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Woodwine. I find the opposite of men and their children. I find it really strange when a 50yo has 5-10yo children. What where they doing when they were in their 20's.

Having kids is something that most people do in thier 20's and 30's not their 40's. My kids are in their early teens and when a guy 5-10years older than me has kids 5 or so years younger than mine. Strange.

[Ed: And on that note (comment 1333) the blog is now closed because it's now too big for many people's internet connections to download(!). Sorry woodnwine, you just missed out on last dibs this time... thanks for participating everyone, and look out for a new blog in a similar vein soon]

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at October 3, 2007 7:10 AM

I always said I loved the warmer weather, as opposed to freezing my butt (and toes) off through winter...and I would much rather a candle-lit bbq and chilled wine to huddled inside with the aircon roaring hot and blankets to keep your fluffy feet warm...but gee whiz...what have they put in this year's flu shots? Hormones? Insanity?

Tonight alone I have been subjected to all sorts of sex stories...married friends trashing husbands who want it...single friends looking for a bit...my grandmother wanting to know what I think the family would think if she shacked up with her "studley"....

Do I look/sound like an Agony Aunt...? I only just got rid of most of my home-invading family and their soggy towels, dirty dishes and screaming kids...and here they are picking my brains over their sex lives...THEN my mother who can't quite work out what to do now Dad is sick and won't be there for her every need and thinks it would be a good idea to move in here so I can help look after him (no her, the princess in the glass bubble of life)...and has rung me 9 times today for the most ridiculous reasons....guess why...apparently because I'm single and don't have the "stresses" that they do...

For those of you who have seen my blogs, you'll know I'm not exactly long in the patience and temper department...Here I am listening to their besotted drivel...and I can only call it drivel because I would thank my lucky stars to be in their shoes...and trying to be polite and sound like I care to some degree about their sex life...or marriage...or problems...

Meanwhile...I don't have anyone to come home to talk to or even think about "making love to" as opposed to just sex...and I'm hammering my frustrations out on the blinkin' computer....

So there you go singles...apparently we don't have the "stresses" that others do....Thought others might like to comment....

I personally gave this advice: 1) Nan, you are old enough and ugly enough to do what you like when you like...2) Friend, if your hubby wants sex, give it to him...or get a divorce...3)If you're not getting any what do you want me to do, go an play pimp and buy you some? 4) Mum, there is no way in hell you are moving into my house. I would walk on hot coals first and die with shards of glass driven into my eyeballs....You need to get off your "happy pills" and get with the real world and start to realise that it is not the be all and end all to go without new rings and jewellry and expensive clothes and learn how to cook a few meals and take care of yourself and your husband...For God's sake...she had it all worked out...I could move out of my room and give them the big room with the ensuite and I could move into the spare room...I would have to build a shed so their car can fit in the garage...Get rid of my furniture so the horrid chiming clock can clog up my wall...and have the house immaculate by Fridays for her morning teas with her friends....Oh and since I seemed to manage so nicely on my income "you won't need any more than just half the food bill in money, so your father and I can spend our assets on holidays and being retired..." without a second thought for all the extra costs involved in having 2 more people in my house....Nor the lack of privacy...nor the fact that I would be giving up my life entirely, outside of work to support them, to take care of them. No freakin' way!

Sorry for venting. I am. Sorry for taking your time. I just wanted to pour it out. Sorry for sounding callous...I know I am...however I have worked darned hard for this house and the life I live with my child, and my indpendence and future foward planning, and I don't think I should have to give it all up because Mumsie can't behave like a grown up and deal with the responsibility of a husband! She parked her kids off onto her husband and her parents (Nan was the closest thing to a mother we had) and then when I was old enough, parked the taxi driving and cooking and cleaning onto me....she wonders why we all married young and ended up in disasterous marriages (the boys are OK second time around)...

Who do I get to talk to? Gee, everyone I know is pre-occupied with sex!

Thanks for letting me vent, guys! Just needed to let loose!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 11:04 PM

Hiddencharms - just read your blog of Sept26 about the unsettling experience your ex had on a first date. Yes it's true that women can be just as predatory as men but I for one am hoping that sexual desperaion hasn't set in for everyone over 40. I still like to think (or hope) that there are people out there genuinely seeking true love and willing to forgoe the instant "hit" of a one night stand in favour of slowly and genuinely pursuing a "proper" relationship.

I certainly am not out there chasing one night stands and I think you'll find most people aren't. Maybe I take things too seiously and should loosen up a bit, but then again maybe not.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 2, 2007 10:31 PM

I haven't posted for a while. I have actually had a bit of a break
from the "dating scene". Now the profile is up again and well...quite
abbreviated. I have been checking out the profiles of fellow bloggers....a
big wave to all those who caught me peeking..!! It is interesting to
read the profile when you read the blogs you do see more of the real
person. And you are a feisty lot.( I am a little nervous putting up a
post?)..... But me I am a bit of a "lurker".

Firstly thanks Rocco for the positive comments about the profile and
the feedback. I do actually get contacts from further afield than 100km
and met a guy yesterday from further west. I am located in Bundaberg
so Brisbane for me is a 4.5 hour drive. But beng as "open" as I am have
tried to meet a guy in Tassie....but I did put a piece in the long
distance blog about that failure. Have met a guy from outback SA, he was
nice, but....

Now back to my latest learnings and the over 40's bit. I have come to
the conclusion that I am finding it hard to find a guy as a lot of
them have a way of thinking which I am not keen about. I get the feeling
that there are many men ( and I guess they have been burnt) that look at
a women as a liablitly instead of an asset. Just a few things that
have been said to me in the past and then again on the weekend. I look at
myself as an asset, not how much I'll cost in a divorce. And until I
can find a guy who thinks I am an asset then I guess this one will be
single. So if there are any guys out there looking to increase their
assets..!!

Why is it we live in such a disposable society and our relationships
are treated the same way? We "older" generation should be more into
holding onto things that. While they may not be the latest model or work
the best we are built of stronger stuff and worth a little effort in the
long run? Lets start taking the environmental friendly approach to our
relationships....lets make an effort.

Ok that's my 2 cents worth....oh that's not currency anymore...well I
guess I could have said pence. I am older, but not quite that old. I
did get the odd shilling in the corner shop change tho.

But on the lighter side of things...Hope you are all enjoying the
beautiful spring weather, plants are jumping out of the ground, flowers
sprouting in the garden, blue skies and sunshine...well it is here in
Bundaberg... :-)

Posted by: sunkissedqldr at October 2, 2007 8:16 PM

Woodnwine: Love the new profile!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 7:13 PM

Twoeyes: Yeah. I got a good giggle out of it, too. I eventually gave in and told him what he would be incapable of doing in that state...He didn't think that was funny, either!

Metaphor and junebaby: So imagine how I feel, having my grandmother tell me she has found herself a "studley" in her retirement complex and she is getting more than enough!

Add to list of things to do: Start trawling Nan's retirement village..maybe the residents have sons or grandsons...

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 2, 2007 7:04 PM

Woodnwine

Why are you worried about what age a woman wants to claim.

Are there not more vital working parts.

1.....

2. a bod

3. not totally off her rocker

Posted by: excaliburwhet at October 2, 2007 6:27 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" thanks "Woodnwine' for your positive coments re my recent blog on people putting effort into their relationships.
I also really liked your coment that "Its not how many degrees etc; you die with, but the one who has the most love in their life,is the true winner." I totally agree.

I do find that alot of people on this site, who sometimes critcise me, actaully agree with me later on in a post or in the next one.

I am avery direct ,downto earth person, (as i say in my profile)..it may be too direct for some (though tempered often with humour to "soften the blow")..but I do not mince words.

To me , people who mince words, and tone things down to much, have usually turned out to be types who are fake smilers, and stab people in the back..and no one suspects it was them as "she was always so nice" etc:

No one need fear that from me! I don't play games.! If I don't like someone or something , I JUST SAY IT!

I do NOT pretend to be the friends of people i don't like and then speread false rumours about them behind their backs!

If I have something to say, I say it directly to the face of the person.!

It is annoying, that "being honest" and "No game playing" is a quality that many on the R.S.V.P. site put in their profiles, (But don't use the blogs)..but a few that do use the blogs, attack this very honesty and no game playing when they find it!
I do not think that my blogs are "Over the top" , as I have discussed these very issues, many times before over the years, with many people, and have had great responses.

I have a constant stream of "kisses" coming to me from this site, from both males and females Saying, that "they loved my down to earth attitude," "love my attitude to life", and "love my sense of humuor and "would love to get to know me","would love to chat" etc; and others have emailed me.

So i think "Woodnwine" in your comment that some of my comments are "Overthetop" would be a small minority.

(I am sure the mangement can confirm how many kisses I get, as they process them).

Maybe the people on the blogs have a lower standard of morals than those with profiles, and so are offended by my talk about fidelity and good clean family values"??????

Maybe if they tried it, then they could meet someone and get off the blogs and out dating??????

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

P.S> "Empty pots make the most noise". the complainers are heard louder on the blogs..... BUT .. .its the silent majority who like my blogs(nad send me emails and kisses)... that do not speak up on them! I urge you all to show your support for me on the actaul blog, so that those that criticise my views can see them!..(and then might starrt listening to me!)

