RSVP Blog

gypsygirl24 - is this a case of careful what you wish for?

I am wondering why women don't seem to want 'nice guys' anymore. I am a 'nice guy'- I am not ugly, I'm kind, sensitive and I give 100% to my relationships. It seems I'm asking too much for a bit of the same returned to me! It is as though women tire of the niceness and prefer to go off with and subsequently marry b^%$ men. What is wrong with me??

Posted by: woodnwine at November 19, 2007 12:07 PM

faolan - very well said but no one from RSVP reads any of this so unfortunately it is all falling on deaf ears, shame really because some of us on here are genuine it's just that we are becoming the minority, dropping like flies (the ones with wings).

gyspygirl24 - So it isn't just nice guys that finish last? I'll send you a kiss.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 14, 2007 10:20 AM

and before you all get on your high horse's. Yes I am real. Have previously posted under both "Dayan" and "Faolan". Jules/T'cat/TC even has my contacts.

Ed give'm a friggin chatroom!

Posted by: faolan at November 12, 2007 11:33 AM

These blogs would be far more successful with greater breadth of member input, as they once were, if you would prevent them from being hijacked by the blogging terrorist network and their completely inane prattle. Moderated, yeah right!

Posted by: faolan at November 12, 2007 11:25 AM

I am wondering why guys don't seem to want 'nice girls' anymore. I am a 'nice girl'- I am not ugly, I'm kind, sensitive and I give 100% to my relationships. It seems I'm asking too much for a bit of the same returned to me! It is as though men tire of the niceness and prefer to go off with and subsequently marry b^%$ girls. What is wrong with me??

Posted by: gypsygirl24 at November 10, 2007 10:27 PM

Weta....I have tell you one of my sons is a virgo and I'm a sag but to be honest he's the more spontaneous one, messy one and jumps first and thinks about consquences later like a sag, and i think quite often I'm more like a virgo...don't believe in the stars as I think everyone is an individual.

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 10, 2007 10:18 PM

half your luk lukstar13, if you can get bloggers to do anything approximating keeping on topic here.....

.....I find the meanderings off topic to be one of the attractions of these blogs really......proof if needed, that we fiends of pragmatism/literalism/detail nazism (aka Virgos) are more than able to cope with the predictably unpredictable narratives of cyber-blogging.......and life in general really....surprising eh?

Posted by: weta at November 10, 2007 9:57 PM

Another feedback, this time on blogs.

For god's sake is there any way to enforce people keeping on topic on the blogs?

If I look at a blog and post its because its about the topic, all these blogs seem to be long conversations about other things, which is what you do on a forum, not a blog...

Can we have blogs that stick to the topic?

Posted by: lukstar13 at November 10, 2007 9:14 PM

Goodness, gracious me...how I pine for the big, rough 'n tough, manly men.

*Sigh*

They're so easy to deal with -feed 'em, love 'em and protect 'em and they're yours for life.

No neurotic traits worrying themselves silly about the ins and outs of those intangible will'o'wisps of someone else's thoughts.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 10:21 PM

Why don't you use the one test that might actually tell someone about who they are and who their meeting. A basic myers-brigg can be done in 4 questions and will give your customers a basic understanding of who they are and who they may actually be compatible with. As we rotate and the sun we revolve around the galaxy and the precession of the earths wobble make it laughable that any random chance alignment of whatever can have any effect on who we are or our lives. What's next tarot card or runes.
We are simply a product of our heredity and upbringing and surely its time we recognised the fact in the 21st century. Sure keep the superstitious mumbo jumbo but add something that might actually be informative and enlightening. Yes, I am an Aries/Ox/INTP and the last actually means something.

Posted by: brane at November 9, 2007 9:17 PM

Hey stormtrooper and Woodnwine,

I think we really should not generalize. There are women out there how are very open minded about potential partners and then you have some who are not quite open minded. The same goes for the men. You can tell from some of their profiles that they want the human incarnation of a barbie doll! Then there are others who are sweet and open minded enough not to judge someone on their looks.

I know for me I like keeping my photo private because I want to be judged on my profile first. That and the fact that I have found that some guys will be interested in my profile and then once they have seen the photo they disappear never to be seen again.

But you know what? I don't hold a grudge because I think its important to be comfortable with every aspect of the person you want to date including their looks. So I remain sunnily optimistic that the one for me is out there somewhere.

Good luck to the both of you on your search and here's hoping you stay positive. Cheers

Posted by: goofyoptimist at November 9, 2007 6:09 PM

ornamentalonly

the story about your father giving you a hug and a kiss brought a "that is so lovely" smile to my face. I am so glad it happened for you- a special moment.

karenchocolat

Posted by: karenchocolat at November 9, 2007 5:47 PM

Hey stormtrooper - I agree that men are often targeted for some of their comments both in their profiles and on the blogs, whereas women are accepted or even cheered on. This is what we must live with my friend and no, life is not fair. Enjoy your weekend.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 9, 2007 4:07 PM

Why is it that when females make the comments in relation to younger men as partner,: comments about mens looks and status in life; and various other comments that if a male asked for on his profile and said the same out loud its deemed as being 'sexist" and "demeaning" in relation to the other sex?

Especially from a person that does not show a photgraph on thier profile?

Its a prima facie (thats latin for "on face value" somelifeinmeyet given your self proported "higher" education in comparision of us regular bloggers) statement referring to the double stands that this group within our community allows.

The community standard (that is the basic legal requirement in the courts that what a reasonable person would act or do) that allows positive discrimation is in my opinion hyprocrisy (excuse my spelling).

to the moderators, given that you vet profiles for legal, ethical and moral standards in presentation, its a shame that its appears to be bias towards males in your enforcement. I have had my profile "censored" due to comments of what sort of person I was NOT looking for. however I saw equal too and worse on females profiles that were allowed by our censors. Go figure.

In relation to male depression and prostrate cancer it should be noted that more males die from this cancer than any other sort undetected. And that includes female mortality and morbidity rates of breast cancer even though our tax dollar and our own community fundings sponsor female heath more than male health. Its typical of us males who if we amputated a limp with a powersaw ask for a bandaid and apologise to the hospital staff for putting them out during treatment. (yes i have witnessed this) but if we have a cold...well we think we are dying and crave attention.

I have shaved my head and raised money for childrens cancer, donated a considerable sum for Movember, left my sizable superannuation and death in service benefits to the "make a wish foundation". Given "Constable T Bears" as xmas presents,to support my community that i have taken so much from without asking. Just dont ask me to support any drug rehabilitation program.

Im not religious but stronly believe that if every person does just one good thing a year in the greater Melbourne metro region alone there would be 4.5 million "good things" done each year, in the name of the community only.

I have to go now, my soap box is getting a bit wobbly.

Play nice and play fair

Posted by: stormtrooper at November 9, 2007 3:30 PM

Trooper, re your male depression and prostate cancer research point.

I spent three hours visiting my dear old dad in hospital yesterday (he's been attached to a catheter & bag at home for two weeks having to change it day and night, since an overnight hospital emergency trip) and took him a bunch of flowers.

