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Dating through the ages

Is there a greater appeal of the younger man for the mature woman? Guys, how young is too young and how old is 'older'?

Demi Moore and Madonna favour the youngsters. Donald Trump and Michael Douglas seem thrilled with their efforts to snag a gorgeous and much younger wife.

Today's dating scene has fewer taboos than ever before and a greater social acceptance in our society where almost 'anything' goes.

We want to hear your thoughts on whether age matters !

Posted by lisa in Archive at 12:09 PM

Second Impressions

Is love at first sight the only way to go? Many happy couples had less than happy beginnings. First dates can be disastrous or leave lukewarm first impressions. How important is the first date and what makes them so exciting, but so terrifying?

While researching The Little Purple Dating Book one member told us that "after trying to call her four times, only to get my now future mother-in-law, I was about to give up when finally I made contact. Then after arranging a date three times, but the dates falling through (my fault), we finally agreed on a time and a place, meeting up for a lunch that lasted two and a half hours, which was followed by many dates and a marriage proposal...'

First date disasters aren't the end of the world. You can learn a lot about your date's sense of humour. Laugh off any unforeseen hiccups and make sure you sign up for a second date.

Another member thought things would go well but as fate had it 'Everything that could go wrong did The food that is usually brilliant in this cafe was terrible that night due to the Head Chef having a day off...young lads showed us their bums in drive-by flashes, a group of young boys on BMX bikes had a fight right beside the cafe...when we wanted to kick on, there was nothing close open! Then, the council set off fireworks - Romantic? NO - we couldn't hear each other talk. We took it in our stride and had another date. We have been inseparable ever since.'

Is the chemistry wrong or does it just need more time? Studies show that on average it takes three dates for couples to click.

So what dating disasters have you had? What sort of first date do you want?

Posted by in Archive at 4:28 PM

No Reply?

So you've exchanged kisses and sent an email looking to start a conversation, but after that you hear nothing and wonder what happened?

Are they busy and simply have had no time to reply or perhaps they have changed their mind?

Let's say you've changed your mind about someone do you ignore them or send them a polite thanks but no thanks? Are you upfront with your reasons or do you prefer to keep it quiet?

We appreciate the frustration that these types of situations create however we can not force members to reply as the human factor is outside of our control. Using a stamp to email someone involves a certain level of risk and members need to be prepared to take that risk to proceed. Simply put RSVP is a medium for people to meet, as such we cannot change/control the habits and behaviours of our members but we have tried to influence more positive outcomes by introducing features such as:

• Free Kiss messages so members can introduce themselves first without using stamps (although this does not guarantee success).
  
• Allowing members to use a simple one click "Auto-Reply" system such as the "Auto Refuse" button found at the bottom of the email reply screen. This will send an automated email to a member letting them know you are not interested in taking things further.
  
• Warn members who try to remove unread messages for 30 days.
  
• Introducing the 30 day contact channel when you use a stamp allowing you to follow up on a contact for free. When you send an email using a Stamp, the member can reply to you for free - and this channel of communication is open for 30 days. That means you can exchange as many emails as you like with that member on our secure network during this period without incurring additional costs. This 30 day period also lets you work out whether you want to disclose your private details.

Do you agree with what we have done? Have we done enough? What other measures could we take to promote more effective communication on RSVP?

How would you feel about us implementing a forced reply feature on RSVP? Would this be useful or plainly, too intrusive?

Posted by Customer Support in Archive at 11:15 AM

Looking for love on the go

Did you know you can look for love on your phone with RSVP mobile? We're currently looking at ways to make the mobile site better and would love to hear your ideas on what works, what doesn't and why you would or wouldn't use RSVP mobile!

There are plenty of reasons why you might want to use RSVP on your mobile... you can see if someone has sent you a kiss while on the bus coming home from work, you can email arrangements for a date discreetly from the office, you can even check out a person's profile in the pub!

You can go here for details of how to get RSVP on your mobile, or you can text RSVP (for the standard cost of an SMS) to 1999 6060.

We have an active community of mobile RSVPers, but what we'd like to know is: are you among them? If you are, what's good (and bad) about the service? If not, what's putting you off using RSVP on your mobile phone?

Posted by Ivan in Archive at 9:10 AM

Profile Deal Breakers and Makers

What is it about some profile that attracts you enough to send a Kiss? What is an instant turn-off?

Recently members have had their say about Profile photos and whether spelling ability is high on the list of desirable qualities in a potential partner. It appears that there is a whole lot more to be said!

What are the things in profiles that attract you, fill your heart with love or which drive you crazy, or have you laughing out loud?

What does the profile reveal that would stop you making contact? Is it distance? Their religion? Their pets? Living at home with mother? The mention of a hobby or sport that you can't stand?