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 2, 2007 3:40 PM

I don't think it is strange that women of my generation have older kids and many of my friends are similar age to my kids. It's great to grow up with your kids or else wait until your find the right man and have kids in your 30's or 40's. Now I am in my 40's and the kids have left the nest I am ready for my new exciting life!

Posted by: sunnyroad at October 2, 2007 2:31 PM

In my day, woodnwine, (I sound like an old codger!) girls married young. I married at 19 had my first child at 20 and my 6th at 30. These days women seem to be leaving it a lot later to marry and have children. Not sure I would want to do it that way though. With my children off my hands I was able to go to university, then to work and have enough time and money to travel.

Can anyone tell me why most older men are looking for a woman much younger than themselves and definitely one who is NOT even a year older than them. When I send a kiss to men a couple of years younger than me (and I have sent heaps) I always get a negative return even though I fulfil all their partner requirements. I am not looking for a 'toy boy' but someone within my age group. Just because I am 67 does not mean I am decrepit or ready to fall off my perch. Is this an ego thing?
Come on guys, give us "old" girls a go.

Re skiqueen's blog: I would feel uncomfortable/out of place going to a party/dance for the young. How about some events for over 50's because there a lot of people in this age group. Maybe a trip to Lord Howe or Norfolk.

Posted by: mushie6 at October 2, 2007 2:17 PM

I am highly annoyed that Carolyn Oates won the competition to be the face or rather "body" (naked that is) of Dove

There is someone on this site 10 times better.

Next time, sweetie, don't hold back. They pay well and you can get a good break in advertising.

Posted by: excaliburwhet at October 2, 2007 12:25 PM

Dating over 40, I think it's a little strange when you look at women's profiles in their late 40s and 50s and their children are around the same age as or not much younger than some of your friends. This isn't a criticism just an observation because these women obviously married and had children when they were very young. Strange.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 1, 2007 3:06 PM

This is my first blog and I'm a bit nervous. I have been looking occasionally at your blogs and you seem to have quite a rapport going.

I'm responding to Alex re what makes your dating needs and expectations different from those just starting out?

Having not been in a relationship for quite a while, I feel as though I am starting out and wonder how to 'do ' it. I went to one RSVP party, but it was as I'd feared - a room of people who did not make any effort to talk to each other and - sorry guys - the men looked very uncomfortable and unappealing. Perhaps I am very fussy, and perhaps the sort of of man who I'd meet at a bar is not for me, but I gave it a go.

People say that they seem to meet interesting people through friends, or at dinner parties. Perhaps RSVP could try some 'speed-dating' or dinner for 10 or something, rather than dinner for 6 or 8.

I rather like the idea of the 'meet me, meet my dog' days, although I don't have a dog. But what ages of people go to these? Could we have some feedback please? Although I prefer a man to be a similar age or younger, I don't really want to meet guys who could be my son!

Posted by: skiqueen at October 1, 2007 2:13 PM

I'm with you Junebaby57, my hormones have been moaning too. I was wondering if it was the full moon but of course it is that Spring is in the air!

ALW (you know who you are), I love the way you keep peeking and thanks for updating your profile. I must add another photo so that you don't get bored. I'm thinking of a trip to Melbourne in November so I'll have to brush up on my Salsa/Merengue steps and we could get down and dirty (on the dance floor, of course).

Somelifeinmeyet,"SERIOUS"sex sounds a bit scary to me. Lighten up and enjoy sex, safely of course but the odd risk (How did we get in to this position?)and plenty of laughter makes it infinately more interesting and pleasurable.

Spring is definately frustrating for singles. The Stones were spot on, I can't get no.... well we all know how it goes. Oh well back to the profiles for another trawl through the mire. Wish me luck, pickings sure are slim down here.
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Posted by: metaphor at October 1, 2007 1:34 PM

Hey there WW nice to see that you still want to play. welcome back.

Hiddencharms; great story re the ex had me in fits.

Posted by: twoeyes at October 1, 2007 10:11 AM

somelifeinmeyet - I am not generally a big fan of your posts as I think you can be a bit over the top and sometimes talk about things that aren't necessarily appropriate to the blogs on a dating site(plus I don't spend much time on here anymore) but I had to agree with your last post.

"..."I can see why you are single!"...(You obviously did not show the proper reverence for your life partner when you were married, and put all your energy into it, (like you should have),like it was the last day that you had together on earth.!

You took them for granted, you diverted your energy to career/career/career etc;...anything but them.

I am not impressed at all by profiles that exhibit this shallow attitude to sex and relationships.

Take it seriously, and it may work better for you this time."

I also think many people would not be on here looking for a new partner if they and/or their previous partner had concentrated on their marriage instead of other things. Like I said once before, in my opinion it isn't the one who dies with the most degrees, the biggest cars, fanciest houses who is the winner, it's the one who has the most love in their life who is the true winner.

Just put in the effort and you might be amazed at how well your relationships can work.

Posted by: woodnwine at October 1, 2007 8:17 AM

Dating over 40? Mmmmmm......well, you've all seen my comments. I don't think much of the situation...

It was my maternal grandmother's 81st birthday today. It also co-incided with the Rugby League Grand Final...and per chance...a great gathering of clan....

Now, my Nanna was a Dairy farmer's daughter, a Farmer's wife and then a truckies wife, breast cancer survivor and now widow. She was snowy white haired before I was born...and loved those pink and blue rinses...I was only saying the other day, that not for Decore, I would be "Nanna"....all snowy under the dye job...and thanking God that I did not have to do the "Mrs Slocombe thing" to try to pretend to be my age...

Anyway, Nanna had us all lined up for her appraisal: to short, too skinny, too fat, not married-give the kid a legal name....why havent' you found a husband yet....learn to sew and knit and crochet...I cringed when she came to me, the eldest of the maternal clan....(as opposed to one of the youngest of the paternal clan)...and she turns on me: " So how do you go without it?" She asks..."Without what?" I ask, tongue in cheek...."Sex, of course..." She replies....Gee whiz...this woman taught me to knit, sew, crochet, cook, clean, mend, darn, make curtains, cover couches, give a colicky baby brandy and brown sugar, and put it on solids way before the nursing sister said to.... and I followed her guidance....My own mother leads her own "special life" and has not been there for me, and Nanna has, but gee, discuss my sex life with Nan, now? What sex life? Outside of offers from sex-peradoes?

Anyway, she has been widowed for just over a year...and she has picked herself up a "studley umbley" as she calls him....and I have to cringe...he is a guy who my Dad worked with...a family friend...and I dated his grandson about 25 years ago....and she says it is the best sex she has had in her life - because she knows she can enjoy it and not fall pregnant!

She also knows that she can share it with me and I won't dob to the family....

Yikes! I know spring is in the air and all sorts of sex is abounding....I've had all sorts of sex talk with friends over the last few days...just thought I was being a w(b)ich an missing out...now it seems Nanna is doing a great job....

When I blow out the candles on my next birthday cake, what will I wish for....I???t won't be Richard Branston or Russell Crowe or Brad Pitt....it will be .....to live long enough to be just like Nanna and have no remorse or recrimations and enjoy the limited life that is left to me.....pushing into checkout lines and claiming ignorance....parking in wheelie zones an claiming blindness...and telling her grand-daughter to re-touch her roots because the snowy white is showing....I used to spend hours at the hairdresser with this old bat, seeing her snowy white turn blue....and she says if I remind anyone about her blue rinses, that she will dob about the time I wrecked my white school shirt, in her mulberry tree, spazzing half-eaten and juicy fruit at the Italian kids next door...she says it cost her a new white school shirt and pinafore, so Mum would not find out....

So, I guess I am "Mum" on Nana's sex life. Her life seems to be more excitining and amorouase than mine at the moment. Who am I to judge? She's having a ball!

Posted by: hiddencharms at October 1, 2007 2:44 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..to "Hiddencharms"..re fertiltity in women in 30's and 40's......Yes, I too know plenty who got accidentally pregnant!

Case in point, a woman I know,( 38yrs old at the time of getting pregnant, who was on the pill as well!) just delivered a baby girl a couple of days ago!

So for those men who think that they are on this site for a good time..I say think instead.."Child support agency" ...(for the next EIGHTEEN YEARS)for a child you fathered on a "fun" date!! LOL!!!!!

When will people ever learn!

Sex is not an indoor sport! It is a very SERIOUS matter betwen two people, (and the possible resulting offspring..with or without contraceptives used)..and should be given the respect that it merits!!

For those who lack this respect and reverence..i say..."I can see why you are single!"...(You obviously did not show the proper reverence for your life partner when you were married, and put all your energy into it, (like you should have),like it was the last day that you had together on earth.!

You took them for granted, you diverted your energy to career/career/career etc;...anything but them.

I am not impressed at all by profiles that exhibit this shallow attitude to sex and relationships.

Take it seriously, and it may work better for you this time.

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

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Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 29, 2007 11:32 AM

Hey bloggers, is it just me or have the blogs (all of them except that smoker one) really died off lately ???? They take ages to post, and I almost lost interest!

