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Has Cupid Lost His Aim?

There's a universal romantic notion that the delightful (mythical) character Cupid, will draw back his bow, aim for 'The One', and strike gold in capturing and inspiring true love! He would never strike the wrong one with his arrow would he?

When you think about it, Cupid is but a child! Actually, he is commonly portrayed as a mere toddler! Can we justify placing such high expectations on the innocent youth?

Ok, it all seems a tad too dramatic, but the aim here is to discuss what it is you are asking of RSVP's Cupid - a free email service that checks other profiles to see if someone matches. In your Cupid emails, RSVP tries to provide the closest matches to your "Ideal Partner".

So, if you're seeking an Agnostic Vegetarian Aquarian who is also a divorced, swinging voter working in Real Estate, should we then blame him for getting his bow and arrow in a knot?! In all seriousness though, Cupid does do his best to locate the obscure, however, when he fails, he shoots (via email) the nearest matches your way.

Here's how his mind works: if he can't find the age range you specified then you may be sent profiles that are 5 to 10 years older and/or younger. As for location, the search sometimes needs to expand to state-wide or even country-wide to reach the minimum 10 results - he's particular that way. Cupid does however honour your gender and smoker/non-smoker preference.

If you find that Cupid is consistently delivering the wrong matches, then perhaps he's being fed too little/too much?

If you want to tell Cupid what to look for, you can by updating your ideal partner profile:

• Go to "My Home" then select "Ideal Partner" from the drop down box
  
• Fill in the "Ideal Partner" form with your selected criteria, and
  
• When you are finished updating your profile click the "Submit" button at the bottom of the page to save your changes.

Tell us what you think of RSVP's Cupid. Has he struck gold for you? Does he get it wrong? Do you think your 'Ideal Partner' is realistic? What do you do to ensure that you get the most out of your Cupid emails?

Posted by Ellida in Archive at 3:07 PM

Dating over 40.

For those of you who are aged in your late 40's or older...

What makes your dating needs and expectations different from those just starting out on the dating scene?

Is there anything you'd like to see RSVP launch that appeals more to you?

Posted by in Archive at 10:22 AM

Advice to new members.

If you had a friend who was about to join RSVP, what's the one word of advice you would pass on?

Think back to when you joined ... maybe there was something that surprised you or perhaps things didn't turn out quite as you expected?

Posted by in Archive at 3:07 PM

Sent a Song?

Thanks to your feedback, we know that music means a lot to many of you and that music compatibility is increasingly important.

We're keen to find out what you know and think about our Send-A-Song service.

Have you heard about our Send A Song service?

What do you think?

Would you Send A Song to someone you were interested in and if so, what would it be... something funny, romantic, or full of meaning?

What would you love to receive?

What if someone sent you a song - how would you feel about that?

Posted by in Archive at 11:20 AM

Dating in Winter

Well, winter has hit. Whilst some jump for joy at the thought of DVD's, tracky pants, winter comfort food and a nice bottle of red wine .... others complain constantly of the winter blues and spend the short dark days dreaming of blue sky, beach and barbeques.

What about dating through winter ?

Do you get the winter blues? Is your dating mood or enthusiasm to search online greater in the summer or winter months? Do you feel sexier in summer? More romantic in winter?

Share your seasonal secrets on the RSVP blog.

Posted by in Archive at 3:02 PM

Dating Safely: if it's too good to be true... it probably is!

In this entry we will focus on profiles and pictures, and as the heading implies, we all know that if it's too good to be true... then more often than not, it is!

Firstly, to get your feet wet check out our dating and safety tips page.

As part of our function here at customer support, we regularly screen and monitor profiles. Any profiles which are submitted and found to be fraudulent or inaccurate are reviewed and removed immediately if found to breach terms and conditions. However, we are only human, and the odd wayward profile does slip through the cracks.

Everyone that has an interest in the RSVP community needs to work together to spot the odd profiles out of the genuine dating pool. It is also important for us to share our experiences.

