RSVP Blog

I have to laugh when I read that some of the people who were in favour on the spy pane are now wanting it to be optional for themselves...ie they want to see who has looked at them but don't want it known who they have viewed.
Sonn I have no problem with having a photo visible for anyone to view at anytime, but the privacy I feel has been invaded is that of my ability to browse profiles as I wish without worrying about whether the monitor is on or off and what conclusions the person will draw from my viewing. If I want to contact a person I will do so in my own time. I am not influenced by who has viewed me, nor if I was in someones favourites.
If I was, and they had not contacted me then I would presume that they have their reasons. No point in pressuring someone. If the option to know who has you in their favourites is implemented then I will not list any on screen, but rather keep my own private list on an old fashioned piece of paper.
For those who say seeing a person has their profile listed would give them some courage to initiate contact I say, why? What difference does it make really? If you send a kiss , you could still be rejected.
If you are that shy, do some self esteem building activities before internet dating.

Posted by: patience at May 23, 2007 10:31 PM

thankyou ky for pointing out that u are not me, nor am i you! we are quite distinctly different, i am averse to using capital letters for example. lol.
my rsvip membership expired yesterday & i must say im not missing much. only feature that wld bring me back is the ability to see the favourites thing.

Posted by: k at May 22, 2007 5:11 AM

Timewarp1 ... kiss :)

Posted by: Karen at May 21, 2007 8:56 PM

Hi Ivan,

Thank you for placing my blog appreciated.

I would just like to point out to you if that is ok, and im sure RSVP genuine users looking to find a potential life partner would agree with me that this is NOT A GAME.
I honestly dont agree with your comment about would it give the game away or not if RSViP users had acccess to who added them to there favorites list.

To me I think that you should go ahead place that BLOG and let us prove to you that us genuine RSVPers dont think we see this as a game.

The way I see it and other people would if a person sees it as a invasion of privacy then my comments to those people are get off this site and stop ruining it for people like us that actually do want to meet someone to love and spend our life with.
You dont like it dont purchase RSViP ( that will stop you from knowing how many people viewed you ) and hide your profile. But it just comes down to this, are you truely on here to meet someone for real or just play mind games with genuine people.
As you will know if you have read many profile male and female people have advised that they are over mind games with dishonest people. I guarantee you that those people would back me up in saying get off this site if its just a game to you.

Some people male or female in this world dont have that extra courage to take that first step to contact someone they find interesting or attractive to them, and I know yes I know that if you allow RSViP users access to favorites list that will open up so many more opportunites, so many more people opening up and taking the big step in contacting someone they thought they would NOT have a chance with.

SO MY POINT RSVP EITHER TAKE THE STEP AND ALLOW ACCESS TO FAVORITES STRAIGHT AWAY FOR RSViP PEOPLE - or - PLACE A BLOG FIRST AND SEE WHAT RESPONSE YOU RECEIVE. Lets not put this down to money I think we are being charged enough for the items we purchase, we would atleast like to get our monies worth. and I think you will have alot more people using RSViP by throwing in this extra feature. - ATLEAST TRIAL IT

Thanks and Cheers

Ky

im not the user k just in case people think that.

[Ed: Okay, let's float this as the subject of the next Feedback Blog and see who's scared and who's excited by the prospect...!]

Posted by: Ky ( not k ) just in case people think im both at May 20, 2007 11:15 PM

hi ivan,

we can see who's viewed us so why not see who's added us to their favourites. whats the difference?

one feature of adding someone to favourites is that they know the instant you have come on line. i am apparently in over 270 people's favourites (!?!?) but dont have the ability to block them if i want to like i could from a kiss or email.....my only option is to hide my profile or have hidden IM status but that just prevents ME from being visible to potentials that i might actually like.

Posted by: k at May 20, 2007 10:47 AM

Hi Ky, you're right... there have been a few requests to see who put you on their favourites. What do people think: an excellent idea or gross invasion of privacy?

The issue here is that it's not just a glance at a profile that's being recorded, but knowing that someone actually likes you enough to include you on their favourites list. Would that give the game away or not?

Posted by: RSVP (Ivan) at May 19, 2007 5:25 PM

Hi,

This is the second time ive placed a blog under these comments. My other posting doesnt seem to have been posted.
I think RSVP needs to take a look at considering RSViP users access to who has them added to there favorites list.
As you can see from many postings on who has viewed you, you have alot of members who think it is a fantastic idea. I feel you need to throw this idea out there to see what response you do receive. And as I said previously, I feel you will get alot more response to your site and alot more people buying stamps and using RSVP if they had an idea who has them added to there favorites list.
I think that alot more people will take that extra step further and work up that extra courage to contact people they would never have thought to contact before knowing who has them added to there favorites.
You can atleast give it a trial to see how it works, or atleast place a blog to get feedback. This site I thought was about introducing people to each other and seeing people be happy and fall in love. Not about making money money money. Thank you and please I would appreciate this blog being placed.

Posted by: Ky at May 19, 2007 2:30 PM

Hey LT,
Hang in there! I sent a kiss to a bloke who replied saying he was looking forward to my email and then "auto refused" it. But I have since met a wonderful man! Keep trying, kiddo!

Posted by: What a waste of a Stamp at May 18, 2007 7:55 PM

interesting idea. i think it would work well. I ahve no probs at all knowing who viewed my profile. it shows interest, especially if they have viewed it more than once :) if there is a fear of lack of privacy, then placing a profile with your picture on it kind of negates it, doesn't that fear of lack of privacy doesn't it? unless of course you have your pic password protected.

Posted by: SONN at May 18, 2007 5:25 PM

Great idea guys, keeps it interesting!

Posted by: Paul at May 17, 2007 8:52 PM

Guys can you please explain how I have received a kiss from someone, yet they don't appear in my "last person to view you" section.
I would've thought to kiss me, they would've had to click on my profile first, therefore view me.
I'm not a VIP member so I can't see my hits/stats, but realistically I don't even think the Kisser would've been the 2nd, 3rd or 4th last viewer.
So what's happening there? Any advice thanks.

[Ed - All RSVP members can choose to have their profile views switched on or off. If this user is not appearing in your list, it is likely he/she has the feature switched off ]

Posted by: RSVPhD at May 17, 2007 2:03 PM

BOO!I really like this feature.Its pretty interesting to see who has been checking out my profile.At the end of the day if they kiss you then its your right of reply.You know thanks but no thanks!Its nice to know how many favourites im on!If i only knew WHO!

Posted by: boo2007 at May 17, 2007 12:22 AM

sorry ed but gotta dispute your explanation to al: [Ed: Thank's Al. The count is up to 10. If it shows 8, then that means that you have viewed by 8 members recently (i.e. the last 7 days)]. some days it only shows 9 for example, but i know for a fact that ive had more ppl view me than that. so there must be some sort of re-set or something cos it doesnt always show the 10.
[ Ed: Thanks K, i should have been more specific .. it means that only 8 members, with profile views turned ON, have viewed the profile]

Posted by: k at May 16, 2007 6:05 PM

Nah - if people are interested they'll kiss you!!! Why else do you need to know who's been looking?

Posted by: Jess at May 16, 2007 9:54 AM

"Ed: That's right. The the feature will only show the last person, unless you are an RSViP in which case you will be able to see the last 10." (lori - 8 may post)

If this is right we are supposed to be able to see the last 10 why can I now only see the last 8 that have viewed me and only the last 4 that I have viewed?

[Ed: Thank's Al. The count is up to 10. If it shows 8, then that means that you have viewed by 8 members recently (i.e. the last 7 days)]

Posted by: Al at May 15, 2007 10:00 PM

Both viewing features should be individually optional not a both on or none.

Posted by: Alfred Zommers at May 15, 2007 12:26 PM

its overkill... & if it wasn't an optional feature I wouldnt continue using rsvp. c'mon most of us are gonna window shop and check out the competition along the way!

