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Posted by: rsvpproducttest at November 27, 2007 8:55 AM

Hi All,
I not going to comment on the profiles of others but instead ask if there is any where to get feedback on my own profile.
This is the 2nd time I've been on RSVP.
I've done my best to fill it out in detail but get no kisses and most of mine are ignored whilst the rest are knockbacks.
I had some photos on the profile but they look cruddy so I took them down. The current is old but I can easily say I don't look any different other than a slight tan and longer hair.
I've had 2 interested but haven't heard from them after the initial contact.
I seem to be that guy who gets told he's a great guy etc. You know how it goes. Honestly I'm starting to think most women on here are shallow and use the "Looking for a nice guy!" line to try and make themselves look good.
Anyway I'm not here to whinge.
Any thoughts will be appreciated.

Posted by: lensbaby at November 26, 2007 9:45 PM

Whilst spelling is not necessarily that important, that which is; and which causes a significant "turn-off" effect is discovering that the photgraphs used on the individual's profile are quite old and are not truly representative. I have found on several occasions that the photographs used are of a person several or more years younger than the individual really is and effectively the use of such bait does result in loss of the catch. I am told that this applies to both men and women using this service and i do believe that there should be provision for anonymous reporting of such practice. No relationship can be expected to be successful if the foundation is not built on trust.

Posted by: denpeter at November 24, 2007 8:02 PM

The problem, Mr. Kool, for those accustomed to playing with their train set, is they just go round and round in circles.

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 18, 2007 3:27 AM

Thedatingexpert(guru come Earl) When was the last time you went on a ral dat, buddie? Was it human or just another figment of your imagination?

Posted by: jpkool at November 18, 2007 12:53 AM

Aside from a nice pic, the main thing I look for in a profile is a hint of personality. I know this can be a difficult thing to convey in such a short space, but when achieved, it makes the profile a pleasure to read and certainly gets my interest!

Posted by: jovial67 at November 17, 2007 8:37 PM

Thanks for that, lorainer (I like that name - it suits you somehow). I'm glad you're still coming on Dec 1 and looking forward to meeting you too.

You wouldn't know my new "playmate" as he's not actually a blogger, just happened to read them once when he first joined rsvp, looked at my profile, I spotted him and grabbed him before anyone else got their hands on him as I was his first and only contact really!

I hope you have/had fun at the beer garden and found a stray youth or two! We had a hot day yesterday, but back to the heat pump again now...

Posted by: malsie at November 17, 2007 7:08 PM

Hi Malsie,

Sorry if I disappointed or confused you. The remark about trust was directed at RSVP as I lost my instant posting rights after changing back to LoraineR. That was my original name last year. I've actually had four now but can't see a problem with that.

I love your postings too...I don't think at any stage I have written with any other voice but my own. Others just don't take that much notice. I've never tried to be a different personality but was very quickly accused which became kind of interesting to me, especially since I thought I knew these people. It was fascinating really but was not my intention. For that I am sorry. I did become a wee bit naughty because of the reactions, but promise not to again.

I'm looking forward to meeting you, Malsie.
ps.Can you tell me who your new playmate is, or at least give me a clue? Sorry again.

Hot in Melbourne today so I'm now off to a Beergarden to try to recapture my stolen, or is that lost, youth? Maybe just a youth will do....hmmm.

Posted by: lorainer at November 17, 2007 6:06 PM

lorainer, i totally agree. I am also looking for the one. The Spark, the butterfly feelings in my stomach!.

I have been out with a lot of men this year, and have tried up to the 3rd ot 4th date with a couple of guys, but it never happened for me. I figure if it is not happening by then, then it won't.

Until the guy that I have just started seeing, so taking baby steps at the moment.

and there is still love and romance out there in the world, tomorrow i am going to a wedding, the guys 4th, and the ladys 2nd. (I am taking a positive spin on this, u know summer lovin) have a lovely evening all....jewels

Posted by: junebaby57 at November 17, 2007 5:52 PM

lorainer, I don't if my comment directed to you below is what you were referring to by "they" trust you again or not. If so, will just say that when you were isj - truly can't remember the name now, but the last blog name you had, I never directed a comment towards you, never gave a damn about seeing a photo and all that rubbish, and mostly skipped over all that stuff because it was of no interest to me.

The whole multiple personality thing going on here has me kind of baffled. I know it's entertaining for whoever is engaged in it (must be or why be doing it?) but I just don't get it, so don't go down that road. There's been some amazingly creative profiles appearing, I've thought, of late, however, and I've found that rather entertaining (rather than those who are trying deliberately to spread an atmosphere of animosity as has happened previously).

I too have a fascination with the human psychology side so can see why someone might want to play with that a bit and see people's reactions, but it's not my style to do it myself. The whole paranoia angle is intriguing too and I've seen a few times how that's manifested here and how quickly.

But myself I'm pretty straightforward and just haven't seen the appeal of getting overly involved in all the ins and outs of who's really who and what they're up to. I find it strange.

I always liked you as WnH2 from what you had to say, and half the stuff that spins off out of control on here I have absolutely no idea where it originates or what's motivating people sometimes.

Posted by: malsie at November 17, 2007 5:48 PM

I know I said at least, well many, times that I was going and wasn’t having fun anymore but hey, call me a masochist……maybe call thefotografer a mysoginist…
I’m going to try to answer some of themechanics queries or puzzles about “some” of the women on RSVP. I can, of course, only speak for myself but I’m sure there are other women out there who may agree with me on this.
Yes, we are in our fifties…this is true…..we have much life experience……I’ll just talk about me now so as not to generalise. I can’t speak for anyone else.
I have brought up two beautiful semi-grounded adults and made an executive decision not to date during this time. I did date a little bit when they were young but never involved the children. When my son was an adolescent he made it clear he would not take kindly to me dating, enough said there. I didn’t date.
I got along fine and had a great life, successful career, lots of friends, good social life, no money…whatever, you get the picture. I’m a happy, grounded person, still am.
Two years ago something, or should I say someone, happened in my life that made me think that I should be looking for my special someone. I said something there that is very important in this- “special” someone. That is what I am looking for, just one man, the one for me.
I joined RSVP and began a series of dates/meetings with a series of lovely, interesting, gorgeous men. However, none of them gave me a spark. They were not that special one that I was perhaps, unrealistically, looking for. Am I a bad person, or insincere, because of this? Should I just keep dating these men knowing it will never happen, or am I more honest not to see them again or lead them on in any way? I would have been wasting their time and that is not ethical in my book.
Think about this thefotografer when you start making assumptions about women on this site and their sincerity.
I’ve been burned by players here too, but at the end of the day we are all grownups and able to make our own decisions about what is right for us.
We are all just here (or I am) to find one person, the person who makes our hearts sing and gives us that butterflies in our tummy feeling.
Doesn't make us princesses...

Posted by: lorainer at November 17, 2007 4:45 PM

I believe you can buy stamps one at a time on those glasses.

Posted by: lorainer at November 17, 2007 1:32 PM

LMAO, dammn I missed out on those sunnies, and you better believe that someone somewhere is out to get you somehow.

Have a nice day

Posted by: brane at November 17, 2007 1:04 PM

Lorainer

It's not that they trust you.

It's that they have all headed off for Parramatta wearing their $2.00 CIA special sunglasses (which also double as internet dating raybans) to discuss the latest in conspiracy theories.

Posted by: onlinedatingguru at November 17, 2007 12:42 PM

Wow, they trust me again and sooooo sooon.

Posted by: lorainer at November 17, 2007 12:28 PM

One more funny story to share….Earlier this year I was to meet up with a very nice man….said he was 58 and had good pics…finally got to said meeting and there he was looking like his pic’s dad. I froze but quickly said to myself, “You can do this, be pleasant, have a nice dinner (I always pay for myself, by the way), and you’ll be home before you know it.”
That is what I did…he did take the liberty of ordering for me…told a friend about that one and she said, “That’ll be the end of him then…”
Anyways, we did have a great dinner with the bay as a backdrop, Princess of Tasmania leaving, moon etc, good conversation yada, yada, yada…Then HE goes to the gents. Upon his return he asks, “ Well what now?” I go into my speel about thinking about it for a few days and then deciding, when he looks at me and says, “Well I can feel absolutely NO CHEMISTRY AT ALL!!!!!”

I just burst out laughing and could not stop…he ended up paying for dinner, he insisted, and inviting me up to his apartment (which incidentally turned out to be right next door to the restaurant) to meet his little white fluffy puppy.