[Ed: Sorry, we have people away on holiday at the moment, which is slowing things down....]

Rocco61, I am sure your makeover is fab!!! Shame about the distance and I remember that Seinfield episode. My son now watches reruns on Foxtel, so I see them again. They are still just as funny.

The question of sex!! Well, spring is in the air! I don�t think that age matters, or gender�I for one, love, have always loved,,,.sex. With the right person, that could be the right person right now, or the right one long term�.I really think go with the flow if it feels right. (with the right protection�.always).

Maybe that is why hormones and endorphins kick in in spring. All the animals in the animal kingdom seem to get busy! Maybe god is trying to tell us something�.Life can be short, so enjoy it!

So happy spring��.jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 28, 2007 10:33 PM

From "Somelifeinmeyet" to "rocco61"..it was good to hear that you took your daughter along with you for your makeover and that you are making the effort.......(Bit worried though about the hair massage at the basin....yes..it sounds a bit "Seinfeldish") LOL!!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 28, 2007 9:06 PM

hmmm comeplaytrains not sure if you are the full monty or not.....

and woodnwine thanks for returning, sent you the mwah to say hi nice to see you back calm and stress free. Look forward to more entries from you.

happyday.....k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 28, 2007 8:45 PM

Metaphor and Malsie....hmm.....Tasmania is looking better all the time

Posted by: rocco61 at September 28, 2007 5:55 PM

Welcome back Woodnwine: You're right. You won't find anyone if you go into hiding. I live in hope that someone is out there...for everyone.

As for other people's privacy, well I treat it with respect. I don't give out email or phone details without permission etc...and I would feel awkward if someone came up to me in a public place announcing the words "RSVP"... Just not something that some people want the whole world to know...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 28, 2007 4:25 PM

Hiddencharms (and others) - I for one am not the least bit embarrased about being on RSVP. I don't care if people recognise me in public, being on here just says that I am single and looking to meet someone - better than wearing a sign on my head. Now there's an idea!
Good luck everyone and don't be embarrased, you won't meet anyone if you are hiding.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 28, 2007 10:13 AM

comeplaytrains (should be trainspotter), that is one scary profile you have...no wonder she ran!! What's with the spikes?

Posted by: metaphor at September 27, 2007 9:55 AM

Well things are looking up for me,
after sending out 12 kisses in the past 2 weeks, which is a lot for me, I received 3 rejections and 9 no replies at all, how rude....lazy, good for nothing, turds.

But, on the positive side, in the past few days I have received 2 unsolicited emails from ladies in Sydney who read the blogs ( I thought only bloggers read the blogs, not so) and I also received 3 kisses from bloggers and my first kiss from a guy ( you know who you are, I won't tell if you don't, you got me all excited for nothing )

So speaking of gay men, I said to my Daughter recently that I needed a "Queer eye for the straight guy" style make over to improve my chances. She suggested more like a miracle Dad, (children can be so cruel), anyway first stop was a menswear store of her choice, where two young gay guys attended to my every clothing need ( and I found one of them cute, damn, it has been a while for me, but he had that androgynous look, so you know, it doesn't count), left there $960 lighter and now have 25 T-Shirts.
Next was the hair, Daughter said " I know just the place, the salon where I go" . Middle aged Gay guy owns it and has young guys cut your hair, great, I thought.
First I had to have my hair shampooed and scalp massaged, ok, I can handle this. So there I was lying almost flat out on my back with my head in one of those basins having my hair washed and scalp massaged by a guy, when a woman, similar age to myself ( good looking too) came in and was attended to in the seat next to myself.

Now, I was enjoying this treatment and it felt really, really good and I started thinking about that episode of "Seinfeld" when George had his back massaged by a guy and as he said to Jerry "it" moved. "It", what it, says Jerry. IT, it moved says George.
So there I was in my new, fitting, designer jeans, laying flat on my back, next to an attractive lady, having my head massaged by a young guy, thinking, stop enjoying this so much or it could get really ugly ( read embarassing)
Needless to say I managed to keep control of myself and was invited back for more of the same with a complimentary voucher....hmmm may have to think about that one.

So now I'm all dressed up and nowhere to go,(sigh) I best go back to the "Profiles", stop wasting my time in the blogs.....ho hum

rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 26, 2007 8:29 PM

Thanks for the VK's, yet again none of the standard replies were appropriate.

Hidden Charms OOOPS sorry I asked for a photo when you had already sent your password! Lovely photos they are too. I agree with you and think they should let you put your gorrilla face up as a comparison and to show you have a sense of humour;)

Rocco, hope I've satisfied your curiosity. I have checked you out before and I think your profile is great and I enjoy your comments, but alas the distance thing. I could never understand why you where targetted earlier in this blog, but I really admired your perseverance.

Posted by: metaphor at September 26, 2007 9:20 AM

From "Somelifeinmeyet"..I was almost about to post a blog saying how well the blogs were scrolling down tonight when they froze!!LOL!!....What timing!!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 26, 2007 12:52 AM

I have been chatting with a very close male friend (JP for regular bloggers) who went on a blind date on the rebound from his friend-with-benefit (picked up through friends off a cruise ship alliance). He is totally shocked, hurt and confused, that this woman, on a first date, kept him dangling for a dinner that she would not order, but kept ordering drinks...and had him so lickered up that he agreed to be driven home...well, what happened is their business, but you can all fill in the gaps....then she would not leave...she was all set to move in...it took a call to the boys in blue to get rid of her...then constant mobile calls....yours truly stepped in and answered phone and said I was his wife and used to him spreading his STDs about the countryside (What are friends for?)....

Now this is a man who has been totally off-put, and is regretful and remorseful, by the actions of a very sexually aggressive woman...I have to admit, I laughed my guts out at him, because it is usually me being totally offended by the pervos and sex-peradoes....and he called me a totally insensitive w(b)itch for my efforts...I did try to be supportive and understanding...but this is my ex...Once upon a time ago I did want to rip his clothes off....Now, well he's one of the "family" who lectured me on cyber dating and all of its ugly traits...I also know what doesn't happen when he's had too much to drink...(am having a fantastic time stringing him along, though)...I did give him a great, long lecture about how much to drink, meeting in a "dry" environment, or having a taxi booked or friend to pick him up...and always having protection in the back of his wallet...never letting a first date into your home....

Honestly, we all talk about "dating" and finding a partner...I always thought it was because we wanted to grow old and wrinkly with someone who tickled our fancy and proved to be a reliable and trustworthy companion/friend/confident/homemaker/whatever.... does this single scene, and the dating world mean that we have degenerated to meaningless sex, just for the sake of it? Or for what we can get out of it?

Maybe someone needs to explain the new rules? I got married 20 years ago and have been far too busy ever since to stop and get involved in women's lib or re-vamped free sex...or maybe, and God help me for ever agreeing with Earl...drinks & dinner dating is cheaper than going to a brothel - for both males and females?

I'm putting on my suit of armour. I expect a lot of hits. I just don't understand this sex vs dating thing....Is it frustration (not getting any as opposed to wanting it)... or boredom (gee, that could fill in some time and energy)...desperate (anyone will do, physically forget emotionally)...or financial (I'm desperate enough to rope and hog tie the first person who comes along to put a roof over my head and pay my bills)...?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 26, 2007 12:05 AM

nooooooooooo hiddencharms forget the brother in Melbourne!!!
.............k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 25, 2007 5:58 PM

Comeplaytrains: THAT is exactly why some of us choose to keep our photos hidden.

OMG! Could you have been any less subtle? What about the poor woman's privacy?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 25, 2007 5:26 PM

Sabucni: Sex? Gosh. It must be spring! I've had this conversation 3 times this week, with various friends....! AND it is only Tuesday!

Don't let the age and so-called hormonal infertility thing trick you into believing that it is harder to conceive at our age...I have 2 friends, in their late 30s and mid 40s, who thought they could afford to be "not quite so careful" about contraception and they are now expecting surprise new additions to their already almost grown families! Sometimes, just when you think hormones are dying...they are actually flying...

Secondly, were you talking about sex, just for the fun of it, with anyone...or enjoying a great physical relationship with a partner?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 25, 2007 4:36 PM

This should be under "Spontaneity" but that column has no blog box.

I was standing there idly in the park bored stupid with a jazz concert, not an ounce of metal in sight, when I noticed someone whose face is plastered across these pages.

So, spontaneously, I said to her: "I recognise you. Aren't you on a certain internet site."

She gave me one horrified look, turned tail, and ran for it.

Well so much for spontaneity.

Posted by: comeplaytrains at September 24, 2007 5:24 PM

What no more anonymous bloggers? How am I going to survive without my Lurker fix?

Like all long standing soap operas this blog seems to be going through its tediously boring phase. We need some new characters to spice up the script.

Where are the comments from PerpetuallyImpotent, RealityCheck aka ScaredoftheRealWorld, TimePoorThrillSeeker,and ParanoidPerfectionist (not their real names of course and my apologies to anyone in RSVP who actually have these monikers), or are they just spending their time contacting me?

They seem to enjoy teasing me in to thinking that I may be getting a real date and then disappear in to cyberspace.

I'd like to know what their story is.