Posted by: SB at May 13, 2007 3:36 PM

Houston, we have a problem! I thought I had it sussed, I enable the "spy" feature just before I log off, then it's a nice surprise to see who's been looking next time I visit. Theoretically, the next step is to take note of the RSVP name of the "looker", disable the feature and go have a look at that person's profile. BUT...and it's happened several times, when I do a quick search for that name, it comes up with "invalid name" or "we cannot match your search exactly, are you looking for these people?". Which I'm not. So am I not so smart after all? I even tried doing a full search using just the criteria showing in the one line description of who's been looking, but nope, not there. Does this mean I have to show my hand and do a return search while the feature is enabled even though I'd prefer to peep voyeuristically? (Bad choice of word perhaps, but you know what I mean!)And even though my blogs are numerous I do have a life "on the outside!"

[Ed: This might be a way to "game the system", but it sounds like the other people could be playing the same game as you... once they set their profile to "Hidden", they would disappear from all searches. Everyone should be careful about what you intend when you click the "Hidden" link on your profile page - it effectively withdraws that profile from RSVP. Which would be a bummer when trying to get dates...!]

Posted by: TishB at May 12, 2007 10:48 PM

I think it's good, heck it at least lets you know people are even lookikng at your profile. As for invasion of privacy how? I mean we are all here to look for someone and it just interesting to know who does. I mean it helps for confidence to know people want to look at your profile, what happens after that is to the indiviual. And if you want privacy, why bother putting up your profile.

People will be viewing it weither you know about it or not does it make a difference and if they know you have been looking at theirs it is a great big deal? I mean it is all about meeting people and it might help in people making the first step as May said.

ANd what privacy, all they can see is your profile. It has no contact details and only shows what you want. And in today's information age, nothing is really private any more.

Posted by: John at May 12, 2007 6:25 PM

I couldn't agreem more with the erudite comments of Ky. Encapsulates my thoughts and sentiments entrirely. I was one of the members who voted for these features. [DELETED!] which is a Jewish Singles dating site has the option to see who has viewed you and who has added you to favourites and also lets you know if your 'perfect match' profiles have been seclected via both parties. All features can be turned on or off. Its teriffic and really opens your mind to whom you could be compatable with!

Posted by: Lookin4mycountryguy at May 12, 2007 5:21 PM

i agree with ky, re making favourites visible. my rsVIP is abt to run out in a few days & i wont be renewing it cos i dont feel its worth $10 a mth just to see who has lookd at my profile. theres not enough benefit in being an rsVIPer at this stage.

Posted by: k at May 12, 2007 10:02 AM

It would be nice if the button to turn the feature off was on each profile so if you didnt want that person to know you looked, you just clicked..simple.

Posted by: Melody at May 12, 2007 1:07 AM

I have a little story re: this feature, Guy looks a profile, several times over a few days and makes no contact, I look at his profile, we have things in common, he looks ok, age fits, still he is looking and no "kiss". Is he shy ? I take the lead and email him, after all what have I to lose, he keeps looking. For my effort I get a generic reply, not wishing to have further contact. Ok im a big girl and can handle rejection BUT he is still looking. Go Figure.

Posted by: LT at May 11, 2007 11:45 PM

Just Friends
Just read your message, and I agree that a "kiss" without any innuendo would be great. I'd love to meet with other women to broaden my friendship circle.
By the way, RSVP, when I do a Search by RSVP name it's coming up with the message to the effect " you are using an invalid RSVP name, names can only be A-Z,a-z, etc and cannot start with a number. The names I'm searching fill all the above criteria so any ideas what the problem might be?

[Ed: Give us an example, and are you searching from the blog page, search pages, etc...?]

Posted by: TishB at May 11, 2007 8:38 PM

I think this is a fantastic Idea. I know myself I have actually taken the extra step and looked at profiles I would never have given a 2nd thought prior to this feature.
To ALL out there that dont like this feature I say hey disable the feature or dont use RSVP at all. I feel everyone should be given a choice as to whether they wish to use it. Just because one person doesnt like the feature means the next person feels the same.
Im glad this feature has been added, and I would love to see a new feature of been given the choice to view who has added you to there favorites list ( this can be an option to disable if you dont feel comfortable ) But I think if we had the choice to view who has added us to there favorites list I would make alot more contact to other members taking the first step. Both men and women get scared off making the 1st move. Please RSVP lets look at this feature, make it a BLOG and see the response. Cheers

Posted by: Ky at May 11, 2007 5:11 PM

How on earth is it an invasion of privacy? What a load of nonsense, it seems to me that a lot of people on this site wish to remain single if some of the above comments are the norm!

Posted by: jason at May 11, 2007 4:43 PM

I think is a BRILLIANT idea. I think this will improve the content and quality of RSVP's service, and is therefore good for your business. Keep it up, RSVP!

Posted by: Erikka at May 9, 2007 10:44 PM

RSVP is getting tackier by the day. Please tidy it and keep it classy, it appears some low lifes are denigrating the site. Can't say I'm too wrapt in the new feature, privacy to a certain extent please. Cheers KezzaW

Posted by: KezzaW at May 9, 2007 3:10 PM

TishB
Enjoyed your comments and just checked out your profile. Go Girl!!! Please dont get worried, I'm not batting for the other side. Wish there was a feature in RSVP for same sex friends messages like let's go for a coffee - or have you seen the latest movie? What about it RSVP?

[Ed: Thanks Just Friends, You can already search for same sex friends, just select "I am a female looking for friendship with a female". As for the kiss messages, we thought that most of them could be used for friendship, "likes your attitude to life", "thinks you have a lot in common" etc, but we can certainly look to include a couple more.]

Posted by: Just Friends at May 8, 2007 6:32 AM

I have a question for RSVP. Given that your new feature only shows the last person who viewed your profile, what happens if you are offline and say 6 (lucky me!) people look at your profile. If I log on, does it just show the sixth one....do I miss out on the other five unless I'm in RSViP? Thanks, Ed.

[Ed: That's right. The the feature will only show the last person, unless you are an RSViP in which case you will be able to see the last 10.]

Posted by: lori at May 8, 2007 6:23 AM

If its such a big issue, make the thing switchable.
If you are on this site then you are wanting people unknown to you read personal information you yourself have written.
Some people need to get a life and stop being so paraniod!

Posted by: verles at May 5, 2007 6:37 PM

hmm, according to comments by ed re top 100 on 29/04/07:
"Ed: .... Suffice to say we've repaired the problem with ordering since RSViP was launched to be back to how it was"
however yet again today the top 100 has reverted to the same bunch of people. gotta wonder if jimbeamgirl & the others we keep seeing every day are on the payroll!

[Ed: Sorry if I misled... the problem has been identified and fixed, but not released onto the live RSVP site yet. That will be part of the release we do next week.]

Posted by: k at May 4, 2007 10:38 AM

Get rid of it, I will be removing myself if it stays, sorry rsvp but you will lose a lot of $$ due to this.

Posted by: at May 3, 2007 10:41 PM

I think it is a good idea to use if you have the option. I appreciate seeing who has viewed my profile. I may have overlooked that all important person whose profile I may not have seen.

Posted by: chicky at May 3, 2007 7:01 PM

Thanks for your prompt response Ed in relation to the fix you've effected regarding the my favourites appearing in the recently viewed profile area - but you didn't actually answer any of my questions (hmm - Why is that -are you sensitive to constructive comment?) - I think it eminently reasonable that RSVP actually answer questions that go to confidentiality of user information - rather than just say that you've fixed the problem (which I am pleased about) - seems like in your response that you've side-stepped the significant issue of whether I appeared to one of my favourites as having viewed her profile when I have not (if that has been the case then it is clearly misrepresenting my actions and activity on RSVP) - and you have focussed on having fixed the technical glitch which has existed since you introduced the feature. Are you patting yourself on the back for the fix but not explaining whether as a consequence of your snafu, the RSVP site has misrepresented me and my activities at the temple.

If the problem only existed at my end, you could tell me that - if it occurred at both ends, you're up for a mea culpa......to everyone who switched on the recently viewed feature......

I appreciate your feedback Ed.......

.....Weta

[Ed: Weta, thanks again for your comments. No we are not sensitive to your feedback.. that is one of the reasons we set up the blog in the first place. In answer to your question, did you appear when one of your favourites loged in .. yes. A mistake was made in the code and the "favourite online" pop up was recorded as a profile view. Please accept our apologies.