NO I didn’t go. I got into my car and like many times before asked why I am doing this to myself.

Posted by: lorainer at November 17, 2007 12:27 PM

3.75% educated women (1.25% educated men, incidentally)

So there are 3 educated women to 1 me. Alas that means that 96.25% of the women here aren't going to like me. Didn't I say that in my first profile :) Hmm, no w it seems to get reviewed regularly too, funloverlover2. I'll have to write them offline and cut and paste.

Posted by: brane at November 16, 2007 9:38 PM

onlinedatingexpert

thanks for the heads up on dating.
I think I will leave the educated to play with their dirty socks and stocking by themselves on any night of the week.
i surely would not like to spend my time and money on someone who spends more time in the ladies toilet preening herself than she spends eating the food and drinking the wine.
Although, there is a positive in that.
I get to slurp my wine,soomp my soup use the bread to soak up the sauce and perve on anything on two legs including the pidgeons sitting on the balcony and i guess that would be the highlight of the evening apart from leaving while she is in the little ladies room.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 16, 2007 9:10 PM

lorainer, for what it's worth, there's no issue of "trust" involved for me with you, and still hoping to get to meet you!

Posted by: malsie at November 16, 2007 8:41 PM

onlinedatingexpert -
I loved your post and your profile. Thanks for the laugh, and great to have another intelligent contributor to the blogs.... welcome indeed.

Posted by: malsie at November 16, 2007 8:38 PM

Chain smokers, cult members and profiles that read more like a terrorist list of demands are a big put off, but the real deal killer is the "princess syndrome".

You have the princess want to be's. Either they were very spolit by their Fathers or are living in an imaginery world. Also if we were all tall, dark and handsome we would have no need to be on RSVP. Prince Charming is a Disney character! Anyway that's my opinion, regards Shrek.

Posted by: muttley1967 at November 16, 2007 1:36 PM

Smokers, cult members and profiles that read more like a terrorist list of demands are a big put off, but the real deal killer is the "prince syndrome".

You have the princess want to be's. Either they were very spoilt by their Fathers or are living in an imaginery world. Also if we were all tall, dark and handsome we would have no need to be on RSVP. Prince Charming is a Disney character! Anyway that's my opinion, regards Shrek.

Posted by: muttley1967 at November 16, 2007 1:30 PM

ditto WB ditto............

Posted by: twoeyes at November 16, 2007 11:42 AM

Dear intelligent young men,

My belief is that impeccable spelling/grammar on a profile is necessary but not sufficient to land an educated woman -- i.e., shocking spelling/grammar is a deal-breaker, but perfect spelling/grammar alone isn't a deal-maker. (The beauty of my argument is that educated women will have to send me a kiss to contest my point. It's these smooth tactics that make me the dating expert I am today.)

As for tossing in a few polysyllabics in an attempt to nail the deal, BIG MISTAKE! Less educated women seem turned off and intimidated by "nerdy big words" (nerdy big words being anything excluded from the Macquarie Children's Dictionary). Given the usual online-dating demographic of 3.75% educated women (1.25% educated men, incidentally), this translates to many lonely Friday nights finding new things to do with an old sock.

So how to reach both crowds? Well, the first trick is to keep the perfect grammar/spelling, because the less educated women won't question perfect grammar/spelling (the reason being that they'd have to recognise it as such to question it, in which case we're usually dealing with educated women). The second trick is to dumbify your vocabulary and diction. If you need help dumbifying your vocabulary and diction, there are many options available. Contrary to the popular belief shared by many other so-called dating coaches, studying the impromptu conversations of George Bush isn't a good way to do this, for what usually happens in that case is that the dumbifying encroaches upon other life functions and reduces you to a walking vegetable. A better approach is to study the malapropisms of Mrs. Malaprop in the 1775 play The Rivals by Richard Brinsley Sheridan. Failing that, another good approach is to drive by primary schools in a makeshift ice cream truck so as to lure the fifth-graders out for a little game of ice-cream-for-profile-paraphrasing.

Good luck getting those foxes, guys.

Another proud production of
Online Dating Expert.

Posted by: onlinedatingexpert at November 16, 2007 10:53 AM

Oh no, I've just realised that the coffin will be empty on Saturday night....*sigh* ...oh well, back to my little hobby friends....

Posted by: waterbombe at November 16, 2007 7:52 AM

Weta, your (emailed)apology for your duplicity as a double is accepted with thanks. There is no need to post a public apology at all. Let's just let it go and remain friends.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 16, 2007 7:38 AM

yes, that's true, brane, but that high-level talk occurs between two consenting adults such as philosophers or physicists.

On this blog, Weta talks to ordinary Australians about dating. The concepts aren't too difficult, and plain English would do the job very well.

The sort of language Weta uses is exclusionary - it makes some people feel inadequate because they don't understand it. They feel that it is 'over their head'. It's not necessary for Weta to do this, and he probably doesn't realise he's doing it, but he could communicate his meaning with half the words he currently uses and be much more effective.

Tip for Weta- stop slashing /////// One word will do. We're not that picky, remember that it's a dating blog, not a policy document.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 16, 2007 7:24 AM

Double standards sure are a turn-off for me or in topical terms, a deal breaker...
I never ran two profiles, just changed my name/screed. I don't see a problem with running two. I've even read to do that but I would get confused and I am confused about RSVPers enough.
I've also read to change what you say too.
I shouldn't have done that as now I am not trusted anymore.
Trust, now there is another dealbreaker/maker.
Who will it be in the coffin on Saturday night?

Posted by: lorainer at November 16, 2007 6:16 AM

hi guys i just wanted to say thankyou to notgodsgift for helping me with a problem i had the other day your a very nice person to help the way you did!!! your a star thanks maybe one day i can return the favour when u need it xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx mwah tracylee A.K.A Shorty...

Posted by: sexylittleshortie at November 16, 2007 3:34 AM

I'm sorry waterbomber , but that is a sign of intelligence. The ability to have a conversation between two people over someone else's head is right up there with humans evolved capacity for deceit, Did you like Tina Arena's In Deep

Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 10:49 PM

And another thing, the obfuscatory language you use, Weta, is not a sign of intelligence. It takes ten times longer than normal to figure out what you actually mean. But perhaps you are hiding behind words as well as behind profiles?

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 10:31 PM

Double standards anyone? Weta blogs simultaneously for ages with two profiles, doesn't tell anyone, has had a go at me for having two profiles ( I honestly don't know how you had the nerve, Weta), and no one says anything? Doesn't it strike you as a bit hypocritical given the hard time given to istj54 recently?

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 10:29 PM

Oh no, we've been invaded by Monty Python quotes and references!!!! AAAAHHHH!!!! Why hasn't this happened earlier???
-maniacal laughter-
I unclog my nose in your direction, you sons of a window-dresser.....

Posted by: wraecca at November 15, 2007 8:47 PM

Hey notgodsgift!
Leave my mate Weta alone! :~)

Kindness himself. Understanding his wordy wanderings do elude me at times.... but I know I can count on him to listen & be a good friend.

Thanks double O for your ongoing positive feedback re my writing, however when we hit the town I'll totally dissolve THAT picture of me.
LOL

Posted by: trumanscat at November 15, 2007 8:29 PM

woodnwine, I know Weta's good but.... he's not the Messiah, he's just a very naughty boy....

(and I too am an individual..... and me... and me....and me)

Posted by: malsie at November 15, 2007 7:46 PM

Weta is most certainly a most intelligent admired contributor to these bogs.

Posted by: lorainer at November 15, 2007 7:45 PM

Wraecca - don't hold your breath or you'll end up falling off your perch. You'll look dead but won't be (if you understand what I'm referring to - very obtuse, I know - Weta help me out).

Posted by: woodnwine at November 15, 2007 7:31 PM

notgodsgift - I really don't believe Weta is attempting to impress everyone with his "intellectual superiority". He is what he is, and what he writes reflects that. He's just being himself, certainly intellectually gifted, that's for sure (sorry to talk about you as if you weren't here, Weta)
Would that I had his gift....

And I can't recall any comments from him lamenting any lack of female attention either. Some of us quite like a "smart arse"!

Posted by: malsie at November 15, 2007 7:24 PM

For all those women who sneak their hotmail address into their profiles, like I’m at…at some place warm.

Now that hotmail is being changed over to live.com.au are we going to get…

Look for me at blah blah blah yadda yadda some live in me yet

The price of fame is immortality

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 15, 2007 7:02 PM

NotGodsGift - It was me, not Weta who declared themselves to be a spelling Nazi. I'm sorry I did, everyone makes spelling mistakes or typos. I think I have made a rod for my back now as every word will be forever scrutinised! It was cheeky of me to draw attention to the missing 'n' in conniptions but I knew Weta would not take offence.

