007 12:25 PM

Dating over 40, I think it's a little strange when you look at women's profiles in their late 40s and 50s and their children are around the same age as or not much younger than some of your friends. This isn't a criticism just an observation because these women obviously married and had children when they were very young. Strange.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 1, 2007 3:06 PM

This is my first blog and I'm a bit nervous. I have been looking occasionally at your blogs and you seem to have quite a rapport going.

I'm responding to Alex re what makes your dating needs and expectations different from those just starting out?

Having not been in a relationship for quite a while, I feel as though I am starting out and wonder how to 'do ' it. I went to one RSVP party, but it was as I'd feared - a room of people who did not make any effort to talk to each other and - sorry guys - the men looked very uncomfortable and unappealing. Perhaps I am very fussy, and perhaps the sort of of man who I'd meet at a bar is not for me, but I gave it a go.

People say that they seem to meet interesting people through friends, or at dinner parties. Perhaps RSVP could try some 'speed-dating' or dinner for 10 or something, rather than dinner for 6 or 8.

I rather like the idea of the 'meet me, meet my dog' days, although I don't have a dog. But what ages of people go to these? Could we have some feedback please? Although I prefer a man to be a similar age or younger, I don't really want to meet guys who could be my son!

Posted by: skiqueen at October 1, 2007 2:13 PM

I'm with you Junebaby57, my hormones have been moaning too. I was wondering if it was the full moon but of course it is that Spring is in the air!

ALW (you know who you are), I love the way you keep peeking and thanks for updating your profile. I must add another photo so that you don't get bored. I'm thinking of a trip to Melbourne in November so I'll have to brush up on my Salsa/Merengue steps and we could get down and dirty (on the dance floor, of course).

Somelifeinmeyet,"SERIOUS"sex sounds a bit scary to me. Lighten up and enjoy sex, safely of course but the odd risk (How did we get in to this position?)and plenty of laughter makes it infinately more interesting and pleasurable.

Spring is definately frustrating for singles. The Stones were spot on, I can't get no.... well we all know how it goes. Oh well back to the profiles for another trawl through the mire. Wish me luck, pickings sure are slim down here.
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Posted by: metaphor at October 1, 2007 1:34 PM

Hey there WW nice to see that you still want to play. welcome back.

Hiddencharms; great story re the ex had me in fits.

Posted by: twoeyes at October 1, 2007 10:11 AM

somelifeinmeyet - I am not generally a big fan of your posts as I think you can be a bit over the top and sometimes talk about things that aren't necessarily appropriate to the blogs on a dating site(plus I don't spend much time on here anymore) but I had to agree with your last post.

"..."I can see why you are single!"...(You obviously did not show the proper reverence for your life partner when you were married, and put all your energy into it, (like you should have),like it was the last day that you had together on earth.!

You took them for granted, you diverted your energy to career/career/career etc;...anything but them.

I am not impressed at all by profiles that exhibit this shallow attitude to sex and relationships.

Take it seriously, and it may work better for you this time."

I also think many people would not be on here looking for a new partner if they and/or their previous partner had concentrated on their marriage instead of other things. Like I said once before, in my opinion it isn't the one who dies with the most degrees, the biggest cars, fanciest houses who is the winner, it's the one who has the most love in their life who is the true winner.

Just put in the effort and you might be amazed at how well your relationships can work.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 1, 2007 8:17 AM

Dating over 40? Mmmmmm......well, you've all seen my comments. I don't think much of the situation...

It was my maternal grandmother's 81st birthday today. It also co-incided with the Rugby League Grand Final...and per chance...a great gathering of clan....

Now, my Nanna was a Dairy farmer's daughter, a Farmer's wife and then a truckies wife, breast cancer survivor and now widow. She was snowy white haired before I was born...and loved those pink and blue rinses...I was only saying the other day, that not for Decore, I would be "Nanna"....all snowy under the dye job...and thanking God that I did not have to do the "Mrs Slocombe thing" to try to pretend to be my age...

Anyway, Nanna had us all lined up for her appraisal: to short, too skinny, too fat, not married-give the kid a legal name....why havent' you found a husband yet....learn to sew and knit and crochet...I cringed when she came to me, the eldest of the maternal clan....(as opposed to one of the youngest of the paternal clan)...and she turns on me: " So how do you go without it?" She asks..."Without what?" I ask, tongue in cheek...."Sex, of course..." She replies....Gee whiz...this woman taught me to knit, sew, crochet, cook, clean, mend, darn, make curtains, cover couches, give a colicky baby brandy and brown sugar, and put it on solids way before the nursing sister said to.... and I followed her guidance....My own mother leads her own "special life" and has not been there for me, and Nanna has, but gee, discuss my sex life with Nan, now? What sex life? Outside of offers from sex-peradoes?

Anyway, she has been widowed for just over a year...and she has picked herself up a "studley umbley" as she calls him....and I have to cringe...he is a guy who my Dad worked with...a family friend...and I dated his grandson about 25 years ago....and she says it is the best sex she has had in her life - because she knows she can enjoy it and not fall pregnant!

She also knows that she can share it with me and I won't dob to the family....

Yikes! I know spring is in the air and all sorts of sex is abounding....I've had all sorts of sex talk with friends over the last few days...just thought I was being a w(b)ich an missing out...now it seems Nanna is doing a great job....

When I blow out the candles on my next birthday cake, what will I wish for....I???t won't be Richard Branston or Russell Crowe or Brad Pitt....it will be .....to live long enough to be just like Nanna and have no remorse or recrimations and enjoy the limited life that is left to me.....pushing into checkout lines and claiming ignorance....parking in wheelie zones an claiming blindness...and telling her grand-daughter to re-touch her roots because the snowy white is showing....I used to spend hours at the hairdresser with this old bat, seeing her snowy white turn blue....and she says if I remind anyone about her blue rinses, that she will dob about the time I wrecked my white school shirt, in her mulberry tree, spazzing half-eaten and juicy fruit at the Italian kids next door...she says it cost her a new white school shirt and pinafore, so Mum would not find out....

So, I guess I am "Mum" on Nana's sex life. Her life seems to be more excitining and amorouase than mine at the moment. Who am I to judge? She's having a ball!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 1, 2007 2:44 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..to "Hiddencharms"..re fertiltity in women in 30's and 40's......Yes, I too know plenty who got accidentally pregnant!

Case in point, a woman I know,( 38yrs old at the time of getting pregnant, who was on the pill as well!) just delivered a baby girl a couple of days ago!

So for those men who think that they are on this site for a good time..I say think instead.."Child support agency" ...(for the next EIGHTEEN YEARS)for a child you fathered on a "fun" date!! LOL!!!!!

When will people ever learn!

Sex is not an indoor sport! It is a very SERIOUS matter betwen two people, (and the possible resulting offspring..with or without contraceptives used)..and should be given the respect that it merits!!

For those who lack this respect and reverence..i say..."I can see why you are single!"...(You obviously did not show the proper reverence for your life partner when you were married, and put all your energy into it, (like you should have),like it was the last day that you had together on earth.!

You took them for granted, you diverted your energy to career/career/career etc;...anything but them.

I am not impressed at all by profiles that exhibit this shallow attitude to sex and relationships.

Take it seriously, and it may work better for you this time.

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

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Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 29, 2007 11:32 AM

Hey bloggers, is it just me or have the blogs (all of them except that smoker one) really died off lately ???? They take ages to post, and I almost lost interest!

[Ed: Sorry, we have people away on holiday at the moment, which is slowing things down....]

Rocco61, I am sure your makeover is fab!!! Shame about the distance and I remember that Seinfield episode. My son now watches reruns on Foxtel, so I see them again. They are still just as funny.

The question of sex!! Well, spring is in the air! I don�t think that age matters, or gender�I for one, love, have always loved,,,.sex. With the right person, that could be the right person right now, or the right one long term�.I really think go with the flow if it feels right. (with the right protection�.always).

Maybe that is why hormones and endorphins kick in in spring. All the animals in the animal kingdom seem to get busy! Maybe god is trying to tell us something�.Life can be short, so enjoy it!

So happy spring��.jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 28, 2007 10:33 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" to "rocco61"..it was good to hear that you took your daughter along with you for your makeover and that you are making the effort.......(Bit worried though about the hair massage at the basin....yes..it sounds a bit "Seinfeldish") LOL!!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 28, 2007 9:06 PM

hmmm comeplaytrains not sure if you are the full monty or not.....

and woodnwine thanks for returning, sent you the mwah to say hi nice to see you back calm and stress free. Look forward to more entries from you.

happyday.....k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 28, 2007 8:45 PM

Metaphor and Malsie....hmm.....Tasmania is looking better all the time

Posted by: rocco61 at September 28, 2007 5:55 PM

Welcome back Woodnwine: You're right. You won't find anyone if you go into hiding. I live in hope that someone is out there...for everyone.

As for other people's privacy, well I treat it with respect. I don't give out email or phone details without permission etc...and I would feel awkward if someone came up to me in a public place announcing the words "RSVP"... Just not something that some people want the whole world to know...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 28, 2007 4:25 PM

Hiddencharms (and others) - I for one am not the least bit embarrased about being on RSVP. I don't care if people recognise me in public, being on here just says that I am single and looking to meet someone - better than wearing a sign on my head. Now there's an idea!
Good luck everyone and don't be embarrased, you won't meet anyone if you are hiding.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 28, 2007 10:13 AM

comeplaytrains (should be trainspotter), that is one scary profile you have...no wonder she ran!! What's with the spikes?

Posted by: metaphor at September 27, 2007 9:55 AM

Well things are looking up for me,
after sending out 12 kisses in the past 2 weeks, which is a lot for me, I received 3 rejections and 9 no replies at all, how rude....lazy, good for nothing, turds.

But, on the positive side, in the past few days I have received 2 unsolicited emails from ladies in Sydney who read the blogs ( I thought only bloggers read the blogs, not so) and I also received 3 kisses from bloggers and my first kiss from a guy ( you know who you are, I won't tell if you don't, you got me all excited for nothing )

So speaking of gay men, I said to my Daughter recently that I needed a "Queer eye for the straight guy" style make over to improve my chances. She suggested more like a miracle Dad, (children can be so cruel), anyway first stop was a menswear store of her choice, where two young gay guys attended to my every clothing need ( and I found one of them cute, damn, it has been a while for me, but he had that androgynous look, so you know, it doesn't count), left there $960 lighter and now have 25 T-Shirts.
Next was the hair, Daughter said " I know just the place, the salon where I go" . Middle aged Gay guy owns it and has young guys cut your hair, great, I thought.
First I had to have my hair shampooed and scalp massaged, ok, I can handle this. So there I was lying almost flat out on my back with my head in one of those basins having my hair washed and scalp massaged by a guy, when a woman, similar age to myself ( good looking too) came in and was attended to in the seat next to myself.

Now, I was enjoying this treatment and it felt really, really good and I started thinking about that episode of "Seinfeld" when George had his back massaged by a guy and as he said to Jerry "it" moved. "It", what it, says Jerry. IT, it moved says George.
So there I was in my new, fitting, designer jeans, laying flat on my back, next to an attractive lady, having my head massaged by a young guy, thinking, stop enjoying this so much or it could get really ugly ( read embarassing)
Needless to say I managed to keep control of myself and was invited back for more of the same with a complimentary voucher....hmmm may have to think about that one.

So now I'm all dressed up and nowhere to go,(sigh) I best go back to the "Profiles", stop wasting my time in the blogs.....ho hum

rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 26, 2007 8:29 PM

Thanks for the VK's, yet again none of the standard replies were appropriate.

Hidden Charms OOOPS sorry I asked for a photo when you had already sent your password! Lovely photos they are too. I agree with you and think they should let you put your gorrilla face up as a comparison and to show you have a sense of humour;)

Rocco, hope I've satisfied your curiosity. I have checked you out before and I think your profile is great and I enjoy your comments, but alas the distance thing. I could never understand why you where targetted earlier in this blog, but I really admired your perseverance.

Posted by: metaphor at September 26, 2007 9:20 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..I was almost about to post a blog saying how well the blogs were scrolling down tonight when they froze!!LOL!!....What timing!!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 26, 2007 12:52 AM

I have been chatting with a very close male friend (JP for regular bloggers) who went on a blind date on the rebound from his friend-with-benefit (picked up through friends off a cruise ship alliance). He is totally shocked, hurt and confused, that this woman, on a first date, kept him dangling for a dinner that she would not order, but kept ordering drinks...and had him so lickered up that he agreed to be driven home...well, what happened is their business, but you can all fill in the gaps....then she would not leave...she was all set to move in...it took a call to the boys in blue to get rid of her...then constant mobile calls....yours truly stepped in and answered phone and said I was his wife and used to him spreading his STDs about the countryside (What are friends for?)....

Now this is a man who has been totally off-put, and is regretful and remorseful, by the actions of a very sexually aggressive woman...I have to admit, I laughed my guts out at him, because it is usually me being totally offended by the pervos and sex-peradoes....and he called me a totally insensitive w(b)itch for my efforts...I did try to be supportive and understanding...but this is my ex...Once upon a time ago I did want to rip his clothes off....Now, well he's one of the "family" who lectured me on cyber dating and all of its ugly traits...I also know what doesn't happen when he's had too much to drink...(am having a fantastic time stringing him along, though)...I did give him a great, long lecture about how much to drink, meeting in a "dry" environment, or having a taxi booked or friend to pick him up...and always having protection in the back of his wallet...never letting a first date into your home....

Honestly, we all talk about "dating" and finding a partner...I always thought it was because we wanted to grow old and wrinkly with someone who tickled our fancy and proved to be a reliable and trustworthy companion/friend/confident/homemaker/whatever.... does this single scene, and the dating world mean that we have degenerated to meaningless sex, just for the sake of it? Or for what we can get out of it?

Maybe someone needs to explain the new rules? I got married 20 years ago and have been far too busy ever since to stop and get involved in women's lib or re-vamped free sex...or maybe, and God help me for ever agreeing with Earl...drinks & dinner dating is cheaper than going to a brothel - for both males and females?

I'm putting on my suit of armour. I expect a lot of hits. I just don't understand this sex vs dating thing....Is it frustration (not getting any as opposed to wanting it)... or boredom (gee, that could fill in some time and energy)...desperate (anyone will do, physically forget emotionally)...or financial (I'm desperate enough to rope and hog tie the first person who comes along to put a roof over my head and pay my bills)...?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 26, 2007 12:05 AM

nooooooooooo hiddencharms forget the brother in Melbourne!!!
.............k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 25, 2007 5:58 PM

Comeplaytrains: THAT is exactly why some of us choose to keep our photos hidden.

OMG! Could you have been any less subtle? What about the poor woman's privacy?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 25, 2007 5:26 PM

Sabucni: Sex? Gosh. It must be spring! I've had this conversation 3 times this week, with various friends....! AND it is only Tuesday!

Don't let the age and so-called hormonal infertility thing trick you into believing that it is harder to conceive at our age...I have 2 friends, in their late 30s and mid 40s, who thought they could afford to be "not quite so careful" about contraception and they are now expecting surprise new additions to their already almost grown families! Sometimes, just when you think hormones are dying...they are actually flying...

Secondly, were you talking about sex, just for the fun of it, with anyone...or enjoying a great physical relationship with a partner?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 25, 2007 4:36 PM

This should be under "Spontaneity" but that column has no blog box.

I was standing there idly in the park bored stupid with a jazz concert, not an ounce of metal in sight, when I noticed someone whose face is plastered across these pages.

So, spontaneously, I said to her: "I recognise you. Aren't you on a certain internet site."

She gave me one horrified look, turned tail, and ran for it.

Well so much for spontaneity.

Posted by: comeplaytrains at September 24, 2007 5:24 PM

What no more anonymous bloggers? How am I going to survive without my Lurker fix?

Like all long standing soap operas this blog seems to be going through its tediously boring phase. We need some new characters to spice up the script.

Where are the comments from PerpetuallyImpotent, RealityCheck aka ScaredoftheRealWorld, TimePoorThrillSeeker,and ParanoidPerfectionist (not their real names of course and my apologies to anyone in RSVP who actually have these monikers), or are they just spending their time contacting me?

They seem to enjoy teasing me in to thinking that I may be getting a real date and then disappear in to cyberspace.

I'd like to know what their story is.

Okay, before you all have a go at me for not having my photo up, I will send the password via a VK to the curious amongst you. male or female. I just like to screen out the window shoppers.

Cheers,
Metaphor

Posted by: metaphor at September 24, 2007 12:20 PM

Okay, while waiting for the blogs to be updated, here is an old joke.
I've just added a new twist to it...

Dear God,

So far today I am doing all right.

I have not gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish or self-indulgent.

I have not whined, complained, cursed or, eaten any chocolate.

I have not used my credit card.

BUT - I will be getting out of bed AND ONLINE in a minute, and I think I may need some of your help then.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 23, 2007 9:25 PM

Trying to post from a different computer to see if I can get a result.
Have had a lot of trouble posting on the blogs since they changed the format.

Posted by: rocco61 at September 23, 2007 8:28 PM

hiddencharms does your friend have a brother in Melbourne lol.

good luck to ya.

happy day..............k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 23, 2007 7:02 PM

David: Hidden again? I can't email you if you keep hiding!

Seraphsuzie: Tried lunch today with Mr Romantic. A real "schmoozer"!!! Knows exactly how to try to impress...I earn so much I can afford to be overly extravagant...I know what you ladies want...you want romance before sex...you'll wait about 3 weeks before you say yes...you'll expect flowers every Friday night...and want me to sit and listen to you whine about your lousy day and aching feet...and...he says he's met the crowd I hang out with (at parties)and thinks they're stuck up intellects...Heaven forbid! These are my friends...where on earth does he get off on "stuck up?"

It was a short lunch! I came home and tried to answer an email....But failed....So....am curling up with John Wayne and a glass of vino...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 23, 2007 4:44 PM

What ?? .. no more anonymity ??? .. hmmm well this will make things a little more interesting .. 

Tell me ladies an honest question requiring an honest answer ... sex .... yep of course it had to be about that from a man .. we dont change .. but has your approach/viewpoint on it changed? We are getting to an age where children are either no longer possible or more difficult to conceive which SHOULD allow a viewpoint on sex as an aspect purely of pleasure, to change .. so has it ?? 

 Are your views more liberal to it ?  .. I have had mixed experiences myself from the ladies I have met, but I was curious on broader respones on this mass forum ..

formally 'JustAGuyThatsHappyBeing40'

Posted by: sabucni at September 23, 2007 3:47 PM

From :Somelifeinmeyet"..Yes the blogs do seem dead, I'm posting but theyaren't going in, so yours aren't either i bet???????

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 23, 2007 1:44 PM

Come on girls give us guys a little credit as we are not that gulible or stupid when you send a reply saying we dont fit when it is clearly visible that you dont have any set profile on yours

Posted by: dochog at September 23, 2007 4:49 AM

Wow! A movie that wasn't real? How could that have happened? I can't believe it. dont tell me that Sherlock Holmes isnt real either?

As Abraham Lincoln once said "you can fool some of the people some of the time....etc"

If you look at the character of "Kenny" you can see in him some on from your life. Every one I have spoken to about this "mockumentry" (for the record Somelifeinmeyet "mock" refers to something that isnt real or fake) state that Kenny reminds them of a friend or relative and most say hes a good bloke.

He actually reminds me of 2 friends of mine that I met through motorsports fire rescue crew. Both are down to earth, honest and have a passion for what they do and believe in. also if you examine the character you would have seen that he has family issues that he is working through in his everyday life. Like many of us, trying to get thru every day, the best way we can.

And if you noticed that although he did a job that seemed menial to most of the community, if the service wasnt performed by people like him, one must wonder what the implications would be. the scene where he assists the drug effected girl and finds the bloke chained to the toliet showed his true spirit. The way he was treated on the movie set is also typical of some peoples perseptions. I suggest to you thhat you look out of your window and see the type of people in the community that do these honest jobs and think how you would survive without them.

What you are also saying is that we men need to change to attract women such as yourself. Well my dear, let this be a lesson to the likes of you, I take it that honesty and being genuine isnt a a trait that you admire in a man.

If you recall Kenny won the girl in the end and gained a valuable contract for his employer. This was based on the honesty and openess of the character the ACTOR protrayed.

by the way, the aircraft scene was filmed in the flight similator center for QANTAS crews so im sure no passengers were inconvienced by the cameras.

perhaps the women could ask thier friends to give an honest appraisal of how they come across to women (to make sure that they dont look like the before protograph in the Jenny Craig ads) but instead realistic.

oh one more thing..... ask your pychologist or counsellor about Santa too..... the truth might shock you. (Then you can move on in your life and then learn to deal with the truth about the easter bunny and toothfairy too, but then again, that might be too much for you to handle)

Posted by: stormtrooper at September 22, 2007 3:17 PM

Re posting by: somelifeinmeyet at September 21, 2007 10:57 PM and my "Kenny".

Yes, I do take your point that it is nice for a man to make an effort with his appearance (the same for us women too) but....

my fictional character "Kenny" (lisp and all!) still exhibits to me the characteristics of being an decent, hard working, intelligently compassionate and loyal bloke.

I think this "character" is attractive because of his personality (albeit, brought to light by good acting, direction and script) and I would accept a dinky di, honest "Kenny" type any day.

Signed by

Seen too many intelligent and suave con-artists in action.

P.S. But I, like you, somelifeinmeyet, do like a deep voice in a man. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 22, 2007 12:09 PM

I watched that movie "Kenny" the other night, and thought poor Kenny was REAL!!! (Someone else on here mentioned it)

I was building all this sympathy up for him, with his speach impediment (lisp), his wife kicking him out, his mean father and brother, the problems at work, and it was just all an act!

I felt that I had been really tricked!

(As the movie went on though, I started to wonder why the father would say such terrible things to kenny, knowing that the reality tv people were filming it all! Then different times, like in the aeoroplane, I wondered how they positioned the camera so it didn't annoy the other passengers.

When the second show came on, which was "The making of kenny", then the truth came out, that his father and brother weren't really all that mean!(which was a relief really, as I wondering how they were not worried about being vilified all over australia when the movie comes out!)They were just all acting, even his wife and nephew!

What a difference Kenny made when he was his real self. No lisp, a nice deep masculine voice (which I like), dressed differently, and speaking differently!

Let this be a lesson to men on R.S.V.P., that a change in voice, mannerisms and clothes could "get them the girl".

Perhaps the men could ask their friends to give them an honest appraisal of how they come across to women. (to make sure that they don't look like "kenny" to women)..but instead attractive.

SIgned "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 21, 2007 10:57 PM

Rocco! No longer hidden, but you'd seen it anyway! They still won't let me post the early-morning-gorilla face....

Seraphsuzie: Dunno. I guess I might have to eventually say "yes" to that dinner and find out...It's really funny, though...he has not struck me as being the sensitive, romantic type...maybe he's just out to impress...but far more romantic than an email!

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 21, 2007 7:14 PM

hiddencharms... does your friend have a brother?? hehe. He sounds like a keeper to me!! How lovely to see that romance is still alive and kicking!! :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at September 21, 2007 10:09 AM

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 16, 2007 10:15 PM -
"But I'm just wondering...are there any positive comments made by males posting on this Dating Over 40's topic? I'm honestly interested."

Glad I wasn't holding my breath while waiting, 'cos I would have expired by now...

Signed by,

Still waiting for my Forest Gump or Kenny the Waste Disposal Expert - both fictional characters (*sigh*) exhibiting decent, manly behaviour.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 20, 2007 9:49 PM

A certain lady's charms are no longer hidden

Posted by: rocco61 at September 20, 2007 9:10 PM

Sign in...type comment...click on preview...lose comment...told not signed in....click to sign in...have to scroll to bottom of page, taking forever...told "welcome hiddencharms now you can comment"....go to post....see if this one gets through!

Is it any wonder it looks like we've lost our bloggers?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 20, 2007 7:44 PM

Hi Guys

about the "Bloggers" catch up ideas, which I saw on the “encouragement kiss “ blog, but I think it is broken, cause I tried twice to get this on …has anyone else struck this problem with extremely slow blog posts?? It is a shame because last week they were really fast to be uploaded…any way , apparently a catch up is going to happen in Melbourne.

I would be interested in attending a “bloggers “ catchup!!. I am in Canberra and could do Sydney on a weekend, as long as it is not on the 2 weekends I have weddings on in the next 2 months.(not mine!!).

Also I will be in Brisbane for 21st to 24th Sept for the project I will be on, so will get free time over the weekend, maybe sunday, for a bit of sightseeing and maybe catch up with some or all of the Brisvegas bloggers if you are interested in some kind of group catch-up!!!! Not sure how to organise??? I will be in the middle of the city, Adelaide St. Anyway I am open to ideas.

I have only been to Brisbane a few times, so I don't know places. Any one interested and heeelp!!!!!jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 20, 2007 7:26 PM

Rocco: I did try a posting on Sunday night - sometime before my 12.06am post saying that my post disappeared before I could post it...I dunno...Too much sun and sand? Or did I accidentally say something nasty?

Anyway, I think I wiped out your stamp when I terminated my account in a fit of pique a few weeks ago....sorry...

To all: Just wanted to say that I have been totally surprised and overwhelmed to discover that romance over 40 is not entirely dead! I have met a guy, through friends, several times at various gatherings. The other night he asked if I would like to go out to dinner: " a real dinner, just the 2 of us" he says. I told him that I'd think about it. A couple of days later, he arranged through friend, to send flowers to work, with a voucher for a bistro dinner and gold class movie tickets attached to the blooms! So, I'm thinking a little more seriously about it!

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 19, 2007 9:41 PM

Ladies l think its official...we have scared all the men off....Oh dear!!!

Posted by: auntykaz at September 17, 2007 8:57 PM

In all fairness, I must retract my post here of 12 Sept. I quoted some statistics of male female proportional members that are completely in error. For that I apologise.

I was logged in when I did my experimental searches and consequently when seeking a man (as a test), I got only those blokes who are here to meet other men rather than what a woman seeking a man would get.

Funlovertoo later remarked as to an alleged imbalance in sexes in our particular age group (54-64) based on my comment. I am sorry if I misled.

When I searched from a different computer without logging in as a member, I found that there was no such imbalance that was significant.

I may also have misled woodbine.

Original post retracted without reservations and with apologies.

Posted by: ezee at September 17, 2007 7:57 PM

You make me laugh, earlofwyoming!
Looked at your latest profile and I don't quite see you as a slipper-fetcher.
Anyway, I was interested in your comments about what you call retired "working girls" being on this site.
I don't know that hookers is a nasty word. Have not really thought much about the semantics of that industry, not being a customer of it.
I have actually interviewed a working girl in the past and earlier this year met someone who'd been on the streets of a major city for a while to support her heroin habit. She's now a mother of two.
The point of my post was to question the believability of the two "Lady Marmalade" posts, on the grounds that they were simply one person's fantasy, and that the finer points of writing style were those of another blogger.
I notice they've now been removed from the site, along with the posts from Psychobabble.
Anyway, have fun because you're one of the guys with a bit of oomph on this blogs and in real life I suspect.
Crazy but interesting:)

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 17, 2007 6:16 AM

To all, including RSVP EDS: Do we now now not have the privilege of previewing and editing our inarticulated words and poor spelling and grammar? Seems I got sent sent straight to "post" on last posting. Forgive the lousy typos...

Hellsbells

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 17, 2007 12:06 AM

Postings by: hiddencharms at September 13, 2007 11:41 PM; funlovertoo at September 15, 2007 1:17 PM and trumanscat at September 15, 2007 1:55 AM -very well said.

I'm only scrolling so far back and would also like to compliment anyone else who is constructive.

But I'm just wondering...are there any positive comments made by males posting on this Dating Over 40's topic? I'm honestly interested.

Awaiting the fallout...or any reasonable replies.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 16, 2007 10:15 PM

Hiddencharms,
I spent all Saturday at Currimundi accosting women in brown bikinis and sporting Liz Hayes haircuts, the last one I think was Liz Hayes, she must have been the one who called the police because I asked to see her hidden charms ( I knew I should of worn pants)
If you wanted to meet you should have been a bit more specific, time etc.
The stamp runs out soon so you could email me, let me know when you will be up next.

Wishingandhoping2,
Agree with you about Malsie and Woodnwine

David

Posted by: rocco61 at September 15, 2007 9:45 PM

cynicalandanonymous - yes, I left the blogs yesterday so what the hell I have overstayed my welcome by a few hours. I just wanted to say however that I do in fact send you good thoughts and kind wishes. No, I don't like you but that doesn't matter to me. Good luck and I hope you find true happiness and contentment. Everyone is deserving of that.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 15, 2007 9:38 PM

Woodnwine, you made me smile too...Thanks for that!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at September 15, 2007 8:25 PM

I don't feel it wise to judge Lady Marmalade's blog entry. It may be her true account or it may not be - we don't know. But to publicy say it's more than likely a fictional story, especially with such little evidence, is unfair.

Posted by: imissyou at September 15, 2007 6:54 PM

Hello All,

Have been reading through these blogs and can see what a 'bun fight' has been going on.
Would it not be best to ignore comments that stray off the topic? CynicalandAnonymous I am sure is having a fine time with all of this. She continues to cast her line and gets so many catches in one strike - she must be having a great laugh! Anyway, if you want the slagging matches to continue, which may be the case, then keep biting and taking the bait otherwise let's get back to why we are here.
On a another note I have read many of the blogs here and admit to having a peek at profiles of said bloggers - so if you have 'seen' me I do apologise and I need to clarify that I am not 'interested' per se in you ladies but rather interested to know a bit more about you given your intelligent comments.
And woodnwine - where are you? I really want to read your profile. You have me fascinated!

Posted by: imissyou at September 15, 2007 6:36 PM

Dear Funlover2

Why do you think there are no retired hookers (what a nasty word- why do you not use the nicer "working girls") on this site?

They all have to retire sometime.

Some of them actually enjoy sex. And the attention from men.

There are of course a lot of sensitive people on this site, to whom this snippet of information will come as a shock.

So let's pretend I didn't say it.

Posted by: earlofwyoming at September 15, 2007 4:59 PM

funlovertoo.
I took Lady Marmalade's blog on face value. Maybe I am naive.. .

Posted by: trumanscat at September 15, 2007 4:41 PM

Malsie - I've had the same problem with preview and now don't dare use it.
Blog topic - what over-40s would like - a redress of the imbalance of the sexes on RSVP among the mature age groups.
Maybe RSVP needs an advertising campaign to attract men to the site, by pointing out the large numbers of women vs men.
That could help.
A guy I'm corresponding with joked that I should move to China...where there are more men.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 15, 2007 1:30 PM

Woodnwine - thanks for the kiss!
We've been through a lot and I was beginning to think I should have ignored the venom rather than trying to defend myself against ridiculous accusations.

I must say I've been extremely impressed by your generosity of spirit and kind words.

TrumansCat - yes, the old saying is that it takes two but in some cases it takes a lot more than that.

RSVP could obviously see the grief this was causing and the damage to the blog system, so decided to act to call a halt.
Recently I've firmly believed I was fighting against an unwell phantom or phantoms to defend my image and that the only way to deal with it - without any action from RSVP - was to look for the inconsistencies in the posting across boards.

Anyway, it's now over, and let's hope that the person or people involved seek help to deal with the anger and pain causing such extreme outbursts.

By the way, TrumansCat, I do believe that Lady Marmalade was a totally fictional character...a sort of cut n paste from a hooker's memoirs or a racy novel.
It didn't ring true to me at all.
The question I asked myself was why would someone in that position be on RSVP?
The apparent confusion between the business activity now and the cake and presents from former clients, with a blurring of tenses and time frame, was another giveaway. the style was too - for example, the way $3,000 was written, rather than $3000.
Obviously the real profile Lady Marmalade would be embarrassed by what's appeared if she knew about it!
Anyway, thanks to all who took part in the battle for blog sanity and to RSVP for trying to stop the rot.
Woodnwine..I'm just not buying into anything from Cynical and Anonymous, ever again, and I suggest you do the same.
The reason is that we have made our point, we have been acknowledged, and we just need to move on with out lives.
I updated my profile today - after decoratress looked at it, so have another look decoratress.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 15, 2007 1:17 PM

Thank you Rocco.

Nice comment.

Not sure whether "stuck up" is the right word.

It's a tight little bunch up there at Nusa. They all seem to know each other. Probably have a lot in common.

Posted by: earlofwyoming at September 15, 2007 12:35 PM

Thank you Malsie. You have made my day.
You are very beautiful too in looks and in your nature and intelligence.

I've always respected your opinions and outlook.
I think the trick is to blog honestly and make sure you have informed opinions and arguments.

We all like an opposing view, makes things interesting. What we don't like is personal slurs and abuse. That's just ugly.

I haven't always agreed with Woodnwine but I think he has been deeply hurt by the happenings here and hope he keeps blogging because that will put it in perspective for him. He has loads of support from intelligent, confident, successful ladies on this site. Men too!

Also what does it matter in the long run how many rejections we get from virtual strangers? We are here to meet that ONE and some friends along the way. Meeting the ONE may take a week, month, year, years but when they arrive- WOW. I'm waiting for that butterfly effect again.

Friends have been made by lots of bloggers and Woodnwine these are the people you should be taking notice of, not a few negatives.

I looked at your profile a while back and found it interesting and you handsome.....my opinion for what it is worth. I even sent you a kiss.

I have actually always blogged as wishingandhoping but left out the two at the end.

Apologies to the lady in Queensland- I hope I have not been too rude or opinionated in your name.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at September 15, 2007 12:18 PM

Earl,
Good to see your profile, as for Noosa women they are mostly more stuck up than the rest of them on the Sunshine Coast, I can speak their language though (property prices)

rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 15, 2007 10:57 AM

Wishingandhoping2 - I just wrote a post to you, but somehow with all the scrolling up and down here, it's gone! The problem was in the previewing, I think, which I won't bother with again.

It's great to have the new accountability for bloggers (thanks RSVP for taking notice), but takes forever to actually get a post on here - not for the faint hearted! Like the whole RSVP experience at times.

What I did say previously, WishingandHoping2, was that it was great to finally meet you, and that unlike some women on here who rave on about how "gorgeous" they are (whilst saying very ugly things), from seeing your profile you are obviously beautiful without having to proclaim it to the world.
I would write to you, but alas have no stamps. There is another female blogger I'd dearly like to write to too, so who knows, maybe later! Glad to see you hung on in here and didn't desert the forum.

Posted by: malsie at September 15, 2007 10:42 AM

Rocco

Don't go anywhere near Currimundi Lake mate.

There are still unexploded mines in the area.

Try Nusa.

There's a wealth of RSVP material just waiting to be explored (mind you there is a queue for some of it, but be patient)

Posted by: earlofwyoming at September 15, 2007 7:02 AM

woodnwine.
Nothing happens in a vacuum, no dynamic between two people happens with the only the imput of one.
As the old saying goes... it takes two to tango.

Posted by: trumanscat at September 15, 2007 1:55 AM

What happened to September 13 posts?
Is it just me or is it getting harder to load the "post your comment" box?
Box on top would be nice.

rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 14, 2007 8:34 PM

Thank goodness there now are honest references (profile names) for blogs posted!!!

Now we just have to sort out the ones blogging under two or more different profiles...

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 14, 2007 7:36 PM

Wishingandhoping2 -

"I think that cynicalandanonymous may well be FemalePersuasion or was it FriendlyPersuasion???"

NO I am not this person, neither am I psychobabble, although I do like and respect everything she had to say.

I am my own person. So stop doubting my credibility and insinuating MPD - I am on here as myself. There must be many women on RSVP who have fabulous photos and receive a lot of attention - and I am one of them.

Love,

CynicalAndAnonymous

Posted by: cynicalandanonymous at September 14, 2007 7:24 PM

Woodnwine,

Sad to see you and your, usually, positive approach going.

I hope you are just having some timeout. I've done that a few times and it is chicken noodle soup for the online dating debacle.

I think that cynicalandanonymous may well be FemalePersuasion or was it FriendlyPersuasion???

Sorry FP if I am wrong but if right I can see why you get so much male/mail. I think ALL of your pictures are fabulous.

Maybe psychobabble is FP...maybe I'm wrong and shouldn't even be thinking about such trivia...but I've always had a great head for the trivial.

Maybe I should be spending some quality time trawling through profiles to find my soulmate, but I think I'll just go see if any new blogs have popped up in the other topics.

I'll be in that Melbourne blog/Woodnwine meet too. Sounds like fun..could be at Churcher's??????RSVP likes it there. I used to in the seventies when it first opened too.

RSVP have been very busy lately following lots of our advice and for that I thank them....they DO listen.

[Ed: And you are our first authenticated blogger...!]

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at September 14, 2007 3:44 PM

This is a great question,
but I have another one, are men here genuinely looking for a relationship or just notches in their belt? I mean we are over 40 right, time for the real stuff isnt it? no spreading your seeds etc....
I was in a relationship for 4 years, I thought it was great at first, finally found MR right, well what a nightmare that turned out to be and yes he lurks here al the time, not satisfied to be in a loving relationship, he has to be messaging and phoning other woman for what? I was astounded that men and woman act this way? why? have we lost sight of morals and standards that make us the nice people we are? or morals of others? .
This is an avenue for people , men and woman who dont want to be alone and are alone not by choice. Can we sort out the REAL ones? lol nice thought.
I dont know just venting I guess, I just would like to know HOW to attract the good guys!

Posted by: loveable46 at September 14, 2007 1:46 PM

Laugh, I almost pissed myself. Very funny cynicalandanonymous that guy must have really pissed you off. Like my mate said though, where is your profile sweetie? I couldn't find it and would love to see if your as good as you rekon. Although I don't have enough money for you I'd still enjoy some honesty.

Posted by: john the other fireman at September 14, 2007 10:42 AM

cynicalandanonymous - Hello, being a male I never looked at woodnwines profile. Maybe he is a twit, I wouldn't know but where is your profile? Why can't we judge it? After all, fair's fair. Or is it? Kind of puts you off women a little doesn't it.

Posted by: bob the fireman at September 14, 2007 10:37 AM

Robert Harkins - you too are learning the game. So many women say on their profiles "where are all the men?" but we are out there sending them kisses, it's just that they reject most of them, often without even checking our profiles. Why, I couldn't work it out so I gave up. Good luck mate.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 14, 2007 10:23 AM

cynicalandanonymous - before you lash out at me or the women I have been in contact with again - of the 113 kisses I received, some I met, some I deemed not compatible but responded to, some lived too far away and I am not interested in a long distance relationship, and some I asked to send me an email and never heard from them again. Unlike some, I responded to every kiss and email that I received and made some nice friends along the way. Just thought I should clear that up before I leave. Have a nice day.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 14, 2007 10:11 AM

psychobabble - if you are who I think you are then it's funny because when others were attacking you I actually sent you a nice blog. Strange how things go around isn't it? Karma acts in strange ways sometimes but in the end I think it usually evens out.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 14, 2007 9:59 AM

Dateless and Desperate

"he is just lucky the "boys" don't give him the treatment he'd get in the real world"

Seems to be quite a few people on this site who want to sue "the boys" on to other people.

Some claim connections to the criminal underworld.

Some are part of the criminal underworld.

As long as your blogs are recorded so they may become suitable evidence when you time is up and Big Louie out at Woolston Park CC thinks that you might well be suited to being one of his "boys."

Turn around and let him have you

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 14, 2007 4:57 AM

Seems I have alot to say tonight...child is at final school musical rehearsal and will be duly escorted home by her friend's father - one of her teachers - very soon (I hope)...

Getreal: When you can put up a profile that clearly demonstrates that you are better looking; in better shape; better financially resourced; more commited to his partner; and as in-tune with the world as Arnie Schwarznegger (buggar my spelling) who is a major accolade for middle aged men...an itinterate immigrant with no English, actor, businessman, and in major control of his own mind and body, who has become Governor of a US State (California for those who want to pick)...