Posted by: Weta at May 2, 2007 11:25 PM

I think this is a great feature, i want to know who has seen my profile! it's not creepy or weird, and definetly not an invasion of privacy, it can be a useful tool.. If someone looked at your profile and didn't get in contact then you can use that as an indicator that the person didn't really 'like' what they saw.. The only thing is, you may look silly looking back at profiles of people you already 'know..'

Posted by: Jessy at May 2, 2007 2:21 PM

I have recently cleared out almost all of my favourites as I noticed that whenever they popped up as being on-line, they also appeared as the last person I had viewed. I was looking like a stalker as they were often on-line at the same time as me in the evening. Sadly, they usually didn't appear in my 'who viewed you last' window - so I am obviously not on their favourite list!

Posted by: Ninaschen at May 1, 2007 10:00 PM

As an RSVPer for almost 2 years, I've watched with interest the incremental 'improvements' to features here at the Temple. A lot of what has been developed has made the site a more accessible and visually appealing place to browse/meet/chat etc. - but as other's have identified, you gotta pay for the privilege - RSViP is one example - the increase in stamp price and reduction in time until they expire, is another.

Whilst the recently viewed feature is a great idea (I switched it on straight away) when are you guys going to get your act together and fix the glitch that you've had since day one - where you keep surfing through my favourites and displaying them randomly as my most recently viewed profile (when I haven't viewed them at all) or when I close down a favourite pop-up (" ...is online/ is offline.....") and that profile defaults to my most recently viewed profile. Surely the algorithm can't be that complicated.

Can you also tell me whether these random RSVP generated profiles show up at the other end - that is, am I seen by one of my favourites as having been the last person to have viewed her profile, even if I haven't?

I have no problem with being identified to someone whose profile I have viewed, I like that feature - I do have a problem with someone believing I have recently viewed their profile when in fact I have not.

If it happens at both ends, then there's an issue of privacy and security of information here which I reckon you need to address.

Am I the only one bothered by this?

[Ed: Weta - Thanks for your feedback. This problem has been fixed in today's update (02/05)]

Posted by: Weta at May 1, 2007 6:41 PM

I think this is a great feature! To all you doubters, I have been on RSVP for 3 years, and have just embarked on a serious relationship with a man who I found using this feature when he viewed my profile. He didn't send me a kiss, because he recalled a former profile of mine where I said I was thinking of moving to the coast. When I saw that he had looked at me, I sent a kiss immediately, and he responded positively. A second kiss from me, and he emailed me, we met the next day, and have been almost inseparable since then.

I guess the thing that springs to mind, is that someone may have viewed you and may even like you, but perhaps you had something on your profile that put them off, eg a distance requirement that is perhaps more flexible if the right person came along. This feature worked for me, so good luck out there, hope it works for you too.

Posted by: Judy at May 1, 2007 2:12 PM

Thanks RSVP Ed.
I guess I'm on the money then. Crafty!! But makes perfect sense considering some of the people constantly in the Top 100.

Posted by: Nik at April 30, 2007 8:47 PM

I know it's a little off topic, but could someone please explain how the Top 100 works exactly. I understand that it's based on the number of 'kisses' you receive, but does this also include responses to 'kisses' sent out (regardless to them being positive or negative responses)?

[Ed: That'd be a little like handing out the recipe to the secret sauce...! Suffice to say we've repaired the problem with ordering since RSViP was launched to be back to how it was]

Posted by: Nik at April 29, 2007 6:11 PM

I think it's a great feature. However I think there should be an option to disable yourself being viewed on other peoples 'last viewed' windows.

Posted by: Holly at April 28, 2007 9:29 PM

can we have some new blog topics & get comments updated more frequently pls.....

Posted by: k at April 27, 2007 3:46 PM

We had a few glitches but they will be fixed shortly. All Top 100 members are there because of merit. Thanks. Ed.

Posted by: RSVP - Ed at April 27, 2007 3:35 PM

I am interested in knowing why the top 100 never changes anymore since rsvip has come in. I don't even bother checking it out now as the same guy is number 1 everyday and the same girl in my age group. What is with that? I know they said if you join it you will get priority in the top 100 but the "Goldie's" never change! Boring.

Posted by: Kimbo at April 27, 2007 6:58 AM

What's going on with the RSVP top 100? Is this really indicative of the 'hottest 100'? All of the gold shaded ones are grouped at the top.

Posted by: Curious at April 26, 2007 10:56 PM

Looks like most are a little shy in enabling the 'view' feature. Either that or I just don't get viewed all that often! Still I think a count of ALL views could work.

Posted by: Nik at April 25, 2007 1:56 PM

Not sure what I think about this "feature" yet.

It is interesting to see people who you have just "looked at" then appearing in the "who's looking at you" window.

I think it is good that it can be turned off as some people probably want a little more anonymity.

I will be leaving it on, for now...

Posted by: fred at April 25, 2007 1:53 PM

For god's sake what privacy ..u r on a public website!!!! I find it handy as then I can c who actually sends an email..and if I don't like it I can disable..talk about whingers ..have a great day everyone..a new dawn today Anzac Day... anyone interested in replying to my blog ..DO!!..good way to get to know people first...Cheers

Posted by: GVSM at April 25, 2007 1:21 PM

i actually think its a great idea, and as others have said that if you dont want to know you make your profile invisible as i have and you dont encounter any attention you cant control, now how long has it been since ive logged, on i think its time i check my profile again, if only i can remember my password.

Posted by: Lisa at April 25, 2007 12:24 PM

I definitely want to know who has added me to their favourites. Please let us see.

Posted by: Kim at April 25, 2007 10:52 AM

Turned this option on and love it. It allows me to see those I would not usually look for in my search options. Also gives me an indication of the "creepy perves" who have nothing better to do than look at girly pictures and the age range of men I am attracting. If I find someone is continually looking without contacting I can then block them. I would however love to know who's favourite list I am on.. When is this feature going to be available? the option is there but we are unable to use...or does that cost also?

[Ed: Think we should introduce a "Vote for your most desired new feature" blog.... Seems a lot of you have some good ideas]

Posted by: Ally at April 24, 2007 4:13 PM

Colleen, 20 or 30 year olds? Half your luck!!
As for those who don't like having to scroll down to the latest comments, just do "Control End" and there you are! And "Control Home" and up you go again! Just like Winnie-the-Pooh putting the balloon in the honey jar! Yep, really must get a life!

Posted by: TishB at April 24, 2007 4:02 PM

I think this is a good feature, however why can't we see more than one picture? Each person who clicks on a profile automaticlaly eliminates the one who went before.

[Ed: this is a feature of RSViP that you get more than just the last person that viewed you]

Posted by: heidifromwestoz at April 24, 2007 4:00 PM

It is so annoying to have to scroll to the end of the page to place a comment or check if there has been any comment on your blog. What I forgot to say on my previous comment - my viewing of profiles has dropped off DRAMATICALLY because of the new system. I know you can switch ENABLE/DISABLE if you wish, but it would be much better if you had a feature where you could select Disable when you are viewing profiles on a permanent basis.

[Ed: See bold comment above - the change IS permanent until you want to reverse it]

Posted by: Colleen at April 24, 2007 7:56 AM

Am enjoying the blog and learning as I go - but is there any way you can put the latest comment/question at the start of the page not at the end?

[Ed: Sorry, it's the way the blog program works]

Posted by: Colleen at April 24, 2007 7:48 AM

what does being "invisible" do then? i still got a chat request and still appeared online everywhere else. i wld expect hidden/visible mean ur profile can be seen or not, as opposed to IM status of invisible which wld mean ur profile can still be seen but ur online status is not displayed???

[Ed: We're going to update the site to take the confusion out of this. Suffice to say there are three states your profile can be in:

Visible/Hidden - whether your profile appears in searches or not
IM online/invisible - whether you can be contacted for chat
Who's viewed you enable/disable

From the feedback, we're going to change this slightly to make it clearer

Posted by: k at April 23, 2007 9:01 PM

Richard, the way you tell if you are invisible or not is in the My Status box at the top left of the Member Homepage. The options are Visible or Hidden - check that you are Hidden. This will stop you turning up in searches though.