You have the wrong take on Weta. He is a quirky, intelligent, endearing and caring human being. He loves words and uses them well (though I admit to occasionally having no idea what he is talking about!). There is no arrogance in him.

By the way, 'touches' is correct in the context Weta used it. It is the plural of 'touch'. He could have said: 'more than one human touch' but 'human touches' is more succinct.

Posted by: ninaschen at November 15, 2007 7:01 PM

I quite find the demotivator about Hope quite amusing too, brane.
BK and I went through them the other day, quite funny to read.

Here's a Deal Breaker:
Someone who refuses to even try and share your sense of humour.

A Deal Maker: Someone who not only shares your sense of humour, but takes it to new levels.

Posted by: wraecca at November 15, 2007 5:21 PM

Hi, I'm sorry its not an episode of home and away, but as I said before it could be better with wit and humour. Some people with multiple profiles and possibly multiple personalities have spoilt it somehwhat. However we can move forward from now if more people would actually say something, and say it with wit and humour.

Moving right along

Deal breakers:
1: smoking
2: the word beach - leather is never appealling
3: Partyanimal - may appeal to teenage louts but not to mature people
4: Over the top religious people - believe what you will but do it quietly
5: Claiming to be intelligent because you can read or write, but have never read any of the great 20th century novels
6: People who don't find the following thought provoking and funny

Join in, don't stand around complaining the sky is blue. Sunrises and sunsets can be beautiful

Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 4:51 PM

Well, I'm just waiting for some actual adult (and in that way I mean mature, not X rated) conversation to happen relating somehow to the blog topic. If anyone has anything valid to say, by all means, say it so that we can converse. Otherwise, I think I'll be leaving the blogs. Especially the Summer Lovin' one.

Posted by: wraecca at November 15, 2007 4:22 PM

amuso

its f/4 - f/6.3 with the CCD multiplier effect the focal length comes out at
80-800mm
I think I paid about $2,500.00 around 3 years ago

Posted by: thefotografer at November 15, 2007 3:29 PM

FotoGenie/c, Thank you! Just out of interest , what speed is the Sigma 50/500?

Posted by: amuso at November 15, 2007 2:47 PM

Having said the below, I missed the "r" in the "your", but then again, I'm no nazi!

Posted by: notgodsgift at November 15, 2007 2:46 PM

Ah Weta, the Undertoad

You continual attempts to impress everyone with your intellectualism only serves to underline the fact that you are a bore of the worst kind.

If you are going to be a "nazi" of any sort, get your own stuff right - I have never heard of human "touches", must be the French version.

Get over yourself and you might find that women will find you much more attractive. Then your life wont be a constant fight to prove your intellectual superiority to all and sundry.

Bob

Posted by: notgodsgift at November 15, 2007 2:36 PM

oh, whoops, maths was never my strong point, it's two sleeps until Saturday...

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 2:02 PM

Exactly, istj54. Fortunately I'm like Ornamentalonly and have lots of screwdrivers on hand. A girl has her hobbies....I'm waiting with baited (I'm a good speller, remember) breath for weta/theundertoad/mrjekyllandhyde to come over on Saturday...

While I wait, may I ask what an introverted organised deductive thinker like yourself is doing in a place like this?

You're like the rest of us, I guess, having to sit on the computer for long hours at work and getting bored with it...this is (sometimes) a welcome distraction and sometimes a bloodbath, really, isn't it?
Gosh, i shouldn't talk like that... screwdrivers, coffins, bloodbaths...but a girl has her hobbies... ONLY THREE SLEEPS UNTIL SATURDAY!!!!!

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 2:01 PM

That's why you need the screwdriver, Waterbombe.

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 12:41 PM

Amuso

Venice 2004 4.51pm

The text is fine
I always keep originals untouched(digital negatives)
After sharpening/levels/hue adjustments etc, they are saved as a copy so they do not over right the original.

The date is the time the editing took place and Venus is that dot you can see passing across the surface of the sun.
If you were viewing this in another hemisphere Venus would be in a different position

I hope that helps.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 15, 2007 12:33 PM

Hold your horses, cowboy!!! Are you theundertoad, Weta? I cite you, sir...

spelling/punctuation/grammar has never been the natural analogue of those who lack spontaneity/passion/improvisation......beware those who presume that one set of "traits" are symptomatic or evidence of another........

....Posted by: weta at November 15, 2007 12:46 AM

WOT is going on??? WHO am I going to find in my coffin on Saturday night????

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 12:30 PM

bloody hell ......someone that admits that they are wrong and is prepared to say so on this forum...

perhaps all is not lost

Posted by: twoeyes at November 15, 2007 12:22 PM

Hi waterbombe - and other bloggers......being a narrative smartarse has clearly left me with a fair amount of the proverbial egg on my visage.......

.......what I intended by the statement ......"spelling/punctuation/grammar has never been the natural analogue of those who lack spontaneity/passion/improvisation......" was that those people with a bent for order and detail don't necessarily lack the capacity for spontaneity/passion/improvisation.... and those 2 groups of behaviours can co-exist in people.....

......there are sometimes stereotypes about particular clusters of behaviours being present or not - sort of the "either/or" argument.......

.......as those Python boys said....we are all individuals.......

......mea culpa to those whom I've offended.......

...being a smartarse has it's consequences.....

Posted by: theundertoad at November 15, 2007 11:53 AM

I'll think I go and watch a DVD now. Perhaps re-runs of Lost In Space. I always loved the robot.

"Danger, danger Will Robinson"

Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 11:19 AM

isanyonelistening, hehe.

Posted by: amuso at November 15, 2007 11:06 AM

Sorry Waterbombe, I will cease the latin. Did you ever read my comment about never saying a word when a paragraph will do. I'm just listening to Tina Arena In Deep atm

I gotta take a little time
A little time to think things over
I better read between the lines
In case I need it when I'm older.

Love those lyrics
Have a nice day

Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 11:05 AM

I don't have a pic of you, istj54, you sound like a lovely woman, but i don't stick pins in female dolls ... only in male dolls ... I can't tell you how many men have never come back to my house once they've seen my little hobby friends... I'm SO HAPPY Weta doesn't think my little traits might possibly indicate that I am paranoid and a danger to half of society ... his half.

I am really looking forward to my BIG DATE this Saturday...maybe we'll even get to sleep in a coffin

and ... a screw driver .. what a good idea...

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 11:05 AM

Isanyonelistening, I went to see Dylan a month or so ago..was ok, he doesn't do much of his old stuff but was still great to be in the presence of the master.

Thefotografer is taking new pics. He might take one of you for your profile.

That recipe looks great, she would love it but we would need heaps of potatoes for her.

And see, we have the same taste in cars, all good choices.

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 11:01 AM

istj54 - nice photo, pity someone else has used it before. Do you have a new one please, of someone different?

RSVP - when are you going to wake up and get rid of some of the older posts so we don't have to wait 5 minutes for the bl..dy page to load? Hello.......

Posted by: isanyonelistening at November 15, 2007 10:49 AM

Funlovertoo, hi. Stop it you'll have people thinking we're 'islands in the stream' lol. My Dutch word for the day is Computer lol.

Posted by: amuso at November 15, 2007 10:47 AM

Hi FotoGenie. Talk about stumped, The text at Venus 2004 has me pretending to hold up a house too. Am i reading it wrong or is it back to front?

Posted by: amuso at November 15, 2007 10:45 AM

Istj54

This dish will serve four with ease and will stump your daughter.
I have been trying to encourage her daughter to do some cooking for her mum seeing that her mum is under so much stress,maybe this will do the trick.
Here’s the recipe, simple and can be preprepared.
If you don’t like olives leave them out.
Buy a small chicken, you know, the ones in the two pack.
Portion it in four,breasts with wings thighs with drumsticks, chuck the rest.
Use a deep baking dish preheat oven to 180c
Half or quarter potatoes leave skin on depending on type.
Slice one whole lemon with rind on.
3 or 4 bay leaves
Bacon rashers
Onions small whole or half larger ones.
Put all this in the baking dish except for the chicken
Add I cup of Chicken stock (buy it in a carton) add salt(rock) and ground pepper.
Place chicken pieces on top sprinkle with rock salt, ground pepper, oil, and Cajun or chillie spices.
Bake in oven for approx 1.5 hours.
Just check the spuds they will tell you when it’s cooked.