Profile writing is hard. It can be scary and once done we never want to go through it again. It is important though to capture who we are in our profiles, that spirit that makes us special and unique. Everyone of us has little quirks, likes and dislikes. They play a part in what we write in our profile, how we present ourselves and how we react to others. The proof of how much fun we really are is difficult to capture in a few short lines.

Here's a great chance to tell the world about what works and what doesn't. So, what are the Deal Makers and the Deal Breakers?

Posted by lisa in Archive at 5:23 PM

Getting your photo up on RSVP? No problem, here's how.

Most of you have said that we should provide immediate assistance when it comes to getting a photo up - we agree, and we'd like to start things off by telling you what your options are to get the ball rolling.

Firstly all member photos need to be processed manually by Support staff so that it complies with our terms and conditions and our photo guidelines so make sure your photo is within those boundaries (you won't believe some of the stuff we've had to reject).

Secondly here's how you can get the photos to us for it to be processed:

1. Uploading it directly to your Profile (generally takes 12 - 24 hours to process)

• From the My Home page place your mouse pointer over 'My Home' in the Menu bar at the top
  
• Select the 'My Photo' option from the drop down menu
  
• Click on the 'Upload Photo' button and browse your computer to locate the photo(s) you want uploaded
  
• Add a comment (optional) - if there are any specific instructions for our RSVP team
  
• Add a caption (optional) - such as where/when the photo was taken
  
• Select whether you want the photo to be visible across our network or password protected, which means that members need to contact you for the password to view the photo. Note: when sending RSVP Kisses, you have the opportunity to include your photo password
  
• Repeat the above steps if you're intending to upload multiple photos to create your photo gallery.
  

2. Send us your photo via mobile MMS (generally takes 12 - 48 hours to process)

• You need to have your mobile number registered on your profile (though you do not need to have it confirmed)
  
• Save your photo as a MMS file on your mobile
  
• Attach and forward the photo to 0416 90 RSVP (7787).
  

3. Email us your photo (generally takes 12 - 48 hours to process)

• Email the file to photo@rsvp.com.au making sure that it is a .jpg or .bmp file
  
• In the email let us know whether the photo is for your primary or gallery photo
  
• If you want your photo password protected, please let us know and include the password (make sure that it is simple and easy for others to use).
  

4. Send us your photo by POST (risky and generally takes about 5 - 7 working days to process)

• We'll scan it for you at no charge
  
• Let us know whether the photo is for your profile photo or photo gallery
  
• If you want your photo password protected, please let us know
  
• Include a self address envelope if you wish us to return your photo to you
  
• Send it to:
  RSVP Customer Support (photos)
  GPO box 506
  Sydney NSW 2001
  Australia
  

Any Questions?

Posted by Customer Support in Archive at 2:37 PM

Yummy Mummy!!!

We recently conducted a survey on dating single mums to celebrate mothers day this weekend. Only 6% of respondents said they would not consider dating someone who had children. And Elle McPherson took your votes for the worlds most 'yummy mummy'.

Dating in today's world certainly has its challenges, particularly for those single parents who are looking to get back into the singles scene again.

As if juggling the everyday challenges of raising children aren't enough - throw in work commitments, financial pressures and balancing custody with your ex.... before you even start to think about having some 'me time' or sharing your life with someone again.

Where do you start? How will the kids react? How will a potential partner react to your kids? How do you feel about dating someone and sharing their kids? And then there is talking about children with someone else again, especially if your new future partner doesn't have any children of their own.

We want to hear what you think. Share your thoughts, tips and experiences on dating as a single parent.... or dating a single parent.

Posted by Nik in Archive at 10:56 AM

Customer Support would like your input!

RSVP Customer Support are looking to improve the service we provide to you and the first step is to find out what you think. We have created a survey and would value your feedback.

Here is the link to the Customer Support Survey to let us know what you think.

A little bit of background on us: RSVP Customer Support staff perform many functions. These include but are not limited to: approving profiles, processing photos, answering support queries, managing payments and handling various other administrative functions that help the site click. We want to do more but also keep it focused on what our members want and also need. So this survey is actually about you: how you access support, how you would like us to help you and also how best things can be done.

Please fill in our Support Survey if you have the time or leave us a comment below, either way we want to know what you think!

Posted by Customer Support in Archive at 4:55 PM

Is music the food of love?

Is music an aphrodisiac? If you could send a song to a love interest, what would it be? Do you judge a person by their music tastes?

To coincide with the launch of RSVP's Music Club, we're keen to find out how you feel about music and what our club can offer you. Let us know! Did you know that you can send songs with an email to someone who takes your fancy? Would that make you more likely to reply to that person?

Posted by in Archive at 10:03 AM