Okay, before you all have a go at me for not having my photo up, I will send the password via a VK to the curious amongst you. male or female. I just like to screen out the window shoppers.

Cheers,
Metaphor

Posted by: metaphor at September 24, 2007 12:20 PM

Okay, while waiting for the blogs to be updated, here is an old joke.
I've just added a new twist to it...

Dear God,

So far today I am doing all right.

I have not gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish or self-indulgent.

I have not whined, complained, cursed or, eaten any chocolate.

I have not used my credit card.

BUT - I will be getting out of bed AND ONLINE in a minute, and I think I may need some of your help then.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 23, 2007 9:25 PM

Trying to post from a different computer to see if I can get a result.
Have had a lot of trouble posting on the blogs since they changed the format.

Posted by: rocco61 at September 23, 2007 8:28 PM

hiddencharms does your friend have a brother in Melbourne lol.

good luck to ya.

happy day..............k

Posted by: auntykaz at September 23, 2007 7:02 PM

David: Hidden again? I can't email you if you keep hiding!

Seraphsuzie: Tried lunch today with Mr Romantic. A real "schmoozer"!!! Knows exactly how to try to impress...I earn so much I can afford to be overly extravagant...I know what you ladies want...you want romance before sex...you'll wait about 3 weeks before you say yes...you'll expect flowers every Friday night...and want me to sit and listen to you whine about your lousy day and aching feet...and...he says he's met the crowd I hang out with (at parties)and thinks they're stuck up intellects...Heaven forbid! These are my friends...where on earth does he get off on "stuck up?"

It was a short lunch! I came home and tried to answer an email....But failed....So....am curling up with John Wayne and a glass of vino...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 23, 2007 4:44 PM

What ?? .. no more anonymity ??? .. hmmm well this will make things a little more interesting .. 

Tell me ladies an honest question requiring an honest answer ... sex .... yep of course it had to be about that from a man .. we dont change .. but has your approach/viewpoint on it changed? We are getting to an age where children are either no longer possible or more difficult to conceive which SHOULD allow a viewpoint on sex as an aspect purely of pleasure, to change .. so has it ?? 

 Are your views more liberal to it ?  .. I have had mixed experiences myself from the ladies I have met, but I was curious on broader respones on this mass forum ..

formally 'JustAGuyThatsHappyBeing40'

Posted by: sabucni at September 23, 2007 3:47 PM

From :Somelifeinmeyet"..Yes the blogs do seem dead, I'm posting but theyaren't going in, so yours aren't either i bet???????

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 23, 2007 1:44 PM

Come on girls give us guys a little credit as we are not that gulible or stupid when you send a reply saying we dont fit when it is clearly visible that you dont have any set profile on yours

Posted by: dochog at September 23, 2007 4:49 AM

Wow! A movie that wasn't real? How could that have happened? I can't believe it. dont tell me that Sherlock Holmes isnt real either?

As Abraham Lincoln once said "you can fool some of the people some of the time....etc"

If you look at the character of "Kenny" you can see in him some on from your life. Every one I have spoken to about this "mockumentry" (for the record Somelifeinmeyet "mock" refers to something that isnt real or fake) state that Kenny reminds them of a friend or relative and most say hes a good bloke.

He actually reminds me of 2 friends of mine that I met through motorsports fire rescue crew. Both are down to earth, honest and have a passion for what they do and believe in. also if you examine the character you would have seen that he has family issues that he is working through in his everyday life. Like many of us, trying to get thru every day, the best way we can.

And if you noticed that although he did a job that seemed menial to most of the community, if the service wasnt performed by people like him, one must wonder what the implications would be. the scene where he assists the drug effected girl and finds the bloke chained to the toliet showed his true spirit. The way he was treated on the movie set is also typical of some peoples perseptions. I suggest to you thhat you look out of your window and see the type of people in the community that do these honest jobs and think how you would survive without them.

What you are also saying is that we men need to change to attract women such as yourself. Well my dear, let this be a lesson to the likes of you, I take it that honesty and being genuine isnt a a trait that you admire in a man.

If you recall Kenny won the girl in the end and gained a valuable contract for his employer. This was based on the honesty and openess of the character the ACTOR protrayed.

by the way, the aircraft scene was filmed in the flight similator center for QANTAS crews so im sure no passengers were inconvienced by the cameras.

perhaps the women could ask thier friends to give an honest appraisal of how they come across to women (to make sure that they dont look like the before protograph in the Jenny Craig ads) but instead realistic.

oh one more thing..... ask your pychologist or counsellor about Santa too..... the truth might shock you. (Then you can move on in your life and then learn to deal with the truth about the easter bunny and toothfairy too, but then again, that might be too much for you to handle)

Posted by: stormtrooper at September 22, 2007 3:17 PM

Re posting by: somelifeinmeyet at September 21, 2007 10:57 PM and my "Kenny".

Yes, I do take your point that it is nice for a man to make an effort with his appearance (the same for us women too) but....

my fictional character "Kenny" (lisp and all!) still exhibits to me the characteristics of being an decent, hard working, intelligently compassionate and loyal bloke.

I think this "character" is attractive because of his personality (albeit, brought to light by good acting, direction and script) and I would accept a dinky di, honest "Kenny" type any day.

Signed by

Seen too many intelligent and suave con-artists in action.

P.S. But I, like you, somelifeinmeyet, do like a deep voice in a man. :)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 22, 2007 12:09 PM

I watched that movie "Kenny" the other night, and thought poor Kenny was REAL!!! (Someone else on here mentioned it)

I was building all this sympathy up for him, with his speach impediment (lisp), his wife kicking him out, his mean father and brother, the problems at work, and it was just all an act!

I felt that I had been really tricked!

(As the movie went on though, I started to wonder why the father would say such terrible things to kenny, knowing that the reality tv people were filming it all! Then different times, like in the aeoroplane, I wondered how they positioned the camera so it didn't annoy the other passengers.

When the second show came on, which was "The making of kenny", then the truth came out, that his father and brother weren't really all that mean!(which was a relief really, as I wondering how they were not worried about being vilified all over australia when the movie comes out!)They were just all acting, even his wife and nephew!

What a difference Kenny made when he was his real self. No lisp, a nice deep masculine voice (which I like), dressed differently, and speaking differently!

Let this be a lesson to men on R.S.V.P., that a change in voice, mannerisms and clothes could "get them the girl".

Perhaps the men could ask their friends to give them an honest appraisal of how they come across to women. (to make sure that they don't look like "kenny" to women)..but instead attractive.

SIgned "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at September 21, 2007 10:57 PM

Rocco! No longer hidden, but you'd seen it anyway! They still won't let me post the early-morning-gorilla face....

Seraphsuzie: Dunno. I guess I might have to eventually say "yes" to that dinner and find out...It's really funny, though...he has not struck me as being the sensitive, romantic type...maybe he's just out to impress...but far more romantic than an email!

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 21, 2007 7:14 PM

hiddencharms... does your friend have a brother?? hehe. He sounds like a keeper to me!! How lovely to see that romance is still alive and kicking!! :-)

Posted by: seraphsuzie at September 21, 2007 10:09 AM

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 16, 2007 10:15 PM -
"But I'm just wondering...are there any positive comments made by males posting on this Dating Over 40's topic? I'm honestly interested."

Glad I wasn't holding my breath while waiting, 'cos I would have expired by now...

Signed by,

Still waiting for my Forest Gump or Kenny the Waste Disposal Expert - both fictional characters (*sigh*) exhibiting decent, manly behaviour.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 20, 2007 9:49 PM

A certain lady's charms are no longer hidden

Posted by: rocco61 at September 20, 2007 9:10 PM

Sign in...type comment...click on preview...lose comment...told not signed in....click to sign in...have to scroll to bottom of page, taking forever...told "welcome hiddencharms now you can comment"....go to post....see if this one gets through!

Is it any wonder it looks like we've lost our bloggers?

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 20, 2007 7:44 PM

Hi Guys

about the "Bloggers" catch up ideas, which I saw on the “encouragement kiss “ blog, but I think it is broken, cause I tried twice to get this on …has anyone else struck this problem with extremely slow blog posts?? It is a shame because last week they were really fast to be uploaded…any way , apparently a catch up is going to happen in Melbourne.

I would be interested in attending a “bloggers “ catchup!!. I am in Canberra and could do Sydney on a weekend, as long as it is not on the 2 weekends I have weddings on in the next 2 months.(not mine!!).

Also I will be in Brisbane for 21st to 24th Sept for the project I will be on, so will get free time over the weekend, maybe sunday, for a bit of sightseeing and maybe catch up with some or all of the Brisvegas bloggers if you are interested in some kind of group catch-up!!!! Not sure how to organise??? I will be in the middle of the city, Adelaide St. Anyway I am open to ideas.

I have only been to Brisbane a few times, so I don't know places. Any one interested and heeelp!!!!!jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at September 20, 2007 7:26 PM

Rocco: I did try a posting on Sunday night - sometime before my 12.06am post saying that my post disappeared before I could post it...I dunno...Too much sun and sand? Or did I accidentally say something nasty?

Anyway, I think I wiped out your stamp when I terminated my account in a fit of pique a few weeks ago....sorry...