He's still attached to plastic tubes after the "reaming" (yes, that is the medical description) of his own tubes but he will be rid of them in a week or two.
After that, at least he will get a reasonably undisturbed night's sleep (other than enduring my mother, of course -that's a permanent irritant).
Not a comfortable situation to end up in for anyone and I suspect, particularly for strong and independent men.

One of the positives to yesterday's trip? This 71 year old, non-demonstrative dear old father of mine was genuinely touched by my visit and for the first time in his life, actually gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I think a lot of people, even if it is subconscious, tend to presume that males don't need to be shown as much tender care as the female section of the human race.

Which brings me back to the topic "Customer Support would like your input!"
If I changed my preference for middle-aged men to "my" formerly abovementioned 20 year old-looking male at the top of the page (when he gains another 30 years,) I probably wouldn't have to go through the old man stage in my twilight years.

Naaaaah....don't think I could do it.

Solitaire or Patience, can still be a better deal in this card-game of life.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 12:53 PM

Just wondering why my comment on the Summer Lovin blog yesterday afternoon has not yet appeared? Is there anyway we can track our own posts without having to read back through all the blogs, some of which I can no longer read as they are too big and won't load onto my computer.....Any advice is welcome as technology is not my specialty.
All the best and have a great weekend.....

Posted by: bm1960 at November 9, 2007 12:52 PM

Stormtrooper.....had me laughing out loud again....I think you'd go well at supplying us with our characters and costumes!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 12:20 PM

Bluey,

Im sure all you women (and some guys of that nature seeing that of late I get a lot of guys peeking at my profile) would swoon at the site of my large, dayglo white, hairy backside poking thru the holes in the pants. It would be the first time my cheeks have seen daylight in years.

As its "MOvember" and in support of male depression and prostate cancer research, and in the honour of the blogging topic occassion we of the male species should continue to grow our mos (as some already have) "Somelifeinmeyet" you are most welcome to join us in this event as well.

And speaking of male depression, in relation to woodnwine's comment about collecting the disgrarded leather discs and donating them to our friend as occupational therapy, I would like to suggest that we actually write our own names on the items concerned due to the numerous and simplistic spelling errors our much "educated" friend has displayed in his/her blog entries.

I cant fit into my old army uniform, not into cowboys, and have parts of my old emergency services and police uniforms still in the wardrobe, plus some old fire fighting gear and various security company shirts so Im preparing for our float in the next parade...do we have a cowboy or an indian as well entering?... Lets throw some ideas up in that regard.

What about old movie stars costumes?..Our "friend" could come as Norman Bates in his mothers clothes from the orginal thriller "Psycho"..Im sure it wouldnt take too much to to that

Posted by: stormtrooper at November 9, 2007 10:46 AM

Aging Hippie...now that wouldn't be any fun! I was looking forward to Stormtrooper and Woodnwine wearing their leathers with their backsides hanging out....thought it would make a great shot for their profile's.

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 9, 2007 8:07 AM

If you are seriously contemplating entering in the Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras I recommend re-stitching the rear of you pants back into place. Don't offer too big a temptation to the boys. And I have a choice of full blown cowboy gear or macho leather with studs and chains duckies; I prefer the latter in such a parade.

Posted by: ageinghippie at November 9, 2007 3:06 AM

Great stuff guys with leathering/lathering the YMCA and BB's enjoyment. :)

Just to change the subject (seeing as it has petered out at this point) and to actually make a comment relevant to the blog topic (well, sort of)

-can I have a date with that 20 year old-looking guy from Blog Support at the top of the page, in 30 years time?

By then he'd be around the age I fancy.

And with me then being 75 years old, I'd still (going by my long-lived ancestors,) have at least another 25 good years left.

Now that would be excellent "Customer Support", above and beyond the call of duty.
-Perhaps even worse than being forced to read some of our blogs.
(I mean on the other topics, of course!)

Posted by: ornamentalonly at November 9, 2007 2:31 AM

To repair thier old, worn out leather pants and thier costumes.

I'm sure our friend somelifeinmeyet is a dab hand at sewing too and could do some "community service" at the home

Posted by: stormtrooper at November 7, 2007 11:44 PM

stormtrooper - what would the old village people use them for?

Hey RSVP, new record, even though I had already signed in and posted, I had to sign 8 more times to post this comment. Myspace is looking good! It's free and it works every time - you need to look at this issue!!!

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 11:31 PM

Give them to the Fred Nile memorial home for old Villiage People?

Posted by: stormtrooper at November 7, 2007 11:11 PM

Woodnwine and Stormtrooper....I can't stop laughing....you two have had me hysterics! can hardly manage to type in a blog!

Thanks to both of you...you turned a sour situation into comedy and I feel great after the good laugh!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 11:10 PM

somelife could collect them all, write our names on them and use them for target practice.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 11:00 PM

hey, we are looking at around 30-40 patches of leather here. Any ideas? Eye patches for elephants, place mats in a gay restaurant, seat covers for motorbikes, hats for the elderley, frisbys, scratch & sniff souveniers???

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 10:58 PM

YYY MMM CCCC and whats the other bit?

Ive got the mo but im looking for my old uniform leather jacket but need the cap to go with it..... after all Somelifeinmeyet isnt a LIAR (and thats the correct spelling too!)

Is (s)he(?) now?

Posted by: stormtrooper at November 7, 2007 10:55 PM

I need to know though, what do we do with the backsides that we cut out of our pants? Is there a market for these things in Kings Cross?

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 10:54 PM

I hope someone will have the camera out tomorrow night...I need a good laugh!

Posted by: stormtrooper at November 7, 2007 10:52 PM

Woodnwine...I can't stop laughing....you've got me in stitchs!
What a hoot!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 10:48 PM

do we all have to cut the backsides out of our pants though? I have to know that.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 10:45 PM

fotoman can take the photos, ninaschen can organise everything, earl can bring all his multiple personalities, somelife can complain about being left out, amdoingit can look after our backs after the parade with a good massage, waterbombe can organise the chocolate, decoratress can drive us in her minibus and weta can give directions.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 10:44 PM

I'll have to fight "Somelifeinmeyet" for the lead!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 10:43 PM

stormtrooper - we should all organise an RSVp float in the next gay & lesbian mardi gras - what a hoot!! Brilliantblue can be our mascot.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 10:39 PM

Somelifeinyet....I'm sure after tomorrow night thefotografer, funlovertoo and brane will be able to vouch for me - that I'm a female ....so you better have your last digs tonight!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 10:34 PM

Thanks Auntykaz...

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 10:23 PM

Thanks Woodwine and Stormtrooper....my friends would laugh at Somelifeinmeyet's comments!
Thats exactly how I feel about it...its laughable!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 10:21 PM

guys l think a lot of the female population may also consider it!!!!.....k

Posted by: auntykaz at November 7, 2007 10:14 PM

I'd liek to be able to see a person's contact history.... it might seem a little invasive but it would stop the non-genuine guys on here who are probably just "rsvp kissing" every single girl on here.