Serve a chicken piece in the middle ofplate,bacon on top, potato and onion around the sides, spoon sauce and some lemon over chicken, dress with parsley.

As for the car he likes the Subaru but I think they are ugly so we will look at Honda,Mazda,Holden,Mondeo,Citroen C4,Subaru,Toyota, maybe new Gallant and see what happens.
I like the C4 because I had a C5 and know they are very nice to drive.
At the moment full leather,on roads as well(not insurance)six airbags and all the other goodies, rain sensor wipers etc.

I like the Toyota Aurion as well.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 15, 2007 10:34 AM

Ornamental

Your personal problems are one thing.

Your constant lashing out at other people are another.

Read the relevant MySpace profile.

Pay attention to the pic “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie and the putative graffiti of “Absolute rubbish” that Mental Mumma appears to have scrawled on it.

It is a vital message that you and Brilliant Blue could both pay attention to.

Now peace and love and harmony

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 15, 2007 10:08 AM

If someone was cooking for my daughter they would have to buy enough for about three people. She has got one verrrrrry big appetite and for such a wee little lassie too.
Don't tell her I said that, but wait....she already knows.
When she has pasta, she eats enough to serve four people...don't know where it goes.
That new Mondeo looks good, saw an ad last night in between blogfights.

By the way, a small screwdriver might be more effective than pins.

Hope none of those dolls look like me, Waterbombe, or I'll have to get rid of that picture again.

Posted by: istj54 at November 15, 2007 10:01 AM

Looks like it'll be a Latin-free blog this week....but how about some Dutch?

Just a little message to one who will understand it instantly - if my cut n paste is correct.

Hoe langer beter ik je ken, hoe aardiger leuker ik je vind

Posted by: funlovertoo at November 15, 2007 9:48 AM

I think I would rather be at home sticking pins in little cloth dolls most of the time.
Might go car hunting with my son this Saturday.
And I am doing the right thing for a friend tonight by cooking her and her daughter dinner.
I think I am getting more satisfaction out of this than anything.
The Russian doll has gone awol.
I can’t figure why I had to keep picking her up from her daughters on particular days of the week in order to listen to her ramblings,something strange going on there and without answers it is starting to get tiring.
Much better to curl up with a DVD and some wine.

Posted by: thefotografer at November 15, 2007 9:45 AM

weta, you said
"......beware those who presume that one set of "traits" are symptomatic or evidence of another........"

I'm SO GLAD to hear that because I haven't been getting many dates lately ... I don't get out much, but I don't mind ... I'm happy sitting at home on Saturday nights sticking pins in little cloth dolls that I make ... only it's hard to get the faces to look like the photos sometimes ... and I keep running out of black paint for the coffins they sleep in , I seem to use so much...they are big coffins, I sleep in them myself sometimes....

but I won't be lonely any more now I've met you!!! I KNEW Satan was on my side! You won't presume that this little set of "traits" are evidence of any other traits of mine ... what a relief... WETA!!! Will you go out with me?????? This Saturday night???? Pleaeeesse.........OR ELSE!

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 9:11 AM

Brane, would you mind ceasing the Latin? The point of the blogs is for people to communicate.

I also think you should hesitate (a long time) before you suggest that anyone's experiences of harassment are fake or imagined ... anyone who has had training in this area knows that you can do a lot of emotional damage by disbelieving. The most helpful thing to do is to be supportive. Then the person who is being harassed will find the strength to seek assistance to deal with the problem, whoever is the cause of it.

You and I have no way of knowing who is telling the truth on a blog, (however OrnamentalOnly does know the truth, don't forget that), but in general the rate of false accusations is actually very low, (around 2%-5%), despite the beat-ups in the media about it.

The next thing, guys, is could we give this personal issue a break ... because the blog is not the place to argue about it. All these blogs are deteriorating because of the conflicts on here...I can't imagine what new people think when they log in and read this stuff. I imagine they immediately flick across to another blog, but it's getting the same anywhere you look on this site. Enuff!!!

Posted by: waterbombe at November 15, 2007 8:51 AM

Insults don't become a real man.

Do try to take your own advice about seeing your GP.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 2:15 AM

Au contraire, I am merely showing everyone else , who can google what I think without hurting your feelings too much. I do feel sorry for you. But Its late and I have to sleep. Goodnight , take care and talk to your GP

Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 2:09 AM

Continuing to hide in obscurity.

One sign of a coward.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 1:59 AM

In alio pediculum, in te ricinum non vides

Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 1:50 AM

And some who fail the basics and get lost wherever they may be.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 1:47 AM

And yet there's alway those who study the bark intently, while being oblivious to the forest

Posted by: brane at November 15, 2007 1:00 AM

........aahhhh...waterbombe.......

spelling/punctuation/grammar has never been the natural analogue of those who lack spontaneity/passion/improvisation......beware those who presume that one set of "traits" are symptomatic or evidence of another........

....those whose minds work in an orderly fashion - and who notice the small things (the detail), are no less observant/mindful/attentive to those very fundamental human touches.....

...attention to detail - and being sensitive and tuned in to one's surroundings - are not mutually exclusive.....

Posted by: weta at November 15, 2007 12:46 AM

P.S. Trumanscat, your dignity has always been exemplary.

Another true Deal Maker.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 12:45 AM

Another grin with -

Post by: brilliantblue at November 13, 2007 5:31 PM addressing the MIB,

>"P.S. Are you capable of actually replying to a question?"

I'll always remember TC making a similar point, with her comment some time ago about the futility of engaging with the aforementioned multi-profiling character.

If "it" was capable of a true conversation instead of causing trouble and suspicion, then it may have, at times, be perceived as funny.

Unfortunately, not the case.

I'm beginning to think the same as trumanscat re this multi-profiler being a madman.

Particularly after seeing his latest lot of spewings on his MySpace concoctions of RSVP profiles.

Backstabbing pettiness by a grown man, definitely a Deal Breaker.

Decency and dignity, such as one of (and I'm going back again with memory so excuse errors in detail,) the residents Trumanscat wrote about previously, who is an aged aboriginal man.
-A true gentleman.

A true Deal Maker.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 12:41 AM

You made me smile (first time tonight) waterbombe at November 14, 2007 4:21 PM with your clever humour and the actual point itself. :-)
Especially, when coming from someone who is an excellent speller too.

Your point is one with which I've always agreed.

Personally, I've never been bothered by a non-speller, even though I'm a spelling nazi with myself.

But if a male doesn't know, doesn't want to find out and, can't pay for his handyman jobs around the house -definitely a big deal breaker for me.

It's nearing bedtime for me -damn, I haven't made the bed yet (but I did take a break from blogging to bring in my washing) and as for an underwear drawer organized in colours and sizes -not in my lifetime.

Yeah, that would be another dealbreaker for me. A male who OCD's about the little things in life and doesn't realise that sometimes...hot'n'sweaty with accompanying perfume eau de pheromones can be the biggest turn on.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 15, 2007 12:16 AM

Deal Breaker - I have no doubt that you bloggers who insist on proper spelling, punctuation and grammar on a profile are the sort of people who won't even try to kiss your partner after dinner unless you have arranged your underwear drawer in colours and sizes, sewed lost buttons back onto your pyjamas and switched the electric blanket onto lukewarm.

Wot about some spontanity ... spontantistity ... spotitanty ... a few surprises?

Posted by: waterbombe at November 14, 2007 4:21 PM

Here's one for the clonemaster
http://images.despair.com/products/demotivators/madness.jpg

Posted by: brane at November 14, 2007 3:40 PM

Welcome slightsynchronicity, we need a few more people here like you who seem actually themselves, not more clones. I hope you have some fun here.

Posted by: brane at November 14, 2007 3:34 PM

Brillantblue. Touché! You have actually asked the questions that have been on my mind re the madman. Not at all hopeful for an answer however.

Posted by: trumanscat at November 14, 2007 3:09 PM

Amazingly it never even ocurred to me to lie about my age here. I did notice a few people seem to have led very hard lives though
http://images.despair.com/products/demotivators/trouble.jpg

Posted by: brane at November 14, 2007 2:55 PM

istj54, notmuchlifeinmeyet & babydolll1 - can you just talk amongst yourselves for a minute.

Brilliantblue - Don't let him worry you too much. Ask people you know if they know me and send me an email. I can guarantee you will be able to do it easily.

slightsynchronicity & lamuse - I can assure you it is exactly the same on the other side of the fence. Both sexes are guilty of exactly the same crimes on here.