To all: Just wanted to say that I have been totally surprised and overwhelmed to discover that romance over 40 is not entirely dead! I have met a guy, through friends, several times at various gatherings. The other night he asked if I would like to go out to dinner: " a real dinner, just the 2 of us" he says. I told him that I'd think about it. A couple of days later, he arranged through friend, to send flowers to work, with a voucher for a bistro dinner and gold class movie tickets attached to the blooms! So, I'm thinking a little more seriously about it!

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 19, 2007 9:41 PM

Ladies l think its official...we have scared all the men off....Oh dear!!!

Posted by: auntykaz at September 17, 2007 8:57 PM

In all fairness, I must retract my post here of 12 Sept. I quoted some statistics of male female proportional members that are completely in error. For that I apologise.

I was logged in when I did my experimental searches and consequently when seeking a man (as a test), I got only those blokes who are here to meet other men rather than what a woman seeking a man would get.

Funlovertoo later remarked as to an alleged imbalance in sexes in our particular age group (54-64) based on my comment. I am sorry if I misled.

When I searched from a different computer without logging in as a member, I found that there was no such imbalance that was significant.

I may also have misled woodbine.

Original post retracted without reservations and with apologies.

Posted by: ezee at September 17, 2007 7:57 PM

You make me laugh, earlofwyoming!
Looked at your latest profile and I don't quite see you as a slipper-fetcher.
Anyway, I was interested in your comments about what you call retired "working girls" being on this site.
I don't know that hookers is a nasty word. Have not really thought much about the semantics of that industry, not being a customer of it.
I have actually interviewed a working girl in the past and earlier this year met someone who'd been on the streets of a major city for a while to support her heroin habit. She's now a mother of two.
The point of my post was to question the believability of the two "Lady Marmalade" posts, on the grounds that they were simply one person's fantasy, and that the finer points of writing style were those of another blogger.
I notice they've now been removed from the site, along with the posts from Psychobabble.
Anyway, have fun because you're one of the guys with a bit of oomph on this blogs and in real life I suspect.
Crazy but interesting:)

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 17, 2007 6:16 AM

To all, including RSVP EDS: Do we now now not have the privilege of previewing and editing our inarticulated words and poor spelling and grammar? Seems I got sent sent straight to "post" on last posting. Forgive the lousy typos...

Hellsbells

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 17, 2007 12:06 AM

Postings by: hiddencharms at September 13, 2007 11:41 PM; funlovertoo at September 15, 2007 1:17 PM and trumanscat at September 15, 2007 1:55 AM -very well said.

I'm only scrolling so far back and would also like to compliment anyone else who is constructive.

But I'm just wondering...are there any positive comments made by males posting on this Dating Over 40's topic? I'm honestly interested.

Awaiting the fallout...or any reasonable replies.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 16, 2007 10:15 PM

Hiddencharms,
I spent all Saturday at Currimundi accosting women in brown bikinis and sporting Liz Hayes haircuts, the last one I think was Liz Hayes, she must have been the one who called the police because I asked to see her hidden charms ( I knew I should of worn pants)
If you wanted to meet you should have been a bit more specific, time etc.
The stamp runs out soon so you could email me, let me know when you will be up next.

Wishingandhoping2,
Agree with you about Malsie and Woodnwine

David

Posted by: rocco61 at September 15, 2007 9:45 PM

cynicalandanonymous - yes, I left the blogs yesterday so what the hell I have overstayed my welcome by a few hours. I just wanted to say however that I do in fact send you good thoughts and kind wishes. No, I don't like you but that doesn't matter to me. Good luck and I hope you find true happiness and contentment. Everyone is deserving of that.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 15, 2007 9:38 PM

Woodnwine, you made me smile too...Thanks for that!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at September 15, 2007 8:25 PM

I don't feel it wise to judge Lady Marmalade's blog entry. It may be her true account or it may not be - we don't know. But to publicy say it's more than likely a fictional story, especially with such little evidence, is unfair.

Posted by: imissyou at September 15, 2007 6:54 PM

Hello All,

Have been reading through these blogs and can see what a 'bun fight' has been going on.
Would it not be best to ignore comments that stray off the topic? CynicalandAnonymous I am sure is having a fine time with all of this. She continues to cast her line and gets so many catches in one strike - she must be having a great laugh! Anyway, if you want the slagging matches to continue, which may be the case, then keep biting and taking the bait otherwise let's get back to why we are here.
On a another note I have read many of the blogs here and admit to having a peek at profiles of said bloggers - so if you have 'seen' me I do apologise and I need to clarify that I am not 'interested' per se in you ladies but rather interested to know a bit more about you given your intelligent comments.
And woodnwine - where are you? I really want to read your profile. You have me fascinated!

Posted by: imissyou at September 15, 2007 6:36 PM

Dear Funlover2

Why do you think there are no retired hookers (what a nasty word- why do you not use the nicer "working girls") on this site?

They all have to retire sometime.

Some of them actually enjoy sex. And the attention from men.

There are of course a lot of sensitive people on this site, to whom this snippet of information will come as a shock.

So let's pretend I didn't say it.

Posted by: earlofwyoming at September 15, 2007 4:59 PM

funlovertoo.
I took Lady Marmalade's blog on face value. Maybe I am naive.. .

Posted by: trumanscat at September 15, 2007 4:41 PM

Malsie - I've had the same problem with preview and now don't dare use it.
Blog topic - what over-40s would like - a redress of the imbalance of the sexes on RSVP among the mature age groups.
Maybe RSVP needs an advertising campaign to attract men to the site, by pointing out the large numbers of women vs men.
That could help.
A guy I'm corresponding with joked that I should move to China...where there are more men.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 15, 2007 1:30 PM

Woodnwine - thanks for the kiss!
We've been through a lot and I was beginning to think I should have ignored the venom rather than trying to defend myself against ridiculous accusations.

I must say I've been extremely impressed by your generosity of spirit and kind words.

TrumansCat - yes, the old saying is that it takes two but in some cases it takes a lot more than that.

RSVP could obviously see the grief this was causing and the damage to the blog system, so decided to act to call a halt.
Recently I've firmly believed I was fighting against an unwell phantom or phantoms to defend my image and that the only way to deal with it - without any action from RSVP - was to look for the inconsistencies in the posting across boards.

Anyway, it's now over, and let's hope that the person or people involved seek help to deal with the anger and pain causing such extreme outbursts.

By the way, TrumansCat, I do believe that Lady Marmalade was a totally fictional character...a sort of cut n paste from a hooker's memoirs or a racy novel.
It didn't ring true to me at all.
The question I asked myself was why would someone in that position be on RSVP?
The apparent confusion between the business activity now and the cake and presents from former clients, with a blurring of tenses and time frame, was another giveaway. the style was too - for example, the way $3,000 was written, rather than $3000.
Obviously the real profile Lady Marmalade would be embarrassed by what's appeared if she knew about it!
Anyway, thanks to all who took part in the battle for blog sanity and to RSVP for trying to stop the rot.
Woodnwine..I'm just not buying into anything from Cynical and Anonymous, ever again, and I suggest you do the same.
The reason is that we have made our point, we have been acknowledged, and we just need to move on with out lives.
I updated my profile today - after decoratress looked at it, so have another look decoratress.

Posted by: funlovertoo at September 15, 2007 1:17 PM

Thank you Rocco.

Nice comment.

Not sure whether "stuck up" is the right word.

It's a tight little bunch up there at Nusa. They all seem to know each other. Probably have a lot in common.

Posted by: earlofwyoming at September 15, 2007 12:35 PM

Thank you Malsie. You have made my day.
You are very beautiful too in looks and in your nature and intelligence.

I've always respected your opinions and outlook.
I think the trick is to blog honestly and make sure you have informed opinions and arguments.

We all like an opposing view, makes things interesting. What we don't like is personal slurs and abuse. That's just ugly.

I haven't always agreed with Woodnwine but I think he has been deeply hurt by the happenings here and hope he keeps blogging because that will put it in perspective for him. He has loads of support from intelligent, confident, successful ladies on this site. Men too!

Also what does it matter in the long run how many rejections we get from virtual strangers? We are here to meet that ONE and some friends along the way. Meeting the ONE may take a week, month, year, years but when they arrive- WOW. I'm waiting for that butterfly effect again.

Friends have been made by lots of bloggers and Woodnwine these are the people you should be taking notice of, not a few negatives.

I looked at your profile a while back and found it interesting and you handsome.....my opinion for what it is worth. I even sent you a kiss.

I have actually always blogged as wishingandhoping but left out the two at the end.

Apologies to the lady in Queensland- I hope I have not been too rude or opinionated in your name.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at September 15, 2007 12:18 PM

Earl,
Good to see your profile, as for Noosa women they are mostly more stuck up than the rest of them on the Sunshine Coast, I can speak their language though (property prices)

rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 15, 2007 10:57 AM

Wishingandhoping2 - I just wrote a post to you, but somehow with all the scrolling up and down here, it's gone! The problem was in the previewing, I think, which I won't bother with again.

It's great to have the new accountability for bloggers (thanks RSVP for taking notice), but takes forever to actually get a post on here - not for the faint hearted! Like the whole RSVP experience at times.