I've noticed in the last 6 months since this website has gotten more popular I am now getting almost no interest at all... i've gone from 80% positive replies to about 5%.

The only thing I can think of is that there are married guys or guys who want to cheat on their girlfriends on here.... and they are the ones that the girls seem to all be responding to... while the genuine guys are getting left out in the cold.

I think if you even showed how many RSVP kisses someone sends out on average it gives you a pretty good idea if someone is genuinely looking for a relationship or just looking for whatever they can get

Posted by: mistered at November 7, 2007 10:09 PM

I missed the link but if brilliantblue is a man then I for one will consider batting for the other side.

Posted by: woodnwine at November 7, 2007 10:08 PM

If "brilliantblue" is a man, I'll gladly cut the backside out of a pair of leather pants, learn the words and actions to the song "YMCA" and march along Oxford Street in Sydney at a certian time of year.

And if "somelifeinmeyet" posts his or her pic and is a woman...I'll do the same

No hope in getting me to do both now is there?

Posted by: stormtrooper at November 7, 2007 9:38 PM

Ever heard the term "the squeakiest wheel gets the oil"??????.........k

Posted by: auntykaz at November 7, 2007 9:12 PM

Somelifeinmeyet....I've said this time and time again....stop yelling and dishing out abusive comments....no body else has a problem with anyone else on this site, the fact that everyone has a problem with you should be telling you something!

You can call me whatever you like....I don't have a problem with my self image! I have a photo up, people can judge for themselves!

Maybe you should think about a photo if you're really genuine, then there would be no confusion!
The fact that you hide your photo...won't even allow fellow bloggers to see it, yell, are abusive and rude does nothing to make us believe that you are genuine.
Any genuine blogger would have wacked up a photo by now to show others they are genuine.

While I'm here, it disturbs me greatly that you refer to all men as preverts and I start to wonder what has happened in your life to make you feel this way!
Normal descent people do not talk like this!

Can you understand your behaviour comes across as a time bomb getting ready to explode!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 7, 2007 8:22 PM

Ninashen,

Im sure I echo many others in saying this, but there is no need to apologise to "somelifeinmeyet" based the attacks she has done on others and the diatribe on outlandish comments she has made on here.

I am amazed that the moderators allow her to continue with the abusive and abrasive attacks on others that do not agree with her unsubstanciated comments on various matters.

Clearly, its plain for all to see that this person has serious "issues" (in inverted comments for a want of a more discriptive word that would be censored by the moderators) and is using this meduim to vent those issues as a cathargic forum.

I am simply amazed at the comment she made: "This is supposed to be a moderated blog ..(it says on the site)..not a "free for all".
Please correct this abuse of the blogs immediately!
They are scaring away all the new customers that you are spending good advertising money to attract to this site."

Given her emotional outbursts at times, this is a hypercritical statement.

And yes, I agree, the moderators should take her advice by starting with censoring her commets first off. She is scaring off potental newcomers to this site if these outbursts are the first to be read.

So to Nina and Bluey and others, you are the ones that should be apoligised to not the other way around.

To the moderators who Im sure will censor my writings, when are you going to act on this person?

Lively debate is one thing as well as the right to free speech, but abuse is another.

Play nice

I await the barrage of "comments" from you know who...lol

Posted by: stormtrooper at November 7, 2007 7:15 PM

The one I am most spewing about is that when someone leaves the site and deletes their profile, all your previous correspondance with that person is no longer viewable!!!

I've been getting along smashingly with a girl on here, and she had decided she wasn't going to use the site anymore, but with her last message sent her mobile number and email address.

I logged in and saw these this morning, but stupidly didn't chuck it in my phone straight away. She didn't realise that once she deleted the profile the messages were lost too.

Now i'm screwed and have no way to contact her, i've put out a call to customer support and hopefully they can help.

But when a site functions on the supposition that you should use their systems for communication, it is very very very annoying and disheartning to find out your messages can all be gone at the blink of a hat.

I feel this is against the spirit of the site and hopefully receive the assistance of customer support.

So my request would be to disable this feature in the future.

Posted by: lukstar13 at November 7, 2007 1:10 PM

someone tell me how to unsubscribe to this site please?..

Posted by: lyinxz at November 6, 2007 8:41 PM

What about running a time slot....for every stamp purchased a percentage goes to the breast cancer association!
"A pink day on RSVP"

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 4, 2007 6:05 PM

I am still waiting for a public apology from "Ninashcen" for her claiming that i was a man posing as a womn, and the mulit-profiler.

Apparently her "clique' complained about my request for her apology, and now that posting of mine form yesterday they said..(the "clique') has been removed! I object strongly to it having been removed.!!

Now today, I see that others have made the same libelous and slanderous accustaion, and so I now requset a PUBLIC APOLOGY on the blogs from "Brilliantblue" who said today...""Somelifeinmeyet" is a man trying to impersonate a woman" and then "the only person that we complain about is you and your numerous fake profiles..the games up..go away..."

I don't know who lets this tripe through to get published! Who is in charge in the office?

Men will look at my profile , and not contact me if they think that I am not a woman!
I am sure that the "clique" would get into a real tizzie if someone said this about them!

Perhaps if I see you doing nothing about this slander, then I should take a "leaf out of your book" and start saying that "briliantblue' is a man, because shes so painfully thin, and has a mans face?????????

This is supposed to be a moderated blog ..(it says on the site)..not a "free for all".

Please correct this abuse of the blogs immediately!

They are scaring away all the new customers that you are spending good advertising money to attract to this site.

Thanyou...from "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 4, 2007 1:17 PM

That appeared to be the quickest survey in history...by the time I read about it....it was closed....great to have that input we've been asking for!

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 3, 2007 1:04 PM

Suggestion for a kiss reply-
one that tells the person that they have the right qualitities but they are not in the specified age group.I have received far too many kisses from younger men who are old enough to be my son or are too old to be compatible with me.

Posted by: romanceme4ever at November 3, 2007 11:13 AM

I concur with brekkydj. Living overseas (USA), I often will not log onto the site for a while or not get the chance. It would be nice to be able to shoot off an email individually and not have to buy a whole book of stamps, as they usually expire. Not that many people want just a penpal overseas, so it's not that often I would send an email (fair enough, too).
Best regards!

Posted by: rayqld at November 3, 2007 6:31 AM

Can I suggest that RSVP make a slight change to the stamp purchase system?

That's instead of only being able to buy a book of stamps, we can also have the opition of just purchasing one single stamp.

The reason behind it is, well I used to be from the city (Melbourne) where if there was somebody you liked, you bought 6 stamps... if things didn't work out, there was still plenty of more single women about to email and get to know.

Now living in the country (Emerald, QLD) there is hardly any single women on here near me.

Say I found one I liked - Well OK, there's one stamp I used - but what about the other 5 (paying nearly $60 for what would be only the one contact is a bit rich in my view).

Another example - I found online a friend I haven't chatted to in ages (but lost their mobile number). Now I would be willing to part with $10 to contact them - but not buy a book's worth.

Anyway just a suggestion - anyone else got a thought/comment?