Now back to you other 3, while you're all together, why don't you have a nice cup of tea and some scones.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 2:23 PM

Following up on my recent post, just wanted to tell you all that since I changed my age back to over 60, the views of my profile have virtually stopped. Now anyone taking a look at my profile will see that I don't look too bad for an old chook and am an interesting person, but now I don't even get into the searches. There are a few non-ageists out there who specify very wide age ranges, but they are rare indeed.

Posted by: lamuse at November 14, 2007 10:08 AM

Earl(Somelifeinmeyet)...do you really know who you are?

What do you actually get out of all this nonsense?

Earl I would like to see a photo of the real you seeing as you constantly taunt and carry on through your fake profiles....the only person hiding on the blog site is you through your multitude of characters.

That to me indicates you are
1. scared
2. cannot form friendships
3. have a lot of anger
4. lack confidence
5. lack of courage
6. lack of honesty

Its about time you came out from behind the shadows but I really think you lack the courage which in my books makes you a poor excuse for a man!

Maybe this is why you hide behind these characters because these are the sort of people you would like to be but can't!

Grow up and stand on your own!

P.S. Are you capable of actually replying to a question?

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 13, 2007 5:31 PM

Profile deal makers and breakers...Ok this is my second go at RSVP. I mainly rejoined so I could participate in the blogs. Its true : )) Anyway can someone please tell me, how a RSVP member can have a pic with sunglasses, and a beanie. In cognito...and still doing it one year later. This guy asked, second time around for my photo. He has to show me a real photo first. It would be good if there was a kiss where we could post our own...like "put up a real photo please." He had a profile with a few words on it, which he updated at my request. What does he have to hide, re: his photo. Oh and a photo with a guitar does not make someone a guitar player/teacher etc. So it is kinda nice to be back, but it is the same old, same old. Oh and what is with a profile that says two different things in different places. Like I am in NYC, oh but I am in Adelaide, with very confused job descriptions. If it feels suspect it probably is, would that be a good rule. Well the blogging community is fun and I have enjoyed the dramas (reading about em).
cheers from slightsynchronicity

Posted by: slightsynchronicity at November 13, 2007 10:31 AM

Why do people talk to themselves online? Is it just part of the bigger picture?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 13, 2007 9:22 AM

This is the second comment I have made...last one didn't get through after 24 hrs so it will be interesting to see if I get posted twice.
I am writing to talk about the age deal breaker issue.

In order to even get into the searches, I have recently done a 6 month trial of lowering my stated age below 60, complete with a disclaimer. Sure enough, it has resulted in about triple the number of hits on my profile. I have just asked RSVP to change my age back, so that trial is now over and it will be back to getting fewer hits and from very old men and a few very young ones who get off on older women. I have no issues about a man's age (and I notice that most older men have to lie about their age to get into searches as well) as long as they are as young mentally as I am, and have kept themselves fit...after all, we women live a lot longer than men, so it makes no sense really to be looking for older partners at our age. The only sexy, fit and with-it older men I have met so far have been relationship-phobic, so am not having much luck!

But it seems such a shame to miss out on men in their late 50's and early 60's because they are looking for women in the 40's and 50's only. My ex husband of 16 years is now just 52...(and it was not the age difference that led to the marriage ending.) Ageism and this desperate need to have trophy (younger) girlfriends
may not be serving you well, fellows...perhaps you should widen your searches.

Deal makers for me would be articulate writing, intelligence, a sense of humour that shines through, and a broad minded POV...

Posted by: lamuse at November 13, 2007 8:53 AM

I think that a BIG deal breaker, is when a man is looking at the blogs, and sees how the other women treat myself and the new blogger"Istj54", and then recoil in horror and disgust, and decide NOT to send ANY of these nasty types a "kiss"... let alone an email or ask for a date!!

These "bloggers" are ther own worst enemies!

I have noticed that for some reason "brililantblue' is turning nastier and nastier at each blog.

Her photo could be anyone! (who could recognise her from that, so she should stop hassling me and "Istj54" for our photos.)

So rude! And people keep making fun of my name, which is avery nice happy ,positive, upbeat name, (not rude or stupid like some people's names on here!)

Where are the nice educated, sane people like me who should be making use of this wonderful blog facility, instead of these ignorant uneducated freaks who keep hogging the boards.????????

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 12, 2007 5:53 PM

Hi there, Istj54, Woodnwine, Yes yr right about that, Iam soo very new to this whole thing, I must get my act together or i could miss out, and then what would i do? I'd kick myself thats what i would do! Ahh Everyone looking for that "Elusive thing we like to call "Love", Its scary but exciting all at the same time! You cant judge too much by just a photo sometimes i guess, but its a good place to start! Ciao for now bloggers!x

Posted by: babydolll1 at November 12, 2007 11:01 AM

hey WW men are also really impressed with honesty, and if she can keep away from the mindless drivle then she should do well on here, and maybe find THE ONE

Posted by: twoeyes at November 12, 2007 10:40 AM

babydoll - istj54 is right, you just buy stamps online and get them immediately. I also agree that you should be pro-active, if you like C'man70, spend the $6.95 on a stamp and email him. Men are really impressed when women contact them because it happens so rarely.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 12, 2007 10:29 AM

Wanted to chime in about the age deal breaker issue. I found that, like mushie, I was not getting much interest and figured out that it was because men were not putting women over 60 into searches for the most part. So for fun, I listed my age as younger and then added a disclaimer stating this, and why. The interest almost tripled over night from men of all ages so have left it like that. I have found that men that I would like tend to see the humour in what I did.
In a way I resent having to do this subterfuge, but there you have it. And as someone pointed out, women outlive men, so why most men over 50 want to seek out younger women it seems to me is more a matter of ego than sense. On my part, any age is fine...I have met younger men who seem too old in their attitudes and vice versa.

Posted by: lamuse at November 12, 2007 9:55 AM

Don't you just buy the stamps online babydoll1? I don't know what you mean by you are waiting. Did the men say that they would buy the stamps? If so just write to them yourself if you are very interested or you could be waiting a while.

Posted by: istj54 at November 11, 2007 5:13 PM

Here I'am just filling in time, waiting for these stamps, i've had several replies and iam very grateful, i'd like to say C"man70, still waiting on these stamps, youre 1 thats stood out from literally 100s! Its not easy finding that "One"!

Posted by: babydolll1 at November 11, 2007 1:27 PM

* Posted by: ageinghippie at November 10, 2007 2:20 AM,

>"as for trigger happy WA PMS 24/7 the phrase "Noice one Barb" is off a certain ad for a well known TV program, Kath and Kim".

ageinghippie, are you trying to become quite chumm(le)y now by actually bestowing a nickname upon me?

If so, as "WA PMS 24/7", I have to, yet again, correct your presumption.

I don't suffer PMS (either Pre or Post) and have long given up watching Kath & Kim -ever since Magda Szubanski stopped writing the scripts.

So Pte(not so) Gomer(Gunna?) Pyle(haemorroidal)
the volunteer (often, and in so many and varied forms)
-lets hope, unlike your simple minded, gas-pumping moniker,
you don't end up with the same fate as him in "Full Metal Jacket",
where he eventually suffers a mental collapse.

Do take it easy, old chap.

Because I'd miss dodging the odd potshot of yours -no matter how off the mark they are.

Signed by,

Old (but not enough to be a hippy) Ogre.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 11, 2007 2:52 AM

* Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 10, 2007 12:47 AM,
>"ornamentalonly....
you have every reason to twitch.....Qld and particularly bits like Shakey Town bear strange fruit......"

And nuts.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 11, 2007 2:03 AM

well mirserable old cow, I actually don't remember any proposal, at least not of the barryme sort.

you mean you are not going to chain yourself to rainforest trees and throw yourself in front of bulldozers with me; i need a real hippie greenie

as for trigger happy WA PMS 24/7 the phrase "Noice one Barb" is off a certain ad for a well known TV program, Kath and Kim

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 10, 2007 2:20 AM

Ooops....forgot Barryme....i'm a duffer eh!

Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 10, 2007 12:49 AM

ageinghippy...

goodness you also remember all those incarnations...they run trippingly off your tongue..(*zounds*...what an attentive little greenie you are...) I wonder what your interest was all about..perhaps you're a fan of zydeco and industrial rock as well??? Noice!

ornamentalonly....
you have every reason to twitch.....Qld and particularly bits like Shakey Town bear strange fruit......

Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 10, 2007 12:47 AM

Hello everyone, looking forward to seeing how this goes, keeping fingers crossed, it might just be another chance to find something special, hope a prince is out there for me somewhere, it would be nice, hope you guys are patient, in process of getting stamps, and posting a photo very soon, hi condorman70 if u read this, id like to say thankyou for response!

Posted by: babydolll1 at November 9, 2007 12:17 PM

Well, i finally joined rsvp, to be honest i only send kisses if i like what the guy has to say, and i like the look of him, i like the guys who arent asking for too much, easy going and down to earth, i deal breakers are everywhere you go to find love, there's never any guarantees, just know what to look for and know in yourself that you just have to use your intuition!!! good luck to all everyone! babydolll1

Posted by: babydolll1 at November 9, 2007 12:12 PM

*twitch*
(Well now, that's my exercise done for the day.)

Another little pearl of wisdom dropped from those loose lips.

Hi Barb aka miserableoldcow.

Back to working in real life.

Accompanied by Jacko the Whacko who, would you believe it, is currently singing "I'm bad", on the radio.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 11:18 AM

Dear Miserable Old Cow,
You remember the Barry days do you.
Was that BadBarry, MadBarry or Barry The Cougar. Noice one Barb.
I make no claims whatever to being NoRmAl. In fact my dts reminded me recently that my fav track was WackoJacko "I'm an individual you can't fool me." The 45s turntable did not survive technology leaps where all is nicked off MySpace now anyway.

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 9, 2007 2:53 AM

Hey miserableoldcow at November 8, 2007 10:49 PM,

I like the points you made about group dynamics.

Even the one about us being normal with the exception of one multi-profiler.

I must remember I'm "normal" and adopt that as my mantra...
ya know, a bit like that Rolling Stones song, whateveritsname isprobablyI'mnormal (I'm a shocker when it comes to titles)..."normal...nOrmal...noRmal...norMal and the various intonations used to express that singular word, hehehe.

At least it's fun watching me twitch whenever a character pops up from Queensland. ;)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 2:03 AM

hey guys..we are a group (albeit a group of cyber bloggers) and like all groups there is a psychological process or dynamic at work that groups cycle through...these are "forming...norming...storming...performing and adjourning (or ending)" and you can return to anyone of these points at any given time... all the matters we angst over...are the daily grist of any group..."we are normal"... except for Barry, roadkill, Earl, lord thingamy.... and noloveinmever..et al.....as he is suffering from a borderline personality disorder....and cannot be cured!!!! aaah well....

Posted by: miserableoldcow at November 8, 2007 10:49 PM

At least, woody woodpecker, you're being occupied...

Fifteen times to sign in -you definitely are a dedicated one!

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 8, 2007 9:56 PM

amdoingitright..... would love to know who you mean, but then if this ever gets posted i will be suprised as the last 5 or 6 havent been for whatever reason.

Do i need to go thru a committee to be vetted and then inoculated against evil thoughts and bad attitudes to get posted on here these days???????????????

Will wait and see, but thanks for the heads up

Posted by: twoeyes at November 8, 2007 9:59 AM

Wow, got through first go that time but then had to wait for ages while the page updated before I could leave this blog and look at another - BORING! This site is becoming frustratingly SLOOOOOW!! I think I will give up soon and concentrate on Myspace, which is quick to load and always works (although it is not a dating site). RSVP the dating features on this site are excellent (2nd to none) but the blogs are SLACK.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 8, 2007 9:03 AM

ornamentalonly - thanks, I always do the cut and paste, otherwise I would definitely give up but yesterday I had to go through the log in 7 times then last night at home I had to do it 8 times!!!

Come on RSVP, fix this stupid problem or many of us will give up - I think some already have from what I know. Also, these pages contain so many OLD blogs they take for ever to load - come on, you can do better than this.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 8, 2007 8:58 AM

Get together tonight at the Blue Gum Hotel, Waitara 7pm….everyone welcome!
If you would like to meet some other RSVP members over drinks, come along tonight…would love to see you there!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 8, 2007 8:15 AM

Dear woody at November 7, 2007 4:37 PM,

While I do admit it can take a couple of goes to post sometimes, it shouldn't be taking you seven attempts.

Other people have posted tips and I posted this a couple of days ago to a newcomer.

>One thing I've noticed about posting on here is that you need to post quickly.

>Sometimes, it is an idea to copy what you've typed before attempting to post, so you can easily paste it if you have to sign in again.
>Of course, when you sign in yet again, you can then paste what you typed previously and then post immediately.

>Hope that is of some help.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 8, 2007 1:06 AM

loved the joke, brane - and good luck with the quitting (cigarettes, that is)!

Posted by: malsie at November 7, 2007 5:07 PM

Interesting question.

We all know that the first factor is the photo, because physical attraction is the core and basis of any relationship. Lack of photo isn't a deal breaker immediately, but for me i'd need to see someone to see if the physical attraction was there before meeting.

Deal Makers are quite simple, honesty is one, an effort put into the profile to give a good, interesting description of themselves.

The interests/hobbies pane is more of an indicator of tastes, but I don't put too much weight in that.

The other one for me which is a factor is willingness to have kids. While some may think that's weird for a 26 year old guy to say, for me, I do want to have kids and in the long term it would be an issue with women that don't.

I think the best thing to find in a profile is positivity and confidence.

Plus an intelligent profile from a quirky cute girl gets me every time!

Posted by: lukstar13 at November 7, 2007 4:49 PM

RSVP - while I am logged on, can I also say, why do you have to leave posts up that date back to May? It makes the page sooooooooooooooo sloooooooooooooooow to load, especially when you have to do it 7 times, so why not delete the old posts or at least move them to an archived area?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 4:37 PM

People - these blogs really are like the ocean. It looks calm enough on the surface but below the surface waves of discontent are always present and come in surges. I haven't blogged much lately because I haven't been particularly interested in anything that has been being discussed but I have been reading and observing how there are always people that stir up the calm waters and start accusing others of being rude even though they have often done the same thing.

I guess it is very hard for such a hugely diverse group of people to get on and that is just the way life works. That is why fights often break out where ever large groups of people are gathered together, particularly when some make it their business to provoke trouble. Personally, I can never understand why people have to fight with each other, why can't we just let each other be?

Now RSVP - I had to log on 7 times to post this and frankly I have better things to do with my time. Other sites work perfectly, such as myspace and facebook so why can't you sort this problem out. And don't say it's my computer because I use several computers and they can't all be at fault. I have written to you and you have acknowledged me but the problem persists. Others also are having the same problems, are their computers to blame as well?

Now can every one kiss and make up please?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 4:33 PM

Well, in my opinion, the first attraction to a profile is definitely the photo. Second would be their academic ability. If they type 'lyke diss', its really a huge turn off! Although abbreviating words in sms's are okay. Thirdly, for people who believe in starsigns (I know I do), would go for starsigns that match with theirs. I'm a scorpio (water sign) and my matches are pisces, cancer, virgo, and capricorn.

Brief profiles are also a turn off! For example :"Oh I'm a fun guy, and I love going all out on the weekends with my mates." It just shows that you put little effort and thought into writing your profile.

Guys who send many kisses, and when you reply back in interest, he sends you another kiss expecting an email from you! It just gives off that "cheap" and "stingy" vibe about the guy and the chances are, when you meet face to face, you would expect to pay for your own dinner.

Posted by: sweetashoney07 at November 6, 2007 11:03 PM

Thank you OrnamentalOnly.

Posted by: wraecca at November 6, 2007 10:38 PM

yes, seraphsuzie, that's what i meant by saying it's a website - you said it so much more clearly. You only see a part of people on these blogs, so you can't seriously let it get to you. If it bothers me, I switch off and do something else. If I felt "attacked" , which I never have (if anyone has attacked me, I haven't noticed) , I'd just leave off blogging for a few days. When you came back, people would have forgotten all about you.
Watch how fast the blogs move from topic to topic- they can change in a day.

It's very different in real life, with real people, when you talk and sort things out because you have a continuing relationship. In that world, we are able to perceive the complexity in each other; in this world, we can't. And I agree, seraphsuzie, that's exactly why we shouldn't hand out detailed analyses of each other.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 6, 2007 10:35 PM

wraecca at November 6, 2007 4:46 PM.