What I did say previously, WishingandHoping2, was that it was great to finally meet you, and that unlike some women on here who rave on about how "gorgeous" they are (whilst saying very ugly things), from seeing your profile you are obviously beautiful without having to proclaim it to the world.
I would write to you, but alas have no stamps. There is another female blogger I'd dearly like to write to too, so who knows, maybe later! Glad to see you hung on in here and didn't desert the forum.

Posted by: malsie at September 15, 2007 10:42 AM

Rocco

Don't go anywhere near Currimundi Lake mate.

There are still unexploded mines in the area.

Try Nusa.

There's a wealth of RSVP material just waiting to be explored (mind you there is a queue for some of it, but be patient)

Posted by: earlofwyoming at September 15, 2007 7:02 AM

woodnwine.
Nothing happens in a vacuum, no dynamic between two people happens with the only the imput of one.
As the old saying goes... it takes two to tango.

Posted by: trumanscat at September 15, 2007 1:55 AM

What happened to September 13 posts?
Is it just me or is it getting harder to load the "post your comment" box?
Box on top would be nice.

rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 14, 2007 8:34 PM

Thank goodness there now are honest references (profile names) for blogs posted!!!

Now we just have to sort out the ones blogging under two or more different profiles...

Posted by: ornamentalonly at September 14, 2007 7:36 PM

Wishingandhoping2 -

"I think that cynicalandanonymous may well be FemalePersuasion or was it FriendlyPersuasion???"

NO I am not this person, neither am I psychobabble, although I do like and respect everything she had to say.

I am my own person. So stop doubting my credibility and insinuating MPD - I am on here as myself. There must be many women on RSVP who have fabulous photos and receive a lot of attention - and I am one of them.

Love,

CynicalAndAnonymous

Posted by: cynicalandanonymous at September 14, 2007 7:24 PM

Woodnwine,

Sad to see you and your, usually, positive approach going.

I hope you are just having some timeout. I've done that a few times and it is chicken noodle soup for the online dating debacle.

I think that cynicalandanonymous may well be FemalePersuasion or was it FriendlyPersuasion???

Sorry FP if I am wrong but if right I can see why you get so much male/mail. I think ALL of your pictures are fabulous.

Maybe psychobabble is FP...maybe I'm wrong and shouldn't even be thinking about such trivia...but I've always had a great head for the trivial.

Maybe I should be spending some quality time trawling through profiles to find my soulmate, but I think I'll just go see if any new blogs have popped up in the other topics.

I'll be in that Melbourne blog/Woodnwine meet too. Sounds like fun..could be at Churcher's??????RSVP likes it there. I used to in the seventies when it first opened too.

RSVP have been very busy lately following lots of our advice and for that I thank them....they DO listen.

[Ed: And you are our first authenticated blogger...!]

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at September 14, 2007 3:44 PM

This is a great question,
but I have another one, are men here genuinely looking for a relationship or just notches in their belt? I mean we are over 40 right, time for the real stuff isnt it? no spreading your seeds etc....
I was in a relationship for 4 years, I thought it was great at first, finally found MR right, well what a nightmare that turned out to be and yes he lurks here al the time, not satisfied to be in a loving relationship, he has to be messaging and phoning other woman for what? I was astounded that men and woman act this way? why? have we lost sight of morals and standards that make us the nice people we are? or morals of others? .
This is an avenue for people , men and woman who dont want to be alone and are alone not by choice. Can we sort out the REAL ones? lol nice thought.
I dont know just venting I guess, I just would like to know HOW to attract the good guys!

Posted by: loveable46 at September 14, 2007 1:46 PM

Laugh, I almost pissed myself. Very funny cynicalandanonymous that guy must have really pissed you off. Like my mate said though, where is your profile sweetie? I couldn't find it and would love to see if your as good as you rekon. Although I don't have enough money for you I'd still enjoy some honesty.

Posted by: john the other fireman at September 14, 2007 10:42 AM

cynicalandanonymous - Hello, being a male I never looked at woodnwines profile. Maybe he is a twit, I wouldn't know but where is your profile? Why can't we judge it? After all, fair's fair. Or is it? Kind of puts you off women a little doesn't it.

Posted by: bob the fireman at September 14, 2007 10:37 AM

Robert Harkins - you too are learning the game. So many women say on their profiles "where are all the men?" but we are out there sending them kisses, it's just that they reject most of them, often without even checking our profiles. Why, I couldn't work it out so I gave up. Good luck mate.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 14, 2007 10:23 AM

cynicalandanonymous - before you lash out at me or the women I have been in contact with again - of the 113 kisses I received, some I met, some I deemed not compatible but responded to, some lived too far away and I am not interested in a long distance relationship, and some I asked to send me an email and never heard from them again. Unlike some, I responded to every kiss and email that I received and made some nice friends along the way. Just thought I should clear that up before I leave. Have a nice day.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 14, 2007 10:11 AM

psychobabble - if you are who I think you are then it's funny because when others were attacking you I actually sent you a nice blog. Strange how things go around isn't it? Karma acts in strange ways sometimes but in the end I think it usually evens out.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 14, 2007 9:59 AM

Dateless and Desperate

"he is just lucky the "boys" don't give him the treatment he'd get in the real world"

Seems to be quite a few people on this site who want to sue "the boys" on to other people.

Some claim connections to the criminal underworld.

Some are part of the criminal underworld.

As long as your blogs are recorded so they may become suitable evidence when you time is up and Big Louie out at Woolston Park CC thinks that you might well be suited to being one of his "boys."

Turn around and let him have you

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 14, 2007 4:57 AM

Seems I have alot to say tonight...child is at final school musical rehearsal and will be duly escorted home by her friend's father - one of her teachers - very soon (I hope)...

Getreal: When you can put up a profile that clearly demonstrates that you are better looking; in better shape; better financially resourced; more commited to his partner; and as in-tune with the world as Arnie Schwarznegger (buggar my spelling) who is a major accolade for middle aged men...an itinterate immigrant with no English, actor, businessman, and in major control of his own mind and body, who has become Governor of a US State (California for those who want to pick)...

THEN... you can stroll onto this site and start garbaging women for not being the "Perfect 10". Seen Farrah or Bo lately? Both in your age group. Both have lost their "hey day" and they have had the benefits of truckloads of money and plastic surgery to aid their aging process! We "yummy Mummies" do it whilst raising kids, running homes, holding down jobs, battling ex's and trying to build a better future for ourselves.

Things you need to remember:
Beauty is not skin deep...
The camera adds 10 lbs...
True love is based on the incredible, not the superficial...
AND you need to get real, and get over yourself!!!

Give you a little example of how deceptive looks can be (I"M NOT BRAGGING JUST MAKING A HIGHLY SUPERFICIAL POINT)...I'm, 5'3 and lie and say I'm 5'4 and like to wear heels that make me look 5'6...weighing at about 57kg...I do the trendy haircuts and polish my nails...still do a bikini on the beach and told, even by Rocco that I am nice to look at...I have uni degrees, but work as a public servant, because I love what I do (and tried the high rolling money thing and almost went insane)....I have a fantastic kid and a wall full of certificates etc to fill up the empty almoned-toned space....BUTT (and I mean just like a Billy goat) I am one of the biggest w(b)itches that you will ever come across...Why? Because I had a husband who demanded 1950 style perfection out of me...while he went out and used and abused every not-so-perfect specimen he could find to accommodate his own "inadequacies"...If you want a cute little filly to hang off your arm and your every whim, then I suggest you try somewhere around.....1410!

Fat, ugly, liars, deceptive, non-qualified, employment losers, go-getters and would-be's; money grabbers, meal seekers that we have been accused of being (especially deeree and decoratress) you can shove in your BS pipe and smoke! Along with your mysogynist mates!

Why are women on this site so hard, intelligent, independent, resourceful, sharp-witted, disillusioned, cynical and suspicious of the men they encounter? Go back and read the blogs. We've been treated like second class citizens, and most of us ripped off financially and emotionally for our efforts. By men like you!

Hellsbells

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 13, 2007 11:41 PM

CynicalAndAnonymous at September 12...

Just re-read your post in case I was imagining it...

but no- it was absolutely deplorable. OMG- read your post as if it were directed at yourself (substituting appropriate words.... ie. instead of 'boring', 'negative', 'whining' insert 'pretentious', 'arrogant', 'wanker' (oops) etc)...

I'm hoping others will join me in condemning such personality assassination..

Do I remember you posting about your amAzing statistics? & that you were so far above the rest of the proletariat that you'd cancelled your Top100 tick as being, well- childish? You know... seeing as you knew you were always on it anyway....? Now, without scrolling back far, far too far to check- it rings a bell. If I'm wrong, I retract my comments related to it..... but if I'm right I've a question. If you're so successful & intelligent- upper echelon as it were- & attractive & - well - 'queen'v fuckin everything' (as they say)...

...forgive me for being simple, but what are you still doing on this site? Surely amongst the hundreds of responses in your mailbox you've had your pick...??

...no one come up to scratch?