THEN... you can stroll onto this site and start garbaging women for not being the "Perfect 10". Seen Farrah or Bo lately? Both in your age group. Both have lost their "hey day" and they have had the benefits of truckloads of money and plastic surgery to aid their aging process! We "yummy Mummies" do it whilst raising kids, running homes, holding down jobs, battling ex's and trying to build a better future for ourselves.

Things you need to remember:
Beauty is not skin deep...
The camera adds 10 lbs...
True love is based on the incredible, not the superficial...
AND you need to get real, and get over yourself!!!

Give you a little example of how deceptive looks can be (I"M NOT BRAGGING JUST MAKING A HIGHLY SUPERFICIAL POINT)...I'm, 5'3 and lie and say I'm 5'4 and like to wear heels that make me look 5'6...weighing at about 57kg...I do the trendy haircuts and polish my nails...still do a bikini on the beach and told, even by Rocco that I am nice to look at...I have uni degrees, but work as a public servant, because I love what I do (and tried the high rolling money thing and almost went insane)....I have a fantastic kid and a wall full of certificates etc to fill up the empty almoned-toned space....BUTT (and I mean just like a Billy goat) I am one of the biggest w(b)itches that you will ever come across...Why? Because I had a husband who demanded 1950 style perfection out of me...while he went out and used and abused every not-so-perfect specimen he could find to accommodate his own "inadequacies"...If you want a cute little filly to hang off your arm and your every whim, then I suggest you try somewhere around.....1410!

Fat, ugly, liars, deceptive, non-qualified, employment losers, go-getters and would-be's; money grabbers, meal seekers that we have been accused of being (especially deeree and decoratress) you can shove in your BS pipe and smoke! Along with your mysogynist mates!

Why are women on this site so hard, intelligent, independent, resourceful, sharp-witted, disillusioned, cynical and suspicious of the men they encounter? Go back and read the blogs. We've been treated like second class citizens, and most of us ripped off financially and emotionally for our efforts. By men like you!

Hellsbells

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 13, 2007 11:41 PM

CynicalAndAnonymous at September 12...

Just re-read your post in case I was imagining it...

but no- it was absolutely deplorable. OMG- read your post as if it were directed at yourself (substituting appropriate words.... ie. instead of 'boring', 'negative', 'whining' insert 'pretentious', 'arrogant', 'wanker' (oops) etc)...

I'm hoping others will join me in condemning such personality assassination..

Do I remember you posting about your amAzing statistics? & that you were so far above the rest of the proletariat that you'd cancelled your Top100 tick as being, well- childish? You know... seeing as you knew you were always on it anyway....? Now, without scrolling back far, far too far to check- it rings a bell. If I'm wrong, I retract my comments related to it..... but if I'm right I've a question. If you're so successful & intelligent- upper echelon as it were- & attractive & - well - 'queen'v fuckin everything' (as they say)...

...forgive me for being simple, but what are you still doing on this site? Surely amongst the hundreds of responses in your mailbox you've had your pick...??

...no one come up to scratch?

Sadly, that's often the way when one's too hot- few measure up. Believe it or not, I actually sympathise with you. Diminishes ones choices so much. It must make you very frustrated. And want to spit venom anonymously at very nice people. Which, of course, diminishes your chances of attracting anyone pleasant even further...

Bex.... lie down.... chant om.... light icense....
All reasonable & simple ideas for improving the headspace, c&a.

Yours faithfully
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 13, 2007 11:39 PM

Hey oldies !!
Ohh hang on... thats me now too.. bummer!! Just turned 40 and noticed this blog for the first time. I guess if anything I would be interested to know how I come across in my profile. I had a friend (not an RSVP person) check out my profile and they said it wasn't very flattering?? Weird I thought it was OK, if anyone is bored and they wanted to check it out and be honest (not necessarilly brutal :-) I'd love to know what you think .

Have fun... and for what its worth my spin on all this
is that every time I see someone I think is a potential match I get no love!! LOL Cmon girls Surely Bendigo's not that far from Melbourne ??..

Posted by: Apiesfan at September 13, 2007 11:33 PM

Same old same old....I see the regular psycho's are still here, and some have even got the family to join them, revealing a genetic tendency probably best kept private...oops! Too late now!

cluelessnotclear continues to ramble nonsensically in a language of his own invention.

cynicalandcrazy seems to have even more persona's taking umbrage at random comments, as if they were directed personally at her.

But what has changed is the opponents these bitter and twisted old loonies are having disagreements with.
That's funny...their own posts are always loaded with self congratulatory statements about how nice, reasonable, fair etc etc they are, yet they seem to be always fighting.
With a changing cast of unpleasant, unreasonable and unfair people.

mmm...makes sense to me!

lurker

Posted by: nothim at September 13, 2007 10:43 PM

Hey Rocco: I hope I was included in your 9 kisses. After all, I was very nice to you (and vice-versa). I even let you look at my photo - even if it was just to prove I don't have green hair and horns! The RSVP Nazis would not let me post my favourite pic for public viewing - my early morning gorilla face. They say I have to post a real pic. What? Hairy, uncombed, wet nose, wrinkly skin, yellow teeth and 3 fingers isn't natural? Come on, Rocco, laugh with me! I'm laughing at myself! Seiously! No wonder I can't get a date!!!

By the way, if you want to take that poodle for a walk on Saturday, there's this bush track, follows the north side of the river at Currimundi, through the bush, to the beach. See if you can spot a brown bikini with Liz Hayes haircut, with a rather droll female teenager and 3 borrowed teenage boys....She'll be the one stuffing square pegs into round holes and throwing Maccas at the kids...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 13, 2007 10:33 PM

Decoratress: No need to apologise. Really. I think we've all had days where dealing with the gibber just plain gets to us.

Take a read of my post re "my prescription for psychosis"...In another blog, I added how I proved to long suffering doctor that I was indeed sane: I told him all his ink blots looked just like ink blots (some big some small) and then I took my cigarette lighter and singed the straight edges off the square peg and stuffed the little buggar into the round hole! There. I'm sane. I know I don't sound it, but, laughing at myself, for letting the disillusionment and rudeness of some people get to me....

As mentioned, we've always enjoyed pleasant chats and hope to continue.

Love & peace to you...Despite what some boofhead posted, I think it is a nice salutation...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 13, 2007 10:04 PM

CynicalandAnonymous - you say you tried hard to keep out of this blog topic - after that incredibly personally attacking post you put in, all I can say is what a shame you didn't try harder. Elsewhere you attacked woodnwine for his "negativity". I don't know how many other blog posts you've read, but ironically his had always been particularly encouraging and positive up until about 2 weeks ago.

David, how about we unhide our profiles for a couple of days (hope you can cope with the deluge of kisses that ensues!) so we can exchange our real email addresses? Just never got round to it before... sorry to hear your date was a bit "ordinary".

ETC - there's huge variation in thought about when to hide your profile. In the end I reckon it just comes down to when it feels appropriate to you and the other person (and hopefully you both want to at the same time!). That can be after a few meetings, weeks, or even before meeting should you both wish!

Malsie (one of woodnwine's many "imaginary" online friends....)

Posted by: Malsie at September 13, 2007 8:46 PM

cynicalandboring - which part of woodnwine's profile did you fing negative? I looked at it some time ago and although not my type (too old) I found it to be quite positive and upbeat. Are you thinking of the right person?
Beth
ps why do you need to be so rude and boring anyway, aren't we all on here looking for support? Isn't that the idea of the blogs?

Posted by: at September 13, 2007 8:33 PM

cynicalandanonymous - have you actually seen woodnwine's profile? I tried looking ages ago and it wasn't visible? And when do we all get to see yours and passjudgement on it?
also a cynic

Posted by: at September 13, 2007 8:28 PM

getReal and CynicalAndAnonymous...now there's two that would make a good couple.

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 13, 2007 6:18 PM

cynicalandanonymous - I think your problem goes way beyond a disagreement with woodnwine. With rudeness and anger like that I suggest you seek professional help woman.
DBee

Posted by: at September 13, 2007 6:04 PM

Does anyone else think this is unacceptable or is it just me?

Posted by: woodnwine at September 13, 2007 6:01 PM

woodnwine - just leave mate, you don't need all this crap from a woman who won't even identify herself. Come on cynicalandwhatever, step out from the shadows and show us your true colors.
what the hell? Brian

Posted by: cynicalmale at September 13, 2007 5:45 PM

cynicalandanonymous - how to win friends and influence people - NOT. That has to be the most rude and offensive post I have ever read. I have never blogged before but you have changed that, thank you at least for getting me on here.

Posted by: Layla at September 13, 2007 5:34 PM

"When and how do you get to the point of taking your profile down (and his)???"

ETC. Love you Honey. Did you really mean it that way.

The answer is- you may take his profile down when
(a) he has given you his RSVP password;
(b) when you have confiscated his computer so he can't relist under another profile.
(c) when you have chained him to the bed so he can't visit an internet cafe, a public library or workplace where he can gain alternative internet access.

Does that answer your question?

Posted by: Take His Profile Down First- Then Yours at September 13, 2007 3:03 PM

C&A - Let me just thank you for your comments -
"You are the laughing stock of every woman I know who has seen your now extinct profile"
"your profile and photos were CRAP"
"your photos and whiney profile were the pits. In all honesty I'm surprised you scored a 5% success rate. Just goes to show some people on here really are desperate."
"You're a pathetic excuse of a man and no wonder you have taken yourself off here"

Go on, dig deeper!

Do any of your rich friends actually take you out in public with a mouth and an attitude like that? You must be one of those people who gets great pleasure out of putting people down. Does it really make you feel so much better than others when you put them down like that? Do you get joy out of that? You would probably step on someone who had fallen over in the street because it would make you look taller.

All I can say is WOW! What a person, no wonder you hide behind anonymity.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 13, 2007 1:04 PM

I am missing the regular bloggers.... Weta, Ninaschen, Malsie, Beachmouse..... even Lurker to keep the bastards/bitches honest.
Still in my thoughts guys...

Posted by: TrumansCat at September 13, 2007 12:18 PM

Cynical&Anonymous at September 12...

wow
I think you just took out the award for Most Vicious Personal Attack on the blog...
woodnwine- don't read it twice- you don't know her, she doesn't know you- you don't have to give it brainspace. I know you have made friends with many through these blogs- think about them instead.

GetReal at September 13...

I don't understand you associating w&w with thefotografer... the former is extremely tolerant of other peoples' views, whereas the latter I find dictatorial.

and

just to keep you in angst & ammunition.....
aaaagh ANOTHER stoopid useless signoff-

Yours sincerely
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 13, 2007 12:10 PM

If anyone is wondering about Cynical and (Not So) Anonymous (to those who know her)

Yes, she is highly successful on RSVP. She is probably one of the most successful members on this site.

Why is she so successful.

Because she approaches it with the right attitude.

She is usually prepared to meet people and to respond instead of the nonsense that others go on with.

But the traffic in her inbox is daunting.

As I have said, she should be running a good computer program and take her laptop on dates.

Posted by: White Women Speak With Forked Tongue at September 13, 2007 10:31 AM

Muriel

You are terrible.

Get off the poor bugger's case.

He's only into fine whining, not fine dining

Posted by: Toni Colette nee Soprano at September 13, 2007 10:12 AM

Well said 'Cynical and Anonymous' Sept 12....I also like the 'old fashioned ways' a man treats a woman but would like to add that they are not necessarily 'old fashioned ways' but rather respectful and attractive qualities............and please ladies........... understand we teach the male species HOW to treat us, we guide the behaviour we want to receive...c'mon we are beautiful authentic women who can be self assured and still feminine and enable men to comfortably relate to us...and not feel we may be in competition with them or want to control them.... secondly just liek to add in my opinion the choice of one word in your comments 'cynical and anonymous', unfortunately left me feeling disappointed......referring to a fellow rsvp member as a 'jerk' suggests that u are not as mature and together as you would like to project even if he is boring which may be obvious why stoop to slander?? mmm food for thought....Like other people here I would like to reiterate that there is never any need to use derogatory names..and in fact one who does this is simply bringing themselves down!! one negative word can and will negate all the positive words or descriptions of your profile. Trust me men are not stupid they will steer clear of any woman who puts people down, name calling etc because they know it is an indication of emotional immaturity...

Thanks rsvp this forum is a great addition to the site...I really enjoy occasionally reading some of the comments, and I find it interesting and fun being an rsvp member...warm wishes to all

Posted by: SavvyladyB at September 13, 2007 9:05 AM

@datelessnotdesperat at quote"
getReal Oh you lucky you! .....a challenge from the Sydney Sensations sensual" ...yadda yadda no idea what you are babbling on about. On a separate note, excellent posts from Woodnwine and the fotogafer. They tell it like it is, and they get the snarling femnist posse here to come out in retaliation with their man bashing antics again. Most amusing!
LOVE&PEACE and other stoopid useless signoffs.

Posted by: getReal at September 13, 2007 1:00 AM

WHY is it taking so long for blogs to be added?? Blogs are the best feature of RSVP site!
Some advice would be appreciated ... met several guys ... found the one that feels right and would like to know better. However, while I like to believe I am stable and secure in who and what I want ... find the whole internet fishing pond over welming. When and how do you get to the point of taking your profile down (and his)???

Posted by: ETC at September 12, 2007 10:41 PM

Rookie40something: Nope. All married, to wonderful women, raising tonnes of kids and apparently, all happy with thier lives. JP is still single. Has a "benefits" thing going on, with a very nice lady, whom I have met, which suits his life and his "baggage problem" quite well.

Took whatever it was you thought you said about me that was apparently not so nice, with a grain of salt. Thanks for your support! I was starting to think I was going psychotic. Went and got my head and my hormones checked. Apparently I'm fine. My prescription: take 2 weeks holiday; sleep in late; buy 6 trashy novels and sit on the beach; stop for Happy Hour and eat take-away; stay out of nasty bloggings!

Posted by: hc at September 12, 2007 9:51 PM

cook1 at September 11 ..yours is THE best blog I have read on here so far, because it actually refers to why we are here and is so fantastically positive.. well done and good luck!! :-)

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at September 12, 2007 7:22 PM

Curious place this. Haven't been here long and don't imagine I will be much longer.

For the first time, I had a look at the blokes in the same age group as I I've been searching, 53-64.

Found: 1 within 10 km of my postcode, no picture. 17 within 25 km, 1 with picture. 71 within 50 km, 20 with picture.

On the other hand, when I do a search for a female, using the same distance search criteria, the numbers are 40, 300+, and over 1000.

Yet, in the face of these odds, I've had 2 female contacts who initially sent me a kiss wanting to meet,
made contact, spoke to and both never phoned back when they had said they would.

Maybe it's 3 now, won't know 'til later.

In 3 weeks, I've met with 2 lovely ladies, had a pleasant coffee or drink and chat and decided that they were not right for me.

I have a dinner date planned with one other. Our talks together so far seem to hold some promise.

So what do I make of that? Many ladies here that really don't want to meet men?

I won't give up yet, but so far, 5 or 6 genuine ladies out of about 30. Or, the vast majority of members here are looking for someone that they will not find here, at least in my age group.

Cheers all.

Posted by: Robert Harkins at September 12, 2007 4:56 PM

Can I just add before SweetSue4You thinks I am treating her like HC thought I was treating her, and to be honest, Susan comes across as a sweetie.

But this has been a huge year for me on RSVP. I've never had it so good.

I am still wondering what it was that turned my fortunes around so drastically.

Up to this point of time I was scoring 1 coffee date a year, and they were sympathy votes. It was a struggle to make them last 10 minutes.

But what a massive year it's been.

I sympathise with my friend Worn Out In WA. Hopefully one day we might be able to compare notes in person. I am starting to feel like Worn Out in Downtown Shakey Town or was that Dodgy Town.

I need a rest from the frantic pace on this site. I might check myself into a Respite Centre for senior cowboys. I'll just check my seniors card to see if I can run it up on the tab, without engaging in the perils that await me in that rumbunctious nursing home around the corner from here.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 12, 2007 1:54 PM

Rookie40something'
Sorry I mistook you for Catchmeifyoucan but I thought your blog was a bit negative with regards to myself.

Malsie, tried to email you too, had my first meeting, no good, I'm afraid. Discovered I'm a lot fussier than I probably ought to be but she did look a lot older than she claimed which put me off from the start, not the age, the deception.

Woodnwine,
Did you say recently that you have sent out over 500 Kisses and emails in 7 months? Maybe I'm doing something wrong. I've only been here now for 7 weeks and I've only sent out 9 Kisses. I realise the large population variation between Brisbane and Sunshine Coast. Maybe I am too fussy although I have been wondering lately if I really want and or need a woman in my life at this point. That's one of the reasons I hid my profile (Malsie), I was still receiving Kisses, which I was rejecting, I think I must have looked desperate since I was logging on everyday to blog. My profile would have been showing up at the top of the list everyday.
So I may just sit and wait a while and see what comes along.

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 12, 2007 12:00 PM

datelessnotdesperat - Terry, I actually complained directly to RSVP about how long they take to update the blogs and they replied saying that it is the very long blogs that really slow things down. Hence I suggest you post several short ones rather than long ones covering every topic in one hit. Long, strung out blogs are also harder to read, in my opinion. Just a polite suggestion.
Michael

Posted by: ww at September 12, 2007 10:08 AM

Dear Sue4you

You are a sweetie.

Nice charities, etc Hey we all wear pink arm bands, shave our heads and do things like that too, and do a lot of constructive volunteer work.

But when it comes to women, being a nice guy doesn't work.

If you are a nice guy you get dumped fast.

I got out of training for a religious ministry because I could not stand the thought of monasticism unless I became a closet Jimmy Bakker.

WE didn't set the rules.

You lot did.

Now having constructively turned my self into a prize Asshole Tonight (and see my hit single of that name on CMTV), I have had the most successful year on RSVP I have ever had.

I have finally got one girl to use the Yes word.

Won't last. But One Small Step For Mankind....

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 12, 2007 7:43 AM

Why don't you all take a Bex and have a good lie down.

You'll feel better in the morning.

Worked for my grandmother.

(Warning to consumers: Brand substitution permitted, Panadol will do. Packets of 50 require medical scripts after consultation for peptic ulcers, venting your spleen, spewing your vitriol, overindulgence in too much fine whining (ie rotten drunk) and other bowel irritating complaints. And try not to pass it on)

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 12, 2007 7:18 AM

hc.....

(& rookie40something/datelessnotdesperat)

I absolutely & unconditioally apologise for any offence caused by my post of Sept 9. I'm horrified- I obviously expressed myself very badly- I certainly didn't mean to sound like I was attacking you personally.

I have NO IDEA of the circumstances/relationship/cause of conflict between yourself & EoW.. & have no desire to. I don't read the posts relating to it by either of you...

because I don't understand them...

I don't know the background, the foreground, or why it's going back & forth- just that it seemed a battle with nothing to do with the blog.

I enjoy reading your posts, hc- my comments were directed at the fight itself, & why it was such a constant presence on the blog. You have my sympathy in what is obviously a very unpleasant situation.

love&peace
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 12, 2007 1:47 AM

Hi Bloggers Do not know what's going on now!! with the start of the blog at the end of the blog and the Post a comment box at the bottom now instead of the top where the most recent comment now appears. Would have been great if the Post a comment box was at the top along with the latest comment. Blog hasn' been updated today so TTFN ZZZzzz Terry

Posted by: datelsssnot desperat at September 11, 2007 9:33 PM

Congratulations to rsvp for reversing the current blogs!

Posted by: Rookie40something at September 11, 2007 7:54 PM

I don't want to stick my nose into someone else's blogs, but they are a public forum, decoratress, as you yourself have mentioned where anyone can blog and mouth off.

Decoratress you had plenty to say in your "garbaging" squabble with fotographer. You found this acceptable. There have also been many others using aka's having their say amid all the squabbles and fiesty exchanges on these blogs. I've put in my thoughts also. That has been accepted as our right in a public forum.

What I dont understand, decoratress, is your outburst at hc on Sept 8. OK. She mouthed off at what she felt were earl's offensive postings, especially those aimed directly at her. I went back and re-read the posts. Hc herself apologised for hitting a soft spot, maybe from a poorly worded query, that seemd to spark his venomous wrath. He also continued aiming at her, several times with barbed taunts, and then calling her "pollution" and a "bad smell" etc and accusing her of forcing him off the blogs. Other bloggers have questioned his posts, repeatedly. I have also written a post stating my distate at his totally irrelevent drunken, vomit, fornication words and inability to understand what the hell he is going on about. His words to hc were full of venom and sent a shiver down my spine. Somewhat similar to reading some of the vitriolic blogs launched at you by fotographer.

If words such as this were posted in my direction, I would fight back too. You certainly did with fotographer. All hc did was resort to the same bogan cowboy drivel that earl uses. Maybe he understood. I even saw him address a nice post to her. Hc's brothers must have felt that the words were offensive too. They certainly said so. It is a public forum. They also stated who they were, which, I think is a little easier to understand and acknowledge, in preference to an anonymous aka. It may not have been entirely appropriate, but there has been alot on these blogs that have not been "appropriate". You were right. Words such as this should have been kept to a bar room. Earl's bar room. Not directed at a lady, or ladies in this blog site. Some of the guys have questioned earl's postings, too, so in all seriousness, the appropriateness and language and topics in his blogs may need to be challenged a little more seriously.

Decoratress, I would also like to point out that hc did make a very supportive comment to you, and deeree on Sept 7, against fotographer, words similar to "trashing nice people on this site". While she also gave him some advice to take his anger somewhere else. From my understanding of this, she was telling him in no uncertain terms to take his misbegotten anger and uncontrolled grief and search for lost perfection and fix it somewhere else, not on the ladies in this blog.

I have to agree with David. Maybe we were all just playing too nicely and being far too pleasant to each other. Some people just can't stand that.

Hiddencharms, despite the fact that some of my comments to and about you tonight have not been exactly pleasant, could you please tell me if one of your brothers is single? I would give an arm and a leg for a man who would jump to my defence as they did!

Posted by: Rookie40something at September 11, 2007 7:39 PM

Hello All,

I just spent some time reading the blog entries on this subject and I'm astonished on the lack of basic maturity displayed by so called adults.

Little wonder why so many are single still from here.

Although some of the comments are relievent in relation to dating over 40, I'd didnt realise what a slinging match it turned out to be.

I too have had my fair share of "incidents" from RSVP. One woman in particular knew me from a country town I once lived in and recieved a "unofficial" visit from the local constabulary inrelation to "unwanted advances". Fake occupations, fake photos and other fraudulent claims also reign supreme on a large amount of members pages.

However, I feel what is worse is the rudeness of some people (It appears many choose to comment in this blog subject) coupled with unrealistic expectations especially in the "over 40s".

I get told that at my age I shouldnt be fussy (I'm 47) and I know my profile isnt the most flattering but at least I'm honest in my approach and have display ethical behaviour. Sometimes my honestly is TOO direct and it does put people off.

Ladies, we blokes arent really interested in stories about the problems with your ex. We listen but its very off putting.

And Gentlemen, telling stories about our work has the same effect as the "ex files" although, our occupation might not be the most exciting at times to others. Some do judge on social status.

There are "serial daters" that lurk in this medium, both male and female. Thats a fact of cyber-life. Things maybe also one sided in here too (but I'm not going to enter or start another arguement on that last statement)

We are supposedly mature adults, so lets act like one.

Its hard enough to find someone half decent these days at our ages.

Our county"s values are based on the principle of giving a fair go.

It wont hurt to try it.

I'll await the barrage of comments.

Posted by: Stormtrooper at September 11, 2007 5:22 PM

female fiesty&40 Sept10 - nice blog and nice analogy with the ocean. Hope good Karma (or calmer) comes your way soon.

Posted by: ww at September 11, 2007 2:11 PM

Thank You rsvp for putting the most recent comment at the TOP........but we also need the "post a comment box "there too !!!.....aaaarrrrgggggghhhhhh.

Posted by: female fiesty&^40 at September 11, 2007 1:33 PM

the fotografer..I only read the update on this blog yesterday and saw your posts of September 4 and 6.
I'd posted on another blog a couple of weeks ago about the wish of widowers to fill the void in their lives and after reading your posts I can see where your need to send so many emails to so many women is coming from.
I can also see a major stumbling block for you in finding a new partner - the 29 year age gap between you and your second wife. That revelation would cause most women to recoil.
You've also come out with silly nonsense about hormones and have attacked sensible bloggers.
Well all I want to say is this:
Grief counselling. You should have it so you can see your way through this difficult time.
Be honest in your profile.
If you're really looking for a woman to marry and move in with you and share the care of your children, then say so.
I don't think that comes across in your profile.
In your situation the Russian/Asian bride idea might be one to investigate, rather than chasing after sophisticated city dwellers.
Also, you've mentioned that your wife left two small children behind but the youngest listed on your profile is 18.
Not sure what all this means but get some counselling.
I've had to deal with grief and loss issues myself in the past 18 months - lost my mother, then two aunts, and have two ill friends - one with only a matter of months to live.
Another friend's mother died the other day and the funeral is tomorrow. I guess it goes with the age group.
Counselling helps.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 11, 2007 11:41 AM

sue4you - I agree with your latest blog, too many bad words and too many difficult people on this site. That is why I am just trying to get people to face facts, get real, treat each other with respect and give each other a go then I am leaving. People can continue to fight amongst themselves, ignore each others kisses and emails, lie on their profiles and do what ever makes them ..... I was going to say happy but I somehow doubt that.

If I have offended anyone in being so direct over the last few days, I didn't mean to I just thought someone needed to issue a big wake up call so I tried. Should anyone want to have a last go at me I do intend reading the blogs for the next few days.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 11, 2007 11:18 AM

Seem to be a lot of chicken littles around here these days

Lee Van Cleef

Posted by: RodeoKill at September 11, 2007 11:08 AM

This is my first time and I would like to say that dating is fun.Meeting new people hearing their life story's and being able to explore new areas of life is great.The down side is that is is hard to blend families but not impossible so don't give up.

Posted by: cook1 at September 11, 2007 4:40 AM

decoratress 9 Sept Thank you for your views on the interpretation of "Partner" and "Relationship". Agree with you on the partner viewpoint but my view is that the "Relationship" you describe very aptly describes "friendship" in its various forms. So to me those that use the word "relationship" to simply encompass "We are having sex" do not necessarily even mean "we are friends" particularly when we hear of people wanting "A meaningful overnight relationship"!! Id' be interested in other bloggers views.

Companion Now SERIOUSLY I've just had a phone call from a very statuesque, slim, attractive lady (member) (no names no pack drill) who queries "I'm not much interested in sex at all. I only want a companion to go out with to dinner, shows, travel, sporting and social events and entertainment and share time together but I keep getting kisses and emails from men who want sex as well?" Seems a very common complaint on here?.

I suggested she not include the "seeking relationship with a male" at all and simply include " seeking a companion who likes.... and is not much interested in sex at all " in her profile.

I do not know if RSVP allows that but suggested, like a lot of things for her to just try it, and see what transpires. Another might be an optional ticking the boxes such as:
SEX: IS IT? (a) very important ( b) somewhat important (c ) important (d) somewhat unimportant or (d) most unimportant

SERIOUSLY again I know there are a lot of guys out there who also think similarly and many who are medically incapable of or not desirous of sex to whom such an option would save the embarasssment of having to reveal not being able to, or being unsure how they can, perform . What do others think? No! I'm not a doctor either!! SERIOUS Input please Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 11, 2007 12:08 AM

sue4you Thankyou for your generous expression of your father's perseverance and dedication to his chldren despite the personal treatment he endured and his graciousness for not belittling the person in whom he had made a bad choice. You've a great profile and smile and I'm sure your Dad is well and truly appreciative of the respect for a man "who gets on with it regardless

Germanik Great comments loved your profound "attitude of gratitude."

Shazza35 Great comment and photos Pity some of the men on here weren't more interested in looking and performing properly than just abusing lovelies.

decoratress agree with you re keeping the "rumble' between Earl and hc and her family private but it was Earl's garbage that dragged the family into it and hc's ex who knows the truth including the Racey Tracey slight. Hc and her family have spoken in response and I feel it should be dropped. You and myself and others have spoken of our offence and dismay and if Earl keeps it up he's one I'll not respond to again and not worthy of acknowledgment let alone recognition. I believe he is just lucky the "boys" don't give him the treatment he'd get in the real world. I won't be commenting on his disgusting blogs again either.

Flirting and teasing and having a bit of fun is fair but character assasination and personal conflicts should be ignored. I've re-read some of my blogs laying others garbage back on them and if the recipients are offended by that they shouldn't dish it out in the first place. To quote you "muchlove, much peace and much happiness" to all Thank you

OOPpss Crazy noises emanating from my computer Correction to my previous blog.. the 9th of September's blogs are now coming through ..amazing!! Perhaps there are more??.

couldyoubethe1 Thank you for responding and enlightening me on the "trap" of all the queer typogaphics (is that a word) and characters that come into the RSVP format when one cuts and pastes a Word document into the RSVP Blog. I've checked it out and it looks like you cannot add any enhancement such has " " inverted commas, ' apostrophes, brackets or the like () {} + and other characters to a Word document that is copied and pasted into the blog as RSVP's software seems to only regognise plain text and converts all enhancements to something other than the original character. It's a darn nuisance resulting in the scrambled result published on the blog leading to difficulty comprehending the actual message. Am going to try to send a post with text only and no characters, commas, brackets etc to confirm the incompatability and if so will bring it up with RSVP support as many of us like to draft submissions and then copy and paste. Think you are a pretty 'with it" and "cool chick"- love the jacket shot- and could definitely never ever be mistaken for an "old chook" Better be off before Mr Original Marshall Michael jails me for long blogs!! Cheers and thanks again Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 10, 2007 11:20 PM

Big wave to OO: You will probably find him having a blog whinge about the rudeness of females who don't pin themselves to the computer and don't jump quick-smart and answer emails as soon as they appear in the Inbox. Better off without him, sweetie!

Junebaby: Good luck with your "spark"!

Decoratress: I'm hoping you were just having a bad day on the 9th, and maybe just as frustrated by the unintelligent and nasty gibber going on as I was/have been. One of my posts on Friday night, addressed the rude character that you and another lady blogger have been engaged in word warfare with. You found his posts annoying or offensive and responded, as was your right. Some of the comments passed in your little war were fairly personal, too. Not all of us leapt into the little episode and had our say. Although, in fact, I thought: "Good for you girl, give 'em some of their sh-- back...!" I don't think that I have ever written anything that should be construed as personally insulting to you, keeping our correspondence light and friendly, and I would like to keep in that way. Please.

I can't be held responsible for what my family had to write. I was too busy crying my eyes out after attending a very emotional funeral and cruising through what seemed like a rapid fire of insults aimed at me from the other party concerned.

In the meantime, tomorrow afternoon, I am attending the funeral of the second accident victim. I really did not need to crusie into the blogs and find someone else taking a shot at me. Peace & love, Decoratress. Please.

Posted by: hc at September 10, 2007 11:18 PM

Thank you guys, for the good luck, but after a couple of dates, emails and phone calls, which were a heap of fun, it didn't work out. My fault. I want the spark to be for the mind, spiritual and also the physical. The physical didn.t work for me. Can you get it all, or is 2 out of 3 not bad?????

I am still going for all 3, I'm still a believer !!

I will still be in Brisvegas for 21st to 24th Sept for the project I will be on, so will get free time over the weekend for a bit of sightseeing and maybe catch up with some of the Brisvegas bloggers if you are interested in some kind of group blogger catch-up!!!! Not sure how to organise??? I will be in the middle of the city, Adelaide St. Anyway I am open to ideas.

Now, back to the blog, I am with decoratress and others, on this one, the blogs are a public forum where we can talk about our opinions, experiences, share a laugh, share a disaster, ask for advice as we are all in similar situations.

I think they should be fun. Not full of name calling , picking on and nastiness!!!

This is just my opinion.

And another thing, those bloggers that do so under false or no names, own up to your blogs!!!! It isn't fair to say something about another person and then be anonymous!!!!!!!

If you have a strong opinion, or want to have a go at someone, be honest! Lets face it, your profile name isn't your real name anyway, so add it to your blog!

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 10, 2007 11:06 PM

When you feel that you have reached the end and that you cannot go another step further,
when life seems to be drained of all purpose:
What a wonderful opportunity to start all over again,
to turn over a new page.

Eileen Caddy

Posted by: ww at September 10, 2007 10:28 PM

@germanik-well said!!!....ENOUGH OF THE FIGHTING ON HERE, TAKE IT OUTSIDE!!!....This blog DATING OVER 40S!!!..Not interested in the personal clash of egos and crap being slung back n forth, its the same people on every blog, talking the same rubbish....thats has nothing to do with the subject topic! In my opinion there should be no anonymous bloggers, if you dont have the courage of your own convictions, your opinion is worth nothing!!!...PUT UP OR SHUT UP!!! We can read comments, check profiles and learn about each other, something that may be useful for "dating over forties"... like...avoid em!!!...perhaps W.C FIELDS was right when he said.." women are like elephants,..nice to look at but I wouldnt want to own one!".....Just joking girls, I really do love ya's...IMANENIGMA

Posted by: imanenigma at September 10, 2007 10:27 PM

Who looks outside dreams;
who looks inside wakes.
C.G.Jung

Posted by: ww at September 10, 2007 10:22 PM

monkeylion & fiesty: Thanks. My "boys" are great, aren't they? If I could find myself a man only half as good....oh...sigh.... Truth is, they were dead drunk. We had been at a funeral that afternoon, and they had been "commiserating", hence the reason for them being here.

At the time I was howling in outrage at Earl, and they decided to hijack my computer, they had set up a "billiard table" on my kitchen bench, using the salt, pepper, sauce bottles, napkins and anything else that they could hit with the feather duster...

Then, after reading a particularly vulgar email I had received (in addition to Earl's blogs which even they found offensive and irrelevant to the desperate & dateless world), they sat me down in the wee small hours, lecturing me about the dangers and stupidity of this cyber dating, blind dating, and the very real possibility of meeting someone in person who could potentially turn violently insulting, aggressive and abusive, just like our Earl...I was told to pull my head out of my butt and get out in the real world, be productive and active in my interests, not self-destructive on sites like this (I'm not insulting anyone, just repeating what they told me), AND if they ever find out I've been on another RSVP date they are going to tell my Dad...who will only kick my butt even harder than they did...

Rocco: Thanks. I think. One can only put up with so much insulting gibberish and drunken, fornication stories before losing it...I agree with you. It's a bit like the language being directed at deeree and decoratress by our other "Mr Smoothies"...Lovely way to attract the ladies, guys...NOT...

Earl: Once again, very small words for you to try to read. Of course JP loves me! We are each other's best friends! We spent a good many years together, fighting a drunken, drug-induced psychotic, who picks up men in every slimy meat market in SEQ - then has the audacity to lay the blame on others...Add this to the perverted wife-basher I married, and....my fuse is very short when it comes to...various forms of perversion and sleaze....

Posted by: hc at September 10, 2007 9:56 PM

Well what a quiet weekend.. only 2 bloggers on!! Others must have had something better to do than put up with EarllWyoming and getReal's putrificational idiosyncracies and irreverence. Perhaps some were lucky to be actually dating?

hiddencharms Congratulations for giving Earl the criique you did as did your astute big brothers and ex. At least Earl must have had his glasses on for 5 secs recognizing your ex still loves you. Any man that troubled himself to get to know you civilly and properly and continued to cherish you would feel the same. Why wouldn't Pamela Anderson or any other sane and sensible woman ignore such ongoing ungentlemanly behaviour? Earl should look in the mirror and read his trash if he knows how to read - for the answer.

female fiesty&^40 Sorry to hear about your hormones. Am pleased you are supportive of hc and other good people. Even more so for your acceptance that some nasty behaviours are not worth space, time or recollection and the future is there to be made the best of.. Learning to ignore them and enjoying life without them is one of the highest compliments you can pay yourself.

woodnwine Michael Sorry if my blogs seem a bit long but I am pleased a few people have taken notice of a few matters included somewhere in the content about Dating over 40 which you started and
I've been trying to get back to.

I've laid some garbage back on those spreading it and thought they'd have the courage to come back at me or back off into civillity and a resurrection of manners and courtesy they seem incapable of . I am pleased rooco61 has and I appreciate it as I am sure many of us other bloggers do.
Instead of picking on men some other males (or pretend ones) or poor excuses for men have picked on some ladies on this site in the same abusive, cowardly, bullying and abusive manner that other men have subjected them to. Those, probably habitual abusers, have only themselves to blame for having the former abused standup for themselves which they have or are now learning to do. If this was the "real world" I wouldn't want to be in the same room as the authors of some of the "gutter' insulting drivel we've been subjected to lately. If you "bigboys" want to "have a go" then "comeon !!"

No wonder the women don't want to have anything to do with you in private nor even be seen with you in public after already seeing how you behave in public which this arena is and available world wide.

The Sheriff doesn't have to display an INTERNATIONAL NOT WANTED poster for you -- you have done it all by yourself.. hope you enjoy the reward you deserve.
The Sheriiff ..Ps Notice the time.. before midnight?? Gotta go before woodnwine gets up me. Cheers not sneers Terry xx

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 10, 2007 9:38 PM

Dear Hidden Charms ....you are truly fortunate to have such decent men in your life......Was going to go into a speel about what deceptive and nasty things my ex is doing but decided its all crapp and NOT worth wasting space here.Will now focus on doing whats best for myself and my kids .and Karma can do its job.... as I am too busy getting mylife in order.If I can be the best I can be then am sure 'majic' will happen where and when it's mean't to.We choose to be + or - and we reap the rewards ....maybe not initially but in character building etc etc. Anyway life is not a steady flow its like the tide and the ocean some days rough and others uncontrollabe.Oh and just to put a personal slant personally AM affected by hormones ...sorry just a fact some women are some are not we all wear it differently!!.....female fiesty and 40

Posted by: female fiesty&^40 at September 10, 2007 5:33 PM

Aliane at September 7...

You are a saint!

muchlove&muchpeace&much happiness
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 10, 2007 1:30 PM

Hi all, very new to these blogs I am! Its surprising to me what happened to the DATING OVER 40 blog,when I read the last comments???
You are only as old as you make yourself believe you are...thats all I have to say.
Well, perhaps TRY only for a while to live your life with an attitude of gratitude.

Posted by: Germanik at September 10, 2007 12:06 PM

HiddenCharms,

What a fantastic family and support network you have. Go You!

Posted by: MonkeyLion at September 10, 2007 6:49 AM

Honestly I would hate to meet some of the bloggers on these sites. Shouldn't these sites be used as an avenue for people to voice their opinions without getting crucified for them? Having different views are what makes us all unique and special. None of us are perfect. However, some people feel the need to attack people specifically with intense malice. I’m sorry but its not going to achieve anything except perhaps make people more bitter.

We are all in the same boat here, looking for that special someone, except of course those married men and women who are just playing a game with people’s emotions. Shouldn’t we try and be more supportive of each other on these blogs. I was lucky enough to be brought up by a magnificent man who although he was ripped off by his wife (my mother), left nearly bankrupt and left with 3 children to bring up my himself, and this was in the60’s, he never said a bad word against her. I wish I could be more like him.

So, please, a little bit more kindness on these sites. Is that too much to ask?

Posted by: sue4you at September 9, 2007 8:32 PM

hiddencharms, JPK, SGB & mightymick at September 7 & 8...AND
EarlOfWyoming...

Hey you guys- what IS this?
Half the blogs seem to be taken up with this personal vendetta- & now the whole FAMILY'S involved??
I feel transported via your feudin' blogs to middle America..... man, that's scary!!!

Earl & hc...
I'm sorry guys, but your posts are personal conflict between the two of you & their content & meaning are lost on the rest'v us... well, they are on me anyway.