Posted by: brekkydj at November 3, 2007 5:34 AM

Thanks for the tip "ed' re how to find the topics all in one place.

I will look at the "categories" and "archives" as you suggested and see if that works, it will save me having to go through my "e mag" all the time to get some of the other topics..(and then have the screen freeze)

thanks.

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 2, 2007 11:33 PM

To the "fotographer" Nov 1st 8.36 pm...very witty as usual about the R.S.P.C.A>..and comparisons to God!! LOL!!!!

Pity they don't smite the "fishwives" mob though! LOL!!!

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 2, 2007 11:29 PM

Please give us some return responses that could be sent to the same sex as a friendship reply...my inbox is filling up with fiendship kisses... I cannot delete them as their is no suitable reply.

Posted by: brilliantblue at November 1, 2007 9:16 PM

Thanks for your words of wisdom fotographer!Actually it should be 'hallelujah sister!

Posted by: mushie6 at November 1, 2007 9:00 PM

mushie6
It's the "clique" here.
Mushie nothing in life comes easy,you gotta earn that rspca respect!!
It don't come easy.
How long to you think we have suffered the slings and arrows, the broken site,unable to log on and comment for two minutes ???

I tell you, the right hand of the unseen God of RSPCA came across us and smite down the sinners and saeth to us "Only the good will prosper and have everlasting priviliges"
Hallelujah brother !!!

Posted by: thefotografer at November 1, 2007 8:36 PM

THE SURVEY IS CLOSED ?????? closed????

ARE YOU KIDDING ?????
What happened ?

Posted by: thefotografer at November 1, 2007 8:24 PM

Oh come on RSVP, you don't take any notice anyway!!
I may as well continue talking to the brick wall in my study

Posted by: thefotografer at November 1, 2007 8:23 PM

What does one have to do to get a blog posted as quickly as some of the popular bloggers. I posted quite early this morning on 'got an idea for a blog topic' and it has not appeared however blogs have been posted late this afternoon and been published on the same blog. Has mine gone to cyber space? It appears that unless one belongs to the clique then one does not get included as often if at all sometimes.
It would be nice to have some equality in posting please RSVP and less discrimination to the not so regular bloggers.

Posted by: mushie6 at November 1, 2007 7:40 PM

Today the blogs are scrolling much quicker for me! thanks!

I am whipping around today trying to find all the topics, (and have found some new ones), but some topics I only seem to see if I come in through my R.S.V.P. newsletter., are much harder to find.

It's a pity that all the topics are not altogether.

Sometimes I can find some of the more obscure topics if they are quoted on the "home page", other wise I have to wait till another time.

It's like playing hide and seek!

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Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at November 1, 2007 3:58 PM

Posting of blogs has improved with the new style of comment box at the top.

Well done to staff responsible for the modifications.

Posted by: ornamentalonly at October 14, 2007 10:15 AM

I have really pleased to see the new blog up for suggestions for new topics.!!
Naturally I have added some of my own.

I hope that new topics will bring potential bloggers out of the woods, who have REAL conversational skills, and have no interest in wallowing in their own miseries about their dating horror stories.!!

I notice that on the "R.S.V.P. emag", you do have topics like giving up smoking, and "10 ways for busy singles to refresh themselves", "health community' etc;..this is the kind of thing that I am looking to seeing on the blogs..more relevant to HELP people BECOME the perfect match...(not just some person thinking that if they meet someone else who is perfect then they will be suddenl happy, because the other person's perfection will magically rub onto them! LOL!!)

Happiness involves WORK and sacrifice, and duty, it DOES NOT fall out if the sky onto lazy depressing people!!...Happiness is a lifetimes work and a lifetime of positive attitude..no matter what happens to a person.

Keep going with those articles,forget those whingers on the blogs..they are going NO WHERE!!! They are bad for your business, and are costing you valuable customers. They turn people off your site! (They almost turned me off!)

If they even turn up on every new blog that you create,( regardless of the topic) whinging about their failed dates, I reckon you should just block them until they have something positive to say, or email them telling them to take their business elswhere, as they are causing you to lose too many customers.!!!

From "Somelifeinmeyet"

Posted by: somelifeinmeyet at October 12, 2007 8:24 PM

Thumbs UP for including spell check when editing profile.
Big thumbs DOWN for using the American spell check.
I dare say most of us were educated using the UK English spelling not the lazy American style. Again, BIG THUMBS DOWN.

Posted by: classicnotplastic at September 23, 2007 6:02 PM

I'd have to agree with all the comments about stamp expiry. Personally, I don't understand why smaller packs of stamps expire more quickly than the larger packs. Fair enough it's cheaper to buy in bulk, but I beleive that a stamp is a stamp and should have the same value, regardless of how many I bought at the time.

When putting this point to CS in the past, I have been told that it encourages us to be 'more active'. Personally, I find this a bit of a defeatist attitude to have as a dater. I would like to be able to work through my stamps in my own time, I'm looking for a real relationship, not a quick succession of one night stands or the complication of synchronised dates.

Yes I understand that this is a business and needs to make a buck, but isn't the best way to run a successful business by giving your customers the value and service they actually want? I would buy stamps more frequently if I knew that I would actually get a chance to use them all.

[CS: a quick tip - the introduction of RSViP allows you to extend the life of the stamps indefinitely. As long as you are an RSViP member your stamps will not expire. This, along with the other benefits you get with RSViP we believe is a fair balance that satisfies both sides of the argument.]

Posted by: pobblebonk71 at September 16, 2007 5:55 PM

I've been reading the different blogs for weeks now and must have read at least 100 times that people want better "kiss" replies. So why has this blog been started asking for input - you don't believe the others and will keep trying until you get an answer you like?

Posted by: naudy at September 16, 2007 5:26 PM

I'm tired of reading a person's profile when it says "i am not sure what I am looking for" or "looks don't matter". I know I am not a model looking person. But if your going to post comments like that, mean it. I received a rejection that said that I was not what they were looking for even though they said the comments i have mentioned. So if you don't know what you looking for and you say that I'm not what your looking for. YOU OBVIOUSLY KNOW WHAT YOUR LOOKING FOR, and don't want to admit it. Sounds confusing eh? How do you think I feel?

Posted by: saltoftheearthgal at September 16, 2007 3:10 PM

To all the women and men who have posted their profile on RSVP especially the women wether you are fat,foxy or for whatever reason,MEN ARE VISUAL CREATURES ,IT IS IN OUR GENES,and most of us men do have character as well,PLEASE WOMEN POST YOUR PHOTOS,YOU WILL STILL HAVE YOUR PRIVACY NOT TO MENTION ALOT MORE PLEASENT RESPONES.NorthernGreen

Posted by: northerngreen at September 16, 2007 1:33 PM

@ traveller3000, good idea about weight, but think. they will continue to lie. they arent going to put their real weight in are they if they are lying to begin with?