The box below entitled Views shows you the last person you looked at as well as the last person who viewed you - you should notice that (if you disable it) your views are no longer being remembered.

This is DIFFERENT from the IM status of Online vs. Invisible - this just controls whether you are available for chat or not (apologies if that's not clear, I'll see whether we can be clearer in the Help page).

Does that work for you?

Posted by: RSVP (Ivan) at April 23, 2007 8:50 PM

I have been at invisible all day thinkin I was invisible and "K" you are right. All it does is take the green icon off the top 100 page. I too have been checking out peoples profile thinking I was doing it in secret. I cant beleive it. Why did we pay money for features we are not getting. RSVP can you please explain.

Posted by: Richard at April 23, 2007 8:04 PM

we should have the option of appearing offline like in msn messenger i dont want others knowing when i am online and whos profile i have seen unless i want to . I would seek another site to spend my hard earned cash on!!

Posted by: Brett Jansen at April 23, 2007 11:51 AM

the "invisible" category doesnt seem to do anything other than change online status in the top 100 ranking. checked my own profile after making myself invisible, saw it still had green online icon & someone tried to IM me & when i looked at their profile it showed i had viewed it. both things that shouldnt have happened according to the help page....either help page is wrong or the setup for being invisible doesnt match what rsvp claimed it wld do. & why cant i see whos added me to their favourites.....?? get rid of the link to it if its of no use.

Posted by: k at April 23, 2007 6:02 AM

I think it's a great potential idea.

With the caveat that one has the choice whether to allow the people they are viewing for that knowledge to be known.

Having the flexibility of that option should then satisfy all parties, those who want, and those who don't.

Posted by: EtienneSaintClair at April 22, 2007 11:44 PM

RSVP or anyone, can someone please explain the ignore other members option in the RSVIP features? With all the comments about people not having the decency or manners to reply to any contacts I can't imagine why RSVP management would want to encourage this behaviour.

Posted by: sue at April 22, 2007 10:22 PM

Marillion, I agree withyour comments. I am disappointed by the introduction of the RSVIP feature and on principle won't pay extra. Again you are feeding on insecurities of certain members.
I would also like to be able to purchase stamps on a 'needs only' basis or otherwise RSVP should increase the expiration time for multiple stamp purchases. Over time the cost per stamp has risen while the time to use them has decreased. This is really an unfair practice as I have paid for goods/ service that I am then unable to use with current restrictions. Not everyone here contacts people for the sake of it or for one night stand...some of us are discerning, sincere and genuine and thoughtful with our contact.
RSVP you should be fairer to all your members because failure to meet needs, poor value for money and treating customers as ATM's eventually leads to a downturn.

Posted by: patience at April 22, 2007 9:57 PM

I think it's a great idea. I myself get tired of paging through endless unsuitable profiles, and often look at profiles on the featured members front page of site and don't always send a kiss as the members profile's stated preference does not closely match mine. Today I had a kiss from a guy who had looked at my profile after I looked at his and has now emailed me, I haven't had to spend a stamp. So for me it is working.

Posted by: Rosemary Evans at April 22, 2007 3:21 PM

Would be nice to see who has added you to their favourites ----------why have you got the option there anyway ? click on it and you are told it is not available !!!!!!!!! STRANGE

Posted by: carmel at April 22, 2007 2:28 PM

This new RSViP service seems to be a better then other thing. By paying money you get things that members that do not pay do not get. So really what the site is saying is if you have money to spend we like you better then people who do not have a lot of money. I mean the stamps now have less of a use by date , so i am guessing some people do not get to use all of them. And now this other thing that wants more more money. It is becoming like the datting companys that if you give more money they will treat you better. ( or so they say ) Does Fairfax not already have enough money. Has any one ever thought if you made some of the things cheaper you would get more members on ??

Posted by: Marillion at April 22, 2007 9:39 AM

TishB you made me laugh -that's exactly how I feel. Paranoia has hit here too. I've paid my money and not feel decidedly uncomfortable about viewing profiles but I would like to know who has viewed me. Then again, it gets a bit wierd when a 20 or 30 year old male views a 56 year old female. What a dilemma RSVP - can't we separate the feature so we don't have to enable both?

Posted by: Colleen at April 22, 2007 8:33 AM

I am all for it! If some people object that's their opinion, but hey, that's why we all put our profiles on rsvp in the first place!

Posted by: singleforu at April 21, 2007 5:03 PM

My favourites count has me intrigued too. I usually only mark others that I am currently in contact with as a favourite, then unmark when communication ceases. Although those who have me as a favourite isn't super high (it is in the double figures), it certainly is higher than I would have thought, considering I am not in contact with anyone at the moment. Perhaps some people just forget to update this. In any case I think I would like to know who they are.

Posted by: Nik at April 21, 2007 2:58 PM

This is a good feature, and should be for everyone, but, if you dont want them to contact you you can always block them.

Posted by: John at April 21, 2007 2:26 PM

I think it's a pretty cool feature! As for it being 'an invasion of privacy' - I don't think so.. I really don't care who see's me checking them out.. doesn't mean anything. And vice versa, I'm curious to see who check me out :)

Posted by: MonCheri07 at April 21, 2007 10:42 AM

It is a nice optional feature to have. Nice to turn it on and off. It would also be good if we could see who has put me on their "favourites" list. Another option that could be turned on and off if desired.

Posted by: Jenny at April 21, 2007 8:44 AM

I think it is fantastic and I became a RSViP just to see more. If only I could see who added me to their favourites!

Posted by: Kimberly at April 21, 2007 8:15 AM

The feature is ok... What I want is to view who's added me to their favourites

Posted by: nuhorizons at April 21, 2007 8:01 AM

Dilemma! I've turned the feature on (clever me) and now after reading the blogs I'm not sure I want it there! Paranoia has insidiously crept in, so I'm going to turn it off. I think. Problem is, I want to know who's checking on me, but I'm now afraid to read profiles for fear of coming across as a stalker, or mini-stalker if I only look once! Maybe I'll just keeping blogging and reading blogs and forget about getting a life. It's nearly Winter any way, and who wants to go out on dates when the temperature drops below 25 degrees! Yeah, right!

Posted by: TishB at April 21, 2007 7:05 AM

It is great but it would be better if it showed you all who have looked at your profile like for example over a period of a week? This feature is on another site and it displays all the people who have viewed you, this is good as it just gives the site that more edge and gives you an idea of how well you have written your profile!

Posted by: Marto Marto at April 20, 2007 7:04 PM

As if we need to know who the last person to (probably) "rsvp reject" us was??!! Sometimes ignorance is relative bliss! ;-)

Posted by: Kate at April 20, 2007 6:08 PM

It seems this is just another way to make money. Make it free or is the site not getting enough people to sucker in and spend their money. It would be nice to see who likes me out there. Because after 2 years of being on this site i am still yet to meet someone that wants to meet me.

Posted by: Marillion at April 18, 2007 9:43 PM

Hate it. There are lots of creepy sites this would be appropriate for. I only use this one.

Posted by: Beth at April 18, 2007 1:28 PM

To Angels : Re: "I am surprised to see it only shows me the last profile I viewed. Does this also apply to ... the last person who viewed me?"

As mentioned the feature is initially disabled for users, so it's quite likely that you will not see the last viewer as they probably have the feature turned off.

Give it a day or two!

Posted by: RSVP (Alex ) at April 18, 2007 11:59 AM

So Ivan [RSVP] Angels here again
after just turning on your new feature [thought it would be fun]
...I am surprised to see it only shows me the last profile I viewed.

Does this also apply to people who viewed me..ie the last person who viewed me?

And I note that to increase the number I can see I must pay for your new RSViP feature...
oh you tricky little capitalist you...

at least Big Brother only seeks pleasure from power...this is another kettle of fish. tee hee

Oh the pain.................

lets face it people they have got to make thier living...
we are but pawns in a capitalist soceity or should that be prawns in a sea of despair..but we still seek our goldfish.
and so the dating game grinds on.
you gotta' laugh

Posted by: Angels at April 18, 2007 8:52 AM

oh PS. to the above
I turned my feature on..
tee hee.