Could you slag each other off somewhere more private? It doesn't make any sense to communicate here- it's a public blog & you're obviously engaged in a private squabble.

I was under the impression that the blogs were public forums addressing issues of public interest

No offence, but would you consider taking the clan war somewhere else? Like the pub? Or court? Or Jerry Springer?

Moderator- what IS this ongoing private fight doing on the blog?

LOVE&PEACE
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 9, 2007 7:53 PM

hiddencharms, JPK, SGB & mightymick at September 7 & 8...AND
EarlOfWyoming...

Hey you guys- what IS this?
Half the blogs seem to be taken up with this personal vendetta- & now the whole FAMILY'S involved??
I feel transported via your feudin' blogs to middle America..... man, that's scary!!!

Earl & hc...
I'm sorry guys, but your posts are personal conflict between the two of you & their content & meaning are lost on the rest'v us... well, they are on me anyway.

Could you slag each other off somewhere more private? It doesn't make any sense to communicate here- it's a public blog & you're obviously engaged in a private squabble.

I was under the impression that the blogs were public forums addressing issues of public interest

No offence, but would you consider taking the clan war somewhere else? Like the pub? Or court? Or Jerry Springer?

Moderator- what IS this ongoing private fight doing on the blog?

LOVE&PEACE
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 9, 2007 7:40 PM

Hidden Charms. You ex has rushed to your aid. What are you doing on this site? He loves you, you silly chook.

I'm here because I'm in love with Pamela Anderson, but she is ignoring me.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 9, 2007 7:18 PM

Where's all my Nursing Home jokes?

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 9, 2007 6:59 PM

Profiles are crap.

They hide psychos.

Any good salesman can sell a rotten used car if they detail it properly. And used car salesmen are down near the bottom of the well regarded professions.

To find out what a person is really like, they have to be allowed to/ lured out/ induced/ to express themselves.

The old saying is- feed them enough rope and see if they hang themselves.

Saves a lot of time and effort if all that is capable of turning up for a blind date is a cadaver.

Sharmaine

Posted by: Shazza35 at September 9, 2007 6:47 PM

hiidencharms, TC, ADI, OO, DQ, decoratress, junebaby 57Malsie and all you sweeties, pretties, sensations, best and rest and secret of the west but the lousy Bank of QLD wouldn't loan me the rest of the money to buy Hamilton Island cause they reckon I'm too risky being the Sheriff so we'll just have to setup somewhere a bit more downmarket.. no not "down in da valley" too many of Earl's progeny hang out there .. they all look the same too..I think that lad's been busier than he even thought..must be having a senior's memory moment and it was probably more like 1500 than 150 offspring from his efforts at the s... bank?

decoratress Agree wholeheartedly that blogs are public forums where anybody should be able to post. What I dislike is RSVP members not revealing themselves or changing identities if they are going to attack or ridicule an RSVP member.. not nice for the respectable members we all should be if we expect to meet anybody on this site.

Aliane Happy first Anniversary here's a big HUG! HUG! HUG! & KISS1 KISS! KISS Hope you have a great day today and lots of happier hunk days ahead.

decoratress Thank you for the gentle & compassionate way you responded to that strange humourless, sanctimonious member of the human race "the fotographer". As he lives on a one-way street it's likely he'll fall off the edgesooner or later .. love, peace and karma .. Terry .the ex-pretender
misogynist.. safer and saner now!! Uh!OH< this stupis machine has just gone into backup mode so TTFN before it trahes this too Cheers The Sheriff Terry

Posted by: datelessnot desperat at September 9, 2007 1:13 PM

datelessnotdesperat Aug 27

Howdy, re your comment about the "typing" of my blog entry on Aug 22, appears it probably happened due to my copying and pasting from a word document into here. None of the typo's appeared once copied, only a day later when checking if the blog was accepted, and I viewed it, and I myself was disappointed at it's appearance. So, maybe that is what others are doing. So no, I am no anonomous blogger, my name on here is my profile name. The profile I spoke about on Aug 22, (and have not mentioned his profile name as yet) well I'm actually having him investigated by RSVP Support... he is a "nasty piece of work"! And I just hope no other females believe his stories. Thankfully, this old chook was too suspicious to become his prey.

Posted by: couldyoubethe1 at September 9, 2007 10:08 AM

datelessnotdesperat at September 7...

Partner
Relationship

In my opinion a partner is (logically) part of a partnership. A partnership involves some form of contract/undertaking/agreement... a combining, if you will. Relating that to dating language, I regard people as 'partners' when they have reached the agreement that they are a couple.

A relationship, on the other hand, can be friendship or romance, it may be casual, serious, short-term, long-term, exclusive, non-exclusive... to me it's simply an ongoing interraction between two people & can take many forms.

I'm sure there will be many different slants put on these words by others- this is just my personal interpretation...

love&trickyterminology
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 9, 2007 2:03 AM

datelessnotdesperat at September 7...

Thank you for your generous & supportive comments- I'd not noticed them before, as your posts are so unbelievably long & so full of strange i?*//#? interruptions (what ARE they?) that I rarely work through & decipher them.

I'm delighted, however, that my values are clear to some.... & grinned at your terminology... so THAT's what happened- I got 'garbaged' by thefotografer! Well- he certainly has plenty of it to throw- I can't see him running out! Me- I find it just perfect.... I got to play with him 'til he threw a tanty & revealed his nastiness to all.

....that's the beauty'v the blogs, people... one never quite knows if one's head will be perceived to be up one's arse, or balanced levelly & gracefully on one's admirably straight shoulders...

I just love surprises!

love&peace
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 8, 2007 9:18 PM

woodnwine at September 7...

You're right- you received no answers to your question about the concept of 'average'...

OK... I picture average for women as being a size 14-16, whereas I picture average for men as being neither slim, gymboy-athletic nor obese- just somewhere in the middle (often the area of 'averageness' in men who drink regularly...)

As with everything, though, perceptions vary hugely (demonstrated by the simple fact that my clothes range from size6 to size14, when in fact I'm a size10).

Deceptive people will always downplay negatives & exaggerate plus's- it's the way'v the world.... I've found 'average' can be almost anything on rsvp!

love&lesslying
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 8, 2007 8:02 PM

I have to share a story that I heard at a function last night. I heard the words RSVP mentioned so had to eavesdrop.

This guy was bragging about his RSVP exploits. Apparently he is a long term user and frequently changes his profile name and photos: grows a moe and puts on a hat and sunnies etc. His last new profle went up a couple of months ago, claiming to be new to dating. He had 2 women all lined up, chatting, telephoning, meeting and following through to second and third dates with dinner etc. MSN chat with one, while on the phone with another. Lunch with one, dinner with another. Busy man. So proud of himself!

He also had a 3rd, just chatting, waiting in the wings just in case either of the first 2 didn't work out. Turns out that none of them worked out. They all just refused to be the ones to drop everything and come running to him, when he was available for them! He couldn't work out why.

Good for the ladies concerned! Just another reason to be more guarded about my own dating experiences.

Posted by: Rookie40something at September 8, 2007 7:02 PM

No David I was not directing my words at you. They were directed at some of the serial anonymous or mulitiple pseudonym bloggers who seem to flit from site to site, stirring and back stabbing and sniggering at their own mischief. It is a shame to see bloggers hiding profiles and leaving the dating scene because of this. Although, a little like woodnwine, I have hidden my profile, after seeing the kind of person that I seemed to be attracting, or is available. Don't give up woodnwine. There has to be other avenues for you to meet ladies in your age and interest areas.

No David. Not catmeifyoucan. Strange internet hours are because I have picked up some extra work for a catering company. Nice to see you and HC playing nicely and laughing with each other. Auntykaz too!

Earl, our Bogan Cowboy, if HC is pollution, what is the trash that you spout? I can't work the fascination in sex, grog and vomit. I've never been that drunk either. While you, repeatedly, lash out at her for her rudeness, how rude and vindictive are you? Likewise, if you have terminated your profile, why are you still hanging around like a bad smell with your rudeness? Must just love seeing your name in print!

It is good to see decoratress keeping our fotografer in his place. Another venomous creature, the fotografer, who seems able to dish it out, but not take it back.

Good luck to junebaby and your spark. Hope it lights a fire for you. You seem to be one of the few lucky ones at the moment.

Posted by: Rookie40something at September 8, 2007 6:12 PM

The point being that blogs are public forums where strangers can post comments &.......

mouth off, I guess?

Yes, I wholeheartedly agree, but it seems one must be perfect in all aspects.....blog under your rsvp monicker, not lie re age, weight, and whatever the other blogheads would decree.

Why can't people just give opinions about what tehy are feling and htinking as tehy blog without being attacked or put down by others????

It's a mystery of life to me. What it indicates is that they are so confident, read full of themselves, that they know they are right and you are oh sooooo wrong in your thought processes.

I personally write what I'm thinking at teh time and sometimes in the process of working out. I might think differently tomorrow, or the next day, or the one after that.
Will I change my mind if put down or ridiculed or ignored by other bloggers...NO.

Will I if given a polite alternative view...YES.

Is this a symptom of being over forty or fifty? If so it depresses me as to what is available online. Didn't people say it was better on the blogs than the profiles? What has happened?
Are people so set in their views that they are rigid and unbending?

I just think it' s a sad inditement(SP?) of older people in our society and kind of amusing to think that we were the baby boomers, women's libbers etc..Very sad to think we've become so establishment in our children's lifetimes.

Posted by: Wishingandhoping2 at September 8, 2007 12:54 PM

decoratress, God forbid that you ever stop "mouthing off", honey - you are loved (as you know), as are you Woodnwine (as you know), so don't go.
And wishingandhoping too - have you really gone?? Hope not.

junebaby57, glad to hear your lovely news - hope all goes well.
wwf3 (? - sorry can't remember it!) - hope things continue to go well.
TrumansCat - indeed, yes, may the force be with you too!
And David... tried to send you an email, but your profile is hidden too now (as is mine) - wow, is this spring or what??
Which reminds me of an extremely silly rhyme my mum used to tell us as we were growing up:

Spring is sprung, the grass is "riz"
I wonder where the "boirdies" is
Some say the boirds are on the wing
But that's "obsoird" -
The wings is on the boird.

Hard to get the right inflection of words there!! Anyway.... happy springing people.

Posted by: Malsie at September 8, 2007 10:48 AM

Could RSVP send out an annual bring up or reminder?

Like every spring (once upon a time wasn't it Spring is in the air or something or was that the wattles bringing on hay fever)

Like a email to say

"Dear Regular Member. It is spring. Love is supposed to be in the air. Isn't it time for your annual visit to our site." Bit like my GP altho her bringups are now every 3 months as they now having billing statistical returns shoved down their neck.

I expect to be here every year till I die anyway. Hopefully somewhere in the 90s (my Mum is still going and she wants to get on this site. She reckons it would beat the dodos at her Respite Centre).

The real question is what will I claim my age to be/ and or, get away with in my declining years. Do I have to take my walking stick/ mobility aid/ trike moped or triangle on dates. I think we've sorted out the colostomy bag issue. And if you don't believe the level of sexual activity that goes on in a Nursing Home speak to the middle aged staff of any Nursing Home who have to be counselled / retrained to accept the goings on in the cots as they all make the last do or die effort. It is the middle aged nursing staff with a barren personal life who are the most affected and cannot accept what goes on in Nursing Homes.

And guess what. When they are all doing the musical chairs/ musical beds routine, narry a word do you hear about "Do you want a longterm relationship or fries with that." Why. This is their LAST chance before they die. Do you think they want to carry on with crap about short term/long term relationships.

Now one of my contacts is 86. She let me have a look at her photos. I'd say she'd probably be or was a Nursing Sister at a local hospital. Unless of course those photos date from World War II and she fondly remembers my now deceased father who was repatriated from Papua New Guinea after catching a stray Japanese bullet in the right guitar, and was nursed back on the Hospital Train from Cairns back to Greenslopes.

So there are definitely people on this site who haven't given up in their later years.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 8, 2007 7:56 AM

I have a dilemma.

Received a lovely email and wanted to spend time trying to write a decent reply. As it is now just past midnight here, I made the effort two nights ago (too tired earlier in the week to give a worthwhile response) referring to his email at 6pm (and therefore profile current,) went to send my reply just after 7pm and 'poof' his profile (and most importantly his email) disappeared -so I can't send this reply of mine.

As he has continued blogging under his profile name (at least today/now yesterday,) I still would like to repay his time/effort/money spent and respond to his consideration -I like his wit and as it emerged over time, his experience in life and of course, being a female I really appreciated it when he made me laugh.

A very small part of my email reply-currently-back-to-nowhere (is there any way possible to resurrect a profile?) did include my need of a VK/reply saying:

"I know I'm out of your league but I would just like to say I admire your x/y/z."

Just another RSVP frustration?

Anyway, I had quite a few other nice things to say. And still do.

Signed by

Plumb worn out in downtown dodgy town.

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at September 8, 2007 2:15 AM

earlwyoming you seem to have a couple of bolts loose. You have taken on my(our) pride & joy, hiddencharms. The one and only female born to our generation and loved and revered by all. The go getter and the achiever. The "runt" of the family, being female, and coming in at just over 5 foot and only 50 something kilos....

What you fail to realise, Earl, is that she has taken on a whole genration of boys (16) and won. She can out talk, out run, out genious (her second degree now), out kick and out shoot all of us boys - she was totally dismall at having to hand in her Dad's custom built 22 auto back after Port Arthur.
The only thing that kept her and her child from harm from her pathetic SOB ex.

Earl, you can take on HC all you like. You are a pathetic piece of scum, coming from a 50 year old man with a family and business of my own. Just remember, there are 15 of us, male, over 6 foot and well over 100kg, with intelligence and business sense, and appreciation for the little gal who will get in and fight for a life, who will take you on, and I know who will win.

A "referee" - were you the one who had the bedazzlement hit out of him after a major carnival? Hope so!

A "bouncer". Must be something to aspire to, especially when you still claim to have drinks spiked and public fornicating going on, during your duty. More so when this echoes your own lifestyle. Hope you feel good about yourself?

Big Mick - Hellsbell's cousin in footie and parental fortitude and responsiblity. Where is yours, or is t just all drug induced ego and psychobabble?

Posted by: mightymick at September 8, 2007 1:37 AM

To: earlwyoming, come referee, come perverted fiend and profitable and shirkable baby doner, come drunken/stoned bouncer and questionable human being.

From: Hiddencharm's baby bother No1 and soccer player. Only made FIFA not regular weekly TV. But spent many years playing regular Bris soccer to get to where I got. Now that we got the shape of the ball straightened out, and your photo is up for all to see, well, HC and I both recognise the face, and quite frankly, you are not worth the time spent on the blogs.

You should have picked a weekend when HC did not have a houseful of family and all too ready to denounce you as top grade ref you claim to be, while defending her.

You may have made it to "top grade" suburban soccer games, but it did not make you a good "ref". Good refs are concerned with the game, not show-ponying themsleves. No wonder you never got to FIFA!

My sons are well on their way to a fantastic soccer experience. Although we are out country at present. My boys live for the day that "Aunty Hellsbells" will be out on the field or even teaching their classroom. They dote on the woman. They adore their one and only female cousin (Hellsbells is the first female in our genration out of 16 an she produced the one and only female progeny of this generation) and your perverted and callous remarks about female teenagers of this generation was extremely out of line.

Earl, I am a man of your age group/generation and I am ashamed to think that you represent the men availabe in the singles world.

Posted by: SGB at September 8, 2007 12:19 AM

earlwyoning person. Lets just call me RT's ex husband no 3 and HCs former partner and still best friend, which I consider an honour and privilege.

The one thing she cannot stand is stupidity. total stupidity, as in moron zone. I lost her to this. We both know it. what you may ot know is that she is not some some dumb bimbo with a chip on her shoulder. She has worked hard over the years wit her career and even taken on further uni studies to try to get ahead and beat the bank and the schmuck (my former best friend) that she married.

I've known HC since her teenage years. I know her footie code allegiances and I know her committment to the things she holds near and dear.

Earl, your original profile, photos and blogs have given you away. For all the years HC played and refereed juniors and cheered her brother on from the sidelines - right through to FIFA-you stand out as one of those refs who took umbrage from blowing his whistle and making his own rules, in the over-tight black shorts and only thigh-high socks (a sin for refs) and cheap boots with mix 'n match laces. Sorry. You are outed. Spent too many years on the soccer field, not to recognise your mug, once pointed out.

You were a lousy ref, and even worse when it came to the ladies' games. Only out for yourself and what you could get, not the game at hand.

Jean-Piere - Fairfield Rovers

Posted by: JPK at September 7, 2007 11:40 PM

woodnwine: Don't give up, Michael. You've been here since day one. Don't let the merry band of shit slingers put you off. Nearly did me. I pro'd and conned and pulled profile... Then, I realised, that just maybe, out there somewhere could be the perfect person!

In the words of James Blunt, currently annoying the living hell out of my neighbours:" There must be an angel with a smile on her face" looking right at you...somewhere...

Besides...Junebaby wants to organise a Bris Bloggers meeting....what would it be without you? Get onto Terry....

Hellsbells (work it out for yourselves)

Posted by: hc at September 7, 2007 10:41 PM

Earl/Wyatt/Kalamity/social deviate/Super Ref/SAS would-be/Youth behaviour vulgarity slammer/Bouncer extraordinare.....Does that give you a title worth living up to? Not quite SAS but, gee, it's long....

Don't know what you are doing wrong. I built a new profile and it is all up and running, under my name:hiddencharms. RSVP let me do it so it is obvious that no complaints have been lodged against my name! Yeeehah, cowboy! I can run and chase and lasso under my name with no recriminations....!!! So it can't be said anything in the blogs that has been so totally offensive that people wish to be rid of me, nor that I would be so ashamed of that I have to hide under another profile name....Ride 'em up; ride 'em low; ride 'em fast; ride 'em slow.....rawhide.....

Just don't bother looking or contacting, because if you do, I'll go straight to "compaints".....

By the way...RT's former husband, my ex, is standing right over my shoulder, laughing his guts out at everything I am slugging at you....seems that I did hit a soft spot...your favourite hangout is also RT's and the man I incredibly happily divorced some 13 years ago....and, you know, the face is now incredibly familiar....pretty sure you are the one that got shunned (or beaten off) off the field some years ago.....Nasty me. Hit soft spot. shame on me!

Can't stand the pace? You hit out hard and fast, claiming to be what you were not, and hit with your crude and disgusting and you will get gunned down, cowboy!

Earlwyoming...wasn't he the one that died a long, slow, miserable, destitute death, all alone, in a miserable one horse town, with only a black, aging servant to accommodate his needs, long after the days of his sharp shooting cowboy glory had died....I might be wrong. History is not a strong point.

Nasty me. Need to holster that nasty firing finger.....

Posted by: hc at September 7, 2007 10:26 PM

datelessnotdesperat - really mate, what is the point of your overly long blogs that just delay the updates for everyone else? What are you trying to achieve? Are you on RSVP actually looking to meet someone special or are you just stuffing around and filling in time? Make a choice but realise not everyone hang's out for the self appointed Sherrif's every word. Yawn.

EarlWyoming - same goes for you buddy, if I want a laugh I'll watch the Comedy channel. Are you seriously looking to date women on this site or are you just bored with life so thought some of the people on here would be an easy target for you to make fun of?. If you thought that then you were right. Ha ha.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 7, 2007 10:20 PM

decoratress, re-post Sep 7 5:12pm

Yes, this is a public forum for people of similar age and similar life experiences (re divorce, seperation and singledom) and it is open for any comments or mouthing off, that make it past the blog police.
I think if you make a comment that is construed by others to be rude, insulting or generalising, then you can expect a response that may be somewhat aggressive or insulting or perhaps just a more balanced opinion than your own, in return.

It is the unnecessary, personal attacks that I think we could do without, such as getReal's insult on DeeRee, which resulted in DeeRee saying she would not post again. So DeeRee goes, and we are stuck with getReal.
Another is Hiddencharms v. EarlWyoming. EarlWyoming posted a blog directed at Hiddencharms, in which he used the term "your Daughter" which in his defence, I think he meant as a generalisation for young women( I may be wrong here) but that's how I read it. Hiddencharms took the comment personally and then chose to exercise those hidden charms on Earl ( I still bear the scars from when she attacked me 4 weeks back due to my lack of "inflection", I'm still hoping she will kiss it better).
But in Hiddencharms defence, Earl was asked by Senee, Fiesty&^40 and myself if he was serious about some of his previous blogs which came across as insulting ie; men should date women 20 years younger, women over 40 are inherently unattractive to men ect. So for Earl, blogs of this sort without any acknowledgement as to whether or not he is joking, would therefore be construed, by some, as his true feelings which will then eventually draw the ire of a least one fellow blogger, which of couse they did (hc).

What I have noticed in these blogs, is that as soon as one argument stops, someone starts another. A bit like marriage. Some people aren't happy unless they're stirring shit and others aren't happy unless they can weigh into the fight and others who just like to watch someone else cop a flogging.
That's called schadenfreude;
Definition;
Homer Simpson is delighting in Ned Flander's misfortune at his new shop the Leftorium

Lisa Simpson; Dad that's called schadenfreude.
Homer; Schaden-who?
Lisa; Schadenfreude, it's a German word, it means to take pleasure from someone else's misfortune.
Homer; aawww, those Germans, they think of everything.

See I can quote Homer, I think that was from the Iliad or was it Odyssey...hmmm....maybe season 7

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 7, 2007 10:11 PM

Thefotografer: Did I get the spelling right? Must remember, professionals must get spelling right....

I have to admit, I read throught he blogs, and I take notes. Part of my job. Observe, note, analyse, evaluate....when I have something to say, well, I say it...get used to it...

We have all travelled on often harsh and winding roads and we all bear the hardships, bruises and scars caused by our past. Not all of them are by our own doing. Most of us have to admit to sharing at least 50%....

I can, possibly, only begin to imagine and share the pain of losing a loved one through a tragic accident. I'm sure that most of us on this site can. I'm sure that all of us on this site are genuinely sincere and feeling enough and sincere people who feel pain. We are not all inhuman and insensitive....(Excluding Mr Kalamity Jane/Earl Wyoming/Wyatt Earp/sister Therese or whoever else he thinks he is...)

Apologies. I have to get back on my sincere track....

My heart can go out to people who have lost their love ones through a genuine act of God...No-one on this site is sadistic or unfeeling enough not to concur (except above mentioned person)....

However, you do state that it has now been 2 years since your partner's passing....you seem to think it is time to move on and find someone new to fill your life, which is a positive move for you and your family.

Without soundig full of malice or contempt, (please don't attack) you seem to carry a huge burden, of maybe guilt or wishful thinking to regain what you lost, or anger at the world for what you lost.

If you are not yet ready to deal with this, then maybe dating, especially cyber dating and all of its foibles, is not for you at the present time....

I can understand that many of us use the blogs as an anonymous world in which to vent ...but mostly about the cyber dating world and the people we meet in it....and if you still carry such hurt, and such remorse for what you lost, and such anger at the world, why take it out on us poor bloggers....Remember, we have all been through the loss, hurt, shame, rebuilding life...and while we may not all be perfect we all have our own personal fights with the world to continue with...

I don't want to sound like a Heathen, but if you have a problem with life, and that which God has dealt you, go to one of these Christian Centres or therapy groups and either make peace or wage war....Or, as some Sister of Mercy Nun in Counselling told my ex-husband: "Stop beating up your ex...Beat a phone book with a lump of pipe until it is pulp..."

There are some really nice people on this site and you have trashed them. You call for the perfect woman. Is there such a one, or are you just clinging to your former hopes and dreams? (No malice or hurt intended)

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 7, 2007 9:18 PM

Earlwyoming: Please note that I am going to try to use very simple words and am typing v..e..r..y slowly, so you can read and try to comprehend what I am saying.

You added your "slant" on Racey Tracey...and all she may have to offer. I pointed out who/what she may be through previous blogs...I also pointed out how misleading it can be when you add your own little "tit-bits" to something and blow it out of all proportion!

I asked about your "top grade referee career" merely because my family are huge into footie, and my brothers are encouraging me to get my tail back into some of the sports and activities that I enjoyed so much before life sunk in and got in the way....You changed your profile and took the footie stuff off...I was merely cuirous, and very clearly said so - and asked not to be attacked for asking. It is obvious that you only skim the words you want to see and ignore the rest...!!! Like intelligence, curiosity, genuine questions about real life....

When I asked about your refereeing, you retaliated with some mind boggling waffle about people claiming to be SAS or Supermodels and how you were dealing with my daughter, drunk, spiked drinks and publicly fornicating....

I have no idea of where your mind works, or how you read my bogs, but I can't honeslty work out how my footie query led to an horrific outburst about other people's daughters and their behaviours etc.....What right do you have to speak so humiliatingly and grotesquely about (SOME OF) the youth of today, when you so openly flaunt the same behaviours, beliefs and practices on these blogs? Where on earth did this garbage spring from? And, who the hell wants to read it? I have to stand by my convictions that you must be a truly warped and twisted person, to speak so inscupulously about the behaviours of others....when you, yourself, admit to the same, if not worse...

I have to agree with whoever it was that bloggged, somewhere along the lines of...if you were a decent bouncer and doing your job properly, then situations involving youths (re your distateful blog about vomit, drugs and fornicating) would not occur.

As for forcing you to terminate your RSVP profile and have to change your name...BS to you!!! It just means another new Bris-based male site to ignore...Yeeeha, cowboy! I just hope that RSVP don't let you back on, because it is people like you who give the whole program a really bad name, and set us bloggers off into self-doubt and sarcasm....I don't recall bendig your ankle back behind your ears and pulling your chain until you withdrew your profile...might have been fun....

Listen 'ere, Mr Cowboy: You're the one who has openly admitted on this, and other RSVP blog sites to being blocked and shunted....It may be due to your vulgar and sex-oriented attitude to the world, women and whatever....No-one wants to put up with your perversion and "something induced" waffle....

I did offer apologies if I hit one of your soft spots re refereeing....You threw it back like a slime ball....You just want to shout your claim to fame with the boys in blue and the magistrates....so does that put you in the same rank as the serial SAS squad? Do you feel you now have a superior rank?

I terminated my account because I was sick to death of having BS, over 65 and "far too on myself" and psychos cruise through my profile....You know, the ones like you...
However, thank you for damning me off the site....guys like you are a dime a dozen. Friends I have made through this site are irreplacable....

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 7, 2007 8:18 PM

terry ....toilket brush ....funny.but I would really like to say ....congratulations on you and associates ...ex,ex-mother of girlfriend etc.....for being able to behave in such a human,mature and friendly manner.....what is wrong with most people..........And terry your defintion of "relationships "has definately changed ...I understand it perfectly.....NOT.
Defintion.
.Companionship....friendship,togetherness,intimacy,rapportetc

Realationship[......romance,love affair,amour,partnership.

I personally feel that as opposed to things that we may spend money on therefore then feel it is worth researching the item so as not to purchase either the incorrect or wrong item ...we do not spennd the time really questioning ourselves about what is essential and valuable to us or even the reasons why we want a relationship......Ifeel if we do considers these things then maybe there would be fewer casualties and heartbroken people as a esult.We really as adults should be taking the resonsibility as well as the "fun" as we all know how quickly that can change .......But first of all be aware of who u are .as a male /female ,what values u hold and what foibles or behaviours that have reached their "use by date".......Someone recently said to me "why change yourself for anyone ".....and in some respects i agree but we all have behaviours that do not serve us or anyone else ..........so if we desire a different life ,partner outcome then we must do something "different"......and in the words of another wise man "do u want to be HAPPY or do u want to be RIGHT!!!".......Look not on someone else but the reflection in the damm mirror.......Female Fiesty &^40

Posted by: fiesty female &^40 at September 7, 2007 8:03 PM

Thefotografer....I read your attacked to decoratress....I suffered from ghost bump what I read....watch out your mouth your attacking below the belt...I have never encountered any men from blogland as you said......I believed a person, whatever comes from the mouth deep - came from the heart..
Can you figured-out how many people reading this blogs ...its thousands and thousands, excluding overseas....therefore...your careless behaviour dashed and stained with your own nasty attribute to the blogs......
I read all your post, it shows bitterness, lack of confident and hatred to all women...Please let it go what ever previous hurtled you, we are all different people in this blogland not one is alike .. Not one made mistake can blame others fault,... think what I've said that make sense and change for good be wise and calm. The more hurting people of your comments more tarnished of your personality. I felt sorry for your bitterness...Please let it go....I am very sorry what ever I can help, I am willing to helped.....Forgiveness it makes better person within forever....
I cared about you...I'm very sorry about you darkness wandering. I am here to help not to condemn. Peace be within you....
Aliane..

Posted by: Aliane at September 7, 2007 8:02 PM

Decoratress l think he is just venting his spleen, which we are all entitled to do l know, but abuse is totally uncalled for in this or any forum where supposed adults of some - dare l say - intelligence choose to communicate.

I say its just BAD form, a low thing to do and, put plain and simple, wrong.

But then l've probably got my head up my arse as well being a woman and all.............

Just in anticipation of a nasty blog directed at me by "fotografer" thats all so l thought l would get in first.Happy day......k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 7, 2007 7:54 PM

Woodnwine

You have removed your profile?

Bet you'll be back.

It's addictive mate.

The rules are that you can't come back as the same person, once you terminate - and, of course, you have to terminate in a big huff, storm out the door, slam it with as much noise as possible, yell at the cat/ neighbour/ postie/ dog on the way out.

(By definition you can't yell at the spouse as you storm out- its a singles site)

OMG, what have I got left in my persona arsenal?

How many times have I reinvented myself as it is.

Mate.

I anticipate that I will be on here, preferably annually to space it out a bit, more till I'm 90 or beyond, or till death do us part, whichever first occurs.

Locked in some Nursing Home, let out for 1 hour a day to roam the streets, I will still be trying to claim to be 30-40 years younger, seeking to seduce anything not tied down, etc. Leave your tripod/ moped at the bedroom door.

And besides, don't laugh. There are more squeaky mattresses in some Nursing Homes then there are in the Night of the Living Dead in Suburbia, as everyone literally throws themselves into it in one last gasping effort to catch up on abstentious middle years.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 7, 2007 7:13 PM

Woodnwine if lived in the Melbourne area l would have sent you a kiss, an email, whatever.

Have been reading your blogs on various topics for some months and have also communicated with you via same.

We are not all bad, we girls, you know, just like not all men are lacking in the manners department.

Sorry that your experience has not been what you hoped,and l do hope that you will at times enlighten us with your calm tones.

Sincerely ..Happy Day.....k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 7, 2007 7:04 PM

To My Blogfriends...

Subject: thefotografer at September 6
Debate: validity

I'm throwin this one open for comment, people- seriously- I'm genuinely interested to know public opinion here, because....... is it just me, or is he missing the point?

The point being that blogs are public forums where strangers can post comments &.......

mouth off, I guess?

love&impersonally yours
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 7, 2007 5:12 PM

.....I'm Crying Over my 1st yr. Anniversary at RSVP!!!.. :((

Posted by: Aliane at September 7, 2007 4:43 PM

thefotografer at September 6...

If you look back, you'll see that mine was not the only negative (maybe even outraged?) comment on your post- frozie1 & antiekaz (both at Sept6) seemed to agree with me. I bet the chips on THEIR shoulders are potato too... (Hi you guys- stop throwin your food!)

You so prettily said-

"when you're ready to pull your head out of your arse you might consider not mouthing off so much"...

You know what? ...it was gettin to be a real struggle mouthing off- but once I realised my head was up my arse I promptly pulled it out, and...
VOILA...suddenly it seems SO much easier!!
Thank you for pointing it out to me! No, really- thanks!

Just call me appreciative-

-as opposed to "surly ill-mannered bitch"...he he, I liked that one, I felt surprisingly good about you disliking me)

love&courtesty
the surly ill-mannered bitch.... YAY!

Posted by: decoratress at September 7, 2007 4:16 PM

Having just trolled through this b.l.o.g.
There have been great contributions aside from the l.o.g. Cheers to those that add to the discussion of 40+ dating, at some points I swear my television has been blasting out Jerry Springer. It is an emotive topic I agree, esp for those of us challenged by the prospect of being back in the "meat" market. I had hoped the wisdom gained from moving past the schoolyard / backfence/ watercooler
bitching was enough to entice me out into the fore of availability in singledom. Some of the bantering here between posters so closely resembles the communique of my adult children.
I have no problem with that persay, I am merely preplexed and wonder do we ever really move on from emotional reactive to emotional objective. Earl, I think comes close to the mark, although I think his own emotives are well protected. That to me is my challenge for Dating in my 40's. I am well prepared and embrace all the challenges of my life, allowing for the exposure of shelf life in the VS of preferred partnering has me grasping for the beginners manual.

Posted by: pipsta at September 7, 2007 3:36 PM

YOU MAY HATE WHAT I DO'

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 6, 2007 7:17 PM

I understand exactly what you mean and know how hard that job is. I did the same thing for over 15yrs and just recently (within 5yrs) gave it up . People have no conception of that type of industry, nor the type of person that works in it. Sure there are some cowboys, but thankfully they are reducing as fast as the hairs on my head LOl

{ ELOQUENCE; SAYING THE PROPER THING AND STOPPING }

Posted by: TwoEyes at September 7, 2007 1:21 PM

thefotografer at September 6...

Gotcha!
OH YOU ARE GOLDEN!
(thanks, I finally get your sense'v humour!)

Sadly, you don't get anything I'M saying. Re-read my post. I quote:

"There- I can pretend to be a bully & try telling you what to do/think/feel... does it feel good? Do you feel supported & understood? I don't imagine so."

The word is PRETEND (as opposed to MUST...?)
Does this make it a little clearer? I hope so.

And be intelligent will you... you throw in a previously unmentioned tragedy to make me feel... what .... guilty? For remarking on a 29yr age gap? THIS IS A BlOG. IT'S A PUBLIC FORUM. I DON'T KNOW YOU. No, I don't remember it. Yes, I'm sincerely sorry that you've had such a tragic experience. I've compassion for every living thing.

I simply think that you don't.

(by the way- that chip on my shoulder was potato- just call me a messy eater...)

whatever&whatever
decoratress

PS
- auntykaz Sept 6.. big grin!
- rocco.. u rocko too!

Posted by: decoratress at September 7, 2007 1:16 PM

It has happened, I met someone I sparkeed with!!!!! So my profile is now hidden.

I will continue blogging, as it is a fun way to communicate with people in the same situations as myself, so happy blogging to you all.

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 7, 2007 12:23 PM

Decoratress, thank you for your kind reply to my message of support.

Re your posting at September 6, 2007 2:44 AM Decoratress, do you really think it will stop? Some of them don't even understand simple words such as "no" let alone compassion, understanding and maturity -no matter what age they are.

As for you, thefotografer at September 6, 2007 7:23 PM, your true personality shines out when you swear at a woman in public.

Signed by
Someone who lost a spouse at 30years and was left with three young children.

Posted by: at September 7, 2007 10:48 AM

Rocco61 - thanks for asking but no, I am not dating. I tried really hard on this site but have decided to just give up because many of the women on here are too hard to please. I am thinking of replacing my profile with a really stupid one and just becoming a comedian because they apparently are more popular.

Also I have been doing battle with two neanderthal women (or maybe one using two false names) over on the Online Dating Etiquitte blog and they were the last straw so I pulled my profile and threw in the towel.

Most people don't like positive thoughts and compliments they just come here to see something saucy, funny and abusive. So I am going out on the weekend to buy a book of insults and might come back later with a quick wit and a sharp tongue.

The big decision is should I become anonymous (more mysterious apparently) or should I have a profile and a real name? Decisions, decisions.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 7, 2007 9:53 AM

datelessnotdesperat - you are right, I put it out there for women to suggest what average should mean so we could all understand and NOT ONE reply. I wonder why. Apparently average means anything from size 10 to size 18? Who are you trying to fool ladies? No one but yourselves, get real or miss out!

Now back to me because at the moment it is all about me. Don't worry, I am not angry - I rarely do angry - I am just frustrated and disappointed by the lousy attitude of most women on RSVP and want to make it quite clear to them that unless they wake up to themselves their profiles will still be here if I decide to come back next year, or the year after, or the year after. Funny how the same profiles are there month after month after month but if you send them a kiss they reply that "sorry, they have just responded to someone else". Ladies why don't you at least show a bit of initiative and take your profile down every now and then so it at least looks like you have met someone even if you haven't? Do I see light bulbs going on over your heads? Duh!

Women, you class men as superficial and shallow and even kid yourselves by saying that you don't need photos on your profiles because men should look at the inner you. What utter rubbish! You are far worse and shallower than the men! As I posted last night, I kissed over 500 women, just in Brisbane, and at least 500 of them rejected me. Am I some kind of freak? Personally I don't think so, nor do my friends. I had clear photos on my profile, no tattoos, no beard, no bald head or comb over, no beer gut, no requests for fringe benefits or whatever. I was normal and had many interests. I was looking for a woman within a 10 year age spread, slim, athletic or average, no hair colour preferences, open to women with children, not particular about their occupation, religion, political persuasion etc etc - so why 500 rejections? Was it because I listen to JJJ rather than top 40 maybe? Well guess what ladies, those 30 year olds you are chasing aint going to be listening to Pavarotti (RIP), Michael Bubble or Kylie Minogue.

So I say to you women in your 40s, stop rejecting everyone and hoping George Clooney or that career misogynst Robbie Williams is going to come knocking and give ordinary men a go and you might just find you are no longer alone every Friday night.

Yes there are some deplorable men out there that make me embarrased to be male but for the most part I think most men are probably genuine so give them a go and you might just meet someone nice like wwff8 did - go girl!! Some men, like me, are bit rusty on dating but we deserve a chance. Anyway, that's it for now so wakey wakey women - you only reap what you sow. Have a good weekend everyone and I might see some of you in the street sometime, I'll be the one walking by myself.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 7, 2007 8:35 AM

getReal Oh you lucky you! A challenge from the Sydney Sensations sensual and selective AussieGirl05 I�ve been bet that you can�t even get a reply to an email to her and couldn�t handle a real looker anyway?? Results are what counts .. are you going to put your money up or are you all mouth??

Getting back to dating over 40 for a change.
decoratress you truly are a really top quality lady and have good wholesome values as well as looks and perhaps you can assist. B� marvellous that you are so much different than 90% of the little box tickers. I�m probably as confused as most at two �modern words� and I think gracieOO (seems that Cairns is pretty well much the same as Brisbane with boring blaring pick-up bars) has touched on the same concern. Those words are �partner� and �relationship�

Here at the Sheriff�s Office the CIB, the FBI, CSI and Interpol have come to the unanimous agreement that in modernity �partner� now generally means someone, of either sex, you are having sex with. �Partners� of course means any persons of the same or any sex who are having sex with the same person.

�Relationship� means any sexual association of any person of any sex with any number of persons of the same or other sex within which the aforementioned persons of any sex are having sex with the other aforementioned persons of the association of persons. �Relationships� of course has the same interpretation as partners. So do you see it is all very simple and there should be no real reason why anybody should be confused OK?

Alwaysthinking 3 Sept Agree with much of what you say BUT there are girls too who wan�t sex �now� and if it�s not now it�s �see you later.� That seems acceptable for girls but not guys?? Yes accepting responsibility for ones mistake/s and trying to not make the same mistake again is certainly a step in the right direction.

PurrFectMatch 1 Sept 11.07pm It �sometimes happens that we (men) decide to date a woman who may not appear as physically attractive as we�d hoped but we are still drawn to for who they are�. When we men get unceremoniously dumped because we didn�t �hit on� them on the first or more insultingly to them the second date we are very glad we didn�t risk getting involved. Good for the ego getting dumped for not doing anything.