Posted by: getReal at September 12, 2007 1:45 PM

How about making our money worth it and make a 12 or 24 month expiry period for all stamps, regardless of how many we purchase? A two month expiry period has caused me some inconvenience. I used my last one on someone I wouldn't have used it on if they weren't going to expire so soon. I had my doubts about this person all along, and those doubts proved correct. We were ideologically not well matched, personality wise either. It was a waste of the stamp, of my time and their time. I felt insulted and patronised talking to this individual, the whole thing lasted about two chats and two unpleasant emails. All over within the week. The point is, had my stamps not expired after a measly period of two months, I would certainly have waited until someone more suitable came along. Do you want us to waste our time? This policy sure helps. Soon enough what we're going to see is something like $70 for 6 stamps and a 30 day expiry if the trend continues. On most other dating sites you pay something similar and get 3 months where you can email 4 people per day. This is vastly better value than a handful of stamps that you need to use in two months. People are here to contact whom they wish to contact, not whom they feel they need to or they will have wasted their money.

Posted by: CD1983 at September 12, 2007 1:21 PM

Weight should be declared in kgs - some people think being overweight is 'average'. Another thing, how do you not waste stamps (and time) on blatant liars? Women who say they have no special diet and turn out to be full-on vegetarians; women who say they love pets and shriek when a dog comes up?
Ther should be a rating system for feed-back and then the time-wasters who have got nothing else to do would slowly deisappear

Posted by: traveller3000 at September 8, 2007 3:08 PM

Would you please consider closing some of the blog topics(as you did originally) the numbers are out of control and some barely limping along. Quite a few are just the same topic/different name.
It is quite difficult to keep track of all the different ideas and conversations because bits and pieces are appearing across all the topics.
Some threads take so long to open and load due to their enormous content.

Surely it would be a lot easier for the blog editors to have fewer topics to manage and so the blogs might be updated more often.

Posted by: whatididforlove at September 8, 2007 10:34 AM

marcov
I think that sometimes happens when you go via the update my profile option. You should be able to hide or make visible using the link under My Status on the top left hand of your homepage.
The "more information requested" is to do with your location...I think they want you to put in your postcode or suburb(can't remember which) However, you don't have to do that. Just click enter again and all will be well.

Posted by: whatididforlove at September 8, 2007 10:20 AM

i cant get my profile to change from hidden to visible. It says I need to give more information but Ive filled out all possible information on the settings page with the visible profile option.

Posted by: marcov at September 1, 2007 1:14 PM

getReal at August 22, 2007 .
Many thanks for your view on my posting.
I still have to disagree. I am quite happy to travel more than 20k's per day to go to work. I find it odd that someone wouldnt want to travel even a short distance, ( and by car 10k is a short distance) to perhaps meet someone who may fulfil their dream partner ideal. I don't believe I am being "picky" by looking 'outside the square' for someone who could possibly be a life partner.

Posted by: naelie at August 28, 2007 2:17 PM

Hi there,
I guess I am a member of a growing band of older people who are now and in the future will be more reliant on the internet to form friendships/relationships.
We have been "encouraged" to stay at work longer and because many of us don't go to pubs and clubs for social contact, we will either use the 'net or become socially isolated. This is a real concern when coupled with the likes of the 16+ contacts which I have had over the last 2 years.Human nature amazes me still (which is a relief...'still amazed by something!) not one of the contacts I have had has told the truth, this has included, married and still living with, picture 10yrs old at least, really wants a bonking buddy and not a relationship. To all you guys out there get some integrity into who you are, you will only have to 'fess up later. Girls if you are into the same sort of games, give us all a break and be honest, you make it really hard for the rest of us who are honest and looking to find "he". I would like to think that we members who have been through the wringer with bad experiences can report them to someone at RSVP who may put the offending contact on notice that their behaviour is tainting this site and won't be tolerated.

Posted by: Elastic at August 25, 2007 8:46 PM

naeli.

a 10K radius is not just next door. thats a circle 20 km wide. in a densely populated capital city if that doesnt give you enough people to choose from, that just gos to show how picky people are here. If the circle crosses the river in a capital city , you can double your travelling time if it is at the wrong time of the day.

And some of us are as less choosy as the mainstream here with their superficial wants, even 10k radius can produce too many results.

I would like to see a 5 km radius personally

Posted by: getReal at August 22, 2007 11:18 AM

Hi again,
Did I miss something re format for searching etc.
The 'Browse" section has changed dramatically. Can't say I find it easier to use. Maybe others like it. But what's with the '10k' search area from a particular suburb.?...????? Do people really only want to meet someone who lives next door?????
Perhaps, just perhaps, few broadened horizons are needed here!

Posted by: naelie at August 20, 2007 7:25 AM

Hi there Customer Services,

I'd like to see a blog where we can post to YOU - and You will respond to US.....I know that might seem a bit edgy and out there for YOU (don't know why it should be though, given the web is a modern and contemporary communication medium)....but, as a regular reader and occasional blogger, I can tell YOU that I find the machinations and dynamics of how RSVP blogs are administered, incredibly frustrating. Instead of bloggers having to individually e-mail you with their observations/comments/compliments/complaints/suggestions/whatever, and getting form letter replies from CS, I for one would like to interact with YOU as I interact with bloggers.......

Hey fellow Bloggers, whaddayareckon?

Weta

Posted by: weta at August 9, 2007 9:56 PM

i think you should make people put their weight on their profile . i went on a date with a girl who was " athletic" and ill tell you something , she must have thought the question said " what local landmark do you live near ?" and she wrote athletic track.
i dont mean to be rude , but after being seen with her in a public place , the security wont let me back in that bar again ! Thanks for ruining my reputation RSVP !

Posted by: sydneyB at August 2, 2007 5:49 PM

If I buy a stamp using the WAP site does it open free contact through the rsvp internet site the same way as using a nomal stamp

**********************

Dear Member,

If you buy a stamp using your mobile phone to email another member via WAP access it will open a 30 day session with this member, which can also be access by email or chat on your PC.

Mai.
RSVP Support.

Posted by: sallinger at August 1, 2007 10:01 AM

Kissing someone I haven't met is a little intimidating. Is it possible I could give them a friendly hug instead?

Posted by: at July 28, 2007 10:14 AM

Why are there women who are from another country and at least 20 years younger than me sending me kisses ?

I mean obviously it's a scam but what's the angle ?

Posted by: NomeDePlume at July 27, 2007 3:51 AM

You ask for new people to help you make this fantastic system work..You need to set up a 50plus day, or night and also out from the city perhaps Berwick, Chadstone...either brunch or dinner, I am 50 check my profile, have sat home too many evenings and would like to have dinner with some people, see where it goesl pls check out me.
Sick of being alone...thanks

Posted by: Prettyfun1 at July 25, 2007 11:08 PM

I totally agree with being able to buy one stamp at a time.
I recently received a kiss saying the female member was interested and was waiting for my email.
I thought great, spent the min. $50 on stamps only to find the member changed her mind before receiving my email and hid her profile the next day.
Unfortunately this ended up being $50 down the drain.

Posted by: rollick at July 25, 2007 6:57 PM

hi i can not seem to find my profile on the list you have. i found it else where . And you have stated the age groupe that im looking four is between 18&100 which is not right. im looking between 58 & 65 can you please rectify this please.regards stilllooking15

Posted by: stilllooking15 at July 21, 2007 7:32 PM

Embrace Web 2.0!