May your friend Anne, rest in peace.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 6, 2007 10:35 PM

Patience... really I have never 'attacked' you.. you just don't like the fact that I don't agree with you and say so.. I have only defended myself in regards to the way you have spoken to me in the past. And yeah your right I do like taking little digs at you now and again.. just like I see you do to others on here in some of your posts if they seem to not agree with you either. I honestly can say and have said it before.. I don't like you... I would never want to meet you either. When someone has the audacity to think they know me without having ever met me, and seem to have 'figured' me out and then also insult my mother as well, yeah then I have no time for them.
I do not like the way you try and tell everyone on here how to think and feel.. you don't give advice.. its more like 'do it my way or its just not the right way'.
I have been so honest in how I feel about you.. I haven't hidden a thing. And yeah so its not always Christian.. I am not perfect.. no one is.. and I do not EVER have to justify my faith to you or to anyone....

But the juxt of the whole thing is Patience. .. is you forget. you are only getting a 2d view of people on these blogs... your getting words... not a whole person.. so how on earth you can make calculated judgements and give advice when that is all you have to go on.. is beyond me. You know not everyone on here needs to be fixed.. however you seem to want to fix them no matter what they say...and however much they protest.

I personally won't miss you. And also? I don't need a 'gang' to back me up.. I can stand up for myself and always have. I have no control over what others have to say on here... They say what they feel and think..I hardly actually talk to anyone off the blogs anyway!!

Posted by: seraphsuzie at November 6, 2007 9:19 PM

thelynathdiary. Don't go. My Admirable Adversary, stick around & add your two bobs worth.

Posted by: trumanscat at November 6, 2007 8:58 PM

My only excuse is that I'm somewhat snappy because I've stopped smoking.
On a lighter note here is a joke from the INTP list.

An atheist was walking through the woods when he stopped and thought:
"What majestic trees! What powerful rivers! What beautiful animals!"

Then, as he was walking along the river, he heard a rustling in the
bushes behind him.

He turned to look and saw a 7-foot grizzly charging towards him! He
ran as fast as he could up the path. He looked over his shoulder and
saw that the bear was closing in on him.

He ran faster when he looked over his shoulder again, and saw that the
bear was even closer! He tripped and fell on the ground. He rolled over
to pick himself up but saw that the bear was right on top of him...
reaching for him with his left paw and raising his right paw to strike
him.

At that instant the atheist cried out, "Oh, my God!"

Time stopped!

The bear froze...

And the forest was silent.

As a bright light shone upon the man, a voice came out of the sky...

"You deny my existence for all these years... and try to teach others I
don't exist... and even credit creation to a cosmic accident? Do you
expect me to help you out of this predicament? Am I to now count you as
a believer?"

The atheist looked directly into the light, "Well, it would be
hypocritical of me to suddenly ask you to treat me as a Christian now...
but perhaps you could make the BEAR a Christian?"

"Very well," said God.

The light went out.

The sounds of the forest resumed...

And the bear dropped his right paw, brought both paws together, bowed
his head and spoke: "Lord, bless this food which I am about to receive
from thy bounty through Christ our Lord, Amen."*

Posted by: brane at November 6, 2007 8:50 PM

Actually I was feeling somewhat remorseful for my comments to aliane. INTP's can wield words like weapons if provoked..

Posted by: brane at November 6, 2007 8:48 PM

oh fer gods sake. This is a WEB SITE. You don't have to read anything on it, or take any notice if you do.
There is no need to throw an extended tantrum and then spit the dummy. But if you must, you must.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 6, 2007 6:48 PM

TheLynarthDiary wrote:

> having strangers discussing you is a direct consequence of posting about yourself on
> an open forum. It has happened to me again now and has in the past.

This happens. And in forums that I do not read and post in regularly, I expect to see people talking about me, or more normally my models / artwork, in the third person. But where I read and post regularly, people will ask me a question directly. Maybe they'll ask in more general terms that encourages many people to reply, but they don't ask phrased in such a way that indicates that I should not be replying, which is what you managed.

> So the ONLY question I asked Wraecca about you was "did he ever cut his hair"
> fairly innocuous I would think as it is hard to tell from the new photos.

The question I really don't mind - it's the way it was asked that got me.

> Frankly, Brush Kestrel the line about taking credit was just a little way of telling
> Wraecca that I am on her side and yours too.

Hmmm, I still can't see this, but whatever, I'll let this one slide :-)

> I seem to remember that you did take my advice and change your profile somewhat.

I revised my profile as a result of what several people said, and also with some new ideas I had myself. I'd like to thank everyone who looked at it and said something (yes, including yourself), as all the responces were useful one way or another.

However, as I recall it, you told me to:
* remove all reference to trains from my profile
* shave off my beard
* cut my hair short
* wear a shirt
* and change my name.
You may notice I have not done any of these things.

> You are young...it is human nature to turn away from people when you think you
> don't need them anymore.

Couldn't be further from the mark with this one. I haven't "turned away" from anyone or anything. I still value this community, still enjoy reading posts here both on and off topic, (BTW we could use some new and relevant topics RSVP!), and still contribute. True, I don't need to ask about how to improve my profile at the moment, but that is not because I've turned away from people here. There is a quite different reason for that, as I think you are aware.

Posted by: brushkestrel at November 6, 2007 6:22 PM

I am curious to know exactly how I was posting intimate details. Can someone please direct me to the parts where I started blurting out private information, such as what we spoke about, intimate details (besides the first hug), etc? I posted less information than what I told my best friend, who is driving me nuts wanting to know more.

TheLynathDiary, you say that nobody had a go at me, and that thefotografer was well-intentioned, although badly phrased. From your point of view, it may not have seemed that way. However, from my point of view, it was vastly different. His words were quite hurtful, as were the words of other bloggers. From my point of view, I was being attacked. But then, that is my point of view.

As for me having a fragile mental state at that point in time, I'm not sure that applies. Yes, I have suffered a lot of hurt in the past. Yes, I freely admit to that. However, I try to take every stumbling block, every negative occurrence as an opportunity to learn, and to strengthen myself. I don't allow my previous hurts to make me tiptoe around issues, if anything, it makes me more blunt (you'd have to ask OO and BK about this though).

The idea that my mental and emotional state is so fragile that it would shatter kind of gives me a wry grin; after all, if what I have gone through hasn't broken my mind, why would attacks from bloggers? It does upset me, yes. At certain times (like now) I am more susceptible to feeling hurt or upset by others. Most times, people are unaware of how their opinions or words may come across (and I also include myself in this). I have stated before, and I will state again, I took your words to be blunt, but well meant. I did not think that you were savaging me in the blogs. However, other bloggers, on different blogs, have not been so friendly. I believe others have also seen this.

Oh, and you only need to ask OO and especially BK what I'm like in real life; I am so much more restrained and mild on the blogs - in person, I can't even begin to describe how I am.

On another topic, Anne's funeral was today. I've been on the verge of tears all day, not good, especially not at work. Thanks to all who have given words of support or encouragement, and for those Christians who have sent prayers, I also thank you.

BK, I wouldn't change our relationship for the world either. You are wonderful :)

Posted by: wraecca at November 6, 2007 4:46 PM

My crime it appears has been to mistake this blog for a place to exchange support posts and a place for discussion. My second mistake was to presume I could find others willing to engage in lively conversation with a bit of wit and humour and perhaps friendly teasing or difference of opinions which serve to fuel good blogs.
In order of appearance let me answer you , put your minds at rest and hopefully never bother again and too, I have 8 people for dinner tonight and I have to start cooking....