Which leads to the next two rippers �I don�t do it on the first date� which is generally interpreted my most �awake� males as � I fancy doing it but take me out again so I�m not branded a tart/tramp� and similarly �I�m not into one night stands�.. does that mean �we�ll have to do it more than once, even if we don�t enjoy it, just so I�m not seen as a tart/tramp�. Took a stunningly attractive lady out recently . Did the coffee and got the �don�t do it on the first date� bit. Took her the piccies and then home for another coffee. She suddenly excused herself and came back out wearing her perfume. When I said �thanks for the coffee and I hope I�m greeted like that on the next date� I got her coffee and by the time I drove home I had some of the most foul nasty messages choking up my answering machine and �don�t dare f�.n call me again.. @##!!((&^+~~!!** The point again? Sometimes you get exactly what you say you don�t want so honesty is the safest policy.

The question then is if it was the guy that said either or both of these things what would the woman think and more importantly reply?

getReal to htc 1 Sept Were you referring to yourself �crawling with fatties� and is that why you are to chicken to reveal yourself?

Sharonevr Didn�t realise this abseiling thingee was going upwards !! Thought it was diving headfirst or jumping backside first overboard and hoping not to hit the ground too hard. Was thinking of going but thought �Paying to do this !!??� Besides thought getReal, Earl, thefotographer and other anons might have been there to cut the ropes or give an added push. The RSVP do�s (c/w earplugs and lip reading) at the nearby Story Bridge Hotel are a little safer as you can only fall - be pushed over the balcony to the footpath one floor below. Seriously they are allright if you like the noise and yelling but parking !! and RBT!!

Fiestyfemmale&^40 Uh Oh ! Just checked out the Russian profile looker on .. MMmm not a bad looking looker either� �ahtamar� is 55, 5�5� and writes one of her interests �and keeping man well fed ��. Do you think it�d be organ ic too? Can�t recall one local Australian profile offering such exotic spoiling!! Strewth!! now the Phillipines �belle1953� 54 looks on and says � I may not be a sweet talker but can be a good listener and good company. Start with �hello� and take it from there�.Whew!!
The world really is a very small place but looking for love and companionship (another rare word) is universal regardless of race, looks and language. Sometimes silence and really looking at and listening to somebody leaves no need for words..

Don�t worry hc, TC the sweeties, pretties, central & southern Belles, the Sydney sensations, the Best XX))OO((XX and the Rest and the XX))dq((XX secret of the West and all the other photo and email senders, my passports current, but I�m not leaving the country.. yet.. and if they want me they�ll have to come here first OK?

Is there a point ? Some people say �think and look outside the square�. Well it�s amazing what happens & what a difference it makes when people look outside this country and come across different attitudes?? Think about it and appreciate all the good things we take for granted in Australia but don�t really value as we should.
I�ve secured the night and bouncer Earl can take over the mosh pits and other pits for the day., Good morning TGIF and tonight�s the weekend. .

PS In the next few weeks I will be trying to get RSVP to try to organise a function such as some suggested by hiddencharms and others where we can meet and actually have a conversation such as a dinner dance Some might be just old enough to remember that was when they played soft intimate touch touchy music and people even put their arms around each other and did those huggie and kissy things�. or progressive dinners or a boat trip .. no fellas there�s plenty of those white pointers on Rocco�s Sunshine Coast and my Gold Coast beaches�we don�t want the boat to run aground.. Gilligan�s island with hc, TC,htc, d�tress, OO !! �. Mightn�t be such a bad idea after all !! TTFN Terry

PPS XXX)) kissie OO kissie ((XXX for that tip about cutting and pasting - works sooo sucessfully and really appreciated. Thank you ..sending the sun over to wake you as havesaid Good morning to TC J-in- SA XXX 2U2

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 7, 2007 6:50 AM

So Hidden Charms.

You terminated your profile.

Why are you hanging around like a bad smell for polluting the environment.

I terminated my profile because of your unsolicited rudeness. And, of course, I cannot now get back on under the same name and use up my remaining stamp.

See I am really a sensitive new age bugger.

I have to adopt a tough exterior because of what I see and do for a living.

But underneath I am just a plain old softie with a very straight laced background, and extremely conservative political and social views.

I terminated a profile several years ago because I could not tolerate an extremely rude response by a certain 43 yo, who hasn't made one of her customary 6 monthly appearances on this site for months.

I had made the mistake of feeling some sort of sympathy for her because she seemed so lonely. Her profile sounded weird, chaotic, disjointed and out of synch. I thought it was just a novel approach. Turned out she was in real life a full blown psycho. Remember current health policy allows everyone to walk the streets these days, and to get on rsvp, which might well be a magnet for them.

Anyway, I can tolerate my Pamela Anderson lookalike, my erratic blond friend in her many guises. She justs wants to fool around. But I cannot tolerate extreme rudeness.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 7, 2007 6:32 AM

OMG There are some nasty pieces of work on this site. Where do some of you so called ladies get off. Do you get your kicks out of abuse in open internet forums. So what do you do behind closed doors. Kick the dog to death as well

Sharmaine

Posted by: Shazza35 at September 7, 2007 6:15 AM

thefotografer I thought auntykaz was being kind to you when she called you a General as in generalising about women. I�ve read your blog and sympathise with your and your family�s grief BUT after the way you garbaged at decoratress I�d call you a General nuisance if I was as polite a auntykaz. I�m not so I think you behaved like a General Grub and ought to unreservedly apologize to her and all.

I don�t know why you think your situation is particularly unusual. I delighted in sharing a wonderful experience with an amazing woman 26 years younger than myself when she blatantly at 19 �I picked you up because you are divorced, sensible, available and affluent and let me worry about the age difference�.
We had an amazing spontaneous and intimate romance until I had to say goodbye and good luck when she went to the opportunity of a lifetime modelling job in Melbourne. Yes we did get on well while I related to her at her age level and life experiences but she was completely lost when I told her about rationing �after the War�.. what war? or �before TV and mobile phones. The reason we hit it off so well was we were honest with each other, communicated our wants, dreams and desires and made a pact that we would stay together as long as it suited us both and if one wanted out there would be no recriminations or nastiness.

When that time came it was me that gave her freedom as her lifestyle changed and we were both going in diverging directions. It had nothing to do with age. It was all about being ourselves and doing what we needed to.

The highest privilege I have ever been given by a woman was when that young woman�s mother ( younger than me) shook my hand , hugged me, kissed me on the cheek and with tears in her eyes thanked me �for being the man you are when my daughter needed a real friend and faithful lover�. Even greater was the pride I felt when that daughter�s (first and still only) husband first met me 12 years later and invited �my wife�s first sweetheart� to their 10th Anniversary dinner with their 4 children. That friendship will never end simply because we communicated honestly and respected each others right to move on when their heart yearned to be elsewhere, The point .. there are too many people who don�t even know who they are or what they want let alone how to be happy and content let alone help someone else to be happy and content. Think about it Value the things precious to you and to be loved become worthy of it. Be nice, smile and the world smiles with you. Terry.

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 7, 2007 4:07 AM

Fiestyfemale&^40 Ar HAH! Nearly got you.. you�ve found the need for Velcro too! Which side? How do you get it off your birthday suit! Glad to see you do your grinding too .. and naturally organ ic�tastier?. OOooaaAAAh!! Attentive � getting under your skin�offers� here or there? Have to be fair.. hc and tc have already sent me personal photos in the Darling Daring Deputy qualifying round so I�ve been waiting to receive your contribution. Or perhaps you�d like to join htc, me and the other three at the next naked ecstatic howling at the moon dance and horizontal gymnastics practice session? Definitely only birthday suit dress.

Query to all bloggers Got an unsolicited email from �Top Meds� offering Viagra for $2 and Valium for $2. Got me curious?? Guess it�s so you don�t have to worry so much about what comes up?? Or perhaps goes down and the woman feels scorned ? Who takes the valium?

Uh OH ! just had a look at who�s looking in on the profile and it looks like Miss Russia is competing against ex Mrs Phillipines. Oops! the phone .. OK hiddencharms you got in first I�ll be your escort on 21 September when junebaby57 ( I�ll email her) is in town again and we�ll see if we can organise the rest of the Sweeeties, Pretties and Southern and Central Belles as well as long as you promise not to give rocco and Earl a copy of �the photo� too!! OK?... Perhaps we�ll invite them along too and you girls can capitalise on all that scratching and eye gouging you�ve been practising? Sorry David �forgot you were forgiven so perhaps Earl can enjoy it all� if he can get his hands on something else?? Heck hope TC doesn�t get jealous and cheezed off and tear up here again like when she went to BB and Cairns but then I think someone in Adelaide is breathing heavily after her� to be so lucky GrrRR!

auntykaz re your query about rugby union .It�s pretty well much like that Rugby League game where they all run around crazy like and then somebody ends up on the ground and then they all fight like hell to hug each other either on the ground or in this big huddle. Don�t know what they do while all this hugging and other things are going on but someone must say something rude sometimes because every now and then there�s a bit of a punch up. Aussie rules seems to be different cause most of the time the guys are jumping up in the air and trying to climb on everybody�s shoulders and thay don�t fall on the ground hugging so much. Hope that helps? My probationary Darling Deputies dobbed you in for chatting rocco up and telling him you�d be in the Peninsular Apartments across from Moolloolaba Beach and poor hiddencharms has been abandoned in the sandbox. She�s absolutely devastated that he�s bought a brand new ride-on motor mower and 10,000 litres of petrol so he can patrol the beach until you get there .. no loyalty .. but improving his manners Uh Oh! Phone again � Secret Sheriff business Back soon TTFN Terry Take care Be Bare

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 7, 2007 2:58 AM

Lol I am a bit late I responding to this one....
Look at what mum & dad were doing....? The tell tale cupboard against the door in the middle of the afternoon... "Mum! Dad! what are you doing?! I can't get in!..." (rattle rattle)
Amongst other things mum & dad were ahead of the pack I suspect.
If only I could have a dynamic, honest & love filled relationship like theirs I would be lucky... it's a tall order but I believe in the possibility.
That's why I am here on RSVP but perhaps for not very much longer.... ;~)

Posted by: TrumansCat at September 7, 2007 2:24 AM

Earl Wyoming Sorry you had such a bad day when you started abusing the sweeties and the pretties. and the Darling Deputies XXX You might be security but I am da Sheriff da man and I've got the biggie ...kisses in the right place are better than where you obviously lay them from what you end up in your mouth. Who cares if KRUDD went to a strip joint and probably put $5 in each 18 year olds knickers so she'd allow him to kiss or smell her!! The simple fact any male that's too drunk to "remember" that,
or the other things (like you see on trash TV after midnight, has to be a hundred bricks short of a wall to think anyboody'd be stupid enough to believe him and like the drivel on here some times it's not what people do but denying it when they are sprung just proves they are gutless, arrogant and shouldn't be allowed in control of the toilet brush.
Well if all the kids are so out of control it menas the bouncers and security guards simply aren't doing what they are paid for so if the got there A into G instead of up it the kids would be a lot safer and respectful of it. Security !! The Logan City Council had to take the water fountains away because the security guards couldn't even protect it from 8 year olds trashing them in front of them !! Get on with the job and stop bitching about your failings and being unable to hear the bed springs squeaking.. most of us have real mattresses these days which you obviously don't know about..get a real life in the 21st Century. PS Some of us post between midnight and dawn because we enjoy our pleasures during the day (and am game enough to be seen in daylight)and not like some staying up all night just thinking about it. No wonder you were awarded the IKEA try to assemble this catalogue!! Good luck Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 7, 2007 1:32 AM

I have removed my profile from this site so now I can say what ever I like. Firstly, this is a great site, there is nothing wrong with it except the blog updates are too slow, other than that it is far better than any other dating site I have seen so stop complaining. The problem is not the site but the fussy, complaining, stuck up people who use it.

Ladies in your 40s, get over yourselves. Men in their 30s don't want to go out with a 45-50 year old woman with 3 kids living at home so stop knocking back the men in their late 40s and early 50s or you might find yourselves alone for a very long time.

Next, face facts ladies not everyone is average build, I know because I met some pretty large women who described themselves as average or even thin. If you are overweight say so, don't lie it's not a sin to be overweight, after all there are plenty of men who are also overweight and will most probably adore you. And do any of you really know what athletic means? It doesn't mean you used to play softball when you were at school. Once again I have met some women who described themselves as athletic and they have got to be joking. Women, buy yourselves a mirror and tell the truth then you might meet the man who is right for you instead of wasting your time and others'.

I would like to say hopefully without embarrasing myself that in the 7 odd months I was on this site (4 months last year then after a break of about 6 months, 3 months this year) I sent out over 500 kisses and got rejected by about 95% of the women I sent them to. Come on ladies, I am not saying I am anything special but I am quite normal, athletic build (yes I play sport EVERY week, work out, walk nearly every day and sail competitively), have no dependants (read baggage if you like), am single, active, run my own business and am very genuine but 95% of you thought I wasn't even worth getting to know. What the hell is your story? Are all you women sitting at home with your 3 kids waiting for George Clooney to come knocking on your door? And then you have the audacity to put on your profiles things like "where are all the men"? Well guess what, we are sending you kisses and getting knocked back because we aren't perfect enough to even meet with. I suggest you start getting to know other women because you are just so fussy that you are never going to find a man that lives up to your expectations so instead you can all form knitting clubs and discuss the dreadful shortage of available men.

You can say I am bitter and just ranting but the truth is that I am just tired of all the whinging and complaing about each other that goes on in these blogs then no one actually takes the time to give someone a go when they send a kiss. And some of you women are so rude you actually have the gaul to ask us to send you an email then don't bother replying to it. Does this give you some sort of power trip and make you feel superior and extra special?

It's no wonder people like Lurker get on the blogs and taunt you, most of you are perfect targets for his wit and deserve all the ridicule he dishes out.

Some of you fellow bloggers have been genuine and I have even made friends with some of you and I value those friendships but as far as trying to find someone on here to form a relationship with - what more is a man to do? As I said above, you women in your 40s are just too full of yourselves and your lies to give a normal, decent man a go so enjoy being on your own and complaing in the blogs for the next 2, 3, 4 or maybe 5 years because that is all you are going to achieve.

I know all this won't do me any good because I have given up but hopefully some of you women will wake up to yourselves, stop complaining, stop lying on your profiles and give some of the other decent men who are no doubt on this site as well a chance.

Women (if in fact you are women) like cynical and anonymous and psychobabble - please try to drag yourselves kicking and screaming into the current era and stop expecting men to be a meal ticket then you also might have some success on this site. Where do you get off saying it is the man's responsibilty to pay for everything? Grow up!

Finally, to all you women who are genuine and do tell the truth on your profiles I did not mean to offend you only to point out that you are in the minority, so good luck to you and it's a pity I didn't have the opportunity to meet you.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 7, 2007 12:27 AM

To outamycomfortzone,
If you are meeting up through RSVP then paying for the coffee is great, Any women who expects you to pay for their meal, alcohol consumption and taxi home is not worth your time....think freeloader. I did pay for the stamps so I told him to pay for the coffee (ended up being a meal which he paid whilst I was in the ladies) . I found that endearing and thanked him. I certainly did not expect it. There are a lot of women who will EXPECT you to pay. Avoid repeating this at all cost, they are obviously looking for a saviour. Sorry to psychoanalyze but I believe that respect is important and most men with children are paying maintenance, have come out the worse in property settlements, and are often just starting over after 20 years work (trust me, I have a brother and friends that have been through the wringer and their experiences helped me not to turn into a spiteful b..... when it came to my turn at property settlement). If you feel comfortable, by all means pay, but don't do it if you can't afford to keep doing it. Setting an unrealistic precedence is just another form of lying. I hope I have helped. :-)

Posted by: soulmamma1 at September 6, 2007 11:50 PM

First time blogger and turning 40 in 5 weeks so probably should just butt out but here goes..... I believe that once you have passed the innocence of youth (aged, children, failed relationships) our experiences aren't all that different. I have been honest in my profile (even using my rsvp name here) and have found that some men just aren't interested in me to go past the kiss stage. Cool. Some of the guys that have kissed me I wonder do they really know how to read? (my profile that is) and what they imagine we have in common? I am overweight, by all the medical charts and in comparison to Elle McPherson, but I am me. I don't have a problem with my weight (please leave the lights on!) and, probably for the first time in my life, feel incredibly sexy, together and emotionally mature. I do have a problem with men who assume that I am desperate or who are desperately wanting to set up a relationship right from the word go (meeting the kids on the 3rd date, living together within 6 months, marriage in the not too distant future). Isn't dating at this age hard enough with everyones responsibilities outside the relationship without having unrealistic expectations? I am currently seeing someone whom I met on RSVP and we are both really enjoying what time we can get together in between our other obligations without either of us pushing the whole 'meet the family, clean my gutters, cook me dinner' mentality. My profile is still up and so is his. I don't have a problem with this as the commitment that exclusivity at this age is a whole lot bigger than at 21. So, for all those men that insist on skinny women (and women that want george clooney). Get a life......dating over 40 is about finding someone compatible, that your sexually attracted to (god yes) and that understands that you have had 20+ years to 'get a life' before even meeting them! If this works out, great, if not, I have had a great time just meeting people and having an opportunity to connect, even if just for an hour over coffee. To those that I did receive kisses from, i always responded. Courtesy doesn't cost me anything. I have wondered if my profile was off tap, but then i thought, 'this is me' so i prefer to be honest up front than have some guy waste his time and money following up on something that wasn't ever going to develop. Another courtesy? I don't like to waste others' time, so guys.....don't waste mine.

Posted by: soulmamma1 at September 6, 2007 11:21 PM

I cant believe ive just sat here for hrs reading better than the profiles.Ok so i`ve learned some more things ,read and read So here is my question .I`ve not been out on dates for years had no need too so do the women pay for their own meals ect these days or do the men pay ?(old school men use to pay) Boy that makes me feel really old guess being over 40 is really something when you think about it. Wont be long and il be 50 does that change every thing again.Really enjoying these blogs got to admit i have my favorites!

Posted by: outamycomfortzone at September 6, 2007 11:09 PM

Oh ...boy ....was giggling at Terrys blogs and nearly punched in my rsvp name .....see what a man can do when he playfully flirts with u (take notes Rocco and Earl ).You must be getting under my skin Terry.
OO..beauty within the soul IS what actually shines through....
Terry .....satin sheets made me laugh.....thank god ....becuse my ex just sent round the boys in blue to check on my 41/2 year old becuase I would not pick up the phone because he was being abusive.......poof all those good vibes down the drain .....hrm ...theres a reason he is an EX!!!!!
oh ...yes ..attentive ....oh yet to meet one!!.
Oh Terry you wont have to buy coffee as I grind my own and its organic to boot!!
Ikea gave me a big laugh again .....guys ...guys make us laugh NOT cry.
Now am quite cheezed off that I was intruded on by the boys in blue at 9.00pm at night in my pj's (and no they were not black or sexy daggy would be the word )But my privacy has been invaded and that brings me to a point there is nothing worse than a women scorn...............Going now to have a howl ......
Fiesty Female %^40

Posted by: Fiesty female &^40 at September 6, 2007 9:25 PM

Actually, I'm a tad bored tonight...was just thinking, maybe I should just re-invent my profile...You never know, George or Keanu just might be lonely and bored this week, too. Will even post a photo for all the world to see...

Rocco: You just wait until you see the photo I picked! Mmmm...think Gilligan....the ship's aground on the shore of this unchartered desert isle
...By the way, Dick Smith had the DVD "Return From Gilligan's Island" out on the $2 rack...guess what will keep me company tomorrow night...? You Beast!

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 6, 2007 8:58 PM

Junebaby: I think it would be great to organise a get together, to meet the Brissies Bloggers! It would be hard to organise, though. I don't think the Blog Police would let details through...Terry (dnd) has my contact details...Sure he'd love to be my "escort" for the night...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 6, 2007 8:11 PM

Are any of you NSW or Qlders into Rugby Union??

I was reading an article in today's paper about the upcoming World Cup (a game l don't really understand but strangely find riveting to watch), and even here in AFL soaked Melbourne its getting some attention.

Its going to be a long 6 weeks catching up with the matches especially the ones that Australia are playing.

Not sure what l like about about it but its a hell of a rough & tumble game, maybe the sight of all those muscled bodies does it.

Posted by: auntykaz at September 6, 2007 8:10 PM

Datelessnotdesperate:
Thanks for the comments, appreciated. Certainly won't settle for less - that's probably why I have been single for so long. Cheers back at you. Torrie1 :))

Posted by: Torrie1 at September 6, 2007 8:00 PM

Hiddencharms,
I wasn't sure if I prefered you being nice to me, as you have been lately ( it was starting to scare me, you know "the calm before the storm", sort of thing) or you being nasty to me as you were 3 weeks ago but after reading your blog (Sep 5) to EarlWyoming, I decided I like you being nice to me, much better.

wwff8,
Good luck with Mr Lovely( I want to have his children... "I" as in you, I mean...not me...my child bearing days are behind me...I still have the stretch marks...on my bank balance)

JuneBaby,
Sorry, Brisbane CBD is an hour and half drive away for me, not that you're not worth it, but I had planned to rearrange my sock draw that weekend.

Auntykaz,
I finally got rid of the Gilligan's Island theme, thank you, replaced it with.....here's a story, about a man named Brady....
If you're on Mooloolaba beach look for me. I usually wear my Y fronts, sox and thongs and have a pair of binoculars, also dragging toy poodle.

Decoratress,
I like your stlye, you rock (and or roll).... sorry stole that line from Reverand Lovejoy

HTC,
I think you better keep an eye on Terry, preferablely(for your sake) when he doesn't have his birthday suit on.

Malsie, TC & Woodwine,
Where are you guys? Not dating are we?

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 6, 2007 7:54 PM

to decoratress.
My ,you are a surly ill mannered bitch.
How huge must that chip be on your shoulder.
And as for your theory on why I am single think again.
My wife was killed in a car crash two year ago at the age of 29 and left two small children behind.
You might remember it.
Their was a full page story in Opinions and another in The Telegraph earlier before the Opinions story,and the Newcastle and Sydney Morning Heralds.Front page in the Maitland Mercury
And Allan Jones put aside his Australia Day address Because he was so stirred by the story.
What? you didn't see the photo of this silly old bugger and the beautiful young blond bride ?
When you are ready to pull your head out of your arse you might consider not mouthing off so much.

Posted by: thefotografer at September 6, 2007 7:23 PM

HC

I don't know you.

I don't know your daughter.

You may hate what I do.

You may hate what the police do.

Talk to the Judge.

Your apologies are not accepted. I don't accept apologies. I do a job.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 6, 2007 7:17 PM

Sharonver: Hi! Nice to meet! Sorry, you won't find my profile. Terminated it. Over the cyber profile BS and out to find ways to start meeting and "dating" in the real world. Terry might be a doll and make a contact on our behalf...? Terry? Another Brisso to perve at (laugh with me) and try to round up for a nice, liesurely dinner out in the 'burbs...so us gals out in the sticks don't have to spend half the night travelling....

The Top 100, from what I can gather, is a popularity contest. It seems to consist of the people who send and receive the most kisses or viewing of profiles...so the sassier your profile and more attractive your pic or the more lovable you are on the blogs, then the more interest in your profile, and up go the ratings....*I think...

I know what you mean about the cost of taxis- my last taxi ride from here to CBD was just on $80 each way...so makes for an expensive night out when added to other expenses....there just has to be something better to do than city nightclubs...I suggested progressive dinners, or a supper or just plain coffee, you know, like at one of those nice little coffee places on Mt Tambourine? Besides, I can't think of anything scarier than walking into a room full of singles, all watching and waiting for you to "reveal" yourself, all alone...

Decoratress: Yes, have to agree with you. "Dating" includes the time spent togther getting to know each other..working out if you like or dislike...want to continue..or plan a life together...go diving right in and what have you got left to do?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 6, 2007 7:03 PM

@ EARL WYOMING- me thinks that humm... coming from the other room....may not be the computer! @ GET REAL- As much as I like to defend my point of view..I think you are being a bit harsh, re- the weight thing!...And "having the courage of your own convictions" DOES NOT MEAN BEING ANONYMOUS !!!! and you talk of honesty?...GET REAL!!!....IMANENIGMA

Posted by: imanenigma at September 6, 2007 6:47 PM

getReal, posted Sep 4;

Firstly, the topic I addressed you on in my blog, Sep 1, was not about LYING, it was about your personal insult to DeeRee.
I read your blogs about women lying about their weight ect. and I made no comment on that subject, as that is your personal preference, to try to find a slim woman to date, I don't have a problem with those sorts of comments. Just the same as the comments by female bloggers complaining about men only wanting younger women ect. That is what this blog is all about, a sharing of thoughts, ideas, anecdotes, ect.

DeeRee's blog on Aug. 29, was in her words "venting". To me she seemed frustrated and somewhat unhappy with her present situation and simply chose to express that in this forum. Sometimes it is easier to talk to strangers than to friends about how you feel.
She wasn't addressing your topic (lying). She never said that she had lied about her weight in her profile ect., in fact she said the opposite, quote; "but it's what I am now and you can't hide what you are nor should you want to."
In response you chose to insult her, quote; "Don't seem to be able to lose the weight?. Sorry but it means you are too lazy to lose it."

The point I tried to make was that DeeRee probably gained the extra weight during her marriage, perhaps the actions of an unhappy person, she lost that weight (50kg) after the split definately not the actions of a lazy person, as you put it.

I didn't see what was to be gained by you insulting her? Perhaps you should re-read her blog and then re-read your response.

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 6, 2007 6:32 PM

And I forgot to add.

98% of Australians are happy with Kevin Rudd's drunken escapade at a strip joint!!!!

Do you know how much contempt we have for johns. For those 98%. For the feminists who suddenly went silent on this and excused it as just being one of the boys (and see the Australian's articles on this sort of hypocrisy).

Do you think my mind is in the gutter? Give me Family First or Pauline than hypocritical 'one of the boys' Labour.

AS an experienced bouncer, I have a set mind. You might call it fascist. I just go into automatic and keep my job.

Welcome to the real world.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 6, 2007 6:29 PM

Dear HC,

Did I mention your daughter. I wouldn't have a clue who you are.

A full house at Riverstage, and Boondall is 12,000; at Splendour 50,000, at BDO, the same, at Good Vibrations and other extravaganzas ditto in the 20000s. That's a lot of young people.

What do you think goes on at Schoolies?

They all go to church and sing hymns on the beach.

It is my JOB woman.

The girls (and the male idiots) do get rolling drunk, they do vomit up over everyone, they do complain of being groped in the mosh pit, they do fall down drunk and have to be assisted to St Johns, and they do copulate at Schoolies (but they can't be permitted to do it on the beach in a public place or the controlled environment as determined by the State Government who fund Schoolies annually to the tune of $1m. And they do take drugs. They also get assaulted and could end brain dead.

It is our job and if the incident is serious those in blue get called in, and you can turn up in court next day and deal with the charges.

I don't give a damn whether you hate what we do or what the Police do. Talk to the Magistrate.

We are used to the crap thrown at us and so are the cops

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 6, 2007 6:18 PM

The fotografer sounds like a man most of us would like to get to know....
He has such an understanding of the female ways and thoughts, right down to our hormones and what we want.....gosh, just imagine ladies if all men had his insight and knowledge we would all be on easy street!!!!!!!!!

Cough cough was that me speaking above????
Must have taken leave of my senses.

Fotografer are you for bloody real???

Think you should change your name to the General as in generalises about all women.

happy day........k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 6, 2007 6:10 PM

Wouldnt it be nice if getReal really would get real, and let all the bloggers in here know, his real profile name. Its always *safe* to be incognito isnt it dear? Go on I dare you :)))

Posted by: AussieGirl05 at September 6, 2007 5:34 PM

Ha, ha, HiddenCharms, (good one, I hadn't thought of that) I didn't know you were from Brissie as well. I thought about going to that Kangaroo Point thing, but was worried cause I am so unfit that they might have to pull me up when I got knackered half way up, so I chickened out.

I don't have a problem with going to nightclubs, just not in the city, where I would have to take out a small loan to afford the taxi fare.
I shall have to try & check out your profile now, to see who you are.

Can I ask a really stupid question.......what is the top 100, a popularity contest? How do you get into it (not that I want to, it sounds like it could be a lot to live up to), & why would you want to?
I just wondered!

Posted by: sharonver at September 6, 2007 3:55 PM

Hi....JustAGuyThatIsHappyToBe40......Do I Know You???.....sounds familiar eh! ....send my belated Happy Fathers day to your Dad.

Posted by: Aliane at September 6, 2007 3:01 PM

Meee-Yow!

Ahh, getReal, hahahehaha cack, cak (sorry, fur-ball!).

You're right! You're so right! I am not net savvy (I can't even figure out why this post keeps repeating on me). Does that make me less of a whole human being?

Check out my profile all you like. It changes, frequently. So do my photo passwords. Somehow, though, my weight doesn't seem to change that much, nor my eye colour, nor my values.

Now, I'm going to give you something special. Keep your eyes open now. I'm puckering up, hard (people, join in with me, send this guy the love!!!) ....

* <-------- I give you, Sir, a CATSBUM!!!!!

Have a happy day, for a change :)

Posted by: highthreadcount at September 6, 2007 10:00 AM

thefotografer at September...

-Stop finding more ways to horrify me.

-Stop talking about 'women' in general. We are all different.

-Stop wittering on about hormones- you know nothing about them, you are not a doctor (you're not smart enough, nor do you have the compassion).

-Stop telling us to "be patient & more caring and read our own profiles to see who we "think" we are".... who do you think YOU are? (Please, that's a rhetorical question- don't answer it, I really, truly, deeply, don't want to know).

Your posts just seem to get more & more misogynistic, patronising & arrogant. Stop it. You are being an idiot trying to tell all women how they feel/don't feel, what they know/don't know- we are myriad...

Just Like Men.

There- I can pretend to be a bully & try telling you what to do/think/feel.... does it feel good? Do you feel supported & understood? I don't imagine so.

Have you been reading psychiatry journals or something?

If you have, maybe you saw the article about 50yr old men who marry 21yr old girls? Do you think the age gap has anything to do with why you're single now?

Please, feel free to respond to my negative comments... as I have to yours. For the record- none of your generalisations apply to me, but there were too many to bother refuting individually.

love&shockhorrorshockhorrorshockhorror
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 6, 2007 2:44 AM

gracie00 at September 4...

Sorry- I'm confused........

I thought that 'dating' was a necessary precursor of 'a relationship'

.... you know....the stage where you get to know one another & find out whether you WANT a relationship with that person or not....?

So if someone fits all your 'requirements' for a relationship..... do you just forego the dating bit & jump straight in based on the boxes ticked??

Sounds rather like the dreaded 'interview technique' to me- I was under the impression relationships were built on times spent together, which I guess would be called...

....dates?

love&investigativedating
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 6, 2007 2:16 AM

to thefotografer
Give me a break, this has nothing to do with hormones. For goodness sake, a 29 years difference in age may just be what the problem was. In the beginning your 21 year old wife was attracted by the feeling of security and wisdom you may have given her. But be honest, at 21 a woman's life is in front of her, and she is very likely to develop and change a lot. From my own experience with older men, I have found that developing has virtually stopped for older men and that they stay the same. The mental attraction that was there in the beginning catches up with the physical side, and once they have gained your wisdom, they want more, they want something to develop and there probably is a very large dissonance between the two personalities. Nothing to do with hormones.

Posted by: frozie1 at September 6, 2007 2:08 AM

*Wave* to hc at September 3, 2007 10:46 PM : ) I can't help you with a hint for "how to get Black Sambucca out of a white, silk shirt?" but I can give you a little pointer on Earl.
He is exceedingly clever and like most things, if you don't follow carefully what is said as it unfolds (and also catch his different profiles, sometimes with varying messages) he can appear to be quite obscure. But I assure you -he is witty, speaks with relevance, even if not total seriousness (although I believe, unfortunately, a lot of males will take the misogyny -whether serious or not, rather than his self-deprecation, absolutely seriously and love him for it!) and he's a lot more subtle than some.

Speaking of which, hey Wyoming, I'm hearing an echo with your posting at September 3, 2007 8:24 PM:

Wyoming: "The funniest comment made by one of my favourites (hey sexy) [shouldn't you be a little careful about outing your contacts Earl, otherwise you may be personae non gratae and frozen out totally due to your lack of discretion?] was that she warned her blokes to be careful- she dribbles if she hasn't had her afternoon granny nap."

I definitely know you weren't referring to me...but hey, I too am forced to have an afternoon "Nanna Nap" at least every coupla days.
A real pain (moreso if I don't get one,) if I'm trying to keep up with Mr Average, let alone an energizer bunny type.

*Sigh*
WHERE IS MY FOREST GUMP (I'll even change my name to Jenny) OR MY KENNY -loved that movie too.

As for the non- dribbling Fizz10? When I was drunk back in 2003 (not just a few glasses to aid a Friday night venting but to the point of nearly throwing up,) I did the usual house security check last thing at night running into my 6'4" then 100kg/now120kg son in the laundry. We said a few things and I very carefully finished my circuit and went off to bed. The next morning I was up bright, and chipper at 7am for our Sunday morning garage sale while my adult kids (along with a friend of theirs) were all moaning and groaning trying to recover from a few drinks the night before and get up and going -when they hadn't even over-indulged that much the previous night.

Anyway, adult kids and their friend during the morning (after I told them exactly how drunk I was the previous night) were giving me sideways bleary glances of "how the heck is she doing it/almost admiration sort of looks/we thought she was a teetotaller (which I mostly was)/maybe there is more to the old bag than we thought".

But the funniest thing I think (insert self-deprecating tone,) was said by my eldest son (who I'd spoken to in the laundry the night before when I was drunk as a skunk but holding it together,)

"I just knew you were drunk last night mum, 'cos you were smiling at me when we were talking."

So, no dribbling just smiling Fizz10 and only after substantially more than a glass or two.

And *poking fun here* who upset your applecart in the Over 40's Topic to start off with an insulting blog when most of us here have worked hard in here over some time, to earn the right to be attacked and retaliate? : )

As for what you said about us women Fizz, "all you really want is a shaggable hairy chested solo man."

-I do care about the solo part but not the hairy chested or even shaggable -that's just a bonus which easily wears off when you men age and more than likely are not "up to performing". -You've gotta then hope that your woman loves you enough to stay with you regardless of your inevitably failing sexual attributes.

Signed by

Unshagged (even though shaggable) for years when married (he was too sick),

Too Realistic and Actually Profiling Under My Real Numerical Age/Average Size,

Aka Very amorous when high on good atmosphere, compliments and adoration (take that as a helpful hint with other women Fizz10).

P.S. Fizz10, honest congrats on being brave enough to post under your real pseudonym.

However, do you realize you may be on the wrong topic as you state you're looking for someone a maximum of two years younger than yourself and therefore, not even 40 years old?
Prepare yourself to be well and truly insulted back again (mine is just intended as a gentle ribbing) because you've provided quite an easy target for some on here. ; )

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at September 6, 2007 12:48 AM

hiddencharms I'm sooo flattered you are still getting off over my howling at the moon dance and I guess I owe rocco at least that. Yes meeting at the 19th hole can be more enjoyable than belting up the garden beds all the time. Did you try putting in the sand box or did the caretaker jump on you for that too?

rocco61 as you helped tickle hiddencharms fancy I'm passing on auntykaz's hint hint nudge that her favourite beach is right opposite the Peninsular Apartments at Moolloolaba and she's just crrazy about making it up to a Sunshine Coast Beach so if you've run out of petrol with your mowing let's see if you can inspire her up from Mt Eliza (south of Melbourne)

aunykaz Sorry ... seniors moment..got the locales mixed up. I used to be at Balcombe( near Mt Martha and Mornington) and later Portsea.. Mt Eliza --knew it well... a nurses home somewhere there).. dances .. partees and prettys. Seven of us were hitch hiking from Frankston late one night and got a lift in a FC Holden Station wagon.. warned you it was an old story.. and the driver went screaming into a big right hander before the Mornington mad mile. Left the road. hit a tree and rolled 4 times end for end and 6 times sideways feeling like being in a like a tumble dryer. Everybody changed seat positions and no one was more than slightly injured.. shaken and saturated but otherwise OK..had to walk the rest of the way but thankful... will see if rocco is better at sniffing hints than petrol for his mower... if he gets you up there just don't let him loose in sand boxes and checking out differences too early in the day/night OK?

Torrie1 welcome aboard and your wise words "never ask anything of another that I am not prepared to to give back.I always try to listen & respect another's point of view even if I don't agree with it" are similar to my own. Hope you can follow the moon dances, black teddies, high heeled boots, cowboys and horsey stories and the sand box and mowing the lawn sagas?. Yes there certainly is a difference between hearing and listening as there is also a difference between looking and observing. Your Piccies look great and can't blame some for "trying it on" but moving in in a week?? . Are so many men homeless and uncared for down there like up here in sweetie land too? Keep smiling, having fun and don't settle for less than you need. Cheers

hidden charms splendiferous vigour regardless of time place or the sniff of Davi's petrol .. mower. Glad to see you are getting it back out of the sand box.. you are a worry some times but I still adore you number one pretty sweetie. XX))[[HC]]))XX Goodnight and try getting some sleep tonight. Never know what opportunities might arise tomorrow OK? Terry The Sheriff has left the building TTFN take care

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 5, 2007 11:05 PM

Dear Mr Earlwyoming: Those words about my daughter and abominable behaviours (or circumstances) may be intended as a nasty insult to my skills as a parent, in retaliation for me asking about your football referee career...(If I hit a sensitive spot, then I apologise)...I was only asking, coming from a huge football freaky family...and am considering going back and doing some work with juniors. Kids do need some sport, recreation, guidance and for some, love, attention and the thrill of success....I was thinking that this might be a nice way to channel some of my time and energy in a productive and satisfying way...and before your warped mind sets in, I was not talking about perving on innocent children...It's just that other people have said that they are "reinventing themselves" by returning to former pastimes that they found fulfilling...especially in the case of my brothers, who find it extremely invigorating to help today's youth to engage and motivate in sport and fitness and to find personal success and satisfaction their pursuits, when some can so easily fall victim to the sex, drugs and whatever that you seem to know so much about!

I feel very sorry for you, or anyone that you may know, who has daughters who have been placed in that kind of situation....it would be a parent's worst nightmare. You are a rude, insulting man, to talk about such behaviours and circumstances so callously.

I know where my child is, and what she is doing. I can only hope that she has escaped her father's violence and psychotic influence during her young years and is growing up (under my care and my own father's) secure, stable, loved and able to make happy and healthy choices about her future lifestyle.

You can sling whatever you like at me, for what you know of me, but don't you slag off, with your mind-in-the-brothel garbage about my (or anyone else's) daughter (or son)! Just because these are the kind of people you associate with, does not mean that everyone is of the same mould!

Posted by: hc at September 5, 2007 10:02 PM

Rocco l do believe that verse three from Gilligan's Island to be, "the weather started getting rough the tiny ship was tossed.....

if not for the courage of the fearless crew the minnow would be lost....the minnow would be lost."

Sorry hiddencharms thats another verse to distract you when your mind should be elsewhere hehe.

My stupid mind seems to retain these pointless, inane bits of information / trivia so if any of you have an obscure question related to music, tv shows or movies its probably locked away somewhere in my head!!!!!

Hc try the old standard bicarb, baby, bicarb.

happy day..............k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 5, 2007 8:25 PM

Dear Ornamental

Four kids, I left in residence.

Just remember, if you never got caught with a paternity suit, because you knew how to run fast, you escaped. Then there's DNA anyway.