Sadly, that's often the way when one's too hot- few measure up. Believe it or not, I actually sympathise with you. Diminishes ones choices so much. It must make you very frustrated. And want to spit venom anonymously at very nice people. Which, of course, diminishes your chances of attracting anyone pleasant even further...

Bex.... lie down.... chant om.... light icense....
All reasonable & simple ideas for improving the headspace, c&a.

Yours faithfully
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 13, 2007 11:39 PM

Hey oldies !!
Ohh hang on... thats me now too.. bummer!! Just turned 40 and noticed this blog for the first time. I guess if anything I would be interested to know how I come across in my profile. I had a friend (not an RSVP person) check out my profile and they said it wasn't very flattering?? Weird I thought it was OK, if anyone is bored and they wanted to check it out and be honest (not necessarilly brutal :-) I'd love to know what you think .

Have fun... and for what its worth my spin on all this
is that every time I see someone I think is a potential match I get no love!! LOL Cmon girls Surely Bendigo's not that far from Melbourne ??..

Posted by: Apiesfan at September 13, 2007 11:33 PM

Same old same old....I see the regular psycho's are still here, and some have even got the family to join them, revealing a genetic tendency probably best kept private...oops! Too late now!

cluelessnotclear continues to ramble nonsensically in a language of his own invention.

cynicalandcrazy seems to have even more persona's taking umbrage at random comments, as if they were directed personally at her.

But what has changed is the opponents these bitter and twisted old loonies are having disagreements with.
That's funny...their own posts are always loaded with self congratulatory statements about how nice, reasonable, fair etc etc they are, yet they seem to be always fighting.
With a changing cast of unpleasant, unreasonable and unfair people.

mmm...makes sense to me!

lurker

Posted by: nothim at September 13, 2007 10:43 PM

Hey Rocco: I hope I was included in your 9 kisses. After all, I was very nice to you (and vice-versa). I even let you look at my photo - even if it was just to prove I don't have green hair and horns! The RSVP Nazis would not let me post my favourite pic for public viewing - my early morning gorilla face. They say I have to post a real pic. What? Hairy, uncombed, wet nose, wrinkly skin, yellow teeth and 3 fingers isn't natural? Come on, Rocco, laugh with me! I'm laughing at myself! Seiously! No wonder I can't get a date!!!

By the way, if you want to take that poodle for a walk on Saturday, there's this bush track, follows the north side of the river at Currimundi, through the bush, to the beach. See if you can spot a brown bikini with Liz Hayes haircut, with a rather droll female teenager and 3 borrowed teenage boys....She'll be the one stuffing square pegs into round holes and throwing Maccas at the kids...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 13, 2007 10:33 PM

Decoratress: No need to apologise. Really. I think we've all had days where dealing with the gibber just plain gets to us.

Take a read of my post re "my prescription for psychosis"...In another blog, I added how I proved to long suffering doctor that I was indeed sane: I told him all his ink blots looked just like ink blots (some big some small) and then I took my cigarette lighter and singed the straight edges off the square peg and stuffed the little buggar into the round hole! There. I'm sane. I know I don't sound it, but, laughing at myself, for letting the disillusionment and rudeness of some people get to me....

As mentioned, we've always enjoyed pleasant chats and hope to continue.

Love & peace to you...Despite what some boofhead posted, I think it is a nice salutation...

Posted by: hiddencharms at September 13, 2007 10:04 PM

CynicalandAnonymous - you say you tried hard to keep out of this blog topic - after that incredibly personally attacking post you put in, all I can say is what a shame you didn't try harder. Elsewhere you attacked woodnwine for his "negativity". I don't know how many other blog posts you've read, but ironically his had always been particularly encouraging and positive up until about 2 weeks ago.

David, how about we unhide our profiles for a couple of days (hope you can cope with the deluge of kisses that ensues!) so we can exchange our real email addresses? Just never got round to it before... sorry to hear your date was a bit "ordinary".

ETC - there's huge variation in thought about when to hide your profile. In the end I reckon it just comes down to when it feels appropriate to you and the other person (and hopefully you both want to at the same time!). That can be after a few meetings, weeks, or even before meeting should you both wish!

Malsie (one of woodnwine's many "imaginary" online friends....)

Posted by: Malsie at September 13, 2007 8:46 PM

cynicalandboring - which part of woodnwine's profile did you fing negative? I looked at it some time ago and although not my type (too old) I found it to be quite positive and upbeat. Are you thinking of the right person?
Beth
ps why do you need to be so rude and boring anyway, aren't we all on here looking for support? Isn't that the idea of the blogs?

Posted by: at September 13, 2007 8:33 PM

cynicalandanonymous - have you actually seen woodnwine's profile? I tried looking ages ago and it wasn't visible? And when do we all get to see yours and passjudgement on it?
also a cynic

Posted by: at September 13, 2007 8:28 PM

getReal and CynicalAndAnonymous...now there's two that would make a good couple.

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 13, 2007 6:18 PM

cynicalandanonymous - I think your problem goes way beyond a disagreement with woodnwine. With rudeness and anger like that I suggest you seek professional help woman.
DBee

Posted by: at September 13, 2007 6:04 PM

Does anyone else think this is unacceptable or is it just me?

Posted by: woodnwine at September 13, 2007 6:01 PM

woodnwine - just leave mate, you don't need all this crap from a woman who won't even identify herself. Come on cynicalandwhatever, step out from the shadows and show us your true colors.
what the hell? Brian

Posted by: cynicalmale at September 13, 2007 5:45 PM

cynicalandanonymous - how to win friends and influence people - NOT. That has to be the most rude and offensive post I have ever read. I have never blogged before but you have changed that, thank you at least for getting me on here.

Posted by: Layla at September 13, 2007 5:34 PM

"When and how do you get to the point of taking your profile down (and his)???"

ETC. Love you Honey. Did you really mean it that way.

The answer is- you may take his profile down when
(a) he has given you his RSVP password;
(b) when you have confiscated his computer so he can't relist under another profile.
(c) when you have chained him to the bed so he can't visit an internet cafe, a public library or workplace where he can gain alternative internet access.

Does that answer your question?

Posted by: Take His Profile Down First- Then Yours at September 13, 2007 3:03 PM

C&A - Let me just thank you for your comments -
"You are the laughing stock of every woman I know who has seen your now extinct profile"
"your profile and photos were CRAP"
"your photos and whiney profile were the pits. In all honesty I'm surprised you scored a 5% success rate. Just goes to show some people on here really are desperate."
"You're a pathetic excuse of a man and no wonder you have taken yourself off here"

Go on, dig deeper!

Do any of your rich friends actually take you out in public with a mouth and an attitude like that? You must be one of those people who gets great pleasure out of putting people down. Does it really make you feel so much better than others when you put them down like that? Do you get joy out of that? You would probably step on someone who had fallen over in the street because it would make you look taller.

All I can say is WOW! What a person, no wonder you hide behind anonymity.

Posted by: woodnwine at September 13, 2007 1:04 PM

I am missing the regular bloggers.... Weta, Ninaschen, Malsie, Beachmouse..... even Lurker to keep the bastards/bitches honest.
Still in my thoughts guys...

Posted by: TrumansCat at September 13, 2007 12:18 PM

Cynical&Anonymous at September 12...

wow
I think you just took out the award for Most Vicious Personal Attack on the blog...
woodnwine- don't read it twice- you don't know her, she doesn't know you- you don't have to give it brainspace. I know you have made friends with many through these blogs- think about them instead.

GetReal at September 13...

I don't understand you associating w&w with thefotografer... the former is extremely tolerant of other peoples' views, whereas the latter I find dictatorial.

and

just to keep you in angst & ammunition.....
aaaagh ANOTHER stoopid useless signoff-

Yours sincerely
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 13, 2007 12:10 PM

If anyone is wondering about Cynical and (Not So) Anonymous (to those who know her)

Yes, she is highly successful on RSVP. She is probably one of the most successful members on this site.

Why is she so successful.

Because she approaches it with the right attitude.

She is usually prepared to meet people and to respond instead of the nonsense that others go on with.

But the traffic in her inbox is daunting.

As I have said, she should be running a good computer program and take her laptop on dates.

Posted by: White Women Speak With Forked Tongue at September 13, 2007 10:31 AM

Muriel

You are terrible.

Get off the poor bugger's case.

He's only into fine whining, not fine dining

Posted by: Toni Colette nee Soprano at September 13, 2007 10:12 AM

Well said 'Cynical and Anonymous' Sept 12....I also like the 'old fashioned ways' a man treats a woman but would like to add that they are not necessarily 'old fashioned ways' but rather respectful and attractive qualities............and please ladies........... understand we teach the male species HOW to treat us, we guide the behaviour we want to receive...c'mon we are beautiful authentic women who can be self assured and still feminine and enable men to comfortably relate to us...and not feel we may be in competition with them or want to control them.... secondly just liek to add in my opinion the choice of one word in your comments 'cynical and anonymous', unfortunately left me feeling disappointed......referring to a fellow rsvp member as a 'jerk' suggests that u are not as mature and together as you would like to project even if he is boring which may be obvious why stoop to slander?? mmm food for thought....Like other people here I would like to reiterate that there is never any need to use derogatory names..and in fact one who does this is simply bringing themselves down!! one negative word can and will negate all the positive words or descriptions of your profile. Trust me men are not stupid they will steer clear of any woman who puts people down, name calling etc because they know it is an indication of emotional immaturity...