BrushKestrel -no actually I have not noticed you around posting and I have no idea whether or not you read the blogs.
You see, having strangers discussing you is a direct consequence of posting about yourself on an open forum. It has happened to me again now and has in
the past. In my case they are only discussing my ideas and opinions and making assumptions about my life and personality. On the other hand if you put lots of personal intimate verified details on then they too are open to interpretation and are perhaps titillating to some.. I stand by my opinion that partners in a good relationship know that they can trust the other person with their innermost thoughts and secrets. That trust is built up over time. As I have stated on a number of occasions there is nothing wrong with a general picture of what is happening in your romance/life, but I question why adults need to disclose things which should remain their business. People who do that do so for a reason...they get something back from the behaviour. ..whether it is feeling important or feeling accepted or perhaps they could even be disinhibited due to mental illness or enjoy titillating others.. On an internet site there is also the possibility of scammers too(not that I in any way think this of the posts in question)but gaining sympathy and empathy is a known way that these people work.
I took the posts on face value and at a certain point as a caring woman and mother of a woman Wraeccas age thought someone needed to put the brakes on as a protection for her given that she had stated she has had struggles. a duty of care if you will.The fact that neither of you can see any harm in it is okay, and your choice,come back and tell me in twenty years if your opinion has changed. There is a difference between being open and honest and telling a lovely story and going too far with revealing personal nitty gritty. I would not want it still going on as the relationship progresses or gawd knows what we would be reading.My post was directed to Wraecca
So the ONLY question I asked Wraecca about you was "did he ever cut his hair" fairly innocuous I would think as it is hard to tell from the new photos. Frankly, Brush Kestrel the line about taking credit was just a little way of telling Wraecca that I am on her side and yours too. I am not negotiating bidding rights with you or disputing your 'timetable' I don't really care.I seem to remember that you did take my advice and change your profile somewhat. I seem to remember a young man posting on the blogs who was in a new country, new city and looking for friends, I seem to remember taking time out to answer your blog and tell you what you asked about, I sent you a kiss to say that I liked what you wrote in your new profile,and I seem to remember follow up posts where I said what a great guy you were and romantic etc.thereby giving you some extra publicity(there is nothing more attractive to women than a man that other women want) and hopefully making you feel accepted and included and not so lonely in your new country,(again I have a son not much younger than you who is travelling) and in the last post to Wraecca I again complimented you and said your new photo's make you look happy, and that I hoped all will be great for you.
You are young...it is human nature to turn away from people when you think you don't need them anymore.
Ornamental Only..there is a great difference between what the current poster is posting and wraeccas posts given that she had stated her mental state was fragile.

miserableoldcow..love the name..thanks..it is always nice to know there is someone "who gets you"

Wishandhoping2 thankyou. You are so right about needing some good discussion. Brane(and where is he anyway?) posted a great topic for debate but after a couple of posts no-one was interested. No mental stimulation at all as a result and no one learns anything. I do not subscribe to turning this into a heavy debating site..can find those elsewhere..but some interaction with thinking adults on lots of topics would be good.
The dress up comment as you well know was to do with the imaginary mud wrestling sparring ring.of the blogs....again some people have no sense of humour and could not see the funny side..or perhaos chose not too.You see that comment was actually an opportunity for bloggers to take the topic to a much lighter tone if they wanted to...no one can be angry for long if they involve a bit of fun and humour in the posts and as we all know written words cannot convey true meanings without facial expressions tone of voice etc.

Trumans cat...not trouble..but love a good challenge ..a mental workout if you like...makes me think hard or understand for the first time what it is that I really do think...helps me to grow as a person. That is why we have a love/ hate realtionship! You have been known to make me rethink when I am sure I have it all sewnup.
I am curious though on one point. You come onto the blogs in support of a few people always stating that you don't like to see them being 'attacked"(a word which needs to go from the blogs really") You never seem to see that the person being 'attacked' has been the initiator of attacks themselves which have then prompted angry responses. This has happened on many occasions with bloggers other than myself and usually involving Seraph Suzie. As Seraph Suzie did not want any support from me earlier I have chosen to ignore her posts on most occasions. My recent comments to her below were only in response to several nasty digs at me over a few blogs with full intention to provoke. The fact that she does this when she thinks she will have a gang to back her up is not good. If she does not want a response then she should choose to withold her comments. The reason why I even took the time to engage further with thse comments was because I intended that to be my last post. Instead this one will be.

Waterbombe..
your truly have a nerve and with every post you write just continue to demonstrate the nasty side of your personality.To clear up one point no one "had a go" at Wraecca
at all..some people just sensibly chose to slow her down for her own benefit. Even the fotografer whose way of doing so could have been better had her best interests at heart. The words you use are designed to inflame.
Secondly, Aliane is right you make accusations without fair basis,and twist words,
Your tactic when confronted with something that is a little beyond you or that you don't agree with is to divert attention with sneering ,belittling remarks about other posters.
You did this to me and Aliane that I noticed, and then when you got a response you dare to attempt to discredit again rather than examine your own communication difficulties or try to put forward some rational points to support yourself. Can you honestly sit there and say that your blogs were respectful? I think not.
I never deliberately respond negatively on a personal basis to anyone who has not done so to me first. I am quite willing to hear what people think of me...enjoy it in fact and sometimes learn from it or at least question myself. I do respond with opinions about a topic which may not agree with a poster.

No further correspondence will be entered into by me on these blogs, and Patience has taken long sevice leave too, but feel free to talk amongst yourselves...
goodbye all and best of luck,
Christy

Posted by: thelynathdiary at November 6, 2007 3:47 PM

I like being questioned about my opinions, WishingandHoping2, provided it is respectful. Thelynathdiary's post of November 4, 2007 11:42 PM was not entirely respectful - in some places it was downright nasty.

OrnamentalOnly, you're right- I never saw it! Lots of people had a go at wraecca and no one is having a go at funlovertoo for doing the same thing! I don't know why....but to set things to rights, I decided to have a 'go' at you over the romantic thing, funlovertoo. Please don't take it personally, I don't know you. You may not be a romantic but there are heaps of women who are. Those comments are on the Summer Lovin' blog - where else would the romantics be?.

Posted by: waterbombe at November 6, 2007 10:02 AM

Brushkestrel,

You have every right to respond to anyone's blogs.I'd have responded too. You are a man of substance and intelligence and can jump in anywhere here to give your voice. That was the point I was trying to make. These blogs are for the public or RSVP members to have a voice and opinion. No one should be dictating who can speak and what they have to say. It is all valid...whether we like it or not.
The bullying factor seems to kick in when a few people agree on a point and then attack....then we get the blog spats...guess we are only human..happens everywhere.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 6, 2007 9:21 AM

WishingAndHoping2 wrote:

> Thelynathdiary actually holds a mirror up to people
> and questions what they are saying.

Ummm, what gets me most is that she is asking questions about me, while I am present, but phrased in such a way that indicates they are not addressed to me, and that I am not intended to answer them.

I'm certainly open to constructive criticism, and am not averse to a good disagreement (provided it doesn't get personal). It's the whole "write it in a way that attempts to preclude a response" thing that got me with that one...

Posted by: brushkestrel at November 6, 2007 9:07 AM

Truman's cat,

I know I like some gentle sparring. I keeps me invigorated and keeps my mind sharp.
It's a bit like when I was young and madly fancied a guy and would goad him into little fights. If he kept it up I knew I had him...oh for those days again.

The blogs do become boring when everyone is being too nice and just supporting what people say. That just might be my opinion but yes, I enjoy a bit of sparring, especially on a Friday night. I just didn't know that I was supposed to dress up for it.

I saying all of this, I don't mean that people should be rude and nasty, but respectfully question and disagree or agree with each other...keeps things interesting.
You always do this and consequently are always enjoyable to read.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 6, 2007 8:33 AM

I seem to remember, and I could be wrong, that when Wraecca was telling us about her excitement and butterfly moments, that it was only one person, the fotografer, who rained on the parade and gave it smutty undertones.

I was originally concerned that things may falter and Wraecca would be hurt, like we all can be with online or any dating. That was a motherly concern because I had followed her blogging, and become quite fond of her upbeat positive life view. I was excited for her and wanted to know more, but at the same time thinking, go slowly.
I love to hear the good news from her and from Funlovertoo.
Thelynathdiary just expressed caution too....not criticism.
I still don't recall a lot of bloggers saying thay didn't want to hear....I may be wrong....anyways keep us informed as this is a dating blog and what it is for.

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 6, 2007 8:25 AM

Bugger. Ideally not an opportunity to have a go, it simply confirms the gang mentality don't you think?
But sometimes I wonder if you like the tension & strife thelynathdiary..? The battle?

Posted by: trumanscat at November 6, 2007 8:18 AM

Thelynathdiary actually holds a mirror up to people and questions what they are saying. She takes it all in and thinks about it before making her comments.
Some people can take this and some don't like to be questioned or held accountable for their views/comments.

I think it is all healthy and is what a blog is about.
Why shouldn't we be questioned? I like it as I know that soemtimes I will behave or say things taht need to be held up and thought about.
I know that I can be swayed from a particular view/behaviour if it is intelligently argued or pointed out that I may be doing something morally questionable.
We should all be adult enough to do that and not run and hide when it happens to us.
Thelynathdiary never does!

Posted by: wishingandhoping2 at November 6, 2007 8:17 AM

Surely a good profile is one that projects a positive attitude to life. I have often wondered about some of the profiles/people who have been on here for years n years.

Posted by: whatcomesnext at November 6, 2007 7:38 AM

Hello The Lynarthdiary ...people are so flustered around you... I can only interpret this as some kind of flattery.....all the very best of luck.....

let me know what is happening...
cheers
Moo X

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