As for sperm bank, 150 is a conservative estimate. Is the taxman reading this blog. What worries me is when I read how tall a girl is, on this site.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 5, 2007 8:14 PM

hiddencharms Thanks for the tipoff about keeping blogs under 500 words. Combined with avoiding David and Earl's "words" I've actually not had a crash 3 times in a row.. b ... Marvellous. Just wondering with Peter B reclaiming the main Beach (Gold Coast) beachfront and destroying extra benefits whether it's going to disrupt yours and David's sand box or his mowing?

rocco61 David with all this sand stuff I forgot to allocate the Dating Over 40-- WelI Over Winter Sheriff Terry's "Tuggies" "Tearies" and "Tantalisers" Awards .
Congratulations on the "Cushiony and Softness " encouragement award. Will forward you your prize of the unique fur lined, individually heated, double roll toilet holder complete with environmentally friendly recycled and printed message self retracting multi-coloured rolls.

Earl Wyoming Congratulations on your ongoing charitable input and donations. Seeing you've demonstrated your exceptional "hands on" expertise we are pleased to award you the full and uncensored 2008 IKEA "Space for Living" catalogue to choose bigger and better things to practise with. And as an added bonus for unrelenting persistence an unopened "Rip her e for a $50 saving" Yellow Envelope full of extraordinary extra opportunities of expression.

woodnwine deserves an extra special award but seems to have been waylaid by the Southern Belles or someone on one of the other irreverent blogging sites Oh well Din din time so I'll say TTFN and will be back with the "Tearies" and 'tantalisers" later Take care and enjoy each and every day. Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 5, 2007 7:01 PM

Hello to all missing and forgotten bloggers--
rocco's and Earl's "R" word virus and "missing leaves" seems to have disturbed my computer as it has deleted 7673 internet temp files and 7007 (is that anything to do with Kevin?) windows temp files and 131 web sites trying to get a blog posted that included the full "R" word as an example of my feelings as to it's being uncouth. It's probably due to the blog police carrying out a sand sifting investigation into the intracies of David and hc playing in the sand box and the missing motor mower that David apparently prefers to sex? I Am totally devastated and just lying back here visualising the mower picking up the sand and hc handling that thingo.
Due to the ongoing RSVP crashes or ex-communication? I don't know how many of my previous blogs survived so if I'm repeating myself sorry OK?

Have to note though that it seems so very many more women have been using those other expletives like "don't" and "can't" and "won't but luckily for some of the "no longer with us" bloggers some seem to have said "will". Much nicer f o u r lettter word.. hope that word slipped through the censor?. I don't dare mention the other letters of the alphabet words that come after b and before e for fear of being quarantined with David in his colourful silk pyjamas and Earl with his voluminous (dictionarys again please) tall S... bank progeny... thank heaven for smal blessings.

fiestyfemale&^40 OhMyG!! MMmm!! If you could follow up your feelings and send me a kiss inviting me to coffee and more than a second date I'm sure I could pin one of my few remaining "Darling Daring Delightful Deputy" badges on you where most men under 50 seem to prefer to look. It's all sparkly and glittery..the badge !! and the Surfer's Paradise meter maids love them (RSVP censored the piccies) but they wear them on their sahes so as to not detract from the other sensational sights and delights. I'll even buy the coffee too!

Yes it is great that "for all of us not having sex at this present time in our life we can enjoy fond memories" of those who helped us discover the real pleasantries of knowing what to do about it. Seing you are so enthusiastic and insightful if I trust you to be more helpful and persuasive it'll most probably help me to become more firm and friendly with you and "yes" I'll try to keep it up.. Main trouble seems to be some haven't had very good teachers or aren't very attentive and participatory (is that a word) avid students so they regrettably don't really know what they are missing out on.. just as well I suppose or there'd be no one left on this blog... Reminds me I'd better duck out and send rocco some more petrol for his motor mower at the sandbox so he can continue to do what he is best at and finds less boring than sex. PS For boring chores E10 is cheaper and who needs anthing better if you are not into high performance.

XXX))ff&^40((xxx Terry
TTFN Sheriif Terry alias the possum and the Darling Deputy Hunter xxx

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 5, 2007 6:15 PM

sharonevr at September 3, 2007 11:01 AM

No, sorry I haven't been to any functions on my own, and don't know of any others beyond suburbia. Sorry .. but you could always email support and let them know if you have any ideas ...

Good luck girl!!

Also .. DnotD thanks sweetheart for making me smile (hooooooooowwwwwl!)

Posted by: highthreadcount at September 5, 2007 4:10 PM

Could I just elaborate a bit further on an earlier post (assuming it gets published) about the difference between the 1960/70s era with the sound of bed springs creaking furiously, and the 21st century where all we get is the hum of a computer into the wee hours of the morning.

It concerns me when i see posts, kisses and emails time stamped between midnight and dawn.

That is the time when bed springs should be audible.

Where is everybody's self respect.

Queen Victoria would never have permitted it. Maintain a semblance of personal dignity, PLEASE

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 5, 2007 2:43 PM

getReal 29th August

What a revolting human being you are I must say - I tried to find your profile but it wasnt under getReal - I wouldnt show my face either if I had revolting things to say like that, we all make our choices and I have a vision of you in white shoes with a hawian shirt and brill cream and reaking of old spice. LOL I really dont care what you look like and I hope your happy in your life saying revolting things about other people. I am not a lazy person at all and how dare you assume that I am.

Thank you rocco for your kind words, they were lovely pitty getReal didnt live with your mother and learn some manners.

Thanks to all for reading I wont bother coming back again, another backhanded comment is not needed - thanks for reading and all take care

Deb

Posted by: deeree at September 5, 2007 12:26 PM

When I was a tender 5 year old, I surreptiously acquired a book called "Now You'll Think I'm Awful" by Sue Rhodes, an Australian journalist. It set me back the whole of 95c.

IT was based on the premise of how Australian women regarded sex at the time.

The punchline came from a then standard joke:

"Russian women say: Babushka that was great let's do it another dozen times;
American women say: Honey that was great, what was your name again.
Australian women say "Oh my god (that was before OMG appeared) now you'll think I'm awful"

My copy was confiscated by my mother and torn up before my father could see that I had it. I then got dragged along to several nauseous Father and Son lectures. So much for a strictly Methodist upbringing.

One blogger astutely notes:

"Find out what your mum and dad were up to and find out just how little Australians have changed in 40 years"

Can't speak for my Mum and Dad, but their bed used to have extremely noisy springs, right up to the old man's death (just like in the movie Alfie). We used to cringe (but I did try it out with one of my girlfriends of the time to see how much noise it truly did make- when parents were away). But remember, the 1960s were the era of free love, rolling around naked at Woodstock etc.

Now the bed springs of the Nation have gone quiet. The computer screens hum nauseously into the wee hours, and an unearthly silence reigns.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 5, 2007 11:46 AM

Whats the difference between 40 and 41? So ur over 40 and still dating,thats great cause it means u have had the crap life throws at u and now ur not prepared to settle for just anyone, its ur choice and if it takes a while then so be it. It may be harder for some because as we get older we tend to not tolerate things that we don't like or aren't suited to us. Either way we are all still going to try at what we dont know.

Posted by: Soulyurs at September 5, 2007 10:33 AM

karenchocolat hello and welcome aboard Sorry to hear you have had a rough trot. Best thing you can do is to enjoy living without them and get over them .. let them be "someone else's worry" and not yours. When they come grovelling back having realised what they missed out give em the "stiff bickies" sign.

Dating over 40 bloggers You'll see I am keeping these blogs short as once again the site trashed my 1000 words masterpiece.!!! Be warned . hiddencharms seems to have realised 500 words is about the limit too. Don't give up your day job sweetie!!

hidden charms I'll moondance naked in your backyard, front yard or any yard and if you give me an inch I'll take a yard anytime...but not "privates and little differences" in a sand box thank you just the same!! Satin is OK stuff - but not sheets please or I'll have to attach velcro to all the undercarriage to circumvent slipping out.!! Glad you can't sleep a wink thinking about ALL of what you are missing out on... choices?? Offers ???XX>>HC MMMmmm If (I'm too skinny will you feed me your recipes (until I grow up)?? xx OOLAAKOEW

Rookie40something Yeah! It's pretty pathetic when some fathers have to go out and buy their own presents as the 'little woman" can't afford to allocate a few dollars out of the chilrens Child Support to even buy a packet of lollies for the SOB on Father's Day. Worse still is when some fathers have to send themselves cards with forged writing on the envelopes and cards so they won't be embarassed when the children aren't even "granted" enough to buy a card and a stamp to send a greeting on Father's Day, Christmas Day and the SOB's birthday. Little wonder some guys don't like their ex's!! I'm lucky my son always remembers those 3 occasions since he became old enough to escape "her" and sadly it's now "her" that doesn't get a card or call? Every dog has it's day they say.. keep smiling until that day.
Cheers Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 5, 2007 9:48 AM

hiddencharms and rocco61 So you've been having private sessions playing with your little differences in the sandbox!.Number onetop sweetie !!?? As David finds sex as boring as mowing the lawn he'd better turn the mower off pretending to mow the grass in the sandpit before he runs out of juice. Oh ! So sorrry .. it's EW that's got lots of juice isn't it? Now who would have thought anything David would be doing would be tickling anybody's fancy expescially yours. Watchout playing in the sandbox during the day.. the neighbours. Hc is it true that the neighbours said you've handling and tossing some long thing around while David was tickling your fancy? Was he wearing that jockey's outfit which he spoke about in the blog? I hope not sounded more like a scarecrow outfit?
Take care, Be Aware and Beware Terry

Posted by: datelesnotdesperat at September 5, 2007 9:16 AM

fizz!0 Your comment reminds me of an outsiders view of Australia It's very largeit's down under and very few care anyway.

getReal Please give highthreadcount a break she has been nice to me and at my age and appearance I need all the friends I can get
Early Wyoming. Thanks for your expose on your prowess at the bank . Doesn't seem as though you are up to Jack Nicholson's real life efforts of 2000+ in the sack. Not sure of his fertility rates..depends who is late I suppose? Sorry!! I thought you were parting with the $200 a shot at the brothel or do you go there after you've made your deposit and withdrawn at the s..bank?
I'll leave you to keep handling the situation. Cheers Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 5, 2007 8:59 AM

Rocco

You are most welcome, but the images that I now have in my head after the descriptive image of you parading down high street in such a questionable outfit, well lets say, I would rather not go there. It also leads to what other outfits could be adorning your wardrobe.

Thank god you didn't discover a cape or you could be crusading down the boulevard with fencing sword in hand, whistling up your black horse, shooting steely looks at mystified onlookers, from under your mask. The thought of you emblazoning a flaming "Z" into the side of the downtown Post Office, Centrelink or Public Toilet is just too much.

Please dish me up a less frightening image so I my sleep peacefully at night.

Datelessnotdesperate - Ok, yes I do like your blogs too (said coyishly, head tilted to one side) but I do have to stand by previous statement of being "involved" (damned if you do, damned if you don't) and he is lovely and I think I want to have his children (that was definitely a joke, the children part, that is). I can't help myself though, with the blogs and as Rocco stated only yesterday, it does no harm to anyone to say something nice. It doesn't "always" have an alterior motive. If you can make someone smile a little (even on the inside) your day was never wasted. Rocco makes me smile lots on the outside, as do lots of other bloggers and I just wanted him to know it.

You make me laugh lots too. You come across as witty and intelligent like so many others. (too schmaltzy, ok I'll stop, but true none the less, now way too schmaltzy :: )))

So there you go. That's why although seeing someone, still love reading all the good stuff on here. I like to laugh and often wish I could be quick fire, witty.

You get happiness from many different sources and this is one of mine........Thank you to ALL that make me laugh and the kind ones too (schmaltzy again, right).

cheers
wwff8

Posted by: wwff8 at September 4, 2007 7:29 PM

There is one thing that stands out after wading through all these articulate comments...Other people opinions have nothing to do with me !
Dating over 40 is all about the possability of meeting a new friend..

Posted by: satisfiedmind49 at September 4, 2007 5:58 PM

fizz10 - you crack me up! Got a real laugh from your post. Mostly because your experiences seems to be the mirror image of mine! The main problem for me is most males are so unrealistic.... they all seem to think they are 10 years younger, 10 kilos lighter and 10 times more interesting than they really are!

If it wasn't so demoralising I'd find it really funny.

And I have to agree with you about the lack of honesty - surely it's patently obvious that all the lies will be shown for what they are on the first meeting???? Or is that thinking too far ahead?

The other pathetically laughable thing is that despite being honest about myself in my profile (ie age, size, photos etc), the men who contact me don't seem to have actually *read* my profile... and then are surprised when we meet.

At the risk of being deep (which I was once accused of being, and not as a positive thing), I think the whole internet dating game is a pretty artificial and unsatisfying way to meet people. Our profiles are largely what we think about ourselves (or the person we would like to be) and the reader imbues them with their own perceptions and prejudices. Rather than facilitating a meeting of like-minded people it is simply a 'multiplier' that maximises the number of potential partners - all things considered, it's just a great big lucky dip of love.

If I wasn't such an incorrigible optimist I'd give the thing a great big swerve - but gotta be in it to win it, right?

Posted by: gracie00 at September 4, 2007 4:06 PM

Dating over 40 is a lot different than when in your early teens or twenties.
The unfortunate thing is a lot are very confused about what is going on in their own minds and what has changed.
The problem is mainly with the women and it is hormonal and chemical.
Let me explain, i am 58 my last wife was 21 when we met,and I was 50.
That is just to show where I am coming from and that I can see the difference in how women perceive themselves.
The unfortunate thing is those looking for the chemical X factor instant attraction thing are really not being fair on themselves or anybody they meet.
The reason is ,chemically,women change.
Their brain goes through a phase where they are madly in love and then after four years start thinking they are falling out of love when it fact all that is happening is a massive chemical change occuring in the brain.
If most just hung in there for another two years things would change into something different again.
This two and frowing goes on most of their live.
The other thing is their hormones which can bring about rapid changes in their feeling of sexuallity.
Lastly their mental attitude changes quietly internally unbeknown to most because of what their priorities sexually and finding a partner now are.
You see in the early years a woman is looking for a man to father her children,later in life she is not looking for a man to father her children but does not always realise that.In other words she does not know what is happening to her body.She is still looking for that spark,that X factor,the instant appeal and still expects to get it but unfortunately most of the time it becomes ever more elusive.
Women are the first to talk about wanting to get to know someone but are the least likely to put it into practice.
They just rush madly from one date to the next looking for that charge that keeps evading them not realising that life has changed for them.
Basically the end result is that it leaves men on the defensive sitting there scratching their heads wondering what the hell is going on.
If you ask what a woman wants,most will tell you they don't know but they will know when it happens,and that is the problem,they don't know.

That is why dating over 40 becomes very difficult.

Girls, men are very basic,and just get more basic as they get older and are not always going to express themselves to you in the way that they did when they were younger and were high on hormones.
So just be patient and more caring and read your own profiles to see who you "think" you are.

Posted by: thefotografer at September 4, 2007 1:20 PM

Phew! Took ages to read through the blogs. Lots of recurring themes and many that I can personally identify with.

I've become quite disillusioned with rsvp of late, mostly I believe because it's so difficult to set apart the people who are looking to 'date' and those who are looking for a genuine relationship. As far as I can tell the friendship/ short term/long term options count for naught. So, my first suggestions for rsvp is that I would like to see a separate category for those who are looking to meet others with a view to genuine relationships rather than just dating.

I would also like to second a suggestion made by some other bloggers - I'd like to be able to meet other rsvp-ers in an environment that does not equate to drinks/dancing (ie the same as any old pick-up bar).

Thirdly, I would like a kiss reply option along the lines of 'I don't think I match your ideal partner criteria' or some such.

I also think it'd be great to be able to search by key-word or interest category.

Finally, to ease the pain of the rudeness of some rsvp-ers, I'd like rsvp to implement a filter that requires all incoming kisses to be relied to before a member can initiate new contacts. Harsh, yes, but it'd solve the problem.

Posted by: gracie00 at September 4, 2007 1:09 PM

@ Rocco61
Thanks for the big cry on my shoulder about the sad people, but who cares? Not me. We are here to date successful, happy people living life to the full! Remember?

You can lie and delude yourself, but fat is unattractive, unhealthy. End of story. Fat just means you are a loser who doesnt care about yourself. And loser you remain in the dating stakes .

But instead of addressing the problem, the fatties answer is to lie and delude themselves they are slimmer than they are. Pfft!

dont care who is fat, thin, etc, the topic is LYING about it. Wakey wakey!

All men on RSVP know what fizz10 is talking about. Talk abut Groundhog Day!

Posted by: getReal at September 4, 2007 10:08 AM

Hello to all - have just started reading the blogs - much more fun than searching for a man. Have met some lovely people here, but seem to encounter a problem. Meet a guy, he's nice, we get on, but then the pressure to move in together starts - Whatever happened to getting to know each other properly. Is this just a situation that occurs for over 40's?? Oh well - Am not giving up - enjoying this journey.

Posted by: Torrie1 at September 4, 2007 9:13 AM

Re posting by junebaby57 at September 2, 2007 10:16 PM.

Thanks June, for sharing the hardships of single mothers working and perhaps enlightening some other people's views. -I think you must've performed miracles juggling everything as well as you did!

As for your statement,
junebaby57: "PSSS ..Body type, I am honest, I am curvy, cuddly and a bit overweight. Some guys love it, some don't. Its back to Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!",

good on you!

Also see my reply posted tonight (still 3.9.7 here in W.A.) on Profile Deal Breakers & Makers in response to Wraecca's posting at August 30, 2007 9:54 PM with reference in particular to:

Wraecca's words, "Beauty will fade, bodies will sag. Weight can be lost (or gained). Shouldn't we be looking for beauty within the soul, generosity within the heart, and kindness and compassion in our partners, rather than the requisite height, eye and hair colour?"

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at September 4, 2007 1:50 AM

Gee...(up!)

EarlWyoming/MidnightCowboy69, part of your posting at September 1, 2007 7:31 AM said:

"I'm usually sound asleep by 8pm with my colestomy(sic) bag rigged to save what Ornamental Only described as visits to the urinal every 5 minutes."
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I had formerly mentioned most mature males' prostate-induced frequent trips to the urinary during the night.

Later on, you referred to cowboys having a tube (catheter) contraption in your sleeping bags to save those frequent urinal trips and now, you've quickly deteriorated to needing a colostomy bag!

My, my, my...I know I can give some people the sh*ts (although I'm no Kyle Sandilands, who was interviewed on Denton just tonight!) but never before, have I caused a colostomy bagging! (Even just a little one.)

Earl/MidnightCowboy69, speaking of aliases -remember some time back when that subject was touched upon? And then, references were first made on another topic of responding to Vk's without messages and also another post about sending a separate VK appreciating someone's sense of humour because they don't think they would measure up? Consider both done.

P.S. Seriously Earl, how many kids of yours that you know of (and not the sperm bank progeny) have you running around in this country??? Anyway, let me just say a belated Happy Father's' Day on their behalf. ;)

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at September 4, 2007 1:43 AM

Hey datelesnotdesperat, rocco61, and Brisvegas bloggers, I am back in Brisbane 21-24 Sep for work if you want to catch up with this blogger from Canberra, I have a big project coming to completion in the CBD, but will get some free time if you want to meet up and chat!!

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 4, 2007 12:06 AM

Earl: Sorry, mate. Just don't think I'm ever drunk enough to even try to understand your constant blog baffle or name or profile changing....About 3.00am Sun morning I was probably in the right condition to try to make sense of your waffle....

Rookie: Looks like you've hit the RSVP frustration mode. Have to admit, it can be very disappointing for those who come in with high hopes...Keep your profile hidden, if you think that saves you from the undesirables. Please, let the rot between Rocco and I and the anons die...we have...hope everyone else has, too. Whatever is going on in the other blog sites is up to the people concerned. As I have said before: "Not my problem, but theirs to deal with" and I suggest (with no malice, but every best intention) that you don't make them your problem...see, I can be coffee beans, too...Loooove the smell of my Italian Espresso wafting through the house at 6.00am....

Also, posted a blog, way back, about taking measures outside of RSVP to find eligible men in your preference category....I thought about taking up golf, somewhere around the 19th hole...my brother says I actually have to hit the green to be "seen"...the Greenkeeper has banned me because I actually have to hit the ball, apparently, not dig up garden beds...so thinking of going back to U7s soccer...because I'm taller than they are, I can have a whistle and I make the rules! (Ha-de-ha! )

Junebaby: Agree with you on the clingy ex's. Been there. Done that. If you leave a relationship, that is exactly what you do. Leave. Those who cling on are hanging on to apron strings with very powerful ties. Those who stay tied, well, I think it is just an excuse not to get too tied up with anyone else, which is exactly the power game that the clingy ex's pull...enough of that...

Rocco Again: Since when is sex a chore, like mowing the lawn. I hate mowing (and will pay my Dad to do it every opportunity I can)...but sex...I guess it all boils down to who you're having sex with....the grass can grow over my rooftop, and I will ignore it completely, if I am getting good sex! Or should I say if I am being made love to with spendiferous vigour...? Mmmmm....Think Gilligan...I think most Over 40s would agree that good sex, or better yet, good company, is far better than mowing the lawn any day!

One other question for the wise and wonderful Over 40s: How do I get Black Sambucca out of a white, silk shirt?

Posted by: hc at September 3, 2007 10:46 PM

Rookie40something Sep.1 post;

Are you sure you're not "Catchmeifyoucan"? Voice sounds the same. Same blog style, same late post time, always managing to have a go at men or in this case fathers, even if your topic is on something else. Although Catchmeifyoucan, was more forthright in expressing her hatred for me (even if in the guise of BananaBender)
I have read most of the other blogs and had noticed a couple of negative comments about myself, I tried to respond to one in particular (notgodsgift) but it was obviously censored by the blog police.
If you wish to say something about me, go ahead, make my day, I have a very thick skin and I have bigger issues to worry about than what people say about me in these blogs.

Like, trying to remember the third verse of the Gilligan's Island theme....hmm.... or what to wear to my first RSVP meeting, my one and only yellow T shirt, no shirt perhaps, Y fronts or G banger, on the inside or outside of my pants, should I bath, it is only September after all, deodorant maybe to mask the smell, I would have buy some, Jazz or Brute.....too many decisions, I can't cope....maybe a text message 5 minutes before hand saying I can't make it, yes that's what I will do she'll understand..... can't make it must stay home and read blogs, might see my pseudonym in print, real world too scarey (sarcasm and childishness intended)

David- rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 3, 2007 10:19 PM

Rocco: You beast! I hummed that darned tune all day at conference. The guest speaker even asked me if I needed a "wriggle break"...

Worse still, I had to make a speech at a friend's 40th birthday party on Sat night. I was trying to stand on this little step, in 3 inch heels and umpteenth glass in my hand...there were only about 120 people there, and I knew about half...but you know how they say to picture people in their underwear when nervous? Well, I started picturing naked Terry dancing under the moon, and before I could say "attention please"...started singing the Gilligan's Island theme song...it cracked up the party and got the attention needed to make the speech...I wasted all that money on the new boots...I could have just worn my red shirt and fishing cap....I felt like such a dag! Thanks!

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 3, 2007 9:52 PM

sharonevr: Hi from another almost-Brisbanite. Nope, never been game enough to enter one of the city night-club bashes. Alll "Gangsters & Flappers" and "Fifties Funk" or whatever. Can just see us all in the 2 hr Taxi cue, with "RSVP party" stamped on our foreheads....Nothing has ever been advertised for the suburbs. No, hang on, they did do a rock climbing day on the cliffs at Kangaroo Point - still in the city for those of us who live out in the sticks. Still can't work out how you get to know people whilst hanging off a rope on the side of a cliff: "Halloooooo?...send me an email later...I can't talk now....."?

I've been trying to con Terry into organising something for us almost-Brissos.

Go on, Terry: get onto RSVP and see what they can organise for us...maybe a progressive dinner (change tables for each course) or something seriously less daunting than loud music, shuffling around pretending to dance and booze (although go easy on the no booze...).

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 3, 2007 9:24 PM

To the dear person who is worried about the authenticity of my claims to be a football referee, suffice it to say I never made it to FIFA level, didn't even come close but for 20 years I was up and down the park chasing your offspring, their older bros and sisters and a round ball, game after game after game endlessly. Up to your local senior level. You may have been yelling vile obscenities at me which was grist for the mill. Loved it. Idiots even wanted a piece of me with pickets and waddies.

These days I get my exercise by lifting weights and dumping them out on the footpath.

I know you can't see it from my point of view but everyone I work with in this dreadful industry claims to be either an ex Navy Seal or ex SAS. Take my word for it. No-one queries these claims. Esp not the punters. Even the women in the industry bullsche it through the roof. There were not enough SAS regiments to hold all the women claiming to have parachuted into every hellhole on earth. What even our hardened pea brains don't accept is the women who claimed to have once been supermodels. Hey they are built like tanks. That we have a good laugh at. So now we are looking after your daughter who is rotten drunk, has just been groped in a mosh pit, has vomited up over everyone, is claiming to have had her drink spiked, and has been found in a tent at schoolies copulating freely before our eyes. And that's the easy work. Shall we discuss the Kevin Rudds of this world and the strippers, the lappers, and the johns.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 3, 2007 9:19 PM

I have taken various comments on board. I have thought about the word "average" and now see that this has different connotations to different people. To me, average just means that one is neither wonderful or awful - just well - average - fitting into the "mean" of the population! However, it is increasingly obvious that wieght is the otimimal yardstick by which one is measured. Whilst not obese, I realise that I can never measure up to the requirements of the "average" male and the truth maybe - vice versa. Whilst I agree that personal presentation tells a lot about the individual - I also would not be interested in anyone - thin or fat -that makes no effort to present themselves in the best light - I also don't think that a wonderful body and a hairy face indicates the innate quality of the person. I am not really interested in grubby individuals - male or female who have only one source of conversation - themselves! Sadly, these people have very little of interest to say at any time. Narcissism has never been attractive - just indicative of someone so caught up in themselves they cannot see anyone else - a defense mechanism that usally repels. Perhaps just talking to people can find them boring, sad, funny, interesting, difficult or the many, many other descriptiosn of the human pshycie. One should not generalise, but in "general" we are all making excuses for our inadequacies - the definition of insanity is continually "repeating one's actions expecting the outcome to be different" - better to try and remember one's mistakes so we don't repeat them. Owning them is paramount! While not always successful - I am trying to do this - perhaps we could all try! then the vitriol might all dissipate and we could get on with more interesting topics than weight and age discrepancies!!!!.

Posted by: alwaysthinking at September 3, 2007 9:05 PM

Fizz10

Don't worry about it.

The dribbling after their first glass of wine, that is.

Just keep pouring it into them until you have wreaked your wicked ways.

Who cares whether they dribble.

I don't even care whether they do as seen in the Kenny movie- help water the grass at the races (boy has that happened to me a few times- well not to me, but the young lady).

And if she's drunk, I'll always help her home to bed.

The funniest comment made by one of my favourites (hey sexy) was that she warned her blokes to be careful- she dribbles if she hasn't had her afternoon granny nap.

Just arrive early and put her to bed for a short time, before taking her out.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 3, 2007 8:24 PM

datelessnotdesperate tell rocco l like Mooloolaba beach right opposite the Peninsular Apartments, my favorite beach. And get it right luv its Mount Eliza not Mornington lol.

Posted by: auntykaz at September 3, 2007 8:04 PM

Does anybody else think that the search engine is a bit basic? I think it would be great it I could search for someone who is really into the kind of music I am. Sure, its not essential. And I agree that its no guarantee of anything. But wouldn't it be fun to find someone with the exact same passion! And it would be great to filter responses to those who are really seeking someone with your profile...or at least som eindication of % match. Not essential...but boy it might save some time! Just thoughts - from a newbie. Are my "l" plates showing????

Posted by: Distintivo at September 3, 2007 7:08 PM

Okay, I'm reposting as some blogs a day later have been put up before mine. Knowing my luck, then there may be a double posting! Ah well, such is life.

Now, my posting 7pm Thurs 30.8.7 was:

Regarding all the ongoing hoohaa about weight.
Everyone has different preferences.

I agree with funlovertoo who said on August 28, 2007 9:23 AM in another topic:

"These days especially I don't go for that very thin look - no reserves in case of illness."
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For myself, I have always worried about thin males (and even myself if I get too thin).

Too skinny reminds me of an underweight child and I just want to feed it until it grows up. ;)

And to be honest, I also prefer someone bulky enough to protect me (sorry Andrew Denton -but I still love your mind!) and also someone I can get a really good hold of, knowing he won't break!

Nice too, if a male can sling me over their shoulder if there ever is a need and it's a bonus if someone is tall enough so I don't lose them in a crowd.

These days confound it, if anything is too small -I lose it!

Now where are those specs of mine *grumble*. -Guess this is something finally relating to in the Over 40s topic. :)

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at September 3, 2007 6:45 PM

Thank you to the people who welcomed me to the blog.

HTC, have you been on your own to the functions? I live a bit of a distance out of town (where most of the night time functions are) and i am very nervous even about going into town on my own. Brisbane is not as safe a place as it once was. Do RSVP ever go out into the suburbs? I'd feel more comfortable about that.

What about the day time ones? Anyone have an feedback on those?

Posted by: sharonevr at September 3, 2007 11:01 AM

Hi bloggheads,

interesting how even though I am over 40 it seems everyone my age is so old hahahahha.

The main problem for me is most females are so unrealistic ....everyone thinks they are better , sexier , smarter etc etc than they are.And a size smaller.

get over yourselves you fat , uglys and thats just the men . for the women I dont think I need to say anything but the reason you are here is ???? to hook up with a sexy shaggable man - well say that in your profile.
Dont say I want a honest lovely nice person bla bla then reject the person who is just that because all you really want is a shaggable hairy chested solo man .

Be honest and you will get what you are after. Be a liar and you will always be disappointed and disappoint others.

I met a girl the other day who had slim in her profile and she was the size of Tasmania.

I met up with another girl who said she was 33 and she was 47.... gimme a break.

be confident in yourself and dont dribble after your first glass of wine.

Is that insulting enough for you....

Posted by: fizz10 at September 2, 2007 11:12 PM

This is a big catch up blog. So many ideas in this blog now.

Re the single parent debate and who gets what. I was separated at 6 months pregnant with my 2nd child. My ex had an affair and I found out about it. He was out of the house with in a week. I could not look at him, I really wanted to kill him at the time. My dad had me in the solicitors office with in 4 days, the property settlement was in before the baby was born. When the baby was born, he was in QLD on holidays with his girlfriend. We separated on the Friday, I was back at work on the Monday. My Mum told me that you never ever let people see you down!! My parents also told me you have to work for what you want in this life. There are no hand outs or free rides!!you know, life isn't meant to be easy!

I worked up to a week before the baby was born. I was blessed in both pregnancies that I never got ill.

The property settlement, I got the house. We only had it a short time, and still owed 85% on the loan at the time. I kept my super, he didn't have any. I got the children. BUT I had to work. Singe mothers payments does not pay for a house mortgage, bills, babysitters, medical, cars, clothes and food. I was back at work when the baby was 6 months old. I NEVER received maintenance, as you had to go to court in 1989. It was just before the Child Maintenance agency started. I have never asked my ex for anything material and have never asked him for help.

My Dad, Mum and Opa helped me when they could. I had the children in child care and I worked my way up, so my wages went up to. I always stood on my own 2 feet and am now comfortable. The kids have not missed out on anything, they have cars, went to a private school, I have a bolt hole at the coast for getaways with my family. I have worked hard, and the children are now 18 and 21, and they appreciate their lives.

My problem is that I have no sympathy for women who are ex's, who do not stand up for themselves, and expect there ex's to still do house stuff, fix the cars, lend them money etc... This has happened with my last 2 boyfriends who had clingy ex wives. And the men whinged to me about what they still had to do and how useless their ex's were, but still did what ever they were asked.

I found it really hard to handle. Especially as the children involved are teenagers and older!!! Women do not need to rely on men. Women are extremely capable and you can be a mother, lover, partner and in my case a project manager, all at once. You just have to make the decision that this is what you want, and go for it.

A man should be a partner friend and lover, not a provider for ex partners. Yes, Provide for the children but it should be a fair and equitable arrangement.

Soooooo I am looking for an equal, which is proving a lot harder than I thought it would be. But while I am searching for Mr Right, there is always Mr Right now!!!!

I will get off my soapbox now! But I am very passionate about this topic, just in case you hadn't noticed!!

PSSS ..Body type, I am honest, I am curvy, cuddly and a bit overweight. Some guys love it, some don't. Its back to Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 2, 2007 10:16 PM

It's not all the men. You may just have been unlucky.

Posted by: recently41 at September 2, 2007 8:07 PM

Loving reading this blog! Thought I would venture in with my experience so far. I'm enjoying RSVP as I think it is my age and the Australian culture that hinders me from having a life outside of my circle of friends. I work shift work and have a child. So while I am surrounded by men at work, for whatever reason, my opportunity to "date" is very limited. Yes I have met a couple of toads, but I'm hoping the current one is a frog!! Fingers crossed.

Posted by: whiteand1 at September 2, 2007 7:33 PM

Hi guys like Sharon it has taken me half the day to read this blog, but all in all I am not that shocked. People are people, wether we agree or disagree.The best cliche I like is that if u do not like someone be glad your not married to them. Thats the benefit of dating over 40, hopefully, some of us have learnt from our mistakes. If they haven't, well, I chose not to be involved. Remember, the good the bad and the ugly depend on the eyes of the beholder. If you chose a body, then thats all you will get. Bodies get old, personalities and good human qualities mature. Mind u some wine if not kept right go off. Nice chattin.

Posted by: mellownmild at September 2, 2007 6:13 PM

Okay, I take the hint!

My blogs are not valid, honest, whatever!!

I've decided today not to blog again anyway......I did start to blog under my rsvp name but changed it because I was actually criticised for my honesty about my situation.

I've never been anything but honest and open and mostly positive/supportive on these blogs but too many of you are scathing of people not using their true rsvp identities. I, personally, do not understand why you can't be anon, just me...but what the hell difference does it make, really??

Dating over forty is full of people who have these strange ideas about etiquette and others. People trying to impose their ideals on others.

My life policy- Live and let live...

Goodbye.

Posted by: Wishingandhoping at September 2, 2007 2:41 PM

oh, and highthreadcount, who appointed you the Oracle to define your version of honesty (ie putting up a profile)?
Blogging by its nature, and most net forums, is a place for people to discuss ideas openly. This can only really be done anonymously. Clearly you arent very net savvy, else you would know that. People do not have the courage of their convictions when exposed.

If you are so "honest" why do you hide all your pics? I guess you have your own definition of "showing who you are". And why do you claim you choose to be single, whilst having a profile up on a dating site?
You choose to be single, or men generally choose not to date you? Of course, much kinder to give yourself the former option.

Posted by: getReal at September 2, 2007 10:26 AM

My response - it is a sad fact of life - good sex is wonderful - but rarely is achieved by a first (and usually only) bonk. So if you judge the quality of sex by the fact that you achieved your own desired result - then perhaps your definition of "good" could be challenged. Perhaps the quality is achieved by knowing each other long enough to be able to remember their name the next morning. But again, I acknowledge this is purely a female point of view. The longest and continuing dilemma is that males want it "now" and the girls want it "later" and thus will ever be! I guess that it is fortunate that some manage to be able to comprimise, negotiate or just agree to differ.

Posted by: Alwaysthinking at September 2, 2007 9:12 AM

I was looking forward to reading the ideas here as I thought this was to be what over 40's wanted RSVP to improve or change to make our life easier or more fun. There have been a few great posts, but for the most part it has just been a bitch fest. Some things don't change from our 20's.
We all have our opinion, but I believe that if there is nothing nice to be said then say nothing.

Posted by: ruby761 at September 2, 2007 5:15 AM

decoratress Aug 31 11:27am If you are in the tree hugging mood I'd appreciate one as I'm probably as thick. What'd you get if we crossed EW's ute with your van that's got half a cat sticking out of the back of it??.

auntykaz about finding Mr alright.. you say want to go enjoy a Sunshine Coast beach right? rocco61 ( Sunshine Coast)Sagittarius 5'8" and auntykaz ( Mornington) Virgo 5'6"" -- rocco might show you the beach if he's not too busy searching for hidden charms?

rooco61 David I feel really sorry for you that the day you went to the beach looking for hiddencharms and her other curvaceous friend to come back there was 713mm of rain in the one day!! No wonder it dampened your spirits. they don't go struuting in the rain you know.. bad for the hairdo and the preeties get wet!!
Incidentally I wasn't racing around the backyard naked in my birthday suit howling along at the moon with highthreadcount.. it was too cold for that!!. I was naked in my birthday suit when I was snuggling up and delightfully warm and cosy at the blanket show.

Woodnwine congrats on starting this blog on June 29 and your contributing so much.

Trumanscat J I've just been reading back to the start of the blog while waiting for RSVP to update this blog sometime this year and bless you for your optimism as in the first blog you made on 29 June 1:14pm which was
" Each relationship has it's challenges but from that there is always a gift." Pity some of the phantom bloggers don't have much as maturity and insight as you do. Thank you

Loved the "Poet's Poem June 29 11:38pm.. well worth a nother read while waiting for the update?.

whatididfor love Sorry if I seem to be getting stuck into you as a phantom blogger and that you just didn't get it in relation to my comments to Elastic's blog so I'll try to explain my attitude to why I think her far too common predicament is an obstacle
to dating over 40 or at any age involving children capable of wiping their own backsides.

Parents , whether separated or living as a family who work their butts off keeping food on the table and a roof over their childrrn's heads without insisting on assistance from the children have only themselves to blame for not having time for themselves as a couple or as single or supporting parent for dating.

When I had an accident my 5 1/2 year old son used to bring me drinks and food. He was even able to make his own bed and empty the tidy bin at that age... things he was proud to do to help and proud of then and now 35 years later I am still proud of him doing whatever he could. Hope that makes the point clear that if one is too busy doing your children's share of the chores one is also probably too disinterested in life to make time to date.

To achieve what you expect it's a good idea to start by inspecting yourself.. in the mirror is a good starting point and see if you like the person looking back at you.

Posted by: datelessnot desperate at September 2, 2007 1:42 AM

Ohhhh Ladies Puhlease, I just love the way comments are made about how the men trash talk the women and how there are such an abundance of attractive females but not quite the availability of similar males. Well ladies perhaps if you stopeed thinking of yourselves as being the sought after Item and actually took a look in the mirro once in a while you might actually get it that we are also very selective and we don't need to chase a woman who is 10 years older than us just because she thinks that she is a rare commodity. Ladies the older you get the less you have to bargan with (you age lets face it), however, the older we get the more we have (assets, and we don't age quite as obviously as you).Sorry girls but those are the facts and you know it.

Posted by: Chucky at September 2, 2007 1:23 AM

whatididfor love The following is a reprint of a real article published Aug 31 2007. What it has to do with dating over 40 is to open the eyes of some over 40 that men are well capable of looking after their children after the mothers of their children walk out on them . It may explain the point of a previous blog you don't appear to relate to "Dads do care. Latest Child Support Agency (CSA) figures show the number of separated fathers who care for their children the majority of the time has increased . CSA general manager Matt Miller said the figure had increased from 7.5 per cent in 1997 to 23 percent in 2007." So much for the real world wherein nearly 1 in 4 of separated men now needs to look after his children. Wonder how many of the non-custodial mothers are paying maintenance for their children while they are "shacked up' with another man and not working? So that may explain why a lot of the missing men are between 40 and 55 besides the ones who, if they are going to have to have a high maintenance model, they prefer a younger one who might want to "play house" with the children. Incidentally when I was a single parent I wasn't getting a wage because my ex's 3 boyfriends beat me up when I tried to get her to come home to breast feed our son. I'm not bitter.. she is the one that then missed out on raising him. The point of the comment was some people ( who won't even reveal their profile) don't even accept there are two sides to the story and neither side is ever blameless when children's security is disrupted and destroyed. Such was clearly illustrated to me by my son when he was about 16 when he said" How dare you or my mother talk to me about ethics, manners, morals, honour, cecency or standards when you and my mother couldn't even stay together and make a home for me to grow up in until I was old enough to get a job and stand on my own two feet. "
He wasn't being unfair but factual and it's about time some of the cry baby blameless accepted their part of dashing children's dreams and rights to be bought up with the two people who conceived them. For those who don't like the facts and don't accept part of the blame and irresponsibility and continue to live the lie of not having any baggage.. solely your denied own...too bad. Truth is truth no matter how often it is denied , excused or rejected. Here's to honesty and reality Terry Take care, Be Aware and Beware

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 2, 2007 12:50 AM

I'm not going to get into the debate on looks. As far as I'm concerned, everyone is entitled to their point of view, and all our views differ anyway.