Thanks rsvp this forum is a great addition to the site...I really enjoy occasionally reading some of the comments, and I find it interesting and fun being an rsvp member...warm wishes to all

Posted by: SavvyladyB at September 13, 2007 9:05 AM

@datelessnotdesperat at quote"
getReal Oh you lucky you! .....a challenge from the Sydney Sensations sensual" ...yadda yadda no idea what you are babbling on about. On a separate note, excellent posts from Woodnwine and the fotogafer. They tell it like it is, and they get the snarling femnist posse here to come out in retaliation with their man bashing antics again. Most amusing!
LOVE&PEACE and other stoopid useless signoffs.

Posted by: getReal at September 13, 2007 1:00 AM

WHY is it taking so long for blogs to be added?? Blogs are the best feature of RSVP site!
Some advice would be appreciated ... met several guys ... found the one that feels right and would like to know better. However, while I like to believe I am stable and secure in who and what I want ... find the whole internet fishing pond over welming. When and how do you get to the point of taking your profile down (and his)???

Posted by: ETC at September 12, 2007 10:41 PM

Rookie40something: Nope. All married, to wonderful women, raising tonnes of kids and apparently, all happy with thier lives. JP is still single. Has a "benefits" thing going on, with a very nice lady, whom I have met, which suits his life and his "baggage problem" quite well.

Took whatever it was you thought you said about me that was apparently not so nice, with a grain of salt. Thanks for your support! I was starting to think I was going psychotic. Went and got my head and my hormones checked. Apparently I'm fine. My prescription: take 2 weeks holiday; sleep in late; buy 6 trashy novels and sit on the beach; stop for Happy Hour and eat take-away; stay out of nasty bloggings!

Posted by: hc at September 12, 2007 9:51 PM

cook1 at September 11 ..yours is THE best blog I have read on here so far, because it actually refers to why we are here and is so fantastically positive.. well done and good luck!! :-)

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at September 12, 2007 7:22 PM

Curious place this. Haven't been here long and don't imagine I will be much longer.

For the first time, I had a look at the blokes in the same age group as I I've been searching, 53-64.

Found: 1 within 10 km of my postcode, no picture. 17 within 25 km, 1 with picture. 71 within 50 km, 20 with picture.

On the other hand, when I do a search for a female, using the same distance search criteria, the numbers are 40, 300+, and over 1000.

Yet, in the face of these odds, I've had 2 female contacts who initially sent me a kiss wanting to meet,
made contact, spoke to and both never phoned back when they had said they would.

Maybe it's 3 now, won't know 'til later.

In 3 weeks, I've met with 2 lovely ladies, had a pleasant coffee or drink and chat and decided that they were not right for me.

I have a dinner date planned with one other. Our talks together so far seem to hold some promise.

So what do I make of that? Many ladies here that really don't want to meet men?

I won't give up yet, but so far, 5 or 6 genuine ladies out of about 30. Or, the vast majority of members here are looking for someone that they will not find here, at least in my age group.

Cheers all.

Posted by: Robert Harkins at September 12, 2007 4:56 PM

Can I just add before SweetSue4You thinks I am treating her like HC thought I was treating her, and to be honest, Susan comes across as a sweetie.

But this has been a huge year for me on RSVP. I've never had it so good.

I am still wondering what it was that turned my fortunes around so drastically.

Up to this point of time I was scoring 1 coffee date a year, and they were sympathy votes. It was a struggle to make them last 10 minutes.

But what a massive year it's been.

I sympathise with my friend Worn Out In WA. Hopefully one day we might be able to compare notes in person. I am starting to feel like Worn Out in Downtown Shakey Town or was that Dodgy Town.

I need a rest from the frantic pace on this site. I might check myself into a Respite Centre for senior cowboys. I'll just check my seniors card to see if I can run it up on the tab, without engaging in the perils that await me in that rumbunctious nursing home around the corner from here.

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 12, 2007 1:54 PM

Rookie40something'
Sorry I mistook you for Catchmeifyoucan but I thought your blog was a bit negative with regards to myself.

Malsie, tried to email you too, had my first meeting, no good, I'm afraid. Discovered I'm a lot fussier than I probably ought to be but she did look a lot older than she claimed which put me off from the start, not the age, the deception.

Woodnwine,
Did you say recently that you have sent out over 500 Kisses and emails in 7 months? Maybe I'm doing something wrong. I've only been here now for 7 weeks and I've only sent out 9 Kisses. I realise the large population variation between Brisbane and Sunshine Coast. Maybe I am too fussy although I have been wondering lately if I really want and or need a woman in my life at this point. That's one of the reasons I hid my profile (Malsie), I was still receiving Kisses, which I was rejecting, I think I must have looked desperate since I was logging on everyday to blog. My profile would have been showing up at the top of the list everyday.
So I may just sit and wait a while and see what comes along.

David-rocco61

Posted by: rocco61 at September 12, 2007 12:00 PM

datelessnotdesperat - Terry, I actually complained directly to RSVP about how long they take to update the blogs and they replied saying that it is the very long blogs that really slow things down. Hence I suggest you post several short ones rather than long ones covering every topic in one hit. Long, strung out blogs are also harder to read, in my opinion. Just a polite suggestion.
Michael

Posted by: ww at September 12, 2007 10:08 AM

Dear Sue4you

You are a sweetie.

Nice charities, etc Hey we all wear pink arm bands, shave our heads and do things like that too, and do a lot of constructive volunteer work.

But when it comes to women, being a nice guy doesn't work.

If you are a nice guy you get dumped fast.

I got out of training for a religious ministry because I could not stand the thought of monasticism unless I became a closet Jimmy Bakker.

WE didn't set the rules.

You lot did.

Now having constructively turned my self into a prize Asshole Tonight (and see my hit single of that name on CMTV), I have had the most successful year on RSVP I have ever had.

I have finally got one girl to use the Yes word.

Won't last. But One Small Step For Mankind....

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 12, 2007 7:43 AM

Why don't you all take a Bex and have a good lie down.

You'll feel better in the morning.

Worked for my grandmother.

(Warning to consumers: Brand substitution permitted, Panadol will do. Packets of 50 require medical scripts after consultation for peptic ulcers, venting your spleen, spewing your vitriol, overindulgence in too much fine whining (ie rotten drunk) and other bowel irritating complaints. And try not to pass it on)

Posted by: EarlWyoming at September 12, 2007 7:18 AM

hc.....

(& rookie40something/datelessnotdesperat)

I absolutely & unconditioally apologise for any offence caused by my post of Sept 9. I'm horrified- I obviously expressed myself very badly- I certainly didn't mean to sound like I was attacking you personally.

I have NO IDEA of the circumstances/relationship/cause of conflict between yourself & EoW.. & have no desire to. I don't read the posts relating to it by either of you...

because I don't understand them...

I don't know the background, the foreground, or why it's going back & forth- just that it seemed a battle with nothing to do with the blog.

I enjoy reading your posts, hc- my comments were directed at the fight itself, & why it was such a constant presence on the blog. You have my sympathy in what is obviously a very unpleasant situation.

love&peace
decoratress

Posted by: decoratress at September 12, 2007 1:47 AM

Hi Bloggers Do not know what's going on now!! with the start of the blog at the end of the blog and the Post a comment box at the bottom now instead of the top where the most recent comment now appears. Would have been great if the Post a comment box was at the top along with the latest comment. Blog hasn' been updated today so TTFN ZZZzzz Terry

Posted by: datelsssnot desperat at September 11, 2007 9:33 PM

Congratulations to rsvp for reversing the current blogs!

Posted by: Rookie40something at September 11, 2007 7:54 PM

I don't want to stick my nose into someone else's blogs, but they are a public forum, decoratress, as you yourself have mentioned where anyone can blog and mouth off.

Decoratress you had plenty to say in your "garbaging" squabble with fotographer. You found this acceptable. There have also been many others using aka's having their say amid all the squabbles and fiesty exchanges on these blogs. I've put in my thoughts also. That has been accepted as our right in a public forum.

What I dont understand, decoratress, is your outburst at hc on Sept 8. OK. She mouthed off at what she felt were earl's offensive postings, especially those aimed directly at her. I went back and re-read the posts. Hc herself apologised for hitting a soft spot, maybe from a poorly worded query, that seemd to spark his venomous wrath. He also continued aiming at her, several times with barbed taunts, and then calling her "pollution" and a "bad smell" etc and accusing her of forcing him off the blogs. Other bloggers have questioned his posts, repeatedly. I have also written a post stating my distate at his totally irrelevent drunken, vomit, fornication words and inability to understand what the hell he is going on about. His words to hc were full of venom and sent a shiver down my spine. Somewhat similar to reading some of the vitriolic blogs launched at you by fotographer.

If words such as this were posted in my direction, I would fight back too. You certainly did with fotographer. All hc did was resort to the same bogan cowboy drivel that earl uses. Maybe he understood. I even saw him address a nice post to her. Hc's brothers must have fel