Posted by: Angels at April 18, 2007 8:26 AM

So long and so much for BIG BROTHER

Looks like it's coming down on me

Posted by: Angels at April 18, 2007 8:16 AM

Good guess Timewarp1, we have updated the site and based on all your feedback, made this feature optional and off by default.

From what you have all suggested, this seems like the best compromise - so now those that want to, can. And those of you who value your privacy will be able to remain anonymous.

We have launched our premium service RSViP, which incorporates other features. Time to start a new entry on premium, I think....

Posted by: RSVP (Ivan) at April 18, 2007 5:43 AM

I see that RSVP is closing down just before midnight tonight (Wed 18th)to rehash their site, and Blind Freddie knows which change will appear on your home page about 2 hours later. "Just optional, dear clients!"

Those of us who read RSVP's excellent blogs (and I guess most of us then put in our tuppence-worth) have been clearly warned of this by RSVP's bold-face comments here and there amongst this blog.

Actually, I now believe that the privacy-fear issue raised so many times above is a brainless knee-jerk response.

If you think it through, it will actually let you INCREASE your privacy, AND your chances of meeting someone suitable, BOTH at the same time.

How?

Look to see who's been checking out your profile more than occasionally, and look at THEIR profile.

Then decide which type you guess they are:

* Someone you might actually be interested in, but they're still too shy to contact you, even with a first kiss.

So what do you do? Make their whole month by sending them your own free kiss. Their reply will tell you if they're just tyre kickers, or brave enough to invite you to email them, once you've saved them from having to make the first move.

* Someone whose profile gives you the creeps. Ask RSVP how you can block them, without them having to kiss you first, to give you that response option.

(And if I was RSVP, I'd also change the programme so that

* members cannot delete kisses till they've replied to them,

and also so that

* members cannot reply to ANY OTHER new kisses or emails, until they've replied either Yes or No to EVERY previous kiss that they have EVER received.

It only needs one extra feature - that you have to reply to incoming kisses in the same order that they were received. (Not for emails.)

And like it or not, RSVP could make that change any day they like. They design and redesign the system, and we join or not, and then stay or not.

I believe that failing to reply Yes or No to a kiss when you've seen it is a mortal insult to the kisser, and should be seriously discouraged by RSVP.

It takes only a couple of mouse clicks to tell the kisser (either very kindly or rather curtly) that you're not interested thanks.

My suggestion has another big benefit - it STOPS the kisser from knowing for sure that you are so selfish, so spoilt, so self-focussed, so lacking in empathy, and so far up yourself (crudity used on purpose, as an intensifier) that taking 5 seconds to say 'No Thanks' to an unwanted advance is quite beneath your dignity.

There are over a hundred women who've owed me personally a 'No Thanks' to my kiss for up to a year, and judging by our profiles, I'm a better person than at least 80 of them.

Inexcusable arrogance, and what worries me for our society is that this applies to ONE IN THREE of the women I've carefully selected to kiss.

No wonder their previous relationships failed, and they're on RSVP. I hope they stay there forever, because they're not nice enough to deserve a relationship.

One final thought - RSVP makes you state your age on your profile, and the programme automatically updates it and your children's ages each year.

Up beside the age and height, I'd like RSVP to show the number of kiss replies that the member currently still owes to other members.

That would be an even more useful filter, to show who you wouldn't want to contact.

I guess that would cause these spoilt brats to leave RSVP, rather than do their very easy duty to those who've honoured them by contacting them with a kiss.

Good riddance, because it would make RSVP appeal more to those singles who are fair dinkum, and looking for a relationship that's not take take grab take.

What do you think about that, bloggers?

Posted by: Timewarp1 at April 18, 2007 1:51 AM

It is interesting that some people find this feature to be a so-called "Invasion of Privacy" and to "Attract unwanted attention" when in reality by virtue of having a visible profile would tend to counter both of the above assertions.

The "Attracting unwanted attention" assertion is laughable especially as you have the option to ignore any contact [or attempt] by others.

Food for thought :-)

Posted by: Paul at April 17, 2007 11:44 PM

Why does everyone seem so threatened by this? If you dont want people looking at your profile, dont have it up in the first place. Besides, you dont have to use this feature to if you dont want to know who's checked you out!!!

Posted by: sue at April 17, 2007 11:34 PM

By "optional" I presume the choice is that of the person doing the viewing, not the person being viewed. So the latter is going to get lots of anon references. Why not just offer raw numbers: "x different people have looked at your profile in the last 7/14/28 days"

Posted by: Tony at April 17, 2007 9:51 PM

I agree with this comment by Dan: Great idea but should be optional. For example I would be happy for some to know I am viewing them but not others.

Posted by: MonCheri07 at April 17, 2007 9:44 PM

I like that I can browse and revisit profiles at my own leisure without any person being able to see this and jump to conclusions that may be completely wrong. I agree with one poster who said they often revisit a profile of someone they have contacted because they want to be reminded of their details. This could give the other person a false impression (clingy, obsessive, whatever). It's my opinion this function would generate more confusion and unease than anything positive, when you weighed it up. I would leave if this function was introduced and it was mandatory.

Posted by: GS at April 17, 2007 9:22 PM

I like the idea, it is a nice precurser to sending off a kiss, and will help to streamline my searches.

Posted by: havingfuntoo at April 17, 2007 9:06 PM

It's a great idea to know how many times your profile has been viewed, today/last week/last month; to see if your headline has made any difference, or new photos interest new people, but not to actually know who looked. It's about anonymity and suspense, you already know more than the person you are eyeing up at the bar.. A bit more information on how many people are interested in you is always helpful.

Posted by: Lowonair at April 17, 2007 7:41 PM

Thing is you have to check out profiles to see what age limits are.

Posted by: Daimler1 at April 17, 2007 2:59 PM

Just to confirm the feature WILL BE OPTIONAL

Posted by: RSVP (Alex) at April 17, 2007 12:11 PM

If it's not optional it's not on.

You need to be able to turn it on or off just like you can your profile, your kisses, or your receive matches by email.

HAS TO BE AN OPTIONAL FEATURE or not at all.

Posted by: Gotta be Optional at April 17, 2007 11:46 AM

I think it is a good idea because it shows you if your profile is working...in that it is attracting people to come and look at it and maybe interested.

Also, it gives you a chance to view that persons profile...you never know, that person may be the one true love of your life...amd would never of known they existed if it wasn't for this feature (unless you've really searched really really hard).

So basically, yes I am all for this new feature...hope to see it soon on RSVP!

Posted by: PommeyBoy18 at April 17, 2007 12:03 AM

I can't see a useful purpose, and it seems it would upset a lot of people.

Posted by: Lisa at April 16, 2007 11:44 PM

Personally I don't care, but it's definitely an invasion of privacy and would make a lot of people think twice before searching other people's sites. However it's easy to circumvent. Just turn off your profile (or log off to be completely sure) while searching then turn yourself back on again after you're finished. That way nobody will see your sweaty little fingerprints on their pages.

Posted by: Peter Lewis at April 16, 2007 11:11 PM

It would be Good to know who had seen your profile as it would help you in sending kisses too member's. Should the member your considering sending a kiss too had already looked at your profile you dont have to waste your time in sending a kiss only to be turned down. I see no problem with the invasion of privacy comment as you should not be on the site if your super secetive and frightened of people looking at you. It's free too look there not sitting at your front window of your home and waving. Do these member's on this blog who think it's an invasion of privacy walk up to stranger's looking at them at parties or club's and scream "Your invading my privacy dont look at me" Please get a life you fool's your not that special

Posted by: Sandy at April 16, 2007 10:29 PM

What is the point if they don't make contact?! 'Looking' doesn't mean anything.

Posted by: Uta at April 16, 2007 8:44 PM

I don't really understand what we would gain by knowing who has been looking at our profiles? Perhaps a count, as some have suggested. As for invasion of privacy - well, we are internet dating after all, it's not like they're giving away our contact details to anyone!