One thing I would like to query is what happened to courtship?

Many of us over 40s are looking for something special, but finding it seems to be like looking for a needle in a haystack.

There are many men out there who put in their profiles they are looking for friendship first then a relationship, yet when you meet them, they suddenly expect kisses and cuddles on the first date, and sex on the second. I wouldn't do that with a friend, and who has had time to develop any feelings in such a short time anyway, except the truly blessed 'love at first sight' types. For the rest of us, things take time, but we are rarely given it.

It is especially relevant if we decide to date a man who may not appear as physically attractive to us as we had hoped, but we are still drawn to who they are. When we are then hit on after the second date of course we recoil. Give us time to get to know you guys!

Posted by: PurrrFectMatch at September 1, 2007 11:07 PM

wwff8, Aug31
Thank you, for your kind words, you shouldn't encourage my humour, it will only end in tears, mine.
That makes two now that like my jokes, me and you.
TC said she thought I was funny but that was after she veiwed my profile photo, so I think she meant funny looking.
My humour was not intended to be childish, I was aiming for pubescent, my mental age according to my Father.
Speaking of whom, did I tell you about the time my Father thought my Mother was having an affair?
When I was about 12, I overheard my Father talking to Charlie, our next door neighbour, as I recall the conversation went something along the lines of;
Charlie; Frank( that's my Father's name, endless hours of amusement for me with rhyming nicknames) Frank, I think my wife is having an affair with the milkman.
Frank; Why is that Charlie?
Charlie; Because I just found a milk crate, full of empty milk bottles under the our bed.
Frank; Don't worry about that Charlie, about 12 years ago, I thought my wife was having an affair with a horse.
Charlie; A HORSE? Why would you ever think that?
Frank; Because I came home one day and found a jockey under the bed.
That may explain why my Father is so tall and I'm only 5'8" and why I like to shop in my brightly coloured silk pyjamas whilst carring a riding crop..... hmmm....think I need to have words with my Mother.

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 1, 2007 8:37 PM

getReal, posted Aug 29 11.33
I tried to post a somewhat positive message to DeeRee, about her dating problems, I only wish I could offer her more in the way of advice but I can't. Being nice costs nothing and can make you feel good, you should try it.
Did your mother never teach you that if you don't have anything nice to say about someone then don't say anything at all.
Try walking a mile in someone else's shoes before you decide to judge. Most women I know who have a weight problem, do so because they are unhappy in their lives and the "comfort" eating adds weight which adds to the unhappiness.

Different people deal with lifes adversities in different ways. Some drink, some take drugs, some find God, some eat, some don't eat, some fly airliners into skyscapers, ect.
In my case, I don't have an eating problem, what I have is a daughter who has become happier and changed for the better since her mother left and a son who thinks it's his fault she left and that he should be able to change it back. He now suffers from depression and is being medicated, seeing a psychiatrist and a psychologist and it seems to be having no effect and he is not yet 17. Somedays I just want to punch some sense into him, tell him to get his shit together but I know this won't help.
Divorce and unhappy marriages are all around, kids and adults react to them in different ways sometimes two different responses within the one family. Those who are not coping can do without the critisism.
If all you have to worry about in life is getting a "slim' root then you are lucky.

David-rocco61

Posted by: at September 1, 2007 6:29 PM

Hi All,
Interesting little thread this...

Don't really see the point in attempting to put genitals on rudeness....

I'm a 41 y/o male &
can lay claim to the same sorts of problems as most people here, IE- received kisses from Ladies & thought " Have ya even read my words??", no reply from outgoing kisses all the way up to having the ones that simply were a waste of a stamp, wanted contact, (i was raised a Gentleman), did so then zilch...might be my words didnt strike a chord, may have been bad timing, could have been a huge number of variables that come into play, & lets never forget that some 'People' are just A##holes, pure & simple....could be the owner of a doodle or an Anti-doodle, It's People!!

To be totally honest i've probably even been guilty of it myself, have received mail from some ladies & tried-as politely as one can-to say Thank you but sorry theres something missing, then the awkwardness of trying to find a honest reply to a kiss that doesn't feel like its gonna feel be a slap in the face of the sender??

I think several factors can be attibutted ... Some are shy, some may be bad timing, toss in this site's layout, which aint exactly geared up to providing a decent reply without it costing a ridiculous amount of $$, then add the whole complex nature of human attraction & aw gee's....

Cheers All
Daryl

Posted by: Daryl474 at September 1, 2007 4:33 PM

@highthreadcount

Stats are stats. Simple % calculations are not rocket science. Get over it. Australia is crawling with fatties.

Get a degree? Who said I didnt have one? Not that it bears any relevance. How litttle you know when you presume as you do.

Posted by: getReal at September 1, 2007 3:00 PM

HAPPY FATHERS DAY to all the Dad's that are over 40 !!... hope you guys get as spolit as I do !!!

... and ladies .. if you know a Dad other than your own .. why not just wish them a special day just for the sake of it .. or even better .. blow them a kiss .... :)

Posted by: JustAGuyThatIsHappyToBe40 at September 1, 2007 1:59 PM

Wow! that was an experience reading through (most of) that lot. Some pleasant others not so pleasant, some funny others sad, some interesting others just plain boring - a lot like life really I guess.

on the settlement thing - very scary. I am just entering into that bullring after leaving things as 'they were' for 3 years until my kids were independent. I will tryto remain positive despite what I've read here cause at the end of the day, it's only material stuff.

on the whole image honesty thing - not honest if you don't even put your name to your blog. However, people do make choices based on what is presented here - I do look for someone who is active & healthy - and if you start chatting and then meet someone a week or so aint going to be long enough to go from a bit overweight to average/slim. so in the end your only going to disappoint yourself. It's definitely not easy getting/staying in shape and living a busy life but it can be done. Being older bald, short, not that attractive when even the 45yrs, 5ft 2in women on here want 35yr, 6ft tall, dark & handsome - that's just an impossible hurdle to get over. OK - I shouldn't generalise, I'm not bitter and twisted and I only suffer 3 & a half of those 4 afflictions so far, so maybe I haven't got it that bad and should perservere a little longer.

"Not to take a risk is the greatest risk in life"

Posted by: IamasIbe at September 1, 2007 1:45 PM

Hi all I am a 1st time blogger. Wow.. after reading all these blogs I realise that I have a cruddie profile and I don't appear to do the courteous. I answer kisses in the wrong way by saying that I have just responded to someone esle. I thought I was being kind but alas, I now understand I was being rude. Hmmm okay I will tidy it all up this week.

And I need a new closeup photo that shows the wrinkles. Does anyone know how I can say short and skinny?? lol

Posted by: ella21 at September 1, 2007 11:50 AM

I actually find many women to be quite rude.

A) The amount of money a man makes is such an issue that it determines whether a woman stays or goes:
B) They often don't reply to kisses:
C) They create the impression that they're interested and keep you on a string for a few weeks, then suddenly disappear without warning or reason having wasted time and stamps:
D) They refuse to come out from behind their emails.

You're right Raphael62. It works both ways. Kindness at times appears to be a thing of the past.

Posted by: georgecloooney at September 1, 2007 10:54 AM

Whoops, typo in my last blog. It should read "why are the men so insulting of women on 'this' site", meaning in these blogs.

Posted by: Raphael62 at September 1, 2007 10:40 AM

@ SHREDDED- I dont know the full story,but GOODLUCK! What do they say " If you have lost something, look for it where you last had it" P.S Doesnt mean you will find it there.....or...here for that matter. THE PROBLEM WITH DATING OVER 40- see above blog comments/attitudes AND profiles (if you can!) And I thought ceramic tilers were in big demand! Do you need to be licenced to be a dragonslayer? JUST KIDDING! I want the rest of my life to be a DRAGON FREE ZONE! @ EARLWYOMING-AUG19- I dont care if you were joking or not? You may have said it how it is! GIVE ME THE PRINCESS, YOU CAN KEEP THE DRAGON!!!@ Raphael62- it goes bothways! guys AND gals! P.S TO ALL- I have been fortunate enough to have had a cancer scare, it only cost me a finger on my right hand(so far) but made me realise what is really important in this life, for me anyway. We all need to take a long hard look in the mirror at times, most of the answers to our questions are there to see. If you dont like my attitude now, you should have seen "pre cancer" william! IMANENIGMA

Posted by: imanenigma at September 1, 2007 9:09 AM

Dear dateless and desperate

Thank you for your astuteness. I am trying to place your face. If you are one of those who pays my cheques, say so. Gotta keep my food lines intact.

But as for children, yes I have sired 4 that I know of. But they have disowned me, roughly about the time I turn to The King for succour. The story of my life. Back in the early days it used to be root, shoot and run before the paternity suit caught up with you, but they were the good times. Then I made $200 a throw by donating to a sperm bank, paid per use, so there are roughly 150 extra floating around somewhere. Keep a lookout out for tall (well over 6ft), handsome, good looking true blue young aussie males and females. Just don't come up to me in the street and call me "Dad" unless of course you have a well over due Fathers Day present for me (digital cameras and electronics please).

But children. Think of your Dad's image. That is why I am Earl Wyoming. Something for you to be proud of.

Posted by: at September 1, 2007 7:57 AM

Dear Decoratress,

My Bogan from The Logan persona was for the benefit of a certain femme who shared a love of violent industrial rock, more specificially a Rammstein lover. But she has blocked me on every single site. C'est la vie. Doesn't even want to go to Germany where she was born, for a visit.

I am a true blue hippie (for a week) like 50000 others who all pretend to be hippies for a week. At least I get to practice my cowboy image twice a year. But I can't stay in hippie mode for 2 long as the Elvis Convention follows quick smart. But meanwhile there is MCG madness then petrol head month Bathurst and Indi to wade through and drool over the slimline sights.

I can always offer you a long term committed relationship (at least for 1 week) before changing personas.

For everyone else, please remember, as one newpaper recently said, there is no hiding place on the Net. Unless you have been locked in some cupboard, you will be observed in the flesh. Well at least with clothes on.

Signed:

EarlWyoming

Please note I have changed my name (pro tem) to try and cotton on to a little lovely who has a fixation on Midnight. Not quite sure what happens at midnight. I'm usually sound asleep by 8pm with my colestomy bag rigged to save what Ornamental Only described as visits to the urinal every 5 minutes.

Posted by: at September 1, 2007 7:31 AM

I like the smell of Jazz or Aramis, not Brut or Old Spice. Has any guy heard of moisturiser for their arms and hands? Would it be too much to ask that they wash their hair and dry it so it does not look oily or "Bruille Creamed"? My Grandad used to "Bruille" his hair. It always looked oily and fake. He was 88 when he died 10 years ago.

I don't like the 2 foot beards. I don't like the hippie and afghan look. I hate tattoos. I like my guys to be neat, clean and tidy in dress, if not trendy - what is trend, after all? Not coming from work in their oil spattered King Gees!!!

I like the smell of "grass roots" and reality and working hard and paying bills and cooking dinner and curling up in bed late at night. Not just for sex, but for the comfort of knowing you have someone there who genuinely cares for you.

I'm staying hidden, doing my own contact, in my own time...to find a candidate of my age/ideals/interests/compatibility and who do not see sex as their right as a 65+ with nothing else to do! This does not make me any other person on this site, just someone who has been scared off by the type of person I attract, and would rather do the pursuing myself. No, I am not Catch-me-if-you-can. A race horse, I do believe. Probably grounded at the moment.

Although, after reading through the incident, most bloggers were more concerned with protecting their own anons and misdemeanours, that they failed to realise the 'speed' in which this great race horse sped in and gave you all something to answer for. No-one came up with quantitative answers, so one would have to assume that you are all non-plussed by the strange and unaccountable anons who raced in with strangely inconsequential responses to the war raging between 2 particular bloggers - HC and R61. I don't understand. If 2 bloggers choose to argue, what right do others have to intervene and add fuel to the fire? Or, unless my eyes deceive me, and last check I was OK, where do other bloggers get to dive in and absolve r61 of all past sins, when admitting you do not know what they are? I'm baffled. Where do other people abominate him of sins, when they are not involved in the exchange? If this is none of my business, then it it not the business of the people who dive in and absolved him of his sins (?) Totally confused. Unless you are the agrieved party, where do you get off granting absolution? Then, twittering about trying to get rid of him in other blogs. Nice people!

In the meantime, after reading the same blogs, from the same people (not HC or R61), day and night, day after day, across all blog sprectrums, I realise that finding my mate hinges more on me getting out in the real world.

I do pick up on the snickers and the twitters and hidden innuendo behind personal correspondence that appears in the other blogs. It is rude and hurtful. There is an old saying: If you can say nothing nice, say nothing at all. Slyness says it all.

Rocco61, I bet you never guessed in a thousand years that the same people who support you and your sarcstic, childish wit, in this bog, wish everyone well in "getting rid of you" in other sites?

RSVP is not the solution to loneliness and lovelessness. I realised, early within my epic journey into the world of all the the blogs, that I needed to take a proactive stance against singledom. I needed to find people and places to keep me amused and may lead me to Mr-almost-right. Over the last week or so I have read every single blog submitted, ever. Depressing. Stressful. Especially when the same people say the same things, over and over again, in other blog sites, day after day, month after month and admit to being here year after year. Some even have admitted to being on other dating sites, repeatedly for several years. I am just amazed by the calibre of dating ettiquette going on. More amazed by the games people are playing with anonymous and hurtful blog names & games. Even more so when the same "garbageology" erupts at the same time, by the same people, in other blogs. The "play nicley" stuff wears thin when reinforceced over and over again by the same people. siome who even said they were leaving the blogs in disgust!

I honestly thought that you people/we/us were out here to find someone to fill our lives....not some computer screen to be published and emortalised when we see our name come up and have several other anons reply with equally insincere, insalubrious comments, that are supposed to commensurate our desperate and dateless situation? Do you get a thrill out of having your name in print? Has to be better than having conversations with yourself!

Who was it that said, that if the people with the multiple personalities and multi-blog-personas disappeared, then the real people would be revealed and remain in the Over 40s? Malsie? I think this site defends itself. At present. The multiple personas have disappeared (albeit to other sites) and left this site to get on with Over 40 dating, and the flirtation and pleasantries and dillemmas that an Over 40 dating site should entail.

Thanks. To all (anons and some bitter profile names) who deserted. At least now we have a pretty fair indication of what has been going on.

Time to do something about it - or me, anyway. back out to Aqua-aerobics and swim fitness. Mixed Netball fills another night. I've been told that Monday and Friday nights at the local supermarkets are absolute "singles nights". Nothing else to do. Dinner with the kids at Sizzler fills another night.

Whilst shopping for Fathers Day pressie this evening (for my father), came across a whole heap of single Dads, out buying very expensive pressies for themselves, to give to their kids, to give them for Fathers Day. They are not even ashamed of it. It is so sad - the ex wont' even allow the purchase of a box of chocs. The kids don't think of it because "Dad" is just a playmate and pass-the-time phase in their life. Dad wants more than a box of chocs and a school made card. I'm wondering where parenting kicks in or out, and materialism kicks in. What do these guys do? Write on a card that says " I love you", unwrap their new DVD player, paid for by themselves and go tell all and sundry that they got a fantastic gift?

I spent 2 nights going through the Yellow Pages and Google, finding things to keep me amused. Joining the local Wine Appreciation club means I can go on Winery Tours and lunches, and have even found a part time job catering for small weddings and receptions (money is good for everything when a single mom).

Googling and further researching some people on rsvp and the blogs gave me further insight into the people I am communicating with. Some people thought we weren't smart enough to work out how to track people!

Although, I did have some concerns about an email I received, apparently from a would-be-Russian-Bride, maintaining that she had received my personal email address from this dating site. I'm a woman and she is looking for a husband. Problem is, my email address was given out by someone who had contacted me and I had shared a confidence!

I may be just a "rookie" to this internet dating, but it really gives me the creeps!

Look foward to next weeks escapades of those glued to thei computer screen, instead of out in the real world, building a life!

Posted by: Rookie40something at September 1, 2007 2:11 AM

Thank you everyone on this blog- well mostly everyone-lol. I have been sitting here catching up on the last few days of entries, having many a quiet chuckle-and some not so quiet, though I don't even think a bomb would wake up my kids-lol.

I really needed a laugh tonite as I will be seeing my ex tomorrow and filling out the divorce papers finally. There is a sense of relief that it is all finally settled, as he has been an Olympic level procrastinator every step of the way even though he instigated the separation-lol. There is also, as I am sure many of you have felt at that time, a regret for the dreams and possibilities that will no longer be. Sorry- late nite ramblings can be maudlin-lol.

I do agree with woodnwine-August 28th -that though I am financially worse off, I am better off emotionally.

Clarrice-loved your story! I would love to be the coffee bean and grow through adversity and improve the situation around me. I suspect that I, like many other people though, have reacted at times as the eggs and the carrots did. That is why I like that so many of the bloggers on this site are so supportive of each other- well at least most of the time.
Humour also goes a long way to helping in the uplifting of each other- so keep it up plz. I think as over 40's on the same dating minefield- oh of course I mean journey-lol-these blogs are a good forum to discuss many issues , as well as be there , as fellow humans, for each other.

If you find I have been checking out your profiles, it is because I like to find out more about you all as people- put faces and profiles to the thoughts you present here.

Hopefully I can get some sleep now
Karen (fellow bloggers breathe a sigh of relief that the rambling has stopped-lol)

Posted by: karenchocolat at September 1, 2007 2:06 AM

Wow first time for me reading the blogs and I think I am having more fun reading them then the 7 kisses I sent out, this seems like good healthy debating, with heaps of laughter, and the guys going on about women not being honest about their size well isnt that perception, the way each person sees themself, some days I feel fatter then other days which one should I put on my profile, so to me average is the best I can do. I would just love to meet a guy that was happy to get to know the mind and soul first, without having to fight them off on the second date, yes I am a sensual, sexy women but that doesnt mean I want to go to bed with someone I don't know.

Posted by: QUAINT! at September 1, 2007 1:29 AM

Decoratress Dating over 40 - just discovered the blog police's secret tracking number. Glad to see you have offers of 5 star available and don't need the pup tent offer from EW. You may be surprised that I do agree with you 100% and like you "I chose to accomodate" her "insecurity in order to be left alone.... But peace of mind and a clear conscience are priceless". so true. Good advice to EW about his rainbow if he ever finds it. Your machine is much more decorative and got my atention too peace, contentment & happiness.

highthreadcount Good on you for getting up getReal and being enough of a lady to not say to getLost and other comments which I would if was a woman.You ere your usual gracious self giving sharonevr some reassurance but I'm wondering if this RSVP "free drink" (wine) is a good idea or what? Seems that theree is too much foolish enticement of people using freebies. A very close (platonic - yes unfortunately) went an d had her "free" wine. . had "one for the road" (total 2 standard glasses of wine) and hopped in her car thinking she'd be OK. Was RBT'd at .059 lost and fined $400. On top of that she had to beg for a license to get to and from work so was offered the same with a 6month suspension of license except for going to and from work during normal business hours. Couldn't visit her housebound sick mother or any others in her remote locality.She didn't try to duck the blame for her carelessness but vowed to never ever havea drink and drive ever again as it's not worth the cost which is more than most ever imagine not to mention the shame she had to face telling her mother why she had lost her license. Perhaps that is relevant to dating over 40 and life in general? I don't mind a drink at home or away for the weekend but while driving should be a no no as that's how so many innocents end up injured, maimed and no longer with us.
What do other bloggers think about a real issue?

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at September 1, 2007 1:06 AM

Well done Raphael62. I wish there are more like you. It's my luck that I get kissed by men whose profile I don't like but I usually reply politely and move on. We all have different expectations; but most, if not all, sincerely want to find friendship or relationship on his site. People lie about their age/size, but they will stay on this site for a long long time because they will not find anybody who appreciates dishonesty. So guys (both men and women) if you have been unsuccessful for many months or years, try changing what you write about yourself, may be the truth won't hurt.

Posted by: lifeisbeautiful4me at September 1, 2007 12:20 AM

ring,ring,,,highthreadcount;

It does not follow that an opinion or comment is invalid nor the writer dishonest in a public forum just because personal curiousity about the writer is not satisfied. I don't think the name highthreadcount is listed in the white pages and you have hidden your photo...so you are just as anonymous as me.

What is your reasoning for these comments?

Some time back a blogger talked about the difference between anonymous posts and remaining anonymous while sticking to the same blog name(not necessarily profile name) for the benefit of the group but was told she was being a control freak by those who could not grasp the concept. To ensure group disharmony and to prove their point they began to blog anonymously and that is what led to a change in tone of the blogs from fun and lighthearted to now.

Your profile states
"UR who you think UR"

at this moment I think I am anonymous.....

btw you eat whiskers? and I see you have a very insensitive line in there too..spastically happy

Thankyou for your time, goodbye....

Posted by: telemarketer at September 1, 2007 12:09 AM

Helooooo?? are their any villains out there tonite? TGIF and tomorrow is spring!! If you heard a lot of mumbling and cursing it was just me having my post trashed again by another RSVP system collapse. Probably because this blog is using so much memory loading?

Now that I've found my Sheriff's badge. Left it at the blanket show!! have to change my birthday suit again!!

EarlWyoming will you please stop trying to destroy my "Darling Deputys" recruiting drive by trying to pach and entice my sweties up to Woodford Woohoo!! land.

woodnwine Thanks for saying in a few words "Please don't misrepresent the truth" what I've been trying to say in 2,916, 704 words!!.

Clarrice Now that I've discovered it's your keyboard that is generating the upside down question marks followed by 1/2 could you please tell me how you manage it or is it secret women's business??

Hc, OO, TC , htc Watchout for wwff8 looks like she is flirting with rocco though claims not to be?

Raphael62 Good point but what the men and the women are "down on" is those who won't reveal their profile name let alone their profile and photos 11who cares if they want to hide they can do that alone which is what they seem to prefer.

Full marks to the "young sweetie" who graced "a silly old man" [SOM or SOB] by going right out of her way to meet for coffee yesterday afternoon.. thank you LS.

The remarkable thing fellas is I didn't recognise her at first because she looked ever so much younger and lovelier than her RSVP photo. No! Michael and David and Earl you do your own sweeties chasing!! he he I'm away for now .. gotta looka fter my worldly pleasures take care The Sheriff Terry

Posted by: datelesnotdesperat at September 1, 2007 12:07 AM

Earlwyoming: Just wondering what code of "top grade football" you hail to referee from...I have brothers (all in my/our age group or younger) who have played "top grade" in Soccer, League, Union and AFL in Bris, SEQ region, state and national level...and a brother who captained a Bris Team to schoolboy Commonwealth Bank Cup finals some years ago, whilst I managed the team in the absence of anyone game enough to get out and run and spar with 17 yr olds....(now coaches a Colts team that feeds a major club) Just curious....Maybe you would care to elaborate...You see, I spent a good many years, in my youth, as a Junior soccer ref...then several years as a "strapper" for a very high profile Bris Union Team...(all for my brothers) had to give it up when bursting with pregnancy and getting divorced....Still get complimentary tickets to Suncorp, courtesy of a League playing brother.....

Now, at the ripe old age of 41, happily engaged in regaining credentials, and getting back into the swing of a busy, active, healthy and productive life....Don't mean to sound rude, but why would a very sports-oriented person give it all up at the prime of his life for roadie bands, groupies, brothels, unsolicitied sex etc....? There are lots of opportunities out there to continue to maintain sporting interests, even if the knees are a bit weak, and the gut a bit paunchy...I have a friend (40 pushing 50) who is way over total physical stress on his body now, even for a game of baseball, but is diligently coaching U8s in a very low socio-economic community and loving every minute of his tutoring, role modelling, little physical activity, but enormous emotional and mental stimulation. He even loves all the contact with the "single mommies" who bring their kids into the game....

By the way: The RaceyTracey comments..... a punn at me from the person concerned...why did you have to create add ons, like trips and freebies....? Has no-one ever told you that gossip, innuendo and adding to stories only breeds further....? Read my blogs around 13 July. Get the picture.

PS: Not attacking. Just asking questions to unresolved blog conversations and profile questionability...Don't attack, please!!!

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 31, 2007 10:59 PM

Dear Rocco 28.8 I confer .I did not read correctly u did email her.But could u pls enlighten me .....your email with the 5 letters inclusive of the R word ...was that "witty,charming or intelligent or honest'...pls check that dictionary of yours because the meaning is different in mine!!!As I read and write at night my blog will most likely have a mistake or two !!.....guilty as charged ... am definately not anal with my spelling.Rocco regarding "sex becoming another chore just like mowing the lawn".....Terry I think u need to have a "man to man ' talk with Rocco about his analogy.Maybe u can give him some of your great wisdom.
Datelessnot desperate ...for all of us not having sex at this present time in our life we can enjoy your fond memories!!....and your wicked sense of humour ......."mantlepiece..."....made me laugh.May I say not in a smutty way but in a humourous way ....keep it up ....u know women do like men who make them laugh. And yes it is a compliment to be desired by a man .....but alot would not have the faintest idea how to do that nowadays.
Clarrice loved your carrots,egg and coffee story vey applicable to us all.
Deb...beeree.29.8........It is not what other people think of us ...its what we think of ourselves ....trust in your own beauty whatever that be .....and do not put up with rudeness from ANYBODY.Raise the bar.....love being with yourself,be your own best friend ...and then you can compliment someone else.You won't be their to boost their fragile and juvenile egos .And you dont sound sad to me at all.Raise your head and raise that bar.
Rocco,Datelessnot desperate and Earl Wyoming u all make me laugh!!....but Earl as another blogger said are u serious?????.........Have just deleted some script promised myself would become more like the coffee bean so no nasties....but it was abeauty!!!.......Be nice to women Earl ....trust me u will get more sex!!.....

Fiesty &^40

Posted by: Fiesty female &^40 at August 31, 2007 10:15 PM

Rocco: I should be terribly cross with you! I had to go out and buy a new spade to play nicely in our sandbox - I broke my old one over your head, remember? I was going to send you a bill for the $2 replacement (tongue in cheek, remember)....until I read your hilarious commentary on Terry watching the moon eclipse!!!!

Naughty boy! I can't help it - I shall go to bed tonight, with visions of naked, moon dancing Terry baying at the moon dancing in my head and singing the theme song from "Gilligan's Island"....I'm now using my new spade to bash your profile pic via my screen (giggling). If your ears are ringing, it is because I copped the screen a really good shot! I shall not sleep a wink...! Thanks!

I have a conference to go to tomorrow (the last scheduled from my horror contract job, thankfully). I can just see me, answering questions with: "Just sit right back...." Ha-de-ha! Have a glass of wine in hand - cheers!

Terry: David let the cat out of the bag. We decided to act like big, big kids in the sandbox and settle our little differences, privately, instead of in the public eye of the blogs. We communicated quite politely, apoligising and calling a truce. Nothing more sinister...or sexy...or flirtatious...

You dirty old man, with your fixation on my pjs....I just happen to like the feel of satin - under my brother's old footie jersey and trackie pants when I curl up with my Teddy Bear and doona.....(No pics, Rocco, just a naughty comment I made some time back). You haven't seen me with my very sexy and glamorous specs perched on the end of my nose...I wonder how long the new image will stay imbedded in your brain...?

And, no, you old sweetie, I don't mean to insult you over the moon eclipse stories....Rocco just tickled my fancy...The image is quite fascinating...er, interesting...no, mind boggling....You can see, I am back in my normal Day Job, and getting back to my sarcastic but chirpier self...who would have thought that anything Rocco would have to say not only brightened my day, but tickled my fancy...?

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 31, 2007 9:49 PM

Wow...Clarrice dated 31/8/07....What a beautiful inspiring stories you said, your clever to give us Logical Element...Well Done!....it served the purpose well, in milestone. Thanks.

Posted by: Aliane at August 31, 2007 9:49 PM

Some may wonder why others get fed up with some of the rubbish on here. I will say that l am a little sick of the kneejerker reaction by datelessnotwhatever.

Obviously is unable to attract and keep anyone of value as it seems that most if not all of his female partners have left him along with all his loot!!!

Many of the blogs by women on here HAVE had a go at men, myself included (my ex) but like to think that not all men are awful.
l spoke from my own personal experience and did not generalise about all men as that is wrong.

Maybe l should rethink this.

Happy day.........k

Posted by: auntykaz at August 31, 2007 9:04 PM

Regarding all the ongoing hoohaa about weight.

Everyone has different preferences.

I agree with funlovertoo who said on August 28, 2007 9:23 AM in another topic:

"These days especially I don't go for that very thin look - no reserves in case of illness."
----------------------------------------------------

For myself, I have always worried about thin males (and even myself if I get too thin).

Too skinny reminds me of an underweight child and I just want to feed it until it grows up. ;)

And to be honest, I also prefer someone bulky enough to protect me (sorry Andrew Denton -but I still love your mind!) and also someone I can get a really good hold of, knowing he won't break!

Nice too, if a male can sling me over their shoulder if there ever is a need and it's a bonus if someone is tall enough so I don't lose them in a crowd.

These days confound it, if anything is too small -I lose it!

Now where are those specs of mine *grumble*. -Guess this is finally relating to something in the Over 40s topic. :)

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 31, 2007 9:01 PM

To all: RaceyTracey's comments "lurking in the blogs" and "how the mighty (or mightly?) have fallen" were directed at me. Absolutely not worth any further comment.

Auntykaz & others: I too was financially screwed by my ex...and the hundreds of stunts he has pulled over the years, shirking responsibility to, and humiliating and hurting MY daughter. She no longer considers him her father. His best "stunt", a few years ago, and the last time she saw him, was dropping his pants to show her his new "piercing".....In regards to the Super - I had it sewn into our final settlement that neither party could touch any Super entitlement at all. You see, back in the days of the dinosaurs, when he quit his job to prove to the courts that he had no income or assets, he also took his Super and blew it all...so he had no Super. I bought him out of the house and all other associated debts, and was absolutely determined that he would NEVER get another cent out of me! Considering that he is 12 years older than me, and will be retiring earlier, there is no way in Hell that I will top up his retirment fund when he is broke and destitute. Let him experience what I went through whilst struggling to raise a baby, pay mortgage, personal loans, babysitting, court fees, and a huge cash settlement for him. They do say revenge is sweet. I also have my pretty fantastic kid to drive me insane with grandkids when I'm old and dotty...

Outta here...or will go over my 500 word limit...

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 31, 2007 8:46 PM

Regarding all the ongoing hoohaa about weight.

Everyone has different preferences.

I agree with funlovertoo who said on August 28, 2007 9:23 AM in another topic:
"These days especially I don't go for that very thin look - no reserves in case of illness."

For myself, I have always worried about thin males (and even myself if I get too thin).

Too skinny reminds me of an underweight child and I just want to feed it until it grows up. ;)

And to be honest, I also prefer someone bulky enough to protect me (sorry Andrew Denton -but I still love your mind!) and also someone I can get a really good hold of, knowing he won't break!

Nice too, if a male can sling me over their shoulder if there ever is a need and it's a bonus if someone is tall enough so I don't lose them in a crowd.

These days confound it, if anything is too small -I lose it!

Now where are those specs of mine *grumble*. -Guess this is finally relating to the Over 40s topic.

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 31, 2007 8:35 PM

I haven't had so much fun on these blogs since my last marriage.
Now!! Raphael62
You may ask why the men are so rude,I will tell you.
Because the women are ruder!!

How would you feel if the love of your life constantly turns you down?...what is wrong with these women?

Boo hoo hooo hoo,I am so broken hearted ,despondent,depressed and aggressive ,I need a psychiatrist,well that is half true,he has helped me a lot heheheheheheh!!!!!
I think more need to see one .
Actually being fair dinkum now I will say that the love of my life died in a car accident two years ago, she was 29.
What!!! an old guy with a 29 year old!!!
Well,shit happens!
That is why I am bemused byt the antics of women who are truly full of themselves and over the hill.
And that is why I am so rude and arrogant.......because I know shit from clay,have been there done that and yet the antics of older women amaze me.
As far as I am concerned what ever I get from here till I die is a bonus.
God has looked after me well,and given me plenty of lessons on life and I guess that is why he has sent me to RSVP for further punishment.

Posted by: thefotografer at August 31, 2007 8:32 PM

getReal, its ok we understand that in being a complete wanker you are compensating for the unusually small penis you have and that women everywhere are rejecting you. i am sure out there somewhere is a woman that doesn't discriminate when it comes to size.

Posted by: at August 31, 2007 8:18 PM

Why are the men so insulting of women on his site? Seems a bit childish, exactly the same could be said about the men. Everyone is an individual, if you don't like a profile, look at another one.

Posted by: Raphael62 at August 31, 2007 4:32 PM

sharonevr ~ welcome ~ I haven't done the Brisbane functions, but have been to the ones in Newcastle and they're alright. I've had fun at the ones I've been to. They give you a mingle list so you get out-of-your-box and meet people, but you don't have to do that if you don't want to. I'd suggest it first up though, because it breaks the ice for you and gets you more relaxed.

Prepay online and save on the cost too...you usually get a "free" drink if you arrive by a certain time (wine).

There are plenty of people who go on their own as well as in a group. I think you can let the organisers know when you arrive that you're alone and they might introduce you to someone else. Which might be nice :)

Try it! Go have a dance and a laugh. It's good for the soul.

Hope your experience of rsvp is a happy one ... and if you see me in your side-bar, I'm just having a virtual drink with you, girl. What'll you have?

HTC aka highthreadcount

Posted by: highthreadcount at August 31, 2007 2:59 PM

getReal ~ Where do you get off trashing women, when you don't even have the decency and honesty to put your profile up for bloggers to see who you are? What have *you* got to hide?

People, maybe it's just the red-moon the other night, maybe something else, but I am so sick of people using this blog (and often whinging or starting flame-wars) yet not having the good manners to have a visible profile so those of us that are honest can see who we are dealing with.

Is it too much to ask? I read so many comments about being honest. Honest about weight, about age, about marital status. If you want honesty, use your real rsvpname in the blogs and unhide your profile, please. If you are seeing someone, what are you doing here? If it's friendship you're looking for, then say it in your profile (you know you can change the words and pictures and passwords, its not that hard).

I don't expect to see everyone's photos, as I understand that many of us have precluding situations, but a profile that a blogger can go to would be GOOD MANNERS.

People who use these blogs anonymously or under fake pseudonyms are just like telemarketers that make unsolicited phone calls.

I've had my whinge. I now feel better. Thanks getReal, for giving me the opportunity to Vhent. Your use of "statistics" is nasty and poorly judged. Get a degree. Then we can talk statistics.

Posted by: highthreadcount at August 31, 2007 2:51 PM

Rocco

This is just a message of appreciation. I have so enjoyed your blogs, the politically incorrect and heart felt. Your childish humour is so wonderfully childish. I even enjoy the responses you envoke. So for all those who find you like a piece of dirt under your fingernail, I find you a good cleanser : ).

This is not a come on as RSVP has been good to me, but just a message from one blogger to another. Hope it makes you smile.

Dating over 40, means we should all know, to take things in life, less seriously and with a bit more wisdom. Well that's the plan..............

cheers
wwff8

Posted by: wwff8 at August 31, 2007 11:52 AM

Dating over 40's the same minefield as it is at any age... Blog Topic Police appeased.

EarlWyoming at August 30...

ha ha, thanx for the reminder... I knew I'd seen you before- I was at that deviant escapade in Byron too!
& the offer of emergency tent accom.. how kind! Thank you, but my hippie van's known from PortDouglas to AliceSprings & is an excellent example of 60s over-ornamentation.. A work in progress, it's beginning to get me stopped by the cops (just to check that the drivers' visibility isn't impaired & that I'm sane enough to hold a licence- even the police have a sense'v humour & want to check out the half cat sticking out'v my tailgate.) So thank you, but I have 5star accomodation should I need it!

Wardrobe advice? ok- as follows:

- Lose the rainbow gear, it's over. It hurts the eyes first thing in the morning- shoot any selfish hippies wearing Tshirts bright enough to have you groping for your sunnies...

- Find something edgy- noice, unusual, different...

- Forget the cliches... real hippies have moved on to PostHippyism- the creative/funky/inividual and (ideally) flattering look.

- Wear natural fibres & hug a tree or two.

Hope this helps-
Y'all hav fun now!

love&nohippiebogans
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at August 31, 2007 11:27 AM

INSPIRATIONAL STORY FOR EVERYONE!!!

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.
It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, �Tell me what you see.�
�Carrots, eggs, and coffee,� she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its richness and savored its aroma.
The daughter then asked, �What does it mean, mother?�

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity - boiling water. Each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
�Which are you?� she asked her daughter. �When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?�

Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get even better and change the situation around you.
When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don�t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can�t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you�re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Posted by: Clarrice at August 31, 2007 11:14 AM

sharonevr Hi welcome to LaLaLand where identities are hidden and delusions rule. Congrats on having the courage to use your profile name and giving a forthright overview of "where you are at" unlike the other chickess too chicken to come out in the open. There's a saying if you fly hidden amongst crows you get shot with crows!!.As your'e not hiding I'm sure you'll find who you are looking for because openess is the number one ingredient most men are looking for.
How could the wannabees who hide behind falsies (names) really expect to get kisses when the guys haven't a clue who they are or even if they are female??

deeree Deb I'd like to join in with Dear David ( what a charmer he's been lately) in saying "hang in there" and send kisses to everyone who looks alive and real. If he's any sort of a man and likes real women he'll come after you. Unfortunately my brother who likes big big girls has been sidetracked for the moment at least.

forallweknow61 If I could find your profile I'd respond so if you send me a kiss I might have a clue who you are and see if you are real or another phantom blogger.

A bit like "the phantom" I'm "the Sheriff who never sleeps" until the sun comes up. I'm only masquerading as "the Sheriff" because I'm really "the possum" but my photos are real and I'm not wearing a girdle or other holdem up or out thingos that countryboy EarlWyoming seems to have a fixation about.

Early Wyoming Don't know why you are looking at Byron Bay for your bongo drums and rainbow van. Think I saw them outside that brothel you mentioned in an earlier blog where you were musing about contemplating $200 as a better deal . must have had a seniors moment like I did when I misplaced my Sheriff's badge !! .. not at the same place .. wouldn't want to be last in line!! By the way while you are cruising the sights keep an eye out for some sweet things who've got chests worth pinning "Darling Deputy" badges on... or was that "Daring Deputy"??

It's a smart move you not having any children (that you know of) so you've lots of green stuff to spend on the frilly and fancy ones.

You'd better watch out munching on those vegetarian hay bales while frolicking at the Woodford mud and water theme park. Wouldn't want to get this equine horse flu otherwise all your fanciers would have to go to the dogs instead of the races and trots.
In response to whatever it was that you said about something or someone or other it reminded me of the old saying " why would you be looking at the appearance of the mantlepiece while you've got all your attention on stoking the fire below?"

sharonevr yes it was me checking out your profile too. I like to know whom I'm addressing or underdressing and if a guy can't see what's going on or off he'd be pretty stupid to risk taking a shot in the dark!!.. I think you know what I mean unlike the daughters of darkness and delusionland.