To start things off, here are a few hints from us:

• Read profiles with a pinch of sensibility and a dash of common sense
  
• If your instincts tell you something's not quite right, listen!
  
• If a profile photo looks like it was torn from a magazine, it probably was! Look for a naturally posed photo, in a REALISTIC setting, perhaps matching the description - e.g. A dog lover with a picture that matches, a sports nut playing sports, etc.
  
• Give brownie points to a profile that looks well thought out, NOT rushed like a shopping list, repetitive, or too generic eg. I'm sexy, warm, friendly, happy, loving, sexy, warm, friendly...
  
• People would not normally profess their love for a stranger, so lookout for those who do so in their initial contact or in their profiles. Any kind of rushed approach is fishy especially when they want to know your contact details before getting to know you!
  
• Don't forget, you have a 30 day contact channel when you use a stamp in which you can communicate anonymously through our facilities to decide whether you'd like to make a more personal contact with a member - so take your time!
  

Posted by Aidil in Archive at 1:02 PM

CU L8R - WE R THRU. Dumping in the digital age

In a recent survey with RSVP members, over 50% of respondents admitted to ending a relationship over text or email.

Yet 96% of members agreed that technology had greatly improved their dating opportunities and experiences - and that we would be lost without it.

Have we forgotten our manners or plainly lost our minds?

Has technology become our excuse for just being gutless and rude?

Have you dumped or been dumped over text or email?

Posted by in Archive at 10:14 AM

Visible or Password Protected? Are Your Profile Photo Settings Working for You?

If the eyes are the window to the SOUL, then perhaps hiding your photo from RSVP members defeats your chances of attracting a SOUL mate? On the other hand, it could make you more intriguing to those who prefer the thrill of a little mystery.

So is it essential to make your profile picture - or gallery photos - visible? And, if you ARE making your photos available freely to RSVP members, is your pose, picture quality or clarity, expression, etc. telling members/potential admirers something revealing about your personality, whether you intended to or not?

RSVP allows you the freedom to choose whether you want your photo visible across our network (so that all our members can view it), or password protected, meaning members need to contact you for the password to view your photo.

Many members find password protecting their photo, or making it visible again, a difficult experience. Here's a quick and easy break down of how to do it.

To enable/disable a private photo:

• Log on to your RSVP account
  
• Go to "My Home" and click on "Add Photos" from the drop down menu
  
• The option to "Show or Hide" your photo is located below your profile photo and above your photo gallery - simply choose your preference
  
• If you are hiding your photo make sure you type in a password. (This should not be the same as your log in password for obvious reasons!)
  
• Click on the "Update" button, and your new settings will be saved!
  

Don't forget, you can request and/or send photo passwords for FREE by selecting the corresponding option within a kiss message.

So, will you make your photos visible or password protected? Do you think private means "something to hide" or does it say "mysterious minx"? Does a visible photo distract you from the substance of a profile, or does it tell you all you need to know?

Posted by Ellida in Archive at 3:45 PM

Bogan Dating

A 'bogan' (pronunciation boe-gn) is a term used to describe a particular section of the working class demographic.

Have you dated a bogan? Are you a proud bogan ??

Do you favour snags over sushi? Stubbies over Tsubis? Barnsie over Beyonce?

Are you guilty of glossing over profiles featuring mullets or frullets (a front mullet) or snubbing anyone who turns rocking into rockin' and rolling into rollin'.

Let's hear some honest truths about stereotypes and dating.

Posted by in Archive at 3:44 PM

Long distance love

A romantic dream or a nightmare waiting to happen?

We have seen the movies with the happy ending - girl meets boy, they fall in love, realise they live at opposite corners of the world but happily leave jobs, family and a life behind to relocate to and be together and live happily every after... but does that really happen?

Have you met someone online and had a long distance love affair?

Have you ever had a holiday romance that turned into something more?

Would you date someone who lived in a different state or even a different country? And the big question, how much do you think you could give up for love?

Tell us what you think. Can long distance love last?

Posted by lisa in Archive at 4:57 PM