Posted by: Karen at April 16, 2007 8:22 PM

Not good, feels too invasive and removes one of the key benefits of the site, which is the ability to browse and search in anonymity. Would reconsider my use if it was introduced.

Posted by: Damo at April 16, 2007 6:45 PM

To RSVP!

Looks like you have a split decision on this idea...or close to that!

I would suggest for this feature and any other new features you are considering that it be put to your users to vote!

Setup a simple yes or no voting box with a closing date and that will decide on what needs to be done!

mmmm..I would hate to see the blog when RSVP wants to introduce a feedback option on users profiles that would allow people who have been on a date with that person to pass some post date comments!!!! (Could be a good idea...maybe some preset post date comments...similar to kisses???)

Posted by: Willberlo at April 16, 2007 4:52 PM

How about instead a rating system - I am surprised how many people haven't the common decency to just reply to a kiss or email, even if their answer is NO. Same thing, don't stay looking if you are 'responding to someone else' - makes you seem cheap and non committal lol

Posted by: Martin at April 16, 2007 4:43 PM

Bad idea. As everyone has said, this would remove RSVP's essential guarantee of privacy.

A reasonable compromise might be to reveal the NUMBER OF TIMES that your profile has been viewed in the last day/week/month.

Posted by: NiceGuyFromPerth at April 16, 2007 3:33 PM

Of course it's a great idea. Who are these people wo think it's an invasion of privacy?? Others can already see me! I'd like to know who I am (and am not) attracting.
Let's get it on asap. Great idea.

Posted by: Troublesomebutcute at April 16, 2007 11:51 AM

I like the way it is at the moment, I think its a little invading people's privacy otherwise. If anything make it optional.

Posted by: smiling74 at April 16, 2007 8:55 AM

would like to see if and how is viewing my profile another service is using it if you get someone your not keen on can always block its your choice

Posted by: Smiles5 at April 16, 2007 6:16 AM

YOU DON'T NEED TO KNOW WHO HAS BEEN LOOKING AT YOUR PROFILE... IF THEY WERE INTERESTED THEY WOULD OF AT LEAST SENT YOU A FREE KISS. ITS AN INVASION OF PRIVACY!
Thanks for a great site.

Posted by: Chance at April 16, 2007 12:47 AM

I think it's a great idea. It's a great way of seeing who out there is "looking". And there is nothing wrong with looking... or knowing who's looked at your profile.
Bottom line, what anyone is looking at is JUST a profile - there is no contact info, after all. The only way people get that is if you give it to them. And, if you're worried about people "seeing" you looking, well, sorry, but surely it's better to know who is looking at you. It can even be a method of gentle flirting! You ultimately have the power of blocking people, and I know I'd prefer to know who was looking and be able to block unwanted attention rather than just be a visible profile in a sea of invisible "lookers"!
t-l

Posted by: tl4fun at April 15, 2007 11:48 PM

Bad idea. I just signed up with another site that shows this stat and after seeing a few names repeatedly viewing me over a couple of days, I felt creeped out.

Posted by: MsMultifacet at April 15, 2007 10:39 PM

BAD IDEA!! and very unfair to the guys. some guy you might have checked out his profile as a joke or clicked on it by mistake, so the poor guy gets all excited that you might be interested and wastes his money emailing the girl. that's just mean and unfair.

Posted by: angel at April 15, 2007 9:53 PM

I would PAY to see who has me listed in their favorites :)

Posted by: Angus at April 15, 2007 9:08 PM

There have been many profiles that I have looked at and not responded to, not because I wasn't interested but because I clearly didn't fit the IDEAL PARTNER as described in the profile. Some people are very specific about the type of person they are looking for (or just as importantly who they are not looking for). So the reasons for looking and not contacting can be complex.

Posted by: jacques at April 15, 2007 7:57 PM

Eek! Please don't do it! It is most definitely an invasion of privacy and it's one of the reasons why places such as Myspace don't have such a feature. I agree that a general hits counter would be useful, but snooping on who's snooping on you is just creepy. Let's keep the Big Brother overtones out of RSVP, yeah?

Posted by: WHNT at April 15, 2007 7:56 PM

Great idea, bring it on!

Posted by: Joanna at April 15, 2007 7:37 PM

I see this idea as like the Top 100 - just a greedy RSVP attempt to copy their down-market competitors and milk their clientele harder..... They hope to get their more gullible clientele to waste more stamps on forlorn hopes - that whenever they see someone has viewed their site, some dumbies'll hope that makes it worth risking a stamp to that person, instead of checking with a kiss. ....

When I joined RSVP 15 months ago, I spent a gruelling 14-hour first Saturday skimming the profiles of the 887 women between 50 and 70, and living within 20km of me, just so I could cross off the obviously-impossibles, and then work slowly and more carefully for months through the profiles of the other 200 that I saw as "not-impossibles" (RSVP calls them favourites".)....

If someone thinks you might be worth contacting, the mechanism is there. It's called a kiss, and it's free. ....

There are a few magnificent women whose profiles I re-read every few months - just to keep me humble. I'm not in their league, and it just focusses me more realistically on who else looks as if they might be. And I've sent about 300 of those apparent peers a kiss since January 2006. ....

I predict that this new idea would actually reduce RSVP's profits, if they were short-sighted and stupid enough to implement it. Just read the market research feedback above. ....

For me it means that a whole heap of discriminating classy women with something to offer to me will defect, and I'll follow them, whereever. That's a promise, not a threat. ....

I wonder who'll open up the new service for us? Lovely business opportunity, and won't cost a good programmer much to start up. ....

As to invasion of privacy, it's the profile-reader whose privacy is invaded, and I don't think that matters one scrap. They're only doing what they need to do, or nobody ever meets anybody. Right or wrong?

Posted by: Timewarp1 at April 15, 2007 6:46 PM

Please do NOT do this, I dislike the other site as they do it and find it totally low class and crass that they do it that way.

RSVP is good as it more high brow and mature than the sex only sites.

Please please don't go down this path. You'll have a large portion of the mature and sensible singles migrating away if you do - keep yourself unique and special.

Posted by: S at April 15, 2007 6:01 PM

I think the "kiss contact" is sufficient. You might find you will lose a lot of members by introducing this. I know I would terminate my profile immediately.
Sometimes you think by the headline a profile is interesting, but when you click into it you find that person is "definitely not" for you. I wouldn't want that person thinking I was interested in them when I'm not. It would only clog up the system with unwanted kisses. It's just a change for the sake of changing, not an improvement. Like others I think just a number showing the amount of people previewing your profile is sufficient.

Posted by: JJ at April 15, 2007 5:32 PM

not a good idea to know someone has looked at your files. I often look up people files who have made contact with me to re read their files and to see if they are still looking around it would make me feel very uneasy to open people files knowing that they now know i have still be looking them up.

Posted by: maryanne lane at April 15, 2007 5:19 PM

I think its a great idea. I would really like to see who is having a read of my profile.

Posted by: StuckForWords at April 15, 2007 4:53 PM

NO WAY! I will not use RSVP if this comes into place, as it can attract unwanted attention. I also think it's a bit "snoopy" and some people are very private. Please don't.

Posted by: Jen at April 15, 2007 4:22 PM

Make it optional and you'll please everyone

Posted by: bachelorkissess149 at April 15, 2007 4:07 PM

I'd like to know when people view my profile and who they are - I like feedback - I don't care it they went to view me for a laugh or a drool.What I really would like to see is the ability to purchase ONE stamp at a time - use if for someone I want to get to know - without the pressure of contacting many so my time period doesn't run out on the other stamps.This would give me an opportunity to see if I'm compatible with that person without weighing them against the others I've contacted at the same time. Maybe I'm frugal and old fashioned; maybe it makes dating sense but not monetary cents.

Posted by: Bella at April 15, 2007 3:58 PM

I think it should be optional. It has it's pro's and con's. I favour RSVP because it seems to be more confidential and respectful...let's keep it that way and I will leave it up to you to decide how you do it!

Posted by: Mary-Ann Behenna at April 15, 2007 3:27 PM

nope, i dont want to know who's been looking at me.If someone is interested then let the kisses begin.However i bet rsvp ignore's all this feedback and just goes ahead.Then i'll be outta here 4 good.