Uh Oh! The darkness is disappearing and as the flying foxes are all coming home to roost I'd better get ready to curl up too after I've checked up on the pulled identity pretenders

TTFN to the real people Terry Take care you don't lose that half or full house. A Full house beats a half a house anyday. Does it beat a royal flush though? Some could do with one.

Ps whatididforlove as far as I can remember.. seniors moment again ...I think Elastic got her whole situation over stretched or over loaded to the extent that when the support shrunk the outcome was not enough to sustain the former size of things... None of my wives or sweethearts ever had to work and only one ever did. They weren't left high and dry financially when they ran off with younger men because they were bored with nothing to do while I was working to support them and my children and my stepchildren... really weird thing is all but one ( she went back to the UK to retire on all she'd "saved" while with me) wanted to come back and didn't seem to understand the "no vacancy" sign. I think Earl also probably understands that when they bolt you bolt the gate so they are someone else's breaking in or up problem

Gotta go before the "DOD"'s and "the Great pretenders"get their teeth and claws into me Cheers

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at August 31, 2007 5:50 AM

have done statistical searches in RSVP. Despite 60% of Australians being obese (therefore 60%of RSVPers), only about 8% of people on RSVP list themselves as anything fatter than average. In other words, 92% are average or slimmer.

Conclusion? Most people are liars!

* Posted by: getReal at August 29, 2007 7:17 PM

too much time on your hands to do that type of research.....find a woman ...

at least we have carried a few watermelons around in our tummies - whats your excuse - too many slabs?

* Posted by: greenfingersA at August 29, 2007 10:31 PM

maybe the picture is lost on some people, possibly a child explanation would be better. ( not a criticism, cos i can see the funny side)

forallweknow61 i also remember the 70s, if only for the fact that i had a pair of orange, red, and yellow striped flares, which i wore with a very VERY green shirt with collars that were way too long....( like down to the chest man...) lol

Posted by: TwoEyes at August 31, 2007 4:03 AM

Can I just say what I said once before? This shouldn't be about fat vs skinny, it should be about honesty vs deception. If everyone was just honest there would be no complaints or arguments. Everyone has a perfect right to be however they want to be or how they were created and shouldn't be attacked for being overweight, underweight, bald or what ever but folks please don't misrepresent the truth because it will become aparent when you finally meet up with someone.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 30, 2007 9:29 PM

Terry, Datelessnotdesperat Aug 29
Terry, you are assuming that I've seen Hiddencharms' photo of her in that black teddy, I have not, I think that particular photo has been worn out by someone else who has been ogling it, hmm.
I don't need to see HC in a black teddy as I do possess a very good imagination, which can come in handy at times and can also be a nuisance at other times, in particular your comment in your last blog about howling at the moon in your birthday suit....I have this disturbing mental image now of you, naked, running around your backyard and I can't get it out of my head... like when you get one of those shitty tunes stuck in your mind and can't get rid of it, like the theme from Gilligan's Island.

Sharoneva, another Larry Loser just like me. Now I know why you are on my sidebar, I thought you may have been lost, looking at my profile, good to see you using your RSVP name. I get a few, mainly women, checking my profile and a lot of them are from Sydney or Melbourne and because the RSVP name doesn't match (bloggers) I don't know if they are curious (bloggers) or desperate.

Speaking of desperate, that mental image of Terry, naked, is coming back.....must...think...of something else...for God's sakes think of something else (God's sake, thought I was an Atheist, for Santa's sake then, think)....I can feel a thought coming.. (Gilligan's Island theme)...Just sit right back and you'll hear a tale, a tale of a fateful trip that started from this tropic port, aboard this tiny ship............

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at August 30, 2007 9:06 PM

EarlWyoming,

Just finished reading your last couple of blogs. One question for you - are you actually being serious or is what you say tongue in cheek?

Posted by: senee at August 30, 2007 7:56 PM

datelessnotdesperate at August 29...

"I don't know one male who ended up better off financially...."

Would you like to meet my ex-husband....? He can explain to you why it was perfectly fair to expect more than he was entitled to when we separated.
I understand that money doesn't make us happy. I chose to accommodate his insecurity in order to be left alone.

He ended up better off financially.
But peace & a clear conscience are priceless.
I have both.

decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at August 30, 2007 7:44 PM

Good call of the obesity stats, funny how women are often under pressure to declare their size, but men over 40 have a very different view of baldness, 4 hairs does not a comeover make :) anyway, I guess it is a matter of elimination. Lose weight becasue it is good for you, lose what you can, be who you are and to hell with those that think that attractive stays for ever. We all know it doesnt. I once had a guy tell me it was becasue men are visual beings, and women are not ? if that was the case then Elephant man would have been the pin up of the 70's. If i remember rightly it was Peter Frampton with his shirt undone. I am one of the rare few who can actually remember the 70's, not enough drugs hey !.

Posted by: forallweknow61 at August 30, 2007 6:23 PM

Just in case anyone is wondering why I am checking out their profiles, it is just to get an idea of who may be who on the blogs, face to a name.

Posted by: sharonevr at August 30, 2007 3:11 PM

Wow, I have taken a week or so to get through ALL of the blogs on this topic (I'm not a slow reader, just taking my time). I have been both amused, outraged and amazed at any given time (and sometimes all of that), best soapie EVER!!!

One valuable lesson I have learned about blogging, is that you can't be sarcastic on a blog unless you say you are.

Now to the topic at hand - dating after 40. I have found that an internet dating site is the only chance I have to meet a man, as I have no friends to go out with (I'm such a "Larry Loser", as my BF lives far away), I work at a very small place (so no workmates to date or friends of workmates) and I am not so silly to go out on my own. I also have the added problem of a lack of spare funds, having teenagers (very expensive to maintain).

I have only been on this site a short while (after using another site that proved to only contain SICKO's). I have had quite a few kisses (probably something to do with my profile), but have rejected (nicely I hope!) quite a few for the reason (as others have noted) that I really don't think the "kissers" have read my requirements or matched to my interests, how come? I have had one date and though he was a nice person he had obviously told a "white" lie with his photo! And no offence to him if he reads blogs but I find one-sided conversations hard to keep up. I had started conversing with another "kissee" but he dopped off the radar, don't know if it was something I said or if he has just been busy.

I haven't been down the road yet of buying stamps (see above lack of funds) & still have some latent old fashioned values whereby a man makes the first move, so may have to build up more courage to do that.

Now I have a question, has anyone been to a RSVP function in Brisbane, that was good? I would like to go (to a cheapish one) but feel a bit uncomfortable about turning up to one alone, and would hate to spend my money for a DUD time!

Posted by: sharonevr at August 30, 2007 3:00 PM

lifeisbeautiful4me - yes I have met many women who stretch the truth to extreme limits and am getting fed up with this deceptive behaviour. Ladies - buy a mirror and get real.

Posted by: at August 30, 2007 8:30 AM

Could I remind Decoratress and like minded lovelies on this site (if she/they don't already know) that volunteer applications for Woodford open next week.

You can share my tent if you are desperate. I need some new hippie gear for that annual pilgrimage into flower power and incense, so a few fashion tips from the queen of alternate fashion would not go astray.

Now where did I leave my bongo drums and rainbow van. Probably down at Byron Bay on some deviant escapade.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at August 30, 2007 5:32 AM

I only mentioned throwing in a decent inducement like an overseas trip as a helpful hint to those who are struggling on this site.

Please, please, do not continue under delusions that 40 year old female bodies are inherently attractive to men.

To 60-70 year old men, may be they are, but if you are looking for someone your own age, there has got to be more.

I mean- we can help you spend what you got out of your last divorce if you like, but what about swanning around France and Italy and having some fun doing it.

I am quite sure most of us would be prepared to put up with the pain and suffering involved in nightly duties if there is a bit of added inducement to our efforts. A bit of fun during the day is a great panacea for removing sudden nightly headaches that a lot of men suffer from around bed time.

C'mon girls. Get real about all this.

You have got to get rid of the nonsense in your head if you want to get fringe benefits for the rest of your body.

Signed: Midnight Cowboy (but only under a lot of pain and suffering).

Posted by: EarlWyoming at August 30, 2007 5:06 AM

Forallweknow61 and DeeRee
When will you and the rest of female humanity ever learn to stop deluding yourself - fat is unattractive. Men dont want to sleep with fat women (maybe a one nighter if we are drunk).Dont seem to be able to lose the weight? Sorry, but it means you are just too lazy to lose it.

lifeisbeautiful4me Maybe you and a few other are honest about your body types, but MOST are not. and yes, we are left to find out at coffee dates where we are also expected to pay for their coffee for the privelege of spending time with an ugly heifer. lol.

Posted by: getReal at August 29, 2007 11:33 PM

I think dating when you are a 'little older' can be difficult for a myriad of reasons.

I just try to be honest without being TO direct about it.....and it really is quite hard.

It's also nice not to judge an entire character by one 2 dimensional image. I dont think I would have chosen anyone who has been influential in my life from a photo...including my friends!!!

Posted by: okamhere at August 29, 2007 11:07 PM

Yes anonymous Aug 28th - have you taken note of most of the guys in the over 40's range - ie pregnant bellies, false teeth, snoring, bad breath - and you guys think you can afford to be choosey about our bodies - at least we have carried a few watermelons around in our tummies - whats your excuse - too many slabs?

Posted by: greenfingersA at August 29, 2007 10:31 PM

I think someone needs to get over themselves.

Posted by: auntykaz at August 29, 2007 10:07 PM

Deeree Aug 29;
Firstly, I just want to give a big "virtual" hug, you sound so sad, keep your chin up, there's someone out there for you and as my mother says "They'll turn up when you're not really looking" ( I don't know if she was talking about potential partners or her reading glasses, but you get my drift)
Deb, you say you check guys for height because you are tall, is this your preference, for tall guys. Don't assume that all shorter guys have a problem with women taller than themselves, some actually like them. If it's your preference for taller then that's limiting your choices and you have to accept, that, it will cut down the numbers of potential dates.
Maybe you need to be more open minded in your search, in the same way that you would like guys to be more open minded about you. Expand your age criteria, up and down, forget about height and body size.
I know we all look for some physical attraction and I agree that initially it is somewhat important but once the novelty of the sex and romance has worn off, that's when the real bonding needs to be strong.
Deb, I tried looking at your profile and couldn't find it?? I did see it a month ago and I thought you looked very attractive.
Anyway I'm not sure any advice coming from me will be of any use, as I am grappling with similar issues myself in so far as which is more important, physical attraction v. long term compatibility. Can we find both? How long do spend searching? I've had the physical attraction thingy in my first marriage, doesn't take that long before the sex becomes just another chore, like mowing the lawn and that's when you wish you had more in comman but having said all that I'm still a sucker for a pretty face.
So Deb another big hug from me. xx

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at August 29, 2007 9:37 PM

dateless..did I miss something? What exactly is it that Elastic failed to do or continued to do, and what has that to do with children and part time jobs or chores?

Posted by: whatididforlove at August 29, 2007 7:38 PM

@ lifeisbeautiful4me

I have done statistical searches in RSVP. Despite 60% of Australians being obese (therefore 60%of RSVPers), only about 8% of people on RSVP list themselves as anything fatter than average. In other words, 92% are average or slimmer.

Conclusion? Most people are fat liars!

Posted by: getReal at August 29, 2007 7:17 PM

Hi woodnwine - posted dated 28/8/07....I felt so sorry to hear your sad stories....would you like me to give you a hug!...(I meant it not sarcastic way OK)...anyway your from Queensland and I'm in Sydney...lets have a toss red wine for cheering-up. I know how you feel, it happen to me too. Life is full of surprises. Wish you best in luck in generals.

Posted by: Aliane at August 29, 2007 4:35 PM

rocco61 at August 28

Thanks for your comments - but checked out your profile and JUST COMPATIBILITY is in there, maybe you should press the button.

Posted by: Clarrice at August 29, 2007 2:27 PM

Sorry Rocco...absolutely as juvenville as you..... (no sarcasm intended)
Just me going off on a tangent... I am over it now... (she smiles sweetly).

Posted by: TrumansCat at August 29, 2007 12:23 PM

Whoever that posted this comment but not gutsy enough to put his name:

Yes there are plenty of nice ladies in there forties but what's with the bodies, girls? What do you do when you go the gym every day as it says in your profiles? And why describe yourself as athletic , slim or average if what you mean is you know someone who is or you used to be?

* Posted by: at August 28, 2007 12:46 PM

How can you assume that we ladies in our forties are not honest about our size? Have you dated so many who lied about their body shapes? Bad luck for you, because there are a lot more on RSVP like myself who are honest. Try searching for compatibility , perhaps you won't be so disappointed once you get to know the ladies. I am told one can tell from the profile ( by men) whether the ladies are telling the truth. I don't know how, but like to know if someone else have any clues.

Posted by: lifeisbeautiful4me at August 29, 2007 9:23 AM

HI there everyone

This takes a little courage to do say please try and understand where this is coming from.
I keep reading about men wanting this and men looking for that there are two things I do when I go through the profiles, one is usually look at the height (as I am a tall girl) and then look at what they are looking for - slim-athletic-average-overweight-largish mmmmm it does narrow down the men I can contact - but I beleive it makes me no better than any of them out there because my searching was for a taller man that didnt mind if I was overweight.
The thing is I am a big girl ok - define big I dont know how you define that - and to be honest am sick of having to. I am not happy with where I am nor do I plan on staying here, but its what I am now and you cant hide what you are nor should you want to.
When I broke up with my ex I lost 50kg yes that is not a typo and I felt good about my physical self, not so good about my mental self, now that I have (much to my own digust) put back on some of the weight I lost I am not as happy with myself, juggling 3 teenages and working to survive and trying to date and dealing with the disappointment of not being wanted -it all gets very frustrating.
Its easy for people to say what they want (yes I have done the same thing myself at times) but I guess it comes down to the fact that if there is no physical attraction there is no physical attraction - what are you to do?
The thing is I know I am a good person inside and want to me loved and cared for as much as I am prepared to give myself.
I got a kiss from a guy the other day and then we met only one week ago, he is a lovely guy and we shall see where it goes (fingers crossed) my point is I really dont know perhaps I just wanted to vent.
thanks for listening

Deb

deeree

Posted by: deeree at August 29, 2007 9:01 AM

Aliane Thanks for advice re the profile mistake.... Alaine 1 is a guy ( The Sheriff checks out all bloggers before responding) MMMmmm you are definitely totally female ( Hint hint nudge nudge fellas .. David & Michael take note??)

frantabulous Have to wonder what's wrong with those WA guys overlooking you and the Best and Rest of the West (Hello OO) and the Secret of the WestXX>>DQ<<XX).
Pity you ladies are too young for David, Michael & myself .. but if you get really disappointed we could hire a plane just to please?

Alwaysthinking --forgot to add to my prev comment "and the guys want-well-sex-preferrably with anyone who enjoys and revels in it".

fiesty female&^40 Yes really enjoyed "Somethings gotta give" to. His name is Jack Nicholson. I'm better loooking but not as wealthy nor as successful in the sack, as Jack, who boasts to have slept with over 2000 women ( Sleeping is what I do when I'm alone!! ) but I guess I could try to catch up if there were enough volunteers?. I agree it should be compulsory viewing for all bloggers and RSVPers. Wasn't Dianne Keaton gorgeous? Much lovelier than her under ?? grownup daughter more interested in answering her mobile!! I really detest people answering mobiles when they are so supposed to be enjoying or getting ready for sex don't you?

rocco61 David Congrats on admitting to being a bit of a perv (aren't we all when somethings worth looking at.. strutters??)Also for succumbing to black teddy temptation and having the courage to sneak a look at number one top sweetie hiddencharms's profile... very very yes!! But don't give up your day job yet!!. How do I know about Wurtulla Beach? Seeing you sucked up to hc and apologised (at last- told you she was stunning and gorgeous didn't I?) I'll tell you but be warned. When I was your tender age I encountered a rare and bare white pointer there and we had a ringading fling.. know what I mean?
Didn't realise the wild wiggling and wriggling the wanton wench was doing was that she had turned on her wandering wallett detector whilst enjoying the delights of the sensual sands. and ... (censored).

Later found myself penniless and no credit cards ( at least she left my Driver's Licence) when I checked at the servo on the way home. Silly OB didn't even get her BM's rego number and the phone number.. it was her ex's who told me a story too long to repeat..should have joined Early Wyoming art the Brothel .. would have been a much cheaper and shorter day!!
Ventured back that way again later but found most too young and too high maintenance and too far up the drainpipe.
There are more bare and rare ones perpetually parading around Peregian Beach (on the bend before) from time to time so better get those eyes sharpened up so you don't run out of petrol finding them OK? Getting that old perfume detector out might help.

HMMmmm! Just looking at the age of the return kisser .. your'e getting to be a bit of a worry young fella!!. Will have to keep an eye on the coloured sands I think???!!

Stillthinking - top marks- age, experience and independence will outwit youth, ego and foolishness any day.

whoever? August 28 12: 46pm Got a bit of a chuckle over "if what you mean is you know someone who is or used to be (athletic, slim or average) " Pretty appropriate in the real and up-to-date sizes of some !!

Trumanscat J what wise words you put forward about feelings and mindfulness... some (not your lovely self) obviously prefer to stay in infancy and not even consider discernment nor anyone or anything but their own pedantic interests. Just looked at your photo again.. some guys going to be immensely lucky if he ever wins your head, heart and attention!! XX((Tc))XX

Anyhow the moons just disappeared so I'll join HTC and stop Howwwliiiinggg and I'll
just jump into my birthday suit and be off to the
blanket show. TTFN Be nice to each other and don't do anything I wouldn't enjoy.
Remember doing something once is enjoyable, doing it twice it becomes a habit and doing it even more is the start of delight or disappointment Take care Terry.

Ps Have "Darling Deputy" positions available for willing and able attentive, attractive applicants xxx

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at August 29, 2007 4:55 AM

highthreadcount. Yes the red lunar eclipse was a real howl..Owwoooo.. full moon too.. I videod it all - want to review it with me under or over the sheets?

In case you are wondering I agree with you and do keep my privates for someone special and who doesn't want to share with everyone.. know what I mean?

woodnwine Yes Michael was letting off a bit of steam about the hard done by's and those perservering by choice. I agree with you about being worse financially after broken marriages and relationships but way out in front emotionally and the ex being someone else;'s problem. I don't know one male who ended up better off financially but most seem to have now decided that while divorced, separated, dumped etc that we guys should get into the freebies and look for enticing fringe benefits without obligations which the girls have been enjoying for years. I guess it's our fault for not putting in our profiles that we are susceptible to bribery, enticement and enjoy being led astray to pleasurable pursuits??

Was wondering about your comment re Racey Tracey?

Racey Tracey If you are giving out freebies and secret trips with benefits and sharing of goodies and merchandise don't go tourist go first class with me and then we both get the best of the deal OK?

Alwaysthinking Great realisation "and the guys want-well-sex" Glad to see some lady finally got the message. How else can we mere males show a woman better that we find her desirable .. as some realistic women say "To be so lucky.. and to be taken out too !!"

Ellabella25 Thank you for explaining what some women get from settlements. You seem to have been lucky to have originally chosen well in a partner who did stand behind his committments and responsibilities and particularly maintenance. Without being presumptious I'd guess that you and him and your family are still on a civil and talking basis and are getting over it and getting on with the future?.

whatididfor love though suppportive of Elastic and her unfortunate situation surely you must realise what she continued to do was by her own choice andbought her own consequences. I know many one parent families where 18 year olds get off their butts, get away from their play stations and other toys, clean up their mess off the floor and all around their rooms and go out and at least get part time work to help take the pressure off parents. One girl of 14 delivers the local papers and even helps her father with washing, ironing, doing the dishes (by hand.. saves electricity) and housework so he can have a bit of a rest after the 12-14 hours a day he works to try to rebuild finances after the butterflys abandonment of the marriage
and her children for yet another toyboy.
This young woman is proud of her father's efforts and enjoys being an active rather than passive member of the family and learning "to
pay her own way and start providing for herself". Our neighbourhood is very proud of her as is her father and her younger siblings she also helps care for.. they are still a family.Most 18 year olds are usually much wiser and smarter than their parents so they might just as well get a job and leave home before their parents catchup. Pity some parents don't give children the opportunity to do more than laze around in a daze of convenient slothfulness and nonn cocern for the families provider and nurturer.

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at August 29, 2007 1:29 AM

Hi Guys
Just thought I would offer a few thoughts as an RSVPer over the last few years, left once, tried again, but the same thing still happens and I would like someone to tell me why. I start a conversation with a guy who says they have read my profile, love my humour, intellengence and would love to see a photo, which is passworded. I send it and then nothing. The last guy that did it I had to ask why, his reply was 'he thought I was fat'. So whats hard about dating over 40 when you have had kids work long hours and dont seem to be bale to get below a size 16 ? being told that for the sake of a few kilos, what made you attractive one day, went out the window the next. If this were one guy, i would think 'jerk' but please guys, tell me that all hope is not lost ? I really am about ready to give it up as a lost cause, as I refuse to develop an eating disorder, bleach my hair blonde, fall over at regular intervals and pretend i am not successful at business. Maybe i just answered my own question?

Posted by: Forallweknow61 at August 29, 2007 12:51 AM

To clarrice posted August 28, 2007

Checked the compatibility??? Seems I'm a Pig and your a Rat with 80%. Please explain.

Posted by: Stillthinking at August 29, 2007 12:48 AM

Fiestyfemale^40 Aug 27

You may have noticed, in my blog just above yours that I did indeed "kiss" one of the 3 potentials, I had previous mentioned. I simply chose the best looking...I mean.. most compatiable of the 3.
So far so good, I kept my first email short and sweet, just 5 words and I never used the "R" word once, substituted it for four-na-kate, I hope I spelt it correctly because if there is one thing I'm very anal about it's spelling and grammar, especially in "Profiles". I can put up with rotten teeth, bad breath and hairy armpits but not bad spelling. Once had an email from a woman who misspelt the word "route" AND used it in the wrong context. ( why do I get the feeling this blog may require another apology....hmmm... just as well I've got them down pat)

TrumansCat, your blogs are becoming so deep and meaningful they're going over my head, can't you dumb down the odd one just for me...please ( he says, pushing out bottom lip and with sad puppy dog eyes) You do realise that if you like my humour that makes you as juvenile as I am.

Clarrice, Aug 28 post,
no never have checked compatibility, no need, so long as she is my age, has a pulse and can spell we're compatiable.( I've turned into a little spelling freak now with my new dictionary, it's one of those good one's that has all the rude words in it, not that I look at them of course. I now have spelling bees with my cat and almost always win......I know what you are thinking, the same as my Father, " It's hard to believe he's 45 years old")

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at August 28, 2007 9:45 PM

ellabella. you are right. I should have said that superannuation being considered as property in divorce settlements was only made law in 2002. Prior to that it was hit and miss and difficult to do and even earlier any superannuation was not even considered for possible division..it remained a financial asset of the person whose name it was in. Compulsory superannuation for every worker only cam into effect in the early 90's.

woodnwine ..your story is a warning to second time arounder's to get an agreement in writing prior to marrying or living together. Laws have now been passed to enforce these agreements.

Terry...it is obvious you have been really hurt and been through a difficult time in your life. You have experienced first hand what many women have ..that should make you empathetic, but you are angry. Your situation as a man left with a baby was certainly unusual in the era. I think your social security child endowment would have been about $3.00 dollars. Welfare payments for single parents only came into effect in 1967 although child endowment as it was called was around for much longer.
$3.oo dollars doesn't sound much but compared to the average weekly wage it was a help.
One point I must make is that even in 1967 as a man you were immediately better off than a deserted woman. The average weekly male wage was $64 compared to $37 for women....the inequality in pay remains to this day.
Your cottage industry step sisters were also not the norm, and a scary lot they sound....
The things that I have written about womens disadvantage are not whinging or alibi's as you call it, just some explanation as to why women in the over forty age group need to guard their financial security very well(which could mean not risking a partnership again) and also to highlight why many men are better off financially at the same age(which Woodnwine pretended not to understand)
You say you are tired of hearing about women who say they are victims when you believe they made the choices themselves. True to some extent, they did(usually) make the choice--the choice to stay with their children, to feed them to clothe them to educate them and in doing so they were forced into underpaid and part time work or onto welfare,with no superannuation and often no child support from the father, and for a very long time no child care and in some cases little family support. after a few years of this they will be impossibly out of touch in the workforce underskilled and unable to get their career(if they had one) to the same level as their male counterpart.
A man on his own with a baby or child is always going to be more attractive(and lovable) than a women with a few children to raise and no money.

You are so right though about the poverty trap for both partners in a divorce which leaves both precariously underfinanced.

Posted by: whatididforlove at August 28, 2007 9:28 PM

datelessnotdesperate, l have recently had an experience in the Family Court which certainly left me at a distinct financial disadvantage.

The bare bones thus;

married 22 years. 2 kids,19 and 21 who still live with me, both working.
l have ended up with my house plus mortgage, huge legal bills that shouldn't have happened but he kept delaying court orders by dummying financial statements with his legal advisors knowledge. I have received a small super split to be rolled over into my super and him paying me $200.00 per week for 2 years because he can't afford a lump sum payment.......this after purchasing a new property, a new car and going on a holiday in the past 3 months.

And this was a man who told our kids that he would always ensure they had their home to live in for as long as they needed to......
then proceeds to drunk dial them on a regular basis to verbally abuse them. Even going to the extent of calling his son some very choice names (use your imagination, they were explicit) on his 19th birthday, because he had arranged to go out for lunch with his girlfriend, sister and myself, then turning up at my home and engaging in fisticuffs with him....ON HIS BIRTHDAY!!!!
2 days after getting braces off his teeth!!!!!!

Then wonders why his son aand daughter won't have anything to do with him, as he can't remember what happened the next day as he was drunk.

Yes l know that there are rotten stories all around but and l don't really want to start a round of them by telling you this but l am not a money grubbing ex wife intent on taking all l am an ex wife who simply felt l was entitled to a fair and equitable financial split according to the law, one that he has no regard for...............k

Posted by: auntykaz at August 28, 2007 7:01 PM

takingtheplunge01 at August 26, 2007 10:17 PM

I fully agree with your comments. I was just thinking the exact thing myself today, while searching on RSVP. I am 46. I have a question to the regular male and female bloggers. Do any of you read the check the compatibility??? Come on guys, give us a chance.

Posted by: clarrice at August 28, 2007 6:13 PM

Just a passing comment .... To get to this blog I do a quick browse and I'd like to gently say to the gentlemen, per-lease, don't put your chests on display! They really don't look all that good in a photo on the net.

Eeee-yew!

Also, as a friend of mine said about women's breasts (and I think it could fit for men's chests) there are some things you could be keeping private for that special someone ...

Just a thought ...

Hope the red lunar eclipse tonight caught you all on a high :)

Yes, lunar eclipse in pisces, sun in virgo, saturn chasing virgo like a mad dog chases the wind (howl with me!!!)

Quick! Under the sheets!
HTC :)x

Posted by: highthreadcount at August 28, 2007 6:11 PM

datelessnotdesperat - Do I detect a little venting there? Not going to comment one way or the other but I can tell you I am probably worse off financially than I was before I got married and fail to see how that is fair.

But having said that I am better off emotionally now than I was, so in that sense I am ahead.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 28, 2007 3:55 PM

Yes there are plenty of nice ladies in there forties but what's with the bodies, girls? What do you do when you go the gym every day as it says in your profiles? And why describe yourself as athletic , slim or average if what you mean is you know someone who is or you used to be?

Posted by: at August 28, 2007 12:46 PM

Racey Tracey

All I wanted to know was what were the terms and conditions attached to your tag line here about who wanted to go to a certain overseas destination with you?

Which reminds me. I thought at one stage that one of my past contacts was offering a free trip to Italy.

I'll be in on any freebees. Never knocked one back in my life. Usually can get free beer from someone or other.

It is a wonder that more girls do not offer free overseas trips as an inducement package on this site.

Woolies have announced a massive increase in profits, and they are the major sponsors behind my local shopping centre's monthly giveaway of very expensive cars.

So why are women on this site not following good sales merchandising practice and offering more freebees and other inducements. Their success rate would improve dramatically.

And I expect, at my current success rate (yawn) I will basically be free anytime during the European summer time next year

Posted by: EarlWyoming at August 28, 2007 12:13 PM

Hi Datelessnotdesperat....I think I confused here.. my original post was dated 23rd August, I misspelled my name Aliane to Alaine my mistake(sorry)...I dont know who your refering Alaine1 dated 27th August and he is male. But me I'm female....I think there is some kind of....Lost in Translation (here)....just only verifying some errors. cheers

Aliane (rsvp name)

Posted by: Aliane at August 28, 2007 12:08 PM

There does seem to be comments made wthout full knowledge of situations presented, a denying at face value of what a blogger writes. Of course taking on the reality of another person's experience without direct personal understanding requires a stepping out of a limited mindset into another's shoes..... can be a challenge but would indicate thoughtful intelligence & flexibilty....
I recently saw a doco highlighting one of the ways intelligence can be measured, is a child able to consider another's experience?, "how would that feel/be if it were me?" and at what age this mindfulness begins..... and for some they never acquire this discernment.....

Posted by: TrumansCat at August 28, 2007 10:52 AM

whatididforlove
Thanks for your comments and I know different people have experienced different outcomes and that some people just plain get ripped off.

I actually experienced the opposite so it just goes to show you doesn't it? I lost super I had been saving for 28 years plus half the property I already owned before I got married. I also supported her child, not mine - (and not saying that in a bitter way).

Good luck everyone.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 28, 2007 10:44 AM

whatididforlove, I beg to differ on your comments regarding superannuation only recently being considered in divorce settlements. I divorced in 1995 and part of the settlement was a percentage of superannuation to be paid when my former spouse retired.

Each and every persons experience regards the financial entanglements involved with divorce are different. In my case I retained the family home outright with no mortgage, my former husband paid $250 per week for the upkeep of my youngest child until he attained the age of 18, and in addition to that, I received the superannuation payout we agreed on in 1995 in 2002.

I know I was fortunate in this outcome, it enabled me to be retrained and enter the workforce after being a stay at home mother and wife for the best part of 18 years.

Posted by: ellabella25 at August 28, 2007 10:36 AM

woodnwine Watch it Michael the avengers will be after you re 1/2 of everything. I'm a bit cheesed off tonight but agree with you and forfunonlyfor2 and while I've been looking for my sheriff's badge I've been reviewing some of the "poor me' "all men are bastards" syndrome back in vogue.

I'm probably the oldest SOB and most often used and cosistently abused and unappreciated by perfect princesses, in the past, male on this blog.

I am not a misogynist or against marriage or relationships. I am all for partnerships with joint responsibilitties for the protection, maintenance and ongoing viability of committed arrangements between men and women that involve innocent children.

Others can do what they like and have no one to blame and suffer other than those directly responsible for and misery and failure of their arrangements.

I am totally sick of hearing about what some women did by their own choice but are still blaming others for when that choice was a bad, unwise or unfortunate one.

I was single parent of a 3 month old boy in 1967.. whilst many on this blog were still in nappies

I Didn't get any help whatsoever from the ball breaking biddies at Social Security or anywhere else when his breastfeeding mother walked out. Started weaning him on Lactogen at midnight on a Sunday night having not been fed since noon!! Yes some "mothers" are like that and not perfect as we would be led to believe.

Even though his mother said she didn't want him and admitted what sort of lady she wasn't as far as the "sisterhood" was concerned it had to be all my fault.. women don't do those sort of things!!

Well if they didn't why was I weaning him and she was shacked up with her "sprung" lover?

Admiitedly She had the courage and honour to admit her wrong and irresponsibility but not the sisterhood in charge who were as bitter and unrelenting as many commernting on here.

Now in response to women didn't get benefits that whatididforlove is articulating about.

I had five step sisters at the time. They were all either single mothers or separated and I seem to feel they were the pioneers who popularised and promoted the "baby breeding with fringe benefits" program.

Whereas I was made the generous offer of something like 50 cents a week or a fortnight (can't remember which) Child Endowment and "there's the door that's all you're getting" they were getting 1/2 to a full house, tax free maintenance payments, or housing commission houses and all sorts of counselling and assistance for the traumatic totally not their fault experiences to mention just a few.

When they discovered that if the kids fathers were different and that they could get a greater percentage of the mugs wages they shopped around for the next more suitable donor. It's more awkward these days as some of the guys don't give their real details and have to be tracked by DNA!! Why hang around for more than one night?.

Mind you some of my beloved step-sisters achieved great results acquiring accumulating numerous 1/2 or complete houses (good housekeepers), car, furniture, savings and 100% kids and all the handouts and soon owned more houses outright than a land developer.

Oh yes that's when they found a suitable person in the same assett standing bracket as themselves, obliterated the past history, wiped the slate clean and they all lived happily and much more comfortably until the next advantageous legislation passed and more opportunities arose.

Of course their past never happened - it was only some delusion of their ex's..

Sure the women didn't get half the superannuation until the guy retired. That's why they usually got 1/2 or the full house leaving the guy penniless until retirement age. Oh! aren't those guys just about to retire nowadays such desirable creatures?

When they managed to lobby to get 1/2 the super before the guy retired guess what happened when it came to retirement age?.... there was next to nothing left to live on for either.

Not until then,if ever, did both "wakeup" that had they waited to retirement age to "divvy up the loot" they wouldn't have to depend on the kids who by this time had enough of both their antics and left both "to rot in the mess you both made of it".

And, of course, the one that usually got the house, car and the kids and threw the man out to the dogs was 100% blameless for it all??!!

Why do some women now wonder why many of the men who "got their deserved treatment" are so penniless and bitter that they wan't nothing to do with you and would rather start again with somebody that has nothing than have to put up with the "winners" obssession to not let "some other male mongrel" try to take her for half of what she fought for.

Oh Yes! I am very hard of hearing.. especially the left ear. That is why I have to listen so attentively to properly hear the exact content and substance of the whinging, whineing "always the victim" avalanche of garbage.

It's not baggage it's garbage and should be dumped at the same time as the making of the admission and acceptance of the share of responsibility of having chosen a bad partner or choosing to stay in a situation long past "it's overdue date".

Alibis are the habit of excusing ourselves for our own incompetence and refusal to admit or tell the truth.

Highthreadcount Thank you for bringing to the attention of the ladies that some people did and do put faith into their relationships. There are other characteristics of honour sadly missing from relationships and admission of which are almost totally non existent from most of the female participants on this blog.

Some of those things are loyalty, committment to goals and responsibilities, mutual support of partners., acceptance of responsibility for your own actions, inaction and poor choices and poor decisions and admitting most alibis are poor excuses.

Wakeup Australia. Look in the mirror and see if the person looking back at you believes your total innocence in your sob stories
The whinger and alibi hater Terry

the whingeor

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at August 28, 2007 1:59 AM

Well...Golly....Gee....Wizz.

Met a lady on the site four weeks ago..still going strong...

She told me the age thing is all in a womans mind and the age that you put on your profile will be the fact that is used in deciding if she would consider contacting you.

To prove it she changed my profile name, and dropped my age 15 years from 60 to 45 and used the same photo.

Result, 9 kisses in two days, just goes to show you ladies between 40 and 45 that there are a lot of very young and active 60 year olds so don't pass them by.

Just for the record, my new friend is 61 and looks and acts about 40.

Posted by: Stillthinking at August 28, 2007 12:52 AM

To al those singles who do want a mate so to spek .....there are many other places to find eligible people sans rsvp.Go to the source.....whether it be sports events,art exhibitions,(iranian art state art gallery..brilliant))...or better still enage in life and do what you enjoy ....then if u meet someone its an added bonus.No use waiting to have fun until "the one "drops out of the sky ......(because they probably won't).........have fun.dear Rocco...am somewhat bemused at your dismissing of the whole 3"possibilities"that u found on rsvp....1.likes to see live bands .....it is a possibility that u could try something new!!.....or let her go on her own.2....has kids ....well understandable some people do not want to go there ...have two myself...3....profile lacked "something".....yikes ask for more imfo .....maybe .I think we take alot of this too literally .....computer speak does not enable u to see and interact face to face therefore being unable to actually read the non-verbal communication based on bodylanguage......anyway
As Renee Geyer said in an interview this evening "You can be uch lonlier in a relationship with the wrong person than being on your own "....sure there are many nodding away at that one !!Funny movie "somethings gotta give" Diane Keaton and damm forgotten his name .......really a laugh pretty much about whats being discussed on this blog .have a watch and laugh.Fiesty&^40

Posted by: fiesty&^40 at August 27, 2007 9:47 PM

Hiddencharms,
Your apology is also graciously accepted and you called me charming, well who would have thought it possible two weeks ago.
I have a confession to make to my fellow bloggers, I could not resist looking at hiddencharms' photos when she sent me her password ( I asked her not to, honestly) but I am after all a shallow, curious male and I can confirm she is beautiful, seems like I will have to take up "perving" at Mooloolaba beach when she is in town.
Terry what is all this stuff about loads of single women at Wurtulla and more to the point how do YOU know about them and I don't.
And for any of you who are interested in my RSVP searching (which I'm guessing is none of you) with regard to my previous blog about lack of options, I decided to "kiss" the 46yo lady and surprise, surprise she wants me to email her. So now I have to compose an email and try to pretend that I am intelligent, witty and charming or I could just be honest..... decisions, decisions, just hope she doesn't read the blogs.

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at August 27, 2007 8:45 PM

Just a bit of down home advice from the farm to all my country cousins on this site.

Here is a bit of home spun wisdom.

Certain band has 4 members, all my age.

One is swarthy and good looking. Others are passe.

Swarthy gets the chicks. All of them. Last night, knocked 2 off in succession (both early 20 somethings throwing themselves at him). The rest of the band beg for small mercies. Like a free beer occasionally.

Yes do spend money on stamps on this site. It's all good fun.

But DO bank $200 in a slush fund with a credit union. For your one and only connubial act before you die.

Just before you have your heart attack, withdraw funds and spend it in brothel.

Meanwhile it will attract interest at 4.5%

Posted by: EarlWyoming at August 27, 2007 8:07 PM

It is a shame that thre gender issue continues - the gilrs want friendships, conversation an a "lets get to know one another" and the guys want - well - sex - preferably with a slim 20 year old - well - good luck. At least we are all talking!!! That is a start. I hope it continues to be as stimulating

Posted by: Alwaysthinking at August 27, 2007 6:59 PM

woodnwine, do you really think that? then time for you to do a bit of research...
Firstly , division of superannuation has only been considered in settlements in the last few years....
secondly, the one left with the kids is already behind financially. It takes much more to support them than any child support payments allow. What happens when they turn 18 ?...end of child support payments, but not end of financial input from the custodial parent.
Elastic has already told you that there were no payments for child care and very little else when it happened to her. So she has stayed home not accrued savings or property or superannuation,lost her viability in the workforce and is now inthe position that many many women of her age find themselves in.

I am sure you would see the point very clearly if it had happened to you.