I don't think it's very likely, I understand RSVP run by a very 20th century entity but it would be nice if you didn't gouge your users so much. I think RSViP was a move in COMPLETELY the wrong direction.

A latteral approach, might be to make the site free to users - require a mutual kiss before contact can be opened. And up-sell people - perhaps advertise resturaunts, sell online flowers etc.

I'm not just a crazy who thinks everything should be for free - I work for a large online community that is funded by onselling - the larger user-base you would aquire would be a positive for everyone.

Like I said, it's not highly likely - but I can dream can't I?

Posted by: bezierspline at July 19, 2007 8:17 PM

Can we please have last comment in at top of page .. or at least Archive all previous comments by the month? It's a bit of a pain scrolling thru so many to see what the latest comments are. In response to 'slowslinky' ... there are plenty of young venues already for 20s 30s 40s .. we old fogey's (50s-60s) would like a look in too please. As for the idea of puting a person's exact weight on a profile Desmond and Woodnwine.. I take it you are both hanging out for Physical perfection as opposed to personality and compatability?? Good luck with that!

Posted by: Naiad18 at July 18, 2007 5:55 PM

Well just found another flaw with the replies ho hum. Had another blogger ask for my photo password via a kiss which I was quite happy to send (you know who you are). But the problem was none of the responses really were appropriate at all and I was unable to send just the password without a message.
I feel it would be good if there was an option to put in our own words, you could do this with the threat that if an unappropriate message is sent and reported, the sender will be removed from being able to use RSVP for a certain period.
What do other bloggers feel.

Posted by: friendlychicki at July 17, 2007 9:27 AM

I have a few suggestions.

1. Get rid of the top 100. It only discourages people from actually searching. It skews the system in favour of those who make it into this list. Many profiles aren't even being viewed because people are going straight for the top 100. I think a "top" anything is a terrible idea.

2. More variety in kiss responses! This one is a biggie. The options given are hardly ever what I want to respond with.

3. This one is probably unrealistic from a business perspective and a bit picky, but how about some events geared more towards the young people? A few times i've wanted to go to an rsvp event but it's quite intimidating being a 20 year old and compared to established 30-40 year olds.

Posted by: slowslinky at July 15, 2007 5:41 PM

I would like to see a 'reverse' lookup...... where you can view members who have an interest in your own age.

Posted by: Baggagexpress at July 12, 2007 10:06 PM

Hi,
As an RSViP benefit:
(1) the information on how many people have added ME in their favourites should include the dates they have included me. I understand that to protect privacy you are not able to reveal their identities to me but, without a time frame between which people have added me to their favourites, it is impossible to judge what effect my updated photo or profile is having on other people.
(2) The additional 'KISSES' for RSViP members lack imagination and is sometimes duplicated. You need to put more effort and imagination in coming up with additional KISSES for RSViP members. There should also be additional RESPONSES to kisses for RSViP members.

Posted by: LglEgl at July 11, 2007 12:26 PM

Thought of another thing. Probably should have put it all into a single topic.

But race and religion confuses me.

Religion: I'm interested in how much they care. I was raised catholic and I'm now an atheist. What should I put or more importantly what did they think you meant by religion. I'm not interested in a devout catholic. Maybe there should be a devoutness that goes with religion or brought up vs currently believes.

On the race side of things. Way back - my grandfather's, grandfather's father or something I was from the UK. There is no option for Australian. I have left it blank but I wonder how far back some people go. Is introducing an Australian option in the list out of the question?

Posted by: at July 9, 2007 10:59 PM

I'd be interested in seeing the number of kisses a person has received. If they are getting 100 per day then I'd be happy looking for someone else. Would also like the option of viewing people with photos (excluding those requiring a password).

Posted by: at July 9, 2007 10:36 PM

People talk about chat rooms or functions for the over 40's group such as speed dating. I would like to suggest Online Speed Dating. RSVP organises a chat room and host and gives a prearranged group of six men and six women who have signed up and booked, eight minutes
each to chat(approx 1 hour to complete)
No personal contact details allowed. Then afterwards they buy their stamps to make contact if they wish, perhaps even doing the real life speed thing of letting the host know who they are interested in and the host passing on the info if there are any mutual matches. (Or otherwise a system of fee for service with contact details allowed)

Posted by: patience at July 9, 2007 2:29 PM

I agree, I'd love to see much more variety in the kisses & kiss replies, I'd also like to see the male/female ratio per state, and age group.

Posted by: lyn at July 7, 2007 3:41 PM

NIcer kisses and kiss replies please

Posted by: woodnwine at July 5, 2007 10:38 AM

I'd just like to say I agree 100% with 'richiec35'... I wish there was a kiss reply that just said "I'm not interested". And one that said "Please read my profile before sending a kiss". I could use those.

Posted by: chopperpilot at June 28, 2007 3:07 PM

I agree with you SeraphSuzie, a chat room is a great idea, so come on customer support, how about it?

Posted by: senee at June 27, 2007 7:10 PM

Having had to use CS just this week..thought I'd yet again add my 2 cents worth. I tried to change my photos around (after reading another blog and heeding advice), and copied primary photo into secondary bits...easy (I'm blonde remember...) and then I went to swap secondary photo to primary photo (thought this would be easy too - blonde or not!). Nope...no can do..have to upload again and I was charged a stamp for it...hmmm...fired off an email to CS - to ask why when on my page NOTHING had changed in 2 days...got a wonderfully technical response (thanks CS..I'm still digesting that one).

Okay....earlier email is answered and photos are swapped - ahhh thanks CS...however ANOTHER stamp was deducted - they were going fast! Another email to CS and 2 days later a quick apology and a refunded stamp....THANKS CS!! You have restored my faith.

Stamps shouldn't "run out". If you have 6, 12 or 24 and meet someone and it's going okay for a month or so - you have a lot of wasted money sitting there ready to disappear. I feel bad for wasting money - specially when you could of used them 3 days after they expire!!!

A chat feature for bloggers would be good...could also help those new to RSVP learn a few tips and tricks to safer dating...just a thought.

Posted by: wishfulthinker03 at June 27, 2007 11:26 AM

I love some of your events, but find you have very few for the over 45 age group. Lots for 25+...we may be older, but not senile...and many of us would love to have some special events just for this age group!
Wine tour and speed dating in the hunter...great, but for 25+...do you think some 25 yr old is going to sit opposite me and find me (at 53) 'the one'. Can we have the same tour but 45+????

Posted by: SunnyDelight at June 26, 2007 7:46 PM

Oh frustration...!!

I appreciate moderators that you can only do so much moderating, perhaps the powers that be can provide more funds for this aspect of RSVP!
So really my frustration is towards the powers that designate the funds. I am repeating myself.
Please update the blogs quicker, sooner, more often, particularly the weekends!
That's why we are on RSVP because we don't have the life that a partner would fill!