Posted by: bruce at April 15, 2007 2:17 PM

If this option were to be introduced, it must be made OPTIONAL. The fact of the matter is at the moment you don't know who is viewing you anyway so it would give you the option (if you were so inclined to know).

Posted by: catgirl64 at April 15, 2007 1:32 PM

on a side issue from the 'privacy' debate that has errupted above...why when i look at the notifications about kisses or emails from my hotmail account are the options so different to reply to a kiss from the RSVP website. I have had 4 kisses from the one person who i have responded to in the negative from the first kiss because they didnt meet my minimum criteria of interest and yet they continue to 'kiss'. There is one option in hotmail notification that says something like 'did you read ANY of my profile?' I realise you can block ppl but sometimes you just need to get a point across

Posted by: Marti at April 15, 2007 1:02 PM

Personally, I’d like to know who were interested. What, privacy? Most of what we want to say is in our profiles. I reckon we just don’t want people to know that we’re interested in someone. Why not? If I send someone a “smile” with the reason of “really likes your sense of humour” because he/she made me laugh does not mean I want to start a relationship with the guy or I’m a lesbian. I simply liked the sense of humour. I think it’s hypocrisy to deny that some of us are not looking. I mean, come on, why are we here... really?

Posted by: Hotcocoa15 at April 15, 2007 12:32 PM

PLEASE DONT DO IT RSVP!!! There are many of us on this site no doubt that from time to time do look at profiles that when you READ the description of them, you decided they may not have the 'ingredients' you are looking for. There are also the other members that go into a KISS FRENZY and for these category of ppl I have little faith in what they are looking for other than just 'anyone' and I know for myself i DON'T want to be just a 'someone'.

Posted by: Marti at April 15, 2007 12:14 PM

When I look at someone's profile there are a few key things that I look for first and then I know whether to read on. What would be the point of someone who I knew I wasn't interested in seeing that I have looked at their profile? I think it creates a false sense of possible compatibility.
I would be horrified if this feature is introduce and would certainly delete my profile. There is a certain comfort in the anonymity that comes with being able to look at someone's profile. People have equated this feature with know if your profile 'works', surely this would be indicated by the number of kisses received etc. Would it not also be detrimental to find that while people are looking at your profile, you are not receiving any contact?
This is not even about invasion of privacy, it is about allowing individual profile viewing habits to remain undocumented and therefore free from any unnecessary backlash and the creation of false expectations.

Posted by: Star at April 15, 2007 11:30 AM

To NotGareth: sorry, not hiring at the moment ;-)

Re: stats - we do keep a few basic stats internally on who's on RSVP, things like the male/female sign-up ratio (it's pretty even, if you wanted to know), but don't go in for hard-core data mining - there should still be some mystery in the dating game, don't you think?

Good idea about extra kiss messages though - I'll mention it.

Posted by: RSVP (Ivan) at April 15, 2007 10:31 AM

Hi, although it is flattering to know that people look up one's profile, I'd find it a breach of privacy. As a compromise you could provide a number of people looking at the profile if that has a meaning for people. It doesn't for me. Thank you for a great site regerdless. :-)

Posted by: SmilingMaya at April 15, 2007 10:05 AM

I'm new to RSVP and anonymity is one of the key reasons I joined. I like being able to log in without anyone else knowing when & how often. This is not the case with some non-dating sites I've been to.

Why don't you strike a compromise - either make the feature completely optional, or let members know the GENERAL info about who's been reading their profiles - how many per day/week, age range, State/city etc. That way at least we'd know whether or not our profiles were generating interest, but our privacy wouldn't be compromised.

Posted by: Fi at April 15, 2007 8:53 AM

Don't do it. Invasion of privacy. If I'm interested I'll send a v.kiss.

Posted by: josh at April 15, 2007 7:22 AM

Unfortunately the general consensus that I have read has been: NO, do not add this in.
What is a KISS for? with the KISS people know if someone is interested, we do not need to know if someone has looked and passed. A photo does not always tell you about that person, you need to read the profile.
If you are not compatible, by sending this reply will give false hopes to some people.
There a few sicko's out there & someone's profile may show up a lot of times saying that they have looked at your profile. This could make people feel really uncomfortable.
RSVP please consider your decision very carefully as there are quite a few people who can be very vulnerable (mentally) to how many people look at thier profile and do nothing to contact them.

I don't think this is an invasion of privacy, however I do think this could damage some very vulnerable people.
Some people us RSVP because they do not have the confidence to meet face to face or have low self esteem and this "ADDED OPTION" could be very damaging.
Yes people have a choice but "curiosity killed the cat"

Do YOU know who is on this site???????

Posted by: at April 15, 2007 1:06 AM

Whoa Leah!! 12th April - it's not a debate sunshine, everyone's entitled to their own opinion on this matter

Posted by: kerrie at April 15, 2007 12:45 AM

I think it's a great idea - it may give us hints on how to change our profile if we attracting the wrong sort of people...

Posted by: Christine at April 14, 2007 11:09 PM

I can see both sides of the debate as it would be good for me to see who's been looking but I know for some, it won't be a serious contact. I think it should be optional.

Posted by: Jeanette at April 14, 2007 10:13 PM

Sometimes you look at a profile to see if the person has logged in since you sent them a kiss. Or to see if they have logged in since you met them on a date. It's not fair play to show them you are so interested. And I am not always interested in the profiles I look at, just having fun.

Posted by: BlueEyes at April 14, 2007 9:46 PM

RSVP (Ivan),

I appreciate that effort is being put in to develop the site and that solution satisfies all concerns I have about that feature.

But really, is it that useful to people looking for a date? I also disagree with having hit counters and even the "Top 100" (eugh!).

Features I would like to see here:
- More "kiss" options, maybe use dynamically generated drop down boxes? Obviously not enough to hold a coherent conversation though.
- Able to search for keywords.
- Anything that lets me communicate a little bit more with others so I can judge interest. Maybe something between a kiss and a relatively expensive email (a "smooch" ;) )?
- Statistics. Oh man, would I love to data mine this site. Percentage of personality types (social/private/etc), percentage of total kisses sent between each type, the text of kisses that eventually result in an email... (are you hiring? :P).

Posted by: Notgareth at April 14, 2007 8:36 PM

Terrific idea!

Posted by: esther2007 at April 14, 2007 8:23 PM

Great feature. Might mean the difference between meeting your ideal partner and not meeting them.

Would love to see it implemented asap - has my vote!!!

Posted by: whataboutmee at April 14, 2007 7:14 PM

I don't think a 'viewed me' would add a lot of value to my profile. However, if I've been added to someone's Favourites, I'd be interested.

R.

Posted by: Ross at April 14, 2007 6:56 PM

One has to wonder at the culture of thought here. How is it invading the privacy of the person viewing someone else's profile and that being logged for the viewed person to see? How quick you all are to jump on the invasion of privacy bandwagon when it is you who is in fact viewing someone discreetly and crying foul if they can see you have. Bit ironic is it not? Society calls people who spy on others without their knowledge queers, perverts, weirdos and deem them unfit for inclusion in the 'norm'. Would not want to classed along these lines now would we?

Fair is fair. You check me out I deserve the right to know. Just like in real life.

Posted by: bruce at April 14, 2007 6:54 PM

Really bad idea and an invasion of privacy. If someone sends me a kiss or we have ongoing contact I might look at the profile several times to decide whether to continue, get some material for emails, recheck something I forgot, e.g. does he want kids. The guy might think I'm a stalker or much keener than I am. This will definitely put people off having a look and wreck your business.

Maybe they should issue side mirrors at singles nights so we can see who's checking out our arse! Per-lease!!!