Posted by: whatididforlove at August 27, 2007 6:35 PM

frantabulous - good point, just lucky you didn't say it about women or you would be hunted on here.
elastic - when you split up you would have been entitled to at least half of everything your partner had accrued during your marriage so you should both have left financially equal so I don't understand your point.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 27, 2007 1:40 PM

The 40s maybe, but the 50s are where its at!
The 40s are a limbo land: Do I finally have kids? Do I actually get married or can I be alone and happy? Do I still try to look like I'm 30? How many more steps up the corporate ladder? Does my boss give a shit about me?
Add a decade, and most of these questions are resolved one way or the other. The kids are usually independent. The school fees have stopped. We have probably been retrenched more than once. One's daughter may have a bf who earns more than we do. But we can get away with being more embarrassing. We discover that anti-depressants cause impotence, so we have to heal ourselves. We find that one's libido miraculously increases again. We can appeal to younger and older alike. We are wiser and we look at life in a circumspect way. We grew up when times were much more interesting and experimental...new music, new fashions, new drugs, bad politics, bad food, bad habits...we lived, and young people want to know what it was like.
There is not too much that life can throw at us that we can't deal with. We also have learned to only worry about the important things and that we become much more realistic. In relationships, we know what we want, and we can be brutally honest about our needs and the sort of person we want to spend time with. We cope with rejection. We are happy to display our true age and photo and we can be excused for being a bit deluded in considering potential partners...but hey, that's us. But most important, what you see with us is what you get.

Posted by: forfunonlyfor2 at August 27, 2007 11:52 AM

frantabulous your post at August 25, 2007 4:00 PM

you whine about men your age looking for ladies 10 years younger, yet your "Ideal" at 43 years, is a man up to 8 years younger? he he thank you for sharing your hypocrisy with us!

Posted by: getReal at August 27, 2007 10:52 AM

AlittleWild

Know what you mean...but there is the occasional gem. I've become addicted now. It's the soap opera you have when you aren't having a soap opera.

Keep on dancing, and if I ever get OBS may be we could have a mutual cleansing session. :)

Posted by: metaphor at August 27, 2007 10:10 AM

bikerbabe5 Full marks ++ for admitting you are game enough to go out with older men and enjoy time with your playthings.when they "take me out and have fun with". The GS500 sounds a dream. How'd you be down here in Woohooo Land with 110 and sub 100 limits. Would be quicker to walk!! than in NT.. Queensland Rail's motto used to be "I'll walk beside you.. now Brisbane road's motto is "I'll park beside you before I run out of petrol!!

couldyoubethe1 You've got me stymied how you can type upside down question marks in your blogs consistently followed by 1/2 ... very much like someone else blogging anonymously?? Seriously the type arrangement really istracts from the content of your blogs and eliminating it (unless it's a keyboard eror would make reading easier (for me and the RSVP Police at least)

Alaine1 while I'm in a constructive comment mood Perhaps you ought to have a look at your profile and correct the 5 years age difference between one part and the other before the age inspectors descend on you with a venom? Also, as a guy with no personal interest I wonder why you include "Looking for a long term relationship with a Female" if looking for "casual .....fun" or perhaps reading these blogs I've simply lost my sense of reasoning? or something... Has anybody found my Sherriff's badge yet? ... Lost it a n RSVP function?? or somewhere else.

Tpall you gorgeous 40 somethings.. Just wonder how you react to Jack Nicholson's claim to have slept with over 2000 women in real life... alll those women would have missed out on $5 if they'd had some previous bloggers viewpoints. But you never can tell. Dianne Keaton eventually collared (in "Somethings Gotta Give) the perennial bachelor at 63 years of age and they all played "happy families" - welathy and well off too I thought? How would a guy remember all their names?
butterfly change Gresat profile but thought the "granbubbies" delight might get some men thinking "but when would she have time for me?"

hc and the sweeties Don't forget Riverfire as of 1 September and RSVP's "do" it at the P&W by the river watching the F111's "dump and burn"

TC at aug22 8.20pm and 9.11pm The same post? Must have had the same PC problem as me when I tried to tell all those slacko guys in Crow country how lovely your emailed photo (XX))((XX)was and tried to remind them that there's much more delightful scenery in Adelaide besides real race cars (once a year) and the bottoms of Barossa bottles..
rocco61 I suppose you could always go down to Brissie annd go up to level1 of the Federal Court building and check out the ladies coming out of the Family cOurt with a smile on their face.. amazing how money makes life more acceptable and bearable.

highthreadcount I'm getting to like the warmth and feeling of your blogs more and more everytime .. just watchout for those reds OK? Goodnight/morning all. Be nice to each other and don't do anything I wouldn't enjoy TTFN FRANCE Terry

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at August 27, 2007 4:54 AM

top sweetie hc I NEVER EVER thought David would get to your inner self.. was it the tanatalising black teddy and other tempting bitties tales that reformed him? He is starting to use a bit of that Seductive Sunshine Coast (hidden) charm I noticed.... (methinks)will have to keep an eye on you.??
David read your search area catastrophic calculations but can't figure out why you can't catch up on the all the Wurtulla Beach beauties ....toooo young and inexperienced for me.
Why don't you take the puppies for a walk amongst the white pointers ..but Noosa may be still a bit damp for that?
Just pushed the wrong button !! and have had to scroll through 297 thousand thrillabyte of blog to find it again so will post this and try to scroll to the other end of the blog before daybreak !! Heaven help those who are not on unlimited internet !! Cheers Terry Take care

Posted by: datelesssnotdesperat at August 27, 2007 3:38 AM

takingtheplunge01

KISS ON ITS WAY..............

Posted by: TwoEyes at August 27, 2007 1:15 AM

Frantabulous;................snuk a peak pity you live in perth.

" WE DO NOT STOP PLAYING BEACUASE WE ARE OLD.....

WE GROW OLD BECAUSE WE STOP PLAYING.....:

Posted by: TwoEyes at August 27, 2007 1:08 AM

Just read the other Blog " Dating through the ages" and found it to be quite similar to this one. I know the frustration felt by Takingtheplunge01 as I am of the same age and am pre-menopausal. I am more sexually active than the guy I am dating who is 7 years younger than me. I don't date men 10 years older than me cos I am afraid he may not rise up to the challenge (tongue in cheek-smile). I have found the problem in dating a younger guy who has never married is that he cannot commit to a monogamous relationship . So my solution may be to find someone who have been married or lived with someone else before, perhaps then the younger guy will be more inclined to commit to long term.

Posted by: lifeisbeautiful4me at August 27, 2007 12:01 AM

Hi to all: Promising to keep this to a 500 word or less submission, because the RSVP appointed lecturer or Nazi-police will start failing me for going over word and comprehension length (very tongue in cheek with a big smile on my face to the smarty who can't read more than a paragraph at a time, so will try to keep my words limited and very small and simple so you can read them). I think I was grammatically incorrect there, but who gives a "beeeeep"?

Whilst "between jobs" for the next couple of days, I have the choice of the blogs or Survivor to keep me amused...Both at the moment!

Rocco: What a devilishly charming man you can be when you start to encounter and consider the "foibles" of dating that some of us have long encountered. Your "shallowness" and "fussiness" stems from the same vein as does mine, and many others in blog land. AND BLOGGERS THOUGHT THEY WOULD NEVER SEE THIS....you do become more astute in picking up vibes and personalities and likes/dislikes and values as you progress through profile land (and blog land). You do become far more aware of who you are, who you are looking for, and the amount of time your busy life can allow for them. I wish you every success in your search for a partner.

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 26, 2007 11:43 PM

I consider myself a very youthful 48 y/o woman. I'm not menopausal yet (no offence to menopausal women) yet I didn't realise that so many men consider women to have a 'use by' date of 45 or younger. So many men on RSVP my own age and much older are looking for partners in the 35-45 age bracket. Come on guys, you may consider yourself too youthful for someone your own age but there are plenty of women out there with the looks, fitness and attitude of a younger woman. Why make age such a detemining factor, you may just miss out on meeting someone who could be perfect for you!

Posted by: takingtheplunge01 at August 26, 2007 10:17 PM

Personally I would like to thank ALL the bloggers here .I have found myself thinking,mulling,questioning behaviors and attitudes of all of us.I have found it the most revealing and insightful thing I have done on a long time.Hearing commets that are either rude /caring/you can really get a handle on the behaviour when it is NOT yourself making the comment.As we may realize when we are NOT emotionally invested we can SEE it a bit more rationally and somewhat removed from history and triggers that seem to make us "fly of the handle"so to speak. I believe we have alot to learn from people we interact with and yes we all have room for improvement.......in many aspects ...just because we have reached this age ^40 does not mean we know it all(this may surprise some of us!!)It is an interesting thing to self examine our behaviour.There is a saying "know thyself"......and another "we are dead along tome "......hrm food for thought.And if eath was knocking at our doorwould we perhaps "drop" some of our expectations and restraints that we place on ourselves and others.....I know I would!!........Just seen the wonderful Iranian exhibition at art gallery sydney .....not to be missed superb!!!!......dates from 7th century to 19th century .....(we really are insignificant in the scheme of things)......fiesty&^40

Posted by: fiesty female&^40 at August 26, 2007 9:10 PM

Yeeeehaaaah! I found you, hiding in the RSVP Bloggs. How the mightly do fall!

Posted by: RaceyTracey at August 26, 2007 7:48 PM

I am a rookie to the whole rsvp thing. I have to agree with the ladies who have written that they would love $5 for every kiss from a 25 yr old. In my case, I'd love $5 for every kiss from a 65 yr old plus. That is all I seem to get! I have even hidden my profile thinking there must be something seriously wrong with it. Or me. I have to do some serious thinking about whether to become visible again.

Posted by: Rookie40something at August 26, 2007 5:57 PM

Butterflychange, Post Aug 23'
I understand your frustration with your searching but not all us guys are seeking women young enough to be our daughters just the same as not all women are searching for guys over 5'10", it just seems that way at times. Some people have more realistic expectations. So you will find, as I have that it just makes the searching that much quicker, once you weed out the undesirables who have unrealistic preferences.
I have only been on RSVP now for 6 weeks and have not sent a kiss for 4 weeks (bloggers not included). I was emailling a potential date for the past 4 weeks and she decided she didn't want to meet after all (sigh, maybe she reads my blogs). So I'm back to checking profiles again. There only around 100 ladies in my age bracket (40-50) and my radius (50km) who have been active within the last 2 weeks.
Take out hidden/password photos (not interested), height critirea, profiles, ect, I came up with 3 possibilities.
One was 51, only came across her because she was featured on the members bar below my inbox. Seemed really nice but likes going to pubs ect to see live music at least once a week...hmmm?.. not me, another was 41 not much info on her profile and 2 young kids at home, no. Third one, 46 yo, right age, likes dogs, looked good ( did I mention I'm super shallow), seemed compatiable but lacked something in her profile description.
So my question to all you ladies is am I already becoming too fussy or is it more a case of not wanting to waste mine or anyone else's time.
Bear in mind that as a guy if I do start dating someone I meet on this site and find after a short period of time that we are not compatiable and we have partaken in sex, then that would make me a user, another guy who is only after one thing, would it not, so how far does one project there vision of a potention partner before even sending a kiss!!
I think I will just wait a little while longer, after all, women are getting divorced every day....hmmm... there's another big question to deal with, why did her husband divorce her, what's wrong with her and what's wrong with me, my wife left me.... I think, I think too much, I think I need to stop thinking and have a lie down, I think.

David
rocco61
P.S isn't reading profiles tiresome just as well RSVP have the blogs

Posted by: rocco61 at August 26, 2007 1:41 PM

Welcome to ~ running1967 at August 23, 2007 10:14 PM

Yes, I checked out your profile after reading your post (thank you for using your rsvpname and not hiding your profile) and sorry if I freaked you out but my computer got stuck!!! I couldn't even reload pages. Yes, I am in the process of fixing/replacing but I take ages to make decisions so I'll just have to put up with frustration or an impulse-buy.

I have to agree with what you said about becoming more selective as we mature ~ maybe its because we have blinders on when we're young and we find out sooner or later that (a) love doesn't conquer all, because (b) we can't change anyone but ourself, and (c) so many of us don't want to change ... people do cling to past hurts as if they are what defines them. It isn't the hurt so much, but the response (versus gut reaction) that defines a person who has been hurt. And by our age, there are lots of people who have been through the mill.

You say "stay single" as though most of us are. True, I am, and a couple of my friends are (ahh, the Newcastle Syndrome, I'll leave that for another time), but I find that many more have been married and had children and that says that they have put faith in those relationships that they have had. Once single again, they need to find out how to put faith in self and others again.

It's easy to generalise though. Your reasons for staying single might be completely different to mine. I don't think I'm negative at all, and I'm sure that people who know me would say that I write with a gentle voice and a positive heart. I'm the friendly person who gets to parties early so I can meet everyone as they arrive and make the solos feel like they have at least one friend. I don't think I focus on the negative, but I do understand that negative self-talk can be a cruel dark trap to fall into.

I see you'll be turning 40 soon. :) How are you feeling about that? I hope it's as fabulous for you as it was (and still is!) for me! It's a great time to "put your hands in the earth and enjoy re-recreating yourself".

Let me know if you start changing the way you view some of your priorities ... I did, in a very big way. I am still blown away by who I have become.

Happy birthday running1967,

highthreadcount

Posted by: highthreadcount at August 26, 2007 11:18 AM

I have recently joined RSVP and attracted to the link to dating over 40. Having read it I wonder why I bothered. It has mostly confirmed my worst fears. It IS a "jungle out there"!!!!

Posted by: AlwaysThinking at August 26, 2007 10:58 AM

running1967.

Speak for yourself buddy..
Not everyone dating over 40 is 'still' single. Many of us have been through long term relationships and are not prepared to accept shit or for the sake of it.

Posted by: Bwyan at August 26, 2007 12:35 AM

Virgin Blogger!
Until today I thought that a blog was something a bit nasty that one collected on ones foot in the back yard! Being over 40 and over 50 I can relate to some of the wisdom here-in.I have encountered most of what you are all talking about over the last 12yrs solo"ism" and looking for a mate . It is difficult for women when the men in our age range prefer younger women and society has yet to catch up and admit that having a younger man is cool....
I found one comment intriguing, that of: "at a similar age having a similar bank account desirable" Hmmm...I chose to stay at home and raise my large family (God bless 'em all!) and in those days there was no support from the Government in anyway including supported childcare. That choice effectively put me behind the eight ball in many areas including Superannuation, bank accounts, postion in workforce etc. No, not complaining, it is just how it is...and perhaps another perspective on the issue of equality! Fifteen years is so much time to catch up financially, the "he" in my life accrued much super' and other un-shared assets whilst I raised our family...I still count myself "richer" than he!!!! Cheers,
Elastic

Posted by: Elastic at August 25, 2007 9:33 PM

hi all,
just a quick observation, am I the only one here who gets bored with reading entries of 500 wds + come on guys haven't you heard the term concise?

Posted by: bikerbabe5 at August 25, 2007 4:17 PM

Where are all the hot guys in there 40's. I try my hardest to look good, and from the response of the dates I've had, I suceed. I am still as adventurous and as motivated as I was in my 20s and my body still looks dam good, in fact better than most of the girls out there in their 20's. Wondering why most guys who contact me look like they could be my father, even some younger than me look 10 years older. Come on guys, look after yourselves! And why many of the ones of my age only looking for women 10 years younger than them. Starting to think I'm in a category of my own. Come on guys give us older women ago, just cause we are past 35 does meant we are 'past it', far from it, most older women have less hang ups than the younger ones.

Posted by: frantabulous at August 25, 2007 4:00 PM

Posted by: butterflychange at August 23, 2007 11:29 PMSo your ex- didn't just leave you for a 35yo, but a 35yo ASIAN woman 'eh? You make it sound like a derisive, perjorative term, kinda like she's a mysterious foreign bride who spirited away the love of your life or perhaps even a nasty evil Yoko Ono who stole your man.C'mon, what's the point of that descriptor? You coulda just said a younger woman, full stop. I'm not offended, just mildly surprised.

Posted by: Vegemite-lovin' asian bloke (37yo, Syd) at August 25, 2007 1:17 PM

Totally agree with Butterflychange. I am 48 but the kisses I get are 99% from men aged 55 and over. When I kissed men at my age, I get a negative response 99% of the time. Although I look young and my interests show that I am active in the things young people do, it doesn't matter at all. When I get contacted at another dating site by men in their 30s, you can bet they are interested in sex only, despite what they claim. Men are so stereotyped, I am disappointed. BTW twice on RSVP I had the experienced of knowing two different "engineers" happened to be working in Nigeria at the time or ending up in Nigeria a week after we started emailing each other. They both turned out to be conmen - "falling in love" very quickly and then tried to borrow money cos they were stuck in Nigeria. Thankfully I was well aware of these scams and I was not conned.

Posted by: lifeisbeautiful4me at August 25, 2007 8:31 AM

:D

Wow this thread took a while to read …

A waste of a few hours that I won get back …
I would like to thank you for making feel rather well adjusted … lol

Tomorrow I’ll go to some gig and dance the night away … And cleanse myself …

Age is just a state of mind … the rule is that there is no rules … Make hem up as you go ...

;)

Posted by: AlittleWild at August 25, 2007 2:05 AM

I've been on this site for a year, on and off, had 2 relationships with very nice men, each great while it lasted but not destined for eternity (neither am I), and made one lovely friend (a man) that I've had for a year now. But I don't get any kisses from younger men. Actually I don't even get kisses from guys my age (53). But, ladies, I figure that's because men are not thinking straight. Don't know where I got that idea from, but there you are. So I send kisses to guys about my own age who can write well, read, have several interests, show some humour and some humility (that's what I hope I've got, and that's what I like). And I don't give a toss if they have a photo or not. Who cares if you photograph well? I get kisses back, sometimes the guy emails, I meet really nice men, and I've had a great time. I have met one or two oddballs, but only for coffee - I listen carefully and if there's any "I'm better than you" stuff for ANY reason I don't see them again. A couple of bores is the same proportion that you would get meeting people at clubs or at work. So I don't think it's any worse meeting people online, you have to have your antenna up whenever you meet someone. Actually, I think this is better- you can scan for things that would really piss you off and not have to give up that hottie because you found out he voted for Pauline Please Explain.

RSVP, can this blog be altered to make the most recent comments appear at the top?

Posted by: MysticOcean at August 24, 2007 10:20 PM

Running 1967: Sometimes it is really hard to overlook the negatives in dating. Sometimes the experiences you have are so distastful that you wonder why you bother. Then, you take it out on yourself for being a lousy person that is deserving of "quickie" insults or being sleazed on and being stood up etc....You start to think you don't deserve anything better.

However, I have recently met a very nice man on RSVP who has disproved all of my previous "negatives". Unfortunatley, we are both in places in our lives, where kids, family and work and a bit of distance just don't leave us much time to match up. I have, I think, found the basis of a very nice friendship, which will hopefully be longlasting. It is nice to have a positive experience to remember - and hope that all future encounters may be just as gentlemanly, mature and pleasant. It gives me hope. Who knows what the future will bring?

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 24, 2007 9:15 PM

Seconded, VictoriaDownUnder and woodnwine

Shredded - if you haven't read the Long Distance Love blogs, I recommend it! I'm sure you'd find it interesting in your situation, and I do wish you luck whatever you end up doing.

Allsingledout - Thanks for comment on the photo.
I liked your analogy (and a very apt follow on from my talk of turning tides!)

Wishing all in blogland a good weekend.

Posted by: Malsie at August 24, 2007 8:03 PM

Rocco: Your most sincere apology is graciously accepted.

To be fair, as I have mentioned before, I do think that things were blown out of the water with all of the anonymous postings going on around us.

I apologise once again, in oversight, in one of my recent blogs, I neglected to name and aim my anger at Lurker and his merry band of acerbic shit-slingers. Most of those comments were not directed at you, Rocco. It does make for difficult reading when you spend half the night trying to work out what you are reading and from whom. Won't go into this any further, as I have already been "warned"...

I was not, in any way, making you out to be some beach pervert....although, my friend is a great gal, and makes a fantastic sight on the beach ( I could only wish to be born so lucky)...but you really did miss out on the craziest of sights...If you recall, Sunday was fairly miserable...two women, five kids, a crazy old mutt, covered in wet sand, chasing a ball and seagulls, all like we had never seen a beach before ...we really did look like "the nongs of the north" that some sharp-wit referred to in one of their sly digs!

Just so I am not mistaken for a stalker (once again, tongue in cheek) I also have family in Buderim and my ex's family in Currimundi. I do spend the odd day or so floating around on the Coast, but will pretend, if ever I see you about, that I don't "know" you. Although, now with warmer weather just around the corner, and I have just decided to return to my old job, with hopefully less work chewing up my home life, will be spending more time with my toes in the sand and the ocean breeze in my face - and return to the happier, more at-peace-with-myself-person than I have been of late...

Posted by: hiddencharms at August 24, 2007 7:56 PM

greenfingersA at August 23, 2007 9:37 PM

No need for truce sweetie, as we're all entitled to our opinions :) but it is always good to share the love! Thanks .... and ... I wouldn't mind having a look at your profile too ... :) Just out of curiosity.

Have a happy weekend people,

highthreadcount

Posted by: highthreadcount at August 24, 2007 2:53 PM

VictoriaDownunder

No offence taken, it's all good so long as we behave kindly and try to stay positive about life and this little microcosm that we now find ourselves in.

In support of fun.

Posted by: woodnwine at August 24, 2007 11:05 AM

I'm with you Malsie... I find Lurker to be a highly entertaining blogger with great imagination. It seems that this blog is getting too bogged down with perceived insults... can we all call a truce and get back to having fun??

Unlike John Howard, I'm more than happy to say "sorry" to all the wonderful contributors here who have been unintentionally (I hope) offended. Let's all take a deep breath, have a good night's sleep, and come back here tomorrow... refreshed and ready to share our thoughts and experiences without any malice or resentment.

OMG, I sound like woodnwine!!! (no offence meant there w&w - I love your positive attitude)

I know that there are alignments/friendships in play here on the blogs, but sniping between factions is a bit sad at our age, don't you think?? Aren't we supposed to be supporting each other?

Here's hoping...

Posted by: VictoriaDownunder at August 23, 2007 11:54 PM

When I search for prospective matches in my age range, I'm disappointed that a majority of them are seeking women in the 30-40 yr age range. I recently had a relationship breakdown with a partner who was younger than me, who then married up with an 35yr old asian, which actually is the age of his eldest son. So you may be able to understand my disdain for males that look for that elusive "younger gal". Reality check, guys, as if!

Posted by: butterflychange at August 23, 2007 11:29 PM

LURKER

Likes to think he is so clever, playing guileful word games

Under the guise of anonymity, steals into various blog sites

Runs back and forth with his acerbic wit, sarcasm and innuendo

Keeps amusing himself by casting dispersion and causing anymosity between bloggers

Eventually will run out of the multiple personalities that keep himself amused

Respect for others is not in his vocabulary

Posted by: at August 23, 2007 10:35 PM

People who date in their forties have narrower paramaters, they are more likely to focus on one negative than many positivies thats why they are still single at that age.

Posted by: running1967 at August 23, 2007 10:14 PM

Hiddencharms, re-post Aug 22 11:18pm
Hiddencharms, I apologise to you for anything that I have posted in the past, that you found insulting/crass/uncouth/vulgar/aggressive ect.
Nothing I posted was ever intended to be taken in that manner.
I will send you a "kiss" as an act of atonement but please do not send your password as I have no desire to see your photo. You still doubt the fact that I am single and you seem to think that I hang out at Mooloolaba beach, getting my jollys, perving on women in bikinis. Maybe TrumansCat was right and in your case I just brought out the worst in you. So lets just leave it at that shall we?

OrnamentalOnly, the anonymous blogger is not Malsie, it is Lurker, if you want a good laugh check out his profile. He left a clue on his posting Aug 17 1:49AM. His writing is very distinctive, very intelligent and witty and while he is attacking you, the rest of us are safe.
I'm hiding in the corner, with Ninaschen, laughing at his satirical jibes at those making hypercritical blogs.
( I still like you, you're like a mossie bite I know I shouldn't scratch but it feels good)

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at August 23, 2007 9:38 PM

Can relate to where you are coming from Linus Aug 12.

HTC - truce - thanks for your comments - understand where you are coming from.

decoratress - will check the site out - thanks

hiddencharms - loved your comments

datelessnot desperate thanks for your comments aug23

AND DEAR MODERATOR PLEASE DO SOMETHING ABOUT REDUCING THE CURRENTLY AVAILABLE BLOG PAGE SO IT DOESN"T TAKE SO LONG TO GET TO THE END JUST TO MAKE A COMMENT!

Regards GreenfingersA

Posted by: greenfingersA at August 23, 2007 9:37 PM

I never pushed my single life having a romance since my mid-30's. Seriously looking for a relationship either flirting or getting involved. At that stage I was more concerned on my child welfare and building my career wise to become more independent and freedom of commitment. It was my best choice, never regretted and happy the outcome. At 40's something, suddenly I realised there are things can not be done alone while we need someone to talk, share, advice, support any courage can make it better and worthwhile a partner to listen, companionship, socialising rather than going out as solo flight while missing that part. Sometimes I was the centre of jokes being single( all of my friends married).
Sometimes doubts coming through my mind should start freshen my life with someone, thinking of what I accustom being free of ties. Not kind of insecurities but I no longer use to it.. to have a partner and grounded. I sorted all my advantages and disadvantages and balancing both and I come up my best knowledge " No Human on Island Alone". Strongly recognized the importance of having a relationship stage 40's more stable, have direction, become a realistic and practical in a sense of successful partnership, very promising and progressing attitude ready start new life ever comes along by fate. Thankfully I have pleasant personality, fortunately attractive to guys even my age mids 40's. I pick my own choice precisely and not their choices.

Posted by: Alaine at August 23, 2007 9:33 PM

OrnamentalOnly - yes, "OO" was meant to be you, easier to type than OrnamentalOnly, and an abbreviation that a lot of other people also use for your name, so assumed you'd recognise it.

I have never blogged anonymously - as I said once before, used another name once on a post just for my own amusement, but that is all. Heaps of people are putting in posts in at all times of the day, no doubt "coincidences" do occur - I don't ever bother to look myself, it's of no interest to me who's writing what when, and there's no connection between my posts and anyone else's on here (anonymous, other names, or otherwise). I have no antagonism or anything of that sort towards you, and if there were anything I felt I neeed to express to you, I would do so directly and under my own name.

I didn't want to go into a big long-winded explanation as to why I was apologising to you, that's why I kept it brief. I'll expand a bit more now if you like. I thought you may be experiencing some sort of hurt feelings as a result of Lurker's comments that you felt had been directed to you, and that I had been condoning some sort of attack by finding his posts amusing. I was trying to say my amusement at his expressions was in no way related to you (I didn't connect you with anything that was said) and was just an appreciation of his wit. That's all - nothing more sinister.

Posted by: Malsie at August 23, 2007 7:57 PM

BeingSerious : Thanks for your perspective of the swinging pendulum and the cycle of change. Balance is what many of us try to get close too !

Malsie : Yes, I hang on to that slim hope that the tide will change soon. It's not much fun sitting on the sidelines for so long watching others taking a dip in the water. Gotta say that's a brilliant photo of you with the sunflowers.

Shorterthanthou - Short men, short women or as we are often referred to as pocket dynamos ! I can only hope some our eagerness to overcome and conquer obstacles isn't a way of over compensating for we might lack in the height department ! LOL

Thanks to all for your considered thoughts and encouragement.

Posted by: Allsingledout at August 23, 2007 7:36 PM

whatididforlove at August 22...

Thank you for your input re DontDateHimGirl- I've no experience personally of the site, but was directed to it by another. I posted the warning because I'd seen one of the rsvp Top100 listed, & when I checked the story it sounded pretty conclusive to me- there was more than one woman who had posted her comments there, & his modus operandi sounded verrrry professional...
I agree that the site would be open to juvenile venting, & acknowledge that there's also a site against DDHG.. as with all things in life, it must be approached with common sense.

love&peace
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at August 23, 2007 6:44 PM

ButCouldn'tEatAWholeOne, NoPracticalUse, TheSecretIngredient et al, your cleverly written and highly amusing comments make my day. Long may you lurk on these blogs!!

As far as the topic goes, I'm thoroughly enjoying dating in my 40's and have met several very nice men on RSVP - not "the one" as yet, but what an enjoyable journey thus far.

In dating (and blogging), a thick hide and a smattering of tolerance makes the experience less traumatic - at least from my experience. Maybe that’s easy to say when I’ve only had one unpleasant encounter, but I hope my positive attitude has some bearing on it too. Oh, that and my top of the range BS filter!!

Chins up, one and all and most of all, have fun :-)

Posted by: VictoriaDownunder at August 23, 2007 6:31 PM

Trumans Cat,

Thank you. Don't know about anyone else but I needed that wake up call

Senee

Posted by: senee at August 23, 2007 4:20 PM

Laughed at posting by: naudy at August 21, 2007 7:19 PM,

"I think RSVP should pay $5 to every female member over 40 that gets a request for sex from a 25yo male. (I'd be rich if they did). ..."

Girl, you're just really norti! :)

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 23, 2007 3:09 PM

JustAGuyThatsHappyToBe40+ at August 22, 2007 8:52 AM

My! 8.52am! You're certainly eager!!!! Did you have brewed coffee with that? And whiskers???? I leurve whiskers. And good coffee.

Hmmm "ambition" and ".. evil needs" ... Methinks thou hast engorged thyself upon thine own ego. That didn't take much!!!

Sweet-cheeks, playing with you isn't an ambition and frankly, I have no needs at all (evil or otherwise, tho some might have it otherwise!). However, I do like toying with you ... but let's please avoid the sandbox (that is this blog) and find somewhere a little quieter ... instead of the wind through my hair, your fingertips maybe???

As for seeing your rsvpname in my sidebar, no, can't say I remember it? Was it the one you use here, or some other pseudonym? Maybe I just got too many drinks in my sidebar that night ... maybe it was all the Glayva someone tried to seduce me with (was that you??). Bad boy! Come here and be spanked. By my friend, Mother Superior. She has a big stick and she's very good with it.

As for the Palmers Lane tip, thank you kind sir, for your advice. Is it as good as Penfolds Grange Hermitage? I can't recall too many wines that are. I still reminisce about that float-on-the-ceiling feeling that only The Grange can give.

So good to see you understand quality.

The longer you wait, the more you miss .....;)

I think I could use a little sedation now. My heart-rate is positively flying!

(short gasp of air),

highthreadcount

Posted by: highthreadcount at August 23, 2007 1:44 PM

P.S. Malsie.

Your post apologising to me (for unspecified reasons) at August 22, 2007 12:05 AM,
immediately prior to postings by anonymous blogger: NoPracticalUse at August 22, 2007 1:07 AM and TheSecretIngredient at August 22, 2007 1:52 AM

-seems to be an unfortunate coincidence does it not?

What a shame RSVP allows anonymous blogs that undermine the sharing of honest opinions and experiences.

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 23, 2007 1:36 PM

Re posting by: Malsie at August 22, 2007 12:05 AM,

"OO, never meant to direct any negativity your way - sorry if I inadvertently have."

Ummm, is that me you're referring to Malsie?

If any negativity has been directed my way, maybe it has been done by someone who is masquerading?

I always post under my profile name.

Posted by: OrnamentalOnly at August 23, 2007 12:58 PM

OrnamentalOnly Aug22

Good idea, making same mental not to self.
Movingtarget

Posted by: woodnwine at August 23, 2007 11:51 AM

Is this the over 40 apology page????

Think it might be! Or at least the insult, apologise, then get a few more digs in...page. Love it!

Well, here goes. I apologise for saying that I do not personally find pot bellies sexy. I must be stupid or something. I must go out and view a few more to see the error of MY personal view or could be a hang-up.

And, hey, I am not having a GO at men for this view. I hate my own pot belly and find it sooooo not sexy. I do know that pot bellies are a fact of life for lots of us over 40 but can't I have a view that it is not sexy to me. I'm sure if Lurker(the Lyingcheat) did a survey he would find thousands of RSVPers of both sexes who find them sexy.

This leads me to a problem that I have in dating over fifty...won't say, work it out for yourselves.

Posted by: Wishingandhopingforaflatbelly at August 23, 2007 6:58 AM

rocco61 Aug 19 9:31 Took you long enough to realize
that it is me and my daughter at the top of the Blog so if she's real where am I real? This David Cassidy? wasn't he the one from play school?

Have been off the blog for a while visiting my Aunty Jane and Uncle Jack for a few days. Aunty was all upset to find her son had been skipping school classes to visit his girlfriend. Uncle Jack (OB.. S &S )wasn't perturbed and said " I don't know why you are so concerned ... they are doing it in the daytime. I courted you long and hard after dark and if you look in the mirror you can see why that wasn't such a good idea" His funeral is this Friday at one o'clock.

The other reason was I dropped my computer. Went to the insurance company to make a claim and the guy said "Sorry it's not covered as it's considered an Act of God". I told him him it had a lot of RSVP Blog stuff on it and he said "Sorry mate we don't cover acts of recklessness and stupidity either"!!

hikerbob Aug 21 Glad to see you are still around. Thought someone had clipped your wings and got you to put up your puptent in her backyard and boots at the back door.. to be so lucky!!?? That's a worry? agree with your comments about apparent preferences. I've observed some princesses seem to prefer skilled liars so that if they get dumped they can rightfully scream b... blue murder 'but the lying cheating mongrel SOFB told me he loved me!!" and then be blameless ? Really??

naudy Aug21 Got your point but just wondering how many women would prefer sex with a good looking hunky 25 year old to $5 in the purse... $5 barely buys a hamburger to munch on? They certainly wouldn't be as rich as you or many who preferred the $5 but some would be smiling a lot,lot more and alot more often than they are now from the "many miserable missing out moments" comments on these blogs.

OO XX))OO((XX The DUuhH!! will be tracking me by now but I've elevated to your profoundly deserved position upgraded you to the "Top of the Lot" ( soory sweeties) for having the courage to have been the only one in blogworld to have admitted to having been "anoldmanfancier.....") and your "cured" to men between 15 years older to 5 years younger than yourself.
My father would have liked you too and called you a "super, bonzer, Number one, extra top quality lady" which I'd agree with but, as I'm outside your perfect partner or whatever age range, I'll just have to ogle and grovel to be able continue to enjoy lurking ( not him) and looking at your profile while all these young hounds keep running around chasing their own tails and missing the right scent. Talk about youth and inexperience!!

HTC Aug 20 1:13 AM mmmMMM !! Drinks sound fine but I guess I'll have to watch out for those Hunter region "1 or 2" red drinkers who've been trying to entice you to Palmers. I heard about Mrs Palmer's daughter.

Thanks for your kind and appreciative comments about my post. I've read much of your posts with interest and appreciation of your beliefs which some wouldn't undersatand as they are too busy brushing the tickets.. know what I mean? I don't read Tarot but my late mother did as she did cups & saucers and anything she felt she could get a meaassage. My father was a whiz with the divining rod too.very rarely missing out. My mather was the kindest, most generous and genuinely devout Catholic ( not me_ I'm an Australian !!)I've ever known but not a Church only person indoctrinated to not to be able to think or decide things for herself. I'm sure you and her would have got on well. I've had a few "near death" experiences and nobody has to convince me that their are other worlds and dimensions out there. Some can't even fit themselves into the tiny little piece this "life" takes up for an infinitesimally short time. Talking about time XXX Goodnight until the next time and ignoring the undeclared as Ornamental Only has posted as well sounds like a wonderful plan.. do you think they'll turn on each other just to continue to be the centre of lostlalalaland? TTFN keep safe Terry Anybody Seen My Sheriff's Badge??

Posted by: datelessnotdesperat at August 23, 2007 5:47 AM

Did somebody use one of those four letter words ?
"wife" A newly married mate of mine ( not you David) asked his wife " Would you have married me if my father hadn't left me such a massive fortune?"
"Honey" she replied "I would have married you no matter WHO left you such a massive fortune !" Remind you of anyone fellas?

Men did you know there've been women on here using those other four letter words too? "Don't" and "can't" and "won't".
Did you hear of the couple who met for coffee? [Girl] "One kiss and I'll be yours forever". [Guy] "Thanks for the early warning".
Scene on RSVP chat line {She} What do you like most in me, my pretty face or my sexy body {He checking out profile from top to toe} " I like your sense of humour."

OO did you hear about the not sure if we are still together married couple?
Wife " You always carry my photo in your wallet- Why?" Hubby -" When there is a problem , no matter how impossible, I look at your picture and the problem melts into insignificance" Wife -"So you do see how miraculous and powerful I am for you?" Hubby- " Yes I look at your picture and say to myself no other problem can be greater."

Wife "What are you doing? Husband "Nothing". Wife Nothing !!!-- You've been reading our Marriage Certificate for over an hour!! Husband "I was looking for the use by date".
Target Practice What a target.. to be so lucky XX))OO((XX

Just a Guy I got a bit lost there? Thought a bottle of 2 of the red would dull the sensuality of the senses or send one senseless.. I prefer my pleasures sober and wonder if there are others on this blog who do so to? and with the light on or during the day??

methinks Crunch crunch has been sucking on too many bananas? And Id B PD off to if OO was ignoring me (XX))OO((XX) - certainly the Very Best of the West -hehe!!

NoPracticalUse Please rRepeat that slide that someone and her buddies down your throat bit again - don't quite get it all - fairly bit of totally useless information to me without the rest of it.

decoratress Support your warning love&babybeware -- in carparks, motels and elsewhere -- liable to end up loosing half a house.

Heard these we were 10 men 4U2 Avoid
1. He is not into you - not on time -no romantic times and not doing more than 50%.

2. He's prettier than you - spends more time looking in the mirror and putting product in his hair and on his face than you do.

3.He loves sport too much - no energy or inspiration nor time left for a girl's real needs.

4. He is the constant critic- while he's looking down his nose at you - do a vanishing cream act.

5. He's permanently damaged goods - has an everlating sob story scenario. Leave him to his own performance.

6. He is married/partnered with benefits and still sharing breakfast in bed with "her"-who needs to be second best or last?

7. He's a no-hoper - no job, no car, no money except yours- no one to look after him. Don't let it be you!!

8. He has too much baggage-get out before you end up holding the bag.

9. He can't make decisions until the last minute - he's always changing - greedy and inconsiderate -get rid of him before he tries to exchange you.

10. He wants to be the star - you'll always be second priority - he'll expect you to take care of all the petty details in his life so he can go on with being in the spotlight- give it the flickoff switch.

ButCouldn't EatAWholeOne
Sorry you couldn't figure "DnotD"'s codes but I've been giving the clues to the missing links for ages. Something to do with "king".
DduuhH!! The sweeties , The Southern and Central Belles and All the West worked out what it all fits into... tasty too!! You mention "when I was five or six". was that yesterday or the week before? Why do you turn around when you yell out "Hey you idiot!!"??
I think you must have mixed "context' up with "contact" cement that you need to get some of your ideas together with. Even if all your combined "comic comments" were a dozen sticks of dynamite they wouldn't have enough force to blow even one wing off a mosquito. If brains were made of putty all of your windows panes would fall out -pain!! The oven wouldn't need a child proof lock to keep you in or out as even that would be beyond your ability to stop wallowing and wriggling in your boofanzabrathouse.

Posted by: Datelesssnotdesperat at August 23, 2007 4:11 AM

I'm amazed just how cynical some people are, both genders, right or wrong. Some of the comments indirectly suggest that some people don't trust their own judgement, even by the age of 40+, or are so overly judgemental that it will be virtually impossible to meet anyone. It's also quite arrogant to believe that you are right in your assertion of a profile without contacting or meeting the person. It is such a shame that some people are so grateful when you take the time to reply.... If, as the some blogs imply, people are more intolerant, defensive & sometimes cutting we can only hope they will over time find a greater understanding. Here's hoping!!!

Posted by: koffie at August 23, 2007 3:45 AM

A very quick summation. I have an RDO day tomorrow & Fri. So am not structured to normal timetable. Don't want to be accsued of being the late night "lurker". I started this at 10.12pm. Got sidetracked by "mummyhood" and housework....

Funnymick: Have to agree. My original profile read "professional" and I received hundreds of kisses and emails from the out of work single dads and taxi drivers, living in mummy's lounge-room, all looking for a financial