Posted by: TrumansCat at June 21, 2007 1:05 PM

Hey Suzie.
They wouldn't give us a chat room, because we'd all be off exchanging contact details willy-nilly without purchasing stamps, but I was thinking that if RSVP could see a dollar to be made, then they MIGHT consider a compromise.
How about a chatroom for board subsribers where we could pay a fee to access both the boards and a chatroom on a monthly basis, but held separately from the main RSVP site?
There might be a way to make it work.

Posted by: offthemerrygoround at June 20, 2007 9:20 PM

The upgrading of the system is a good thing the more cross checks the better for everyone, most people out there are genuine users, but it only takes a few to spoil the fun.

Posted by: mayarama at June 18, 2007 5:54 PM

Actually I like the pic you have shown as "Customer Support"

The Wise Old Man would have to be all of 20 and the 2 girls beside him fresh out of school.

Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: sameoldused2Be at June 18, 2007 10:20 AM

It would be really nice if the blogs were updated more often especially on the weekends! Or what about a chat room ????? We reallllllllllllly need one I think!

[CS: we hear you about the blog approval delays and we're looking at resource options at the moment to accomodate for this. We thank you for your patience and continuous support in the meantime!]

Posted by: SeraphSuzie at June 16, 2007 6:37 PM

just a word of thanks to CS just the same. We all get on here and have a bitch sometimes but there are a lot of people who have had (or are still in) successful and happy relationships because of RSVP. Its hard for a lot of us to put ourselves OUT THERE in the real world so thank you RSVP for helping us get that one step closer to what we are trying to find. :)

Posted by: Rachael at June 12, 2007 8:11 PM

In the past 6mths I've emailed support twice the last being prob 2mths ago neither of these have been replied to.

My main one was regarding the "Occupation Industry" section when setting up a profile.

When you arn't interested in meeting someone that dosn't have "ANY" kind of employment or eg: out of the home interests why do we have to check select every employment type all in order to avoid "Unemployed!".

How about putting something like "Must have some form of paid work".

Any other thoughts on this Guys & Gals?

[CS: we found your email and it has been replied to on 13/04/07 - with suggestions noted. Are you sure your email system is not junking our emails? Try adding @rsvp.com.au to your safe list just to make sure.]

Posted by: MandurahMale at June 8, 2007 9:02 PM

i posted a comment beginning of this week regarding primary photos.. there was nothing foul in it so why hasnt it been approved? I would like a response to my questions? I understand you get many comments but come on.. get on it!! Clearly someone is not doing thier job right..hint hint..efficiency please..
stil luv u tho :)

[CS: we couldn't find it? Just a note on commenting, make sure you verify a comment with the picture code, otherwise it gets junked. PS: back at you mate.]

Posted by: not happy at June 8, 2007 11:01 AM

how can i send password for photo? will u tell me step by step? tks ;-D

[CS: check out the following blog entry for more info.]

Posted by: nomi at June 7, 2007 10:22 PM

Can I make a suggestion for the full search criteria: Can there be an option to include or exclude members who you have had prior contact with, whether it be just a kiss or full contact with the member?

I'll also add to the people complaining about stamp expiry. I would only add that maybe it should be that if the user hasn't been active in the last 30 days before their expiry, then they can be deleted, otherwise give another months extension.

[CS: these were addressed through RSViP which include features such as "Ignore members" and "Extended Stamp Expiry" as part of the list of benefits.]

Posted by: Boreas at June 7, 2007 2:25 PM

Having to buy 6 stamps in order to contact ONE person, then having them all expire in a couple of months isn't nice. It only encourages people to date several people at once, or to keep "looking" while already dating someone, and for everything to go at a very fast crazy pace.

SUGGESTION:
If you're genuinely trying to provide the best service for singles you should allow more flexibility for those who like relationships to slow grow:
1) allow us to buy just ONE stamp if that's all we want just now.
2) have a longer expiry time on all stamps.

Posted by: Riversong1 at June 6, 2007 9:04 PM

there is a singles site out there where you EARN contact points, it runs along the same lines as sms pup where you click on an add to gain a stamp. I am sure that method is not patented or trademarked (yet) lol.

sure, it means that you may get spam in your letter box, but sometimes its worth it just to get contact points (especially when the giveaway is 4 of them)

RSVP, give it some thought

Posted by: Sonn at June 2, 2007 8:07 AM

In response to your response above CS.....
[Re authentication we are currently researching profile verification options.].....

this is exactly what Angus Mulcahy said some 7 years ago when I raised the matter with him then. 7 years is a long time to be researching your options guys. So would members be better complaining directly to Fairfax or leaving things up to Angus to swing as he feels appropriate?

[Ed: We're under new management now, as you know. We're looking at this again, and will be raising a blog topic shortly to discuss how you all think this should work]

Posted by: peloton at June 1, 2007 10:45 PM

Hear, hear dlad54 & phunkymunky. When I joined RSVP I did so on the assumption that this was a supplementary activity to my 'real life'. This meant I took a long term approach to it, with realistic expectations. I bought a 6 month block of stamps -- expecting that there would be a lot of interesting experiences, I could take initiative and approach men that interested me, and pay for the contact. With the seemingly hundreds on this site and a relatively broad mind, I thought 24 stamps over 6 month would get close to being used. OK, there may be some wastage, but fair enough, lifes like that. However -- as I get close to end of the six months I find that I have many, many stamps left over and to get further use of the stamps I need to become a RSVIP member. Now I understand the buiness model, but I have to say I feel a little cheated. I think a more cost effective / profitable model for RSVP involves referrals eg I say to some-one else you should give it a go...it does require investment, but its worth shot. At the moment, if some-one said should I pay for stamps... I would say one-at-a-time...and that requires a lot of labour and advertising for RSVP to support. Personally, I would favour a website where you pay to be a member -- are you serious or not. We can see from the blogs there are a lot of members who are really taking genuine folk for a ride.

Bottom line: expiring stamps, expiring members.

Posted by: Gratitudegirl at June 1, 2007 12:27 PM

Can i suggest a top 100 for each state instead of a national top 100 ? Doesn't necessarily have to be 100, could be top 50 or top 20 for each state.

Posted by: Sonn at June 1, 2007 10:54 AM

I do realise (as a programmer) that most options need to be written (and tested) so the information is accessed correctly.
I think one should make this point for those non programmers out there.
Suggestions:
Profile verification options - feedback from "dates" or other inormation "mining" (ask a database programmer what that means)
Memorising personal settings ie sort options in favourites etc
Hypertext or something to allow paragraph formatting on blogs. (a brilliant idea as a complement to profiles)
Stamps that don't expire - One buys them and should own them.
If one has stamps with a time limit one would use instead of wasting - thus contributing to the over use of eMails to incompatible profiles.
(Personally after the number of inconsiderate replies and feedback from other disgruntled bloggers I am not in a hurry to buy more.)
Main point:
There comes a time when a business needs to determine whether it will be mass mayhem for it's clients or distinguish itself as above the rabble by providing a service which will be sought after ahead of others in it's field.
Whether RSVP is capable or willing to distinguish itself, only time will tell.
Is it better to have less clients with better results (more successful matches) or more clients, more work, and mediocre results?
Or just sit on the fence like all the other dating sites.
The choice is yours.