Posted by: jen at April 14, 2007 6:12 PM

Seano and others will you please stop doubting yourselves? It does not follow that because someone has viewed your profile and is not interested /does not contact you that there must be something wrong with you. It means that for whatever reason you don't fit the fantasy of the viewers ideal partner, it does not reflect in anyway against you.
For those who suggest that people who don't the idea of knowing and showing viewing activity them put a password on their photo I ask Why should they be disadvantaged? Many people have already said that they won't read profiles without a visible photo. I can only imagine that the feature will lead to a further flurry of second or third profiles so that the people with insecurities will be able to view themselves until they are so far up the hot list they are in danger of evaporating....!!
geofm why would you feel any need to 'warn off' any prospective lady callers when they may have no intention of sending a contact anyway. You have a kiss reply function for anyone who doesn't take your fancy already.

Otto the busy bus driver: what about a category for single bus drivers in the top 100? Divorcees are people too and we ride buses and vote.....
RSVP this is so much fun and I only discovered it by chance..you need to make this blog visible.

Posted by: patiencefairfax at April 14, 2007 6:09 PM

It has been mentioned that just becuase someone looked at your profile, it certianly doesnt indicate they liked you.

I was inititially thinking that perhaps it could be implemted in such a way so that a viewer could say wether or not they were interested but then I realised that would defeat the purpose of the Kiss system.

I dont think this function is useful as if someone views a profile and wants to contact that person then that is what the Kiss if for.

However one could also use it for tweeking ones profile ie seeing how many ppl are viewing vs how many kisses they are getting as I would assume if someone viewed my profile and did not send me a kiss then they were not interested.

Posted by: seano at April 14, 2007 5:12 PM

Sorry - I don't get it. What on earth is the advantage of this feature? Knowing who has viewed your profile really tells you nothing and is also none of my business. The fact that many are clearly concerned regarding their privacy gives it a big NO from me.

Posted by: Phillippa at April 14, 2007 4:53 PM

How about just profile 'hits' rather than identifying the browsers? That would boost the egos of those who need it.

And luvin ..OK, more categorised top 100's??? They split them on age to save time, how about on status? I'm a busy bus driver.

Posted by: Otto at April 14, 2007 4:10 PM

I think that "Who has Viewed you" , this should be an option.

I also think that in SEND A KISS that some new lines should be added

eg:
. . 1.
Thank you for Viewing my profile, would you now like to send me an email ?
. . . 2.
Thank you for viewing my profile. I am flattered, but i do not wish to correspond any further, wishing you well in your search. . . .
what do you think ?

Posted by: geofm at April 14, 2007 2:28 PM

having read the comments on "Who'se viewed you," i agree there are a lot of positives and negatives but personally, i being a newcomer to this site and to computers would not favour this option

Posted by: tawny at April 14, 2007 2:02 PM

No its not a good idea. Knowing the number of people who have viewed you is enough. One doesn't need to see someone who they like that never contacts them. Life is hard enough.

Posted by: steve at April 14, 2007 1:03 PM

Once again I ask.... is this a popularity competition(what's the prize?) or is the purpose to enable access to a wide range of people with whom you may have something in common but be unable to be lucky enough to stumble across in everyday life????
The idea that members will adjust their profiles according to the "hits" is
not good. Surely your profile should represent the real you anyway...not fantasy stuff. If you do that and then meet in real life you will have less chance of forming a relationship as the basis was deceptive to begin with.
I am also appalled at attitudes from people such as Mendlessohn who can't seem to recognise that a persons genetic makeup is not something they can change and what is unattractive to her may be someone else's ideal person. and Johnv1210 who thinks he will be able to determine'what sort of people he is attracting" he's good ....but the truth is that what attracts people to us or us to them is so complicated and embedded in our subconscious that we may have to browse hundreds of profiles before finding someone whose photo sets of initial sparks and after that some of the profile factors come into play..the counter serves o purpose other than to feed into peoples insecurities and generate cash flow for RSVP.

and Otto..why can't divorcees be in the top 100?
and finally I definitely agree that the reply responses need to be changed asap...totally unsuitable

Posted by: patience at April 14, 2007 12:33 PM

I don't know what all the fuss is about. I thought to myself weeks ago, why don't they have a feature like this. RSVP is anonymous;so why the concern with having someone know you looked at their profile? The "players" might not like it, but i've nothing to hide:)

Posted by: luvinlife4 at April 14, 2007 12:21 PM

Bad idea.

If you would like to know how successful your profile is, simply include a "People viewed in my profile in the last 7 days" counter. This counter would only be viewable by the owner of the profile.

RSVP isn't about popularity. Its about finding a partner. I don't want to introduce a mentality which would encourage people to seek the "best" profiles. I understand that most of us are quite picky, but its about finding the best match, not what appeals to most of us.

Posted by: Zak at April 14, 2007 12:06 PM

Thanks for all the honest feedback. It would seem that the general consensus is that you'd like control of whether your views are logged or not, so you can decide to have other people know you visited their profile, or disable the feature to remain totally anonymous. Fair enough.

We'll put in the feature so that:
you can see who has viewed your profile
but only if you choose to remain visible so profiles you have viewed know you looked at them

So, if you choose to be seen, you also see who has viewed you - and if you choose to remain anonymous, you don't find out who visited you. That way no-one has an unfair advantage. What do you think?

Posted by: RSVP (Ivan) at April 14, 2007 11:36 AM

Definitely NOT! If someone has looked at my profile and is interested in me then I will know because they will send me a kiss. Perhaps people will browse while not logged in and then only contact those they like when they do log in. Also, if someone sends me a kiss, sure I want to check out their profile but let's not give false hope. Could this be somewhat demeaning? How about when people check out profiles of the same demographic as themselves just to see how others write themselves up or phrase things - could that give a false idea??

Posted by: Frankie at April 14, 2007 11:04 AM

Agree it should be optional. What I would like to see is a feature that stops people being able to send an email before they've sent a kiss. I get too many emails from guys who don't bother to send a kiss first, hoping that a half-eloquent plea will make me overlook their shortness and ugliness.

Posted by: Mendelssohn at April 14, 2007 10:59 AM

good feature similiar to another site and gives an insite to whether or not you should adjust your profile

Posted by: cookbrekkyfor2 at April 14, 2007 10:43 AM

RSVP Dont do it!!! agrees with alot of comments above, as far as invasion of privacy...I would be logging out for good!
...besides If they looked at my profile and didnt send me a kiss then there was something a miss....

Posted by: Louise at April 14, 2007 9:59 AM

It's simple...optional....if you want to use it, turn it on...if not, turn it off. It would be great to have that option in real life....sometimes :-)

Posted by: Gary at April 14, 2007 9:47 AM

This feature would discourage me to brouse profiles. And i think less people would brouse mine as well. Please don't do this.

Posted by: alex at April 14, 2007 9:03 AM

It sounds good at first but when I think about it a bit more I am NOT happy about the feature. If I have sent a kiss and havn't received a reply I will go back to the profile and see when that person was last on line so I can determine if they have received the kiss, and if they have and havn't replied I remember that for the future should they end up contacting me; no manners = No chance with me!! I go back to the profiles of people I have had contact with a lot to re-read the emails. If I havn't heard from someone in a while after my last email I go back to the profile to check when they were last on line so I can see if they would have received the email.

If people were to know how often some of the profiles are looked at for the above or similar reasons it would probably be deemed creepy or obsessive or like stalking.

Posted by: SJH at April 14, 2007 8:37 AM

Other sites have this function and it works. Open your mind people, that many others that may or may not be members are looking at your profile right now. Wouldn't you like to know what sort of person you are attracting???? If you don't like it, use the password protection on your picture. You all panic too much. Go with it RSVP. Just explain it to the members on how they can control it.

Posted by: johnv1210 at April 14, 2007 8:12 AM

Don't introduce this feature RSVP. And while you are at it...no more divorcees in the top 100.

Posted by: Otto at April 14, 2007 8:07 AM

Maybe you could introduce it, but give members the option as to whether they want the people they've been checking out to know or not, you know a kind of tick the box thing.

Posted by: Angie at April 13, 2007 11:41 PM

I dont see what the big drama is, really!
I personally think it's great, but make it optional for all the sooks out there.

Posted by: jo at April 13, 2007 11:08 PM

No its a poor idea and NOT a new one at all - one of the reasons I took myself off another site in fact.
DON'T introduce it.

Posted by: david at April 13, 2007 11:01 PM