Posted by: dlad54 at May 31, 2007 4:56 PM

I agree with Desmond - put people's weight on profiles. Then there are no surprises.

Posted by: woodnwine at May 31, 2007 2:41 PM

I am new here. I agree with the comment above about lame kiss replies.

And I don't like the idea of stamps expiring either. The more ethical or busy one is, the less likely they are to use 24 stamps in 6 mths.

I wonder whether some of the profiles I have read are real. Couldn't RSVP insist on a verifiable phone no. or credit card no. being attached to every profile, even if stamps aren't bought? This would discourage mischief makers who like to remain anonymous.

I'd appreciate that people who don't match my ideal partner prerequisites cannot kiss or email me, though suppose that would kill your stamp sales. But seriously, my time is valuable and why should I be spammed by people disrespectful of what I have written.

More later....

P.S. would be good if paragraph structure was retained in these posts.

[CS: the introduction of RSViP was in part meant to balance this out, because as long as you're an RSViP member your stamps will not expire. Re authentication we are currently researching profile verification options.]

Posted by: peloton at May 29, 2007 11:38 PM

hi.
this blog is a great idea.

my suggestion - to be able to email a couple of times before having to buy stamps. I'm not worried about having the stamps run out - if you're still only emailing through RSVP after a month, then it's probably not going anywhere.
cheers
thanks
bj

Posted by: bj at May 29, 2007 8:57 PM

I've actually become more interested in reading these blogs than browsing profiles.

I have found that I learn more about a person from their blog entry and wish that their names were perhaps hyperlinked to their profiles or their ages/gender/location was included on the blog entry.

[CS: we can't force them to reveal their RSVP name, but we have included a "RSVP name" search tool on the top right of the page for your convenience.]

Posted by: trine at May 27, 2007 3:43 PM

I love reading blogs here. But the layout is so bad it is really hard to read as well as hard to write comments. Why don't you make it as an ordinary forum? (you can still screen replies)
It is hard to read when there is no paragraphs, highlighting or emoticons, or when you can't quote someone or address your comment to a particular person. Hoping for improvement.

Posted by: AnotherCustomer at May 26, 2007 10:24 PM

Idea? We submit a new reply to CS say once a month that could be assessed and perhaps used?e
The replies we have are ok but you could introduce a bit of fun into by promoting a "You Post a Reply" competition.
It may not last long (we can only come up with so many comments) BUT it gives people a chance to vote what reply they would like included. ???

Posted by: radiant21 at May 25, 2007 7:53 PM

hi there,

I would like to know why stamps ever have to expire at all? Its not a perishable item that can go off. I am not renting a stamp.

I BOUGHT the stamp.

RSVP has my money and there is no logistical reason why that piece of data associated with my account that resides on your databases should have a life expectancy.

I had actually stopped using rsvp because I couldnt use the mimimum quantity of stamps in the maximum time. Im just back on here to use a freebie stamp (thanks guys n gals at CS)

I hear we can buy 1 stamp at a time now. If thats true, may I please be directed where?

[CS: if you access the RSVP WAP site via your mobile you can send emails for $4 each pay as you go. Alternatively, being an RSViP member extends your stamps so that they will not expire as long as you remain a member.]

Posted by: phunkymunky at May 24, 2007 9:54 PM

I think all of the kiss-reply options are very lame on RSVP. No one in this day and age would say something as idiotic as they 'were flattered by your interest but'...

What about, "Thanks, but no thanks - good luck out there" etc. Run a competition to come up with some realistic replies. And another thing. You shouldn't FORCE people to reply to kisses. If they chose not to, you should still be able to delete a contact - without the guilt trip of having to reply.

Posted by: richiec35 at May 22, 2007 12:37 PM

when you are lonely and need a friend and a companion you would do any thing to keep it or get it. It is not easy to understand computers and follow the directions you give us to find our match. make it more simpler for us dummy computer users to follow the instructions. I have a lot of problems to get beyond a kiss.trihv.

Posted by: trishv at May 19, 2007 11:37 PM

I think both of your ideas are fantastic Desmond.

Posted by: Dave at May 13, 2007 5:43 PM

I have only ever used "customer service" once and would not ever bother again. I reported a drink spike incident that happened on an RSVP date, I was told to go to the police, it is not their policy to get involved with "disputes" between users of this site. As the drug was out of my system I had no proof and guess what, he is still on the site. There is not "customer support" in my book. Take this kind of behaviour seriously, im sure im not the first person and wont be the last. Lets see if this totally unidentifyable blog makes it to the screen.

Posted by: LT at May 13, 2007 4:20 PM

The blogs need to be updated a lot faster, otherwise people tend to lose interest and the opportunity for a good debate passes.

Posted by: patience at May 13, 2007 1:06 PM

I think everyone should put their weight in kilograms on their proflie as one person's average is another persons overwieght.

i also think you should give a stamp to everyone that contributes a valid idea for your site.

Posted by: Desmond Sherlock at May 12, 2007 8:47 PM

I would like to help out in your survey, but my state is not on the choice, is it because you don't think Tasmania is part of Australia, you don't really care what your Tasmanian think because theres not enough of them or you just for got about us ??? I am interested as no Tasmanias appear on the top 100 lists either and i have suggested you have a top 10 for each state but this bit of wisdom also fell on deaf ears because I haven't recieved a reply all I keep getting from you is a reminder to me on how great a job you are doing for me and how I should pay some more money, I know your a business, but hey guy's where's the customer service.By the way why is is so hard to find the how to create a topic button, another over sight?

[CS: again we apologise for the mistake, it was meant to be grouped with SA for reporting purposes - it has now been corrected. Excellent idea re the top 100/10 and we'll make sure it is heard.]

Posted by: Melody at May 12, 2007 12:52 AM

I think many of the more tech savvy folk would not contact Customer Support - except if they break rule and need to request their profile to be unfrozen or have had something censored. So their only contact would be a negative one even if it was deserved according to the ToS.

Personally I find the ToS conservative, I've had something I'd consider very mild censored. I appreciate that a line needs to be drawn but consider this: Use of colourful language shows a person's personality and can be useful in finding (or eliminating!) a potential match.

Posted by: Hai at May 11, 2007 9:25 PM

Where is Tasmania on the survey box?

[CS: Oops. Blame the new guy. Will get that corrected first thing Monday]

Posted by: at May 11, 2007 8:47 PM

Customer support or customer police?

You may be there to help but are often seen as more of a hindrance than a benefit. No disrespect please, but your primary job is to police, not assist, whatever your title may say.

Until your "assistance" is actually seen as a benefit not many people are going to comment. Would you tell a King they are deficient in their attitude - Most likely end up "losing your head".

Maybe that is why there are no comments to this blog.

ps Now I am waiting to see what repercussions I receive from my comment, but someone has to say it.

[CS: I would say hand in hand because policing to some may mean support to others (I guess even RSVP is not immune to conspiracy theories). How can we change this perception though if it does truly exist?]

Posted by: dlad54 at May 11, 2007 5:02 PM